Hey so, this is me in the video. I can't believe 4 years have already gone by. I was in super bad place at the time. I had to cut my hair because the hair stylist ruined it.. and I was wearing a beanie because it was cold.. I have grown so much since then, I barely recognize the old me. I'm in a pretty good spot right now compared to then, I still have alot of trauma to work through. Probly for the rest of my life. But for all of those who commented saying nice things, I really appreciate you all ❤️
I am so happy for you that you are in a better place. I know how difficult dealing with trauma is, but that it is the Journey and we are on a better Path.
I hope you are in the very best place now. EMDR helps a lot with trauma . You listen to bilateral stimulation or / and watch visual. You start with two minutes and go to an event / behavior that hurt you. Start small. Just 2 minutes . Repeat for days/ weeks / months
the feeling of missing someone before they're even gone.. wow. not wanting to be blindsided again :( no wonder i'm so resistant to the emotion of grief
wow...this is my issue and I never had the chance to see Teal explain it so well. I have new hope to work this through myself with the completion process. thanks for posting this. I just happen to see it.
The nostalgic feeling of missing someone before they're even gone. Gosh this gave me a chill when she said that. That's exactly the haunted hollow feeling I have whenever I'm really in love with a person and spending time with them. 💔
The reason people have a hard time feeling Love , is you forgot that you were that Love you long for , it is your very Being Love , if you can remember who you are , you will find the greatest Love of your life , you your higher self!!!!!
I hear this young lady. Consider this. On the day that you learn that you were adopted, you learn that you were indeed WANTED. Your "dad" is your REAL dad and you are his REAL child. Your adoptive parents choose you because they wanted "A" child and of all the possibilities, they chose YOU! Perhaps your biological parents each had a tremendous love for you in their decision to choose adoption as their course of action. Their stories should be understood from their mouths or through research. The take home message is only partially "rejection" and there is more to be uncovered now that you are an adult.
its so interesting to feel the way the resistance shifts in the video... (first time really feeling it like this). can hear it with the echo-ey sound of the MIC!! so coool
How do I change the meaning of the traumatic event that I went through? I literally don't see a lot of room to interpretation in my situation. My mom and dad got divorced when I was 6 I think. He abandoned my mom and kinda partially me. We had to move to our home country (as he did so too). He treated my mom terribly throughout the marriage. In our hone country I got to see him only a couple of times. We never really talked and I never really got to know him when I was in a "conscious" age. He was always busy. Then I moved with my mom to another country. We talked even less. Then he died. End of the story. I have a trauma that makes me believe I will be left by the people I deeply love. I fear that I don't matter to them as much as they do. I crave for this connection but fear to settle down (believing it's one-sided) and as consequence I will get hurt. How should I fucking interpret this differently. Please, tell me. Because I do not know.
Veronika Trasko teal talked about this in one of her interviews i don’t remember which one, she said the number one reason you still carry a traumatic event is that no one validated your feelings when you were young instead they told you to be over it or you yourself denied it so you can socialise, she suggested to go back to those scenes when you felt abandonment , hurt, not seen etc and tell the young version of you that its ok that she felt that way she felt and that anyone in her position would feel the same way, imagine the whole scene, you as a kid and everything and watch her, tell her to comfort her dad and mom, i did this process and cried like a baby and i got to hug the younger version of me and it was liberating, i suggest guided meditations here on RUclips about healing the inner child ❣
Nika K, Teal asks " what did you tell yourself this [event] means about life [the world]?" Eg did you decide that you'll always be abandoned, not loved or something? Then she says that you'll view everything through this lens. Are you asking what other meanings you could make of life \ the world, if you go back to those events? As there is more than one event, you may need to do one at a time? Which one means the most? Eg when your Dad left, you made sense of it with " he abandoned my mum & partially abandoned me", yet there could have been all sorts of things going on for him including that he thought it the most loving thing to do for you to be happy. I'm not sure if you want others to suggest other meanings, or if you mean you can think of many but can't make them fit for you? I'm happy to suggest more. Best of luck shifting things.
