Please stop trying to understand the story: assuming things and making your own narratives in the comments on what “could’ve” happened. There’s so much I cut out and didnt share because like I said this Is not about the story this Is about the message of forgiveness. I will tell my entire story when I’m ready. There’s so much y’all don’t know that I chose to keep private because it would take away from the message. I just told enough truth for the story to make sense. It took me weeks to edit this video because everytime I tried I couldn’t stop crying. I just posted it and to have so many people telling me it helped then makes it all worth it. This is literally my purpose on this earth. Thankyou all so much.
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I hope to encourage everyone to have more of a forgiving spirit. And when it seems unbearable, remember that forgiveness is for YOU and not THEM. it wont be easy.
Tarek Ali I’ve been dealing with a similar situation and I think about forgiveness and moving on a lot. It’s so hard to move forward from something so traumatic and this video was so courageous of you to do. I hope everything works out for you and hopefully I can work through my past to be able to move forward as well. Thank you for this ❤️
Thank you for being open sharing your experience. I honor the fact that you asked your little sister for permission first, which shows that you value your integrity and her feelings more than the number views and likes on your video. Your story is an example of how forgiveness doesn't show weakness, but great strength. Look at how much you have overcome! We must all learn to forgive. Thank you and God bless you.
exactly, we cant pray "forgive us our sins just as we forgive those who sin against us" and not forgive...this is really helping me let go some hurt i've been holding so thank you for opening up to us
Tarek Ali so proud of you hun! You’re absolutely right, sometimes forgiveness is for our own internal peace. Keep pressing through this. I’m praying for you. Love and prayers from Indianapolis, IN.
Your mom seemed so disjointed emotionally and cold. You're a beautiful young man; thank God everyday he made you better than your parents. I'm probably your mom's age, yet this helped me immensely. You're wise and mature beyond your years 😍
She didn’t sound very remorseful at all. But I’m glad you got what you needed Tarek. Sometimes the validation we seek from people we’ll never get in this lifetime but you have to move on for your own healing. Sending you love and healing 💙
Maybe she isn’t remorseful because she left for a good enough reason. And she would do it again if she had too. A mother makes huge sacrifices for her kids. Period. You don’t know how hard it was for her to leave them With a straight face. you never know what goes on behind closed doors. Meaning u never know what her and the dad had going on. It had to be serious for them. Because even now years later they still won’t tell the whole truth and every detail on what happened.
My dad left us when I was 3, I'm turning 19 this year..I know what you're going through having an absent parent..my father never even visited us but I thank the lord for my step dad who has been treating me like his own daughter..not everyone might come from a picture perfect family all my friends had involved dads, but mine wouldn't even call, text,support me financialy, support me emotionally...I dont even know my dads family, I honestly dont hate him .. Someone will only understand this situation if they've been through it themselves.. Its easy for someone to ask why u aren't close to your dad\mom ...I mean I was 3 when he left me, we stayed in the same country but he ever took the effort to see my sister & I , he used to tell us as kids he would come visit than he never does, we would take showers,dress all nice for the day he was suppose to come,wait for him all day, but he never showed up..than we cried and my sister and I consoled each other....we have been consoling each other for 16 years...I recently passed my grade 12\matric with distinction and I'm gonna study medicine...and all of a sudden he remembers he has a child..I don't despise hin but I can't pretend or act as if everything is okay, relationships are formed at early stages, not at the last minute when he thinks he can benefit from my success..I thank God for my #1 support system my mom, without her I would be a mess. Y'all probably didnt asked for my life story, but I shared it anyway..just needed to vent.
thank u so much for sharing it and I have had such experience with my dad too . Be proud of who u r today and keep the ones that have loved u and still love u for u.
Web webs lies lies.... Two kind of people in life.. The spider and the one who gets caught in its web.... Until Jesus sets you free.... Everyone must avoid the web of deceit ...moral of story.. Jesus Christ.. Makes you valid so walk in the love he has for you.. Learn who you are in him... And be wise cause life is full of webs.. Be wise walk with Jesus don't do nothing with out his consent to avoid webs...
We are definitely the generation of healing from our parents mistakes ! & never expect an I’m sorry for your loss, truss me their generation does not believe in apologizing for their mistakes, you’re honestly expected to forget. But i see myself in you, when it comes to the fact i put 110 percent into a relationship that might not be reciprocated the same way, boo. & she definitely didn’t reciprocate the same love you had for her 🤷🏾♀️
Donelle Johnson you cant generalize the entire generation as unforgiving or unapologetic people bc my father apologized to me x my siblings for the trauma he caused us during our childhood. it really depends on the person, the situation, x the circumstance. you have to be in a place to feel remorse x be in a place to forgive.
s m b x i hear you, my point was not to expect it from an older generation for obvious reasons. & honestly sometimes it just takes time for them to grow because everyone grows daily.
s m b x that’s literally the point of generalizing. He’s OBVIOUSLY not talking about everyone from that generation. y’all need to quit with the “not all” and comprehend the fact that when people reference something non specific they’re speaking of the vast majority. Wasn’t nobody talking about your dad lmao
We can't control our childhood but we can Control our Adulthood. We have to Heal and Create the life we want. 🙏 Know that what you been through was to make you stronger. (You Got through it)!!!!!!!!💜
It took me forever to understand this! Once I learned what my parents went through in their youth I understood they couldn't give me a love they never experienced themselves. My daddy use to say kids don't come with instruction manuals. Parents either mimic what they saw or try to implement what they didn't. At the end of the day ain't no perfect parent cause ain't no perfect person. It's so easy for us kids to point out they flaws, but don't know what it's like to walk in they shoes....if that make since. Parents are still growing up themselves while trying to help us grow up...they make immature decisions just like us - the only difference is they have no safe place to land when they display their humanity. I spent years being so upset with my mom until i learned her story, and met her biological dad with her when she was 55 years old and he couldn't talk because he had lung cancer. My mom had a life long list of questions and she couldn't get one answer because bruh had lung cancer. After experiencing this with her she began to open up about her childhood and this felt like they first time she felt heard and understood. Sharing this with her help me to understand why she was the way she was...and our relationship is 100% better! should she sought counseling before having children, YES! I just understand now and I honestly I don't think she saw it as a prob really she was so use to it that is was normal to her, but so toxic to me. Also, I am not dismissing her attitude/behavior towards me either. My anger towards my mom use to consume me and cripple me in a lot of ways now I am realizing that I hold the power to let it go and grow....
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I’m so very proud of you for acknowledging that what you’ve heard is “alleged”. Sooooo many people will form opinions based on someone else’s perspective. Let the healing begin. You got this.
