Working toward redemption | Heather Lavelle | TEDxMuncyStatePrison
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. College-educated Heather Lavelle was a successful professional until alcohol and drug addiction led her to commit a crime that resulted in a life prison sentence. Ms. Lavelle discusses “Working toward Redemption,’’ beginning with the hardest task of all - forgiving herself.
Inmate at Muncy State Prison
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I was an addict, never once thought about robbing and killing someone. Using drugs is no excuse for taking someones life! You didnt deserve Christian in your life lady!
Same here! Never steal nor try to harm someone.
I did steal once from a friend but never ever did it again, it was like 200 bucks but I still feel shame and dont even feel i deserve forgiveness and yet this lady goes on a stage and says she has it.
Wait a minute..Is she FREE?...I thought she got life in prison for killing that innocent young man..
She doesn't deserve anyone.
Thank you!! Same!
I saw the details of Christian's death... brutal and horrifying. This is a very audacious and self serving piece.
My condolences and love go to his family.
She still sounds like a narcissist. Me me me
I thought, I was REALLY, Tripping over here Listening to Her like WOW!!!@@DottieMinerva
Agreed, the victim mentality is very disturbing after the slaughter she was involved in.
"How dare you tell me when I'm going to die".... so I guess that didn't apply to the person you MURDERED?!
Yeah idk how she could say that even if she thought it.
I couldn’t believe I was hearing those words come from her mouth!
Wtf.... this lady is something else. Horrible woman
My thougths exactly...her speach is me, me, me...
@@terryfraser3395 She is a monster! She doesn't deserve a platform.
She, the Murderous, convicted monster, has no right to ask for or expect forgiveness. The family of the guy she conspired to kill with her co-accused would never have wanted/expected this outcome, and they will miss him every single hour of every day. While she goes on with her life, telling herself that she accepts her fate and that she has forgiven herself. Im truly shocked at her blatant disregard and lack of empathy, and i hope she struggles every day for the rest of her life.
Couldn't agree more. Mr Rojas was an outstanding man, by every description, who got taken in by this narcissist and he and all his loved ones paid dearly for his kindness. This perp, OTOH, kept on using those around her to satisfy her needs. And now she's got a platform to further prop up herself.
Well Said!
Tedtalk deleted my comments about that thing...lolol
You can repent, and apologize and still serve out the sentence that you deserve.
Who is here from crime zone!!
Me this sociopathic POS makes me SICK 😫
Probably all of us lol
Yep
I am.
*Hand up*
Did She Really Say " How Dare You Think Your Can Tell Me When Im going To Die " When She Actually Killed Someone... Wow Ok Then
I just watched the Nightmare Next Door they did on this story. She can rot in hell tbh.
True narcissist! You said some really selfish things there. “Once you’re dead, where does the spark of life come from?” “ How dare you think you can tell me when I’m gonna die”. You can’t just morally forgive yourself without being forgiven by the man you killed’s family first.
Is this how narcissists repent and apologize? Wow! It's all about her.
Christian Rojas was an amazing guy. Say his name with the respect it deserves, wretched woman. He’s not YOUR victim. He was a loving, trusting and kind person. You possess nothing of his and no stake to his spirit or legacy. In death, Christian remains far above and beyond just being a victim. You’re your own victim, Heather. You are the demise and destruction of your selfish, careless heart. You owe Christian more than you’ll ever be able to repay, and you certainly aren’t accomplishing restoring that debt by trying to appear to be contrite as you’re applauded for your “bravery” here. True redemption comes at a cost you can’t repay and I pray that you find that. I’m disappointed in TedX having the willingness to exploit such nonsense and hosting your little talk. I look forward to going back to forgetting your name and remembering that you’ve only added trauma to those who love Christian and that you can’t take away my memories of Christian... a brilliant, self-determined, kind, caring, intelligent, compassionate man... a guy who always tried to help me in any way he could. God bless Christian. Pura Vida!
Absolutely!! It's clear you knew our friend. He didn't deserve what this scumbag and her accomplice did to him.
Listening to her make me want to vomit!
