I've interviewed a lot of people who thrived in Vietnam but in this video I talk to Amanda who's had a tough time transitioning. If you want to get serious about living or moving in Vietnam - it will make you feel more prepared: bvcco.gumroad.com/l/vnsurvival
Amanda, I commend you for sharing your story, embracing vulnerability, and taking bold steps in life. Despite any negativity or judgment from others, only you know your true happiness and path. Stay true to yourself and take pride in your journey. Happy to be part of your Vietnam community.
I don't know who Chris is and how successful he is but it sounds like Amanda and Chris should sit down and have a heart-to-heart conversation about their future in Vietnam. From what I'm hearing, Amanda is not happy and struggling to find a place in Vietnam. I wish this couple best of luck and happiness.
It seems Chris love travelling and being in Vietnam. Amanda give off the vibe of still looking to settle in Vietnam or not even enjoying to be in there.
There're different opportunities for overseas Vietnamese to survive and thrive in Vietnam. Some like Julia and Kavi build their own businesses, and some like Amanda are just behind the scenes helping their husbands run a business. If you listen carefully, she said she could not speak Vietnamese well, so it's hard for her to make friends with the people over there.
Vietnam is not for everyone, especially when Amanda grew up state side. Two completely different cultures/world. There are so many great things and not so many great things in a different country. Case in point, pollution and corruption.
I usually don't comment but this was one of the most honest, raw, and vulnerable interviews I've seen around moving to VN and trying to build a life. Thank you to Amanda & Peter for allowing us to listen in. As a Viet Kieu who has been traveling to vietnam a couple times recently to figure out if I could live part or full time there, this conversation resonated deeply with a lot of the underlying struggles Amanda shared. Esp as someone who doesn't speak vietnamese all too well. I read that among the most important key factors to living a happy life, community is among the top pillars. It sounds like part of the real struggle here is Amanda left her community of friends and family, and hasn't found her tribe in VN yet. I hope she does if she decides to stay and i also hope she can find work that truly inspires her in some way. Wishing you both so much luck and opportunity. We're all just figuring this out ourselves too as we go
Home is where the heart is. After all, she has it all - her love, her happiness, her comfortable life, her upcoming plan of building her own business in Vietnam. Nothing is better than that.
If she has a pure spirit and heart, doing business in CSVN is a worst part! Otherwise, she has to feed the devil and at the end, she will be ending like…!
@@ChinhmyHo "doing business in CSVN is a worst part!" - According IMF, Vietnam’s gross domestic product is expected to expand 6% this year 2024, up from 5% in 2023 - a pace that would make it among Asia’s fastest growing economies.
Huge credit to Amanda for riding out this season in her life. Sounds like she’s choosing commitment and love right now. Must be hard to be in conflict with what you want versus what your life partner wants. This is really refreshing and encouraging to hear. Wishing her and Chris the best.
Are you kidding me? She’s super comfortable and all of her bills are taken care of all she needs to do is spend a little time and learn to adjust to her new surroundings. This chick is self absorbed.
Love these Viet kieu interviews about moving to vietnam not just showing the good but the bad/struggles as well which is more realistic., Its not all sunshine and rainbows like everyone thinks!
Awesome interview! I can relate so much to her in different circumstances, especially about the choices she made and her semi regrets. I could have listened to Amanda talk about her current and past life and her struggles with moving to vietnam for hours
This is a great interview and almost like a therapy session. If not already, Chris should watch this video and they should sit down and have a heart to heart. Wish you both all the success and continued happiness. 👍
14:08 “trying to make more friends” I have been in Asia for years now and as a Westerner I don’t think is possible to have the same type of friendship one has in the West with people. Asia is just too different and the culture is too different as well. Same goes for marriage, the expectation of Asian women when marrying a foreigner is for him to lift her family out of poverty and you hear and see all these Asia meets West love stories that end in disaster. As a man I ask: do u actually need friends? Do you actually need love? As a man I choose respect and success over friendship and/or love. She does seem to be struggling a lot in Vietnam and she ain’t happy. She is doing it more for her husband who stumble upon business opportunities and that it’s great and noble from her side. I hope her husnabd is aware of her effort and doesn’t take her for granted and if he finds financial success and then he in return must provide a good life for her. For people from the USA life outside the USA is not easy. The culture the way of life and their overall society in the USA is truly different from Vietnam and or other countries. I was also in Southern Cali and I am happy I am out and never to come back. Good luck to her and u wish her a happy marriage.
11:06 “being in a place you feel you are not connected. “ I have heard this from so many people … I have never felt connected to any place and that has made me leave my continent and come to South East Asia where I feel “better” but I see a lot of people struggling with this feeling of “not belonging” People have asked me why I love Asia and I always give the same answer: “Because I Asia I will always be considered an “outsider”. “
As long as you have the eager to learn about the culture, the language and create connections with the local Vietnamese, i believe you will feel much more connected. I got a Canadian friend, she loves Vietnam and she sold all of her assets to move here, for me she's not an ousider at all because she shares the same feeling and spirit with me of being a Vietnamese
I like her self awareness. But her timidness and stubborness has not allowed her to enjoy the wonderful life she has been blessed with. Go out and learn your heritage, socialize with the people, make a couple of friends, work on yourself, and then you will be happy.
I think she feels she has zero in common wit the locals. I am a Westerner and I have been in South East Asia for many years. I can’t live in the West. But I have also accepted that friendships and most important of all “relationships” are too different in Asia compared to the West. I am ok with that now…. But Amanda is clearly struggling like most people would.
Thanks for posting this video. I can relate to Amanda. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area. I am Filipino American who is married to a Vietnamese wife who lives in Phan Thiet. I often think about pulling the trigger on moving from SF to Saigon or Phan Thiet. And then I think about what would it feel like to move to Vietnam including the lifestyle. I just got back from Saigon last Saturday on July 13th. Thanks @brokethehavit for posting and keeping it real on your channel. Your videos are really helpful as I will think about making the transition to Vietnam or staying here in the Bay Area.
Many years ago I remember a set of big "picture books" at a mall. When opening the book all one could see were dots of all colors. If one stared into the dots just the right way a beautiful 3D image appeared. Once you saw it you always saw it. But some people could never see it. Vietnam is a bit like that. Many come and see chaos. But looking at it the right way you see a country of interesting beautiful people full of culture with awesome sense of humor. There is no right or wrong about seeing the beauty or not. I am from NYC living here in Vietnam 30 years. I really love being here never bored even at 70 years of age. The lady being interviewed is a delightful person but is struggling to find herself here. The question now is whether she can come to see the beautiful image or learn to cope otherwise assuming the husband is not ready to return to the US. Assuming she still wants to stay with her husband then my suggestion is to keep trying to see the beautiful side of the image of Vietnam. In addition... her husband needs to heed her own needs and ensure that she has the ability to travel back to California at reasonable intervals preferably with a home base or apartment of their own there.
