Anita's mantra: I will only engage with those who are loving and appreciative towards me...they charge my batteries...Yes...that's such good advice! You go Girl! So Simple!
I’m from SF, CA. I’m a empath & people pleaser & I just learned my lesson so bad recently & never want to go though this again. I’m going to choose for myself better ❤️
Hi from Arizona, How do you deal with a spouse of 35 years or children that drain your batteries....I am a mat for most of my life. Pleasing everyone and can't break away
Many ppl are “trained” and conditioned to be desperate and depleted, during long years of childhood. Because there are such parents with poisoned personalities who can really show you what the bottom of the hell means. Your teaching gives great guidance to those who’re wearing such scars of early terrible experiences.
I am an environmental Medical healer MD PhD. Your book is the first one I recommend to My patients. Then I got sick!!! Breast cancer. I realized it is truly a gift! You are my teacher and my sister !!!! Thank you.
Dear Anita,thank you very much for everything what you do.I am from the Czech Republic,15 years old so I am sorry if my English is not perfect.You have the most beautiful soul that I have ever seen,your personal charm is just overwhelming and if everybody were like you are,here we would have Heaven on this fear and power based Earth.You are awesome.I love you,take care and enjoy every single day.With love Tereza❤️
I am 58 from Sydney Australia(grow up in HK like you Anita, so I know exactly what you talking about the HK culture). Mum had mental illness so I am very Empathic for survival, she is also very Narcissistic, my sister is a high functioning Psychopath, they literally sucked me dry. Me being Empathic, low self esteem, big time people pleaser and Christian up bringing (preach to give and give no matter what), lead me to 23 years of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, it is the body's way to say NO More. I bought your 1st 2 books and it has turned my life around. I still people please as it is so much my nature, but I catch myself out more and more and - when that happened, I rectract from my commitment or change my mind and say NO - putting myself first and have more pleasure. I am getting there. Thank you so much for your message.
Wo. Exactly my story except my brother was the bully buffer. Devastatingly he was taken out at the prime of his life,Leaving me Vulnerable to the pharisee sharks in the form of "relations" through her..Father was taken out but is still surviving 7 seas away due to cruel antics. I get this all.. Im Working on Forgiveness, anger..am an empath.. love the path of loving self.Healing is daily.
Long for that healing after all the extreme attack of the narcissistic angle from the male dominating in Female form,family member of Indian origin- on my empath form in the Western world.Healing,relief, a partner that gets it,and a breakthrough -
I am so excited to read that you found Anita! I have a friend who had Epstein Barr/Chronic Fatigue and I believe it was because she had a narcissistic husband (and probably other family members, although I don't know). When he left her, she actually began to heal! She is an Empath. I could tell when I met her (1990), although I hadn't a name for what I knew she was. I just observed that she had no filters, nothing that protected her from others. I am more like Danny (Aspergersy). But Anita helps me enormously as I fight depression. Her message is one of the most powerful healing messages I have come across in my 63 years. Know that AS YOU HAVE BOUNDARIES, you are healing the world! Much love to you!
Very similar story. I knew I had a narcissistic father but now am realizing that my mother has some traits too along with my siblings. I saw it very clearly when I myself went through a health challenge. I was suffering emotionally and physically. All I felt from them was judgement when all I wanted was for someone to hold me and be there. Although I am alive and well now, I will never forget how they made me feel. I am also so grateful for Anita because she gets it. A lot of us live with these feelings of being small and helping others feel big and think its normal but its not. I still struggle from time to time because of the old patterns, just wishing that they'd call and ask me how Im doing instead of me always calling them. its just the child part of me wanting to be with them again just so I can laugh and have a sense of a family. Its sad.
Thank u soo much for this vedio....I was a doormat for last 11 years to my in law's....I m from India....but from last year I stood for my self n 4 my feelings.....But at d same time I was feeling guilty for that...thank you so much for ur precious words...I live in joint family from last 12 years.....feeling very relaxed.....now things r getting better 4 me....thank u...tank u soo much...n tank u to ur all angels.....becoz of ur n.d.e. I got 2 learn so many things....thank u ...thank u soo much....thank u 2 my angles for always guiding me.....n protecting me....I felt their presence many time......most of d time they give me their msg by u tube....I saw ur vedio....I listened n subscribed it....4 more vedios.....I love my self.....thank u...thank you so much
Anita- every single time I hit a sad, hard place my soul always guides me to YOU. Your beautiful words, insight and love always reminds me of the truth I have forgotten. I am in tears with gratitude and appreciation for you and having been guided to you. I have been loving you for YEARS and have never felt that I’ve had enough of your beautiful light. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. So happy your are more “out there” with your light on RUclips now- It’s been such a gift.
Omg thank you Anita! For so long I have been trying to be loving and forgiving of people who are MEAN to me and have beaten myself up for not feeling the love! This makes so much more sense! I love you!
Hearing her say this brings me joy cause i at times im not sure of my self. But hearing her say the same things i was just thinking yesterday. Make me think im on the right path.
My poem about light........enjoy. I have light, I like to shine. You too have light, But you like mine. When I shine bright, You want me to not. You need to shine your light, Or have you forgot? You have light. I love what you do Anita, thanks x
Thank you!! I've been a doormat until I had no energy to even get out of bed. And when I got sick all family and friends turned on me because I couldn't give of myself anymore. Wow, made me vow to never show loving kindness to another person ever. That blocked the flow of love in, because no love out=no love flow at all. Sickness is very real, energy vampires are real. Last few years I kept asking myself how sick and fat do I have to get, and how far away do I have to move for people to stop draining me dry so much that I feel like I don't have a single ounce of energy left? I've been learning from this Jesus guy on Divine Truth channel here, but this video is GOLD. Thank you!!!
