Hey Loves❤️ I had to create a new Instagram instagram.com/mylucybenson/ because my old one was hacked/disabled and it’s seeming like I will never get it back, “The greatest glory in living is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall, on to the next 💪🏾” Please FOLLOW and SHARE
MAKE SURE YOU PRAY ❤️ In your 20s especially you need God more than ever because that’s the age when you are distracted the most with other things you see as your “ goal” . Build a relationship with God❤️ he’s waiting. 🥰
I’m 27, have masters degree, and working as a speech pathologist. I’m single but I’m just working on my finances and myself. I feel good being myself. I love myself.
1:54 - date and explore (don’t take it seriously) ⭐️ 2:57 - getting to know yourself (includes self love) 3:45 - you need to be disciplined (all around) 3:54 - finances (healthy financial habits to shape your future) ⭐️ 6:31: - if you can’t afford it 4x when u want it. it’s a no! 6:41 - be always open to learning different skill sets ⭐️ 7:42 - friendships (check their values) ⭐️ 9:14 - travel and explore (experience life from a different point of view) ⭐️ **NETWORKING** 10:58 - take risks (don’t be afraid to make mistakes) ⭐️ 11:12 - dating (don’t become over attached because of history) ⭐️ 12:30 - career (monetize ur hobbies) ⭐️ 13:31 - learn to say NO! (create healthy boundaries) ⭐️ 14:17 - live your life to the fullest ⭐️
If you are in a toxic environment. If you can afford to move out please do. Protect yourself don't wait until you can afford it multiple times. Just move out, trust God and work harder. Pay your rent don't hang out with the wrong people. Live your life. This includes taking the risk to move out.
Actually planning on moving out/relocating soon. It's been hell of a decision as I have no good job yet but I'm determined. I do need to change environment
I'm 24 years old and I feel like the I wasted my 20s so far. The discipline part really stuck with me. I hope good things come my way soon. Thank you for this video!
Same, I have 1 older sister and she is 6 1/2 years older. Her nor our mother sat us down with this important talk. I think this talk is detrimental to how we go about life in our teens through twenties.
I’m turning 19 later this year, I’m a sophomore in college. I have 2 going on 3 jobs. I’m a college athlete and got my heart broken this past year lol. This video is what I needed to hear for these upcoming years
I just turned 26 a couple weeks ago and I really feel A shift and a great level up approaching. I’m the oldest of my siblings so I had to do some mistakes on my own. I have a good job, a healthy relationship, living outside the country, and so many more opportunities coming. Cheers to the 20’s!! More love, more fun, more joy!
I’ve literally spent all life in school. School, school, school. Currently 27th and about to graduate with my Doctor of pharmacy. 😮💨 I’m gonna be like a baby right after school. No experiences nothing.
Its actually stressful. I was on the same track as you and I just felt like my life was passing me by. So I paused school to work and I'll go back to school later.
@@munderaruwa5990 I am geniunely interested. Are you like working/studying to late hours everyday? So you have less free time? Could you not also date someone that's in your class though?
I'm 20 and still learning to know more of myself. figure out "life". There's times I wanna go out there and experience, exploring new things that I haven't done.
I just turned 23 left my parents house at the moment I felt like I had accomplished all..but life out here is not what I expected.. I didn't know how much I needed to listen to you until i were recommended to watch your video..thank you..
I’ve seen so many of how to level up in your 20s videos and this one is hands up down the best one, it’s not repetitive, real gems, thank you so much for putting this together!
You look beautiful!!!!! Honestly I been leveling up my life!!!! I graduate with my masters on thrusday, got a new job(related to my degree) in August and I am loosing weight so I am all around happy. I am not worried about no man. Nah sis I NEED that chanel bag, I always say if you can afford I say hey get it because there are ways to attain luxury realistically.
@@MrsCookies343I am 25. I say I don't need a man because I have to provide for myswlf. Therefore I want to have my life in order (stable income, house, car, a few more travel destinations checked off my list) before a man comes in my life so that he is the icing on the cake and not the whole cake.
this video is so enlightening! i’m 19 & i’ll be turning 20 in February. i feel like my life has been on pause since the pandemic started. however i’ve realized that it’s on pause because i’ve let it be. i’m not saying that to downplay the struggles i’ve faced throughout the pandemic BUT i have the self awareness to acknowledge that while some things were out of my control not everything is. i have the power to change my mindset and that’s something that i am continuing to get better at. thank you!! also i love the point abt saying no! i’ve struggled with saying no and setting boundaries for the majority of my life life so far. when i was 17, i broke up with my toxic ex of almost 3 years & the experience helped me grow sm as a person. saying no, setting boundaries, and simply not letting myself be available to everyone has helped a ton. i’m not a master at it but the effort is enough :)
I’m gonna be 20 this November . I’m taking notes what to do and what not do . I’m very independent and just got out a relationship where he really didn’t contribute to my growth . I felt I was building him up and I cut that off because I wanna have someone to help me as well but for now it’s time to focus on me and Flourish and make new friends ❤️
This popped up at the perfect time! I’m struggling with doing what’s best for me because I have such a big heart, but I’ve let toxic ppl take over my life for too long. Its hard because I literally tried to keep it together for a year but he was so shitty to me… I just want to be happy, get closer to God & love myself the way I used to.❤️
i'm just a *16* years old girl who's starting a feminine glow up journey, and i feel really happy to say that some of the things that you listed in this video *I ALREADY DO* 🥰
I think the biggest thing I'm struggling with rn is accepting my past mistskes were part of the growing process. I'd like to think I have a strong sense of identity that helps me detangle from comparing myself to others, but still working out detangling from the past version of myself.
