This is the HARDEST THING I've experienced moving abroad to Germany
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Not sure if you remember me or not, but I was in Germany over Christmas and Nee Years as well. I got home just a few weeks before Corona. But, I had to leave behind my future husband. Originally he was to come to the U.S. in this coming October. However, we too are now unsure of when this will happen. The hardest part for me is this: What if the "travel ban" is never lifted..... the fact there is no end in sight at this point makes it a terrible pill to swallow. Thank you for your videos! They help to make me feel closer to my boyfriend! And I've been learning LOTS from you!!
Your parents are very bright Dana, they will be okay. (Hugs from America, upstate NY)
Thanks for being honest, I'm going through the exact same thing and can relate. But I hope you stay strong, this is the situation we don't have any control upon. And I know how much it troubles you cause it troubles me so freaking much; with that being said, all we can do is hope things play out well, that they take care of themselves, and that lady luck is our side. And thank you, cause this helped me acknowledge the situation as well! :) Hope you take care!
its not just on the pandemic. I would seriously recommend to enjoy the time and ability to reach out on them via phone call or messages or picturea or anything and just don't worry as long as its all clear. I'm sure that they will be fine, because of them being careful. I lost my 26 year old cousin in October right bevor the pandemic... I get the concerns but please don't go nuts as long as things are well right now because if something really happens (god bless it won't) you would have wasted your time worrying instead of using it open minded towards them. After all i'm thankfull for this video because it reflects the concernes of an individual, which became horrible reality to so many.... As a viewer it markes the importance of the fact that this is not just about me, but about my responsibility towards the community. Please try to not worry too hard and instead have a good connection to them anyway. Have a nice day and the sun will rise, we shine again. stay safe, love from cologne❤
I miss my family too, but I would rather be here in Germany during these trying time. Lack of leadership from the top makes America a scary place to be today. My parents have passed away but my brothers & their families are important to me. Fortunately, I do have one brother who lives here as well (in Munich).
A lot a people have been living in Germany over the years and are going through the exact same thing. Let's keep our fingers crossed that everything will be all right soon. Nice video. Stay strong.
My girlfriend lives in the US so I know how you feel to an extent. I can definitely feel the pain of making loose plans and then everything getting cancelled.
Thanks for being that open to us. Missing friends or family is very hard in such crazy times. I totally get your point. I hope, you'll be over this fear or anxiety as soon as possible. FaceTime and co. helped me a lot through the more contact restricted times as a high risk patient.
Dana, I don't have any answer, but I do live in the area where your folks are. We have good health care here. There are still laws in place that say we have to wear masks when going out to public places and most people do. It really isn't hitting too hard here. If your folks have to be far from you, this is a good place to ride out the pandemic. And while we never know what is going to happen, them living here makes it very likely that they'll be fine when it's all over and you can fly to them or they can fly to you. Hugs to you all from Loveland.
Dear Dana, I have been watching your videos for a while now and am really enjoying them. Today I almost cried because I feel so sorry for you. I think the fear for the wellbeing of our loved ones is one of the most terrible things in life. Thank you so much for sharing your fears! Maybe take into account to seeing a therapist. As you can't change the situation a therapist might be able to help you handle it. Sending much love!
Thank you for this video. I can relate on so many levels. Just a thought of not being able to hug people I deeply care about is making me very sad. I guess we are all finding out how important a simple hug can be for our souls. Hang in there, dear Dana.
I haven't been to Germany in six years, Missing the option to hug good friends and not knowing when I will see them again hurts my heart everyday..
hei dana,
thank you so much for filming this video. i really love that you talk so open and honest about such an sensible topic. i appreciate it very much. i can totally relate that saying something out loud makes it feel real. i think all of us are afraid of never seeing people they love again. for me it’s my grandparents. thank you so much for making this video. it warms my heart to see that i’m not the only person in the world who is experiencing this feeling at the moment. THANK YOU for your courage!!
Dana, I am so sorry! My Stepsister and her fiancé currently live in the US and I‘m also scared that I wont see them again.
I hope that this pandemic will be over soon.
