Timestamps! 🌺✨ 1:12 1. You get bored with small talk 1:52 2. Your careful with your words 2:25 3. You're socially akward 3:12 4. You struggle to make good friends 3:56 5. You don't get out much 4:28 6. You're overly analytical 5:07 7. Your mind constantly craves exercise 5:37 8. You're always feeling pressured to succeed Hope this helped! ❤️ (Tysm)
I think intelligence has to do more with how aware you are of yourself and trying to compare yourself to a RUclips video seems rather self unaware to me. I believe that if you truly want to know if you’re intelligent or not you must fully understand your weaknesses and your strengths. I made the mistake of clicking on this video too, but take my advice and don’t compare yourself because everybody is unique and we each has strengths and weaknesses that we can all improve upon and those strengths and weaknesses can make us the best version of ourselves. Use them to your advantage and remember confidence is the ability to know that you’re doing the best you can and are disciplined enough to be the best at what you do.
@@Peacewisernot really, as the confidence on display here, in his conclusions about observable truths in the world, often require a great deal of contemplation and deep thought to arrive at.
A lot of people focus on superficial things, but the ones who focus on the real essence will not insist on how things appear on the surface. So people see it’s changing, but they don’t. Also, they predict the change, see how things should happen, so they are much more prepared than other people.
I really stopped caring about being smarter than everybody else which in some ways I regret but It’s what makes me happy and less stressed so getting average grades and having a normal social life is okay you just have to find what really makes you happy
Your grades have nothing to do with intelligence, that's literally just remembering and and regurgitating information. Intelligence is a hell of a lot broader than that
I love this channel. You make it easier to navigate my own emotions and feeling but also others. Keep going Psych2go, you’re making 8 million people a little bit better everyday 💜
I finally found some answers to why do I act this way. I even cries at the end when you mentioned how the see you as a villian; basically how my classmates treates me for being "too intellgent". I never felt that way tho, I always "dumb myself down" bc people like my family are tired of my analysis on everything. And the IQ vs EQ part is so true, a pastor friend told me that I may be intelligent with numbers and analysis but I need to be intelligent socially... I love this video ♡ you made me understand myself much better ♡ thank you
having high social intelligence just comes from experience of being around others, take that analytical mind and use it to observe peoples body language. The trouble is a lot of you guys these days probably spend all your time interacting online instead of in person, you will never develop real EQ that way.
@@anab0lic Your solution of studying body language and being around others can backfire in so many ways. A lot of intelligent people already use tools like micro expression reading, body language, word choices and speech intonation. Tompakow, Weil and Carnegie are mandatory survival readings. For the ones with tendencies to Anxiety or Paranoia they just can't turn off the "analytical mind" and every time you are in the presence of others you are making sure all the points connect. If they don't connect it becomes a mess. It's exhausting and most "normal" people will just be creeped out and wary of the neighborhood mind reader.
When i was getting bullied on my elementary school bc i was by far the smarter kid there.Only my childhood friend accept me all others didn t even talk me.Later on on highschool after very hard 6 year before i learn to don t show off my abilities until the 3rd year of highschool.Then i used my abilities and won the national physic school contest.My classmate was pride of me and they most of them even if they knew my abilities accept but even then i was so traumatize i had develop despression i couldn t accept that people around me accept so i stop going to school after a while. But still the kids from my highschool wanted me to be there with them.They still talk to me after 7 years.
@@jimms18w I'm so glad you had support during hard time , sometimes they fear what they don't understand. :( But there are other who are willing to know us and accept what we are. P.s. I don't think I'm smart, but I admire people who are.
I think we also struggle with being able to see what's going on politically/societally around the world, know it's way wrong, but the dumb ones cheer it on...
8 struggles highly intelligent people will unterstand: 1. You get bored with smalltalk 2. You’re careful with your words 3. You’re socially awkward 4. You struggle to make good friends 5. You don’t get out much 6. You’re overly analytical 7. You’re mind constantly craves exercise 8. You’re always feeling pressure to succeed ✌️🌸
I relate to all except I'm kinda an extrovert person actually. My friends always treated me like I'm the smartest in school and always need my help though I was just serious with my study.
More power to you. You doing it great. Highly intelligent people know that this video based on research and generalization and there are people out there who struggle with these.
Yeah. I don't have very many friends but some of the people I talk to in some of my classes ask for help, sometimes. Not very often, though, because I don't talk to very many of those people except in the classes I have with them. I'm too worried to talk to them any other time because I'm always worried I'll catch them at a wrong time. Some of them have invited me to hang out with them, but I still get worried to
can honestly relate to all of them. but over time, with practice, you do get better at the socializing. like, i have a single close friend, and a relatively small number of people i would hang with. still, unfortunately for me, i have a tendency to throw my mind into games rather than academics. and rpg games like outer worlds, fallout and skyrim cripple me because i always wanna find the optimal way through. hence why my favorite games are metroidvania style. its not just a straight path forward, but it's not this big number of choices you cant undo later, like allocating stat points or doing the bad ending for certain quests. metroidvania's also strike the balance where a completionist has something to look forward to, but not a massive country with tedious "find this thing in the middle of the forest and unlock a lore snippet"
and problem number 9, even if you do sometimes say something you think of as funny. they might just not get it, and you just lose motivation to think of funny things
THAT IS EXACTLY LIKE ME. With games rather than academics, even if I do great in school, but I get lazy sometimes. Also socializing with people got better over the years as I was really shy and reserved.
Huh..tht explains why I fell in love with resident evil at the age of 9 (back during its golden age) why I always prefer the classics along with similar games like silent hill,I mean sure the newer ones are fine if im feelin bored but I always preferred the metroidvanian classic style cause it rly forced me to think things thru
It's like having insight on everything, but not knowing why existential depression is a thing, or why you start spiralling when you can't understand something, and it becomes a much bigger problem, as you don't know how to get yourself out of that situation, thus making it unintentionally worse for yourself because of it.
"Who am I ?" Can't be solve with the mind. Mind is memory and imagination. You are the one seeing it Not any answers the mind can say. Heart emotion, your whole body is responding to your ideas. You eat a thought by beliving it. It grows in you like a tree of emotions and thoughts. And bears fruits of similar emotions. You are non of them, as you are the one seeing all your emotions and thoughts. Gut. You know. You don't know how you know but you do know. Yes it can store thoughts and emotions. As you relax your guts, the last kink of tension is realeased. You got no tension to hold in to. No sense of in or out. The world and you are revealed to always have been one. The thought "i am ..." Was just a thoughts. And you, that cannot be named, Cannot be found. And its okay. It is all pretty talk. But is that true for you? Are you desperate enough to go find who you are. All the servant do the kings orders But who will check if there is a king on the throne? There is desperation But no one it is happening to. Ego, the sense if being a separate entity, is just a sens, a feeling, a thought. Let me kniw if it helped or cinfused you even more. Take care and thank you
You know, I never thought that I was all that intelligent. Still don't. People are always telling me that I am, but I feel like it only shines through in extremely specific scenarios, and I turn out average or sub-par in quite a few places. With that said, all of these except for #2 apply perfectly to me. I do struggle in social situations, but in fact, I think it's actually because I don't analyse my speech enough; so when I do speak, I often come off as toxic and hurtful, and I become afraid to speak as a result. It's terribly demoralising. But otherwise, I guess I fit you guys' bill for "intelligent"..? I don't know. I have a host of other factors, including personality traits like vulnerable narcissism and perfectionism (in EVERYTHING, not just academics), and possible neurodevelopmental disorders such as Asperger's and ADHD, that could be part of what makes me unintentionally come off as "intelligent."
@@rufusneumann9703 That can't be it... my childhood has been fantastic! My parents love me and they see to it that I have everything I need to be happy, and I don't have any friends close enough to be abused by 🤔
What's harder is being *academically* intelligent without any street intelligence, especially when you're seen as "The Smart Kid" in Class. Not only is that a toxic viewpoint to be given, but it also leads to some heavy mental issues whenever another individual with just as if not more intelligence becomes present in the Class. I would trade my "natural intelligence" for street intelligence any day of the week tbh.
That was part of why I switched from Computer Science to Business Admin. It helped that I already had a wit with people, but it was a drag when I realized I’m having more discussions with my professors than other students.
academic intelligence isn't natural intelligence.... in fact school grades have very little to do with measuring someone's intelligence. Perhaps you are not as smart as you think you are, because you would not so easily be outwitted by those on the streets, as being of high intellect means the ability to problem solve and creatively outsmart others in a myriad of situations comes easily, though you may ne3ed ample time to do so, on the spot thinking without much contemplation, that's more a case of experience/wisdom.
I'm autistic and tend to score high on IQ tests (although I know those aren't always accurate or reputable), and I relate to all of these things in this video. Dunno if it's from intelligence or autism, but I do think it's a pretty similar experience. Being commonly misunderstood but still very articulate, bad with choices/overwhelmed by all aspects/variables, often left out, hating small talk, social awkwardness, all autism things ✌️
Yes, I relate. I kept thinking to myself "high intelligence? this just sounds like my experience with autism..." I don't typically score that high on IQ tests, just a little above average, and honestly I'm not that intelligent and few people think I'm intelligent but I relate to every struggle on the list XD
@@laumay7364 Very!! It's funny, autism is labeled as a "communication deficit" but studies have shown that autistic people communicate just as well with other autistic people as neurotypical people do with other neurotypical people. The only time there's miscommunications is between an autistic person and a neurotypical person. And personally, I've realized most of the friends I have ended up with over the years were autistic like me, and neither knew at the time. Super interesting!!! But of course close friendships/relationships are still just as possible between autistic people and neurotypical people. Just depends on each person, everyone is so different and life just works a weird way haha. But autistic people aren't lacking, we're just different ✨
I was at least 95% of what you said. I reserch everything sometimes for months before commenting. I have 0 friends and now alone sense my wife passed. My work was my life and what you say is very true. thank you for letting me vent. James
I relate to all 8 struggles here.. it’s very accurate. Especially number 3 😂 I barely speak during parties and when someone tries to talk to me they get annoyed because of how long it takes me to reply to them.
Thank God someone understands being serious is not being a "robot". My boyfriend ended with me as I'm a robot to him.. too serious and socially occurred. I'm still healing... It's been years...
I’ve gotten that “robot” comment a lot too at the end of the day I just say it is what it is. A few words of advice, you are who you are, some people can handle it and some people can’t. Just focus on what makes you happy and the people that see your value will be attracted to you, we’re social creatures ever introverted person has and extrovert that will find them lol 😂
@@richardmohan1037 honestly, I can't imagine that someone will embrace me for who I am. Logically, this sounds correct but emotionally, even after being strong willed, I've realised that since I am suffering for a couple of years now, it is difficult for me to believe. Still, I want to leave a positive message for every other person I meet including my future self. And your comment certainly sounded the very first one supporting my decision of hope, suggesting it to be correct so thank you so much for this. I'm grateful.
You're fortunate in being female and intelligent. There are far more intelligent men than women, so your options will be much greater even though smart men are hard to find. Don't let the opinion of one dumb guy make you feel unattractive.