I'm only 18 but I'm really glad I found this now and not when I'm older 🥰working on my self concept and being a better person, especially for my future :)
This video is very informative!! Everything you mentioned here is soooooo true!! Even though I am not in my twenties, I did everthing that you suggésted when I was in my twenties!! It is really important that you make wise decisions while you are in your twenties because believe it or not, we are only young for a short time! By the time I was 24, I have a meaningful and stable career and at the age of 27 I bouught my first house! I also went travelling solo. I not from a rich family; I just made wise financial decisions and surrounded myself with positive and like minded people during my twenties.
More of these please? I love your seat down girl talk, feminine hygiene, feminine and fashion tips don’t get me wrong I love your vlogs too but these videos are very educative and I learn a lot, I’m not sure if anyone agrees with me on this but I would love more of these self care videos pleaseeeeee Lucy ✨
I will love to add that an occasional hair video will be perfect too because look how laid your hair is in this video, is that a 4x4 closure? If yes teach me your ways Lucy I need my closure wigs laid like that 😩
I just turned 20 and GOD KNEW I NEEDED THIS. Am on Pinterest and RUclips now the rest I deactivated,honestly to me social media can be so toxic and cruel lol, mostly insta tiktok it’s always fights and fights mostly about race, I just get sick and tired about everything and just focus on myself. When it’s comes to finances I have to say am glad I had that revelations some time ago , and am actually good with saving . This is a very informative video and I learned a lot aswell as adding to what I have ❤️thank you
I wish I would have had this advice before I hit my 20’s. I’m just a lost 23 year old now trying to get their life together. Thank you for the lessons it’s helpful, especially for those of us who haven’t had a positive woman figure in their life.
i turn 23 this year and i have grown a lot i will say i went through depression around 20-21 and the past year i did A LOT of work on myself with knowing my worth isolating myself so i can focus on my traumas and issues in order to be a better more stable me & find out who i am. I have graduated college, and now i have a full time job but i still having this feeling of longing for something to be better to do more ya know? plus now i’m starting to struggle more and more with my personal feelings about my body. i have learned to love me, but i struggle so much with positive body image & feeling comfortable in my skin more and more these days especially with dating. i don’t feel beautiful enough anymore for the type of men i want or wish to approach me and i think it shows when i’m out with friends in my confidence by assuming “they wouldn’t want me” or they’d prefer my friends more for x y and z reasons… this video was so good to watch as i continue to heal and be better for myself
Really enjoyed this video, I have embarked on a self love and feminine journey, I am 24 will be turning 25 later this year so I appreciate all these tips.
nahh I needed this today , because one guy just brought my self esteem down drastically !!! I have been feeling drained with dating, career, life in general. 20s has been stressing me a lot more than I anticipated. but this has lightened my mood. I need more friends like you.❤️
i’m 18, going on 19 and this was very wholesome and helpful! i love the deliverance of this and i’ll make sure to keep all of this in mind, thank you ❤️
Honestly I’m claiming you as the big sis I never had 😩😩 being the oldest sister to younger sisters has always put pressure on me, with no one to look up to.....Definitely need to travel, I’m 23 and I have never been outside of Toronto 😂😭. Thank you for this video ❤️❤️❤️
Am 17 and actually came across this vids. I said to myself why not watch it...i did and dnt regret it. Def putting all these into practice. So inspirational!!
That’s the point of going through life, at the end of the day you learned and can count all you’ve been through good or bad as an experience, I love to read this 🌹
I just turned 18 years old this year, and I have started implementing all these skills involving finances, relationships too, though I make mistakes but I’m ready to do better...
And listen to your intuition cause sometimes toxic people will plan to ruin it so if it feels bad too then it is you don’t need to be “smart” or whatever she said just make sure you put yourself on a pedestal
I moved out at 17 to start and learn about myself and have new experiences moved to a new country at 18. I’ve always relied on myself and found my independence then. I’m just 21 still learning about discipline when it comes to food and how to preserve my mental health… I make bold choices and I can’t lie I have never been so proud of myself. It has been hard especially while studying but now that I’ve been through it I know that later on in life I would know how to deal with the struggles I will face.
