Opening up about my mental health & taking a break from YouTube
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- Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
- Am I doing OK? How are my kids settling in the new place? What have we been up to in the last year? How is the house coming along? These are a few questions I'll be answering in this video.
If you're new to my channel, welcome to the family and thank you for watching our video!
Here's a little bit about me, I am a wife, a mother of three beautiful kiddos, and a former actress. Following my eldest son (Dylan)'s diagnosis of Autism, I threw myself into learning all there was to learn about Autism and how to help him. After 6 years of research, I wrote my first book 'Coming Home to Autism', with my wonderful friend and brilliant speech therapist, Rhian Grounds. My mission is to help support and empower other parents of special needs children.
If you have topics you'd like me to cover in my future videos, write in the comments below!
We are releasing new videos every Sunday (fingers-crossed) at 9.30 AM GMT, so stay tuned x
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You are a wonderful caring mother. Sorry for all of the hardships you and your son face.
Thank you x
Me and my husband we are starting in these amazing journey of autism. Two months ago we found that my daughter is autistic. She’s 2 years old and already start with ABA & Speech Therapy. As a mother you have no idea how all your videos have been helpful and I just wanted to thank you YOU and DYLAN for sharing. That’s great you took some time for yourself and Yes we need to be “OK” to be there for our kids (applauses). Keep going with the good work, YOU GOT THIS.
Thank you so very much xox
I would suggest looking a lot into ABA and the principals behind it, as it has caused trauma in so many autistics and in some cases use methods that are really inhuman. A lot of times, it's dog training for autistics to teach them to be more neurotypical. There are a lot of other options for therapy such as occupational therapy which I'd look into if I were you. Not judging you, just hoping that your child will be as safe as possible. :)
Please, don't do ABA
@@carpetstick even worst than that, some dog trainers said ABA is bad EVEN for dogs
I admire you, you're amazing in everything. From being a devoted mom, to articulating challenges so eloquently, to even swimming in freezing cold water. Kudos!
Thank you so much x
you are so brave, strong and inspiring. You are a great mother and woman!
gosh thank you so much x
You’re mental health is so important. Love your videos and glad Dillon is okay!
Thank you so much x
Sorry you have had such a tough time but great to hear things are much better now. So good Dylan was able to say he needed time out himself - you have set such a good example - Great job, you should be so proud ! x
thank you so much. its been tough for so many x
WOW!!! Thank you for sharing. AMAZING!!! Stay strong.
It's so nice to hear from you. ❤️
As always, love your honesty and rawness. This journey can be tough and I think we get too good at pretending we are ok to protect ourselves and our children - or we don’t even realise we are not ok. Glad you and Dylan are doing better. Look after yourself! 💜
thank you so much hard to be honest sometimes but I hope it can help others x
Hi, so glad ur bk, as I have missed ur vlogs & can't wait to see the next ones xx
Ah thank you so much x
Remembering my own mental health journey. So glad you and your family is in a much better place, and look forward to what’s up next.❤️
Thank you so much x
Thank you for sharing! So glad your back !
Love being back thank you
I am a speech and language therapist, working with lots of kids on the spectrum and I have to say: you are an absolutely wonderful and sensitive Mom! You could work as co therapist with you wide knowledge!❤
Wow, thank you! 🙏🏻
Welcome back ❤
So good to be back
Hey welcome back🤗seeing you I have also started sharing my experiences in RUclips 👍Hope our experience s surely help others 🙏
welcome back i love your family and channel
Thank you so much
Plz post regular videos...all the mothers need a super mom lyk u🥰🤩
Thank you so much I’m going tk try my hardest x
I mean she’s trying to say she needs a break for her mental health. SMH, what is wrong with people lol
Hi, I am glad that Dylan is well now!!
You are so sweet whole family!!
I am looking forward Dylan's videos ;))
every autumn I get into depression. Daylight lights and candlaes help a lot ;))
Take care!
Love from Maidstone.