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Sorry for your loss William. What a horrible fate your poor friend endured. What purpose did this video serve except to make her feel better and try and garner some attention. My condolences sir.
Succinct and beautifully expressed.
She should not be given a platform except to grovel at the feet of Christian's family, friends and decent people.
Go back to your cell!
beautifully put! bravo!!!!
You killed your FRIEND. Tortured him. Rot
Christian didn’t get the chance to grow old. Christian isn’t getting to write books and do TedTalks. The prolonged torturous death can’t be undone and the more you put your face out in the public, the more it’s a slap in the face to his memory.
well said!!!
All I hear is "me... me... me...:
Maybe she should have sought help from a psychologist or psychiatrist before she snuffed out the life of a kind individual. A lot of her speech was me talk, so I can see who's important in her life. $40 and a couple video games is all Christian' life meant to her, after he allowed her to stay there when she was homeless. (or said she was) You can blame drugs and alcohol and depression all you want, but it was your choices that destroyed Christian and his families' lives.
Christian is NOT "YOUR" victim! He is THE victim of YOUR CRIME! You have no ownership over him so DO NOT call him YOUR victim! And you should NEVER have written to his family if they had not indicated that they would welcome this communication. If they had not given you permission to write to them then all you did was re-vicitmize them. It's fine that you have "found" God and have forgiven yourself. But don't re-victimize the deceased victim by laying some sort of claim to him. That is callous and shallow and shows that you clearly lack insignt into your actions.
Crimezone said this could make us angry he was spot on !!! All I hear is me,me,me and as for I can move passed this low point well now I'm boiling... The young man you tortured and murdered doesn't get to move on, he doesn't get married or have a family of his own. He was kind to you and how did you repay that kindness... It's nice you can forgive yourself I hope you are enjoying your own forgiveness while sitting in prison the rest of your life.
Crime zone sent me here😊
same
Samzies!😂
We need to see if she's genuine. Or is she completely disingenuous! 🤔
@@9babyblu What do you think?
@@MrJames-tw3so
I think she's genuine but not in her remorse. I think she genuinely thinks that she's better than others. Self righteous, narcissistic and overly confident for someone who did something pretty horrendous. She's a good public speaker but I didn't see or feel true remorse. That's what I was hoping for. I also felt offended (for the victim and his loved ones) when she made that comment about DP and how she, at that moment wanted to live and actually said "How dare they dictate to me when I die"... like whaaaat?!?! Lol, wtf! Simply, out of touch.
@@MrJames-tw3so
How about you? What did you think? 🤔
Sorry Heather, drugs don't give you a pass, Christian Rojas was an amazing and kind guy, you tortured him for a long while, stuck a sock in his mouth so he couldn't scream, and then you killed him! You and James Savage should have gotten the death penalty, but you both looked out for yourselves again by pleading guilty, because you both knew, if you would have went to trial, you both would get the death penalty..... I'm not interested in anything you have to say....It's so sad to think of what Christian's parents and sisters are feeling today, I sure hope they never see you pathetic speech.
100% !!! I spent 15 years on very heavy drugs and never once thought of hurting anyone
You don’t deserve any chance at redemption. Ever!
EVER!!!
Me, me, me, me - face it, you're not wired up right and you need to think more before forgiving yourself
Lady, You watched Mr. Savage torture, and kill poor Christian, who opened in his home to you when you needed him. He was tortured almost beyond recognition and you stuffed a sock in his mouth to keep him from screaming-The only thing you need is a cell for the rest of your useless life! Funny how prisoners always say they found Jesus!!
Millions of people had a so-called harder life than you and never watched an abusive boyfriend torture a good man. Say his name lady- Christian!! I hope you see his face every day of your life
Why are they clapping for this murderer? 🤬
I imagine they are other prisoners who blame others for their life choices. Professional victims abound.
@@bobgillis1137good point
Who are you to have killed someone u gave him the death penalty u should get it the same way u gave it.
100%! THAT would be justice.
Ummmm. You forgave yourself? What a load of tripe. TED has zero credibility. ZERO.
I can't imagine forgiving myself after viciously killing my friend.
