20 minutes of pure perfection. To think that the crazy world let this man come and go and didn't even notice, when he could have shown us all, man and woman, how to love each other - the solution to the world's pain. Thank you Barry.
omfg .. this is so deep and touching. I have been a "player" for years, recently woken up from all of this. And this stuff really resonates and put me to tears. Wow. We need to change all of this. Wow.
I would say this is one of the most profound experiences I've had in my 56 years. Thank you for helping me see what I have not been giving to my wife for 31 years. Thank you for the privilege of hearing what is true about men and women.
The reason for pornography, LGB and transgenderism is that society is running out of love. It is a desperate and wrong attempt to become truly human, man or woman.
Someone introduced me to this video - I've never seen this man before or heard his message. However, what he is saying is so clear - As a man, it resonates with me as being the correct way to go. The correct way to be, for both partners. Western society is oversexualised and people's minds twisted with it. We need to come back to ourselves. ♥
"Mood can only exist in dishonesty".... it's so true. Once you acknowledge the thing that's bothering you something shifts and your mood lifts. It's so beautiful....But I only realized that completely after hearing that statement. It's really stuck with me. Love and appreciate Barry so much.
I love the phrase "be true to the situation" and "man and woman have got together to enjoy their lives together". And "it is the most glorious human thing to just touch her shoulder."
2.30 in was why I many yrs from now, went to tantric workshops =D I was so tired of exactly that. In the best workshop, I learnt inner deeper connection, of what love is. Not demands, sex or wantings aso. 12.09--> Great! No fantoms wanted ;) Yes, thats how, west have distorted all of this. Great lecture
I will try my best to always keep this in mind. So that I and the person I will share my everyday with get a life filled with as much love and presence as possible. Presence is power. and love.
Barry is not only emotionally healthy but he can put into words why he is. Many of these teachings are very similar to LDS (mormon) teachings. Truth rings out and it cuts me to the core.
This is why both sexes need to be so vigilant where the attention goes. Because every single thing today is sexualised. I do not agree how school girls are dressed here in the uk. Even for adults, an innocent looking tight pair of denim jeans. I now see them for what they are: a way of covertly showing off the curvy flesh. I could go on, from movies, to adverts, magazines etc etc Unfortunately once that sexualised conditioning has contaminated the memory, it’s very hard to undo that. Thanks Barry 🙏🏾❤️
Most men I know do not like calling sex - making love. Now I know what to say to them, Love gives - Sex takes! I could not just take my clothes off, and just jump into bed with some one, because as a mature woman, one has not the body of a twenty year old now.
There are some things I'm not clear on here. Barry seems to put down tantra, yet he considered himself a tantric master. He also puts down sexual experimentation, yet he had multiple female partners at a time. I do find resonance with much of what he says about the right way for a man to love a woman, and how to serve love as the transcendental nature of soul, but the above inconsistencies cause me to not fully trust what he says. Can anyone shed light on this?
He is rejecting westernized versions of “tantra.” The west has pretty much polluted all Eastern “traditions” usually in an attempt to commercialize it. Search the concept of “spiritual capitalism.” He is calling himself a tantric teacher because he practises tantra as it was originally meant. For example, imagine you were a chef and you kept seeing people calling themselves chefs when they were making food like macaroni and cheese from the box or preparing a bowl of cereal. You would say “these people who call themselves chefs these days are a load of shit. I must be the only real chef.” Kind of a lame example but maybe it did the trick to get the point across?
Also, sexual experimentation is very different than to what he did. Sexual experimentation - experimenting, not knowing what you are doing, trying to find some result - in short, ignorant to the purpose and process of love making. He was a tantric teacher so he made love to his disciples to impart true knowledge of love. Research the women he made love to and you will clearly see that. Rarely do partners who sexually experiment leave the encounter with some higher spiritual knowledge. Most of the time it was either a good or bad “fuck.”
I have this, been single for sometime. I'm happy with how everything is. But someone has come in and made me sweeter, softer, his love makes me "melt". His love calms me and has made me a better person within myself. But I can't seem to get past my past with him. I keep projecting my stuff on him. He goes through moments of doing the same thing to me. Obviously not ready but wouldn't mind some advice on how to get past that barrier. Not to be together, just to help me through it.
