I am a disabled homemaker and #8 touched my heart. I don't have children but I have a husband and aging parents. Because of my disability I would be considered worthless in the workforce, but as a homemaker I am priceless to my family. All people have value. ❤
..... Your comment shows your sense of strength and character, God bless you! I no longer work much, outside the home, ... And I can tell you that people think I don't have anything to do , being at home. ....Incorrect. I have plenty to do. I commend you, you are precious to your family and to God.
I agree... My son is disabled and he is priceless to me, my husband, and the rest of our family. His worth (and yours) is not measured by how able bodied he is for work. He has accomplished so much when doctors said he wouldn’t/ couldn’t and brings joy I couldn’t imagine in my wildest dreams. I’m positive your family feels the same about you 💜. Thank you for sharing 😊
What do you consider tearing down? I think that if anyone acts stupid man, women or children I will say something. So just if I say something to a woman I am tearing her down?
Yes!! Mommy shaming is a great example! Breastfed vs formula, safe sleep vs bed sharing, etc. let’s lift each other up with encouragement cuz the mama life is HARD!
When you tear others down it’s oretty much going to lower your own energy frequency. When you wish bad upon others it’s gonna come back to you. What goes up comes down, what goes around comes around. You are what you think and will manifest that I’m your life.
Katerini INFJ When I was in college, almost all of my friends were waitstaff, and the horror stories they told me absolutely floored me. I was raised by people who taught me to be kind to everyone, and I wrongly assumed that everybody else behaved this way. Now that I own antique stores, I take up for my workers. They will never have to put up with verbally abusive customers as long as I'm around!
They say, you can pretty much judge people’s character the way they treat people who work as customer service anything. Especially, if you’re out on a date and wanna know who you’re dealing with quicker. Anyways, the point is, if they treat your waiter bad, they will eventually treat you as such.
carrie twickler A lot of my friends are RNs and they get treated horribly. It makes me so sad. Whenever I go to the doctor, I make it a point to be as pleasant as possible, even if I'm in pain.
Yes, they’re there to help and take care of you. Not, take over your misery. Please, be nice to your health care providers. They’re doing the job you won’t, that in itself should be respected and admired, each and every single time!
Right!! Even if I’m in horrible pain, when I was younger I had the mad at the world syndrome since I wasn’t diagnosed (endometriosis severe,ovarian cysts and kidney stones) and I would always try to be as nice as I could at the time, but now as I’m older, I especially try to do everything to be do whatever/answer quickly and politely to be as nice and easy going, but now it’s easier bc I’m diagnosed and I would have a very hard time before with doctors not thinking anything was wrong, or we started in the wrong spot... (GI). I can also say this goes both ways, I think sometimes it’s sad bc, nurses especially in the ER, and who’ve been around a long time (just SOME NOT ALL) get hardened in my opinion... just bc they see so much of it..... but young nurses/doctors can harden (not be so compassionate) quick too. I’ve had a lot of ups and down with different doctors and it can be frustrating so it’s great when they understand that also, I’m not always in my perfect state of polite mind when I’m in intolerable pain, but I always try to smile and be as kind as possible, esp to make up for time when I was younger and wasnt as patient (regardless of what I was going thru no excuse) now, one of my fav things, (since I see diff doctors on the reg and if I have to go the ER) I love writing them thank you notes to the hospital doctors and the nurses....
A woman who moves which such purity, courtesy, conscience and respect deserves an award for these acts of love, health and caring. Spread the love. I tip well and I am grateful for waiters and waitresses. People have gotten so negative. We need more happy encounters with other people. Thank you so much.
I really agree with tip 10. My aunt was in a verbally abuse marriage for years, and she was greatly affected by it. She managed to get out of it and is now remarried to a wonderful man that treats her as she deserves. I can see the giant change in her, and her life is so much better and she is so much happier.
I totally agree with 9 out of 10 things mentioned. The only one I do not agree with is cursing when you’re not angry, especially as a Mexican, 'cause our curse words are extremely cathartic. Let me explain myself: Throughout my life, I’ve been an introverted insecure person. My family taught me that saying bad words was wrong and tacky, so I made a commitment to myself to never ever say a bad word and that made me feel superior from others... you know, like a more civilized person. But when I started going to psychoanalytic therapy, I discovered that I was repressing myself SO much, that it was tearing myself apart from the inside out. So then, I started cursing just a little bit around my friends, and it was hard, everyone looked at me like "wow, you said a bad word? I didn’t think I would ever hear you talking like that, it feels so weird", but overtime I began to feel better and more confident. Now I curse when I feel like cursing without any sense of guilt, even when I’m joking or telling a cool story and it is SO liberating, but the important thing is that now I can say I always stay true to myself while I remain respectful to others. Thanks for reading me, I just wanted to share my experience :)
Melissa Namenwirth She really does! I've been watching since she only had about 26,000 subbies. It's been so great watching her channel grow! She's definitely one of my idols!
I agree about the don’t be mean to people/waiters! But also anyone in customer service!!!! I work for a furniture company and it’s crazy how many people come in here with a bad attitude and treat us poorly! 😬
Happy Cheli You know what's interesting? I own two antique shops and a property appraisal firm, and I am 26 years old, though I am often told I look younger than I am (this is pertinent to the story). You wouldn't believe how rude some people can be... until they find out that I own the stores. A customer will berate and belittle me, even going so far as ad hominem attacks, until it is revealed that I am not "just an employee." Something clicks in their head, and they see me as more of an equal. Their tone changes completely. It's quite an insight - a sad and unfortunate insight - into how certain people act toward others depending on social class.
Happy Cheli Same here! My momma would never have tolerated me being rude to anyone. My grandparents grew up dirt poor, and even when they grew their own businesses, they were kind to everyone they encountered. I am so proud of and thankful for the people who raised me, for they were and are the most beautiful souls. I try hard to emulate them every day! It sounds like you were raised right, too!