Personally I've noticed that when a person is highly intelligent, they either have a huge ego and try to show it off constantly, or they genuienly try to avoid attention and try living a peaceful life. I think of myself as slightly above average in terms of intelligence and I have come to the conclusion that academic achievements arent always an indicator that a person is intelligent. For example I made an experiment on myself, basically I was the top student in my class in all the 10 years I had been attending school, but I tried to see last semester how good of a score I can get without studying anything for the entire 4 months. Well the difference was MINIMAL, I went from a 19.9/20 to a 18.9/20, soon I understood how big of a joke the school system is. Because in school they basically train your ability to remember something for a short period of time and then instantly forget and repeat, rather than training your ability to collect vital information that helps you enchance your way of thinking which can lead you to be able to learn new info in a simpler manner. But what can I say Im just a goddamn 15 yold that thinks of shit like this in the middle of the night instead of sleeping because I cant stop thinking about how many things politicians could change in this world if they actually used the resources of their nations correctly instead of making useless aditions to the military. And the joke is that the counter point to all the things I just wrote is: You are just a kid what do you know... THIS IS TORTURE THE CAUSE OF MY SLEEP DEPRIVATION IS CONSTANT THOUGHTS ITS HORRIBLE
Oh boy, are you in for it. 'Youre just a kid' is horrid, I agree. My experience is that it does not change much as we age. I am just 1 person, what can I do?' has replaced it. People love to create power structures. And put themselves above 'you'. Ands I still lay awake at night wondering that stuff. Long ago I came to the conclusion that my generation [im 56] has a LOT to answer for. Time only reinforces that. Best wishes to you and your peers. I did my best. For all that helped.
The feeling when you're in bed in darkness for 45 minutes turning left and right just because you're mind is processing all the info of today, out of all the possible options throughout the day IT HAS TO DO IT NOW (fellow 15 yo here)
I hear you, man. Recently, I've been trying to focus on what school SHOULD be at its core: skill-building and character development. It's super difficult to not focus on the numbers and overthink every single thing that I do, but I'm finding progress, thankfully, and I think I'm growing as a person overall, which is the most important part. Just gotta take it one step at a time. :D
College is a little bit better, as it isn’t merely designed to churn out low-skilled factory workers. It’s unfortunate that we don’t start teaching critical thinking and application of knowledge until the very end of high school or in college. And if you believe you think a lot now, just wait until your frontal cortex fully matures! Your thought processes will deepen and expand with the connections you discover between things, people, time and natural phenomena.
1. You get bored of small talk 2. You're careful with your words 3. You're socially awkward 4. You struggle to make good friends 5. You don't get out much 6. You're overly analytical 7. Your mind constantly craves exercise 8. You're always feeling pressured to succeed. Most of these traits (struggles) I attributed to me being an introvert and the only child bearing the most expectations cause I always feel I'm stupid😂 didn't know it can also mean otherwise. This channel is so informative in a fun way and your voice is so soothing!
I relate to all of these mostly! I'm in advanced ELA, accelerated math, and both TAGS in social studies and science. I used to worry a LOT about my grades. I once got a 90 on a math test and almost cried...Now i realize how silly that was, and how silly everyone else around me is for competing with each other for perfect marks. I decided to write and research an argumentative essay in ELA about the grading system, and doing so really helped me understand learning and what it actually is. Learning isn't racking up As to increase a number, being so perfect all the time with zero flaw. Grades are just an extrinsic motivator to get you to learn, and only that, not an end goal to reach. Now i no longer worry about my grades in that unhealthy obsessive way. I still care, but its a healthy amount, and i focus on actually learning and being curious about the material. I do more than whatever is needed for a good grade just because i want to. Its helped me grow a lot more and made me way happier now :)
I kind of strongly disagree with the whole saying, " These people have high IQs, Academic Achievements, and go on to be successful leaders and trail blazers in their fields." Writing is not my thing as much as design, math, science, and art. But I can say majority of the most intelligent and smartest people I know are barely making it. Nothing is more disheartening than here some ignorant person saying "Then go to college to get a better job" when many of us cannot afford college. Or saying, "Find a new job" as if we are so lucky enough to have the money to move to where we can work somewhere that will pay a fair wage. The only way I can live somewhat comfortable is whoring out my knowledge to others who at the end steal all the credit and claim my designs, concepts, and creation are their own because no one will take me seriously because I cannot even afford to buy a damn college degree. The most smartest people I know do not have academic achievements or leadership positions.
I would like to offer some advice, even though it's a little difficult. You may want to find out about yourself. And your boundaries! Because if you cooperate with ppl who are humane or not, will depend on your self-worth perception. It really makes a huge difference. Because I've got currently no job (out of choice), very little money and degrees never mattered much in any of my steps on the way. And people who are in touch with me do not disregard me for it and are careful about crossing my boundaries (with very few exceptions). The instances where I'd get discredited, are the instances where I'd not give a damn about credit, cause I have different values. You don't need any papers to be respected as a human being and properly cared for. It's a trap! What you probably need, is more regard for yourself, as in "These are my boundaries and the things I must learn to verbalize and advocate for". If you devalue yourself based on any of your outer circumstances (money, social status, sheets of papers saying nothing about your worth as a complex being) then you're outsourcing your power and get stuck in a place of no way out. I'm literally here in a somewhat similar situation and even in the most trapped circumstances, I'll feel more freend be more regarded the moment I open my mouth, even by people who think I'm below them. They have no power over me as I'm not negotiating certain things, at no instance, not even with the person who may withdraw my means to live. It's completely valid that people like us can have a very hard time and kind of need to work through a whole different stack of struggles to be able to do things other ppl do "everyday". The bad circumstances are not your fault. Yet, you're your responsibility as that is naturally what comes alongsides your power to be yourself and your ally. I would like to pay you respect for living every day. It's hard. And I hope you can care for yourself accordingly. It tends to open ways in very unexpected ways. I'd like to forward you to the channel HeathyGamer with Dr. K (a psychiatrist now specialising in the gamer community). It's a place where you may find completely free resources and really valuable advice about exactly these things. It can support you with your self-care process and teach you how to e.g. handle toxic people at work. They work with meditation, too, and that's really helping with the mental/emotional hygiene of life. Wish you the very best. You are not alone
I agree with you. A lot of gifted and highly intelligent people end up becoming burned out and sometimes even depressed because of the expectations people have of them. Having a high IQ does not mean that someone will be successful in their studies or job. I have recently gotten an IQ test done and ended up with a score of 119-132 (estimated IQ of 127), yet I failed school last year because I got horrible grades. Spreading the belief that high IQ = success is honestly a very toxic concept in my eyes. It'll only lead to people pushing themselves more until they reach their limit and then break down. We're all still human, we can't do everything at the same time. Maybe the fact that we tend to have lower EQs can also play into this, as we're typically worse at handling emotions and understanding them. This means that we can become quite easily overwhelmed and may be more prone to getting burn-outs, which will ultimately mess with our achievements and ability to work and learn.
I suggest reading "The Curse of the high IQ" If you need to help you or your smart friends discover how to handle being so smart in a world that's so dumb. I was already successful when I read that book, but it helped me resolve a lot of torment and confusion I had gathered along the way.
Intelligence isn’t a indication of success for sure. If you don’t have the means or the social skill to take advantage of it then at that point it’s kind of a party trick, which is sad.
I always feel left out, I feel that my mind is so abstract that no one will ever be able to understand me. I see and perceive things far differently than others. I'm so emotionally intuned to the world it gets exhausting, I feel everything so deeply in ways i can't begin to describe. Does anyone else feel this way? Maybe its an infp thing.
I'm an intp, I'm not as emotionally tuned into the world as you seem to be but I do get the people not understanding you or your thought process because it's so abstract and feeling left out because of it. I'm not sure how to fix feeling like this yet, but I've found it helps to tell someone who can understand you even a little bit about your ideas or feelings, for me it's about either new things I've learned and thought about beyond where we are at in school, they may not understand much but even just telling someone has helped me feel a little less alone as I imagine they do understand me, even if they don't. The trouble I've found is finding someone who can understand just that little bit, which isn't easy and I'm still trying. Sorry if none of this made sense at all
I am an INTP, but due to my quite high EQ and some stereotypes of INTPs being robotic and lack of empathy I used to believe I'm an INFP for a pretty long time. I may not be as much intuned to the world and to my feelings, but I guess I can break down my thought process and be able to understand my and other people feelings by analyzing and understanding patterns. I came to the conclusion that the misunderstanding comes from the fact that majority of people perceive only the patterns that occur on the surface, while they tend to miss the underlying ones, so basically they are unable to see the bigger picture of everything that we can create by connecting some patterns that aren't that much obvious for others. By doing so, we may be percieved as weird and lacking logic, since they already have their logic crafted based on their shallow perception (often influenced/programmed by society)which actually makes sense in logical terms, but it tends to miss the root elements that are essential to the whole structure which is actually much more complex than what they perceive..and, so we end up feeling alienated, misunderstood and looked down upon for our weird concepts.
I'd consider myself smarter than most and relate to this video a lot. Seeing other people who are way more intelligent than me and also have good social lives and aren't socially inept like me is just PAINFUL.
Welp, I hope you ain't always telling yourself that you're socially inept. That's how you plant seeds of psychological suggestions and that's how sociopaths manipulate people. You have no reason to do it to yourself. Rephrase that sentence in your mind, "I have a lot of brushing up to do in my social skills, and I'mma tryna do it." Speakin' from exp, it def helps.
@@felisasininus1784 that's actually true, That's how some truths are created, Like people don't know the Reality of Truth, But Truth itself is just a perspective, Like for ex some average Girls get lot of boys telling them she's out of this world very Intelligent too, Her parents treat her like princess, Now that has become the Truth for her it might not be reality but a Truth from her perspective like if someone denies that she isn't smart or beautiful she'll just say 'truth is bitter or you can't accept the truth', Now reality of truth might be different, But Truth itself is just a perspective, Anyone can create it for themselves too with lies, Truths can be Created with Lies, Reality on different hand might be completely different
@@felisasininus1784 You can make people believe anything especially simpletons, Like Survival Instincts for ex, Your Brain lies to You when it comes to survival Instincts, Like your body could be completely broken after an incident but you'll surprisingly find enough strength to move to a corner of Road after that
@@kpoppedia8399 Yes, pretty much. Even "reality" itself wholy depends on subjective perception if I'm to add my two cents. That's to say everyone has their own version of reality shaped by their perception of the ojective material world and the subjective truths they believe in (including so-called "competing truths" such as "Putin is a war criminal" and "Putin is a heroic leader"). You may have already known about it, but I'm recommending this book, "Truth: How the Many Sides to Every Story Shape Our Reality" by Hector Macdonald.
Doesn’t being called, or declaring yourself as, intelligent feel deeply uncomfortable? Yet in the comments, and in real life, people will seemingly in a calm way state it so casually…
i was looking for this comment, i feel like identifying myself as intelligent is super arrogant, because everyone knows something i don’t. there’s obvious self awareness but i personally just think i’m average.
Most people shove Dunning-Kruger at you if you say you're intelligent. People always see it as being boastful even when it's not. I find people mostly ignore context just so they can feel smug talking down to you.
@@cassandrajoiner9933 I disagree. It's really because it's true; few people who are actually seriously intelligent boast about being intelligent. My father is a narcissist and says he's "practically a genius" all the time--don't get me wrong, he's smart, but honestly I think intelligence is a broader trait than just good grades and good job performance. People who say they're intelligent, especially people who say it a LOT, typically aren't intelligent enough to realize that their 'intelligence' isn't what they think it is.
One sure shot sign someone has high intelligence, is they're usually asking questions, and questioning societal norms, not exclaming that they are "HiGhLy InTeLlIgENT" on the tube.
