I once saw this tik tok where a girl shared some advice she got from someone older-the guy said he went to law school & knew one year into being a lawyer, that he hated it. And everyone said “you’ve just spent all this time getting your law degree” and such so he stuck it out. And he practiced law for 50 years, and he hated it all 50 years. He said “It could’ve been just one miserable year, but I made it 50. My advice: don’t continue to do something that makes you unhappy just because you’ve invested time into it”. Literally best tik tok I’ve ever seen and figured it’s definitely relatable to you currently! Congrats on making the best decision for you!!
That works well in movies 🎬 and television 📺 shows. Unfortunately, real life is a lot more complicated. Every profession you can think of has a ton of things people don't like and enjoy but as an adult you gotta do what you gotta do. Or struggle more or be homeless 🏡 . 😶
But like why couldn’t he get his law degree and then just pay the tuition and do other things. You can go into consulting or you can get the degree and just get another job
RN here. I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a RUclips video before but I felt so compelled to leave my support! I just started my career as a RN after graduating nursing school a couple years ago. Nursing school is so difficult to get into and passing every test is even more difficult (not as difficult and strenuous as medical school of course) but still it was a long haul finishing. During my last year of nursing school and a year of clinicals I started having feelings like maybe this was not my passion. I felt like I had put in so much work and didn’t want to let people down as well. I ignored my feelings and graduated school and passed my state boards. I worked in the emergency room as a RN for a little over a year. Recently i just took some time off and decided to be honest with my husband about my feelings of not knowing if this was the right career for me. He was so supportive as well as my family and friends. My mental health has been so much better since I’ve stopped working as a RN and I am finding out passions I didn’t know I had! It may be a tough decision but I totally believe it will pay off in the long run. It was the scariest thing I ever did but it feels like the biggest weight has been lifted off of me! Best wishes to your family!!
whats up Olivia, thanks so much for sharing. Those were my feelings exactly. it is crazy how we sometimes doubt we'll have the support of our loved ones. best wishes to you too!
I had wanted to be a doctor since I was 5. My dad was a doctor and I look up to him so much. I worked my whole life for it, I planned for it, it's all I ever thought I would do. I had no other career plans. When the time came, I was really struggling in college (physically, mentally, academically) and I really started to think for the first time in my life that I couldn't do this and I also did not necessarily want to do it. I remember the moment I decided to give up my "dream." I was a 3rd year in college standing in line with friends at chipotle and I just thought "you know what, I don't want to do this. I'm not doing this" and as soon as I mentally decided that this wasn't for me I felt such a rush of relief and contentment. It felt like the biggest weight being lifted off my shoulders. It took me changing my major 5 times, surviving a suicide attempt, surviving septic shock, and all other types of smaller events and hardships to decide that this lifestyle wasn't for me. I am now a 5th year student in my first year of respiratory therapy school (actually taking a break from Anki to write this lol) and I have never been happier. I am thriving in all of the aspects in which I had been severely struggling before. I am the healthiest Ive ever been and the top of my class. In the end it will have taken me 6 years to graduate undergrad but I don't think I would change anything because it led me to where I am today. Congratulations, Blake. I am so proud of you for being honest with yourself about what is best for you and your family. Sometimes, that alone can be just as hard as medical school. Much love and support from Columbus, Ohio
Hey! You literally followed in my shoes. I was a premed major in undergrad as well and like you I struggled academically in my courses which led me unmotivated to pursue a career in medicine. I did graduate with my bachelor’s but wasn’t happy due to me ending with a low gpa. Instead of still pursuing to become an MD, I went to technical school and went to become a respiratory therapist as well. Best decision ever made. Got a job right away making $$$ and ever since the covid pandemic, I’ve been picking up travel contracts and making 6 figures and made more than a pediatrician last year! To be honest, I was thinking to go and become a MD eventually, but the more I worked in a hospital, the less I wanted to become a MD. Just goes to show there are more ways to be successful.
One of the most inspiring things to see is a person prioritizing their heart & dreams -- especially in the face of criticism, judgment, fear, etc. We all deal with our own versions of that. Thank you for being brave, doing the 'scary' thing, and sharing it with all of us. So motivating! Can't wait to see where you both go next🥰
Hey y’all, this will probably be lost in the sea of comments but I just wanted to share how much this touched me. Thank you so much for posting this! I am in basically the exact situation as Blake, and have decided to withdraw from medical school 2.5 years in, after years of depression culminating into a suicide attempt woke me up to realize I can’t keep doing this. The only thing keeping me going that long was the constant fear of disappointing my Dad and family (all of which are doctors and nurses). You guys, and this amazing comment section, have helped me to solidify that I am making the right choice. Now my challenge is that I get to figure out how to deal with an almost 200k private loan. It should be illegal to let a young adult get THAT far in debt. But I’ll take that, rather than quite literally losing myself in the pursuit of being a doctor.
It takes courage to act on what you know is right or isn't right. Knowing that you didn't want to keep going with medical school and are also willing to face those you were trying to please--and all the debt without knowing how you'll take care of the loan--that's a sign that this is beyond a momentary emotion or panic. If you're still of this mindset and have moved on, I wish you the best. I, too, have been in this boat more than once, so I really wish well for you and your future endeavors.
I stumbled across this video, and was amazed at how similar our stories are! Yours was med school. Mine was flight school. Same reasons, same reactions, same conclusion, same support. It's a very humbling experience to go through. It really throws you for a loop, and makes you question a lot of things. I'm excited for you, for your new journeys. I know we are excited about ours.
Hey this message is to Blake, first and foremost I am so incredibly proud of you, the courage it took to make this video is beyond words. You are a great person, a great husband, and now in a way taking care of SO many here on social media. As a PA-C I get the reality of that Med school life, there’s such a grind, people are sweet around you but it’s still SO hard. I have a cousin who is an MD we were in school at the same time and would confide in each other a lot. She had a lot of doubt about becoming an MD, at times she thought maybe she should have been an RN or a PA almost anything else but she felt MD school was so long and so hard. She also became depressed in her 3rd year which was my last year, my PA school was 3 years long. It was the hardest time for our whole family. To see her become depressed over going after a career she wasn’t sure about, she only stayed because she was so deep in loans she couldn’t afford to leave. Now she’s in residency, on psych meds, doing better but still unhappy. I wish I could afford to help her find a way out. I myself as a PA I did love most of it, however there’s a lot of business that comes into taking care of patients and higher ups don’t always agree with what’s ethical. I had to take a step back during covid. Once I became a mom, I felt like my desire was to be home with my new baby and not work for a bit. Financially I had to go back to work but we saved a lot because I was considering changing jobs. 16months into being back at work covid hits and I realized I needed a break. I just couldn’t do the day to day grind and not even feel safe. Blake I get how hard that must have been to quit and I honestly when I say I’m proud of you it’s beyond what I can write here. You may help others decide what’s ok when it’s not too late. Im glad you can spend these formative years with your family. I’m happy you all can make this work financially. Truly god bless you both and your sweet family.
This is such a beautiful and inspiring example of supporting and loving someone no matter what Madi. Not for their money, career, or what they can offer you, but simply loving them for who they are. Thank you for sharing! I'm inspired by y'all!
