13 Biggest Dating Mistakes Older Guys Make
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- In this video, Jeff from The Style O.G. discusses the 13 biggest dating mistakes older guys make. He talks about what older guys should avoid doing when dating.
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I’m a 58 y/o woman and yes, I’m on top of technology. BUT... I need to be able to converse on the phone and face to face. That’s a MUST for me.
Appreciate the input!
Taso Aifantis You have jokes, I see. 😉 But you are exactly correct, flirting is essential! It often constitutes low key foreplay, so there’s that.
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This aint just for older guys. Its actually helpful for us younger guys. My pops only gives advice from his days which is different than today. Thank you!!!
No problem Samuel !
When Jeff puts on the suit, he means business.
Sure do ! Ha
Probably in his boxers though lol.
Just like Alpha M and the brick wall
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Lol!!!!
I was so against online dating but I met someone very special and plan on marrying her.
Tip #14: Don’t forget to wear a boss mid-grey windowpane jacket with a crisp white shirt when you ask her out! How can she resist this OG look?! Sartorial splendor, sir. On fleek... Salute!
Ha!
On fleek? Old dude had to Google dat right here...😂😂😂
Awesome, I hope men will apply these tips when they meet women. Being an older woman, I hate when a man approaches me and says something "corny" to get my attention. For me a smile, introducing himself and asking me my name, not complicated.
Appreciate the input!
Just be yourself....nuff said 👍
@@tonyallen6510 What if being kind of corny is them being themselves?
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@@clydekimsey7503 There is someone for everybody. Not everyone is going to appreciate the genuine you but there is always people out there that will.
Good points as always Jeff. 36 year old man here. A couple of other tips that the fellas might find helpful:
1. Don't be less confident with younger, attractive women. For example, don't age yourself even further by beating yourself up in conversation about how old you are getting. It's a downer to hear about and you make yourself look less secure and less appealing. Also, don't try to act too young just because you think that it'll keep her interested. Look at your age differences with her as an interesting way to mutually learn about people and the world from two different viewpoints and to skilfully blend your two worlds in a meaningful way.
2. Work at being a Renaissance Man and have real hobbies and interests that you can introduce her too. It makes you more interesting and keeps you occupied with other things besides romance for those times when you're still in search of or open to a relationship. When you meet her, you'll have a solid knowledge base about many subjects to share with her.
3. Never lose a grip on who you are as a man first. When you get older, you might find yourself making inappropriate compromises to establish a sense of companionship out of fear of loss and a scarcity mind set.
4. Make sure you can travel at leisure domestically and internationally. You should have plenty of different ways to meet women from a variety of cultures and networks.
Appreciate the input!
Great advice on how to be attractive by being an authentic, competent and interesting person.
@@multifacetedman glad to share!
Wells said brother especially number 4 👍🏿
@@TheStyleOG when know she definitely does
I'm 28. This information is is relevant for all. Salute OG
Salute Nehemiah!
And please do not keep bringing up those exes. That’s a “Dealbreaker.”
You’re on point, Style O.G. 🙌🏾
Thanks Carla !
Nobody wants to hear about someone's ex.
@@othellocampbell6839 I totally agree.
Absolutely!! I attempted to be open to dating an older man, he was 11 years older than me. It was like he wanted to give me a rundown of his life in less than a month, told me about all his exes, continued talking about sex(I’ve never had men my age do this), talked about how he wanted me to meet his family, everything seemed SO rushed, saying he saw me as his wife(how we are strangers), it was TOO much, I exited stage left and saw another side of him..smh.. I think my cutoff will be no more than 5 years older.
@@cw8365 he sounded like he didn't have much going on for himself
Salute O.G.!
However, I don't know of any woman who prefers texting and emails over a phone call. We like to hear your voice.
Not prefer but it’s a common form nowadays
I think the O.G. is right on this one. I have found texting (which I hate) to be prevailing nowadays with both younger and less younger women. Phone calls seem to only be appreciated when you start getting serious or when they fall for you!