I skipped a grade when I was a kid I was diagnosed as high potential and autistic So I've been seeing a psychologist every week since I can remember I'm looking for a new friend to connect with and I've lost sight of the others because of covid
I’m up for making a new friend, especially since it’s become a lot harder since Covid ended. I’m not highly intelligent myself but I would love to chat and get to know you since you sound like a cool person
The other struggles are those who are emotionally intelligent when no one else is, aka, INFJ's. Spiritually intelligent when you see things others don't. Ugh it's exhausting 🙄
Another fellow INFJ here The thing i appreciate most about myself is that I'm emotionally intelligent, its a shame most people dont realise it, or even abuse it
Also an INFJ here. Surprisingly, I got bullied for not being intelligent back in middle school by a person who boasted that he had a High IQ score and it wasn’t just that person. For whatever reason, people would look at my demeanor and develop a strange expectation that I was supposed to be a genius and if I didn’t meet their view, I was labeled an idiot. It’s left me with a bit of an inferiority complex and resentment for people who have that toxic view of me.
INFP-T here, raised by a INFJ-A mum. I can definitely concur with these statements. Being emotionally intelligent is also difficult because people don’t recognize this trait *as intelligence*, just that you’re a understanding and empathetic person. Which is great and all, but the reason we’re so kind and considerate is because that’s where our intelligence lies. It would be nice to be appreciated for this the way book smart and street smarts are acknowledged, y’know?
@@Jackal_El_Lobo34 Emotional intelligence is wonderful ❤️ Don't let others opinions get to you. IQ doesn't say much really it's just one area but as they bullied you, they had no emotional intelligence at all! Sending you love ❤️
Everything in this video I can relate too, especially facts 6, 5, and 8. This video helps me understand why I developed heavy depression a while ago. It was because of getting worse grades than what I am used to due to always second guessing. I also have been working incredibly hard when I am super burned out. Plus the expectations people have for me give me so much anxiety. Thanks Psych2Go for teaching me about depression, ways to get out of it, and just showing interesting psychology facts that help me understand other peoples’ perspectives.
I cannot think of many things more attractive than a beautiful person whose beauty is not actually what attracts you. Intelligence can make us really attractive 🖖
+ Romans 10:9-10 "That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved." Amen 🙏!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The man in Luke 16:24 cries: ". . .I am tormented in this FLAME." In Matthew 13:42, Jesus says: "And shall cast them into a FURNACE OF FIRE: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth." In Matthew 25:41, Jesus says: "Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting FIRE,. . ." Revelation 20:15 says, " And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the LAKE OF FIRE." And please repent of all of your sins and be baptized by the Holy Spirit before it is too late, you will never know when the time will come 🙏!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Amen 🙏!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yup. . . Like how @B R E A D does not know that the word 'you're' means you are and how @Darby Jennings is using that very same word in the wrong context. Your: is defined as belonging to or associated with the person or people that the speaker is addressing. You're: You're is defined as *you are.* But . . . that's cool, we all know we are all intelligent here, do we not?
Unfortunately, I’m not in that camp. When I was in middle school, I knew a bully who boasted his High IQ score to me and would regularly mock me because I was not as intelligent. Ever since then, I’ve developed somewhat of an inferiority complex and try to do things to keep those insecurities in check.
People who brag about their IQ are slobbering morons, typically bullies, and most definitely wrong. For example: "Sorry losers and haters, but my I.Q. is one of the highest -and you know it! Please don't feel so stupid or insecure,it's not your fault" Donald J. Trump Twitter May 8, 2013 at 6:37PM
I relate to most of these. For example that need to be at the top otherwise you feel like a failure or incisiveness. Thank you for helping me understand!
This is a real gift. Thank you creator. Many of your work helped me through my struggles and insecurities. I was once ranked as top among 2,000 individuals my age. My mentors said it's higher than that which by interpreting her words is in the 10,000. I always feel misunderstood, sometimes don't meet people's expectations or I have no right to be stupid at times. I find it difficult to talk about many things without intimidating people. Of course, it wasn't my intention. In its own way it's a curse. People want this like a super power going as far as taking so called smart drugd. They experience the side effects of those pills which to me happens everyday. It's a struggle in itself and yes I am not good in everything.
Add to the list: remembering and connecting pieces of disparate data, a skill taken from intellectual persuits and deeper thinking, that allow you to know things about people they don't realize that they have shared then they ban you on all platforms when you try to warn them that they have doxed themselves and keep doing it even worse afterwards. Not a personal anecdote or anything... why would you think that? Edited because formatting broke text flow
If anything, I STRIVE to have “struggles” 2 and 3. For #2, I’ve got the problem of talking faster than I think because of my wit. Now I try to take those extra few seconds to piece everything together more cohesively. And for #3, I would rather make friends selectively than to have 200 “friends”. If that means not opening up to everyone I meet immediately, then so be it. One great and valuable friend will do more good for me than 15 playmates.
One struggle I face, as a person who is thoughtful and perceptive, is working with people who don't put a lot of thought into what they say or do. I watch my coworkers make avoidable mistakes and say things that are wrong or often inconsiderate, and it's tough not to try and correct them all the time. Particularly with my direct supervisor, who is a good person but not the brightest. I find myself often annoyed and frustrated by all the inane conversations going on around me, and small talk can be a real chore. I hope I don't sound condescending, because I'm genuinely a nice person, it's just tough dealing with the general public on a day to day basis.
Whether someone is "nice" or not is only something an observer can judge as self-proclaiming it may cause one to seem arrogant rather than "nice". Besides that, if you feel like correcting people around you, then it may be because you're a perfectionist to some degree, luckily you're not too much of one as you seem aware enough to try stopping yourself from correcting them all the time. I hope your supervisor doesn't have an innate need to de--stress by complaining or bullying their subordinates/co-workers, as that would make your job a living hell. Thinking actively is unfortunately something that people have a tendency to do less of the older they get. Humans are after all by nature lazy, when you stand up your body will want to sit, when you sit, you will want to lay down, when you lay down, you will want to sleep.
Excellent video. Timestamps and comments 🙂 1:12 1. You get bored with small talk: Yes I get bored with small talk, but I see the context (the person across from me) as more interesting than the content. 1:52 2. You're careful with your words: Yes I am careful with words. That comes with time, but there's an essential empathy - I want people to feel good. Anything I say can either bring them down or lift them up. 2:25 3. You're socially awkward: That's learnable - to become less socially awkward. LIke lifting weights, it takes training. 3:12 4. You struggle to make good friends: Hmm, not really. Maybe I'm dumb. However - adult friendships lack a shared past, my best friends are from my 20's and earlier. 3:56 5. You don't get out much: Well Corona had something to do with that 2020-2022 :-) There's a quote though from Leonardo or someone genius+famous (can't recall) that traveling is NOT necessary for the artist - thoughtful hours in the studio are! 4:28 6. You're overly analytical: One must learn to turn that off and hit the publish button. That's achievable and DUMB to stay stuck. Getting past the limitation of perfectionism is a next-level skill, not irresponsible. 5:07 7. Your mind constantly craves exercise: Higher intelligence must go past the intellect to intuition. 5:37 8. You're always feeling pressured to succeed: Definitions change, once survival & one's bank account is ok, then the next goal reveals itself. Then you realize, goals are a carrot at the end of a stick and you focus more on process and simply "being."
I definitely feel this. What doesn’t help is my dyslexia, I get dates and times mixed up and even assignments and my test answers come out looking like they were turned inside out. I have had to have extra help with managing it and I’ve done pretty well.
honestly, i can relate to all of them. i do get bored with small talk, i am very socially awkward plus i have SEVERE stage fright(but if i'm with people i genuinely like[which is rare] or people who are interested in the same things i'm interested in, i can easily make conversation), most of my friends (i have 3) are fake(which is probably because of bad decision making but nvm that), i overthink and over analyse (i spent a good 25 minutes on this comment), my mind CRAVES exercise 100% of the time and i always feel pressured to succeed (that's probably because of how my parents constantly pressure me, but ig i stress myself out too much). this video literally describes my life.
I relate to so much of this! I remember being really childish and stupid when I was younger, but I had lots of friends and I had so much confidence! Nowadays I’m more mature and smart, but I have less friends, social anxiety, and zero confidence 😖
The struggles of knowing you are a highly intelligent person but very very like- VERY RARELY show it- most of my friends and family things I am stupid as he!! Then the get mad when I call myself stupid-
When you are an intelligent person and of the MBTI personality type, INFP-T, well good luck to get out of this pretty messy world that is in you ! To summarize: an idealized and creative pretty messy world in a mind that seeks to constantly analyze but also to focus to succeed in life... Difficult because it is a true duality... BUT ! Keep in mind that this is your nature and that by learning little by little, you will eventually find balance and happiness! Good luck, don't give up :)
I was spoiled by people who keep telling me "If you don't make right decisions in life, you will never become a good person" it really made me feel like I had to be a "perfect" person all the time and I had fears of getting in trouble. It really spoiled my mindset.
i think it depends on how you’re looking at it, actually. :0 so many factors and perspectives that go into what is ultimately subjective when it comes to determining the level or number of struggles someone has based off of something as broad as intelligence
Here's a little bit of wisdom that I've learned over the years from the quote of an interesting man: "An empty browser history reveals more than a full one." -Sun Tzu
Being highly sensitive.. Yes. Being very creative.. Yes. Being both patient and a perfectionist.. Yes. Being bright.. I should hope so.- And being dragged around throughout my childhood due to my parents squabble’s and a mother who controlled your social life.. No thanks! As a child who was all of these I’d mentioned and moving nearly annually until the age of 11 I craved to have some friends, which indeed I have, but I also thoroughly enjoy my own company. Which gives me time to catch up on culture, science and anything else I can relate to. There’s an old saying “no pain, no gain” and it’s so true. And ultimately the most awful thing a person can do is betrayal. But I don’t think you will ever find it here on this channel as I’m sure you have helped many many people, and I hope you continue giving love and light to those most in need.
I’m so happy that I found this channel, it helps me with all my emotional struggles. I think everyone should stand back for a minute and appreciate the hard work put into every video. Also 100% me!
Thankyou. Yes, relate to all 8! Now I know what's wrong with me! Nothing. Been alone my whole life & at nearly 60, I'm used to it (& resigned to fact I'll nvr have a friend much less a close friend).
I really feel step 8 the most, because I grew up in an environment where most people were smart so I built up a lot of social skills. So now I'm still considered smart by most people, but still have a lot of friends because I learnt to not be socially awkward. I still feel feel that pressure to always succeed, and although my friends taught me not to care as much, it's still there.
I relate so much to this that it actually drew tears near the end. I always feel the need to have good grades, and challenge my intelligence, I also find it hard to make friends and the people I do talk to sometimes get annoyed by me. The good grades causes a lot of anxiety for me. My weighted grade was a 4.0, but my unweighted was a 3.5 this past semester. Due to me not get 4.0 on unweighted, I got super upset and worried. Everyone says that is still good, but my anxiety tells me anythimg less than a 4.0 is considered average or bad, but, according to other people, that isn't the case. Once I even cried over my overall grade in science dropping 1.3%, going from a 100% to a 98.7% simply because I misread ONE question on the test. If I had taken my time (which I try to go fast since that is sometimes a characteristic of being smart) I would still have a 100% in science. I was contemplating retaking the test but my dad said 98.7% was still really good so I decided it wasn't THAT necessary to have 100% in science. I still feel bad when looking at my science grade, though. Anyway, I do relate to almost all of the struggles mentioned in the video. It also doesn't help that I have some other struggles, too, because I have anxiety. I have learned ways to manage it, though, but it is still there
The last one is the worst...high expectations feels like a burden on the shoulder that no matter what I have to carry.. Which also leads to worrying and overthinking a lot.. Resulting in analysis paralysis...but one thing I'm happy about is I have people in my life that accepted the weird me...they help me out in social settings, in doing chores and so many other ways.. And the best one is that they listen just to make me feel heard even tho they don't fully understand it.
