A table of 4 is a full table. I loved Jess's answer to that question! It reflects the load mothers carry, besides the literal carry of the baby in their bellies. It's more than just aesthetics (yes, wishing for a "full table" is in part a picture dream), its how much of a parent you can be FOR LIFE, and the quality of that. Parenting shouldn't be about quantity but about quality! Plus, there is a LITERAL mental change to mothers brain, as your heart grows with each baby you have, your body is paying a price. I pray for Jess's recovery to be as smooth as possible and for her to feel herself again! Mothers know best
You don't have to have 4 or 5 kids to have a full table, you can have 2 kids and then they will get married and have their own spouses and kids so the table will still be full 🙏🏻🥰❤
I don’t know why but I’ve started having a really strange feeling about gabe after the first child. It’s like he sees himself as an unaccomplished actor that’s become a victim to fatherhood. He doesn’t seem to have his heart is in it. Jess looks like she’s the one carrying the marriage and having to be a full time mother at the same time. I hope she’s okay and gets the love and support she needs.
I told my mum about them, she said ah wait, this relationship is not as perfect as they make it appear. I would be careful to idolize any online marriage. They struggle as any other person too.
Nah, he does nothing. His social are dying. And he doesn't get sponsors and they have naby videos where they've said he is "taking a break" sane story for yeaaarsss now @@Madelein211
What the hell are you talking about? 1 you don't know them personally, 2 i say these comments are bad, you don't live with them and you don't know what happens in they lives. You are capable of judging. Look your live, look in your house.
Jess. Your feelings matter and your opinions do too. Think about yourself 1st because if you don’t, no one will do it for you - trust me. ❤️ I have such a sweet spot for you and hope you have a happy life. ❤
I want to give you jess a hug 🥺 i’m a new mom and i know it’s hard to take care of your kids sometimes and you forget yourself and your need but i’m proud of you it will get easier soon 🫂💗💗
I feel as though this is normal. Since women naturally have to take on more parenting responsibilities in the baby stage, they may not want more kids. As for the selfish comments about Gabe..he is not forcing her to have a certain amount of kids. He is clearly understanding. He is not being selfish for answering a question honestly.
@@ashleybarrios3679I agree, in our household it’s the other way around, and we have constant discussions about how we feel, but we are also in the thick of 2 under 2. Permanent decisions shouldn’t be made in the thick of postpartum.
You can tell they're going through it. The vibe is different. Jess is OK to express your opinion and set boundaries. You have to think about yourself first. You already gave enough
Exactly I wish I was a man too the only thing they gotta do to procreate is to have fun cum game and Walla, no risk of dying no risk of body change no risk of discomfort for 9 months no problem of emotional rollercoaster.
It’s important to not father’s financial provider capabilities , he’s capable of supporting a child and also conceiving that child with her. Not everything is just birth , creating children if it was celebrated way birth was conception is also huge a man basically impregnating their wife
I had four kids and my postpartum depression got progressively worse with each one. By the 4th child I needed serious help and I was so exhausted I couldn’t help myself. I would say be prepared to talk to your doctor and be in close touch if you have another child ❤
I find it ridiculous that people keep wanting more and more kids when their own mental health is at stake like how can u be so selfish? Isn't it a common sense that u wont be able to properly provide love to them if YOU'RE not happy ? Already ruining your own life, good, now ruin theirs too
@@user-zu9un6st4tI’m pregnant with my 4th and 3 times never had PPD, anxiety, or any mental health issues. My mother died when I was pregnant with my third and that was the most difficult time of my life, but my kids honestly pulled me from the pit of despair and helped me heal. Everyone is different. Parenting is a struggle but one well worth every bit of it.
my husband just asked me if I ever regret not having more kids. our daughter is 13 and I got my tube's tied when she was maybe 3... i had an awful experience being pregnant and never wanted to put myself through that again. I told him sometimes I feel sad she doesn't have someone but I am so happy and satisfied with just being her mother. Jess, you as a women and a mother know what's best for you. you got this girl. and marriage, oh it's hard but that's family.
This was such a hard watch. I’ve been here since 2018 when you was both long term, and I know it is SO hard having a toddler and a newborn but gabe seem so distant and Jess seems like she’s trying. However we all love you and we’re here for you ♥️
17:05 I absolutely love how he worded it. That they're surviving through this difficult time on the strong base that they have built throughout their entire relationship and thinking positively of their future. Basically #relationshipgoals honestly lol
For peoples who defending gabe that he’s not selfish & he can express his view. Yes he can . But should he? This women had 2 very traumatic birth experience & now unintentionally u making her feel guilty that she can’t have more if she would they had more, that’s a guilt women carries her with her entire life, she already gave u 2 beautiful children. I know he’s not forcing her or anything but making her feel guilty about it is not ok. It’s ok to say i want more kid when u dont carry them for 9 months & destroy your bory your mental health your back your boobs your Vgg. U can be shut up for rest of your life & make your women proud of it.
And this man child doesn't even work. She does it all. Bring money in, taking care of the kids etc and all he does is complain about being depressed and makes her do what he wants. Idk how delusional people can be to find reasons fr this man child. Jess clearly made a huge mistake marrying someone like him.
I wonder how you would respond if it was Jess who wanted to have more kids, and Gabe said he would struggle to have more. Would you defend Gabe the way you’re defending Jess? Would you say Jess should be more understanding of her husbands struggles? I doubt it. Men are allowed to share their desires in their marriage. Unfortunately they’ve shared 15 mins of their lives a week - with a bunch of people who are so critical of everything they say or do.
I couldn’t agree more. He panned out to be a bit of a disappointment. As soon as the real life hit him he turned into just like you said a man child. He sees himself as the victim that’s got it hardest. He needs to man up and turn into a man. To me it feels like the tables have turned, at the beginning Gabe loved her more than she loved him and now it’s the other way around . That’s the worst thing that can happen in her situation. He will be putting himself first in many ways and everything will fall onto Jess. She didn’t deserve this.