You all deserve an answer. Your parents know the reason why everything happened and have had time to heal. The least they could do is answer why. You are so strong, brave and beautiful and we love you❤️🥰 you deserve the world
You (and your siblings) deserve a feasible answer. Whether it was 10 years ago, or not. It seems like neither parent is being 100% honest. Traumatic issues like this can impact children’s choices later on in life. So, although you weren’t calling for an explanation, you deserved one.
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He deserved closure but i guess u gotta give that closure to yourself and accept an apology you never got
We as a race of people go through so much ,but fail to communicate an have open discussions that will bring understanding, healing, clarity and resolved.
You were great as usual. And glad that you chose to do this topic of discussion ; however , I don’t like that she was just as nonchalant as the day she left. Ima pray for her. Thank you lord god for my deliverance.
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Tarek Ali I’m so glad that you made this video because a lot of people need to see how to let go of the negativity in their life ! They need to see that you cannot receive the blessings that the universe has for them if they holding on to a bunch of negativity 😒
Oh and another thing in a situation like this l have a saying “children don’t have nothing to do with adult situations ! And from how you said she left she wasn’t thinking about the children she was her self!😒
Seems like your stepmom wasn’t as attached to y’all as y’all were to her . When the relationship ended she was done with y’all as well. Which is 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
yea I felt that too which probably hurt him even more cuz even though she's technically his "stepmom" by label, she was his mother at heart and the only mom he knew.
Now in my mid-twenties, I’m learning to deal with my childhood trauma and how to nurture my inner child (that wasn’t taken as good of care as she should’ve been.) I’ve noticed as I’ve gotten older my trauma from when I was a kid is really effecting me in relationships more than I realized. I love this video and how open and honest you are! ✨
I know im late but I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. When I was 12 my mom and dad left me and my 6 siblings with my grandma and uncle. I remember my mom telling me that she hated me when I was 10. Then I remember my dad telling me and her that he's gonna find a real woman and have a better daughter, it hurt me so much but I also remembered that my older cousin would always tell me I have to take it like a g. It was hard without them, especially since my grandma couldn't really move around and my uncle worked as a security guard and only got paid 4.67 dollars an hour. When I turned 17 I decided to get a job to help, then a few months after I found out that my parents had actually had 2 other kids it hurted me so much,that I started suffering from depression causing me to have to quit my job and go to therapy. One day when I came home from school I saw my siblings sitting on the couch looking at pictures of my parents and us. Then my little brother started crying and asked "does mommy and daddy love us" I couldn't answer him becuase I just busted into tears and hugged them. When I finished therapy I decided to find a new job. I eventually got a job as a lyft driver. One day when I came home my siblings came running to the door telling me that my grandma won't wake up. My heart stopped. I ran to the room to see my grandma laying on the bed and a note. in the note I noticed that she said she was getting sick. I felt like it was my fault I was so stuck up on the past that I wasn't paying attention to what was happening. 2 years later I now have custody of all of my siblings and my uncle lives with his wife and kids. My grandma is watching over us. Honestly I feel like God took my parents out my life because he knew they weren't gonna serve a purpose for me and my future.
And WOW LOOK AT YOU AND WHAT YOUVE DONE! Amazing how you have had to step up. Youre so wonderful for that! And I send love and goodness your and your “babies”(siblings) way!!
Wow this video really touched me and will touch and reach many people who need healing. Like you, I was abandoned but by my stepfather. He was in my life and the life of my older siblings since I was approximately 7 years old. He seen me grown up and also seen my older siblings have children. Fast forward to be being around 19 years old, he just up and left and never came back. He and my mother were married and he started to have an affair with another woman. He moved in with her and carried on his life like we never existed. That was in 2008. I'm 30 now and I have never heard from him again. No apology, no explanation...nothing. What he did played a huge role in my relationship dynamics that I did not even realize until I started doing premartial counseling. But I forgive him and wish him well.
I love Tareks ability to be understanding and forgive and be the best version of himself he can be because its honestly what everyone should try and strive to do. I have always been understanding but forgiveness is always hard especially when the other person might not be sorry at all so seeing him being so relaxed during the call was so crazy.
This is an outstanding video. Thank you for having the courage to make yourself vulnerable in this space. I'm confident that your work is helping others because you set a great example with your integrity and positivity. Kudos!
After watching this video I became encouraged to have a sit down with my father. Although I don’t think it’ll ever happen, I’ve always wanted to do it because it’s held me back from so much. My relationships never last with guys because I can never seem to trust because I fear being abandoned. My father broke my heart before any man could so I keep my guard up which is another reason why my relationships go downhill. Like you said, I don’t expect anything from him. The only thing I would like is closure...
I truly enjoy your channel and point of view. I don’t know you, but I swear your the most genuine personal you tube. Your light, and heart truly shine Thur the camera. I love how your being the example of change our community needs. By using your personal life experiences. I truly believe there’s no wasted experience. Your heart ❤️ is so big and so strong, honestly I wish more gay black men where like you. Your heaven sent.
Wow!!! This all started because I was looking to cut and dye my hair and your vlogs surface due to your hair. Now I’m a subscriber!!! Your personality is amazing 😉. But stop making me cry Tarek Ali. Great Video
I don’t get that motherly vibe from her, seems like she didn’t think of you and your biological siblings as her own. that’s sad🤦🏽♀️ I know u want a relationship with her, but doesn’t seem like she wants the same. maybe u should just focus on having a relationship with your step siblings
Abandoning children and step children is mother nature to black women thus why are people that surprised? Bro, hope you find the healing you seek but please do so with open mind and from a place of living your good self. Black men why marry black women when you know she's never there to uplift you when you are in deep mess rather she's only there for what she can get?
Everybody not the same. Trauma makes people react differently. The mother may really love her son, but NO ONE has the right to come out of their mouths to say that she doesnt. No one can speak bad about her. And absolutely no one should speak on their situation if its not positive.
@@MrJoennachi How is abandoning children and step children mother nature to black women? Historically black women have been forced to give up children, birth children that were taken for profit but is that black women's mother nature? It is not mother nature for any woman to abandon her child.
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Tarek, there are a countless number of people who love you dearly, even though you may not know them. You're an angel sent from up above to help others.
