@@celeste6077 When you see yourself as an emo teenager with problems and suicide thoughts and after years you listen to this while packing your kid's food and realise you didn't totally passed the times and you still feel like a teen but you pack you children's food for school...it's just strange.This is what is so special you muppet
I am from Russia and I am writing the text through a translator. But I want to say that I listened to the song in 2006, I was 18 and I was very depressed. the feeling that you are alone with this damn evil world. that's why I cry when I find out that young guys commit suicide because they see no way out. God, this is the most unfair thing in life - because in this state a person does not understand why he is deceiving himself. a loving wife, the smile of your children, a warm relationship with the aging parents with whom you finally made friends. guys life can be shit, but it can be wonderful too! just believe, seek support, no matter how bad it is. but do everything to solve the problems, everything will be fine. beautiful song that makes you want to cry. So that I don't read this, I hug you and give you love friend, please be happy.
How are you doing Damir? I feel bad for the people of Russia right now, ofc the Ukrainians also, but most of you didn't want this it seems. Very sad situation, hope you are ok
@@kingsizeblues616 It is a pity for our Ukrainian brothers, it seems that our relations will no longer be restored. Plus, there is tremendous pressure on people, some begin to think that being Russian is humiliating, and there are also attacks on Russians in other countries. there is also pressure on the economy, people are losing jobs. in any case, we hope that everything will end as quickly as possible, and there will be no more victims. Thanks for asking, peace be with your home.
@@wer70546 Ah man, I hope so. It makes me sad to know this.. I have been noticing anti Russian sentiment in my country recently and it pisses me off because it should be against Putin, not the Russian people. It just sucks all round for everyone. I also hope for a quick end so both nations can heal, peace be with you too dude
@@kingsizeblues616 oh I'm so glad to realize that despite the fact that we are in different countries, we are all people. it gives hope. we have to get through it all, life sucks sometimes, but you always have to believe in the best, and that each of us can give another love, like you are now. I feel your support, it's very nice. also told my wife about your comment, she is also glad that good people are everywhere
I was so depressed and suicidal most of the time in my late teens I decided never to have kids just so they'd never experience the same pain most of life is at the end of the day
@@curiositypiqued6573 Perhaps the best way to live is to stay single and not have children. After all, why should future generations have to endure the same battles with their demons as we do, and just as those before us have done? Regardless of what diversifies us (age, gender, ethnicity and orientation) none of us can ever hope to win against our own darkness. It's a pointless struggle against the inevitable so we might as well end it all, in our own ways and at a time of our own choosing.
@@GreyDoofus88 antinatalism....a sentiment that is grim but I just morally feel bound to..perhaps I'm tainted....and I'm a virgo lol (so perhaps that could have something to do with it??!!🤷♂️🤣)
@@curiositypiqued6573 I'm an Aries born on the early morning hours of March 21st and I'm 35, so I don't believe astrology is a deciding factor, when it comes to the moral compass of every individual really. The human race is a pathogen, that is on the constant verge of an immutable implosion, due to our desperate and fruitless search for acceptance, companionship and hope.
@@curiositypiqued6573 I really respect the people that want kids but don't have them to not bring innocent lives into this. It's exhausting being optimistic because it's not realistic! I truly believe the universe is super random 'cause there's no way this world was meant for us
I lost a friend to suicide last year, he had a lot of demons with his mental health. I miss ya Dave, sorry you lost your battle. I don't think this song or video will ever stop being relevant.
Fuck, man... RUclips, I both hate you and love you for randomly recommending this song to me... I remember being a teenager at 15, dealing with suicidal thoughts and self-harm. Remember having this song on repeat, and I remember listening to this song with my first-ever girlfriend. At 25, I tried taking my own life after years of self-harm, alcohol and depression... I am now 27, and I feel much better now. In August, I will get to be uncle to a little girl. These things would never have happened to me if I had succeeded with the attempt when I was 25. For anyone here, it all gets better, but the biggest step is to reach out for help. It's not going to be easy, but you will thank yourself for it.
Man, you're definitely a hero. Thank you for not giving up on life, so glad to hear that you've made it through all of this. Life is so tough, I'm 27 too, and also struggling with depression, you brought me so much encouragement. Also, congratulations on becoming an uncle!🥳
@lyricsms5448 my heart roots for you mate; I feel exactly the same and did exactly the same at those ages. Now I am 32. Still surviving. There are days , almost everyday is a struggle, but I’m still living.
I'm glad you're still here. I'm 33 and ive been there, had myself a few attempts as well. I don't want to say the whole "it gets better" cliche but it really does doesn't it. I know it may seem like there's no end in sight st these times but time passes and so eventually foes that feeling. If it ever happens again please judt reach out. To anyone. Friends, family, a hotline. Even me if you want. I don't know you and I'm certainly not going to judge you but I'll always take the time to listen to you or anyone in this position. No one deserves to go through thid alone and I wont let them if i can help it.
For anyone who doesn't understand, this song isn't to put anyone in a suicidal mood or encourage you to commit suicide. Matt wrote this song after one after one of his close friends became withdrawn, lonely and ended his young life. Nobody knew he was depressed and nobody was willing to listen, then when he was gone he realised that he should of just listened and maybe he could of been here today. For anyone thinking of ending it, please don't! You have people who love you, through everything.
Whenever I have plans these kind of songs and reading these comments gives me hope and make me to survive for some long. I was being saved by the same method for 4 years. Only musician and music helping me . I hate my therapist
I've literally listen to this song for a month after I've lost my younger brother back in 2021 as he was battling mental health an so he taken his own life on 17th of July 2021. I do miss him every day.
Back in the year 2005, I was 17 years old. Today I'm 35 and haven't listened to this song is well-over a decade. Lord, life isn't what we thought it'd be... everything is different and never gonna be the same again! Today's slap in the face, that's for sure.
This vid's director is a teaching genius. I've seen this vid for the first time when I was 17, and this has driven all the suicide thoughts out of my mind FOREVER. I remember that I just imagined my own mum ripping off my posters, throwing out my clothes... leaving a bare room with no sings of my presence in this world... Even now, when I'm going through the toughest period in my life, I do not plan a suicide. Life is worthless, but what will be left after me if I go and jump off a building right now?
