I teared up too 💗💗 definitely with you on this one. Nowadays no one wants commitment and always think that the grass is greener on the other side but forget to appreciate what’s in front of them. I stopped talk to a lot of people”friends” that didn’t have the same morals. If I can’t trust people to bring my husband around them then what are we even doing?
@@AngelicaJmnzand that’s what she opened my eyes to. I’m not as appreciative to my man as I should be. And it just hit me like a bullet I need to do better and stop pretending to be okay without him.
Lack of love, anger, low commitment, neglect, self-esteem, need for variety, sexual desire, and situation or circumstance is the reason why infidelity is so common. Normalize shame, this world is ridiculous.
To the younger girls: I PROMISE you, there is NO man worth putting up that type of drama for. You will only do damage to yourself trying to be in a relationship with someone who is taken, who doesn't respect you as a woman, etc. Trust me, I'm only 24, single, and the dating world SUCKS, but there is so much more for you to focus on and achieve. Get a job, go to school, get a hobby. Love yourself and that love will come.
no matter how good the taken person is always remember "how you get them is how you lose them" and "once a cheater always a cheater" there are sayings for a reason honeys ITS TRIED AND TRUE AND NO MAN IS WORTH THAT NEEDLESS TYPE OF CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT
Omg yes say it louder ❤. I’m currently doing this too because of my anxiety attachment style to dating my intuition is too strong and I feel like it’s a distraction because I want someone who is aligned with me and adds value to my life
Your son is now 16?! I remember you talking about him when he was little omg (Edit: 7 YEARS OF MARRIAGE??? I REMEMBER WHEN YOU GOT ENGAGED my goodness I never realized how long I've been here)
I don't understand how people would willingly traumatise someone to get their fix. Then the world expects the one who was betrayed to put themselves (and often their children) back together again.
I hope this video finds the audience of young girls out there that NEED these words and hear them. And if you feel triggered by this, you also need to hear it and rethink your love choices. You got this girl, whoever you may be. Respect yourself, LOVE/ADORE yourself to know your worth and settle for NO man/girl that wont give you the world.
I’ve been watching you since 15 and I’m 23 now I’ve seen you as a girlfriend, a fiancé, a wife and a mother and still keep watching you and admiring your wisdom. Much love ❤️
I am happily single. And some of my favorite men in the world are my married acquaintances and co-workers who are good men who respect their wives and me by not being creeps nor flirts. Faithful men are admirable. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤
You brought tears to my eyes. Brought me to realizations, opened my eyes and everything. I’m so glad I been watching you since young. You taught me more than my family
girl yoooooou are PREACHING!!! finally something real. this society does not take anything seriously. people are too busy chasing after things that don’t matter & have no time to do inner work.
THANK YOU, I was just talking about this with my boyfriend. We are baffled about the amount of disrespect in the world and how many woman and men will claim “insecure” or “toxic” when someone has boundaries in their own relationship. Let’s not get started on the industry and how EVERYTHING is about sex and lust these days, I can’t even watch a music video without the artist being naked or almost; the amount of people who will call you insecure for not wanting your man to watch corn or follow and look at naked woman online. The amount of stories I hear of woman drawing boundaries with her man and other woman saying she’s wrong and has no trust. NEWS FLASH it’s not always about trusting your man, a lot of the times you can’t trust the woman and it’s about respect first and foremost. The world is SO sad now and I fear for future generations and relationships
Girl, I remember when I worked in retail about 4 years ago and this man walked in and he asked me for help to find a specific kind of outfit and I helped him because obviously that’s part of my job. He then starts flirting and asking me certain things and I’m shutting it down the whole time. After he’s done shopping for himself, he then asked me on a date and I said “no thank you but I do see you have a ring on your finger, would you like to shop for an outfit for your wife just to match yours?” And after that he never tried it again. Stop these men in their damn tracks!! We gotta be better!
Do not awaken love until it’s time~ A scripture my mother prayed over me as I went through my long, rough dating journey. I believe that my mother’s prayers for this was a big part of me finding my wonderful faithful husband of 10 years.
You lose em how you got em are true words to live by! This guy I was talking to told me he was divorced and that they were done a week later the story changed to “we’re separated and we’re in the process of divorce” then a few days later he said he’s still in love with her. I ran so fast lol 😂
Had this convo with someone before! I always said cheating is a character flaw! I love what you said at the end about being made for your partner. I feel the same way.
i’ve been a glamazon since i was probably about 10 or 11 years old. as i grew up, i strayed away from this channel. but today, at 18 years old and now in college, i decided to click on this video after not watching one of these in so long. earlier this year, i got my heart extremely broken and torn up by my first boyfriend due to literally some of the exact circumstances that were spoken about in this video. it took me almost 6 months to get back on my feet and actually let go of that garbage, trash, horrible man. and it took the same amount of time to stop caring about the garbage, trash, horrible girl who was also MY FRIEND, that decided it would be a good idea to backstab me like that. apparently now they’re living together, but lmk why he’s stalking all my pages. that’s not the point, but i just wanted to say that this video is so so SO real and important and RELATABLE. nikki you single handedly helped me realize my worth with this video today and i believe i was called by God to watch this. and to every single person who’s going through this right now, i know it’s tough. and it takes time to get through it. but i promise you right now that NO MAN will EVER be worth all of that pain and heartbreak because the right one would never do that to you. i’m so glad to be back. nikki you did the damn thing once again!!