Go Blake!! I'm terrible at advocating for myself sometimes so this makes me so happy! Family time is priceless, I'm so excited for you guys. Praying for this new chapter of your story ❤
Hospital pharmacist here. I’ve been working for 10 years at a large county teaching hospital and I regularly round with the ER and ICU medical teams. I had my second baby this year and have taken some time off to be at home with my kids and husband. I feel completely drained after 10 years in the medical field. I love my work as a pharmacist but I don’t love the chaos that a health system brings, the short staff, and the crazy hours. Blake, I admire you for putting yourself and your family first. Follow your passion and all good things will follow, I’m sure of it. I’m so happy for you guys, and I’m so happy that Madi and Nora and Dane can have you around more now.
Honestly I get it. My husband is a doctor and it’s brutal. He finished 5 years of residency and last year and his schedule is insane. He has 4 days off a month. As crazy as it is it’s his passion. He has wanted it his entire life. So that kept him going. If it’s not your passion the road is not for you. Also it’s so hard with a family. We had are first baby last year. He always says he couldn’t imagine having kids in med school. Excited to see what you do next!
I started medical school last week. I withdrew before the end of the second week because I wasn't willing to pay the price (time lost with loved ones, mental health, freedom to live anywhere, etc.) to become a doctor. I underestimated the personal sacrifice that it takes to become a doctor and I didn't want to sell my soul to medical school. Only 1 week into the program, I knew I would have to eat, drink, & breath med school work. I have a wife and two young boys and I just knew it would be a tremendous burden on our family. Your video is confirmation that I made the correct decision in leaving instead of trying to stick it out.
@fredred5037 great mate..that was just a phase where i was feeling quite low...being new and all but the more i got into it i realised i wasn't the only one struggling and there are many others like me..then you become friends and its pretty enjoyable so far...done with 2nd year btw, thanks for asking
I am so happy that you have both found your peace with it. The relief after making such a big decision is probably all the re-assurance you guys needed to know it was the right choice!
Blake you articulated yourself so well! The idea of being a doctor can be romanticized so much in our society. Most people don’t realize what it really takes to get there. Proud of you (and madi!) for focusing on what really matters in life!!
I just recently dropped out of nursing school and other peoples opinions hindered me from taking that leap. But I realized I wasn’t as passionate about the profession as I thought and I didn’t want to take care of patients without being 100% in it. I feel for you and I’m so proud of you for making that difficult decision!!
I am about to start my clinical rotations and this video scares me so much. I have always been so sure I wanted to be a doctor but I find myself having so much anxiety in clinical situations sometimes. Medical school is so hard and so much work and money goes into it. With student loan debt it is definitely too late for me to turn back at this point, and I am not even sure I want to since for the most part I do enjoy it, and after everything I have sacrificed to get to this point I would be too scared to turn back. Seeing Blake so happy does make me feel better, though. I am so grateful you posted this because not enough people are honest about prioritizing mental health. I like seeing videos like this where I can see others who mad a decision I am scared to make and seeing that they are happy they did. It reassures me that if I did ever decide to drop out I could still be happy like Blake!
Hey, don't let anxiety stop you. Btw you can go into administration with your degree, be chief medical officer, without patient care. There are many outlets. My coworker teaches fulltime a&p at a community college. He tells me always get the MD. Don't quit!
Every month, a brand new set of 4 Interns would rotate to our floor for a month. Freely ask for help from seasoned RNs-especially on the night shift. The absolute worst mistake would be to act like a lone rogue mad scientist, so talk it over w/ RNs before implementing anything or writing new orders on Nights. They’ll help you. The Chief of Staff & the Attending Physician would always tell us to watch over the Interns on the Night Shift and give us report re/ each Intern. Protocols are pretty standardized for each Specialty re/ do’s & don’ts. Experienced staff are happy to teach what they know.
Working/going to school in healthcare can be so tough on your mental health and we don’t talk about it enough! I’m in nursing school right now and have to always remind myself of my why because it gets tough. I can imagine that if your why wasn’t so clear, it would be so hard on you. Great job Blake on doing what’s right for you 👏
It’s better to have tried and had the choice to continue or not than wonder what if down the road. I can relate to not wanting to disappoint your support system, but once you realize they are there for you no matter what it’s such a relief.
Yes Blake! I recently made the decision to stop going to school. I struggled with this decision because I was worried of letting others down, or disappointing them, like you were. I realized, that at the end of the day, I am the only one who had to live with the decisions I make. Not anyone else! We only have one life to live! And it’s too short to not do what we want to do :)
This was so needed today… struggle with the thought of letting someone down with my choices constantly. However like you said… it can finally break yourself. Thanks so much for sharing, we appreciate it!
May I just say how I love how proud you are looking at him while he talks to the camera 🥺 He also is so comfortable speaking directly to the camera!! Good job influencer Blake!!!
Love the way you both were honest and the comment section made my heart melt. I've been through a similar situation and felt the same way, wanted to make my family proud but ended up having anxiety crisis, when I dropped out you can imagine the relief. Thanks to the Lord He opens up opportunities we could never think of and it's always for the best. Thanks for the video and speaking up! God bless your beautiful family. Hugs from Brazil 💞
Your mental health is wayy more important and it's way better to have a job that keeps you happier than a job that gives you anxiety all the time... Good for you 👍
I'm 24 currently in my third year, and feeling pretty burnt out. I don't really enjoy my time at the hospital anymore, like I did at the beginning of the year. I feel like the whole time I'm there I'm just standing around not learning anything and generally being useless (feeling compounded by the fact that I'm on subspecialty outpatient clinics right now where I'm essentially shadowing providers). Every day, I wake up and feel fine when I go in, but then it's just a matter of time before some small problem makes me angry or frustrated and I feel shitty for the rest of the day. It's like I have no reserve left. At home on weeknights, all I really do is sleep (up to like 10+ hours a lot of nights now). I look forward to drinking a lot more than I used to. My friends notice that I'm more irritable. I don't work out nearly as much as I used to. I usually feel a lot better at the end of weekends/time off, but then I get slapped in the face with the sisyphean tasks of third year again first thing on Monday, and I'm right back where I started. One of the most bothersome things is that I'm also getting really cynical, to the point that essentially every time I see a bad outcome or a patient suffering, I think something along the lines of, "why does medicine have so much power and authority if this is the best we can do?" or "this person would have been better off if they had never even come to the hospital" or "I should have gone into research where you can actually do something good for the world rather than just dispense pointless, expensive treatments that make people suffer." I also have a lot of thoughts along the line of "you're not going to learn anything today because all this shit is below you" and "the expectations for you are so low and you're sufficiently smart that nothing you do today will affect your grade." Do I actually believe that stuff if I sit down and think through it? Definitely not. But it's like those thoughts are always sitting right at the edge of my thinking, ready to jump in the second I get a little bit down during the day. It's pretty exhausting trying to challenge them all the time, and they're definitely negatively impacting my ability to learn stuff in clinic. Needless to say, this is making it hard to get through the remaining (pretty tough) rotations I have left to complete. I don't know how much longer I can keep up the "interested med student" act and cynicism suppression that have pulled me through the last 6-8 weeks of feeling like this. I might just drop out. how do you deal with this kind of cynicism and burnout?