Life is short. Time flies by. Follow your heart and find your dreams. You won't regret later. When you are 80 walking with a walking can, how far can you go? And how many dreams left do you have?
Unfortunately, that's not her dream...it's Chris's dream. His dream to travel and live in VN. When you have such imbalances, it usually won't last, unfortunately.
@@proud4373doesn't sounded like she followed her heart. She explicitly said she is there because of Chris. She is basically dependent on Chris. She mentioned taking out loans. Maybe some partners are fine with that, but she doesn't appear to be happy with it. Personally, I wouldn't want to be so dependent on someone either...need to be more equal.
Moving, especially to another country, can be extremely hard when you moved from a place you felt that is your home. I think people who work out in other countries or places can cut ties easier for whatever reason. I think most people can easily feel like she does even being single. Even being married, if one partner seems to be thriving and the other feels left out, it can be mentally straining and self doubt can alter reality. But thank you Peter for showing this side of human emotion and experience and I wish them the best, and you too of course!
I think Amanda should join some womans club in Vietnam to feel more apart of it. This can be in something she would like to do like life coaching. There are many clubs in Vietnam where you can find like minded people. Vietnam forces you to face your demons but in this way also helps you grow and discover yourself. There are many challenges I overcame in myself in Vietnam simply due to necessity and not being in a all supportive environment.
She is in a difficult position mentally. Her personality is OK, she was raised in Cali - she is raw and honest though, which is not a usual trait there. This woman has a soul. She will be happier in 10 years, when she realizes less control will make her happier. If her partner is the ONE, she will calm down eventually. If he is not the ONE, Yeah, just forget it… I have the experience that TO GIVE support and love to the other one, that is the most we can do for each other. People are fd up because they think a certain income / house/ car will make them happy. That is true when you do not have the basics. You can’t fill the void (speaking of your soul) with material things. The wealthiest people I knew were some of the most fd up people. Making money - keepingBUSY is many times basically running away from trauma. I hope this couple will find their “ShangriLa” together.
I recently transplanted to OC. In my bubble many Californians haven't ever left CA because they are so comfortable here. I came from a major metro area that had lots of people moving elsewhere to experience life away from home. It's an interesting contrast. One thing about that comfort could be that it can be difficult to leave it behind for some people.
Californians always go back to California sooner or later when they have a choice. The living environment, especially in Southern CA, is one of the bests.
Her husband is extremely selfish. He can’t even notice his own wife is unhappy because he’s too busy growing his business. Or he does know but he doesn’t care. I wonder what his reaction to this video would be, watching the clips where she pretty explicitly says being in Vietnam is making her grow apart from her own husband. I’m guessing the odds of them getting divorced in the next five years is 90%
According to her statement... I was unhappy and when I was offered to travel the world from a man that she only knew for a short time during covid shutdown. Well, that's exactly what I always wanted (no kidding I wonder whom wouldn't like that). If things go wrong, I can always come back to Kalifornia, this would be reference to her parent place. Nothing is wrong with it nor it my problem, I just feel sorry for the parent.
Their story is similar to a Canadian YT couple. The guy is white, girl is half-Filipina/ white. They dated for a short while in Canada. Covid happened & girl moved in with the guy. They got married. Then around a year after, they quit their jobs to travel (and became vloggers). They decided to stay in PH 🇵🇭 when PH finally opened to tourism/ foreigners. They travelled around & vlogged, then settled in one area/ city. The girl was ~20 yrs younger than the guy. They had different interests. Ending: they are now in the process of divorce. (needs 1 year of separation before filing, accdg to Canadian law or so they said). They now live separately & have separate vlogs. Guy has found another GF, also 20 yrs younger. Girl has found a Filipino BF, close to her age & who has similar interests. They (Canadian ex-couple) still both live in PH. That said, I wish all the best to Amanda and her husband, both individually and as a couple.
I think Chris successfully pinpointed the elephant in the room here. Moving to Vietnam is just the facade, the deep down underlying issue is Amanda not having her own self image and contribution.
She expects to compete and make money and contribute to the household like most western women. In Asia a lot of women would be happy with a successful husband that supports the family. It’s a Western mentality vs Asian mentality. Yes she is Asian but raised in Southern Cali.
@@sebastianniqvist3144 Trong đại biểu quốc hội, trường học, luật và y tế ở đất nước CSVN ta thiếu gì phụ nữ thành đạt hơn đàn ông. Bạn khinh thường phụ nữ CSVN ta như thế! Ngay cả trong quân đội, rất nhiều cấp tá tướng phụ nữ nha. Kg phải là bạn kém quá rồi vơ đũa cả nắm nha.
@@BeN-rs6yf nothing wrong and that’s the way of thinking in modern times. They problem is that she wants to do it in USA and her husband in Vietnam so that the conflict. Also if they want kids and she wants do work and have a successful career at the same time that can be a challenge too
@@ChinhmyHo thanks for the poem mate… I didn’t understand a single word even though I used Google translate… Translation: “In parliament deputies, schools, Law and health in our Vietnamese country lacks What a woman. You despise women Our CSVN is like that! Even in the army Team, many female generals. Kg must be too poor friend and grab chopsticks Five.”
Wow! Amanda is amazing! Take care of yourself, because you truly rushed into a relationship without knowing what you were getting into. Being unhappy (not talking about being content) is a slow way of dying…don’t give up on your dreams, but drop the dead weight. Best wishes to whatever you decide to do and where you will end up in the end. Because it won’t be a “might”…
18:00 That’s the challenge with western mentality. She has been taught to work and be independent while being a wife. Asian women get married and follow their husband to other countries. Many Viet Kieus go to Vietnam to meet girls, it’s an open secret and everybody knows that. These Viet Kieus meet girls and many times they take them back to USA, Canada or Australia. These Asian women follow and you can see the difference in the thinking with Amanda. I can say that many Vietnamese girls would like to be in her position and let the man take care of all financial things but of course is a different mentality. It’s clear to the naked eye she is struggling. I hope things improve.
It is actually a privilege, challenge, and adventure to be able travel, explore, discover, live/work in other countries, and to learn. Was discussing this with a friend from Asia who was invited to the USA for work, barely spoke English, but was successful at his job and eventually obtained another univ degree, then started his own firm. 15 years later returned to Asia because of the opportunities. The USA was very tough, but it would have been impossible to have succeeded without a positive attitude along with an ambition to learn and develop community/friendships. Language can be learned if someone chooses to...it does not have to be a race...relax... Can actually communicate without understanding a language .. Interestingly, when someone returns "home" they might actually feel like a stranger in a strange land... Do not be an expat on Holiday!
I don't think she is going to last in Vietnam. I've been in a similiar situation before and you hit a breaking point and end up leaving no matter what.
To be a good life coach, i think you could first lead by example and not falling into the same behaviors you mentioned that you are trying to avoid. Lots of people have similiar issues that require a first hand experience. By demonstrating your success, which i know you can do, you can help a lot more people. Cheers
I was just thinking of this. It sounds like she doesn't have her life figured out and I don't know how are you going to help people who fall into the same situation?