This was all exactly why I stayed 1 and done. I knew I had hit my capacity after 1 and so little sleep. I’m also really happy, my son is now 6 and having 1 just felt right for me. I have friends who had 2 when my son was little and they all seemed SO overwhelmed, exhausted, one had postpartum depression, it just didn’t feel like a happy place. Just thankful whenever I see the validation that it’s ok to choose what’s best for you. You don’t even have to have kids if you don’t want that. Be smart enough to know yourself and what is best for your life.
@@brucenina3615 mine is a 2 year old too and I'm wondering if I'm capable to handle more. I'd love to give ger a sibling but it's been really hard having a small kid😭
My mom wanted four kids, but she had two miscarriages, and two live babies. Now my brother and I are both married, so she always says she has four kids (us two and our spouses) like she dreamed of. Her table is now full with us plus her grandkids. 🥰
The way you look at each other never changed. Your love for each other is so strong, it makes me so happy. Also, i’ve been here since 2016!! Love you guys🫶🏼
Thank you for being vulnerable & honest about the adjustment from 1-2 kiddos! I totally understand how it’s hard. Especially if he is having a hard napping all of this time. That’s rough! Our 2nd had horrible colic for a month. Soon as we gave her mother’s nature gas drops, it helped sooooo much!!! Other than that, we felt it was easier going from 1-2 than 0-1 because we knew what to expect and how to handle situations when it got rough.
You guys are always so Honest, real, and raw. Me and my Partner welcomed our First November 2023, after a year of our daughter, our relationship has been tested hard at times but it’s brought us tighter than ever. I wouldn’t trade for the world!!
Since they’ve mentioned not wanting to be a family channel like other RUclipsrs and are keeping their kids private, I’m really curious how this channel will look now that they have two kids. It’s a big shift, and especially with Gabe seeming less invested in RUclips lately, it makes me wonder what direction they’ll take in the future. Just something I’ve been thinking about as a longtime viewer!
Love yalls growth. So inspiring and relatable! Love seeing you guys strong in your faith and navigating life to the best of your ability because at the end of the day that’s all we can do, showing up 100% and letting God take care of everything else! Def my role models 🫶🏼🫶🏼
I miss Gabe. He's awesome. He reminds me of my younger brother, and I love my younger brother so much. Watching Gabe is like having my brother in the room with me. I hope you are doing well, Gabriel.
I'm so sure they have already talked about everything they're sharing in this video, so they feel comfortable with each other, as the have show us this whooole time. They've proved that they have a very strong marriage and that they're very comunicative. Obviously, they're still adjusting to the two babys routing ❤ so happy and proud of you, guys, I know you will always do the best for your family
I think it's more of the woman's call on how many kids to have, in a sense, or when to have them, because they know their body and emotional safety. God is obviously always tyere,but God won't spit you out just because you don't have a ton of kids.
I really enjoy your content, and I'm so happy to see you here. I'm sending you both lots of love and Gods blessings. (To those judging, especially Christians, remember, it is not our place to judge, especially based on a very very tiny snippet of their lives. For those saying that something is off, as a Christian, you should instead pray for them, and if you feel like their content doenf resonate or interest you anymore, then unsubsribe and stop watching. So many people are struggling silently. You don't know just how dangerous one negative comment can be to someone straggling. So please, practice kindness, first, with yourselves, and then you'll stop projecfing on others, including strangers on social media. Speak blessings on your lives and on others instead of spewing negativity and hate on people that you don't know and may never meet. If you're a parent or married and are leaving negative comments on this young family, then you ought to really reflect and put yourselves in their shoes. As you point at them, 4 more fingers are pointing at you. If you are not married and don't have kids yet, then you're just being a hater, really. Please, Christians, love to show kindness, grace, and the love of Christ. As a matter of fact here is a challenge for all of us this week, let's pray for the Holy Spirit to impart us with His fruits, that we may be good stewards, and not pharisees.)
You guys are adorable together, as always. Gabe making fun of Jess's "okay" brought me back ♥️ Absolutely love how Jess has grown into this mature version of herself (100% to the fact that she thought about being the best mum she can be for the two kids she has). Wishing you some long naps, good times with the little ones, and a full night of sleep somewhere in there. ☺️
the Lord has recently softened my heart to having more babies after my 2. my youngest just turned 1 and i had a hardened heart towards it for 14 months. but i prayed and he finally softened my heart and we are now trying for our next 🤍 i received the same advice as you jess, don’t make perm decisions in this stage. i’m glad i didn’t because i almost went through with the irreversible thing for my hubby! y’all are one of the most godly people i know & follow. jess, you know that by yourself you don’t have the capacity to be a good mother, but only through the LORD, will he GIVE you the capacity to be a godly mother as many as He desires 🫶🏽🕊️ praying for you both & your growing family! psalm 127:3 🛐
Love your testimony of a softened heart and in allowing God to Write His Story through your life. I had my life plan all set and planned to have two kids after my career… to first have a boy at age 30 and then girl, two years later. Upon hearing my plan, my mother was beside herself and asked who in the world I thought I was to determine when, how, and what about my life…and told me to just let God be Lord. I saw my pride, repented, and surrendered my life plan to God and ended up having 10 kids (with 2 in Heaven) and ZERO regrets!! My eldest turned out to be a girl, (I had wanted a boy) and is now a surgeon! God Writes the Best stories if we step aside and trust Him!😇💭🙌🏽💯 In my experience, a life surrendered to God’s Plan is the best life; He is kind to give us the grace, strength , and whatever it is we need to fulfill His Plan…. Our job is to be the willing Vessel to bring His Plan into fruition. Anyway, thanks for your time in reading this! May God bless you and your family to fulfill all His Dreams and Intentions for your lives!🙏🏽🕊️❤)✝️💯
My experience from 1 to 2 was way worse than 0 to 1. The hardest thing was not sleeping enough cause the baby keeping me all night in the first 1 month and the toddler wants to play in the morning. Also the postpartum was really emotional, cause I don't know if anyone feel the same, but I feel guilty all the time. When I look at my toddler I felt guilty cause I didn't have time for her as I used to, but when I look at my baby I also felt guilty cause I can't give him all the time I have as I used to when my toddler was a baby. SO I cried everyday and it lasted pretty long. I think 2 months. My first postpartum emotional stage was only lasted 1 week. All respect to family that have children more than two and do it alone.