I think I have only commented 2 other times in my life, but this video really resonated with me and I hope you continue to post more RUclips videos! That must’ve been such a scary and hard decision, but I am so proud of both of you for the faith you have. You both seem super awesome and I wish you the best of luck with everything!
Wow so glad I found you guys and your videos! Especially when I saw this one, I dropped out of law school half way through and I totally resonate with everything you’re saying here. Madison, you’re a good woman for supporting him through that, a lot of people don’t have that support unfortunately. Sending you guys love from Australia!
It's wonderful to see Blake doing what's best for him and his family, we all support ya Blakeeeeeeeeeee!!! My fiance also dropped out of becoming a nurse, as he felt the exact same, it just wasn't for him. he's much happier now he's home more and on to things he wants to do !!!!!
So happy for you guys! As someone who has changed life lanes and educations, I have the utmost respect for Blake for taking such a decision! And to you for being there for him! I wish you and your beautiful family all the luck, health and love😊🌸
So happy for you guys and for the peace you have about this life change! Side note: I loved your RUclips videos about health and fitness and nutrition so if you ever feel like making those again I’d love to watch!
This takes so much courage and made me even look up more to you guys! I've come from a family with a lot of doctors ( I have 5 siblings, and all of them are doctors, and I'm in med school right now) and I just wanna share with you that my oldest brother, who is a neurosurgeon, stop pursuing medicine and now he is on the way to become a priest (December will be his ordenation). And he heard a lot of negative comments about his decision, but, knowing him, I can tell how much happier he's now. I'm so happy for you and Blake, and that he realized this early. You will continue to be in my prayers! Seeding lots of love all the way from Brazil!
muito obrigado! que louco que seu irmao ate virou um neurosurgeon e esta fazendo uma troca tao grande. uma inspiracao mesmo. a felicidade e a familia sao as coisas mais importante que tudo. fico feliz ao ouvir essas coisas!
@@madisonmealy e Blake, fiquei feliz em ver essa resposta, não sabia que falava português!! Desejo o melhor sempre para vocês, que essa nova jornada seja repleta de novas memórias felizes em família! (Com as fofuras do Dane e Norah)
You guys are one of those beautiful families that prove that there are truly beautiful hearted people in the world🥺❤️ I can just feel the love, peace, respect, and support that you have for each other and others
Just followed, liked and subscribed! I want to support your family in any way I can! I love how down to earth & humble you guys are. All the best wishes for you guys! This is just the beginning!!!🤗
Hi guys! I’m watching you from Brazil 🇧🇷 I absolutely adore your family and your content on Instagram. I hope Blake finds a new thing that he truly loves and I’m happy that he makes the decision to choose what’s is better for his life and his health. I think many things in our lives would be easier resolved if we just talk about it honestly. This world makes us to suffer with so much pressure in everything in our lives. I’m glad that you now can be more open with each other to talk about those things, it’s just sad that the Blake anxiety episode needed to happen to that. I hope Blake is better now 🙏🏻 I’ll keep sending my love and my support to you guys! Thanks Maddie for sharing with us Dane and Nora’s moments, and also thanks for talking about mental health and discussing such a important theme with your community. I’m looking forward to new videos in here! ❤️
Thanks for making this video! This video really got to me because I just changed my career path from medical school to nursing school after having completed all the prereqs, graduated with my bachelor’s, and even registered for the mcat. Watching your video made me realize many people have gone through what I have and much worse. I think it’s honestly very brave of you to quit after you gave so much. I slowly realized as I was shadowing and working around other doctors that this field required a lot more sacrifice, tears, and stress than I was willing to put in. I wanted to have a more balanced life, work less hours, and not have to sacrifice SOO much while in training. I’ll still be doing what I lovee.. which is to help others in their most vulnerable times. I don’t have to become a physician to achieve those personal goals. Telling myself that it was okay to change my mind was the hardest… I didn’t want to disappoint my family or myself…silly. Do whatever makes you happy, go in it for the right reasons and you won’t regret it.. and remember, those other people you’re worried about won’t have to go to work with you every morning for the rest of your professional life :)
Super awesome of recognizing what is best for you and your family. It’s inspiring to know that not all the time our goals in life should be a “career”… to put your family first and own happiness first, because at the end of the day that is what matters ❤️
It may sound crazy right know because he just got out of med school but if he likes anatomy And a hands on work I would suggest he looks into quiropractic school.
I literally just quit 2 hours ago . I was in my 4th year and only had one elective to go in order to graduate in December n had my school’s OSCE today , but when I walked into the first room to speak to the patient, all of a sudden I asked myself what am I doing here ? The whole interview went horribly and when I got to the station to type my notes my mind just went blank . I wish I would have quit when my anxiety and depression first kicked in . I drugged it out for too long . Anyway, anyone that has any pointers or leads on careers for medical school dropouts please let me know. 😩 these loans won’t pay themselves . I went into medicine because I genuinely love caring for people especially underserved populations but my mental health started to suffer significantly towards the middle of my third year and my sanity means more to me than any career .
Big props to you Blake for taking the leap into the unknown, I'm sure it will pay off in the long run, and you've got a fantastic community around you for support :) lots of love to your family from New Zealand
thing is I think this type of crisis you described here happens a lot to most people going through medical school- and even more in residency. Pretty common to have these anxiety attacks when you are going through and you get used to them eventually. The thing is being a doctor is ultimately a job and not really fun at all. It can be a rewarding career though..
During the interview, most medical schools will carefully screen for students who do not have passion for medicine or students who choose medicine for job security. It's because those students have higher chance of leaving medicine.
YOUR HAIR!😍 I remember when you were posting about postpartum hair loss, and to see how much your hair has grown is incredible! Will you please do a vid about your hair care routine?🥺🙏🏻 I love your family so much!🤎
My mom and sister are doctors, it's grueling. My mom did it with kids, then was on call for years. My sister would take her books to the beach on vacation. She hated med school but is happy now after finding a specialization she liked. Sorry to hear you invested over 2 years in it, it's so hard that is a big investment but i hope you can use those transferable skills and do something else. Like a family member for ex. works for a large pharma company and does really well selling high tech medical instruments to Dr and hospitals.
Y’all mentioned one major deciding factors was the lack of debt. As y’all know most people in med school have a lot of debt accumulated. If you were in debt would Blake still have dropped out?
Awww! Yeah, never go into medicine if it’s not your passion. Passion is to suffer. I am willing to sacrifice and suffer for medicine. It’s what I know I’m meant to do, above everything I’ve experienced. Yes, I am 100% sure I love medicine and diagnosing patients and helping patients feel better. I Love medicine. Passion is the key. If you are not passionate about medicine then you will suffer in a very negative way without seeing the day of light ever. Not even vacations will feel like a vacation, because in the back of your mind, you know you will have to return to a career you are not passionate about.