I am 19, I recently cut off a toxic friend of 9 years and I made the mistake today to look into my insta requests to see if she'll at least try and reach out... It was a difficult decision for me, I cried to a lot of people about it, even God answered my prayers and showed me her true colours. It had to be done, but I can't help but think back about what was😪 I also have re-sits coming up, my hair to box braid, my friends birthday I need to attend, gifts i need to purchase. Best believe I am praying to God after I make this comment! But thank you for the video as you said no matter the history make the decision if you've spotted a toxic person, not everyone in this life should be allowed to have access to your life, because there's no point in accumulating more toxic history. I'd rather take the risk now in hopes of a happier life in the future💪🏾😊
Thank you for this video!!💕 I was in a toxic relationship for 3 years and I finally decided to end it.. this made me feel so reliefed and I just booked a flight to Paris!! My first solo trip🤩
Absolutely loved this video. You validated a lot of feelings. Social media is the biggest one for me that's why i left and hopefully will go back a much happier person. 💕💕💕
Thank you Lucy, this is actually my first video of you. Am not twenty yet but I actually appreciate your advice especially in this world of social media. Go girl continue inspiring young girls. I love you so much already, keep it up!!!
I'm in my early 20's and cutting some toxic people (some family members) out of my life was one of the greatest decisions I have ever made no regrets, I have more confidence, high self esteem and peace of mind
I just turned 20 this year and I'm just trying not overthink things and trying not to be scared of what will happen during my 20's😭😱 Please wish me luck so that i could live my life to the fullest like you mentioned and to also stay strong 💪 😊
Thanks for being the big sis I never had. Being the first, you always have to figure out things all by yourself. Kudos to all first born ladies out there🥂
Not in my twenties yet but this was lovely and informative, I’ve actually learned a lot. I really learned how to say no this year, and honestly it’s been so healthy and good for me. The hobby bit really got me, I need to start being more proactive when it comes to my hobbies💕
Saying no when necessary and living selfishly is highly needed, I always encourage it. Taking your hobbies more seriously, perfecting your skills and monetizing them is the best thing you can do for yourself because it’s the first step to building wealth and creating sustainable brand for your future.
Thank you so much for this video and spreading some positivity and clarity! I’m 23 and I just graduated from college, and now more than ever I feel so much pressure to start my career and life! Honestly I feel like I don’t even know what I’m doing half the time, but I’m learning to enjoy the journey! ☺️
👏👏👏👏👏a smart woman in the flesh...I really get what you mean I'm just 19 but this actually answers a lot of the questions I keep having especially the "learn to say" it's a skill 😂😂 that my older brother has been teaching since I was young and I've never regretted it 😌
I'm way past my twenties, but this is excellent advice. You preached on this topic so well. Honestly, I think this is great information all ages need to hear. Awesome video!!!👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I really needed this personally . I’m sure it helps a lot of ppl . Not everyone needs the cover story ppl need the truth ❤️. But to know it gets better and to keep trying . I struggle with pushing myself and u just gave me a whole different look on things ❤️ Thanku
This is what I really need especially in the aspect of dating and friendship. I'm striving in other aspects and really wish to do more generally. Thank you for this really!
Lucy!! Thank you so so SOOO much you have no idea how this is lifting me up I’m halfway into being 20, and I’m so glad I’m seeing this video now you’re helping me before I even start and seeing in the comments how it’s helped other people shows how much of a blessing and just gift this is to all of us that need it 😂😅 so thank you again from the bottom of my heart!! Sending you so much love & goodness your way❤️❤️❤️👑👑👑
Actually i really like to watch this kind of videos because i need to hear all this things now Now i feel overwhelmed with stress , bad energy and conflicts I want to relax , think about me first and learn to let people go away from me Thanks for this video
Thank you so much for this video. This is what I really need right now. I just began a journey of over hauling. Im 24I feel like I've wasted a whole lot of my years being unserious and it makes me sad and almost depressed. I'm just learning to love my body though I get discouraged at times - I'm not so tall, I have flat butt and big calves and it feels so overwhelming at times.
I’m inspired and this video has given me some sorta back pat like girl you’re not doing it all wrong it takes time but just keep at it. Thank you once more 💝
A year later and I found this gem at a point in my life when I needed the advise the most. I've been feeling very conflicted about a lot of things in my life and having watched this will help me put a lot into perspective. Thank you for sharing, also this video deserves way more views than it has ✨
This is beautiful... Listening to this just helped me in some aspects that im battling with in my head.. I really hope i can put them to practice.. Thank you so much Lucy
Thank you for this video, I’m turning twenty in a few months and have been stressing cause I don’t want to waste those years of my life! I definitely am going to start taking those smart risks that will pay off!