I have two daughters. One is 7 years old and the other one is just one week older than your baby boy. I find it very easy because my eldest is in school during day time, she is also very independent and loves to help me with her baby sister. The little one wakes up only one time during the night around 4:30am so I have it really easy. Yet I wouldn’t go for a third baby. For us a family of 4 is indeed a full table
My grat grandmother had 13 children I'm talking about from 1910 to 1920 they were a farmers and didn't have much money, they went to the table (lunch and dinner) the were togheter, the older brothers looked after the younger ones, the clothes were the same from the eldest to the youngest. Gabe, Jess you are strong.💪💪💪💪❤❤❤❤❤❤
take a weekend off and do something together. Go out, have fun, recharge your batteries. Married life isn't just about raising children. It's also important not to lose yourself in the process. Otherwise you'll just end up living past each other. Gabe just looks completely worn out, more so than Jesse (probably because she's wearing makeup). But in my opinion you really need time for yourselves. Gabe doesn't look so happy anymore, more sad and tired and lost in thought. Two children under 3 is hard, but it gets better. It's also important to make time for each other.
I love the way you said that! I'm 7 weeks postpartum with our first and we really are surviving off of our foundation right now. Missing quality time and physical touch but I know it will come back eventually... It's like we've set romance to the side and picked up this huge project of taking care of a newborn but we're a great team and I can tell you two are too!
it's the womans choice if she wants to have more kids or not, not the man. the woman goes through the birth, the pain, and postpartum. the man doesn't have to go through any of that, so they don't get to decide how many kids they want
Missed seeing you guys! But i can only imagine how challenging it was to set aside an hour to get this done! Just a word of encouragement, sometimes in the midst of what feels like a storm it may seem like it will never stop pouring, but soon you will be out of it and on to another beautiful chapter! Take care of yourselves and your family first ❤
Been here since 2016 and seeing your family grow is absolutely beautiful, love love you guys so much and I’m still out here listening to your 2018 Christmas albums in 2024 😍😭
Thank you for posting even when I’m sure you are both going through the ringer with 2 kids under 3 😅 I’ve been watching you since before Gabe proposed and it’s been so beautiful to see you both growing in faith and family ❤ God bless you both 😊
It’s absolutely normal to feel that the transition is hard. A toddler and a newborn is hard. A strong relationship might struggle at first but will get even stronger after hard times like this one. You two have always been so good at communicating (as far as we know) so you are going to make the best decision as a couple as to whether you’re having more kids or not. Wish you guys all the best!
My granddaughter hates the car too! She is 11 months old and still screams the whole car ride. She is also extremely attached her mom so they printed out a pic of her mom and taped it to the seat in the car so that she can see a pic of her mom during the car ride and it has helped tremendously!
Lots of rough comments on this video. 💔 As a mum of 3, postpartum with my second was the hardest time of my life. I had ppd, ppa, and my husband struggles off and on with depression. Just because a couple is going through a hard time doesn’t mean anything bad about them or their future. During my 3rd pregnancy and now 10 months after our son’s birth, our marriage is absolutely better than ever. 🥰❤️❤️ Hang in there y’all. You’ll be just fine. 🙌❤️
I understand they post these to the internet and people have the right to comment their opinions, but by constantly calling Gabe selfish or acting as if you know their relationship based on an 18 min video then commenting about it is selfish. Jess is being honest about her mental health and I think we as her supporters should not be adding any comments that may make it worse. Especially when these comments are not constructive criticism, but giving unwarranted opinions that are not needed nor helpful.
worst part about the comments is they are putting words in both of their mouths that were never said + making awful assumptions with nothing to back it up. people are bored and want to pit two people against each other for fun and project their own bitterness onto others
I loved to see this q and a and its nice to see you two still so enthusiastic despite the chapter of life youre both in. Please Jess talk to us about your post partum emotions comparing your first and second baby. Much love! A conte fan since 2016! Xxx
She's already given birth to 2, why is he acting like she "owes" him more? He's being ridiculous, he's not the one that gonna be giving birth so it's not about what he wants. Definitely being super selfish here.
I've had a strange feeling about him since a little before Jess's got pregnant with Makaia. Sadly, it looks like she is carrying the relationship, parenthood and the household
Love this content!!! I really appreciate the transparency! I relate to the two of you speak about the number of kids. Now is not the time to have that discussion while you still have a tiny baby. Give yourself the space you need to rest up and get back to yourselves❤️
The answer they gave on the marriage question, that they are living on the base that they have created before is the most honest and realistic answer given in history, honestly, this is why people should not get married because of a pregnancy, the couple needs to make that decision and journey for themselves alone or they don’t make it after, ive never meet a couple that got together for a kid that lasted, this way you need the base to survive having kids
I find it’s horribly normalized to have kids without help. If both families live far you should think about professional help, maybe a nanny or for house chores… specially during this period, your individual and couple’s physical and mental health deserve it 🙏🏽 Also, I am 3rd of 6 children with a dad with a stable job and a stay at home mom, I wish she got more help, I remember her sometimes so overwhelmed, and she was always loving and caring but it’s not a job for 1 (sometimes 2) adults. Think about that before thinking about more children.
I think these negative comments might push them further away from posting regularly on RUclips. You can already tell, energy-wise, that Gabe doesn’t seem into it anymore or might even want to stop filming altogether. Especially now that they have two kids, I wouldn’t be surprised if they slowly stop posting videos as a couple in the new year.