A friend of mine took a his own life and jumped off a building two years ago. This video hit me like a brick. I miss you Jonathan. You brought so much love and life into the world. Your death does not define who you were when you were alive. To anyone struggling, there is hope and the world is a better place with you in it
This video hits on two so different levels. The pain of the son and the grief of the mother. My cousin lost my cousin to a terrorist attack and it broke her. She was never the same. She couldn’t clean out his bedroom and throw things away. 26 years later and she even has his blood stained shirt.
When this song came out and when Funeral for a Friend were at their most popular, there were a lot of bands who tried to sing about suicide and similar issues. To this day, I feel that FFAF handled it the most delicately and appropriately.
FFAF reunited for their concerts in 2019 memory of our son Stuart who was diagnosed with terminal cancer aged 38. Sadly, he didn't live long enough to see the concerts. We will always be grateful to them. This video breaks me as a mother.
Io credo che questo video è Brutale delle emozioni e delle sensazioni di una madre che resta senza un figlio e se ne accorge soltanto quando non c'è più. Una madre ossessiva è troppo premurosa che porta un figlio ad essere violentato dal bullismo
@@lydiapfpbylittlenursegirl4314 You do understand he killed himself right? - That his mum/mom packing away his stuff that he no longer needs :) The guy who directed this video is incredible :)
It's crazy to think I've struggled with mental health for almost as long as when this song first came out. How many times I was on the edge. Nobody knew, few know. All these years the only thing that withheld me from ending it, were exactly as depicted in this video. Couldn't bare to inflict this pain on others. It needs to end with me. Three weeks from now I have my first meeting with a therapist, I'm 32 now.
Glad to know you've taken therapy, it will be definitely worth it. Similar story for me -- I've struggled with depression, suicidal thoughts and anxiety almost all of my life until today still, as a teen my parents never really wanted me to go to therapy or take medications partly out of our own economical issues and partly due to a (legitimate, imo) fear of overreliance on prescription drugs. Now that I've gotten some financial independence and am living on my own I took the initiative to appoint a psychologist and psychiatrist and it's helped me a lot to cope with my own issues, understand relationships better etc.
Heya mate, life and challenging mental health is tough as shit. I didn't expect to live past 20, and yet here I am, aged 47. I won't send you platitudes, but I hope that you can find whatever it is in life that you need to wake up each day to greet.
I have 32 too, and me too, i'll begin a therapy because even alone, we can be strong ! And whatever the future, i'll embrace it ! I'm wiht you my friend, let's proov together the life continue with smile :D
Any teen watching this video, just know there is more to life than your small town and your small town bullies and your small town problems. The world is bigger than you can see right now. Happiness is out there even if you can't see it yet or even want to see it yet. Hang in there, trust me you will be loved and you will be happy.
32 y/o still lovin this song! Can't get over how life has gone by, always lived day by day. Had a tough 20's but doing so much better for myself. But r.i.p to my young emo friends that didn't make it through the hard parts. R.I.P Dakota, Jason (Jagger), Cody.
this song hits so hard. i hope anyone struggling with depression can find the light they so surely need. remember you are never nothing until you disappear. peace and love people
lyric: Just to say we're sorry For the black eyes and bleeding lips When it's hard to forget How many lies we told Or how we'd grow Before I said goodbye So let's scrape our knees On the playground It's not your fault You feel okay It's too late in the day It's not your fault You feel betrayed And can't come now to play I never listened to a word You never said I never listened to a word You never said Wasting the hours now We're all suckers for tragedies And start this over again And you bring us to our knees As sunrise comes And the story will sell A few hundred papers So we'll follow you up It's not your fault You feel okay It's too late in the day It's not your fault You feel betrayed And can't come out to play I never listened to a word You never said I never listened to a word You never said So raise your hands up high And let this rain pour on So raise your hands up high And wash us away Like innocence and childbirth You look just like your mother And you look just like your father Forgive him, our father Your son is smiling So lay roses around you
This song and video will always remind me of my friend Scott Buckle who hung himself, he was like 12, me and the boys were like 13/14. (This was back in 2003/4). I struggled with school regardless, and that seriously fucked me up. I just remember all the boys trying not to cry all the time, cracking jokes about all the normal shit and sometimes some would laugh, sometimes we couldn't and others/we would just be quiet. Can't remember how we all moved forward, we literally never spoke about it except for when it initially happened. No one judged each other. It was a horrific time. I hope times have changed, and I'm so sorry if you have experienced similar or worse. I never finished secondary school and only turned up to 1 or 2 GCSEs and wrote fuck all on the sheets. Anyway, just never really expressed this before. I'm 34 this year. Time is scary as shit!!!
One of my friends at college was reported as "lost" for 3 days since monday, yesterday he was found dead because of suicide. Wasn't that much of a close friend but i wish i really was. Never had a clue of how depressed he really was. It could have been a different ending if he received the deserved help and attention and if i knew of what he was really going through. RIP man.
But don't make the mistake to blame yourself for his dead, because that is never really true. Just think "I can't change the past, but I can change the future."
I know this comment is three years old but, a school mate of mine just committed suicide last week and I turned to this song. We were never close but we were friends
This seems to be a video for people to come to when THEY feel down but the point of the video is the impact you leave when you go. That's what should start drawing you back
I never understood the lyrics where he says "I never listened to a word you never said" now, 3 years later, I understand and I can relate more than every before. I am severely depressed and I don't know how to speak out about it so I don't, this song explains it so beautifully.
Had a fb friend who was going through some issues. He sent me a message asking if I was glad I was still alive (went thru depression myself)...I tols him absolutely, n told him things would get better. He never replied. I kept checking my msgs. 2 days later, his dad posted a message saying his son was gone. If only I had msged him half an hour sooner he might still be here. He's been gone a yr now, I still have that last message n every so often I check it in the hope that he read my reply. Miss you Tristan 😥
@@darkiblitz That's a disgusting reply. It was not their fault and they shouldn't feel shame about it! You do *not* have to drop everything as soon as someone messages you and to say someone does is a toxic mentality.
@@peachstardrop Situations like this could be avoided if they only showed interest in someone other than themselves. He was a bad friend and now he will have that guilt for the rest of his life. Deserved.
2023 Im from Russian. Still love this song. Sometimes I have huge depression and listening this one. Thx you. You make me not alone. It's really important.