Amanda learn VN like that you can connect with the people ... And do ... Jump in the water (you are already in) and ask Chris for a hand ... Don't think twist ...
its funny.. I'm from California.. lived there most my life. and now i'm here with my Philipina GF for a month.. just vacationing.. travelling.. but we REALLY like Da Nang.. and vietnam. Kinda wierd .. cause we are both from different countries... anyway.. she says Like alot. so funny.. and my GF picked that up from me in her filipina Accent. Great interview. just subbed.
I lost count how many times "Like" was said in the conversation 😂 I've seen her briefly in Chris's vlogs but she was camera shy.... she's so gorgeous tho 😁
@@tagodain Real local Vietnamese will follow husband and be more than happy he found success. That’s the difference with Western women. I understand if she had a 300K job in tech but 60K in Souther Cali is nothing. what is he doing in Vietnam? I knew he was teaching but what else is he doing that everybody says it’s an empire?
@@sebastianniqvist3144I think he was interviewed on this channel a few weeks ago? He was a public school teacher in the US - if that's her husband. He has YT and has an online business teaching English, I think.
Orange County, CA can be very toxic and is expensive for the normal person. People trying to flex their money to stand out, but the money will eventually run out. Dating is already like being on a job interview. She made the right decision for her mental health.
I am from Toronto. I thought I would backpack for a year. But I couldn't bring myself to go back to Canada. Since then I've lived in HK, Bangkok, KL, Singapore. And been in Asia for 12 years. Best decision ever. I understand how she feels.
Same here been in Vietnam for years haven’t been back to Toronto in a long time and don’t really have the urge to go. Checked out the cost of hotels in Toronto last year and it was over 300 a night for a Holiday Inn Express . Apparently inflation is really bad and not likely I could afford to visit , would rather spend the money going somewhere interesting and live 5 stars .
A marriage and a family are a partnership. Once you embrace that and toss the individualism, independence aside that usa, California qualities embrace so much you may find real happiness for yourself. And this is coming from a California guy who lived 42 years in California and 16 across Asia.
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This seemed like a counseling session, she clearly does not want to be there and she is trying to convince herself that she would be happy to stay but yet has regrets of coming smh… and for all things to be, a life coach?
@@DewTime Her husband speaks Vietnamese, according to the video. He had actually completed his internship at some university in Vietnam. It obviously takes time for her to adapt to the new life.
I think Amanda should really reflect on why her husband is okay with her sacrificing her happiness for him. Would HE agree to move back to California to make HER happy?
this lady needs to wake up and needs to think by moving to vietnam is truly good for her. every decisions, every finance and budget is provided by her husband is not so smart. she needs to be financial indepence in order to even her relationship with her husband. now, she is basically too much depedent on chris for why she is ending up in vietnam.
Lots of Asians are returning to their own country and roots. I'm Canadian Chinese born and raised. Feel like living in South east Asia for lower cost of living. Canada is no longer affordable. Housing market is insane.
. You can try living in Vietnam, but don't rush to decide to live forever. At a certain age, may be you will see America as the most worth living place. Good luck. . I'm an 80 year old man.
America is lame. Lived 32 years in oc. Hated it. Lived globally since 2008. Lots 9f great places, including Vietnam. Example during covid. 0 restrictions in Vietnam. Unlike my California family locked in houses for 18 months. All off a virus USA itself made in a lab.
13:40 I seriously don’t understand what’s the issue with learning the language of your ancestors. In LA I met quite a number of Koreans that didn’t even wanted to tell me their Korean name. They would say I am American and I only speak English and of course that didn’t even want to be heard speaking Korean. I really couldn’t understand why… I speak the language of my ancestors and English too and I’ve learn a bit of other languages too. Seriously what’s the problem with learning the language of your family? I don’t understand why Asian Americans are so reluctant. The challenge with Vietnamese language is that just like Chinese and Thai and many other Asian languages it’s a “tonal” language and pronunciation is so difficult. There are some Westerners that can master Chinese and there is an American guy in Vietnam Phuc Map who can speak Vietnamese fluently and that is a true achievement. Tonal languages are to me the hardest to learn and yes learning a language is useful. If she can get the tones right then that is already more than 90% of the battle won.
There are a lot of Asian Americans/ Asian Europeans who have "self hate". It's usually among the 1st generation/ children of immigrants. They try to shed their Asian-ness and be more white. Peter (the interviewer) also experienced this, as he's said in his other vids. He's said that when he was younger, he didn't want to speak Viet outside of his home, not wanting to bring Asian smelly food for lunch, etc. Some other common things among men - becoming more gangsta. Among women, it's blonde hair, eyelid surgery, nose lift or boob job, etc. The series "Fresh off the boat" delves into this. The channel of Fung Bros also talk about self hate, aside from other issues.
@@AmandaMyTan hey it’s actually you who replied!!!! Hey I just arrived in Saigon and I am going crazy in a good way with all the madness and the cool people around. I am looking for a place to live now. I know your building I visited a friend there and around your building it’s a very local environment. Your place is fantastic. There is expat, Viet Kieu, Viet networking session every Thursday and it’s sustenten “DA PLACE” to go to network.
I feel for her. The question is would he ever give up everything to be with her in America. This sounds like a beginning of a love story, where she gives up everything, to find out Chris is selfish and cheating on her, leaves him and meets a awesome guys who puts her first. Chris wants her back , but she has moved on. Haha😂
2:56 Chinese have communities in every country in South East Asia and now the world. In Asia in particular they are the business elite and although they are the minority in numbers they usually control the biggest part of the economy. In Vietnam the also had the biggest control of the economy. I just löve these “klickz” of people who unite, seize the whole economy and make everybody work for them for peanuts.
Chinese control the Vietnamese economy? in Vietnam Catholics,christian and Chinese cannot participate in politics and the military (at high levels).In countries like China or Vietnam, don't expect there to be a force with higher power than the government, what you say is ridiculous
@@quangphuoctran7934 Hoa = Chinese people From the late 19th century, the Hoa played a leading role in Vietnam's private business sector prior to the Fall of Saigon in 1975. They were a well-established commercial middle class ethnic group that made up a disproportionately high percentage of Vietnam's upper class.[6] Despite their small numbers, the Hoa were disproportionately dominant in the Vietnamese economy having started an estimated 70 to 80 percent of pre-fall Saigon's privately owned and operated businesses.
@@sebastianniqvist3144they worked as middlemen for Amerikkkan and French empire to oppress locals. They are just like every other ethnic groups. nothing special about them
@@quangphuoctran7934 hahaha. Check the chinese fdi and investment projects in vietnam. Actually they have your special economic zones leased for 99 years.
It is too good for her to be able to go back VN and live there. You be the judge, but the government there is watching you every moves and the wrong move could get you into arbitrary detain. I hope you don’t have to move back to America. Good luck!
