I'm a retired bus driver my last highest pay rate annual was $ 120,000 and proud to have been a bus driver payed my son's college intuition bought my son and daughter cars bought and invested in a mobile home park community all by being a bus driver smh black people something else. And i dated a bus driver married a garbage man and still standing no regrets life is good
@@lisagrayson3302 she isnt complaining she is debunking the false narrative that having a blue collar job means that you are poverty stricken. She has done everything to take care of her family, provide, for them and living happily.
@@wintersantiago2274 She says that she is a millionaire so who are we to say otherwise but the people on the Real Housewife franchises have an odd way of not being worth what they say they are. Either way she had a right to state her preferences. I wish her luck.
I had to drive a semi tractor truck for companies before I could own one to get an idea on it. Now I own one and it’s paid off. I had to work to make that happen.
My favorite uncle is a great guy and has driven a bus for years now, 80k a year, pension, full benefits and PTO amongst other benefits, he’s 32 very handsome, stable, no drugs or alcohol, owns a home and a car. So I would say CATCH or your loss.
Sounds like she's just looking for the bag! Most women I know are looking for a hardworking, decent man who matches their values and who loves them! If he happens to earn a lot of money, then that's icing on the cake, and not a deal breaker!
@@beepbopboop7727 The real question is why is she still dating at 40? Her male equivalent in age, income and status is either not checking for her or had her and didn't want to keep her
IYANLA ASKED THE QUESTION. EBONI ANSWERED HONESTLY. WHAT CIRCUMSTANCE WOULD A WOMAN OF HER CLASS LEVEL LEAD HER TO EVEN HAVE A CONVO WITH A BUS DRIVER? AND WHY ARE BLACK WOMEN THE ONLY GROUP TO BE CONDITIONED TO ACCEPT NOTHING OR LESS THAN WE DESERVE?
@@alanai1981 honestly it was the smug way she gave her answered that bothered people like me. It's fine that you have a preference, but don't turn your nose up at blue collar workers. Just like DL said, blue collar works you cant replace, but white collar ones can be. Eboni can be easily be replaced on that show, and that law license can be revoked quick if she handles a case badly (not saying she will). It was more about humbling yourself and remembering that not all have grand visions of owning a bus, but are comfortable driving and doing well at it
@@alanai1981 You BW keep talking this nonsense about what you deserve. What the hell does that even mean from your perspective? What exactly do you deserve and what are you basing it on. You *"deserve"* a rich man based on what exactly? Cause from what I can see. Many of you deserve to learn the ability to style and wear hair your own natural hair. Many of you deserve a gym membership. Many of you deserve femineity classes. Many of you deserve birth control. Many of you deserve to learn that you marry before you carry. So on and so forth.
@@TheConnonedrum She didn't turn up her nose, she said if he owned the bus company. The problem was she was honest and wasn't there to stroke black men's ego.
You'd be surprised at how many Women have stood by and helped their Men in the journey, just to get kicked to the curb and get cheated on once that Man is now "Somebody" with $$$ success... The 'Waiting to Exhale' plot happens...
No lies told, but they clapped when Jeezy, 50 and Lil Wayne say they are not dating the same women they dated when they were broke and nobody said anything. It's called gaslighting to keep you in your place...no sir.
Bullshit. That a false narrative these unfaithful modern women just can't stop lying to each other about. Only 20% of black women will EVER marry in their lifetime. Of the fortunate few that do it's these same WOMEN who are the ones filing for divorces & destroying families over 80% of the time, 90% for college educated women, & the percentages are even higher with our "most educated", can do bad all by myself, black women. Women leave, men don't, with most desireing to stay married and not have their family & themselves destroyed in the female centered family court system. Educated yourself my sister & stop lying to yourself & others.
Mother's have lost the biggest power that women process and that's EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. SO MANY WOMEN ARE TRYING TO BE MEN NOW . MEN ALWAYS HAVE NOT CARED SO WHY BE LUKE THEM😎
Why would anyone want to be with someone, if you have to buy their affection. If it's a 'working girl', then you understand the transaction, and act accordingly. But for someone that you want to have a more serious relationship with, Eboni's standards are pretty shallow. And that couple would be doomed from the start. You're basically paying her to date or marry you, then paying her off to get rid of the witch.
@Gary Spence why would a woman want to be with a man who can't provide a life style that a woman desires? The mortgage company can give a flying F'-ck about affection when the mortgage is due. My husband and I educated our children in private schools college, and now we vacation 2 weeks a year, so miss me with that, brokezilla.
I've never heard of Eboni K. My 💝Husband👑 is a semi truck driver. He was driving them first, now he owns a 🚚🚚🚚🚚fleet of trucks. We live an 🌟✨️💜abundant 🌟✨️and ✨️🌟prosperous life🌟✨️. We have autonomy and freedom to do whatever we want, whenever we want, because my 💝Husband👑 turned one truck into a 📊genius business plan.🏅💰
Eboni K is entitled to have her preferences. The problem is that she's complaining about her preferences not being available. That means you either have to be lonely, or adjust your mindset. The other problem with her and women like her is that the they expect the relationships to revolve around them, their demands. Their expectations, and their desires. If the men have demands or expectations or desires, we are called narcissists. Wimen don't care about what men want or need They want their demands met before they even consider doing anything for a man. One last thing. The things they think make them worth of a "high value" man aren't the things men are looking for in a woman. But Ebinu and others are training younger women to have these same demands and be willing to offer nothing but a pretty face, body, and vagina.
I wonder who does rebuttals on men when they judge average women? They have the nerve to complain about Ebony when they have the same naughty attitude like kitten in heels Samuels. The dusties can't control their hurt feelings 😢😢😢😢
@@superdupeninja8149 She's willing to wait and not settle but I'm done wit this. It's more important things that we should be mad about than someone's preference. It her life she can do what she wants. The end
DL gave a pointed reminder that those who have had to grind their way to success over a long period of time have many options and they will likely decide not to choose someone who has been waiting on the side that entire time for them to be successful, before deciding to give them their attention. In the bus driver analogy who owns the bus, he'd have to start being a bus driver in his teen or early twenties and wait until his late 30s at earliest, but most likely in his mid to late 40s to actually own the bus. By that time he'd already either have someone who decided to be with him before he owned the bus, or decide be with a much younger woman even after he owned the bus.
Yes, it's OK to have a preference. But baby, there are a lot of people who put that nonsense out there who are very LONELY people. Sounds like a producer doing a "Casting Call.". And then they lose the ROLE. NO, I'm not saying settle. But there are a lot of CRA-CRA's with deep pockets out here. Your strategy is WACK. Preach D.L.Hugley. Teach from the G.E.D. Platform. ❤❤❤
From what I hear Eboni started as a public defender the bus driver probably made more than she did. Now she’s surrounded by wealthy men who are looking for someone who isn’t her.
Facts! Her last ex, who was a white guy left her. She almost 40 years old. People ain't looking for a car that's been around the block so many times with different men. Kevin Samuels, somewhere just shaking his head.
Why are black Americans always angry over stupidity. She's right 99 percentages of women would rather a bus owner than a driver. Nothing is wrong with that. Here in my country men date women on their levels . When I met my hubby he sent me back to uni so that I can have a great situation. Nothing is wrong with that. She should be praised.
@@TheConnonedrum Kevin Samuels was right about these so called modern Black Women. They end up dying alone. Any wealthy man doesn't need an Ebony with her ignorant attitude. They want a supportive woman who will help that man grow even richer. If I owned a Bus company. I wouldn't want an Ebony anyway. It's like buying a used broke down bus. When I can buy a hardly use or new bus.
@@tweetyslife253 Praised for having standards inconsistent with her reality, and then promoting that bullshit?! I mean, it’s her right, but after a failed marriage and being ran by the streets, NOW she’s entitled to one of these many wealthy men in her orbit, AFTER 40, with that sass and weave?!?! Again, and in closing, she’s entitled to her standards/opinions but never to her bullshit facts.
@@tweetyslife253 Nothing wrong with what she said, but what Iyanla wanted her to understand is she's already in a position of meeting men in her tax bracket, but she's still single. At her age wealthy men can choose younger wives. If she wants LOVE, because she's financially set on her own, she needs to branch out. Young pretty privilege is more powerful than middle-aged pretty privilege.
He confirmed her decision.. she want the owner because he was probably the bus driver who was ambitious enough to own.. I don't understand his argument here.. she's already there why can't her preference be there as well..WTAF😮 be
Exactly, because we as women shouldn't have preferences. We should take what we can get with hopes he would aspire to become the owner or commander of his ship.
@monicac1147 No. Not at all. Women like men are Very much entitled to your preference BUT UNDERSTAND those men who are business owners Will Not male you there focal point the way a women desires a man to be. You can prefer the Owner over the worker all you want but Most or all successful Business owners (Men) have wife's who are 70% Home makers and 30% career Women. Men naturally do not care to dare Women who grind it out at the office ad much as they do and if they are into its always leads to physical attraction being made over time. This is all commons that women should think about if they truly want a 6 or 7 figure man.
@@monicac1147that was not the point...it was abt love and if u love somebody and he is a good man u can level up with him my parents did it..but yall women would rather be baby momd to future rather that get urselves a good man to love u
I don't believe Eboni was speaking in that context. I think she was talking about the mentality of having an average job with no desire of growth, ownership, entrepreneurship. Listening to her speak for the first time on the breakfast club, she didn't sound like she thought she above us. She just wants to be with someone who has the mindset of being the head and not the tail, which I believe in too. She never denigrated the journey, because she was on the same path. She just wants our people to be on that path as well to elevate ourselves and our families and people. Only people who disagree with this mindset are blindly or intentionally trying to keep us down and destroy us.
DL, in general you are talking about young people that are building! We are talking about Older established professional women, black women specifically. She is not 20 just building her career and him building his!
Thank you! These men want her to spend 20 years building herself (by herself) then load her down at 40 to do it again FOR HIM! These men think our purpose in life is to be worn down to nothing.
What good is a book with a pretty cover, if the words on the inside are ugly ! The more y'all keep sticking mics in these people faces, they gone keep thinking they opinion matters to anyone but themselves !!
