Stop Chasing Purpose and Focus on Wellness | Chloe Hakim-Moore | TEDxMemphis

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  • Опубликовано: 16 мар 2020
  • For ages, people have been told to find our purpose, and that purpose will lead to a fulfilled life. But what if finding purpose isn’t enough to bring fulfillment? What if the focus on finding purpose, in fact, has been harming us by obscuring who we are with ideas of who we should be? This talk explores how our singular mission should be collective wellness, why now is the time to pursue it, and how the journey will offer the healing our world has desired for centuries. Chloe is an internationally acclaimed social designer, artist, and humanitarian. Fueled by an unshakable reverence for all life, her practice demands dignity for all, and centers the reimagining of societal systems to guarantee global well-being. Hakim-Moore designed and leads NEXT Memphis: a $32 million initiative of Porter-Leath to increase access to high quality early childhood education for all families in Shelby County.
    Her past projects include: leading the operations of First 8 Memphis; partnering with the National Institutes of Health to serve persons with disabilities in Trinidad and Tobago; and supporting refugees and immigrants through designing citizenship attainment and food entrepreneurship opportunities. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @FranEJ
    @FranEJ 2 года назад +4223

    this is one thing Millennials have gotten to faster than other generations: wellness is so underrated but is so intrinsic in every aspect of my life. I am on this journey now at 46. No better time to start than now.

    • @nancydegrassi5151
      @nancydegrassi5151 2 года назад +111

      Better late than never. And don’t even try to explain to some in our generation that think you can’t be successful without struggle. They’re stuck in suffering.

    • @chloehakim-moore
      @chloehakim-moore 2 года назад +59

      Thank you so much for such a kind comment! I’m glad you enjoyed the talk 💓🙏🏽

    • @angelicaterry3367
      @angelicaterry3367 2 года назад +53

      They have no choice but to get there faster. Look at everything they have to contend with. The generation following them have gotten there even faster. If you think about it the quicker they get there, the more the knowledge spreads and the more opportunity to live peacefully for longer. I know it's a mouthful but hopefully you get my drift.

    • @crissygraham5821
      @crissygraham5821 2 года назад +38

      I agree!! I too am on this journey I’m 41. 🙂

    • @crissygraham5821
      @crissygraham5821 2 года назад +10

      @@chloehakim-moore thank you! Well delivered.

  • @risaakarki3110
    @risaakarki3110 2 года назад +822

    The greatest purpose in life is to live your life everyday and just be present.

    • @getfitordietrying619
      @getfitordietrying619 2 года назад +3

      Yes!!!!!

    • @3333153
      @3333153 2 года назад +4

      Thank you

    • @everydayvacaytaj
      @everydayvacaytaj 2 года назад +3

      Yes. I keep forgetting it and then I come back to it.

    • @geralddecosta320
      @geralddecosta320 2 года назад +3

      @@everydayvacaytaj Remember the moment; the moment you forget...

    • @geralddecosta320
      @geralddecosta320 2 года назад +3

      Realize that you are the timeless awareness to which all things (thoughts, emotions, feelings and happenings) arise and subside.

  • @Nicole_Artist
    @Nicole_Artist 2 года назад +2309

    One of the most enlightening Ted Talks I’ve ever heard. No intellectual acrobatics, or long stories about her accomplishments. She spoke directly to the human spirit! 🙌🏾

    • @rosiehailu2221
      @rosiehailu2221 2 года назад +25

      Literally, felt this one on so many levels

    • @kenyasimmons6316
      @kenyasimmons6316 2 года назад +6

      I agree!

    • @erdftzgh
      @erdftzgh 2 года назад +10

      yes indeed. real talk, selflove and wellness in this crazy world🤧😷.

    • @adaomannabeze5675
      @adaomannabeze5675 2 года назад +7

      The human spirit.

    • @yovonne7
      @yovonne7 2 года назад +4

      This! 🙌

  • @wangarimaina9486
    @wangarimaina9486 2 года назад +1609

    I just turned 20 and I'm so grateful that I am learning this now. Self care at its core!

    • @brunascauri
      @brunascauri 2 года назад +31

      if the picture on the profile is you, you'reabsolutely stunning, girl!

    • @wangarimaina9486
      @wangarimaina9486 2 года назад +15

      @@brunascauri Omgg thankyouuu🤭🥰🥰🥰 yes it's me😄

    • @yj8487
      @yj8487 2 года назад +3

      same here!

    • @nogalistanineties9237
      @nogalistanineties9237 2 года назад +4

      I just turned 24 and I feel the same

    • @madisoncarroll787
      @madisoncarroll787 2 года назад +7

      Here is to 20. Me too. Much love to you all

  • @praywithourfeet
    @praywithourfeet 2 года назад +1946

    Beautiful message! I could not agree more. The hustle culture is toxic. Our well being (mentally, physically & spiritually) is the foundation of authentic and meaningful progress.