Peter, would you try interviewing Fred Le? He made the Empathizer Documentary. Lived in VN for many years but ultimately decided to move back to LA. The documentary was really great and told stories about Viet Kieu. Though he's done a podcast before, I think you could highlight some things that he hasn't shared in that podcast.
Kind of similar situation to Kyle Le - he has a YT channel, though he's not very active now. Kyle also lived in VN for some years then moved back to California.
@@kitty_s23456 But Kyle has been back to VN several times since he left. I've actually briefly met and talked with Fred Le. I've watched Kyle's vids since 2016. Very different people. Kyle definitely seems to march to the beat of his own drum. Only know him from what he shares on socials but it looks like he just drifts from one video project to another and does some travel while staying w friends here and there. Idk how he lives in a suitcase for so long, always unsettled. No idea how he manages a steady income either.
@@laughter95 I see. I don't know abt Fred Le & I only know Kyle from his socials too. Kyle went back to the US to pursue a masters degree, then after that he's travelled everywhere, making YT vids & doing projects along the way. I think Kyle is still searching for his place in the world, but from what he's said in his vids, his parents want him to be more settled (he's 30+), which I can understand. I think Kyle went back to the US since his income as an English teacher + YT wasn't enough for his needs or wants. (just my opinion) I think many young VK want to return or live in VN (to rediscover their culture, to belong, etc) but if still young, it can be hard to make an income unless you work remotely for a Western company (or have your own business). It's different if the VK is old and/ or retired.
Sounds like it’s time to have a visit home and see how you feel. Sounds like you guys lived outside your means with travel debt, probably a good idea to get that sorted via USD income, time to have a 50/50 relationship Chris, don’t loose your good girl over some small chance you make money via only course. Also there is too many people giving life advice with little experience. It’s a quick buck way to think and most likely with blow up in your face. Wish you both the best.
I think it’s a habit that she has subconsciously learned from peers/colleagues or the environment she grew up in. Beyond that she is very articulate, interesting and intelligent 😊
Doesn't sound like Amanda and Chris are equal partners in their relationship. Chris appears to be a dominant partner and gets what he wants in this relationship. Hope she finds happiness either with or without Chris. If he truly values her, he should also compromise rather than expecting her to always accommodate him. Soon, it will be too late when she has enough.
There is no equal partnership in a marriage in the literal way. Not financially, not in the sense of physical power, not in the sense of mental power, etc. one is always stronger somehow than the other. The thing that keeps it together is that BOTH believe their life would be worse without the other one AND they are generally happier together than alone. Briefly.
@flowwwtube3357 Agreed on physical and financial imbalances that often exist in marriages. But, if either spouse perceived they are not valued or treated like they deserved, I don't see how they can rationalize that staying together is better for them?
It is my personal opinion that Viet Kieu should not move back to Viet Nam permanently unless s/he had financially made it in foreign lands and willing to bring resources and new ideas into Viet Nam, contributing to its growth. Otherwise, you're a failure in foreign lands and now coming back to Viet Nam just to leech off of it.
Cantonese or Quang Dong or Quang Tay or Vietnamese are from the same origin Lac Long Quan va Au Co or from Vua Than Nong. Cantonese and Quang Dong lost their root and they are not Han Chinese...
Learn how to invest in the stock market if you want to invest your time to make money. Don’t waste your time to explore other businesses when you at the middle age unless you have your own invention.
I've interviewed a lot of people who thrived in Vietnam but in this video I talk to Amanda who's had a tough time transitioning. If you want to get serious about living or moving in Vietnam - it will make you feel more prepared: bvcco.gumroad.com/l/vnsurvival
Where do you find all these people to interview? 😊
@@brokethehabit its good to get both sides
this was hard to watch...she needs to talk to a professional to work on internal issues
@@ghplatt welcome to the Wall. The Wall does not forgive, Brothers.
Amanda, I commend you for sharing your story, embracing vulnerability, and taking bold steps in life. Despite any negativity or judgment from others, only you know your true happiness and path. Stay true to yourself and take pride in your journey. Happy to be part of your Vietnam community.
Thanks, man. Love you, bro~
Chris has found a Jem in Amanda as a partner. Very supportive to her man. He should treasure her.
I don't know who Chris is and how successful he is but it sounds like Amanda and Chris should sit down and have a heart-to-heart conversation about their future in Vietnam. From what I'm hearing, Amanda is not happy and struggling to find a place in Vietnam. I wish this couple best of luck and happiness.
It seems Chris love travelling and being in Vietnam. Amanda give off the vibe of still looking to settle in Vietnam or not even enjoying to be in there.
There're different opportunities for overseas Vietnamese to survive and thrive in Vietnam. Some like Julia and Kavi build their own businesses, and some like Amanda are just behind the scenes helping their husbands run a business. If you listen carefully, she said she could not speak Vietnamese well, so it's hard for her to make friends with the people over there.
Before she has enough and leaves him. If the situation is reversed, Chris wouldn't be happy either.
Why?
Vietnam is not for everyone, especially when Amanda grew up state side. Two completely different cultures/world. There are so many great things and not so many great things in a different country. Case in point, pollution and corruption.
I usually don't comment but this was one of the most honest, raw, and vulnerable interviews I've seen around moving to VN and trying to build a life. Thank you to Amanda & Peter for allowing us to listen in. As a Viet Kieu who has been traveling to vietnam a couple times recently to figure out if I could live part or full time there, this conversation resonated deeply with a lot of the underlying struggles Amanda shared. Esp as someone who doesn't speak vietnamese all too well. I read that among the most important key factors to living a happy life, community is among the top pillars. It sounds like part of the real struggle here is Amanda left her community of friends and family, and hasn't found her tribe in VN yet. I hope she does if she decides to stay and i also hope she can find work that truly inspires her in some way. Wishing you both so much luck and opportunity. We're all just figuring this out ourselves too as we go
Home is where the heart is. After all, she has it all - her love, her happiness, her comfortable life, her upcoming plan of building her own business in Vietnam. Nothing is better than that.
If she has a pure spirit and heart, doing business in CSVN is a worst part! Otherwise, she has to feed the devil and at the end, she will be ending like…!
@@ChinhmyHo "doing business in CSVN is a worst part!" - According IMF, Vietnam’s gross domestic product is expected to expand 6% this year 2024, up from 5% in 2023 - a pace that would make it among Asia’s fastest growing economies.
@@nguyenhoanganh4586
Dân trí quá thấp kid!!
@@ChinhmyHo It's said silly people say silly things. Your comment clearly said it all.
Huge credit to Amanda for riding out this season in her life. Sounds like she’s choosing commitment and love right now. Must be hard to be in conflict with what you want versus what your life partner wants. This is really refreshing and encouraging to hear. Wishing her and Chris the best.
Are you kidding me? She’s super comfortable and all of her bills are taken care of all she needs to do is spend a little time and learn to adjust to her new surroundings. This chick is self absorbed.