NOPE! IYANLA ASKED THE QUESTION TO SHAME HER INTO DOING WHAT BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN DOING FOR CENTURIES, DATE SOMEONE WHO IS NOT ON HER FINANCIAL LEVEL OR HER ACHIEVEMENT LEVEL. WHAT IS MORTIFYING TO ME IS WHY SOOOOO MANY BLACK WOMEN ARE OK WITH THE NOTION THAT IF HE DOESNT WANT MORE OUT OF LIFE THATS OK AND YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY WITH STRUGGLE LOVE?
@@alanai1981 my dad was a bus driver and he gave me my sister and my mother a good life ! Stop with the disrespect !! Men like myself who had fathers who went to work everyday and came home every night didn't grow up with struggle, it wasn't about being content with less but committed to his duty to his family !
@@alanai1981 , the biggest problem in the discussion is women making it "all or nothing". If he's not the owner or a millionaire, he's on the struggle bus or he's a build-a-boo... where's the support for men doing well at middle management or high-earning blue collar jobs? The push back to high-earning women with the high standards is largely coming because of this big blindspot. Just because he's not at Tyler Perry or Jeff Bezos' level doesn't mean he lacks anything anywhere🤷🏽♀️
Hypocrites. As if men don't have a higher than thou attitude when it comes to women. None of you want average women as you declare yet get angry because a woman is telling you the same thing. Keeping whining 😢 you can't change her
@@JACKMETZ who cares. Those silly numbers are meaningless. No other races uses these useless numbers. If those numbers applied, mediocre men would be a 1/10. She said what she said. That's final
It is not menial labor it is manual labor, and my plumber and car mechanic are way more important in my life then a lawyer, singer, judge, mayor any day.
What she said went over a lot of ppl heads. It showed me how the black community really doesn’t desire ownership & power. Nothing wrong with blue collar jobs when that’s all our parents could get, now do better than them. Each generation should aim to step up that’s building generational wealth. Also, there’s nothing wrong with desiring your equal and helping each other grow together. Equally Yoked means mindset too. Wake up y’all.
Thanks for being objective and reasonable. Most folks did not even hear her interview and they're letting others influence their opinion on what she actually said.
Eboni has money. She is allowed to have preferences. She is an owner and wants her man to own. She doesn't want to be the one to help a man build, let's be real, there are plenty of cases where the woman who helps a man build is not the one the man respects and rewards. DL knows what is up.
She doesn't have a man though she's 40 but the man she wants doesn't want her cause just she wouldnt date a bus driver then men she wants is looking at her just like she is a bus driver ... So if dating down for her is the bus driver then dating down for the men she wants would be her ... Honestly the bus driver probably was her only option for a man but now the bus driver think he would be dating down....so no man on any level wants her whether that level be below her level, above her level, or somebody on her level... No man would deal with her...
Maybe next you can touch on wealthy men not picking unattractive women to date because they also shouldn’t be made to feel less than. It’s not their choice to be unattractive. They deserve romantic consideration. I’m hoping to end this discrimination too 😐
It’s the same thing!!!! I’ve turned down a lot of women who I wasn’t attracted to and I’m sure in vice versa but I’m not going to belittle them or call them less than because I don’t find them Attractive just say ur not interested and move on
@@korypeoples3497 that’s exactly what she did. I love that people are intentionally forgetting that she was referring to the men calling her out of her name and saying she’d die alone when she made the “c’s and d’s comment NOT blue collar workers. If someone calls me out of my name the nicest thing they’ll get is a comment about grades. She’s a better person than me and better than those people deserved!
It's OK to have preference. But it was her ATTITUDE TOWARD THE BUS DRIVER THAT WAS INSULTING. Ayala named all these QUALITIES a man can have, AND IT DIDN'T MATTER TO HER. It was the TITLE AND MONEY THAT MATTERED. She said it, AND HER "FACE" SAID IT.
Dad was a Army vet wounded in action. A skilled blue collar aerospace industry technician, assistant minister, and beloved community member. Mom was a teacher for a short while before marriage at 22 then a stay at home wife and mom. She resumed teaching in our local school district (so she could still keep an eye on the kids😅) after their youngest entered middle school. They first met in elementary school back in Mississippi before re-meeting by chance in California after dads discharge & moms family migrating to L.A. They worked together, invested their money, bought a beautiful home for the family to enjoy, took us on wonderful family vacations, developed lifelong relationships in the community & church, & when dad died after 60 years of marriage left mom a millionaire surrounded with loving children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, long time chuch members, and neighbors. Don't worry my hardworking black brothers. If our "most educated" & "I can do bad all by myself" black sisters don't want you there are MILLIONS of beautiful women here and all over the world that are more than willing to submit, be your wife, raise your children, and together build a life with. These dillusional feminist who look down on hard working so-called blue collar men are what my Mississippi grandmother called "educated fools".
Well… -). She has a platform with plenty of reach, -). She’s promoting a destructive mindset, as “good and empowering” while being divorced from reality, -). There are many ways to somewhat promote that, but her sassy demeanor and weave?! Forget it, she belongs to the very streets she came out of! C’mon now! Divorced, failed relationships (“I’ve tried them all,” she gloats), bitter and then promoting this shit? The very men she’s convinced is entitled to, will play that clip ad infinitum in their minds, and potentially blow her back out, but for anything serious? Yea… there’s an age for a woman to be openly hypergamous, having choices/options and that’s between 18/27. If those years are wasted running the streets, chasing degrees and accolades, or climbing the corporate ladder then don’t complain when NO ONE looks your way, because men of wealth don’t put up with anyone’s bullshit, let alone a sassy, weave-wearing past-the-wall black woman.
She being singled out because she’s a popular figure and she answered the question that was asked in her own way….personally, I don’t see anything wrong with what she said, I do see fault in how she said it though…..she came across condescending and rude in her response and she shifted the narrative as to she was lookin out for black people, encouraging black people to want better and do better….better for who though. So she has a right to her preferences. She want what she wants and ain’t nothing wrong with that🤷🏽♀️
@@mskeepinit1hundred Anyone that disagrees with her, is disagreeing with millions of years of human evolution. We like to pretend that we are more evolved than we really are.
@@mskeepinit1hundred You don’t see anything wrong with what she said, but HOW she said it?! Lemme translate this, like a man: “…I AGREE WITH HER, REGARDLESS.” That’s the same narrative with Kevin Samuels, tho. Most women agreed with what he said, however his delivery was “lacking.” 🤔🤔 This lady’s downright, divorced from reality. And yes, she’s entitled to her preferences as well as reaping the consequences of said preferences. Just don’t go around shaming men into liking you.
@@BolitaDeKetica so you think she shaming men into liking her? And who is feeling shamed? According to your statement, it’s men who feel shamed and to that I have to ask why do some men feel shamed by what she prefers? What she really did was narrow her pool of desired men. That’s on her. She’s the one that wants to be in a relationship and the men that she wants to be with seem like they not checking for her so what she did was cut off her nose to spite her face. That bus driver that she said she don’t want may very well be on that path to owning the bus but now after he hears what she said and how she said it, he ain’t gonna want her.
This is potential versus actualized potential. People with actualized potential have shown and proved they will put in the work and figured out how to solve problems. People with just potential are hope and promises. Some will actualize but many won’t and you can’t get that time back. Also income disparity can lead to problems if the person with lesser income feels insecure about it. It can turn into resentment. This tends to be more true for men due to societal expectations that they earn more. And plenty of women have “invested” in men to help them achieve success only to then be discarded for a younger model. And some of these potentials have no interest in actualizing. And some just want access to better resources with minimal effort. If a woman chooses a man who actualized she knows he can have others but ultimately he chose her but it wasn’t because he “needed” her for basic life support. Potential is cool but only if the person is actually taking steps to actualize. And if you’ve made it, why would you want to go backwards instead of reaching out to people who already are where you’re at so that you could build even more and you know both are willing to do it?
I think she was trying to show example that we should think about ownership and not renters or work for someone else, we should understand how we can create wealth by being owner or becoming
Eboni K Williams' words have been taken out of context. She NEVER said she would NEVER date a bus driver. Also, she never said ONLY a bus owner. She even provided her mother as an example of a former bus driver who went on to become an entrepreneur. She did not call ALL bus drivers mediocre, nor did she say they were not worthy of love. She has worked hard and she is entitled to her opinion. I would gladly date a bus driver; however, most "educated" women would never list bus drivers' as their first choice. By the way, black men (especially) state their preferences which many time excludes well-educated black women. Where is their backlash? Also, no other culture attacks someone of that culture for striving for the top careers, not just a salary, per se. I stan EBK, all day and twice on Sunday! #IstanEboniKWilliams
I gotta disagree on this one. She articulated in a poor manner that she’s the doctor who wants to marry another doctor; which happens very often. Our take on it lack of ambition of many black men. Black women are taught to overachieve while black men are allowed to play well into their 40’s and then decide to “get together.” How many women have these “men” gone through? How many children, opportunities while men from other races have their ish together by 30.
How could this be true when both Black men and Black women are raised in the same environments. Young Black men are perceived as a threat at 10. The world they have to navigate is completely different than a young black woman. Black women are perceived a threat after they hit 30. They have a longer time to get an education and or career. I know you have zero statistical data to back up your claim.
No one is mad. DL is right, if you going to say that's what you want, be ready for what comes with it. Especially if you find yourself with no one at the end. Bus or no bus :-)
No one cares about her preferences, it’s her punching down on everyday working class BM who she deems as “mediocre” and “average”. She seems to have an elitist attitude aside from her comments. I can see why highly accomplished men of her status may not be checking for her.
the man hit the nail on the head. if i own the bus now, why would i be interested in a woman who did not express any interest in me before this point ? and furthermore, why should i be exclusively interested in her when multiple women of her same caliber are offering me the same thing and they do not really care how many women i have now ??
We all have preferences but at the end of the day, be willing to live with the consequences of those preferences, good or bad. Let's be real.....Eboni K. Williams would get clowned by her peers for dating a bus driver. Unfortunate but that's reality. That said, being a bus driver is not a "mediocre" job. In the DC metro area, a lot of the drivers make great money with great benefits. Plus, do people consider the fact that bus drivers may be happy with what they do and sleep well at night?? Providing for their families?