The 'taking risks when it comes to relationships' speaks to me. I'm 23, in a relationship with someone I really like, I try to talk to other guys just to explore and see if I'd find anyone better but sis, it's all been tears! All of them don't match up to him in at least one aspect (that I can't overlook). Now my problem is this guy ticks all my boxes except one, LOOKS AND APPEARANCE. He doesn't pay attention to his looks and I get attracted to guys that look good, I love to see a guy that takes care of himself. I've complained to him but he doesn't get it. I'm really confused.
You said yourself that the other guys don’t measure up to him in an aspect that you can’t overlook so you have to decide, will you choose looks over everything else? You’re trying to find your life partner. Will you regret throwing away a good guy for someone that looks better when in 15 years he probably won’t look that good? But if you really can’t get over the appearance thing and he’s not putting in the effort I say find someone who is in alignment with your values. You only have one life 😊
Hey Loves❤️ I had to create a new Instagram instagram.com/mylucybenson/ because my old one was hacked/disabled and it’s seeming like I will never get it back, “The greatest glory in living is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall, on to the next 💪🏾” Please FOLLOW and SHARE
I just turned 20 and I’m so happy I watched this
Lol,is there a way to like this video more than once??
Awww, this is so sweet 🥺❤️
I’m so happy you did ❤️
You look amazing!
MAKE SURE YOU PRAY ❤️ In your 20s especially you need God more than ever because that’s the age when you are distracted the most with other things you see as your “ goal” . Build a relationship with God❤️ he’s waiting. 🥰
YES YES❤️
Yes thank you for this ❤️
Psalm 34:17-19 💞
Philippians 4:6-7 🙏
Isaiah 41:10 🤍
@@karinalevano thank you for this ❤️❤️
Yes yes
I’m 27, have masters degree, and working as a speech pathologist. I’m single but I’m just working on my finances and myself. I feel good being myself. I love myself.
Just graduated, going straight to my master’s program, getting my first apartment. Don’t know how I’m gonna afford it but He will make a way🙏🏾
Congrats Queen !💜
Amen 🙏🏾
Congratulations
I’m here with you sis. I’m at the exact point in my life 😊and I’m definitely sure He’ll make a way
We on the same page girl it’s exciting and scary all at once congrats and good luck 🍀
1:54 - date and explore
(don’t take it seriously) ⭐️
2:57 - getting to know yourself
(includes self love)
3:45 - you need to be disciplined (all around)
3:54 - finances
(healthy financial habits to shape your future) ⭐️
6:31: - if you can’t afford it 4x when u want it. it’s a no!
6:41 - be always open to learning different skill sets ⭐️
7:42 - friendships
(check their values) ⭐️
9:14 - travel and explore
(experience life from a different point of view) ⭐️
**NETWORKING**
10:58 - take risks
(don’t be afraid to make mistakes) ⭐️
11:12 - dating
(don’t become over attached because of history) ⭐️
12:30 - career
(monetize ur hobbies) ⭐️
13:31 - learn to say NO!
(create healthy boundaries) ⭐️
14:17 - live your life to the fullest ⭐️
Thank you😘😘
Thankyou so much for this 🙏🏾
What of “LIVING ALONE”
You are a gem 💎
God bless you💕
If you are in a toxic environment. If you can afford to move out please do. Protect yourself don't wait until you can afford it multiple times. Just move out, trust God and work harder. Pay your rent don't hang out with the wrong people. Live your life. This includes taking the risk to move out.
Actually planning on moving out/relocating soon. It's been hell of a decision as I have no good job yet but I'm determined. I do need to change environment
Thanks for this
agreed, amen
I just turned 21, and I feel like this is really for me. Thank you for being a big sister to those of us who don't have one.
Liked right after you said “not everyone should have access to you” 💯 period
I'm 24 years old and I feel like the I wasted my 20s so far. The discipline part really stuck with me. I hope good things come my way soon. Thank you for this video!
And they will come your way ❤️ it’s never too late to turn your life around and make a change
I’m 25 and I feel the same way but I’ve been doing things to make it better
I have 4 older sisters who have never had this sit down with me. You’re like my African big sister!! 🤎 Love this advice & the accent is so pretty!
This warmed my heart , Thank you so much sis, I will do my best to deliver as many useful content
Wow. That’s disappointing but at least you found this vid! 🤎
I have no sister only girl😭
Took the words out of my mouth ❤️❤️
Same, I have 1 older sister and she is 6 1/2 years older. Her nor our mother sat us down with this important talk. I think this talk is detrimental to how we go about life in our teens through twenties.
I’m turning 19 later this year, I’m a sophomore in college. I have 2 going on 3 jobs. I’m a college athlete and got my heart broken this past year lol. This video is what I needed to hear for these upcoming years
I just turned 26 a couple weeks ago and I really feel
A shift and a great level up approaching. I’m the oldest of my siblings so I had to do some mistakes on my own. I have a good job, a healthy relationship, living outside the country, and so many more opportunities coming. Cheers to the 20’s!! More love, more fun, more joy!
