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I honestly think 💭 having a partner is barely worth it. Even when you find an emotionally healthy partner who loves you and respect you. These relationships takes away so much of our energy. My partner and I both ASD. We have a healthy relationship and we understand each other and I still think i was much happier single.
@amy I agree. It takes a lot of energy being in a relationship. I've been married over 35 yrs. I recently accepted that he has ASD. We have great times together, but it has been draining for us both. We all have a lot of unresolved baggage. I'm reading a great book. It states we all have a GFUC - Genetic F@#ked Up Code. I soooo believe that. This is why no matter how much we do for each other, it will never be enough. I'm learning to say F It to things out of my control. It will lead to Freedom and not being hard on yourself.
Any neurotypicals feel you start having similar thought patterns as the Aspie partner after spending lots of time with them? When stepping away, you return to yourself & regain your wits about you? 😜
Great video Mark to give another perspective on your video description wouldn't understanding that involve a level of empathy for people totally unlike themselves that is way beyond the average neurotypical?
I agree. I suspect it is beyond the average NT. She would need above average empathy and EQ to grasp the reality of her ND marriage. I bet the average NT bails on the ND marriage either by emotional divorce or actual divorce.
I'm self identified with these autistic traits. Recently, someone I trusted contradicted my self identified autism. Caused me extreme emotional pain. But if I'm not autistic then how can I have so many similarities with autistic men? I don't think average women share this many traits with autistic men. It's just not possible. Women are often projecting bad intentions on me, just as these wives project onto their husbands. I've suffered so much from not understanding socially. Scored very high in school, but in life I've been treated so poorly. I've also felt like the R word, because of my deep lack of understanding. High scores in school, but completely unintelligent socially. I have suffered, and when abused by one boyfriend he sneered at me, "You're a smart girl" aka I have no excuse for not understanding therefore I did whatever offense on purpose. 🙃😪💀
I am also sorry you went through this and that person was being ignorant because if they understood trait differences they would also appreciate that they have no right to contradict what you see in your self and your own traits. That person was disrespectful towards you. As was your boyfriend who said you had no excuse for not knowing something. That was disrespectful too. An NT who wants to be in your life in a good way will learn about autism and have the capacity to appreciate you for who you are, and to participate in communication strategies that work for both of you. These do exist. I have learned so much from Mark's videos and I do hope you don't lose faith that there are good people out there who know how to appreciate you for you.
ASD Relationship Solutions: asdrelationshipsolutions.com/
Access to “Members-Only” Videos: ruclips.net/channel/UCUZG9TJ9LHwSfmHb4ogQmxAjoin
ASD+NT Couples resources:
--- Living with ASD - eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples: www.livingwithaspergerspartner.com/
--- One-on-One Skype Counseling for Struggling Individuals & Couples Affected by ASD: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2019/07/skype-counseling-for-struggling-couples.html
--- Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-asd-men-struggling-in-their.html
--- Group for Neurotypical Women Struggling in Their Relationship with an ASD Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-nt-women-struggling-in-their.html
--- Online Group Therapy for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/10/mark-hutten-m.html
--- Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome - Counseling for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery.com/2021/08/recovery-from-emotional-deprivation-for.html
--- ASD Men’s MasterClass: www.asdmasterclass.com/2022/02/asd-mens-masterclass.html
Parenting resources:
--- Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.autism-meltdowns.com/
--- Discipline for Defiant Teens on the Autism Spectrum: www.myaspergersteen.com/
--- Launching Adult Children with ASD Level 1: How to Promote Self-Reliance: www.launchingadultchildren.com/
--- Teaching Social Skills and Emotion Management to Kids on the Spectrum: www.social-skills-emotion-management.com/
--- Unraveling The Mystery Behind Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism: aspergers-mystery.blogspot.com/
--- Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism: www.high-functioningautism.com/
--- Parenting System that Reduces Problematic Behavior in Children and Teens with ASD Level 1: www.myaspergerschild.com/2019/07/parenting-system-that-reduces.html
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I honestly think 💭 having a partner is barely worth it. Even when you find an emotionally healthy partner who loves you and respect you. These relationships takes away so much of our energy. My partner and I both ASD. We have a healthy relationship and we understand each other and I still think i was much happier single.
@amy I agree. It takes a lot of energy being in a relationship. I've been married over 35 yrs. I recently accepted that he has ASD. We have great times together, but it has been draining for us both. We all have a lot of unresolved baggage. I'm reading a great book. It states we all have a GFUC - Genetic F@#ked Up Code. I soooo believe that. This is why no matter how much we do for each other, it will never be enough. I'm learning to say F It to things out of my control. It will lead to Freedom and not being hard on yourself.
That’s not good sign
Mark, you are amazing and a life saver. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for watching!
Any neurotypicals feel you start having similar thought patterns as the Aspie partner after spending lots of time with them? When stepping away, you return to yourself & regain your wits about you? 😜
Well said!!! Great job deciphering asd thinking and behavior for others!!
Thanks!
You bet! THANK YOU!
I am confused about the amount of anxiety the the ASD partner carries. Doesn’t medication help that? I am the one medicated!
A lot .
Great video Mark to give another perspective on your video description wouldn't understanding that involve a level of empathy for people totally unlike themselves that is way beyond the average neurotypical?
I agree. I suspect it is beyond the average NT. She would need above average empathy and EQ to grasp the reality of her ND marriage. I bet the average NT bails on the ND marriage either by emotional divorce or actual divorce.
Toxic guilt....to try and fix things...is to make things worse. To not fix..is to upset the partner for not trying.
I'm self identified with these autistic traits. Recently, someone I trusted contradicted my self identified autism. Caused me extreme emotional pain. But if I'm not autistic then how can I have so many similarities with autistic men?
I don't think average women share this many traits with autistic men. It's just not possible. Women are often projecting bad intentions on me, just as these wives project onto their husbands.
I've suffered so much from not understanding socially. Scored very high in school, but in life I've been treated so poorly. I've also felt like the R word, because of my deep lack of understanding. High scores in school, but completely unintelligent socially. I have suffered, and when abused by one boyfriend he sneered at me, "You're a smart girl" aka I have no excuse for not understanding therefore I did whatever offense on purpose. 🙃😪💀
I am also sorry you went through this and that person was being ignorant because if they understood trait differences they would also appreciate that they have no right to contradict what you see in your self and your own traits. That person was disrespectful towards you. As was your boyfriend who said you had no excuse for not knowing something. That was disrespectful too.
An NT who wants to be in your life in a good way will learn about autism and have the capacity to appreciate you for who you are, and to participate in communication strategies that work for both of you. These do exist. I have learned so much from Mark's videos and I do hope you don't lose faith that there are good people out there who know how to appreciate you for you.
@@musica4567 Thank you. I will stay positive ♡.
@@winterroses2020 Thank you. ♡
Resonates. Look up kim sage and taylor heaton
Theory of mind. Yes, I’ve been wondering as why it is worded as such.
You always say ‘he’, which is surely statistically more valid… but it could be ‘she’, also…
Of course