There’s a female from my church that absolutely blew me away. I thought she was literally an Angel. I barely started going to that church because I was feeling broken, and they invited me to the young adults fellowship. I attended, and when it came time where people were able to socialize, I put myself in the corner of the chapel sitting alone and this beautiful woman approached me and talked to me. I instantly felt my spirits lifted, because I felt the spirit in her. I told her literally that I didn’t think that she was real, no way she is talking to me right now because I never heard of someone in my age group speak so powerfully and personal about God the way she did, because I was only used to other people who weren’t close to God. She was amused by my comment and we went on to have an amazing conversation. She’ll come speak to me every week on her own and we have a blast chatting it up. I want to ask her out for coffee some time. I truly feel in my heart that she’d make a great companion/spouse. I pray that God may guide me. I would appreciate prayers from others as well 😁
And ladies - if you're turning someone down, be honest (but kind!). If you say "I'm really busy right now" when you really mean "No", some of us guys will take that at face value and ask again a few weeks later to see if you're less busy!
Well, that's the girl not wanting to flat out reject him, so she's trying to give a hint to let him save face. Also, she needs a man who can interpret and read between the lines, which as your comment demonstrates is what most guys don't have the ability to do. :D
@@Ratchet2022the Lord is direct and blunt. He is not Allah who is the greatest deceiver. Do you think God would appreciate you lying to a man to be ‘nice’? Are we supposed to be ‘nice’ to non believers by not hurting their feelings by NOT sharing the Gospel with them? Regardless of intentions, lying and deceit is sinful.
When a girl says no to me, I lose all hope and stop pursuing her. Assuming she's playing hard to get can waste a lot of time. I never asked twice , once you say no that's it for me keep that same energy rejections sucks
Thank you so much, so fruitful, practical, and genuine. I have listened to a lot of content on this subject, and I must admit, you gave the most convenient and biblical answers.
Yeah, literally!!! I DEFINITELY want to be friends first, because it comes off as creepy if you just get the number. I NEVER give my number to a guy that I don't know very well...
I always observe her every Sunday and every youth fellowship and have small conversation about dance practice. The funny thing is that during our youth fellowship, she thought my name is Wendel and everybody laughs and after that event, all of my fellow churchmates calls me Wendel instead of Wayne lmao. I like her but I need to strengthen my faith and relationship with God.
I was a bridesmaids and he was the groomsmen at his brothers wedding.First time we met the groomsmen they took out alcohol and a hookah despite being Christian men in the same church (we were practicing the bridal step).I have never given a man my number they usually obtain them through these ‘Group chats’ he texted me 2 days after the wedding. I guess he observed me well enough to know that I don’t like being touched that’s why when taking photos asked if “ I don’t know if I am allowed to touch you” then when texting he said, “ I don’t know if I am allowed to text you but if you don’t want to keep contact I will understand” he suggested a movie to me before asking the others.Basically I am not interested handsome young man, but no. I use to be awkward around mean, could not hold a conversation, if they were shirtless I would blush or cover my eyes like a dork. I am a 21 year old Virgin Christian women was approached by 2 suitors at 18 years when I literally finished grade 12 at church.Went through a mental breakdown.Personally I am not looking for anything.But now I don’t know what to do with the guy texting me because I don’t want to appear rude.
I understand, I don’t know why he would smoke hookah his probably a Luke harm Christian. But he also found like a respectful man just keep observing him for a good while. There’s many way you can find out if a person is a real Christian vs a fake one, Jesus said you will know them by there fruit. So what you have to do is test him and observed him and listen to his response. May God continue to bless you
I wouldn’t recommend that, your marriage will have a lot of problems if you go through with it. You two have different set of beliefs, what happens when you guys have children? It would be a disaster. As a man you would want your wife to be by your side when you go to mosque, and she would want you to go to church with her, and that would cause problems. You don want to do this to yourself my friend.
Just politely tell him you want him not to text you, that you are not interested in a relationship at this time, and you would prefer if he didn't contact you any further. He'll get the point.
@aguyonthenet9061 basically she'd have to convert to Islam, or you convert to Christianity (O^O) I've seen it happen But if you wanna go for it, just go start dating, then go for the relationship, dont just be a good choice also be a good person (put religion aside). If something good comes out of it, then get to the serious bit and have that conversation about marriage. If not then at least you tried
There’s the drummer at my church he always smiles at me and approaches me says how are you and gives a tight hug. Always staring at me. I don’t know if he’s just being nice or wants more but he does make me nervous (in a happy way) He hasn’t asked for my number yet and idk what’s taking him long 😣😣 I’m going to ask for his number before the year is over. At least I will know where we stand 😫😫 idk
He probably afraid to ask you out!! He scared you probably will reject him, show him your interested in him not in a desperate way, that will turn a man off.. don’t worry you’ll be ok by God Grace
@@NessaPaulI definitely smile back at him. I tried making small talk One time and asked what happened that he wasn’t here one Sunday and he was fumbling over his words. I guess he got caught off guard. My sister even tells me I need to do something but she doesn’t go to the same church as me. So it’s up to me and I’m a shy person 😫😫 I’ll keep you updated on how it goes 😊😊 It’s the little things I notice. Like he will wait in his car if we don’t leave at the same time until I leave the church to say bye to me, a second time. He’s walked me to my car a couple times.
