Why does the U.S. normalize being completely on your own? Independence is definately important, but we should be normalizing situations like these, because it doesn't just take parents to raise children. It takes a loving community and family too! If other cultures do the same thing, why can't we? ❤️ edit: loving the conversations below. it's always good to talk about things like these :)
Is cultural. In Portugal we stay longer with our parents and come back if needed and if there is enough space. In Germany with 18 you move out and children and grandchildren are just visiting.
@@patriciaquintela899interestingly I have experienced the total difference here in Germany from what you disprove !😊 I have seen many of my friends move in and out of their parents homes again and again. The maybe moved out for the Bachelors and then moved back in for their masters. Or they lived with their partners and after the breakup they moved back home because you simply can’t afford rent in my area alone. I am still living at my parents and will move out next year when I’m 25, because i just started to earn money with 24. 😊
So what we see in Indian TV serials, of families never being happy, everyone hating the daughter inlaw, losing memories, dying and coming back to life, and literal impossible scenes like someone falling into a suitcase perfectly and the main characters being idiots, they're not true??? I've been lied to!
you're honestly so blessed that your parents are willing to move in with you guys and help you take care of your children. not many parents would do that.
Most parents have compassion for their own child, I think this is more of an american/british issue, In south america, south asia, the middle east and even some parts of europe this is not the norm. we know how to take care of our own
This is even a win for the kids who get to spend more time and gain more memories with other/older relatives. I wish my grandma lived near me growing up!
For sure. I wish my parents had something to do with us and my kids, but thank God for my wonderful mother in law. She’s the mom I never had but always wanted.
I had to move back in with my mom because my sons' father is a mild narcissist and I couldn't be with him anymore. He's still really involved and a good dad, but I couldn't be with him anymore. My mother bitches constantly about this arrangement, despite begging me to leave him. I am very jealous this woman's parents do this without complaining. It takes a village to raise a child, but women are expected to do it alone.
I’m 36, single mom, with a 12 year old daughter. I recently moved back in with my mom to save money! There is no shame of your parents moving in with you or vice versa. My mother is my biggest support since day one! At the end of the day all you have is your family…❤
@@kristennelson2480 if you don't know, it's 2023, and content creation is one of the highest paying jobs, moreover they are doing business and make money from that too!
My in-laws live 20 minutes from our front door, and they actually visit about once a month. They are hands very off grandparents, though. My parents are 45 minutes from us and help as often as possible. They don't come to our home often, but we go over there about once a month, and they will sometimes take our kids for us to have a break.
@@mrs.hatfield1451My husband and I lived in mother in law's home for a while and she never offered one time to help with our kids or to watch them or anything and she didn't even work all summer long and I was so sick that summer... 🤷🏼♀️ ...our youngest was born at 31wks and in the NICU for 7wks, came home two days ago♡ ... she's ignored about every photo I've sent her of her newest grandbaby... it's sad! She's missing out:-(
@@mia_sun❤yeah, But when they know abt their daughter gets pregnant, Married wowan (mom being preg )once again came to her Mom's home even it was encouraged by her mom, her husband too❤❤ ofter her husband came to see her a lot, buying some food, snacks,, It happens during PREGNANT TIME for a moral support.. I think it helps the preg mom a LOT during preg time it need to be ❤
Most homes of Hispanic, Philipinos, Hawaiian, Korean, Indian, Japanese, or people of ethnicity, have multi-generational family members. The grandparents or relatives help w babies and children help the elders. Keeps the elders mentally & physically healthy and children learn respect and empathy😉💕Always a win-win for everyone!!👍🏼✨
If we had more of this in families, guarantee post partum depression and anxiety would go down for moms. What a blessing to have help living right with you!
Not everyone has parents as supportive as hers are though. I know a fair amount of parents who just don't want their parents or their in laws around because they're toxic. And most "villages" don't even help. It's all about the child but not about the parents. Plus Abby and Matt utilize her parents a little too much to where they truly don't have to parent as much as they're supposed to. They have date nights now EVERY NIGHT. While I do have an amazing village of individuals who are supportive and helpful, I could never just decide to leave my child whenever I feel like it like Matt and Abby do and go have fun. My husband and I went on ONE date night, and the whole time I kept checking my phone and I felt so weird being away from my child for an hour with just my husband.
You are blessed. It's great that you focus on all the positives, because every choice has positives and negatives. Hey, if it works, it works! Sounds like such a blessing! I think it's a blessing for grandparents too (I know!).
It's good to hear that! Back in India we all live with our parents as well, we have a joint family culture, and its actually really great for the child to be able to listen to stories from their grandparents and receive their love! 💕
Honestly it’s both beautiful and inspiring you shared this Abby because I have a feeling I might experience a similar situation myself down the road if I got married according to God’s plan for my life. I am the only son my elderly parents had now requiring me to help out and take care of them, and honestly my mother loves children since she was a teacher. I can see an arrangement like yours working out for me somehow in the future as long the woman in my life would be okay with having some extra help watching kids if we would be blessed to have them.
