Understanding The Male Mind: Female Relationship Coach Controversial Advice (Episode #6)
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Have you ever wondered what makes men tick? Would you like to understand the difference between the male mind vs. the female mind?
Welcome to “The Fallen State” TV with host Jesse Lee Peterson, a weekly TV talk show that examines human nature and relationships in an honest and open manner in order to free people from the fallen state that most are stuck in.
In this episode, Jesse Lee Peterson interviews Chiaku Hanson, a Doctoral student of clinical psychology; relationship coach, blogger and "male decoder" (www.maledecoded.com)
In this incredibly candid interview, Jesse and Chiaku share very useful information on what men and women want from each other. Though they have opposite views on many issues, the interesting and entertaining information in this video will help men and women get a clear understanding of the opposite sex and better navigate their relationships and avoid pitfalls.
They discussed:
1. Top things that men and women find confusing about the opposite sex.
2. The male mind vs. the female mind.
3. What makes a man pursue a woman and fall in "love"?
4. What do men want?
5. What do women want?
6. Why do women like to control men?
7. Why are women so competitive with one another?
8. What is the definition of a male chauvinist?
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I'm honestly dying laughing at all of Jesse's interviews.
He always cracks me up by putting people in the hot seat. It's really entertaining to watch.
FlyrDenDaAvg Cam HAHA yes and it's so entertaining to watch!
Hers wasn't too bad.
Yeah from the first time I seen this dude I was like this is a character
hell yeah he is a master of making them confortable and then easing into the tough stuff.
His line of questioning is by far hallarious. There is a way he asks his questions that jars the person with out being offensive.
She's clueless about men. Not all men are alike. A man will scroll through countless scenarios with a woman, usually before contemplating wither or not he will actually speak to her or not. Will we be compatible? Will she really be interested in me? How can it honestly work with someone that pretty? *And this is the BIG one: Will i have enough money to start a family with her, maintain happiness with her and comfortably afford somewhere to live with her? There are countless dilemmas a man faces before approaching a beautiful woman.
Well at least that's what i go through. ;)
You're 10,000% correct!
christopher reeves Wow! I can appreciate that!
christopher reeves but you're Superman!
Christopher reeves, your comment refers to men who are ready... I absolutely agree with you!
christopher reeves That is the first thing I thought about her CLUELESS.
Just because you are educated and write a book or 2 doesn't mean you know what you are talking about.
I find myself shouting BETTTA wherever I go I can’t help it 😂
LMAOOO WHAT THA
Same 😂
Me too. BETA or BETA female! 😂
Lmao
Amazin😂
3 main things men want from woman in relationship:
- prepares food
- bed fun
- loves children
Additional:
- is tidy
- is loyal
- doesn’t argue for nonsense
I.e. mammy
never forget to say, low body count because thats who we respect respect
One more, looks great in a black dress...
additional: be loyal? hahaha, that comes with the minimum requirements....BETAAAAAA!!!!!
hahaha, now you know why these hoes ain´t loyal, ain´t minimum requirements any more for BETAAAAAASSS, hahahaha....thats funny as hell.
Loyalty is at the top, respect........and purity (or as pure as you can get in 2022) lol
She smiles a lot but won't answer the question.....a smile is not an answer.
Smiling is a yes.. Snidley
Right, that smile was a cover. She didn't answer the question because she wasn't seasoned enough to answer the question. She had no dog in that fight. Not a chance against him.
Lots of smiles...The facade of a woman.
Yeah that's little girl behavior. How would she be bashing women by telling the truth
@@darnellcarter9170 Exactly!!
I love all the womansplaining about how men are.
im a white man and ur truly one of my real deal role models. im 22 and ill remember u forever and my kids, kids will hear your voice
I can't stand how women just flat out refuse to answer questions directly!!!
People in general do that...
I cant stand when anyone does that
Speakinurmynd
What didn’t she answer? And I’m not meaning this video!
