If you treat people decent only when you find them attractive, regardless of their gender or your gender, you are not a decent person. Get over yourself, and go work on yourself.
I hate it when you're just out shopping or walking in the park or whatever, doing it alone, and then some guy comes along and no matter what - they THINK you 'want' them and he does little moves or gestures, eye movements whatever - to let you know they're not interested in you - when you hadn't even noticed them up until then. Too funny
They do!!! I am so happy to find that I am not alone in this. Several times in my life I would be talking with a guy and then some random guy that I didn't even notice comes up to the guy I am conversating with and tells him, "If I was you, I will not talk to her." As far as I know, I have not ever seen this random guy before in my life.
Here’s the thing about these “friend groups”. Women are competitive, and that includes your so called friends. If she’s getting all of the attention in these bars/clubs/parties and you’re getting the “ugly girl” treatment, she knows it, and this boasts her ego. You are being used as a prop to propel their egos. Stop hanging with them, and stop torturing yourselves by being in these environments. Period.
Yup, I noticed when I was heavier they liked hanging around me because they I wasn’t competition… now that I’m at my healthiest weight it’s an issue and “I’ve changed “
@@NeyamRyeI’ve noticed the exact opposite. Men are competitive in a way that makes them try and work harder girls are competitive like they’re actually vile lol. Women will talk about you behind your back; WHILE being your friend, ignore you, try and make you feel insecure ect. I’ve tried to be friends with many girls and this has ALWAYS been the case and it’s why I actually never can have friends unless I’m dating someone.
I grew up overweight, glasses, braces, red hair, nerd , awkward, teen acne - people essentially treat you like you’re invisible or will give you an off handed remark about your appearance . I was a late bloomer In my early 20s when I started working out etc it’s so crazy the difference was like night and day with how guys treat you … I remember in school as a joke one of the football guys tried to tell me one of his jock friends had a crush on me just so they could laugh at me. People can be so cruel for no reason It says a lot about society as a whole -
whenever i’m with my sister and a group of guy stop us to compliment her, they always feel the need to tell me those compliments are not addressed to me caus god forbid i think im pretty lol
Sorry, but this had me laughing for a hot minute. Like just imagine... "Hey, girl. You look HOT!" *you literally staying quiet* "Ugh. No, not you. The one in the red shirt" 🙄
Being an autistic girl makes it worse too. I love myself and think I'm really attractive but because I'm native american I don't fit many eurocentric beauty standards. I have a wonderful bf who loves me but whenever we are around other men together they always talk over me so I have to raise my voice and then I'm "loud, annoying,obnoxious" just because I want to be heard in the conversation. My bf doesn't understand why other men act this way and it upsets him to see me treated like this just because I'm darker skinned than others and have a hard time with social cues. I've had men try to convince my bf that "You can do better you shouldn't settle for someone like her" Like I understand I'm not your piece of cake but do you really have to harrass my bf too about how you feel about how I look??
What kills me is the guy(s) who low key make fun of you the whole night in front of their boys, then at the end of the night they come around trying to hit on you. All that tells me is there are SO many guys (can't call them men) who are terrified of being open with who they are attracted to in front of their "friend" groups. *sigh*
@@baloo212 Yes, those guys don’t actually see the girl they’re clowning on as attractive. They think they themselves are so attractive that the girl they’re clowning on will be grateful that he’s giving her attention to the point that she’ll sleep with him.
as an ex-ugly girl, i was treated like i was subhuman. then i had a glow up and i realized that THE SAME guys who treated me badly switched up. which is when i came to the conclusion that i don’t give a fuck about what they think. the same personality they compliment me on now, is the one they called “weird” when i was ugly. so they don’t deserve to get to know me, i’m too good for a person who doesn’t acknowledge people as people, unless they’re attractive. especially not now when i have a boyfriend who loves me for mostly my personality.
That's great. I hate the shallowness but also came to realize I must be attracted enough to someone physically or it just can't work. Not talking models, just that something. My bf is conventionally really attractive but there were times when we fought or just I was too overwhelmed by life to look at him in awe. But what's good about his looks (among a lot of other things) is they mostly increase my will to be physical and the experience is really strong 🤭 All in all, there is never one reason we find someone attractive (in every way) but we have to in order to sustain a relationship. There are always ones who look for too much but also ones who value a lot more
Same here, I went from an average looking nerd to a slightly prettier one and now I get treated badly by other girls, but get treated better by guys it’s confusing af
@@ChrisMALUKAI I was surprised by the first one because she wasn’t ugly at all. The second one had an attitude problem and was trying too hard, but she wasn’t ugly.
@@GabrielleTollerson It's a simple observation really; women will typically overly empathize with other women (even strangers) due to some shared experience's and exaggerate to spare her feelings, while simultaneously being brutally honest and inconsiderate in regards to men (and their feelings etc), despite the same potential negative affects. I'm very much self aware human 🦾🤖
I learned this very young unfortunately, as a kid i was overweight and with glasses and the boys treated me like crap and even bullied me. it was funny seeing a lot of those guys who used to bully me, then started chasing me. and i ofcourse rejected all of them💀 Women have to stop being overly nice to unattractive guys, they wouldn’t do the same for you.
The IRONY of this. By saying stop being nice to unattractive dudes, you're no better than any of the dudes who aren't nice to the women they find unattractive just simply due to the fact they aren't attractive. Just be nice to everyone regardless of appearance unless they give you a reason not to be nice
I was at a forum/talk/whatever you call it that was abt SA and SH awareness in college. I ran into a dude who was popular and conventionally attractive and he knew I had a crush on him. He said "Why are you here? You aren't pretty enough to ever have to worry about any of this shit. " Nvm he didn't find me attractive, what kind of person has that mindset??? I felt like he gave himself away to some degree.
I’ve been told stuff like that, so I thought I wouldn’t have to worry… and then I got touched several times. It disgusts me how people think you have to be attractive to experience such horrible things.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 I'm ugly and was molested by a woman as an adult. SA can happen to anyone, especially big guys like me. It happened because I was under the influence and she was sober but regardless if I told people they wouldn't believe me.
When they disrespect you in front of another girl they like or talk to. Guys talk so much about how rude women are these days when guys do it too. Then again those might just be the immature guys…
Don’t worry, by the time you reach your 70’s these things will be the least if your worries. There is more to life than guys. Be so busy with your own life that you couldn’t care
This is NOT a only female problem this is a human problem when your unattractive you are treated like garbage and it sucks its not fare because you don't choose what cards you're dealt but all you can do is play your hand best as a possible and maybe you can win the game.
I'm attractive and trust me it's not greener on the other side. You're so used to getting treated good that if 1 or 2 people treat you wrong you can become bitter and your ego is super sensitive because you are constantly getting validated. You always seek attention and it's a never ending cycle to always look for validation. That's why I just ignore people now and women I don't care if they treat me good or not. They will think you are arrogant or cocky because you look good. I got resting b*tch face as a dude and people think I am emotionless. And well that's why I am focusing on myself spiritually and am mostly a loner. Always focus on your mental health so you don't rely on your looks because they will eventually fade.
@@sourcesymbiosismetamorphis2228 "your looks will eventually fade" AGREED. so many YOUNG people are talking about pretty privelage-- but what about people in their 30's and 40's who used to look pretty when they were young and now they aged and they aren't as attractive?
@@sof5611hopefully they’ve built good character 🤷🏽♂️ can’t get too comfortable with people treating you good because of it too it’ll build entitlement
okay but ugly men still get respected in the work place, they still are listened to, they still get promotions, ugly women are treated like they should apologize for being born. Ugly guys can't hook up, ugly women can't even get acknowledged.
