INTP Personality Type In Dating, Relationships, Love, And Compatibility
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- Опубликовано: 9 фев 2025
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"If you aren't being yourself, you're doing a disservice to the person trying to find you." So. Much. Fe. gawd lol
Haha, I like it though. That shit's real.
-Beloved Fi
That's awesome to here! I'm glad you were able to identify with the coupling. -Daniel
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From an Ti standpoint it makes perfect sense, so i do not get why people whine about it. If you display yourself different than you are not gonna attract who you matches you. That is entirely logical and efficient. People who try too much to behalve differently, will end up with relationships and frtiends who like whatever they showcase. It's just pure hard logic. Fe dominants like Ti' usually and opposite
P O W E R - R E D - B U L L as an intp you have to practice your Fe inferior and understand that everyone does think in a linear way. Saying you don’t get it just mean you still have work to do with your inferior personality type Fe. The goal isn’t to be as INTP as possible it’s to find the balance between INTP - ESFJ; that dash in between represents who you are without a personality label
"There's a lot of extraverts trying to find you"
WHERE ARE THEY!? IM WILLING TO STAND T-POSING ANYWHERE JUST PLEASE FIND ME HELLOOOOOOO
I've only had success with NFP's, I'm drawn to them like a magnet, and they're the only type I feel an emotional connection with, and that's the most important aspect of a relationship for me.
For real? That's sort of interesting to me, I've always thought NFP are somewhat too much for INTPs in the affective realm. I'm getting to know a INTP at the moment and though I feel a bit lost while talking to him I also sense with get along with each other in an intellectual level. Hope that works, i'm very interested in the realationship for any purposes.
I'm an INFP who felt in love with an INTP. My first love experience. I really felt connected with him on a intellectual level. The way he talked about space and life made me feel so conected to him haha I just wanted to keep talking to him, like, questioning about the world and possibilities and stuff... And our chemistry was fucking awesome. Damn, I miss "us".. He told me once he missed "us" too.. but we used to argue a lot because I guess I try to understand and deal with my feelings a lot, him, on the other hand, doesn't felt comfortable with his. He said I was the first person he really loved (he was mine too). It's sad we didn't work out, but I tried as much as I could not to loose him, but had to put myself first cause I was getting really hurt :/
@@ingrid5944 Hey, another INFP here. I'm very interested in your experiences because i've met an INTP that I really like. I would like to know what type of struggles you had, if it's not too weird to talk about those with a stranger.
@@emilkeltto2768 Well personally as an INTP, I can say that the fastest way to alienate us, is to make emotional arguments/decisions. This is, of course, something that NFPs do and it can be miscommunicated easily. Use your rational and we will understand.
Dan The-Man I’m an infp and my boyfriend is an intp
My close friend mostly are infj.. I don't even try too hard being close with them, it just come out naturally.. And true, being with them are so comfortable. They always ask something deep, and I like that.
I’m an INTP. ESFJ may work, but everything I’ve read about this SF combo is deadly to a NT combo because the SF does not usually have the capability to tolerate or engage the INTP in well thought out conversations for more than 10 seconds and then they move on. This can make for terrible communication. My ex was a ESFP and she literally could never understand me even in 25 years, where as a friend of mine a ENTJ got me in literally a couple weeks what my ex wife could not accomplish in 25 years. It was freekin eye opening.
I'm an enfj falling for an intp. We've been friends for a while and he's suddenly started paying attention to me. I'm attracted to him on an intellectual level because we can talk for hours and at this point I have no secrets left to share...
I just can't read him. I wish I knew how to tell if he liked me back
Emily Legel take it from another INTP - if he's willingly talking to you, and visibly enjoys talking for hours, and better yet initializes you getting together / talking, you should be very safe in assuming he likes you 😊
Update: we had the talk and he says he likes me platonically. I'm still a wee bit suspicious, but whatever. I've moved on.
Emily Legel deep condolence..
I'm an INTP male myself... Just started Dating an ENFJ female... Very interesting.. To me it is such a strong connection we have, I have never felt anything like it before... Aleksandrina is right, if he's willing to sit there and talk to you, be into it, he likes you.. INTP's usually tend to stick with what interests them, if he/she is willing to sit through your stuff, it's good! :D
If he says he likes you platonically he is or being careful to not get his feelings hurt or he found something he didn't like, it could go either way really. good luck!
Those who are only slightly introverted may match well with those who are only slightly extroverted, but strong introverts and strong extroverts do not mix well.
Studies show that mixes introvert-extrovert pairs are more common for teenagers, but that such marriages tend to lead to divorce. More mature individuals usually prefer to stick to their own type as far as e/i is concerned.
Generally being around extroverts would not make an introvert come out of his shell. The best model of introversion/extroversion is Hans Eysenck's model based on the Yerkes-Dodson law; everyone is most comfortable and functions best at a moderate level of cortical arousal (except at tasks that require no conscious thought, where instead of following a bell curve the simulus verses performance curve has a horizontal asymptope), and everyone finds social interaction to be a major stressor, but introverts have a higher default level of cortical arousal and so more easily become overstimulaed while extroverts require more stressors in order to function well. An extrovert would tend to push an introvert into situations that overload him and makes him need to withdraw from the world even more.