So funny how people think they can assume a couple’s whole rlshp over one RUclips video every few weeks. Jess is mature and very smart woman and Gabe wouldn’t have been able to keep her if he isn’t a supportive good god loving man either. They complete each other. We can only support them and wish them the best and avoid projecting irrelevant views on any of them. God bless you and help you develop into a greater and better family ❤
Just want to let you know that y'all are not alone. I Have 2 littles and it is HARD. My youngest is 18 months and it's starting to smooth out a little but I still feel like I'm in quite a busy season. I also want a big family but I'm definitely taking it one kid at a time right now. It's a lot on a woman's body/emotions etc. keep pushing through. You got this mama. 🫶🏻
Love a patchwork sleeve! I’m still working on mine. Husband and I have also been talking about how things will look when we grow our family (we currently have a 9m old boy) we’ll wait until he is at least 1.5/2 because I wouldn’t want them too far apart buut I’m also in med school so it’s a tough call timing wise. I think for the US to have a better coffee culture, the lifestyle would have to change a bit. Everything is too fast here so there’s no time to sit down and enjoy a cup.
Feels a bit sad that the channel has shifted mostly to Q&A videos. It seems like they’re not as into vlogging together as they used to be now that they are parents
Life changes after kids 🤷🏻♀️ and they don’t show their kids online, so that would make vlogging challenging. I’m with my kids basically 24/7, so I can imagine there wouldn’t be enough footage for a vlog. They are currently in the trenches of parenthood. Having a toddler and a baby is all consuming, in the best way. Give them grace 💛
It’s totally understandable that life has changed now with a toddler and a newborn, and I get that priorities are different. That said, as a viewer, I can’t help but wonder or worry how long they’ll continue the channel, especially since parenting doesn’t get easier-particularly if they decide to have more kids and prefer to keep that part of their lives private. Just sharing my thoughts as someone who loves their journey!
My third child hates the car seat. And at almost 2 ... its still unpredictable how she will tolerate a car ride. I hope this isn't the case for you it's annoying lol
Fully agree with your take on U.S coffee shops. As you know South Florida desperately lacks coffee culture lol. Dubai has the very best coffee culture if you ever get the chance to visit! Alpharetta GA also has a great specialty coffee community - Valor coffee is one of my favorites there :)
I love how open & honest you both were🫶 I definitely know my baby number is a big fat 0! I don’t know why, but when you were talking about future baby numbers… I kept seeing 4 kids around Gabe’s “full table” scenario. So strange!!! I love that Gabe’s ambition of a big family is there! You can also tell he’d do whatever Jess feels most comfortable with💖 Beautiful video guys & please keep taking care of yourselves✨
I don’t get all the hate?? This seemed like a normal real conversation. The kid thing saying he is selfish is wild. He was not pushing anything. They were just talking it through and I’m sure they will do what is best for their family. People are so sensitive or not married with kids and don’t understand how these conversations work. Jeez. They actually seem pretty normal. The young kids faze is hard, the new born faze is hard. Life is up and down, some times are harder than other times. There is no perfect parent, marriage or life. You just go with it and do the best you can. They seem to be in that faze and it’s hard plus having to be on for social media is a challenge I doubt any of us full understanding. Men can be in the verge of breaking too and that’s ok. Just like women can be. They will figure it out, find a groove like most of us with kids do and they will thrive at times and struggle at times. Where is the grace and who made you all judge and jury? Let’s put a magnifying glass to your lives? What would we see? Perfection? Probably not. They seem fine.
If you can try to bring e intentional about having some time to hang out together at least once or twice a month.. get a babysitter.. someone from church? Or a friend? We did not do this and our marriage suffered for many years.
After reading the comments I realized Im not the only one thinking that something is off for a while now, poor jess she is so hard working my respect!
it’s called postpartum. ITS ROUGH. ever been through it?
A table of 4 is a full table. I loved Jess's answer to that question! It reflects the load mothers carry, besides the literal carry of the baby in their bellies. It's more than just aesthetics (yes, wishing for a "full table" is in part a picture dream), its how much of a parent you can be FOR LIFE, and the quality of that. Parenting shouldn't be about quantity but about quality! Plus, there is a LITERAL mental change to mothers brain, as your heart grows with each baby you have, your body is paying a price. I pray for Jess's recovery to be as smooth as possible and for her to feel herself again! Mothers know best
You guys are above the click baity captions and thumbnail. I say this with love, please don’t.
Yeah.
I'm a fan since day 1 and i couldnt agree more to this comment. They should really stop doing it
Exactly tho I love them but those are kinda rude to us the "fans"
Did they change the title since?
You don't have to have 4 or 5 kids to have a full table, you can have 2 kids and then they will get married and have their own spouses and kids so the table will still be full 🙏🏻🥰❤
They don’t even need all that! They can get a 4 person table and it will be full ❤
I don’t know why but I’ve started having a really strange feeling about gabe after the first child. It’s like he sees himself as an unaccomplished actor that’s become a victim to fatherhood. He doesn’t seem to have his heart is in it. Jess looks like she’s the one carrying the marriage and having to be a full time mother at the same time. I hope she’s okay and gets the love and support she needs.
@@Madelein211 Plus, she’s the one working while he does what exactly?
I told my mum about them, she said ah wait, this relationship is not as perfect as they make it appear. I would be careful to idolize any online marriage. They struggle as any other person too.
@@CillavsGames I assume he does social media and maybe a bit of real estate perhaps?
Nah, he does nothing. His social are dying. And he doesn't get sponsors and they have naby videos where they've said he is "taking a break" sane story for yeaaarsss now @@Madelein211
What the hell are you talking about? 1 you don't know them personally, 2 i say these comments are bad, you don't live with them and you don't know what happens in they lives. You are capable of judging. Look your live, look in your house.
Jess. Your feelings matter and your opinions do too.
Think about yourself 1st because if you don’t, no one will do it for you - trust me. ❤️
I have such a sweet spot for you and hope you have a happy life. ❤
I want to give you jess a hug 🥺 i’m a new mom and i know it’s hard to take care of your kids sometimes and you forget yourself and your need but i’m proud of you it will get easier soon 🫂💗💗
Feels like Jess has really struggled and doesn't know if she's okay to have any more children, but Gabe really wants more 🥺
Gabe is weird and kinda selfish
I feel as though this is normal. Since women naturally have to take on more parenting responsibilities in the baby stage, they may not want more kids. As for the selfish comments about Gabe..he is not forcing her to have a certain amount of kids. He is clearly understanding. He is not being selfish for answering a question honestly.