Depending on how you old u r now? If you're 12 then you still need growing and read books or RUclips the subject that burgers you bothers you. If you 20+ then if you don't have therapist...u need a book or youtube helps. Not every ADULT has capacity to raise a kid. It's easy to pop it out, .. for dad but for mom it's labour and some times it's a hard lesson that they should known better. Some adults can't admit they shi$#@@@parents , they did what they could, food shelter etc others couldn't do the marriage thing or suicide depression.. health deterioration..... its not about you as a kid. Its About them. They didn't know how, couldn't do it, or it was too f&$#@@ hard.. I feel ur pain , however you shouldn't carry your dead father around in ur life. Terribly torture way live. Maybe looking at you reminded him of your mother and he can't get along w her. Or he sees himself and hates him self cause of eg he's not rich, he's poor, no job, no health, failed marriage etc etc
I desperately want to die there's no escape from the hell I'm in I am tortured and raped alone and lonely desperate to die; desperate for escape paralyzed from with trauma he raped me he was supposed to be my best friend I die inside rage and grief eat me alive I'm in hell 6 INSATIABLE DESIRES: - the man that left me. he discarded me like last week's garbage. he took my heart and my soul with him. I'd do anything to have him back. - LOVE. the real thing. in it's purest truest realest rawest form. romantic and sexual and intimate. twin-flame union. - sex. intimacy. attention. affection. romance. passion. cuddles. kisses. - to be wanted/needed/loved/desired. to be seen as beautiful and attractive. - to have all my past traumas erased/deleted/dissolved. gone forever. - A TRIBE OF REAL FRIENDS
I do nit hundred percent agree on that she was not loved.theres tons of other factors on why sone do not feel loved.one is depression. Some of us may be born on not feeling loved no matter what.love is a chemical our brain.Dopemine, serotonin is few big chemicals that makes us feel loge.Some time people are not born on producing that or drugs can permanent danage those glans.
Hey so, this is me in the video. I can't believe 4 years have already gone by. I was in super bad place at the time. I had to cut my hair because the hair stylist ruined it.. and I was wearing a beanie because it was cold.. I have grown so much since then, I barely recognize the old me. I'm in a pretty good spot right now compared to then, I still have alot of trauma to work through. Probly for the rest of my life. But for all of those who commented saying nice things, I really appreciate you all ❤️
I am so happy for you that you are in a better place. I know how difficult dealing with trauma is, but that it is the Journey and we are on a better Path.
Very happy to hear this
I'm glad to have read this. Happy for ya Kaysie.
Resonated a lot with you, thank you for being vulnerable
I hope you are in the very best place now. EMDR helps a lot with trauma . You listen to bilateral stimulation or / and watch visual. You start with two minutes and go to an event / behavior that hurt you. Start small. Just 2 minutes . Repeat for days/ weeks / months
Thank you to all of you. 🕊
the feeling of missing someone before they're even gone.. wow. not wanting to be blindsided again :( no wonder i'm so resistant to the emotion of grief
wow...this is my issue and I never had the chance to see Teal explain it so well. I have new hope to work this through myself with the completion process. thanks for posting this. I just happen to see it.
The nostalgic feeling of missing someone before they're even gone. Gosh this gave me a chill when she said that. That's exactly the haunted hollow feeling I have whenever I'm really in love with a person and spending time with them. 💔
so much love to this girl
Damn...I burst into tears this resonated so much.
Fear of rejection and abandonment.
，this is powerful..... so true that we avoided love before anything could happened... mainly because we do not want to loose it again ...
The reason people have a hard time feeling Love , is you forgot that you were that Love you long for , it is your very Being Love , if you can remember who you are , you will find the greatest Love of your life , you your higher self!!!!!
Holy fuck this is me, my childhood trauma was exactly as mundane as she said, Teal knew it
I felt like she had it even right now while she was talking to Teal, this nostalgic feeling I mean
This girl would me my number one friend really!!!!!
I kind of felt like she would be my friend too if I met her. ^^
She is genuinly a nice person
Great message yet again. Many thanks Teal!
I hear this young lady. Consider this. On the day that you learn that you were adopted, you learn that you were indeed WANTED. Your "dad" is your REAL dad and you are his REAL child. Your adoptive parents choose you because they wanted "A" child and of all the possibilities, they chose YOU! Perhaps your biological parents each had a tremendous love for you in their decision to choose adoption as their course of action. Their stories should be understood from their mouths or through research. The take home message is only partially "rejection" and there is more to be uncovered now that you are an adult.
its so interesting to feel the way the resistance shifts in the video... (first time really feeling it like this). can hear it with the echo-ey sound of the MIC!! so coool
Love a this ❤
Loved
My name is Shadowbaby McButternucky. You will remember me for centuries.
Love u shafow❤
thank you
Yes.. my moms boyfriend took my place and she refused me because obsessed with him
Beautiful uea
Can relate
.... LOVE IS ALL THERE IS .....
Gold
How do I change the meaning of the traumatic event that I went through? I literally don't see a lot of room to interpretation in my situation. My mom and dad got divorced when I was 6 I think. He abandoned my mom and kinda partially me. We had to move to our home country (as he did so too). He treated my mom terribly throughout the marriage. In our hone country I got to see him only a couple of times. We never really talked and I never really got to know him when I was in a "conscious" age. He was always busy. Then I moved with my mom to another country. We talked even less. Then he died. End of the story. I have a trauma that makes me believe I will be left by the people I deeply love. I fear that I don't matter to them as much as they do. I crave for this connection but fear to settle down (believing it's one-sided) and as consequence I will get hurt. How should I fucking interpret this differently. Please, tell me. Because I do not know.