You don’t look anything like what you’ve been through you’re so strong and so much people are going to be able to relate ! Your soul is so rich I’m proud of you keep pushing 🖤🙌🏾
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Aww your so precious after everything you have been through you have a pure heart of forgiveness and still want to be in your half sisters life after all that happened ugh I love you
I know how strong you've had to be in order to film this video and at the same time being able to come to terms with this and gain closure. Coming from a smaller RUclipsr who has been through my set of trials and tribulations and who's also battled with suicidal depression and severe anxiety, Thank you. For not only sharing your story but making it easier for us who eventually want to have these conversations on our platforms as well. Bless up!
At the end of the day thank god you have the gift of forgiveness! Because every time I feel or think I’ve forgiven my dad, a part of me is still hurt. As well as you grew from that, you look like you have a beautiful home and you’re alive and have faced A LOT and yet still grew through it as a strong man! Congrats and proud of you and your family and good luck w life! ❤️🙏🏻
I literally just had a "coming to peace" conversation with my father which didn't go as well as yours did but I truly believe conversations need to be had to find your serenity! Thank you for this video and for being willing to share your truth and your story! 💛 You have a beautiful spirit and you are appreciated!
You are a wise and strong young man and should be so proud of how far you have come. As a mum and step mum I hold that responsibility as the most important job I have and regardless of the situation with the dad they will always be loved and taken care of. God has indeed prepared you well to be able to help others, what a gift. I wish you all the happiness and love in the world 😘
you are so brave for doing this in public. and are you your own therapist? cuz you’re out here living and healing and dropping all this knowledge 👏🏾👏🏾 such a light
This really had me crying every 2 minutes. Tarek, you are so strong and it's amazing how you don't let your past hold you down. Hoping the best for your future. 💕
That was terrible. It hurt me so bad to hear you cry Tarek. She basically admitted she was out for her self and didn't even bother to check back, call, text, email, whatever after taking care of you for YEARS and no apology, no hug, no goodbye! You deserved a goodbye! I'm so pissed about that! And doesn't explain the house issue etc! If you had an 'abusive' spouse wouldn't you fight for custody or at least visitation! You are an angel for this and your sister is so very blessed to have you♡
Does such a legal designation exist, where a stepparent can have visitation and fight for custody, when the parents are alive (and whose parental rights haven't been terminated)?
My dad was in & out my life from 3-16. I hated him up until my 23d birthday. My brother tricked me into a convo. That convo was necessary. My dad apologized. He cried. I cried. Fast forwards. 8 years later....I’m a daddies boy. Getting the apology didn’t undue the hurt but it allowed for forgiveness. He stepped up & supported me. Didn’t care that I was gay only that I was loved & happy. Somebody needed this testimony. Thank you.
Mad respect for posting this I needed to view this - I have a very fickle relationship with my dad that has affected my life tremendously I went looking for a place of acceptance, love, sense of belonging through all the wrong people and places trying to fill that void.. you have pushed me to HEAL w/ or w/o him thank you
Tarek, this situation is a bit like the situation for my dad leaving. My dad left my mom, my sister, and me when I was 2 and growing up I thought nothing of it, but now I’m 16 and I’m asking my mom questions like, “why did he leave?” and “why did y’all get a divorce?” And it always goes unanswered by my mom and I’m not really comfortable to ask my dad these things. I love how you were able to talk to your mom and how open you were to it and I hope I could do it soon one day(maybe when I’m an adult) thank you Tarek you truly helped me see things from different perspectives❤️
The fact that you had the strength to call her, let alone make the video and take the time to explain your situation, says a lot about you. That's really admirable.
I’ll appreciate you forever for your videos like this. This is what breaking toxic cycles look like 💛💛💛💛 I’m Happy your found is successful. Love Your Channel.
I’m crying with you right now @9:02 You’re so strong and so brave for reaching out like your story is so beautiful the good and the bad .... thank you for sharing
I just came across this vid, if i would watched this back in June of 2019 i would have not been able to understand. I can honestly say i can relate to the feelings and events that you show. Sadly i was way younger. This helped me in a way, it nice to know theres someone who understands. Im 16 but i have the same mindset due to the fact like i said alot of it happened to me when i was younger. I went through multiple stages of anger, constant sadness, insecurities, and much more. You just earned a new subscriber. Much love💗
Your stepmom beat around the bush. She never answered your questions to help you heal. She never took responsibility for how she acted which was selfish and she was concerned about herself and her children. You lived in the house and your Dad never touched her. And out of all of it she never apologized for you children being homeless and separated so she doesn't deserve forgiveness but for your healing I understand
Shirley Nessbitt but forgiveness isn’t for his mom it’s for him to pick up the pieces and move on. that’s his point. sure she doesn’t deserve him even reaching out but he’s doing it for his mental well being.
What really got me about the whole convo was when she was talking about his relationship with his sister. She said "I'm not blocking it but I am very protective of how I let her do things". Now I can understand being protective as a parent but why would she feel the need to say that to him? He is her brother. Not a stranger on the street. What does his sister need protection from? I think it says a lot about how she views him and the situation.
Timah R. Maybe the sister needs protection because of the situation with the dad. I can only think of one thing but may God help this family because they clearly need a lot of healing ❤️
@TarekAli very deep and thoughtful. Emotional but insightful all at the same time. I pray that your family on both sides will begin the process of healing and forgiveness in order for you all to grow in maturity and peace. Your a beautiful person inside and out bruh keep living Alive in yout truth and rely on power of God to carry you through. May God continues to heal you and your family be blessed. Much love to you. You have my support.
Love this!!! So glad you were so open about this experience! Forgiveness is key and a lot of people still have to learn that. Thank you for giving back to our community, and the world.
Tarek I feel so much love for you while hearing your story. Who you are is so great your circumstances have never defined you. You’re truly an inspiration. I’m praying for healing in your heart and in your family ❤️
So proud of you Tarek! Vulnerability is a gift and a strength of yours, and it's why we love you !! It comes to you so effortlessly and you handled this with such grace!! I am so sorry this happened to you and you took on it like a true Victor and chose to walk the path of forgiveness ...I pray for healing and that your story impacts many in a positive way that they too may get the healing they need. I walked a similar path with my parents and had to forgive them! Many more Blessings to you ! 💓💖
Thank you for showcasing true vulnerability! I can only hope that you are able to heal fully from this. Thank you for sharing your story. You are loved, Tarek! ❤️
You are extremely brave & very grounded and humble. I just stumbled across your channel & was watching this next to my mother and she got emotional listening to you get emotional about this. Listen everything is in its divine proportion, and you are exactly where you are supposed to be 💛
Hi I have viewed some of your content in the past and can admit to appreciating what you share. At first; because I’m a older person, I didn’t think subscribing would hold my interest as per generation gap but lo and behold our humanism doesn’t discriminate. The subject of forgiveness is a life changing topic to explore Especially when you decide on a process to grow and have the support of those indirectly involved. I say indirectly because how long can we share the responsibility of our feelings before realizing we could stay stuck as life moves on. We can’t go back get back or change what was. If we decide to allow present day inclusion of folks then we will accept who they are and move on together or without them. Finally, the greatest part to me about Forgiveness is appreciating the experience as a way to identify principles and living by them. Sorry for ranting😊
I absolutely admire how strong you are! Taking these steps require so much emotional intelligence and maturity. You’re walking in the right direction! Please keep it up ❤️
You are a phenomenal person. Your desire to seek forgiveness and closure from situations in your past, speaks volume. Your blessings are forthcoming. I speak prosperity and blessing over your life. Continue your great efforts! Much love!