Gabe gets what he wants. 😅
@@ashleybarrios3679 exactly! thank u for sharing your experience🤍🤍
@@ashleybarrios3679I agree, in our household it’s the other way around, and we have constant discussions about how we feel, but we are also in the thick of 2 under 2. Permanent decisions shouldn’t be made in the thick of postpartum.
You can tell they're going through it. The vibe is different. Jess is OK to express your opinion and set boundaries. You have to think about yourself first. You already gave enough
Gabe is somewhat out of it. The eyes never lie Chico
It's so easy for Gabe to want more kids because he's not the one giving birth.
wow great observation 🤯
Exactly I wish I was a man too the only thing they gotta do to procreate is to have fun cum game and Walla, no risk of dying no risk of body change no risk of discomfort for 9 months no problem of emotional rollercoaster.
It’s important to not father’s financial provider capabilities , he’s capable of supporting a child and also conceiving that child with her. Not everything is just birth , creating children if it was celebrated way birth was conception is also huge a man basically impregnating their wife
@@lorelwebber6435 He’s not even the one working lol
@@CillavsGamesthey are both working. This is their channel. What sort of comment is this though ?
Gabe looks so done
I had four kids and my postpartum depression got progressively worse with each one. By the 4th child I needed serious help and I was so exhausted I couldn’t help myself. I would say be prepared to talk to your doctor and be in close touch if you have another child ❤
Then stop having children dude why is it so hard? Wasn't having 1 or 2 enough?
I find it ridiculous that people keep wanting more and more kids when their own mental health is at stake like how can u be so selfish? Isn't it a common sense that u wont be able to properly provide love to them if YOU'RE not happy ? Already ruining your own life, good, now ruin theirs too
@@user-zu9un6st4tI’m pregnant with my 4th and 3 times never had PPD, anxiety, or any mental health issues. My mother died when I was pregnant with my third and that was the most difficult time of my life, but my kids honestly pulled me from the pit of despair and helped me heal. Everyone is different. Parenting is a struggle but one well worth every bit of it.
Plus is expensive 😅
@ My children are my greatest joy on this earth. They are a gift from God. Suffering is involved for all good things. Jesus is proof of that. 🙏😇
my husband just asked me if I ever regret not having more kids. our daughter is 13 and I got my tube's tied when she was maybe 3... i had an awful experience being pregnant and never wanted to put myself through that again. I told him sometimes I feel sad she doesn't have someone but I am so happy and satisfied with just being her mother. Jess, you as a women and a mother know what's best for you. you got this girl. and marriage, oh it's hard but that's family.
Love this ❤
This was such a hard watch. I’ve been here since 2018 when you was both long term, and I know it is SO hard having a toddler and a newborn but gabe seem so distant and Jess seems like she’s trying. However we all love you and we’re here for you ♥️
17:05 I absolutely love how he worded it. That they're surviving through this difficult time on the strong base that they have built throughout their entire relationship and thinking positively of their future. Basically #relationshipgoals honestly lol
For peoples who defending gabe that he’s not selfish & he can express his view. Yes he can . But should he? This women had 2 very traumatic birth experience & now unintentionally u making her feel guilty that she can’t have more if she would they had more, that’s a guilt women carries her with her entire life, she already gave u 2 beautiful children. I know he’s not forcing her or anything but making her feel guilty about it is not ok. It’s ok to say i want more kid when u dont carry them for 9 months & destroy your bory your mental health your back your boobs your Vgg. U can be shut up for rest of your life & make your women proud of it.
And this man child doesn't even work. She does it all. Bring money in, taking care of the kids etc and all he does is complain about being depressed and makes her do what he wants. Idk how delusional people can be to find reasons fr this man child. Jess clearly made a huge mistake marrying someone like him.
I wonder how you would respond if it was Jess who wanted to have more kids, and Gabe said he would struggle to have more. Would you defend Gabe the way you’re defending Jess? Would you say Jess should be more understanding of her husbands struggles? I doubt it.
Men are allowed to share their desires in their marriage. Unfortunately they’ve shared 15 mins of their lives a week - with a bunch of people who are so critical of everything they say or do.
I couldn’t agree more. He panned out to be a bit of a disappointment. As soon as the real life hit him he turned into just like you said a man child. He sees himself as the victim that’s got it hardest. He needs to man up and turn into a man. To me it feels like the tables have turned, at the beginning Gabe loved her more than she loved him and now it’s the other way around . That’s the worst thing that can happen in her situation. He will be putting himself first in many ways and everything will fall onto Jess. She didn’t deserve this.
@@Madelein211totally agree
@@blessedbygod4472where did you hear that he wasn’t working can you tell us where exactly that was said?
This was all exactly why I stayed 1 and done. I knew I had hit my capacity after 1 and so little sleep. I’m also really happy, my son is now 6 and having 1 just felt right for me. I have friends who had 2 when my son was little and they all seemed SO overwhelmed, exhausted, one had postpartum depression, it just didn’t feel like a happy place. Just thankful whenever I see the validation that it’s ok to choose what’s best for you. You don’t even have to have kids if you don’t want that. Be smart enough to know yourself and what is best for your life.
This is so nice to hear 😭😭🥹 mine is only 2 but I think I'm one and done? I worry about siblings though
@@brucenina3615 mine is a 2 year old too and I'm wondering if I'm capable to handle more. I'd love to give ger a sibling but it's been really hard having a small kid😭
My mom wanted four kids, but she had two miscarriages, and two live babies. Now my brother and I are both married, so she always says she has four kids (us two and our spouses) like she dreamed of. Her table is now full with us plus her grandkids. 🥰
The way you look at each other never changed. Your love for each other is so strong, it makes me so happy.
Also, i’ve been here since 2016!! Love you guys🫶🏼
Omg same (the look + 2016 part) 🥹🩵
Thank you for being vulnerable & honest about the adjustment from 1-2 kiddos!
I totally understand how it’s hard. Especially if he is having a hard napping all of this time. That’s rough!