Aiight no problem keep me updated.. like I said before show that you interested, you can even give him your number and he’ll do the rest.. Let him be the man and initiate everything else
@@natalierene1 ...watch out though. You as the woman got to test him real good to make sure he's not flakey. Some men like a woman by sight and even conversation, but they still have reservations from personal convictions for completely other reasons, like maybe he's still trying to get over a past relationship, so he's not ready to commit yet, and in that case, you wouldn't want a man who might flake on you... speaking from my own experience just now. It's been difficult to move on from a past relationship for me, and it's hindered my pursuit of another woman--I realized I need to man up, take control of my life, and just go for what I want because... my previous partner is deceived and not repenting, and I have to trust in God that it's not God's will... but yet I feel so sad that I can't just sit and pray and wait for her to repent because I know God can do anything, so I feel like I am betraying her, but the relationship started for wrong reasons (as usual for me). So, this is just my personal example. It's not your fault. Trust me. Men need to get over their previous attachments, but this is one reason why a woman, as I realized, will test a man. She wants to see if he will really commit to her. She doesn't want to be hurt in the long run.
*Great advice for staying respectful and genuine when approaching someone in a sacred space like church. Building a connection based on shared faith and values is so important!*
The one thing that i always struggle with is feeling its okay to chat with a girl without telling her my motives. Like being fri nds to start when i desire marraige someday then it feels like i am misleading or using women just to see what they are like.
As for me, I just have a strong conviction that I marry a lady who is a pastor. The conviction is stired up in my heart. I even take time to study to try to understand their lifestyle. I am just a regular christian no connection even to such people but the burning desire is too much.
@@traviswilson9925 Thank you brother, I have just gone through the scriptures and I have been enlightened, another thing I have realised that despite the fact that I have been reading the Bible before, now days when I go through the scriptures it's like am reading something totally new and I get a deeper revelation about the word than before. I really want to understand what has happened in me that things have become like this.
@@Andicala No problem brother....that's the amazing thing about the Bible. The Lord is able to speak through the Bible to give us a deeper revelation as we grow in our walk with Him, which is so amazing. Continue to stay in your Word. Be encouraged bro.
Ive gave up on asking women or trying to date. Its so much easier for woman because they'll always have options. For men you have to be a certain height, look a certain way, etc etc. Ive been turned down so many times I dont even care to approach women anymore because they have to many expectations. It just takes to much energy and time wasted
@JC-gp8ys Thanks for your concern but I get sick of hearing that as well. I've been single for 7 years. I have been past the point of giving up. I'm ok being alone. I'm over trying to gain a woman's approval
@thablackkat9905 I agree 100% these women in America are on some other kinda crazy. Including the women in the church. Example this video here. Talking about don't ask women out in church if you get turned down by the first one because you don't want to be the loser of the church. I'm sure the chick in this video and her gfs wouldn't be saying the same thing. More like girl your a queen don't settle for nothing less than a king get you whoever you want and don't settle for less, but us guys were losers if we try to find someone we want if for whatever reason the first woman turns us down. Bunch of BS
@thablackkat9905 I have a passport but I don't feel comfortable traveling alone and don't have anyone I can travel with. To many risks involved going to another country with nobody to have your back. I'm just screwed tbh
So the only tip here is "observe"... well, In big churches with many services or in conferences chances are you won't see that girl again so you must take action, go and start a conversation! you can "observe" while you're talking and see if you're compatible or not, you don't really have to tell her you like her, guess what, she already knows that. So don't be intense but also don't "observe" during years without taking action, and never ever listen to what girls advise, they don't really know what they want
Great content. Try making your videos to under 5minutes. Shirt, sharp and to the point. The longer the video, viewers are easily distracted. Also, your voice sort of echoes and it's unclear. Try perhaps getting mics for clearer audio. :)
This girl is visibly shy with leg shaking and even covering her face and doesn't talk much to me but holds direct eye contact to the point her eyes just lock with mine when I do get a chance to talk to her; I don't have a frame of reference for how she holds eye contact with others I guess. I asked her dad if I can ask her out on a date, and he said I have to ask her (so, at least, he didn't say I couldn't) and he said to ask when I feel lead. ...I've been too nervous to talk to her much. Well, in the past, she's visibly run away from me, too, so I backed off then, but it was only recently she seemed to want to join in a conversation with me, so, I took that as that she at least stopped feeling pressure from me. It's been half a year since I've attended her church (I'm a member there.). Should I try to talk to her more to get any real conversation going before I ask her out on a date or ask her out on a date nonchalantly to get that