Stonewalling is emotional abuse. Thank you for defining it so clearly!! I was in several relationships with men in the distant past who practiced this behavior & refused to take responsibility for their shit of their own & work on it. I left the relationships. When I decided way back then to never tolerate that behavior again I found my dating pool became very limited and has become smaller since. Unfortunately this is a really significant problem for heterosexual men. I decided its better to not be in a relationship than with someone who practices this emotional abuse.
My husband of 42 years does this. About four years ago I began calling him out regardless of the consequences because I felt invisible. It lead to some hard conversations. I let him be in his mood sometimes bc I am going to be disrespectful if I speak up. Once I am feeling clear about my feelings and the situation(if I know what triggered him) then I will have the difficult conversation. If it breaks the marriage, I can live with that too. There’s a lot of freedom and peace in not walking on egg shells.
Also - this behavior is becoming very common in platonic friendships & business relationships. I end them all when it appears and the first clear direct communication about it on my part is shut down or ignored because I know how it plays out for me - not good!
Being in a serious relationship and having a job that requires you to be gone for 28 days is hard. Especially when they do this for days and days at a time.
Thank you for your clear information. My partner and I are looking for solutions for difficult situations, but are also trapped in (too?) long seperations quite often. Perhaps the details described by you can be helpful.
@@JaysonGaddis so now we are going to explore the difference between •a short calmdown after peaked emotions, and •a too long silence, in which is no contact and only vagueness.
Stonewalling is emotional abuse. Thank you for defining it so clearly!! I was in several relationships with men in the distant past who practiced this behavior & refused to take responsibility for their shit of their own & work on it. I left the relationships. When I decided way back then to never tolerate that behavior again I found my dating pool became very limited and has become smaller since. Unfortunately this is a really significant problem for heterosexual men. I decided its better to not be in a relationship than with someone who practices this emotional abuse.
lol no its not primarily hetero men... my partner is literally doing it to me right now and shes a woman.
truth
My husband of 42 years does this. About four years ago I began calling him out regardless of the consequences because I felt invisible. It lead to some hard conversations. I let him be in his mood sometimes bc I am going to be disrespectful if I speak up. Once I am feeling clear about my feelings and the situation(if I know what triggered him) then I will have the difficult conversation. If it breaks the marriage, I can live with that too. There’s a lot of freedom and peace in not walking on egg shells.
yup. life's too short to not be yourself
It's ALWAYS helpful to hear and see this type of material ~
Also - this behavior is becoming very common in platonic friendships & business relationships. I end them all when it appears and the first clear direct communication about it on my part is shut down or ignored because I know how it plays out for me - not good!
not common in deep good friendships and relationships.
That is my experience as well, those are the relationships I keep!
Thank you Jayson, very helpful! Engaging and clearly presented.
Thanks Greg
Being in a serious relationship and having a job that requires you to be gone for 28 days is hard. Especially when they do this for days and days at a time.
Thank you for your clear information. My partner and I are looking for solutions for difficult situations, but are also trapped in (too?) long seperations quite often. Perhaps the details described by you can be helpful.
good luck!
@@JaysonGaddis so now we are going to explore the difference between •a short calmdown after peaked emotions, and •a too long silence, in which is no contact and only vagueness.