I had a best guy friend who was super attractive. He would flirt with me when we were alone and I started to crush on him but didn’t want to ruin our friendship. I thought if it’s meant to be it will grow to be something or we would at least remain friends cause I valued that. One day he was drunk and invited me over at 2am, I wanted to go but I was so tired I didn’t feel like going over. After that he suddenly started ghosting me, not wanting to hang out etc. I felt pretty enough to F.. but not pretty enough to have a relationship with or even valued as a friend.. that hit deep at the time. Needless to say I’m the hottest and most confident I’ve ever been and he’s balding.. so it is what it is. ❤😂
@cleboebo1 let’s just say he didn’t bald in the best way and somehow managed to also look like he aged rapidly but ya know beauty is also in the eye of the beholder so there’s that.
So my friend had a hot body but average face, her stories were worse, she eventually got so depressed she stopped dating guys her league, she dated like four leagues below her so she was sure they won’t leave and yet she got cheated on while she was pregnant,so.
Because those guys are usually too insecure to be in any relationship so they'd rather f it up preventively. It's never smart to judge if a man will be faithful based off of looks only, it's in his words and especially small (but great if you analyze properly) actions
For me its the opposite. I am attractive and i have never had a problem of a guy thinking I am not attractive what annoys me is that i have to be stoic as shit just so that they won't get excited and think i am hitting on them cause i am naturally outgoing and that is always taken the wrong way
OMG SAME and ive gotten so many crushes and at first i wont lie i liked the attention but then its just got really weird because you just want to be nice and have a guy friend
@@savy473Exactly I just want to be friends but then they would rather try to sleep with you. Yet the girls they find unattractive they can be real friends with.
Several times in my life I would be talking with a guy and then some random guy that I didn't even notice comes up to the guy I am conversating with and tells him, "If I was you, I will not talk to her." As far as I know, I have not ever seen this random guy before in my life. Men will playa hate on women.
It’s pretty privilege. When I was at my leanest guys used to say I’m gorgeous. After I gained a bunch of weight no one looks my way. Lmaoooo I’ve never been happier to be single!!!!
I was bullied by boys as a teenage girl, pushed in hallways, being the punchline. Also adult men would comment negatively on my appearance. Had some health issues that caused me to look sickly all the time. When they disappeared and I got my health back, I started looking pretty. Those experiences can have a positive side. You become much more selective of who are good friends and you realise how fading looks are at the end of the day. And I hope that's the lesson most could take
Damn f*** those girls. Women can be just as bad as guys tbh. I don’t know why it’s so hard for some people to just be decent human beings, bet you’re a cutie Queen!
@@majestyk8654 I'm glad I got bullied a lot by boys so always the pretty girls would protect me and try teach me how to be like them so I wouldn't get attacked, I'd honestly cry if they were calling me ugly 😂
I’ll just be walking down the hall and EVERY single guy that walks by will give me this dirty look and go to the opposite side of the hall as if they think that I want them or something and are trying to give signals that they aren’t interested and think I’m this repulsive creature… like all I did was LOOK at you and you’re getting this defensive and it’s so weird like what did I even do? It’s not like I even know you anyways why would I be interested. Some guys just need to chill out and learn that we’re human beings just living against our own will and that we never asked to be born. It’s not our fault if we just happen to not look like some ai generated model or some Barbie doll. Come back to reality PLEASE. Also, If you can’t have any decency or basic respect for someone just because you’re not attracted to them that means you’re petty and selfish. And I think those kind of people are the ugliest and least attractive. Edit: Please pin this because people need to hear it. And it’s fine if the lazy people don’t wanna read it. I do not give a shit.
Good comment. This makes me think about that move what happened to monday as far as reaching a carrying capacity. Growing up, it was common to not make eye contact if you're not fit or it would be offensive. As a result you could be mean-mugged, cussed out, or even jumped. I think about the movie, wondering if we run out of space, it will get harder and harder to avoid making eye contact. In some spaces eye contact is seen as offensive. It would always be a relief to find inanimate objects to stare at and best to be quick to look for one. Then came phones, which made it easier to avoid the conflict, yet also reinforcing the selective socializing
not wanting to date or find people attractive of another race is not racist unless you are white. all pocs have the privilege to say i don't date whitey . . .
@@chuck-jy7mz telling a black girl “I don’t like black girls” is unnecessary and following a black person around making monkey noises is racist as fuck. Stop tryina make excuses to be a racist
These make me so glad I'm an antisocial shut in. I don't do the friend group stuff more one on one friendships and never encountered any of this on either side.
The worst part is when they let you know you are unattractive to them. It's like cool bro did I inform you in some way that I was interested in you? Like bro I didn't apply so you can hold your rejection for some one who asked.
@@notme8152 It’s not okay though. They’re being delusional, yet claim women over exaggerate their qualities. It’s projection most of the time. On average I’ve observed women being far more realistic about their looks than men.
Men like that are doing this when they see or feel they can’t access a certain girl the same night that easily. They may appear frustrated, disdainful when it’s really all about „damn that chick sure as hell won’t give us some, now we have to go and find another“. Good thing is, they‘re showing their true colors instantly instead of tricking you into thinking they‘re not that bad.
The worst moment for me was getting stood up on prom night in high school. We were all at my friends house and their dates were there but mine never showed. We stayed at the house as long as we could before having to get to school to make the bus taking us to the venue. All this in front of my mom, my friends, my friends parents and the whole school. It was mortifying and definitely took a toll on my self confidence. Even tho the date was just a male friend we made in art school it still sucked, esp since everyone thought it was a boyfriend or romantic partner that ditched me.
Don't worry, we had this dance for Cinco de mayo and my partner did not come and a guy made fun of me for it because I had to do the guys part with another girl
Attractive chad at the end trying to give a speech about how looks don’t matter… it’s always the attractive people. It’s like when rich people say that money isn’t everything. I agree that guys can be terrible but women are just as terrible if not more when it comes to treating ugly people badly.
Na. Men are way worse. Statistically. They over value their own attractive level and refuse to even acknowledge ugly women. Or in this can average women without make up. I’m bi and work with men. I’ve shown pictures of average women I find attractive and they would never.
@babyvia6712 its the equivalent of women treating ugly dudes like wallets. They'll say whatever they need to get what they want. As much as the men wasnt forced to do it, its by no means treating them as human beings. Once the women get what they were after, theyll throw all the shade in the world on the guy.
When they make it adamantly clear they're not interested in you, so an example will be.... Him - "All those girls are so hot....... but not you" Me - "OK" Him - "No really, you are NNOOOTTT attractive" Me - "Again, OK :)" Him - "I mean you are SO far from my type" Me - ((sighs)) OOOO KKKK AAAAA YYYYYY🙄🙄🙄🙄. And then they will continue with that same line of conversation for the rest of the night, as if they're even my type. Like do you guys even think of that? We find you just as repulsive tbh, but it's sweet you think otherwise.
@@madallas_mons 100%. I see it on social media apps like threads all of the damn time. Men (some of them visibly unattractive) trying to humble cute and attractive looking women. Men do this to beautiful women to destroy their self-confidence. It’s emotional manipulation.
Yes, I understand all this, and it’s interesting/funny to hear the female perspective. At school, I purposefully avoided guy-groupthink, in fact, guy groups in general because I was always the only POC there and I hated the vibe on offer. So the shared idea of prettiness I also rejected as a motivation, and still do. And I could never stand the “hot” girls, who were arrogant, “above you”, etc and I did not approach! They did not know it, but I looked down on their spoiled and/or vacuous selves and usually tedious, copy and paste features, which they were so massively overconfident about. BUT, unfortunately, the less popular girls felt ashamed to be approached by Yours Truly, as if they had really hit the bottom. Or, they suddenly became like arrogant queen bitches too, INSTANTLY, dropping to the level of their over-privileged sisters in my mind; in fact, lower. So there was nothing whatsoever to gain from paying any attention to the less “attractive” ones, either. Much to my disgust, when I was finally around BW & a mix of ethnicities at University, these others played similar games ☹ but “with attitude,” which was worse, though even clearer. So, no approaches continued for 4 years. Interestingly enough, years later I learned that those BW had voted me in the top 3 most attractive men there.