Spotted the INTP/J
Indeed. I'm tired of the "opposites attract," or "partners should always balance each other out" nonsense. From my exeperience, even befriending someone whose level of extraversion is wildly different from mine is generally exhausting, even if ocasionally fun. When it comes to romance, I'd prefer a partner whose introversion matches mine.
ESFJ? I don't see it. If a intp can't have a deep conversation they'll start to devalue their partner, surely there would have to be a huge physical attraction for that to work
For the record, there is no correlation with esfj's not being able to have deep conversations. This is a stigma to typing without considering variables outside of the basic type understanding. Preferences, facets, orientations towards other ideas like enneagram, for example, might play a role, but personality personal interest varies by interest level. I've seen a lot of these couplings, both on a personal level and working with clients, the dynamic this coupling plays. Every type, as I said in the video and the video description, friend or romantic, have different means and orientations of growth. -Daniel
Healthy well-rounded ESFJs can actually be pretty decent. I don't get along with all ESFJs, but when we do get along we can get along quite well. Coworker at my current job that I work best with is an ESFJmar. ENFJs I've known in my life have been amazing people.
INTP actually wants someone with strong Fe to help to develop their inferior Fe, but conflicts between immature INTP and ESFJ are too immense so most don't consider this pair to be practical. With maturity, mutual understanding, hard work, and effective communication, INTP-ESFJ can be the most fulfilling couple, though INTP with too strong preference in Ti might still feel matured ESFJ lackluster then go for the other INTP or INTJ
However, the golden pair, INTP-INFJ, passing the difficulty during initial stage due to an inferior Se of INFJ, is less confrontation and conflict than ESFJ's and can stimulate INTP with both Fe and Ti.
In short,
- strongly desire Ti INTP prefers INTP, INTJ
- strong desire Fe INTP prefers ESFJ, INFP
- balance and most INTP prefers INFJ
@@andoryus that makes sense. In socionics ESFJ and INTP are the worst match. The most conflicting. ESFP would be the best match for INTP, like Rocky and Adrian. Adrian is the INTP and Rocky is the ESFP.
@@Mistoltean CORRECT. I am an INTP, and while I don't have a partner, my best friend who I have known since I was six (19 now) is an INFJ. Its the best. Nothing against ESFJ, but like no. Idk, INFJ's from my personal experience are always more understanding, even when immature, and get my worldview and what I want to do, and visa versa. I literally did a science experiment with my INFJ friend in Advanced Mathematics back in our final year of high school, and the statistics clearly showed opposites more often than not do NOT attract. So I found his conclusion to pair INTP's with their opposite to be rather odd, and a little suspicious. I don't trust the conclusion.
ESFJs upset me...
Agreed! They are maybe my least favorite people.
INFJ and my ESFJ daughter-in-law can be annoying. Probably worse with you.
My husband just took the test. He’s INTP and I’m ENFJ...almost 20 years together.
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True Generations - MBTV I’m an INFJ and it was love at first sight for me and my INTP boyfriend. We were on a first date and as soon as we saw each other...we didn’t even say anything...we just smiled, sat down and knew we had came home.
I've been in a relationship with an ESTJ. Our communication was really bad. This was before I discovered MBTI. All my friends are xxxP's. I can't seem to have a working conversation with someone that can't think out of the box and ignore rules. Now I'm dating an INFP and it's lovely to feel understood and actually being able to communicate.
Fantastic! Thanks for your feedback.
Alot of J's actually (secretly) like another person thinking out of the box, and not obeing to the rules, but for them it's being a good student, and missing a day of school because of that bad boy that wants you to skip school. In the first instance the J will think "oh you can't do that!!!" and then after that the J will feel a sparkle/sensation that likethe girl is being a bad girl by not going to class. In the first instance, her J will tell her to reject the idea of not going to school, but when he is persistant she will feel so much freedom of not being the good girl student that day, and she will truly appreciate that he *got her out of her comfort zone* and out of her general prison of J-ness. I generally feel this is often the case with J's. Both J's and P's can play on 'save' and date their own type in that sense, but there will not be that social dynamic of differences. The problem dating your opposite is when any type is not understanding enough to understand that their viewpoint (J/P or T/F or whatever) is *only a subjective preference* . It requires an open mind to be in a fulfilling relationship and to get anything out of it. The more you date towards your own type, the easier it may see, but the less rewarding it will be
This is a beautiful background. Such calm waters in the back. Thanks for the video!
I’m so glad I turned into the person that shines as an INTP this community helps me feel like I’m not alone. There are others out there like me with similar emotional and mental processes. Thank you for this information. It was calming and refreshing listening to this video, mainly because you weren’t trying to be an INTP it is clear you have done work to connect with your shadow.
Im an intp only ever felt feelings for infjs. Enfjs are too ornery, impatient, people pleasing and illogical from my experience. My intp freind dates one though, but I doubt its going to last long. Esfjs are a definite no no. And isfp are usually a no go.
Kei San I’m an INFJ and have only felt feelings for INTPs...as soon as I saw my Now Boyfriend INTP, it was love at first sight!
Kei San what about INFPs? Have you experience with them? I'm INFP and I really click with an INTP
It really will work out for the INTP friend of yours because INTP and ENTJ are a golden pair according to CS Joseph.