Supporting you Blake & Madi!! Happy you followed your heart. You will still do great things and we are rooting for you whatever that may be!! Much love from Minnesota:)
oh.my.gosh. when you were talking about the secret stuff and blake did the eyebrow thing he looked just like dane like whatttt. also so excited and proud of you guys 🧡🧡 can’t wait to see what God has planned for y’all in the future
i had a panic attack at the hospital yesterday, because of a co-worker who treated me very badly. I can't handle think of it, or get into the hospital anymore. =/
I was ONE CLASS away from completing a double major in global studies and sociology and anthropology, God told me to do art which I LOVED but felt pressured to ignore for the sake of getting a job and being more studious, but after 5 whole years in school, God forced me to do it, and you CANNOT ignore God’s direction. You will not lose anything, you will only ever be blessed by being obedient. So PROUD of you!!!
I didn’t think I could be so proud of people I don’t personally know. Y’all are so amazing and inspiring, for Blake advocating for himself and Madison being so supportive and gracious. So much strength between y’all🤍
Those first two comments were made while I was watching the video, and I’m making this one after finishing it😂 but I just have to say. I’ve been around since you found out you were pregnant with Dane and I have loved following your fam! But RUclips really just shows a side that I don’t see much off of Instagram and I love that!! It like lights a fire back under my butt to comment and engage more on your posts because I get to connect with you on here and remind myself why I started following you!! Love you guys!!!
@@trubluflu Because grading goes from completely objective to completely subjective and you can get destroyed on your clinical evaluations simply because a doctor you were with didn't like you or any other number of ridiculous, superfluous reasons and you have no recourse to debate it because it's all subjective
@@trubluflu Either that or they realize clinical practice is nothing like what they imagined and is simply bureaucracy, paperwork, and people figuratively cutting each others throats and climbing over your dead body to get ahead of you
you are a lucky man to have her supporting you and sticking by! I'm now in you same position buddy un my third year and I'm seriously thinking about quitting because it made me sad af ! I'm constantly thinking about suicide and i feel so incompetent cuz I'm failing baad ! i hope my fiancee accept my decision and my parents too!! I'm super afraid of telling them but it over for me with medecine... worst dicision of My life
What I learned was to accept that this my “new life” and shed off every aspect or habits about myself that doesn’t relate to this singular goal. You’re basically joining a cult 😂
Hey I already told you how happy I am for you on insta but I have a question! Could the anxiety that Blake was having, or denying, or not recognizing be behind the heart troubles?! Seems like God keeps trying to get our attention until we take notice! 😊
Blake made the right decision for himself. As a nurse, I’ve seen so many medical students get torn apart in medicine. I remember a particular 3rd year medical student who was on an Ob/Gyn rotation. I remember tears in her eyes, and she confided in me. Medicine has a cut throat culture. It’s filled with type A personalities, and gunners. Their drive is never depleted. This student continued and graduated medical school. She is now a 2nd year ER resident, in a 4 year program. I have stayed in touch and she is absolutely miserable. It only gets worse. Glad you did what was right for you and your mental health. Doctors aren’t allowed to take care of themselves or prioritize their mental health and well-being, how ironic. This is why physician suicide is so high. It takes so much strength to be honest with yourself and admit, that you don’t have that fire in you to be a physician. That is the problem. The only way to become a physician is to have an strong fire in you to do nothing BUT becoming a doctor. These people literally can’t picture themselves doing anything else, these are the people that survive. I also share this from personal experience. I have 4 yrs as an RN with backgrounds in (surgical-trauma, ob/gyn, ICU). I thought I wanted to be a physician. I took all the prerequisites, had volunteer & leadership experiences, basically everything. All I had to do was apply. But I had to be honest with myself, doctors were so burned out, working 60-120 hrs/week. It was unrealistic. Most had no lives outside of medicine. I didn’t want that, I had kids and wanted to be present. I enjoyed medicine, but not enough to make it my life. Long story short, I opted for becoming a NP instead. Still can practice medicine, without the 7 yrs+ schooling, moral injury, and 300k debt. The initial moment you decide will leave you in a bit of shock, but it gets better. The farther you are out, you’ll realize it was the best decision you made.
Thank you for sharing that story! Honestly I am a dental student now and am having grass is greener thoughts of medicine being better route so I am not sure what to do…
@@dentaladdict98other than a very superficial level of “prestige” dentistry seems like such a better deal than medicine. I feel like I’ve been scammed of my life by becoming a physician
I think it would be nice if you include RUclips link to insta bio. As a follower, I was interested to know your stories in detail. Actually I didn’t think you had RUclips until I started searching in Google to know more about u guys.
What scares me if I become a physician is the lawsuits that doctors go through… I don’t want to experience lawsuit during my mid career especially after paying backing loans. There’s a good chance very physician will get sued.
Do NOT ever go into any type of medicine (nursing, doctor, etc.) if you’re not in it to help people, because you want to be that, because you love medical science along with having empathy and care for others.. just don’t! We do not need more medical professionals who only came into this job to make decent money. It just leads to more doctors in the field that do not care about helping their patients and are sooo exhausted, burnt out (quicker than usually I bet), and jaded faster because it’s not a passion for them. If they’re not passionate for the medical field and helping their patients then they’re not going to be a good doctor most of the time (I’d be willingly to put money on that).
Think about doing a field that does not require direct patient care. Something like pathology or radiology. Although nothing wrong with changing direction. Gotta take care of yourself before we can take care of others.
I once saw this tik tok where a girl shared some advice she got from someone older-the guy said he went to law school & knew one year into being a lawyer, that he hated it. And everyone said “you’ve just spent all this time getting your law degree” and such so he stuck it out. And he practiced law for 50 years, and he hated it all 50 years. He said “It could’ve been just one miserable year, but I made it 50. My advice: don’t continue to do something that makes you unhappy just because you’ve invested time into it”. Literally best tik tok I’ve ever seen and figured it’s definitely relatable to you currently! Congrats on making the best decision for you!!
Great advice!
That works well in movies 🎬 and television 📺 shows. Unfortunately, real life is a lot more complicated.
Every profession you can think of has a ton of things people don't like and enjoy but as an adult you gotta do what you gotta do. Or struggle more or be homeless 🏡 . 😶
But like why couldn’t he get his law degree and then just pay the tuition and do other things. You can go into consulting or you can get the degree and just get another job
RN here. I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a RUclips video before but I felt so compelled to leave my support! I just started my career as a RN after graduating nursing school a couple years ago. Nursing school is so difficult to get into and passing every test is even more difficult (not as difficult and strenuous as medical school of course) but still it was a long haul finishing. During my last year of nursing school and a year of clinicals I started having feelings like maybe this was not my passion. I felt like I had put in so much work and didn’t want to let people down as well. I ignored my feelings and graduated school and passed my state boards. I worked in the emergency room as a RN for a little over a year. Recently i just took some time off and decided to be honest with my husband about my feelings of not knowing if this was the right career for me. He was so supportive as well as my family and friends. My mental health has been so much better since I’ve stopped working as a RN and I am finding out passions I didn’t know I had! It may be a tough decision but I totally believe it will pay off in the long run. It was the scariest thing I ever did but it feels like the biggest weight has been lifted off of me! Best wishes to your family!!
whats up Olivia, thanks so much for sharing. Those were my feelings exactly. it is crazy how we sometimes doubt we'll have the support of our loved ones. best wishes to you too!