You don't have to find all my friends attractive but in our group if you buy one you buy all, and if you didn't goodbye you are dismissed. We don't need any drinks from an a-hole.
People actually don't usually try to bully or demean others they see as unattractive. They try to bully and demean others that they see as being out of their league. For anybody reading this, if you have been called ugly and bullied, you are probably actually very good looking and intimidating to others
@@madallas_mons It can go both ways. Both groups of people are treated poorly, but for vastly different reasons and ugly people on average experience more negative outcomes and treatment than attractive people.
I have had nights out with the girls ruined by this . They were usually targeting me or my other friend . Being rude to our other friend . Month after month it happened . We started just having out at the house and having house parties every weekend … we got closer after that
The girl with the two ‘friends’ who were like ‘just get in the car, he won't care’ I am so sorry. They aren't your friends they are shitty. If this happened to me I’d be like fuck you we are not allowing you to put our friend down like that. Absolutely disgusting. Even worse because she’s a beautiful girl, like what the hell?????
My ex told me i had an unconventional beauty, that's when i knew.... He couldn't choke n even call me pretty even after he told me so many other lies 😂Oh, and when i said i was waiting for marriage, a girl looked at me hard n said something unflattering 😅
The woman's story at 8:30 - the guy wasn't the problem, it was her weak, trifling friends. They should've spoke up for her and told homeboy they weren't riding if everybody wasn't riding, but it sounds like they opted to put her in a super awk position instead.
Well, the guy is the main problem though. What an asshole. But I get what you mean. If I were one of them I wouldnt even want to be in a car with him and tell him that he has a problem and is rude.
This is just one of the many things I appreciate about my husband. He treats women nicely no matter what they look like. And I didn't realize how important that was until I saw a man being mean to a fat waitress once, and I know it was because she was fat because he said it.
It's okay if you find them attractive What not fine is humiliating in front of everyone and made comments their bodies which you can't really change especially genetics I can't believe these people don't know how to keep their so called opinions to themselves NOT said it to their faces. They creating new insecurities that wasn't there before
9:49 he talks about the male gaze. This is perpetuated through all forms of media. Beauty is subjective. The ideals of beauty change and evolve. Don’t accept the male gaze as a measurement of your worth.
No person deserves to be treated this way because of how they look. Nor does a person deserve to be catered to because of how they look. But I don’t think it’s right to put all men under this umbrella. Men disrespecting women has been a long-running cultural issue, which is present in most of not all cultures, and everyone’s going go be affected by it. But there are men who work very hard to evolve beyond it and be considerate to women. They aren’t perfect but they don’t deserve to be categorized with the kind of men these women are talking about.
Any guy who buys a round of drinks for a group of girls and excludes one of them for any reason, is a a guy that no e of the women would ever want to be with and the excluded girl was just given info about what a poor character he has. He outs himself as someone a woman wouldnt want to keep. The girl who drives 2-3 hrs to play volley ball at 2 in the morning?? Thats unsafe and thats how you end up in a bad situation. And at 7:35 , that girl is beautiful
I went through my 20s being called the "butterface" of my friends. We all were similar body types and similar levels of attractive objectively, but I had "Mediterranean features" (if you know you know). When we would go out, the guys would approach my two other friends first, hit on them, compliment them, buy them drinks, etc, and it was like I was invisible. I remember waiting at the bar just to ORDER a drink because the bartender (a man) was too busy only talking to other prettier girls. The worst part was if my friends turned down the guys who approached, only THEN would they notice me and TRY TO APPROACH ME as if I hadn't seen them hitting up my friends RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME for 20 minutes first. I always felt like a "sloppy seconds." Then in my 30s I developed an autoimmune disease that affected my face. I had to cut my hair really short and the medicine I was on made me gain almost 100 lbs. Suddenly I was actually INVISIBLE. It was like people didn't even SEE me when I was in public, not even just for dating, but cashiers in stores, customer service, etc. I actually had people walk into me because they had looked right past me. The guys that DID talk to me during this time usually were socially anxious types who wanted a therapist/wing woman as they tried to pick up other women. If it was assumed we were together they acted so grossed out. These were not boys, they were grown f*cking men. I had a few, very few, attempt to pick me up, but they also made it known that they wanted it kept secret if I agreed. What the actual hell.
This is actually the opposite, if I find a girl really attractive, I usually dont talk to her as shes probably used to being hit on all the time, so I just leave her alone and never talk to her. Its a lose/lose situation for almost all men except that 1%.
This has happened to me I’m a black girl and my friend was Asian she started saying an Asian boy and all the time he would make racist jokes to me on the low. On the night of our homecoming dance one night in front of everyone he called me a monkey said I pat my weave and then said I looked like I liked watermelon in the span of like 3 minutes in front of a big group of people. That night for the first time in a while I felt confident I had makeup on a nice dress I was a little sad cause I didn’t have a date but I felt a confident up until that moment after he said that I just left the building started the car and went home and after I got a bunch of messages from everyone basically asking what happened and I got a text from him apologizing my “friend” basically forced him to send
I gotta say this type of thing I experienced mostly in middle school and I wasn't disheartened or feeling down since I wasn't the one most boys wanted and I was fine like that. The thing that irked the hell out of me was when them not finding you attractive translated to them suddenly not having any manners like I thought that was so aggravating. After that, didn't experience it anymore, it also helped I was that friend who somehow was friends with all the hot guys yet it never went further than that and that's how I liked it and still do. Currently contemplating whether I want to marry in future, wanna have kids but I like the freedom and inner peace my singleness has given me( also maybe it's b/c I've never been in a relationship but my parents toxic relationship and divorce probably sealed the deal on why I am that way) Sad the youtube algorithm is only letting me see this now haha
I wasn't upset with the fact whoever didn't find me attractive worthy of being treated like a human being what irked me was them being upset with the fact they didn't find me attractive and happy with it. The simple fact I was fine with not having all his attention was the problem. 😂 Like what. 😂
I just try to be nice to everyone, if anything as a dude I don’t look forward to getting female cashiers, support at stores I go to because they always act rude to me just trying to legit find what I need/checkout and leave, I always say “have a great day or weekend” but 9/10 women will not say 💩 back, got used to it but it’s all good. I just a dude that is a person too, wish many of yall would understand that.
I’ll add though women 40+ in age treat me really nice most of the time. Idk why that is but hey at least some of yall are actually nice. Don’t even get me started with Starbucks baristas. Hate that place.
Some ppl are just rude and have no home training. Idk where you are but in the South where I'm at ppl are just more polite when it comes to greetings and small talk. So don't stop being polite it's a positive trait to many women and ppl in general just not rude ppl. Maybe visit other places if you can to try to gage for yourself.
Well you can thank the dudes all over the internet that comment under vids like these, telling us women to stop being nice to guys, because apparently we’re automatically giving false hope that we want something more or just leading yall on when all we’re doing is treating you like a respectful human being.. kinda confusing and weird if u tell me…
I don't reciprocate guys because they almost always think that it's a sign. And some turned full on feral when rejected, even when done politely. So, for me at least, it's for safety reasons.
Seeing these women coming out saying they were treated badly because they aren’t attractive when in actuality they are drop dead gorgeous makes me feel even worse about myself. Like y’all treating these beautiful girls like shit!
I'd just like to make the observation that the guys that go to parties and act this way are probably not the nicest of people and just want to get laid. Please don't judge all men by the actions of the worst.