"it's not a bad thing to create conflict for the greater good" great advice for INTPs, and to add to it, it;s not bad to avoid conflict for the greater good. An issue with inferior Fe types that creates a lot of problems, is that they don't know how to regulate how and when to express disagreement. They can get angry and stubbornly persist on the same issue, that doesn't really matter in a here and now way, and ignore or be afraid to create conflict in interpersonal areas that there really needs to be conflict in order to be growth. I think that might stem from their subconscious belief that all expressed disagreement is petty fighting, since when they're all or nothing /childish when it comes to emotional expression-either they'll have a screaming fight or be detached and blank smiles, no grey areas. That's a really good place to start working on, and thats definitely one of the reasons dating an SFJ is a good idea.
Totally agree!
I can't see how the INTP would fit well with the ESFJ as ESFJ's use established norms and traditions are their basis for behavior. That's something that would aggravate the INTP tremendously. Plus, ESFJ's are pretty conflict averse.
I've looked at this from every angle and I just don't see how this would work well in a romantic relationship. Friendships maybe. Because ESTJ's are the exact opposite of INTP's, they could learn from each other. Not sure if that same openness would occur in a romantic relationship.
Of course i could be wrong.
Not all Intps and esfjs are alike? True or false?
but in a way, if you can just look at it from the perspective of being able to interact more from the duality and be stimulated, this could work, at least in my mind it made sense.
ESFJ and INTP can work but both have to be matured and developed their inferior functions, Ti and Fe, respectively, to satisfy the need of intellectual talk and emotional support that each other need. For ppl who don't want to work hard for a relationship, ESFJ-INTP is out of picture...
@@Mistoltean I think the reason this topic is even at the table, is because ESFJs just like intps, and intps don't really like ESFJs. So we have a secret crush and now they ruin our Google searches with bringing this topic up too often. Of course our opposites will like us, because we are great and opposites have flaws needed to be filled.. Idk I'm just theoretical at this point
Dude, your video is so accurate and especially how you describe how well an Fe dominant works with an INTP where the INTP is actually valued for their dominant Ti function without having to act in any way that is not your true self. My girlfriend is an ENFJ and I'm an INTP, and there's literally no other type that would (in my idea) match so well with an INTP. It's so sad that apparently you apparently do not receive enough positive feedback from the community about these compatibility videos as I read in a comment by you somewhere on this video.
The sad thing is , I think that it's the same people who dislike these kinda of videos are the ones who might need it the most. Once you've gotten into a relationship where as an INTP you are so extremely valued (by an ENFJ) just exactly for what you bring to the table (logic, objective, reasoning, thinking outside the box, being calm, NOT being Se) while having to put in NO effort whatsoever, maybe only then you can see the value and truth of a video like this one of you. But then again, if you already have had such an interaction or relationshiop, one does not need the video that much anymore. The most value is for those who've not experienced it. I love to see you point out how this attraction works (with the dominant and inferior function flipped) and reconise so much about what you say about this coupling.
I gotta say though, that although I click with ESFJ's almost instantly, and I experince they do value my Ti alot and I their Fe, they are generally not abstactly thinking enough for me to talk to on an intellectual type of level. So this is why i'd advice an ENFJ over an ESFJ, as an INTP. However, as you stated everyone is different. I again must mention again that being with an ENFJ is just so satisfying. While in most of my interactions in the world of mostly sensors, and even intuitives, I must sort of adapt my protocols in order to be understood, this is not the case with my ENFJ. They are such understanding, genuine, soothing, sweet and encouraging partners that love to have deep abtract conversations and will help your social life alot . I've yet to see anyone in my enviroment with such a deep and natural fitting relationship as we have. It's just like a piece of a puzzle that just fits so naturally. So INTPs....FIND YOUR OWN ENFJ!!!! The most important thing is that although ENFJ's might seem very secure of themselves and what not in an enviroment with people, inside they're such sweeties that crave some Ti to understand themself better. While we INTP's are usually not naturally that good at presenting ourself to the outer world, the ENFJ is. So look past their first impression that may come across as strong and secure. This is just their natural talent to present them well to the outer world, that we generally miss. Opposites DO attract, and for a reason...
INTP female here, being pursued by an ENFJ male
For all INTP's out there, the worst relationships I have personally experienced as an INTP were with ESTJ's , ESFP's and INTP. Althou I am looking for evidence to prove I am wrong but I strongly doubt that...
I would stay away from these types in a romantic relationship... I wasted a lot of time and energy with these experiences and in the end it wasn't worth it at all...
You are welcome :)
I'm wondering what the problem was with dating a fellow INTP. To be honest, it's hard enough for me to even meet another INTP, I've never dated one. Always thought INTP/J would actually be perfection. Or ENTJ
Sergiu Bordei Agree. My last ex was ESTJ. She thought she was more intelligent and I was wrong. I was in love, but one day the bubble burst. No more J's ever!
When you are with an INTP the relationship is lifeless. You go back and forth with arguments going nowhere. There are no fights nor conflicts, no people around when we went out, because we both were extreme introverts living in our own heads. Our social life was based on us meeting, debating over how the world works meanwhile we didn't do pretty much anything in real life. When one of us had a problem the others advice didn't help much because we both saw the same points. Nothing was getting done, 24/7 just contemplating and looking for intelligent movies to keep us occupied.