Love these Viet kieu interviews about moving to vietnam not just showing the good but the bad/struggles as well which is more realistic., Its not all sunshine and rainbows like everyone thinks!
Awesome interview! I can relate so much to her in different circumstances, especially about the choices she made and her semi regrets. I could have listened to Amanda talk about her current and past life and her struggles with moving to vietnam for hours
This is a great interview and almost like a therapy session. If not already, Chris should watch this video and they should sit down and have a heart to heart. Wish you both all the success and continued happiness. 👍
14:08 “trying to make more friends”
I have been in Asia for years now and as a Westerner I don’t think is possible to have the same type of friendship one has in the West with people.
Asia is just too different and the culture is too different as well.
Same goes for marriage, the expectation of Asian women when marrying a foreigner is for him to lift her family out of poverty and you hear and see all these Asia meets West love stories that end in disaster.
As a man I ask: do u actually need friends? Do you actually need love?
As a man I choose respect and success over friendship and/or love.
She does seem to be struggling a lot in Vietnam and she ain’t happy. She is doing it more for her husband who stumble upon business opportunities and that it’s great and noble from her side. I hope her husnabd is aware of her effort and doesn’t take her for granted and if he finds financial success and then he in return must provide a good life for her.
For people from the USA life outside the USA is not easy. The culture the way of life and their overall society in the USA is truly different from Vietnam and or other countries. I was also in Southern Cali and I am happy I am out and never to come back. Good luck to her and u wish her a happy marriage.
You win some and you lose some that is life. ...❤
11:06 “being in a place you feel you are not connected. “
I have heard this from so many people …
I have never felt connected to any place and that has made me leave my continent and come to South East Asia where I feel “better” but I see a lot of people struggling with this feeling of “not belonging”
People have asked me why I love Asia and I always give the same answer: “Because I Asia I will always be considered an “outsider”. “
As long as you have the eager to learn about the culture, the language and create connections with the local Vietnamese, i believe you will feel much more connected. I got a Canadian friend, she loves Vietnam and she sold all of her assets to move here, for me she's not an ousider at all because she shares the same feeling and spirit with me of being a Vietnamese
@@_llv22 is she Viet Kieu or w4sp ?
@@sebastianniqvist3144 she's a Canadian born in Quebec
I like her self awareness. But her timidness and stubborness has not allowed her to enjoy the wonderful life she has been blessed with. Go out and learn your heritage, socialize with the people, make a couple of friends, work on yourself, and then you will be happy.
I think she feels she has zero in common wit the locals.
I am a Westerner and I have been in South East Asia for many years. I can’t live in the West. But I have also accepted that friendships and most important of all “relationships” are too different in Asia compared to the West. I am ok with that now…. But Amanda is clearly struggling like most people would.
Thanks for posting this video. I can relate to Amanda. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area. I am Filipino American who is married to a Vietnamese wife who lives in Phan Thiet. I often think about pulling the trigger on moving from SF to Saigon or Phan Thiet. And then I think about what would it feel like to move to Vietnam including the lifestyle. I just got back from Saigon last Saturday on July 13th. Thanks @brokethehavit for posting and keeping it real on your channel. Your videos are really helpful as I will think about making the transition to Vietnam or staying here in the Bay Area.
Is your wife faithful ?
Being apart opens the doors to extramarital affairs.
Many years ago I remember a set of big "picture books" at a mall. When opening the book all one could see were dots of all colors. If one stared into the dots just the right way a beautiful 3D image appeared. Once you saw it you always saw it. But some people could never see it. Vietnam is a bit like that. Many come and see chaos. But looking at it the right way you see a country of interesting beautiful people full of culture with awesome sense of humor. There is no right or wrong about seeing the beauty or not. I am from NYC living here in Vietnam 30 years. I really love being here never bored even at 70 years of age. The lady being interviewed is a delightful person but is struggling to find herself here. The question now is whether she can come to see the beautiful image or learn to cope otherwise assuming the husband is not ready to return to the US. Assuming she still wants to stay with her husband then my suggestion is to keep trying to see the beautiful side of the image of Vietnam. In addition... her husband needs to heed her own needs and ensure that she has the ability to travel back to California at reasonable intervals preferably with a home base or apartment of their own there.
Life is short. Time flies by. Follow your heart and find your dreams. You won't regret later. When you are 80 walking with a walking can, how far can you go? And how many dreams left do you have?
Unfortunately, that's not her dream...it's Chris's dream. His dream to travel and live in VN. When you have such imbalances, it usually won't last, unfortunately.
@@gopher4life1 ???
@@gopher4life1 She has followed her heart, and they are still together.
@@proud4373doesn't sounded like she followed her heart. She explicitly said she is there because of Chris. She is basically dependent on Chris. She mentioned taking out loans. Maybe some partners are fine with that, but she doesn't appear to be happy with it. Personally, I wouldn't want to be so dependent on someone either...need to be more equal.
@@gopher4life1"doesn't sounded like she followed her heart"?? Have you watched the entire video?
Moving, especially to another country, can be extremely hard when you moved from a place you felt that is your home. I think people who work out in other countries or places can cut ties easier for whatever reason. I think most people can easily feel like she does even being single. Even being married, if one partner seems to be thriving and the other feels left out, it can be mentally straining and self doubt can alter reality. But thank you Peter for showing this side of human emotion and experience and I wish them the best, and you too of course!
I think Amanda should join some womans club in Vietnam to feel more apart of it. This can be in something she would like to do like life coaching. There are many clubs in Vietnam where you can find like minded people. Vietnam forces you to face your demons but in this way also helps you grow and discover yourself. There are many challenges I overcame in myself in Vietnam simply due to necessity and not being in a all supportive environment.
She is in a difficult position mentally. Her personality is OK, she was raised in Cali - she is raw and honest though, which is not a usual trait there. This woman has a soul. She will be happier in 10 years, when she realizes less control will make her happier. If her partner is the ONE, she will calm down eventually. If he is not the ONE, Yeah, just forget it… I have the experience that TO GIVE support and love to the other one, that is the most we can do for each other. People are fd up because they think a certain income / house/ car will make them happy. That is true when you do not have the basics. You can’t fill the void (speaking of your soul) with material things. The wealthiest people I knew were some of the most fd up people. Making money - keepingBUSY is many times basically running away from trauma. I hope this couple will find their “ShangriLa” together.
I recently transplanted to OC. In my bubble many Californians haven't ever left CA because they are so comfortable here. I came from a major metro area that had lots of people moving elsewhere to experience life away from home. It's an interesting contrast. One thing about that comfort could be that it can be difficult to leave it behind for some people.
Californians always go back to California sooner or later when they have a choice. The living environment, especially in Southern CA, is one of the bests.
@@tagodain Lay off! SoCal is a living hell!
@@HanzBergman You sound like you should spend less time on the internet and more time outside interacting with people, i.e. out of touch.
@@laughter95 That will not be in Cali that `s sure I`m from Europe by the way not american
@@laughter95 What is "OC"? Thank you.