The women who struggle with these men are usually left behind once they attain a certain status. I'm not saying that a woman should always look for the millionaire, but never settle for mediocre. Find someone who is evenly yoked to you and worked from that vantage point. Black women have been used since their departure from the plantation by and for the black man's survival and upward mobility. Yes ladies have your preference, don't settle. If he can have it without you and come to you whole I guarantee you will have a much better life. The narrative that you should be a ride or die has long since been debunked. Ride or die gets you nothing. Keep your boundaries, standards and expectations, never give in to the idea that once he makes it, life will be good. Statistically for the black woman this is not the outcome.
Where are those stats? I see that point a few different places but honestly never in my surroundings. It's the opposite. I see so many that built together and are enjoying the fruits. Could this be just from your personal experience?
2:50 This right here is my issue with a lot of women these days. They don’t want you until you’ve made it or in other words once it’s become convenient. And at that point it’s convenient for a man to exercise choice! The real value is believing in somebody when they haven’t made it yet…not once they already have.
@@TheWholeWorld1 Why is so hard for backward men to understand that a higher earning woman is too challenging for them? You keep on using the term modern women. Where are the modern men? Why are you men not measuring up? I think it's time you got over Ebony K Williams. She said what she said. Those are her standards and boundaries. No amount of dragging, complaining, whining and crying is going to change that
Which is crazy because “when he gets on he leave your Azz for a wyte girl” proving Black women stay with the broke Black men only to be left behind when “their choices” get better. LAME.
I can see why people are upset by the commentary but remove the emotional response. She went on further to say “ if you’re okay with driving the bus, that’s okay, if that is the maximum of your skill set”. I heard it as push higher. She said she dated a partner at a law firm making 400k but she didn’t think they were compatible because he was settling and did not want more/ ownership. He could take his talents and open his own practice. So it wasn’t about money or status, more of a mindset for ambition, growth and ownership.
Naw FOH….. she meant what she said….. she’s only elaborating more because of the backlash….. her original statement “If he owns the bus” is what she meant….. it is what it is, no excuses for her…. Say what you mean and mean what you say and I would have to say she did just that….. everything after that is just her tryna cool the heat down a lil bit
@@ysl_443ysl that would make sense if she wasn’t consistent in her messaging through her book (which I have read) and on her podcast. She talks at length about the importance of ownership. So it isn’t reverse engineered it’s what she actually believes. Her beliefs obviously offended people but it’s a matter of preference. Women get offended when men state their preferences, and men took offense to her words.
@@GldnkidDJ no offense taken….. i just know she meant what she said….. 90% of women want a man after he already went through the grind. Which in return, the men are smarter than the men who came before us and we encourage these women to keep speaking like this. It helps us weed though the women who want you for what you done worked hard for vs a genuine women.✌️
We still talk about this because this is the mentality of most modern black women in America. They want to be with someone who already made it, but not struggle with us to make it. And it is not going to happen anymore because now we are going overseas to find wives with better value. So, we don't have to deal with this nonsense. ***Passport Bro***
@@housseyntimite4415 are you joking? Why do you care about the mentality a group of women that you dont even want? You men don't measure up. You prove Ebony right by your mediocrity. She said what she said. It's final. Get over it. In your lazy stagnant mediocrity which is your choice, you're suffering the consequences as the women don't want you as you have nothing better to offer. So you're taking your mediocrity overseas to the third world. When that gets exhausted you'd be heading for the rocket to go to Mars
Hey guys, don't hate on women for their preferences....even if later they don't own them. She wasn't putting blue collar workers down.....even though she used the word mediocre (Google the definition). Why would she at her level even consider a bus driver.....even though her own mother did it. In all seriousness, I hope every prospect in her income range has been paying attention
Many bus drivers earn more than attorneys . I know several attorneys who are saddled with heavy student loan debt and have an address at the local UPS store.
Ain't nothing wrong with preference in potential partner but I think Eboni came off kind of sideways. My cousin worked as an MTA bus driver for 25+ years. She owns a brownstone she lives in and is a landloard of another building. Not everyone's circumstance is the same but u can make a good living as a bus driver depending on where u live. Some people don't own the organization but doesn't mean they lack drive.
I love your show but I have a hard time with the quality of sound. I can't sit my phone down and enjoy your content while preparing for work. Someone please help⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️
All the success, awards, money, fame and college degrees in the world and still bitter, lonely and depressed while tryna force herself to look happy in public. Same ol story and women will find a way to blame all men(even the ones they never met before) for this, which means nothing will ever be learned from these conversations... Everyone should have a preference but just because you have 1 doesn't mean your preference feels the same about you, otherwise you'd be happily married by now 🤷🏾♂
Who is to blame for men's mediocrity. It seems like a lot of men and women of a certain demographic got their egos hurt. They couldn't take a truth that hidden in the dark being brought to life. The men who chose to do little in life, bare minimum, low effort route blame the system and women for their failures. Zero accountability. These men are spoilt as they've been raised to be coddled, muled for and told that they're kings despite achieving so little. Remaining at the low end. Yet expect high tier women to house them, provide and protect them. So delusional 😮
@@lydiamusima5840 "Yet expect high tier women to house them, provide and protect them"...WRONG! Men want a woman that brings peace, women want a men that brings status, however what if what you want doesn't want you? Here's a life long analogy that will always apply: A woman with money will see a man working at McDonalds and immediately think she can do better because status and money that she already has is the 1st thing on her mind, a man with money will see a woman working at McDonalds and still ask her out because peace is the 1st thing on his mind not money and status that he already has. It's ALOT of rich people lonely and miserable due to thinking they can do better which reminds me of my favorite bible quote that's not real, "and the lord said "HUMBLE THYSELF MY CHILD!!"".............
This woman is crazy. I didn't even know who this woman was until 2 weeks ago. I'm from the UK and used to drive buses, her message travelled internationally and one bus driver clapped back at Ebony in a music video. Did you guys see it? Its on RUclips "Would you date a bus driver?"- SLAMS EBONI K WILLIAMS
Love you DL, however, where were you when Kevin Samuels was calling black women average, saying they should be a size 6. no baby mama's. etc to get a high quality black man? Why didn't you speak out when he was honored at the BET awards? Not enough of celebrity black men spoke loudly enough about how black women were being degraded on the internet, so the double standard speaks volumes. No, black woman have a right to date or not whomever they want. Black women has stood beside black men for centuries, and all they have gotten lately is rich black men marrying out, the black manosphere and red pill. No thanks!
I had to Google who this Avenue K Williams not only is but what important. I have to ask a question, why is what she like the don't like it so, newsworthy? I have family and friends who arjo has been bust Drive look for the state and private business. The money that they make an hour and in a year, and they don't have to sell dance soul to make that kind of money. One of my friends comedy drive for company and he is always requested to be the New York Yankees bus driver. Let me inform this Eboni K Williams, the tips that he receive from the team playing and they treat him like he's a member of the team. Eboni K Williams, you're on top of the world now as far as you're concerned but there may come a day.
Mist me with that foolishness! I saw an entire series where they asked black ladies & White ladies their expectations for a man's salaries that they would date. All the black ladies were on the struggle love bus and willing to work with a brother. All the white ladies were on that 6 figures and up type situation. Black ladies are socialized to have low expectations. White ladies are socialized to have standards. When black ladies have standards we are goldiggers. When White ladies have standards, it's acceptable. Black men will rise to the occasion to date Becky but not when they date a black lady. White ladies can be soft and feminine because men provide an environment for them to do so. Black ladies are forced to be masculine and hustle to get the bag because black men don't provide an environment for us to be soft and feminine. That being said, black ladies open your options and date outside of black men. Let them protect and provide for their preference (Becky). Train your eyes to find other nationality of men attractive. Black men prefer Becky. You had better start learning to prefer Brad or get you some cats!
What series was that? And what standards and statistical data did they use to choose the women surveyed? Men who make over six figures are less than 5% of the population. So it's a crazy expectation even for them. I have seen many White women working with their man to start and grow a small business into an empire in my lifetime. I've hardly seen any examples of that from Black women. They want to show up after it's already built. Ebony's attitude is a prime example of this. She could have married much younger. Another attorney starting out, but she probably had this same attitude back then. She wanted the man already accomplished. When the accomplished man already has a woman.
Yeah i saw that. It was embarrassing. Black women are now raising their standards and its taking a while for the black community to get used to it. They see it as a threat especially with what Ebony said. I feel the BM from the dust feel threatened by these standards. They fear a bleak future that with more and more BW marrying men of different races and improving their standards, they'd be left on the shelf. They won't have a group of ride or die women coddling and muling for them, providing for them anymore. That's coming soon
They mad because she's their preference and she don't want them. This girl have millions but she's suppose to wait until he finish his 12 shift to hangout...it's not logical.
Daniel Craig,Jay Leno,Obama,and Tyler Perry. Common thread: they were all at one time…homeless. Which explains why they didn’t get with the Eboni K. Williams of the world.
Yes.... when they were younger. But do you think any of them now would date a woman who is not successful on her own? Obama certainly didn't do it after he got his degrees and jobs. He went after a woman in a higher position. But a successful woman must settle for anything right?
Do you think Michelle Obama (a lawyer) would have married a random bus driver too? Barak Obama was a Harvard grad lawyer when she met him. Eboni went through years of school and hard work to get to where she's at, why should she settle for a bus driver and not the owner? Why would the bus driver even want to date someone who has achieved way more than them? What could they possibly talk about? "Honey, you won't believe today, I had a bum try to board the bus without paying..."
Really? Do you actually think she desires any of those older men? Besides, she had a tough life and she doesn't want to struggle anymore which is her right.
@@according2cathy309 : Based off your whimsical brand of logic,Halle Berry,Jennifer Lopez,and Singer Jewel,who were homeless before becoming successful are too OLD to pull someone like,Michael B. Jordan?! To quote Kevin Samuels,”get a dog,and die alone Lady…”
I find what she said to be hilarious. She's 39 years old and remember in her own words she said "I've done them all". So according to her she's dating several men of different backgrounds and ethnicity. And nothing has worked for her.😂 It's obvious that she's the problem.