You should try Hospice Nursing, it wad a game changer for me.
I had wanted to be a doctor since I was 5. My dad was a doctor and I look up to him so much. I worked my whole life for it, I planned for it, it's all I ever thought I would do. I had no other career plans. When the time came, I was really struggling in college (physically, mentally, academically) and I really started to think for the first time in my life that I couldn't do this and I also did not necessarily want to do it. I remember the moment I decided to give up my "dream." I was a 3rd year in college standing in line with friends at chipotle and I just thought "you know what, I don't want to do this. I'm not doing this" and as soon as I mentally decided that this wasn't for me I felt such a rush of relief and contentment. It felt like the biggest weight being lifted off my shoulders. It took me changing my major 5 times, surviving a suicide attempt, surviving septic shock, and all other types of smaller events and hardships to decide that this lifestyle wasn't for me. I am now a 5th year student in my first year of respiratory therapy school (actually taking a break from Anki to write this lol) and I have never been happier. I am thriving in all of the aspects in which I had been severely struggling before. I am the healthiest Ive ever been and the top of my class. In the end it will have taken me 6 years to graduate undergrad but I don't think I would change anything because it led me to where I am today. Congratulations, Blake. I am so proud of you for being honest with yourself about what is best for you and your family. Sometimes, that alone can be just as hard as medical school. Much love and support from Columbus, Ohio
thanks so much for sharing and your support. My condolences on not being able to escape anki though!!
Hey! You literally followed in my shoes. I was a premed major in undergrad as well and like you I struggled academically in my courses which led me unmotivated to pursue a career in medicine. I did graduate with my bachelor’s but wasn’t happy due to me ending with a low gpa. Instead of still pursuing to become an MD, I went to technical school and went to become a respiratory therapist as well. Best decision ever made. Got a job right away making $$$ and ever since the covid pandemic, I’ve been picking up travel contracts and making 6 figures and made more than a pediatrician last year! To be honest, I was thinking to go and become a MD eventually, but the more I worked in a hospital, the less I wanted to become a MD. Just goes to show there are more ways to be successful.
One of the most inspiring things to see is a person prioritizing their heart & dreams -- especially in the face of criticism, judgment, fear, etc. We all deal with our own versions of that. Thank you for being brave, doing the 'scary' thing, and sharing it with all of us. So motivating! Can't wait to see where you both go next🥰
Hey y’all, this will probably be lost in the sea of comments but I just wanted to share how much this touched me. Thank you so much for posting this! I am in basically the exact situation as Blake, and have decided to withdraw from medical school 2.5 years in, after years of depression culminating into a suicide attempt woke me up to realize I can’t keep doing this. The only thing keeping me going that long was the constant fear of disappointing my Dad and family (all of which are doctors and nurses).
You guys, and this amazing comment section, have helped me to solidify that I am making the right choice. Now my challenge is that I get to figure out how to deal with an almost 200k private loan. It should be illegal to let a young adult get THAT far in debt. But I’ll take that, rather than quite literally losing myself in the pursuit of being a doctor.
Love you❤
It takes courage to act on what you know is right or isn't right. Knowing that you didn't want to keep going with medical school and are also willing to face those you were trying to please--and all the debt without knowing how you'll take care of the loan--that's a sign that this is beyond a momentary emotion or panic. If you're still of this mindset and have moved on, I wish you the best. I, too, have been in this boat more than once, so I really wish well for you and your future endeavors.
I’m so glad you’re okay❤❤❤
I stumbled across this video, and was amazed at how similar our stories are! Yours was med school. Mine was flight school. Same reasons, same reactions, same conclusion, same support. It's a very humbling experience to go through. It really throws you for a loop, and makes you question a lot of things. I'm excited for you, for your new journeys. I know we are excited about ours.
Hey this message is to Blake, first and foremost I am so incredibly proud of you, the courage it took to make this video is beyond words. You are a great person, a great husband, and now in a way taking care of SO many here on social media. As a PA-C I get the reality of that Med school life, there’s such a grind, people are sweet around you but it’s still SO hard. I have a cousin who is an MD we were in school at the same time and would confide in each other a lot. She had a lot of doubt about becoming an MD, at times she thought maybe she should have been an RN or a PA almost anything else but she felt MD school was so long and so hard. She also became depressed in her 3rd year which was my last year, my PA school was 3 years long. It was the hardest time for our whole family. To see her become depressed over going after a career she wasn’t sure about, she only stayed because she was so deep in loans she couldn’t afford to leave. Now she’s in residency, on psych meds, doing better but still unhappy. I wish I could afford to help her find a way out. I myself as a PA I did love most of it, however there’s a lot of business that comes into taking care of patients and higher ups don’t always agree with what’s ethical. I had to take a step back during covid. Once I became a mom, I felt like my desire was to be home with my new baby and not work for a bit. Financially I had to go back to work but we saved a lot because I was considering changing jobs. 16months into being back at work covid hits and I realized I needed a break. I just couldn’t do the day to day grind and not even feel safe. Blake I get how hard that must have been to quit and I honestly when I say I’m proud of you it’s beyond what I can write here. You may help others decide what’s ok when it’s not too late. Im glad you can spend these formative years with your family. I’m happy you all can make this work financially. Truly god bless you both and your sweet family.
This is such a beautiful and inspiring example of supporting and loving someone no matter what Madi. Not for their money, career, or what they can offer you, but simply loving them for who they are. Thank you for sharing! I'm inspired by y'all!
Go Blake!! I'm terrible at advocating for myself sometimes so this makes me so happy! Family time is priceless, I'm so excited for you guys. Praying for this new chapter of your story ❤
thanks so much! That's very well said, "advocating for yourself", it shouldnt be as hard as it is sometimes!
Hospital pharmacist here. I’ve been working for 10 years at a large county teaching hospital and I regularly round with the ER and ICU medical teams. I had my second baby this year and have taken some time off to be at home with my kids and husband. I feel completely drained after 10 years in the medical field. I love my work as a pharmacist but I don’t love the chaos that a health system brings, the short staff, and the crazy hours. Blake, I admire you for putting yourself and your family first. Follow your passion and all good things will follow, I’m sure of it. I’m so happy for you guys, and I’m so happy that Madi and Nora and Dane can have you around more now.
Honestly I get it. My husband is a doctor and it’s brutal. He finished 5 years of residency and last year and his schedule is insane. He has 4 days off a month. As crazy as it is it’s his passion. He has wanted it his entire life. So that kept him going. If it’s not your passion the road is not for you. Also it’s so hard with a family. We had are first baby last year. He always says he couldn’t imagine having kids in med school. Excited to see what you do next!
I started medical school last week. I withdrew before the end of the second week because I wasn't willing to pay the price (time lost with loved ones, mental health, freedom to live anywhere, etc.) to become a doctor. I underestimated the personal sacrifice that it takes to become a doctor and I didn't want to sell my soul to medical school. Only 1 week into the program, I knew I would have to eat, drink, & breath med school work. I have a wife and two young boys and I just knew it would be a tremendous burden on our family. Your video is confirmation that I made the correct decision in leaving instead of trying to stick it out.
you're quite right i just realised it late..I'm on my 3rd month rn
@@itsfootballnotsoccer6140how’s it going now?