@@kenny1514 well, if that is the case i am not interested that is a deal breaker.
I'm 41... Old school kinda girl... I STILL LIKE CALLS!!! 👋🏿 Hello Mr. Telephone Man! 😉☎️📞📱
I like it !
New Edition, yeah 😉
@@cliftonsledge962 Yesss 💃🏾
@@TheStyleOG Yesss... Much Appreciated!
Agreed!
I love to hear a man's voice on the phone. Texting is annoying, dry, and impersonal.
appreciate the input Isabelle !
It definitely feels more interpersonal
@Taso Aifantis I totally agree!
i refuse to converse in text.
I broke up with my boyfriend because he only wanted to text. I told him I hated it. You are correct, annoying, dry & impersonal
Thx OG! I’m ready to put the moves on Gladys and Margaret now!
Ha !
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Lmao
I have never regretted listening to your advice OG. You are appreciated
Thanks Zeal !
I agree with the dating app thing. I’m better in person than online.
Relying on social media for dates (dating apps & sites) is the worse thing for some of us Old G's (I will be turning 60 in two weeks). I prefer social interaction among people in a gathering. You get to know more about each other in a face to face setting.
I'm a 66 year old man and what you said is right on....nuff said 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍😁
Great video Jeff. I am a 56 year old man and I appreciate the advice in the video. Keep up the good work my friend!!
Salute Melvin !
Hey Jeff. You always have amazing content, keep being great. Technology can be a blessing and a curse. Ladies prefer phone calls they want to hear your voice.
Salute Queen!
Or they want a video call. I make a woman work for that, not so much for a phone call. You gotta know how to keep it tantalizing.
Maybe older women want
As usual, great advice...I would also add that in dating that men need to ENJOY the date and not to expect much from it. Too many expectations could lead to problems and conflicts. Enjoying the moment gives less pressure, you are more natural in conversation and a woman can follow suit and find you more appealing for future dates. If anything, there is no negativity between the two if it doesn't work out....and you learn more about yourself in what was good and bad about the date. Thanks OG!
Appreciate the input!
In regards to texting, limit your texting. After a while a phone call is necessary and don't text with acronyms and a lot of emojis, I mean we are adults. Also, please understand we're dating more than one guy too and when or if the subject comes up don't be shocked or upset. I would also like to add, keep your hands to yourself. When the vibe is right the affection will come, but be easy with us. No touching on the first date unless we invite you in. This is just my opinion as a 50 year old woman who's happily dating. Another great video Jeff!
Appreciate the input!
@@TheStyleOGYou're welcome!
1Man Army lol exactly what I was thinking oh joy!
“listen as twice the amount you talk”-Style O.G,employ your ears first fellas,truer words of wisdom right there fellas.Damn Style O.G we have similar deal breakers,SALUTE!!!
Salute Drew !
I did not realize this guy has a lot of subscribers ,
Salute home boy 💯
Salute James !
Thank you for the tips . I’m 42 married still growing. Awesome video. Peace and Blessings OG.
Blessings Al !
New to the channel and newly returned to the dating market. It's definitely a "new world" from my younger days(I'm 50); especially with social media. Thanks for these reminders!
Hi 👋 and how are you doing
@@wendyguathier4547 well thanks! And you?
I am doing well
So can you tell me more things about yourself
I was newly divorced and wanted to date someone someone new that I didn’t know from friends or acquaintances. Being 44 I have learned the things that matter are different from when I was younger. Having the same interests such as tv shows, food you like, what you enjoy doing with someone such as taking the dogs for a walk, going to the bookstore, etc. Especially in this new climate where we spend more time indoors it really important that you like some of the same shows. Things you do to relax matter much more to me know then when I was younger. Mostly because you spend a lot of time doing that. And finding someone who enjoys the same makes having a relationship more fun on a different level. And if you decide to date younger you have to remind yourself that they are from a different era and posting and looking at social media is, or can be, a big part of their life. Great video with a lot of valid information!