Thanks for shouting out that “we all work”- I love my children but I also love my career and I am really proud I provide my family with resources and outsourced education I would honestly not want to provide all myself. My kids are healthier and happier because hubby and I are fulfilled in our careers. Props to parents who provide all the care in the home!
Great video! Sadly, I spent 27 years in the situation you just so courageously warned your viewers about. I, too, felt I had to remain in the marriage for my four boys. Finally, at 45, I extracted the 5 of us and am now focused on getting all of us healthy. So glad you warned your viewers! if only RUclips would have been around 20 years ago...❤️ You are inspiring and put out great content!
KWShops I thought so, too! I have never thought about that. I shop sales and clearance all the time, but that is really great advice. You can't love or need it that much if you wouldn't buy it otherwise!
I agree, great tip! I always look at cost per use. My winter coat was fairly expensive but it is classic and I have worn it for 15 years now, that is really good value! I had bought things on sale that I have never worn or rarely have worn, not a good value!
I started following your channel a week ago. I love your style, which has helped me regain my style after ending an 18 year controlling marriage. Thank you for including tip #10. Hopefully, this tip will resonate with someone who is exausted trying to accommodate the endless demands of their spouse.
I loved your last tip the most. I was in an abusive relationship for 17 years. It ruined my life. Moral of the story. Tell as many people what's going on. Have a back up plan to leave and only leave when it's safe to. Also go to see a councillor so you can reclaim your mental health back and also make sure the kids have some one o talk to too cause it screws them up big time too
Great topic! Love lots of the comments below. As women we should support each other more often. One thing I would like to add is that women who are mothers shouldn’t judge women who aren’t. You have no idea (and really none of anyone’s business) why they don’t have children. It can be a choice or decision, or it could break her heart to talk about it. If you’re a mom, great; and if you’re not a mom, that’s fine too. Way too much judgment. Thank you for being YOU and sharing some really good reminders we all need to follow. ♥️
You are not just a nice person, you are a lovely lady inside and out. My Mom was very different than you in some ways ( my 2 sisters and I had to teach her to apply makeup ), but she is my hero and she always will be because she was inside and out a lovely lady. Your videos are my Sunday afternoon treat thank you so much
I like how upbeat & positive you are! You’re beautiful, optimistic, & wise. Keep up the good work! I just stumbled across your channel & almost didn’t click on it b/c I’m old enough to be your grandmother. Glad I clicked.
Agree with all your points. My favorites: don't buy things because they are on sale; not to use profanity,; do not use gossip; treat others with respect, and do not compromise your self-esteem and be in a bad marriage. Great video.
Really like what you said about gossip - for so many people, especially women, I think they believe that gossip based conversations make them seem interesting and fun to listen to but as soon as some one gossips my opinion of them automatically goes down. That said I'm guilty of it from time to time and so it's a good reminder for me. Good on you Shea!
THANK YOU FOR ADDING THE SHOUT OUT TO SERVERS! I’ve been a waitress since I was 17 and your words are not only appreciated but sooo TRUE. So again, thaaannk you 😘
So, I wasn’t sure what to expect with that title🧐, but after having watched the video, I agreed with all of them. Especially #7. I am not a prude, but do people really have to swear to get their point across!?
Yeah, I agree! I love this other youtube channel but the guy swears on every video, he has a great content but I can’t even watch or listen to it when my kids are around.
Wow! I never watched all the way till # 10! I am going through that right now! 32 years of my life... getting yelled at ....feeling worthless... no idea what I’m going to do with my life now ! But thank you for your videos! I enjoy them👍
I love this Shea! I would also like to add my 2 cents in regarding the Stay at Home mom & the Career mom both working. I think people in general need to be kind and respectful of whatever it is a woman wants to do. I don’t have children and I stay at home. I still work hard. I feel so looked down upon for that constantly. IT usually comes from other women and they make all sorts of assumptions about me based on it. So I love that you made that point and this is just my perspective that maybe some other women can relate to as well.
You may not be implying anything critical with this question, but this is a little to my point. I feel the need to EXPLAIN why I don't work or WHAT i'm doing exactly. We don't always need to explain ourselves to people to feel any sense of worthiness or that our "work" or lives are important. Some of us have a luxury of making more choices when it comes to "formal" jobs than others and that's ok and not something we should be made to feel bad about either. @@zz-ic6vy
I so appreciate you commenting on swearing. I feel it is a trend just like a certain style of shoe trends. But honestyly, it's a trend that never looks good on anyone, male or female. This trend needs to die. When someone says they are f****** mad I don't know what kind of mad that is. Are you frustrated? Are you insulted? There are so many more stylish words to help us understand each other.
Great video Shea. I completely agree with the competing moms at school!! I’m amazed at how catty they’ve been with each other and the school year just started.
Enjoyed immensely. Your passion for being a good person is so refreshing. I'm that look for the best in everyone and I'm honest and I often get taken advantage of. But I can't see any other way to live. And thank you for getting so fired up about wait staff. You go out to eat for the convenience, therefore you pay for. If you don't want to, stay home. And it's usually not the wait staffs fault. If this is the way you treat a stranger, how do you treat family? From your videos and behavior you're not just paying lip service to these tips. This is your life. Kudos to you for being young and responsible.
Girl I just love your videos. You are so sweet, genuine and relatable. Your channel is one of a kind and I always get excited when I get notified that you posted a new video!
ALL very, very, very true! I learned most of them and live by most of them by making mistakes and living for 51 years. I would have benefited so much had I seen or read something like this when I was in my 20’s! Bravo 👏!!!!