I’ve literally spent all life in school. School, school, school. Currently 27th and about to graduate with my Doctor of pharmacy. 😮💨 I’m gonna be like a baby right after school. No experiences nothing.
Did you get asked out/go on any dates in school?
Its actually stressful. I was on the same track as you and I just felt like my life was passing me by. So I paused school to work and I'll go back to school later.
Help!!! Medical student🙋🏾♀️
@@khandin7606 it's stressful, you hardly even have time for yourself
@@munderaruwa5990 I am geniunely interested. Are you like working/studying to late hours everyday? So you have less free time? Could you not also date someone that's in your class though?
I'm 20 and still learning to know more of myself. figure out "life". There's times I wanna go out there and experience, exploring new things that I haven't done.
the sisterhood I'm seeing in the comments is so beautiful. Love to see queens encouraging each other !
I just turned 23 left my parents house at the moment I felt like I had accomplished all..but life out here is not what I expected.. I didn't know how much I needed to listen to you until i were recommended to watch your video..thank you..
Love these tips . I turn 25 and I’m trying to be more intentional about my life than ever 🙏🏾💕
In the same shoes😢
I’ve seen so many of how to level up in your 20s videos and this one is hands up down the best one, it’s not repetitive, real gems, thank you so much for putting this together!
This makes me so happy, Thank you so much ❤️
Trueeee
@@MyLucyBenson learned a lot.
Thank You for this vid❤
You look beautiful!!!!! Honestly I been leveling up my life!!!! I graduate with my masters on thrusday, got a new job(related to my degree) in August and I am loosing weight so I am all around happy. I am not worried about no man. Nah sis I NEED that chanel bag, I always say if you can afford I say hey get it because there are ways to attain luxury realistically.
May I ask what your degree is? Hopefully that doesn’t come off rude :/
congratulations
@@marieandree3431 thank you!
Curious. How old are you and why do you think you don’t need a man?
@@MrsCookies343I am 25. I say I don't need a man because I have to provide for myswlf. Therefore I want to have my life in order (stable income, house, car, a few more travel destinations checked off my list) before a man comes in my life so that he is the icing on the cake and not the whole cake.
I turned 20 and I really loved everything you said especially the don't live to please people.
this video is so enlightening! i’m 19 & i’ll be turning 20 in February. i feel like my life has been on pause since the pandemic started. however i’ve realized that it’s on pause because i’ve let it be. i’m not saying that to downplay the struggles i’ve faced throughout the pandemic BUT i have the self awareness to acknowledge that while some things were out of my control not everything is. i have the power to change my mindset and that’s something that i am continuing to get better at. thank you!!
also i love the point abt saying no! i’ve struggled with saying no and setting boundaries for the majority of my life life so far. when i was 17, i broke up with my toxic ex of almost 3 years & the experience helped me grow sm as a person. saying no, setting boundaries, and simply not letting myself be available to everyone has helped a ton. i’m not a master at it but the effort is enough :)
I am 20 and my guardian chased me out of the house but I am happy now because I started building my life early.
It their loss, you are in a better place and happier that’s all that matters ❤️
I’m gonna be 20 this November . I’m taking notes what to do and what not do . I’m very independent and just got out a relationship where he really didn’t contribute to my growth . I felt I was building him up and I cut that off because I wanna have someone to help me as well but for now it’s time to focus on me and
Flourish and make new friends ❤️
This popped up at the perfect time! I’m struggling with doing what’s best for me because I have such a big heart, but I’ve let toxic ppl take over my life for too long. Its hard because I literally tried to keep it together for a year but he was so shitty to me… I just want to be happy, get closer to God & love myself the way I used to.❤️
i'm just a *16* years old girl who's starting a feminine glow up journey, and i feel really happy to say that some of the things that you listed in this video *I ALREADY DO* 🥰
Good luck babe 🥂
God brought me to this channel,when I heard ‘discipline’ in the intro,I just stayed glued to it.Thank you❤️❤️
Aw, I’m glad you are here sis ❤️
Same sis same!!!
I think the biggest thing I'm struggling with rn is accepting my past mistskes were part of the growing process. I'd like to think I have a strong sense of identity that helps me detangle from comparing myself to others, but still working out detangling from the past version of myself.
For every girl out there you doing very well take it easy on you things will take place for u in the right time ❤️
“If you can’t afford it 4 times in the moment then you can’t afford” gaht damn 😭, don’t call me out LOL
I'm only 18 but I'm really glad I found this now and not when I'm older 🥰working on my self concept and being a better person, especially for my future :)
I’m glad you are here ❤️
Same here!