@fredred5037 great mate..that was just a phase where i was feeling quite low...being new and all but the more i got into it i realised i wasn't the only one struggling and there are many others like me..then you become friends and its pretty enjoyable so far...done with 2nd year btw, thanks for asking
@@itsfootballnotsoccer6140 happy for you.
@fredred5037 hope you're doing good if you're in this video. How you holding up?
I am so happy that you have both found your peace with it. The relief after making such a big decision is probably all the re-assurance you guys needed to know it was the right choice!
Blake you articulated yourself so well! The idea of being a doctor can be romanticized so much in our society. Most people don’t realize what it really takes to get there. Proud of you (and madi!) for focusing on what really matters in life!!
I just recently dropped out of nursing school and other peoples opinions hindered me from taking that leap. But I realized I wasn’t as passionate about the profession as I thought and I didn’t want to take care of patients without being 100% in it. I feel for you and I’m so proud of you for making that difficult decision!!
I am about to start my clinical rotations and this video scares me so much. I have always been so sure I wanted to be a doctor but I find myself having so much anxiety in clinical situations sometimes. Medical school is so hard and so much work and money goes into it. With student loan debt it is definitely too late for me to turn back at this point, and I am not even sure I want to since for the most part I do enjoy it, and after everything I have sacrificed to get to this point I would be too scared to turn back. Seeing Blake so happy does make me feel better, though. I am so grateful you posted this because not enough people are honest about prioritizing mental health. I like seeing videos like this where I can see others who mad a decision I am scared to make and seeing that they are happy they did. It reassures me that if I did ever decide to drop out I could still be happy like Blake!
Hey, don't let anxiety stop you. Btw you can go into administration with your degree, be chief medical officer, without patient care. There are many outlets. My coworker teaches fulltime a&p at a community college. He tells me always get the MD. Don't quit!
@@Anniefawesome what if I want to be a designer though?
Every month, a brand new set of 4 Interns would rotate to our floor for a month. Freely ask for help from seasoned RNs-especially on the night shift. The absolute worst mistake would be to act like a lone rogue mad scientist, so talk it over w/ RNs before implementing anything or writing new orders on Nights. They’ll help you. The Chief of Staff & the Attending Physician would always tell us to watch over the Interns on the Night Shift and give us report re/ each Intern. Protocols are pretty standardized for each Specialty re/ do’s & don’ts. Experienced staff are happy to teach what they know.
Working/going to school in healthcare can be so tough on your mental health and we don’t talk about it enough! I’m in nursing school right now and have to always remind myself of my why because it gets tough. I can imagine that if your why wasn’t so clear, it would be so hard on you. Great job Blake on doing what’s right for you 👏
It’s better to have tried and had the choice to continue or not than wonder what if down the road. I can relate to not wanting to disappoint your support system, but once you realize they are there for you no matter what it’s such a relief.
Yes Blake! I recently made the decision to stop going to school. I struggled with this decision because I was worried of letting others down, or disappointing them, like you were. I realized, that at the end of the day, I am the only one who had to live with the decisions I make. Not anyone else! We only have one life to live! And it’s too short to not do what we want to do :)
This was so needed today… struggle with the thought of letting someone down with my choices constantly. However like you said… it can finally break yourself. Thanks so much for sharing, we appreciate it!
me too! this was super helpful
May I just say how I love how proud you are looking at him while he talks to the camera 🥺 He also is so comfortable speaking directly to the camera!! Good job influencer Blake!!!
When your health is compromised in a job its time to move on...you made a good decision....you'll find your niche.....💗
Love the way you both were honest and the comment section made my heart melt. I've been through a similar situation and felt the same way, wanted to make my family proud but ended up having anxiety crisis, when I dropped out you can imagine the relief. Thanks to the Lord He opens up opportunities we could never think of and it's always for the best. Thanks for the video and speaking up! God bless your beautiful family. Hugs from Brazil 💞
Your mental health is wayy more important and it's way better to have a job that keeps you happier than a job that gives you anxiety all the time... Good for you 👍
I'm 24 currently in my third year, and feeling pretty burnt out. I don't really enjoy my time at the hospital anymore, like I did at the beginning of the year. I feel like the whole time I'm there I'm just standing around not learning anything and generally being useless (feeling compounded by the fact that I'm on subspecialty outpatient clinics right now where I'm essentially shadowing providers).
Every day, I wake up and feel fine when I go in, but then it's just a matter of time before some small problem makes me angry or frustrated and I feel shitty for the rest of the day. It's like I have no reserve left. At home on weeknights, all I really do is sleep (up to like 10+ hours a lot of nights now). I look forward to drinking a lot more than I used to. My friends notice that I'm more irritable. I don't work out nearly as much as I used to. I usually feel a lot better at the end of weekends/time off, but then I get slapped in the face with the sisyphean tasks of third year again first thing on Monday, and I'm right back where I started.
One of the most bothersome things is that I'm also getting really cynical, to the point that essentially every time I see a bad outcome or a patient suffering, I think something along the lines of, "why does medicine have so much power and authority if this is the best we can do?" or "this person would have been better off if they had never even come to the hospital" or "I should have gone into research where you can actually do something good for the world rather than just dispense pointless, expensive treatments that make people suffer." I also have a lot of thoughts along the line of "you're not going to learn anything today because all this shit is below you" and "the expectations for you are so low and you're sufficiently smart that nothing you do today will affect your grade." Do I actually believe that stuff if I sit down and think through it? Definitely not. But it's like those thoughts are always sitting right at the edge of my thinking, ready to jump in the second I get a little bit down during the day. It's pretty exhausting trying to challenge them all the time, and they're definitely negatively impacting my ability to learn stuff in clinic.
Needless to say, this is making it hard to get through the remaining (pretty tough) rotations I have left to complete. I don't know how much longer I can keep up the "interested med student" act and cynicism suppression that have pulled me through the last 6-8 weeks of feeling like this. I might just drop out.
how do you deal with this kind of cynicism and burnout?
How's everything now?
I think I have only commented 2 other times in my life, but this video really resonated with me and I hope you continue to post more RUclips videos! That must’ve been such a scary and hard decision, but I am so proud of both of you for the faith you have. You both seem super awesome and I wish you the best of luck with everything!
So happy for you guys, God works in mysterious ways❤️
Wow so glad I found you guys and your videos! Especially when I saw this one, I dropped out of law school half way through and I totally resonate with everything you’re saying here. Madison, you’re a good woman for supporting him through that, a lot of people don’t have that support unfortunately. Sending you guys love from Australia!
It's wonderful to see Blake doing what's best for him and his family, we all support ya Blakeeeeeeeeeee!!! My fiance also dropped out of becoming a nurse, as he felt the exact same, it just wasn't for him. he's much happier now he's home more and on to things he wants to do !!!!!
So happy for you guys! As someone who has changed life lanes and educations, I have the utmost respect for Blake for taking such a decision! And to you for being there for him! I wish you and your beautiful family all the luck, health and love😊🌸
thanks you so much, that means a lot!