Our 2nd had horrible colic for a month. Soon as we gave her mother’s nature gas drops, it helped sooooo much!!!
Other than that, we felt it was easier going from 1-2 than 0-1 because we knew what to expect and how to handle situations when it got rough.
You guys are always so Honest, real, and raw. Me and my Partner welcomed our First November 2023, after a year of our daughter, our relationship has been tested hard at times but it’s brought us tighter than ever. I wouldn’t trade for the world!!
To think ive been watching since before you were married
Me too.
Since they’ve mentioned not wanting to be a family channel like other RUclipsrs and are keeping their kids private, I’m really curious how this channel will look now that they have two kids. It’s a big shift, and especially with Gabe seeming less invested in RUclips lately, it makes me wonder what direction they’ll take in the future. Just something I’ve been thinking about as a longtime viewer!
Gabe’s eyes look so sad/ depressed…. Hope he’s okay
Love yalls growth. So inspiring and relatable! Love seeing you guys strong in your faith and navigating life to the best of your ability because at the end of the day that’s all we can do, showing up 100% and letting God take care of everything else! Def my role models 🫶🏼🫶🏼
I miss Gabe. He's awesome. He reminds me of my younger brother, and I love my younger brother so much. Watching Gabe is like having my brother in the room with me. I hope you are doing well, Gabriel.
I caught myself smiling in the beginning because I'm so excited to see y'all
7:05 Jess' ok attack is so hilarious I couldn't stop rewinding to watch the compilation again 😂
I'm so sure they have already talked about everything they're sharing in this video, so they feel comfortable with each other, as the have show us this whooole time. They've proved that they have a very strong marriage and that they're very comunicative. Obviously, they're still adjusting to the two babys routing ❤ so happy and proud of you, guys, I know you will always do the best for your family
I think it's more of the woman's call on how many kids to have, in a sense, or when to have them, because they know their body and emotional safety. God is obviously always tyere,but God won't spit you out just because you don't have a ton of kids.
Jess body needs to rest. 4 or 5 is really wild of him to say. Women go through so much 😪 dam.
I really enjoy your content, and I'm so happy to see you here. I'm sending you both lots of love and Gods blessings.
(To those judging, especially Christians, remember, it is not our place to judge, especially based on a very very tiny snippet of their lives. For those saying that something is off, as a Christian, you should instead pray for them, and if you feel like their content doenf resonate or interest you anymore, then unsubsribe and stop watching.
So many people are struggling silently. You don't know just how dangerous one negative comment can be to someone straggling.
So please, practice kindness, first, with yourselves, and then you'll stop projecfing on others, including strangers on social media. Speak blessings on your lives and on others instead of spewing negativity and hate on people that you don't know and may never meet.
If you're a parent or married and are leaving negative comments on this young family, then you ought to really reflect and put yourselves in their shoes. As you point at them, 4 more fingers are pointing at you.
If you are not married and don't have kids yet, then you're just being a hater, really.
Please, Christians, love to show kindness, grace, and the love of Christ. As a matter of fact here is a challenge for all of us this week, let's pray for the Holy Spirit to impart us with His fruits, that we may be good stewards, and not pharisees.)
You guys are adorable together, as always. Gabe making fun of Jess's "okay" brought me back ♥️ Absolutely love how Jess has grown into this mature version of herself (100% to the fact that she thought about being the best mum she can be for the two kids she has). Wishing you some long naps, good times with the little ones, and a full night of sleep somewhere in there. ☺️
the Lord has recently softened my heart to having more babies after my 2. my youngest just turned 1 and i had a hardened heart towards it for 14 months. but i prayed and he finally softened my heart and we are now trying for our next 🤍
i received the same advice as you jess, don’t make perm decisions in this stage. i’m glad i didn’t because i almost went through with the irreversible thing for my hubby!
y’all are one of the most godly people i know & follow. jess, you know that by yourself you don’t have the capacity to be a good mother, but only through the LORD, will he GIVE you the capacity to be a godly mother as many as He desires 🫶🏽🕊️
praying for you both & your growing family!
psalm 127:3 🛐
Love your testimony of a softened heart and in allowing God to Write His Story through your life.
I had my life plan all set and planned to have two kids after my career… to first have a boy at age 30 and then girl, two years later.
Upon hearing my plan, my mother was beside herself and asked who in the world I thought I was to determine when, how, and what about my life…and told me to just let God be Lord.
I saw my pride, repented, and surrendered my life plan to God and ended up having 10 kids (with 2 in Heaven) and ZERO regrets!!
My eldest turned out to be a girl, (I had wanted a boy) and is now a surgeon!
God Writes the Best stories if we step aside and trust Him!😇💭🙌🏽💯
In my experience, a life surrendered to God’s Plan is the best life; He is kind to give us the grace, strength , and whatever it is we need to fulfill His Plan…. Our job is to be the willing Vessel to bring His Plan into fruition.
Anyway, thanks for your time in reading this!
May God bless you and your family to fulfill all His Dreams and Intentions for your lives!🙏🏽🕊️❤)✝️💯
My experience from 1 to 2 was way worse than 0 to 1. The hardest thing was not sleeping enough cause the baby keeping me all night in the first 1 month and the toddler wants to play in the morning.
Also the postpartum was really emotional, cause I don't know if anyone feel the same, but I feel guilty all the time. When I look at my toddler I felt guilty cause I didn't have time for her as I used to, but when I look at my baby I also felt guilty cause I can't give him all the time I have as I used to when my toddler was a baby. SO I cried everyday and it lasted pretty long. I think 2 months.
My first postpartum emotional stage was only lasted 1 week.
All respect to family that have children more than two and do it alone.
I have two daughters. One is 7 years old and the other one is just one week older than your baby boy. I find it very easy because my eldest is in school during day time, she is also very independent and loves to help me with her baby sister. The little one wakes up only one time during the night around 4:30am so I have it really easy. Yet I wouldn’t go for a third baby. For us a family of 4 is indeed a full table
Ahhh so good to have a video appear on my feed❤ pregnant with my first, a boy- due in May!