conversation going? I know it's a huge risk, and I'm weighing if she's the one I should really pursue. I do love talking to her dad and miss family, since I don't have much left or not a great connection with them (mom passed; dad is just getting older, you know. He retired.), so that is a motivator that I do enjoy talking to her dad and also mom. ...I did think one avenue to win her heart was through her parents. Perhaps if she sees her dad likes me, that will make her more open to talking to me. I've shown up to a lot of the various church meetings. She knows I came to her church because she's there because actually I met her at a coffee shop before I actually went to her church. Lol. But I'm not a creepy guy that is desperate like I'm not going to back off (as I did) if she rejects me. It's just I can't tell if her shyness might be because she likes me back or I make her anxious because when you know you're liked, it makes you feel like an object, which isn't a good feeling, if the one liking you is doing it for themselves. I cooked for them once, too, brought various supplies to church that had been needed, so I show I am sacrificing my time and resources for the church; I've made connections with the church other than just her parents. I enjoyed chatting with her mom too. Last thing I meant to mention was I have observed the girl "mirror" me in just subtle ways, like through speech, like if I had said one certain thing, she will say that one certain thing after, like she's very aware of my presence... I figured if I so creeped her out, she would hate to repeat what I just said, and the pastor would have told me to back off by now and the father would have just told me she doesn't like me already. Lol. I just want to know if her shyness is because she likes me back or if I simply need to work on talking to her more before I try asking her out on a date... orrr, I'll simply try having a real conversation with her the next chance I get (she gives me a chance right after the service because she'll often sit alone, on the other side from where her parents sit, because she sings at the beginning, so it's easier for her to sit there). Again, only recently did I pick up the pursuit again when she seemed to want to talk to me and some other little signs like she wasn't deathly scared of me. Lol. And since I have her father's permission to simply ask her out on a date (not expecting anything more; it's her right if she rejects me, and I know not to assume like a naive guy that if she accepts one date then that means "Oh, we're 'together' now.); I figured, also, maybe she wanted to talk to me because she felt guilty that she visibly ran from me before. Who knows. ---I'll try having a real conversation with her now that I simply have her father's approval, and I'll be more willing to really talk to her, as before I was trepid of what her father and pastor thinks, me coming up in their church talking to this girl, so I was really hesitant. Whether I should or shouldn't be I don't know. As you guys alluded to, talking to a girl in church isn't like picking up a girl in the street. You have all her family and friends and overseers around. It's much more of a safe environment for her, while for the guy, it's ten or a hundred times harder to talk to her. Again, I was able to cold approach her at the coffee shop when I did first meet her (Lol), but definitely not so easily in church! Because of course I was trepidatious over being reprimanded... but as it stands right now, her father knows my intentions and hasn't told me to back off yet, and otherwise I'll just continue trying to talk to her 'when I can,' but trust me, I don't beeline it for her every opportunity I see her or anything (and again, I showed or at least feigned indifference many times). Finally, I watched this video when I first started going to her church and just again now, and it's been very helpful! Thank you!
P.S. Yes, I've decided. I'll simply try to have a conversation but ask her on a date to continue the conversation before I leave... if I can get over my nerves to even have much of a conversation. It's like I have to plan exactly what I want to talk about or I won't be able to speak off-the-cuff. Like, in one sense, it's not that bad--if I put pressure on myself to ask her out it 'is.' But if I just challenge myself to try to talk to her and see how she responds first, I don't have that extra pressure and I should be able to talk more easily. But then, toward the end, I'll be able to gauge and do a last minute, "And oh, by the way, I'll have to go now, but I'd like to continue talking if you are willing. Would you like to meet at this or that place?" And if she's says, "Sorry, I don't want to," then I just smile and say, "No worries! Maybe another time. See ya" and do my awkward hand wave as I walk off. LOL
Women should approach men i think that works for borh sides And what your supposed to do if you get rejected by one girl in the church obviously you have to talk to someone else or how you going to find someone to be with
Perhaps talk to them and get to know them especially their beliefs. I'm going to try myself. Tell her God loves her and she's beautiful and that she should use her beauty for God's glory and that she's the only one for you and that you would sacrifice your life for her. Pray for God to do his will in your life.Most importantly if you have the gift of marriage you'll find her anyways God-willing. Just cling to the bible, learn from the old testament and obey the new testament! HALLELUYAH!
what if alot of guys talk to her and so that turns you off as a man and you want to approach another person who's attractive but doesn't get a whole lot attention? Is it ok to approach a different women?
Yeah, but if you go after one girl and she says no; you’re just supposed to be like, “I’m not going after anyone else anymore bc I don’t want to approach multiple women??