Love this video! I've been watching a bunch of your videos lately and enjoy them all! This made so many valid points and I can say I've been guilty of a few but always believe in treating people how you want to be treated even though so many are rude. It doesn't mean you have to be and by being a nice person it makes you feel so much better about your self! But I love your points for servers and stay at home moms I have been a stay at home mom for the past 6 years I've had a few serving jobs here and there recently just quit one because I'm pregnant with my 4th child all 6 and under and beside their dad when he is home I have zero help.. i don't have any parents and my in laws are so judgy and stuck up my sister in laws butt and treat my husband poorly when none of them have the right to judge because I could point out many of their flaws but I don't I'm always respectful to them.. but they have judge me for staying at home so much among others but all I would be working for is child care and think its important to have that time to bond with my children and love them to pieces.. but it's an extremely hard job and can be lonely in the sense of not having many mom friends and hard to meet any when stuck at home it was getting better but then we lost a car so most days I don't leave the house unless its to go to the store.. so I enjoy watching videos when u get a chance and see I'm not alone.. I'm blessed with many things even though I had a rough childhood i knew that i wanted a stable home and family and work hard for it.. i know so many broken homes and people that just have kids with anyone so it was important to me to find a good man and start a family.. but it's hard because my family does suck and I've had to cut alot of people out because they are just toxic.. rather be alone than around a bunch of fake people.. but I have worked hard and provide for my family that many don't see what I do and bring to the table.. people just assume i sit on my butt and watch tv and yes ive had my lazy days being bored at home but still constantly doing things for my children.. it's even harder now being pregnant taking care of 3 little ones.. but working is hard to and my kids would get so upset when I left for work its heartbreaking.. but it's what ya have to do to provide.. thankfully my husband works extremely hard for us.. but we do bump heads sometimes because he thinks I'm not doing anything because the house isnt perfect.. but when I was working and he stayed home he started to understand how hard it is to have a perfectly clean house with toddlers.. and now a days it's hard to find a good baby sitter that you can trust because they are all lazy and want to be paid ridiculous amount of money to sit on their phones.. so that puts stress on us never getting alone time that we need.. buy at the end of the day it's all worth it because I have a beautiful home with beautiful, healthy children and I could have turned out like alot of people I grew up around but always been a strong person to work and fight for what I want in life. And the older I get the less I care what others think because no one is perfect and it's the mistakes that make you grow and mature into a beautiful soul.. I can look back on all the hard times and truely appreciate what I have and to not take it for granted because it could change in a blink of an eye..anyway love the videos I have the same thoughts and style as you so really enjoys listening to you and also learned a few things too! So I will be a regular viewer from now! So keep the videos coming doll! Lol hopefully you read this Haha.
I love your videos I moved to the Middle East and I still keep up with your videos and always waiting for them keep up the good work you’re almost at half a million
The biggest thing I see is women putting themself down. Saying oh im dumb, oh im hideous, uh I'm fat. We should not be talking negatively about ourself to ourselves and others. I have an app on my phone called Affirmations. It sends me positive quotes and I can add my own too. So I add quotes or lyrics that make me smile. Helps me to think more positively. Shea you are awesome! Glad I found your videos they are super fun, informtaive and relatable!
I agreed with everything that you talked about especially the one about swearing! I myself choose to never swear as I know it does not help anything and you yourself come across as more intelligent when you don't swear
Agree with all points especially #6. I really hate it when people treat wait staff or sales people poorly. If someone is rude to service people it just reflects so negatively on them - I feel embarrassed for them! Thanks for the great videos!
Really enjoyed this video, thanks for sharing. You're right, we should be empowering each other, not competing against, or pinning 'so-and-so' as less than!! 👏👏 Bravo to all mom's out there 🤗
Thank you for pointing out how to treat waiters/waitresses! I am a waitress while in school. It can be a stressful job, and often deal with difficult people.
I thought this was going to be the same old same old but you really hit some great points!! And, ones I have not usually heard on a list of 10 things. Thanks!!
Thank you sooo much for these tips! I love all your videos. You’re such a genuine person and appear to have the best interests of others in mind. I wish I had a best friend like you! 😊
SHEA this was excellent and responsible! all points are great! as a muslim with a degree in biblical studies I find that the no gossip rule very important! thank you for saying that! Gossip is ugly and it breaks down your faith, it is said that angels are all ways around us; but when we engage in gossip angles walk away from us because they don't want to wittness ugliness. I agree with all your points
Hi George, I don't know if you have ever heard of this but there are lessons in Judaism about Lashon Hara(translates to the evil tongue)which includes topics about the extent of gossiping outside of what we normally think gossip is. Very interesting and enlightening. Google it to find some good articles. Opened my eyes for sure. Be blessed!
I agree with you, and I'm a Christian. Jesus spoke about using kind uplifting words and my favorite is "turn the other cheek". When someone is being nasty, sometimes it's best to just walk away. I love seeing the different areas where faiths can agree on.
Wow! Really appreciated this video! Especially #7, 8, and 9! Great advice! I just might put some of these on a poster for the Ladies room at my church!
I appreciate the fact you said not to be mean to servers. I am one and you’re right most of the time it’s not our fault and it happens way to much! And we basically live off tips and it is stressful!!!!
I am now a full time mom of three since I’ve had my baby in April and honestly, it’s harder for me than when I was a working mom. Omg lol at least when I worked I could take a break from home craziness and interact with other adults often. When you’re a stay at home mom, there is no break! Lol it takes a lot of patience and honestly I can’t get a break lol. I totally embrace it though. I love everything you mentioned 🙌🏽
Totally agree with how you should treat people in the service industry, (Servers, Building Guards, etc.) My Mom always taught me...”You can tell alot about a person’s true character by how they treat someone who can do nothing for them.”