Congratulations, best of luck to you
Oh its always such a true JOY to see you guys uploading! I definitely miss it! Definitely the highlight to my week seeing this notification!
My grat grandmother had 13 children I'm talking about from 1910 to 1920 they were a farmers and didn't have much money, they went to the table (lunch and dinner) the were togheter, the older brothers looked after the younger ones, the clothes were the same from the eldest to the youngest. Gabe, Jess you are strong.💪💪💪💪❤❤❤❤❤❤
I love how raw and real this is because my hubby and I are in the same boat with baby number one and this just validates my feelings
Petition for a full F1 video 😭😂 thank you for the insight into your relationship in this season. sending love to your family!! 🫶🏻
take a weekend off and do something together. Go out, have fun, recharge your batteries. Married life isn't just about raising children. It's also important not to lose yourself in the process. Otherwise you'll just end up living past each other. Gabe just looks completely worn out, more so than Jesse (probably because she's wearing makeup). But in my opinion you really need time for yourselves. Gabe doesn't look so happy anymore, more sad and tired and lost in thought. Two children under 3 is hard, but it gets better. It's also important to make time for each other.
Awe such a good catch up!! I can’t wait to see what the future holds for y’all🫶🏻
I love the way you said that! I'm 7 weeks postpartum with our first and we really are surviving off of our foundation right now. Missing quality time and physical touch but I know it will come back eventually... It's like we've set romance to the side and picked up this huge project of taking care of a newborn but we're a great team and I can tell you two are too!
it's the womans choice if she wants to have more kids or not, not the man. the woman goes through the birth, the pain, and postpartum. the man doesn't have to go through any of that, so they don't get to decide how many kids they want
Missed seeing you guys! But i can only imagine how challenging it was to set aside an hour to get this done! Just a word of encouragement, sometimes in the midst of what feels like a storm it may seem like it will never stop pouring, but soon you will be out of it and on to another beautiful chapter! Take care of yourselves and your family first ❤
Love seeing you two through different seasons of life 😍 thanks for sharing your life to us. I’m learning from your experiences 💛
They say that it’s easier when you have more children and harder when you have few.
Also- A full table is also families with 1 child. I say this as an only child. ❤️
Been here since 2016 and seeing your family grow is absolutely beautiful, love love you guys so much and I’m still out here listening to your 2018 Christmas albums in 2024 😍😭
Thank you for posting even when I’m sure you are both going through the ringer with 2 kids under 3 😅 I’ve been watching you since before Gabe proposed and it’s been so beautiful to see you both growing in faith and family ❤ God bless you both 😊
It’s absolutely normal to feel that the transition is hard. A toddler and a newborn is hard. A strong relationship might struggle at first but will get even stronger after hard times like this one. You two have always been so good at communicating (as far as we know) so you are going to make the best decision as a couple as to whether you’re having more kids or not. Wish you guys all the best!
My granddaughter hates the car too! She is 11 months old and still screams the whole car ride. She is also extremely attached her mom so they printed out a pic of her mom and taped it to the seat in the car so that she can see a pic of her mom during the car ride and it has helped tremendously!
Q&A’s are such a good way to catch up. Loved every second of it!
Okay…😂
Lots of rough comments on this video. 💔 As a mum of 3, postpartum with my second was the hardest time of my life. I had ppd, ppa, and my husband struggles off and on with depression. Just because a couple is going through a hard time doesn’t mean anything bad about them or their future. During my 3rd pregnancy and now 10 months after our son’s birth, our marriage is absolutely better than ever. 🥰❤️❤️ Hang in there y’all. You’ll be just fine. 🙌❤️
This was so sweet! Love hearing these questions and answers! Thank you for sharing this with us! I love you guys!!
Love you guys. Also, just a reminder, if another pregnancy isn't on the cards, there are other options to have another child, like adoption ❤
The title/thumbnail scared me, praying for you guys 😢❤
Me too, haha
Same! I hope that their son doesn't see the title and thumbnail to this video in years to come and jump to conclusions. I loved this Q&A though,
Love you two so much and wish you both strength and happiness as you go through this season of life!
Jess, do you miss Australia less now that you've built a family and life, compared to the start of your marriage?
I understand they post these to the internet and people have the right to comment their opinions, but by constantly calling Gabe selfish or acting as if you know their relationship based on an 18 min video then commenting about it is selfish. Jess is being honest about her mental health and I think we as her supporters should not be adding any comments that may make it worse. Especially when these comments are not constructive criticism, but giving unwarranted opinions that are not needed nor helpful.
worst part about the comments is they are putting words in both of their mouths that were never said + making awful assumptions with nothing to back it up. people are bored and want to pit two people against each other for fun and project their own bitterness onto others
@ Exactly. I read some of these comments and think to myself, did we just watch the same video??
I loved to see this q and a and its nice to see you two still so enthusiastic despite the chapter of life youre both in. Please Jess talk to us about your post partum emotions comparing your first and second baby.
Much love! A conte fan since 2016! Xxx
She's already given birth to 2, why is he acting like she "owes" him more? He's being ridiculous, he's not the one that gonna be giving birth so it's not about what he wants. Definitely being super selfish here.
I've had a strange feeling about him since a little before Jess's got pregnant with Makaia. Sadly, it looks like she is carrying the relationship, parenthood and the household
Omggg another day another volg I mean q&a I miss your volg who’s here is an og ! Your babies are the cutest thing ever!!!
Love this content!!! I really appreciate the transparency! I relate to the two of you speak about the number of kids. Now is not the time to have that discussion while you still have a tiny baby. Give yourself the space you need to rest up and get back to yourselves❤️
Someone tell Gabe he should have zero opinions on how many kids they should have. Ffs. Also maybe get a job
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 damn right
Legos should Collab with Gabe at this point😂❤
They have on his Instagram 😄
missed y’all!! hope you have a blessed holiday season and new year ahead 🤍✨
The “Okay” blooper real. 😂😂😂💙💚🧡💛
That "okay" part killed me im so happy you left it in 😂😂❤
The answer they gave on the marriage question, that they are living on the base that they have created before is the most honest and realistic answer given in history, honestly, this is why people should not get married because of a pregnancy, the couple needs to make that decision and journey for themselves alone or they don’t make it after, ive never meet a couple that got together for a kid that lasted, this way you need the base to survive having kids
I find it’s horribly normalized to have kids without help. If both families live far you should think about professional help, maybe a nanny or for house chores… specially during this period, your individual and couple’s physical and mental health deserve it 🙏🏽 Also, I am 3rd of 6 children with a dad with a stable job and a stay at home mom, I wish she got more help, I remember her sometimes so overwhelmed, and she was always loving and caring but it’s not a job for 1 (sometimes 2) adults. Think about that before thinking about more children.