Just turned 22 and I'm graduating from nursing school next year.....I think after I'm comfortable in my career a man will naturally come after
This video is very informative!! Everything you mentioned here is soooooo true!! Even though I am not in my twenties, I did everthing that you suggésted when I was in my twenties!! It is really important that you make wise decisions while you are in your twenties because believe it or not, we are only young for a short time! By the time I was 24, I have a meaningful and stable career and at the age of 27 I bouught my first house! I also went travelling solo. I not from a rich family; I just made wise financial decisions and surrounded myself with positive and like minded people during my twenties.
More of these please? I love your seat down girl talk, feminine hygiene, feminine and fashion tips don’t get me wrong I love your vlogs too but these videos are very educative and I learn a lot, I’m not sure if anyone agrees with me on this but I would love more of these self care videos pleaseeeeee Lucy ✨
Omg yes yes yes I agree
I will love to add that an occasional hair video will be perfect too because look how laid your hair is in this video, is that a 4x4 closure? If yes teach me your ways Lucy I need my closure wigs laid like that 😩
I just turned 20 and GOD KNEW I NEEDED THIS. Am on Pinterest and RUclips now the rest I deactivated,honestly to me social media can be so toxic and cruel lol, mostly insta tiktok it’s always fights and fights mostly about race, I just get sick and tired about everything and just focus on myself.
When it’s comes to finances I have to say am glad I had that revelations some time ago , and am actually good with saving .
This is a very informative video and I learned a lot aswell as adding to what I have ❤️thank you
I wish I would have had this advice before I hit my 20’s. I’m just a lost 23 year old now trying to get their life together. Thank you for the lessons it’s helpful, especially for those of us who haven’t had a positive woman figure in their life.
Hey luv. Lets chat. Be friends, what is your ig? Fb?
I relate
23 is mad young TRUST ME you have time to build these habits
I feel you sis. Same age here too!
@@ArienneJay it’s mad young but you will blink and turn 25 lol. I was 23 during the beginning of the pandemic and came out 25
I was literally shopping when she said, you don’t need that LV back. Ok! Imma head out
This is hella funny 🤣
@@MyLucyBenson 😂😂 thank you so much, this video was really helpful ❣️
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Wehh
i turn 23 this year and i have grown a lot i will say i went through depression around 20-21 and the past year i did A LOT of work on myself with knowing my worth isolating myself so i can focus on my traumas and issues in order to be a better more stable me & find out who i am. I have graduated college, and now i have a full time job but i still having this feeling of longing for something to be better to do more ya know? plus now i’m starting to struggle more and more with my personal feelings about my body. i have learned to love me, but i struggle so much with positive body image & feeling comfortable in my skin more and more these days especially with dating. i don’t feel beautiful enough anymore for the type of men i want or wish to approach me and i think it shows when i’m out with friends in my confidence by assuming “they wouldn’t want me” or they’d prefer my friends more for x y and z reasons… this video was so good to watch as i continue to heal and be better for myself
Really enjoyed this video, I have embarked on a self love and feminine journey, I am 24 will be turning 25 later this year so I appreciate all these tips.
I love videos like these. Every woman also needs to invest time into saying and reading affirmations, manifesting what you want! It works!
Side note : she has a gap!! I love gaps 🤣🤣 cause I just recently discovered that I have one
nahh I needed this today , because one guy just brought my self esteem down drastically !!! I have been feeling drained with dating, career, life in general. 20s has been stressing me a lot more than I anticipated. but this has lightened my mood. I need more friends like you.❤️
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i’m 18, going on 19 and this was very wholesome and helpful! i love the deliverance of this and i’ll make sure to keep all of this in mind, thank you ❤️
Honestly I’m claiming you as the big sis I never had 😩😩 being the oldest sister to younger sisters has always put pressure on me, with no one to look up to.....Definitely need to travel, I’m 23 and I have never been outside of Toronto 😂😭. Thank you for this video ❤️❤️❤️
Aww hey, I live in Canada too..
Same here! 23 and never been outside of Montreal🙄 it’s about to change soon!!
@@kxrtychris3398 same babe, mtl-er and only been outside of mtl once with family lmao
Lol saaame went to Hawaii for a month, was so freeing
I started focusing on my life when I deleted my social media .My life is so great now !
Just turned 24 and I'm so thankful of the era we're now living because I have access to this kind of information. 🎉 Thank you for the tips
Am 17 and actually came across this vids. I said to myself why not watch it...i did and dnt regret it.
Def putting all these into practice.
So inspirational!!
I am in my last year of my twenties and it was hell! Learned so much and made so many mistakes and I don't regret them at all.
That’s the point of going through life, at the end of the day you learned and can count all you’ve been through good or bad as an experience, I love to read this 🌹
Ah..am 22
I just turned 18 years old this year, and I have started implementing all these skills involving finances, relationships too, though I make mistakes but I’m ready to do better...
@heaven sent i feel the same as you heaven and I’m 24 too!