I have listened to this video several times over the recent years Single most powerful message Anita is a true Godsend Her messages resonate so much She takes the difficulty out of all of it; we don’t have to spend hours pouring over spiritual books, do lessons, spend loads of money attending seminars, pray every day for fear of what will happen if we don’t It’s all just about love I don’t think anyone has ever said it so clearly that this is not about what we are not giving to other people (which is what so many say) but about focusing first and foremost on loving ourselves which will then automatically trickle down to other people Thank you, Anita, from the bottom of my heart You book Dying to be Me and the lessons you learned I read and listen to so often and esp again now after emotional upset Thank you, truly. You truly saved me from a lifetime of hurt, emotional trauma still there from childhood and so much more Thank you
Thank you for your message, your book came to me when I wanted to give up, I was recovering from brain injuries cause by a careless driver that run me over with his pickup truck, I was alive but not living, my panics attacks and anxiety were almost 24/7 I have never experience anything like that in my life before, my husband became my voice, since my speech was affected by the injuries, he too have to stop working we pretty much lost everything too, but by the grace of God, your book and so many others inspirational people I am still here, I still struggle but not as I used too,. God bless
I am so glad you came back so you can help educate me/us with Ah Ha Moments. Someone told me the word educate literally means "To take care of yourself from Within! (Possibly Greek or Roman) I am being inspired in S. New Mexico. I love the Simple Profound Effective Wisdom. An appreciating listener! Jessie Fawn
Thank you for saying that we don't need to focus on what triggered us or what our issue is. People pleasers struggle with that too much already. I love the idea of keeping myself charged, my light bright, and letting the rest work itself out. ❤🌞
You're such an inspiration to millions of people globally,I think I'm an imphath though I have so much to learn,people take advantage of the way I am,I'm mostly grateful to the universe for giving your life back.
It's so true what Anita says! When I think back to all the truly beautiful people I've ever seen. (Beautiful in spirit.) {There's not that many.} Looking back, they NEVER engaged in confrontation or any kind of negativity. They always see the "Positive" in their surroundings and forecasts. There's something to this LAW OF ATTRACTION "Thing". Thank-You Anita. -Bill Howes.
I needed to listen again !! I forgot and got lost . I feel like this is a life saving video. You have put forgiveness the best way I have ever heard. I have let my life be pulled down so much trying to forgive abusive people in my life. I now can move forward and really heal.
I feel that this video is very useful because Anita talks from her heart. I really think that one thing that make us miserable is fear and charging the batteries, like you said Anita , is the way that this fear goes away. Thank you Anita and many blessings for these extraordinary and useful videos for the development of humanity in love, prosperity and health.
meditation can be any activity that produces awareness, loving kindness, and appreciation: can be walking, seeing nature, prayer, journaling, etc. I get more anxiety trying to sit in a meditation position, getting disappointed that I cant breathe correctly etc. But I asked myself "what does bring me the feelings and awareness that I seek with traditional sitting mediation?" And my answer was that all my life I have gotten great enjoyment and clarity from long nature walks, and writing. Thanks for this helpful video.
Thank you, Anita! This video is especially meaningful to me. One thing I realized in myself about being a people pleaser is that it can make you become a very angry and resentful person. All of the things you said in this videos and many other of your videos are worth more than gold to me! I've been listening to you for about 5 yrs now and I am so grateful to the Universe for connecting me with people like you. I have since been on a path of healing and reconnecting with who I really am. Hugs and love to you from me.
Hello from Washington state Anita : ) I adore you and your videos are truly life saving and wonderful! As a recovering doormat I think this is a fantastic, important and so helpful!! It's so hard to decipher all the spiritual info out there...I've heard/thought that the challenging, cruel, hurtful people were my teachers...to teach me to be loving to those who aren't towards me. It's taken me decades to learn what you are saying, and I'm better at loving myself enough now to shield myself from those who are hurtful, judgmental and negative towards me. As an empath, it's taken me a lifetime to learn what your teaching, but it's finally working, and I love myself enough to do what it takes to be myself and not need others approval. This is BIG! I work every day now to keep my own light bright, nurture my self, do my art and keep connected to the Creator of All. I also have also come through cancer, and went into the light during surgery, and am grateful for those lessons I've learned. You inspire me constantly! I know your teaching the truth for our spirits. Keep up the AWESOME message you send. I love you and thank you from the bottom of my heart!
But that's the deepest act of self-hatred and judgement in a way.... when we judge others, we judge ourselves. When we judge ourselves, we cannot love.
@@nyuni3322 She is not asking us to judge others. The differences in attitude seem subtle, hence difficult to grasp. For instance, engaging with trolls on the internet would be self defeating. It would serve no purpose and would diminish your light. They are on their own journey, on their own path. All she is saying is to avoid diminishing your light. Instead, do things that brighten your light.
@@minisingh29 if you are 'engaging with trolls on the inernet' you are seeking them out. it's easy to judge and only engage with those who please the ego, which is what hannah implies. and that's nothing new and nothing liberating. people do it all the time.
@@nyuni3322 Not at all. It's the opposite. That is what Anita is trying to explain to us in detail. How can you love your body when you let others wear you down?
Yes, I’m a recovering doormat. My sense of wanting to aid others is probably some inherited tendency. After cancer, I’ve been learning that my health seems directly proportionate to the degree of self love I redirect now towards my self.oh, and I am watching from South West Florida, U.S.A.
This is BIG news!! I am so happy that you put this video out, because I've been struggling with this issue. I love your mantra! Reminds me of another one...." Go where you are celebrated, not merely tolerated" from a pioneer woman Nellie Cashman. Thank you a million times! It is a big lesson for me, a recovering people pleaser. You MAKE A DIFFERENCE ANITA!!!