    • @Kevinschart
      @Kevinschart 2 года назад +6

      what does pray with our feet mean?

    • @MyChihuahua
      @MyChihuahua 2 года назад +17

      @@Kevinschart be prayerful with every step you take/may all you do be as a prayer

    • @autumnjovoni435
      @autumnjovoni435 2 года назад +1

      ❕❕❕❕

    • @charlesjohnson2475
      @charlesjohnson2475 2 года назад +1

      Well said Queen

    • @mmaya772
      @mmaya772 2 года назад +3

      And that’s exactly where I’m at. I always say that I may not have everything together yet but I have a great foundation now. Which is mentally, physically,spiritually and emotionally. It’s such a beautiful feeling I must say.*

  • @GenXersJustWalkItOff
    @GenXersJustWalkItOff 2 года назад +829

    Some people are wiser at 26 than others at 56. :)

  • @ThamiWorld
    @ThamiWorld 2 года назад +334

    ''how do we make world peace, when we don't know how to have peace for ourselves '' that's an amazing and deep line rt

    • @iheartjbgccb
      @iheartjbgccb 2 года назад

      That's exactly why we never wil have world peace. Some asshoels don't understand the concept

    • @lanoran1083
      @lanoran1083 2 года назад +5

      You both said it! How can you give something you don't have!!! If you are not at peace within yourself, how can you hope to spread peace elsewhere? This speaker delivered the message so eloquently and with humility. I SO NEEEDED THIS TODAY!!!

    • @ThamiWorld
      @ThamiWorld 2 года назад +1

      @@lanoran1083 IKR!! i'm glad this videofound you today when you needed it

    • @Michelle-pn9xt
      @Michelle-pn9xt Год назад +1

      Some people have inner peace. That is not deep at all. She needs to get to place in her life where she feels peaceful. Everyone was not put on earth to focus on world peace.

  • @liorsmith
    @liorsmith 2 года назад +494

    I love that she ended it with 'thank you for coming to my Ted Talk'. I think she's the youngest speaker I've seen and I love that. This generation of women are amazing leaders, and I can't wait to see how the world changes as their power grows.

    • @babysilkdawhip
      @babysilkdawhip 2 года назад +18

      Dope observation. I agree with everything you said. The world nowadays tries to make fun of people with empathy and compassion. They have both become a rarity which makes them so lovely to see and makes you feel human when you know that you still have both

    • @mmaya772
      @mmaya772 2 года назад +2

      I definitely agree.* 💕@@babysilkdawhip

    • @venusspacey9685
      @venusspacey9685 Год назад

      She's spoiled rotten and don't know. She isn't aware of her arrogance. She can't save the world. It's arrogant to think anybody can save Gods world. The battle is already won. Any other fight is brought upon by oneself out of arrogance and entitlement. If men like Obama, Gino Jennings, Farrakhan, can't change the world who is a Ted talker to be capable? This Ted talk did nothing for you or anybody else. You got about a hour of motivation and then back to reality. Keep it real with yourself. Fxck everybody else because they don't know either. You'll laugh more in your own wisdom, knowing you know nothing, while conversing with someone who thinks they have it figured out.

    • @antoni3477
      @antoni3477 Год назад

  • @ShaySunshyne
    @ShaySunshyne 2 года назад +344

    “Just the way hurt people hurt people, not well people can wreak havoc.” Whew, I had no idea how much I needed this.

  • @blessingribeiro22
    @blessingribeiro22 2 года назад +747

    Wow she figured it out, great talk Chloe. I have never been able figure out what to do with my life but I always gravitate towards self-care rituals but I still always felt like I'm wasting my life because we have been taught that we all have a purpose and we need to find it etc. Now watching this I realize i have been putting myself under so much pressure to make things happen and accumulate things that society says we need to be happy and fulfilled

    • @yoshilpa
      @yoshilpa 2 года назад +8

      Ditto - what you said!!! 🙏🏽❤️

    • @ashleighmemarzadeh7638
      @ashleighmemarzadeh7638 2 года назад +5

      Everything you said! Totally agree 👍 👏 🙌 I feel the exact same way.

    • @confidencesotycharles7021
      @confidencesotycharles7021 2 года назад +4

      Thanks for this 😊😊

    • @tinasmith7238
      @tinasmith7238 2 года назад +7

      Yesssss I had a conversation with my nephew yesterday about “his purpose” and was brought to this lovely video today. You comment is so dead on.❤️

    • @iheartjbgccb
      @iheartjbgccb 2 года назад +4

      Hope you all watched "soul". Our purposes is entirely made up by capitalism and our egos.

  • @desiloui
    @desiloui 2 года назад +767

    This is insane. This video found me at the right time. I literally just discussed my fear of death and loss of relationships affecting me so heavily at this point in my life…. Knowing I’m not alone means the world.