Why didn’t you calmly ask her again, and insist she answers.
Maybe you didn’t have a deep relationship with an equal
Aaron it allows them to reveal their own biases. It’s really interesting
This mostly happens when a person is being evasive or just straight lying.
single. 30+. “male decoder” lol....
Ocean Water who’s single? Where was that discussed in the interview? I think you should concentrate on those insane looking waves and painted on side burns and painted on hairlines! No homo! Lol
Deluded
Oh shit that’s me.
@@pugs861 , lololololol
I've learned that as soon as people start calling you names they have lost the argument. She tried to be cool about it but she was on the loosing end, all that big talk about knowing about men and women's relationship was premature. She has so much to learn. She really shouldn't be giving advice but she should be taking it.
She's gotta start somewheres...😉
Amen🙏🏾
@@ZaidDesignsTV She's needs to start with fixing her ego.
Yup😂
You all need salvation
"Not all, not all, not all, not all..... but most" 😀 Gotta love Jesse! He's always on point, bringing the truth.
I don't think he's narcissistic at all. Ppl just throw that word around
She probably doesn't know the meaning of the word.
Confidence ✌️🙏
To keep it 100% I think narcissism has a spectrum and all of us can be found on it. Just my thoughts. 🤯 Blessings !!! 🥰❤️🙏🏼
@@nitaj2958 I'm aware of that and because it's on a spectrum is exactly why people shouldn't be carelessly throwing the word around.
You're absolutely correct only 5% of the population is actually Narcissist.
This is what happens when you tell idiots they can be whatever they wanna be in life,and after it happens no one tells them to stop they're wrong.
Exactly!!!!
“Do women like to control men?” - Uummmmm
“I don’t wanna throw women under the bus” = yes Jess you’re right but I don’t wanna admit it
Proves she’s not a true intellectual seeking the truth
Jesse is actually an amazing interviewer. he really knows how to phrase and deliver the questions.
he also responds quite cleverly too. highly underrated if you ask me.
but then again, they dont put effective people in too prominent positions, as you know.
keep up the good work!
Correct
Jesse reads his guests expertly and keeps it simple.
He’s also relentless - he won’t give up until he gets his answer.
he is also a good listener
You can tell he listens because he'll change the next question based on the response... his interviews are tactically executed...
he's been really hurt by his mom
@@marcuswatkins7354 who hasn't!?😉
this guy will ask ANYTHING i love it
Male decoder, who isn't married...
Stephanie Ann you do realize you just described Jesse Lee Peterson, right? He's never been married and constantly gives marital advice and explains what wives act like in detail. And I repeat, he's never even been married 😂
Stephanie Ann I think she Means Dakota
You know what they say, "Those who can't do Teach". What i'd like t o know is, what type of weak Soy Boy Goes to this woman for advice.
I agree with you there she's not married so how can she give advice
@@ga9100 what is wrong with you people?? Jesse isn't married and never has been, and he gives advice all the time and you all listen lol
"huffington post" everything is said.
There’s nothing funnier than the irony of the true narcissists going around calling everyone else narcissists.
she thinks men don´t try to figure out women?
what world does she live in, it´s all we talk about
It's stupid for men to try and understand women. Women understand women and they hate eachother.
Lmao yes! I work so hard to understand girls sometimes. Its all mixed signals!
multitimmytiger2 jep
Tobias Hansen I thought the same way until I learned about female nature through MGTOW. There are good women out there but they are the 10% of women in America. When God is the norm again we will have more.
TheBlackdragon936 the worst thing is i found a girl who is up for a open relationship, but she is a liberal who thinks Merkel is the greatest thing ever! :(
You really appreciate the brilliance of the Jesse Peterson in these interviews... he shows it through his questioning, and doesn't pontificate like his guests often do. Through his very simple yet crude questioning, he exposes his guests as simpletons (disguised as intellectuals), and reveals himself to be of the higher intellect (despite his delivery seeming simple).