Thank you Anita Moorjani, there's much wisdom in your words and vision. One of the great mysteries I found in my life, which holds much humour too, is the discovery that before I'm able to love unconditionally, I need to move through my own shadows in a way that I acknowledge the truth of where I find myself in, the truth of it, wholeheartedly. Only when I am fully present in where I am, I'm able to leave that place and move on, enter a new place. In other words, when I'm in resentment, I need to accept that truth, that state of being and all that it holds in its folds, sort of chew on it and digest it, even enjoy it as an attachment that takes time to let go. That's freedom of expression, see what I mean? That concept isn't about joy, laughter and jubilees, it's also about welcoming truth as a friend in the exploring of my shadows and seeing them for what they are, how they've manifested themselves. Forgiveness toward these parts of me is the portal to the affinity within my own heart for myself. From that foundation, unconditional love for another living being is possible. It's a natural process that can't be controlled by the mind. One's whole being, blood, sweat and tears plus laughter are the props on the stage of one's life. All that is suppressed forms the shackles that holds freedom of expression imprisoned. And so, no other person can offer instant solutions in that realm. It seems that one must be the seed, the growth, the gardener and the fruit, all in one go, in order to learn and move in love and life. The company of others who are in the same boat is a support and inspiration, to shine one's sparkle and share it with others.
Hi Lovely Lady, I'm from San Jose, CA & was raised in Kentucky. The whole 'Southern Belle' culture encourages the doormat in women. I have fought it all my life & have improved significantly. Still, I fight doormat behavior constantly. Talk about a life lesson!
Thanku Anita, I have felt unloved from family etc, when you hear advice from someone else sometimes it help's, I have 1 friend my husband . I'm learning to love myself as much as I can. I will only engage with people who generally love me for me. and not use me.
From Denmark, Scandinavia, yes can totally relate, used to be a doormat, but learned to say no which made me not very popular and the dark sheep of my family. Totally agree it is about total self love and letting go of the need for validation.
Hi! I'm Hitomi from Japan. I love to watch your videos. and I love to read your books! I've been reading your book Dying to be me about 5 years ago. I read it everyday, and I write sentences down on my note book so that I can get deeper understanding what you are meaning. Thank you so much for sharing beautiful messages!! I can tell why I study English is so that I can hear you directly!
It’s all a “play” that’s going on. Just observe it & understand and re-center yourself when you start to get emotionally involved. It helps conserve your energy (we’ve finite amount of it) & slowly you begin to get less affected as time goes on. My mantra is loving the Universal Mother, Kali😊💐Om Kali💐🙏
@blissfulchants sorry, I hadn't seen this. Yes, I do, but I thought you meant our soul has finite energy. My comment was because I was thinking, "No, our souls live on forever as energy." 🙂
You are speaking about my very own experience!!! I've been going through "emotional fatigue" because emotionally and energetically I over worry and am far too emotionally invested in what's going on in certain other people's lives. Their level of feeling ok or happy I treat perhaps too importantly to the detriment and neglect of my own life and priorities. Thank you so much for these incredibly helpful, insightful, and inspiring videos! I look forward to many more in the future!!!
Wow. I needed to see this. This makes so much sense. "I will only engage with people who are loving and appreciative of me." I have just recently decided I will only deal with people who have my best interest at heart.
You’ve reaffirmed.... validated the gentle voice in my head (The Holy Spirit which guides me) that’s been telling me “just work on yourself, work on being the brightest light you can be and if they can see that change in you, it might be the spark that transforms them as well” whenever I think of my FOO.
I'm so glad and grateful that you are discussing how following spiritual teachings when having a low self esteem and empathetic can make us an absolute doormat from a doormat struggling to find boundaries. Have looked for guidance many times regarding this specific topic but spirituality always brought me back to being kind and "unconditionally loving" to others at my cost and allowing people to treat me worse than before. I felt guilty when I tried to enforce any boundary like as iuf it felt like I was selfish and egoistic. I still cannot forgive them but I love them. It does not make sense to me logically and i think it is deeply in my subconscious. Spirituality is for people who have a sense of self already, this a lesson I learned a very hard way. It's like addiction. Thank you again, you are so beautiful, intelligent, and radiant like the Sun!
Thank you so much!!! Greetings from small beautiful country Luxemburg! I relate to everything you teach... it is soooo difficult to love unconditionally and not judging myself...
Hello, I am a person from South Korea. Anita Moorjani, I'm very lucky to get to know you. I feel my life changing. Just by watching you and listening to your voice, I get the feeling that I'm gaining energy. You solve the problem just I had yesterday. Thank you. I hope you will continue to give us good spiritual wisdom.
I'm an ABSOLUTE ppl pleaser, SUPER empath and VERY much a doormat for most of my life! I'm listening to learn and learning to listen! I want to HEAL and love myself indefinitely!! I cannot take care of or love others if I don't care or love myself FIRST!! Wela'lin Anita ❤️🙏
It s probably the most effizient and straight forward strategy not to focus too much on the healing but more on simply being on high vibration, being happy and shining 😀 thank you for the reminder Anita!
I m so happy to found you!!! I love your videos Anita and I will start loving myself now,unconditionally without judging myself. Tons of Love from India for you💖💐🌺
Your comment Rocks! The statement that began with, "If you're a parent, a teacher, a healer, etc...half Your Work is Half Done if you... " and then you spoke of lifting ourselves up, charging our own batteries, caring for ourselves, making ourselves happy. It was very well put. A lightbulb moment. How much harder it all is when we do not make us a priority!! Also, So well said was your advice on being fearless about money!
Dear Anita, thank you so much for your beautiful message, I’m a Empathy & healer, I have not spoken to one of my sisters & her children for 17 years, this message has helped me immensely, as I have been thinking of my oldest sister for a long time, so what you said has eased my mind a lot, love ❤️ you Anita & ur husband has a awesome voice love it, much love ❤️ to you & Danny 😘🤗😘🤗😘🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️☘️☘️☘️☘️☘️☘️☘️
Yes, I'm an empath..I'm aware of being a doormat. But...Your videos have helped me to Love myself and be bold. I'm not judging myself. Those are not used to this New Me...are confused.... it's working. Thank you for these videos. You have a gift. Thank you for all you do. This " lightbulb " metaphor is a beautiful concept. You're helpin5so many empaths
Thank you. I needed to hear this again today. Thank you for putting this out there, Anita. So so important for those of us who are remembering our value and our focus.
