How to help someone with an eating disorder

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  • Опубликовано: 19 ноя 2024

Комментарии • 108

  • @ParallelWellness
    @ParallelWellness 5 лет назад +54

    Thanks for the point about not giving up on your loved one, repeating encouraging them to seek treatment.

  • @slayqueen3305
    @slayqueen3305 5 лет назад +264

    My best friend who has been my best friend as long as I can remember has been there for me through thick and thin and about a year ago she started to stop eat and every time she would even take a bite outta something she would go throw it up. I brakes my heart. I’ve told her that it’s got good for her and it can do damage to her body but she doesn’t care. I really really want to help her and I’ve been trying to find a video for months to help me out. Can someone help me please?

    • @DiamondJetPilot
      @DiamondJetPilot 5 лет назад +51

      Im in the same boat here. If i find anything ill reoky to this comment again for help.
      Not alone.

    • @elle8165
      @elle8165 5 лет назад +11

      SLAY QUEEN the same thing is happening to me

    • @user-ws4cc9dq7j
      @user-ws4cc9dq7j 5 лет назад +51

      same here. shes lost weight and shes as skinny as me (i dont have an ED i just am skinny) i hate it. me and my other friend dont know what to do. she also self harms and i wanna cry it hurts me so much.

    • @faithboaitey2874
      @faithboaitey2874 5 лет назад +8

      Same 💔

    • @Ashley-vj8ox
      @Ashley-vj8ox 5 лет назад +12

      This might sound dumb to you but you're absolutely a beautiful person.

  • @yoonakim8942
    @yoonakim8942 4 года назад +107

    My best friend eats just 2 apples a day, I need help😢

    • @epasilla2004
      @epasilla2004 4 года назад +16

      I'm a bit lost myself, but I'd suggest talking to her about it. Or asking why she is feeling this way if she doesnt want to talk then you should back off, just slowly try helping her. I'm doing the same with my sister

    • @my3moodsinmyprofilpicture374
      @my3moodsinmyprofilpicture374 2 года назад +3

      oh dear how are you doing?
      And please take also care of yourself.

  • @svgnna535
    @svgnna535 5 лет назад +142

    I've been suffering from eating disorder for most of my life. One time, I was eating and mom told me if I eat more I will look like a cow. I literally dropped the food and walked out and know what she said? "That kid is abnormal."

    • @magui9212
      @magui9212 5 лет назад +22

      Savage Noona oh honey that's horrible i'm so sorry. please try to talk about that with a friend or someone that will understand, or even me if you want to.
      ignore your mom, you're beautiful and valid 💓
      (sorry for my bad english but i needed to say this)

    • @cassie9682
      @cassie9682 5 лет назад +7

      @@magui9212 sometimes I think my friends will judge me. Idk why because they tell me about their problems but I feel like they'll look at me different

    • @epasilla2004
      @epasilla2004 4 года назад +4

      My mom is the exact same way, she acts like eating disorders are nonexistent and makes comments on my sisters body thinking it's not that deep even though she knows damn well what my sister has been through.

    • @gabriellaodonnell1916
      @gabriellaodonnell1916 4 года назад +2

      im so sorry she doesn't understand

    • @dickrichard626
      @dickrichard626 2 года назад

      dont be a fat slob then.

  • @justamy8824
    @justamy8824 5 лет назад +73

    my mom has this shit, i am scared of losing her

    • @nothing4sure39
      @nothing4sure39 5 лет назад +4

      Hey! I know it has been a while since you wrote this... And I am sorry because you probably deserved a response earlier, but I want to know... How is your mom nowadays? Have you helped her enough?

    • @ryleigh-1611
      @ryleigh-1611 4 года назад +3

      Same, I try so hard to help her and she makes excuses like I’m fat and I’m stressed. I tell her, you not fat, were the same size, you wouldn’t call me fat would you? I tell her that she needs food to survive and constantly remind her to eat. I tell her starving herself isn’t a healthy way to loose weight and will only hurt her but she doesn’t listen. I’m obviously much younger than her and don’t have any control over what she does, I’m scared for her.

    • @nothing4sure39
      @nothing4sure39 4 года назад +2

      @@ryleigh-1611 OH, my God that sounds terrible. At least, you can talk with her about it, I wouldn't even know how to control the situation if I was in your shoes. And I wanted to know... Have you ever tried to tell your dad anything about what your mom is doing? I don't know if they are divorced or live together, but in both cases I would advice you to tell him; he is an adult, he could talk to your mom through a more serious perspective.