Thank you I love my candles that’s for sure
You are amazing woman,mom and wife I just started my journey but thank you for share yours I can relate with you and the Information they gave is very valued Take care yourself is very important thank you
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So glad you're back!!! Thank you 😊
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Hiiiii 🤗 welcome back! Better late than never, but I loved this 💙 such a beautiful and warm human being..
My “baby” is now 45. I’ve been there, too. I’ve often thought of it as PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). I’m so glad you have friends.
Our lives are often like the sea, it seems. . . The different tides come and go. Sometimes a peaceful glistening sea and then a roaring wave followed by a sweet wave that you can float in. Sometimes I float peacefully, others make me swim for shore.
Wish I could hug you.
I was so excited to see you back that I answered before I watched all of your video. Missed you and can’t wait to see your kiddo’s video.
Ah thank you so much so happy to be back x
Thank you so much for opening up may God bless you
Thank you x
Awww so glad to see your beautiful face Tara x ♥️
Thank you lovely x
The more I get to know you, the more love and respect I feel for you beautiful Tara. So glad to see that your resilience has paid off 💕😘
your so sweet thank you so much
Hi lovely lady. Thank you for coming back. I have just discovered your channel and oh my word.. I am so thankful. My son is 7 and mid diagnosis and I really am finding it so hard. In multiple ways as I know you will understand. Questioning myself.. everything. Not knowing where to go or what to do. I am so glad Dylan is well and you are too now. I can't imagine how hard that must of been on top of everything else happening. Bless you mum and congrats on your new home! We love Dorset. ❤
Thank you so much and thank you for following our journey x
So nice to see you again!! X
Thank you so much x
Hello, so glad to hear from you, I started following you last year because we were concerned about our little boy and finally a peditrician sat as down last week and after 40 minutes said your son is Autistic with some leaflets and that's it.
Your channel has given us soo much information and we are thankful to have found you.
Thank you for all the videos we are starting this journey know but I think we have started before the label 🏷
Our son just turned 3.
Again thank you soo much.💕
Thank you so much for following us and thank you for watching x
Welcome back. 😀
Thank you so good to be back
Welcome back! I'm glad you are taking care of yourself. Your videos have been very helpful in my journey with my autistic son. Take care!❤️
Thank you so much x
I'm glad that you're feeling better, and I'm glad that your kids are ok. I missed you guys very much, and I can't wait to see what you bring next! 😀
We missed you all too x
Love you so much, mega Mom! You are a such an inspiration for me ...
Thank you lovely x
Can only imagine how awful that time must have been but I am so so happy Dylan and yourself are okay now ❤️ missed you all xxx
Ah we missed you all too so good to be back x
So glad you learned how to take care of yourself - an invaluable lesson. You are doing a great job with your special boy, Dylan. You are breaking new ground (not easy) and I'm sure you are helping many others.
Thank you so much x
THANK YOU!
I’m so sorry you went through this. The way you protect your children is just fierce. What an amazing mum. Glad you are back to yourself again x
I love swimming in waterfalls so calming, I'm glad your in a better place fighting all the time for the support for your family is exhausting but its so important to take time for yourself even if its only 10 mins xx
so interesting that at the same age myself and Dylan seemed to have suffered the same thing with a sudden onset like anorexia xx
Thank you for coming back & being honest. We love your family and always look forward to see new videos . Pls do podcast as well if you can .
Thank you so much. Might be something il so as it’s easier to get out and more frequent too x
So lovely to see you again. Sending my love to you and your lovely family. Your videos are a breath of fresh air, so real and very relatable. I can honestly say I’m a better parent to my autistic daughter thanks to your videos. Forever grateful and thankful, you are a wonderful human! 😘😘😘
Thank you so much lovely
It's so nice to see you 💓 so glad you are all good!
Thank you x
Just want to say you’re so beautiful & Dylan is very lucky to have such a wonderful caring mother! Lots of love from the USA❤️
Thank you so much x
Absolutely love you!!!! Big hugs! You're such an inspiration!