It took me in my later 20s to come to terms with forgiveness of my mother. It is not easy, but also to piggy back of the topic of forgiveness, but forgiveness is also extends into healing your inner child. So many of us in the black community suffer from fear of abandonment and wonder why we have so many relationship issues. Thank you for doing this. My heart goes out to you. 🥺💜🤗
Hey, Tarek! This video relates to me SO MUCH because my biological mother left me when I was very young, and we haven’t talked in six years, and she doesn’t really care about me, I haven’t forgave her ever since she left me because she basically ruin my childhood. My father basically took care of me, and my younger brother all of our lives, until he met my stepmom (my mom,). I can’t seem to forgive her because of all of the pain//anger she gave me, my father, and my younger brother. My stepmom is basically my mother, she took care of me - she supported me, she loves me, so she is my mom. I have a stepbrother, and a little sister (by, my stepmom//dad.) so this video relates to me SO SO MUCH. Thank you, Tarek for making this video and sharing your story!! ♥️ ( side note: i loveeeeeee that rick&morty sweatshirt, where did you get it from?? )
I appreciate how hard that must have been, to put yourself out there. Not just to reach out to her but to share it with all of us as well. I understand you were in a dark space but I am glad you made it to the other side as you are truly a light in the world. I believe you are meant to be the exact person you are, thank you. Sending many hugs your way.
First, I just want to say you’re one of the most honest and endearing youtubers I follow and this conversation was so touching because you’re showing your healing process in such an honest way it truly is helpful ❤️🙏🏻 and also, I’m sorry all this happened to you. I wish you all the success as you continue on your journey 🙏🏻
Hi Tarek, I just came across your channel and I just want to say that I think you are amazing. Not just based on what you had to deal with growing up but as an individual, you really are someone to look up to and I wish there were more people like you in the world. You are so special and I hope your journey of forgiveness and happiness continues! Love your videos I’ve seen so far xx
I am so proud of you for being so vulnerable and raw! As a person that has similar deep-rooted issues with a parent, I know how difficult it can be to have certain conversations. In addition to battling the scars that come with it. New subscriber, thanks so much for sharing this was not only encouraging but left me feeling hopeful.
ur unbothered, confident energy as you speak with your mom despite how you just broke down a moment ago, pure scorpio energy I stan, & thank you for this pure, honest, and encouraging vid. I feel like every scorpio has a deep past tbh, which is why we're so strong
Please stop trying to understand the story: assuming things and making your own narratives in the comments on what “could’ve” happened. There’s so much I cut out and didnt share because like I said this Is not about the story this Is about the message of forgiveness. I will tell my entire story when I’m ready. There’s so much y’all don’t know that I chose to keep private because it would take away from the message. I just told enough truth for the story to make sense.
It took me weeks to edit this video because everytime I tried I couldn’t stop crying. I just posted it and to have so many people telling me it helped then makes it all worth it. This is literally my purpose on this earth. Thankyou all so much.
We love you honey, always ❤️
We do love tarek ALI you are awesome
Tarek Ali I Am So Glad That You’re Responsive. Boy, You Are My Friend Forever ❣️✅
Tarek Ali That’s Right ❣️ Love Your Baby Sister ❣️ She’s Not Your Half Sister ❣️ She Is Your Baby Sister ❣️ Just Wait When You Turn 51/52. You Will Have Fun ❣️✅
Tarek Ali She Will Be A Very Happy 46 Years Young Woman.😂👍🏽
12 is such a delicate age - it’s so hard with the changes that are occurring. She was so heartless. You don’t hurt children at all - that’s evil
I hope to encourage everyone to have more of a forgiving spirit. And when it seems unbearable, remember that forgiveness is for YOU and not THEM. it wont be easy.
Tarek Ali I’ve been dealing with a similar situation and I think about forgiveness and moving on a lot. It’s so hard to move forward from something so traumatic and this video was so courageous of you to do. I hope everything works out for you and hopefully I can work through my past to be able to move forward as well. Thank you for this ❤️
Thank you for being open sharing your experience. I honor the fact that you asked your little sister for permission first, which shows that you value your integrity and her feelings more than the number views and likes on your video. Your story is an example of how forgiveness doesn't show weakness, but great strength. Look at how much you have overcome! We must all learn to forgive. Thank you and God bless you.
exactly, we cant pray "forgive us our sins just as we forgive those who sin against us" and not forgive...this is really helping me let go some hurt i've been holding so thank you for opening up to us
You definitely encouraged me love!! 💙💙
Tarek Ali so proud of you hun! You’re absolutely right, sometimes forgiveness is for our own internal peace. Keep pressing through this. I’m praying for you. Love and prayers from Indianapolis, IN.
Your mom seemed so disjointed emotionally and cold. You're a beautiful young man; thank God everyday he made you better than your parents. I'm probably your mom's age, yet this helped me immensely. You're wise and mature beyond your years 😍
idk why tf y’all think he posted this for y’all to tell him the type of person you *think* his mom is or how she felt. You don’t know. Damn.
@@jessy7796 When you post personal things you get personal opinions. No one said anything out of line.
@@jessy7796 What's wrong with people having opinions? She said she "seemed" which doesn't mean she said she actually did sound that way... Bye
She didn’t sound very remorseful at all. But I’m glad you got what you needed Tarek. Sometimes the validation we seek from people we’ll never get in this lifetime but you have to move on for your own healing. Sending you love and healing 💙
Tay you’re right💛
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Maybe she isn’t remorseful because she left for a good enough reason. And she would do it again if she had too. A mother makes huge sacrifices for her kids. Period. You don’t know how hard it was for her to leave them With a straight face. you never know what goes on behind closed doors. Meaning u never know what her and the dad had going on. It had to be serious for them. Because even now years later they still won’t tell the whole truth and every detail on what happened.