I stay alone, people are dumb and not worth my time. I have situational friends like neighbors and coworkers but no one I'm deeply connected with cause I know our point of views don't match. Yet I do over analyze things so it's hard for me to understand complex people and those are the ones I'm attracted to yet those are also the ones with the most personal problems. I like a challenge and hate monotony, but I'm also lazy.
@@rufusneumann9703 Nope I've lived a very sheltered life. Never had many friends. Only in the moment people. I am introverted, but don't have trouble talking to people.
The struggle is real. My first thought when I clicked the video was "Please don't relate to all of them. Just please" But sadly, "Reality is often disappointing". I related to all of them.
The eight is very true. Classmates feel like you're obligated to help them through an exam, parents and mentors always want you to succeed more, and in this process, you may lose what you started chasing, and realise you are learning/working for the world rather than yourself.
I'm 36, have a PhD, and i had no idea I had emotions until i was 28 due to a heavy depression. It is still a learning curve. I do have an ego about my IQ and learning about emotions is saving me and others from my own narcissism.
1. You get bored with small talk - Not really, I like the small talk just as much as the deep knowledge talk 2. You're careful with your words - Yes, I will often sit there thinking "What am I going to say? How should I say it?" and it leads to anxiety 3. You're socially awkward - It has lessened over the years I've been with my autism group, but yes, I do have social awkwardness, in large part because of the aforementioned anxiety about what to say and how to say it. 4. You struggle to make good friends - Yes!! I'm struggling with this right now. Being a friendly acquaintance, not so hard. Actually deciding to be friends and thinking of what to do as friends, so damn hard. 5. You don't get out much - Very true, I was super outgoing as a child, but then as a teenager, I started responding "No." to invitations to go somewhere with my parents. This is lessening a bit thanks to my group, but still the vast majority of my days are spent at home 6. You're overly analytical - Yes. If sitting there for 20 minutes thinking and analyzing my choices before responding to the question "What do you want for dinner?" isn't evidence that I'm overly analytical, I don't know what is. 7. Your mind constantly craves exercise - Yes, I do find myself constantly doing brain stimulating activities 8. You're always feeling pressured to succeed - No, not really. And I've always considered myself to be an intelligent person and have always thought of the intelligence itself as a positive thing and I honestly think my social awkwardness and friendship struggle is not because I'm intelligent, but because I have social anxiety, especially surrounding questions I want to ask people.
Most of what was discussed in this video tracks well with my early adulthood and present construct. I would also try to find the exact word or meaning of the words I use. I would be accused of trying to impress people with my vocabulary when I just wanted to be understood. I have found a way over the years to balance this without having to change at the core. The bridge I found useful is emotional agility.
I struggle in terms of being with my own family and current friends as sometimes it's hard to speak with them verbally especially when you are expressing something. I always talk symbolically, some words intended with double meanings because that what describes my feelings best yet my parents often take my words seriously and sometimes they laugh at me saying, 'you're intelligent yet can't speak clearly' . I don't know, I always get loss for words verbally, wandering how to translate my language into more simple, non formal that they can understand. So itn felt like I can't reach the people around me and I feel like to them, I look like someone who have learning disabilities even when I was a consistent A+ student just because I'm too silent, awkward and serious. I get sad everytime and it's hard because somehow you don't feel belong and it's like you are at the wrong place. I hope I can finally meet new people who would relate to me on a higher level, just talking about the deep, complex, multidimensional life.
@@thisisdauphin3122 Yup. It's one thing to be socially capable and another thing to be able to understand people. EQ is not necessary being able to be the best talker in the room but the ability to pick up social queues, effectively perceive others on an emotional level, and understand yourself. All of these traits may help with being socially capable but it's not necessarily the same.
@@thisisdauphin3122 I've never tested myself to know. My friend had scared me away from taking an IQ test because "It limits you." I imagine getting any score below that of genius would be constricting so I agree with him. However, when I was in elementary, my school tested me to find out if I was gifted and enrolled me into the advanced track soon after. Funny because I thought that I was being punished and cried while taking the test. From this, I think it would be reasonable to assume that I would be considered "smart." As for the struggles described in the video, I myself don't necessarily dislike small talk but I do find that I get really enthusiastic, passionate, and smile a lot when I talk about philosophy or ideas. There's something about talking conceptually that's so free, especially when discussing ideas generally invites other people's viewpoints. I find it very interesting to hear how other people think. In that regard, I think the video is accurate. Another thing that's big is the long pauses. I am a huge offender of this and wish I didn't take so long to continue the conversation in the best way. Regardless, I think that intelligence is so complex that its really hard to generalize traits.
@@Xuejinyuan for me i took multiple iq tests i always score somewhere around 133 and 144 but i don’t think that these iq tests are truly certified because i have adhd and i always take longer time to answer some questions i don’t know i feel like adhd is a disadvantage but people says if you have high iq you are more likely to get a mental illness
I feel these too, I had analyzed the reason why I don't like to talk further with others but it turned that it might has become an instinct. I have no choice but to say that maybe it is because that I haven't met someone sharing the same perspective with me.
One thing that I'd like to point out that although you reference a 2015 study that found a negative correlation between IQ and EQ, most studies and opinions from highly credible psychologists, psychiatrist and neuroscientists in more recent times found or suggest either the exact opposite (i.e., a positive correlation between IQ and EQ) or that it's inconclusive. I personally tend to lean towards inconclusive until one or the other can be repeatedly & conclusivly proven but to generalise that people with high IQs have low IQs, is factually not proven and most likely for every individual with a high IQ and a low EQ, there are probably an individual with both a high IQ and a high EQ. High IQ, low EQ individuals do stand out more and is most likeky the reason for the perception along with certain neurological disorders that impact the ability to understand social norms.
I imaged a better, nicer, prettier, person of myself this year. I only have 3 friends at school and my favorite place is my bed because I can just experience the love of music that makes my life better, people my age go out, and be amazing but meanwhile, there’s me, insecure about me and trying to be skinnier thinking starving myself will make me happier but no. (It only lasted one day before I thought that that was just stupid) Your videos are what keep me going. Thank you. ♥️
I absolutely relate to basically all of these, and long ago decided it doesn't matter. Yes, I get lonely sometimes, though more often I want to be alone. Yes, I get bored with small talk, so I find interesting approaches to it (ex: "Yes, snowing and cold. In New Zealand it's probably a bright summer day! ") Sometimes I'll just shrug and indicate that I have nothing to add, rather than be pressured into an embarrassing situation-- or outdo the embarrassing and turn it into a joke.
Another struggle is that you are disheartened when you see how mindless most people are.... I'm not a genius at all, my IQ is 100 but I'm past mount stupid and know to let the experts talk on stuff I don't know which is sadly a trait that's becoming more and more rare in today's society
I'm not smart, I was academically inclined as a kid, everyone put so much expectations for me and now I'm depressed and anxious, with crippling burnout and is now too tired to do anything else but sit in a couch and watch youtube... Yes, that's the struggle I guess
Timestamps! 🌺✨
1:12 1. You get bored with small talk
1:52 2. Your careful with your words
2:25 3. You're socially akward
3:12 4. You struggle to make good friends
3:56 5. You don't get out much
4:28 6. You're overly analytical
5:07 7. Your mind constantly craves exercise
5:37 8. You're always feeling pressured to succeed
Hope this helped! ❤️
(Tysm)
ahh tysm !!
Can relate to most of these
I must be highly intelligent because all of these are me
I think intelligence has to do more with how aware you are of yourself and trying to compare yourself to a RUclips video seems rather self unaware to me.
I believe that if you truly want to know if you’re intelligent or not you must fully understand your weaknesses and your strengths.
I made the mistake of clicking on this video too, but take my advice and don’t compare yourself because everybody is unique and we each has strengths and weaknesses that we can all improve upon and those strengths and weaknesses can make us the best version of ourselves.
Use them to your advantage and remember confidence is the ability to know that you’re doing the best you can and are disciplined enough to be the best at what you do.
… After Being Relatable With Some Of These, I Feel Like I’m Not Even Smart
“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.” ― Charles Bukowski
lol Imagine having confidence
That's called the Dunning-Kruger Effect, in psychology.
Bukowski was thus not intelligent enough, for his statement exudes confidence.
@@Peacewisernot really, as the confidence on display here, in his conclusions about observable truths in the world, often require a great deal of contemplation and deep thought to arrive at.
Well said
"The measure of intelligence is the ability to change." - Albert Einstein
That’s adaptability, some very intelligent people like autistic people have a very hard time changing things in their life
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A lot of people focus on superficial things, but the ones who focus on the real essence will not insist on how things appear on the surface.
So people see it’s changing, but they don’t.
Also, they predict the change, see how things should happen, so they are much more prepared than other people.
@@thelifeofmarkiis5269 indeed 😓
Ability *to adapt to* change
I really stopped caring about being smarter than everybody else which in some ways I regret but It’s what makes me happy and less stressed so getting average grades and having a normal social life is okay you just have to find what really makes you happy
I heard that fam.
Your grades have nothing to do with intelligence, that's literally just remembering and and regurgitating information. Intelligence is a hell of a lot broader than that
Hear, hear
Same
For me im both of what you said idc about studying but do wanna get good grades so i study the night before the the exam
I love this channel. You make it easier to navigate my own emotions and feeling but also others. Keep going Psych2go, you’re making 8 million people a little bit better everyday 💜
Did you just call yourself highly intelligent
@@williamho6362 no they were saying that this channel helps them they may be but that does not mean they said that
What’s wrong with that?
@@cluster7505 actually, you’re the one who’s assuming it’s a bad thing
@@williamho6362 "my own emotions and feeling but also OTHERS". Read carefully.
I finally found some answers to why do I act this way. I even cries at the end when you mentioned how the see you as a villian; basically how my classmates treates me for being "too intellgent". I never felt that way tho, I always "dumb myself down" bc people like my family are tired of my analysis on everything. And the IQ vs EQ part is so true, a pastor friend told me that I may be intelligent with numbers and analysis but I need to be intelligent socially... I love this video ♡ you made me understand myself much better ♡ thank you
Bro, I understand you, the same happens to me ❤️
having high social intelligence just comes from experience of being around others, take that analytical mind and use it to observe peoples body language. The trouble is a lot of you guys these days probably spend all your time interacting online instead of in person, you will never develop real EQ that way.
Just try to enjoy being 'villain'
@@anab0lic Your solution of studying body language and being around others can backfire in so many ways. A lot of intelligent people already use tools like micro expression reading, body language, word choices and speech intonation. Tompakow, Weil and Carnegie are mandatory survival readings. For the ones with tendencies to Anxiety or Paranoia they just can't turn off the "analytical mind" and every time you are in the presence of others you are making sure all the points connect. If they don't connect it becomes a mess. It's exhausting and most "normal" people will just be creeped out and wary of the neighborhood mind reader.
What are the sources for negative correlation between IQ and EQ? They are ortogonal they have nothing to do IHO this is so wrong on so many levels.