    • @ryleigh-1611
      @ryleigh-1611 4 года назад +2

      Nothing4Sure
      Thanks for reading this, they are divorced and refuse to speak to each other :(

  • @my3moodsinmyprofilpicture374
    @my3moodsinmyprofilpicture374 2 года назад +11

    To everyone it’s so kind and right to try helping people with they eating disorder, but please also take care at yourself. Because if you aren’t careful you can sit in the same boat and it’s very bad for you mental health. Stay safe you all. 🙏🏻

  • @AEIOURKSW
    @AEIOURKSW 5 лет назад +64

    My best friend messaged me that she is in the hospital because of her lack of eating it started at school when she wouldn’t eat lunch and now I feel bad for not giving her mine when she asked for some I just want her to be healthy and she is beautiful like gorgeous but she hates herself idk what to do but I am trying to help her and I struggle with major depression so I understand that getting help is hard and hell I’ve had an eating disorder but I need to help her

    • @koala7065
      @koala7065 4 года назад +1

      I’m so sorry to hear that, same with my freind she doesn’t eat lunch and she won’t talk to me about it 😔

    • @koala7065
      @koala7065 4 года назад +2

      Is she Better now a year later?

  • @roblox_creeper8919
    @roblox_creeper8919 5 лет назад +16

    I have been through an eating Disorder throughout most of my life. My friends tried to help me, but I ignored them. I now see what I have done was wrong, but I thought it was RIGHT..

    • @epasilla2004
      @epasilla2004 4 года назад +4

      You shouldn't blame yourself, you were in a bad place and it wasnt your fault. I hope you are doing much better now❤

    • @koala7065
      @koala7065 4 года назад

      What should I tell my freind with this struggle please help

  • @mocca1393
    @mocca1393 5 лет назад +11

    I show eating disorder behaviour ( I starve then binge then purge but have not yet been diagnosed with anything - I'm seeing a doctor tomorrow 😑) and I just threw up the food I just had then went to get more and when I was heading back to my room my mum gave me a dirty look, I said " what? " And she said " throwing up then eating then throwing up - it's such a pain, it's disgusting " I chucked the food away and ran up to my room crying

    • @venusmariemakesart444
      @venusmariemakesart444 4 года назад +5

      You definitely have an eating disorder. You're mom is so wrong. You and this illness is not disgusting. This is a real illness that SHE SHOULD BE TAKING SERIOUSLY.
      My dad would always be passive aggressive to my anorexia purging subtype.
      I hope when youre older(you sound young) youre able to get away from your mom as it sounds like shes very toxic.
      Alot of eating disorders stem from harsh, neglectful, and/or abusive parents.

    • @elise4020
      @elise4020 5 месяцев назад

      How are you doing now?

    • @mocca1393
      @mocca1393 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@elise4020 Hey! I'm doing pretty good at the moment- though I've been through hell and back multiple times since that original comment and I've still got a way to go until I reach full recovery ; thanks for checking in on me :)

  • @penggvevo1034
    @penggvevo1034 6 лет назад +36

    I’m trying to help my brother

    • @nothing4sure39
      @nothing4sure39 5 лет назад +7

      Oh... How is he? I know it's a bit too late, but I think it would be great to know if your brother have been doing well! Btw, I send you hugs to both of you

    • @bridedavis5152
      @bridedavis5152 4 года назад

      same

  • @Groovygal2026
    @Groovygal2026 3 года назад +11

    I told my therapist about my anorexic twin and she told me to stop trying bc I was “probably hurting her more than I was helping”. Now a few weeks have passed of following her advice and we just got back from the ER. She’s 100 lb 5’9 and has gastritis. I wish I wouldn’t have listened.

    • @compulsiverambler1352
      @compulsiverambler1352 10 месяцев назад

      You think that if you had carried on with what you were doing, the outcome would have been better? More anorexics die from suicide than any other cause, that is the real big danger. Believing you can cure someone's cancer when you don't actually know what you are doing because you don't know the research into HOW best to treat it (not cure, there is no cure in either case) will do more harm than good, same with anorexia. You wouldn't argue with a doctor about how to treat someone's cancer, this should be taken just as seriously. If the doctor says that what you are doing won't help and there is a high chance of a bad outcome no matter what anyone does, you believe them when it's cancer. Same should happen with anorexia. Sometimes the prognosis is bad and there is nothing the family can do to help with a tumour, it's going to get worse no matter what and so you just do the treatment the doctor recommends and make their lives as high quality as possible and hope for the best, why don't people see mental illness and addictive coping mechanisms in the same way?