    • @chloehakim-moore
      @chloehakim-moore 2 года назад +14

      You’re definitely not alone ♥️ Thank you for sharing such a beautiful note.

    • @katepeterson8905
      @katepeterson8905 2 года назад +9

      I felt that greatly 🙌It's overwhelming God can do all things😁

    • @TheDarknessRa
      @TheDarknessRa 2 года назад +17

      I have the same fears... It's a constant battle, but if I'm healthy and surrounded with my loved ones - it's easier to fight it and accept even. I hope you have that support. Be kind to yourself. ♥️ P.S. The most "insignificant" little thing that helped me as well - I checked my Vitamin D levels, and they were really low. When I managed to bring them back to normal, I felt better mentally and physically. Please check that out as well

    • @jenniferpollard6031
      @jenniferpollard6031 2 года назад +6

      You are so not alone. I have been through cancer, have had two friends diagnosed with even more lethal cancers - one of them has pancreatic cancer.

    • @C2G2
      @C2G2 2 года назад +7

      @@jenniferpollard6031 🙏🏿I am so sorry that you are going though cancer it sucks and I wish you nothing but joy and healing during your unimaginable nightmare of a time with wellness. 🌹

  • @ashleycortez6748
    @ashleycortez6748 2 года назад +98

    "What does health look like to me physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and socially?" WOW, this talk is so refreshing.

  • @ebonitheesty
    @ebonitheesty 2 года назад +188

    She literally found the key to life at 26 and broke it down to the smallest molecule. This is a video I will reference for years to come. I am grateful ❤️💜

  • @geteducatied5064
    @geteducatied5064 2 года назад +521

    Woah, I’m 26 and I felt like she spoke to my soul… I actually am so emotional… I feel like someone understands what it’s like to feel the way I do. We need to talk about these things a lot more.

    • @davidisrael9412
      @davidisrael9412 2 года назад

      thanks :)

    • @davidisrael9412
      @davidisrael9412 2 года назад +12

      this peace in pursuit is found in a spiritual relationship with Jesus the Prince of Peace Isaiah chapter 9 verse 6= Isaiah 9:6. Then we have true purpose in life 'all is well with my soul' and we have the power to live in His forgiveness, friendship & amazing grace! ok :)

    • @ofonemmanuel
      @ofonemmanuel 2 года назад +1

      Exactly

    • @ninawey9318
      @ninawey9318 2 года назад

      Facts

    • @jennalawrence5381
      @jennalawrence5381 2 года назад +2

      Profound thanks to you Chloe for this talk...

  • @Shaniamoonemalle
    @Shaniamoonemalle 2 года назад +24

    a healthy mind is a healthy body, and a healthy body is a healthy mind

  • @ZebrazRus
    @ZebrazRus 2 года назад +50

    it’s 4am and ive been sick all week. broke too. so cooking everyday and making nonstop cups of tea… stressed, crying. my mom’s bday was the other day and she is 64.. im turning 25 soon and just thinking about all she has accomplished as an immigrant here, and i can barely hold a job nowadays without wanting to (tw) kms or go into autopilot. i want to move to a more affordable city cuz LA is expensive and i’m just not happy here anymore. i wanna move w my friend in Washington who started an eco friendly commune.. im vegetarian and would consider myself an environmentalist, too. the city life just aint for me. at one point it was.. but if you don’t “make it” quick/have something lined up before you move.. then it’s just a loonngg, burgeoning road of heartbreak and disappointment, w some fun adventures in between, but mostly just toxic hustle culture and being overworked.. keeping my head just above the water though, cuz if you made it to the other side, hopefully I can too :) thank u 🙏🏽 i reaLlyyyy needed this u don’t even know..

  • @ValentinaCabo
    @ValentinaCabo 2 года назад +46

    I just turned 26 and don't know what I'm going to do with my life honestly. My anxiety is worse than ever. I started going to therapy and is helping a lot

    • @alondram4151
      @alondram4151 2 года назад +3

      Dude same and wow reading your comment made me feel less alone 🤍🌊

    • @teepeps905
      @teepeps905 2 года назад +4

      I'm only 21 and I'm going through the same
      You're not alone🌸

    • @billytothe6thpower
      @billytothe6thpower 2 года назад +1

      I'm 97 and I have a fear of what to do with my life

  • @adrianaluciani_
    @adrianaluciani_ 2 года назад +145

    This is incredible. Wellness now a days isn’t about being healthy to my generation.. it’s about “hot girl walks”, mimicking others actions for health .. all in a pursuit for a false passion and rather to come off as someone who has it together.. but really doesn’t

    • @mmowec8159
      @mmowec8159 2 года назад +4

      So well said. I get this a lot

    • @user-hl1ct3yh1r
      @user-hl1ct3yh1r 2 года назад +11

      Yup we still treat it as a trend rather than an actual necessary and healthy lifestyle as it should be.