It’s really telling how much nicer western men are to western women than the opposite when their “deep trauma” involves them simply being treated how men are treated normally… Almost all of these would be laughed at if it was a man saying it
Honestly, you just gotta walk yourself to the point where when a n y o n e doesn’t find you attractive, you just don’t care. You’re like “awee…well, that’s okay.” No one should feel forced to find you attractive and you shouldn’t feel that way either. Everyone has something different they’re looking for and it won’t always line up. Honestly I feel like it’s normal. It’s the audacity of letting it affect you interacting with them like a decent person. Some women have this problem, though I have seen it more in men. Just because someone isn’t visually appealing, doesn’t mean they’re worthless and cheapening your experience with them because there’s no physical attraction is wild to me. I only act out the norm with someone I’m not attracted to when it’s clear that they want to be with me and I’m not on that wave. But my attraction isn’t just based off of someone’s body. I go off of attitude towards various things, physical appearance, ambition (not for a career but a love for life), self respect and esteem, empathy… things where it’s not only first impression related, but I would have to take some time getting to know them first. First impressions are nice and they can have me lean a certain way, but my mind isn’t decided on whether I find someone actually attractive until I can truly see their natural character. A person’s character can be unattractive just like their outward appearance can be. It’s crazy though bc a lot of RUclips glow up era videos will reinforce the idea that you need to look a certain way to be attractive when the truth is… you need to work on what’s inside and that will automatically trigger you to take proper care of yourself physically too which will be a more natural and healthy way of working on your outward appearance too
For me it was because I was annoying, not unattractive, that only one guy asked me to prom who people found both annoying and weird. I was sometimes talking to him so I accepted because I didn't have a big reason not to. In elementary I remember three guys asking me, one had a criminal family and was heading that way, so I declined. The two others were worst in class (while I was the best) so I declined but I should've accepted the one of them that was actually nice and cute. Declined him also because my two friends didn't have a date so they asked me to go with the two of them. I don't think it made much sense because they did have each other but it wasn't my crush asking so I think that is why I agreed to turn the boys down 😅
Human animals are weird. To the first woman...First: Your very beautiful and I'd talk to you so not sure what dumbass boys your hanging around but your gonna kill soon as you stop caring. 2nd... you might actually do the same thing as you want the guys that are attracted to your friends, who seem like the Alphas of your clique, to take interest in you...but maybe you might at times have ignored the guy taking sincere interest in you... because he wasn't one of the guys hitting on your friends. You notice the guys ignoring you and then dashing you with momentary attention, and then ignore the guy who offers you attention but your group alphas haven't shown interest in. Your competing with your female friends and basing the quality of attention on if they choose you over them, not if they choose you at all.
The problem is that the less attractive guys that hit on the least attractive girl in a group often times are not genuine about actually liking that girl and they are either trying to get one of the more attractive girls phone number from you or they are just taking whatever they can get. So eventually it comes out that the guy wasn’t really all that attracted to you in the first place and thus you have been strung along by this guy. Unfortunately this hurts your self esteem worse and you shy away from crowds like that over time. It would be nicer if a guy had just said that he was just looking for a friendship while he was first talking to you. Then you would get someone to befriend and it would feel more casual.
I realised fast that guys don't talk to girls they actually respect or find attractive. I remember I was attracted to this guy and so was every other girl, he was really handsome, I felt like he didn't like me because he literally said nothing to me the whole two years we worked together, never even looked me in the eye then his friend was like "You know he has the hots for you? Right", i was like "What?" And I said "okay, I will go ask him out", I walked up to him, this was the first time we spoke "Hey, how's your day?" He literally started to stutter, went red in the face and go extremely nervous about ne talking to him, it turns out he did have a crush on me and he was also really sweet, this was the hottest guy in the building. I learnt a valuable lesson about nen that day.
Ugh about race and religion. I once put a scarf to not get a cold with damp hair. People looked at me weird thinking I was Muslim, I guess. That was a time when I felt just for a short time how prejudice feels. I can only imagine being in those black girls' skins...
If you treat people decent only when you find them attractive, regardless of their gender or your gender, you are not a decent person. Get over yourself, and go work on yourself.
Ypu just described 50% of humans.
90%
98%
Being given free shots isn't basic decency. Nobody owes you gifts or attention.
@@wil404 When did I say they do? Why don't you try paying attention to what has actually been said?
I hate it when you're just out shopping or walking in the park or whatever, doing it alone, and then some guy comes along and no matter what - they THINK you 'want' them and he does little moves or gestures, eye movements whatever - to let you know they're not interested in you - when you hadn't even noticed them up until then. Too funny
They do!!! I am so happy to find that I am not alone in this. Several times in my life I would be talking with a guy and then some random guy that I didn't even notice comes up to the guy I am conversating with and tells him, "If I was you, I will not talk to her." As far as I know, I have not ever seen this random guy before in my life.
Halarious
Like “don’t flatter yourself bro u ugly as shit” lmfaoo
That is what women do to men a lot more... mixed signals and smiles, basically scamming guys out of hope.
@@josepheridu3322 I don't do that, lmao. You mean many women
Here’s the thing about these “friend groups”.
Women are competitive, and that includes your so called friends. If she’s getting all of the attention in these bars/clubs/parties and you’re getting the “ugly girl” treatment, she knows it, and this boasts her ego.
You are being used as a prop to propel their egos.
Stop hanging with them, and stop torturing yourselves by being in these environments.
Period.
Yup, I noticed when I was heavier they liked hanging around me because they I wasn’t competition… now that I’m at my healthiest weight it’s an issue and “I’ve changed “
Yes, some females purposely be friends with the unattractive. For linger looks whenever she walks by .
Really? I've noticed men are pretty competitive too, women are generally more competetive but to lesser levels than whatever men got going on
@@NeyamRyeI’ve noticed the exact opposite. Men are competitive in a way that makes them try and work harder girls are competitive like they’re actually vile lol. Women will talk about you behind your back; WHILE being your friend, ignore you, try and make you feel insecure ect. I’ve tried to be friends with many girls and this has ALWAYS been the case and it’s why I actually never can have friends unless I’m dating someone.
@@NeyamRye Men are OPENLY competitive.
Women are SLYLY competitive.
I grew up overweight, glasses, braces, red hair, nerd , awkward, teen acne - people essentially treat you like you’re invisible or will give you an off handed remark about your appearance . I was a late bloomer In my early 20s when I started working out etc it’s so crazy the difference was like night and day with how guys treat you … I remember in school as a joke one of the football guys tried to tell me one of his jock friends had a crush on me just so they could laugh at me. People can be so cruel for no reason It says a lot about society as a whole -
Yea, can't they leave you alone?
Yeah it happens with men too. I have a similar glow up experience as a guy.
@@NeyamRye fr thank god tho I was a nerd and it paid off big I’m an engineer now
@@habibtiz4335 good for you girl!💗
If youre overweight in school youre pretty much fked
If a guy treated any of my friends like this, I would automatically be turned off and disinterested.
Because you ARE that friend 😂
whenever i’m with my sister and a group of guy stop us to compliment her, they always feel the need to tell me those compliments are not addressed to me caus god forbid i think im pretty lol
Sorry, but this had me laughing for a hot minute. Like just imagine...
"Hey, girl. You look HOT!"
*you literally staying quiet*
"Ugh. No, not you. The one in the red shirt" 🙄
Fck thm
@@LennyGriffin-ip7mmfr
It's manipulation don't fall for it...if you weren't pretty why would they need to say that
This happened to me once and I just remember saying “oh okay.” 🤦♀️
Being an autistic girl makes it worse too. I love myself and think I'm really attractive but because I'm native american I don't fit many eurocentric beauty standards. I have a wonderful bf who loves me but whenever we are around other men together they always talk over me so I have to raise my voice and then I'm "loud, annoying,obnoxious" just because I want to be heard in the conversation. My bf doesn't understand why other men act this way and it upsets him to see me treated like this just because I'm darker skinned than others and have a hard time with social cues. I've had men try to convince my bf that "You can do better you shouldn't settle for someone like her" Like I understand I'm not your piece of cake but do you really have to harrass my bf too about how you feel about how I look??
Men think if a girl isn't attractive to him then she deserves to be alone forever, like fuck off let me and my bf be happy
I’m sorry you went through that. People are pretty shitty sometimes.❤
As a fellow autistic person, I think the answer is rather obvious and I’m pretty sure you know it too.