Some people need to be careful with their tongues you should never say it out loud because you're given he or she is beneath you their job title shouldn't matter as long as they are a kind and loving human being as far as you saying you will not date a bus driver who's to say the bus driver want date you and own the company you're going to miss out on a lot of good dates great experiences and perhaps you will never meet your king and your king won't be looking for you because your high maintenance attitude will turn him off you put your face out there it's so sad you feel this way basing relationships on job titles do you think your heart wants love or just materialistic sounds to me like you just want things not love money can't buy you love only things only thing money can do is pay bills and buy things some people are just about for the love of money thinking it will bring them happiness😳 don't miss out on your king waiting for the wrong person the right person just might be the bus driver or a manager working at burger king 🤷🏾
Very painful to know how women are passing me up while I build. 2 Masters degrees later, none of them qualify for a man like me anyways. It’s amazing how that happens….
So now that you’ve got yourself together and have 2 Masters degrees, you are more choosy. Some women are not on your level now. Ok… Are you not doing the same thing she is? Evaluating what you bring to the table and getting more selective because you know you have a lot to offer?
@@nettegaines2067 I'm a man! It's a double-standard, and for every 1 of me, there are 10,000 of you (assuming that you are a woman). Those are the numbers. Also, most men don't view dating a woman who earns less than them as "settling down" but women do if they date a man earning less than her. I want her to be less career-oriented so that I can easily gain access to her time and customize her for my life and put her on my program. This is what it means to lead as a man. And I don't have to compromise my priorities either. If a woman doesn't want to get 100% onto my program, then I can just find another beautiful woman who will. This is the reality that feminist women struggle to comprehend. They have no leverage. Why? Because women rule sex, but men rule access to relationships. Have a nice night.
@@wynton921 the updated ratio is 98 men to 100 women. Black women have stepped outside of Black American men to date & have found that desiring a man who is a provider along with great character is the norm. Only Black men argue either or, it’s very weird. If you are still looking maybe try a Black Caribbean woman. Marrying & building generational wealth is STILL what the black community needs.
@@jayway22 the ratio I’m referring to is based on income….. how many men make over $350k/year vs the population of women in the dating market 😜 I appreciate your comment though.
@@wynton921 now what’s the ratio w/out men who use 😜 emoji’s? Eligible focused masculine blk men have no problem finding wives 😜 Lol next Mr Sass 💁🏾♂️
DL has a woman who loved him when he had nothing. Now he's a big success. He is a king of comedy, and he is still with his ride or die because he loves her so much. Unfortunately, he's cheated on her multiple times. He even had a side baby on her. So, if this is how "day ones " get treated. Why do women need to stick around for the struggle? Just show up when he's making real money and say, "Hey, big head, remember me?"
The tone policing of blk women has got to stop. We are the only people who are judged on the tone and not the message. I knew exactly what she was saying and the only people mad are the ones who wanted to be her preference or think low of themselves..smh.
It's not the tone. It's the message. It's why so many modern Black Women die alone! They want all the luxury without the work. Ebony's message is a disservice to younger Black females.
@@andreroy8141 Stop being so emotional, you must be one of the people I am referring to...🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 . Secondly, stop projecting your loneliness on others and get therapy. Have a great day sir.
@@monicac1147 I'm not lonely. I'm in a healthy relationship with a beautiful woman. She doesn't have to work, because I'm blessed enough to be able to provide for the both of us. So she works whenever she wants too. I have owned businesses and invested over the years. I would never get with an Ebony type attitude. You can spot them early in a relationship. I had a woman ask me once in a relationship. Would I buy her car? That was strike 1. She ended up striking out. The women I'm with. I bought her two. She never asked for 1.
@@andreroy8141 Any woman who agrees with male who refer to " women" as females is lost. Your comment did nothing but show me you want ownership of another person via marriage. Secondly, it is nothing wrong with wanting someone with the same financial and education level as yours. Lastly, bw have been dating and marriage men like this for centuries, How has it worked out for the community? Your life story has nothing to do with hers, she's 40 and well off but she suppose to wait until he eventually get his stuff together, make no sense. I'm pretty sure she could care less what you or these mammies think.
@DL Hughley, what Eboni K. Williams said, was NOT based on "preferences"; it was based on ENTITLEMENTS & PREJUDICES ! Entitlements are based on EGO ! Prejudices are DISCRIMINATORY !
Seems like a lot of women in the comments have ignored all the women who were upset with Eboni too smfh.... Most people were not upset at her preference. They were upset that she came off as a supreme asshole. But somehow men are getting all the blame 😂. DL spot on as usual
A lot of men are supremes when they openly express disdain for average mediocre women. They have all these superficial standards for what defines a woman's value. Now that a woman who's a millionaire states that mediocre men are not what she wants all hell breaks lose 😂. Why do blue collar men think they're entitled to a woman who earns a hundred times what they earn? What's the likelihood of that? While so many people from the BC are getting upset over a BW having standards and boundaries, hardly that many are thinking logically.
People are either remedial or just downright stupid... This conversation was never about a bus driver meaning the job itself. This woman is a lawyer why would she date down? I wouldn't want to date a bus driver either. Women have boundaries, standards, and expectations. The damn bar is always set so low for black women. There is nothing wrong with dating a bus driver if you are a cashier working at the Piggly Wiggly. If you are a seven-figure earner a bus driver is not going to be an option unless you want it to be.
@@titus01233 okay, tardo she is a millionaire... So you look it up. Because you black men are on the lowest totem pole doesn't mean you need to be in your feelings when a black women want, and expects more. Shake your head to that because it's truly embarrassing.
Thats not the point. I see a lot of hurt feelings, mockery and a lack of intelligent responses in this comment section. The hypocrisy is unbelievable. A lot of the people here have no ability to debunk but would rather mock and display a lot of dusty logic
Ms. Williams is a very attractive and smart lady. She knew exactly what she was saying . Her statement tells me and everybody else she looks down on blue-collar workers. I'm sure she has lost a lot of respect from men. She just doesn't get it.
Eboni has a right to her choice! I've heard more horror stories about wealthy professional women getting physically abused or even unalived by a guy who was blue-collar or non white collar worker! That's just the extreme! What about the guys who just get jealous and/or resentful of what a woman has, like her house, rental properties, businesses, car! Most men would date the most beautiful woman if given the choice!
I'm a retired bus driver my last highest pay rate annual was $ 120,000 and proud to have been a bus driver payed my son's college intuition bought my son and daughter cars bought and invested in a mobile home park community all by being a bus driver smh black people something else. And i dated a bus driver married a garbage man and still standing no regrets life is good
Good for you. However, that black woman doesn't want either, so why are you complaining?
@@lisagrayson3302 she isnt complaining she is debunking the false narrative that having a blue collar job means that you are poverty stricken. She has done everything to take care of her family, provide, for them and living happily.
@@isaiahtaylor9015 $120k isn’t a lot compared to a woman who is a millionaire.
@@wintersantiago2274 She says that she is a millionaire so who are we to say otherwise but the people on the Real Housewife franchises have an odd way of not being worth what they say they are. Either way she had a right to state her preferences. I wish her luck.
This is honestly beautiful for your family. I wonder if you’d want your college educated daughter to bring home a bus driver?
It'll be a cold day in hell before I convince anyone to want me. Let the haters hate and the discriminators discriminate. I do not fix perceptions!!
Very Well said, DL, as usual.
I had to drive a semi tractor truck for companies before I could own one to get an idea on it. Now I own one and it’s paid off. I had to work to make that happen.
My favorite uncle is a great guy and has driven a bus for years now, 80k a year, pension, full benefits and PTO amongst other benefits, he’s 32 very handsome, stable, no drugs or alcohol, owns a home and a car. So I would say CATCH or your loss.
What’s his @? I’m trying to see something 😆
If he has all of those things, I guarantee you a Black Woman has noticed. Pick who wants you.
Why would a millionaire date a bus driver? She should date someone in her own economic bracket.
Sounds like she's just looking for the bag! Most women I know are looking for a hardworking, decent man who matches their values and who loves them! If he happens to earn a lot of money, then that's icing on the cake, and not a deal breaker!
@@beepbopboop7727
The real question is why is she still dating at 40? Her male equivalent in age, income and status is either not checking for her or had her and didn't want to keep her
So true DL,what comes out of a person's mouth says a lot about them,I think people don't always have to give their opinion out loud on everything..
IYANLA ASKED THE QUESTION. EBONI ANSWERED HONESTLY. WHAT CIRCUMSTANCE WOULD A WOMAN OF HER CLASS LEVEL LEAD HER TO EVEN HAVE A CONVO WITH A BUS DRIVER? AND WHY ARE BLACK WOMEN THE ONLY GROUP TO BE CONDITIONED TO ACCEPT NOTHING OR LESS THAN WE DESERVE?
@@alanai1981 honestly it was the smug way she gave her answered that bothered people like me. It's fine that you have a preference, but don't turn your nose up at blue collar workers. Just like DL said, blue collar works you cant replace, but white collar ones can be. Eboni can be easily be replaced on that show, and that law license can be revoked quick if she handles a case badly (not saying she will). It was more about humbling yourself and remembering that not all have grand visions of owning a bus, but are comfortable driving and doing well at it
@@alanai1981 You BW keep talking this nonsense about what you deserve. What the hell does that even mean from your perspective? What exactly do you deserve and what are you basing it on. You *"deserve"* a rich man based on what exactly?
Cause from what I can see. Many of you deserve to learn the ability to style and wear hair your own natural hair. Many of you deserve a gym membership. Many of you deserve femineity classes. Many of you deserve birth control. Many of you deserve to learn that you marry before you carry. So on and so forth.
@@TheConnonedrum She didn't turn up her nose, she said if he owned the bus company. The problem was she was honest and wasn't there to stroke black men's ego.
@Lisa Grayson sorry facial expressions and voice tones don't lie.
You'd be surprised at how many Women have stood by and helped their Men in the journey, just to get kicked to the curb and get cheated on once that Man is now "Somebody" with $$$ success... The 'Waiting to Exhale' plot happens...