@@cherryberry393 That part. People don't just disappear without reason. Who knows what she endured...
Amen 🙏🏽
my mom left me 12 years ago, and I’m 12 I felt this in so many ways🙌🏽 Prayers to you🙏🏽
Me too
You're a smart child. Watch what God has in store for you
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@@amerleclark7238 Thank you so much. I’m now 13 and i’m definitely praying more. much love❤️❤️
God bless you beautiful; stay prayed up and focused!
Now learning what you’ve been through, I can see why you’re so mature for your age. I think you deserved an apology from her, though .
My dad left us when I was 3, I'm turning 19 this year..I know what you're going through having an absent parent..my father never even visited us but I thank the lord for my step dad who has been treating me like his own daughter..not everyone might come from a picture perfect family all my friends had involved dads, but mine wouldn't even call, text,support me financialy, support me emotionally...I dont even know my dads family, I honestly dont hate him ..
Someone will only understand this situation if they've been through it themselves.. Its easy for someone to ask why u aren't close to your dad\mom ...I mean I was 3 when he left me, we stayed in the same country but he ever took the effort to see my sister & I , he used to tell us as kids he would come visit than he never does, we would take showers,dress all nice for the day he was suppose to come,wait for him all day, but he never showed up..than we cried and my sister and I consoled each other....we have been consoling each other for 16 years...I recently passed my grade 12\matric with distinction and I'm gonna study medicine...and all of a sudden he remembers he has a child..I don't despise hin but I can't pretend or act as if everything is okay, relationships are formed at early stages, not at the last minute when he thinks he can benefit from my success..I thank God for my #1 support system my mom, without her I would be a mess.
Y'all probably didnt asked for my life story, but I shared it anyway..just needed to vent.
thank u so much for sharing it and I have had such experience with my dad too . Be proud of who u r today and keep the ones that have loved u and still love u for u.
* keep the ones who have loved u and still love u for u close *
I can relate sis,it hurts sometimes but it is what it is
For all of us who were raised with Single Mother's...God bless us and our Moms bc they are our Heroes 💯✨
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You are such a strong person and you are absolutely doing the right thing . Sending peace and love your way 💕
An amazing young man. Wise beyond his years. It is refreshing to see this kind of maturity coming from this generation. Wow!
This video really made me look at my own truama and how its affecting me in the adult life. It really did
take heart. there's someone who cares and prays for you
I feel you.....!! been there too and still having questions
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Sad how a step parent could break a child’s heart like that 😢🙏🏾
Sounds like she's all he ever knew as a mum, so equivalent of a "real" mum for him
Web webs lies lies.... Two kind of people in life.. The spider and the one who gets caught in its web.... Until Jesus sets you free.... Everyone must avoid the web of deceit ...moral of story.. Jesus Christ.. Makes you valid so walk in the love he has for you.. Learn who you are in him... And be wise cause life is full of webs.. Be wise walk with Jesus don't do nothing with out his consent to avoid webs...
We are definitely the generation of healing from our parents mistakes ! & never expect an I’m sorry for your loss, truss me their generation does not believe in apologizing for their mistakes, you’re honestly expected to forget. But i see myself in you, when it comes to the fact i put 110 percent into a relationship that might not be reciprocated the same way, boo. & she definitely didn’t reciprocate the same love you had for her 🤷🏾♀️
Donelle Johnson you cant generalize the entire generation as unforgiving or unapologetic people bc my father apologized to me x my siblings for the trauma he caused us during our childhood. it really depends on the person, the situation, x the circumstance. you have to be in a place to feel remorse x be in a place to forgive.
s m b x i hear you, my point was not to expect it from an older generation for obvious reasons. & honestly sometimes it just takes time for them to grow because everyone grows daily.
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Donelle Johnson whew chile, this is so true. You’ll be lucky if they even acknowledge anything let alone apologize for it.
s m b x that’s literally the point of generalizing. He’s OBVIOUSLY not talking about everyone from that generation. y’all need to quit with the “not all” and comprehend the fact that when people reference something non specific they’re speaking of the vast majority. Wasn’t nobody talking about your dad lmao
We can't control our childhood but we can Control our Adulthood.
We have to Heal and Create the life we want. 🙏
Know that what you been through was to make you stronger.
(You Got through it)!!!!!!!!💜
It took me forever to understand this! Once I learned what my parents went through in their youth I understood they couldn't give me a love they never experienced themselves. My daddy use to say kids don't come with instruction manuals. Parents either mimic what they saw or try to implement what they didn't. At the end of the day ain't no perfect parent cause ain't no perfect person. It's so easy for us kids to point out they flaws, but don't know what it's like to walk in they shoes....if that make since. Parents are still growing up themselves while trying to help us grow up...they make immature decisions just like us - the only difference is they have no safe place to land when they display their humanity. I spent years being so upset with my mom until i learned her story, and met her biological dad with her when she was 55 years old and he couldn't talk because he had lung cancer. My mom had a life long list of questions and she couldn't get one answer because bruh had lung cancer. After experiencing this with her she began to open up about her childhood and this felt like they first time she felt heard and understood. Sharing this with her help me to understand why she was the way she was...and our relationship is 100% better! should she sought counseling before having children, YES! I just understand now and I honestly I don't think she saw it as a prob really she was so use to it that is was normal to her, but so toxic to me. Also, I am not dismissing her attitude/behavior towards me either. My anger towards my mom use to consume me and cripple me in a lot of ways now I am realizing that I hold the power to let it go and grow....
You’re on to something Tarek..... using ur platform for GREATNESS! so thankful to you and praying for ur healing
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I’m so very proud of you for acknowledging that what you’ve heard is “alleged”. Sooooo many people will form opinions based on someone else’s perspective. Let the healing begin. You got this.
S. Rogers I commend him for that too. It stood out to me when he said it.
You all deserve an answer. Your parents know the reason why everything happened and have had time to heal. The least they could do is answer why. You are so strong, brave and beautiful and we love you❤️🥰 you deserve the world
I agree 100% they at least owe the children an explanation.
#facts
@@mauricenowlin7568 Nowlin is my family last name #NowlinsSC
@@MRSANN2010 really what part of sc
They definitely "deserve an answer" from their father, if nothing else. Their biological mother may want to answer a few questions, as well.
Your ability to forgive and take the course of action shown on this video makes you wise beyond your years.
You (and your siblings) deserve a feasible answer. Whether it was 10 years ago, or not. It seems like neither parent is being 100% honest.