I think smart people struggle with depression and anxiety in higher levels, because they understand, feel and thinks many things at the time :(
@@benjamingibbs1379 lol wtf
When i was getting bullied on my elementary school bc i was by far the smarter kid there.Only my childhood friend accept me all others didn t even talk me.Later on on highschool after very hard 6 year before i learn to don t show off my abilities until the 3rd year of highschool.Then i used my abilities and won the national physic school contest.My classmate was pride of me and they most of them even if they knew my abilities accept but even then i was so traumatize i had develop despression i couldn t accept that people around me accept so i stop going to school after a while. But still the kids from my highschool wanted me to be there with them.They still talk to me after 7 years.
@@jimms18w I'm so glad you had support during hard time , sometimes they fear what they don't understand. :( But there are other who are willing to know us and accept what we are.
P.s. I don't think I'm smart, but I admire people who are.
It's a tradeoff some make.
I think we also struggle with being able to see what's going on politically/societally around the world, know it's way wrong, but the dumb ones cheer it on...
8 struggles highly intelligent people will unterstand:
1. You get bored with smalltalk
2. You’re careful with your words
3. You’re socially awkward
4. You struggle to make good friends
5. You don’t get out much
6. You’re overly analytical
7. You’re mind constantly craves exercise
8. You’re always feeling pressure to succeed
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I'm facing all. 🙂
trueee so envious of the dumb people that totally dont struggle in life in any shape or form 😭
@@sparkshine600 yesyes, especially #1 and 3 ahah
For me its only 7
I relate to all except I'm kinda an extrovert person actually. My friends always treated me like I'm the smartest in school and always need my help though I was just serious with my study.
Totally relatable. Being a genius sucks. I hate being so unbelievably smart with superior intelligence to all.
That sounds sarcastic lol but yea
@@leeperkillz5397 lol on me
Regarding number three, I have a lot of “friends” because I’m intelligent. Everyone usually needs a smart friend honestly. Helps with their grades.
More power to you. You doing it great.
Highly intelligent people know that this video based on research and generalization and there are people out there who struggle with these.
Literally everyone in my class has asked me for at least ONE thing.
I'm always being asked for answers from my friends.
This can mean that they are trying to manipulate you and will just leave you when not needing you
Yeah. I don't have very many friends but some of the people I talk to in some of my classes ask for help, sometimes. Not very often, though, because I don't talk to very many of those people except in the classes I have with them. I'm too worried to talk to them any other time because I'm always worried I'll catch them at a wrong time. Some of them have invited me to hang out with them, but I still get worried to
can honestly relate to all of them. but over time, with practice, you do get better at the socializing. like, i have a single close friend, and a relatively small number of people i would hang with. still, unfortunately for me, i have a tendency to throw my mind into games rather than academics. and rpg games like outer worlds, fallout and skyrim cripple me because i always wanna find the optimal way through. hence why my favorite games are metroidvania style. its not just a straight path forward, but it's not this big number of choices you cant undo later, like allocating stat points or doing the bad ending for certain quests. metroidvania's also strike the balance where a completionist has something to look forward to, but not a massive country with tedious "find this thing in the middle of the forest and unlock a lore snippet"
and problem number 9, even if you do sometimes say something you think of as funny. they might just not get it, and you just lose motivation to think of funny things
THAT IS EXACTLY LIKE ME. With games rather than academics, even if I do great in school, but I get lazy sometimes. Also socializing with people got better over the years as I was really shy and reserved.
@@theshadynorwegian6036 This too. I fume inside whenever people don't get what I'm trying to say, especially if I think it's funny.
Huh..tht explains why I fell in love with resident evil at the age of 9 (back during its golden age) why I always prefer the classics along with similar games like silent hill,I mean sure the newer ones are fine if im feelin bored but I always preferred the metroidvanian classic style cause it rly forced me to think things thru
I've always struggled with finding games I enjoy, haven't really given metroidvania games a chance, I'll have to do that!
It's like having insight on everything, but not knowing why existential depression is a thing, or why you start spiralling when you can't understand something, and it becomes a much bigger problem, as you don't know how to get yourself out of that situation, thus making it unintentionally worse for yourself because of it.
I relate to this so much.
this guy gets it
"Who am I ?" Can't be solve with the mind. Mind is memory and imagination.
You are the one seeing it
Not any answers the mind can say.
Heart emotion, your whole body is responding to your ideas.
You eat a thought by beliving it.
It grows in you like a tree of emotions and thoughts.
And bears fruits of similar emotions.
You are non of them, as you are the one seeing all your emotions and thoughts.
Gut. You know.
You don't know how you know but you do know. Yes it can store thoughts and emotions.
As you relax your guts, the last kink of tension is realeased.
You got no tension to hold in to.
No sense of in or out.
The world and you are revealed to always have been one.
The thought "i am ..."
Was just a thoughts.
And you, that cannot be named,
Cannot be found.
And its okay.
It is all pretty talk.
But is that true for you?
Are you desperate enough to go find who you are.
All the servant do the kings orders
But who will check if there is a king on the throne?
There is desperation
But no one it is happening to.
Ego, the sense if being a separate entity, is just a sens, a feeling, a thought.
Let me kniw if it helped or cinfused you even more.
Take care and thank you
This is so me in every class.
@@aurelienyonrac Was this yours or did you copy it from somewhere? Either way, thank you for sharing.
You know, I never thought that I was all that intelligent. Still don't. People are always telling me that I am, but I feel like it only shines through in extremely specific scenarios, and I turn out average or sub-par in quite a few places.
With that said, all of these except for #2 apply perfectly to me. I do struggle in social situations, but in fact, I think it's actually because I don't analyse my speech enough; so when I do speak, I often come off as toxic and hurtful, and I become afraid to speak as a result. It's terribly demoralising. But otherwise, I guess I fit you guys' bill for "intelligent"..? I don't know. I have a host of other factors, including personality traits like vulnerable narcissism and perfectionism (in EVERYTHING, not just academics), and possible neurodevelopmental disorders such as Asperger's and ADHD, that could be part of what makes me unintentionally come off as "intelligent."
We are twins lol. Well minus demoralizing part.
Bro I felt every word
We are exactly the same except the part where people mention my intelligence, and the possible mental disorders
Maybe you suffer from childhood trauma and/or emotional abuse. Have a good day kind sir!
@@rufusneumann9703 That can't be it... my childhood has been fantastic! My parents love me and they see to it that I have everything I need to be happy, and I don't have any friends close enough to be abused by 🤔
What's harder is being *academically* intelligent without any street intelligence, especially when you're seen as "The Smart Kid" in Class.
Not only is that a toxic viewpoint to be given, but it also leads to some heavy mental issues whenever another individual with just as if not more intelligence becomes present in the Class.
I would trade my "natural intelligence" for street intelligence any day of the week tbh.
I relate to this comment so much
That was part of why I switched from Computer Science to Business Admin. It helped that I already had a wit with people, but it was a drag when I realized I’m having more discussions with my professors than other students.
Agreed, I wish my mental age was younger too though, my mental age is like 37 or something, I took a test, I hate it
I'm sorry, could you explain what is academical and street intelligence? I don't quite understand that comment.
academic intelligence isn't natural intelligence.... in fact school grades have very little to do with measuring someone's intelligence. Perhaps you are not as smart as you think you are, because you would not so easily be outwitted by those on the streets, as being of high intellect means the ability to problem solve and creatively outsmart others in a myriad of situations comes easily, though you may ne3ed ample time to do so, on the spot thinking without much contemplation, that's more a case of experience/wisdom.
I'm autistic and tend to score high on IQ tests (although I know those aren't always accurate or reputable), and I relate to all of these things in this video. Dunno if it's from intelligence or autism, but I do think it's a pretty similar experience. Being commonly misunderstood but still very articulate, bad with choices/overwhelmed by all aspects/variables, often left out, hating small talk, social awkwardness, all autism things ✌️
I can relate.
Yes, I relate. I kept thinking to myself "high intelligence? this just sounds like my experience with autism..." I don't typically score that high on IQ tests, just a little above average, and honestly I'm not that intelligent and few people think I'm intelligent but I relate to every struggle on the list XD
I'm on the same boat. They align a good amount of the time.
Do autistic people get on well with other autistic people?
@@laumay7364 Very!! It's funny, autism is labeled as a "communication deficit" but studies have shown that autistic people communicate just as well with other autistic people as neurotypical people do with other neurotypical people. The only time there's miscommunications is between an autistic person and a neurotypical person. And personally, I've realized most of the friends I have ended up with over the years were autistic like me, and neither knew at the time. Super interesting!!! But of course close friendships/relationships are still just as possible between autistic people and neurotypical people. Just depends on each person, everyone is so different and life just works a weird way haha. But autistic people aren't lacking, we're just different ✨
I was at least 95% of what you said. I reserch everything sometimes for months before commenting. I have 0 friends and now alone sense my wife passed. My work was my life and what you say is very true. thank you for letting me vent. James
I relate to all 8 struggles here.. it’s very accurate. Especially number 3 😂 I barely speak during parties and when someone tries to talk to me they get annoyed because of how long it takes me to reply to them.
Thank God someone understands being serious is not being a "robot". My boyfriend ended with me as I'm a robot to him.. too serious and socially occurred. I'm still healing... It's been years...
I’ve gotten that “robot” comment a lot too at the end of the day I just say it is what it is.
A few words of advice, you are who you are, some people can handle it and some people can’t. Just focus on what makes you happy and the people that see your value will be attracted to you, we’re social creatures ever introverted person has and extrovert that will find them lol 😂
@@richardmohan1037 honestly, I can't imagine that someone will embrace me for who I am. Logically, this sounds correct but emotionally, even after being strong willed, I've realised that since I am suffering for a couple of years now, it is difficult for me to believe. Still, I want to leave a positive message for every other person I meet including my future self. And your comment certainly sounded the very first one supporting my decision of hope, suggesting it to be correct so thank you so much for this. I'm grateful.
What star sign are you?
You're fortunate in being female and intelligent. There are far more intelligent men than women, so your options will be much greater even though smart men are hard to find. Don't let the opinion of one dumb guy make you feel unattractive.
My co workers say I'm a robot too. But idk how not to be serious when work is involved
Just seeing this channel constantly growing on the daily basis just puts a smile on my face 💙.
Personally I've noticed that when a person is highly intelligent, they either have a huge ego and try to show it off constantly, or they genuienly try to avoid attention and try living a peaceful life. I think of myself as slightly above average in terms of intelligence and I have come to the conclusion that academic achievements arent always an indicator that a person is intelligent. For example I made an experiment on myself, basically I was the top student in my class in all the 10 years I had been attending school, but I tried to see last semester how good of a score I can get without studying anything for the entire 4 months. Well the difference was MINIMAL, I went from a 19.9/20 to a 18.9/20, soon I understood how big of a joke the school system is. Because in school they basically train your ability to remember something for a short period of time and then instantly forget and repeat, rather than training your ability to collect vital information that helps you enchance your way of thinking which can lead you to be able to learn new info in a simpler manner. But what can I say Im just a goddamn 15 yold that thinks of shit like this in the middle of the night instead of sleeping because I cant stop thinking about how many things politicians could change in this world if they actually used the resources of their nations correctly instead of making useless aditions to the military. And the joke is that the counter point to all the things I just wrote is: You are just a kid what do you know... THIS IS TORTURE THE CAUSE OF MY SLEEP DEPRIVATION IS CONSTANT THOUGHTS ITS HORRIBLE
Oh boy, are you in for it. 'Youre just a kid' is horrid, I agree. My experience is that it does not change much as we age. I am just 1 person, what can I do?' has replaced it. People love to create power structures. And put themselves above 'you'. Ands I still lay awake at night wondering that stuff. Long ago I came to the conclusion that my generation [im 56] has a LOT to answer for. Time only reinforces that. Best wishes to you and your peers. I did my best. For all that helped.