Hello, Anita Ma'am loads of gratitude for you. Came across your Twitter post and liked your content so much that started viewing your youtube wonderful and insightful videos. Your enlightenment should reach to a larger audience and we all should get life's insights from it. Thank you. Namastey !
YOU SO GET ME AND I'M SO GLAD YOU ARE SHARING AND ENCOURAGING THOSE WHO NEED YOU!!! LIKE ME🤫😊THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR LIGHT IN A DIM WORLD! MY BODY AND MIND HAVE BEEN AFFECTED FROM GIVING SO MUCH AND PEOPLE PLEASING! FROM OKLAHOMA... A NEW FRIEND TO YOU.. Engrid mother of 4... and a love that's been hidden for years.. broken down in full body and mind doing but my will to get out of this.. it's awesome... I'm a tree hugger and people will use and hurt you if you don't focus on you!!!! BIG HUGS
Wow!This is a powerful message. Thank you Anita. I have this struggle and need these reminders. Love the mantra to surround myself with those who appreciate and love me.
I’m from Miami I’m so grateful for your experience and sharing with all of us to learn from it and get Enlighten from your Love. I’m starting to read your book. May God bless you everyday. Thank you for your love and teachings. I’m turning 63 years now on Jan. 6 2019 wanted to share a little from me.
I discovered you on Wayne Dyers podcast. You touched my heart when you shared "You no longer live in fear".. I love that. I know too well about self-sabotage. My journey today is self-love and be non-judgmental learning to forgive me and to hug me is hugging my soul. Thank you for your message Anita. It's powerful.. Much love from NZ xx
🦋Anita🦋 you are a gift from God ❣️❣️❣️Thank you so so Very much for this much appreciated divinely placed VIDEO, you always lift my Spirits❣️❣️❣️I'm seeing this Video just now but of course at the PERFECT time!!! I have 2 daughters that I Love so Much & I was raised in a children's home(lots of abuse) and so I did make a lot mistakes( & I've tried to Apologize as much as i can, actually just in the last few years ive let go of a lot of Guilt & of courseim an Empath)in raising them I was more their friend & kinda let them run the show. So they are now 28 & 34 & I know that they do love me & I love them. But for years now they have not really respected me mostly cuz I wasn't respecting myself. But with my husband's support I have finally realized I'm not doing me or them any good by letting this happen. So with lots of prayer 🙏 I started a conversation(texting I'm usually better at writing I sometimes get too upset talking) with one of my daughters after we all had a disagreement Last week & not for the whole time but some of it I felt (just us 3) very much ganged up on. They have done that to me several times. It's just not playing fair & they blame me for the personality traits that they don't like about themselves. And I Realized that I don't have to live like this anymore. I deserve to be treated with love & respect & i want to do the same in return. I still Love them and I'm sure that we'll be able to Heal & work things out. So I'm PRAYING for Divine Right Outcomes to happen in the Healing of our Hearts & our Relationships ❣️Thank you Again Anita & Much Love to you and your family & the same goes to all of you EMPATHS & PRAYING that we all Heal Emotionally 🙏 WWG1WGA 🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜
"I will only engage with people who are loving and appreciative towards me." Love this
What do u do when it's a boss?
Leave that boss and went into the one who love and appreciate your work
I can certainly relate to being a door mat…at age 65 I’m an empath and now learning how to love myself so important…❤️
Anita's mantra: I will only engage with those who are loving and appreciative towards me...they charge my batteries...Yes...that's such good advice! You go Girl!
So Simple!
I’m from SF, CA. I’m a empath & people pleaser & I just learned my lesson so bad recently & never want to go though this again. I’m going to choose for myself better ❤️
Hi from Arizona, How do you deal with a spouse of 35 years or children that drain your batteries....I am a mat for most of my life. Pleasing everyone and can't break away
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Thank you, Anita. Im Greek American living in Greece. I'm so grateful to you.
Many ppl are “trained” and conditioned to be desperate and depleted, during long years of childhood. Because there are such parents with poisoned personalities who can really show you what the bottom of the hell means. Your teaching gives great guidance to those who’re wearing such scars of early terrible experiences.
I am an environmental
Medical healer MD PhD. Your book is the first one I recommend to
My patients. Then I got sick!!! Breast cancer. I realized it is truly a gift! You are my teacher and my sister !!!! Thank you.
Dear Anita,thank you very much for everything what you do.I am from the Czech Republic,15 years old so I am sorry if my English is not perfect.You have the most beautiful soul that I have ever seen,your personal charm is just overwhelming and if everybody were like you are,here we would have Heaven on this fear and power based Earth.You are awesome.I love you,take care and enjoy every single day.With love Tereza❤️
Your English is PERFECT!!! And your heart is even MORE perfect! Blessings!
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@@bridgettemosley7578 (sorry, I don't know what that means).
Tereza,veľmi sa mi páči tvoj komentár.
Cítim,že ty si nádherná duša tiež, ako Anita.
Posielam veľa lásky. Jana zo Slovenska ❤❤
So beautifully said❤
You are an extraordinary lady Anita! I was so blessed by this talk and so many others. Thank you, thank you! : ) xxx
I am 58 from Sydney Australia(grow up in HK like you Anita, so I know exactly what you talking about the HK culture). Mum had mental illness so I am very Empathic for survival, she is also very Narcissistic, my sister is a high functioning Psychopath, they literally sucked me dry. Me being Empathic, low self esteem, big time people pleaser and Christian up bringing (preach to give and give no matter what), lead me to 23 years of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, it is the body's way to say NO More.
I bought your 1st 2 books and it has turned my life around. I still people please as it is so much my nature, but I catch myself out more and more and - when that happened, I rectract from my commitment or change my mind and say NO - putting myself first and have more pleasure. I am getting there. Thank you so much for your message.
Wo. Exactly my story except my brother was the bully buffer. Devastatingly he was taken out at the prime of his life,Leaving me Vulnerable to the pharisee sharks in the form of "relations" through her..Father was taken out but is still surviving 7 seas away due to cruel antics. I get this all.. Im Working on Forgiveness, anger..am an empath.. love the path of loving self.Healing is daily.