Damn never seen this before today.. when she laid his shoes on the bed I broke down. This video was put together perfectly, we need more music like this-
i heard this song in like middleschool on soundcloud once a long time ago youtube has just been recommending ppl that like this type of music this song ig. however, i dont know if youve never heard anythiiing like this. then u know. idk why u got it.
It took me a very long time to realise this due to not actually knowing the lyrics for ages, but this is the best FFAF song in my opinion. This is everything a song should be...you can hear Matt pour out his heart and emotion into these lyrics. 'I never listened to a word you never said'...Profound. Just absolutely profound.
to whoever reading this, your issues don't last forever, you are strong, please keep fighting and never lose hope, like the boy in the mv, be strong you would feel alright soon, i wish you a happy day/night, stay healthy, please take care, if you feel like you dont have anyone, i'm here, so you're not really alone, you're the best, never forget that, things do get better, trust me, i've been there too.
@@kingsizeblues616 i was trying to be positive for the people who is struggling, i'm having a hard time right now also, yeah, still, i wish for people happiness
@@miancami98 So am I. I am just being realistic. It doesn't get better for everybody. Simple, cold truth. Also, I didn't understand how the boy was 'strong' if he ended up committing suicide. Didn't mean to come off as a dick, just being real.
This song and video definitely prevented a fuckton of suicides and really we should be grateful for this. The people who made this video deserve lifelong respect along Funeral For A Friend! The mother tearing the posters down.... :'(
This song came out during a bad time of my life. My ex had left me for someone else right after I had a horrible hospital appointment, I was getting badly bullied and harassed, my mother was married to a controlling and emotionally abusive man, I got addicted to cannabis and I was failing college. I felt so alone and broken and wanted to give up and thank God I didn't because I wouldn't have met the sweetest and most amazing woman last year who brought me back to my old, happy self. Life can be hard sometimes, however it does get better with patience and time. I guess it's true when they "Time heals all wounds" 💚
I love this song, but I've never seen the full video until today. I got to know FFAF when I was 15 and it was one of my favorite bands for a long time. Now I am a mother and it feels so painful to watch this video. I hope I never lose my son, and I have to do everything possible so that he never lost, lonely, depressed and I used to be when I found this beautiful music...
This song always gets me. Over seven years after losing my childhood best friend to suicide and I still sometimes break down into tears. Honestly, I just want to go back in time, hug him tightly and tell him how precious his life is.
I remember listening to this when I was 16-17 I’m 30 now still listening to this in line to pick up my daughter from school dreaming what I would be like as a father coming from a broken family and here I am now still listening to the same song I did as a kid in my room dreaming
This song really spoke to me when it came out. I was very depressed at the time. I still love this song, but it's so weird to watch the video back. I was not ready for this ride on the feels train.
Wow yeah, and to think I had actually forgotten about this song until I listened to some Dream Theater and one of their songs was called Funeral for a Friend and it rang a bell.. Couple searches later and here I am.
Algorithm worked well for me. Had this video/song when I was 14. Now I'm 23, Funeral for a friend will always be one of my favourite bands of all time, I think.
I just pray to God my baby girl won’t feel like this as teenager. I was strong enough to go through this so she could have a first hand experience about it.
I tend to feel the most depressed during the happiest of holidays. Seeing other people happy and loving each other when all i did was hurt and break my family up even though we are together now.
Watch the video again, his mother is cleaning out his room after he commits suicide(the video shows this simultaneously), "its not your fault you feel betrayed," is a line to mothers or friends of people who commit. If you look at the clothes and items she's packing nicely and picking up, its all things hes wearing or from the home movie cut-ins. Then towards the end his mother gets angry as is expected after someone leaves this world and loved ones with so many unanswered questions
Ooooh! I know it's been six years since you commented but I didn't find this video until today. I thought she didn't like or accept him or something and he was depressed at the same time. So she threw out all his stuff because she wants him to not be the way he is (liking certain stuff, so that's why she throws out as an example, the posters) while he's readying to jump because he can't deal with his life (bullies and the mother, perhaps more). But now when I found your comment it makes more sense, because why would she throw out his school clothing, he needs it (assuming she doesn't know he's not going to come home)
I know how it is to stay with the things your son left after his death. And I'm beggin you people, never stop fighting your demons! There are no words to describe such loss...
Pilmoor Probably most powerful and sad song/video I've ever heard, and I've seen hundreds of music videos in my days. This outdoes Billy Talent "Nothing to lose" by a long shot
I can’t explain how many times I listened to this song on repeat back in the day. I was a similar age to the lad in the video at the time and always felt as though I could relate, especially the beginning where he’s waking past the blokes. Always resonated, I don’t think I realised back then how much I was suffering with depression as mental health really wasn’t discussed in those days. Just stumble upon this video again and it’s made me feel quite emotional thinking back on those times as a 30 year old bloke now. Wish I could have told myself things will get better!
I feel like this song definitely played a part in helping me with certain thoughts and feelings, it’s been said before but when I watch this I kinda think about my own mom if she was in this exact situation
Was in high school when this came out. I looked a lot like the kid, right down to the same Army & Navy Surplus Store jacket (still have that jacket) and was going through some shit at the time. Usual teenage stuff - mental health issues, bullying, less than perfect home situation. I felt completely lost and empathised so much with this video - yet it was one thing that really kept me holding on and got me through. Now I'm 31 and those feelings and memories feel a lifetime ago but this video still hits hard. I'm so thankful I got to experience this band and their music.
"You look just like your mother, and you look just like your father, Forgive him our Father, his son is smiling, So lay roses around you" That part always gets me.
Miriama Yahalom ME TOO! seriously that exact same part always hits me like a brick to the face. my best friend died in my arms from a drug overdose.. because I didnt he had taken heroin, i was young and had never even been around someone who had (around 20 at the time I think) I just didn't understand what was going on until it was too late he died.. I blame myself every single day for what happened to him. he was like a brother to me. 😭
My dad passed away two days ago. And this song came back to my home feed. What a perfect time to listen to. Good bye my lovely dad. I know that you are very happy in your grave.
I remeber seeing this on a music tv channel 10+ years ago and always remembering what a terribly sad video it had, Could never remember the song though. Thanks youtube for a worth while reccomended video
Suicide isnt wanting to die its wanting to take the pain away......u cant stand it the pain has taken everything away except life and i guess thats the last to go along with your memory......
I’m back in high school, playing this album on my Walkman that I’ve shoved into my blazer pocket and the music playing through one headphone whilst I get my way through the day. The nostalgia man, it’s like it was yesterday not over a decade ago.