I generally agree with everything he says, especially about the giving nature of love, but some of it only to a certain extent. I have never attended a tantra workshop because everything about tantra I would rather explore on my own or with a partner, not in a group. But I have read a few books on the subject and had some direct experiences and even though I've never been to one I feel like it's presumptuous to give one reason people attend tantra workshops and to label them all as unhappy. My initial interest in tantra came from 'wanting' but wanting to 'give' better, longer orgasms. Then as I learned more about kundalini I will admit the interest became more about retaining spiritual creative energy for manifestation and creativity. Alson he asks why tantra and not "normal" love, but what on Earth is "normal"? I'm not making excuses, I prefer monogamy to polyamoury and as I said I don't do tantra workshops so I don't need to make excuses, I'm just giving an honest opinion. But everything he says about our sweet, loving nature felt bang on.
If I may take a stab at your question…it may sound like he is presumptuous, but, ultimately, there is only two states of mind in this world - mindfulness and thoughtfulness. Knowing this, you can pretty much categorize anything and everything from a distance as a source of unhappiness or equilibrium. Much like one can separate wet clothes from dry ones just with a glance. For the most part, anyone who is attending a tantric workshop is coming from a place of thoughtfulness. True loving making involves mindfulness, when the person only really has to stay conscious and within their bodies. Trying to learn anything, wanting to master a technique, trying to reach some elevated spiritual state - all forms of wanting and trying which is apart of thoughtfulness. Does this make more sense now?
everything is right just as it is" I guess there is some solace in that, just as it is not as we would like it to be, but is not the very longing for love a need that is not being meet in this present moment, no matter for one is still caressed in this moment by the very longing even when it is not consciously felt.........
This is a very limited view on the way it is.. It is true that the western way at this time is not loving and there is so much more in love than just sex. Tantra however is not just about sex, it is so much more. It is about energy, self love and love for the other and the togetherness two people can have. There is so much more to be enjoyed.. Love is complete in itself and has many, many ways of expressing itself..
***** there is no such limited defenition of Tantra as you just said, it is much more than that. There are a million ways to describe love, and more. There are innumeral ways to show and share love and saying "This is not the way to celebrate love" is a very limited view indeed.. Tantra is about energy, about sharing.. it might not be nescesary in order to share love but it is certainly a possibility. If people want to divulge themselves in Tantra as a way of sharing their energy and attempting to become one in twoness then that is only admireable.. There are many ways that lead to Rome my friend.. there is no "no need to go this way"
Like some I indeed find this bemusing. He says so much, but so little actually is worthy. Not only does this go against what I know of Barry previously, (he’s a tantric sex master, had multiple partners and relationship in his life, “believed” in sexual freedom) but his teaching here don’t ring true, let alone hold up so well in 2018. As we know all great teaching transcend space and time. Unfortunately, not in this case. With feminism, queer theory and human rights advances in the last 30 or so years; this seems a bit too religious, too Christian (nothing wrong with Christianity) today. Too patriarchal. Too Old Testament. Old fashioned. Woman aren’t objects to be admired, princess to smell and caress, creatures so pure and loving we shouldn’t allow them to be sexual. What’s wrong with masturbation, sexual liberation, sex in general, especially for woman? Because he is a man giving us his opinion doesn’t mean his point of view is right for everyone, especially women or younger adults. If we look at sex from a linguistic point of view, doing a tantric course is just the same as learning a new language, just like an English speaker deciding to do a Spanish course for example. Being able to express ones self is the greatest gift. It’s how we connect. Communicate. Explore. Understand. And if one is unhappy it’s their limitation with regards to understanding them selves that’s the problem, not doing the course be it in Spanish or tantric sex. There should be nothing wrong with learning another way of expression, although even if it results in pain or selfishness , as he alludes, one can only learn from that. It’s the human way. Essentially, like everything in life, we should look at sex and love as forms of energy, be it creative energy, sexual energy, life energy. Is love just a higher form of this energy (higher than sex)? Or is it our own social projections which dictate what we experience, and how we previene both sex and love? Fear, guilt, shame, repression.... his voice is steeped in all. Sex can be emotional, physical, cerebral, and love too. Pure love, and pure sex, together can be wonderful and symbiotic. But one without the other....is perhaps what he trying to get at and failing to clearly express this sentiment. What’s love without sex, and visa versa. What he really gets right is this idea of not being in the moment, living in fantasy. True! True! Love is being in the moment with another. However, what he really misses is the power of intent. Intention will decide the outcome of both sex and love. And if intent is pure, then both can exist, and enjoyed, separately or together. Because the sexual aspects of his teaching gained the most notoriety, assuming a greater prominence in the public mind than Long wished, is perhaps why he seems to disregard tantric sex and sexual exploration in general. Also, he seems to be chastising this woman somewhat because she admits she has gone to tantric workshops. A woman doesn’t “need” a man to be happy, but she does need relationships from both sexes, be they emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, or sexual. It’s up to the woman to choose who she wants to engage with to achieve these states. And we should not judge her for it. However, if she can find one partner who can give all these facilites then she has found someone special.