@@levistrudel9319 Can u elaborate?
What kills me is the guy(s) who low key make fun of you the whole night in front of their boys, then at the end of the night they come around trying to hit on you. All that tells me is there are SO many guys (can't call them men) who are terrified of being open with who they are attracted to in front of their "friend" groups. *sigh*
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Don't! they just think you would happily jump at the opportunity that someone finds you attractive. Nev3r entertain guys like these
Google “slump buster”
@@baloo212 Yes, those guys don’t actually see the girl they’re clowning on as attractive. They think they themselves are so attractive that the girl they’re clowning on will be grateful that he’s giving her attention to the point that she’ll sleep with him.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809You are 100% correct 🍻
as an ex-ugly girl, i was treated like i was subhuman. then i had a glow up and i realized that THE SAME guys who treated me badly switched up. which is when i came to the conclusion that i don’t give a fuck about what they think. the same personality they compliment me on now, is the one they called “weird” when i was ugly. so they don’t deserve to get to know me, i’m too good for a person who doesn’t acknowledge people as people, unless they’re attractive.
especially not now when i have a boyfriend who loves me for mostly my personality.
I love you Just by Reading this Text. ❤ please don't Change
That's great. I hate the shallowness but also came to realize I must be attracted enough to someone physically or it just can't work. Not talking models, just that something. My bf is conventionally really attractive but there were times when we fought or just I was too overwhelmed by life to look at him in awe. But what's good about his looks (among a lot of other things) is they mostly increase my will to be physical and the experience is really strong 🤭 All in all, there is never one reason we find someone attractive (in every way) but we have to in order to sustain a relationship. There are always ones who look for too much but also ones who value a lot more
Same here, I went from an average looking nerd to a slightly prettier one and now I get treated badly by other girls, but get treated better by guys it’s confusing af
None of these women are unattractive! They are beautiful
that's what I was thinking
As a woman I’d date them and not even gay
@@ChrisMALUKAI I was surprised by the first one because she wasn’t ugly at all. The second one had an attitude problem and was trying too hard, but she wasn’t ugly.
you know that is not true lol
Guys are rude not only to ugly women, but also to average-looking women and any women they're not attracted to .@tiahnarodriguez3809
This is so sad because the girls they deem "unattractive" are actually so pretty! 🤯 Also they have personality- more than alot of these men.
They're average and there's nothing wrong with that, as most of us are average, also would you hold the same concern for men, somehow I doubt it?
Some people might not find them attractive that’s how it works but you shouldn’t be an ass towards anyone either
@@boredagain1 ah yes,men making it about themselves as usual. And you want sympathy? Self awareness is not your strong suit 😂😂
@@GabrielleTollerson It's a simple observation really; women will typically overly empathize with other women (even strangers) due to some shared experience's and exaggerate to spare her feelings, while simultaneously being brutally honest and inconsiderate in regards to men (and their feelings etc), despite the same potential negative affects.
I'm very much self aware human 🦾🤖
@@boredagain1 that's all human. Men do that too. That's why i don't give any sympathy for those red pilled men.
They followed you making monkey noises. I don't want to hear about how equal this plays out for men, too. Women don't do this. That girl is stunning.
That made me so angry… that girl was beautiful, but the bigger point is those guys were jerks.
I am soo glad that i decentralized men Enough at a Young age to never be put through these things.
Same here as well. They do you more harm than good.
I learned this very young unfortunately, as a kid i was overweight and with glasses and the boys treated me like crap and even bullied me. it was funny seeing a lot of those guys who used to bully me, then started chasing me. and i ofcourse rejected all of them💀
Women have to stop being overly nice to unattractive guys, they wouldn’t do the same for you.
Wow, they r overly nice to a guy they not find attractive.?_? Where these women at?
Why you say only unattractive guy 😅.It's the same for beauty guys who can treat you the worst..
The IRONY of this. By saying stop being nice to unattractive dudes, you're no better than any of the dudes who aren't nice to the women they find unattractive just simply due to the fact they aren't attractive. Just be nice to everyone regardless of appearance unless they give you a reason not to be nice
I was at a forum/talk/whatever you call it that was abt SA and SH awareness in college. I ran into a dude who was popular and conventionally attractive and he knew I had a crush on him. He said "Why are you here? You aren't pretty enough to ever have to worry about any of this shit. "
Nvm he didn't find me attractive, what kind of person has that mindset??? I felt like he gave himself away to some degree.
I hope you told him where to shove it
I’ve been told stuff like that, so I thought I wouldn’t have to worry… and then I got touched several times. It disgusts me how people think you have to be attractive to experience such horrible things.
Omg.. 😭 wtf
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 I'm ugly and was molested by a woman as an adult. SA can happen to anyone, especially big guys like me. It happened because I was under the influence and she was sober but regardless if I told people they wouldn't believe me.
Your not ugly and im sorry that happened to you@@cosmothecreator
When they disrespect you in front of another girl they like or talk to. Guys talk so much about how rude women are these days when guys do it too. Then again those might just be the immature guys…
a majority of them are
@@allthingslexi6046 YES THIS.
Don’t worry, by the time you reach your 70’s these things will be the least if your worries.
There is more to life than guys. Be so busy with your own life that you couldn’t care
👏👏👏
Thats exactly how incels talk
@@madarah8533this is cope
@@madarah8533 No, incels are rip roaring mad that they can't get women.
I can't wait to be 70....
This is NOT a only female problem this is a human problem when your unattractive you are treated like garbage and it sucks its not fare because you don't choose what cards you're dealt but all you can do is play your hand best as a possible and maybe you can win the game.
I'm attractive and trust me it's not greener on the other side. You're so used to getting treated good that if 1 or 2 people treat you wrong you can become bitter and your ego is super sensitive because you are constantly getting validated. You always seek attention and it's a never ending cycle to always look for validation. That's why I just ignore people now and women I don't care if they treat me good or not. They will think you are arrogant or cocky because you look good. I got resting b*tch face as a dude and people think I am emotionless. And well that's why I am focusing on myself spiritually and am mostly a loner. Always focus on your mental health so you don't rely on your looks because they will eventually fade.
@@sourcesymbiosismetamorphis2228 "your looks will eventually fade" AGREED. so many YOUNG people are talking about pretty privelage-- but what about people in their 30's and 40's who used to look pretty when they were young and now they aged and they aren't as attractive?
@@sof5611this can only happen if you don’t take care of yourself just be real here
@@sof5611hopefully they’ve built good character 🤷🏽♂️ can’t get too comfortable with people treating you good because of it too it’ll build entitlement
okay but ugly men still get respected in the work place, they still are listened to, they still get promotions, ugly women are treated like they should apologize for being born. Ugly guys can't hook up, ugly women can't even get acknowledged.
I had a best guy friend who was super attractive. He would flirt with me when we were alone and I started to crush on him but didn’t want to ruin our friendship. I thought if it’s meant to be it will grow to be something or we would at least remain friends cause I valued that. One day he was drunk and invited me over at 2am, I wanted to go but I was so tired I didn’t feel like going over. After that he suddenly started ghosting me, not wanting to hang out etc. I felt pretty enough to F.. but not pretty enough to have a relationship with or even valued as a friend.. that hit deep at the time. Needless to say I’m the hottest and most confident I’ve ever been and he’s balding.. so it is what it is. ❤😂
His day of judgement has arrived, and not a moment too soon 😂 celebrate ❤
@cleboebo1 let’s just say he didn’t bald in the best way and somehow managed to also look like he aged rapidly but ya know beauty is also in the eye of the beholder so there’s that.
He ghosted you because you didnt come through at 2 am...makes sense..opportunity is opportunity regardless of how tired you were..
@@markbaker330 so if my mom is asleep at 2am if I ask her something and she "doesn't come through" I'm done with her forever. childish talk.
@@markbaker330What in the entitlement
they wish i was never born too i feel that shit
So my friend had a hot body but average face, her stories were worse, she eventually got so depressed she stopped dating guys her league, she dated like four leagues below her so she was sure they won’t leave and yet she got cheated on while she was pregnant,so.