  • @ssddurdan1621
    @ssddurdan1621 2 года назад +22

    You cant find your purpose, purpose discovers the ones who seeks the truth.

  • @scotlandredd6134
    @scotlandredd6134 2 года назад +74

    I can listen to her voice all day. Young lady exudes peace

    • @Beedotjay222
      @Beedotjay222 2 года назад +1

      Yes me too, very positive and peaceful

  • @bobbijo3639
    @bobbijo3639 2 года назад +30

    I have learned this a long time ago. Something that I tell my friends that smoke weed chronically is that when the high wears off, all your pain will come right back. That’s why it’s so important to deal with your problems and stop brushing them under the rug. Be vulnerable with yourself and with others.

  • @matriarchsmatter
    @matriarchsmatter 2 года назад +448

    This young lady is more that a title “millennial” she is a beautiful spirit, focused on healing and health. I am so grateful to have watched her Ted Talk…with my children. ❤️👸🏾
    Blessings to all. 🙏🏾

  • @julannelly
    @julannelly 2 года назад +5

    Hurt people hurt people, but healed people, heal people. 🥰

  • @TinyReets
    @TinyReets 5 месяцев назад +1

    The best Ted Talk I've listened to!

  • @jordantoronto863
    @jordantoronto863 2 года назад +117

    “You cannot give or make what you don’t have…” Yes! Beautiful. Thank you, Chloe!

    • @crespoopserc
      @crespoopserc Год назад

      That’s called common sense. Simpleton.

  • @anisafreeman9989
    @anisafreeman9989 2 года назад +5

    No matter what you do or where go, things won’t change unless you change

  • @UncommonEyes
    @UncommonEyes 2 года назад +1

    Was born during WWII. Focused on purpose and well enough to get this far, now lots of wellness issues. No regrets about focusing on purpose. Have “issues”, frustrations with health “care” business.

  • @spzb14
    @spzb14 2 года назад +5

    there is soo much pressure in society to be the best and being better than others.. it's breaks you inside.. all I want is to be mentally stable and happy with myself regardless of what others think.. I hope i get there one day.

  • @earam772
    @earam772 2 года назад +28

    I am 49 and so lost. I needed this today. Thank you!☺️

  • @HALOSnHORNS
    @HALOSnHORNS 2 года назад +8

    Describing a panic attack as an earthquake in my body is the best description ever. That is exactly what it feels like.

  • @MonaD06
    @MonaD06 2 года назад +1

    Wellness! Treating the entire body from the inside out! My goal !

  • @shablisjohnson8092
    @shablisjohnson8092 2 года назад +31

    When I tell you God is funny. I was just in the car yesterday thinking over and over what is purpose. And came to the fact (for me) that we ARE already PURPOSE. Our life is purposeful in its’ own. Wellness is what I was missing. This hit on some many levels. I needed this. AND THE FACT SHE’S PREACHING ON THE QUARTER LIFE CRISIS! 😭 cause ya girl will be 26 Feb 7th, 2022. The universe will give you what you need. Ms. Chloe, thank you speaking life into me!

  • @dtxbygNooN
    @dtxbygNooN Год назад +3

    When you know your purpose and you chase it it helps you build confidence and you work on the you that you want to be

  • @talezambia9736
    @talezambia9736 Год назад +6

    I’ll be turning 25 next week……This quarter life crisis got me in so many questions….I needed to watch this 🤧 all the way from Zambia 🇿🇲
    We’ll make it regardless….thank you so much to TEDx TALKS for this…for every like I get, I’ll come back to watch

  • @warriorric1026
    @warriorric1026 10 месяцев назад +1

    Brilliant delivery and refreshingly authentic. Thank you.

  • @dkaheat6
    @dkaheat6 Год назад +2

    I am also from trinidad and thank you! This was very deep and your message was clear!

  • @marisollubatti1086
    @marisollubatti1086 2 года назад +5

    I found out the best path is to take care of yourself. I was lost but after read Atomic habits and viewing RUclips videos, I set some habits of my own and would put in my notebook things I would do as treats for myself, like a cup of tea. After I got used to that it’s been much easier to plan my life out and what gives me purpose.

  • @leeg1966
    @leeg1966 2 года назад +3

    Before my husband and I left our church and I resigned from teaching Sunday school that is exactly what I told one of the elders. "I need to get back to basics".

  • @beatrizruizdeaguiar148
    @beatrizruizdeaguiar148 Год назад +1

    This woman has so much wisdom and charisma ❤

  • @salishamkassie2513
    @salishamkassie2513 Год назад +1

    Hi Chloe, so proud to hear of your Trinidadian heritage. I'm in Trinidad 🇹🇹. Making us proud!