Nobody felt the need to nurture anybody and this can be a disaster for an INTP.
One of my best friends is an ENFJ, I love going out with him because he makes me feel comfortable in any social situation.
My mother is an INFP and I feel like she gets me, my ideas and my struggles, without judging, just trying to help.
I attract into my life friends with INFG, ISFJ personality type as well, they are caring , nurturing, and understanding.
The best romantic relationship I have ever experienced was with an ISFJ. The love still is unbreakable even though we've been apart for more than 4 years.
I can see how this could result in feeling like you are wasting your time and enegy.
I dont clairely understand it yet but I think I crave that , just not caring and knowing that the other person feels the same way and that I dont have to try so hard just to please anybody's vision of a standard relationship. I may be in the wrong here but I just dont like when I feel forced to nurish anything, it just seems pointless to me when its not comming from me directly. I dont ask for much in return either so I guess it makes sence to receive what you guive in a way. there again I can see how it could go wrong when it gets depressing when nothing is ever set in motion.
Im an intp female and my boyfriend it´s a enfj and it´s true the realationship it´s really pacefull and we grow every day together, nice video!
Happy for ya, and thanks!
i can relate so much to this! I'm an INTP dating an ESFJ. We got together even before we knew about our personality types. You said 'peaceful'. Yeah, our relationship is peaceful. :)
Zell Mozie peaceful is a good word for it. I'm an intp with an esfj older sister. We lived together for several years and it worked. As a child I looked up to her and :attempted: to take on attributes of hers so I am able to infiltrate the world.
My dad and mum are INTP and ENFJ and they work well together. My mum did have to learn to let my dad be the introvert that he is and not drag him to every social event but because of her, his Fe is better developed and you can see it when he does interact with others.
That's awesome to here! I'm glad you were able to identify with the coupling. -Daniel
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how about INFJs?
I used to try hard to fit in so much...once I stopped I became happier. Being alone allows me to be authentic but I know it is not good for me in order to function in our world. I’m trying to find that balance. It feels so tough sometime because even though I have some of the most genuine interest in change my emotions control me day to day
One observation I've made over the years is that if the other person in a friendship/relationship isn't in tune with their feelings, it's going to end in disaster. My INTP experience has been that I'm not at all callous about how others feel, but I'm relatively bad at "picking up" on little hints about how people feel. I hate having to guess about pretty much anything, let alone how my partner feels about things. It would help a lot to have a partner who is capable of telling me how they feel, which I can then honor. If they aren't aware of their feelings or can't express them, I get paralyzed with regard to comfort in interaction. Conversely, if my partner demonstrates that they can share their emotions, I feel safe enough to share my own.
hey Daniel i still don't get the duality thing. at first glance it seems like esfj and intp would piss each other off:
esfj: pay attention, space cadet!
intp: why should i help you with thank you notes? - they're pointless and redundant, anyway!
They have more in common outside that example, From a lot of couples I've seen, it seems to work. May have to do with their inferior desire, or their similar functions (Si, Fe & Ne). -Daniel
MBTV i can only think of one sorta opposite pairing off the top of my head that (stereotypically) works - lucky you!
enfj car salesman: how do their #'s look?
istj finance girl: they're upside down.
enfj car salesman: (to customers) can i show you another car? it's kinda close to what you were looking for...
and it's such an overdone trope to imagine these two in the back seat of one of the showroom models!
but do i speak for the rest of us when i say i admire my opposites, but i don't wanna be them or do them? everyone knows a stereotypical estj/esfj couple who want nothing to do w/ np's, or an introverted homebody couple who leaves events before 11pm. any advice for those of us who like similar types, or would you just say that we won't evolve much?
I think a lot of what you are saying is going off observation and the overall stigma MBTV is trying to move forward from. Pretty much every description you spoke of labels a separation of some sorts when in reality people are unique beyond MBTI and functions. People have unique preferences and orientations towards ways of living because people are unique. It may not appear so to you, but using a car dealership as an example is not the best, people put on a working hat, or adapt to the work environment that is necessary, and we can't speak for people who aren't making an effort, or investment to live aside from the way they want to live it. You can't stereotype types, type-couples, in general. There are a lot of variables, and attaching basic behavioral assumptions is not one of them. -Daniel
MBTV ya it bugs me that my initial reaction to the idea of ppl dating opposites is stereotypical "ew!". what advice do you have to those of us who are not attracted to opposites in that way?
If you read my previous response, I mentioned that in my work with working with men/women, couples is that desiring opposites are one of the several preferences of desires. In this video, I actually go over not just opposites, but same-value desires, Duals and opposing orientation. I would cover this more, but my dating videos are frowned on, so until we have a community demographic that favors dating advice videos, I won't be making them, I will be making type-specific videos with this series.-Daniel
What about INTP to INTP? I did that, and while the romantic and organizational aspects of the coupling suffer, the intellectual side is through the roof. I think she brought my true nature out, and there is never any time I cannot be myself.
Everone has different desires when looking for a mate, so, therefore, some people types that are identical pairings, preferred matches can really be endless.