The feeling when you're in bed in darkness for 45 minutes turning left and right just because you're mind is processing all the info of today, out of all the possible options throughout the day IT HAS TO DO IT NOW (fellow 15 yo here)
I hear you, man. Recently, I've been trying to focus on what school SHOULD be at its core: skill-building and character development. It's super difficult to not focus on the numbers and overthink every single thing that I do, but I'm finding progress, thankfully, and I think I'm growing as a person overall, which is the most important part. Just gotta take it one step at a time. :D
@@chompybanana Yeah! Character and skill development are the most important part of school. Without them, school is a WASTE!
College is a little bit better, as it isn’t merely designed to churn out low-skilled factory workers. It’s unfortunate that we don’t start teaching critical thinking and application of knowledge until the very end of high school or in college. And if you believe you think a lot now, just wait until your frontal cortex fully matures! Your thought processes will deepen and expand with the connections you discover between things, people, time and natural phenomena.
1. You get bored of small talk
2. You're careful with your words
3. You're socially awkward
4. You struggle to make good friends
5. You don't get out much
6. You're overly analytical
7. Your mind constantly craves exercise
8. You're always feeling pressured to succeed.
Most of these traits (struggles) I attributed to me being an introvert and the only child bearing the most expectations cause I always feel I'm stupid😂 didn't know it can also mean otherwise. This channel is so informative in a fun way and your voice is so soothing!
This is very accurate, the untold had been poured into words in this video, I have a above average IQ and can relate a lot to this.... Thank you!
I relate to all of these mostly! I'm in advanced ELA, accelerated math, and both TAGS in social studies and science. I used to worry a LOT about my grades. I once got a 90 on a math test and almost cried...Now i realize how silly that was, and how silly everyone else around me is for competing with each other for perfect marks. I decided to write and research an argumentative essay in ELA about the grading system, and doing so really helped me understand learning and what it actually is. Learning isn't racking up As to increase a number, being so perfect all the time with zero flaw. Grades are just an extrinsic motivator to get you to learn, and only that, not an end goal to reach.
Now i no longer worry about my grades in that unhealthy obsessive way. I still care, but its a healthy amount, and i focus on actually learning and being curious about the material. I do more than whatever is needed for a good grade just because i want to. Its helped me grow a lot more and made me way happier now :)
Ikr, like I have developed a 'keep-it-to-myself' attitude regarding this :)
yep i agree
I kind of strongly disagree with the whole saying, " These people have high IQs, Academic Achievements, and go on to be successful leaders and trail blazers in their fields." Writing is not my thing as much as design, math, science, and art. But I can say majority of the most intelligent and smartest people I know are barely making it. Nothing is more disheartening than here some ignorant person saying "Then go to college to get a better job" when many of us cannot afford college. Or saying, "Find a new job" as if we are so lucky enough to have the money to move to where we can work somewhere that will pay a fair wage. The only way I can live somewhat comfortable is whoring out my knowledge to others who at the end steal all the credit and claim my designs, concepts, and creation are their own because no one will take me seriously because I cannot even afford to buy a damn college degree. The most smartest people I know do not have academic achievements or leadership positions.
"Unrewarded genius is almost a proverb" -Calvin Coolidge
I would like to offer some advice, even though it's a little difficult. You may want to find out about yourself. And your boundaries! Because if you cooperate with ppl who are humane or not, will depend on your self-worth perception. It really makes a huge difference. Because I've got currently no job (out of choice), very little money and degrees never mattered much in any of my steps on the way. And people who are in touch with me do not disregard me for it and are careful about crossing my boundaries (with very few exceptions). The instances where I'd get discredited, are the instances where I'd not give a damn about credit, cause I have different values.
You don't need any papers to be respected as a human being and properly cared for. It's a trap!
What you probably need, is more regard for yourself, as in "These are my boundaries and the things I must learn to verbalize and advocate for".
If you devalue yourself based on any of your outer circumstances (money, social status, sheets of papers saying nothing about your worth as a complex being) then you're outsourcing your power and get stuck in a place of no way out.
I'm literally here in a somewhat similar situation and even in the most trapped circumstances, I'll feel more freend be more regarded the moment I open my mouth, even by people who think I'm below them. They have no power over me as I'm not negotiating certain things, at no instance, not even with the person who may withdraw my means to live.
It's completely valid that people like us can have a very hard time and kind of need to work through a whole different stack of struggles to be able to do things other ppl do "everyday". The bad circumstances are not your fault. Yet, you're your responsibility as that is naturally what comes alongsides your power to be yourself and your ally.
I would like to pay you respect for living every day. It's hard. And I hope you can care for yourself accordingly. It tends to open ways in very unexpected ways.
I'd like to forward you to the channel HeathyGamer with Dr. K (a psychiatrist now specialising in the gamer community). It's a place where you may find completely free resources and really valuable advice about exactly these things. It can support you with your self-care process and teach you how to e.g. handle toxic people at work. They work with meditation, too, and that's really helping with the mental/emotional hygiene of life.
Wish you the very best. You are not alone
I agree with you. A lot of gifted and highly intelligent people end up becoming burned out and sometimes even depressed because of the expectations people have of them. Having a high IQ does not mean that someone will be successful in their studies or job. I have recently gotten an IQ test done and ended up with a score of 119-132 (estimated IQ of 127), yet I failed school last year because I got horrible grades. Spreading the belief that high IQ = success is honestly a very toxic concept in my eyes. It'll only lead to people pushing themselves more until they reach their limit and then break down. We're all still human, we can't do everything at the same time. Maybe the fact that we tend to have lower EQs can also play into this, as we're typically worse at handling emotions and understanding them. This means that we can become quite easily overwhelmed and may be more prone to getting burn-outs, which will ultimately mess with our achievements and ability to work and learn.
I suggest reading "The Curse of the high IQ" If you need to help you or your smart friends discover how to handle being so smart in a world that's so dumb. I was already successful when I read that book, but it helped me resolve a lot of torment and confusion I had gathered along the way.
Intelligence isn’t a indication of success for sure. If you don’t have the means or the social skill to take advantage of it then at that point it’s kind of a party trick, which is sad.
I always feel left out, I feel that my mind is so abstract that no one will ever be able to understand me. I see and perceive things far differently than others. I'm so emotionally intuned to the world it gets exhausting, I feel everything so deeply in ways i can't begin to describe. Does anyone else feel this way? Maybe its an infp thing.
@Olivia Claire - You are not alone. INFJ here, isolating to stop from feeling so much.
I'm an intp, I'm not as emotionally tuned into the world as you seem to be but I do get the people not understanding you or your thought process because it's so abstract and feeling left out because of it. I'm not sure how to fix feeling like this yet, but I've found it helps to tell someone who can understand you even a little bit about your ideas or feelings, for me it's about either new things I've learned and thought about beyond where we are at in school, they may not understand much but even just telling someone has helped me feel a little less alone as I imagine they do understand me, even if they don't. The trouble I've found is finding someone who can understand just that little bit, which isn't easy and I'm still trying.
Sorry if none of this made sense at all
I am an INTP, but due to my quite high EQ and some stereotypes of INTPs being robotic and lack of empathy I used to believe I'm an INFP for a pretty long time. I may not be as much intuned to the world and to my feelings, but I guess I can break down my thought process and be able to understand my and other people feelings by analyzing and understanding patterns. I came to the conclusion that the misunderstanding comes from the fact that majority of people perceive only the patterns that occur on the surface, while they tend to miss the underlying ones, so basically they are unable to see the bigger picture of everything that we can create by connecting some patterns that aren't that much obvious for others. By doing so, we may be percieved as weird and lacking logic, since they already have their logic crafted based on their shallow perception (often influenced/programmed by society)which actually makes sense in logical terms, but it tends to miss the root elements that are essential to the whole structure which is actually much more complex than what they perceive..and, so we end up feeling alienated, misunderstood and looked down upon for our weird concepts.
I'd consider myself smarter than most and relate to this video a lot. Seeing other people who are way more intelligent than me and also have good social lives and aren't socially inept like me is just PAINFUL.
I get that too. Hard.
Welp, I hope you ain't always telling yourself that you're socially inept.
That's how you plant seeds of psychological suggestions and that's how sociopaths manipulate people. You have no reason to do it to yourself.
Rephrase that sentence in your mind, "I have a lot of brushing up to do in my social skills, and I'mma tryna do it."
Speakin' from exp, it def helps.
@@felisasininus1784 that's actually true, That's how some truths are created, Like people don't know the Reality of Truth, But Truth itself is just a perspective, Like for ex some average Girls get lot of boys telling them she's out of this world very Intelligent too, Her parents treat her like princess, Now that has become the Truth for her it might not be reality but a Truth from her perspective like if someone denies that she isn't smart or beautiful she'll just say 'truth is bitter or you can't accept the truth', Now reality of truth might be different, But Truth itself is just a perspective, Anyone can create it for themselves too with lies, Truths can be Created with Lies, Reality on different hand might be completely different
@@felisasininus1784 You can make people believe anything especially simpletons, Like Survival Instincts for ex, Your Brain lies to You when it comes to survival Instincts, Like your body could be completely broken after an incident but you'll surprisingly find enough strength to move to a corner of Road after that
@@kpoppedia8399 Yes, pretty much. Even "reality" itself wholy depends on subjective perception if I'm to add my two cents. That's to say everyone has their own version of reality shaped by their perception of the ojective material world and the subjective truths they believe in (including so-called "competing truths" such as "Putin is a war criminal" and "Putin is a heroic leader").
You may have already known about it, but I'm recommending this book, "Truth: How the Many Sides to Every Story Shape Our Reality" by Hector Macdonald.
Doesn’t being called, or declaring yourself as, intelligent feel deeply uncomfortable? Yet in the comments, and in real life, people will seemingly in a calm way state it so casually…
i was looking for this comment, i feel like identifying myself as intelligent is super arrogant, because everyone knows something i don’t. there’s obvious self awareness but i personally just think i’m average.
Most people shove Dunning-Kruger at you if you say you're intelligent. People always see it as being boastful even when it's not. I find people mostly ignore context just so they can feel smug talking down to you.
@@cassandrajoiner9933 I disagree. It's really because it's true; few people who are actually seriously intelligent boast about being intelligent. My father is a narcissist and says he's "practically a genius" all the time--don't get me wrong, he's smart, but honestly I think intelligence is a broader trait than just good grades and good job performance. People who say they're intelligent, especially people who say it a LOT, typically aren't intelligent enough to realize that their 'intelligence' isn't what they think it is.
One sure shot sign someone has high intelligence, is they're usually asking questions, and questioning societal norms, not exclaming that they are "HiGhLy InTeLlIgENT" on the tube.