It's crazy to see people my age being on a totally different path that I am. I'm also 24 single, childless and living with my parents. Just finished my MA's degree and trying to find a job. I could never imagine myself having a husband and 2 small kids at the age of 24. Everybody's journey is special and different. I think living with your parents and being in your 20's is considered weird only in the US, in Europe it's completely normal.
it’s actually very normal in the US, i am 23 and almost all of my friends still live at home (many moved back home after college to save money) but there definitely is a social pressure to “get out on your own”
@@alisonm6005 yes I think it’s too expensive for young ones to get buy a house these days so more are staying at home longer! I think at the end of the day who care what people think it’s what works for you, as long as your living with your parents for the right reason and not using them.
Living alone is a trick by capitalism :) People are meant to live in "villages" supporting eachother. That's how the term " it takes a village to raise a child"came to be. In Europe people normally live with parents even for a lifetime. And I'm saying All this as someone who actually prefers to live on their own .
I’m a single childless 28 going on 29 yr old female in February and I still live at home with my mom and siblings while attending nursing school. Nothing wrong with that. I’m Nigerian and culturally/traditionally girls do not move out of their parents house until they get married and go to their husbands house. In these times I’m following that tradition because it is important to me and my culture even though I was born and raised in America. Plus the money I am saving by not having to pay rent is going towards my school tuition paying off my loans when I finish school and setting me up for my future when Im ready and want to buy a house or car when I become a nurse and start working and making money and get married. Everyone’s situation is different and this is just what works for me and my family.
It’s only “ unusual “ in America .. many countries do this and the family is stronger for it . And yes considering the housing market .. it’s makes sense of f you can get the correct lay out of a home . Gives everyone the privacy they need and also conducive for family time as well . I think it’s amazing ♥️
That’s wonderful Abby . Honestly, this is a blessing and having the support of your extended family is so important especially when you have young children…. I can totally relate to this.
It's a great thing for your kids too. They get to have so luch quality time with their grandparents; there is so much more one-on-one attention; they get to feel twice as supported. My son and I live with my parents and it has been GREAT for him. They love that they get so much time with him too!
This is everything I want!!! Seriously as a mom of 3 I love it! I love it because I understand you value not only family but the help they bring and the connections they are forming with their grand kids. It’s absolutely a win/win situation.
My daughter was a single mom. She moved in when she was pregnant and moved out five years after she gave birth. She moved from California to Indiana. We miss them so much.
You're blessed to have parents you get along with and can live with. Your kids are going to have a full childhood with their grandparents around. It's the natural order of things. Children need more than just their parents' influence.
There's a lot of new construction that's been going on for a decade or so on the North Shore of Nassau County Long Island. In these neighborhoods the new houses are extremely big and most of them have a bottom floor that has a seperate Kitchen in bathroom and bedroom because many of the people buying these homes are moving in one of the sets of grandparents to help with the children. It seems to be a good arrangement and it is also good to have these separate living quarters for any maids who also might live with the family. So I think what you're doing is very good for your family all together, including for the children. It is much better that the children are growing up around the family like that then being left in school or in daycare.👍🏼👍🏼
And the are some people not so fortunate. So I personally am glad that there are good Day Care facilities and staff that work in them. Thank you to all those special people.
You don’t know how lucky you are to have them come help so much! My mother refused to help me. Even when I was afraid to miscarry while taking care of my toddler. You guys are very blessed
i love this so much and hate how judgemental people can be because they dont have that type of relationship with their folks, like i get that things can get intense with a lot of people and their inlaws(mine included) but the thought that people are out there enjoying theres makes my heart feel lighter and im genuinly so happy for you guys you all rock🤘❤️
You are absolutely right. You are cherishing your parents. I wish more than anything to have my mom and my sons best friend back. Id do anything to cherish her again.
I think that is a good idea because your parents are only gonna live so long so you get to see them more and your kids will get to grow up having grandparents to always hangout with
@@vanilla9955 yeah, I’m aware. Yet that still doesn’t take away the unreasonable urge I have to separate each and every one of her eyelashes from the clumps in her mascara. Don’t get me wrong she has great eyelashes! Obsessive Compulsive Disorders are very much real:) that’s all I meant by the comment I posted. It got under my skin😅 not her, but the messiness of the mascara.
@@Abailsfr! She does have such great eyelashes amd she outs in so much effort with the eyelashes curler, but either from old/bad mascara or more likely, too much layering, her eyelashes get clumpy and messy looking. She has great eyelashes to start and could really do and look great with one coat of mascara.
No they’re not😂 they don’t have jobs. Are around their kids 24/7 and needed their parents to move in with them to help. To say that they’re doing a good job is spitting in the face of single parents and poor parents who sacrifice and struggle. Also Matt apparently sleeps with dudes on the side.