It depends if u move from toxic people or households if u need too do it you’ll be better in the long run (just a point)
And listen to your intuition cause sometimes toxic people will plan to ruin it so if it feels bad too then it is you don’t need to be “smart” or whatever she said just make sure you put yourself on a pedestal
I am so envious to those watching this at 19, 20 and 22. This is the real talk, so helpful. Thank you.
I’m a very mature 18 years young and was still able to take so much from this! Thank you i love your vibe😩💗
I moved out at 17 to start and learn about myself and have new experiences moved to a new country at 18. I’ve always relied on myself and found my independence then. I’m just 21 still learning about discipline when it comes to food and how to preserve my mental health… I make bold choices and I can’t lie I have never been so proud of myself. It has been hard especially while studying but now that I’ve been through it I know that later on in life I would know how to deal with the struggles I will face.
Omg I really needed this 😭🙏 I’m turning 24 this year. Thank you for sharing-these are great reminders.
I am 19, I recently cut off a toxic friend of 9 years and I made the mistake today to look into my insta requests to see if she'll at least try and reach out... It was a difficult decision for me, I cried to a lot of people about it, even God answered my prayers and showed me her true colours. It had to be done, but I can't help but think back about what was😪 I also have re-sits coming up, my hair to box braid, my friends birthday I need to attend, gifts i need to purchase. Best believe I am praying to God after I make this comment! But thank you for the video as you said no matter the history make the decision if you've spotted a toxic person, not everyone in this life should be allowed to have access to your life, because there's no point in accumulating more toxic history. I'd rather take the risk now in hopes of a happier life in the future💪🏾😊
Thank you for this video!!💕 I was in a toxic relationship for 3 years and I finally decided to end it.. this made me feel so reliefed and I just booked a flight to Paris!! My first solo trip🤩
Absolutely loved this video. You validated a lot of feelings. Social media is the biggest one for me that's why i left and hopefully will go back a much happier person. 💕💕💕
Am 21 but have no one to talk to me abt anything like this, you've changed my life dia I love you so much
definitely loved this sis , i just turned 18 but I’m definitely sure i needed this to prepare me for the coming years . ❤️
Protecting my energy is something I know very well.
Thank you for this video sis I am 25 and I love the advice that you gave ❤️🕊 you have a new subscriber
Thanks sis ❤️
Girl... this video has to go viral! All ladies around the world should watch this!!!
Thank you Lucy, this is actually my first video of you. Am not twenty yet but I actually appreciate your advice especially in this world of social media. Go girl continue inspiring young girls. I love you so much already, keep it up!!!
I'm in my early 20's and cutting some toxic people (some family members) out of my life was one of the greatest decisions I have ever made no regrets, I have more confidence, high self esteem and peace of mind
Sis!!!!!! This was everything, God bless we all need a reminder. I appreciate you. From your 27 year old sis
Bless you too sis❤️
Thanks sweetheart you've just given me the strength to do what I have been thinking about since 3 months now 🥰
I’m so happy I found this video! It’s like destiny…cause this is all the advice I need in my life right now
I just turned 20 this year and I'm just trying not overthink things and trying not to be scared of what will happen during my 20's😭😱
Please wish me luck so that i could live my life to the fullest like you mentioned and to also stay strong 💪 😊
I find it so hard to keep boundaries in place in my relationships, thank you so much I know I’ve gotta work on that 🙏🏼
Thanks for being the big sis I never had. Being the first, you always have to figure out things all by yourself. Kudos to all first born ladies out there🥂
Not in my twenties yet but this was lovely and informative, I’ve actually learned a lot. I really learned how to say no this year, and honestly it’s been so healthy and good for me. The hobby bit really got me, I need to start being more proactive when it comes to my hobbies💕
Saying no when necessary and living selfishly is highly needed, I always encourage it. Taking your hobbies more seriously, perfecting your skills and monetizing them is the best thing you can do for yourself because it’s the first step to building wealth and creating sustainable brand for your future.
Omg I’m still trying to learn how to say No.
oh MY GOD I didnt even know she existed but ive just landed on her video randomly..but damn..AM SOOOOOOOOO HAPPY with her advice...wow
Thank you so much for this video and spreading some positivity and clarity! I’m 23 and I just graduated from college, and now more than ever I feel so much pressure to start my career and life! Honestly I feel like I don’t even know what I’m doing half the time, but I’m learning to enjoy the journey! ☺️
Loved this sooooo so much. Even though i'm not even 20 yet lol, i loved and somehow related to it. Definitely saving this for when i turn 20. ❤️
👏👏👏👏👏a smart woman in the flesh...I really get what you mean I'm just 19 but this actually answers a lot of the questions I keep having especially the "learn to say" it's a skill 😂😂 that my older brother has been teaching since I was young and I've never regretted it 😌
This was actually the first video I watched on your channel and it’s very inspiring. I had to like and subscribe continue making great content! 💕
Thanks hun ❤️
Iam a new 22 year old subscriber & mom and I can't help but burst in tears on what you just said, really eye opening and motivating
I'm way past my twenties, but this is excellent advice. You preached on this topic so well. Honestly, I think this is great information all ages need to hear. Awesome video!!!👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I’m glad you are here girl, Thank you 💃🏾
I really needed this personally . I’m sure it helps a lot of ppl . Not everyone needs the cover story ppl need the truth ❤️. But to know it gets better and to keep trying . I struggle with pushing myself and u just gave me a whole different look on things ❤️ Thanku
Thanks so much ma'am for this.