I need help! Been going to church since April met a girl on bible study, we done the small talk, then we all got put on a WhatsApp group, I private messaged her and said I hope you don't mind, we have been chatting, talking in church, we met up outside of church for a coffee, I don't want to end up friend zoned. Do I tell her I fancy her or will I mess it all up!
Perhaps talk to them and get to know them especially their beliefs. I'm going to try myself. Tell her God loves her and she's beautiful and that she should use her beauty for God's glory and that she's the only one for you and that you would sacrifice your life for her. Pray for God to do his will in your life.
Most importantly if you have the gift of marriage you'll find her anyways God-willing. Just cling to the bible, learn from the old testament and obey the new testament! HALLELUYAH!
Pls make your content under 5 mins. Long videos don’t attract viewers and just annoys them. If it’s 5 mins under its easy for us to get the point and movwon
For such a lengthy topic as this, I wonder what you expect them to explain in just fiveeeee minutes?! I appreciate your content @NessaandPaul. Great job!❤️
Damn this one is hard because I have seen a beautiful girl at church man and something In me is prompting me to get her number to get to know her better but I just don’t want I operate out of the spirt of lust .. but I just don’t know why I am having these feelings towards her like this like really strong feelings like I want to marry this person , we speak here and there but I wanna get to know her more man but I just don’t want it be the spirit of lust I want it to be ordained by God.
Have you ever wondered who was it that was prompting you to do these things? Ask God and pray, perhaps it's the Holy Spirit within you giving you these emotions
This is so cringe. People wanting to hook up but you have to get married first but you don't want to talk to each other because you might get turned on and you're afraid of temptation. So if someone turns you on you just reject it automatically because you think you're being tempted ,so you gonna marry someone who you aren't attracted to? You can't expect women to approach you, but if the women in the environment all think that any attractive behavior is "playboy" behavior then of course your only going to meet dorks.
Idk how to respond to your comment because idk exactly what you asking. But you shouldn’t marry someone you aren’t attracted to that would be stupid to do and the marriage will likely fail.
@@NessaPaul sorry for being vague. What I'm saying is: most of the guys I know (I can't really speak for the girls) will see a woman they are attracted to and then panic and never talk to her and because they interpret being attracted to someone as being tempted by lust and so just never talk to women and as a result get all creepy about it
Thank you for clarifying.. i dont think they get panic because it’s lustful, I’m speaking as man so I know, the reason they get panic is because they are afraid of getting rejected.
So my advice would be if a female notice a guy she like and his a bit afraid of talking to her because of rejection she could make a bit easy for him to approach her.
I saw a sister some time ago at a conference where I suddenly interested. the pity is that she is in a church in another city where i only go when there is a church activity i pray for this every day unfortunately i haven't really had a good conversation with her yet because im like to take it easy and want to observe the situation. how can i handle this situation because she is in a church in another city and we usually visit this church every 4/5 months what is your advice?
Our advice is the next time you visit the church, muster up the courage to have a decent conversation with her and ask her for her contact info.. the worse she can say is NO and if she does move on and pray to your Heavenly Father to point you to the right person for you.. don’t worry what’s for you will not escape you!!
Don't. You aren't there for that. If you are spending a lot of time outside church with her such as youth groups or just get togethers among members of the church then that's when you approach her. Frankly I'm not sure men should be the ones doing the approaching since Paul said young men should not seek a wife.
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There’s a female from my church that absolutely blew me away. I thought she was literally an Angel. I barely started going to that church because I was feeling broken, and they invited me to the young adults fellowship. I attended, and when it came time where people were able to socialize, I put myself in the corner of the chapel sitting alone and this beautiful woman approached me and talked to me. I instantly felt my spirits lifted, because I felt the spirit in her. I told her literally that I didn’t think that she was real, no way she is talking to me right now because I never heard of someone in my age group speak so powerfully and personal about God the way she did, because I was only used to other people who weren’t close to God. She was amused by my comment and we went on to have an amazing conversation. She’ll come speak to me every week on her own and we have a blast chatting it up.
I want to ask her out for coffee some time. I truly feel in my heart that she’d make a great companion/spouse.
I pray that God may guide me. I would appreciate prayers from others as well 😁
Thank you for sharing! I hope good updates came out of these interactions
Have you made a move yet?
And ladies - if you're turning someone down, be honest (but kind!). If you say "I'm really busy right now" when you really mean "No", some of us guys will take that at face value and ask again a few weeks later to see if you're less busy!
Well, that's the girl not wanting to flat out reject him, so she's trying to give a hint to let him save face. Also, she needs a man who can interpret and read between the lines, which as your comment demonstrates is what most guys don't have the ability to do. :D
@@Ratchet2022the Lord is direct and blunt. He is not Allah who is the greatest deceiver. Do you think God would appreciate you lying to a man to be ‘nice’? Are we supposed to be ‘nice’ to non believers by not hurting their feelings by NOT sharing the Gospel with them? Regardless of intentions, lying and deceit is sinful.