Appreciate the input Jason !
I appreciate your very valuable input, Jason.
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I m 54 single ❤❤👧👧😍😍🌷🌷
Glad you mentioned how things have change. Previous coach failed at this part. “If you can’t call her with confidence” type thing. CW has finally adjusted his stance but was so steadfast with his position and gave guys a hard time for telling him how things have change and you may need to text more vs calling.
Yes, know what you're deal breakers are and let them be known so the other person doesn't waste their time.
Indeed !
This was a great topic, as I’ve gotten older the game (dating) has definitely changed
Thanks Melvin !
Hey
Been watching your channel for a long time. Always learn something new. Just recently single and trying to figure out dating and this was exactly what I needed! Thank you!
No problem Monu !
My sister once told me to let him talk, sooner or later he is going to tell on himself. So Jeff is right fellows, ask questions. I have actually had several dates where the guy talked about himself and of course, I just let him talk 🦜.
On one date, out of the blue this guy blurts, my ex wife is pregnant. I don't know what she was thinking.
My mouth said, what?!
My 🧠 brain and gut said, this guy is about to be a baby daddy, again (already had 2 teens). 😂
😂 just listening was my biggest accessory!! Listening to a man told me all his "dos and "don't s".
@@toniemillsap8910 I once had a guy I called myself dating ask me to iron his pants and then cook more for breakfast.
I begrudgingly did it and came to the realization, I am divorced with two grown kids and I don't want to go through this, again.
Best damn decision I made because I think he was testing me out for wife material. 🙅♂️👎
As usual...great advice and tips! Please also remind men that just as they will date a few people at once to see who fits best...the same may and should go for women. And when that woman is honest about that they should not be SHAMED for it.
It is a turnoff when a man gives the side 👀 when a woman says that she is dating multiple men. Dating does NOT equate to sleeping around. Some guys needs to grow up and match their age. It's all fair game until the dating turns into an actual relationship.
Salute and love you! 😊
Indeed!!!! I absolutely agree with this comment!😊
Agreed Elle !
@@FemininitywithMommaGail Thank you! 😊
I definitely agree
As a 39 years old guy who just start to go back this dating madnes after 13 years, I just would like to say thank you! Thank you for being the mentor for the men like me! I learned a lot from you! Keep up the good work, we really need people like you!
You're the man! I really appreciate all your expertise. We got to work hard on ourselves, eat healthy stay in shape hit the gym. Be confident! Stay in charge. And don't fail in the bedroom!
This is a very good topic. I appreciate the way you tackle this particular topic. One thing I had to do to get back out there was I had to separate myself from the old me before I could step into the new me. Being honest, truthful, and realistic can help you in whatever it is you are trying to accomplish. Thank you for this it was great advice and helpful suggestions good Sir!!!
Salute my friend !
Hey
I lost about 70 lbs since January 2020, it's now September. I Plateo for about 3 months straight around the same weight. My Goal is too Meet My Goal, shoot for 💯 lbs this year! If not I'd get off first of Next Year!
It's a Heck of a Compliment when folks telling and noticed you lost weight, it Motivate them, but they have fallen off, yet I keep going!
I like when he said date more than One Woman, That's not just O.G. it's true, then narrow it down.
Would love to hear what The women Thought's on dating more than one, then narrowed it down.
@Blessed Rivers & Streams Thanks for replying. I'm not sure if I'd get the 💯 lbs weight loss Goal. But I had to change my clothing, and a lot of people see I lost weight. Having a Made Up Mind is Great, at times I binge eating. Still, next Spring this 56 year old Man will be turning Heads of All, young & older. Stay Blessed.
@@timothybright7064 just be honest and let her know
@Blessed Rivers & Streams That's The Plan.
@@cocopuff6810 I'm Coo Coo for CoCo Puff's.
Great Great Video!!! One of your best!! Yeah that Jheri Curl and M.C. Hammer pants don't work in 2020!! Also people over 40 getting their first tattoo or TikTok account not a good look!!