It does happen lol I’m actually gonna be doing a story time about a particular time that a girl waited until I was talking to one of my Glamazons at a bar to try and flirt with David. Crazy lmao stay tuned 😂
It is also SO important to break generational curses as well. Just because your parents treated you like x,y, and z... doesn't always mean you have to hurt your kids like that. Grown, learn from their behavior, and change. Break that mold.
I was raised by a single mom and yes, she prepared me for the worst with men. I felt exactly like you explained, I honestly still have a really hard time trusting men. My current boyfriend is amazing, he goes above and beyond to gain my trust every day but yes, It's super hard! And yes my dad cheated on my mom with one of her friends and guess what that woman ended up leaving my dad for another man lol he cheated on my mom multiple times and some of them knew he was married with kids and they didn't care. It all starts with a man and a woman and the choices they make and their choices ended up hurting multiple people including my siblings and I. I wish every woman would watch this video lol I know plenty who need to hear these words! Also, you had my crying by the end 😭
Love this Nikki !!! We all need to hear this but especially these younger girls who are trying to find love right now! If he comes with drama where girls want to fight you, his family is cruel to you, he’s not the one baby! It’s not worth it! No relationship is easy. But also it shouldn’t come with a lot of drama where it makes you question yourself and your worth!
Unfortunately I have been in a situation just like your friend, and I was very immature at the time, and I enjoyed the ego boost of knowing that a man was choosing me over his current partner. I did end up in a relationship with that man, but I saw his wandering eye while he was with me, and I couldn't trust him because of how we started our relationship. His ex certainly didn't deserve that hurt and it is something I regret, so will never do that again. I got hurt too in the end, but because of my own actions. You give good advice Nikki.
i’ve always figured it was never about the man but about the rush a woman feels being “chosen” or seemingly “winning” over another woman. it’s all about female wounds and competition, the man is just a pawn in the game that is traumatizing another woman.
Yes!! we have been together for 10 years and married for almost a year. He has ALWAYS loved on me and been sweet. Supported me through grad school. They will come, put your energy into positivity and you will receive it.
I was just talking to my bestie how lust has taken over society from porn addiction to the fantasizing of cheating and being a proud sancha. Thank you for your words of Wisdom 🤍🤍🤍 Love you Nikki !
This was so good. My bd is with someone else, & trying to still come back at the same time for sex. I was about to fall for it, but praying to God to give me wisdom & to put on the brakes for me & give me strength to be patient for MY future husband because I know he ain’t it. 16 years of him being in my life & I finally see it. I see him for the type of man he is. He’s the same selfish man he was last year before we called it quits. I hope this young girl (we’re in our 30’s, she’s in her early 20’s) sees through it before it’s too late. But moat importantly, I take this video as a sign to NEVER put myself in that position ever again. Thanks Nikki, I love you for this. ❤
I have a 15 month with my bd and share 50/50 I called it quits with him but it was hurtful seeing him on Bumble searching for a quick fix. I tried over a year to make it work with him but he was so self centered. Sigh pray for me girl I’ll pray for you the heart hurts.
This is so powerful Nikki. It seems like as I grow up you release videos that apply to the stages of life I am in and I appreciate your advice and hold it close to me. 9 years of listening to your videos and now I’m about to graduate college. Thank you for being there for us and talking about these hard but truthful lessons. You are amazing💗
The fact that you named your friend Tiana which is my name and me and her have done the same things wow😭. But overall coming from a person who used to be like Tiana I can say that I’m so thankful that I found myself and healed and finally realized how me talking to guys with girlfriends is wrong and disrespectful. To lady’s who do this just don’t it’s not worth your time or energy and y’all are too beautiful and too smart to be putting up with a guy like that trust me I had to learn myself.
This is a BEAUTIFUL and STRONG message Nikki. My husband and I have known each other since middle school. We were on and off and had our drama in high school but we both got it together and decided that we wanted to be with each other. So much of what you said struck a cord with me. I've always said don't go looking for love. Let it find you. I've also been with my husband for 7 years, 8 in December, and I agree that our life experiences have shaped how we fit together. I grew up with a BIG family on both sides and he has his mom, a little sister, two aunts, and DASSIT. No cousins. No Uncles. NOTHING. 😂 I feel like I bring the importance of a family unit because his has always been so broken. While on the flip side, because he had to raise himself, he taught me how to break free and live my life for ME and not for my family because that was all that I knew. It's a beautiful thing when you find your person and we are all responsible for fostering positive relationships in this world. Love you Nikki! 🫶🏾🩵
Nikki, I’ve been watching your videos for at least 7 years now and it feels like you’re the older sister I always needed. I’m so grateful for your videos and your advice that I wouldn’t get anywhere else. My family is all back in Ukraine where my mom and I moved from in 1999, so growing up I never had anyone to look out for me and be a guiding figure. I look at you that way, like a loving older sister that spills tea with me and I appreciate you so much for that. I hope you and your family is all doing well 🤍
PERIODT. Preach! I put the boundary fence up no matter what!! Women, Men, please respect the sanctity of other’s relationships or marriages. It comes right back.