EXACTLY! AND EBONI STOOD 10 TOES DOWN AND SAID NOPE! IM NOT GOIN
Exactly!
No lies told, but they clapped when Jeezy, 50 and Lil Wayne say they are not dating the same women they dated when they were broke and nobody said anything. It's called gaslighting to keep you in your place...no sir.
Bullshit. That a false narrative these unfaithful modern women just can't stop lying to each other about. Only 20% of black women will EVER marry in their lifetime. Of the fortunate few that do it's these same WOMEN who are the ones filing for divorces & destroying families over 80% of the time, 90% for college educated women, & the percentages are even higher with our "most educated", can do bad all by myself, black women. Women leave, men don't, with most desireing to stay married and not have their family & themselves destroyed in the female centered family court system. Educated yourself my sister & stop lying to yourself & others.
Mother's have lost the biggest power that women process and that's EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. SO MANY WOMEN ARE TRYING TO BE MEN NOW . MEN ALWAYS HAVE NOT CARED SO WHY BE LUKE THEM😎
Amen. My parents were blue collar workers who helped family, friends, and the community. The most wise and loving 💙💜
Good for them. Some black women want to date bus drivers, some don't. Deal with it.
@Lisa Grayson .. Yeah, but Ebony is a 6 wanting a 10. She’s delusional
@@yo3rdtier128 And you still can't afford her, brokezilla!
Why would anyone want to be with someone, if you have to buy their affection. If it's a 'working girl', then you understand the transaction, and act accordingly. But for someone that you want to have a more serious relationship with, Eboni's standards are pretty shallow. And that couple would be doomed from the start. You're basically paying her to date or marry you, then paying her off to get rid of the witch.
@Gary Spence why would a woman want to be with a man who can't provide a life style that a woman desires? The mortgage company can give a flying F'-ck about affection when the mortgage is due. My husband and I educated our children in private schools college, and now we vacation 2 weeks a year, so miss me with that, brokezilla.
I've never heard of Eboni K.
My 💝Husband👑 is a semi truck driver. He was driving them first, now he owns a 🚚🚚🚚🚚fleet of trucks. We live an 🌟✨️💜abundant 🌟✨️and ✨️🌟prosperous life🌟✨️. We have autonomy and freedom to do whatever we want, whenever we want, because my 💝Husband👑 turned one truck into a 📊genius business plan.🏅💰
That is wonderful!!!
Aw, that’s a positive story. I can tell you’re proud of him.😊
Eboni K is entitled to have her preferences. The problem is that she's complaining about her preferences not being available. That means you either have to be lonely, or adjust your mindset.
The other problem with her and women like her is that the they expect the relationships to revolve around them, their demands. Their expectations, and their desires. If the men have demands or expectations or desires, we are called narcissists. Wimen don't care about what men want or need
They want their demands met before they even consider doing anything for a man.
One last thing. The things they think make them worth of a "high value" man aren't the things men are looking for in a woman. But Ebinu and others are training younger women to have these same demands and be willing to offer nothing but a pretty face, body, and vagina.
real shit brotha DL this was the best rebuttal by far
How do you rebuttal someone's preference?
I wonder who does rebuttals on men when they judge average women? They have the nerve to complain about Ebony when they have the same naughty attitude like kitten in heels Samuels. The dusties can't control their hurt feelings 😢😢😢😢
@@monicac1147 I mean are her preferences getting her what she wants? Sometimes we have conflicting requirements in partners
@@superdupeninja8149 She's willing to wait and not settle but I'm done wit this. It's more important things that we should be mad about than someone's preference. It her life she can do what she wants. The end
Her preference. Consider yourselves lucky, Bus Drivers.
Eboni labored for years to be successful. Why should she labor to make a man successful?
Exactly!
DL gave a pointed reminder that those who have had to grind their way to success over a long period of time have many options and they will likely decide not to choose someone who has been waiting on the side that entire time for them to be successful, before deciding to give them their attention. In the bus driver analogy who owns the bus, he'd have to start being a bus driver in his teen or early twenties and wait until his late 30s at earliest, but most likely in his mid to late 40s to actually own the bus. By that time he'd already either have someone who decided to be with him before he owned the bus, or decide be with a much younger woman even after he owned the bus.
Everyone starts somewhere !!
DL laid this down like the best wood floors. Yes, brother, yes.
Yes, it's OK to have a preference. But baby, there are a lot of people who put that nonsense out there who are very LONELY people. Sounds like a producer doing a "Casting Call.". And then they lose the ROLE. NO, I'm not saying settle. But there are a lot of CRA-CRA's with deep pockets out here. Your strategy is WACK. Preach D.L.Hugley. Teach from the G.E.D. Platform. ❤❤❤
From what I hear Eboni started as a public defender the bus driver probably made more than she did. Now she’s surrounded by wealthy men who are looking for someone who isn’t her.
Facts! Her last ex, who was a white guy left her. She almost 40 years old. People ain't looking for a car that's been around the block so many times with different men. Kevin Samuels, somewhere just shaking his head.
Why are black Americans always angry over stupidity. She's right 99 percentages of women would rather a bus owner than a driver. Nothing is wrong with that. Here in my country men date women on their levels . When I met my hubby he sent me back to uni so that I can have a great situation. Nothing is wrong with that. She should be praised.
@@TheConnonedrum Kevin Samuels was right about these so called modern Black Women. They end up dying alone. Any wealthy man doesn't need an Ebony with her ignorant attitude. They want a supportive woman who will help that man grow even richer. If I owned a Bus company. I wouldn't want an Ebony anyway. It's like buying a used broke down bus. When I can buy a hardly use or new bus.
@@tweetyslife253
Praised for having standards inconsistent with her reality, and then promoting that bullshit?! I mean, it’s her right, but after a failed marriage and being ran by the streets, NOW she’s entitled to one of these many wealthy men in her orbit, AFTER 40, with that sass and weave?!?! Again, and in closing, she’s entitled to her standards/opinions but never to her bullshit facts.
@@tweetyslife253 Nothing wrong with what she said, but what Iyanla wanted her to understand is she's already in a position of meeting men in her tax bracket, but she's still single. At her age wealthy men can choose younger wives. If she wants LOVE, because she's financially set on her own, she needs to branch out. Young pretty privilege is more powerful than middle-aged pretty privilege.
DL always with a great perspective
He confirmed her decision.. she want the owner because he was probably the bus driver who was ambitious enough to own.. I don't understand his argument here.. she's already there why can't her preference be there as well..WTAF😮 be
Exactly, because we as women shouldn't have preferences. We should take what we can get with hopes he would aspire to become the owner or commander of his ship.
@monicac1147 No. Not at all. Women like men are Very much entitled to your preference BUT UNDERSTAND those men who are business owners Will Not male you there focal point the way a women desires a man to be. You can prefer the Owner over the worker all you want but Most or all successful Business owners (Men) have wife's who are 70% Home makers and 30% career Women. Men naturally do not care to dare Women who grind it out at the office ad much as they do and if they are into its always leads to physical attraction being made over time. This is all commons that women should think about if they truly want a 6 or 7 figure man.
@@digfitness7598 Am I gonna have to tell him or will someone else tell him.. please somebody tell him😂
@@clifton299 😂 😂
@@monicac1147that was not the point...it was abt love and if u love somebody and he is a good man u can level up with him my parents did it..but yall women would rather be baby momd to future rather that get urselves a good man to love u
Why would would she want to put herself in situation like Wendy Williams, Sheri Shepard, and MJB of dating down financially.
This conversation was made on Roland Martin several years ago..MANY black AMERICAN women THINK this way
A Lot of my Sisters want it All and I say Good Luck!!💰💰💰💰😂🤣
And what's wrong with wanting it all?
@@according2cathy309 Nothing , but you just Reduce your Options. Few people if any Ever find Utopia!! 😄😄😄❤️
@@namvet1969 True
@@according2cathy309 It’s impossible not realistic lol
Her preference. Consider yourselves lucky, Bus Drivers.
I don't believe Eboni was speaking in that context. I think she was talking about the mentality of having an average job with no desire of growth, ownership, entrepreneurship. Listening to her speak for the first time on the breakfast club, she didn't sound like she thought she above us. She just wants to be with someone who has the mindset of being the head and not the tail, which I believe in too. She never denigrated the journey, because she was on the same path. She just wants our people to be on that path as well to elevate ourselves and our families and people. Only people who disagree with this mindset are blindly or intentionally trying to keep us down and destroy us.
Thanks for being a voice of reason and I agree with you 100%. They need to stop slandering EBK!
Preferences should be lived, not spoken, unless you crave attention
She was asked the question though.
@@may8043 every question, doesn’t deserve a answer
Facts
But black men are allowed to rap their preferences, promote them and say it loud but not black women?
Blue collar brothers are essential
DL, in general you are talking about young people that are building! We are talking about Older established professional women, black women specifically. She is not 20 just building her career and him building his!
Thank you! These men want her to spend 20 years building herself (by herself) then load her down at 40 to do it again FOR HIM! These men think our purpose in life is to be worn down to nothing.
What good is a book with a pretty cover, if the words on the inside are ugly ! The more y'all keep sticking mics in these people faces, they gone keep thinking they opinion matters to anyone but themselves !!
Totally agree!
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NOPE! IYANLA ASKED THE QUESTION TO SHAME HER INTO DOING WHAT BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN DOING FOR CENTURIES, DATE SOMEONE WHO IS NOT ON HER FINANCIAL LEVEL OR HER ACHIEVEMENT LEVEL. WHAT IS MORTIFYING TO ME IS WHY SOOOOO MANY BLACK WOMEN ARE OK WITH THE NOTION THAT IF HE DOESNT WANT MORE OUT OF LIFE THATS OK AND YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY WITH STRUGGLE LOVE?
@@alanai1981 my dad was a bus driver and he gave me my sister and my mother a good life ! Stop with the disrespect !! Men like myself who had fathers who went to work everyday and came home every night didn't grow up with struggle, it wasn't about being content with less but committed to his duty to his family !