Hugs from Nürnberg. I’ve been living in Germany for over 20 years now, and I can totally relate. While I wouldn’t describe it as fear in my case, I deeply respect your being honest about your feelings. Frustration is my overlying feeling. My Dad (in the States) passed away several years ago and my father in law (in Germany) passed away last year, so Endlichkeit, is a tangible reality for us. We snapped up tickets to the States at a super price about a month before we first heard the word Covid. Mom is turning 80 this fall and we want to celebrate with her. She recently moved to an independent living center and has been in quarantine for many weeks, and things just beginning to open up for her. They just recently implemented a schedule where residents can take turns going on walks on the grounds, then started letting family members meet in limited numbers with residents - outside in the courtyard. The dining facilities have been closed, and are scheduled to slowly begin to reopen.
We just don’t know if we will be subject to a travel restriction, or to a quarantine there or here, if our Auslandskrankerversicherung will cover us (they don’t if you are traveling during certain health advisories), whether it will be an acceptable risk for us, whether it will be an acceptable risk for my mother, if we’ll be able to see the people and do the things that would make the effort and expense of the trip worthwhile. On another level, the airlines have severely reduced their schedules. Will some variation of our connection even exist come fall, would we be able to get an alternative connection that would work for us? And, if not, will we be entitled to a refund, or at least a voucher? And if a voucher, when might we even be able to or want to put it to use ... and what might flights cost then? Travel is our biggest luxury and one of the things we most look forward to. That has torn a huge hole in our lives.
Just watched this clip today - nearly a year after your recording and it made me cry. I hope that your parents are still fine and you'll be able to visit them soon or they might come over visiting you again. Luckily in regards of the crisis its getting better. But I can understand your feelings. Even if you are able to video-chat with your parents it's not the same as being together with them. What made me probably cry is the fact that I lost my mother end of last year - not because of covid but it was really hard for me. And my parents just live 400km away. The only thing during the horrible time was the fact that after several calls I finally got the allowance to visit her in the hospital which was closed for visitors due to covid, so at least I was able to say Good Bye to her a week before she passed away.
Hi Dana, I fully understand what you talk about but are afraid to say it in this very emotional video ... thank you sooo much for your open confessions in this beautiful and also heart braking video !! And I'd like to add that I'm glad to know in this situation you have Stefan at your side to comfort you.
I really hope you will meet your parents again in the near future. Take care Dana ! Bye...
I have lived overseas for the majority of the past 15 years and covid is the hardest thing thats come up, by far. Nothing could have prepared any of us for this and I appreciate you voicing these concerns. Its hard. Its so hard. Hang in there and take things one day at a time. Its all we can do right now really.
Be thankful you have your husband with you, you are not alone.You are gonna see your parents,have hope and pray for it.❤️
I feel the same way about not knowing when I’ll be able to see my best friend and host family in the States. It’s tough, and the development of coronavirus is the US is so scary. I know this doesn’t make it better, but the immense worry you feel is a testament to how much you love your family.
I Dana. I guess we are all scared for our parents and the people we love. Unfortunately, we have to live with that for the moment and enjoy the moments we speak to them at the phone or videos... I send you courage and love!
It must be so hard for you. 🥺 I live in Korea and worry everyday for my parents in Sweden. My dad is sick and I'm also scared for the same reasons and I'm also homesick, so I can relate. Sometimes when the worry and anxiety comes over me I just have to force myself to think about something else or stay busy but sometimes I just let it flow through me. There is nothing wrong with being scared and crying at times. I hope you can cope with this and stay strong and happy. 💜
I'm worried that this virus will not "go away" at all. It's not fun knowing you will never see your parent/s again. Just try to tell yourself that you WILL see yours again. My mom died long before all of this started, but I do understand how you feel. Just try to keep calm, talk to them as much as you can, and think positive. It's all you can do right now.
I live in CA and my family is in NH, we are having a baby, and we are due on Tuesday! We switched to a home birth because of the hospital situations, but aside from comications, I'm most afraid my mom won't forgive for not letting her be here. The news back home is not as clear and my family isn't being as safe, which is so frustrating. The US news and political cloud over the WHO and medical advice is dividing everyone.