Traumatic issues like this can impact children’s choices later on in life. So, although you weren’t calling for an explanation, you deserved one.
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He deserved closure but i guess u gotta give that closure to yourself and accept an apology you never got
Dina A. Sometimes, yep.
We as a race of people go through so much ,but fail to communicate an have open discussions that will bring understanding, healing, clarity and resolved.
AMEN!!!!
You were great as usual. And glad that you chose to do this topic of discussion ; however , I don’t like that she was just as nonchalant as the day she left. Ima pray for her. Thank you lord god for my deliverance.
Thanks sis. We all gone take different time and we going nowhere but up from here love you so much . Miss you already
Love and light to you both .. MsMerble 🙋🏾♀️..
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Tarek Ali I’m so glad that you made this video because a lot of people need to see how to let go of the negativity in their life ! They need to see that you cannot receive the blessings that the universe has for them if they holding on to a bunch of negativity 😒
Oh and another thing in a situation like this l have a saying “children don’t have nothing to do with adult situations ! And from how you said she left she wasn’t thinking about the children she was her self!😒
Seems like your stepmom wasn’t as attached to y’all as y’all were to her . When the relationship ended she was done with y’all as well. Which is 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
So this is his stepmother not his real mother
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yea I felt that too which probably hurt him even more cuz even though she's technically his "stepmom" by label, she was his mother at heart and the only mom he knew.
Sometimes it has to be that way. To protect her feelings and the kids. Because once they break up she can't go back home with those kids
Now in my mid-twenties, I’m learning to deal with my childhood trauma and how to nurture my inner child (that wasn’t taken as good of care as she should’ve been.) I’ve noticed as I’ve gotten older my trauma from when I was a kid is really effecting me in relationships more than I realized. I love this video and how open and honest you are! ✨
I know im late but I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. When I was 12 my mom and dad left me and my 6 siblings with my grandma and uncle. I remember my mom telling me that she hated me when I was 10. Then I remember my dad telling me and her that he's gonna find a real woman and have a better daughter, it hurt me so much but I also remembered that my older cousin would always tell me I have to take it like a g. It was hard without them, especially since my grandma couldn't really move around and my uncle worked as a security guard and only got paid 4.67 dollars an hour. When I turned 17 I decided to get a job to help, then a few months after I found out that my parents had actually had 2 other kids it hurted me so much,that I started suffering from depression causing me to have to quit my job and go to therapy. One day when I came home from school I saw my siblings sitting on the couch looking at pictures of my parents and us. Then my little brother started crying and asked "does mommy and daddy love us" I couldn't answer him becuase I just busted into tears and hugged them. When I finished therapy I decided to find a new job. I eventually got a job as a lyft driver. One day when I came home my siblings came running to the door telling me that my grandma won't wake up. My heart stopped. I ran to the room to see my grandma laying on the bed and a note. in the note I noticed that she said she was getting sick. I felt like it was my fault I was so stuck up on the past that I wasn't paying attention to what was happening. 2 years later I now have custody of all of my siblings and my uncle lives with his wife and kids. My grandma is watching over us. Honestly I feel like God took my parents out my life because he knew they weren't gonna serve a purpose for me and my future.
And WOW LOOK AT YOU AND WHAT YOUVE DONE! Amazing how you have had to step up. Youre so wonderful for that! And I send love and goodness your and your “babies”(siblings) way!!
Hiiii. Plz look after your siblings. Please. Do ur best. God is watching over u all and he ll reward u for making sure that they all get Jobs.
Thank you Tarek for allowing us in this sensitive part of your life we love you and your growth we love you ❤️
Wow this video really touched me and will touch and reach many people who need healing. Like you, I was abandoned but by my stepfather. He was in my life and the life of my older siblings since I was approximately 7 years old. He seen me grown up and also seen my older siblings have children. Fast forward to be being around 19 years old, he just up and left and never came back. He and my mother were married and he started to have an affair with another woman. He moved in with her and carried on his life like we never existed. That was in 2008. I'm 30 now and I have never heard from him again. No apology, no explanation...nothing. What he did played a huge role in my relationship dynamics that I did not even realize until I started doing premartial counseling. But I forgive him and wish him well.
I love Tareks ability to be understanding and forgive and be the best version of himself he can be because its honestly what everyone should try and strive to do. I have always been understanding but forgiveness is always hard especially when the other person might not be sorry at all so seeing him being so relaxed during the call was so crazy.
“I’m good” then starts crying.. me asf, ugh I hate you for making me cry 😭😭
Don't cry king I love you you are SO STRONG THANK YOU for sharing this message
My husband is adopted he's 30 now I will be there for him whenever he's ready. Sending blessings to you young man
Wow you being 11 or 12 when this happened must have been so traumatizing. God bless you man. I love your channel.
This is an outstanding video. Thank you for having the courage to make yourself vulnerable in this space. I'm confident that your work is helping others because you set a great example with your integrity and positivity. Kudos!
Whew .... this was a lot to take in. Wish your sister and you nothing but everlasting path of love.
After watching this video I became encouraged to have a sit down with my father. Although I don’t think it’ll ever happen, I’ve always wanted to do it because it’s held me back from so much. My relationships never last with guys because I can never seem to trust because I fear being abandoned. My father broke my heart before any man could so I keep my guard up which is another reason why my relationships go downhill. Like you said, I don’t expect anything from him. The only thing I would like is closure...
Mmmhhh I can relate...
Your eyes were red before the video started 🥺
Got me in tears. But I admire your strength. Pray and continue to be yourself and keep it pushing.
I truly enjoy your channel and point of view. I don’t know you, but I swear your the most genuine personal you tube. Your light, and heart truly shine Thur the camera. I love how your being the example of change our community needs. By using your personal life experiences. I truly believe there’s no wasted experience. Your heart ❤️ is so big and so strong, honestly I wish more gay black men where like you. Your heaven sent.
Wow!!! This all started because I was looking to cut and dye my hair and your vlogs surface due to your hair. Now I’m a subscriber!!! Your personality is amazing 😉. But stop making me cry Tarek Ali. Great Video
I don’t get that motherly vibe from her, seems like she didn’t think of you and your biological siblings as her own. that’s sad🤦🏽♀️ I know u want a relationship with her, but doesn’t seem like she wants the same. maybe u should just focus on having a relationship with your step siblings
Abandoning children and step children is mother nature to black women thus why are people that surprised? Bro, hope you find the healing you seek but please do so with open mind and from a place of living your good self. Black men why marry black women when you know she's never there to uplift you when you are in deep mess rather she's only there for what she can get?