So happy for you guys and for the peace you have about this life change! Side note: I loved your RUclips videos about health and fitness and nutrition so if you ever feel like making those again I’d love to watch!
This takes so much courage and made me even look up more to you guys! I've come from a family with a lot of doctors ( I have 5 siblings, and all of them are doctors, and I'm in med school right now) and I just wanna share with you that my oldest brother, who is a neurosurgeon, stop pursuing medicine and now he is on the way to become a priest (December will be his ordenation).
And he heard a lot of negative comments about his decision, but, knowing him, I can tell how much happier he's now.
I'm so happy for you and Blake, and that he realized this early.
You will continue to be in my prayers! Seeding lots of love all the way from Brazil!
muito obrigado! que louco que seu irmao ate virou um neurosurgeon e esta fazendo uma troca tao grande. uma inspiracao mesmo. a felicidade e a familia sao as coisas mais importante que tudo. fico feliz ao ouvir essas coisas!
@@madisonmealy e Blake, fiquei feliz em ver essa resposta, não sabia que falava português!! Desejo o melhor sempre para vocês, que essa nova jornada seja repleta de novas memórias felizes em família! (Com as fofuras do Dane e Norah)
What a beautiful story. Glory to God.
You guys are one of those beautiful families that prove that there are truly beautiful hearted people in the world🥺❤️ I can just feel the love, peace, respect, and support that you have for each other and others
You’re a great guy, Blake! I’m confident you’ll find the right path for you. I hope nothing but the best for this sweet family!👍😃
Just followed, liked and subscribed! I want to support your family in any way I can! I love how down to earth & humble you guys are. All the best wishes for you guys! This is just the beginning!!!🤗
thanks so much!!
GOOD LUCK in your new journey! 💛 thank you for sharing your story.
Hi guys! I’m watching you from Brazil 🇧🇷 I absolutely adore your family and your content on Instagram. I hope Blake finds a new thing that he truly loves and I’m happy that he makes the decision to choose what’s is better for his life and his health. I think many things in our lives would be easier resolved if we just talk about it honestly. This world makes us to suffer with so much pressure in everything in our lives. I’m glad that you now can be more open with each other to talk about those things, it’s just sad that the Blake anxiety episode needed to happen to that. I hope Blake is better now 🙏🏻 I’ll keep sending my love and my support to you guys! Thanks Maddie for sharing with us Dane and Nora’s moments, and also thanks for talking about mental health and discussing such a important theme with your community. I’m looking forward to new videos in here! ❤️
Thanks for making this video! This video really got to me because I just changed my career path from medical school to nursing school after having completed all the prereqs, graduated with my bachelor’s, and even registered for the mcat. Watching your video made me realize many people have gone through what I have and much worse. I think it’s honestly very brave of you to quit after you gave so much.
I slowly realized as I was shadowing and working around other doctors that this field required a lot more sacrifice, tears, and stress than I was willing to put in. I wanted to have a more balanced life, work less hours, and not have to sacrifice SOO much while in training. I’ll still be doing what I lovee.. which is to help others in their most vulnerable times. I don’t have to become a physician to achieve those personal goals. Telling myself that it was okay to change my mind was the hardest… I didn’t want to disappoint my family or myself…silly. Do whatever makes you happy, go in it for the right reasons and you won’t regret it.. and remember, those other people you’re worried about won’t have to go to work with you every morning for the rest of your professional life :)
I recently completed the pre reqs and had started preparing for the MCAT and realized something felt off. So its on hold for the forseeable future
Super awesome of recognizing what is best for you and your family. It’s inspiring to know that not all the time our goals in life should be a “career”… to put your family first and own happiness first, because at the end of the day that is what matters ❤️
Welcome back to RUclips. I knew you'd make more videos. Can't wait for more and good luck in the future 😁
It may sound crazy right know because he just got out of med school but if he likes anatomy And a hands on work I would suggest he looks into quiropractic school.
I literally just quit 2 hours ago . I was in my 4th year and only had one elective to go in order to graduate in December n had my school’s OSCE today , but when I walked into the first room to speak to the patient, all of a sudden I asked myself what am I doing here ? The whole interview went horribly and when I got to the station to type my notes my mind just went blank . I wish I would have quit when my anxiety and depression first kicked in . I drugged it out for too long . Anyway, anyone that has any pointers or leads on careers for medical school dropouts please let me know. 😩 these loans won’t pay themselves . I went into medicine because I genuinely love caring for people especially underserved populations but my mental health started to suffer significantly towards the middle of my third year and my sanity means more to me than any career .
did u figure out what to do next????????? pls reply
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i didn’t realize until now but Blake looks SO much like dean from gilmore girls!!!!
Big props to you Blake for taking the leap into the unknown, I'm sure it will pay off in the long run, and you've got a fantastic community around you for support :) lots of love to your family from New Zealand
thing is I think this type of crisis you described here happens a lot to most people going through medical school- and even more in residency. Pretty common to have these anxiety attacks when you are going through and you get used to them eventually. The thing is being a doctor is ultimately a job and not really fun at all. It can be a rewarding career though..
During the interview, most medical schools will carefully screen for students who do not have passion for medicine or students who choose medicine for job security. It's because those students have higher chance of leaving medicine.
Loved this video! You guys are so awesome!! ☺️ Can’t wait to see videos to come!! So happy for your guys ❤️
YOUR HAIR!😍 I remember when you were posting about postpartum hair loss, and to see how much your hair has grown is incredible! Will you please do a vid about your hair care routine?🥺🙏🏻 I love your family so much!🤎
My mom and sister are doctors, it's grueling. My mom did it with kids, then was on call for years. My sister would take her books to the beach on vacation. She hated med school but is happy now after finding a specialization she liked. Sorry to hear you invested over 2 years in it, it's so hard that is a big investment but i hope you can use those transferable skills and do something else. Like a family member for ex. works for a large pharma company and does really well selling high tech medical instruments to Dr and hospitals.
That's awesome that you had the strength to give up something that you knew wasn't for you anymore.
Also, SO GLAD you guys are back on RUclips!!! Here to thumbs up every vid to support you guys :)
Y’all mentioned one major deciding factors was the lack of debt. As y’all know most people in med school have a lot of debt accumulated. If you were in debt would Blake still have dropped out?
Awww! Yeah, never go into medicine if it’s not your passion. Passion is to suffer. I am willing to sacrifice and suffer for medicine. It’s what I know I’m meant to do, above everything I’ve experienced. Yes, I am 100% sure I love medicine and diagnosing patients and helping patients feel better. I Love medicine.
Passion is the key. If you are not passionate about medicine then you will suffer in a very negative way without seeing the day of light ever. Not even vacations will feel like a vacation, because in the back of your mind, you know you will have to return to a career you are not passionate about.
So excited to watch y’all on RUclips!!!