Thanks Chris !
This is a great video Jeff I was just having this conversation with my friends. I love a thinking of you text but phonecalls are my preference I want to hear your voice. I agree with you on your approach to dating some people get stuck and don't know how to be flexible with dating at any age. As you get older you know what your looking for and what you're not looking for at least you should and not waste your time. It's great to hear a man's perspective on dating as you get older thanks for sharing this one.
No problem my friend!
I'm 49 and live by one simple rule when it comes to dating....don't do it. Gentlemen, keep your money, freedom, sanity and health.
and your isolation and loneliness...lol
@@TheStyleOG Isolation and loneliness? 😂 Family and close friends, buddy. People that actually matter. Their is a lot more to life than chasing vagina. Wake up.
The divorce rate is over 50% and guys have gotten destroyed in divorce court. I learned from the mistake of others and never got married. I dodged many bullets. I've walked away from all my past girlfriends because I won't put up with disrespect. Simple as that.
For men, dating is a waste of time, money and resources. Have you actually opened your eyes to see the women that are out there? The dating pool is a cesspool. Too many women are entitled, narcissistic and look to treat men as a walking ATM. A disposable utility. And you want to give dating advice? You are a clueless simp. 🤣
are you open to the possibility that there is something about you that is attracting these disrespectful women you speak of?? I am a little older than you and have dated hundreds of women and have literally only been disrespected once. Because I am I simp?? no because the way I carry and conduct myself commands respect. at 49 years of age I would think you could have a disagreement without name calling, it makes you sound 19 instead of the middle age guy you are...ok so you don't want to date, why feel the need to come to a video that obviously those that watch do want the information?? do you got to the mercedes dealership and let everyone know how they cost too much and it would be more efficient to ride public transportation?? That is what you just did. I'm sorry your experience with women has not been positive, but I wish you the best..
@@TheStyleOG You have dated hundreds of women? Congratulations. I've dated a lot too. And just like my relationships, your relationships have failed. Correct? Most of you so-called "dating experts" have been through just as many failed relationships as everyone else. You are in no position to give anyone dating advice.
Is there something about me that attracts these disrespectful women? No. The narrative has been the same. Things went well for the first year or two. We were both good to each other...and then she tried to control the relationship. Not happening. I walked away. No self-respecting man should let any woman control the relationship. I don't tell a woman what to do, so she shouldn't tell me what to do. Simple as that.
The bottom line is that no matter how good you are to a woman, it will never be enough for her. She will always look for more. Hypergamy is the true female nature. The sense of entitlement and narcissism. When you ask women what they bring to the table, a lot of them respond with "I am the table". Men are supposed to put up with that BS mentality? No. You are doing a disservice by sending men down the rabbit hole of dating. It will end up in nothing but constant disappointment and hurt. A lot of men, the smart ones, are walking away from dating and especially marriage. The marriage rate keeps dropping. Good. Women do not deserve our time, effort and resources until they learn how to act like ladies.
This man is literally spelling it out ..........thanks for being real.
my pleasure!
Hey
Being well rounded helps to keep the conversation moving in a general direction, more so than a personal one.
First let me apologize to your lady, if this is disrespectful. That suit is fitting you like DAMN!!!! I totally agree with these 13 mistakes for males. They apply also to older women. I am definitely not a fan of internet dating at all, but to each its own. Great advice HQOG! Great video!
Thanks Gail !
@@TheStyleOG You're welcome!😊
Love your content Jeffery, you’re always looking mighty dapper sir.
I appreciate that!
Good Advice Jeff. Can you do a video on dating women of various ages?? I've found that women in their 20s,30s,40s are all very different, and as an OG...we have to adjust to these age groups.
Jeff thanks for looking out for us older guys. Glad you're on our side.
No worries!
I Googled myself and I dont exist. 😆 🤣
Ha !
In this day and age..thats probably a good thing lol..
@@brownpunk1794 lol I do as much as i can possible to stay off the internet. The less people know the better.