Well, it seems that you took a very intellectual approach. But the problem with current western society is that you have a great intellect - without it being grounded in reality, the body, the Earth. So much so, that we have even personified our garbage by inserting it in our bodies as silicone, etc. How can you be sure that sex is harmless? Indeed, it is the creative power of the Universe. But, it is also a very destructive force on Earth - inflicting abuse on women and men (through the porn industry) and children (I am a survivor of sexual abuse). If I may share this, but the IMMENSE trauma I faced from sexual abuse as a child is almost nearly indescribable. I should be dead right now. So is sex so harmless? Obviously not. If not “mastered”, it can cause a lot of grief in the form of rape, molestation and so forth. It is also the same energy behind addictions - as it’s the basis for most hedonism. That’s sounds presumptuous but it’s really not. We are biological robots programmed to reproduce - and in one way or another, our animal side or the “selfish genes” within us is geared to motivate us to promote our survival. Look at how sex is ruining the world as we speak - men and women calling eachother dogs or bitches, a competitive and unrealistic body standard, people getting rich off of vanity…all due to the animal side of humanity that is not being mastered but allowed to roam free
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I don't understand that you have to show your SWEET NATURE (not mentioning how you really feel) and then....when you have found your partner, go for the honest part en tell them that your day did not start well because you have problems ...CONFUSED
Marlene Pauly What he means is, that our daily problems are only a mind-made situation and therefore not part of our Sweet nature. But if you however are moody and therefore attached to any thought, emotion or life situation you have to be honest about it and let it go, in order to let your sweet nature shine through the fog of our mind based daily lifes again. I hope that i was able to help you. Have a beautiful life !
i dont understand Barry. there are something that make me sense but many other not at all. he had sex he had childrens so why he was saying not to have sex. it is true that many people is obsess about sex tryng to get pleasure and nothing more but there is some sex maked with love with care.
When he says not to have Sex he doesn't meant not to have intercourse. He means not to be lead by selfishness. If you have intercourse because you want to ejaculate, then the intercourse is a means to a selfish end. It is Sex. If you fantasise about someone else during intercourse or even an old memory of your partner then that is Sex because you are not connecting with your partner. If you're thinking about what you had for dinner during intercourse then that is Sex. If you're wondering whether you look good in that light or wishing your partner would put in a bit more of the hard work, it is Sex. But if you're appreciating your partner, connecting with them, enjoying their smell, caring about them and living in the moment rather than working towards an orgasm, that is Love (or Making Love). At least, that is what I understood frrom the video. I hope that clears it up for you - you can still have intercourse!
MrMojoRisinn I don't quite understand this either. My thoughts are that sex, if not founded on love is an expression of selfishness (driven by mind and body). If within a loving relationship (driven by the spirit), sex will come naturally and secondary to all other expressions of love. Let me know what you think.
Hi Landi. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I'd like to share with you some of my own personal experience. There have been times when I've been in a loving relationship and the sex has been sensual and 'present', but sometimes I've had sex in those *same* relationships which has been lazy or distracted or self-conscious. (Perhaps a thought has popped into my head about something I need to do later, or I start thinking "Oh, it's been a while now...he probably wants me to orgasm pretty soon".) Even though those relationships were generally warm and loving, that moment of sexual experience didn't come from a place of love, but fear and egotism. I think I've come to believe that love is an action that you take (as well as the feeling); it is conscious, and it is alive. It is not on autopilot. And if love really is an action that you take from moment to moment, then that explains why I was in a generally loving relationship but some of my sexual experiences did not come from a place of love. Because it can change from one moment to the next. It's the same with other forms of love, too. For example, if I'm a parent and I have loving feelings for my child, that doesn't necessarily mean that every action I take as a parent will be loving. Sometimes I might feel stressed and shout at her. Love, then, is not just a feeling within a relationship; for me it is an action. An exercise of conscious appreciation. And sometimes it can be difficult to consciously appreciate your partner during sex, even though you care for them. It takes practice. I think that's what Barry might be referring to, but I'm interested to hear your thoughts.
