The first mum has serious anxiety issues and, ironically, she's the one who needs to grow up and deal with her problems and stop taking it out on everyone else.
Ashley needs to go to college away from home. Live in a dorm and experience life as a normal college kid. Make friends. Get involved in college activities and do well in school and meet cute guys.😊😊😊. Don't allow that mother to control her. Bad news. Not 😣 helpful.
Not really an option in today's world unless they are able to go military. I wasn't able to and my brother was BARELY able to. He had to get a special permission or whatever because he has mild scoliosis. My little sister definitely couldn't. She has MS. It took years for her and I to work and work before finally able to move out. We lived with her on and off for several years but we were always working AND going to school while under her roof. I plan to implement the same privledge to our children. If they aren't able to fly on their own at 18, they just need to keep pushing forward and not do nothing while under our roof. Get a job, go to school, or get a trade and as long as my home is respected and there is genuine effort, absolutely they can stay for a while. Kicking them out at 18 in the economy we have been stuck in for so many years is basically setting them up for failure. It's a privledge that not everyone is granted so why wouldn't anyone use that privledge in a positive way
My daughter started working at 16. Last summer at 17 she was able to pay to live on the east coast and take summer classes at a college she is trying on for size. People can still earn money and do whatever they want. I moved out at 18 and haven’t taken money from parents since that time. I am teaching my daughter to have that same independence and drive to go after big goals. It’s very possible if you do not put your mind in a little box of I can’t.
I moved across the country away from my family at 18. Alone, with no help. I started working immediately and later put myself through university. That was 8 years ago-things have changed since then, but not by that much. It’s definitely possible.
My father was overprotective and growing up I was very shy, lacked self confidence and esteem and still are at 65 yrs of age. This mother should step back and give her daughter some breathing space. As for college, she does not need to obey her parents and live at home. She is classified as an adult and can as she pleases. Mother is too over bearing and doing her daughter psychological harm.
Excuse me lady, you need to get help, you are a helicopter parent and need to let you daughter go out on her own, let her make mistakes like missing the bus or go on the wrong one if she’s lost she can go to ether a police officer or some owner of a shop and ask for help. She needs to go out with friends and go to the cinema or go bowling. When I was 13 I went out every Saturday with my friends and we went out shopping and get a nice hot chocolate in the winter time. When I was older my parents told me to be safe and have fun. I never drink, smoke or take drugs. My friend who lived just eight minutes away from my home we always walked half way back to each of our homes and text when we got back to our parents homes. So long story short, let you child go out in the world and get confident
It’s very hard not to worry with 300,000children trafficked this past year. It’s also hard to let go and let children develop confidence! But you must do it. There are wonderful people in our world Concentrate on that and teach your children to be aware of what’s happening around them. Be brave moms!
My mom was also over protective of me as I was a very sickly child. It was only when I was 27 that I found out I have turners syndrome. Clumsiness is one of the symptoms.
That mom need psyciatric help. She is silly!😡 Poor husband and children to have her under the same roof.👎 The worse is that she don't seems to understand how sick she is, she only laugh about her stupidity😢 MERRY CHRISTMAS to you and your family Dr Phil.🌟☃️🎅🤶🧑🎄❄️🔔🎄🇸🇪
Yup. That was my mom. It didn’t help I am very short due to turner syndrome, I had to fight for every single thing like taking the city bus home in grade 8, when at least half my grade was taking it home in grade 7…(age 12). Or the babysitter after school situation when I was 10…for 15-30 minutes of care. All I did was sit and do homework or read a book…exactly what I would have done at home. My sister who got sidelined with a lot of responsibility on me was actually one of my greatest advocates, she was 4 years older than me and didn’t like having to stick around during spare periods to bus home with me, or pick me up from the sitter’s place. Her overprotective nature until she died when I had just turned 20, drove me crazy, and was definitely more from fear than actual needs..