ItsKelsey but at the end of the day you dont know how she really feel. She might not know how to express herself.
Everybody not the same. Trauma makes people react differently. The mother may really love her son, but NO ONE has the right to come out of their mouths to say that she doesnt. No one can speak bad about her. And absolutely no one should speak on their situation if its not positive.
@@MrJoennachi How is abandoning children and step children mother nature to black women?
Historically black women have been forced to give up children, birth children that were taken for profit but is that black women's mother nature?
It is not mother nature for any woman to abandon her child.
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Tarek, there are a countless number of people who love you dearly, even though you may not know them. You're an angel sent from up above to help others.
You don’t look anything like what you’ve been through you’re so strong and so much people are going to be able to relate ! Your soul is so rich I’m proud of you keep pushing 🖤🙌🏾
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You are a beautiful person continue to stay strong and positive.
You’ve been through the wire honestly. And nobody should grow through pain. I see why it’s always positive vibes. Thank you.
Aww your so precious after everything you have been through you have a pure heart of forgiveness and still want to be in your half sisters life after all that happened ugh I love you
Hey King, I loooove that your videos are always soooo powerful and come with messages. You inspire me on my channel in so many ways thank you ❤️.
The dislike button are probably the grandmas thinking it’s the sad button
Wolfy Tundra yeah
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I know how strong you've had to be in order to film this video and at the same time being able to come to terms with this and gain closure. Coming from a smaller RUclipsr who has been through my set of trials and tribulations and who's also battled with suicidal depression and severe anxiety, Thank you. For not only sharing your story but making it easier for us who eventually want to have these conversations on our platforms as well. Bless up!
At the end of the day thank god you have the gift of forgiveness! Because every time I feel or think I’ve forgiven my dad, a part of me is still hurt. As well as you grew from that, you look like you have a beautiful home and you’re alive and have faced A LOT and yet still grew through it as a strong man! Congrats and proud of you and your family and good luck w life! ❤️🙏🏻
I literally just had a "coming to peace" conversation with my father which didn't go as well as yours did but I truly believe conversations need to be had to find your serenity! Thank you for this video and for being willing to share your truth and your story! 💛 You have a beautiful spirit and you are appreciated!
You are a wise and strong young man and should be so proud of how far you have come. As a mum and step mum I hold that responsibility as the most important job I have and regardless of the situation with the dad they will always be loved and taken care of. God has indeed prepared you well to be able to help others, what a gift. I wish you all the happiness and love in the world 😘
Tarek GOD blessed you, you're a strong person with a beautiful heart.👍
you are so brave for doing this in public. and are you your own therapist? cuz you’re out here living and healing and dropping all this knowledge 👏🏾👏🏾 such a light
This really had me crying every 2 minutes. Tarek, you are so strong and it's amazing how you don't let your past hold you down. Hoping the best for your future. 💕
That was terrible. It hurt me so bad to hear you cry Tarek. She basically admitted she was out for her self and didn't even bother to check back, call, text, email, whatever after taking care of you for YEARS and no apology, no hug, no goodbye! You deserved a goodbye! I'm so pissed about that! And doesn't explain the house issue etc! If you had an 'abusive' spouse wouldn't you fight for custody or at least visitation! You are an angel for this and your sister is so very blessed to have you♡
Does such a legal designation exist, where a stepparent can have visitation and fight for custody, when the parents are alive (and whose parental rights haven't been terminated)?
I haven't even started the video but like you're one of my favorite RUclipsrs to watch. The transparency & vulnerability is very appreciated 💙
These conversations never or hardly ever go well. may God heal the hearts of those in situations like this
My dad was in & out my life from 3-16. I hated him up until my 23d birthday. My brother tricked me into a convo. That convo was necessary. My dad apologized. He cried. I cried. Fast forwards. 8 years later....I’m a daddies boy. Getting the apology didn’t undue the hurt but it allowed for forgiveness. He stepped up & supported me. Didn’t care that I was gay only that I was loved & happy. Somebody needed this testimony. Thank you.
Be With Your Mom Every Chance That You Get ❣️ My Running Buddy. Left Me September 2015. I Miss Her Everything. Including Her Talks About THE LORD ❣️❤️
Mad respect for posting this I needed to view this - I have a very fickle relationship with my dad that has affected my life tremendously I went looking for a place of acceptance, love, sense of belonging through all the wrong people and places trying to fill that void.. you have pushed me to HEAL w/ or w/o him thank you
Tarek, this situation is a bit like the situation for my dad leaving. My dad left my mom, my sister, and me when I was 2 and growing up I thought nothing of it, but now I’m 16 and I’m asking my mom questions like, “why did he leave?” and “why did y’all get a divorce?” And it always goes unanswered by my mom and I’m not really comfortable to ask my dad these things. I love how you were able to talk to your mom and how open you were to it and I hope I could do it soon one day(maybe when I’m an adult) thank you Tarek you truly helped me see things from different perspectives❤️
The fact that you had the strength to call her, let alone make the video and take the time to explain your situation, says a lot about you. That's really admirable.
I’ll appreciate you forever for your videos like this. This is what breaking toxic cycles look like 💛💛💛💛 I’m Happy your found is successful. Love Your Channel.
You are an absolute beautiful soul. Every man should be like you.
Great job! You - Tarek did the correct thing! Love you nephew!
omg I respect you for talking about these ! I’m definitely subscribing to you sus 🥰!
I’m crying with you right now @9:02
You’re so strong and so brave for reaching out like your story is so beautiful the good and the bad .... thank you for sharing
I'm subscribing. Your heart is golden.
It’s amazing knowing all you went through and seeing the person you are now. You inspire me so much, thank you! ❤️
I just came across this vid, if i would watched this back in June of 2019 i would have not been able to understand. I can honestly say i can relate to the feelings and events that you show. Sadly i was way younger. This helped me in a way, it nice to know theres someone who understands. Im 16 but i have the same mindset due to the fact like i said alot of it happened to me when i was younger. I went through multiple stages of anger, constant sadness, insecurities, and much more. You just earned a new subscriber. Much love💗
Your stepmom beat around the bush. She never answered your questions to help you heal. She never took responsibility for how she acted which was selfish and she was concerned about herself and her children. You lived in the house and your Dad never touched her. And out of all of it she never apologized for you children being homeless and separated so she doesn't deserve forgiveness but for your healing I understand
Shirley Nessbitt but forgiveness isn’t for his mom it’s for him to pick up the pieces and move on. that’s his point. sure she doesn’t deserve him even reaching out but he’s doing it for his mental well being.
s m b x she covered everything you said in your paragraph with the last part of her sentence “but for your healing I understand” ............
