Despise The Free Lunch l Robert Greene
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- Опубликовано: 28 авг 2023
- Robert Greene is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, The Laws of Human Nature, and most recently, The Daily Laws.
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If the service is free you are the product.
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Exactly an people know this but they keep talking about the world isn’t that way yes it is I don’t take free stuff from nobody people will run up to you to give free stuff to see if you bite on it it’s all to use you as a tool it’s all manipulation they try to come as a friend offering gives an take your whole body as the product
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Just like RUclips. So you are a product of RUclips basically
@@Michael.storen yes
Being generous is a sign of power..absolutely..
Not necessarily
Not always
Absolutely. See Georges Bataille’s famous “Notion of Expenditure.”
@@pandorateta6810100% sure you’re broke.
You can't give you don't have.
Wow! It make sense “‘Being generous and paying for things is a sign of power”
Middle-aged Chinese men have known this for decades. It's a game where the person who's able to pay for the check first wins the honor.
@@Rosenzweigjcb thank you for sharing this.
So correct, I've always told my family and friends that not all money is good money and the kind that comes with obligation like this is just an obligation that will come back to bite you.
To me everything Robert Greenes philosophy is very logical and common sense.
It’s likely that he thought about all this for a long time, before externalizing it
you want an illogical and nonsensical philosophy?
To me, when anyone says "everything" or "always"... I stop listening.
@@assorita3861 quirked up shawty
Good...stay ignorant
When I give,I give with a pure intention, but he's talking about those who give with an intention of them receiving something in return! Generally, I fear free things,but it also depends who is giving,cos I'll read the energy from the person,and I'll know if to accept or not!!
True.
في الإسلام يقول الله تعالى في الله:'انما نطعمكم لوجه الله لا نريد منكم جزاء ولاشكورا'فهدا مفهوم أصيل في الإسلام أن تعطي بغرض نيل رضا الله وليس رضا البشر لدى الايسر أن يعطي الإنسان لاخيه دون انتظار مقابل أو كما يقول غرين (الديون النفسية)
@@mostafafakir6511بارك الله فيك أجي
Ya he’s talking about “Those people” he’s not talking about you. Cuz you’re above all that. You dum duck (f).
This man is such a treasure 💯 Thank God for him. May God protect this man.
And a grimy mf
I used to be dusty
@@franksinatra5257care to elaborate? kinda rude to Robert, ngl
@@franksinatra5257 your envy is showing rn
God doesn't protect anyone
@@paulgreengodI’d listen to you if your eyes didn’t look in two different directions while you speak.
I offer people services and give money all the time to the point where I forget I helped them and then they thank me years later I legit cannot remember. I never do it expecting anything. Well not consciously at least. I just know what it’s like to live in lack and I want to help every single time I can. I always say if I was rich I’d be poor because I would literally want to help everyone
Another point Robert mentioned in his books but isn't here: It saves you from any sense of guilt or feeling like you owe something to them.
Money is not the only way to be "paid", sometimes doing something for free out of feeling love or feeling good after helping someone is enough
In that case feeling good would be the equivalent of getting something in return
@@jadegalvan957exactly
Sounds like a fancy way of saying you’re sleeping with your landlord instead of paying the rent 😂
What he has said is true! 💯 Some people give generously without expecting anything in return & without showing the power. But deep down in their hearts they want those who were being helped by them, to be grateful & loving towards them. Subconsciously this thought is there ✌🏾
WEll you just said what the generous are expecting, they want "deep down in their hearts they want those who were being helped by them, to be grateful & loving towards them." They are expecting something.
Truth..... there's been experience where it feels like care but it actually to control, exploit, manipulate to make one feel comfortable and convenient for them.
Wisdom! Always generosity is POWER!
GOD BLESS
YOU
Gratuity is the highest form of love.
only Jesus Christ the Lord and Savior is the highest form of love look at John 3:16-17 God bless yous😊
I resonate with this idea. When it doesn't hide selfish motives, of course.
@@Josh_LS7I would 100 - 0 Jesus christ in pickle ball
@@jeremiahalbert3021this is sooooooooooooooooooo funny dude !!!!!! Omg I laughed so much... thank you !😂
This is a powerful message, and it runs against the grain of our greed-based culture. Our culture teaches us to get the best deal and not let anyone else have anything.
But what Robert is saying here is that our true power lies in our generosity. This is why I always tip generously. People really do appreciate it, and they reciprocate. And if you don't, you're making a negative impression on others.