Never no normal person could !
This has an awful lot to do with her. Very little talk about his family, him and must importantly it seems like she is taking in a robotic tone. Like she's rehearsed it many times. Absolutely devastating, truly horrifying and overwhelmingly sad is what this case is. I just watched it on the yt channel Crime Zone. Btw, fantastic channel. I was left so darn sad, mad and utterly horrified. RIP Christian 😔
How dare you tell me when I'm gonna die ? But you killed an innocent friend ?
What exactly do you call that ? And your blaming your CO-DEFENDANT? These murderers are always total narcisists and the most selfish people on the planet. Jeesh. And mailing his family letters ? I'm sure they just love that.
NOT. But as long as you forgave yourself and feel better that's what counts. Lol
Christian let you stay in his home so you wouldn't be homeless.
Then you and an accomplice beat him to death in a slow and methodical manner.
He died in a bath of his own blood, with a sock in his mouth and another around his neck.
His arms and legs were bound.
**He had no defensive wounds.**
Yet, you were outraged when the state wanted to give you the death penalty???
He was not Your victim. He was your friend and you tortured him to death.
This talk just doesnt seem genuine.
TED has sank to a new low
She couldn't say her victim's name. Well, you made sure we know your name in this talk but not his. Laughable level of narcissism right here!
"I know society will never be able to forgive me. I know the families of the victims will never be able to forgive me for what I have done. But if there is a God in heaven, I promise I will pray each day to ask them for forgiveness when the hurt goes away, if ever. I have seen their tears, and if I could give up my life right now to bring back their loved ones, I would do it. I am so very sorry." ... Even Jeffrey Dahmer understood forgiveness better. It is not something you bestow upon yourself. Oof.
That was deep!
@@runninreb9142 I guess yoiu find Jeffrey Dahmer deep
@@MrRisingapple No, I meant that last sentence.
It's all about "ME ME ME" with her.
What she did to her friend is unimaginable. HORRIBLE PERSON.
Her performance lacks any emotion. She sounds like she’s read a few chapters of a good self help book and decided to make it her narrative. It sounds memorized, not lived.
She's only putting on a show, she thinks this will look good to apply for parole !!! Where is the sorrow for Christian ✝️!!!🎉🎉❤❤RIP Christian ✝️
Asking for forgiveness is a selfish act. If she truly did the 12 steps of AA, you make AMENDS (NOT asking for forgiveness!) to those who have hurt you, EXCEPT when to do so would hurt others or yourself! Pretty sure sending a letter to your MURDERED victim's family would qualify as an exception! Especially in the selfish act of asking them for forgiveness! Maybe I'm wrong to some people, but seriously, I wouldn't recommend taking this woman's advice! I'll still pray for her, but she's far off here IMO!
You’re a bigger person than I because I won’t even pray for her
"How dare you tell me when I can die" umm isn't that exactly what you did yourself?
This woman is a bit self-centred, IMHO Its not up to her to forgive herself. That is BS. The only one in a position to forgive her is the victim's people.
She should be aloud to do a Ted talk, ya great she forgave herself but her real story is so horrible and gruesome she should have gotten the death penalty and the only reason she didn’t was because they gave her a plea deal in order to find out the whole truth and let’s say she was part of the crime but not the person who took part in the murder or led the other person there so they could murder him to get money and let’s say she served a 20yr sentence and got out and truly changed and proved outside of prison and was making up for her mistakes by helping others then I think a Ted talk might be earned but that’s not the case and she is still in there and I have never seen an interview of a killer who was still locked up who didnt act just like this and say how changed they are and how now there a Christian and blah blah blah
I realize that her speech is about her journey through recover after addiction and murder. But, I feel that she is very self centered and gives little note to the gravity of her crime nor the extent of the torture and betrayal of a friendship that SHE is solely responsible for setting in motion
I realize that she needs to move forward, but, she seems to gliss over her crime. And it was abominable
Sent here by “Crime Zone”
There is something about this women that makes me sure she doesn't mean a word she says, she is far from genuine
I'm not familiar with this case, just saw a video on crime zone. Has she been released? Has she come up for parole? Was this for the parole board?