You talking about how perfect David is for you because of your needs for validation of your motherhood had me starting to tear up Nikki!!! Ugh more stories about how you know he’s the one pleassseeee
Nikki is a gift sent from god cuz 45… on a Saturday while I’m getting ready to go out… gurllll God bless you and your family 🫶🏾🫶🏾 Edit : Nikki can in to clock someone people in the streets, being single can something me lonely but but never feel this lonely to loose your self respect and for others
YES. As a gen z who is in a relationship that came to me naturally I tell all my single friends to get off the dating apps and to stop looking and they never believe me. Love will come to you when you least expect it .
Im not even gonna lie…..this one made me cry. How we trick ourselves into thinking there’s no one better after being dragged through the mud and concrete is crazy. A much needed word Nikki, thank you ❤
Nikki, this is one of my favorite videos of yours. You explained this so so perfectly and clearly this new generation of kids and young adults NEED to hear this! I really hope it gets to their ears and hearts because it's all about lust nowadays. Real love is becoming harder for them to find and it's honestly so heartbreaking. As a mother of a toddler, I pray that the dating scene is reconstructed by the time she's old enough to date to get married one day. Thank you for this video!🩷
Wow Nikki I’ve been watching you since before my daughter was born and she’s four now. over the years I have outgrown a lot of the RUclips channels I watched but you’re always someone I would come back to and this video is a perfect example why. I hope this reaches a bigger audience, young girls and even women because a lot of them don’t have people in their lives to tell them these things.
Your point about how your experiences have brought you to your husband and vice versa was so powerful!! I agree with you 1000% we have to be careful about who and what we let into our lives. It can really change you forever
Nikki, I’ve been watching you since I was about 21. I’m gonna be 30 this year. You are amazing and your energy is timeless. I’m so proud of the woman and mother you’ve grown to be. Thank you for this feedback you’ve given to all of us and especially the girls still finding themselves in their 20s. ❤️
Nikki got me about to cry with this video! This was a great lesson for even single pringles like me. I'm honestly mad you don't even have 1 million subs. RUclips algorithm gotta step it up.
You are preaching preaching girl! To add onto this, if you are out there and are going through a hardship in your relationship and you’ve given all you can, it is okay to walk away and grow into something new. Sometimes people are there for a season/lesson and how you treat that person will determine your karma in the long run. Be kind to all people, especially those who love you
I recently got out of a situation where I in fact, was busy with a guy who I knew had a girlfriend. I convinced myself that i didnt care and one day i woke up and decided that i wanted better and cut him off. I thought he was a good guy but a good guy would not do that to his girlfriend. Its hard and i am heartbroken but i know this is the right choice. Thank you Nikki, i needed to hear this . I hope i can do better, im young and should focus on growing myself first
Yaaaaassss Nikki.. All the younger girls and guys need to hear this. Actually some of the older ones need to hear it too!! This kind of thing is so common these days! So thank you so much for taking us all to church and sayin what needed to be said!!
Omg !! I love you !! I really needed that, your videos have been given me strength and confidence and power to go through life but this one particularly what I needed the most!!! thank you so very much for every single word you said, you are for sure a role model to me 😊
Yessss, speaking facts! I was with my BD for almost 7 years & have now been single for 3 years due to the fact that I will never settle for less. I have seen how sneaky & disrespectful some men can get & im coo off that 🙏🏾 Some females will believe anything a guy says “she’s crazy” “we’re just living together to co-parent” & maaaan is it baffling lol. Some people are not 💩
Nikki, I have been a subscriber and a little cousin to you for about a decade of my life. The amount of love I have for you and your family--I can't put it into words. I admire you, I respect your integrity, and I wish we could be friends for real ❤ I LOVED this video.
💯 Agree. Thank you for putting this out. A lot of women don't respect themselves, and that shall be first and foremost before accepting love into their lives.
The way I cried throughout this video Nikki. You're the big sister I never had and I have been watching you since your makeup days in your apartment. Thank you for posting and using your platform to spread the tough love and wisdom alot of us need!! ❤️
I’m 18, and boys out my age group are the problem not the girls. Every boy I met just wants me for my body or doesn’t see me as a person worth getting to know on a deeper level. I prefer not to talk to men because I already know what they want.
This video came at the right time for me.. literally just found out I was being cheated on and I’m still processing it. It’s been the longest and hardest 24 hours 😔🥺
Oh my goodness girl - myself and my man watched this and I couldn’t tell you how many times “MMMMM”, “BARS”, “FACTS”, “PREACHHH”, and “TAKE EM TO CHURCH BABY” came out of our mouths. 100000/10 recommended video. By far, my favorite story time yet❤️ we are happily married but oof this video was a must watch.
Unfortunately, women have to be dragged through the mud to finally see that their actions have consequences. Getting validation from men is the only thing that keeps these women feeling alive in this dark world. It’s so sad. Once you start demanding respect and giving respect to others is when you will begin to heal. If not then you will be used and discarded. How can they respect you when you can’t respect yourself?
this is so real honestly. even with friendships, when you’re at your lowest, they all leave. no friend is ever there for you all the time, because friendships are not real. friendships are a myth. no one will stand ten toes down for you forever especially when you’re at your lowest.
the lack of integrity and commitment these days platonically or romantically is insane. i have my one girl best friend who has been thru thick and thin with me and she’s the only one i can trust. another girl who i’ve known for over a DECADE ditched me this year for a guy she left her other bf for. it’s insane.