Supporting you Blake & Madi!! Happy you followed your heart. You will still do great things and we are rooting for you whatever that may be!! Much love from Minnesota:)
Would you consider doing a meet and greet/hangout for those that live in FL?
oh.my.gosh. when you were talking about the secret stuff and blake did the eyebrow thing he looked just like dane like whatttt. also so excited and proud of you guys 🧡🧡 can’t wait to see what God has planned for y’all in the future
SO stinkin happy for you guys!! 🤍🤍🤍
glad y'all are doing ok!
i had a panic attack at the hospital yesterday, because of a co-worker who treated me very badly. I can't handle think of it, or get into the hospital anymore. =/
I was ONE CLASS away from completing a double major in global studies and sociology and anthropology, God told me to do art which I LOVED but felt pressured to ignore for the sake of getting a job and being more studious, but after 5 whole years in school, God forced me to do it, and you CANNOT ignore God’s direction. You will not lose anything, you will only ever be blessed by being obedient. So PROUD of you!!!
How was it easy for you to change majors after spending 5 years?
So proud you were brave enough to make this decision
I cannot wait to see more of the Mealy’s on RUclips!!
I didn’t think I could be so proud of people I don’t personally know. Y’all are so amazing and inspiring, for Blake advocating for himself and Madison being so supportive and gracious. So much strength between y’all🤍
You look so happy! Makes me happy🥲
The love you both have for eachother ❤️
So happy everything worked out for you guys. 💓💓💓
Those first two comments were made while I was watching the video, and I’m making this one after finishing it😂 but I just have to say. I’ve been around since you found out you were pregnant with Dane and I have loved following your fam! But RUclips really just shows a side that I don’t see much off of Instagram and I love that!! It like lights a fire back under my butt to comment and engage more on your posts because I get to connect with you on here and remind myself why I started following you!! Love you guys!!!
I just dropped out after 3 rotations in my 3rd year at a US MD. Must be nice to not be $250k in the hole
Why do most people drop out in 3rd year? If you're comfortable answering.
@@trubluflu Because grading goes from completely objective to completely subjective and you can get destroyed on your clinical evaluations simply because a doctor you were with didn't like you or any other number of ridiculous, superfluous reasons and you have no recourse to debate it because it's all subjective
@@trubluflu Either that or they realize clinical practice is nothing like what they imagined and is simply bureaucracy, paperwork, and people figuratively cutting each others throats and climbing over your dead body to get ahead of you
@@juxsoundz4822how have things been since your post 2 years ago? I’m in a similar situation right now.
You guys are awesome and I enjoy "hanging out" with you! Lol I love the realness!!
Oh you guys are back on RUclips
Thank you for sharing this. I appreciate it
you are a lucky man to have her supporting you and sticking by! I'm now in you same position buddy un my third year and I'm seriously thinking about quitting because it made me sad af ! I'm constantly thinking about suicide and i feel so incompetent cuz I'm failing baad ! i hope my fiancee accept my decision and my parents too!! I'm super afraid of telling them but it over for me with medecine... worst dicision of My life
did u tell them????
Você é o cara Blake! Miss u bro.
Welcome to RUclips! 💘💘
Thank you, Thxu for sharing this with us🙏
Besides the point. I love your shirt Madison!!!
I feel this way and I'm reviewing for the MCAT lol ... what the hell.
me too...had a meltdown today..friends? lol
Same. I quit pre med already.
What I learned was to accept that this my “new life” and shed off every aspect or habits about myself that doesn’t relate to this singular goal. You’re basically joining a cult 😂
Hey I already told you how happy I am for you on insta but I have a question! Could the anxiety that Blake was having, or denying, or not recognizing be behind the heart troubles?! Seems like God keeps trying to get our attention until we take notice! 😊
You guys have such a healthy relationship.. keep it going ✨💖✨
Blake made the right decision for himself. As a nurse, I’ve seen so many medical students get torn apart in medicine. I remember a particular 3rd year medical student who was on an Ob/Gyn rotation. I remember tears in her eyes, and she confided in me. Medicine has a cut throat culture. It’s filled with type A personalities, and gunners. Their drive is never depleted. This student continued and graduated medical school. She is now a 2nd year ER resident, in a 4 year program. I have stayed in touch and she is absolutely miserable. It only gets worse. Glad you did what was right for you and your mental health. Doctors aren’t allowed to take care of themselves or prioritize their mental health and well-being, how ironic. This is why physician suicide is so high. It takes so much strength to be honest with yourself and admit, that you don’t have that fire in you to be a physician. That is the problem. The only way to become a physician is to have an strong fire in you to do nothing BUT becoming a doctor. These people literally can’t picture themselves doing anything else, these are the people that survive.
I also share this from personal experience. I have 4 yrs as an RN with backgrounds in (surgical-trauma, ob/gyn, ICU). I thought I wanted to be a physician. I took all the prerequisites, had volunteer & leadership experiences, basically everything. All I had to do was apply. But I had to be honest with myself, doctors were so burned out, working 60-120 hrs/week. It was unrealistic. Most had no lives outside of medicine. I didn’t want that, I had kids and wanted to be present. I enjoyed medicine, but not enough to make it my life. Long story short, I opted for becoming a NP instead. Still can practice medicine, without the 7 yrs+ schooling, moral injury, and 300k debt. The initial moment you decide will leave you in a bit of shock, but it gets better. The farther you are out, you’ll realize it was the best decision you made.
Thank you for sharing that story! Honestly I am a dental student now and am having grass is greener thoughts of medicine being better route so I am not sure what to do…
@@dentaladdict98other than a very superficial level of “prestige” dentistry seems like such a better deal than medicine. I feel like I’ve been scammed of my life by becoming a physician
I know it has nothing to do with the topic but he kinda looks like dean from Gilmore Girls
love you guys! be blessed
Thanks for sharing your story!
So inspiring!! Love you guys.
Goodluck Blake in your future endeavors
We love you Blake !!!
I think it would be nice if you include RUclips link to insta bio. As a follower, I was interested to know your stories in detail. Actually I didn’t think you had RUclips until I started searching in Google to know more about u guys.
What scares me if I become a physician is the lawsuits that doctors go through… I don’t want to experience lawsuit during my mid career especially after paying backing loans. There’s a good chance very physician will get sued.
You have a very supportive wife ❤
Well, I’m Blake this year in another country.
Support you both 💛💛💛
Dang bro that sucks. Med schools hard, not for the faint of heart. Even if youve got every advantage in life.
Do NOT ever go into any type of medicine (nursing, doctor, etc.) if you’re not in it to help people, because you want to be that, because you love medical science along with having empathy and care for others.. just don’t! We do not need more medical professionals who only came into this job to make decent money. It just leads to more doctors in the field that do not care about helping their patients and are sooo exhausted, burnt out (quicker than usually I bet), and jaded faster because it’s not a passion for them. If they’re not passionate for the medical field and helping their patients then they’re not going to be a good doctor most of the time (I’d be willingly to put money on that).
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Think about doing a field that does not require direct patient care. Something like pathology or radiology. Although nothing wrong with changing direction. Gotta take care of yourself before we can take care of others.
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You guys are so lovely 🏅🏅
So is he working of?
Somethings only AGE & EXPERIENCE can teach you! I'd like to see where they'll be at in 5years!?!🙄🤔🧐🧐🙄😒😒😒😒🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