Thank you @@v3nomxxx961
When a girl says no to me, I lose all hope and stop pursuing her. Assuming she's playing hard to get can waste a lot of time. I never asked twice , once you say no that's it for me keep that same energy rejections sucks
Same it's like why waste my time if your not interested
Thank you so much, so fruitful, practical, and genuine. I have listened to a lot of content on this subject, and I must admit, you gave the most convenient and biblical answers.
Amen praise God!!
Yeah, literally!!! I DEFINITELY want to be friends first, because it comes off as creepy if you just get the number. I NEVER give my number to a guy that I don't know very well...
That's tough cause if ya put us in the friendzone it's hard to get out...
Cant wait to come here when im in college, currently 18 and in high school now 🔥
I always observe her every Sunday and every youth fellowship and have small conversation about dance practice. The funny thing is that during our youth fellowship, she thought my name is Wendel and everybody laughs and after that event, all of my fellow churchmates calls me Wendel instead of Wayne lmao.
I like her but I need to strengthen my faith and relationship with God.
I was a bridesmaids and he was the groomsmen at his brothers wedding.First time we met the groomsmen they took out alcohol and a hookah despite being Christian men in the same church (we were practicing the bridal step).I have never given a man my number they usually obtain them through these ‘Group chats’ he texted me 2 days after the wedding. I guess he observed me well enough to know that I don’t like being touched that’s why when taking photos asked if “ I don’t know if I am allowed to touch you” then when texting he said, “ I don’t know if I am allowed to text you but if you don’t want to keep contact I will understand” he suggested a movie to me before asking the others.Basically I am not interested handsome young man, but no. I use to be awkward around mean, could not hold a conversation, if they were shirtless I would blush or cover my eyes like a dork. I am a 21 year old Virgin Christian women was approached by 2 suitors at 18 years when I literally finished grade 12 at church.Went through a mental breakdown.Personally I am not looking for anything.But now I don’t know what to do with the guy texting me because I don’t want to appear rude.
I understand, I don’t know why he would smoke hookah his probably a Luke harm Christian. But he also found like a respectful man just keep observing him for a good while. There’s many way you can find out if a person is a real Christian vs a fake one, Jesus said you will know them by there fruit. So what you have to do is test him and observed him and listen to his response. May God continue to bless you
@@NessaPaul As a Muslim man how can I marry a practicing Christian woman? Would you advise me ?
I wouldn’t recommend that, your marriage will have a lot of problems if you go through with it. You two have different set of beliefs, what happens when you guys have children? It would be a disaster. As a man you would want your wife to be by your side when you go to mosque, and she would want you to go to church with her, and that would cause problems. You don want to do this to yourself my friend.
Just politely tell him you want him not to text you, that you are not interested in a relationship at this time, and you would prefer if he didn't contact you any further. He'll get the point.
@aguyonthenet9061 basically she'd have to convert to Islam, or you convert to Christianity (O^O)
I've seen it happen
But if you wanna go for it, just go start dating, then go for the relationship, dont just be a good choice also be a good person (put religion aside).
If something good comes out of it, then get to the serious bit and have that conversation about marriage. If not then at least you tried
There’s the drummer at my church he always smiles at me and approaches me says how are you and gives a tight hug. Always staring at me.
I don’t know if he’s just being nice or wants more but he does make me nervous (in a happy way)
He hasn’t asked for my number yet and idk what’s taking him long 😣😣
I’m going to ask for his number before the year is over. At least I will know where we stand 😫😫 idk
He probably afraid to ask you out!! He scared you probably will reject him, show him your interested in him not in a desperate way, that will turn a man off.. don’t worry you’ll be ok by God Grace
@@NessaPaulI definitely smile back at him. I tried making small talk
One time and asked what happened that he wasn’t here one Sunday and he was fumbling over his words. I guess he got caught off guard. My sister even tells me I need to do something but she doesn’t go to the same church as me. So it’s up to me and I’m a shy person 😫😫
I’ll keep you updated on how it goes 😊😊
It’s the little things I notice. Like he will wait in his car if we don’t leave at the same time until I leave the church to say bye to me, a second time. He’s walked me to my car a couple times.