There are hundreds of thousands of addicts across this world and a majority of them will never commit (extremely heinous in her case) violent crimes.
I’m glad she’s at least somewhat self aware but she stole a life. She stole someone’s son, brother, and friend.
me, me, me, me, me.......God should have also his limits...No remorse here...She should not have a chance to talk here!!!
It’s heart breaking thinking that if given the chance, Christian would have probably forgave her. That’s how good of a person she stole from this world.
If you want more info on her crime Crime Zone (YT Channel) has a video called " Be careful who you let into your life".
She actually revictimized this mans poor family by writing to them . What a POS
Well Crime Zone said I'd be angry, and he was right. I can't add to the brilliant comments above but I concur.
RIP Christian ❤
A professional sociopath. Never let her out of jail
I suppose I would adopt the same mentality if I was spending the rest of my life in prison. I'd imagine it's better than sitting around miserably counting the seconds that are slowly ticking by.
I heard a lot of “me me me”. Her eyes are cold and narcissistic IMO.
I'm also here because of crime zone
The Crime Scene was Horrific...just saw some of the show...
Well, well, well… she’s redeemed herself…how bout that…
Heather you have some heavy dues to pay. I wouldn’t be worried about how you fare here… but I would def be concerned if I were you about your presentation to the afterlife.
Why forgive her !
The crime she committed was vicious beyond belief.
Did she really end with "may god bless you"? Dis heffa!!!
She gave this talk after only 9 years?? She has no remorse and she can forgive herself all she wants. She still has to meet her maker at the end. I couldn’t even listen to half of this mess
The great day of Yah is very near, and all of us will receive judgement according to the fruits we bear. I'm glad I'm not in her shoes because it doesn't look good.
Well she has forgiven herself…but still deserves to do her time…
What about Christian mother and sister???
How is she not still in jail?
This was filmed in jail
@@SillyPudding so they gave her a whole studio setup and took her hand cuffs off for this. that make zero sence.
@@MinuteManGameReviews Tedx let murderers talk about redemption, they are worthless. Heather is a monster. Tedx should be ashamed of themselves.
Somebody PLEASE tell me exactly what she did?????
She tortured and murdered my friend.
@@1ring2rule3pigs where did this happen.????city and state?????what year???? Thank you..😉
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You don't get my forgiveness and maybe God is allowing you to live to punish you. It's all about you.
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I used to like Ted but all they now seem to do is to give platform to killer psychopaths, who are not really sorry at all, but love every minute of all this attention 👎🏽
why is she on here? she doesnt deserve to say any of this
Tedx is giving her a platform, it's sickening.
Why is TEDx giving a killer who has no ounce of remorse a platform? Shame on you!!!!
Also, the rug looks like a blood puddle
This is sickening. Take it down.
Whos idea was it to give this sociopath a platform to speak on..🧐
funny timing..,. how every criminal finds JESUS after imprisonment....or this case ONLY AFTER being faced with the death penalty. very manipulative..
TedX really got this one very wrong. A murderer hardly needs to forgive herself. What a self-serving revisionist piece of ridiculousness this video is.
You shouldnt be allowed to talk. Your victim cant.
Assassinated by always
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Heather is such an amazing beautiful woman. She cares about her peers. I feel it's a honor just to have known her. Keep your head up and continue on with what you are doing.
Can she keep her head up in front of Christian's parents? How convenient she can forgive herself.
You’ve got to be kidding!!! I’m sure the only reason she did this talk was to have a few hours of freedom
@@belgiumgirl8970 I believe that she is trying to set up her parole by completing prison programs.
Are you slow or morally bankrupt?
WTH
God Bless you Heather. I will place positive energy into the universe and pray that it is returned to you. Respect Peace and Blessings.
Oh, I see how it is, may god bless Heather, as for Christian... too bad.
Her crime was monstrous.
How she can forgive herself is beyond me.
NO! She murdered a friend who cared for her. God knows the whole story.
🙏🙏 praying for you Heather!!
Are you a mental hospital patient?
Are you ok in the head?