I come from a country where paid maternity leave is 26 weeks & the majority of women take 12 months leave (because your employer is legally required to keep your job role open for that period of time). The concept of a highly paid surgeon being financially forced to work, after only 4 weeks, is unfathomable.
The good news is, her situation works out very well for her. She has a very supportive husband. If roles were reversed, no one would bat an eye if dad only took 4 weeks off.
@melz6019 - Dad's body isn't physically recovering from childbirth at 4 weeks post-partum. I acknowledge both parents are tired but the mother needs at least 6-8 weeks to heal.
I can't believe you only took that long. It's so unfair. I'm due on maternity leave and I am able to take six months paid leave with up to a year off from my job. I'm taking every week of it. You're amazing Dr Grunch.
I’m from Mexico, by law you get 3 paid months. They paid in advance and you receive a deposit equivalent to your 3 month salary. You can take your leave at 34 weeks or keep going until you are able to. I remember taking my leave until I was around 37 weeks. The company I worked for paid in full for my delivery in a private hospital and allowed me to work from home for 3 extra months after my 3 month leave. I was VERY lucky. My second one was born here in the US 😂😂😂 it was the most expensive thing I’ve ever had to pay and it’s insane it’s almost impossible to afford the prices hospitals charge for delivering.
My cousin had just about the most normal delivery ever and she was still making payments for the delivery after her daughter's 1st birthday. And she and her husband have decent insurance. US healthcare/insurance is a joke.
I actually took calls for work while I was in labor with my son and I didn't take more than a month with either. I couldn't afford 12 weeks unpaid either. My poor husband didn't even get a single day off with my oldest because she was born on a Friday night, he was expected back on Monday.
Kudos to you, sister! What incredible strength and fortitude you have shown! I had two children during my Family Practice Residency, my first at the end of internship, and my second during third year. I don’t recommend it, but like you said, there’s no perfect time to fit childbearing into medical training. And, like you, I feel incredibly fortunate to have had healthy pregnancies and healthy children! Some of my favorite memories are from doing my OB/GYN rotation while 8 months pregnant! Also, a month of nightfloat while 6months pregnant is a real accomplishment. Keep up the strong work! ✌🏻❤️💪🏻
I am so impressed with you and am an litteral Awweee. Its so motivating and beautiful to see another working woman be a momma, provider, and simply badass. Keep up being super women, us ladies are so proud ❤
You are an amazing woman!! All women should strive to be 1/2 as awesome as you are!! I'm not downing any woman out there!! I just believe you Dr. are the epitome of greatness!! You are just BAD ASS!!!!
@@DaveK.Robson HI 😁 Yes I had a great afternoon, thank you fore asking 🥰👍 Are you enjoying the summer..? It's a bit hot here, it's the humidity that is the worst fore me.. 😅 I wish you a wonderful day Big hugs from Denmark 🇩🇰💝
I have stayed home since my first was born and I am so grateful that my husband was able to do that for me. He has never made over 100k a year but we have never felt 'without'. Dr. G, you are strong in every way. I know emotionally, it is absolutely heart wrenching to leave your babies. Physically, I know those boobs were like bowling balls being separated so soon LOL! You are a wonderful mother and provider to your family! Super mom!
Dude. Very few women can say they have a phenomenal career and their kids are their lives. You got both. A little older in life but fuck.. it's the picket fence.
diagnosis. Cousin was a private scrub nurse for a thoracic surgeon during her pregnancies and her daughter kicked her so hard that she kicked a Hempstead out of her mother's hand during a surgery. Her father underwent a CABG procedure during her second pregnancy.. the dr was very understanding and they laughed about it later when I trained as a OR tech later on in that same hospital. I also observed my Uncle's surgeon in many CABG surgeries. Cardiothoacic was my favorite service. I did scrub on numerous laminectomies at the hospital.
If you lived in the UK and worked as a surgeon for the NHS you would be entitled to a year off. I can’t remember specifics but I think the first 6 months are full pay, the following three are statutory pay and then the rest is unpaid. This leave can be shared with a partner as well. Moving to the UK and ending up having both my children here (not really part of the plan!) was the best bit of luck. There is nowhere else in the world (except a couple of countries in Europe) that are this sensible. I had two beautiful children a decade ago and was able to take two full years off on maternity leave. Both they and I needed that time together.