Definitely agree, never be mean to servers. Let's also remember to be nice to gate agents at the airport. Flight delays, cancelations, and weather are not their fault. If you're late and miss your flight, don't be disrespectful and make demands. Be kind, polite, and show manners always. Classy behavior is so attractive
Thank you for mentioning #3. I've been sick for about 2 years with various valid illnesses and some with no diagnoses. I was just diagnosed with something new and instantly i googled it. I've been doing this for two years and it probably made matters worse and caused me more anxiety and depression. I just paused this video and deleted my medical googles. Also treating your waiter waitress is a good one. My kids have all worked in the restaurant business and the stories they have come home with are appalling. People treat these young kids who are putting themselves through college like if they're nobodies. Smh
LOVE LOVE LOVE!!! This video!!! Especially the last tip, about controlling. I have a friend who is like that. She always has to have the last word and she’s always right 🙄😒
Thank you for understanding it’s usually not the servers fault. You’re right. Managers order snd take inventory cooks cook bartenders make drinks. Server is just the messenger.
All good points! I am so guilty of buying things because they are on sale. I am working on that. I still love a bargain but if I already own a similar item or I can’t see myself wearing it a lot I put it back.
Woww this video really surprised me... i was expecting something very different.. i am a sahm and that could not be more true!!!! Best job ever but so haaard!! Congratulations good one!!!
Nice one Shea!! Just be nice to waiters or to to anyone for that matter. 100% on swearing/cussing, some people use it loosely like it’s part of a normal sentence construction
I totally agree on the advice you gave about WebMD! I used to research my symptoms and then I'd get depressed thinking that I had some sort of terminal illness. It's never a good idea to be researching common symptoms because you are going to waste so much time thinking that you're dying. I've learned to try and live happily or schedule a doctor's appointment if I'm not feeling better after some time. Great advice!
Yes you so right especially when you're graduating from college or high-school should be into yourself and that's the way life should be find yourself and be good to yourself and love yourself thank you
I’m watching this a year later, but everything you said hit home with me. I agree on the foul language in everyday conversation! I would hear coworkers at my old job talk that way, and honestly, it got old, fast! Also, the last point is so true. I was in a controlling, abusive marriage for 13 years. I finally had the courage to take my 3 sons and I and get help. It was the scariest thing I’ve ever done, but with God, counseling, and help from true friends and family, we got through it. There is light at the end of the tunnel! I’m now married to an awesome man of God who’s great to me and the boys. So whoever’s reading this, Shea is right. There are truly good people out there who will love you and will never seek to control and manipulate you...ever. Thanks so much for risking the criticism and making this video, Shea! God bless you! Hugs from a stay-at-home homeschool mom and ministers. 😉 💕 🤗
thank you so much for being such a good example to women and saying that. I really want us all to be united and support each other. We live in a bro's world, I felt that a lot working in IT as a programer. Working with another woman in my field really motivated me. And keep making your videos, I really enjoy them :)
Well said. I would add, a woman should never let her gender or age keep her from her passion or just trying something new.
Marieee totally agree
Yes!!
Marieee 💯 agree! I am 25 and about to get my BS in Computer Science! Yay!!!
carysa227 Yay you!
It should be put up as No. 1 “ woman should never do “ 🥰🧸
I am a disabled homemaker and #8 touched my heart. I don't have children but I have a husband and aging parents. Because of my disability I would be considered worthless in the workforce, but as a homemaker I am priceless to my family. All people have value. ❤
Awwww your statement and strength is awesome
..... Your comment shows your sense of strength and character, God bless you! I no longer work much, outside the home, ... And I can tell you that people think I don't have anything to do , being at home. ....Incorrect. I have plenty to do.
I commend you, you are precious to your family and to God.
♥ ♥ ♥ May God Bless you Always
Keep it up💪🏻👏🏻
I agree... My son is disabled and he is priceless to me, my husband, and the rest of our family. His worth (and yours) is not measured by how able bodied he is for work. He has accomplished so much when doctors said he wouldn’t/ couldn’t and brings joy I couldn’t imagine in my wildest dreams. I’m positive your family feels the same about you 💜. Thank you for sharing 😊
The worst for me is, when women tear other women down.
Great video and points
What do you consider tearing down? I think that if anyone acts stupid man, women or children I will say something. So just if I say something to a woman I am tearing her down?
Yes!! Mommy shaming is a great example! Breastfed vs formula, safe sleep vs bed sharing, etc. let’s lift each other up with encouragement cuz the mama life is HARD!
When you tear others down it’s oretty much going to lower your own energy frequency. When you wish bad upon others it’s gonna come back to you. What goes up comes down, what goes around comes around. You are what you think and will manifest that I’m your life.
I am a waitress and from the bottom of my heart, I thank you 💙💛💙. It means a lot when non-waitresses stick up for us :).
Katerini INFJ When I was in college, almost all of my friends were waitstaff, and the horror stories they told me absolutely floored me. I was raised by people who taught me to be kind to everyone, and I wrongly assumed that everybody else behaved this way. Now that I own antique stores, I take up for my workers. They will never have to put up with verbally abusive customers as long as I'm around!
They say, you can pretty much judge people’s character the way they treat people who work as customer service anything. Especially, if you’re out on a date and wanna know who you’re dealing with quicker. Anyways, the point is, if they treat your waiter bad, they will eventually treat you as such.
Don’t buy because it’s on sale...I am guilty! I need to unsubscribe from a lot of emails!
@@iluvubb247 totally agree
Also be nice to your healthcare providers. It's a difficult job.
carrie twickler A lot of my friends are RNs and they get treated horribly. It makes me so sad. Whenever I go to the doctor, I make it a point to be as pleasant as possible, even if I'm in pain.
Yes, they’re there to help and take care of you. Not, take over your misery. Please, be nice to your health care providers. They’re doing the job you won’t, that in itself should be respected and admired, each and every single time!