MrMojoRisinn he doesn't say not to have sex but to have sex that is loving. if you want listen to his tape "Making love" he explains it all there. cheers
I get what he's talking about but he is quite old here. The libido can be very high and men and women can get quite horny at times because that's how the body has been designed so we will reproduce. I wonder what percentage of humans are on this planet because of lust...... depriving yourself of sexual release can lead to extreme frustration . If this theory of Barry's is so difficult....can it be right ?
20 minutes of pure perfection. To think that the crazy world let this man come and go and didn't even notice, when he could have shown us all, man and woman, how to love each other - the solution to the world's pain. Thank you Barry.
omfg .. this is so deep and touching. I have been a "player" for years, recently woken up from all of this. And this stuff really resonates and put me to tears. Wow. We need to change all of this. Wow.
I hear you, man!
Beautiful, Men. ❤
I cant describe how much this interview changed how I see myself as a feminine energy....as love
This should be taught and shown to every man and woman. True words from a true master.
I wish I would have known this 30 years ago.
I would say this is one of the most profound experiences I've had in my 56 years. Thank you for helping me see what I have not been giving to my wife for 31 years. Thank you for the privilege of hearing what is true about men and women.
The reason for pornography, LGB and transgenderism is that society is running out of love. It is a desperate and wrong attempt to become truly human, man or woman.
Someone introduced me to this video - I've never seen this man before or heard his message.
However, what he is saying is so clear - As a man, it resonates with me as being the correct way to go. The correct way to be, for both partners.
Western society is oversexualised and people's minds twisted with it.
We need to come back to ourselves. ♥
"Mood can only exist in dishonesty".... it's so true. Once you acknowledge the thing that's bothering you something shifts and your mood lifts. It's so beautiful....But I only realized that completely after hearing that statement. It's really stuck with me. Love and appreciate Barry so much.
I love the phrase "be true to the situation" and "man and woman have got together to enjoy their lives together". And "it is the most glorious human thing to just touch her shoulder."
This video is one of the most powerful and beautiful spiritual messages ever
It can really make this world a better place
Thank you Barry!
Every woman and man deserves to love truely and genuinely . Thank you Barry Long for this essential teaching in honousty and love.
Incredible! His words have such resonance
I only can repeat it: this video from Barry changed my whole view on what is called „Sex“ to what it should be: LOVE!
2.30 in was why I many yrs from now, went to tantric workshops =D I was so tired of exactly that. In the best workshop, I learnt inner deeper connection, of what love is.
Not demands, sex or wantings aso. 12.09--> Great! No fantoms wanted ;) Yes, thats how, west have distorted all of this. Great lecture
Thank you for the upload..I'm learning so much from these teachings. It truly resonates with me and feels so right to be love this way.
He is so Noble. This is so Beautiful.
I will try my best to always keep this in mind. So that I and the person I will share my everyday with get a life filled with as much love and presence as possible. Presence is power. and love.
"...but while you are waiting, give your sweet nature. Enjoy your life." - Barry Long
A particularly lovlie woman asking meaningful questions of Barry.Very beautiful!
This. . .this is amazing. and so beautiful.
Barry is not only emotionally healthy but he can put into words why he is. Many of these teachings are very similar to LDS (mormon) teachings. Truth rings out and it cuts me to the core.
Landi Barry is emptied of emotion aka emotionally healthy
The woman in this video is also so beautiful to me.
This is so beautiful. I've never had a man love me, but had many men who wanted sex.
May one find you. Maybe he already has.
What an amazing man! So beautiful what he speaks!
So wunderfull thank you!
This is why both sexes need to be so vigilant where the attention goes.
Because every single thing today is sexualised.
I do not agree how school girls are dressed here in the uk.
Even for adults, an innocent looking tight pair of denim jeans.
I now see them for what they are: a way of covertly showing off the curvy flesh.
I could go on, from movies, to adverts, magazines etc etc
Unfortunately once that sexualised conditioning has contaminated the memory, it’s very hard to undo that.