@@blackguyincali exactly..the more ppl know the more they can use against you..smart man😁
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No superficial relationships.....make it totally personal and real....wise words of wisdom ....thanks brother Jeff 🙏✌.
Salute Paul !
Big Jeff still holding it down with good content 🙌🏾
Thanks to being hospitalised into an Aged Care Home, that is being repurposed as a COVID Recovery Centre, I have found an Upside. There are 5 Women to every Male. So I have a lot of charming Ladies who appreciate seeing a new face. And what is important I survived being told by the Doctor in Charge of Intensive Care that "You will not live to see the end of the day".
Your presentation still puts a big smile on my face. Thanks, Phil.
I appreciate the info. There were a few mistakes I was making that I will correct. Talking too much too soon, not asking enough questions and putting too much into one date is something I recently discovered that I was doing too much of and I have changed it. Everything else is confirmation I'm on the right track.
Salute!
Aside from dates, that's a life rule in general about keeping your conversation light with a new person. Always leave a little mystery 😉. Everything will unfold in due season!
Indeed Eric!
One thing I always try to remember is showing is always better than telling!
I watched this video before. But I needed to watch it again. It grounded me. Helped focus me.
Man...that was edifying. I've made some of the mistakes mentioned. That's now over. I will review video when I date.
Definitely tell women how many children you have. 🤣
Visa versa...I don’t have any but yes, good question.
I went on a date with an older guy. He was so eager to get married and have kids, since he was getting older. That on our first and only date, he was asking me how many kids did I want and what did I want to name them. And he told me that he liked this name for a first name, but this name would have to be a middle name. That I could pick the name of our first kid, but he go to pick the name of our second. Then he said "Deal?" It was crazy and way too soon for this guy to already have us having kids together when we just met.
Thanks Jeff excellent advice for the guys,they need to remember to just relax no pressure let her come to you,I loved when you said not to bring up the ex she an ex for a reason.
Salute!
You keep the topics relevant... i believe you should have a routine that shows your character and standards, you should have a lot of kinks worked out as an older man... Salute to you Jeff.. Thank you brother.....
What's up my bro Og. Great advice video for the older guy in the dating world. Good looking out my G . Salute my friend
Salute Glenn !
Wow, 323k subs. I knew this channel would blow up. 1 million will happen as well.
Salute!
I always look forward to your Saturday videos. These tips are good for both sexes. Awesome job O.G. 💯
Thanks Jadore !
This is such a refreshing relationship RUclips! It is so appreciated!! Your presence on camera
your clothing style, and your pleasant vocal delivery are amazing! Your dating advice is also "on point"! I just "liked" and "subscribed" and plan on sharing with a couple of my male friends immediately! Now on to your next video!
Appreciate you Phyllis!
Always great vids. That collar is standing and saluting. Bam!
Salute JD!
Outstanding advice. My favorite takeaway is maintaining one's standards
Dress standard: dress your age. Refrain from dressing 20 years younger. You may not like the reviews!
If you're not into:
1. Obese women
2. Women with children
3. Women who night club every weekend
4. Women who wear bonnets and slippers in public
Be honest with yourself and her (use discretion to avoid drama) and inform her: not interested.
You don't have to tell her everything (again, to avoid drama!)
Just say Ghetto:Women who wear bonnets and slippers in public
Love this video. These 13 dating topics can be utilized at any age. Great advice O.G.
Thanks Morris !
As a woman, I take some of these Nuggets and apply them to myself..... Thank you!
Dam everyone I meet talks about their ex!! I'm guilty of this myself...great video OG!
I'm learning!
Salute Ted !
This is for men and women. Thank you Jeff!
No problem!
That’s a handsome suit. A little too snow for my liking but it is the style nowadays. I forwarded your video to my father-in-law who is trying to find a lady. And he’s doing it so old school that he literally wrote her a letter and pen and paper and sent it in the mail asking for a date. And I told him Pops that’s just not gonna work nowadays man. You are WAY out of touch. Long story short thanks for the video
your videos are great man, thank you.. Im 41, about to go out with a 34 year old woman who i know through friends.. weve been texting already, a lot in common,.. these little details may help keep me in the game, its appreciated.