Oh God bless him. Well done 👏
Thank you it’s so good to see you all again. Sorry things have been tough but so pleased they have improved. Take carex
Thank you x
Thank you for being so totally transparent and open about very real things that are more or less acknowledged - we see you and hear you and we're all in this together!
I missed you and your videos! Your advices help me so much! I always search for a new video of you. We all are lucky that you and Dylan share your story. You help so many families! My son doesn't eat too. I worry so much! I worry about the future...
Little by little lovely and try sneak in vitamins pro biotics where you can. Shakes can be good too if he drinks x
I love you Tara glad your back!!!!! ♥️your amazing !!!!
My Jalen just got diagnosed last Monday. He is 2 yrs old ... I am so lost. But thank you for your vidoes. God bless you and your family.
Wow no wonder you had to take time out from You Tube. The last 18 months have been bad enough without all of that worry and stress you went thro not knowing what was wrong with Dillon and moving everyone. It's so good to hear that you got help and support and the Time away clearly did you good 👍
You have been such an inspiration to me being a single mum with a 5 year old Austistic son and going thro simular struggles. Thank you so much for sharing your journey, I look forward to watching your videos and its so lovely that Dillon is showing an interest in it too bless him. Keep strong Tara 💪 you are amazing xx
So happy Dillon is loads better x
Thank you for watching lovely. You got this mama x
Thankyou for doing these great jobs bringing us so caring, thoughtful and supportive messages from all of your videos. Thank you so much!
Dylan, you are really blessed having such a great mom!!!
I really admire you, how you handle your situation. Take care of yourselves, rest when you can. ❤️
The rabbit hole of RUclips somehow led me to your channel, and thank God for that! Looking forward to more! I have an 11yr old asd son. ❤
I’m so happy you found me ❤️❤️
You bring so much hope. Just now breaking down, worrying about my child and this, this, I just watched it. Feeling the same way about myself now as a mom, as a person... and this just uplift me. Thank you.
its all going to be ok sending you so much love
I'm so glad to have found your channel 💓
Me too!!
My heart breaks for what you went through. What an amazing young man he is! Your other two are so bright and beautiful. So glad you got to get away. I am new to your channel. I have b/g twins, 4.5 years old on the spectrum with completely opposing needs. It has been challenging at this age! We are a work in progress!
Thank you so much
Dylan you are RIGHT! Good job Mum! I have so much admiration for you for taking charge when Dylan was sick! Happy for your recovery Dylan. We all need a break away now and again, thanks for the reminder.
your welcome x
I can so much relate to all you said… I didn’t move houses but I had a baby during middle of the pandemic … and ohh my God it was tough. I am glad you and your family are doing fine and you’ve found help. Good to see you back. I missed you ❤️❤️❤️
Good to see you back gal !! All I can say is that you keep rocking … 💕👋
Thanks mama x
Welcome back!
you are an amazing family ,, the help services did you wrong not giving you the right support. you are a great mother.
Thank you so much
So happy Dylan was okay 💕
Thank you
Thank you for the hope and ispiration you are giving us. Take care!
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Yes! My AS girl 11 years old went incontinent during lockdown, bloody noses. We lost our income and insurance. I ended up in hospital for two weeks from a complete nervous collapse. Lockdown was horrific for special needs kids and caregivers. My daughter had to start taking anxiety pills. She is all better now, but it was a journey.
Taaara i was missing u alloooooooot..🥰
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Great job Mom!
Welcome back,my friend
You have been through a lot
Strong,sweet Lady
Pleased to hear Dylan is better
Hugs to you and your Family
Warm Hugs from Amman Jordan Middle East
thank you xox
Good to see you! I'd love to hear more about PDA. My 12 yo daughter has epilepsy, anxiety (OCD and hoarding), ADHD and recently dx ASD. The refusal is so strong! I'd love to learn more about PDA and see if there are any tools I can use to help us all. Great video!