Takes me back so far. Time moves too fast. These are not tears of sadness. They’re are tears of relief, tears of joy we made it, tears of nostalgia, tears of gratefulness for this song, tears of knowing that I’ve matured and have faced the demons. I made it and all of you can make it too. One day you’ll back and realize how petty your depression was. I pray you all come to that realization and that your family needs you.
2020, I'm 30 years old this year, I listened to this relentlessly in secondary school (high school for Americans) and many friends of mine and favorite musicians have committed suicide, this song has never been so relevant. I dunno what went wrong but I don't want any more people that I love dying, be kind to each other and tell the people you care about how much you love 'em, it goes a long way.
@@pinpoyobananero4145 apologies for the super slow reply, cool cover dude \m/ ps you remind me and look just like so many of my old friends back when I was in school haha! Those were the days.
am i the only one who thinks that the tematics and and the song on itself is 1 of the reason why i still want to live ? becaus i have a really hard life and i cant find no happiness on anything less this . thx for my live funeral for a friend i own u my life .
Anyone listening in 2020? This video has made me cry countless times, those eyes at the end remind me of Olive, who was an old friend of mine. Love you so much
Saw FFAF at uni in 2008, front row - even got the guitar pic at the end of the gig. Am still listening to their music 13 years later. Thanks for the memories
This video is so sad, I grieve for the childless mothers and the children who lost the fight to this ever-angry world
This is so good but you must hear “City” by SLT 🏙️🎧🤘
If a women is childless, she is not a mother...
@@n1mand You know what she meant, smartass.
So here I am… 36 years old listening to a song that came out when I was 16 and it hits just as hard.
Same feelings, same age
Dude, I'm 36 years old this year and I love FFAF! Got to know them when I was 16 too!
Me too 35 years old, Still listening
I love it! I'm 35
I'm 37 and i still listening this song🎉
To all the kids who were not doing ok back then, We are here, we made it and we are doing fine now. Hell yeah. Love to y'all
were not fine. we just have a different way of dealing with it
Love ya brothers. We made it this far. We've got this shit
"I'm not O-KaAaaaaaAaaayyyyyy!"
Not everyone made it
@@xtruthxexactly ):
Saw these guys back in 2005, now it's almost 2020, and I'm listening to them while packing my kids' lunchboxes. Life is so crazy.
everybody makes kids, whats so crazy about this lol
@@celeste6077 When you see yourself as an emo teenager with problems and suicide thoughts and after years you listen to this while packing your kid's food and realise you didn't totally passed the times and you still feel like a teen but you pack you children's food for school...it's just strange.This is what is so special you muppet
💗
@@celeste6077 I think she talks about how fast time passes by. Having kids is something irrelevant, even the dumbest people do that...so often.
I feel like I didnt grow out of the emo phase
“I never listened to a word, you never said”
Actually a far more impactful and meaningful line than you’d think upon first listen.
It's not your fault you feel betrayed is another line that stuck to me.
This is so good but you must hear “City” by SLT 🏙️🎧🤘
I am from Russia and I am writing the text through a translator. But I want to say that I listened to the song in 2006, I was 18 and I was very depressed. the feeling that you are alone with this damn evil world. that's why I cry when I find out that young guys commit suicide because they see no way out. God, this is the most unfair thing in life - because in this state a person does not understand why he is deceiving himself. a loving wife, the smile of your children, a warm relationship with the aging parents with whom you finally made friends. guys life can be shit, but it can be wonderful too! just believe, seek support, no matter how bad it is. but do everything to solve the problems, everything will be fine. beautiful song that makes you want to cry. So that I don't read this, I hug you and give you love friend, please be happy.
Some of us are just made to hurt.
How are you doing Damir? I feel bad for the people of Russia right now, ofc the Ukrainians also, but most of you didn't want this it seems. Very sad situation, hope you are ok
@@kingsizeblues616 It is a pity for our Ukrainian brothers, it seems that our relations will no longer be restored. Plus, there is tremendous pressure on people, some begin to think that being Russian is humiliating, and there are also attacks on Russians in other countries.
there is also pressure on the economy, people are losing jobs. in any case, we hope that everything will end as quickly as possible, and there will be no more victims. Thanks for asking, peace be with your home.
@@wer70546 Ah man, I hope so. It makes me sad to know this.. I have been noticing anti Russian sentiment in my country recently and it pisses me off because it should be against Putin, not the Russian people. It just sucks all round for everyone. I also hope for a quick end so both nations can heal, peace be with you too dude
@@kingsizeblues616 oh I'm so glad to realize that despite the fact that we are in different countries, we are all people. it gives hope. we have to get through it all, life sucks sometimes, but you always have to believe in the best, and that each of us can give another love, like you are now. I feel your support, it's very nice. also told my wife about your comment, she is also glad that good people are everywhere
Many years later...the feels still remain. Stay strong everyone, life sucks but learn to love & embrace it.
How? Money? Drugs? Sex? Nothing seems to make me happy. When i fuck a bitch i fuck them with hate and choke them. I'm not meant for this bullshit.
@@ruben2365 You need Jesús
Thank you
Embrace the suck
@@ruben2365 maybe try something besides the three things that obviously don’t make people happy
This video was brutal enough when I was a depressed teenager; now I'm a mother myself and this hits hard right in the feels.
I was so depressed and suicidal most of the time in my late teens I decided never to have kids just so they'd never experience the same pain most of life is at the end of the day
@@curiositypiqued6573 Perhaps the best way to live is to stay single and not have children. After all, why should future generations have to endure the same battles with their demons as we do, and just as those before us have done? Regardless of what diversifies us (age, gender, ethnicity and orientation) none of us can ever hope to win against our own darkness. It's a pointless struggle against the inevitable so we might as well end it all, in our own ways and at a time of our own choosing.
@@GreyDoofus88 antinatalism....a sentiment that is grim but I just morally feel bound to..perhaps I'm tainted....and I'm a virgo lol (so perhaps that could have something to do with it??!!🤷♂️🤣)
@@curiositypiqued6573 I'm an Aries born on the early morning hours of March 21st and I'm 35, so I don't believe astrology is a deciding factor, when it comes to the moral compass of every individual really. The human race is a pathogen, that is on the constant verge of an immutable implosion, due to our desperate and fruitless search for acceptance, companionship and hope.