When people dismiss your generosity with the "No thank you", that shit hurts.
theyve probably accepted something in the past thinking someone was just being nice then the person turned out they wanted something or they threw it in their face, happened to my sister with one of her friends
I love listening to him talk! It’s so refreshing..
That “generous” mindset is so key!!! Especially with artisans. The ones doing a good job are worth tipping more just to be on their good side. They associate you with a good pay for honest work. That makes you stand out in the world of nickel and dimers
ok this is top level psychology right here, well done my friend, figuring this stuff out. Having people regard you warmly is incredibly valuable for securing excellent overall results!
you're right and that takes wisdom to learn and it took me a while to learn. You automatically think being good at business is securing the lowest price. You pay an artist what they ask for with no complaints they will love you for life. You nickel and dime them, they will forget what your name is.
"Being generous & paying for things is, a sign of power. It's a sign you are generous in other things as well. Anything worth having is worth paying for." ~ Mr. Robert Greene
Thanks so much for this. I even pay for car fines without asking for a plead discount.. I just love paying my way through life
I'm not like that. I love giving gifts to people I like or helping the homeless at the supermarket to pay for their groceries. I expect nothing in return. I've been this way since I was 3 !! What is mind boggling to me is why isn't everyone else like me !! LOL
I find lots of people think that they give out of love but one day you get into a fight and people say: ohh I helped thst person so much, have them so much, hmthe best presents etc and I got nothing in return.
So they did expect something or assumed a reciprocal relationship. Not saying that you at like that but that's what I people say after a fight with their own friends or family. When they gave a present, they were genuinely generous but unconsciously they did see it as an investment.
@@zeynand4039 Yes but that is an anecdotal narrative you can have for anything in life, it depends how you look at life and how interpret something through your own lens !! Also it depends on what your definition of "expectation" is. What he is saying is an exchange of valued materials such as money or services, etc. Not all people are the same. Not everyone has a conscious or is generous. We can't put everyone in the same basket ! We can say probability-wise in business you see less of the genuine generous type of people, however they are out there :) Hope my comment makes sense :p
@@monavis2356you just said a whole lot of nothing
@@zeynand4039 you're 1000% right.
I was looking for likeminded people in the comments and found you. I agree! Not every person is like that. That’s short sightedness to generalize all people are one way or the other and we all share the same nature. Some people are just happy to make someone else happy. Maybe what they get out of giving is seeing someone else a little happy and that makes them happy. So their benefit is being happy with others together?
Having that said, I’m learning in a very hard way that there are many narcissistic types out there who “give” with completely different intentions.
Everything not transactional. You just feel like it and just do at time. Yesterday I gave $5 to a person who needed. Not because I could but I thought he might need more. I got nothing back, he didn’t even look at me or his money, and I’m ok with it.
he is anonymous, dont care to be accepted by you. he did it to bring a depf oof perspective, an exemple too enlarge counsciousness. He failed with you.@@WalterWhite-zr5yl
Admit I have to agree, depending on the level from you look at it.
seems that when you did it, you didn t transact, cause no purpose of getting attention for it later on youtube... + if it's not mentionned anytime, where is the transaction ? @@avonzo
@WalterWhite-zr5yl I also must say it’s all a mind game. You can just do something without the needing to feel anything too. Also let me out a secret - you can train your mind to do so too. And there are certain meditation practices help you achieve this. So whether to feel something or not in reality, is a choice one intentionally or unintentionally pursue - either it be intentionally or unintentionally. We’re getting into spiritual realm here.. didn’t meant to..
you got something out of it "making yourself feel good"
Its a concept. This is the fresh base concept of exchange between people.
I love the starting,to finishing her explanation of that!!( And,each bullet point of that)
I love this❤❤❤❤❤ Generosity is power,
This is law #40 be independent by paying someone to do you a favor or make sure it's a win-win situation. That way when someone ask you for a favor you always have the power to say yes or no because you are not in the person's debt. Combine this with law #13 when asking for help appeal to their self-interest.
I 100% disagree! Maybe that’s a millionaires mindset but as a small business owner of a Hub/Minority Business & Non Profit Director who was also a Special Education Teacher… I give from my heart & don’t expect anything in return.
I help people because I have been broken, have seen brokenness in others, have experienced countless veterans suffering and if I can help… why not! If I can work for free, I do! Many pay periods, I pay myself $1 so that staff can have the increase! The live better than I do and that’s ok as long as my job is to do the greater good so NO… everyone does NOT expect something in return if we give you something for free! Sometimes we just want to see others doing good!!! It makes our hearts smile! ❤💕🥰
I think he talks about this as well, or maybe I read this in another book but you're still trying to get something out of it. You're trying to get a satisfaction from helping others, so regardless you still gain and expect something in return.