My In-laws live in Austria and are safe, but we are so sad they cannot come either, and we don't now when they will ever get to meet their first and only grandchild. Thanks for your honesty and being scared is ok. We will all keep on keeping on one way or another.
Thanks for making this video, I also am an American living in Germany and it is cathartic to know I'm not the only one with these feelings. I also appreciate how vulnerable and open you were in this video. Thanks for making great videos and sharing your experiences with everyone
I haven’t seen my parents in almost 29 years. They died when I was 23, and I miss them every single day. I understand your fear and sadness. All the best to you. It will be okay
I know exactly how you feel because I'm experiencing the same. Every time my parents tell me about a trip they made, sent pictures of people they met I try to respond lightheartedly and only jokingly tell them off for not staying at home all day every day (which I know would be over cautious), but what they don't know is that I'm only joking to not snap at them. To not yell at their face, asking if they have any idea how scared I am and how much more scared it makes me to see them leave their house.
I know I can't protect them from the other side of the globe and I also know they can't just live in a plastic bubble until this pandemic is over. But it hurts that they don't seem to understand how it feels to be the only one of the family who is so far away. That they don't realise that the things they send me don't make me smile but rather make me cry for hours because they scare me. :-(
You are not alone! I'm also an American living in Germany. Haven't seen my parents in over a year and they had to cancel their trip to visit me due to Corona. I totally understand what you're feeling!
I feel for you. I hope your parents will be fine. All the best for you and your family.
Hey Dana, hope you're doing ok. I know it's not easy at the moment. I know how you feel. I really do. I live in Salzburg but I'm English. My father for several reasons is the very definition of high risk for Covid. I think I understand how you feel. I just wish you all the best.
What concerns do I have. I wear my mask everywhere out the house. And I think i, and the rest of my family probably will for time.
Chin up Dana. It's always darkest before the dawn. X 😃
Same here
I have the same fears you are not alone you have to think positive and stay strong.
Dear Dana,
I'd like to hug you.
You are so brave talking about your fears in this video. I hope one day it'll be fine again.
I know how this feeling of leaving and not knowing If you will ever meet again. My grandma lives a few hundret killmeters away, but at least she is still in Germany. But she is old and it could happen every day. This can be a heartbreaking feeling.
So, hug you again.
So proud of you for being able to get this out
Deal Dana, I‘m soooo sorry for you and I would really like to help you - but of course, I can‘t. For me, it‘s kind of a process. Each and every day I need to practice focusssing on things like my breathing, watching, feeling (the wind, the sun, etc.). It‘s a hard process but in the end, it helps me cope with fear and worries. Taking things slowly helps also direct my thoughts in another direction -but again, ist takes time and practice till it works. Hold on, try to think positive - sooo many people don‘t get sick, soooo many people get well again. I hug you and wish you all the best! You will meet your parents again-safe and sound! Give it some more time....
Sending hugs! Your emotions and thoughts are perfectly understandable.
I am sure your parents are doing their best to stay safe - just as you are.
Just the first few seconds and your facial expression made me want to hug you. You looked ready to bawl at the top of your lungs.
I feel with you as much as that is possible from such a distance, both physical as well as in a social way.
Huge, positive, supporting thoughts to you, Stefan, and your family, relatives, and friends.
Kudos to you for having the guts to release such an emotional video when you are already in such a stressful situation.
Don't let the idiot haters get to you. You are a wonderful person.
I am with you don't worry... Big warm hug for you and I'm sure that you could soon see your parents again 🤗
It's absolutely understandible that you are worried and feeling sad and emotional. I am constantly worried about my parents (90 and 91). What if I bring this illness into their home. I try to be as careful as possible, but the fear is always there. I have to visit them a few times per week because I take care of them. Giving them their medicines, grocery shopping etc. And I realise each contact with them is a risk that I am taking. So we try to be as careful as we can and carry on and just hope for the best. Dear Dana, try not to worry to much. Stay in touch with your parents as often as you can and enjoy those moments. And just try to be positive. You are not alone in this. Lots of love. Marianne 😘
Thanks for sharing! My boyfriend is living in Germany and I'm in the US and we haven't seen each other since January. I'm a nurse here and considering moving to Germany to become a nurse over there. Just struggling trying to figure out resources, and waiting anxiously for when I can see him. Hang in there, we'll get through this! 🥰
You are not alone, Dana.