  • @ashleyrodriguez3527
    @ashleyrodriguez3527 2 года назад +31

    I am about to be 30 in less than two months, and I needed to hear this. I have been so focused on my purpose and that hustle and bustle mentality, but it has really broken me down to the point where I don't recognize myself anymore. As a result, it has affected my grad school studies and my new job. I am used to functioning at a higher capacity, but something has been feeling different, and I no longer feel like the rock star that I was professionally.

    • @chloehakim-moore
      @chloehakim-moore 2 года назад +6

      Hi Ashley, I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you for sharing part of your story. I truly relate with what you're saying, and want to be honest that that's exactly why I chose to give this talk. Feeling so burntout that you don't recognize yourself anymore is truly the exact consequence or hustle culture- as you already stated. You're not alone at all, and I hope you know i'm rooting for you. You're gonna get through this beautifully. The first step is choosing to nurture you

    • @lucillesoriano5257
      @lucillesoriano5257 2 года назад +2

      Same..i want to be overseas live and work there but i feel that it’s so out of reach..im so grumpy now and i hate everyone but I know I shouldn’t but I just feel frustrated, tired, really exhausted but damn the billssss…not sure if I should take a vacay for 2 months or just pursue studies overseas 🥲

    • @leeleebaby1492
      @leeleebaby1492 2 года назад +2

      @@chloehakim-moore thank you so much for responding and for your kind words. It’s beautiful to see women, especially women of color uplifting one another. Thank you for being an inspiration and leading by example.

  • @angela4223
    @angela4223 Год назад +31

    Beautiful message! "Once you have filled yourself with that kind of peace, it has no choice but to flow out into all the spaces around you"

  • @braybanks311
    @braybanks311 2 года назад +1

    Beautiful. Sincere. Refreshing.

  • @RickFerns
    @RickFerns Год назад +2

    This TED talk spoke to me, as a millennial and a medical student who is consistently surrounded by messages of purpose. Who goes to medical school without that driver? The pursuit of a purposeful life is an admirable endeavor, but can, as Chloe mentioned, be a double-edged sword. On one hand, having a clear sense of purpose can give us direction, motivation, and a sense of fulfillment. On the other hand, chasing that “purpose” can lead to an unhealthy amount of stress, higher risk of burnout, and decreased focus on wellness, and on living in the moment. It's important to note that there isn’t anything inherently wrong with having a sense of purpose. In fact, observational studies referenced in the Blue Zones show that having a sense of purpose is linked to greater health and a longer lifespan. However, the problem arises when we become so obsessed with achieving our purpose that we neglect other important aspects of our lives, such as our health and relationships. In our society, there’s often a pressure to be constantly achieving and striving for success. We’re told that we should always be working towards something: a promotion at work, a personal goal, a social cause. While these focuses can be motivating in the short-term, they could can also lead to chronic stress and burnout if we don’t take breaks and prioritize self-care. Thank you for reminding us to pause and do this, Chloe. The idea of a “purposeful life” is often conflated with a life of productivity and achievement. As a society, we’re encouraged to work harder, longer, and smarter, in order to achieve our goals. We’ve already seen in the United States that this leads to a culture where people sacrifice their health for the sake of their careers. From an ethical standpoint, it’s important to consider the impact of our pursuit of purpose on others. When we become consumed by our own achievements, we tend to neglect the needs and well-being of those around us. This can lead to a lack of empathy and a failure to recognize the importance of relationships and community. The pressure to achieve a certain accolade determined to gain purpose could also lead to unethical behavior, such as cutting corners, cheating, or exploiting others in order to get ahead or reach that goal. In order to avoid the pitfalls of chasing a purposeful life, it’s important to prioritize our individual well-being, and relationships. This means taking breaks when we need them, practicing self-care, and being mindful of our own limitations, and when we need breaks, because that means something different for everyone- I’ve seen that in medical school. A purposeful life should be one that is fulfilling, meaningful, and does not come at the expense of physical health or mental well-being. By striking a balance between our goals and our well-being, we can lead purposeful lives that are also healthy and sustainable in the long run. Easier said than done, but I’m going to do my best!

  • @sinamen516
    @sinamen516 2 года назад +12

    Wow shoutout to the YT algorithm, this was right on time 👏🏾🙏🏾

  • @somericanfam
    @somericanfam 2 года назад +164

    Wow. "How can we make world peace when we don't know how to have peace for ourselves?" 💜 This is the exact thing that compelled me to embrace Islam. When I pray every day or listen to the Quran that is what inner peace is to me. ☪️ We all have our journeys to reach that place and it's honestly one of the greatest things we can ever do.

    • @iamyourohiojoyfulmindsetco5943
      @iamyourohiojoyfulmindsetco5943 2 года назад +1

      With all do respect Ma'ma God tells us in the Holy Bible 🙏🏽that there are many fake God's...but that He is the 'Only True God!' We do have free - will to believe in what we choose...however bible verse John 3:16 is the TRUE ANSWER,to all of life's problems. Please read it, and try Jesus...He is literally our '💜True Peace!' Take care and God bless you!