@@467076 But in that situation, the “something in return” is not paid by the person that received the gift. They lose nothing by receiving something from one who gives out of the kindness of their hearts. Which is contrary to what this man is talking about. The love of money is the root of all evil.
Expecting to get something doesn't have to be negative, think about the fact that you are getting a feeling for helping someone out.
You are in fact getting something.
It's not always a negative thing, it's all about perspective
@@The_Questionaut I never said it was a negative thing, I'm just stating that regardless she expects something out of it. She even says it in her comment.
@@467076 my point was that in this video, he’s saying you shouldn’t take something from someone for free because they’ll expect something from you at some point. This commenter said that, this is not always the case. Your response to her comment is misplaced. The guy in the video is painting it as a negative, by saying that anyone who gives expects something from you in return, so never take anything for free.
"Anything that's worth having is worth paying for." This man has taught me so much. I am 30. I bought his Daily Laws on my 29th bday (Oct 13, when he released the book! Or he might have released it on the 12th..) I discovered him when I was 28 via his interviews with Lewis Howes. This man's teachings, podcast clips, and books have certainly influenced my life to grow positively in the past 2 years. Thanks man.
For all the "good" people watching this confused, this is a guide when dealing with selfish people.
bruh I still dont understand. its not about being "good" its about when I value someone I want to share what i have with them I want to pay for thints I want them to know they are worth being taken care of. I expect nothing but their company and this transactional viewpoint makes no sense unless youre viewing the other person like a tart to wallet ratio.
I can listen yo him forever
Robert you changing my life for good /I love your work .respect bro
Unexpected generosity is essentially the definition of a covert contract.
how
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You are the greatest in my library
So true, Mr. Greene. Once a client hired me to support her as she was doing her first live workshop. I told her my price and she agreed and paid a 50% deposit. After she spoke with a group of her colleagues, she approached me and said her colleagues said that I should be offering my services for free. What???? It took a moment for her to get it that money is a symbol of appreciation and power. I did not refund her deposit. I did, however, offer her some mindshift sessions in which money was the focus and she was grateful. She’d have hollow success had she not learned the valuable lesson of currency effect of money.
WoooooW what a powerful message.
So wonderful
Thankyou
'ultimate wealth is nor created or distroyed'
I believe it to be generosity of spirit. I have given thousands and thousands of dollars to help people because when I get I give. NOT ONE PERSON HAS EVER HELPED IN RETURN.
Money is an energetic exchange
Ur mom is an energetic exchange
I agree unless it's coming from family like father or mother or also whom they don't expect usually anything back.......
He’s exactly right!!!
My wife and I built our own house, both by sub contracting and by working in it ourselves. When a sub contractor would finish eg boring the well, we would request the bill before the machinery left site and we would have the bill paid immediately. The reason for this was two fold, my wife's father is a plumber and was regularly left waiting for payment throughout the years and it also cleared the financial path for us to move onto the next thing without over stretching. I am not saying this was generous, it wasn't but it did shock many of the sub contractors and really helped us build a good relationship with them.
Very true
❤ great honest person
Please start putting links to the full interviews in the comments!
So true
I love this quote❤
I’m glad to see comments disagreeing with Robert on this. Giving something “for free” just to be kind is enough, and it’s nice to see the comments embracing that a little
I approve 500% with Dr. Greene.
Good, we are all on our toes waiting for you to approve of him.
Absolutely
I’ve always believed this. Very well put
Interesting ⬆️
Sir I am from India and your wordings are very helpful to me.But I don't know why some of it is not being applied on the people in India .I think here the people are getting that range of the spectrum that got mashed up with all different emotions.I hope I can speak with u sir .
Sahi hai bhai
Sadly, because they went away from their own beautiful Vedic culture.🙏
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no it doesnt necessarily means that i want somthing in exchange. there is smth called generosity, giving .......
Amen
Yes
True.
True wisdom is obtained for free only. And one who shares true wisdom is givin it for free cause he got it for free, find his banafits, and wishes to share with others to give them these prescious knowledge.
Why? Cause people care and help each other. That's why some people donate their time and money to feed homeless etc. It's human nature.
Some of them want to use you.
Some of them want to make the world a better place.
Recently been scammed by an employer, I was taking their sponsorship and they thought they could abuse me.
HOW ARE WE, WHO ARE WE
WHAT ARE WE TRYING TOO WIN
OR WHEREVER WE ARE GOING TOO LOOSE, WHAT OR WHO IS IT WORTH WHILE TOO CHOOSE ?