Thanks Barry 🙏🏾❤️
Wonderful ! Lisette is beautiful & sweet., It would be easy to Love a woman's true nature.
Thank you, A True Master !
Good vibes from Barry. I have just noticed the resemblance between him and Eckhart Tolle
Ok guys so I loved this very much 🌺
Thanks a lot, from Belgium !
Beautiful and so clear
its crazy how eckhart tolle is getting similar looking to him, him being his master
Most men I know do not like calling sex - making love. Now I know what to say to them, Love gives - Sex takes! I could not just take my clothes off, and just jump into bed with some one, because as a mature woman, one has not the body of a twenty year old now.
There are some things I'm not clear on here. Barry seems to put down tantra, yet he considered himself a tantric master. He also puts down sexual experimentation, yet he had multiple female partners at a time. I do find resonance with much of what he says about the right way for a man to love a woman, and how to serve love as the transcendental nature of soul, but the above inconsistencies cause me to not fully trust what he says. Can anyone shed light on this?
Maybe not judging him and his ways that does not align with your views. Apply that which he says that resonate with you.
He is rejecting westernized versions of “tantra.” The west has pretty much polluted all Eastern “traditions” usually in an attempt to commercialize it. Search the concept of “spiritual capitalism.” He is calling himself a tantric teacher because he practises tantra as it was originally meant. For example, imagine you were a chef and you kept seeing people calling themselves chefs when they were making food like macaroni and cheese from the box or preparing a bowl of cereal. You would say “these people who call themselves chefs these days are a load of shit. I must be the only real chef.” Kind of a lame example but maybe it did the trick to get the point across?
Also, sexual experimentation is very different than to what he did. Sexual experimentation - experimenting, not knowing what you are doing, trying to find some result - in short, ignorant to the purpose and process of love making. He was a tantric teacher so he made love to his disciples to impart true knowledge of love. Research the women he made love to and you will clearly see that. Rarely do partners who sexually experiment leave the encounter with some higher spiritual knowledge. Most of the time it was either a good or bad “fuck.”
The true Beauty of Love so refusing in today's mixed up World!
Thanks for sharing.
I have this, been single for sometime. I'm happy with how everything is.
But someone has come in and made me sweeter, softer, his love makes me "melt". His love calms me and has made me a better person within myself.
But I can't seem to get past my past with him. I keep projecting my stuff on him.
He goes through moments of doing the same thing to me.
Obviously not ready but wouldn't mind some advice on how to get past that barrier. Not to be together, just to help me through it.
I generally agree with everything he says, especially about the giving nature of love, but some of it only to a certain extent. I have never attended a tantra workshop because everything about tantra I would rather explore on my own or with a partner, not in a group. But I have read a few books on the subject and had some direct experiences and even though I've never been to one I feel like it's presumptuous to give one reason people attend tantra workshops and to label them all as unhappy. My initial interest in tantra came from 'wanting' but wanting to 'give' better, longer orgasms. Then as I learned more about kundalini I will admit the interest became more about retaining spiritual creative energy for manifestation and creativity. Alson he asks why tantra and not "normal" love, but what on Earth is "normal"? I'm not making excuses, I prefer monogamy to polyamoury and as I said I don't do tantra workshops so I don't need to make excuses, I'm just giving an honest opinion. But everything he says about our sweet, loving nature felt bang on.
If I may take a stab at your question…it may sound like he is presumptuous, but, ultimately, there is only two states of mind in this world - mindfulness and thoughtfulness. Knowing this, you can pretty much categorize anything and everything from a distance as a source of unhappiness or equilibrium. Much like one can separate wet clothes from dry ones just with a glance. For the most part, anyone who is attending a tantric workshop is coming from a place of thoughtfulness. True loving making involves mindfulness, when the person only really has to stay conscious and within their bodies. Trying to learn anything, wanting to master a technique, trying to reach some elevated spiritual state - all forms of wanting and trying which is apart of thoughtfulness. Does this make more sense now?
LEGEND right here. LEGEND.
everything is right just as it is" I guess there is some solace in that, just as it is not as we would like it to be, but is not the very longing for love a need that is not being meet in this present moment, no matter for one is still caressed in this moment by the very longing even when it is not consciously felt.........
Love the message..... super heteronormative
I love the concept of sweet nature. Could you suggest me an other teaching video abouth sweet nature?
“Nature and the Earth” by Barry Long
i like this very much...even its not true, that tantra is about fantasising, ive never heard about someone who says that tantra means fantasising...