We have a video coming out soon where I talk more about these other diagnoses x
I needed this right now. Thank you x
Sending love x
We have just recently found your channel and also just found out our granddaughter has been diagnosed as being on the Spectrum. We are in only the beginning stages of finding out what all this means and your calming tone and experiences and sharing what you've gone through is so informative. Will definitely be following and going back in your videos as we begin this "journey ". Thank you for putting this out there cause it is scary and ya do feel nervous about their future.
What do you mean? We are your fans.. And we are so happy for you guys.. We know what struggles means.. Every patent with a kid on the spectrum knows.. Anyways glad to be back.. Love from Greece..
Thank you so much xox
I hope it will get better with us. Thanks for sharing your story. Its very Motivational for us. Lots of love to Dylan ❤
I’m sorry to hear that, I will pray for you x
Hugs💜
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Sending love! One of my autistic boys has ARFID which is also common with autism. It's been hard as hell. Hes currently on hospital grade full nutrition sustagen twice a day. X
That’s so good he is taking that ❤️ thank you for watching
Thank you so much for sharing. You and your son are so resilient! Could you pls recommend some materials on PDA? Glad that you are back and all of you are doing better. We need you and your videos.
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Thank you for your time and effort and for how amazing you are! Please do stay and please do keep us updated as to how you’re feeling! I’m quite looking forward to the pregnancy after diagnosis part. My son is 2 years old and going through the process of diagnosis, and I’m wondering what this means for our family plans going forward. Thank you again
Will do thank you x
Thank you sooo much for this I feel now much better. I have 2 autistic boys it’s very hard … some days I feel veryyy low I don’t have time for friends and family
sending you love always here if you need a friend
OMG, Tara, what a terrible time you've been through! I'm so glad Dylan's okay and well. I remember Grisha stopped eating and drinking for 24 hours- we were abroad on a holiday, just me and him, and I couldn't do anything about it. Only the idea of going to a hospital and his fear of injections and any devices that come in contact with his body did the trick and little by little he got back to drinking and eating again. Can't imagine how I'd manage what you had to experience for that long.
You're such an amazing person Tara, just want you to know that you guys are always in my heart, we never forgot about you.
Love,
Karina
Xxx
thank you x
Hello,
PTGL Amen Amen that you and your
family are well. Especially you because
mothers are deemed super humans.
But the truth is you need to take better
care of yourself as the family depends
on you.
Many thanks for sharing and for your
honesty because these things are
all too often taken for granted!
May Abba Father, continue to bless
you and your family.
Yes, thank you
YAY!!! I am so happy you are back!! I miss wat hing your videos so much and I cant wait to see whats new! I am glad that everyone is okay and doing well. I admire you and everything you do not just for dylan but everyone in your family. I would give anything to meet you someday and you and your videos have helped me in so many ways with me and my sons journey through his autism diagnosis. so glad you are back
Ah thanks love x
You are doing an amazing job with your children.
Oh Tara i wish I could hug you physically! Sending a big virtual one instead! I tried to catch up with you as much as I could on IG. I hope you feel better. It is soooo good to see you back and you make me feel so much understood and calmer after each videos. So thank you! I believe my child might also have PDA so I ll ask his psychologist about it. I am also interested about how Dylan is coping in secondary school with different teachers changement of routine … I had two children after my eldest was diagnosed with autism (the last one is 14 months) so happy to chat with you about our experience. We get so much more information with you on autism than anywhere else. You are a lifesaver Tara and I think you are bloody amazing! A wonderful mother 💜💜💜 if you plan on coming in Australia let me know 😘😘😘
You give me strength when ever I watch ur video coz I have lovely boy with Autism. I hope one day everything will be fain all mothers who hv special need kid's.
thank you
Thanks so much for sharing how you were feeling… I wasn’t feeling good either and little by little I’ve been trying to fill up my cup…
It’s so hard, we end up losing ourselves!