"Don't take relationships too serious" wow
God bless you.
I will definitely learn new skills when I get the finance.
Coming from someone who has never had any roll models or guidance in life this video helped me a lot thank you so much 🖤
Am turning 20 in two months time ❤️, this so helpful ☺️❤️
I’m glad it is ❤️
Am used to saying on my own..but I like someone but it scares me to give my heart to someone 🙈..that’s one part of my life I never taken risk on..
I could get used to these conversations! I’ll be 20 on July 26th, and you don’t know how much confirmation and advice you just gave me😭💕.
You share a birthday with my son although he will only be turning 8 lol.
Omgg Leo gang!!! I’m Turning 20 this year as well
Wow! All that wisdom and knowledge you have for your age. Girl I thought you were like in your 30’s but just looked sooooo young😂
This is what I really need especially in the aspect of dating and friendship. I'm striving in other aspects and really wish to do more generally. Thank you for this really!
Lucy!! Thank you so so SOOO much you have no idea how this is lifting me up I’m halfway into being 20, and I’m so glad I’m seeing this video now you’re helping me before I even start and seeing in the comments how it’s helped other people shows how much of a blessing and just gift this is to all of us that need it 😂😅 so thank you again from the bottom of my heart!! Sending you so much love & goodness your way❤️❤️❤️👑👑👑
Actually i really like to watch this kind of videos because i need to hear all this things now
Now i feel overwhelmed with stress , bad energy and conflicts
I want to relax , think about me first and learn to let people go away from me
Thanks for this video
Thank you so much for this video. This is what I really need right now. I just began a journey of over hauling. Im 24I feel like I've wasted a whole lot of my years being unserious and it makes me sad and almost depressed. I'm just learning to love my body though I get discouraged at times - I'm not so tall, I have flat butt and big calves and it feels so overwhelming at times.
Whenever I'm beginning to feel down, I just run back here to get some vibes.. love you sist!
I’m inspired and this video has given me some sorta back pat like girl you’re not doing it all wrong it takes time but just keep at it. Thank you once more 💝
Anytime sis ❤️
Thank you so much sis❤ this video is a life changing for me🥺 l just turned 20 last week and l want to be the best version of myself 🤗🦋
Just discovered you and I already love it here! 🤩 I needed the reassurance and hope in this video right now
I love the last tip
Learn to say no, create boundaries
I’m so happy I found your channel🤞🏽 LOVED the advice and taking mental notes forreal❤️
Thanks sis ❤️
A year later and I found this gem at a point in my life when I needed the advise the most. I've been feeling very conflicted about a lot of things in my life and having watched this will help me put a lot into perspective. Thank you for sharing, also this video deserves way more views than it has ✨
This is beautiful... Listening to this just helped me in some aspects that im battling with in my head.. I really hope i can put them to practice.. Thank you so much Lucy
I noticed it's way more better to learn from people you relate to or from people that have the lifestyle you want. Great video! greets from germany.
You made my day sis! Major thank you❤️😘
Imagine if everyone was disciplined and leveling up in their 20. Some of us just trying to survive. But good video
exactly
Thank you for this video, I’m turning twenty in a few months and have been stressing cause I don’t want to waste those years of my life! I definitely am going to start taking those smart risks that will pay off!
The 'taking risks when it comes to relationships' speaks to me. I'm 23, in a relationship with someone I really like, I try to talk to other guys just to explore and see if I'd find anyone better but sis, it's all been tears! All of them don't match up to him in at least one aspect (that I can't overlook). Now my problem is this guy ticks all my boxes except one, LOOKS AND APPEARANCE. He doesn't pay attention to his looks and I get attracted to guys that look good, I love to see a guy that takes care of himself. I've complained to him but he doesn't get it. I'm really confused.
Don’t settle then
Same situation sis
You said yourself that the other guys don’t measure up to him in an aspect that you can’t overlook so you have to decide, will you choose looks over everything else? You’re trying to find your life partner. Will you regret throwing away a good guy for someone that looks better when in 15 years he probably won’t look that good? But if you really can’t get over the appearance thing and he’s not putting in the effort I say find someone who is in alignment with your values. You only have one life 😊
Keep your options open
Love is not about looks if you don’t like the way he is change him in a way you like.