This is a very limited view on the way it is.. It is true that the western way at this time is not loving and there is so much more in love than just sex. Tantra however is not just about sex, it is so much more. It is about energy, self love and love for the other and the togetherness two people can have. There is so much more to be enjoyed.. Love is complete in itself and has many, many ways of expressing itself..
Barry is making a point here by demonstrating a distinction. I think there's no need for further complication and technicality.
Marco Koppers I agree, in order to "make yourself available for love" you must love yourself 100% first.
*****
there is no such limited defenition of Tantra as you just said, it is much more than that. There are a million ways to describe love, and more. There are innumeral ways to show and share love and saying "This is not the way to celebrate love" is a very limited view indeed..
Tantra is about energy, about sharing.. it might not be nescesary in order to share love but it is certainly a possibility. If people want to divulge themselves in Tantra as a way of sharing their energy and attempting to become one in twoness then that is only admireable..
There are many ways that lead to Rome my friend.. there is no "no need to go this way"
Excellent.
Thank you!!!!
making love honestly is fine and all but i just don't think that it's the ultimate human activity.
hari priya what tops love?
Yes Sadhguru says so too.
thinking is the probem
The most beautiful thing I have ever experienced is a man loving another man
Tantra seems to be a trend ...
I' ll go to Barry first, then watch the trend .
this women is very beautiful :-)
Like some I indeed find this bemusing. He says so much, but so little actually is worthy. Not only does this go against what I know of Barry previously, (he’s a tantric sex master, had multiple partners and relationship in his life, “believed” in sexual freedom) but his teaching here don’t ring true, let alone hold up so well in 2018. As we know all great teaching transcend space and time. Unfortunately, not in this case. With feminism, queer theory and human rights advances in the last 30 or so years; this seems a bit too religious, too Christian (nothing wrong with Christianity) today. Too patriarchal. Too Old Testament. Old fashioned. Woman aren’t objects to be admired, princess to smell and caress, creatures so pure and loving we shouldn’t allow them to be sexual. What’s wrong with masturbation, sexual liberation, sex in general, especially for woman? Because he is a man giving us his opinion doesn’t mean his point of view is right for everyone, especially women or younger adults. If we look at sex from a linguistic point of view, doing a tantric course is just the same as learning a new language, just like an English speaker deciding to do a Spanish course for example. Being able to express ones self is the greatest gift. It’s how we connect. Communicate. Explore. Understand. And if one is unhappy it’s their limitation with regards to understanding them selves that’s the problem, not doing the course be it in Spanish or tantric sex. There should be nothing wrong with learning another way of expression, although even if it results in pain or selfishness , as he alludes, one can only learn from that. It’s the human way. Essentially, like everything in life, we should look at sex and love as forms of energy, be it creative energy, sexual energy, life energy. Is love just a higher form of this energy (higher than sex)? Or is it our own social projections which dictate what we experience, and how we previene both sex and love? Fear, guilt, shame, repression.... his voice is steeped in all. Sex can be emotional, physical, cerebral, and love too. Pure love, and pure sex, together can be wonderful and symbiotic. But one without the other....is perhaps what he trying to get at and failing to clearly express this sentiment. What’s love without sex, and visa versa. What he really gets right is this idea of not being in the moment, living in fantasy. True! True! Love is being in the moment with another. However, what he really misses is the power of intent. Intention will decide the outcome of both sex and love. And if intent is pure, then both can exist, and enjoyed, separately or together. Because the sexual aspects of his teaching gained the most notoriety, assuming a greater prominence in the public mind than Long wished, is perhaps why he seems to disregard tantric sex and sexual exploration in general. Also, he seems to be chastising this woman somewhat because she admits she has gone to tantric workshops. A woman doesn’t “need” a man to be happy, but she does need relationships from both sexes, be they emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, or sexual. It’s up to the woman to choose who she wants to engage with to achieve these states. And we should not judge her for it. However, if she can find one partner who can give all these facilites then she has found someone special.