INTP + INTP = more of the same, like dating your sister/brother...no passion or spark at all...and by being so simular, you will add nothing to the other persons life and thus will not be respected or liked that much for it. If you date a type who likes INTP type of intelligence like ENFJ's (so not esfj's) you will be admired like a God for just exactly what you bring to the table. No other types like Fe's are gonna like Ti as much and no other like Fe are needed for the INTP robots we are. It's really a good match. I'm dating an ENFJ for yearrsss and people still ask us if we just met by how we're still into eachother. You gotta get to know ENFJ's a bit before they open up and show their logical side, but they love to talk about logic and stuff, and they will value that logic and use it like no other type will. INTP's secretly like it alot if their logic is valued and used, and ENFJ's will do just exactly that
I’m an INTJ and I’m in love with my INTP bf! 3rd year anniversary recently as a couple but I’ve known him for almost 22 years! He’s been near perfect!
Excuse me for this personal question, but are you guys still together?
My INTP just avoids me 99% of the time, then tries to connect a bit and share stuff, then disappears and ignores me again for weeks or months on end. He was the complete opposite when we first met - very chatty, stared a lot, found reasons to talk to me. But then pulled back again. It's like an extreme avoidant type personality. But I can't tell whether he's angry/bored at me or shy or what! : /
He’s being selfish. You don’t have to experience that. You deserve better
@@ezelanne Yeah, I'd like someone who treats me better and actually talks to me. But he's the first guy I've met in nearly six years that clicked with me. Normally I either like them OR they like me. I don't know if I can wait another six years for someone else!
Chase him 😂 , intp here , I do the same with my best friend because I get tired of her passivity , I always have to go look for her is annoying and unfair.
I gave up. Apparently he only likes very bitchy gold-digger type of women and I was too independent and nice to him. I think he found me too threatening when he realised he couldn't throw money at me. It sucks. The only men I attract are the ones that want to leech off me, and the men that are my equals just want women that leech off them!
@@LDT7Y what a jerk
Im an INTP who previously had a ESTJ gf of 4 years and it was a nightmare; i was young and she was hot. I did learn alot overall but couldve had the same lesson in 6 months. Im now with an ENTJ and we get along much better. I can expore ideas and abstract concepts with her and i respect her will and drive. She socially intimidates most women and men however she has learned my boundries and is very respectful of them. Note: im an outlier INTP as most consider me "alpha" but i dont have a desire to lead or be lead.
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ESFJs? dude, every INTP I know that's been matched with an ESFJ ended up de-valuing them because they don't offer enough intellectual stimulation. ENTJs argue with INTPs like cats and dogs, and ENTJs can have too high strung as well. ENFJS I believe work well if they are not too controlling... but not INFJs? really? IF I had to say there was a first recommendation, it would be an INFJ.
Obviously an INTP could potentially work with any type as long as the couple is not too selfish, or ignorant
These types I recommended because of the general orientations they have with each other (based off of my own theory of something I call "Laws of desire." Side note, any pairing can work out, so these were types of "growth I'm pointing out imagining that these types I states are ni healthy and balanced places in their life. I do not at all recommend anyone getting our there if you are not balanced (to a degree). Side, side note, in my theory with the laws of desire, everyone is deeply attracted to particular types, whether they be opposites, same value-driven, and etc. SO when you say no to this type and no to this type, remember everyone is different, and that what you see based on your experience is in no way shape or form a measurable, objective way to make sense of how couples can or cannot work. There is a ton of variables to factor in if you are going down that route if you are going strictly off of MBTI, which again is not in any way in itself recommendable. Along with functions you unique facets and preferences of each individual person separate to the on-the-surface type understanding.
Before you just call out your personal opinion remember that there is not only a ton of research that goes into all our videos but with mine specifically, a lot of practical application and working with clients, ergo, seeing this in real-time.
(also esfjs and INTP's are opposites) which is one law of desire that someone may "prefer" when it comes to sexual attraction and long-term pairing. Again, any "type" can go together just fine, I outlined types that may suit for an INTP's personal growth over time, in which by the way I state something along the lines of "types for either friendships or relationships" -Daniel
I am not calling out your theory without a lot of research of my own. I admit I have anecdotal evidence to my claims, since I am an INTP, but my research comes from Drench, and personality hacker, and also my own objective studies. I believe that your theory is wrong (no hard feelings) "Laws of desire" is an ironic name since INTPs desire interesting new ideas, and also desire to be in a relationship with people who act as a sounding board for the INTPs' theories (citing Antonia Dodge, Dr. Drench)..... I acknowledge that ESFJs can cover SOME of the INTPs' blind spots, like regimenting their lives with scheduling, and showing that infatuating Fe in action all the time that can woo anyTi dom with ease.. and the same can be said for the other types, they can cover blind spots, but these types you cited don't meet the INTPs' core needs. I will make a video about this topic.. feel free to comment.
It sounds like you are still missing the human element in this, but then again like I said, these types I referenced are potential points of interest, areas of growth for different reasons, and that's pretty much it. My theory may not be completed but it is very consistent with working with people outside of thought.
Had an esfj bf. He was too needy and controlling for me. And he got angry if I wanted to debate. Too sensitive to different opinions or constructive criticism.
Intp
From personal experience, INTP/ESFJ works out very well, despite the assumptions in the comments. The personality type does not make ESFJs stupid and not relatable people.
At the end of the day we're all people who either value our significant others or not.
What about ENFP's? No love for the ENFP's?
