15:12 is the reason why dating apps are destroying dating for everyone. Seeing multiple people in order to avoid attachment just frustrates others, who will in turn start avoiding attachment and creating a chain of disillusionment for everyone seeking true love on the apps. It's honestly depressing to use apps with this mindset - you're better off just avoiding them altogether
Wow i had to follow up because i just got to your point about “if it wasnt hard, everyone would be in a relationship and it wouldnt be special” and man that changed my whole perspective. Never settle ladies and gents!
Interesting points, I'd never thought about the whole, getting sucked into a 2-hour marathon date when you already know it's a "no", do you think you would have been receptive to meeting someone for five minutes in the course of your normal day-to-day to see if you actually were interested in the person enough to go on a proper date with them?
And? Men always had to fight for women's attention unless connected or in the upper classes. Business arrangements. So many never bred or married in the past. They frequented brothels.
Women do that, 95% of men CANT do that. Can women start being honest about this? Most men I know, and they have had the apps on and off for years, havent even got 15 matches in that entire time frame, let alone 15 dates in one year. I mean come on...
There are more men on these sites. Do the math... scarcity.. Also what are their profiles like? And a huge percentage just want sex with zero investment or commitment. Its akin to browsing a menu. Men should get off the asses and talk to women or be more social.
lady i swipe on anyone and i dont get any back. if i matched with someone like u that wud be lit. im not a bad looking guy i would say. no prince charming eitherxd. so got any tips about what to say to a girl
i would say that girls (at least the ones you would actually want to date) get really impressed with kindness. be respectful and nice, ask her questions about her life and personality as long as you're not invasive. this is important because even though women are known as blabbers, we actually deal with a lot of men who only talk about themselves on first dates, and let me tell you this is one of the most off-putting things. throw a light joke here and there until you get to know her and find out what humor she's comfortable with (some girls are unhinged and so funny and chaotic, others are more sensitive, have a hard time figuring out what's a joke and what isn't and might get easily insulted). ususally if the girl is kind herself she would appreciate it if you acted this way with her, and if she isn't you don't really want to have anything to do with her anyway. i love my girls but some of them aren't very mature and can be rude or superficial. (also proper grammar and spelling go a long way lol)
Therin lies the PROBLEM!! You are aimlessly swiping on pictures that you don't even remember within a few seconds. How is that intentional or proactive?.
@@jessicahitchens6926 Playing the numbers game and still failing. To an app even if i go for quality it only reduces my chances for matching with anyone
i love the old camera vibe your videos have. feels like I'm watching an old 2000s celebrity youtube video before they blew up
15:12 is the reason why dating apps are destroying dating for everyone. Seeing multiple people in order to avoid attachment just frustrates others, who will in turn start avoiding attachment and creating a chain of disillusionment for everyone seeking true love on the apps. It's honestly depressing to use apps with this mindset - you're better off just avoiding them altogether
It's a quasi polyamory set up through tech I think it's by design. Brave New World comes to mind
15 Hinge dates in 1 year? I just redownload the app 15 times a year gawdamn
omg yes redownloads = date
@@Anniee 😮 wait maybe my app is bugged, let me try again
im in love with your voice, you sound so calming and wise, it’s like having the older sister i never got 🤍
Girl you're smart about saying to have plans after! I will for sure use that tip!
Randomly came across this in my recommended and as a man this is also very applicable (minus a few), great vid!
Wow i had to follow up because i just got to your point about “if it wasnt hard, everyone would be in a relationship and it wouldnt be special” and man that changed my whole perspective. Never settle ladies and gents!
I loved all your tips! So true about the fish in a sea comment 😅
rip (':
I guess you could call this unHINGEd (thank you sorry)
@16:37, there's more fish in the sea. @17:09 but it's not a sea, it's a pool.... so which is it?
pool:)
Interesting points, I'd never thought about the whole, getting sucked into a 2-hour marathon date when you already know it's a "no", do you think you would have been receptive to meeting someone for five minutes in the course of your normal day-to-day to see if you actually were interested in the person enough to go on a proper date with them?
yes!!
Loved to hear this from a girls perspective. Gives me hope!
15 dates in 1 year for her, maybe 1 date in 15 years for me. Girls don’t know how hard it is for guys.
And? Men always had to fight for women's attention unless connected or in the upper classes. Business arrangements. So many never bred or married in the past. They frequented brothels.
12:59 i don't really get this at all and im genuinely curious. What's even the point of getting on a dating app with no intention to... date? lol
People use it sometimes cause they’re bored or want an ego boost or just want someone to talk to😂
Women do that, 95% of men CANT do that.
Can women start being honest about this?
Most men I know, and they have had the apps on and off for years, havent even got 15 matches in that entire time frame, let alone 15 dates in one year.
I mean come on...
There are more men on these sites. Do the math... scarcity.. Also what are their profiles like? And a huge percentage just want sex with zero investment or commitment. Its akin to browsing a menu. Men should get off the asses and talk to women or be more social.
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This girl needs to be prepared to be single or have to end up settling (which I feel sorry for the guy she settles for).
@@charlestan7903 speaking facts
were most of your dates yt? asian? what ethnicity?
mixed!
You already know the answer lol
lady i swipe on anyone and i dont get any back. if i matched with someone like u that wud be lit. im not a bad looking guy i would say. no prince charming eitherxd. so got any tips about what to say to a girl
i would say that girls (at least the ones you would actually want to date) get really impressed with kindness. be respectful and nice, ask her questions about her life and personality as long as you're not invasive. this is important because even though women are known as blabbers, we actually deal with a lot of men who only talk about themselves on first dates, and let me tell you this is one of the most off-putting things. throw a light joke here and there until you get to know her and find out what humor she's comfortable with (some girls are unhinged and so funny and chaotic, others are more sensitive, have a hard time figuring out what's a joke and what isn't and might get easily insulted). ususally if the girl is kind herself she would appreciate it if you acted this way with her, and if she isn't you don't really want to have anything to do with her anyway. i love my girls but some of them aren't very mature and can be rude or superficial. (also proper grammar and spelling go a long way lol)
@@bonkadoom i appreciate the reply. sounds fair but i cant showcase these qualities if they wont even match with meXD
Therin lies the PROBLEM!! You are aimlessly swiping on pictures that you don't even remember within a few seconds. How is that intentional or proactive?.
@@jessicahitchens6926 Playing the numbers game and still failing. To an app even if i go for quality it only reduces my chances for matching with anyone