Her husband is extremely selfish. He can’t even notice his own wife is unhappy because he’s too busy growing his business. Or he does know but he doesn’t care. I wonder what his reaction to this video would be, watching the clips where she pretty explicitly says being in Vietnam is making her grow apart from her own husband. I’m guessing the odds of them getting divorced in the next five years is 90%
Amanda must built her own community to take off. Seems like there is a competition between Chris and Amanda.
Life is short Amanda! Do what makes YOU happy. Sending you good vibes. =)
According to her statement... I was unhappy and when I was offered to travel the world from a man that she only knew for a short time during covid shutdown. Well, that's exactly what I always wanted (no kidding I wonder whom wouldn't like that). If things go wrong, I can always come back to Kalifornia, this would be reference to her parent place. Nothing is wrong with it nor it my problem, I just feel sorry for the parent.
Their story is similar to a Canadian YT couple. The guy is white, girl is half-Filipina/ white. They dated for a short while in Canada. Covid happened & girl moved in with the guy. They got married.
Then around a year after, they quit their jobs to travel (and became vloggers). They decided to stay in PH 🇵🇭 when PH finally opened to tourism/ foreigners. They travelled around & vlogged, then settled in one area/ city. The girl was ~20 yrs younger than the guy. They had different interests.
Ending: they are now in the process of divorce. (needs 1 year of separation before filing, accdg to Canadian law or so they said). They now live separately & have separate vlogs. Guy has found another GF, also 20 yrs younger. Girl has found a Filipino BF, close to her age & who has similar interests. They (Canadian ex-couple) still both live in PH.
That said, I wish all the best to Amanda and her husband, both individually and as a couple.
I think Chris successfully pinpointed the elephant in the room here. Moving to Vietnam is just the facade, the deep down underlying issue is Amanda not having her own self image and contribution.
She expects to compete and make money and contribute to the household like most western women.
In Asia a lot of women would be happy with a successful husband that supports the family.
It’s a Western mentality vs Asian mentality.
Yes she is Asian but raised in Southern Cali.
What is wrong if she wants to be financially independant ?
@@sebastianniqvist3144
Trong đại biểu quốc hội, trường học, luật và y tế ở đất nước CSVN ta thiếu gì phụ nữ thành đạt hơn đàn ông. Bạn khinh thường phụ nữ CSVN ta như thế! Ngay cả trong quân đội, rất nhiều cấp tá tướng phụ nữ nha.
Kg phải là bạn kém quá rồi vơ đũa cả nắm nha.
@@BeN-rs6yf nothing wrong and that’s the way of thinking in modern times. They problem is that she wants to do it in USA and her husband in Vietnam so that the conflict.
Also if they want kids and she wants do work and have a successful career at the same time that can be a challenge too
@@ChinhmyHo thanks for the poem mate… I didn’t understand a single word even though I used Google translate…
Translation:
“In parliament deputies, schools,
Law and health in our Vietnamese country lacks
What a woman. You despise women
Our CSVN is like that! Even in the army
Team, many female generals.
Kg must be too poor friend and grab chopsticks
Five.”
I continue to really enjoy your interviews. Lots of interesting, different experiences.
you are putting out so much content so fast! so many people! yes I will move to Vietnam when I retire in 6 years!
Good for you for taking a leap of faith and moving to a country out of your comfort zone. You did it for love.
Wow! Amanda is amazing! Take care of yourself, because you truly rushed into a relationship without knowing what you were getting into. Being unhappy (not talking about being content) is a slow way of dying…don’t give up on your dreams, but drop the dead weight. Best wishes to whatever you decide to do and where you will end up in the end. Because it won’t be a “might”…
18:00
That’s the challenge with western mentality.
She has been taught to work and be independent while being a wife.
Asian women get married and follow their husband to other countries.
Many Viet Kieus go to Vietnam to meet girls, it’s an open secret and everybody knows that. These Viet Kieus meet girls and many times they take them back to USA, Canada or Australia. These Asian women follow and you can see the difference in the thinking with Amanda.
I can say that many Vietnamese girls would like to be in her position and let the man take care of all financial things but of course is a different mentality.
It’s clear to the naked eye she is struggling. I hope things improve.
She's fairly young and still trying to figure things out and that's ok. Good luck to her and her husband.
It is actually a privilege, challenge, and adventure to be able travel, explore, discover, live/work in other countries, and to learn. Was discussing this with a friend from Asia who was invited to the USA for work, barely spoke English, but was successful at his job and eventually obtained another univ degree, then started his own firm.
15 years later returned to Asia because of the opportunities. The USA was very tough, but it would have been impossible to have succeeded without a positive attitude along with an ambition to learn and develop community/friendships.
Language can be learned if someone chooses to...it does not have to be a race...relax... Can actually communicate without understanding a language ..
Interestingly, when someone returns "home" they might actually feel like a stranger in a strange land...
Do not be an expat on Holiday!
I don't think she is going to last in Vietnam. I've been in a similiar situation before and you hit a breaking point and end up leaving no matter what.
She does loook unhappy but if she leaves her marriage won’t survive because her husband seeems to be happy in Asia.
It’s so obvious; she’s just coping for the sake of love.
I agree, Amanda does not look and sound Happy.
To be a good life coach, i think you could first lead by example and not falling into the same behaviors you mentioned that you are trying to avoid. Lots of people have similiar issues that require a first hand experience. By demonstrating your success, which i know you can do, you can help a lot more people. Cheers
Amen to that!!!!
I was just thinking of this. It sounds like she doesn't have her life figured out and I don't know how are you going to help people who fall into the same situation?
@@ibuyufo to me Life Coaches are modern day Snake Oil salesmen…
Amanda learn VN like that you can connect with the people ... And do ... Jump in the water (you are already in) and ask Chris for a hand ... Don't think twist ...
Nice interview 👍
these interviews should be on podcast platform
Good idea brokethehabit on Spotify
Finally! Someone who has a similar ethnic background as I do.
Does your profile pic distinguish that you are Chinese Canadian? If so I think that's very cool.
@@ohMinteh Thanks.
bro you need to buy a second mic
It's the last interview bro.
@@brokethehabitWhat
its funny.. I'm from California.. lived there most my life. and now i'm here with my Philipina GF for a month.. just vacationing.. travelling.. but we REALLY like Da Nang.. and vietnam. Kinda wierd .. cause we are both from different countries... anyway.. she says Like alot. so funny.. and my GF picked that up from me in her filipina Accent. Great interview. just subbed.
I lost count how many times "Like" was said in the conversation 😂
I've seen her briefly in Chris's vlogs but she was camera shy.... she's so gorgeous tho 😁
@@yamuiemata I too lost count 🤣. It must be nerves.
I wonder how her husband Chris will react to this interview …
Look like Chris is making his empire in VN, and if Amanda won’t submit to his will, I think they will go separate ways 😢
@@tagodain
Real local Vietnamese will follow husband and be more than happy he found success.