I've been watching you since I was a freshman in high school, I'm now 22 and GORL! I absolutely LOVE the way you think & 100 PERCENT AGREE with you! You're one of the realest ! And anybody who has you as a friend is so blessed to have a personality like yours in their life🫶🏼all love over here nikki , keep speaking facts!
25:03 YESSSS!! Me and my man have three kids together (i have two he has one but they are all ours) lol. Je respects the mother of our kid and i absolutely adore him for that, that's one of the things that made me fall in love with him 🩵how he respects others
Ive been watching for about 7 years now and Nikki, I wanted to thank you so much. You don’t know how much this genuinely helped. My grandparents met at 15 & 16 in 1946 and my grandma was going to be a nun before they ever fell in love as she grew up in a traditional Mexican household.After my grandma deciding on that life path, my grandpa chased her down at 17 and convinced her to marry him as they were madly in love. They were soul mates truly and after 5 kids and 68 years of marriage, they passed in 2022 & 2023 months apart. This reminds me of all the things they showed by example that now looking back as a 22 year old woman going through heartbreak, I hope to find myself someday. You and David remind me so much of them and I wish you nothing but the best life has to give and a beautiful long life together. Thank you for sharing, You are absolutely right Nikki. Thank you so much. You don’t know how much this helped .
A couple months ago I pulled out of the dating scene because it felt like no matter what I did these men were playing me and I was over it. I decided to focus on me and do my thing and not worry about no silly men who don’t want commitment and just wanna play games. And let me tell you I’ve never been so happy with myself and my circumstances I’ve never felt so free and understood by myself. I’ve never been so peaceful but it’s hard sometimes with people all around in seemingly happy relationships. And I think god showed me this video to prove to me that I’m doing the right thing. That what I want is out there and I don’t need to worry about going out to find it because what is for me will not pass me by. I’ve been a long time fan of you and your story times and I’m 21 now and I remember being a little teenager watching your videos. It’s just crazy how time flies like that.
This video brought tears to my eyes. We need more morals in this society. Thank you for your vulnerability Nikki
I teared up too 💗💗 definitely with you on this one. Nowadays no one wants commitment and always think that the grass is greener on the other side but forget to appreciate what’s in front of them. I stopped talk to a lot of people”friends” that didn’t have the same morals. If I can’t trust people to bring my husband around them then what are we even doing?
@@AngelicaJmnzand that’s what she opened my eyes to. I’m not as appreciative to my man as I should be. And it just hit me like a bullet I need to do better and stop pretending to be okay without him.
I got emotional when her husband told her she was an amazing mother 🥹 They both needed that & that’s so beautiful.
Yessss❤
Lack of love, anger, low commitment, neglect, self-esteem, need for variety, sexual desire, and situation or circumstance is the reason why infidelity is so common. Normalize shame, this world is ridiculous.
Our girl taking us to relationship church right now
Halleluujeeer! ✨ Amen! 🙌🏽
Exactly how I was listening to her preach 😂
To the younger girls: I PROMISE you, there is NO man worth putting up that type of drama for. You will only do damage to yourself trying to be in a relationship with someone who is taken, who doesn't respect you as a woman, etc. Trust me, I'm only 24, single, and the dating world SUCKS, but there is so much more for you to focus on and achieve. Get a job, go to school, get a hobby. Love yourself and that love will come.
SAY IT LOUDER! my mindset fr, love myself & wanna focus on my education & work! there’s more to life than a boy.
no matter how good the taken person is always remember "how you get them is how you lose them" and "once a cheater always a cheater" there are sayings for a reason honeys ITS TRIED AND TRUE AND NO MAN IS WORTH THAT NEEDLESS TYPE OF CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT
Omg yes say it louder ❤. I’m currently doing this too because of my anxiety attachment style to dating my intuition is too strong and I feel like it’s a distraction because I want someone who is aligned with me and adds value to my life
I try to tell my younger sisters but they don’t listen 😢
@@isabellavidrio9456 Unfortunately sometimes you just have to learn lessons by experience
10% storytime, 90% facts & wisdom
“Ask them the cheat on they barber” funniest thing I’ve herd in a while!
Deadass I was cracking up😭😭
I SCREAMED, she ate the girlies up😭😭😭
I understand why people are saying “young girls” but this message is for ALL GIRLS especially the grown women who haven’t healed their inner child
Your son is now 16?! I remember you talking about him when he was little omg (Edit: 7 YEARS OF MARRIAGE??? I REMEMBER WHEN YOU GOT ENGAGED my goodness I never realized how long I've been here)
Me too girl, me too ❤️
...and Nikki looks better every year! Such a fine wine!!! ❤️
NO FRRR
Literally!😢
same 😭
What starts wrong, ends wrong. That's it. She knew what he was about, but she thought she would change him. Bless her heart.
Nikki is PREEAAACHING. I felt like I was at church listening to this video. 😮💨
Real! Same here
Halleluujeer! ✨ Amen! 🙌🏽❤️
Anyone with No self control just shouldn't be in a relationship, with anything. No self control = No respect for self/others
Needed this
I don't understand how people would willingly traumatise someone to get their fix. Then the world expects the one who was betrayed to put themselves (and often their children) back together again.