I've been on an emotional rollercoaster since March. Giving myself some grace in all of this has become a mantra of sorts when I get emotional or distracted or just give up on a particularly rough day and go to bed. It's okay to feel like this, knowing that it will pass.
I was supposed to be in the UK right now, and I'm heartbroken I can't be with my friends and loved ones there. But I'm going to be okay and take care myself until we can travel again.
We're all worried about the US these days.
I'm so sorry you're hurting like this. I think for me it's scary to think if anything happened we don't even have the option to go home and the people who are there can't even be with their loved ones in the hospital anyways. It's horrible. I'm in Germany now as well but I'm from the US and all 3 of my daughters are there so I know exactly what you're going through. I've been in contact with the US Embassy and there is nothing they will do even if there is a family emergency there or vise versa. It makes me sick all of the time. I was here for a quick trip and ended up stuck for now 1.3 years without my girls (17, 11, 9 years.) Again, I'm sorry you're struggling and you're not alone. 🌈
Dana, I feel with you. It's hard. I'm scared too. Not for my parents (who are German) but for my family (wife & kids) who had to stay back in Arizona due to some custody stuff that's still in progress while I moved to Austria to get everything ready. That was 9 months ago. Now I'm here, all alone in a huge apartment, and I don't know what's gonna happen. They're at risk due to preexisting health conditions, and people in AZ being idiots. Loads of people just ignoring everything because 'Murica! And I'm scared they will never make it here.. that I won't even be able to visit and see them. And it's so so hard. Depression is a real thing. Some days I feel like crying all day. Some days I don't even want to get up.
I hope you stay strong. We're all with you!!
Dana, thank you very much for sharing your feelings and thoughts with us. I can totally relate, my parents also came from Spain to visit me in Germany shortly before Christmas and I also don't know when it will be safe to visit them, even if the borders are open within Europe.
Today it has been kind of comforting for me to find someone who is able to express and translate into words these shared feelings and concerns, I couldn't have said it better myself.
I wish all the best for you, Stefan and your families. Love from Leipzig!
I completely relate. I'm an American living in Poland with my American husband. We've been here 4 years. Since corona hit, I've been terrified. I'm also really close to my parents and I miss them immensely. For months I've been struggling to decide what to do... Stay in Poland indefinitely? Or try to move back? I like living in Europe, but I'm also terrified of the unspeakable happening to my family. Things are getting more and more dangerous everyday in the States and as the economy opens and cases go up. Do I stay or do I go? Anyway, I'm sorry about what you're going through. I know it's incredibly hard. I take things day by day.
Hello, hit me if you need any help
Stay...things are messed up here...ask yourself...will being here be halpful...is there anything you can do... not really...you would need accommodations and jobs... you are safer there...
Aww, Dana. I’m so sorry. I know this has got to be terrifying for you being so far away. Wish I could give you a hug right now 💔😢
I’ve been wanting to move to Europe from the United States for a while and I even pursued getting Italian citizenship. Unfortunately, my timing was off. I went to Portugal on March 2 to check it out and had to come back early because of the pandemic. I am determined to get back there but terrified that they’ll never lift the travel restrictions. The first chance I get, I’m leaving.
Sending hugs and hope you will be able to get your italian passport soon!
Dana, all the best to you and your parents. It is a really scary year, and what I see in USA (from Germany) scares me even more, even though I have no relatives there. You need to have faith. Fortunately, there are ways to be close(r) even though you are so far away from them.
Advice from 68 yrs US woman - COVID-19 has impacted everyone, You don't want any regrets. My family moved me to within about 15 mins drive from my 90 yrs Mom. Its best move for my family & myself, its worked since we went into quarantine over 3 months ago.