That’s the difference with Western women.
I understand if she had a 300K job in tech but 60K in Souther Cali is nothing.
what is he doing in Vietnam? I knew he was teaching but what else is he doing that everybody says it’s an empire?
@@sebastianniqvist3144I think he was interviewed on this channel a few weeks ago? He was a public school teacher in the US - if that's her husband. He has YT and has an online business teaching English, I think.
A salary of under $60K can’t afford the mortgage in OC. Moving to VN is a great choice for her! Great decision
She quit her job and is unemployed now.
Orange County, CA can be very toxic and is expensive for the normal person. People trying to flex their money to stand out, but the money will eventually run out. Dating is already like being on a job interview. She made the right decision for her mental health.
@@tyyg9469what is flexing?
@@sebastianniqvist3144do u even lift bro? Lmao...i kid i kid.
@@saidroid3220 I lift Mr. Happy every morning, 14 times throughout the day and 12 more times at nigh. Why?
I gotta admit, living in OC has made me appreciate being raised in the East coast. The people here kind of live in a bubble that doesn't seem real.
@@toannguyen342 people in the USA are all unreal and uneducated.
I am from Toronto. I thought I would backpack for a year. But I couldn't bring myself to go back to Canada. Since then I've lived in HK, Bangkok, KL, Singapore. And been in Asia for 12 years. Best decision ever. I understand how she feels.
Same here been in Vietnam for years haven’t been back to Toronto in a long time and don’t really have the urge to go.
Checked out the cost of hotels in Toronto last year and it was over 300 a night for a Holiday Inn Express .
Apparently inflation is really bad and not likely I could afford to visit , would rather spend the money going somewhere interesting and live 5 stars .
I’m looking for next retirement place to live in warm weather country. Can you help?
Thanks for sharing your intimate self
A marriage and a family are a partnership. Once you embrace that and toss the individualism, independence aside that usa, California qualities embrace so much you may find real happiness for yourself. And this is coming from a California guy who lived 42 years in California and 16 across Asia.
She likes "like"
I lived in Saigon 3 years from December 2018 to November 2021. I had covid in Saigon.
lol, one thing I can be sure is that she is not happy in Vietnam. Her personality and demeanor are definitely not fit with the Vietnamese life style.
True she looks very unhappy and it can impact her marriage.
She's only in Vietnam to support her husband but California is her home
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This seemed like a counseling session, she clearly does not want to be there and she is trying to convince herself that she would be happy to stay but yet has regrets of coming smh… and for all things to be, a life coach?
She seems unhappy.
She doesn't speak much Vietnamese. It's hard for her to find friends in Vietnam. as she said during the interview.
@@proud4373 her husband made the wrong decision taking her there
@@DewTime ???
@@DewTime Her husband speaks Vietnamese, according to the video. He had actually completed his internship at some university in Vietnam. It obviously takes time for her to adapt to the new life.
Like unhappy.
It's tough going from the 1st world to a 3rd world country. Vacation is fine, but living is a different ball game.
I think Amanda should really reflect on why her husband is okay with her sacrificing her happiness for him. Would HE agree to move back to California to make HER happy?
this lady needs to wake up and needs to think by moving to vietnam is truly good for her. every decisions, every finance and budget is provided by her husband is not so smart. she needs to be financial indepence in order to even her relationship with her husband. now, she is basically too much depedent on chris for why she is ending up in vietnam.
Dang 60k working in tech in California? That is low!
wtf 60k? Are you serious?
Wow! 60K, living comfortably in California? 😮
@@panda55c 60k is minimum wage in cali
@@panda55cmaybe she was living with her parents and doesn’t need to pay rent. Or split cost with her bf?
@@vincentnnyc she said she had a studio appt
I always dream of one day working for myself and not having a boss.
Lots of Asians are returning to their own country and roots. I'm Canadian Chinese born and raised. Feel like living in South east Asia for lower cost of living. Canada is no longer affordable. Housing market is insane.
. You can try living in Vietnam, but don't rush to decide to live forever. At a certain age, may be you will see America as the most worth living place. Good luck.
. I'm an 80 year old man.
America is lame. Lived 32 years in oc. Hated it. Lived globally since 2008. Lots 9f great places, including Vietnam. Example during covid. 0 restrictions in Vietnam. Unlike my California family locked in houses for 18 months. All off a virus USA itself made in a lab.
She is a good woman.
Something seems off here, but wishing her the best
after few minutes of the video, all i heard was amanda saying "like" "like" "like" "like" 🤦♂️
Living in Viet Nam but having the audacity to be rebellious against your mom to learn Vietnamese? Grow up Girlfriend
I want to learn Vietnamese because a language is a useful skill. The challenge is the tones… if you master the tones then it’s doable.
I love her deep voice
13:40
I seriously don’t understand what’s the issue with learning the language of your ancestors.
In LA I met quite a number of Koreans that didn’t even wanted to tell me their Korean name. They would say I am American and I only speak English and of course that didn’t even want to be heard speaking Korean.
I really couldn’t understand why… I speak the language of my ancestors and English too and I’ve learn a bit of other languages too.
Seriously what’s the problem with learning the language of your family?
I don’t understand why Asian Americans are so reluctant.
The challenge with Vietnamese language is that just like Chinese and Thai and many other Asian languages it’s a “tonal” language and pronunciation is so difficult.
There are some Westerners that can master Chinese and there is an American guy in Vietnam Phuc Map who can speak Vietnamese fluently and that is a true achievement.
Tonal languages are to me the hardest to learn and yes learning a language is useful. If she can get the tones right then that is already more than 90% of the battle won.
There are a lot of Asian Americans/ Asian Europeans who have "self hate". It's usually among the 1st generation/ children of immigrants. They try to shed their Asian-ness and be more white. Peter (the interviewer) also experienced this, as he's said in his other vids. He's said that when he was younger, he didn't want to speak Viet outside of his home, not wanting to bring Asian smelly food for lunch, etc. Some other common things among men - becoming more gangsta. Among women, it's blonde hair, eyelid surgery, nose lift or boob job, etc. The series "Fresh off the boat" delves into this. The channel of Fung Bros also talk about self hate, aside from other issues.
I’m just very stubborn and lazy 😅😭
@@AmandaMyTan hey it’s actually you who replied!!!!
Hey I just arrived in Saigon and I am going crazy in a good way with all the madness and the cool people around. I am looking for a place to live now.
I know your building I visited a friend there and around your building it’s a very local environment. Your place is fantastic. There is expat, Viet Kieu, Viet networking session every Thursday and it’s sustenten “DA PLACE” to go to network.
Lovely girl. But very western in her thinking. Have a couple of kids and stop thinking about yourself so much. That will give you real meaning
Lots of real Vietnamese women would have no problem letting the husband support the family
I feel for her. The question is would he ever give up everything to be with her in America. This sounds like a beginning of a love story, where she gives up everything, to find out Chris is selfish and cheating on her, leaves him and meets a awesome guys who puts her first. Chris wants her back , but she has moved on. Haha😂
Under $60k/year in California is a struggle, high taxes, fees, and so on.