@@curiositypiqued6573 I really respect the people that want kids but don't have them to not bring innocent lives into this. It's exhausting being optimistic because it's not realistic! I truly believe the universe is super random 'cause there's no way this world was meant for us
I lost a friend to suicide last year, he had a lot of demons with his mental health. I miss ya Dave, sorry you lost your battle. I don't think this song or video will ever stop being relevant.
R.i.p
That sucks man, sorry for your loss
@@DKG-85 thanks dude. Means a lot.
Sorry for your loss
I miss Max, 2021 took a great guy. Sorry for your loss too
Fuck, man... RUclips, I both hate you and love you for randomly recommending this song to me... I remember being a teenager at 15, dealing with suicidal thoughts and self-harm.
Remember having this song on repeat, and I remember listening to this song with my first-ever girlfriend.
At 25, I tried taking my own life after years of self-harm, alcohol and depression... I am now 27, and I feel much better now. In August, I will get to be uncle to a little girl. These things would never have happened to me if I had succeeded with the attempt when I was 25.
For anyone here, it all gets better, but the biggest step is to reach out for help. It's not going to be easy, but you will thank yourself for it.
Man, you're definitely a hero. Thank you for not giving up on life, so glad to hear that you've made it through all of this. Life is so tough, I'm 27 too, and also struggling with depression, you brought me so much encouragement.
Also, congratulations on becoming an uncle!🥳
@lyricsms5448 my heart roots for you mate; I feel exactly the same and did exactly the same at those ages. Now I am 32. Still surviving. There are days , almost everyday is a struggle, but I’m still living.
@@GinTonic_meowGnT my go-to drink with all those silly shit
I'm glad you're still here. I'm 33 and ive been there, had myself a few attempts as well.
I don't want to say the whole "it gets better" cliche but it really does doesn't it.
I know it may seem like there's no end in sight st these times but time passes and so eventually foes that feeling.
If it ever happens again please judt reach out. To anyone. Friends, family, a hotline. Even me if you want. I don't know you and I'm certainly not going to judge you but I'll always take the time to listen to you or anyone in this position.
No one deserves to go through thid alone and I wont let them if i can help it.
К кому?
For anyone who doesn't understand, this song isn't to put anyone in a suicidal mood or encourage you to commit suicide. Matt wrote this song after one after one of his close friends became withdrawn, lonely and ended his young life. Nobody knew he was depressed and nobody was willing to listen, then when he was gone he realised that he should of just listened and maybe he could of been here today. For anyone thinking of ending it, please don't! You have people who love you, through everything.
Thank you so much for this wise words
Whenever I have plans these kind of songs and reading these comments gives me hope and make me to survive for some long. I was being saved by the same method for 4 years. Only musician and music helping me . I hate my therapist
I've literally listen to this song for a month after I've lost my younger brother back in 2021 as he was battling mental health an so he taken his own life on 17th of July 2021. I do miss him every day.
Music is to help us relate so we know were not alone things will get better. Don't give up!! 🩷
"Why am I loved only when I'm gone?" - Nightwish
I'm not searching for this. This suddenly pops up outta nowhere.
Same, I don't know why I didn't know about this guys earlier.
I'm late to the party 😞
Same here
Sameeee
Dude same
Same
The emotions this song gives are unreal. That's why it will always be one of my favorites.
согласен !
youtube: here's an 11 year old music video you may like
me: ok
mood tho
yes
Same
Honestly same
Heard this whole album in 2006.
It's march 2024 and why these kind of music feels of better days? :")
😊😊
Because everything's gotten worse since then
How can you still say that even on this type of videos, this is beyond me
Бо так і є.
Ironic
Back in the year 2005, I was 17 years old. Today I'm 35 and haven't listened to this song is well-over a decade. Lord, life isn't what we thought it'd be... everything is different and never gonna be the same again! Today's slap in the face, that's for sure.
I couldn't have said any better myself, I just stumbled onto this now today mar 21 I'm thirty and my birthday is tomorrow what the hell happened bro..
@@jakelabuda2479
We got older and wiser.
We loved these days though.
And...
We still rock!
\m/
I’ve never not cried to this song. I almost died and my parents have never been the same since. Nobody should ever lose their child this was.
This is so good but you must hear “City” by SLT 🎧🤘🏙️🤘🎧
These guys music helped me get through a very dark time in early 2006....
07 for me😪
Yup
Every 2000 kid would say the same 😂😂😂
Noob
Oh great to know not
Uff, brutal meaning. When I was Young and stupid I dont get this. Now.. hits in a different way..🤔
This vid's director is a teaching genius.
I've seen this vid for the first time when I was 17, and this has driven all the suicide thoughts out of my mind FOREVER.
I remember that I just imagined my own mum ripping off my posters, throwing out my clothes... leaving a bare room with no sings of my presence in this world...
Even now, when I'm going through the toughest period in my life, I do not plan a suicide. Life is worthless, but what will be left after me if I go and jump off a building right now?
a splat mark
Yo girl I'm American your Russian I don't know what's the difference tell me please
Same, great video directory and the band kills it
@@jeffbrooks5580 were not russian were american we take out rime XD
big mood
A friend of mine took a his own life and jumped off a building two years ago. This video hit me like a brick. I miss you Jonathan. You brought so much love and life into the world. Your death does not define who you were when you were alive. To anyone struggling, there is hope and the world is a better place with you in it
True
This video hits on two so different levels. The pain of the son and the grief of the mother. My cousin lost my cousin to a terrorist attack and it broke her. She was never the same. She couldn’t clean out his bedroom and throw things away. 26 years later and she even has his blood stained shirt.
When this song came out and when Funeral for a Friend were at their most popular, there were a lot of bands who tried to sing about suicide and similar issues. To this day, I feel that FFAF handled it the most delicately and appropriately.
FFAF reunited for their concerts in 2019 memory of our son Stuart who was diagnosed with terminal cancer aged 38. Sadly, he didn't live long enough to see the concerts. We will always be grateful to them. This video breaks me as a mother.
much love and respect .. 💚💚
I was at the Shepards Bush gig! Absolutely amazing to see how much emotion was poured into the show! R.I.P Big Stu
For those who are still fighting, don't give in.
This is so good but you must hear “City” by SLT 🏙️🎧🤘
Holy sh*t this video is brutal on the emotions....