30 years old, single and giving advice on men? She is no expert...... LMAO!
Farticus Maximus omg she looks 55
I'm surprised Jordan did not ask her if she was married.
I echo Better One, JLP has never been married, is single and ancient--but he's an authority on relationships. Laughable.
Better One great points. My thoughts exactly. Initially, some of his points about Christianity and the importance of "Family" were insightful, but as I continued to listen to his other videos my opinion has shifted. How can so many people agree w/ JLP, when he's a walking contradiction?
I'm sure that his guests ask him if he's married, in a relationship, etc --but since it's his show he edits that out. If he's such a "real man" or marriage expert then why has he never been married? If anything, I'd watch his videos to learn what NOT to do.
Farticus Maximus you do realize that you just argued why Jesse Lee Peterson's opinion is irrelevant, right? He's never been married and constantly gives marital advice and explains what wives act like in detail. And I repeat, he's never even been married 😂
She' handled this better than anyone I've seen so far.
She says "American" is not a race and she is correct about that... but niether is African a race... Im not black yet i live in Africa
She also forgot about Jamaicans, Haitians, etc. Do they refer to themselves as Afro-Jamaicans?
What are u? Are u an arab?
Matthew Rossouw lol
Matthew Rossouw there's only one race, "the human race" then there is culture. American culture or African culture. The color of our skin is just added style created by almighty God.
Oh that's a good point
"You're a narcissist"
And this woman is studying psychology?
Funny, my therapist hasn't called me out of my name once. That's probably why this lady is taking psychology, so she can name call.
I find most people I come into contact with who study psychology have realised there's something wrong with themselves that they want to understand. "Professionals" like this women though, get caught up with identity politics and make complete failures at the profession because they act obliviously to their own massive biases. Instead thinking they have the power to drop labels on people and classify them. Unfortunately she is one of many like this. The have very little ability if any to be objective.
"I would examine him for narcissism", "are you projecting".
No actual psychologist speaks this way, hunting down their own preconceptions - which are really pre-conclusions that they'll arrive at if you trust them enough to give them the chance. But what can you expect from somebody who call themselves a relationship coach. Let people like this guide your relationship at your own peril.
DarkReign and what do you call Jesse's detailed analosys and observations about men hating their mothers and becoming them? He isn't exactly Sigmund Freud. He said that he barely graduated high school.
Thelondonbadger you say that like it's an empirical fact. That is a variable that can play a role, but that does not always assure the outcome like the definitive statement that you just made.
Thelondonbadger that's not what Jesse says. He specifically claims that men WILL become like their mothers if the father isn't present. He leaves no room or any other nuture variables.
The first question. Do women like to control, (NO ANSWER) That distroyed the interview. Another Charalton. She puts on a good act.
The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance; it is the illusion of knowledge.
This is agood one ,i'm going to write it down..
Im telling u this dude should be on Saturday nite live. This Jesse dude cracks me up. LMAO!!!
James Harris I prefer politics but I guess SNL is good too. 😁
SHE IS CRAZY JUST LIKE THE OTHERS ALL OVER THE PLACE
26:53 "Did you have fun?"
Probably one the best Jesse moments ever lol.
Jesse is a crack up his gentle questioning is amazing. I love his style.
If you listen and analyze how she speaks to Jesse she is enamoured by his presence! She loves the fact that he shows very little emotion to her opposition. She "low key" loves it, that's why she is smiling all the time. She is very attracted to his unwavering confidence in his beliefs. She is trying to "slick" find a way in. Listen to how she said "are you weak?" She is melting inside. She is blown away by his strength but know's that she will never become a part of him or anyone of his caliber! Note: look at how she had her legs open in the beginning of the video. THE BOOK IS OPEN PEOPLE! ITS AN EASY READ!
Lesson to all fellas, never be a nice guy around women.