Hi Alice. I wonder if you have heard of or read the book "When the Body Says No" by Gabor Mate?
Long for that healing after all the extreme attack of the narcissistic angle from the male dominating in Female form,family member of Indian origin- on my empath form in the Western world.Healing,relief, a partner that gets it,and a breakthrough -
I am so excited to read that you found Anita! I have a friend who had Epstein Barr/Chronic Fatigue and I believe it was because she had a narcissistic husband (and probably other family members, although I don't know). When he left her, she actually began to heal! She is an Empath. I could tell when I met her (1990), although I hadn't a name for what I knew she was. I just observed that she had no filters, nothing that protected her from others.
I am more like Danny (Aspergersy). But Anita helps me enormously as I fight depression. Her message is one of the most powerful healing messages I have come across in my 63 years. Know that AS YOU HAVE BOUNDARIES, you are healing the world! Much love to you!
Very similar story. I knew I had a narcissistic father but now am realizing that my mother has some traits too along with my siblings. I saw it very clearly when I myself went through a health challenge. I was suffering emotionally and physically. All I felt from them was judgement when all I wanted was for someone to hold me and be there. Although I am alive and well now, I will never forget how they made me feel. I am also so grateful for Anita because she gets it. A lot of us live with these feelings of being small and helping others feel big and think its normal but its not. I still struggle from time to time because of the old patterns, just wishing that they'd call and ask me how Im doing instead of me always calling them. its just the child part of me wanting to be with them again just so I can laugh and have a sense of a family. Its sad.
Hi, I am form the Czech republic and I really appreciate what you are doing for all of us
Thank u soo much for this vedio....I was a doormat for last 11 years to my in law's....I m from India....but from last year I stood for my self n 4 my feelings.....But at d same time I was feeling guilty for that...thank you so much for ur precious words...I live in joint family from last 12 years.....feeling very relaxed.....now things r getting better 4 me....thank u...tank u soo much...n tank u to ur all angels.....becoz of ur n.d.e. I got 2 learn so many things....thank u ...thank u soo much....thank u 2 my angles for always guiding me.....n protecting me....I felt their presence many time......most of d time they give me their msg by u tube....I saw ur vedio....I listened n subscribed it....4 more vedios.....I love my self.....thank u...thank you so much
Anita- every single time I hit a sad, hard place my soul always guides me to YOU. Your beautiful words, insight and love always reminds me of the truth I have forgotten. I am in tears with gratitude and appreciation for you and having been guided to you. I have been loving you for YEARS and have never felt that I’ve had enough of your beautiful light. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. So happy your are more “out there” with your light on RUclips now- It’s been such a gift.
Do not judge yourself for not forgiving yet. Love self unconditionally.
Charge your own battery
Hannah, yeah - & it's easier when we identify as Source-in-form. It's taking our power back so, as you say, we take charge of our own battery. :)
~♥~
You are a blessing. Wish I had this knowledge about myself a long time ago. But it’s never too late. Love and light
日本語訳してくださってありがとうございます。😊
Om sai ram
Omg thank you Anita! For so long I have been trying to be loving and forgiving of people who are MEAN to me and have beaten myself up for not feeling the love! This makes so much more sense! I love you!
Same. I know exactly what you mean. Bless your (beautiful) heart. 🤍🌹🕊
Hearing her say this brings me joy cause i at times im not sure of my self. But hearing her say the same things i was just thinking yesterday. Make me think im on the right path.
I haven’t been well lately, but Anita’s messages always fill me with hope. I’m so glad she’s around, no matter what my outcome is.
She took the task of Wayne... 😍
Prob one of the single most enlightening messages. Resonates so v much.
My poem about light........enjoy.
I have light,
I like to shine.
You too have light,
But you like mine.
When I shine bright,
You want me to not.
You need to shine your light,
Or have you forgot?
You have light.
I love what you do Anita, thanks
x
Wow amazing
JoDee Pamperien, Oregon
This is gorgeous!
@@TofuTeo thanks
Anita I want to thank you for helping me understand what is going on everyone thinks I'm losing it but I knew in my heart it was him.
Wow Anita, it's like we know each other from childhood. Empath. People pleaser, doormat....but no more...still working on it....work in progress
Thank you!! I've been a doormat until I had no energy to even get out of bed. And when I got sick all family and friends turned on me because I couldn't give of myself anymore. Wow, made me vow to never show loving kindness to another person ever. That blocked the flow of love in, because no love out=no love flow at all. Sickness is very real, energy vampires are real. Last few years I kept asking myself how sick and fat do I have to get, and how far away do I have to move for people to stop draining me dry so much that I feel like I don't have a single ounce of energy left? I've been learning from this Jesus guy on Divine Truth channel here, but this video is GOLD. Thank you!!!
Anita, Never heard anyone putting it out so CORRECTLY! Thank you!
I have listened to this video several times over the recent years
Single most powerful message
Anita is a true Godsend
Her messages resonate so much
She takes the difficulty out of all of it; we don’t have to spend hours pouring over spiritual books, do lessons, spend loads of money attending seminars, pray every day for fear of what will happen if we don’t
It’s all just about love
I don’t think anyone has ever said it so clearly that this is not about what we are not giving to other people (which is what so many say) but about focusing first and foremost on loving ourselves which will then automatically trickle down to other people
Thank you, Anita, from the bottom of my heart
You book Dying to be Me and the lessons you learned I read and listen to so often and esp again now after emotional upset
Thank you, truly. You truly saved me from a lifetime of hurt, emotional trauma still there from childhood and so much more
Thank you
Thank you for your message, your book came to me when I wanted to give up, I was recovering from brain injuries cause by a careless driver that run me over with his pickup truck, I was alive but not living, my panics attacks and anxiety were almost 24/7 I have never experience anything like that in my life before, my husband became my voice, since my speech was affected by the injuries, he too have to stop working we pretty much lost everything too, but by the grace of God, your book and so many others inspirational people I am still here, I still struggle but not as I used too,. God bless
I am Japanese, I was moved by your story！I am a healer. My problem is gone!!