Best of luck!
You’re so right about the talking about the ex... it’s comical... LOL!
Ha !
Maaaaan you are telling the Truth, I told my nephew if you want an example,look at the boondocks when granddad was looking for a date.
Salute to you OG. I have only recently discovered your channel and I have viewed some of your earlier posts. Very informative and relevant for both men and women. I am from Trinidad and Tobago . Again SALUTE to you and keep educating us.
Salute Kerwyn!
I'm a gent in my mid 40s and can date women in their 20s no problem, you just have to own it, be unapologetic, be in great shape and of course financially stable. Its a win win situation for both parties
#13 is bang on...
It prevents the scent of a woman from taking you off your purpose.
If they are worth it and fit, yes.. but take your time and chose wisely.
Great advise! Only 1 question. Don't bring up your ex. What if she brings her up to ask questions about my ex?
Appreciate It Style OG! Keep Bringing The Knowledge We Appreciate U!🔥🔥🔥🎙🎙🎙
Salute Terrance!
Style OG I Got A Question For You could you do a Look Book if you are going out on a Date To The Fair, Or OutDoor Festival?
Some great tips! I really need to break down and check out some dating apps.
Thanks Don !
what's up Jeff Donald from Cincinnati checking in just wanna say you are the real deal i only watch you keep coming with the great and as always Salute
Salute Donald!
Style OG with the Barz as usual, giving up free game. SALUTE
Salute Sunny !
Thank you for acknowledging that older men should have a current picture of themselves when going on dating apps.
Thanks💋
No problem!
To follow up on the honest factor, big things like “having kids” put that in your bio. It is extremely frustrating dating a man who failed to disclose the most important part of his life. Some women are okay with that but women like me are not. Be courteous of our time so you won’t have to waste yours.
Indeed !
Yes!!!!!
Do you have kids?
@@deyampert3738 why does that matter? I already stated I don’t want to date a man with kids
@Sally825 sounds like you're projecting. Whether I have or don't have, I know I don't want to date a man who does
Great video. I totally agree with your critiques and criticism.
Thanks!
I am 45, need all the help I can get
Hope it helped !
I’ve hooked up with girls but never dated seriously since I was a teenager, just turned 23 and there’s a girl I really like. I’m taking her out in a few days wish ya boy luck
Very informative, helpful, wise truths. Thanks for sharing
No problem!
Great content as always king. Salute!
Salute Willie !
Bro the content and the info you bring to your videos are spot on!! Thanks man.
As always, OG is right on pretty much everything.
Thanks!
Great info, could of used it 20 yrs ago.
By the way....I still love phone calls more than texting and emailing. I am old school like that!!!
Good intel as usual, Jeff. Thanks. 💪
You got it !
Great video as always. I've got a question, is it possible to wear chelsea boots with chinos and if so what are the best color combos and material best suited for it (suede or leather)
There is a fine line between being a gentleman and simping
Honestly...i HATE texting! (Unless it's a quick hello/goodmorning/goodnight) It's a turnoff for a man who has no communication skills.
Thanks for telling these nuckbucks about keeping it real about what he is looking for or dogging their ex! It makes a person look bad.
No problem!
I'm learning something new everyday, thx OG👊😎
No problem Israel !
Damn, I like how this man thinks and deliveries his message. I just subscribed because I think I will learn a lot on this channel.
Welcome!
Hi 👋
Oh man, I just did 3 of these on my last date, and man, wish I'd watched this beforehand lol. Great work brother!
Next time!
Great advice and accurate. These are the same things I did. Worked out well
Good advice. Now I have to go out and make it happen.
Great tips...hopefully men are listening!!! Thanks for sharing bro❤
Thanks Sis !
Thank you so much Mr. Jeff all of your videos are a great asset for us men. Keep up with the good work, blessings!
Glad you like them!