Men🍼
@@razzeling_dazzeling_ ikr
that's awful!! I hope she's doing ok 😢
Because those guys are usually too insecure to be in any relationship so they'd rather f it up preventively. It's never smart to judge if a man will be faithful based off of looks only, it's in his words and especially small (but great if you analyze properly) actions
For me its the opposite. I am attractive and i have never had a problem of a guy thinking I am not attractive what annoys me is that i have to be stoic as shit just so that they won't get excited and think i am hitting on them cause i am naturally outgoing and that is always taken the wrong way
OMG SAME and ive gotten so many crushes and at first i wont lie i liked the attention but then its just got really weird because you just want to be nice and have a guy friend
@@savy473Exactly I just want to be friends but then they would rather try to sleep with you. Yet the girls they find unattractive they can be real friends with.
Several times in my life I would be talking with a guy and then some random guy that I didn't even notice comes up to the guy I am conversating with and tells him, "If I was you, I will not talk to her." As far as I know, I have not ever seen this random guy before in my life. Men will playa hate on women.
It’s pretty privilege.
When I was at my leanest guys used to say I’m gorgeous. After I gained a bunch of weight no one looks my way. Lmaoooo I’ve never been happier to be single!!!!
then men will come to claim that there are men who like chubbier women better,yeah ok 😂 men suck
I was bullied by boys as a teenage girl, pushed in hallways, being the punchline. Also adult men would comment negatively on my appearance. Had some health issues that caused me to look sickly all the time. When they disappeared and I got my health back, I started looking pretty. Those experiences can have a positive side. You become much more selective of who are good friends and you realise how fading looks are at the end of the day. And I hope that's the lesson most could take
First girl was being manipulated , she is pretty...its a tactic to get her to settle..
Even if you think you are unattractive still protect yourself because there are predators that will prey on your insecurities to use and abuse you.
Ignore those guys and roll your eyes at them. Watch them freak out and writhe in pain over their hurt masculinity
I haven’t been told by guys that I’m unattractive I’ve been told by girls
That's just plain jealousy
Me too. Its a lot more hurtful when it comes from girls
Damn f*** those girls. Women can be just as bad as guys tbh. I don’t know why it’s so hard for some people to just be decent human beings, bet you’re a cutie Queen!
@@majestyk8654 I'm glad I got bullied a lot by boys so always the pretty girls would protect me and try teach me how to be like them so I wouldn't get attacked, I'd honestly cry if they were calling me ugly 😂
@@ghostsheet777 They were girl's girl. I love that
5:42 This girl is straight up ethereal😮. Her hair , her facial harmony and she's natural. How on earth they find her ugly ?😮 Whaaattt !!!
But what was she talking about? 😅
I’ll just be walking down the hall and EVERY single guy that walks by will give me this dirty look and go to the opposite side of the hall as if they think that I want them or something and are trying to give signals that they aren’t interested and think I’m this repulsive creature… like all I did was LOOK at you and you’re getting this defensive and it’s so weird like what did I even do? It’s not like I even know you anyways why would I be interested. Some guys just need to chill out and learn that we’re human beings just living against our own will and that we never asked to be born. It’s not our fault if we just happen to not look like some ai generated model or some Barbie doll. Come back to reality PLEASE.
Also, If you can’t have any decency or basic respect for someone just because you’re not attracted to them that means you’re petty and selfish. And I think those kind of people are the ugliest and least attractive.
Edit: Please pin this because people need to hear it. And it’s fine if the lazy people don’t wanna read it. I do not give a shit.
Good comment. This makes me think about that move what happened to monday as far as reaching a carrying capacity.
Growing up, it was common to not make eye contact if you're not fit or it would be offensive. As a result you could be mean-mugged, cussed out, or even jumped. I think about the movie, wondering if we run out of space, it will get harder and harder to avoid making eye contact. In some spaces eye contact is seen as offensive. It would always be a relief to find inanimate objects to stare at and best to be quick to look for one. Then came phones, which made it easier to avoid the conflict, yet also reinforcing the selective socializing
Isnt it normal to be not attracted to some people that are considered attractive by others?
Yes but not being treated with kindness is not.
That part @@magnarcreed3801
Yes, no one should be treating you like scum there’s a difference
@@sanaaniz not sure I understand how you are interpreting my comment exactly
@@gkes4617Because your comment makes it seem like being treated different because of your looks is "okay".
All of these girls are so pretty
🧢
Blud
With that pfp...☠️
(Replying to the guy who commented a cap emoji)
Sorry, but this problem wouldn’t have occurred if they were
They are so pretty, that means guys are srupid asf@@sz8oe
Stuff like this makes me glad I’m an introvert
The girl from Nebraska isn’t ugly those guys are just racist
not wanting to date or find people attractive of another race is not racist unless you are white. all pocs have the privilege to say i don't date whitey . . .
not, its just their preference...or idk maybe they are racist
@@chuck-jy7mz yeah, true.
@@chuck-jy7mz telling a black girl “I don’t like black girls” is unnecessary and following a black person around making monkey noises is racist as fuck. Stop tryina make excuses to be a racist
@@ICruz-vq1ze don’t play stupid
These make me so glad I'm an antisocial shut in. I don't do the friend group stuff more one on one friendships and never encountered any of this on either side.
The worst part is when they let you know you are unattractive to them. It's like cool bro did I inform you in some way that I was interested in you? Like bro I didn't apply so you can hold your rejection for some one who asked.
Men think you are interested in them if you just look in their direction for 0,05 sec, so it's normal
@@notme8152 It’s not okay though. They’re being delusional, yet claim women over exaggerate their qualities. It’s projection most of the time. On average I’ve observed women being far more realistic about their looks than men.
@@Dontmind8 women are far more relistic.
Men like that are doing this when they see or feel they can’t access a certain girl the same night that easily. They may appear frustrated, disdainful when it’s really all about „damn that chick sure as hell won’t give us some, now we have to go and find another“. Good thing is, they‘re showing their true colors instantly instead of tricking you into thinking they‘re not that bad.
Cope
cope
The worst moment for me was getting stood up on prom night in high school. We were all at my friends house and their dates were there but mine never showed. We stayed at the house as long as we could before having to get to school to make the bus taking us to the venue. All this in front of my mom, my friends, my friends parents and the whole school. It was mortifying and definitely took a toll on my self confidence. Even tho the date was just a male friend we made in art school it still sucked, esp since everyone thought it was a boyfriend or romantic partner that ditched me.
Don't worry, we had this dance for Cinco de mayo and my partner did not come and a guy made fun of me for it because I had to do the guys part with another girl
men won't acknowledge a women unless they find them attractive.
Projecting.
Vice versa
Honey, women are the same with ugly men lol.
@@7_77_.can’t forget that 💔
The opposite actually. Men even go for average unlike females lol
People are so horrible 💔💔
Attractive chad at the end trying to give a speech about how looks don’t matter… it’s always the attractive people. It’s like when rich people say that money isn’t everything. I agree that guys can be terrible but women are just as terrible if not more when it comes to treating ugly people badly.
hes not attractive
Women are rude to creeps who can't understand NO means NO. Not generally unattractive guys. Women are way less concentrated on looks than men.
Na. Men are way worse. Statistically. They over value their own attractive level and refuse to even acknowledge ugly women. Or in this can average women without make up. I’m bi and work with men. I’ve shown pictures of average women I find attractive and they would never.
Women are definitely not just as bad. I agree that the guy at the end is goofy, but women are definitely not just as bad, and definitely not more.
@babyvia6712 its the equivalent of women treating ugly dudes like wallets. They'll say whatever they need to get what they want. As much as the men wasnt forced to do it, its by no means treating them as human beings. Once the women get what they were after, theyll throw all the shade in the world on the guy.
When they make it adamantly clear they're not interested in you, so an example will be....