I greatly appreciate you!!
I am so glad you came back so you can help educate me/us with Ah Ha Moments. Someone told me the word educate literally means "To take care of yourself from Within! (Possibly Greek or Roman) I am being inspired in S. New Mexico. I love the Simple Profound Effective Wisdom. An appreciating listener! Jessie Fawn
Thank you Anita from Arizona.
Thank you for saying that we don't need to focus on what triggered us or what our issue is. People pleasers struggle with that too much already. I love the idea of keeping myself charged, my light bright, and letting the rest work itself out. ❤🌞
I so needed to hear this. My lightbulb was barely flickering.
You're such an inspiration to millions of people globally,I think I'm an imphath though I have so much to learn,people take advantage of the way I am,I'm mostly grateful to the universe for giving your life back.
Well Said ❤ SO GRATEFUL THAT SHE CAME BACK❤ Has also changed my life forever. Amazing 🤩
It's so true what Anita says! When I think back to all the truly beautiful people I've ever seen. (Beautiful in spirit.) {There's not that many.} Looking back, they NEVER engaged in confrontation or any kind of negativity. They always see the "Positive" in their surroundings and forecasts. There's something to this LAW OF ATTRACTION "Thing". Thank-You Anita. -Bill Howes.
Thank you so much for your clarity and preciseness of expression. Love from Austria 😊 Dagmar
I needed to listen again !! I forgot and got lost . I feel like this is a life saving video. You have put forgiveness the best way I have ever heard. I have let my life be pulled down so much trying to forgive abusive people in my life. I now can move forward and really heal.
I feel that this video is very useful because Anita talks from her heart. I really think that one thing that make us miserable is fear and charging the batteries, like you said Anita , is the way that this fear goes away. Thank you Anita and many blessings for these extraordinary and useful videos for the development of humanity in love, prosperity and health.
meditation can be any activity that produces awareness, loving kindness, and appreciation: can be walking, seeing nature, prayer, journaling, etc. I get more anxiety trying to sit in a meditation position, getting disappointed that I cant breathe correctly etc. But I asked myself "what does bring me the feelings and awareness that I seek with traditional sitting mediation?" And my answer was that all my life I have gotten great enjoyment and clarity from long nature walks, and writing. Thanks for this helpful video.
Thank you, Anita! This video is especially meaningful to me. One thing I realized in myself about being a people pleaser is that it can make you become a very angry and resentful person. All of the things you said in this videos and many other of your videos are worth more than gold to me! I've been listening to you for about 5 yrs now and I am so grateful to the Universe for connecting me with people like you. I have since been on a path of healing and reconnecting with who I really am. Hugs and love to you from me.
SHINE ON ANITA!!!
You don't know how much I needed to hear this today! Hello from England ❤❤
Hello from Washington state Anita : ) I adore you and your videos are truly life saving and wonderful! As a recovering doormat I think this is a fantastic, important and so helpful!! It's so hard to decipher all the spiritual info out there...I've heard/thought that the challenging, cruel, hurtful people were my teachers...to teach me to be loving to those who aren't towards me. It's taken me decades to learn what you are saying, and I'm better at loving myself enough now to shield myself from those who are hurtful, judgmental and negative towards me. As an empath, it's taken me a lifetime to learn what your teaching, but it's finally working, and I love myself enough to do what it takes to be myself and not need others approval. This is BIG!
I work every day now to keep my own light bright, nurture my self, do my art and keep connected to the Creator of All. I also have also come through cancer, and went into the light during surgery, and am grateful for those lessons I've learned. You inspire me constantly! I know your teaching the truth for our spirits. Keep up the AWESOME message you send. I love you and thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Wow! Small world we live in... I'm from WA state too. Nice to see a local, friendly face :) 🤍🌹
I will only engage with those who are loving and appreciative towards me
But that's the deepest act of self-hatred and judgement in a way.... when we judge others, we judge ourselves. When we judge ourselves, we cannot love.
@@nyuni3322
She is not asking us to judge others. The differences in attitude seem subtle, hence difficult to grasp. For instance, engaging with trolls on the internet would be self defeating. It would serve no purpose and would diminish your light. They are on their own journey, on their own path. All she is saying is to avoid diminishing your light. Instead, do things that brighten your light.
@@lindalai9092 well you got lot to learn.. it's easy to judge and only engage with those who please the ego
@@minisingh29 if you are 'engaging with trolls on the inernet' you are seeking them out. it's easy to judge and only engage with those who please the ego, which is what hannah implies. and that's nothing new and nothing liberating. people do it all the time.
@@nyuni3322 Not at all. It's the opposite. That is what Anita is trying to explain to us in detail. How can you love your body when you let others wear you down?
Yes, I’m a recovering doormat. My sense of wanting to aid others is probably some inherited tendency. After cancer, I’ve been learning that my health seems directly proportionate to the degree of self love I redirect now towards my self.oh, and I am watching from South West Florida, U.S.A.
Thank you! Empower myself to share the light! I love that!
So very true ! Thank you so much! Your loving guidance through these videos is healing & helping me a lot. I thank you to God all along.
This is BIG news!! I am so happy that you put this video out, because I've been struggling with this issue. I love your mantra! Reminds me of another one...." Go where you are celebrated, not merely tolerated" from a pioneer woman Nellie Cashman.
Thank you a million times! It is a big lesson for me, a recovering people pleaser. You MAKE A DIFFERENCE ANITA!!!