Your content it’s the best! So excited for all the things you mentioned that will be happening on your channel!… cannot wait 🤩👏🏼
thank you so much sorry to hear you were struggling too. SO many people were and its good that we can be supportive of each other. no one really knows what its like to walk in another persons shoes x
Huge fan 🥰🥰🥰 amazing vlogs 🙏🏻
Ah thank you
So glad you’re back. My son has autism and he’s 3.5 years old and we just had a daughter, she’s 3 months old
My daughter is like this with food, she sometimes won't eat or seem hungry until about 8pm at nights
Omg i missed you all 🙏🏻❤
Missed you
Glad you are doing much better!
Also I watch as an Adult being assessed, its good to know you are going to talk to Adult ASD. You really don't see that often. Often than not, ASD peoples voices are less important than 'professionals' that as you experienced, never really know anything.
As for Dylan, his own episode, go him!
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Often, actual autistics are overlooked, sadly. It's a massive shame, because there really are a lot of great autism advocates who can advocate on a whole different level than a professional; because they're autistic themselves.
Plus, some professionals really don't know what they're talking about, when it comes to outdated knowledge and research. I have friends who have been told to their face that they cannot be autistic because they make eye contact or they're female, by people who are supposed to be professionals. Some of the professionals will also suggest harmful therapies or methods of "bettering the autistic" and it's just disgusting to see people not be accepted. I'm autistic myself and quite lucky to even have a diagnosis; I was told I was neurotypical at age 13, got a diagnosis age 14 in a mental hospital after spending my entire life up until that point not being accommodated, and therefore my mental health taking a crash. The people who worked with me there talked about me being on the spectrum from the moment we first met at a home visit. It was that obvious, but people are just not educated enough.
I can really understand what you might have been through.. though I don't show it up to anyone, I feel both panicked and depressed both if my son has even mild fever.. ❤️❤️
YOU ARE A M A Z I N G ! ! ! !
As far as I'm aware, at least where I live, PDA isn't a diagnosis, but rather a profile within the spectrum, which is largely based on anxieties around demands. It's hard to explain what I mean by profile, but basically that it's not a diagnosis in itself.
I read and artículo I don’t remember where but it’s say the been a parent of autistic child it’s like going to war.! In a good way .! Since the continuing Pressure.! That’s so right you say every one need a break for recharge batteries 🔋.! You look a really good mom .! I like went you say you did you reach out since doctor not alway have the best alternative.! Keep getting better.!! 🧡🧡🧡
Would love to read his book
coming next year x
I have an 11 year old son with autism
It's disgusting how you were treated you're a wonderful mum I'm lucky I'm with a good mental health now been put on antipsychotics but had to push for it same when my bpd came to light in 2018 after a s/c attempt and a eight month hospital stay had depression since age 14. Early 2019 was assessed by a psychotherapist had Asperger's test and scored 36 the criteria score for possible Asperger's was 34 so they said there was a 80/ chance if I had formal assessment I'd be on high end of spectrum I've definitely autism traits crossed with bpd and severe depression and intermittent mild psychotic symptoms on top of it all I don't have many friends with bpd and seeming strange sometimes when I think about it what I was like at nursery and school added toattatchment anxiety and autism I didn't mix with other kids didn't want mum to leave me cried all time in nursery school was no better I also suspect I had dstphsia as a child the one where executive function an issue and Nath difficulties I would say now at 49 I'm proberly still at 14 age in maths executive function and logical reasoning is horondous if you want to lose something give it to me I'd lose it no problem thank god I'm not in USA cos if I witnessed a crime wrong person would be put to death as I can see you on screen but ask me two hours later what you look like not a chance paronis an issue also am enjoying watching your videos you're a lovely mum to Dylan and your other kids there so lucky to have you I miss my mum who died in 2014 I'd cared for her solely for 20 years my life fell apart when she died and still has good luck with all
Dylan likes to choose gets up different times
Welcome back! You have been missed very much. I’m sorry about Dylan’s health scare & issues with food but so glad he’s doing well. Also sorry to learn about your personal mental health issues & ultimate “collapse” but so happy you’re better now. I’m looking forward with anticipation to your, and Dylan’s, future vlogs. 😬. Love to you and your family from the PNW (Pacific Northwest) USA. 🥰🤗🇺🇸
Thank you so much xox