@@alanai1981 , the biggest problem in the discussion is women making it "all or nothing". If he's not the owner or a millionaire, he's on the struggle bus or he's a build-a-boo... where's the support for men doing well at middle management or high-earning blue collar jobs?
The push back to high-earning women with the high standards is largely coming because of this big blindspot. Just because he's not at Tyler Perry or Jeff Bezos' level doesn't mean he lacks anything anywhere🤷🏽♀️
Most unattractive thing about Eboni isn’t her having a preference, but her higher-than-thou attitude towards the people who aren’t her preference.
Hypocrites. As if men don't have a higher than thou attitude when it comes to women. None of you want average women as you declare yet get angry because a woman is telling you the same thing. Keeping whining 😢 you can't change her
Good for Eboni K. Williams. I hope she stays that way. F'k these bum dudes and their dusty feelings.
And to top it off,she is not pretty to me.She is a 5.
@@JACKMETZ who cares. Those silly numbers are meaningless. No other races uses these useless numbers. If those numbers applied, mediocre men would be a 1/10. She said what she said. That's final
Bingo!!!!!
It is not menial labor it is manual labor, and my plumber and car mechanic are way more important in my life then a lawyer, singer, judge, mayor any day.
What she said went over a lot of ppl heads. It showed me how the black community really doesn’t desire ownership & power. Nothing wrong with blue collar jobs when that’s all our parents could get, now do better than them. Each generation should aim to step up that’s building generational wealth.
Also, there’s nothing wrong with desiring your equal and helping each other grow together. Equally Yoked means mindset too. Wake up y’all.
Cap!
@@edwardlamar3650 🤣🤣 you wish! We’ve been in this country how long & what do we own? Change your mindset.
@@jayway22 get a life
Thanks for being objective and reasonable. Most folks did not even hear her interview and they're letting others influence their opinion on what she actually said.
Exactly 📌
Eboni has money. She is allowed to have preferences. She is an owner and wants her man to own. She doesn't want to be the one to help a man build, let's be real, there are plenty of cases where the woman who helps a man build is not the one the man respects and rewards. DL knows what is up.
She doesn't have a man though she's 40 but the man she wants doesn't want her cause just she wouldnt date a bus driver then men she wants is looking at her just like she is a bus driver ... So if dating down for her is the bus driver then dating down for the men she wants would be her ... Honestly the bus driver probably was her only option for a man but now the bus driver think he would be dating down....so no man on any level wants her whether that level be below her level, above her level, or somebody on her level... No man would deal with her...
Her preference. Consider yourselves lucky, Bus Drivers.
Maybe next you can touch on wealthy men not picking unattractive women to date because they also shouldn’t be made to feel less than. It’s not their choice to be unattractive. They deserve romantic consideration. I’m hoping to end this discrimination too 😐
It’s the same thing!!!! I’ve turned down a lot of women who I wasn’t attracted to and I’m sure in vice versa but I’m not going to belittle them or call them less than because I don’t find them
Attractive just say ur not interested and move on
@@korypeoples3497 that’s exactly what she did. I love that people are intentionally forgetting that she was referring to the men calling her out of her name and saying she’d die alone when she made the “c’s and d’s comment NOT blue collar workers. If someone calls me out of my name the nicest thing they’ll get is a comment about grades. She’s a better person than me and better than those people deserved!
@@NKim-gj9vkNot including the death threats...smh
Boom! Thanks for pointing out that hypocrisy of men.
It's OK to have preference. But it was her ATTITUDE TOWARD THE BUS DRIVER THAT WAS INSULTING. Ayala named all these QUALITIES a man can have, AND IT DIDN'T MATTER TO HER. It was the TITLE AND MONEY THAT MATTERED. She said it, AND HER "FACE" SAID IT.
Dad was a Army vet wounded in action. A skilled blue collar aerospace industry technician, assistant minister, and beloved community member. Mom was a teacher for a short while before marriage at 22 then a stay at home wife and mom. She resumed teaching in our local school district (so she could still keep an eye on the kids😅) after their youngest entered middle school. They first met in elementary school back in Mississippi before re-meeting by chance in California after dads discharge & moms family migrating to L.A. They worked together, invested their money, bought a beautiful home for the family to enjoy, took us on wonderful family vacations, developed lifelong relationships in the community & church, & when dad died after 60 years of marriage left mom a millionaire surrounded with loving children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, long time chuch members, and neighbors.
Don't worry my hardworking black brothers. If our "most educated" & "I can do bad all by myself" black sisters don't want you there are MILLIONS of beautiful women here and all over the world that are more than willing to submit, be your wife, raise your children, and together build a life with. These dillusional feminist who look down on hard working so-called blue collar men are what my Mississippi grandmother called "educated fools".
I think it is called hypergamy, and all women practice it to some degree. Why is this sister being singled out.
Well…
-). She has a platform with plenty of reach,
-). She’s promoting a destructive mindset, as “good and empowering” while being divorced from reality,
-). There are many ways to somewhat promote that, but her sassy demeanor and weave?! Forget it, she belongs to the very streets she came out of!
C’mon now! Divorced, failed relationships (“I’ve tried them all,” she gloats), bitter and then promoting this shit? The very men she’s convinced is entitled to, will play that clip ad infinitum in their minds, and potentially blow her back out, but for anything serious? Yea… there’s an age for a woman to be openly hypergamous, having choices/options and that’s between 18/27. If those years are wasted running the streets, chasing degrees and accolades, or climbing the corporate ladder then don’t complain when NO ONE looks your way, because men of wealth don’t put up with anyone’s bullshit, let alone a sassy, weave-wearing past-the-wall black woman.
She being singled out because she’s a popular figure and she answered the question that was asked in her own way….personally, I don’t see anything wrong with what she said, I do see fault in how she said it though…..she came across condescending and rude in her response and she shifted the narrative as to she was lookin out for black people, encouraging black people to want better and do better….better for who though. So she has a right to her preferences. She want what she wants and ain’t nothing wrong with that🤷🏽♀️
@@mskeepinit1hundred Anyone that disagrees with her, is disagreeing with millions of years of human evolution. We like to pretend that we are more evolved than we really are.
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You don’t see anything wrong with what she said, but HOW she said it?! Lemme translate this, like a man:
“…I AGREE WITH HER, REGARDLESS.”
That’s the same narrative with Kevin Samuels, tho. Most women agreed with what he said, however his delivery was “lacking.”
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This lady’s downright, divorced from reality. And yes, she’s entitled to her preferences as well as reaping the consequences of said preferences. Just don’t go around shaming men into liking you.
@@BolitaDeKetica so you think she shaming men into liking her? And who is feeling shamed? According to your statement, it’s men who feel shamed and to that I have to ask why do some men feel shamed by what she prefers? What she really did was narrow her pool of desired men. That’s on her. She’s the one that wants to be in a relationship and the men that she wants to be with seem like they not checking for her so what she did was cut off her nose to spite her face. That bus driver that she said she don’t want may very well be on that path to owning the bus but now after he hears what she said and how she said it, he ain’t gonna want her.
It's worse than that.... what they are saying is you have no value outside of finances
This is potential versus actualized potential. People with actualized potential have shown and proved they will put in the work and figured out how to solve problems. People with just potential are hope and promises. Some will actualize but many won’t and you can’t get that time back. Also income disparity can lead to problems if the person with lesser income feels insecure about it. It can turn into resentment. This tends to be more true for men due to societal expectations that they earn more. And plenty of women have “invested” in men to help them achieve success only to then be discarded for a younger model. And some of these potentials have no interest in actualizing. And some just want access to better resources with minimal effort. If a woman chooses a man who actualized she knows he can have others but ultimately he chose her but it wasn’t because he “needed” her for basic life support. Potential is cool but only if the person is actually taking steps to actualize.
And if you’ve made it, why would you want to go backwards instead of reaching out to people who already are where you’re at so that you could build even more and you know both are willing to do it?
MR. HUGHLEY, YOU COULDN'T HAVE SUMMARIZE it any better
I think she was trying to show example that we should think about ownership and not renters or work for someone else, we should understand how we can create wealth by being owner or becoming
Exactly - but everybody got in their feelings.
I understand her point on that but that wasn’t her original message
Eboni K Williams' words have been taken out of context. She NEVER said she would NEVER date a bus driver. Also, she never said ONLY a bus owner. She even provided her mother as an example of a former bus driver who went on to become an entrepreneur. She did not call ALL bus drivers mediocre, nor did she say they were not worthy of love. She has worked hard and she is entitled to her opinion. I would gladly date a bus driver; however, most "educated" women would never list bus drivers' as their first choice. By the way, black men (especially) state their preferences which many time excludes well-educated black women. Where is their backlash? Also, no other culture attacks someone of that culture for striving for the top careers, not just a salary, per se. I stan EBK, all day and twice on Sunday! #IstanEboniKWilliams
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I gotta disagree on this one. She articulated in a poor manner that she’s the doctor who wants to marry another doctor; which happens very often.
Our take on it lack of ambition of many black men. Black women are taught to overachieve while black men are allowed to play well into their 40’s and then decide to “get together.”
How many women have these “men” gone through? How many children, opportunities while men from other races have their ish together by 30.
How could this be true when both Black men and Black women are raised in the same environments. Young Black men are perceived as a threat at 10. The world they have to navigate is completely different than a young black woman. Black women are perceived a threat after they hit 30. They have a longer time to get an education and or career. I know you have zero statistical data to back up your claim.
Why are men mad? If you aren’t in her dating demographic, find someone who is. The same goes both ways. She’s upholding her standards.
No one is mad. DL is right, if you going to say that's what you want, be ready for what comes with it. Especially if you find yourself with no one at the end. Bus or no bus :-)
No one cares about her preferences, it’s her punching down on everyday working class BM who she deems as “mediocre” and “average”. She seems to have an elitist attitude aside from her comments. I can see why highly accomplished men of her status may not be checking for her.
the man hit the nail on the head. if i own the bus now, why would i be interested in a woman who did not express any interest in me before this point ? and furthermore, why should i be exclusively interested in her when multiple women of her same caliber are offering me the same thing and they do not really care how many women i have now ??
Very well said😎
We all have preferences but at the end of the day, be willing to live with the consequences of those preferences, good or bad.