I am INFP female and was pursued by an INTP male, although he was organizing everything as per that I fulfilled all of his criteria when I was going with what I felt or didn’t feel happening between us. Us both being intellectual and creative, it seemed at first we would develop a rich connection, although he (specifically) was very stubborn when it came to considering outside his own box of logic and conclusions, so that created a lot of intellectual debates that did not feel expansive, fun, enlightening or humorous but instead almost combative and ego driven. It was bewildering. I could see his points of view and mine and back them both up, but he could not see or consider mine. I’m not saying all INTP’s are this way, but this particular one when he was hurt he would act angry, when he “felt” rejected, he would ignore me. This probably has to do with his maturity level rather than his MBTI type. We shared the same interests, values and brought out the outgoing aspects in each other, but after a while, it was just (I apologize for the language) a mind f*ck. Any points of view on this? Thank you 🌸
Orchids Rising i’m an intp who dated an infp and honestly you’re so right lol
holy shit , how much common sence can you guive in 20 mins, finaly something I can understand about dating.
I just love the area with the sound of the lake and the gulls, the sky, the scenery..
How did you learn the information you know about MBTI? School? Internet? Books?
all 3 and hosting events for mbti.
I think as an INTP the ESFJ'S are like the anchors when their is some ciaos in an INTP'S life .ENFJ'S like to deep dive as INTP'S do to ENFJ 'S will help in honing Fe in the INTP both are good pairings in their own unique way .
SF rarely work with NT sorry. Look at the standard MBTI compatibility chart. They just don’t tolerate or value our deep need and requirements for well thought out rational and logical thoughts. They are usually to busy in the moments as the typical cheerleader, partier where very little is planned or thought through.
I"m an INTP and have been in a relationship with an ESFJ for 10 years. I fell in love with her because she had this very feminine charm, while at the same time being the smarted woman I met. Unfortunately, she broke up with me a few weeks ago because she felt our differences were just too big. She felt that she'd given all she could to make things work for the last 10 years and it just wasn't enough for her to be happy in the relationship. I would never have expected her to dump me, because I kinda thought we were soulmates. I thought what we had was valuable enough to overcome our differences. I guess I was wrong. So, while I would have agreed with you about ESFJs until recently, I'm not so sure about it anymore today.
Dude that fucking sucks
@@TrueGenerations you screwed it up with your video, delete it
Infp here. Trying to know why my entj son doesnt want me to stay with him any more after 1 year living together. Finaly got him to say that its not normal for a 60 yo mom to live with a 33 yo single dad. I disagree. But i left. I guess it doesnt matter why he wants me to move. Except that i was so happy and oblivious to any problem. Im sensing that someone was in his ear. New girlfriend maybe. I sure do miss my grand kids.
INTP ♥️ ENTP? I'm an INTP female and I'm dating an ENTP male and I'm super smitten. I like that he likes my ideas and tries to help me figure out how they could possibly work or not work as opposed to someone that just shuts every idea I have down. I like that we have really good conversations and we laugh a lot together. When we go on dates he always takes me to places that I absolutely love going and he's adventurous with food like I am. We never seem to bore each other because we both love thinking about shit. I have three close friends and they are INFJ, INFP, an INTP and I love them but only as friends.
Sounds like he could've been ENTJ too
11:53 "At least almost match up to you" lol
ha, I had a moment. -Daniel
OK, ESFJs are the absolute least compatible type for INTPs. NEVER EVER get in a relationship with the type that is with a type with your inverted functions. Fe is all about the feelings of others and Fi is all about one's own feelings. So if you have Fe, Be with an Fi user. they link up. The same is true with all the other functions. Please, listen when I say that INTPs should be with ENTJs or INTJs or even ESFPs or ISFPs but never any of the other types. Te wants to understand the thinking of others; Ti wants to explain their thoughts and ideas. Ni has the insight and desire, Ne wants to make connections and provide the best path for Ni. Se wants to give the best experience; Si wants to receive the best experience. Fe sees the feelings of others and wants to improve them, while Fi wants to be happy and cared for. The best compatibility for an INTP is objectively ENTJ.
I pretty much disagree with almost everything you’ve said, with the exception of how types communicate. But I don’t care enough about MBTI to even argue it. You may be right, but it is unlikely that I’d ever date an INTP as an ENTJ. Of course, I’m not the person in the video.
This doesn't vet well in reality though, the Te-Fi and Ti-Fe axis are like oppositional world views, sure everyone has all the functions, we can grow and change, and support eachother in ways regardless, but Fi is always a complete energy drain on my Fe. It just takes, and takes, and takes, till I have almost nothing left. It's not really the best for compatibility to assume one is "supporting" the other. The support of Fi with Fe functions is good mostly for friendships and in work, counseling, or aspirational teamwork environments, but I'm a bit convinced that my Fe is a bit done with supporting Fi in a relationship context, as it's like an unstoppable emotion sink, I need to be working on developing my own, harder to reach, Fi and this is where I think of Fe with another Fe type as being like the type of couple that can water each others lesser seen and lesser supported Fi growth needs. I don't know though, this is just what I've been observing from my relationship experience.
Are INTPs and INFPs are good match in your opinion, or not?
From what I know it can work! Any pairing can be a match-Daniel
I'm an intp married to an Infp. Plus side:he allows me to indulge in my interests without judgement and he is fairly open minded. Negatives: neither of us is terribly regimented
I've always been strangely attracted to INFP's, and I could never figure out why.