It feels like a lie x)
I skipped a grade when I was a kid
I was diagnosed as high potential and autistic
So I've been seeing a psychologist every week since I can remember
I'm looking for a new friend to connect with and I've lost sight of the others because of covid
I’m up for making a new friend, especially since it’s become a lot harder since Covid ended. I’m not highly intelligent myself but I would love to chat and get to know you since you sound like a cool person
**watching this to see if im intelligent at all**
The other struggles are those who are emotionally intelligent when no one else is, aka, INFJ's. Spiritually intelligent when you see things others don't. Ugh it's exhausting 🙄
Another fellow INFJ here
The thing i appreciate most about myself is that I'm emotionally intelligent, its a shame most people dont realise it, or even abuse it
@@darknight3613 Emotional intelligence is a beautiful thing ❤️🙌
Also an INFJ here.
Surprisingly, I got bullied for not being intelligent back in middle school by a person who boasted that he had a High IQ score and it wasn’t just that person.
For whatever reason, people would look at my demeanor and develop a strange expectation that I was supposed to be a genius and if I didn’t meet their view, I was labeled an idiot.
It’s left me with a bit of an inferiority complex and resentment for people who have that toxic view of me.
INFP-T here, raised by a INFJ-A mum. I can definitely concur with these statements. Being emotionally intelligent is also difficult because people don’t recognize this trait *as intelligence*, just that you’re a understanding and empathetic person. Which is great and all, but the reason we’re so kind and considerate is because that’s where our intelligence lies. It would be nice to be appreciated for this the way book smart and street smarts are acknowledged, y’know?
@@Jackal_El_Lobo34 Emotional intelligence is wonderful ❤️ Don't let others opinions get to you. IQ doesn't say much really it's just one area but as they bullied you, they had no emotional intelligence at all! Sending you love ❤️
Everything in this video I can relate too, especially facts 6, 5, and 8. This video helps me understand why I developed heavy depression a while ago. It was because of getting worse grades than what I am used to due to always second guessing. I also have been working incredibly hard when I am super burned out. Plus the expectations people have for me give me so much anxiety. Thanks Psych2Go for teaching me about depression, ways to get out of it, and just showing interesting psychology facts that help me understand other peoples’ perspectives.
I cannot think of many things more attractive than a beautiful person whose beauty is not actually what attracts you. Intelligence can make us really attractive 🖖
being the only one in a room with common sense sometimes takes a toll on you ;(
Yup :/
Agreed, especially when everyone else there is very headstrong and so you feel invalid, like your point isn't worth anything
+ Romans 10:9-10 "That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved." Amen 🙏!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The man in Luke 16:24 cries: ". . .I am tormented in this FLAME."
In Matthew 13:42, Jesus says: "And shall cast them into a FURNACE OF FIRE: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth."
In Matthew 25:41, Jesus says: "Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting FIRE,. . ."
Revelation 20:15 says, " And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the LAKE OF FIRE." And please repent of all of your sins and be baptized by the Holy Spirit before it is too late, you will never know when the time will come 🙏!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Amen 🙏!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@reclusiarchgrimaldus1269 ?? I don't get what your saying? Sorry, I just got confused as I don't see how it's relevant to the current topic
Yup. . . Like how @B R E A D does not know that the word 'you're' means you are and how @Darby Jennings is using that very same word in the wrong context.
Your: is defined as belonging to or associated with the person or people that the speaker is addressing.
You're: You're is defined as *you are.*
But . . . that's cool, we all know we are all intelligent here, do we not?
Unfortunately, I’m not in that camp.
When I was in middle school, I knew a bully who boasted his High IQ score to me and would regularly mock me because I was not as intelligent.
Ever since then, I’ve developed somewhat of an inferiority complex and try to do things to keep those insecurities in check.
You don’t sound stupid… it sounds like you need to resolve that trauma
That's alright mate, I'd love to have a chat with you sometime and forma friendship if you're interested.
People who brag about their IQ are slobbering morons, typically bullies, and most definitely wrong. For example:
"Sorry losers and haters, but my I.Q. is one of the highest -and you know it! Please don't feel so stupid or insecure,it's not your fault"
Donald J. Trump
Twitter
May 8, 2013 at 6:37PM
"People who boast about their IQ are losers"
- Stephen Hawking
@@solonada9602 did he really say that?
I relate to most of these. For example that need to be at the top otherwise you feel like a failure or incisiveness. Thank you for helping me understand!
This is a real gift. Thank you creator. Many of your work helped me through my struggles and insecurities.
I was once ranked as top among 2,000 individuals my age. My mentors said it's higher than that which by interpreting her words is in the 10,000. I always feel misunderstood, sometimes don't meet people's expectations or I have no right to be stupid at times. I find it difficult to talk about many things without intimidating people. Of course, it wasn't my intention. In its own way it's a curse.
People want this like a super power going as far as taking so called smart drugd. They experience the side effects of those pills which to me happens everyday. It's a struggle in itself and yes I am not good in everything.
Add to the list: remembering and connecting pieces of disparate data, a skill taken from intellectual persuits and deeper thinking, that allow you to know things about people they don't realize that they have shared then they ban you on all platforms when you try to warn them that they have doxed themselves and keep doing it even worse afterwards.
Not a personal anecdote or anything... why would you think that?
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Others know as much as I do, these are solid points
*The struggle is definitely real*
If anything, I STRIVE to have “struggles” 2 and 3. For #2, I’ve got the problem of talking faster than I think because of my wit. Now I try to take those extra few seconds to piece everything together more cohesively. And for #3, I would rather make friends selectively than to have 200 “friends”. If that means not opening up to everyone I meet immediately, then so be it. One great and valuable friend will do more good for me than 15 playmates.
Talking faster than you think is not a sign of intelligence it's a sign of a mood disorder. Pressured speech.
One struggle I face, as a person who is thoughtful and perceptive, is working with people who don't put a lot of thought into what they say or do. I watch my coworkers make avoidable mistakes and say things that are wrong or often inconsiderate, and it's tough not to try and correct them all the time. Particularly with my direct supervisor, who is a good person but not the brightest. I find myself often annoyed and frustrated by all the inane conversations going on around me, and small talk can be a real chore. I hope I don't sound condescending, because I'm genuinely a nice person, it's just tough dealing with the general public on a day to day basis.
Whether someone is "nice" or not is only something an observer can judge as self-proclaiming it may cause one to seem arrogant rather than "nice". Besides that, if you feel like correcting people around you, then it may be because you're a perfectionist to some degree, luckily you're not too much of one as you seem aware enough to try stopping yourself from correcting them all the time. I hope your supervisor doesn't have an innate need to de--stress by complaining or bullying their subordinates/co-workers, as that would make your job a living hell. Thinking actively is unfortunately something that people have a tendency to do less of the older they get. Humans are after all by nature lazy, when you stand up your body will want to sit, when you sit, you will want to lay down, when you lay down, you will want to sleep.
don’t forget literally all of your classmates constantly asking you for tutoring or the answers or trying to compete with your grades
Excellent video. Timestamps and comments 🙂
1:12 1. You get bored with small talk: Yes I get bored with small talk, but I see the context (the person across from me) as more interesting than the content.
1:52 2. You're careful with your words: Yes I am careful with words. That comes with time, but there's an essential empathy - I want people to feel good. Anything I say can either bring them down or lift them up.
2:25 3. You're socially awkward: That's learnable - to become less socially awkward. LIke lifting weights, it takes training.
3:12 4. You struggle to make good friends: Hmm, not really. Maybe I'm dumb. However - adult friendships lack a shared past, my best friends are from my 20's and earlier.
3:56 5. You don't get out much: Well Corona had something to do with that 2020-2022 :-) There's a quote though from Leonardo or someone genius+famous (can't recall) that traveling is NOT necessary for the artist - thoughtful hours in the studio are!
4:28 6. You're overly analytical: One must learn to turn that off and hit the publish button. That's achievable and DUMB to stay stuck. Getting past the limitation of perfectionism is a next-level skill, not irresponsible.
5:07 7. Your mind constantly craves exercise: Higher intelligence must go past the intellect to intuition.
5:37 8. You're always feeling pressured to succeed: Definitions change, once survival & one's bank account is ok, then the next goal reveals itself. Then you realize, goals are a carrot at the end of a stick and you focus more on process and simply "being."
Highly intelligent people that are love themselves correctly like being by their self most of the time.
I definitely feel this. What doesn’t help is my dyslexia, I get dates and times mixed up and even assignments and my test answers come out looking like they were turned inside out. I have had to have extra help with managing it and I’ve done pretty well.
honestly, i can relate to all of them. i do get bored with small talk, i am very socially awkward plus i have SEVERE stage fright(but if i'm with people i genuinely like[which is rare] or people who are interested in the same things i'm interested in, i can easily make conversation), most of my friends (i have 3) are fake(which is probably because of bad decision making but nvm that), i overthink and over analyse (i spent a good 25 minutes on this comment), my mind CRAVES exercise 100% of the time and i always feel pressured to succeed (that's probably because of how my parents constantly pressure me, but ig i stress myself out too much).
this video literally describes my life.
I relate to so much of this! I remember being really childish and stupid when I was younger, but I had lots of friends and I had so much confidence! Nowadays I’m more mature and smart, but I have less friends, social anxiety, and zero confidence 😖
The struggles of knowing you are a highly intelligent person but very very like- VERY RARELY show it- most of my friends and family things I am stupid as he!! Then the get mad when I call myself stupid-
This! This is spot on on so many levels. Ty
To me I'm always struggling with making friends and a fear of failing
When you are an intelligent person and of the MBTI personality type, INFP-T, well good luck to get out of this pretty messy world that is in you !
To summarize: an idealized and creative pretty messy world in a mind that seeks to constantly analyze but also to focus to succeed in life... Difficult because it is a true duality...
BUT ! Keep in mind that this is your nature and that by learning little by little, you will eventually find balance and happiness!
Good luck, don't give up :)
You be intelligent...
People: you are such egoist, big head, over confident person
I know right? It’s always like that.
@@detectiveemilio3416 society is so different and complicated to understand
I'm so happy with this video! Finally attention for the negative aspects of being highly intelligent. People always think it's just good grades...
I was spoiled by people who keep telling me "If you don't make right decisions in life, you will never become a good person" it really made me feel like I had to be a "perfect" person all the time and I had fears of getting in trouble. It really spoiled my mindset.
There are struggles for being smart, but there are MORE struggles for being stupid, so be grateful for everything u have rn
i think it depends on how you’re looking at it, actually. :0 so many factors and perspectives that go into what is ultimately subjective when it comes to determining the level or number of struggles someone has based off of something as broad as intelligence
Here's a little bit of wisdom that I've learned over the years from the quote of an interesting man: "An empty browser history reveals more than a full one." -Sun Tzu
Uh huh..
Being highly sensitive.. Yes. Being very creative.. Yes. Being both patient and a perfectionist.. Yes. Being bright.. I should hope so.- And being dragged around throughout my childhood due to my parents squabble’s and a mother who controlled your social life.. No thanks! As a child who was all of these I’d mentioned and moving nearly annually until the age of 11 I craved to have some friends, which indeed I have, but I also thoroughly enjoy my own company. Which gives me time to catch up on culture, science and anything else I can relate to.
There’s an old saying “no pain, no gain” and it’s so true. And ultimately the most awful thing a person can do is betrayal. But I don’t think you will ever find it here on this channel as I’m sure you have helped many many people, and I hope you continue giving love and light to those most in need.
I’m so happy that I found this channel, it helps me with all my emotional struggles. I think everyone should stand back for a minute and appreciate the hard work put into every video. Also 100% me!
I related to seven of these. All but no.7
Always appreciate the videos, Psych2go! 👍
I love all your videos! ❤️
@@JSFGuy huh?