Hi Dana, quite the same situation for me. I am quite stuck in Taiwan cause of studying and my parents are in Austria. I know they are safe now, but definitely know your feeling of not being able to just hop in a airplane and visit them. Also a very close relative of mine is at home and have rapidly decreasing condition. Makes such a bad feeling to realize how far away loved persons are...
But cheer up and keep on looking forward to the next time you can meet your parents again!!!!
Your feelings are completely normal. I have those feelings and my parents are just two hours away by car. And cases in Germany have been low (mostly). Still, I am scared that when we visit that I could pass something on ( I am a teacher). And when Bavaria went into lockdown in March we all did not know how long it would last or how bad it would become. My parents are elderly and have health concerns. I am scared for them. So you, living on the other side of the world, have every reason to be scared. Hugs to you, Dana.
Hey Donna, i can absolutely relate to your anxieties. My family only lives in germany and this year, my grandma, which i love dearly, turned 90 and we couldn't see her or celebrate her birthday. Then she had to move to a retirement home all on her own, no one could help her or be with her during the move and we are all frightened that she now gets the virus in the institution she lives in. It is downright horrible! But, you have really really smart and well educated parents, they will surely be fine! I hope, all our worries come to an end very very soon!
I live 10 minutes away from my parents- and 20 minutes away from my granny, they are all immunocompromised and I cannot go see them for their own safety. My granny is in end stage Alzheimer's and could very likely not make it much longer. I've not seen her since Christmas and I miss her with my whole heart. I know that she is unable to recognise me, and cannot speak or do anything on her own anymore but she's still my granny and we were best buddies.. I want to kiss her and tell her I love her.. and I can't because this pandemic makes it deadly to even go near the elderly or ill, and I would never forgive myself if something happened to her or my parents because of me. My heart breaks for you. And your parents.
This is so sad😢 I PRAY that you will be able to see them very soon.
Ich kann dich so gut verstehen! Sending you all my love! ❤
I have a lot of respect that you allow us to look deep in your soul. Your fears are real, on the other hand, there is also a chance that you'll see your parents next year again. Anyhow, I consider this as fate, you can barely do anything about it. Of course, everybody should be as careful as possible.
My own parents live in a house of retirement, they are currently not allowed to leave it. Visiting is allowed, but only with very strict restrictions. For myself, I'm concerned about my job, as it is very hard for a 53 year old to find a new one, if necessary.
You are not alone. My wife is missing her parents, too. She is also living abroad here in GER. But maybe your parents are glad, that you live in a maybe safer place. I think, that‘s what parents worry about most. And also, the news always seem worse than what you experience, when you are there.
I feel this. I'm in Hamburg and my family is in NJ. We saw each other in May 2019 and we had planned to visit in the summer. Now who knows. To top things off my mom just got a cancer diagnosis, and although it's small and treatable, she still has to go for the hospital for an op. So yeah... I'm OK, but not good. Hugs
The worst fear is that i could infect my parents. This week was the first time since februari that I met my parents in person. And I also don't know when i could meet them again( and they live in the same village) So close and yet so far away. Be safe! Let's all hope/pray that the virus mutates to something less dangerous!
I am going through the exact same thing. I am from Florida and also live here in Munich. Last week my mom called and told me that both she and my dad have corona.... I am terrified too but thankfully they are doing well so far.
Wishing you and your family well
You are not alone in missing your family!!! My entire family lives in the US with me but they don’t live close to me. It’s not as daunting as being separated by an ocean but I still have no clue when I will get to see anyone. Everyone tracks where the cases are increasing no one wants to risk visiting an area where concentrations are higher or taking a flight where there may be people on board who may spread the virus.
The struggle is real.
I just found out my dad has just been diagnosed with stage 4 liver cancer. I’ve been unemployed here in Berlin since March and can’t afford to fly home to see him back in the states. The only thing I can accept is that calling him can be enough. I’m keeping hope that somehow the treatments will work. And apparently since he’s in rural Mississippi there are currently no covid cases at his hospital, the biggest stroke of luck that’s he’s been able to be safe with regards to that.