I hope this video finds the audience of young girls out there that NEED these words and hear them. And if you feel triggered by this, you also need to hear it and rethink your love choices. You got this girl, whoever you may be. Respect yourself, LOVE/ADORE yourself to know your worth and settle for NO man/girl that wont give you the world.
I’ve been watching you since 15 and I’m 23 now
I’ve seen you as a girlfriend, a fiancé, a wife and a mother and still keep watching you and admiring your wisdom. Much love ❤️
I am happily single. And some of my favorite men in the world are my married acquaintances and co-workers who are good men who respect their wives and me by not being creeps nor flirts. Faithful men are admirable. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤
Aw I love that, sometimes this world makes me feel that men like that don’t exist and it makes you lose hope🥺 so glad they do❤️
@@yaleesi I hear you. So glad they still exist. 😊
You brought tears to my eyes. Brought me to realizations, opened my eyes and everything. I’m so glad I been watching you since young. You taught me more than my family
girl yoooooou are PREACHING!!! finally something real. this society does not take anything seriously. people are too busy chasing after things that don’t matter & have no time to do inner work.
YES GIRLLLLL I was sitting up here like "YAAAASSSSS NIKKI!" the whole time! also the cheating on their barber comment has me in tears😭
THANK YOU, I was just talking about this with my boyfriend. We are baffled about the amount of disrespect in the world and how many woman and men will claim “insecure” or “toxic” when someone has boundaries in their own relationship. Let’s not get started on the industry and how EVERYTHING is about sex and lust these days, I can’t even watch a music video without the artist being naked or almost; the amount of people who will call you insecure for not wanting your man to watch corn or follow and look at naked woman online. The amount of stories I hear of woman drawing boundaries with her man and other woman saying she’s wrong and has no trust. NEWS FLASH it’s not always about trusting your man, a lot of the times you can’t trust the woman and it’s about respect first and foremost. The world is SO sad now and I fear for future generations and relationships
Nikki thanks for using your platform in the right way,this is soo underrated more people need to listen to this💯
Girl, I remember when I worked in retail about 4 years ago and this man walked in and he asked me for help to find a specific kind of outfit and I helped him because obviously that’s part of my job. He then starts flirting and asking me certain things and I’m shutting it down the whole time. After he’s done shopping for himself, he then asked me on a date and I said “no thank you but I do see you have a ring on your finger, would you like to shop for an outfit for your wife just to match yours?” And after that he never tried it again. Stop these men in their damn tracks!! We gotta be better!
Do not awaken love until it’s time~
A scripture my mother prayed over me as I went through my long, rough dating journey.
I believe that my mother’s prayers for this was a big part of me finding my wonderful faithful husband of 10 years.
I love this.
i love this so much ❤
Julian is almost 17?! I remember when he was in 3rd grade 😭
Real 😭😭
Girl same, my mind is blown 😮 dang kids grow up super quick!!
Oooh yall I’ve never clicked on a video SO fast!! Missed my girl Nikki 😝😝
I just love you!! Thank you ❤❤❤
You lose em how you got em are true words to live by! This guy I was talking to told me he was divorced and that they were done a week later the story changed to “we’re separated and we’re in the process of divorce” then a few days later he said he’s still in love with her. I ran so fast lol 😂
I got my coffee, my nom noms and my crochet project. Its rainy and cold. Oooooh i am in my happy place girl!! Lets gooo❤
Girl where u at?! I'm in Louisiana where it is NOT anywhere near cold 😅
Had this convo with someone before! I always said cheating is a character flaw! I love what you said at the end about being made for your partner. I feel the same way.
Thank you for addressing these kind of patterns between women. So refreshing to hear this!! But we been knew you a REAL ass woman!!
i’ve been a glamazon since i was probably about 10 or 11 years old. as i grew up, i strayed away from this channel. but today, at 18 years old and now in college, i decided to click on this video after not watching one of these in so long. earlier this year, i got my heart extremely broken and torn up by my first boyfriend due to literally some of the exact circumstances that were spoken about in this video. it took me almost 6 months to get back on my feet and actually let go of that garbage, trash, horrible man. and it took the same amount of time to stop caring about the garbage, trash, horrible girl who was also MY FRIEND, that decided it would be a good idea to backstab me like that. apparently now they’re living together, but lmk why he’s stalking all my pages. that’s not the point, but i just wanted to say that this video is so so SO real and important and RELATABLE. nikki you single handedly helped me realize my worth with this video today and i believe i was called by God to watch this. and to every single person who’s going through this right now, i know it’s tough. and it takes time to get through it. but i promise you right now that NO MAN will EVER be worth all of that pain and heartbreak because the right one would never do that to you. i’m so glad to be back. nikki you did the damn thing once again!!
“I beg your pardon?” After I read the title 👁️👄👁️
It does happen lol I’m actually gonna be doing a story time about a particular time that a girl waited until I was talking to one of my Glamazons at a bar to try and flirt with David. Crazy lmao stay tuned 😂
@@NikkiGlamouroooo I’ll be waiting for this !