You are super blessed Abby to have such a special bond and relationship with your parents. May the LORD continue to abundantly bless you all 🙏🙏🙏🤍🤍🤍🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲
So many cultures have their parents move in with them. We as Americans seem to be 1 of the only ones that think it’s weird or not ok. It’s an amazing support system to have because you are no longer fully supported by them but they are supported by you and they can also help when you need it. It really does take a village
I’m 42, have 3 children and live with my parents. It’s not so uncommon in Latino/African households. My dad is Mexican and my husband is African. Our children haven’t always grown up with gma and gpa living with us, they moved in about 8 years ago. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done. It allowed me to finish two degree, work and not have to pay daycare. It’s also come with the benefit of having my mom cook for us often, because no matter how well I cook (I’m not bad), she’ll always be better ❤ I forgot to mention both my parents were able to retire and start traveling. My husband’s parents also had a similar situation with my sister in law, before they passed.
Brooo, they look like spider legs. I love her, but the makeup kills me every time. So I was hoooooping to find the comment 🫠 It's like a good friend with a dark red lipstick, who you always wanted to tell: Maybe look for a color that makes your face even more beautiful
@@tammyparkes6677it is ridiculous that society and people expect mothers to raise their children in a socially isolated bubble. Or act as if that's normal. When for most of history and in most cultures there was and is a sense of community where neighbors and family help each other.
That’s amazing that you have support and it’s so good for the babies to have their grandparents with them. I grew up in a multi generational household and the memories I have with my grandma are that much sweeter.❤
My daughter and I lived with my parents for awhile as I was a single mom. It brought us a time of stability and there was always someone home for my daughter when I had to work late. It really made that time for us so much better. I felt a lot of shame for it at the time, but now realize it was a blessing.
My husbands mom moved in with us to help with the kids and such and also in turn for us to help take care of her instead of driving to her house to do yard work on top of ours as she is getting older… it’s worked out great! She helps we help she pays certain things as we do! It’s been nice.! We get the same reaction but as long as everyone minds their own business and don’t get involved in things they shouldn’t it’s no big deal. We have been doing it for 5 years now with zero issues!
I think it's great you and your family are all under our roof. To spend time together and they get to spend time with the kids are just great guys. ( well done ). God Bless.
Damn girl your 24 and have two kids already…wow I’m 26 just turned 27 and I still feel like a kid myself and could never do what you do…takes so much strength so proud of you
I love this!!! My mom always lived with us, down the street, or upstairs and my kids and grandma sandy where super close. I now live across the hall from my daughter and we all love it.
My mother had 3 small children. My brother is 13 months older than me and my sister is 18 months younger than me. She did it all by herself when my dad was out working and earning money…I just think that anyone can do it if they want to…It was just for a few years anyway because we were small, after that she went back to work and had her own time. While I think it’s beautiful that you live with your parents and they help you. I also can say that you can pretty much raise those kids with your husband.
i’m 15 and my brother is 23 and turning 24 in a couple of months. there is no way i can see him as a parent this young. you guys are doing an amazing job as parents!!!❤
I made this mistake when mine were little and just advice that you don’t share the parenting moments that you may not realize are your child’s core memory -like bedtime stories; playtime; baths, special day trips-I always thought it would be amazing for my babies to have this amazing relationship with a gra dparent1but when they got older, we saw an unexpected cost, was my kids went to them more when they had an issue, or needed to talk-then when they got into school, they started going to them more for other things and it was only a small amount of time that my kids had spent with them, but because grandparents are just that-having them take any parenting duties. Truly affected the relationships in the end. I always thought that I would have loved that special relationship and didn’t have that with a grandparent-but, when it comes down to it-grandparents shouldn’t have a parenting role-and living together makes that so hard to have that boundary-but, I highly recommend that you take the parenting fun times back and still do the date night-but, when it comes to other times -allow the grands to be just that. Your kids have one mom and dad-be that fully fir each child. Please don’t take that as harsh-just a genuine unexpected result that we have now set those boundaries up with our younger kids and both relationships have imporoved-remember that you are the mom now, allow your mom to take care of YOU, but not so much the littlest when it is core memory moments (which the little things, are the big things)
Yeah…I think it’s a bit odd that she thinks she can’t care for both of her kids. I am ALL for having extra help! I used to send my kids to my parents once a week so I could have a day to myself to get caught up. They were babysitters…but not the 3rd and 4th parents.
@pinabrowntrout I totally agree with you! Yes, it's hard having babies that are so close in age. Heck, it's even hard with just one baby! And I too am all for having and needing help with your children! And yes, grandparents are good for that. But, not all the time. IMHO I think it's not the grandparents place to raise your children. They've already raised their children. That season of their life is over. Let them be grandparents not 2nd set of parents. I'm very thankful that I can go visit my grand babies and spend quality time with them but I'm also thankful that I can come home and not have to be responsible for them 24/7 also.
I had 3 children by the time I was 24 and even though their dad did so a lot it would have been so hard if I hadn't had my mom and step dad around to help me out. There are times when I lived with them and times when they lived with us. We had an amazing relationship and my kids grew up with so much attention and love and I wouldn't change a thing.