Let's be real.....Eboni K. Williams would get clowned by her peers for dating a bus driver. Unfortunate but that's reality.
That said, being a bus driver is not a "mediocre" job. In the DC metro area, a lot of the drivers make great money with great benefits. Plus, do people consider the fact that bus drivers may be happy with what they do and sleep well at night?? Providing for their families?
The women who struggle with these men are usually left behind once they attain a certain status. I'm not saying that a woman should always look for the millionaire, but never settle for mediocre. Find someone who is evenly yoked to you and worked from that vantage point. Black women have been used since their departure from the plantation by and for the black man's survival and upward mobility. Yes ladies have your preference, don't settle. If he can have it without you and come to you whole I guarantee you will have a much better life. The narrative that you should be a ride or die has long since been debunked. Ride or die gets you nothing. Keep your boundaries, standards and expectations, never give in to the idea that once he makes it, life will be good. Statistically for the black woman this is not the outcome.
Where are those stats? I see that point a few different places but honestly never in my surroundings. It's the opposite. I see so many that built together and are enjoying the fruits. Could this be just from your personal experience?
2:50 This right here is my issue with a lot of women these days. They don’t want you until you’ve made it or in other words once it’s become convenient. And at that point it’s convenient for a man to exercise choice! The real value is believing in somebody when they haven’t made it yet…not once they already have.
Yeah but you want women who earn a hundred times what you earn to descend to your level.
Dam those hoes get u a white man
@@lydiamusima5840..men and women have DIFFERENT mating strategies. Why is it SO HARD for modern women to understand that?
@@TheWholeWorld1 Why is so hard for backward men to understand that a higher earning woman is too challenging for them? You keep on using the term modern women. Where are the modern men? Why are you men not measuring up? I think it's time you got over Ebony K Williams. She said what she said. Those are her standards and boundaries. No amount of dragging, complaining, whining and crying is going to change that
Which is crazy because “when he gets on he leave your Azz for a wyte girl” proving Black women stay with the broke Black men only to be left behind when “their choices” get better. LAME.
I can see why people are upset by the commentary but remove the emotional response. She went on further to say “ if you’re okay with driving the bus, that’s okay, if that is the maximum of your skill set”. I heard it as push higher. She said she dated a partner at a law firm making 400k but she didn’t think they were compatible because he was settling and did not want more/ ownership. He could take his talents and open his own practice. So it wasn’t about money or status, more of a mindset for ambition, growth and ownership.
Naw FOH….. she meant what she said….. she’s only elaborating more because of the backlash….. her original statement “If he owns the bus” is what she meant….. it is what it is, no excuses for her…. Say what you mean and mean what you say and I would have to say she did just that….. everything after that is just her tryna cool the heat down a lil bit
@@ysl_443ysl that would make sense if she wasn’t consistent in her messaging through her book (which I have read) and on her podcast. She talks at length about the importance of ownership. So it isn’t reverse engineered it’s what she actually believes. Her beliefs obviously offended people but it’s a matter of preference. Women get offended when men state their preferences, and men took offense to her words.
Exactly!
@@GldnkidDJ no offense taken….. i just know she meant what she said….. 90% of women want a man after he already went through the grind. Which in return, the men are smarter than the men who came before us and we encourage these women to keep speaking like this. It helps us weed though the women who want you for what you done worked hard for vs a genuine women.✌️
TELL IT!!
In the words of the great philosopher Yeezy, "I aint saying she a golddigger, but she aint messin with a broke N166A
It's been three weeks, why are we still talking about this? Everyone has their own preferences, so let's respect hers and move on.
We still talk about this because this is the mentality of most modern black women in America. They want to be with someone who already made it, but not struggle with us to make it. And it is not going to happen anymore because now we are going overseas to find wives with better value. So, we don't have to deal with this nonsense. ***Passport Bro***
Her preference, your preference.
I know. Its too much now. Certain people's egos are hurt. They can't get over the harsh reality check
@@housseyntimite4415 are you joking? Why do you care about the mentality a group of women that you dont even want? You men don't measure up. You prove Ebony right by your mediocrity. She said what she said. It's final. Get over it. In your lazy stagnant mediocrity which is your choice, you're suffering the consequences as the women don't want you as you have nothing better to offer. So you're taking your mediocrity overseas to the third world. When that gets exhausted you'd be heading for the rocket to go to Mars
I think everyone needs to get over it. No one can control or regulate standards and boundaries for high earning women. She said what she said. Move on
Hey guys, don't hate on women for their preferences....even if later they don't own them. She wasn't putting blue collar workers down.....even though she used the word mediocre (Google the definition). Why would she at her level even consider a bus driver.....even though her own mother did it.
In all seriousness, I hope every prospect in her income range has been paying attention
Why do we hold Black women to a higher standard than we do Black men? Nobody would ask a Black male doctor or lawyer such a question.
Many bus drivers earn more than attorneys . I know several attorneys who are saddled with heavy student loan debt and have an address at the local UPS store.
Ain't nothing wrong with preference in potential partner but I think Eboni came off kind of sideways. My cousin worked as an MTA bus driver for 25+ years. She owns a brownstone she lives in and is a landloard of another building. Not everyone's circumstance is the same but u can make a good living as a bus driver depending on where u live. Some people don't own the organization but doesn't mean they lack drive.
Touche'!!!!
I love your show but I have a hard time with the quality of sound. I can't sit my phone down and enjoy your content while preparing for work.
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All the success, awards, money, fame and college degrees in the world and still bitter, lonely and depressed while tryna force herself to look happy in public. Same ol story and women will find a way to blame all men(even the ones they never met before) for this, which means nothing will ever be learned from these conversations...
Everyone should have a preference but just because you have 1 doesn't mean your preference feels the same about you, otherwise you'd be happily married by now 🤷🏾♂
Who is to blame for men's mediocrity. It seems like a lot of men and women of a certain demographic got their egos hurt. They couldn't take a truth that hidden in the dark being brought to life. The men who chose to do little in life, bare minimum, low effort route blame the system and women for their failures. Zero accountability. These men are spoilt as they've been raised to be coddled, muled for and told that they're kings despite achieving so little. Remaining at the low end. Yet expect high tier women to house them, provide and protect them. So delusional 😮
@@lydiamusima5840 "Yet expect high tier women to house them, provide and protect them"...WRONG!
Men want a woman that brings peace, women want a men that brings status, however what if what you want doesn't want you?
Here's a life long analogy that will always apply: A woman with money will see a man working at McDonalds and immediately think she can do better because status and money that she already has is the 1st thing on her mind, a man with money will see a woman working at McDonalds and still ask her out because peace is the 1st thing on his mind not money and status that he already has. It's ALOT of rich people lonely and miserable due to thinking they can do better which reminds me of my favorite bible quote that's not real, "and the lord said "HUMBLE THYSELF MY CHILD!!"".............
@@lydiamusima5840 I would agree. By the same single mothers who you seem to tout and defend . It all comes from somewhere
Her preference. Consider yourselves lucky, Bus Drivers.
Never say never
This woman is crazy. I didn't even know who this woman was until 2 weeks ago. I'm from the UK and used to drive buses, her message travelled internationally and one bus driver clapped back at Ebony in a music video. Did you guys see it? Its on RUclips "Would you date a bus driver?"- SLAMS EBONI K WILLIAMS
What happens if her bus company owning man doesn't want a 40 year old like her?
Love you DL, however, where were you when Kevin Samuels was calling black women average, saying they should be a size 6. no baby mama's. etc to get a high quality black man? Why didn't you speak out when he was honored at the BET awards? Not enough of celebrity black men spoke loudly enough about how black women were being degraded on the internet, so the double standard speaks volumes. No, black woman have a right to date or not whomever they want. Black women has stood beside black men for centuries, and all they have gotten lately is rich black men marrying out, the black manosphere and red pill. No thanks!
All well earned and deserved. It was quite a time to be alive . To see the comeuppance for our monolithic women .
I had to Google who this Avenue K Williams not only is but what important. I have to ask a question, why is what she like the don't like it so, newsworthy?
I have family and friends who arjo has been bust Drive look for the state and private business.
The money that they make an hour and in a year, and they don't have to sell dance soul to make that kind of money.
One of my friends comedy drive for company and he is always requested to be the New York Yankees bus driver. Let me inform this Eboni K Williams, the tips that he receive from the team playing and they treat him like he's a member of the team.
Eboni K Williams, you're on top of the world now as far as you're concerned but there may come a day.
Mist me with that foolishness! I saw an entire series where they asked black ladies & White ladies their expectations for a man's salaries that they would date. All the black ladies were on the struggle love bus and willing to work with a brother. All the white ladies were on that 6 figures and up type situation. Black ladies are socialized to have low expectations. White ladies are socialized to have standards. When black ladies have standards we are goldiggers. When White ladies have standards, it's acceptable. Black men will rise to the occasion to date Becky but not when they date a black lady. White ladies can be soft and feminine because men provide an environment for them to do so. Black ladies are forced to be masculine and hustle to get the bag because black men don't provide an environment for us to be soft and feminine. That being said, black ladies open your options and date outside of black men. Let them protect and provide for their preference (Becky). Train your eyes to find other nationality of men attractive. Black men prefer Becky. You had better start learning to prefer Brad or get you some cats!
Once black men make it, they want their white Becky. Don't let DL blow smoke up your ass.
What series was that? And what standards and statistical data did they use to choose the women surveyed? Men who make over six figures are less than 5% of the population. So it's a crazy expectation even for them. I have seen many White women working with their man to start and grow a small business into an empire in my lifetime. I've hardly seen any examples of that from Black women. They want to show up after it's already built. Ebony's attitude is a prime example of this. She could have married much younger. Another attorney starting out, but she probably had this same attitude back then. She wanted the man already accomplished. When the accomplished man already has a woman.
@@andreroy8141 stop trying to debate me dusty, and go play with Becky.
Yeah i saw that. It was embarrassing. Black women are now raising their standards and its taking a while for the black community to get used to it. They see it as a threat especially with what Ebony said. I feel the BM from the dust feel threatened by these standards. They fear a bleak future that with more and more BW marrying men of different races and improving their standards, they'd be left on the shelf. They won't have a group of ride or die women coddling and muling for them, providing for them anymore. That's coming soon
WW were raised to never date down; they practice (hypergamy). What is the problem with BW knowing their worth and having standards and requirements.