You can be nice, just don't be weak. Stand your ground, have a mission, don't debate or argue, just put your foot down when you need to be firm and don't ask permission. Also don't let a woman walk on you, once that happens it's game over lol
Depends what you mean by nice. As a man you just can't depend on your niceness. You need to be fun, confident and display characteristics of leadership.
@@bradley6386 , Like she said, you can be strong & nice. I like ur viewpoint also
@Lorelei Haart , I have less respect for a man that I can push around.
@@broco6608 , This is true. Women control the sex aspect. Men like a challenge.
She's a smart pretty woman but I like how calm and relax she is and I really liked her interview he did with her. She has a good head on her shoulders it would be nice to run into a woman like her and even date a woman like her because she isn't all over the place she's headstrong. And she's not about controlling or bashing a man. But I don't think a a man should go to a woman for advice but maybe listen to how she feels on certain things but that's about it because a man has to lead
BAY-DUH! 😂
This woman needs to quit, whatever this is she's claiming to be.
menelik201 LMAO, absolutely!!!
Think , she is 30. Been taking psych classes for 10+ yrs. thinking herself into this psuedo career having superior knowledge and wisdom. Hopefully, she parlay that into a living. Maybe free healthcare will pay her for counseling folk. Otherwise them student loans gonna come during some day!
She is 33 years old and single
Lol
"im so not confused anymore I don't remember"
When I hear this crap about loving yourself I have a feeling of disgust. It's so much selfishness in that and the Bible talks repeatedly against it.
Being a christian you have a duty to warn others that may be ignorant about sin. Ultimately we are accountable for each other, so if you know abortion is a crime, the most heinous of all, but you keep quiet, not wanting to offend or intrude, makes you an accomplice.
Being a christian it's not easy and certainly not a solo ride.
Sorin 5780 well said! I'm very impressed with your comment! Good day sir!
Right now, i'm an atheist, but, when i was a christian, i've read the Bible and Jesus said to "Love god above everything and the other as you love yourself."*
With that in mind, in order to be actually able to love the other, you must first love god and yourself and, the more you love yourself, the more you can (and must) love the others.
For the rest, i agree. I believe it is in Peter's book "Be a saint, 'cause the one who created you is a saint"* It's not easy to offer the other side when you're being hit, it's not easy give everything you can to the poor and needy (I believe it should, at least, be in the person's last will), to follow the 10 commandments is not easy. And yes, Jesus said to preach the word for every living creature so you really should, at least, warn the people. But i also think you should not tell them how to live their lives. You're suposed to give them the word. What they do with it is on their own.
*A very rough translation, since i'm brazillian and i've read the Bible in portuguese.
That's not what modern people mean by that. They're talking pride and self-indulgence
Sorin......unfortunately, many Christains are not on the same page when it comes to this issue. Spiritual growth & having a teachable spirit is important. All fruit does not get ripe at the same time
Jesus said to deny yourself and follow me.
Men, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER take dating and relationship advise solely from a woman. There may be information gained from a female dating and relationship coach but for every one of them, I would seek the advise from TWO or more male dating and relationship coaches.
She just has the modern anti culture/anti values/anti morality/pandering checklist memorized
WHY WOMEN USUALLY ANSWER A 3RD IMAGINARY QUESTION THAT WASN'T ASKED RATHER THAN ANSWERING THE ACTUAL QUESTION?? LACK OF HONESTY & REFLECTIVE BECAUSE OF BEING OVERLY EMOTIONAL!! LACK OF TOUGH FATHERS IN FAMILIES WILL DO THIS...
if you cannot "decode" your own psyche, there is no way in hell you ought to be trying to decode anyone elses...
But it's fun
Malpuraĵo Servistino lol that's true. I think women need to worry about women and men need to worry about men.
Can’t decode herself? Say what
1:35, “I’ve talked to every man from every race”, I don’t remember ever having a conversation with her.
6:45 What black men want from women?
10:15 What white men want in a woman?
10:28 What Hispanic men want in a woman?