Right!! Even if I’m in horrible pain, when I was younger I had the mad at the world syndrome since I wasn’t diagnosed (endometriosis severe,ovarian cysts and kidney stones) and I would always try to be as nice as I could at the time, but now as I’m older, I especially try to do everything to be do whatever/answer quickly and politely to be as nice and easy going, but now it’s easier bc I’m diagnosed and I would have a very hard time before with doctors not thinking anything was wrong, or we started in the wrong spot... (GI). I can also say this goes both ways, I think sometimes it’s sad bc, nurses especially in the ER, and who’ve been around a long time (just SOME NOT ALL) get hardened in my opinion... just bc they see so much of it..... but young nurses/doctors can harden (not be so compassionate) quick too. I’ve had a lot of ups and down with different doctors and it can be frustrating so it’s great when they understand that also, I’m not always in my perfect state of polite mind when I’m in intolerable pain, but I always try to smile and be as kind as possible, esp to make up for time when I was younger and wasnt as patient (regardless of what I was going thru no excuse) now, one of my fav things, (since I see diff doctors on the reg and if I have to go the ER) I love writing them thank you notes to the hospital doctors and the nurses....
A woman who moves which such purity, courtesy, conscience and respect deserves an award for these acts of love, health and caring. Spread the love. I tip well and I am grateful for waiters and waitresses. People have gotten so negative. We need more happy encounters with other people. Thank you so much.
I really agree with tip 10. My aunt was in a verbally abuse marriage for years, and she was greatly affected by it. She managed to get out of it and is now remarried to a wonderful man that treats her as she deserves. I can see the giant change in her, and her life is so much better and she is so much happier.
I totally agree with 9 out of 10 things mentioned. The only one I do not agree with is cursing when you’re not angry, especially as a Mexican, 'cause our curse words are extremely cathartic.
Let me explain myself: Throughout my life, I’ve been an introverted insecure person. My family taught me that saying bad words was wrong and tacky, so I made a commitment to myself to never ever say a bad word and that made me feel superior from others... you know, like a more civilized person. But when I started going to psychoanalytic therapy, I discovered that I was repressing myself SO much, that it was tearing myself apart from the inside out. So then, I started cursing just a little bit around my friends, and it was hard, everyone looked at me like "wow, you said a bad word? I didn’t think I would ever hear you talking like that, it feels so weird", but overtime I began to feel better and more confident. Now I curse when I feel like cursing without any sense of guilt, even when I’m joking or telling a cool story and it is SO liberating, but the important thing is that now I can say I always stay true to myself while I remain respectful to others.
Thanks for reading me, I just wanted to share my experience :)
Your channel is so unique compared to everyone else on RUclips!! You have so many good ideas!! This is why i love your channel so much!
Awe I LOVE this comment! Thank you so much for saying that!!!
Melissa Namenwirth indeed
Melissa Namenwirth She really does! I've been watching since she only had about 26,000 subbies. It's been so great watching her channel grow! She's definitely one of my idols!
Agreed, you always sound like you only speak your mind, and that in itself is refreshing and unique
My mom is controller by my dad, and I really hope she gets the courage to leave that toxic relationship.
A marriage is kinda a forever thing, so you can't really leave it like a "toxic realationship" it's not a fling.
I agree about the don’t be mean to people/waiters! But also anyone in customer service!!!! I work for a furniture company and it’s crazy how many people come in here with a bad attitude and treat us poorly! 😬
Oh yes, I'm sure it's terrible!!! So sad! :(
I agree. I work in a clothing store , same story.
Happy Cheli You know what's interesting? I own two antique shops and a property appraisal firm, and I am 26 years old, though I am often told I look younger than I am (this is pertinent to the story). You wouldn't believe how rude some people can be... until they find out that I own the stores. A customer will berate and belittle me, even going so far as ad hominem attacks, until it is revealed that I am not "just an employee." Something clicks in their head, and they see me as more of an equal. Their tone changes completely. It's quite an insight - a sad and unfortunate insight - into how certain people act toward others depending on social class.
Matt C I agree! That’s unfortunate! 😕 I feel like even as I was growing up I was taught to treat everyone with respect no matter who they were!
Happy Cheli Same here! My momma would never have tolerated me being rude to anyone. My grandparents grew up dirt poor, and even when they grew their own businesses, they were kind to everyone they encountered. I am so proud of and thankful for the people who raised me, for they were and are the most beautiful souls. I try hard to emulate them every day! It sounds like you were raised right, too!
This shade of blue from your jeans jacket looks gorgeous on you💙
Awe thanks!!! I love this denim jacket!
Thanks for shouting out that “we all work”- I love my children but I also love my career and I am really proud I provide my family with resources and outsourced education I would honestly not want to provide all myself. My kids are healthier and happier because hubby and I are fulfilled in our careers. Props to parents who provide all the care in the home!
Great video! Sadly, I spent 27 years in the situation you just so courageously warned your viewers about. I, too, felt I had to remain in the marriage for my four boys. Finally, at 45, I extracted the 5 of us and am now focused on getting all of us healthy. So glad you warned your viewers! if only RUclips would have been around 20 years ago...❤️ You are inspiring and put out great content!
Kim B. Glad to hear your better! She is inspiring 💕
@@HappyCheli Thank you!
OMG I love #2! such a great tip (if you wouldn't buy it full-price, don't buy it) the best tip ever. Great video, super unexpected!!!
KWShops I thought so, too! I have never thought about that. I shop sales and clearance all the time, but that is really great advice. You can't love or need it that much if you wouldn't buy it otherwise!
I agree, great tip! I always look at cost per use. My winter coat was fairly expensive but it is classic and I have worn it for 15 years now, that is really good value! I had bought things on sale that I have never worn or rarely have worn, not a good value!