@@NikkiGlamour YASSS GIRL SPILL THE TEA 🍵
@@NikkiGlamourWHAAAAAAT?!
@@NikkiGlamouri NEED that story, damn thats nastyyyyy
Go offfff Nikki! You said you are looking for your purpose and that message you just spoke may be apart of your purpose…you said a whole word!!🙏🏽🙏🏽
It is also SO important to break generational curses as well. Just because your parents treated you like x,y, and z... doesn't always mean you have to hurt your kids like that. Grown, learn from their behavior, and change. Break that mold.
Nikki....
You have me in tears.
Your vulnerability is golden and can't me forced.
I see the Lord's fingerprints all over you.
I was raised by a single mom and yes, she prepared me for the worst with men. I felt exactly like you explained, I honestly still have a really hard time trusting men. My current boyfriend is amazing, he goes above and beyond to gain my trust every day but yes, It's super hard! And yes my dad cheated on my mom with one of her friends and guess what that woman ended up leaving my dad for another man lol he cheated on my mom multiple times and some of them knew he was married with kids and they didn't care. It all starts with a man and a woman and the choices they make and their choices ended up hurting multiple people including my siblings and I. I wish every woman would watch this video lol I know plenty who need to hear these words! Also, you had my crying by the end 😭
Love this Nikki !!! We all need to hear this but especially these younger girls who are trying to find love right now! If he comes with drama where girls want to fight you, his family is cruel to you, he’s not the one baby! It’s not worth it! No relationship is easy. But also it shouldn’t come with a lot of drama where it makes you question yourself and your worth!
Unfortunately I have been in a situation just like your friend, and I was very immature at the time, and I enjoyed the ego boost of knowing that a man was choosing me over his current partner. I did end up in a relationship with that man, but I saw his wandering eye while he was with me, and I couldn't trust him because of how we started our relationship. His ex certainly didn't deserve that hurt and it is something I regret, so will never do that again. I got hurt too in the end, but because of my own actions. You give good advice Nikki.
i’ve always figured it was never about the man but about the rush a woman feels being “chosen” or seemingly “winning” over another woman. it’s all about female wounds and competition, the man is just a pawn in the game that is traumatizing another woman.
Girl I feel like I just attended a sermon, thank you for this nikki.
Yes!! we have been together for 10 years and married for almost a year. He has ALWAYS loved on me and been sweet. Supported me through grad school. They will come, put your energy into positivity and you will receive it.
I was just talking to my bestie how lust has taken over society from porn addiction to the fantasizing of cheating and being a proud sancha. Thank you for your words of Wisdom 🤍🤍🤍 Love you Nikki !
Yes! I was just talking about this too! It’s horrible, no one has any shame these days. We all need Jesus..
Whoa he is 16/17!!! Time flies. I'm glad he comes to you and your relationship with him❤
This was so good. My bd is with someone else, & trying to still come back at the same time for sex. I was about to fall for it, but praying to God to give me wisdom & to put on the brakes for me & give me strength to be patient for MY future husband because I know he ain’t it. 16 years of him being in my life & I finally see it. I see him for the type of man he is. He’s the same selfish man he was last year before we called it quits. I hope this young girl (we’re in our 30’s, she’s in her early 20’s) sees through it before it’s too late. But moat importantly, I take this video as a sign to NEVER put myself in that position ever again. Thanks Nikki, I love you for this. ❤
I have a 15 month with my bd and share 50/50 I called it quits with him but it was hurtful seeing him on Bumble searching for a quick fix. I tried over a year to make it work with him but he was so self centered. Sigh pray for me girl I’ll pray for you the heart hurts.
Loving the verse in your intro Nikki ❤
Thank you! It was on my heart for you guys ❤
Made me cry about how much I love my man. I could never make him feel less. God is good 🙏🏼
This is so powerful Nikki. It seems like as I grow up you release videos that apply to the stages of life I am in and I appreciate your advice and hold it close to me. 9 years of listening to your videos and now I’m about to graduate college. Thank you for being there for us and talking about these hard but truthful lessons. You are amazing💗
The fact that you named your friend Tiana which is my name and me and her have done the same things wow😭. But overall coming from a person who used to be like Tiana I can say that I’m so thankful that I found myself and healed and finally realized how me talking to guys with girlfriends is wrong and disrespectful. To lady’s who do this just don’t it’s not worth your time or energy and y’all are too beautiful and too smart to be putting up with a guy like that trust me I had to learn myself.
This is a BEAUTIFUL and STRONG message Nikki. My husband and I have known each other since middle school. We were on and off and had our drama in high school but we both got it together and decided that we wanted to be with each other. So much of what you said struck a cord with me. I've always said don't go looking for love. Let it find you. I've also been with my husband for 7 years, 8 in December, and I agree that our life experiences have shaped how we fit together. I grew up with a BIG family on both sides and he has his mom, a little sister, two aunts, and DASSIT. No cousins. No Uncles. NOTHING. 😂 I feel like I bring the importance of a family unit because his has always been so broken. While on the flip side, because he had to raise himself, he taught me how to break free and live my life for ME and not for my family because that was all that I knew. It's a beautiful thing when you find your person and we are all responsible for fostering positive relationships in this world. Love you Nikki! 🫶🏾🩵
Nikki, I’ve been watching your videos for at least 7 years now and it feels like you’re the older sister I always needed. I’m so grateful for your videos and your advice that I wouldn’t get anywhere else. My family is all back in Ukraine where my mom and I moved from in 1999, so growing up I never had anyone to look out for me and be a guiding figure. I look at you that way, like a loving older sister that spills tea with me and I appreciate you so much for that. I hope you and your family is all doing well 🤍
I literally cried when you said that your husband said you were “such a good mom “ those words are so powerful 🥹💕
PERIODT. Preach! I put the boundary fence up no matter what!!