Wow !! Amazing wisdom! Thank you 🤩🙏🫶😇💜🪷
Thank you Anita Moorjani, there's much wisdom in your words and vision. One of the great mysteries I found in my life, which holds much humour too, is the discovery that before I'm able to love unconditionally, I need to move through my own shadows in a way that I acknowledge the truth of where I find myself in, the truth of it, wholeheartedly. Only when I am fully present in where I am, I'm able to leave that place and move on, enter a new place. In other words, when I'm in resentment, I need to accept that truth, that state of being and all that it holds in its folds, sort of chew on it and digest it, even enjoy it as an attachment that takes time to let go. That's freedom of expression, see what I mean? That concept isn't about joy, laughter and jubilees, it's also about welcoming truth as a friend in the exploring of my shadows and seeing them for what they are, how they've manifested themselves. Forgiveness toward these parts of me is the portal to the affinity within my own heart for myself. From that foundation, unconditional love for another living being is possible. It's a natural process that can't be controlled by the mind. One's whole being, blood, sweat and tears plus laughter are the props on the stage of one's life. All that is suppressed forms the shackles that holds freedom of expression imprisoned. And so, no other person can offer instant solutions in that realm. It seems that one must be the seed, the growth, the gardener and the fruit, all in one go, in order to learn and move in love and life. The company of others who are in the same boat is a support and inspiration, to shine one's sparkle and share it with others.
Omg it’s without a doubt the most inspirational video I’ve ever seen thank you soooo much!!💖 so frustrating to thumbs up only once it deserves more 😻
I so wish this video had been around 35 years ago. Thank you.
Anita thank you for sharing your wonderful light! ❤️ I truly enjoy listening to your encouragement and uplifting conversations. Thank you 😊 💓
Hi Lovely Lady, I'm from San Jose, CA & was raised in Kentucky. The whole 'Southern Belle' culture encourages the doormat in women. I have fought it all my life & have improved significantly. Still, I fight doormat behavior constantly. Talk about a life lesson!
Thanku Anita, I have felt unloved from family etc, when you hear advice from someone else sometimes it help's, I have 1 friend my husband . I'm learning to love myself as much as I can. I will only engage with people who generally love me for me. and not use me.
Thank you so much….😍love this SO much….just what I needed to hear.
From Denmark, Scandinavia, yes can totally relate, used to be a doormat, but learned to say no which made me not very popular and the dark sheep of my family. Totally agree it is about total self love and letting go of the need for validation.
You are so helpful. You always share the most important insightful & healing. I am loving you truth. Thank you. 😊
You're so sweet and supportive...!
Thank you Anita for helping me to eliminate feelings that i'm flawed.
"I am a self-recharging light." I like it.
dear Anita, you are gift for our world! I love you and never get tired listening to your lectures. ! really really excellent lectures !
Hi! I'm Hitomi from Japan.
I love to watch your videos. and I love to read your books! I've been reading your book Dying to be me about 5 years ago. I read it everyday, and I write sentences down on my note book so that I can get deeper understanding what you are meaning. Thank you so much for sharing beautiful messages!! I can tell why I study English is so that I can hear you directly!
I am in the process now,, being sick with cancer, I am learning to love myself unconditionally, it's all about me. Thank you so much!
Thank you Anita! Your advice about people who trigger me was exactly what I needed to hear right now 💜
It’s all a “play” that’s going on. Just observe it & understand and re-center yourself when you start to get emotionally involved. It helps conserve your energy (we’ve finite amount of it) & slowly you begin to get less affected as time goes on. My mantra is loving the Universal Mother, Kali😊💐Om Kali💐🙏
We've got a finite amount of energy? Where did you ever get that idea?? 😮
@@Sunnyflower67 Don't you get tired at the end of the day?
@blissfulchants sorry, I hadn't seen this. Yes, I do, but I thought you meant our soul has finite energy. My comment was because I was thinking, "No, our souls live on forever as energy." 🙂
How do I even begin to express my gratitude? I'm sending you so much love. Thank you for this gift 💜
Hi from Jordan, love this inspirational talk 🙏❤️
You are speaking about my very own experience!!! I've been going through "emotional fatigue" because emotionally and energetically I over worry and am far too emotionally invested in what's going on in certain other people's lives. Their level of feeling ok or happy I treat perhaps too importantly to the detriment and neglect of my own life and priorities. Thank you so much for these incredibly helpful, insightful, and inspiring videos! I look forward to many more in the future!!!
Wow. I needed to see this. This makes so much sense.
"I will only engage with people who are loving and appreciative of me."
I have just recently decided I will only deal with people who have my best interest at heart.
Love the battery analogy
You’ve reaffirmed.... validated the gentle voice in my head (The Holy Spirit which guides me) that’s been telling me “just work on yourself, work on being the brightest light you can be and if they can see that change in you, it might be the spark that transforms them as well” whenever I think of my FOO.
I'm so glad and grateful that you are discussing how following spiritual teachings when having a low self esteem and empathetic can make us an absolute doormat from a doormat struggling to find boundaries. Have looked for guidance many times regarding this specific topic but spirituality always brought me back to being kind and "unconditionally loving" to others at my cost and allowing people to treat me worse than before. I felt guilty when I tried to enforce any boundary like as iuf it felt like I was selfish and egoistic. I still cannot forgive them but I love them. It does not make sense to me logically and i think it is deeply in my subconscious. Spirituality is for people who have a sense of self already, this a lesson I learned a very hard way. It's like addiction. Thank you again, you are so beautiful, intelligent, and radiant like the Sun!
Thank you Anita for teaching us how to really love ourselves and inspire others. Love from Taiwan❤️
Thank you so much!!! Greetings from small beautiful country Luxemburg!
I relate to everything you teach... it is soooo difficult to love unconditionally and not judging myself...
SO IMPACTFUL ANITA- the idea of the battery and the Sun. Thank you for explaining it exactly this way because it really hits home! 😘
Hello, I am a person from South Korea. Anita Moorjani, I'm very lucky to get to know you. I feel my life changing. Just by watching you and listening to your voice, I get the feeling that I'm gaining energy. You solve the problem just I had yesterday. Thank you. I hope you will continue to give us good spiritual wisdom.