What really got me about the whole convo was when she was talking about his relationship with his sister. She said "I'm not blocking it but I am very protective of how I let her do things". Now I can understand being protective as a parent but why would she feel the need to say that to him? He is her brother. Not a stranger on the street. What does his sister need protection from? I think it says a lot about how she views him and the situation.
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Timah R. Maybe the sister needs protection because of the situation with the dad. I can only think of one thing but may God help this family because they clearly need a lot of healing ❤️
You’re a great person for having this type of forgiveness and patience
@TarekAli very deep and thoughtful. Emotional but insightful all at the same time. I pray that your family on both sides will begin the process of healing and forgiveness in order for you all to grow in maturity and peace. Your a beautiful person inside and out bruh keep living Alive in yout truth and rely on power of God to carry you through. May God continues to heal you and your family be blessed. Much love to you. You have my support.
Love this!!! So glad you were so open about this experience! Forgiveness is key and a lot of people still have to learn that. Thank you for giving back to our community, and the world.
Tarek I feel so much love for you while hearing your story. Who you are is so great your circumstances have never defined you. You’re truly an inspiration. I’m praying for healing in your heart and in your family ❤️
She's Showing Her True Colors. GOD BLESS YOU
Thank you for this!❤️ God Bless King!
So proud of you Tarek! Vulnerability is a gift and a strength of yours, and it's why we love you !! It comes to you so effortlessly and you handled this with such grace!!
I am so sorry this happened to you and you took on it like a true Victor and chose to walk the path of forgiveness ...I pray for healing and that your story impacts many in a positive way that they too may get the healing they need. I walked a similar path with my parents and had to forgive them! Many more Blessings to you ! 💓💖
This was heavy!!!! But very necessary.
I feel like youtubers should be more like you and not pretend to have a happy life and use the platform for good like you do this is really inspiring
❤️This was a very emotional video tbh watching tarek cry like that literally broke my heart I had to cry along with him cause I can relate.
Tarek you are BRAVE & COURAGEOUS beyond words ! Your truly a leader for your generation and more ! Keep up the good work !
Thank you for showcasing true vulnerability! I can only hope that you are able to heal fully from this. Thank you for sharing your story. You are loved, Tarek! ❤️
awwww don't cry just remember that you are a strong man today no matter what happens .
Oh no I'm not gonna be able to handle this video. Love you!! But no sir. 🙅🏾♂️
You are extremely brave & very grounded and humble. I just stumbled across your channel & was watching this next to my mother and she got emotional listening to you get emotional about this. Listen everything is in its divine proportion, and you are exactly where you are supposed to be 💛
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I have viewed some of your content in the past and can admit to appreciating what you share. At first; because I’m a older person, I didn’t think subscribing would hold my interest as per generation gap but lo and behold our humanism doesn’t discriminate. The subject of forgiveness is a life changing topic to explore Especially when you decide on a process to grow and have the support of those indirectly involved. I say indirectly because how long can we share the responsibility of our feelings before realizing we could stay stuck as life moves on. We can’t go back get back or change what was. If we decide to allow present day inclusion of folks then we will accept who they are and move on together or without them. Finally, the greatest part to me about Forgiveness is appreciating the experience as a way to identify principles and living by them. Sorry for ranting😊
I absolutely admire how strong you are! Taking these steps require so much emotional intelligence and maturity. You’re walking in the right direction! Please keep it up ❤️
You are a phenomenal person. Your desire to seek forgiveness and closure from situations in your past, speaks volume. Your blessings are forthcoming. I speak prosperity and blessing over your life. Continue your great efforts! Much love!
The fact that you still remember that Is a different typa pain but remember Got doesn’t put us through shit we can’t handle . Stay strong baby🖤💯
Wow , I went through the same thing , and I relate with your feelings on so many levels.
It took me in my later 20s to come to terms with forgiveness of my mother. It is not easy, but also to piggy back of the topic of forgiveness, but forgiveness is also extends into healing your inner child. So many of us in the black community suffer from fear of abandonment and wonder why we have so many relationship issues. Thank you for doing this. My heart goes out to you. 🥺💜🤗
Hey, Tarek! This video relates to me SO MUCH because my biological mother left me when I was very young, and we haven’t talked in six years, and she doesn’t really care about me, I haven’t forgave her ever since she left me because she basically ruin my childhood. My father basically took care of me, and my younger brother all of our lives, until he met my stepmom (my mom,). I can’t seem to forgive her because of all of the pain//anger she gave me, my father, and my younger brother. My stepmom is basically my mother, she took care of me - she supported me, she loves me, so she is my mom. I have a stepbrother, and a little sister (by, my stepmom//dad.) so this video relates to me SO SO MUCH. Thank you, Tarek for making this video and sharing your story!! ♥️
( side note: i loveeeeeee that rick&morty sweatshirt, where did you get it from?? )
I appreciate how hard that must have been, to put yourself out there. Not just to reach out to her but to share it with all of us as well. I understand you were in a dark space but I am glad you made it to the other side as you are truly a light in the world. I believe you are meant to be the exact person you are, thank you. Sending many hugs your way.
Keep up the content. You have support team behind you 👏🏽
First, I just want to say you’re one of the most honest and endearing youtubers I follow and this conversation was so touching because you’re showing your healing process in such an honest way it truly is helpful ❤️🙏🏻 and also, I’m sorry all this happened to you. I wish you all the success as you continue on your journey 🙏🏻
tarek you are such a blessing on this earth!!!
Hi Tarek, I just came across your channel and I just want to say that I think you are amazing. Not just based on what you had to deal with growing up but as an individual, you really are someone to look up to and I wish there were more people like you in the world. You are so special and I hope your journey of forgiveness and happiness continues! Love your videos I’ve seen so far xx
I get your message and understand. I am 69 years old and think you're very Articulate about your truth. 🌈🌈🌈🤗
I am so proud of you for being so vulnerable and raw! As a person that has similar deep-rooted issues with a parent, I know how difficult it can be to have certain conversations. In addition to battling the scars that come with it. New subscriber, thanks so much for sharing this was not only encouraging but left me feeling hopeful.
Praise God for your courage and sharing your story, Forgiveness is key, Gods Love
& Hey Logan hey
ur unbothered, confident energy as you speak with your mom despite how you just broke down a moment ago, pure scorpio energy I stan, & thank you for this pure, honest, and encouraging vid. I feel like every scorpio has a deep past tbh, which is why we're so strong