I was giggling from that okay segment! So real😂😂
I think these negative comments might push them further away from posting regularly on RUclips. You can already tell, energy-wise, that Gabe doesn’t seem into it anymore or might even want to stop filming altogether. Especially now that they have two kids, I wouldn’t be surprised if they slowly stop posting videos as a couple in the new year.
Some of y’all haven’t stayed here long enough to call Gabe selfish 💀
Their love for each other is strong guys , they’ll work it out !
Right? 🤦♀️
Been here since 2017 and all he seems is selfish. Man child hasn't worked in years and wants more and more 🙄
Been following you since 2014😭😭😭😭 love you guys!!!
Difficult times but jess still looking with loving eyes. That's what counts. I hope Cuba slept more and you both got some more TLC.
I want to be loved like they have. Pure, lil goffy, intentional n wholesome ❤️
So funny how people think they can assume a couple’s whole rlshp over one RUclips video every few weeks. Jess is mature and very smart woman and Gabe wouldn’t have been able to keep her if he isn’t a supportive good god loving man either. They complete each other. We can only support them and wish them the best and avoid projecting irrelevant views on any of them. God bless you and help you develop into a greater and better family ❤
They're Christians, not kike they can divorce and now she has kids with him. Where will sge go?
Just want to let you know that y'all are not alone. I Have 2 littles and it is HARD. My youngest is 18 months and it's starting to smooth out a little but I still feel like I'm in quite a busy season. I also want a big family but I'm definitely taking it one kid at a time right now. It's a lot on a woman's body/emotions etc. keep pushing through. You got this mama. 🫶🏻
I've always loved the heart to hearts 💕
Love a patchwork sleeve! I’m still working on mine. Husband and I have also been talking about how things will look when we grow our family (we currently have a 9m old boy) we’ll wait until he is at least 1.5/2 because I wouldn’t want them too far apart buut I’m also in med school so it’s a tough call timing wise.
I think for the US to have a better coffee culture, the lifestyle would have to change a bit. Everything is too fast here so there’s no time to sit down and enjoy a cup.
It’s so great to see you both 🥹🫶🏻✨
Feels a bit sad that the channel has shifted mostly to Q&A videos. It seems like they’re not as into vlogging together as they used to be now that they are parents
Life changes after kids 🤷🏻♀️ and they don’t show their kids online, so that would make vlogging challenging. I’m with my kids basically 24/7, so I can imagine there wouldn’t be enough footage for a vlog. They are currently in the trenches of parenthood. Having a toddler and a baby is all consuming, in the best way. Give them grace 💛
It’s totally understandable that life has changed now with a toddler and a newborn, and I get that priorities are different. That said, as a viewer, I can’t help but wonder or worry how long they’ll continue the channel, especially since parenting doesn’t get easier-particularly if they decide to have more kids and prefer to keep that part of their lives private. Just sharing my thoughts as someone who loves their journey!
Whenever Jess talks about her early YT days, the only thing that comes to my head is “Line that baby up” 😂😂😂😂
My third child hates the car seat. And at almost 2 ... its still unpredictable how she will tolerate a car ride. I hope this isn't the case for you it's annoying lol
Jess always seems uncomfortable by Gabe making things sexual innuendo but he still keeps doing it.
She could cut it out of the video if she wanted to.
they are literally a married couple for years don't think the "sexual innuendos" make her uncomfortable stop trying to create fake scenarios
Fully agree with your take on U.S coffee shops. As you know South Florida desperately lacks coffee culture lol. Dubai has the very best coffee culture if you ever get the chance to visit! Alpharetta GA also has a great specialty coffee community - Valor coffee is one of my favorites there :)
“Okay” 😂😂 the cutest moment hahaha
I love how open & honest you both were🫶
I definitely know my baby number is a big fat 0! I don’t know why, but when you were talking about future baby numbers… I kept seeing 4 kids around Gabe’s “full table” scenario. So strange!!! I love that Gabe’s ambition of a big family is there! You can also tell he’d do whatever Jess feels most comfortable with💖 Beautiful video guys & please keep taking care of yourselves✨
I don’t get all the hate?? This seemed like a normal real conversation. The kid thing saying he is selfish is wild. He was not pushing anything. They were just talking it through and I’m sure they will do what is best for their family. People are so sensitive or not married with kids and don’t understand how these conversations work. Jeez. They actually seem pretty normal. The young kids faze is hard, the new born faze is hard. Life is up and down, some times are harder than other times. There is no perfect parent, marriage or life. You just go with it and do the best you can. They seem to be in that faze and it’s hard plus having to be on for social media is a challenge I doubt any of us full understanding. Men can be in the verge of breaking too and that’s ok. Just like women can be. They will figure it out, find a groove like most of us with kids do and they will thrive at times and struggle at times. Where is the grace and who made you all judge and jury? Let’s put a magnifying glass to your lives? What would we see? Perfection? Probably not. They seem fine.
LMAO the little bloopers during the video. so cute!
love the F1 talk!!
Raising babies is hard! But the hard stuff is what makes it all so sweet. ♥️
Love y’all! Y’all are doing great!
Love your channel ❤
Love you guys ❤
If you can try to bring e intentional about having some time to hang out together at least once or twice a month.. get a babysitter.. someone from church? Or a friend?
We did not do this and our marriage suffered for many years.
Just a thought, maybe when in the car put a small blanket or a shirt that smells like you next to him 😊