  • @someoneyoudontknow7360
    @someoneyoudontknow7360 4 года назад +7

    I noticed that my friend lost a lot of weigh and i was so worried about her but didn’t say anything. Today she told me that she has ed and now i can’t stop thinking about her and worrying about her... i’ve had ed too so i know how bad it can be

  • @haha_horses6315
    @haha_horses6315 4 года назад +4

    My friend has anorexia and I don't know what to do I use to self harm and I hated how people would always ignore me so I really want to help her and not just ignore her or just forget about it because I don't know what to do about it I really want to help her but I have no idea how.
    Update : I talked with her and I'm going to go to the counsellor and organize a session for her and I asked her if she wanted me to come with her and she said yes.

  • @maddie7359
    @maddie7359 5 лет назад +21

    Today I confronted my friend about this because he wasn’t eating and he was working out so much that it was so unhealthy.Im thirteen and he’s twelve so it’s hard for us just because this is a super awkward age.to see him struggle and see him in pain I couldn’t anymore.if anyone has advice on how I should help him plz share I just want my friend to be happy and be healthy he has such a kind heart and I would kill me if I knew he was struggling and I didn’t to everything I could to help him

    • @dragonqueen1326
      @dragonqueen1326 5 лет назад +4

      Madison Smith hi I’m not sure if this is still happening or not but if it is you guys are very young and age means nothing in situations like this but I would suggest telling a parent or a guardian someone a little older who can help. He may be mad in the moment but in the long run he will appreciate it believe me, I did.

    • @TAB00
      @TAB00 5 лет назад +2

      We’re in the same boat here. I shouldn’t have told my friend about my eating disorder because he did it as well. Now I can’t stop blaming myself.

    • @koala7065
      @koala7065 4 года назад +1

      @@TAB00 don’t blame yourself it’s not your fault 😔

  • @Angelic._.Sinner
    @Angelic._.Sinner 5 лет назад +5

    My friend hasn't eaten for like 1 month and she feels worse and worse. Her best friends are just forcing her to eat and my teachers to. She also cuts herself gets bullied and she is scared to go home due to the problems with her familie. I feel so bad for her and I have a feeling I just cant help her no matter what I say or do. The worst thing of it all is that my school knows all this AND SAYS NOTHING TO HER MOTHER she knows nothing about whats happening, I wish I could just tell her Mother about whats going on...
    My friend is also so open about it and answheres all my questions but when I ask her why she doesnt eat she just says 'mind your own business' it really breaks my heart

    • @ParallelWellness
      @ParallelWellness 5 лет назад

      Sounds like you are in tough situations. I'd recommend sharing your concerns with your friend's parents. I know it can feel like a betrayal, but really you're betraying the eating disorder, NOT your friend. Having your friend be angry with you would ultimately be better than them being sick. Stay strong! Your friend is lucky to have you!

    • @Angelic._.Sinner
      @Angelic._.Sinner 5 лет назад

      @@ParallelWellness thx man
      I told it to my teachers and friends, but that didnt really change anything really tho. But now she atleast has therapie. her Mother still doesnt know anything what is going on, the teachers are dumb.

    • @ParallelWellness
      @ParallelWellness 5 лет назад

      @@Angelic._.Sinner That's a huge step! The therapist will be knowledgeable about when it is important to connect with a treatment program or medical doctor. Perhaps confidentiality from their parents is important.

  • @davejones1218
    @davejones1218 3 года назад

    My manager has an eating disorder and I’m scared shitless that she’s going to hurt herself or worse. She’s 5’8 and weighs the same as me, but I’m 5’1.

  • @frisken1730
    @frisken1730 2 года назад +1

    my friend, sivert, has a bad case of eating disorder. he only drinks monster and eats tomatos. what can i do to help

  • @Cdefgahc2
    @Cdefgahc2 Год назад

    My best friend has been normal weight all her life, recently she stopped eating whenever we go out, that didn't concern me a lot, but yasterday her mom started saying how she always skips breakfast and dinner, only having a very small lunch (forcefully)
    I really have no idea why shes doing this, shes not overweight in the slightest, shes not stressed for any reason that i know of (friends, school, whatnot)

  • @Anna-sx7hb
    @Anna-sx7hb 3 года назад +1

    I am so worried about my friend. But I just don't know how to help her. Can someone please tell me how to help her. She pukes after she eats and she feels guilty. Also, her mom is going to make a food she is scared of and she is not looking forward to it. I've said lots of positive things to her. I really want to help her.. I'm worried..