I remember when my grandma lived w us when i was a kid cuz She was recovering from cáncer My brother. And i were never alone and my dog was happy and my dad got to see her everyday … She eventually passed but i have so many great memories ❤
I’m a first time mum and have a 3 week old boy. My husband’s mother came to live with us for a few months and it has been a huge weight lifted off our shoulders ❤️ I don’t have to worry about cooking meals, cleaning the house, doing laundry etc and I can pass baby to her when I’m in need of some extra sleep. It truly is a blessing.
Why does the U.S. normalize being completely on your own? Independence is definately important, but we should be normalizing situations like these, because it doesn't just take parents to raise children. It takes a loving community and family too! If other cultures do the same thing, why can't we? ❤️
edit: loving the conversations below. it's always good to talk about things like these :)
Is cultural. In Portugal we stay longer with our parents and come back if needed and if there is enough space. In Germany with 18 you move out and children and grandchildren are just visiting.
@@patriciaquintela899interestingly I have experienced the total difference here in Germany from what you disprove !😊 I have seen many of my friends move in and out of their parents homes again and again. The maybe moved out for the Bachelors and then moved back in for their masters. Or they lived with their partners and after the breakup they moved back home because you simply can’t afford rent in my area alone. I am still living at my parents and will move out next year when I’m 25, because i just started to earn money with 24. 😊
It is normal in poverty stricken families 🤷🏽♀️
Because it reinforces consumerism.
@@bsdieshere consumerism pushed to us rather than practicality and family values, whew-hew! 😎🤟✨️
In India, it's very common Abby.. We live with our parents and in laws and it works well for upbringing children❤
The biggest cultural shock I get from US is this one , not living with parents and being awkward when someone does.
It’s common for in Arab countries also, just rare in USA or Canada and may come as a surprise for most people lol
It’s common in Brazil too
Not common in the US and usually doesn’t work out if tried.
So what we see in Indian TV serials, of families never being happy, everyone hating the daughter inlaw, losing memories, dying and coming back to life, and literal impossible scenes like someone falling into a suitcase perfectly and the main characters being idiots, they're not true???
I've been lied to!
you're honestly so blessed that your parents are willing to move in with you guys and help you take care of your children. not many parents would do that.
really? is it like that in west? parents don't like it ?
@@Jenny-ii3cd a lot of families don't get along very well unfortunately
Most parents have compassion for their own child, I think this is more of an american/british issue, In south america, south asia, the middle east and even some parts of europe this is not the norm. we know how to take care of our own
Just in the west. All over the rest of the world, it’s VERY common 😂
You are very blessed ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is even a win for the kids who get to spend more time and gain more memories with other/older relatives. I wish my grandma lived near me growing up!
This is what “It takes a village” means. That is a blessing! ❤
It’s also amazing that you have parents who want to help and are willing to help!!
For sure. I wish my parents had something to do with us and my kids, but thank God for my wonderful mother in law. She’s the mom I never had but always wanted.
I wish my kids had grandparents at all❤❤❤ I would love to live with my grand babies. I don't blame you It is expensive to live everywhere
This is such a beautiful things :)
I had to move back in with my mom because my sons' father is a mild narcissist and I couldn't be with him anymore. He's still really involved and a good dad, but I couldn't be with him anymore. My mother bitches constantly about this arrangement, despite begging me to leave him. I am very jealous this woman's parents do this without complaining. It takes a village to raise a child, but women are expected to do it alone.
This.
I’m 36, single mom, with a 12 year old daughter. I recently moved back in with my mom to save money! There is no shame of your parents moving in with you or vice versa. My mother is my biggest support since day one! At the end of the day all you have is your family…❤
I would absolutely do the same. I bet your daughter loves it too! She’ll get to spend so much quality time with her grandma now. ❤️
Only people in the west think its a shame its normal in asia and in middle east countries and some countries in europe too
Ahha my parents would never want me move back in they like their independence
@@mallikaj3240i think it’s becoming that way slowly. I would not be opposed to some sort of arrangement like that, personally
awe! that sounds awesome. i think its great she is able to help you & your daughter.
you are so lucky you have your parents to help you 🫶 your a literal role model
edit: whoever replies something that’s annoying i’m not gonna respond
Role model? Because neither of them have a job yet can’t take care of 2 kids alone? Why?
@@kristennelson2480 cuz instead of struggling through it she asked for help which everyone needs to do
@@kristennelson2480 if you don't know, it's 2023, and content creation is one of the highest paying jobs, moreover they are doing business and make money from that too!
@@kristennelson2480They’re perfectly capable of affording it 😂
@@kristennelson2480lol I’m laughing right now because I thought, role model? You’ve got to be kidding me right now.
You’re very lucky that you have parents who are so loving. I’m very happy for you.
What a blessing ❤ You will always look back on this time and be so thankful. There is just no substitute for time.