+Matt P Heavy on the feels.
+Matt P Too heavy...
Io credo che questo video è Brutale delle emozioni e delle sensazioni di una madre che resta senza un figlio e se ne accorge soltanto quando non c'è più. Una madre ossessiva è troppo premurosa che porta un figlio ad essere violentato dal bullismo
@@DavidMcmenemy Stop omg I feel so bad for the dude he looks so sad & it's not helping his mom is throwing out his stuff.
@@lydiapfpbylittlenursegirl4314 You do understand he killed himself right? - That his mum/mom packing away his stuff that he no longer needs :)
The guy who directed this video is incredible :)
It's crazy to think I've struggled with mental health for almost as long as when this song first came out. How many times I was on the edge. Nobody knew, few know. All these years the only thing that withheld me from ending it, were exactly as depicted in this video. Couldn't bare to inflict this pain on others. It needs to end with me. Three weeks from now I have my first meeting with a therapist, I'm 32 now.
Stay strong! Going to therapist takes courage, hope that things will get better
Glad to know you've taken therapy, it will be definitely worth it. Similar story for me -- I've struggled with depression, suicidal thoughts and anxiety almost all of my life until today still, as a teen my parents never really wanted me to go to therapy or take medications partly out of our own economical issues and partly due to a (legitimate, imo) fear of overreliance on prescription drugs. Now that I've gotten some financial independence and am living on my own I took the initiative to appoint a psychologist and psychiatrist and it's helped me a lot to cope with my own issues, understand relationships better etc.
How did the meeting go? We love you, you are not alone
Heya mate, life and challenging mental health is tough as shit. I didn't expect to live past 20, and yet here I am, aged 47. I won't send you platitudes, but I hope that you can find whatever it is in life that you need to wake up each day to greet.
I have 32 too, and me too, i'll begin a therapy because even alone, we can be strong ! And whatever the future, i'll embrace it ! I'm wiht you my friend, let's proov together the life continue with smile :D
Any teen watching this video, just know there is more to life than your small town and your small town bullies and your small town problems. The world is bigger than you can see right now. Happiness is out there even if you can't see it yet or even want to see it yet. Hang in there, trust me you will be loved and you will be happy.
32 y/o still lovin this song! Can't get over how life has gone by, always lived day by day. Had a tough 20's but doing so much better for myself. But r.i.p to my young emo friends that didn't make it through the hard parts. R.I.P Dakota, Jason (Jagger), Cody.
"oh how old we'd grow, before i said goodbye" still listening to FFAF at the age of 40.
this song is so heavy
This is so good but you must hear “City” by SLT 🏙️🎧🤘
Well guys... This song and this video just saved me. The video hits just right in the emotions and makes you rethink...
bravo 🙏🙏💪
"I never listened to a word, you never said" is such a strong poetic and beautiful line. Got goosebumps the first time I heard it and still get it.
this song hits so hard. i hope anyone struggling with depression can find the light they so surely need. remember you are never nothing until you disappear. peace and love people
Honestly, I came so close to ending it all in my teenage years. I think this video helped me in a way to imagine what my mum would have felt 😢
lyric:
Just to say we're sorry
For the black eyes and bleeding lips
When it's hard to forget
How many lies we told
Or how we'd grow
Before I said goodbye
So let's scrape our knees
On the playground
It's not your fault
You feel okay
It's too late in the day
It's not your fault
You feel betrayed
And can't come now to play
I never listened to a word
You never said
I never listened to a word
You never said
Wasting the hours now
We're all suckers for tragedies
And start this over again
And you bring us to our knees
As sunrise comes
And the story will sell
A few hundred papers
So we'll follow you up
It's not your fault
You feel okay
It's too late in the day
It's not your fault
You feel betrayed
And can't come out to play
I never listened to a word
You never said
I never listened to a word
You never said
So raise your hands up high
And let this rain pour on
So raise your hands up high
And wash us away
Like innocence and childbirth
You look just like your mother
And you look just like your father
Forgive him, our father
Your son is smiling
So lay roses around you
Ok
May God bless you. 🙌
This song and video will always remind me of my friend Scott Buckle who hung himself, he was like 12, me and the boys were like 13/14. (This was back in 2003/4). I struggled with school regardless, and that seriously fucked me up. I just remember all the boys trying not to cry all the time, cracking jokes about all the normal shit and sometimes some would laugh, sometimes we couldn't and others/we would just be quiet. Can't remember how we all moved forward, we literally never spoke about it except for when it initially happened. No one judged each other. It was a horrific time. I hope times have changed, and I'm so sorry if you have experienced similar or worse. I never finished secondary school and only turned up to 1 or 2 GCSEs and wrote fuck all on the sheets. Anyway, just never really expressed this before. I'm 34 this year. Time is scary as shit!!!
Do you know what has changed? Now we will never hear those same songs
This is an immortal classic
One of my friends at college was reported as "lost" for 3 days since monday, yesterday he was found dead because of suicide. Wasn't that much of a close friend but i wish i really was. Never had a clue of how depressed he really was. It could have been a different ending if he received the deserved help and attention and if i knew of what he was really going through. RIP man.
But don't make the mistake to blame yourself for his dead, because that is never really true. Just think "I can't change the past, but I can change the future."
I know this comment is three years old but, a school mate of mine just committed suicide last week and I turned to this song. We were never close but we were friends
ReprogrammedToHate I look for them people who needed help just like I did to stand up
I don't care how old this comment is. Don't stop being yourself. Whoever died...they want you to be happy. I had to learn this in a very hard way.
ah man sorry to hear
This seems to be a video for people to come to when THEY feel down but the point of the video is the impact you leave when you go. That's what should start drawing you back
Well said, mate.
na
"I never listened to a word you never said"
I lost a friend 11 years ago. This song hasn't ever left my musical rotation. So damn emotional.
The part "so raise your hands up high, and let this rain pour on" always gives me goosebumps.
I never understood the lyrics where he says "I never listened to a word you never said" now, 3 years later, I understand and I can relate more than every before. I am severely depressed and I don't know how to speak out about it so I don't, this song explains it so beautifully.
It's been eight years. Do feel like things have changed. Are you still out there, even?