  • @youtwitface03
    @youtwitface03 2 года назад

    What can you say to a stranger? The other day I was walking in the park and I didn't know...

  • @racheloshaughnessy9718
    @racheloshaughnessy9718 3 года назад

    My best friend rarely eats anything and only eats when her mum makes her. She couldn’t walk today because she hadn’t eaten anything and she has nearly fainted multiple times. She is such a beautiful girl and yet she thinks she is ugly and fat and she is neither. I am the only one who knows as she pretends she has eaten stuff when she is at home. I am crying as I type this as all I want to do is help her but I don’t know how😢 I want to tell someone who could maybe actually help but I also don’t want to betray her as she has told me not to tell anyone and doesn’t think I ever will. All I want is for her to get better however I don’t think that she wants to get better! I fear that she might not be here for much longer if she doesn’t. I don’t know what to do and I need help😭😭

  • @shylapiper5812
    @shylapiper5812 3 года назад +3

    I don't know how to help my friends (lets call her Charlotte because I don't wanna use Real names) Charlotte has untreated afrid and barely eats.but luckily she does eat some food at school,but I have two other friends who don't eat any food at a school and (we'll call them Jane and ben) jane hasn't gotten her period since November last year which is really worrying( and Charlotte hasn't gotten hers in three months)I did manage talk to max about it and he hasn't brought food to school for 8 months (not sure about Jane and I'm most worried about her) we are only 13-14 and they all don't wanna get help because they're too scared but idk how to try to help them all.

    • @Pretentiousforever
      @Pretentiousforever 3 года назад

      I’m so sorry to hear that my friend is very similar right now and I’m so sad for her but I feel helpless as she won’t listen I hope your friends are doing better x

  • @jerrysquest4417
    @jerrysquest4417 Год назад

    Encourage them to go to their pediatrician. Remind them why they are recovering. Don’t diet with them. Don’t exercise with them. Eat with them. Don’t bring up weight. Don’t avoid them. Distract them (a person will eat while watching a movie because they’re distracted). Be there for them!
    …This is all I know.

  • @marcellofunhouse1234
    @marcellofunhouse1234 3 года назад

    Honestly for three days I haven't felt hungry at all and even if I do eat I don't enjoy my food anymore

  • @Zelliaaa
    @Zelliaaa 2 месяца назад

    i think my bf is struggling bc all he eats is cucumber and ice, i want to help him so badly but idk how but i love him sm and i dont want him to go through that so i want to help but idk how :( i told him that hes perfect and that he wont be fat if he eats proper food but i want to help him more :(
    i think he ate a bagel yesterday but im rly worried abt him and i js want him to be okay

  • @Eerii-ob5ll
    @Eerii-ob5ll 3 года назад +1

    I'm watching this for myself instead. Cause i know no one want to help me 😊

    • @guitarginger6742
      @guitarginger6742 3 года назад

      Are you okay? Do you need someone to talk to?

  • @whityztrack
    @whityztrack Месяц назад

    My friend has it and im so so sad that i have no info to help😔

  • @mimei6429
    @mimei6429 2 года назад

    my best friend keeps on counting calories and eats around 200 cal i always feel sad. I really wanna help her but idk how :(

  • @afellowmanofculture4165
    @afellowmanofculture4165 2 года назад

    Im always tryna find a way to "help someone with anxiety/depression/eating disorder/breakuo" but aint no 1 there for me

  • @epasilla2004
    @epasilla2004 4 года назад +1

    So my sister has been on this diet where she fasts for a part of the day, but i never knew how long. She is fasting for 12 hours out of the day and I'm questioningwhen she is able to eat. I saw a calorie journal in her room she only eats 200 or less calories a day and thinks coffee is a meal. This isnt the first she has done smth like this, she used to be anorexic when we were little (about 8 or 9) and my mom knows this. Yet while my sister is losing all this weight she never considers that she maybe going back to her old habits and call my sister names like pretty or skinny. Its frustrating because idk what to do for my sister and im worried for her because everytime I try to ask her about it she gets defensive and doesn't want to talk. And I cant tell my mom because she makes matters worse. Ik this because when we were little she would force my sister to eat and tell her she was going to die if she didnt and all these horrible things. I was too little to understand but now I'm old enough to find better ways and I'm trying to find a solution but all she does is push me away and I cant go outside rn because of quarantine so I'm not sure if I can call a doctor for help because im still a minor ...