This is life changing
I started following your channel a week ago. I love your style, which has helped me regain my style after ending an 18 year controlling marriage. Thank you for including tip #10. Hopefully, this tip will resonate with someone who is exausted trying to accommodate the endless demands of their spouse.
I loved your last tip the most. I was in an abusive relationship for 17 years. It ruined my life. Moral of the story. Tell as many people what's going on. Have a back up plan to leave and only leave when it's safe to. Also go to see a councillor so you can reclaim your mental health back and also make sure the kids have some one o talk to too cause it screws them up big time too
How are you?
Good for you for standing up for yourself. I hope you're ok now.
Great topic! Love lots of the comments below. As women we should support each other more often.
One thing I would like to add is that women who are mothers shouldn’t judge women who aren’t. You have no idea (and really none of anyone’s business) why they don’t have children. It can be a choice or decision, or it could break her heart to talk about it. If you’re a mom, great; and if you’re not a mom, that’s fine too.
Way too much judgment.
Thank you for being YOU and sharing some really good reminders we all need to follow. ♥️
As a nurse I thank you for the no Web MD mention... people literally use precious resources in ERs for non emergent things
Shea, I really needed to hear that last tip. Thank you and I love your videos❤️
I'm so glad you enjoyed...thank you so much
I LOVED this video!! Every single point was amazing!
Eeek - thank you so much for saying that!!! I'm so happy you liked it!
Don't assume any stay at home mom has too much free time and should take on a time-consuming assignment bc she doesn't have anything better to do.
You are not just a nice person, you are a lovely lady inside and out. My Mom was very different than you in some ways ( my 2 sisters and I had to teach her to apply makeup ), but she is my hero and she always will be because she was inside and out a lovely lady.
Your videos are my Sunday afternoon treat thank you so much
I like how upbeat & positive you are! You’re beautiful, optimistic, & wise. Keep up the good work! I just stumbled across your channel & almost didn’t click on it b/c I’m old enough to be your grandmother. Glad I clicked.
Agree with all your points. My favorites: don't buy things because they are on sale; not to use profanity,; do not use gossip; treat others with respect, and do not compromise your self-esteem and be in a bad marriage. Great video.
Really like what you said about gossip - for so many people, especially women, I think they believe that gossip based conversations make them seem interesting and fun to listen to but as soon as some one gossips my opinion of them automatically goes down. That said I'm guilty of it from time to time and so it's a good reminder for me. Good on you Shea!
THANK YOU FOR ADDING THE SHOUT OUT TO SERVERS! I’ve been a waitress since I was 17 and your words are not only appreciated but sooo TRUE. So again, thaaannk you 😘
So, I wasn’t sure what to expect with that title🧐, but after having watched the video, I agreed with all of them. Especially #7. I am not a prude, but do people really have to swear to get their point across!?
I'm so glad you enjoyed the video!!!
Hahahha, I didn’t think of that
Yes
Because otherwise people don’t listen to me
@@suhrida I agree. And to be honest, I think people respect you more as well. When you act classy, people tend to notice and treat you better.
Yeah, I agree! I love this other youtube channel but the guy swears on every video, he has a great content but I can’t even watch or listen to it when my kids are around.
Yes! Just being kind is a huge takeaway from this video! 💗
I’d love to hear 10 things we should do everyday...great video
Misty Baker I would watch that!
Love all your videos! Perfect mix of helpful, funny and serious. You’re doing great things.
Yes, just be kind. What a wonderful sentiment l hope your encouragement influences more of us it's for the better of us all.
Wow! I never watched all the way till # 10! I am going through that right now! 32 years of my life... getting yelled at ....feeling worthless... no idea what I’m going to do with my life now ! But thank you for your videos! I enjoy them👍
I love this Shea! I would also like to add my 2 cents in regarding the Stay at Home mom & the Career mom both working. I think people in general need to be kind and respectful of whatever it is a woman wants to do. I don’t have children and I stay at home. I still work hard. I feel so looked down upon for that constantly. IT usually comes from other women and they make all sorts of assumptions about me based on it. So I love that you made that point and this is just my perspective that maybe some other women can relate to as well.
Joy Cooper And what you do in home?
You may not be implying anything critical with this question, but this is a little to my point. I feel the need to EXPLAIN why I don't work or WHAT i'm doing exactly. We don't always need to explain ourselves to people to feel any sense of worthiness or that our "work" or lives are important. Some of us have a luxury of making more choices when it comes to "formal" jobs than others and that's ok and not something we should be made to feel bad about either. @@zz-ic6vy
@@joycooper4023 maybe she was interested in the possibility of doing the same?
I so appreciate you commenting on swearing. I feel it is a trend just like a certain style of shoe trends. But honestyly, it's a trend that never looks good on anyone, male or female. This trend needs to die. When someone says they are f****** mad I don't know what kind of mad that is. Are you frustrated? Are you insulted? There are so many more stylish words to help us understand each other.
This is awesome. Each point is pretty much common sense but need to be pointed out. Great job. I hope you make this into a series.
I completely agree with this! I have so much respect for you. These tibbets of your opinions were really wise.
Totally agree with all of this Shea, you killed it!
Great video Shea. I completely agree with the competing moms at school!! I’m amazed at how catty they’ve been with each other and the school year just started.
Enjoyed immensely. Your passion for being a good person is so refreshing. I'm that look for the best in everyone and I'm honest and I often get taken advantage of. But I can't see any other way to live. And thank you for getting so fired up about wait staff. You go out to eat for the convenience, therefore you pay for. If you don't want to, stay home. And it's usually not the wait staffs fault. If this is the way you treat a stranger, how do you treat family?
From your videos and behavior you're not just paying lip service to these tips. This is your life. Kudos to you for being young and responsible.