It takes a village ❤ I wish my inlaws would just move in the state or 1 or 2 over. Miss them so much
My in-laws live 20 minutes from our front door, and they actually visit about once a month. They are hands very off grandparents, though. My parents are 45 minutes from us and help as often as possible. They don't come to our home often, but we go over there about once a month, and they will sometimes take our kids for us to have a break.
@@mrs.hatfield1451My husband and I lived in mother in law's home for a while and she never offered one time to help with our kids or to watch them or anything and she didn't even work all summer long and I was so sick that summer... 🤷🏼♀️
...our youngest was born at 31wks and in the NICU for 7wks, came home two days ago♡ ... she's ignored about every photo I've sent her of her newest grandbaby... it's sad! She's missing out:-(
@@mrs.hatfield1451what do you mean by visit, like stay at your house or pop in for a bit
Yeah, and many in the West don’t have that great of support systems 😩 it can make it so hard!
I miss when abby was too shy to make content on her own. Her voice is so annoying!!!!!!!
In India 🇮🇳 we live with our parents even after being 25! Yes we don’t move out after high school or college..
Brazil too ❤
@@mia_sunNo Indians dont normally move out once married.. Large joint families are common here
@@mia_sun❤yeah, But when they know abt their daughter gets pregnant, Married wowan (mom being preg )once again came to her Mom's home even it was encouraged by her mom, her husband too❤❤ ofter her husband came to see her a lot, buying some food, snacks,, It happens during PREGNANT TIME for a moral support.. I think it helps the preg mom a LOT during preg time it need to be ❤
for how long typically? Forever?
@@Radianty_Ella Yes its their wish, They actually can stay with their parents like Forever
I'm 36 and living with my in-laws. And the same as you I have a toddler and a new born. It made such a difference and the support is a blessing.
Wow you look way prettier without the makeup! Natural beauty
Most homes of Hispanic, Philipinos, Hawaiian, Korean, Indian, Japanese, or people of ethnicity, have multi-generational family members. The grandparents or relatives help w babies and children help the elders. Keeps the elders mentally & physically healthy and children learn respect and empathy😉💕Always a win-win for everyone!!👍🏼✨
If we had more of this in families, guarantee post partum depression and anxiety would go down for moms. What a blessing to have help living right with you!
Yesssss very true ❤❤
Not everyone has parents as supportive as hers are though. I know a fair amount of parents who just don't want their parents or their in laws around because they're toxic. And most "villages" don't even help. It's all about the child but not about the parents.
Plus Abby and Matt utilize her parents a little too much to where they truly don't have to parent as much as they're supposed to. They have date nights now EVERY NIGHT.
While I do have an amazing village of individuals who are supportive and helpful, I could never just decide to leave my child whenever I feel like it like Matt and Abby do and go have fun. My husband and I went on ONE date night, and the whole time I kept checking my phone and I felt so weird being away from my child for an hour with just my husband.
Here in asia we live with our parents.. it's perfectly fine ❤❤ and I feel blessed to spend more time with them
In my country too, only leave home when getting married or moving away to work in another city
That’s wonderful. I had 2 13 months apart with no help until dad came home exhausted. Appreciate them, love them and spoil them! You are blessed!
her mascara always gets me surprised
spiders on her eyes
I KNOW--
Her lashes are so long!
Yeah, they look like spiders. Creepy.
They just look really clumpy
You are blessed. It's great that you focus on all the positives, because every choice has positives and negatives. Hey, if it works, it works! Sounds like such a blessing! I think it's a blessing for grandparents too (I know!).
I love that Abby always brightens up our days, even when being a mom is tough thanks abby❤❤
It's good to hear that! Back in India we all live with our parents as well, we have a joint family culture, and its actually really great for the child to be able to listen to stories from their grandparents and receive their love! 💕
That is so wonderful. 😊
Yes that is true. I am from India too.
Who's home? Who's living with who? Details make a difference.
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My dad is from India, lives in the US. I was born in the US. I’m half Indian, half American.
I do love that about Indian culture.
Yes exactly! Every family is different and had different boundaries, so happy for you guys 💕💕💕💕
Dear, sweet Abby what a beautiful story . What a BLESSING 😊.
You are such a smart young lady to appreciate all the blessings you have!
In Indian families it’s normal to live with your parents for after marriage and they move in with you nothing to be ashamed of at all😊
Cherish all those magical moments. Family is super important and needed.
Cherished life time memories growing up in full house family . 🎉
Honestly it’s both beautiful and inspiring you shared this Abby because I have a feeling I might experience a similar situation myself down the road if I got married according to God’s plan for my life. I am the only son my elderly parents had now requiring me to help out and take care of them, and honestly my mother loves children since she was a teacher. I can see an arrangement like yours working out for me somehow in the future as long the woman in my life would be okay with having some extra help watching kids if we would be blessed to have them.
That is so wonderful ….you all will be better for it. Love that you celebrate the connection. Thank you for sharing.
So beautiful! Inside and out
I love how genuine you are in your videos. Very refreshing!
It must be great having extra helping hands!!