Very true !
Generosity & magnanimity are indicative of power.
Agree😊
Amazing this is true ❤
Much respect to Robert for his wisdom. However, not everyone who offers a service at no cost expects something in return. I’m a healthcare provider who grew up in poverty and have done charity work for YEARS. I’ve worked for a fraction of what I could be earning in a clinic because I have a conscience and entered this work to alleviate suffering. I ask my “free” patients/clients to do something kind or helpful for someone else when they see an opportunity and to use our work together to improve their lives. That’s it. No obligation, no price to pay. Just taking care of one another.
ROBERT GREENE THE GOAT THATS WHY HES THE GOAT THE GOATYT
Facts 💯💯💯
This applies to believe who don't believe in god or the after life. My father was a man of God who dedicated his life to community service and died in poverty.
I use my money to buy supplies at arts and crafts to create something to gift to my friends because I appreciate them for our friendship. I bake and I gift. I cook and I share--in the absence of having a hidden agenda. Giving your money is your choice-- if you allow yourself to be manipulated and persuaded with their idea--because how they presented sounded good😂
Unfortunately, most people are like that. That's why the world is so messed up. Because people think transactional instead of relational.
Agree, nothing is really free
Couldn’t agree more
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Yahoooeeee! I tell potential clients my services as an x are the most expensive in town!
We want the person to do better sometimes. So they can fly with others helping all the time…free help, free ❤️
Makes a lot of sense, time is money, literally, we work every hour of our day in exchange of some payout (after state and whatnot takes half of that time, aggregated, in the form of taxes).
Now, we don’t have time to make a car or build a chair, so with that payout we just got we can “command” the time of the hundreds of engineers that have been making cars or the carpenters that make chairs.
We use money as the middleman for time/effort transactions.
With that in mind, when someone comes and gives you something for “free”, for them to come up with that thing to give you, they had to spend their own time and effort somehow… and what happens when someone spends time and effort? They WILL expect at least some of that in return.
And when I refer to time and effort, I mean there’s a translation to “energy” and “watts” in the literal physics sense, since single cell organisms, living things have been trading blows in power (watts) struggles in the hopes of counteracting entropy (keeping disorder in check) and that requires getting resources in any way possible (like cells eating other cells).
Agreed
I just started a new job that DOUBLED my salary. However, the work is DOUBLED as hard and I spend DOUBLE the amount of my time at work. They didn't DOUBLE my salary for FREE. It was a trick and a hidden obligation.
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💕✨😘 Amen ra, may our paths cross again soon~ 🌟💫✨
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Smartest man
Money flows
Im not going to lie but im a very generous man, but never have I thought it was because I was powerful or Rich. Ive been in alot of situations and I know people go thru the same, me being generous is to help others be happy when their sad or full when their hungry. I love people even when they hate me!😅
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When i give..it's genuine.. i want nothing in return.. gone..forgotten..
But when someone wants to give me something for free.. i always say no..because i know there's got to be a catch, somewhere, somehow..
The thing is, it takes a REALLY strong person to give out something for FREE
Unmmmm that's good!
free items on the curve!
He's so correct that nickel and diming people is NOT WORTH IT. You think "aha! I got him down 10% from his original price I'm such a great businessman!" but in fact YOU'RE the sucker because now he lowkey resents you and will do 50% of good as a job for you and whatever intangibles as far as networking or recommendations from him, you have ruined.... Now when you ask him for a favor he will hold back or flake... people's ego is everything and they can be so petty
agreed
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What if they know you don't have it or if they just don't want to be materialistic? There are cases where you don't have it and businesses give away 10 percent to stay prosperous. We don't accept things for free to be cheap. It's receiving and not taking. People get tired of paying for everything and often it's the opposite. We don't ask for what we need or are unwilling to receive from others and not just give. It's hard to ask for exactly what you need and a struggle to accept much from others even when we need it.
Money 💰
a friend of mine went on an interview and they offered more than she asked. what a cool company.
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Nah, i give food free to my work colleagues out of care. I left my work place,moved on with life amd never saw them again. So never expected anything. And doing exactly same at current work place.
Usually when you’re offered something “for free,” the price is entering your email address and phone number in an online web form.
I offer services for free because my job is to repopulate my country with native trees so if you've got land i can heal that is what i want,
However as robert mentioned im generally compensated by the benefactor based on their value of the services recieved.
With my brothers we always argue for the Opposite persons side when we negotiate.
I have tried giving people more money to help me at home. It doesn't work.
If someone is lazy or have bad intentions, there is nothing you can do about it.