I too have same story. I could understand heavy metal song's songs when I was in school. But now i could clearly understand those painfully words
Had a fb friend who was going through some issues. He sent me a message asking if I was glad I was still alive (went thru depression myself)...I tols him absolutely, n told him things would get better. He never replied. I kept checking my msgs. 2 days later, his dad posted a message saying his son was gone. If only I had msged him half an hour sooner he might still be here. He's been gone a yr now, I still have that last message n every so often I check it in the hope that he read my reply. Miss you Tristan 😥
Holy shit. God bless you.
That's not on you. Please do not blame yourself for not replying sooner. You had no idea what would happen.
shame on you
@@darkiblitz That's a disgusting reply. It was not their fault and they shouldn't feel shame about it! You do *not* have to drop everything as soon as someone messages you and to say someone does is a toxic mentality.
@@peachstardrop Situations like this could be avoided if they only showed interest in someone other than themselves. He was a bad friend and now he will have that guilt for the rest of his life. Deserved.
2023 Im from Russian. Still love this song. Sometimes I have huge depression and listening this one. Thx you. You make me not alone. It's really important.
Tu puedes, ánimos amigo ruso.
@@marvinperdomo9179 I do. Thx. Working on my live quality, but had cerebellar ischemia 3 moth ago :D
"I never listened to a word you never said..." one of the greatest lines. ever.
I never listened to a word. You never said...
Damn never seen this before today.. when she laid his shoes on the bed I broke down. This video was put together perfectly, we need more music like this-
Theres 1,000s of songs like this lol
@@ANONisEVERYTHING I meant in 2018-2020 with Rap and Pop taking over, good Rock songs are harder to come by
@@kitkatqueen214 oh no I agree most people these days are into crap music check out my playlist on my profile you'll find 100s of great songs
i heard this song in like middleschool on soundcloud once a long time ago youtube has just been recommending ppl that like this type of music this song ig. however, i dont know if youve never heard anythiiing like this. then u know. idk why u got it.
I'm still here in 2024
(Мне лень открывать Google translate)
Я только сейчас узнал про эту группу
Same
No one cares.
I´m still dead.
@@malkavian4076 тож
This song was part of my adolescence and I still love it.
Vevs landia exacto
Same here down a little as weird as it is makes me smile
You look beautiful babygirl
Cant imagine a loving mother to touch anything in that room of his.
You clearly never properly grieved I recommend reading the book trigger maybe then your clearly dumb little childish waste of air will understand
It took me a very long time to realise this due to not actually knowing the lyrics for ages, but this is the best FFAF song in my opinion. This is everything a song should be...you can hear Matt pour out his heart and emotion into these lyrics. 'I never listened to a word you never said'...Profound. Just absolutely profound.
Song makes me always cry
This is so good but you must hear “City” by SLT 🏙️🎧🤘
saddest song I have heard
to whoever reading this, your issues don't last forever, you are strong, please keep fighting and never lose hope, like the boy in the mv, be strong you would feel alright soon, i wish you a happy day/night, stay healthy, please take care, if you feel like you dont have anyone, i'm here, so you're not really alone, you're the best, never forget that, things do get better, trust me, i've been there too.
sorry for my english in advance
Simply just not true for 100% of people. And the boy in the 'mv' killed himself.....
@@kingsizeblues616 i was trying to be positive for the people who is struggling, i'm having a hard time right now also, yeah, still, i wish for people happiness
@@miancami98 So am I. I am just being realistic. It doesn't get better for everybody. Simple, cold truth. Also, I didn't understand how the boy was 'strong' if he ended up committing suicide. Didn't mean to come off as a dick, just being real.
Wish my best friend had stuck it out man 😭 this is so true x
This song and video definitely prevented a fuckton of suicides and really we should be grateful for this. The people who made this video deserve lifelong respect along Funeral For A Friend! The mother tearing the posters down.... :'(
Plus you can really tell their sincerety
This song came out during a bad time of my life. My ex had left me for someone else right after I had a horrible hospital appointment, I was getting badly bullied and harassed, my mother was married to a controlling and emotionally abusive man, I got addicted to cannabis and I was failing college. I felt so alone and broken and wanted to give up and thank God I didn't because I wouldn't have met the sweetest and most amazing woman last year who brought me back to my old, happy self. Life can be hard sometimes, however it does get better with patience and time. I guess it's true when they "Time heals all wounds" 💚
Congratulations bro 👍👍👍👍
Hope things improved for you dude! That is a rough place to be!
This is a jam 🤘 but you must hear “Whispering Wolf” by SLT 🐺🔥🤘
I feel like I type this lmao
Congratulations bro!
I love this song, but I've never seen the full video until today. I got to know FFAF when I was 15 and it was one of my favorite bands for a long time. Now I am a mother and it feels so painful to watch this video. I hope I never lose my son, and I have to do everything possible so that he never lost, lonely, depressed and I used to be when I found this beautiful music...
Aww man FFAF will never get old. One of my favourite bands of all time. Met them once and lovely lovely guys
This song always gets me. Over seven years after losing my childhood best friend to suicide and I still sometimes break down into tears. Honestly, I just want to go back in time, hug him tightly and tell him how precious his life is.
I remember listening to this when I was 16-17
I’m 30 now still listening to this in line to pick up my daughter from school dreaming what I would be like as a father coming from a broken family and here I am now still listening to the same song I did as a kid in my room dreaming
This song really spoke to me when it came out. I was very depressed at the time. I still love this song, but it's so weird to watch the video back. I was not ready for this ride on the feels train.
Wow yeah, and to think I had actually forgotten about this song until I listened to some Dream Theater and one of their songs was called Funeral for a Friend and it rang a bell.. Couple searches later and here I am.
Feeling the same now, Kirsty. All of the feels!
Kirsty Bailey I hope your doing better now
I'll hold your hand, if you want
This video saved me when I was depressive. She makes me to thing to my mother and stoped me in my darkness road... Thank you.
Algorithm worked well for me. Had this video/song when I was 14. Now I'm 23, Funeral for a friend will always be one of my favourite bands of all time, I think.
still makes me cry every time
Emo not dead 🖤☠️.
I just pray to God my baby girl won’t feel like this as teenager. I was strong enough to go through this so she could have a first hand experience about it.
Everyone goes through it.
@@bandname Nope, not everyone, not even close.
I tend to feel the most depressed during the happiest of holidays. Seeing other people happy and loving each other when all i did was hurt and break my family up even though we are together now.