The first mother is going to loose her daughter. So why doesn’t the daughter go to do self defend classes. Definitely change all her passwords to stops her over Protectiveness and or the daughter will get rebellious. Maybe put a Shock collar on the mother.
I was strict in comparison to today's standards, not overbearing. I did occasionally go through their text messages, Facebook messages, etc... I didn't read all their messages with their friends, just scanned through them to make sure there was nothing alarming. I do remember telling my kids that my responsibility to protect them absolutely supercedes their right to privacy.
This is the reason Jesuses mother Mary is looked up To. Let your kid go. Even if you see how dangerous the world is. If you don't they'll fail at doing what God needs them to do.
Props to the first mom to realize that she needs help and understanding that she's being unreasonable and accepting help. She's not a bad mom in my book, she just needs help and therapy
If wouldn’t have email then she wouldn’t have gotten her homework during Covid. I find that question funny. So your kid is not allowed to write her friends and family?
That mother the first mother has very crazy eyes I bet you she's a Karen in the derogatory term. That mommy psychological help as well as she's going to ruin her relationship with her child the worst the child will tell her nothing in kids should be able to tell their parents anything you want your child to tell you things
How horible to live in a country where you have to be scared walking down the street or where you're kids cant play outside. That god I live in Europe. My kids can play outside and I dont have to be scared to walk down the streets even after dark
a lot of children her age go missing I'm with the mother some kids are just allowed to do their own thing and bad things do happen social media has made this world dangerous or maybe her mother like myself had something awful happen to her as it did me and if that has happened to the mother she doesn't want the same to happen to her daughter if you have been through that experience then your instincts is protect your children more so than somebody that hasn't experienced something bad happen to them when they were a child it's not that she doesn't trust her daughter she doesn't trust what could happen to her daughter I hope this explains why the mother is like it
I mean this respectfully, use proper grammar. Your lack of any punctuation makes your comment really hard to read. Sorry, you have experienced trauma. I hope you seek help. That said, being like that first mother is a great way to make your child rebel and that makes them a bigger target for predators. There is a balance in protecting your child and allowing them to experience the world and grow. Not allowing them to do anything and telling them "the boogy man WILL get you" is setting them up for failure to become responsible, productive members of society and/or for crippling paranoia. Or its going to make them do the exact opposite of what you say, become naive (they wont believe bad things happen, just that you exaggerate) which makes them more vulnerable.
I have a 13yrs old 14yrs old boys and 17 year old girl sorry not sorry my kids don't go anywhere with out me.. the only time they away from me or when they are in school I don't care how anyone feels about it
Can we blame her for being over protective With all the predators and phycos in the world?! This little girl doesn't realize just how dangerous our world really is!! ❤ Let her watch the Elizabeth smart story and let's see her reaction then!!
The first mum has serious anxiety issues and, ironically, she's the one who needs to grow up and deal with her problems and stop taking it out on everyone else.
Ashley seems like a great kid, I am surprised she has not started rebelling yet which would be not uncommon under these circumstances
The first mother was overbearing to the point of obsession. Poor 14 year old to have to put up with that.
Mom, go to a therapist and get some relief from this fear. You’re not crazy. Fear is real and your need some strategies to help you.
Ashley needs to go to college away from home. Live in a dorm and experience life as a normal college kid. Make friends. Get involved in college activities and do well in school and meet cute guys.😊😊😊. Don't allow that mother to control her. Bad news. Not 😣 helpful.
The first mom is OBSESSED with overprotecting her daughter!
Sure but once ur kid is kidnapped it's too late to do anything about it then
When the daughter turns 18 she needs to move out and begin living.