Women, Men, please respect the sanctity of other’s relationships or marriages. It comes right back.
You talking about how perfect David is for you because of your needs for validation of your motherhood had me starting to tear up Nikki!!! Ugh more stories about how you know he’s the one pleassseeee
Nikki is a gift sent from god cuz 45… on a Saturday while I’m getting ready to go out… gurllll God bless you and your family 🫶🏾🫶🏾
Edit : Nikki can in to clock someone people in the streets, being single can something me lonely but but never feel this lonely to loose your self respect and for others
@marysesanou1554 This I hope Nikki sees and pins your comment😁😁😁
God and yes
YES. As a gen z who is in a relationship that came to me naturally I tell all my single friends to get off the dating apps and to stop looking and they never believe me. Love will come to you when you least expect it .
You were really preaching on this one. What do you do when nobody’s looking is such a word. You reap what you sow.
David telling you you are a great mom got me in tears😭😭 so beautiful
Im not even gonna lie…..this one made me cry.
How we trick ourselves into thinking there’s no one better after being dragged through the mud and concrete is crazy.
A much needed word Nikki, thank you ❤
Nikki, this is one of my favorite videos of yours. You explained this so so perfectly and clearly this new generation of kids and young adults NEED to hear this! I really hope it gets to their ears and hearts because it's all about lust nowadays. Real love is becoming harder for them to find and it's honestly so heartbreaking. As a mother of a toddler, I pray that the dating scene is reconstructed by the time she's old enough to date to get married one day. Thank you for this video!🩷
Wow Nikki I’ve been watching you since before my daughter was born and she’s four now. over the years I have outgrown a lot of the RUclips channels I watched but you’re always someone I would come back to and this video is a perfect example why. I hope this reaches a bigger audience, young girls and even women because a lot of them don’t have people in their lives to tell them these things.
Your point about how your experiences have brought you to your husband and vice versa was so powerful!! I agree with you 1000% we have to be careful about who and what we let into our lives. It can really change you forever
28:53 "I Love My Husband" 😭😭💕💕 you go nikki 💕
Girl you were PREACHING through the ends! I was shouting at my TV like AMEN
And the church saiddddd AMENNNNN ❤️🔥😮💨
Not me shouting like I was at church!
Keep making these big sis videos and speaking truth, Nikki!!
Nikki, I’ve been watching you since I was about 21. I’m gonna be 30 this year. You are amazing and your energy is timeless. I’m so proud of the woman and mother you’ve grown to be. Thank you for this feedback you’ve given to all of us and especially the girls still finding themselves in their 20s. ❤️
Nikki got me about to cry with this video! This was a great lesson for even single pringles like me. I'm honestly mad you don't even have 1 million subs. RUclips algorithm gotta step it up.
You are preaching preaching girl! To add onto this, if you are out there and are going through a hardship in your relationship and you’ve given all you can, it is okay to walk away and grow into something new. Sometimes people are there for a season/lesson and how you treat that person will determine your karma in the long run. Be kind to all people, especially those who love you
Could literally listen to you talk alllllll day, the big sister I never knew I needed. You tell em girl, ain’t nobody got morals anymore ✌🏻💞
I recently got out of a situation where I in fact, was busy with a guy who I knew had a girlfriend. I convinced myself that i didnt care and one day i woke up and decided that i wanted better and cut him off. I thought he was a good guy but a good guy would not do that to his girlfriend. Its hard and i am heartbroken but i know this is the right choice. Thank you Nikki, i needed to hear this . I hope i can do better, im young and should focus on growing myself first
STOP because I literally started crying! My husband is a blessing from God himself
Yaaaaassss Nikki.. All the younger girls and guys need to hear this. Actually some of the older ones need to hear it too!! This kind of thing is so common these days! So thank you so much for taking us all to church and sayin what needed to be said!!
girllll your voice and words in this were so powerful and poignant, pray that this message gets where it needs to be ❤ praise God
Omg !! I love you !!
I really needed that, your videos have been given me strength and confidence and power to go through life but this one particularly what I needed the most!!! thank you so very much for every single word you said, you are for sure a role model to me 😊
“Girl don’t make me yell”
Girl you been yelling at us but I love it😭😭🫶🫶🫶
Yessss, speaking facts! I was with my BD for almost 7 years & have now been single for 3 years due to the fact that I will never settle for less. I have seen how sneaky & disrespectful some men can get & im coo off that 🙏🏾 Some females will believe anything a guy says “she’s crazy” “we’re just living together to co-parent” & maaaan is it baffling lol. Some people are not 💩
16?!? Nikki we’re family now 😂 I didn’t realize how long I’ve been watching your family I can’t believe he’s 16
This one made me cry. The way you spoke about your husband and got emotional. Beautiful, we need more content like this ❤️
The way Nikki preached is how I know she put us all through church with this. ❤
Nikki, I have been a subscriber and a little cousin to you for about a decade of my life. The amount of love I have for you and your family--I can't put it into words. I admire you, I respect your integrity, and I wish we could be friends for real ❤ I LOVED this video.