Well, it seems that you took a very intellectual approach. But the problem with current western society is that you have a great intellect - without it being grounded in reality, the body, the Earth. So much so, that we have even personified our garbage by inserting it in our bodies as silicone, etc. How can you be sure that sex is harmless? Indeed, it is the creative power of the Universe. But, it is also a very destructive force on Earth - inflicting abuse on women and men (through the porn industry) and children (I am a survivor of sexual abuse). If I may share this, but the IMMENSE trauma I faced from sexual abuse as a child is almost nearly indescribable. I should be dead right now. So is sex so harmless? Obviously not. If not “mastered”, it can cause a lot of grief in the form of rape, molestation and so forth. It is also the same energy behind addictions - as it’s the basis for most hedonism. That’s sounds presumptuous but it’s really not. We are biological robots programmed to reproduce - and in one way or another, our animal side or the “selfish genes” within us is geared to motivate us to promote our survival. Look at how sex is ruining the world as we speak - men and women calling eachother dogs or bitches, a competitive and unrealistic body standard, people getting rich off of vanity…all due to the animal side of humanity that is not being mastered but allowed to roam free
I don't understand that you have to show your SWEET NATURE (not mentioning how you really feel) and then....when you have found your partner, go for the honest part en tell them that your day did not start well because you have problems ...CONFUSED
Marlene Pauly What he means is, that our daily problems are only a mind-made situation and therefore not part of our Sweet nature. But if you however are moody and therefore attached to any thought, emotion or life situation you have to be honest about it and let it go, in order to let your sweet nature shine through the fog of our mind based daily lifes again. I hope that i was able to help you. Have a beautiful life !
😚This is so delicious I can't get enough.
I love Barry and i know he is 100% authentic but I have a very hard time following his logic
i dont understand Barry. there are something that make me sense but many other not at all. he had sex he had childrens so why he was saying not to have sex. it is true that many people is obsess about sex tryng to get pleasure and nothing more but there is some sex maked with love with care.
When he says not to have Sex he doesn't meant not to have intercourse. He means not to be lead by selfishness. If you have intercourse because you want to ejaculate, then the intercourse is a means to a selfish end. It is Sex. If you fantasise about someone else during intercourse or even an old memory of your partner then that is Sex because you are not connecting with your partner. If you're thinking about what you had for dinner during intercourse then that is Sex. If you're wondering whether you look good in that light or wishing your partner would put in a bit more of the hard work, it is Sex. But if you're appreciating your partner, connecting with them, enjoying their smell, caring about them and living in the moment rather than working towards an orgasm, that is Love (or Making Love). At least, that is what I understood frrom the video. I hope that clears it up for you - you can still have intercourse!
MrMojoRisinn I don't quite understand this either. My thoughts are that sex, if not founded on love is an expression of selfishness (driven by mind and body). If within a loving relationship (driven by the spirit), sex will come naturally and secondary to all other expressions of love. Let me know what you think.
i think you are right Landi. i think the same as you say.
Hi Landi. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I'd like to share with you some of my own personal experience.
There have been times when I've been in a loving relationship and the sex has been sensual and 'present', but sometimes I've had sex in those *same* relationships which has been lazy or distracted or self-conscious. (Perhaps a thought has popped into my head about something I need to do later, or I start thinking "Oh, it's been a while now...he probably wants me to orgasm pretty soon".)
Even though those relationships were generally warm and loving, that moment of sexual experience didn't come from a place of love, but fear and egotism. I think I've come to believe that love is an action that you take (as well as the feeling); it is conscious, and it is alive. It is not on autopilot. And if love really is an action that you take from moment to moment, then that explains why I was in a generally loving relationship but some of my sexual experiences did not come from a place of love. Because it can change from one moment to the next.
It's the same with other forms of love, too. For example, if I'm a parent and I have loving feelings for my child, that doesn't necessarily mean that every action I take as a parent will be loving. Sometimes I might feel stressed and shout at her. Love, then, is not just a feeling within a relationship; for me it is an action. An exercise of conscious appreciation.
And sometimes it can be difficult to consciously appreciate your partner during sex, even though you care for them. It takes practice. I think that's what Barry might be referring to, but I'm interested to hear your thoughts.
MrMojoRisinn he doesn't say not to have sex but to have sex that is loving. if you want listen to his tape "Making love" he explains it all there. cheers
I get what he's talking about but he is quite old here. The libido can be very high and men and women can get quite horny at times because that's how the body has been designed so we will reproduce. I wonder what percentage of humans are on this planet because of lust...... depriving yourself of sexual release can lead to extreme frustration . If this theory of Barry's is so difficult....can it be right ?
Tantra sucks !!! Love rules.