12:39 Be careful about S*x
15:03 Why women are so insecure?
16:10 Men compare women all the time
16:55 How you go from "Not-loving who you're" to "loving who you're"?
17:16 What is a feminist?
17:38 What other kind of issues men talk about?
18:25 How men should solve this problems?
I found her to be absolutely delightful; a woman to love.
Cal Grier her features are beautiful and that has nothing to do with skin color! You are hating for no reason. Hateful ass. What’s attractive about you?
Thelondonbadger she’s a virtuous woman and do not speak of her in this manner, you troll! She’ is nothing but a wife
ßrooks what does that even mean? Post a selfie of yourself. I bet you’re ugly
She was indirect and very late when questions were asked to her. She was very dodgy.She was a bit confused and not straightforward. I don't know if she took psychology but she doesn't seem to understand if you are obscure and unsure with your answers ,people are not going to believe your know what you are talking about.
She also was kind of abrasive with and defensive with Jesse Lee ,so to me she was very rude and not too professional.
I remember watching old game shows (here on RUclips) from the 70's and 80's--people back then much more often spoke the truth, even if it offended. They did not just say "maybe" and giggled. I think these days, in that way, we are like children.
5 minute mark- she gets nervous and cannot admit woman like to control men. JEZEBEL ALERT! This host Jesse resembles my style of interviewing. I believe we should always confront self-made leaders who act as guides to the blind.
This woman has no idea. Hispanic relationships are highly submissive, I watch my father in-law literally get waited on by his wife and it is a trend with all the Hispanic homes I've been in. She really thinks she is smarter than she actually is.
She doesn't know what she is talking about.
I'm Hispanic, and yes we can be "submissive" but it is not derogatory or offensive for us to take care of those we love. We live to cook for our husbands, and care for our children. They are a blessing to us, and it is not humiliating to display love toward our families.
Use to be the case but this is fading quickly even in Latin countries
winter sun. Amen. Thanks for saying that.
One word Machismo
I feel sorry for anyone that takes advice from this woman
Call-in and tell me why
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Every one is on their own because the family structure is not taught anymore. When Men are not father's to help their sons to become father's themselves then the tradition is broken and values of being a good Man is forgotten.
first time I see a response from Jesse crew.
😂😂😂😂 yeah man 😂😂
I like this guest, she is honest and smiles a lot, pleasant even though I disagree with a lot of what she says.
Disgusting how is she going to attack him at the end like that.
You can be nice and respectful but yet still be a man, a leader, a role model, and still be strong. Yet still firm
5:04 This reaction killed me when he asked “do women like controlling?”
She got a beautiful smile
No she doesn’t
It's scary the denial people have around them.
“Male Decoder,” that just sounds ridiculous
She did the best out of everyone I've seen good job
She is not a Christian. When you are in Christ you have to die to yourself and follow Jesus and his ways.
Tishaun Ridley Sounds like a hell of a bedroom session.
Tishaun Ridley well it's a path, so she is maybe on the path
Andreas Devig Being free from things that fucks your life like frustration, hatred, shame and depression is hell indeed.
Tishaun Ridley i have no idea what you just said, she has to kill herself to follow jesus? Huh???🤨
Tishaun Ridley yes she picks and chooses what she wants to believe and follow. Like with the abortion she didn't denounce it buy denounces gay marriage. She says not everyone has the spirit of God.
A female relationship coach is like dracular in charge of a blood bank.
She sat through the whole interview. Had an interesting perspective and Jesse rolled with it. Good interview!
I got surprised when she said sex after marriage... I like this woman. Values , Morals 👌👍
Christian Credentials why surprised?
I w…. L… t. H… s.. w… h….
I haven’t seen anyone handle Jesse’s interviews as well as she did! Most that don’t share most of Jesse’s views usually get into their feelings and hyper and reply crazily, but she stayed composed all the way through. Some of it may be due to her researching him before coming on! Kudos young lady!✊🏾🦉🙌🏾
She's actually one of the more sane guests he's had on. Saddens me to see she also thinks Jesse is some kind of buffoon.