💯 Agree. Thank you for putting this out. A lot of women don't respect themselves, and that shall be first and foremost before accepting love into their lives.
I love you girl…say it how it is and louder for those in the back!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The way I cried throughout this video Nikki. You're the big sister I never had and I have been watching you since your makeup days in your apartment. Thank you for posting and using your platform to spread the tough love and wisdom alot of us need!! ❤️
Not me getting the notification for this video, right before i was about to download hinge...let me sit down
Your spirit is as bright as ever and this world needs it💕
Man I can watch this on repeat.
I’m 18, and boys out my age group are the problem not the girls. Every boy I met just wants me for my body or doesn’t see me as a person worth getting to know on a deeper level. I prefer not to talk to men because I already know what they want.
You are speaking my ethics my morals and walking the walk and talking the talk!!!!!! Don’t stop can’t stop
I’m so glad i found Nikki when I was in middle school because now going into college this advice is soo good
This video came at the right time for me.. literally just found out I was being cheated on and I’m still processing it. It’s been the longest and hardest 24 hours 😔🥺
Oh my goodness girl - myself and my man watched this and I couldn’t tell you how many times “MMMMM”, “BARS”, “FACTS”, “PREACHHH”, and “TAKE EM TO CHURCH BABY” came out of our mouths. 100000/10 recommended video. By far, my favorite story time yet❤️ we are happily married but oof this video was a must watch.
Unfortunately, women have to be dragged through the mud to finally see that their actions have consequences. Getting validation from men is the only thing that keeps these women feeling alive in this dark world. It’s so sad. Once you start demanding respect and giving respect to others is when you will begin to heal. If not then you will be used and discarded. How can they respect you when you can’t respect yourself?
Brought me to tears 🥹I’m six months pregnant Nikki you are a great mother and great woman 👏
this is so real honestly. even with friendships, when you’re at your lowest, they all leave. no friend is ever there for you all the time, because friendships are not real. friendships are a myth. no one will stand ten toes down for you forever especially when you’re at your lowest.
the lack of integrity and commitment these days platonically or romantically is insane. i have my one girl best friend who has been thru thick and thin with me and she’s the only one i can trust. another girl who i’ve known for over a DECADE ditched me this year for a guy she left her other bf for. it’s insane.
@@bloomtilltheend i’m so happy for you, & im sorry for that other girl because that was a big L lol, imagine ditching your friend for a boy 😭
glad we have the same mentality on this situation, this is such an amazing video 🩷
Ooooh them Bible verses showing up!!! 💗✨
Ah ma gaaahhh!!! I remember watching your story time videos about your step sister!! I’m so glad the algorithm brought me back!! Love you so much!!!
Yessss, Nikki!! 1,000%!
I've been watching you since I was a freshman in high school, I'm now 22 and GORL! I absolutely LOVE the way you think & 100 PERCENT AGREE with you! You're one of the realest ! And anybody who has you as a friend is so blessed to have a personality like yours in their life🫶🏼all love over here nikki , keep speaking facts!
25:03 YESSSS!! Me and my man have three kids together (i have two he has one but they are all ours) lol. Je respects the mother of our kid and i absolutely adore him for that, that's one of the things that made me fall in love with him 🩵how he respects others
omgg almost 17!? Nikki where has the time gone ! 😭😭
Ive been watching for about 7 years now and Nikki, I wanted to thank you so much. You don’t know how much this genuinely helped. My grandparents met at 15 & 16 in 1946 and my grandma was going to be a nun before they ever fell in love as she grew up in a traditional Mexican household.After my grandma deciding on that life path, my grandpa chased her down at 17 and convinced her to marry him as they were madly in love. They were soul mates truly and after 5 kids and 68 years of marriage, they passed in 2022 & 2023 months apart. This reminds me of all the things they showed by example that now looking back as a 22 year old woman going through heartbreak, I hope to find myself someday. You and David remind me so much of them and I wish you nothing but the best life has to give and a beautiful long life together. Thank you for sharing, You are absolutely right Nikki. Thank you so much. You don’t know how much this helped .
A couple months ago I pulled out of the dating scene because it felt like no matter what I did these men were playing me and I was over it. I decided to focus on me and do my thing and not worry about no silly men who don’t want commitment and just wanna play games. And let me tell you I’ve never been so happy with myself and my circumstances I’ve never felt so free and understood by myself. I’ve never been so peaceful but it’s hard sometimes with people all around in seemingly happy relationships. And I think god showed me this video to prove to me that I’m doing the right thing. That what I want is out there and I don’t need to worry about going out to find it because what is for me will not pass me by.
I’ve been a long time fan of you and your story times and I’m 21 now and I remember being a little teenager watching your videos. It’s just crazy how time flies like that.
Finally, someone speaking truth! It all starts with accountability and we have to do better. Great video Nikki!
Nikki, you’re speaking NOTHING but the truth. I needed to hear everything you said! Thank you girl 😭