Congratulations on the birth of your children. The older I get. The more I am liking other countries time off policies. Some countries have 4 weeks paid vacation. And additional time off for other situations. Also in most countries your workday stops at quitting time. Here in The US we work through lunch. Take work home. Work weekends and holidays. All for the same or at the best time and a half. Doctor I like the Hollywood Starlit glasses. They give off the Katharine Hepburn vibe.
It’s so unfair even healthcare professionals in America don’t get time to recoup properly or be with their newborns😢 in the uk maternity for healthcare workers are at least 9 months sometimes more if you’re high risk
Oh I feel for nee parents in the states... in 🇨🇦.. we have a year of paid leave available to parents. And it can be either parent and they can divide the time I believe..
Just because it's available doesn't mean most women can take that long. "Paid" means a percentage of your income and there is a cap. In my case the cap was about 30% of my income there was just no possible way we could go very long with my income so depleted. My son was born 8 weeks early, I stayed in the hospital with him for the 1st month that he had to stay in the NCIU, then I took 2 mos off after we came home and then had to return to work, which was absolutely one of the toughest things I've ever done. I travel for a living and was back to being gone for 2-3 nights every few weeks. In the end this strain and pressure on me mentally ended my career, I became emotionally drained and just could no longer work. So, while yes Canada does have what most see as awesome maternity leave (parental leave as the spouse /father can also take part of the leave) the reality is, most people can't afford to take the big cut in salary and can't take all of that time off.
This is heartbreaking I guess you need to have someone who can take care of them at home. In my country in europe, it is considered a poor country but they give mothers 2 years paid maternity leave. And the 2 years are not included in the prenatal leave that you can have 2 months earlier and the postnatal rest of 2 months. If you return to work earlier than 2 years then the gov will pay you extra money for it monthly till 2 years have been completed . ( You return after 1.6 years and they give you extra money for 6 months ) gov gives you vouchers when you have the baby that you can use to buy stuff you need. Its not a lot of money but the diapers and milk you can cover for some months. And also monthly child alimony that you get tilll child is 18.
Wow that’s so awesome that you were able to get out of those well. ❤😊 wished you coulda gotten paid leave or something for longer tho. Too bad your system(ameikan) for pregnant people sucks
In the UK women can take up a to year, it's not all paid but they do get some money for the first 9 months or so. On top of that, in the UK full time employees are entitled to 28 days of holiday/ vacation per year. Every company I've worked for pays for these days and legally women continue to "accrue" or earn these vacation days whilst they are on maternity leave. So they can take a bunch of paid holiday before their official maternity leave starts, or they can use these days at the end of their maternity leave if they want to spend some more time with their babies. Plus, you still get paid if you have any antenatal appointments on days when you would usually work.
Does anyone pay attention to?😂 she’s in private practice she works for herself not a company that decides medical leave. That’s why she took no pay.also makes me wonder how much she’s saving if she couldn’t afford more or if it was that it would’ve affected her entire clinic because she wasn’t doing surgeries and she needed to be working to keep her staff employed altogether . Either way CEOs aren’t in office all the time so maybe she could find some alternative cashflows so she doesn’t have to be the one performing solely. Or maybe other specialties like rehab
I don't like that you didn't get more time to be with those sweet smelling babies, but realistically they sleep and eat a lot at that stage anyway. As long as they have loving people surrounding them, that's all they needed. The flip side I feel is when YOU are the Team Captain and your team needs you, sometimes you have to make tough choices. I really hope that patients truly understand this. ❤❤❤
How awesome. So wait, does your husband not make enough to maintain the fam while you raise the children a little longer? I ask bc you made mention that it wasn’t financially feasible for you to stay out. Also, I always gape in wonder when a woman goes back. I’m five years out bc I’m scared to put any of my children in daycare. Ppl are nuts. My husband can maintain our fam. I think I’d scream if I had to go back bc of the pressure of having to work.
I don't know what her husband does for a living, but her being a successful surgeon, i would assume she makes the majority of the household income. They're monthly payments (student loans, mortgage, car loans, etc.) might be too high for him to take care of with just his income and have them keep the standard of life they are used to. Large salaries usually equate to large monthly payments.