    • @victoriaann4762
      @victoriaann4762 2 года назад +7

      @Amira Lee You said this beautifully! ♥️ Prayer is very helpful in finding that inner peace. I know it helps me.

    • @chloehakim-moore
      @chloehakim-moore 2 года назад +7

      Sister, I adore this for you. I’m deeply grateful that Islam has provided you with such beautiful guidance. Thank you for sharing your kind reflection here 🤍✨

    • @feefs2139
      @feefs2139 2 года назад +6

      With all do respect... I encourage you to actually do your research on Islam. Allah means ONE God in Arabic. We love Jesus, but he is a prophet and that's all. Even in the Bible Jesus prays... So if you're praying to Jesus who is he praying too.. that's not fall into the trap of worshiping false idols because that is the number one major sin. May Allah bless and guide you. 🙏🏿💕

    • @katycosta1364
      @katycosta1364 2 года назад +1

      I love it too. I have a piece of art from the Dali Lama that says essentially that. Universal Truth!

  • @n.adanna
    @n.adanna Год назад +1

    Her voice is really calming.

  • @Zen-cx5tc
    @Zen-cx5tc 2 года назад +2

    Excellent Tedtalk 👏👏👏👏
    🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹

  • @montgomeryboy92
    @montgomeryboy92 2 года назад +3

    I'm hearing Solonge Cranes in the Sky as I listen to this

  • @SundayJolayemi
    @SundayJolayemi Год назад +13

    I agree to some extent but thoughtfully, it's all about striking a balance between wellness and purpose in the context of time management. Also knowing the truth about certain issues of life will help many people live their best lives. I started to live a better life when I started to know the truth about Me and my Free Will, standard of living, Time, success, failure, purpose etc.

    • @creating1_c1999
      @creating1_c1999 Год назад +2

      I absolutely agree. If you connect to your God purpose instead of running the streets, idling your time, and believing you will have forever to correct mistakes of your youth, you will achieve wellness. I'm 52, and retired at 35.

  • @Tr3vAlexander
    @Tr3vAlexander 2 года назад +52

    As an anxious overthinker I definitely needed this! Thank you!!

  • @howmytwentiesaregoing3829
    @howmytwentiesaregoing3829 2 года назад +31

    I’m 22 and people say you’re young and you still have time but honestly life is a lot. Chloe thank you for letting me attend your Ted talk ✨

  • @TheHgrave
    @TheHgrave Год назад +12

    This TED talk really struck a chord with me being a busy medical student trying to find a balance between everything going on in my life. I appreciated the way Chloe was able to use her personal anecdotes to better deliver the idea of focusing on wellness within yourself versus purpose as it made it more digestible. People that pursue the path to becoming a doctor are definitely a perfect example of individuals striving towards purpose and end up putting their ow needs and wellness at the wayside. I am definitely guilty of doing this. While having goals and aspirations in life is important, the road you take to get there can come at a cost of your well being. Before listening to this talk I don’t think I have sat down and considered what does wellness mean for me, what do I need in order to feel content and at peace the way Chloe described. Even looking into the future at my career in which I would be taking care of other people, this made me think of the cliché saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup”. In order to show up for my patients in the way they would need me to and be able to provide the best care of my ability I need to have a full cup. In other words, I know I need to take care of myself and make sure I am at peace the way Chloe described so that I could provide that peace and care for others. This could be related back to a medical ethical tenet of beneficence that healthcare providers try to uphold. This is the responsibility of providers to act for the benefit of the patient and to always defend and protect the rights of their patients. Overall, I believe the lessons described in the Ted Talk should be followed by all individuals but especially those in the healthcare industry or any other occupation that has you taking care of the wellness of others in order to provide the best care possible.

  • @pholland8353
    @pholland8353 Год назад +4

    What a beautiful and bright woman! Such a great message that’s hitting home for me right now.

  • @Dtriumphs
    @Dtriumphs Год назад +1

    This. is. the. reason. Thank you Chloe.

  • @buttercup5708
    @buttercup5708 9 месяцев назад +1

    Beautifully done!

  • @d11i37n31
    @d11i37n31 2 года назад +11

    I AM so pleased that the younger generation are learning more about self-care. Particularly our young women. If you can not be there for yourself you can not be there for anyone else. Remember that there is a big difference between being selfish and self-care. Thank you young woman job well done.

  • @Beccanator007
    @Beccanator007 Год назад +7

    This was a fantastic talk.
    I am just so grateful that while our more modern world seems to have more anxiety than ever- we also have the data, the language, and basic mental health normalization- to actually address it.
    This gives me faith in the future of humanity.