I think this hit all of us, when they announced the lock down. We were not even able to travel within the country. My parents are both risk group, and so am i, and they are old, so naturally we all prepared and talked about things that might happen. Like facing the fact, and comforting each other. But i must say, Situation has changed, i broke my leg and in this emergency, i actually depended on my parents, and even with all risks, they arranged transpprt to come and stay with them. So we overcome this worry of making each other sick. We are still very careful, but we handle it with less fear.
Just like you can not tell someone having an anxiety attack to just calm down, you can not tell a worried person to push it away. I know at some point we will be passed this and the odds are with almost everyone under 70. If you verify with the charts of reliable sources it may partially comfort you. Protocols and treatment are steadily getting better as well.
I can relate. I live only 6km (3.7 miles) away. Last 20 years I was sometimes a little bit annoyed by by mom, calling me to help the next day and not my brother, who lives further away. But now, both parents nearly 80 years old, I am glad that I can be with them in less than half an hour.
Ich versteh das gut. Ich wünsche dir und deinen Eltern ganz viel Kraft diese Situtaion und Ängste auszuhalten.
I should be right now with my parents. We had tickets for the end of june. I sooooo get you. I don't know either when I'm going to see them. I am crying every day. In my country cases are going up.
I'm with you.
Oh, honey, most sane people are scared somewhere deep inside, too. You're not alone.
I've been essential personnel the whole time and I live with my aging parents. I've been terrified that I'll be the one to bring the virus home and it kills them.
So much of this current world is surreal and terrifying. We've never been through this before in recent times. Never has anything been so close with the possible exception of 9/11 which shook us all.
I hope it gives you some little comfort to know that your fears are valid and normal and felt by so many of us in one form or another.
Hang in there.
I moved from Germany to Mexico and it's similar to your concerns. Although we have constant video calls, as always, we don't know when it will be safe again to visit each other. Also, here in Mexico numbers are always rising, people are careless, pretty much like in the US. So I am also more and more scared to leave the house, because with asthma I belong to the risk group. And another concern is, since I have two teenage kids, what will their future be like? What implications does all the missing school time have on their formation, their graduation, their opportunities on the job market?
Hang in there, we go to be strong! And it's important to acknowledge these feelings.
Thank you for this video. You described exactly how I'm feeling. I'm a Brazilian living in Germany and I miss my parents terribly. I'm also scared.
Hi Dana! First of all let me just say that I love your videos, and envy you in living in Europe. Germany, especially. ☺️
And secondly, this video is somehow perfectly well timed with my own emotional turmoil. Like you, I also live far away from my family and my country, like you I am also VERY close to my parents, and there is not a single day that I have not missed them and my country since moving to the States. The last time I saw my parents in person was for thanksgiving when they came to visit me and my husband, I always cry when I drop them off at the airport. We were planning on them coming back up or me going back home this past April, now I don’t know when I’ll ever see them again in person. I’m living with this similar constant fear that I’ll never get to see them again. My country is actually worse off than the states, my country is a colony of the US.
What I’m trying to say is that I know what you’re going through (in my own version) and I’m deeply sorry that you’re having to go through this. Please take care.
my parents are two old people with several risk factors each and beginning to get frail, I am their only child, they live 300km away. the distance hurts them as much as it hurts me. so we talk on the phone every day as we´ve always done - not to visit them is hard on me. but not to follow the impulse and go and see them right now is a labor of love.
my parents live 2 hours away... but we can’t visit and my 72 yr old dad has to have brain surgery soon. i worry daily about when i’ll be able to see him.
Dear Dana, I am feeling you so so much... My sister moved to turkey in February, we've been planning to see each other in May... Then she got sick... On April 7th she was diagnosed with cancer and died on May 17th all alone. We were not able to get her back to Germany nor did we make it to fly to turkey. She went through this all by herself. It was horrible... Now... I saw your video and am just crying... I hope we will soon get through this pandemic and I hope you will be able to embrace your parents soon... Much love and strength
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I live in Japan and my sons living in Europe, I am terrified as well, it jumped to my mind the moment Corona happened. Stay strong.
vielleicht weinen sie aber es tut sicher auch gut zu hören, wie stark eure verbindung ist - stay safe
I can fully relate to your fears. I lived in NJ for some years, well 20 years ago. When I moved my parents where in their 70s. I had the same fears/concerns. Please keep up all communications with your parents and talk to them as often as you can. My father passe away while I was living in the US and I never saw him again. He is still in my heart.