It's crazy to see people my age being on a totally different path that I am. I'm also 24 single, childless and living with my parents. Just finished my MA's degree and trying to find a job. I could never imagine myself having a husband and 2 small kids at the age of 24. Everybody's journey is special and different.
I think living with your parents and being in your 20's is considered weird only in the US, in Europe it's completely normal.
Oh it’s totally normal in Australia to live with your parents for as long as you can ! Some still in their 40s! 😳
it’s actually very normal in the US, i am 23 and almost all of my friends still live at home (many moved back home after college to save money) but there definitely is a social pressure to “get out on your own”
@@alisonm6005 yes I think it’s too expensive for young ones to get buy a house these days so more are staying at home longer! I think at the end of the day who care what people think it’s what works for you, as long as your living with your parents for the right reason and not using them.
Living alone is a trick by capitalism :) People are meant to live in "villages" supporting eachother. That's how the term " it takes a village to raise a child"came to be. In Europe people normally live with parents even for a lifetime. And I'm saying All this as someone who actually prefers to live on their own .
@@dearayleen yes I agree 🙋🏼♀️
What a lovely person and daughter you are. Your parents must feel blessed.
I think it’s a great thing!!! It’s so important that grandparents bond with these babies too.❤
I’m a single childless 28 going on 29 yr old female in February and I still live at home with my mom and siblings while attending nursing school. Nothing wrong with that. I’m Nigerian and culturally/traditionally girls do not move out of their parents house until they get married and go to their husbands house. In these times I’m following that tradition because it is important to me and my culture even though I was born and raised in America. Plus the money I am saving by not having to pay rent is going towards my school tuition paying off my loans when I finish school and setting me up for my future when Im ready and want to buy a house or car when I become a nurse and start working and making money and get married. Everyone’s situation is different and this is just what works for me and my family.
It’s only “ unusual “ in America .. many countries do this and the family is stronger for it . And yes considering the housing market .. it’s makes sense of f you can get the correct lay out of a home . Gives everyone the privacy they need and also conducive for family time as well . I think it’s amazing ♥️
It’s unusual in Canada too.
That’s wonderful Abby . Honestly, this is a blessing and having the support of your extended family is so important especially when you have young children…. I can totally relate to this.
It's a great thing for your kids too. They get to have so luch quality time with their grandparents; there is so much more one-on-one attention; they get to feel twice as supported. My son and I live with my parents and it has been GREAT for him. They love that they get so much time with him too!
This is everything I want!!! Seriously as a mom of 3 I love it! I love it because I understand you value not only family but the help they bring and the connections they are forming with their grand kids. It’s absolutely a win/win situation.
My mom lived with my grandma for a while too until she was stable enough to take care of my brother and I. I totally agree with this decision!!
It's the best!°
My daughter was a single mom. She moved in when she was pregnant and moved out five years after she gave birth. She moved from California to Indiana. We miss them so much.
You're blessed to have parents you get along with and can live with.
Your kids are going to have a full childhood with their grandparents around. It's the natural order of things.
Children need more than just their parents' influence.
There's a lot of new construction that's been going on for a decade or so on the North Shore of Nassau County Long Island. In these neighborhoods the new houses are extremely big and most of them have a bottom floor that has a seperate Kitchen in bathroom and bedroom because many of the people buying these homes are moving in one of the sets of grandparents to help with the children. It seems to be a good arrangement and it is also good to have these separate living quarters for any maids who also might live with the family. So I think what you're doing is very good for your family all together, including for the children. It is much better that the children are growing up around the family like that then being left in school or in daycare.👍🏼👍🏼
And the are some people not so fortunate. So I personally am glad that there are good Day Care facilities and staff that work in them. Thank you to all those special people.
You don’t know how lucky you are to have them come help so much! My mother refused to help me. Even when I was afraid to miscarry while taking care of my toddler.
You guys are very blessed
Be thankful for this!! It’s so refreshing to see a 24 year old have such a good relationship with their parents. Stay strong fam
My MIL has been staying with us for 4 years now and I LOVE IT. She helps us a lot more than we deserve ❤
That's such a blessing because not every MIL will do that.
i love this so much and hate how judgemental people can be because they dont have that type of relationship with their folks, like i get that things can get intense with a lot of people and their inlaws(mine included) but the thought that people are out there enjoying theres makes my heart feel lighter and im genuinly so happy for you guys
you all rock🤘❤️
You are absolutely right. You are cherishing your parents. I wish more than anything to have my mom and my sons best friend back. Id do anything to cherish her again.
Love this and loving the energy❤❤❤
This is truly what you guys needed in this time 🙏🏽✨
I'm so glad you appreciate this blessing you have ❤️
I think that is a good idea because your parents are only gonna live so long so you get to see them more and your kids will get to grow up having grandparents to always hangout with
The eyelashes are such a trigger for me😳😭
Eyelashes trigger you? Do you not know how serious that word really is
@@vanilla9955 yeah, I’m aware. Yet that still doesn’t take away the unreasonable urge I have to separate each and every one of her eyelashes from the clumps in her mascara. Don’t get me wrong she has great eyelashes! Obsessive Compulsive Disorders are very much real:) that’s all I meant by the comment I posted. It got under my skin😅 not her, but the messiness of the mascara.