@@JSFGuy do you have a head injury 🤔
@CoolerCoolCool New I know
@@JSFGuy oh it’s ok bud
I feel famous
Amazing! This means that I am a highly intelligent person.
To me, this “highly intelligence” is just anxiety for me. 😂😂
Thankyou. Yes, relate to all 8! Now I know what's wrong with me! Nothing. Been alone my whole life & at nearly 60, I'm used to it (& resigned to fact I'll nvr have a friend much less a close friend).
I really feel step 8 the most, because I grew up in an environment where most people were smart so I built up a lot of social skills. So now I'm still considered smart by most people, but still have a lot of friends because I learnt to not be socially awkward. I still feel feel that pressure to always succeed, and although my friends taught me not to care as much, it's still there.
All these points are relatable in my life and i'm not willing to change it
The philosophy of a highly intelligent person - " always the student, never the master".
oh my, this describes me perfectly. i hate failing. i checked the most recent video of yours (signs that you're smart), so i hopped on this one.
I relate so much to this that it actually drew tears near the end. I always feel the need to have good grades, and challenge my intelligence, I also find it hard to make friends and the people I do talk to sometimes get annoyed by me. The good grades causes a lot of anxiety for me. My weighted grade was a 4.0, but my unweighted was a 3.5 this past semester. Due to me not get 4.0 on unweighted, I got super upset and worried. Everyone says that is still good, but my anxiety tells me anythimg less than a 4.0 is considered average or bad, but, according to other people, that isn't the case.
Once I even cried over my overall grade in science dropping 1.3%, going from a 100% to a 98.7% simply because I misread ONE question on the test. If I had taken my time (which I try to go fast since that is sometimes a characteristic of being smart) I would still have a 100% in science. I was contemplating retaking the test but my dad said 98.7% was still really good so I decided it wasn't THAT necessary to have 100% in science. I still feel bad when looking at my science grade, though.
Anyway, I do relate to almost all of the struggles mentioned in the video. It also doesn't help that I have some other struggles, too, because I have anxiety. I have learned ways to manage it, though, but it is still there
don't stress out about school grades, when you get out in the real world they mean practically nothing.
@@anab0lic Yeah, I know, my parents have told me basically the same thing. However, I can't help worrying about it
I was surprised i fitted 100% with the stereotype, i don’t consider myself as a smart person, but now I have something good to say about me
Wouldn’t people come up to you all the time, asking questions?
I relate to most of these, especially feeling disconnected. I don’t want to dumb myself down but being silent isn’t a vibe either.
It’s not so much *making* good friends as much as it is *keeping* good friends.
Also romantic partners
@@enricomiceli8704 YESSSS 👏🏻
The last one is the worst...high expectations feels like a burden on the shoulder that no matter what I have to carry.. Which also leads to worrying and overthinking a lot.. Resulting in analysis paralysis...but one thing I'm happy about is I have people in my life that accepted the weird me...they help me out in social settings, in doing chores and so many other ways.. And the best one is that they listen just to make me feel heard even tho they don't fully understand it.
I stay alone, people are dumb and not worth my time. I have situational friends like neighbors and coworkers but no one I'm deeply connected with cause I know our point of views don't match. Yet I do over analyze things so it's hard for me to understand complex people and those are the ones I'm attracted to yet those are also the ones with the most personal problems. I like a challenge and hate monotony, but I'm also lazy.
Sounds like social anxiety and depression to me. Possible that you've experienced childhood trauma and now suffer from PTSD
@@rufusneumann9703 Nope I've lived a very sheltered life. Never had many friends. Only in the moment people. I am introverted, but don't have trouble talking to people.
@@Gigadander Hmmm okay then, thanks for clarifying 👍😀
I’m a complete dumbass, but I still struggle with a few of these
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& that’s how I know you smart
The struggle is real.
My first thought when I clicked the video was "Please don't relate to all of them. Just please"
But sadly, "Reality is often disappointing".
I related to all of them.
Here is No.9: Your love life is hard, be it an initiator or a receiver.
The eight is very true. Classmates feel like you're obligated to help them through an exam, parents and mentors always want you to succeed more, and in this process, you may lose what you started chasing, and realise you are learning/working for the world rather than yourself.
"Others dont validate or create who you are. Only you do"
Thanks for that, psych2go.
curendly suffering from extreme depression episode I love your vids they cheer me up and make me calm
Having these traits feels less like being highly intelligent than being socially awkward:)
I love this channel. I can relate to every issue mentioned. I will review this episode later, because it resonated HARD.
I'm 36, have a PhD, and i had no idea I had emotions until i was 28 due to a heavy depression. It is still a learning curve. I do have an ego about my IQ and learning about emotions is saving me and others from my own narcissism.
1. You get bored with small talk - Not really, I like the small talk just as much as the deep knowledge talk
2. You're careful with your words - Yes, I will often sit there thinking "What am I going to say? How should I say it?" and it leads to anxiety
3. You're socially awkward - It has lessened over the years I've been with my autism group, but yes, I do have social awkwardness, in large part because of the aforementioned anxiety about what to say and how to say it.
4. You struggle to make good friends - Yes!! I'm struggling with this right now. Being a friendly acquaintance, not so hard. Actually deciding to be friends and thinking of what to do as friends, so damn hard.
5. You don't get out much - Very true, I was super outgoing as a child, but then as a teenager, I started responding "No." to invitations to go somewhere with my parents. This is lessening a bit thanks to my group, but still the vast majority of my days are spent at home
6. You're overly analytical - Yes. If sitting there for 20 minutes thinking and analyzing my choices before responding to the question "What do you want for dinner?" isn't evidence that I'm overly analytical, I don't know what is.
7. Your mind constantly craves exercise - Yes, I do find myself constantly doing brain stimulating activities
8. You're always feeling pressured to succeed - No, not really.
And I've always considered myself to be an intelligent person and have always thought of the intelligence itself as a positive thing and I honestly think my social awkwardness and friendship struggle is not because I'm intelligent, but because I have social anxiety, especially surrounding questions I want to ask people.
Most of what was discussed in this video tracks well with my early adulthood and present construct. I would also try to find the exact word or meaning of the words I use. I would be accused of trying to impress people with my vocabulary when I just wanted to be understood. I have found a way over the years to balance this without having to change at the core. The bridge I found useful is emotional agility.
I struggle in terms of being with my own family and current friends as sometimes it's hard to speak with them verbally especially when you are expressing something. I always talk symbolically, some words intended with double meanings because that what describes my feelings best yet my parents often take my words seriously and sometimes they laugh at me saying, 'you're intelligent yet can't speak clearly' . I don't know, I always get loss for words verbally, wandering how to translate my language into more simple, non formal that they can understand. So itn felt like I can't reach the people around me and I feel like to them, I look like someone who have learning disabilities even when I was a consistent A+ student just because I'm too silent, awkward and serious. I get sad everytime and it's hard because somehow you don't feel belong and it's like you are at the wrong place. I hope I can finally meet new people who would relate to me on a higher level, just talking about the deep, complex, multidimensional life.
Actually High IQ and EQ go hand in hand. Even from a logical standpoint, it's natural for someone who is highly intelligent to understand others.
Ikr i swear all of this struggles are wrong
@@thisisdauphin3122 Yup. It's one thing to be socially capable and another thing to be able to understand people. EQ is not necessary being able to be the best talker in the room but the ability to pick up social queues, effectively perceive others on an emotional level, and understand yourself. All of these traits may help with being socially capable but it's not necessarily the same.
@@Xuejinyuan how much is your iq and do you find these struggles accurate ?
@@thisisdauphin3122 I've never tested myself to know. My friend had scared me away from taking an IQ test because "It limits you." I imagine getting any score below that of genius would be constricting so I agree with him. However, when I was in elementary, my school tested me to find out if I was gifted and enrolled me into the advanced track soon after. Funny because I thought that I was being punished and cried while taking the test. From this, I think it would be reasonable to assume that I would be considered "smart." As for the struggles described in the video, I myself don't necessarily dislike small talk but I do find that I get really enthusiastic, passionate, and smile a lot when I talk about philosophy or ideas. There's something about talking conceptually that's so free, especially when discussing ideas generally invites other people's viewpoints. I find it very interesting to hear how other people think. In that regard, I think the video is accurate. Another thing that's big is the long pauses. I am a huge offender of this and wish I didn't take so long to continue the conversation in the best way. Regardless, I think that intelligence is so complex that its really hard to generalize traits.
@@Xuejinyuan for me i took multiple iq tests i always score somewhere around 133 and 144 but i don’t think that these iq tests are truly certified because i have adhd and i always take longer time to answer some questions i don’t know i feel like adhd is a disadvantage but people says if you have high iq you are more likely to get a mental illness
I feel these too, I had analyzed the reason why I don't like to talk further with others but it turned that it might has become an instinct. I have no choice but to say that maybe it is because that I haven't met someone sharing the same perspective with me.
One thing that I'd like to point out that although you reference a 2015 study that found a negative correlation between IQ and EQ, most studies and opinions from highly credible psychologists, psychiatrist and neuroscientists in more recent times found or suggest either the exact opposite (i.e., a positive correlation between IQ and EQ) or that it's inconclusive.
I personally tend to lean towards inconclusive until one or the other can be repeatedly & conclusivly proven but to generalise that people with high IQs have low IQs, is factually not proven and most likely for every individual with a high IQ and a low EQ, there are probably an individual with both a high IQ and a high EQ.
High IQ, low EQ individuals do stand out more and is most likeky the reason for the perception along with certain neurological disorders that impact the ability to understand social norms.
I imaged a better, nicer, prettier, person of myself this year. I only have 3 friends at school and my favorite place is my bed because I can just experience the love of music that makes my life better, people my age go out, and be amazing but meanwhile, there’s me, insecure about me and trying to be skinnier thinking starving myself will make me happier but no. (It only lasted one day before I thought that that was just stupid) Your videos are what keep me going. Thank you.
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You do know that someone's iq doesn't at all tell you how smart someone is
I absolutely relate to basically all of these, and long ago decided it doesn't matter. Yes, I get lonely sometimes, though more often I want to be alone. Yes, I get bored with small talk, so I find interesting approaches to it (ex: "Yes, snowing and cold. In New Zealand it's probably a bright summer day! ") Sometimes I'll just shrug and indicate that I have nothing to add, rather than be pressured into an embarrassing situation-- or outdo the embarrassing and turn it into a joke.
Struggles of people who think they are intelligent: can't maintain friendship
Struggles of people who are actually intelligent: can't find friendship
Yes I've felt all the 8 struggles.Thanks Psych2go for this great informative video
I really struggle with small talk. I don't care about what's popular, and I don't like to talk about people.
This narrator has the best female voice I've ever heard!!!! Lively and soothing at the same time, very clear and easy to understand.
I love the animations so much. This channel helped me get through many times. Thank you so much ❤️❤️
Yep, you have me button-holed correctly! Thanks, truly! Now I know what I need to work on! Onward Through The Fog!
Thank you for the video!) All 8 were totally me!
+ I've got a lot more struggles to add😅
Another struggle is that you are disheartened when you see how mindless most people are....
I'm not a genius at all, my IQ is 100 but I'm past mount stupid and know to let the experts talk on stuff I don't know which is sadly a trait that's becoming more and more rare in today's society
I'm not smart, I was academically inclined as a kid, everyone put so much expectations for me and now I'm depressed and anxious, with crippling burnout and is now too tired to do anything else but sit in a couch and watch youtube...
Yes, that's the struggle I guess