My concerns? I still have friends in the US and also in Brazil, two countries that get hit hard by the pandemic. I am concerned evrey day about my friends. On the other hand I know that all of them are responsible people that do everything possible to stay safe. I don‘t know your parents but assume they are equally responsible to stay safe. Keep your heads up.
Dana I've been watching you for years, you look beautiful! 💖
I know how you feel I lived apart from a parent for a long time too & worried everyday! But we also lived in a blessed era where technology can bring you closer & you can get to know them in new ways! Not even for RUclips just for you- make a virtual scrapbook of interviews, q&a, storytimes,etc. It will be quality time you can cherish now & a forever memory as well❤ much love!
Skype and Phone seems to be a cheap substitute for an eye-to-eye talk or a hug, but use it.
My dad died a few month ago, and our last contact was a telephonecall.
I hope you come through this situation whithout any losts. And the only thing that changed is, that you experienced the thoughts about losing anybody.
It will help you for the next years. Be sad but head up.
That’s completely understandable. Entirely rational. There not knowing is the hardest. Hopefully this doesn’t happen and you see them, unfortunately may well be next year.
I‘m very emotional about this topic too, and I can totally relate to it. I use to visit my dad and his wife at least once a month. I avoided it since the whole shit started. Not so much for myself. But to protect them. Mid of May was my dads 75th birthday. We showed up, very few people. I was scared like shitting my pants. About them. Only outside and stuff. I SO feel your pain. You won’t meet your family this year. But next year. And things will be better. I feel with you.
Everything is temporary. If this thought makes you cherish the time you have more and act out of love and compassion, then it's good. If it makes you worry, leave it! You cannot change what you can't. If you can change it, do it. What does not help at all is worrying about things that are intrinsically uncertain. When I was young calling around half of the world for a minute on the phone was between 1.50 and 2.00 Deutsche Mark. Today we can have video chats for as long as we wish.
One thing I fear: that I've missed the opportunity to move back to Germany, and that it'll never again be an option.
Most people don’t live too far apart from family because its the only thing we have in this world. Of course when they pass on, it can make our decisions easier when we longer have those ties but as long as we are able to maintain them, we can’t do everything we want to do because freedom takes a backseat to other things and your video makes that evident to people. Life isn’t always like we would like it to be.
Thanks for sharing you're such a good daughter😎😎
I'm an American living in South Africa with my husband and 2 kids. My mom and sister were supposed to visit for Easter. They're now hoping to come in September. But the part that keeps hitting me the most is that they have not yet met my almost 9 month old son in person. They will end up missing his entire baby stage. But maybe they'll make it for his 1st birthday. Have to wait and see.
My concern is primarily for my job. I am a public school teacher in the US and the education budget has been cut. Ironically, we were supposed to be getting a huge raise this year, but I guess that won’t be happening anymore. Now teachers are being laid off because of the budget cut. I’m scared it might happen to me.
Dana, I completely understand. I have the same fear. Make the best use of Skype or Zoom, and let's hope that they can stay safe. I'm now in the States, but I haven't seen my family since New Year's, and they live 1200 miles away. I don't know when I'll see them again. And I worry about their health. I just try to be grateful for all of the time that I've had with them and that they can enjoy their hard-earned retirement while staying safe. I wish I had better suggestions
i feel completely the same. from puerto rico, my whole family is in puerto rico, i am in montreal ... i don't know when i will see my parents, my brother, my twin sister again ... there is not even a word to describe that deep sadness. it's so hard to respond to that "how are you doing" question for sure. sending love, dana
Guten Tag!
Our daughter in Germany, too. 2 years now.
Married great guy from there last year.
Just video chatted yesterday. Yeah....it's crazy. We cancelled our October trip to Europe.