He literally said Men hype women up just to get sex. Wow. So is it men who give men a bad rap? Or are men truly just that low?
anbillie it's just something that happens naturally
I like her mind/response. She seem respectful down to Earth ❤
LOL! Jesse Says, "and Im a good man, right?" She replies "You're a narcissist!"
A man comes on strong and then doesn’t call anymore because He’s figured out who you are and he’s smart enough do you know you ain’t it
This was a great interview....didn’t agree with everything either one said but they both made some great points bringing truth...
I enjoyed the interview. So civil, and the young lady didn't get offended and leave😀
She is soooooo into Jesse, look how she look at him 😂😂
Worst male decoder and relationship advice award goes to.......
That was really interesting! Great interview, she raised good points and the questions were good too. I enjoyed it
What video we're u watching it sucked she doesn't know what she's talking about may I ask you ate you married ⁉️
Cal Grier how do you know if she’s single? How do you know who has a child or two? You sound crazy
George Frazier you commented so it peeled your interest
Many of these comments are gold. This woman is delusional. I can see why ppl think Jesse trolls and says things for shock value. But if you sit without defense and listen, he makes good sense. This was a good talk, I wouldn't even take directions from this woman let alone advice about relationships.
Food, Sex, and Sleep. Sounds like all I ever wanted.
Jesse is the BEST intervier!
period.
Another great interview!
A very smart lady her, kudos. Nice interview.
I find her to be pretty relaxed and easy to listen to. Thank you for this interview
I love his questions
Love the way Jesse brakes the interview down
Her little giggle when she's asked a direct question is pretty cute! 😋
10:48 i rewound and laughed like 10 times
A narcissist who spends his time helping others with workshops and programmes? Who rely on donations to get most of this done? Someone who isn't afraid to speak the Bible's truths, despite 99% of people hating him for it?
Yeah, I was really liking her until it got close to the end of the interview.
I like that car buying analogy she used 😂😂😂 on point lol
I cook for myself. I clean after myself.
Life’s good 😊
Keep up the good work Jesse I’m proud of you!!!
The host is very good. I enjoy his interviews and hearing him speak.
She had him pegged from the jump. Everything he says is to get a reaction. "You know the stuff you say is ridiculous".🤣
I love how some communities can get together and knowledge drop on all matter of subjects with no expertise required and aint nobody really cares. awesome stuff. bring on the achievement gap.
DNA is old. It was 400 years ago, I don't forget that a part of me comes from Africa but my closest ancestors are Caribbean, I've grown there I am not African anymore. I am Carribean, rejecting history of colonization and your current identity prevents you to care and build your future. I COULDN'T SAY IT BETTER THAN YOU !
TheLily97232 Exactly Im Geechee Gullah descendant of the Olmecs ..Some of us know who we are and have researched it extensively and others just spread what they learned in school smh
Interesting interview! I like this woman, I think she is one of few women that actually tries to understand and feel empathy for them, just like there is a dearth of men who try to understand women and have empathy for them. Too many people are bitter and resentful, which is not going to work if you attempt to get into any kind of meaningful relationship. We need many more people like her!
No she’s doesn’t
Lol yeah
JESSE!!!! You are the dude!
Are you a nice guy? Response, 'Naw!'
You are making me hysterical with laughter, but your insights are so thoroughly vital to serious thought .
Good conversation ❤️
personally he has to take his time and understand what the other person is saying. He is always so quick to jump to asking questions without fully understanding. please pray to God to give u the spirit of Patience.
Psychologist !!?? Really !! .. Uh, give me a break.
Goth AXL jealous?
Truth..... delivered with a velvet glove - with the impact of a knuckle duster.
I enjoyed this.
Jess is the forgotten OLD SCHOOL
She don't know nothing
The correct word is anything, not nothing!