    • @venusmariemakesart444
      @venusmariemakesart444 4 года назад +1

      This isnt a diet, its an eating disorder. Especially if she has a food log journal. Tell your parents. It might seem like a betrayal but it is so much better to see her in treatment than seeing her at her grave. If parents dont help, call the closest mental health facility that treats eating disorders. Dont give up.
      If your mom makes it worse by telling her, tell your mom to get her to a mental health program for eds. Please. Please dont ignore this message .
      Update me too!

    • @kimberlyasciutto7640
      @kimberlyasciutto7640 4 года назад

      i know you don’t wanna tell your mom, but it’s not gonna go away if you don’t do anything. my sister has one and it’s been way too long and it’s hard to treat. the sooner you catch it the faster it is to treat. do it because your sister needs it. i understand how you feel. it’s scary, but trust me, get her the help it means because the last thing you wanna do is lose her.

    • @marylabelle803
      @marylabelle803 4 года назад

      It sounds like u care so much get your sister to seek help.she could die if bad side effects of ed and u dont want to lose her never give up be an ear to listen to her she needs to feel shes in control,so force wont work.all u can do is support and love her without ultimatum and your mom needs to get real and seriously get her treatment before it's way too late.good luck,I've been thru myself and never wanted to hurt loved ones and eventually saw the light and started eating again

  • @pandaplay2029
    @pandaplay2029 3 месяца назад

    Guys I REALLY need your help
    The girl I'm talkin to rn is so gorgeous yet she literally doesn't eat for days (she said the limit is 50cal) and I'm trying so hard to help but it hurts so much to see her talk bad about her body

  • @snowviews7226
    @snowviews7226 3 года назад

    what do you mean by treatment?

  • @debralynnbailey6527
    @debralynnbailey6527 3 года назад

    I have a 17 yr old granddaughter that needs help what can I do. She mostly just drinks

  • @randigreen4656
    @randigreen4656 2 года назад

    Bro I’m tryna figure out if I have one

  • @Kni6h7ka1ASMR
    @Kni6h7ka1ASMR 5 лет назад +1

    I need help and this does not help at all i do t why iturned to youtube but my girlfriend that i genuinely do love is struggling with not only this physically but also mentaly and in the past she has had many other mental problems so much that we had to spilt for a yr and we didnt even know we would get bck togather when she came i could tell there was a signfigance difference to her but one day she broke and told me wassup and that she didnt wanna lose me again cause of sum problem so give me sum help someone cause ive already dished out the advice i could give i told her i cant do anything more but be here for you the rest u gotta do yourself and by that if u need help reach out yourself but as u see now im doing that for her simply cause i am worried so someone plz help me help her

    • @mocca1393
      @mocca1393 5 лет назад +3

      The best thing you could do is make sure you understand what she is going through and don't guess, do some research if you haven't already - from someone suffering from an eating disorder

  • @archaeil
    @archaeil 4 года назад

    trying to help my friend, hes not eating lunch and recess and he only eats siomai in dismissal

  • @oldmantoejam
    @oldmantoejam 3 года назад

    The best one for me to do that I just need a little bit more than that one and then it’s a little too late to me I have a couple things that to do say that I’m going on my own and I don’t have to worry about it I just don’t want to have to worry about it I don’t know if I have to do that I don’t want

  • @christianwilhelm6671
    @christianwilhelm6671 3 года назад

    She hasn't eaten in weeks, she lives off energy drinks 🙁 i want to help, but i have no idea how... i feel useless.

  • @hallowtrash9874
    @hallowtrash9874 5 лет назад

    My friend is she hasent eaten in five days and my friend group is trying to convince her but I don’t know how

    • @aaaphaan
      @aaaphaan 5 лет назад

      Hallow Trash tell her about the damage it could cause

  • @zoekelly9619
    @zoekelly9619 4 года назад +3

    i think my friend is anorexic.

    • @blipb8604
      @blipb8604 4 года назад

      Hi, i know it’s late but, how is your friend doing?

  • @ryanswaffles420
    @ryanswaffles420 4 года назад

    How can I help my gf with her ED plz anyone

    • @singulardude6453
      @singulardude6453 3 года назад

      I’m also with you here, I’d love to learn and if you have any tips please let me know

  • @kikidapiki344
    @kikidapiki344 2 года назад

    This is a terrible video. Basically just sending viewer to a website. People want info in your video .. 😔

  • @NoRizz6969
    @NoRizz6969 9 месяцев назад

    Ima do the opposite