  • @LearningDevgarg
    @LearningDevgarg 9 месяцев назад +1

    Loved it!!! Reletable

  • @SoulHappie
    @SoulHappie 2 года назад +1

    So glad I came across this TedxTalk

  • @nonconformityart
    @nonconformityart Год назад +44

    As a Trini myself whose been avoiding my self care routine for a few days, this couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve come to this conclusion too but when things get tough I don’t follow it. I also get overwhelmed by how long it actually takes to create the life I know that will bring me peace, so my anxiety takes over at some point and I gotta start all over. Either way I’m grateful for your testimony 💜

  • @mariamejia3601
    @mariamejia3601 2 года назад +21

    I started my day, feeling tired, and the thoughts of insecurity, and so on, took over. Showered, wrapped a towel, went over to my desk and and clicked on a Ted clip, amazing how unconciounsly, we find our answers, inspirations. My internal battery, once again re-charged!

  • @toppertin92006
    @toppertin92006 Год назад +1

    Chloe mentioned about the fear of death, which I believe is a major component of why many people focus on chasing purpose in life. This is something that as a future physician, is something I will have to grapple with for myself and for my patients. Decisions that individuals make should be with their own well-being in mind, not necessarily what is best for prolonging their life for many more years to come. As a future provider, encouraging a person to pursue their wellness exemplifies the ethical tenet of beneficence, or doing good. In order to do this, I have realized that you cannot pour from an empty cup. It is important to “know yourself, know your worth” as Drake put it so eloquently. This talk helped me recognize that my wellness has to matter in order for my future patients’ wellness to be impacted for the better. Another aspect of the discussion mentioned the avoidance of confrontation in order to help please others and keep the peace. I can empathize with this mentality, as it is something I have had to reason with for my twenty six years of life thus far. However, reflecting on this point has led me to realize that this is a disservice to those I surround myself with, as well as those who I look to help later in my career. Trying to keep the peace, trying to avoid bad news or avoid reality, oftentimes harsh and difficult to swallow, can be a form of maleficence. Avoiding these difficult decisions and tough situations ultimately is harmful and can lead to a cascade of more difficult choices that compound on one another. Sometimes, ripping the bandaid off and dealing with the situation head on is the best approach, and it is one that can be very difficult to embrace. I appreciate this discussion for helping me realize several important lessons that can help benefit myself and others I look forward to working with in my future career.

  • @akonikane
    @akonikane 2 года назад +1

    Speaking TRUTH to POWER!

  • @philosophicoracle9855
    @philosophicoracle9855 2 года назад +60

    Thank you. Our society teaches us that seeking purpose will eventual lead us to fulfilment but she hit it on the head, its about wellness. If we are well we resonate that, if we are not that resonates as well. You got that at 26? Get it girl!

  • @avaleen
    @avaleen 2 года назад +84

    Get therapy. You are your number one priority. The best way to change the world and help others is to take great care of ourselves.

  • @joelsookram4485
    @joelsookram4485 2 года назад +1

    Trinidad 🇹🇹 is an Amazing place . Thank You for sharing sister.

  • @Lovelyvashkha
    @Lovelyvashkha 2 года назад +1

    I now practice soft living & radical self care. It was the best decision I’ve ever made in my entire life. 🌹❤️

  • @kayleecowart2209
    @kayleecowart2209 2 года назад +8

    Seeing this was about a month before COVID hit the US really hard… yikes. I want a follow up speech! I’m sure it would be just as beautiful as the first too.

  • @yannickabiguime6534
    @yannickabiguime6534 Год назад +5

    this is so true, if you do have not peace inside of you, you could not give it. We only give what we deeply have or are. Thank you very much for this talk

  • @brandonkbryant
    @brandonkbryant Год назад +1

    Glad I listened! Peace and blessings to you

  • @elizabethgomez1647
    @elizabethgomez1647 2 года назад +1

    "I had to make me the priority", Yes!!! YAS!

  • @sexymommakat
    @sexymommakat 2 года назад +25

    I totally feel her, last year I suffered from anxiety and depression wasn't eating sleeping or doing the things I once love. Watching videos like this is what helped me return to a normal life 😌

  • @ChelleInTheCity
    @ChelleInTheCity Год назад +11

    That was soooo good! I’m watching it for the first time in 2022… it popped up from a similar themed one this year. I gotta see what she thinks now bc a lot of what she was saying in Feb 2020 was so on point for what was about to happen to the entire world. Wow…

  • @amyyy0790
    @amyyy0790 9 месяцев назад +1

    Take care of yourself first (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, socially) and then, everything else falls into place.

  • @inponderland
    @inponderland 2 года назад +195

    Excellent message delivered with incredible poise and clarity. This deserves 10x the views!

  • @sophiamyambala1405
    @sophiamyambala1405 2 года назад +181

    Girl, thank YOU for having me at your TED TALK. This was amazing! Hope other millennials hear it.