I'm in Canada where we do have a very long maternity /paternity leave policy, it's actually 18 months now. The first 12 your employer and the Government co pay a percentage of your salary to you will you are off and the employer MUST hold your position for you so you can return to the same or equal position when you come back, your health benefits are also still in tact while on leave. Having said this like I mentioned it's only a percentage of your salary and there is a cap, I will use just some simple #'s to show how this does not work out well for people who have a fairly high income. If you are bringing home $600/ week and during your maternity you dip down to 400/ week you can likely manage by making financial adjustments to compensate for the loss in wages. If you make $1200/ week and you dip down to $400 week , well you likely can't close that gap for very long. We live to our income, usually. So, your bills equate to what you are normally bringing into the household. So, higher mortgage, higher car payments MUCH higher taxes, higher cost of living period. In my case the cap was 30% of my income, so I could only really reasonably afford 3 mos off, it was awful to have to return when my baby was still so little, he was born 8 weeks early and stayed in hospital his 1st month so I had 8 weeks at home with him before going back to work. While it's great that in Canada we have this system at all, what would be really great is if the scale slid with the income. Because I make more...I also pay massive amounts of taxes. Nothing in life is really free...that's the real truth. Our taxes are so much higher than the US and those taxes pay for health care and under health care falls maternity leave.
I come from a country where paid maternity leave is 26 weeks & the majority of women take 12 months leave (because your employer is legally required to keep your job role open for that period of time). The concept of a highly paid surgeon being financially forced to work, after only 4 weeks, is unfathomable.
The good news is, her situation works out very well for her. She has a very supportive husband. If roles were reversed, no one would bat an eye if dad only took 4 weeks off.
@melz6019 - Dad's body isn't physically recovering from childbirth at 4 weeks post-partum. I acknowledge both parents are tired but the mother needs at least 6-8 weeks to heal.
Yeah I guess that's why most health workers are leaving the nhs
I can't believe you only took that long. It's so unfair. I'm due on maternity leave and I am able to take six months paid leave with up to a year off from my job. I'm taking every week of it. You're amazing Dr Grunch.
That is amazing!!! Congratulations and I hope everything goes smoothly for you
This is New Zealand 😊
I’m from Mexico, by law you get 3 paid months. They paid in advance and you receive a deposit equivalent to your 3 month salary. You can take your leave at 34 weeks or keep going until you are able to. I remember taking my leave until I was around 37 weeks. The company I worked for paid in full for my delivery in a private hospital and allowed me to work from home for 3 extra months after my 3 month leave. I was VERY lucky.
My second one was born here in the US 😂😂😂 it was the most expensive thing I’ve ever had to pay and it’s insane it’s almost impossible to afford the prices hospitals charge for delivering.
My cousin had just about the most normal delivery ever and she was still making payments for the delivery after her daughter's 1st birthday. And she and her husband have decent insurance. US healthcare/insurance is a joke.
Ah Dr. Grunch you are so amazing. I’m sorry you’re maternity leave was so short ❤
I actually took calls for work while I was in labor with my son and I didn't take more than a month with either. I couldn't afford 12 weeks unpaid either. My poor husband didn't even get a single day off with my oldest because she was born on a Friday night, he was expected back on Monday.
Kudos to you, sister! What incredible strength and fortitude you have shown! I had two children during my Family Practice Residency, my first at the end of internship, and my second during third year. I don’t recommend it, but like you said, there’s no perfect time to fit childbearing into medical training. And, like you, I feel incredibly fortunate to have had healthy pregnancies and healthy children! Some of my favorite memories are from doing my OB/GYN rotation while 8 months pregnant! Also, a month of nightfloat while 6months pregnant is a real accomplishment. Keep up the strong work! ✌🏻❤️💪🏻
I am so impressed with you and am an litteral Awweee. Its so motivating and beautiful to see another working woman be a momma, provider, and simply badass. Keep up being super women, us ladies are so proud ❤
The fact that a literal SURGEON couldn’t afford to take longer for maternity leave explains how incredibly broken the system is in the US.
Let’s throw in the fact that she has her own practice which is a big part of it.
You have a beautiful family ❤❤❤❤
You have a beautiful family. ❤️
You are an amazing woman!! All women should strive to be 1/2 as awesome as you are!! I'm not downing any woman out there!! I just believe you Dr. are the epitome of greatness!! You are just BAD ASS!!!!