All the bullet points make sense and specially the cursing, gossiping and treating waiters nicely. Good job Shea!! 👏
Love this.... especially about not tearing other women down.... and letting yourself being controlled by someone else!!! xo
I love you channel. It's a breath of fresh air! Please keep making videos!
Shae! This video ROCKS! These encouraging videos that you do are my absolute favorite. Keep it up girl! You are such a LIGHT! 💛
Girl I just love your videos. You are so sweet, genuine and relatable. Your channel is one of a kind and I always get excited when I get notified that you posted a new video!
The most sincere woman on youtube@ GIRL POWER # so proud of you shea💁🏻♀️
ALL very, very, very true! I learned most of them and live by most of them by making mistakes and living for 51 years. I would have benefited so much had I seen or read something like this when I was in my 20’s!
Bravo 👏!!!!
PREACH! These points are all correct. Good job Shea!
You're such a good person Shay! Such thoughtful things!
Love this video! I've been watching a bunch of your videos lately and enjoy them all! This made so many valid points and I can say I've been guilty of a few but always believe in treating people how you want to be treated even though so many are rude. It doesn't mean you have to be and by being a nice person it makes you feel so much better about your self! But I love your points for servers and stay at home moms I have been a stay at home mom for the past 6 years I've had a few serving jobs here and there recently just quit one because I'm pregnant with my 4th child all 6 and under and beside their dad when he is home I have zero help.. i don't have any parents and my in laws are so judgy and stuck up my sister in laws butt and treat my husband poorly when none of them have the right to judge because I could point out many of their flaws but I don't I'm always respectful to them.. but they have judge me for staying at home so much among others but all I would be working for is child care and think its important to have that time to bond with my children and love them to pieces.. but it's an extremely hard job and can be lonely in the sense of not having many mom friends and hard to meet any when stuck at home it was getting better but then we lost a car so most days I don't leave the house unless its to go to the store.. so I enjoy watching videos when u get a chance and see I'm not alone.. I'm blessed with many things even though I had a rough childhood i knew that i wanted a stable home and family and work hard for it.. i know so many broken homes and people that just have kids with anyone so it was important to me to find a good man and start a family.. but it's hard because my family does suck and I've had to cut alot of people out because they are just toxic.. rather be alone than around a bunch of fake people.. but I have worked hard and provide for my family that many don't see what I do and bring to the table.. people just assume i sit on my butt and watch tv and yes ive had my lazy days being bored at home but still constantly doing things for my children.. it's even harder now being pregnant taking care of 3 little ones.. but working is hard to and my kids would get so upset when I left for work its heartbreaking.. but it's what ya have to do to provide.. thankfully my husband works extremely hard for us.. but we do bump heads sometimes because he thinks I'm not doing anything because the house isnt perfect.. but when I was working and he stayed home he started to understand how hard it is to have a perfectly clean house with toddlers.. and now a days it's hard to find a good baby sitter that you can trust because they are all lazy and want to be paid ridiculous amount of money to sit on their phones.. so that puts stress on us never getting alone time that we need.. buy at the end of the day it's all worth it because I have a beautiful home with beautiful, healthy children and I could have turned out like alot of people I grew up around but always been a strong person to work and fight for what I want in life. And the older I get the less I care what others think because no one is perfect and it's the mistakes that make you grow and mature into a beautiful soul.. I can look back on all the hard times and truely appreciate what I have and to not take it for granted because it could change in a blink of an eye..anyway love the videos I have the same thoughts and style as you so really enjoys listening to you and also learned a few things too! So I will be a regular viewer from now! So keep the videos coming doll! Lol hopefully you read this Haha.
Shea, thank you for being a true example of class! If more people acted like you, the world would be a better place!
Thank you for the kind words, Matt! ❤️
I love your videos I moved to the Middle East and I still keep up with your videos and always waiting for them keep up the good work you’re almost at half a million
Thank you so much for keeping up with my videos!! And I can't believe I'm almost at half a million - craziness!!!
Thank you so much for sticking up for us servers it means a lot to me. Love you and your channel
The last one really got me. I needed to hear that advice
The biggest thing I see is women putting themself down. Saying oh im dumb, oh im hideous, uh I'm fat. We should not be talking negatively about ourself to ourselves and others. I have an app on my phone called Affirmations. It sends me positive quotes and I can add my own too. So I add quotes or lyrics that make me smile. Helps me to think more positively. Shea you are awesome! Glad I found your videos they are super fun, informtaive and relatable!
I agreed with everything that you talked about especially the one about swearing! I myself choose to never swear as I know it does not help anything and you yourself come across as more intelligent when you don't swear
Totally agree
this was very a good list! you are right we should be kind and not tear each other down.
I loved the mention of treating your waitress or waiter well. I have been a waitress for 8 years and it’s a tough job!
MsSince93 8 years 😮 I work in customer service and I think it’s hard but I can’t image how much more harder a waiter/waitress has it
Agree with all points especially #6. I really hate it when people treat wait staff or sales people poorly. If someone is rude to service people it just reflects so negatively on them - I feel embarrassed for them! Thanks for the great videos!
What a lovely lady you are! Enjoyed this tremendously.
Really enjoyed this video, thanks for sharing. You're right, we should be empowering each other, not competing against, or pinning 'so-and-so' as less than!! 👏👏 Bravo to all mom's out there 🤗
Good words of wisdom! 😘
Thank you for pointing out how to treat waiters/waitresses! I am a waitress while in school. It can be a stressful job, and often deal with difficult people.
I thought this was going to be the same old same old but you really hit some great points!! And, ones I have not usually heard on a list of 10 things. Thanks!!