Not really an option in today's world unless they are able to go military. I wasn't able to and my brother was BARELY able to. He had to get a special permission or whatever because he has mild scoliosis. My little sister definitely couldn't. She has MS. It took years for her and I to work and work before finally able to move out. We lived with her on and off for several years but we were always working AND going to school while under her roof. I plan to implement the same privledge to our children. If they aren't able to fly on their own at 18, they just need to keep pushing forward and not do nothing while under our roof. Get a job, go to school, or get a trade and as long as my home is respected and there is genuine effort, absolutely they can stay for a while. Kicking them out at 18 in the economy we have been stuck in for so many years is basically setting them up for failure. It's a privledge that not everyone is granted so why wouldn't anyone use that privledge in a positive way
@ people absolutely still leave home at 18 not everyone has parents willing to let them stick around or a victim mentality.
Why? Where did this idea come from?
My daughter started working at 16. Last summer at 17 she was able to pay to live on the east coast and take summer classes at a college she is trying on for size. People can still earn money and do whatever they want. I moved out at 18 and haven’t taken money from parents since that time. I am teaching my daughter to have that same independence and drive to go after big goals. It’s very possible if you do not put your mind in a little box of I can’t.
I moved across the country away from my family at 18. Alone, with no help. I started working immediately and later put myself through university. That was 8 years ago-things have changed since then, but not by that much. It’s definitely possible.
My father was overprotective and growing up I was very shy, lacked self confidence and esteem and still are at 65 yrs of age. This mother should step back and give her daughter some breathing space. As for college, she does not need to obey her parents and live at home. She is classified as an adult and can as she pleases. Mother is too over bearing and doing her daughter psychological harm.
Excuse me lady, you need to get help, you are a helicopter parent and need to let you daughter go out on her own, let her make mistakes like missing the bus or go on the wrong one if she’s lost she can go to ether a police officer or some owner of a shop and ask for help. She needs to go out with friends and go to the cinema or go bowling. When I was 13 I went out every Saturday with my friends and we went out shopping and get a nice hot chocolate in the winter time. When I was older my parents told me to be safe and have fun. I never drink, smoke or take drugs. My friend who lived just eight minutes away from my home we always walked half way back to each of our homes and text when we got back to our parents homes. So long story short, let you child go out in the world and get confident
It’s very hard not to worry with 300,000children trafficked this past year. It’s also hard to let go and let children develop confidence! But you must do it. There are wonderful people in our world Concentrate on that and teach your children to be aware of what’s happening around them. Be brave moms!
I agree100%
II agrée no one should be allowed our 😮home
I’m not allowing anyone in my house
I’m wanting to go to Finland very much but I can’t tolerate slobs in our house
Alex
So happy happy 😊 I never had kids.😊😊. It is a full time chore taking care of myself. 😊😊
My mom was also over protective of me as I was a very sickly child. It was only when I was 27 that I found out I have turners syndrome. Clumsiness is one of the symptoms.
That mom need psyciatric help. She is silly!😡 Poor husband and children to have her under the same roof.👎
The worse is that she don't seems to understand how sick she is, she only laugh about her stupidity😢
MERRY CHRISTMAS to you and your family Dr Phil.🌟☃️🎅🤶🧑🎄❄️🔔🎄🇸🇪
@@janeelfgren her laugh sounds like an admission of guilt. Some people are immune to help. I can’t imagine the husband that would sign up for this.
Yup. That was my mom. It didn’t help I am very short due to turner syndrome, I had to fight for every single thing like taking the city bus home in grade 8, when at least half my grade was taking it home in grade 7…(age 12). Or the babysitter after school situation when I was 10…for 15-30 minutes of care. All I did was sit and do homework or read a book…exactly what I would have done at home. My sister who got sidelined with a lot of responsibility on me was actually one of my greatest advocates, she was 4 years older than me and didn’t like having to stick around during spare periods to bus home with me, or pick me up from the sitter’s place. Her overprotective nature until she died when I had just turned 20, drove me crazy, and was definitely more from fear than actual needs..
That 43 YO, no wonder she is divorced. Hubby probably could not take mom’s constant control.
First mother needs help. Helicopter moms are the worst. At 18 move away.