Him - "All those girls are so hot....... but not you"
Me - "OK"
Him - "No really, you are NNOOOTTT attractive"
Me - "Again, OK :)"
Him - "I mean you are SO far from my type"
Me - ((sighs)) OOOO KKKK AAAAA YYYYYY🙄🙄🙄🙄.
And then they will continue with that same line of conversation for the rest of the night, as if they're even my type. Like do you guys even think of that? We find you just as repulsive tbh, but it's sweet you think otherwise.
They actually wanted you and were trying to lower your self esteem because of it
Exactly. The guys can be just as manipulative if not worse, as the girls can be.
@@madallas_mons 100%. I see it on social media apps like threads all of the damn time. Men (some of them visibly unattractive) trying to humble cute and attractive looking women. Men do this to beautiful women to destroy their self-confidence. It’s emotional manipulation.
I love the pep talk at the end. I had started doing this and I feel amazing.
Yes, I understand all this, and it’s interesting/funny to hear the female perspective.
At school, I purposefully avoided guy-groupthink, in fact, guy groups in general because I was always the only POC there and I hated the vibe on offer. So the shared idea of prettiness I also rejected as a motivation, and still do. And I could never stand the “hot” girls, who were arrogant, “above you”, etc and I did not approach! They did not know it, but I looked down on their spoiled and/or vacuous selves and usually tedious, copy and paste features, which they were so massively overconfident about.
BUT, unfortunately, the less popular girls felt ashamed to be approached by Yours Truly, as if they had really hit the bottom. Or, they suddenly became like arrogant queen bitches too, INSTANTLY, dropping to the level of their over-privileged sisters in my mind; in fact, lower. So there was nothing whatsoever to gain from paying any attention to the less “attractive” ones, either.
Much to my disgust, when I was finally around BW & a mix of ethnicities at University, these others played similar games ☹ but “with attitude,” which was worse, though even clearer. So, no approaches continued for 4 years.
Interestingly enough, years later I learned that those BW had voted me in the top 3 most attractive men there.
Im a ugly asian american girl lol shit was wild what boys and girls would say to me
What they say to you?
Im not asian but I’ve seen the type of comments y’all get. 🤦🏽♀️ some people just enjoy being evil i suppose
What did they say to you?
You’re not Ugly don’t believe what they say.
U are probably actually very good looking
Love it. "Some toolbag's opinion of you is not your reality"
You don't have to find all my friends attractive but in our group if you buy one you buy all, and if you didn't goodbye you are dismissed. We don't need any drinks from an a-hole.
I don’t get it. All these girls are beautiful.
People actually don't usually try to bully or demean others they see as unattractive. They try to bully and demean others that they see as being out of their league. For anybody reading this, if you have been called ugly and bullied, you are probably actually very good looking and intimidating to others
@@madallas_mons It can go both ways. Both groups of people are treated poorly, but for vastly different reasons and ugly people on average experience more negative outcomes and treatment than attractive people.
I am so confused by the girl at 5:32 what is she talking about driving 2hrs digging volleyball. She must be trolling
Yeah she's kidding.
And if your friend keep up with it and laugh it off you know damn well who isn't your real friend
I have had nights out with the girls ruined by this . They were usually targeting me or my other friend . Being rude to our other friend . Month after month it happened . We started just having out at the house and having house parties every weekend … we got closer after that
Thank You to the last guy we all needed that.
The girl with the two ‘friends’ who were like ‘just get in the car, he won't care’ I am so sorry. They aren't your friends they are shitty. If this happened to me I’d be like fuck you we are not allowing you to put our friend down like that. Absolutely disgusting. Even worse because she’s a beautiful girl, like what the hell?????
My ex told me i had an unconventional beauty, that's when i knew.... He couldn't choke n even call me pretty even after he told me so many other lies 😂Oh, and when i said i was waiting for marriage, a girl looked at me hard n said something unflattering 😅
The woman's story at 8:30 - the guy wasn't the problem, it was her weak, trifling friends. They should've spoke up for her and told homeboy they weren't riding if everybody wasn't riding, but it sounds like they opted to put her in a super awk position instead.
Well, the guy is the main problem though. What an asshole. But I get what you mean. If I were one of them I wouldnt even want to be in a car with him and tell him that he has a problem and is rude.
Thankfully my friends would NEVER 😂
i feel like the moment i turned 25, all of these situations stopped mattering to me.
This is just one of the many things I appreciate about my husband. He treats women nicely no matter what they look like. And I didn't realize how important that was until I saw a man being mean to a fat waitress once, and I know it was because she was fat because he said it.
I think the Nebraska girl is really pretty
she is extremely pretty, those boys were just racist😂
They’re all are
I loved that last clip ❤️ Facts! Ladies, you are all beautiful! Never let some random NPC tell you otherwise !!!❤
It's okay if you find them attractive
What not fine is humiliating in front of everyone and made comments their bodies which you can't really change especially genetics
I can't believe these people don't know how to keep their so called opinions to themselves NOT said it to their faces. They creating new insecurities that wasn't there before
This tiktok is literally the movie Just Wright, without the happy ending
9:49 he talks about the male gaze. This is perpetuated through all forms of media. Beauty is subjective. The ideals of beauty change and evolve. Don’t accept the male gaze as a measurement of your worth.
No person deserves to be treated this way because of how they look. Nor does a person deserve to be catered to because of how they look. But I don’t think it’s right to put all men under this umbrella. Men disrespecting women has been a long-running cultural issue, which is present in most of not all cultures, and everyone’s going go be affected by it. But there are men who work very hard to evolve beyond it and be considerate to women. They aren’t perfect but they don’t deserve to be categorized with the kind of men these women are talking about.
Any guy who buys a round of drinks for a group of girls and excludes one of them for any reason, is a a guy that no e of the women would ever want to be with and the excluded girl was just given info about what a poor character he has. He outs himself as someone a woman wouldnt want to keep.
The girl who drives 2-3 hrs to play volley ball at 2 in the morning?? Thats unsafe and thats how you end up in a bad situation. And at
7:35 , that girl is beautiful
7:42 why hang around people that don’t like you or find you attractive
I went through my 20s being called the "butterface" of my friends. We all were similar body types and similar levels of attractive objectively, but I had "Mediterranean features" (if you know you know).
When we would go out, the guys would approach my two other friends first, hit on them, compliment them, buy them drinks, etc, and it was like I was invisible. I remember waiting at the bar just to ORDER a drink because the bartender (a man) was too busy only talking to other prettier girls.
The worst part was if my friends turned down the guys who approached, only THEN would they notice me and TRY TO APPROACH ME as if I hadn't seen them hitting up my friends RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME for 20 minutes first. I always felt like a "sloppy seconds."
Then in my 30s I developed an autoimmune disease that affected my face. I had to cut my hair really short and the medicine I was on made me gain almost 100 lbs. Suddenly I was actually INVISIBLE. It was like people didn't even SEE me when I was in public, not even just for dating, but cashiers in stores, customer service, etc. I actually had people walk into me because they had looked right past me.
The guys that DID talk to me during this time usually were socially anxious types who wanted a therapist/wing woman as they tried to pick up other women. If it was assumed we were together they acted so grossed out. These were not boys, they were grown f*cking men. I had a few, very few, attempt to pick me up, but they also made it known that they wanted it kept secret if I agreed. What the actual hell.
I didn't get the volleyball story...
Same
Girl same
Righttt…I was looking for this comment
It seems like she's describing a dream lol
This is actually the opposite, if I find a girl really attractive, I usually dont talk to her as shes probably used to being hit on all the time, so I just leave her alone and never talk to her. Its a lose/lose situation for almost all men except that 1%.
Girl from Nebraska, please come to MD. Black men looking for y'all.