According to the official website the perfect match is entj with estj being second best. Entj is as dominant as we like it. No more.
Interesting perspective, at the end of the day everyone desires different things, after all, none of us are alike the model type we prefer.
ENTJ and INTP are both too yang (masculine) types. There is no feminine energy in either.persons. (female - yin energy is Feeler) .Relationships with both partner being too simular in such fields as T/F will not have attraction towards eachother. Possibily if you're a very feelery intp (close to INFP) this might work (an entj partner). However, generally speaking F's dating other F's and T's dating other T's does not work well because deep down people crave balanace. The more opposite types of you create balance more than types simularly.
Women, who are usually more in touch with their feelings instinctively know this better than alot of males. When women (ususally F) date a guy who seems a feeler too, they will not feel attracted and friendzone him. 2 thinker might not figure this out that easily, since theyré not that in touch with their feelings (attraction is more a feeling thing). Hope this info can help you
What about Intp and enfp
As an INTP I fell for an ENFJ. My overflowing Ne scared him off :( I couldn't bring him to the same level of communication and later I realised he's too boring (from a personal and subjective standpoint), barely satisfy my need for stimulation. ENFP appears to be a better type for me.
Hey Daniel. INTP here. '1st time checkin out ur channel. And, I have to say, it's not like me to see so much by way, in common points of view w/some1; yet, have such quite a 🔑... opposite take-away; in the same respect. Meaning, INTP-&-ESFJ... Wwww...whah! I cant 👀\; nor, even imagine how that could work.
Now, I thought for a long time... the right ENFJ?--perfect fit! However, I've come to see that (for me personally); eithier the right ENTJ/or, ISFJ could be FAR-&-AWAY; a STELLAR match-up for an INTP like me. 'Tho having learned alot about my process/needs; I know there's much yet, for me to learn, here.
I dig... what seems to be about 92% of ur correlations in this vid; &, I've truely gained so much by way of it. U made me ques. why the right ENFJ couldn't be back, as 1 of the top 3 for us INTP's. The mechanics of the individual types u've described are enlighteningly in-depth (overall). Brovo! sir... so, I will be back. Thanx Daniel!
You look like a INFJ. Am I close?
Great advice thanks!
I think as someone who is extremely introverted it might be best to date an introvert. chances are they will be more social than me, but still introvert enough to give me time alone.
Intp Enfj , istp Esfj is the best possible friendship. I'v witnessed 3 divorce cases between istp Esfj. And all the couples blame it on their personality incompatibility.
Love this. Good tips.
Amazing insight. Thank you so much 👏
i am an intp , i love a classmate who i guess is also intp(as we are very similar ) ... i told him after a while that i love him( he didn't respond ), i don't think he does but he is always so much interested in me .. always looks at me ...and i don't fall for anyone , i fall for people who have shown that they care for me too.. so it's very hard for me
I think being in love as an INTP is espically difficult, I get very afraid when I feel deep emotions, because I don't feel like I can control them.
ESFJ huh. But I can totally see myself with ENFJ , if I'm lucky. Gender wouldn't matter as long as we vibe together
You’re obviously not an INTP. ESFJs are often a source of grief for INTPs. Way too dominant.
Michelle Kealy ESFPs are my most HATED TYPE...absolute drama queens.
They're never a source of grief to me now and will probably never be in the future. Only as a rebellious teenager did I find them annoying. They're our duality pair. The pairing offers a lot of benefits and a ton of satisfaction (especially in the domain of sexual energies). If the ESFJ is healthy, you'd find them extremely attractive. You posted this a year ago. Have you experienced any sense of duality yet?
What about INTJ's and INTP's in a romantic relationship? 🤔
The INTJ wouldn't be able to stand the INTP for even a week, then leaves out of a sense of superiority while contemplating on writing a book about all of INTP's flaws.
@@revenant2943 It could be the exact opposite. What if INTJ got overwhelmed by strong intp's ti? And he ends up feeling threatened and then pulls away? Anyway, they make a better relationship than you think, man 🤝. Just make sure love and respect exist, they might get obsessed with eachother.
Wait a moment Fatima... Where's your hijab sis?!
I thought it was just me but someone else mentioned it. The eye contact with the camera made me uncomfortable only because it felt very emotional (I felt like I was asking a counselor or parent for advice and it made me very tense and dodgy) It's just in the mind though lol nothing personal, you just have perceptive looking eyes. Interesting video.
That is what's supposed to happen, invoking those emotions. Thanks for the feedback, though! The idea is to really explore yourself beyond just taking in the perspectives, but to self-actualize, anyways, most if not all my videos will be like this.
Opposites do NOT attract, they intrigue. There is a major difference. Have as many real friends that are oppose your type this will help you learn and as you part ways yo u can process the data. But for the love of god, do not partner with your opposite!!! Most western relationships are about ownership and exclusivity. Freedom and autonomy are core values for INTP's. It will not work.
kinda opposites work because attraction works like magnets. If you date someone too simular to you, there will not be real attraction. It will be like dating your sister or bother. No passion at all. Passion comes from difference. I would not advice ESFJ's though since they're too concrete and superficial. However, ENFJ's are great if you get to know them.