Aiight no problem keep me updated.. like I said before show that you interested, you can even give him your number and he’ll do the rest.. Let him be the man and initiate everything else
@@NessaPaul yeah! That’s what I was going to do, give him my number 😁😁 and see what he does after. Thank you for responding 🤗
@@natalierene1 ...watch out though. You as the woman got to test him real good to make sure he's not flakey. Some men like a woman by sight and even conversation, but they still have reservations from personal convictions for completely other reasons, like maybe he's still trying to get over a past relationship, so he's not ready to commit yet, and in that case, you wouldn't want a man who might flake on you... speaking from my own experience just now. It's been difficult to move on from a past relationship for me, and it's hindered my pursuit of another woman--I realized I need to man up, take control of my life, and just go for what I want because... my previous partner is deceived and not repenting, and I have to trust in God that it's not God's will... but yet I feel so sad that I can't just sit and pray and wait for her to repent because I know God can do anything, so I feel like I am betraying her, but the relationship started for wrong reasons (as usual for me). So, this is just my personal example. It's not your fault. Trust me. Men need to get over their previous attachments, but this is one reason why a woman, as I realized, will test a man. She wants to see if he will really commit to her. She doesn't want to be hurt in the long run.
*Great advice for staying respectful and genuine when approaching someone in a sacred space like church. Building a connection based on shared faith and values is so important!*
This video was very helpfull thanks bro
The one thing that i always struggle with is feeling its okay to chat with a girl without telling her my motives. Like being fri nds to start when i desire marraige someday then it feels like i am misleading or using women just to see what they are like.
Just ask if you can get to know her and if she says yes then she has those intentions. Unfortunately if she says no then she does not want to her you.
As for me, I just have a strong conviction that I marry a lady who is a pastor. The conviction is stired up in my heart. I even take time to study to try to understand their lifestyle. I am just a regular christian no connection even to such people but the burning desire is too much.
Hey brother, if you can, please check these scriptures out when you can.
1 Timothy 2:11-14
1 Timothy 3
Titus 1:5-9
God Bless you
@@traviswilson9925 Thank you brother, I have just gone through the scriptures and I have been enlightened, another thing I have realised that despite the fact that I have been reading the Bible before, now days when I go through the scriptures it's like am reading something totally new and I get a deeper revelation about the word than before. I really want to understand what has happened in me that things have become like this.
@@Andicala No problem brother....that's the amazing thing about the Bible. The Lord is able to speak through the Bible to give us a deeper revelation as we grow in our walk with Him, which is so amazing. Continue to stay in your Word. Be encouraged bro.
@@traviswilson9925 Amen
@@traviswilson9925That was a textbook way to show somebody a correct scriptural view in complete love and such a humble response on his part lol.
Pray about it though remember Men, no from a woman means NO, there’s no playing hard to get, no means NO!
I've seen women say no but mean yes and say yes but mean no your dynamics are hard to understand
Ive gave up on asking women or trying to date. Its so much easier for woman because they'll always have options. For men you have to be a certain height, look a certain way, etc etc. Ive been turned down so many times I dont even care to approach women anymore because they have to many expectations. It just takes to much energy and time wasted
Don’t give up bro the perfect woman will choose you one day 🙌
@JC-gp8ys
Thanks for your concern but I get sick of hearing that as well. I've been single for 7 years. I have been past the point of giving up. I'm ok being alone. I'm over trying to gain a woman's approval
@justingraham9417 it's about you get a passport, brother! 💯💯💯
@thablackkat9905
I agree 100% these women in America are on some other kinda crazy. Including the women in the church. Example this video here. Talking about don't ask women out in church if you get turned down by the first one because you don't want to be the loser of the church. I'm sure the chick in this video and her gfs wouldn't be saying the same thing. More like girl your a queen don't settle for nothing less than a king get you whoever you want and don't settle for less, but us guys were losers if we try to find someone we want if for whatever reason the first woman turns us down. Bunch of BS
@thablackkat9905
I have a passport but I don't feel comfortable traveling alone and don't have anyone I can travel with. To many risks involved going to another country with nobody to have your back. I'm just screwed tbh
So the only tip here is "observe"... well, In big churches with many services or in conferences chances are you won't see that girl again so you must take action, go and start a conversation! you can "observe" while you're talking and see if you're compatible or not, you don't really have to tell her you like her, guess what, she already knows that. So don't be intense but also don't "observe" during years without taking action, and never ever listen to what girls advise, they don't really know what they want
No the only tip is not just observe..
I’m finding it hard to make small talk because they’re always with their family. Any advice?
Great content. Try making your videos to under 5minutes. Shirt, sharp and to the point. The longer the video, viewers are easily distracted. Also, your voice sort of echoes and it's unclear. Try perhaps getting mics for clearer audio. :)
Will do thank you so much!!!
@@NessaPaul I like the format of this video just fine though, myself.