I'm an ABSOLUTE ppl pleaser, SUPER empath and VERY much a doormat for most of my life! I'm listening to learn and learning to listen! I want to HEAL and love myself indefinitely!! I cannot take care of or love others if I don't care or love myself FIRST!! Wela'lin Anita ❤️🙏
I am an empath and always feel like i don't want to disappoint people
I am from JAPAN！
I was saved by reading your book
ARIGATO！！
I love you and I love me and I love all‼️
I love the sun analogy. And to only engage with those who are loving and appreciative towards me. Writing in from Phoenix area, AZ.
Listening again! I LOVE this. Change focus from forgiving to re charging!! And engaging with only loving and appreciative towards me. Thank you 🙏💜💕💜
I really needed this today. It was exactly the message that I needed to hear to move forward with everything that has been gifted to me. Thank you.
It s probably the most effizient and straight forward strategy not to focus too much on the healing but more on simply being on high vibration, being happy and shining 😀 thank you for the reminder Anita!
Anita SO beautifuly and simply said!!!! I LOVE your mantra Thanks SO much ❤
I m so happy to found you!!! I love your videos Anita and I will start loving myself now,unconditionally without judging myself. Tons of Love from India for you💖💐🌺
Thank you dear,it is needed
Your comment Rocks! The statement that began with, "If you're a parent, a teacher, a healer, etc...half Your Work is Half Done if you... " and then you spoke of lifting ourselves up, charging our own batteries, caring for ourselves, making ourselves happy. It was very well put. A lightbulb moment. How much harder it all is when we do not make us a priority!!
Also, So well said was your advice on being fearless about money!
I love this so much - thank you
Thank you for sharing, Anita! You are so wise. Greetings from Seattle!
Dear Anita, thank you so much for your beautiful message, I’m a Empathy & healer, I have not spoken to one of my sisters & her children for 17 years, this message has helped me immensely, as I have been thinking of my oldest sister for a long time, so what you said has eased my mind a lot, love ❤️ you Anita & ur husband has a awesome voice love it, much love ❤️ to you & Danny 😘🤗😘🤗😘🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️☘️☘️☘️☘️☘️☘️☘️
Yes, I'm an empath..I'm aware of being a doormat. But...Your videos have helped me to Love myself and be bold. I'm not judging myself. Those are not used to this New Me...are confused.... it's working. Thank you for these videos. You have a gift. Thank you for all you do.
This " lightbulb " metaphor is a beautiful concept. You're helpin5so many empaths
Thank you. I needed to hear this again today. Thank you for putting this out there, Anita. So so important for those of us who are remembering our value and our focus.
Most helpful! Thank you for sharing your light.
Hello, Anita Ma'am loads of gratitude for you. Came across your Twitter post and liked your content so much that started viewing your youtube wonderful and insightful videos. Your enlightenment should reach to a larger audience and we all should get life's insights from it. Thank you. Namastey !
YOU SO GET ME AND I'M SO GLAD YOU ARE SHARING AND ENCOURAGING THOSE WHO NEED YOU!!! LIKE ME🤫😊THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR LIGHT IN A DIM WORLD! MY BODY AND MIND HAVE BEEN AFFECTED FROM GIVING SO MUCH AND PEOPLE PLEASING!
FROM OKLAHOMA... A NEW FRIEND TO YOU.. Engrid mother of 4... and a love that's been hidden for years.. broken down in full body and mind doing but my will to get out of this.. it's awesome... I'm a tree hugger and people will use and hurt you if you don't focus on you!!!! BIG HUGS
Wow!This is a powerful message. Thank you Anita. I have this struggle and need these reminders. Love the mantra to surround myself with those who appreciate and love me.
I’m from Miami I’m so grateful for your experience and sharing with all of us to learn from it and get Enlighten from your Love. I’m starting to read your book. May God bless you everyday. Thank you for your love and teachings. I’m turning 63 years now on Jan. 6 2019 wanted to share a little from me.
I discovered you on Wayne Dyers podcast. You touched my heart when you shared "You no longer live in fear".. I love that. I know too well about self-sabotage. My journey today is self-love and be non-judgmental learning to forgive me and to hug me is hugging my soul. Thank you for your message Anita. It's powerful.. Much love from NZ xx
I just learned after hearing this that I have been an empath. I am from Mauritius but I am listening to this so many years later!
Always on point for where I'm at. My Sunday mornings set me up for the week ahead. Your beautiful voice cheers me no end. Thank you dear Anita.
Love from western Massachusetts❤️❤️❤️
🦋Anita🦋 you are a gift from God ❣️❣️❣️Thank you so so Very much for this much appreciated divinely placed VIDEO, you always lift my Spirits❣️❣️❣️I'm seeing this Video just now but of course at the PERFECT time!!! I have 2 daughters that I Love so Much & I was raised in a children's home(lots of abuse) and so I did make a lot mistakes( & I've tried to Apologize as much as i can, actually just in the last few years ive let go of a lot of Guilt & of courseim an Empath)in raising them I was more their friend & kinda let them run the show. So they are now 28 & 34 & I know that they do love me & I love them. But for years now they have not really respected me mostly cuz I wasn't respecting myself. But with my husband's support I have finally realized I'm not doing me or them any good by letting this happen. So with lots of prayer 🙏 I started a conversation(texting I'm usually better at writing I sometimes get too upset talking) with one of my daughters after we all had a disagreement Last week & not for the whole time but some of it I felt (just us 3) very much ganged up on. They have done that to me several times. It's just not playing fair & they blame me for the personality traits that they don't like about themselves. And I Realized that I don't have to live like this anymore. I deserve to be treated with love & respect & i want to do the same in return. I still Love them and I'm sure that we'll be able to Heal & work things out. So I'm PRAYING for Divine Right Outcomes to happen in the Healing of our Hearts & our Relationships ❣️Thank you Again Anita & Much Love to you and your family & the same goes to all of you EMPATHS & PRAYING that we all Heal Emotionally 🙏 WWG1WGA 🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜🌸💐💜
Anita Moorjani.
You are a gift. Thank you so much, I love your message.