Just bc the guy she would date who owns the bus company doesn’t mean the company successful
What about a guy who owns a bus company that is failing? 😂
Whatever brought on this person's comment, must come from a rejection from a person related to some type bus system 😭
Oh lord now bus drivers speaking out smh. She was only answering a question
Yeah, and her answer says a lot about her. What's the issue?
They mad because she's their preference and she don't want them. This girl have millions but she's suppose to wait until he finish his 12 shift to hangout...it's not logical.
Daniel Craig,Jay Leno,Obama,and Tyler Perry. Common thread: they were all at one time…homeless. Which explains why they didn’t get with the Eboni K. Williams of the world.
Yes.... when they were younger. But do you think any of them now would date a woman who is not successful on her own? Obama certainly didn't do it after he got his degrees and jobs. He went after a woman in a higher position. But a successful woman must settle for anything right?
Do you think Michelle Obama (a lawyer) would have married a random bus driver too? Barak Obama was a Harvard grad lawyer when she met him.
Eboni went through years of school and hard work to get to where she's at, why should she settle for a bus driver and not the owner? Why would the bus driver even want to date someone who has achieved way more than them? What could they possibly talk about?
"Honey, you won't believe today, I had a bum try to board the bus without paying..."
Really? Do you actually think she desires any of those older men? Besides, she had a tough life and she doesn't want to struggle anymore which is her right.
@@according2cathy309 : Based off your whimsical brand of logic,Halle Berry,Jennifer Lopez,and Singer Jewel,who were homeless before becoming successful are too OLD to pull someone like,Michael B. Jordan?! To quote Kevin Samuels,”get a dog,and die alone Lady…”
All work is honorable!
Really? I think bus drivers do honorable work, but I would NEVER say all work is honorable. Geez.
The trip also to me is if that SAME brother took up with a white woman THEN he would be wrong...
Ebony is in her what early forties there's no way she should have to wait for somebody to reach her level she's an attorney shut up already
None in her level ( black , white , or other wise ) want her as you can obviously tell .
Big facts! 💯
What good is owning a bus company if there is no one to drive the buses? How is her bus company owning man supposed to make any money then?
I find what she said to be hilarious. She's 39 years old and remember in her own words she said "I've done them all". So according to her she's dating several men of different backgrounds and ethnicity. And nothing has worked for her.😂 It's obvious that she's the problem.
Yet you’re still salty about what she said… ouch 🤕
Some people need to be careful with their tongues you should never say it out loud because you're given he or she is beneath you their job title shouldn't matter as long as they are a kind and loving human being as far as you saying you will not date a bus driver who's to say the bus driver want date you and own the company you're going to miss out on a lot of good dates great experiences and perhaps you will never meet your king and your king won't be looking for you because your high maintenance attitude will turn him off you put your face out there it's so sad you feel this way basing relationships on job titles do you think your heart wants love or just materialistic sounds to me like you just want things not love money can't buy you love only things only thing money can do is pay bills and buy things some people are just about for the love of money thinking it will bring them happiness😳 don't miss out on your king waiting for the wrong person the right person just might be the bus driver or a manager working at burger king 🤷🏾
At the end of the day who are the women not married and getting old alone... there is where the fault lies, start there
If she really wanted a husband, she could buy one. A lot of men want to be housewives.
Fact of the matter is you have coquette women and men this is what society teaches however iam glad my grandfather was my teacher.
If that’s what SHE or whomever wants … so be it … move on
Eboni K. Williams is the kind of woman who won't build with a man but will stand at the finish line and wait on the finished product.
Very painful to know how women are passing me up while I build. 2 Masters degrees later, none of them qualify for a man like me anyways. It’s amazing how that happens….
So now that you’ve got yourself together and have 2 Masters degrees, you are more choosy. Some women are not on your level now. Ok… Are you not doing the same thing she is? Evaluating what you bring to the table and getting more selective because you know you have a lot to offer?
@@nettegaines2067 I'm a man! It's a double-standard, and for every 1 of me, there are 10,000 of you (assuming that you are a woman). Those are the numbers. Also, most men don't view dating a woman who earns less than them as "settling down" but women do if they date a man earning less than her. I want her to be less career-oriented so that I can easily gain access to her time and customize her for my life and put her on my program. This is what it means to lead as a man. And I don't have to compromise my priorities either. If a woman doesn't want to get 100% onto my program, then I can just find another beautiful woman who will. This is the reality that feminist women struggle to comprehend. They have no leverage. Why? Because women rule sex, but men rule access to relationships. Have a nice night.
@@wynton921 the updated ratio is 98 men to 100 women. Black women have stepped outside of Black American men to date & have found that desiring a man who is a provider along with great character is the norm.
Only Black men argue either or, it’s very weird.
If you are still looking maybe try a Black Caribbean woman. Marrying & building generational wealth is STILL what the black community needs.
@@jayway22 the ratio I’m referring to is based on income….. how many men make over $350k/year vs the population of women in the dating market 😜 I appreciate your comment though.
@@wynton921 now what’s the ratio w/out men who use 😜 emoji’s? Eligible focused masculine blk men have no problem finding wives 😜 Lol next Mr Sass 💁🏾♂️
A owner of the bus is also the driver, LAWDDDDD
Y’all have no issue with men saying they would never date a big girl, or a dark girl, or a girl with no ass, why the empathy for the excluded now?
DL has a woman who loved him when he had nothing. Now he's a big success. He is a king of comedy, and he is still with his ride or die because he loves her so much. Unfortunately, he's cheated on her multiple times. He even had a side baby on her. So, if this is how "day ones " get treated. Why do women need to stick around for the struggle? Just show up when he's making real money and say, "Hey, big head, remember me?"
The tone policing of blk women has got to stop. We are the only people who are judged on the tone and not the message. I knew exactly what she was saying and the only people mad are the ones who wanted to be her preference or think low of themselves..smh.
It's not the tone. It's the message. It's why so many modern Black Women die alone! They want all the luxury without the work. Ebony's message is a disservice to younger Black females.
@@andreroy8141 Stop being so emotional, you must be one of the people I am referring to...🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 . Secondly, stop projecting your loneliness on others and get therapy. Have a great day sir.
@@monicac1147 I'm not lonely. I'm in a healthy relationship with a beautiful woman. She doesn't have to work, because I'm blessed enough to be able to provide for the both of us. So she works whenever she wants too. I have owned businesses and invested over the years. I would never get with an Ebony type attitude. You can spot them early in a relationship. I had a woman ask me once in a relationship. Would I buy her car? That was strike 1. She ended up striking out. The women I'm with. I bought her two. She never asked for 1.
@@andreroy8141 💯
@@andreroy8141 Any woman who agrees with male who refer to " women" as females is lost. Your comment did nothing but show me you want ownership of another person via marriage. Secondly, it is nothing wrong with wanting someone with the same financial and education level as yours. Lastly, bw have been dating and marriage men like this for centuries, How has it worked out for the community? Your life story has nothing to do with hers, she's 40 and well off but she suppose to wait until he eventually get his stuff together, make no sense. I'm pretty sure she could care less what you or these mammies think.
@DL Hughley, what Eboni K. Williams said, was NOT based on "preferences"; it was based on ENTITLEMENTS & PREJUDICES ! Entitlements are based on EGO ! Prejudices are DISCRIMINATORY !
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so saying tht to unattractive woman is a nice way too reject her?
The most well said ish I've heard this man say in a loooong time.🎉.. ( oh yeah, I agree too) 😊
I hope a decent man can find her but she must correct the error of her ways to become wife-material.
When he owned the bus she be at the back of the line.
She’s a millionaire so why would she settle for a bus driver?
Thats not true all you have to have is MONEY to buy out or own anythang
Seems like a lot of women in the comments have ignored all the women who were upset with Eboni too smfh.... Most people were not upset at her preference. They were upset that she came off as a supreme asshole. But somehow men are getting all the blame 😂. DL spot on as usual
A lot of men are supremes when they openly express disdain for average mediocre women. They have all these superficial standards for what defines a woman's value. Now that a woman who's a millionaire states that mediocre men are not what she wants all hell breaks lose 😂. Why do blue collar men think they're entitled to a woman who earns a hundred times what they earn? What's the likelihood of that? While so many people from the BC are getting upset over a BW having standards and boundaries, hardly that many are thinking logically.
The only women who are upset are more than likely from the lower income bracket.
People are either remedial or just downright stupid... This conversation was never about a bus driver meaning the job itself. This woman is a lawyer why would she date down? I wouldn't want to date a bus driver either. Women have boundaries, standards, and expectations. The damn bar is always set so low for black women. There is nothing wrong with dating a bus driver if you are a cashier working at the Piggly Wiggly. If you are a seven-figure earner a bus driver is not going to be an option unless you want it to be.
She was a public defender making 56k a year look it up and stop lying smh
@@titus01233 okay, tardo she is a millionaire... So you look it up. Because you black men are on the lowest totem pole doesn't mean you need to be in your feelings when a black women want, and expects more. Shake your head to that because it's truly embarrassing.
She must ask herself why she is still dating at the age of 39. Look in the mirror, Eboni.
Thats not the point. I see a lot of hurt feelings, mockery and a lack of intelligent responses in this comment section. The hypocrisy is unbelievable. A lot of the people here have no ability to debunk but would rather mock and display a lot of dusty logic
Because she refuses to settle?
Ms. Williams is a very attractive and smart lady. She knew exactly what she was
saying . Her statement tells me and everybody else she looks down on blue-collar workers. I'm sure she has lost a lot of respect from men. She just doesn't get it.
Eboni has a right to her choice! I've heard more horror stories about wealthy professional women getting physically abused or even unalived by a guy who was blue-collar or non white collar worker! That's just the extreme! What about the guys who just get jealous and/or resentful of what a woman has, like her house, rental properties, businesses, car! Most men would date the most beautiful woman if given the choice!
why haven't the caucasian men that she likes married her yet?