This girl is visibly shy with leg shaking and even covering her face and doesn't talk much to me but holds direct eye contact to the point her eyes just lock with mine when I do get a chance to talk to her; I don't have a frame of reference for how she holds eye contact with others I guess. I asked her dad if I can ask her out on a date, and he said I have to ask her (so, at least, he didn't say I couldn't) and he said to ask when I feel lead. ...I've been too nervous to talk to her much. Well, in the past, she's visibly run away from me, too, so I backed off then, but it was only recently she seemed to want to join in a conversation with me, so, I took that as that she at least stopped feeling pressure from me. It's been half a year since I've attended her church (I'm a member there.). Should I try to talk to her more to get any real conversation going before I ask her out on a date or ask her out on a date nonchalantly to get that conversation going? I know it's a huge risk, and I'm weighing if she's the one I should really pursue. I do love talking to her dad and miss family, since I don't have much left or not a great connection with them (mom passed; dad is just getting older, you know. He retired.), so that is a motivator that I do enjoy talking to her dad and also mom. ...I did think one avenue to win her heart was through her parents. Perhaps if she sees her dad likes me, that will make her more open to talking to me. I've shown up to a lot of the various church meetings. She knows I came to her church because she's there because actually I met her at a coffee shop before I actually went to her church. Lol. But I'm not a creepy guy that is desperate like I'm not going to back off (as I did) if she rejects me. It's just I can't tell if her shyness might be because she likes me back or I make her anxious because when you know you're liked, it makes you feel like an object, which isn't a good feeling, if the one liking you is doing it for themselves. I cooked for them once, too, brought various supplies to church that had been needed, so I show I am sacrificing my time and resources for the church; I've made connections with the church other than just her parents. I enjoyed chatting with her mom too. Last thing I meant to mention was I have observed the girl "mirror" me in just subtle ways, like through speech, like if I had said one certain thing, she will say that one certain thing after, like she's very aware of my presence... I figured if I so creeped her out, she would hate to repeat what I just said, and the pastor would have told me to back off by now and the father would have just told me she doesn't like me already. Lol. I just want to know if her shyness is because she likes me back or if I simply need to work on talking to her more before I try asking her out on a date... orrr, I'll simply try having a real conversation with her the next chance I get (she gives me a chance right after the service because she'll often sit alone, on the other side from where her parents sit, because she sings at the beginning, so it's easier for her to sit there). Again, only recently did I pick up the pursuit again when she seemed to want to talk to me and some other little signs like she wasn't deathly scared of me. Lol. And since I have her father's permission to simply ask her out on a date (not expecting anything more; it's her right if she rejects me, and I know not to assume like a naive guy that if she accepts one date then that means "Oh, we're 'together' now.); I figured, also, maybe she wanted to talk to me because she felt guilty that she visibly ran from me before. Who knows. ---I'll try having a real conversation with her now that I simply have her father's approval, and I'll be more willing to really talk to her, as before I was trepid of what her father and pastor thinks, me coming up in their church talking to this girl, so I was really hesitant. Whether I should or shouldn't be I don't know. As you guys alluded to, talking to a girl in church isn't like picking up a girl in the street. You have all her family and friends and overseers around. It's much more of a safe environment for her, while for the guy, it's ten or a hundred times harder to talk to her. Again, I was able to cold approach her at the coffee shop when I did first meet her (Lol), but definitely not so easily in church! Because of course I was trepidatious over being reprimanded... but as it stands right now, her father knows my intentions and hasn't told me to back off yet, and otherwise I'll just continue trying to talk to her 'when I can,' but trust me, I don't beeline it for her every opportunity I see her or anything (and again, I showed or at least feigned indifference many times). Finally, I watched this video when I first started going to her church and just again now, and it's been very helpful! Thank you!
P.S. Yes, I've decided. I'll simply try to have a conversation but ask her on a date to continue the conversation before I leave... if I can get over my nerves to even have much of a conversation. It's like I have to plan exactly what I want to talk about or I won't be able to speak off-the-cuff. Like, in one sense, it's not that bad--if I put pressure on myself to ask her out it 'is.' But if I just challenge myself to try to talk to her and see how she responds first, I don't have that extra pressure and I should be able to talk more easily. But then, toward the end, I'll be able to gauge and do a last minute, "And oh, by the way, I'll have to go now, but I'd like to continue talking if you are willing. Would you like to meet at this or that place?" And if she's says, "Sorry, I don't want to," then I just smile and say, "No worries! Maybe another time. See ya" and do my awkward hand wave as I walk off. LOL
@@Ratchet2022 Brother. Just go tell her and be straightforward. God be with you.
Women should approach men i think that works for borh sides
And what your supposed to do if you get rejected by one girl in the church obviously you have to talk to someone else or how you going to find someone to be with
If you cant be patient before marriage, you won't be patient in marriage.
I agree wholeheartedly
There's this girl I like but I have no idea how to approach or talk to her. Hope this works
Don’t worry bro, just built the courage and you’ll be fine.. remember she ain’t gonna kill ya, she can only say no
Perhaps talk to them and get to know them especially their beliefs. I'm going to try myself. Tell her God loves her and she's beautiful and that she should use her beauty for God's glory and that she's the only one for you and that you would sacrifice your life for her. Pray for God to do his will in your life.Most importantly if you have the gift of marriage you'll find her anyways God-willing. Just cling to the bible, learn from the old testament and obey the new testament! HALLELUYAH!
what if alot of guys talk to her and so that turns you off as a man and you want to approach another person who's attractive but doesn't get a whole lot attention? Is it ok to approach a different women?