Thank you sooo much for these tips! I love all your videos. You’re such a genuine person and appear to have the best interests of others in mind. I wish I had a best friend like you! 😊
SHEA this was excellent and responsible! all points are great! as a muslim with a degree in biblical studies I find that the no gossip rule very important! thank you for saying that! Gossip is ugly and it breaks down your faith, it is said that angels are all ways around us; but when we engage in gossip angles walk away from us because they don't want to wittness ugliness. I agree with all your points
Hi George, I don't know if you have ever heard of this but there are lessons in Judaism about Lashon Hara(translates to the evil tongue)which includes topics about the extent of gossiping outside of what we normally think gossip is. Very interesting and enlightening. Google it to find some good articles. Opened my eyes for sure. Be blessed!
I agree with you, and I'm a Christian. Jesus spoke about using kind uplifting words and my favorite is "turn the other cheek". When someone is being nasty, sometimes it's best to just walk away.
I love seeing the different areas where faiths can agree on.
Wow! Really appreciated this video! Especially #7, 8, and 9! Great advice! I just might put some of these on a poster for the Ladies room at my church!
I appreciate the fact you said not to be mean to servers. I am one and you’re right most of the time it’s not our fault and it happens way to much! And we basically live off tips and it is stressful!!!!
Right on Shea! You are on point and I share your views! 💕
I am now a full time mom of three since I’ve had my baby in April and honestly, it’s harder for me than when I was a working mom. Omg lol at least when I worked I could take a break from home craziness and interact with other adults often. When you’re a stay at home mom, there is no break! Lol it takes a lot of patience and honestly I can’t get a break lol. I totally embrace it though. I love everything you mentioned 🙌🏽
Totally agree with how you should treat people in the service industry, (Servers, Building Guards, etc.) My Mom always taught me...”You can tell alot about a person’s true character by how they treat someone who can do nothing for them.”
Your write on point. Everything on this list is accurate. Thank you so much !!
Definitely agree, never be mean to servers. Let's also remember to be nice to gate agents at the airport. Flight delays, cancelations, and weather are not their fault. If you're late and miss your flight, don't be disrespectful and make demands. Be kind, polite, and show manners always. Classy behavior is so attractive
Thank you for mentioning #3. I've been sick for about 2 years with various valid illnesses and some with no diagnoses. I was just diagnosed with something new and instantly i googled it. I've been doing this for two years and it probably made matters worse and caused me more anxiety and depression. I just paused this video and deleted my medical googles. Also treating your waiter waitress is a good one. My kids have all worked in the restaurant business and the stories they have come home with are appalling. People treat these young kids who are putting themselves through college like if they're nobodies. Smh
LOVE LOVE LOVE!!! This video!!! Especially the last tip, about controlling. I have a friend who is like that. She always has to have the last word and she’s always right 🙄😒
Thanks Shea!! Good tips we all should live by.
Thank you for understanding it’s usually not the servers fault. You’re right. Managers order snd take inventory cooks cook bartenders make drinks. Server is just the messenger.
Very good Shea!! Thanks for speaking up....
Loved this video! I have two boys and I am a stay at home mom... I hate when people think I do nothing all day!
Thank you, Gina! ❤️
I know I'm very, very busy when I'm at home with the boys. I'm sure you are, too!!!
Integrity !!
Great video Shea :)
This is my most favourite episode from Shea. I love you girl.
Very interesting thoughts! Looking forward to your “should do” video.
Great video....I feel the same way about the language and people being rude to CS workers! Thanks for helping us stay positive!
You absolutely Rock, wise beyond your years 💜
All good points! I am so guilty of buying things because they are on sale. I am working on that. I still love a bargain but if I already own a similar item or I can’t see myself wearing it a lot I put it back.
I love this! You are my new favorite. I seriously agree 100% with everything you said. So happy I found your channel! Let the binge watching begin
Woww this video really surprised me... i was expecting something very different.. i am a sahm and that could not be more true!!!! Best job ever but so haaard!! Congratulations good one!!!
Nice one Shea!! Just be nice to waiters or to to anyone for that matter. 100% on swearing/cussing, some people use it loosely like it’s part of a normal sentence construction
Shea, thoroughly enjoyed your video of 10 things... I saved it to share! You are so attractive and Sweet and spot on with these ideas. Thank you!
I totally agree on the advice you gave about WebMD! I used to research my symptoms and then I'd get depressed thinking that I had some sort of terminal illness. It's never a good idea to be researching common symptoms because you are going to waste so much time thinking that you're dying. I've learned to try and live happily or schedule a doctor's appointment if I'm not feeling better after some time. Great advice!
Yes you so right especially when you're graduating from college or high-school should be into yourself and that's the way life should be find yourself and be good to yourself and love yourself thank you
This is awesome!
Great video -shea-i dont usually comment on thrse tjongs but those 10 things women should never do was spot on
Thank you Miss Shea for uploading this video.
I’m watching this a year later, but everything you said hit home with me. I agree on the foul language in everyday conversation! I would hear coworkers at my old job talk that way, and honestly, it got old, fast! Also, the last point is so true. I was in a controlling, abusive marriage for 13 years. I finally had the courage to take my 3 sons and I and get help. It was the scariest thing I’ve ever done, but with God, counseling, and help from true friends and family, we got through it. There is light at the end of the tunnel! I’m now married to an awesome man of God who’s great to me and the boys. So whoever’s reading this, Shea is right. There are truly good people out there who will love you and will never seek to control and manipulate you...ever. Thanks so much for risking the criticism and making this video, Shea! God bless you! Hugs from a stay-at-home homeschool mom and ministers. 😉 💕 🤗
I never know quite what to expect when you do titles like this, but it's always good. ;)
I just love your videos! You are genuine and sweet with great advice!
thank you so much for being such a good example to women and saying that. I really want us all to be united and support each other. We live in a bro's world, I felt that a lot working in IT as a programer. Working with another woman in my field really motivated me.
And keep making your videos, I really enjoy them :)
Omg WEB MD has caused me so much anxiety!!! My doctor said, “STOP going to that site!!” 🤣