Watch the video again, his mother is cleaning out his room after he commits suicide(the video shows this simultaneously), "its not your fault you feel betrayed," is a line to mothers or friends of people who commit. If you look at the clothes and items she's packing nicely and picking up, its all things hes wearing or from the home movie cut-ins. Then towards the end his mother gets angry as is expected after someone leaves this world and loved ones with so many unanswered questions
Ooooh! I know it's been six years since you commented but I didn't find this video until today. I thought she didn't like or accept him or something and he was depressed at the same time. So she threw out all his stuff because she wants him to not be the way he is (liking certain stuff, so that's why she throws out as an example, the posters) while he's readying to jump because he can't deal with his life (bullies and the mother, perhaps more).
But now when I found your comment it makes more sense, because why would she throw out his school clothing, he needs it (assuming she doesn't know he's not going to come home)
@@hellooo2411 i paid more attention to the room and noticed the ffaf poster advertising their next tour...
gotta do it for the plug 😅
Obviously
I know how it is to stay with the things your son left after his death. And I'm beggin you people, never stop fighting your demons! There are no words to describe such loss...
Almost 20yrs later and still has so much relevance and meaning
You made it back here to us, you are truly amazing keep pushing forward! 🫶
Powerful video and incredible song. After 8 years that intro riff still gives me goosebumps.
Pilmoor Probably most powerful and sad song/video I've ever heard, and I've seen hundreds of music videos in my days. This outdoes Billy Talent "Nothing to lose" by a long shot
Then listen to 5 finger death punch - wrong side of heaven
This shit really speaks to me I've been down that road and I'm still here . Im here for a reason god has a plane for all of us
7 years and this song still hits home pretty hard..
I can’t explain how many times I listened to this song on repeat back in the day. I was a similar age to the lad in the video at the time and always felt as though I could relate, especially the beginning where he’s waking past the blokes. Always resonated, I don’t think I realised back then how much I was suffering with depression as mental health really wasn’t discussed in those days. Just stumble upon this video again and it’s made me feel quite emotional thinking back on those times as a 30 year old bloke now. Wish I could have told myself things will get better!
just got recommended this song and i will be coming back.
I feel like this song definitely played a part in helping me with certain thoughts and feelings, it’s been said before but when I watch this I kinda think about my own mom if she was in this exact situation
This song struck me really hard almost crying everytime I listen to this.
Was in high school when this came out. I looked a lot like the kid, right down to the same Army & Navy Surplus Store jacket (still have that jacket) and was going through some shit at the time. Usual teenage stuff - mental health issues, bullying, less than perfect home situation. I felt completely lost and empathised so much with this video - yet it was one thing that really kept me holding on and got me through. Now I'm 31 and those feelings and memories feel a lifetime ago but this video still hits hard. I'm so thankful I got to experience this band and their music.
"You look just like your mother,
and you look just like your father,
Forgive him our Father, his son is smiling,
So lay roses around you"
That part always gets me.
Oh god.. guys.
"What was that he said? Just to say we're sorry for the black guys and bleeding lips?" -- My mother, September 2015
+Miriama Yahalom black eyes
You vanished ?
Miriama Yahalom ME TOO! seriously that exact same part always hits me like a brick to the face. my best friend died in my arms from a drug overdose.. because I didnt he had taken heroin, i was young and had never even been around someone who had (around 20 at the time I think) I just didn't understand what was going on until it was too late he died.. I blame myself every single day for what happened to him. he was like a brother to me. 😭
sameee😢
The fact that I would listen to this back when i was suicidal (about 6-7 years ago)... Good song regardless, could say it helped me lots.
3:24
I can't stop repeating this part
My dad passed away two days ago. And this song came back to my home feed. What a perfect time to listen to. Good bye my lovely dad. I know that you are very happy in your grave.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad back in March. He was 50.
I hope you find peace. Wherever you go.
I remeber seeing this on a music tv channel 10+ years ago and always remembering what a terribly sad video it had, Could never remember the song though. Thanks youtube for a worth while reccomended video
Suicide isnt wanting to die its wanting to take the pain away......u cant stand it the pain has taken everything away except life and i guess thats the last to go along with your memory......
Johnny Madness sooooo spot on bro
Нет - это ужасно!!!!!
I’m back in high school, playing this album on my Walkman that I’ve shoved into my blazer pocket and the music playing through one headphone whilst I get my way through the day. The nostalgia man, it’s like it was yesterday not over a decade ago.
Takes me back so far. Time moves too fast. These are not tears of sadness. They’re are tears of relief, tears of joy we made it, tears of nostalgia, tears of gratefulness for this song, tears of knowing that I’ve matured and have faced the demons. I made it and all of you can make it too. One day you’ll back and realize how petty your depression was. I pray you all come to that realization and that your family needs you.
I come back to watch this video whenever I think about ending my life. It makes me cry every time.
Please stay here. I'm so glad that this song speaks to you.
Please stay!
Anyone else listening this song on December 2022, it´s amazing!
Слушал около 10 лет назад и сейчас вспомнил эту песню...время так скоротечно
Happy new year
Always bud... since the beginning.
3:33 ‘You look just like your mother, and you look just like your father’
One of the best PHC songs of all time.
I am so deeply sorry for your loss may she rest in peace. And stay strong my friend :)
2020, I'm 30 years old this year, I listened to this relentlessly in secondary school (high school for Americans) and many friends of mine and favorite musicians have committed suicide, this song has never been so relevant. I dunno what went wrong but I don't want any more people that I love dying, be kind to each other and tell the people you care about how much you love 'em, it goes a long way.
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@@pinpoyobananero4145 apologies for the super slow reply, cool cover dude \m/ ps you remind me and look just like so many of my old friends back when I was in school haha! Those were the days.
am i the only one who thinks that the tematics and and the song on itself is 1 of the reason why i still want to live ? becaus i have a really hard life and i cant find no happiness on anything less this . thx for my live funeral for a friend i own u my life .
he's the most 2005 looking person in the entire universe.
yesterday was the first day i heard this song lol, just...amazing
One of the best clips ever. Not to mention the song.
Anyone listening in 2020? This video has made me cry countless times, those eyes at the end remind me of Olive, who was an old friend of mine. Love you so much
Saw FFAF at uni in 2008, front row - even got the guitar pic at the end of the gig. Am still listening to their music 13 years later. Thanks for the memories
I've listened to this song over and over again for the past 3 hours.....