Here in Denmark we do have 6 month free with pay, the dad can also get some of the time free writh pay.
Big hugs from Denmark 🌹🥰
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HI 😁
Yes I had a great afternoon, thank you fore asking 🥰👍
Are you enjoying the summer..?
It's a bit hot here, it's the humidity that is the worst fore me.. 😅
I wish you a wonderful day
Big hugs from Denmark 🇩🇰💝
You’re family is lovely and I love your Vizslas too.
I have stayed home since my first was born and I am so grateful that my husband was able to do that for me. He has never made over 100k a year but we have never felt 'without'. Dr. G, you are strong in every way. I know emotionally, it is absolutely heart wrenching to leave your babies. Physically, I know those boobs were like bowling balls being separated so soon LOL! You are a wonderful mother and provider to your family! Super mom!
Thanks for sharing beautiful story.
Dude. Very few women can say they have a phenomenal career and their kids are their lives. You got both. A little older in life but fuck.. it's the picket fence.
34 is not older in life 😂😂😂😂this is not 1912 you don’t need to be conceiving at the age you get your period. Lord.
@@MrLakers92it is when it comes to pregnancy. 35 is considered geriatric pregnancy. You’re not old, don’t worry😂
Ur the best💪🏽🙏🏽🧘🏽♀️👑🔥💫❤🌺🌺🌺🌺Such an inspiration mama!!!
diagnosis. Cousin was a private scrub nurse for a thoracic surgeon during her pregnancies and her daughter kicked her so hard that she kicked a Hempstead out of her mother's hand during a surgery. Her father underwent a CABG procedure during her second pregnancy.. the dr was very understanding and they laughed about it later when I trained as a OR tech later on in that same hospital. I also observed my Uncle's surgeon in many CABG surgeries. Cardiothoacic was my favorite service. I did scrub on numerous laminectomies at the hospital.
If you lived in the UK and worked as a surgeon for the NHS you would be entitled to a year off. I can’t remember specifics but I think the first 6 months are full pay, the following three are statutory pay and then the rest is unpaid. This leave can be shared with a partner as well. Moving to the UK and ending up having both my children here (not really part of the plan!) was the best bit of luck. There is nowhere else in the world (except a couple of countries in Europe) that are this sensible. I had two beautiful children a decade ago and was able to take two full years off on maternity leave. Both they and I needed that time together.
I just miss you. I know I took too for to get back with me. So proud of your ability to accomplish anything❤😊
Everything about you is just soo bada** Dr G 😊❤
How was the first trimester??? Was morning sickness bad??
Congratulations on the birth of your children.
The older I get. The more I am liking other countries time off policies. Some countries have 4 weeks paid vacation. And additional time off for other situations. Also in most countries your workday stops at quitting time. Here in The US we work through lunch. Take work home. Work weekends and holidays. All for the same or at the best time and a half.
Doctor I like the Hollywood Starlit glasses. They give off the Katharine Hepburn vibe.
What would've happened if you'd gone into labor in the middle of a surgery? Not trying to sound snarky/shame-y; I'm genuinely curious.
You rock
How did you handle the radiation part of the surgery, especially in those earliest weeks of pregnancy? 💕
Yeah even I'm curious
Other countries really need to step up and support its women!!
It’s so unfair even healthcare professionals in America don’t get time to recoup properly or be with their newborns😢 in the uk maternity for healthcare workers are at least 9 months sometimes more if you’re high risk
Oh I feel for nee parents in the states... in 🇨🇦.. we have a year of paid leave available to parents. And it can be either parent and they can divide the time I believe..
Just because it's available doesn't mean most women can take that long. "Paid" means a percentage of your income and there is a cap. In my case the cap was about 30% of my income there was just no possible way we could go very long with my income so depleted. My son was born 8 weeks early, I stayed in the hospital with him for the 1st month that he had to stay in the NCIU, then I took 2 mos off after we came home and then had to return to work, which was absolutely one of the toughest things I've ever done. I travel for a living and was back to being gone for 2-3 nights every few weeks. In the end this strain and pressure on me mentally ended my career, I became emotionally drained and just could no longer work. So, while yes Canada does have what most see as awesome maternity leave (parental leave as the spouse /father can also take part of the leave) the reality is, most people can't afford to take the big cut in salary and can't take all of that time off.