  • @bealyght7317
    @bealyght7317 Год назад +1

    I see most of these comments were from at least a yrea ago but this TED Talk came RIGHT on time for me in March 2023🙌🏽

  • @mtatum47
    @mtatum47 2 года назад +1

    Wow... I would agree... this is what I have been searching for and I am 49. I grew up on purpose... that is all I have ever heard, which is why I have a full time job and 3 side hustles! I just felt a shift...

  • @carmencarrion7072
    @carmencarrion7072 2 года назад +105

    As a health coach I adore this. Honestly this message needs more views. The truth is that most people don't do many of the "basics" you mention. You are blessed and ahead of many. Be well!

  • @acumenstand
    @acumenstand 2 года назад +9

    Ya girl. We gotta be honest with ourselves. Love yourself.

  • @darrylledwards3667
    @darrylledwards3667 Год назад +1

    Thank you Miss Moore for your message is timely as a Trinidadian myself......

  • @nelliediemo
    @nelliediemo Год назад +2

    thank you Chloe for your moving story! I really needed it!

  • @AnaliseFernandez
    @AnaliseFernandez Год назад +9

    I'm 27 and currently have been in this exact crisis and this spoke to me on so many levels. I feel like I'm not alone thank you Chloe!

  • @francesrobertson4377
    @francesrobertson4377 2 года назад +25

    Love how 'social' wellness was included

  • @kyah971
    @kyah971 Год назад +1

    Amazing ❤ I identify with all of this! Thank you for sharing. The quarter life crisis will make or break you, but wellness is the center of it.

  • @lorelailuna
    @lorelailuna Год назад +1

    Found this at the perfect time. This was beautiful!

  • @NiaAOdum
    @NiaAOdum 2 года назад +26

    I struggle with this every day and at the moment I’m only 23. This affirmed what I’m working towards everyday, which is peace. Peace is always with us but I do believe it starts with wellness.

  • @Visionary921
    @Visionary921 2 года назад +4

    I chose to focus on wellness before I chase purpose. I AM a late bloomer 🖤

  • @TheCanceriansmultiverse
    @TheCanceriansmultiverse 2 года назад +1

    When she said “Go To Therapy,” I felt that. 👏🏾

  • @AliciaOglesby
    @AliciaOglesby Год назад +2

    Wonderfully done! I'll be using this in a lesson for 11th graders. Thank you!

  • @jordantoronto863
    @jordantoronto863 2 года назад +85

    “Work really hard at being GOOD AT YOU.” Love this SO MUCH!!!! “Good at you.” You know, we hear so often encouragement to be our best selves. And while that’s wonderful… there’s still an implication in there to be your best self, SO you can provide better for others. And of course, those of us on this journey to better ourselves often care deeply about finding more ways to give… but wow. What you said here means the world to me. To me, it means, giving myself permission to be good AT me, FOR me!!! That I get in that alignment with myself and my own wellness - for my own sake, first, and always… (like you talk about, having a wellness practice) and THEN, I can give from a place of wholeness and joy. Wow. Yes… I will be coming back to this talk again. Thank You, Chloe! What a joy to listen to this today! ❤️

    • @ImtheONEnotthetwo
      @ImtheONEnotthetwo Год назад

      I really liked how you broke this down. I can relate to this.

  • @mhenderson3407
    @mhenderson3407 2 года назад +23

    Such a natural, gifted speaker! Excellent job! Keep inspiring others!

  • @shannonnefra9738
    @shannonnefra9738 2 года назад +1

    Thank you, for your candour! Your realness is a wealth of knowledge.

  • @Jerry.anthony.c
    @Jerry.anthony.c 2 года назад +3

    13:50 - PURPOSE!
    Constantly pursing goals as purpose leaves us with "Peace and fulfilment just outside of our reach"

  • @LabourofloveInternational
    @LabourofloveInternational 2 года назад +8

    Felt so proud as a Trini woman to hear this presentation. So profound, and as a mom raising young Trini girls also, I am happy the next generation is in good hands like yours.

  • @zanzeph15
    @zanzeph15 2 года назад +1

    Yes my sister looking and sounding good 👍🏽. Thank you for your wisdom

  • @t.h.nguyen5193
    @t.h.nguyen5193 Год назад +1

    I love the beautiful asymmetrical crescent floral arrangement. It looks pure stunning! The bonus is the challenge at 14:53 time stamp.

  • @starseedreno-design1853
    @starseedreno-design1853 2 года назад +7

    I am glad she's talking about mental health. It's a important part of self love and care

  • @brianhines1452
    @brianhines1452 Год назад +3

    I believe wholeheartedly about this Wellness Movement. At 43, I know I'm not a millennial, but I drink water, eat salads, and I should Exercise more than I do. Even so, I'll drink Soda and Kool Aid every now and then, but only in moderation. I don't have a spouse and kiss yet, because I'm still trying to get to the point where I'm well enough physically, financially, and spiritually to support a family.