The first mother is going
to loose her daughter. So why doesn’t the daughter go to do self defend classes. Definitely change all her passwords to stops her over Protectiveness
and or the daughter will
get rebellious. Maybe put
a Shock collar on the mother.
Amazing what trauma can do and affect a person for years without help.
I’d love to see an update with this first mom
My parents were leaving me home alone when I was 10, and I was on the bus by middle school.
That obsession is child abuse.
Dr Phil didn't help by agreeing to her fear.
The second over protective is a controlling and will cause the daughter to
block Her mother.
Mom needs to find a hobby! Good grief! I get protecting our kids but she's ridiculous!
Socialize our children I was allowed to do nottttthing no jr high dances there would be drugs etc....smh fkd me up!
The first mom and the daughter are annoying.
Dr Phil you got to revisit Jesse Lee Peterson. This is what he's trying to teach people.
That mom always assumes the worst is going to happen. She is so insufferable 😩
I was strict in comparison to today's standards, not overbearing. I did occasionally go through their text messages, Facebook messages, etc... I didn't read all their messages with their friends, just scanned through them to make sure there was nothing alarming. I do remember telling my kids that my responsibility to protect them absolutely supercedes their right to privacy.
im sorry but if theyre past the age of 16 you should give them some privacy
This is the reason Jesuses mother Mary is looked up To.
Let your kid go. Even if you see how dangerous the world is.
If you don't they'll fail at doing what God needs them to do.
❤
Really?? Weirdos on the bus?? Look in the mirror, lady. 🤦🏻♀️
That skirt is too short for her age
Props to the first mom to realize that she needs help and understanding that she's being unreasonable and accepting help. She's not a bad mom in my book, she just needs help and therapy
Why does a 14 year old have emails?
If wouldn’t have email then she wouldn’t have gotten her homework during Covid.
I find that question funny.
So your kid is not allowed to write her friends and family?
That mother the first mother has very crazy eyes I bet you she's a Karen in the derogatory term.
That mommy psychological help as well as she's going to ruin her relationship with her child the worst the child will tell her nothing in kids should be able to tell their parents anything you want your child to tell you things
The child molester a crescent away would make any mom super paranoid!!!!!!
Omg yes I know and going threw it
Stop blaspheming. Use your mothers name.
How horible to live in a country where you have to be scared walking down the street or where you're kids cant play outside. That god I live in Europe. My kids can play outside and I dont have to be scared to walk down the streets even after dark
a lot of children her age go missing I'm with the mother some kids are just allowed to do their own thing and bad things do happen social media has made this world dangerous or maybe her mother like myself had something awful happen to her as it did me and if that has happened to the mother she doesn't want the same to happen to her daughter if you have been through that experience then your instincts is protect your children more so than somebody that hasn't experienced something bad happen to them when they were a child it's not that she doesn't trust her daughter she doesn't trust what could happen to her daughter I hope this explains why the mother is like it
I mean this respectfully, use proper grammar. Your lack of any punctuation makes your comment really hard to read.
Sorry, you have experienced trauma. I hope you seek help. That said, being like that first mother is a great way to make your child rebel and that makes them a bigger target for predators. There is a balance in protecting your child and allowing them to experience the world and grow. Not allowing them to do anything and telling them "the boogy man WILL get you" is setting them up for failure to become responsible, productive members of society and/or for crippling paranoia. Or its going to make them do the exact opposite of what you say, become naive (they wont believe bad things happen, just that you exaggerate) which makes them more vulnerable.
I have a 13yrs old 14yrs old boys and 17 year old girl sorry not sorry my kids don't go anywhere with out me.. the only time they away from me or when they are in school I don't care how anyone feels about it
Can we blame her for being over protective With all the predators and phycos in the world?! This little girl doesn't realize just how dangerous our world really is!! ❤ Let her watch the Elizabeth smart story and let's see her reaction then!!