Veronika Trasko teal talked about this in one of her interviews i don’t remember which one, she said the number one reason you still carry a traumatic event is that no one validated your feelings when you were young instead they told you to be over it or you yourself denied it so you can socialise, she suggested to go back to those scenes when you felt abandonment , hurt, not seen etc and tell the young version of you that its ok that she felt that way she felt and that anyone in her position would feel the same way, imagine the whole scene, you as a kid and everything and watch her, tell her to comfort her dad and mom, i did this process and cried like a baby and i got to hug the younger version of me and it was liberating, i suggest guided meditations here on RUclips about healing the inner child ❣
@@noran2096 Thank you! I will definitely try it out
Nika K, Teal asks " what did you tell yourself this [event] means about life [the world]?" Eg did you decide that you'll always be abandoned, not loved or something?
Then she says that you'll view everything through this lens.
Are you asking what other meanings you could make of life \ the world, if you go back to those events? As there is more than one event, you may need to do one at a time? Which one means the most?
Eg when your Dad left, you made sense of it with " he abandoned my mum & partially abandoned me", yet there could have been all sorts of things going on for him including that he thought it the most loving thing to do for you to be happy.
I'm not sure if you want others to suggest other meanings, or if you mean you can think of many but can't make them fit for you? I'm happy to suggest more. Best of luck shifting things.
Depending on how you old u r now? If you're 12 then you still need growing and read books or RUclips the subject that burgers you bothers you. If you 20+ then if you don't have therapist...u need a book or youtube helps. Not every ADULT has capacity to raise a kid. It's easy to pop it out, .. for dad but for mom it's labour and some times it's a hard lesson that they should known better. Some adults can't admit they shi$#@@@parents , they did what they could, food shelter etc others couldn't do the marriage thing or suicide depression.. health deterioration..... its not about you as a kid. Its About them. They didn't know how, couldn't do it, or it was too f&$#@@ hard.. I feel ur pain , however you shouldn't carry your dead father around in ur life. Terribly torture way live. Maybe looking at you reminded him of your mother and he can't get along w her. Or he sees himself and hates him self cause of eg he's not rich, he's poor, no job, no health, failed marriage etc etc
Hi Where can I watch the full video please? The link isn’t working
Name is beautiful
❤
Ok that's me.
How can you resolve the event
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#TEALSWAN THE ANSWER IS NO!! IT WILL ALWAYS BE NO!! #SHINEDOWN NEVER THE FUCK AGAIN!!! LETS CLEAN THIS CRIME SCENE THE FUCK UP!!
Mcb
I am in the best relationship of my life… and part of me feels so unloved still.
Butter
that's so me
I desperately want to die
there's no escape from the hell I'm in
I am tortured and raped
alone and lonely
desperate to die;
desperate for escape
paralyzed from with trauma
he raped me
he was supposed to be my best friend
I die inside
rage and grief eat me alive
I'm in hell
6 INSATIABLE DESIRES:
- the man that left me.
he discarded me like last week's garbage.
he took my heart and my soul with him.
I'd do anything to have him back.
- LOVE. the real thing. in it's purest truest realest rawest form.
romantic and sexual and intimate. twin-flame union.
- sex. intimacy. attention. affection. romance. passion. cuddles. kisses.
- to be wanted/needed/loved/desired.
to be seen as beautiful and attractive.
- to have all my past traumas erased/deleted/dissolved. gone forever.
- A TRIBE OF REAL FRIENDS
Ed
Top u haire
Bite model all boxes checked. Poor ppl here getting so misled.
Shad
I do nit hundred percent agree on that she was not loved.theres tons of other factors on why sone do not feel loved.one is depression. Some of us may be born on not feeling loved no matter what.love is a chemical our brain.Dopemine, serotonin is few big chemicals that makes us feel loge.Some time people are not born on producing that or drugs can permanent danage those glans.
Joshua Bibler First comes the trauma then the depression.
Whether someone genuinely loved her or not doesn't mean that she was shown that love in a way that felt like love
For money
I don't buy teal swan is the real deal.
......." or this person is too famous to be close to me" 2:56....right Teal. You are always on your mind.
Have a good day
Soru Fleet thanks for teaching me how to handle people in these situations I always struggle with this one...have a nice day!
Awwwh, thanks :) I know, sometimes I find it hard too
Girl...she was talking from the possible perspective of someone who might feel disconnected from her..