Frrr
@@Abailsfr! She does have such great eyelashes amd she outs in so much effort with the eyelashes curler, but either from old/bad mascara or more likely, too much layering, her eyelashes get clumpy and messy looking.
She has great eyelashes to start and could really do and look great with one coat of mascara.
@@alyssah3087 less is definitely more…
Ur SO PRETTY ❤❤
You can also be there to help your parents if they get sick. Its common for parents to live with their kids in Africa ... Bless you Sis
Such an awesome blessing for all of you!
You need to always do what works best for you and your family. ❤
Girl, I am so happy that you guys have your parents live with you. That's such a blessing
You and Matt are doing a great job as parents and I’m sure your parents will be just as fun to live with as it is with your kids
No they’re not😂 they don’t have jobs. Are around their kids 24/7 and needed their parents to move in with them to help. To say that they’re doing a good job is spitting in the face of single parents and poor parents who sacrifice and struggle. Also Matt apparently sleeps with dudes on the side.
@@sara-jaynWoah! Are you serious?😂
@@sara-jaynAnd where is your proof that Matt is sleeping around in the side? Let me guess, you HEARD rumors if this? Rumors are not proof.
@@sara-jaynWhere on earth did you get this Matt rumour from??😂 Also they do earn money. They earn an income through social media.
You are really lucky. You have such beautiful parents that are willing to help you.
You are super blessed Abby to have such a special bond and relationship with your parents. May the LORD continue to abundantly bless you all 🙏🙏🙏🤍🤍🤍🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲
Her mascara tho 💀💀
I always notice it but don't wanna be rude! But fr
I flat out asked. Those lashes are insane. I must know her secret! I hope she sees the question and responds.
What s the brand of thr mascara?😅
She's in her Tammy Faye Baker years.
It just looks messy because of the build up as she layers it on too much
She’s not living with her parents, her parents are living with her! ❤
So many cultures have their parents move in with them. We as Americans seem to be 1 of the only ones that think it’s weird or not ok. It’s an amazing support system to have because you are no longer fully supported by them but they are supported by you and they can also help when you need it. It really does take a village
That is honestly so sweet and adorable 🥺💜 I love that
I love and appreciate your endless optimism
Love you abby!
I’m 42, have 3 children and live with my parents. It’s not so uncommon in Latino/African households. My dad is Mexican and my husband is African. Our children haven’t always grown up with gma and gpa living with us, they moved in about 8 years ago. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done. It allowed me to finish two degree, work and not have to pay daycare. It’s also come with the benefit of having my mom cook for us often, because no matter how well I cook (I’m not bad), she’ll always be better ❤ I forgot to mention both my parents were able to retire and start traveling. My husband’s parents also had a similar situation with my sister in law, before they passed.
That makeup is wild….. eyelashes are ready for Halloween! Glad you’re enjoying living with your parents. That’s nice you get that time together.
Yall are hateful. I love her lashes
Brooo, they look like spider legs. I love her, but the makeup kills me every time. So I was hoooooping to find the comment 🫠 It's like a good friend with a dark red lipstick, who you always wanted to tell: Maybe look for a color that makes your face even more beautiful
Amazing! This is the best thing ever! Enjoy your village ❤️
You have a beautiful blessing there 💞 I'm so happy you have those supports that helps you be the powerhouse of a woman you are.
You have no idea how lucky you are to have so much support
Yeah most mom's take care of their own kids......its ridiculous
@@tammyparkes6677it is ridiculous that society and people expect mothers to raise their children in a socially isolated bubble. Or act as if that's normal. When for most of history and in most cultures there was and is a sense of community where neighbors and family help each other.
@@tikusblue💯 right! 🤍❤
Girl u are lucky to have ur parents with u !!! ❤
That’s amazing that you have support and it’s so good for the babies to have their grandparents with them. I grew up in a multi generational household and the memories I have with my grandma are that much sweeter.❤
My daughter and I lived with my parents for awhile as I was a single mom. It brought us a time of stability and there was always someone home for my daughter when I had to work late. It really made that time for us so much better. I felt a lot of shame for it at the time, but now realize it was a blessing.
That is wonderful. What a blessed situation you have.
My husbands mom moved in with us to help with the kids and such and also in turn for us to help take care of her instead of driving to her house to do yard work on top of ours as she is getting older… it’s worked out great! She helps we help she pays certain things as we do! It’s been nice.! We get the same reaction but as long as everyone minds their own business and don’t get involved in things they shouldn’t it’s no big deal. We have been doing it for 5 years now with zero issues!
Living with your parents is great for some people!!
“ Pockets of alone time” that’s a true blessing!
I think it's great you and your family are all under our roof. To spend time together and they get to spend time with the kids are just great guys. ( well done ). God Bless.