I think it’s definitely okay to approach a different woman. As long as it’s done with respect and discipline.
@@NessaPaul Ok, the first women we don't even have a connection we've only made small talk once but I'm thinking about approaching another women
@@NessaPaul it's hard to tell if a women is being friendly or is interested in you if she talks to alot of guys
@@NessaPaul Can I ask her out or tell her that she's beautiful? Or do I just start small talk with her?
Yeah, but if you go after one girl and she says no; you’re just supposed to be like, “I’m not going after anyone else anymore bc I don’t want to approach multiple women??
I need help!
Been going to church since April met a girl on bible study, we done the small talk, then we all got put on a WhatsApp group, I private messaged her and said I hope you don't mind, we have been chatting, talking in church, we met up outside of church for a coffee,
I don't want to end up friend zoned.
Do I tell her I fancy her or will I mess it all up!
It's not easy like single guy like I get shy on women
I get it!! But you have to built that courage and overcome your fear
Stop being a bitch bro, girls are people too stop putting them above you. You gotta boss up on that bih you have to believe in yourself
Perhaps talk to them and get to know them especially their beliefs. I'm going to try myself. Tell her God loves her and she's beautiful and that she should use her beauty for God's glory and that she's the only one for you and that you would sacrifice your life for her. Pray for God to do his will in your life.
Most importantly if you have the gift of marriage you'll find her anyways God-willing. Just cling to the bible, learn from the old testament and obey the new testament! HALLELUYAH!
@@OragansKontsin_TheKretyen14looooool. This WILL FAIL
Good to know
Just say what's up bae u got your book? Can I look?
Pls make your content under 5 mins. Long videos don’t attract viewers and just annoys them. If it’s 5 mins under its easy for us to get the point and movwon
Thanks your your feedback
For such a lengthy topic as this, I wonder what you expect them to explain in just fiveeeee minutes?!
I appreciate your content @NessaandPaul. Great job!❤️
@@janekalu159 thank you so much!! God bless
There's this lady at church I already chat her,and I went straight to the point that I like her....Do I still have the chance to get her
Damn this one is hard because I have seen a beautiful girl at church man and something In me is prompting me to get her number to get to know her better but I just don’t want I operate out of the spirt of lust .. but I just don’t know why I am having these feelings towards her like this like really strong feelings like I want to marry this person , we speak here and there but I wanna get to know her more man but I just don’t want it be the spirit of lust I want it to be ordained by God.
Have you ever wondered who was it that was prompting you to do these things? Ask God and pray, perhaps it's the Holy Spirit within you giving you these emotions
Then it makes more sense for women to approach men… 8:15
Yeah it would make life easier but honestly all the women I’ve met that has said something first has been masculine.
8:55 you don’t want those women anyway. Gossip is a sin 🤷🏾♂️
This is so cringe. People wanting to hook up but you have to get married first but you don't want to talk to each other because you might get turned on and you're afraid of temptation. So if someone turns you on you just reject it automatically because you think you're being tempted ,so you gonna marry someone who you aren't attracted to? You can't expect women to approach you, but if the women in the environment all think that any attractive behavior is "playboy" behavior then of course your only going to meet dorks.
Idk how to respond to your comment because idk exactly what you asking. But you shouldn’t marry someone you aren’t attracted to that would be stupid to do and the marriage will likely fail.
@@NessaPaul sorry for being vague. What I'm saying is: most of the guys I know (I can't really speak for the girls) will see a woman they are attracted to and then panic and never talk to her and because they interpret being attracted to someone as being tempted by lust and so just never talk to women and as a result get all creepy about it
Thank you for clarifying.. i dont think they get panic because it’s lustful, I’m speaking as man so I know, the reason they get panic is because they are afraid of getting rejected.
So my advice would be if a female notice a guy she like and his a bit afraid of talking to her because of rejection she could make a bit easy for him to approach her.
I saw a sister some time ago at a conference where I suddenly interested. the pity is that she is in a church in another city where i only go when there is a church activity i pray for this every day unfortunately i haven't really had a good conversation with her yet because im like to take it easy and want to observe the situation. how can i handle this situation because she is in a church in another city and we usually visit this church every 4/5 months what is your advice?
Our advice is the next time you visit the church, muster up the courage to have a decent conversation with her and ask her for her contact info.. the worse she can say is NO and if she does move on and pray to your Heavenly Father to point you to the right person for you.. don’t worry what’s for you will not escape you!!
How did it go?
Don't. You aren't there for that. If you are spending a lot of time outside church with her such as youth groups or just get togethers among members of the church then that's when you approach her. Frankly I'm not sure men should be the ones doing the approaching since Paul said young men should not seek a wife.