This is heartbreaking
I guess you need to have someone who can take care of them at home. In my country in europe, it is considered a poor country but they give mothers 2 years paid maternity leave. And the 2 years are not included in the prenatal leave that you can have 2 months earlier and the postnatal rest of 2 months. If you return to work earlier than 2 years then the gov will pay you extra money for it monthly till 2 years have been completed . ( You return after 1.6 years and they give you extra money for 6 months ) gov gives you vouchers when you have the baby that you can use to buy stuff you need. Its not a lot of money but the diapers and milk you can cover for some months. And also monthly child alimony that you get tilll child is 18.
Wow that’s so awesome that you were able to get out of those well. ❤😊 wished you coulda gotten paid leave or something for longer tho. Too bad your system(ameikan) for pregnant people sucks
4 weeks? That's crazy women here take like 6 months to a year. Especially if they're surgeons or something
America has THE WORST parental/maternity leave. 6 weeks is what I got..1/2 pay
In the UK women can take up a to year, it's not all paid but they do get some money for the first 9 months or so.
On top of that, in the UK full time employees are entitled to 28 days of holiday/ vacation per year. Every company I've worked for pays for these days and legally women continue to "accrue" or earn these vacation days whilst they are on maternity leave. So they can take a bunch of paid holiday before their official maternity leave starts, or they can use these days at the end of their maternity leave if they want to spend some more time with their babies. Plus, you still get paid if you have any antenatal appointments on days when you would usually work.
Does anyone pay attention to?😂 she’s in private practice she works for herself not a company that decides medical leave. That’s why she took no pay.also makes me wonder how much she’s saving if she couldn’t afford more or if it was that it would’ve affected her entire clinic because she wasn’t doing surgeries and she needed to be working to keep her staff employed altogether . Either way CEOs aren’t in office all the time so maybe she could find some alternative cashflows so she doesn’t have to be the one performing solely. Or maybe other specialties like rehab
Girl Idky but I thought you were like 32-34 years old right now.
I don't like that you didn't get more time to be with those sweet smelling babies, but realistically they sleep and eat a lot at that stage anyway. As long as they have loving people surrounding them, that's all they needed. The flip side I feel is when YOU are the Team Captain and your team needs you, sometimes you have to make tough choices. I really hope that patients truly understand this. ❤❤❤
"Being a surgeon and pregnant."
How awesome. So wait, does your husband not make enough to maintain the fam while you raise the children a little longer? I ask bc you made mention that it wasn’t financially feasible for you to stay out. Also, I always gape in wonder when a woman goes back. I’m five years out bc I’m scared to put any of my children in daycare. Ppl are nuts. My husband can maintain our fam. I think I’d scream if I had to go back bc of the pressure of having to work.
I don't know what her husband does for a living, but her being a successful surgeon, i would assume she makes the majority of the household income. They're monthly payments (student loans, mortgage, car loans, etc.) might be too high for him to take care of with just his income and have them keep the standard of life they are used to. Large salaries usually equate to large monthly payments.
@@timid_soupalso taxes
I'm in Canada where we do have a very long maternity /paternity leave policy, it's actually 18 months now. The first 12 your employer and the Government co pay a percentage of your salary to you will you are off and the employer MUST hold your position for you so you can return to the same or equal position when you come back, your health benefits are also still in tact while on leave. Having said this like I mentioned it's only a percentage of your salary and there is a cap, I will use just some simple #'s to show how this does not work out well for people who have a fairly high income. If you are bringing home $600/ week and during your maternity you dip down to 400/ week you can likely manage by making financial adjustments to compensate for the loss in wages. If you make $1200/ week and you dip down to $400 week , well you likely can't close that gap for very long. We live to our income, usually. So, your bills equate to what you are normally bringing into the household. So, higher mortgage, higher car payments MUCH higher taxes, higher cost of living period. In my case the cap was 30% of my income, so I could only really reasonably afford 3 mos off, it was awful to have to return when my baby was still so little, he was born 8 weeks early and stayed in hospital his 1st month so I had 8 weeks at home with him before going back to work. While it's great that in Canada we have this system at all, what would be really great is if the scale slid with the income. Because I make more...I also pay massive amounts of taxes. Nothing in life is really free...that's the real truth. Our taxes are so much higher than the US and those taxes pay for health care and under health care falls maternity leave.