They had said they were coming in November. Who knows?
We live in hot spot area.
As restrictions are lifting, cases will rise. We see people shopping for fun and outdoors at restaurants cheering.
We older ones need to be careful. Shop only for Food during senior hours, once a month.
We can't hug overseas, over Whatsapp, but so grateful for technology to see them.
Hang in there. They have each other and are strong.
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I know I still live in the states and this too is also hard for me. The same reason except I wont be able to see my fiancee and her family. It already broke our plans for the last visit and now we dont know when I'll even be able to move there since this pandemic started out. It's really hard, and I have to take it day by day and just keep hoping that one day it will all open back up.
😏 Oh, Dana! 🥰 I don't think I can _convey_ just how much I envy the relationship you have with your parents. I'm normally a very articulate fellow, and it's a rare treat when I encounter a pleasant situation for which I don't have the words. _Thank you for this!_
I understand what you are going through. My mother is in an assisted living facility in Suburban Phoenix and I’m in Chicago. Even though we speak on the phone every day I’m still worried. Even if I could go to Phoenix I wouldn’t be able to see her as she is in isolation. I’m
Thrilled her health is being looked after by the lockdown due to AZ not flattening the curve.
My Girlfriend lives in the USA also works there as a teacher. However, her ancestors are German. She would like to live in Germany and I think if she has all my support it won't be hard. I will also help her financially if it comes to that. I will take good care of her in all phases of the move. If she needs documents from the German authorities, I can request them because I know more about them than she does. It has the advantage that she don't have to spend so much time on research but with the really important things. My girlfriend loves Germany and how the country looks after its citizens with the benefits including statutory health insurance
I am in your situation too. My girls were supposed to come with their husbands in April. Those plans are squashed and we, my husband and I will go over to the USA in Nov. At least that is the plan. Flights are now with 1 or 2 layovers. No direct flights to Atlanta we have to go through Amsterdamm. I feel the same. I am heartsick.
So I understand the angst you are feeling. And maybe you should reconsider wanting adventure because of the risks. I hope you are able to get over your anxiety. 😞
I told my son that lives in Vienna and has the same feelings... I told him that is the choice you made... And life will go on... Live your life and do not be scared.. WORRY WILL MAKE YOU SICKER THAN COVID19
That's really well said :-)
It's a situation you can't change and you have to be careful, but you shouldn't worry too much.
Phone a lot, write messages and stay in contact. I think you did well :-)
Also don't listen to that weird other comment... I have no idea what a weird picture they have of America 🤷♀️
This touched me deeply, Dana. That's a very moving video.
And well, what do I think? People are stupid. I'm pretty sure we will have a second wave, I 'd be surprised if we didn't. And judging from pandemias of the past, the second wave will hit harder than the first. I really hope it will not happen, but at the same time, I'm very afraid it will. All the best for you - and for your parents as well.
I‘m in the same situation as you. I’m a German living in the UK for two years now. I feel pretty alone, especially now during corona. The last time I visited my family and friends in Germany was in January. I don’t know when I will see them again, or my grandparents who are not in the best condition physically. I know it’s not such a far distance like in your case, but I kinda understand how you’re feeling
Big big hugs to you, Dana ❤
When you haven't seen your family for 7 years because you dont have a passport.😞
You have my sympathy.
I live a mile from my Mom....
It is only in the last week that I've spent a total of 2 minutes in the same room with her, since Covid. I was worried, and wearing a mask. I have friends within blocks, the same applies to them.
Please don't let the distance make you feel worse, our situations are much the same.
I share your fears.
Question: Are there crazy people in Germany not wearing masks and being vocal about it?
I hope all goes well for you and your family.
--Mike--
I'm in Indiana, just outside Chicago.
Yes there are aslo these idiots in Germany. And like in the US they are motsly right wing or conspiracy theorists who do not believe in viruses or that this virus is not as bad as the gouverment tells us.
We have less infected people. In many counties the risk of hitting someone is very low.
The cases of new infection in percent went up very radical because of some superspreader events that become public the last days.
But this is more a problem for the individual county, not for Germany as whole.