How do I achieve getting more interested in stuff? I'm trying to learn about new stuff, sometimes, and I just end up on RUclips instead. What can I be interested in? Can depression have an effect on my interests? Why? how do I avoid it? So many questions unanswered.. It's hard to keep being interesting when I don't have anything to enjoy, except chess or filosofical brain stuff
I want someone to explain why INTP is not a good match for INFP. Point blank so INFP understand.
Fi-Te and Ti-Fe are oppositional world views. Not that the types wouldn't have some fun together, gaming, exploring etc, but when Fi and Ti cross it's usually not the best. I had the worst time trying to make a relationship with an INFP work as an INFJ, the Fi was usually the killer for me as they often misunderstood my Ti, which does sadden me as I really did want these relationships to work, and put a lot of myself into trying my best. It could still work, this was just my experience, and my conclusion from the experience. The last thing my ex said to me before I concluded it was never going to work, was "you cannot be yourself and have your unique interests
I agree! EXFJs have always been my favorite. Enfjs tend to be a little too much for me though, a little too friendly...if you know what I mean. ESFJs are more traditional, sometimes too traditional.
Noni dont know what u meant by "too friendly"
My girlfriend is an enfj. Whaddo ya know
i'm enfj with an intp male
I dislike SJs, at least their traits or their potential for a relation.
ENFJ...hmm....no wonder why i'm so attracted to my teacher (not in a sexual way)
What's Daniel's type?
Enfj/Enfp, socionics I vibe with enfj
all u do is mention pairing you think would be good instead of describing the types behaviors at all. kind of annyoing. in the intj one u actually talk about behaviors.
NOoooooo Esfjs for this Intp. 2 Esfjs in the family are torture enough for me. Can't get through to them at all. Really can't communicate with them. Ok with the Entj..
My best friend is a ESFJ. But ENTJ? I'm sick of them. Even ISTPs are sick but they are much more likable than the bossy, domineering entjs thinking everyone must listen to them. Entj is my most despised type of all. INTJs are a bit better.
What of INTP-A and INFJ-T coupling? How does that work out?
+Matthew Garcia will most likely work out well! Is there something you specifically you wanted to explore?
MBTV Well, personally I've acknowledged that she's been getting me out of my shell as of late. Bolstering my inferior side. I was wondering does the INFJ help more than just the feeling aspect of an INTP. Is there more depth to the the two types in collaboration?
True Generations - MBTV That’s us and we’re going strong! ❤️❤️👍
you have just ruined all MBTI core, wasn't INTP a prefect much with ESFP ? and INTJ are match with ESFJ, E-I should pe opposites when J-P should be the same
It's all relative at the end of the day.
Dating a P as a P is the easy way out, but in generally do not feel that attracted towards eachother. Neither will dating another P if you're an P help to fufill you in your life being a P. J in it's essence is tension, and P in it's essence is the release of tension. They are like calcium and magnesium. Both are needed in your bones. Calcium is harder but brittle (J) and magnesium is a softer substance but more flexible (P). With another person like yourself in that department you will only make your own bad areas worse, since the other person has the same ones.
The best match for INTP is the ENFJ. I am an INTP with an ENFJ girlfriend and an extremely good relationship that requires none effort whatsoever, and our favourite thing to do is talk about theories. One may not expect this from an ENFJ, but they're really into intellectual and philosophical stuff. The only thing they need is a partner who's into that to *initiate* that side of them. Simularly INTP's are sometimes portrayed as robots, but deeper down they're pretty sensitive people and ENFJ's feeler side will initiate INTP's feeler side to come out more and grow. ENFJ's are all about helping somone else to grow. Unlike ESFJ's ENFJ's are not rigid and demanding, but supportive and helping in a way that benefits you and not themself
Pretty much all couples I know (20+) who have a really effortlessly yet good relationship are people who are opposites apart from the N/S. The types more simular have to work harder. Feeler females do *not* feel attractted to feeler men. This is when men get friendzoned. They are *too simular*. The same thing works for a T/T relatiosnhip. It just will be dull and without enoguh attraction because attracttion comes from opposites, just like magnets. I think it's not needed so many people haev to put effort intheir relationships when you can get a smooth one that fits perfectly. One just has too choose the right partner and see through the initial differences. It's like men saying "oh I'm gonna date another guy, cause he understands me, women are difficult". In relation to gender we have our instinct to guide us to feel attracted towards the other gender. If only poeple had instincts to feel attracted to types who really match them....
Did you just theough Entj and Estj out of the window ! Stoped watching after 2:35 (No No No).
Esfp is the perfect match for intp
Moone Stewart after living with one for a few years, I can say with absolute certainty that I could not date or take seriously an esfp. Nor any xsfx’s. After years of working and/or living together I find that I never feel truly accepted by them and their standards, that in order to satisfy them I have to pretend to be someone I’m not.
how about an intp like me with another intp?
you are very kind :)
And so are you!
These pairings are mumbo jumbo.
That they are.
You're a handsome guy, over 6'1" by chance?
No.
Mr. Grey....sit still...
Huh?
You would be better served sitting still in an office environment. Made me dizzy walking...imho...
David Butts Sometimes it’s better to think and talk while walking, not sitting.
Oh my god I'm so bored *yawn* spruce it up
Damn you're so cute!