Chris Lewis ?
Nope, Chris Fontanarrosa.
2:56 Chinese have communities in every country in South East Asia and now the world.
In Asia in particular they are the business elite and although they are the minority in numbers they usually control the biggest part of the economy. In Vietnam the also had the biggest control of the economy.
I just löve these “klickz” of people who unite, seize the whole economy and make everybody work for them for peanuts.
Chinese control the Vietnamese economy? in Vietnam Catholics,christian and Chinese cannot participate in politics and the military (at high levels).In countries like China or Vietnam, don't expect there to be a force with higher power than the government, what you say is ridiculous
No power means no significant economic control here😂
@@quangphuoctran7934
Hoa = Chinese people
From the late 19th century, the Hoa played a leading role in Vietnam's private business sector prior to the Fall of Saigon in 1975. They were a well-established commercial middle class ethnic group that made up a disproportionately high percentage of Vietnam's upper class.[6] Despite their small numbers, the Hoa were disproportionately dominant in the Vietnamese economy having started an estimated 70 to 80 percent of pre-fall Saigon's privately owned and operated businesses.
@@sebastianniqvist3144they worked as middlemen for Amerikkkan and French empire to oppress locals. They are just like every other ethnic groups. nothing special about them
@@quangphuoctran7934 hahaha. Check the chinese fdi and investment projects in vietnam. Actually they have your special economic zones leased for 99 years.
It is too good for her to be able to go back VN and live there.
You be the judge, but the government there is watching you every moves and the wrong move could get you into arbitrary detain. I hope you don’t have to move back to America. Good luck!
Peter, would you try interviewing Fred Le? He made the Empathizer Documentary. Lived in VN for many years but ultimately decided to move back to LA. The documentary was really great and told stories about Viet Kieu. Though he's done a podcast before, I think you could highlight some things that he hasn't shared in that podcast.
Kind of similar situation to Kyle Le - he has a YT channel, though he's not very active now. Kyle also lived in VN for some years then moved back to California.
@@kitty_s23456 But Kyle has been back to VN several times since he left. I've actually briefly met and talked with Fred Le. I've watched Kyle's vids since 2016. Very different people. Kyle definitely seems to march to the beat of his own drum. Only know him from what he shares on socials but it looks like he just drifts from one video project to another and does some travel while staying w friends here and there. Idk how he lives in a suitcase for so long, always unsettled. No idea how he manages a steady income either.
@@laughter95 I see. I don't know abt Fred Le & I only know Kyle from his socials too. Kyle went back to the US to pursue a masters degree, then after that he's travelled everywhere, making YT vids & doing projects along the way. I think Kyle is still searching for his place in the world, but from what he's said in his vids, his parents want him to be more settled (he's 30+), which I can understand. I think Kyle went back to the US since his income as an English teacher + YT wasn't enough for his needs or wants. (just my opinion)
I think many young VK want to return or live in VN (to rediscover their culture, to belong, etc) but if still young, it can be hard to make an income unless you work remotely for a Western company (or have your own business). It's different if the VK is old and/ or retired.
Bro, get two or more microphone clips instead of that one and a homemade stick!!
Sounds like it’s time to have a visit home and see how you feel. Sounds like you guys lived outside your means with travel debt, probably a good idea to get that sorted via USD income, time to have a 50/50 relationship Chris, don’t loose your good girl over some small chance you make money via only course. Also there is too many people giving life advice with little experience. It’s a quick buck way to think and most likely with blow up in your face. Wish you both the best.
Are you sure? He did not see all the beautiful women in vietnam???
Live and work in the US you can travel every year to VN, but live and work in VN you can only travel to the US every ten year!
I love OC but little too expensive to live there
Love Asian food and weather
moving from America to Vietnam is crazy and a real dumb idea. really dumb..even a villa in Dalat is still not worth it.
You are 3/4 Vietnamese American + 1/4 Chinese American.
content was great but the handing mic back and forth was... unnecessary
i'm sorry...but the first word in every sentence that come out of her mouth start with "like..." is this an orange county california type of thing?
"California valley girl"
Look up "cher" from "clueless"
She would have been about 9 years old, when the movie came out
I think it’s a habit that she has subconsciously learned from peers/colleagues or the environment she grew up in.
Beyond that she is very articulate, interesting and intelligent 😊
Indeed, don’t think people from the USA are well educated in fact quite the opposite.
@@sebastianniqvist3144 loser says what?
She is still young. So, it's likely that she will go back to US.
So she moved because her husband wanted to not for a better life.
I had to cut it after 15 min. Could not take the amount of word ‘like’
Great interview tho!
She said "like" more than any other word !
Like, like, for sure.
I came here looking for that comment
@@mememe1111-n9g thank you
In the USA all talk like that.
@@sebastianniqvist3144 I lived in the States for 21 years. Definitely disagree
Doesn't sound like Amanda and Chris are equal partners in their relationship. Chris appears to be a dominant partner and gets what he wants in this relationship. Hope she finds happiness either with or without Chris. If he truly values her, he should also compromise rather than expecting her to always accommodate him. Soon, it will be too late when she has enough.
But if he found financial success as a man he must support the marriage, right? So how can they fix this?
There is no equal partnership in a marriage in the literal way. Not financially, not in the sense of physical power, not in the sense of mental power, etc. one is always stronger somehow than the other. The thing that keeps it together is that BOTH believe their life would be worse without the other one AND they are generally happier together than alone. Briefly.
@flowwwtube3357 Agreed on physical and financial imbalances that often exist in marriages. But, if either spouse perceived they are not valued or treated like they deserved, I don't see how they can rationalize that staying together is better for them?
Amanda is beautiful.
“Like” i totally understand Cali girl. Lol😂
I like understand like exactly what you like mean. Like.
I hope she stays for good in Vietnam and doesn't return to America, good luck!
It’s like Viet guys saying Du Ma every few words.
du ma
You might consider losing the use of the word "I" and consider how to help others.
Farewell, good luck ...
It is my personal opinion that Viet Kieu should not move back to Viet Nam permanently unless s/he had financially made it in foreign lands and willing to bring resources and new ideas into Viet Nam, contributing to its growth. Otherwise, you're a failure in foreign lands and now coming back to Viet Nam just to leech off of it.
60k in OC, no wonder she left.
I hint its pretty worthless growing up in the US. The communities are kind of dead & there`s no socializing between people.
Cantonese or Quang Dong or Quang Tay or Vietnamese are from the same origin Lac Long Quan va Au Co or from Vua Than Nong. Cantonese and Quang Dong lost their root and they are not Han Chinese...
I’m sorry but her verbal crutch of saying “Like like like like “ every other word is a tough listen …
Learn how to invest in the stock market if you want to invest your time to make money. Don’t waste your time to explore other businesses when you at the middle age unless you have your own invention.