This has happened to me I’m a black girl and my friend was Asian she started saying an Asian boy and all the time he would make racist jokes to me on the low. On the night of our homecoming dance one night in front of everyone he called me a monkey said I pat my weave and then said I looked like I liked watermelon in the span of like 3 minutes in front of a big group of people. That night for the first time in a while I felt confident I had makeup on a nice dress I was a little sad cause I didn’t have a date but I felt a confident up until that moment after he said that I just left the building started the car and went home and after I got a bunch of messages from everyone basically asking what happened and I got a text from him apologizing my “friend” basically forced him to send
The first girl is really pretty
I gotta say this type of thing I experienced mostly in middle school and I wasn't disheartened or feeling down since I wasn't the one most boys wanted and I was fine like that. The thing that irked the hell out of me was when them not finding you attractive translated to them suddenly not having any manners like I thought that was so aggravating. After that, didn't experience it anymore, it also helped I was that friend who somehow was friends with all the hot guys yet it never went further than that and that's how I liked it and still do. Currently contemplating whether I want to marry in future, wanna have kids but I like the freedom and inner peace my singleness has given me( also maybe it's b/c I've never been in a relationship but my parents toxic relationship and divorce probably sealed the deal on why I am that way) Sad the youtube algorithm is only letting me see this now haha
I wasn't upset with the fact whoever didn't find me attractive worthy of being treated like a human being what irked me was them being upset with the fact they didn't find me attractive and happy with it. The simple fact I was fine with not having all his attention was the problem. 😂 Like what. 😂
We all need our own cheer leader like the fella at the end 😊
Rejection hurts, doesn't it
The must absurd part is that NONE of these girls is ugly
Why do you care about men who are not into you?
Cuz they are rude and disrespectful when they don't find you attractive , is it that hard?
To the girls on this video, you are all pretty!!
I think guys do this in their 20s. They outgrow it. Most of them anyways..
Dayummm 2nd bech is 💕💕💕she is a goddess i need her in my life ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I just try to be nice to everyone, if anything as a dude I don’t look forward to getting female cashiers, support at stores I go to because they always act rude to me just trying to legit find what I need/checkout and leave, I always say “have a great day or weekend” but 9/10 women will not say 💩 back, got used to it but it’s all good. I just a dude that is a person too, wish many of yall would understand that.
I’ll add though women 40+ in age treat me really nice most of the time. Idk why that is but hey at least some of yall are actually nice. Don’t even get me started with Starbucks baristas. Hate that place.
Some ppl are just rude and have no home training. Idk where you are but in the South where I'm at ppl are just more polite when it comes to greetings and small talk. So don't stop being polite it's a positive trait to many women and ppl in general just not rude ppl. Maybe visit other places if you can to try to gage for yourself.
Well you can thank the dudes all over the internet that comment under vids like these, telling us women to stop being nice to guys, because apparently we’re automatically giving false hope that we want something more or just leading yall on when all we’re doing is treating you like a respectful human being.. kinda confusing and weird if u tell me…
I don't reciprocate guys because they almost always think that it's a sign. And some turned full on feral when rejected, even when done politely. So, for me at least, it's for safety reasons.
Seeing these women coming out saying they were treated badly because they aren’t attractive when in actuality they are drop dead gorgeous makes me feel even worse about myself. Like y’all treating these beautiful girls like shit!
I mean... shit goes both ways. People in general are just assholes 💀
That last guy spit facts
The most disheartening thing is when they pretend they do
I don’t get this, all the women on this video are gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Facts 😊
I'd just like to make the observation that the guys that go to parties and act this way are probably not the nicest of people and just want to get laid. Please don't judge all men by the actions of the worst.
It’s really telling how much nicer western men are to western women than the opposite when their “deep trauma” involves them simply being treated how men are treated normally…
Almost all of these would be laughed at if it was a man saying it
Honestly, you just gotta walk yourself to the point where when a n y o n e doesn’t find you attractive, you just don’t care. You’re like “awee…well, that’s okay.” No one should feel forced to find you attractive and you shouldn’t feel that way either. Everyone has something different they’re looking for and it won’t always line up. Honestly I feel like it’s normal. It’s the audacity of letting it affect you interacting with them like a decent person. Some women have this problem, though I have seen it more in men. Just because someone isn’t visually appealing, doesn’t mean they’re worthless and cheapening your experience with them because there’s no physical attraction is wild to me. I only act out the norm with someone I’m not attracted to when it’s clear that they want to be with me and I’m not on that wave. But my attraction isn’t just based off of someone’s body. I go off of attitude towards various things, physical appearance, ambition (not for a career but a love for life), self respect and esteem, empathy… things where it’s not only first impression related, but I would have to take some time getting to know them first. First impressions are nice and they can have me lean a certain way, but my mind isn’t decided on whether I find someone actually attractive until I can truly see their natural character. A person’s character can be unattractive just like their outward appearance can be. It’s crazy though bc a lot of RUclips glow up era videos will reinforce the idea that you need to look a certain way to be attractive when the truth is… you need to work on what’s inside and that will automatically trigger you to take proper care of yourself physically too which will be a more natural and healthy way of working on your outward appearance too
guys are mean to women they find unattractive
@@R.S-l2g And this is why women are also rude to men whom they find unnatractive as well.
Wow these guys don't know how to flirt or neg or tease right. If a guy does it the right way, then women actually feel good
removing male friends from my circle has done wonders for my health, i highly recommend it 😂
Chick in the blue and yellow sweater...anyone that overly positive and confident is hiding something painful deep inside.
For me it was because I was annoying, not unattractive, that only one guy asked me to prom who people found both annoying and weird. I was sometimes talking to him so I accepted because I didn't have a big reason not to. In elementary I remember three guys asking me, one had a criminal family and was heading that way, so I declined. The two others were worst in class (while I was the best) so I declined but I should've accepted the one of them that was actually nice and cute. Declined him also because my two friends didn't have a date so they asked me to go with the two of them. I don't think it made much sense because they did have each other but it wasn't my crush asking so I think that is why I agreed to turn the boys down 😅
Human animals are weird. To the first woman...First: Your very beautiful and I'd talk to you so not sure what dumbass boys your hanging around but your gonna kill soon as you stop caring. 2nd... you might actually do the same thing as you want the guys that are attracted to your friends, who seem like the Alphas of your clique, to take interest in you...but maybe you might at times have ignored the guy taking sincere interest in you... because he wasn't one of the guys hitting on your friends. You notice the guys ignoring you and then dashing you with momentary attention, and then ignore the guy who offers you attention but your group alphas haven't shown interest in. Your competing with your female friends and basing the quality of attention on if they choose you over them, not if they choose you at all.
The problem is that the less attractive guys that hit on the least attractive girl in a group often times are not genuine about actually liking that girl and they are either trying to get one of the more attractive girls phone number from you or they are just taking whatever they can get. So eventually it comes out that the guy wasn’t really all that attracted to you in the first place and thus you have been strung along by this guy. Unfortunately this hurts your self esteem worse and you shy away from crowds like that over time. It would be nicer if a guy had just said that he was just looking for a friendship while he was first talking to you. Then you would get someone to befriend and it would feel more casual.
Nebraska girl is really pretty though 😅
This made me so sad. The ladies here are just so so pretty.
Being a former “fatty” I know all too well
I realised fast that guys don't talk to girls they actually respect or find attractive. I remember I was attracted to this guy and so was every other girl, he was really handsome, I felt like he didn't like me because he literally said nothing to me the whole two years we worked together, never even looked me in the eye then his friend was like "You know he has the hots for you? Right", i was like "What?" And I said "okay, I will go ask him out", I walked up to him, this was the first time we spoke "Hey, how's your day?" He literally started to stutter, went red in the face and go extremely nervous about ne talking to him, it turns out he did have a crush on me and he was also really sweet, this was the hottest guy in the building. I learnt a valuable lesson about nen that day.
Ugh about race and religion. I once put a scarf to not get a cold with damp hair. People looked at me weird thinking I was Muslim, I guess. That was a time when I felt just for a short time how prejudice feels. I can only imagine being in those black girls' skins...