Living with family is so beneficial to everyone!
this is what family is SUPPOSED to be like ❤ you all are such role models, even though youre younger than me. lol
It looks different for everyone. There isn’t one way it’s supposed to look like.
I love how fast and easy you do your makeup! What mascara do you use??
That’s how moms put it on! No time to waste!!
Yea true that
I want to know how she does it with her eyes closed.
@@ahveamstad2480well it always looks like she’s done it with her eyes closed
@@sara-jayn Thank you. I thought it was me.
Damn girl your 24 and have two kids already…wow I’m 26 just turned 27 and I still feel like a kid myself and could never do what you do…takes so much strength so proud of you
Yeah she literally wants for nothing that doesn't take much strength at all
I love this!!! My mom always lived with us, down the street, or upstairs and my kids and grandma sandy where super close. I now live across the hall from my daughter and we all love it.
Living with grandparents is greatest gift for a child the wisdom you get an early stage shapes the society better❤
My mother had 3 small children. My brother is 13 months older than me and my sister is 18 months younger than me. She did it all by herself when my dad was out working and earning money…I just think that anyone can do it if they want to…It was just for a few years anyway because we were small, after that she went back to work and had her own time. While I think it’s beautiful that you live with your parents and they help you. I also can say that you can pretty much raise those kids with your husband.
ur necklace is adorable! where’s it from? ❤
Healthy relationships with parents be like:
I looove your skin! So bright and white and beautiful ❤
Having a good relationship with your parents is a blessing!
i’m 15 and my brother is 23 and turning 24 in a couple of months. there is no way i can see him as a parent this young. you guys are doing an amazing job as parents!!!❤
I made this mistake when mine were little and just advice that you don’t share the parenting moments that you may not realize are your child’s core memory -like bedtime stories; playtime; baths, special day trips-I always thought it would be amazing for my babies to have this amazing relationship with a gra dparent1but when they got older, we saw an unexpected cost, was my kids went to them more when they had an issue, or needed to talk-then when they got into school, they started going to them more for other things and it was only a small amount of time that my kids had spent with them, but because grandparents are just that-having them take any parenting duties. Truly affected the relationships in the end. I always thought that I would have loved that special relationship and didn’t have that with a grandparent-but, when it comes down to it-grandparents shouldn’t have a parenting role-and living together makes that so hard to have that boundary-but, I highly recommend that you take the parenting fun times back and still do the date night-but, when it comes to other times -allow the grands to be just that. Your kids have one mom and dad-be that fully fir each child. Please don’t take that as harsh-just a genuine unexpected result that we have now set those boundaries up with our younger kids and both relationships have imporoved-remember that you are the mom now, allow your mom to take care of YOU, but not so much the littlest when it is core memory moments (which the little things, are the big things)
Ma’am their kids are literally like 1 and 1 month old, calm down lol
Yeah…I think it’s a bit odd that she thinks she can’t care for both of her kids. I am ALL for having extra help! I used to send my kids to my parents once a week so I could have a day to myself to get caught up. They were babysitters…but not the 3rd and 4th parents.
@@Adriannakas I don't think she said anything that wasn't claim for her to need to claim down, she gave some simple kind (but ture) advice.
I think the key is establishing boundaries that everyone involved is comfortable with. I heard a podcast on this recently & it was very positive ♥️
@pinabrowntrout I totally agree with you! Yes, it's hard having babies that are so close in age. Heck, it's even hard with just one baby! And I too am all for having and needing help with your children! And yes, grandparents are good for that. But, not all the time. IMHO I think it's not the grandparents place to raise your children. They've already raised their children. That season of their life is over. Let them be grandparents not 2nd set of parents. I'm very thankful that I can go visit my grand babies and spend quality time with them but I'm also thankful that I can come home and not have to be responsible for them 24/7 also.
I had 3 children by the time I was 24 and even though their dad did so a lot it would have been so hard if I hadn't had my mom and step dad around to help me out. There are times when I lived with them and times when they lived with us. We had an amazing relationship and my kids grew up with so much attention and love and I wouldn't change a thing.
I remember when my grandma lived w us when i was a kid cuz She was recovering from cáncer
My brother. And i were never alone and my dog was happy and my dad got to see her everyday … She eventually passed but i have so many great memories ❤
That’s such a blessing 💕.
Love you Abby ! You are beautiful, stunning, and GORGEOUS ❤❤❤❤❤
Are you blind?
@@raquelmendez6332 dude, she is all of those things and more so please don’t be rude about my comment
Her lashes are to die for! Also glad it worked out 🫶🏻🫶🏻
As a mom of 6 this makes me laugh.
Exactly I’d be embarrassed to admit I can’t handle 2 kids… and also plan to have more
This sounds wonderful! You are soooooo lucky.
I’m a first time mum and have a 3 week old boy. My husband’s mother came to live with us for a few months and it has been a huge weight lifted off our shoulders ❤️ I don’t have to worry about cooking meals, cleaning the house, doing laundry etc and I can pass baby to her when I’m in need of some extra sleep. It truly is a blessing.