After a decade of complacency, for the last 2 months I've been restricting calories, meditating, studying stoicism, and lifting weights 4x a week. I've lost 10 lbs of fat and the satisfaction I feel at the end of the day after committing to a few simple daily tasks has been eye opening. For the first time in a while I'm excited for my future. I hope anyone reading this who is in a similar position can push themselves just a little bit, just so you can see that a little discipline and consistency can take you a really long way. Good luck.
@@renjiaow3742 dont set the bar too high, make sure your goals are achievable. dont let a bad day throw you off. success is not a straight line to the top, theres gonna be bumps. keep goin
Some useful info here. What I will add, in my humble opinion as a late-50s married man: males tend to focus on the 'data points' of attraction, meaning height/build/money/status. Women consider those things, but they focus almost as much, if not more, on the subtle things, like confidence, body language, tone of voice and how you make them 'feel.' It's the Male Gaze vs Female Gaze thing. Don't ignore building yourself up in all the ways that you can.....but never forget that the average woman sense & responds to more intangibles than the average male.
but note: in the dating market you are always competing against the top, not against the bottom. it doesnt matter if the bottom is worse then ever, the bottom is not your competition
The point was that the top is not densely populated. A matter of NUMBERS, not the fact that there are variations and you might not be in the tippy-top of the top.
@@juliend9495this is actually a valid point.. the top 10% of guys are pulling 90% of women. These guys typically have girls on rotation, and once the girls figure out the guy won’t commit and end up leaving, the guy will rotate in a new girl..and the cycle repeats. I consider myself a good looking dude with a good income, but I’m also not making millions of dollars and over 6ft, so I’m directly competing with that sub-group of men.
Let's focus on ourselves my brothers. Focus on goals and making something out of ourselves. To get better everyday. Be there for your real friends and family. One step at a time. You matter. I appreciate all of you 🙏🏽
Stop lying to yourselves men are designed to spread our seed we do almost everything for women. We literally civilized the entire world largely for women.
Crazy how the content is so how quality from the video to the information. Could have sworn this guy had atleast half a million subs. Keep up the good work
That's nice, but the problem isn't that im not cultivating "greatness" in my self, it's that other people aren't recognizing what is great about me. You can work on yourself all you want, but if nobody else recognizes or acknowledges it then it is meaningless.
Thank you for saying this... it's so annoying looking at a lot of men just complain about how they're doomed to fail in dating because of XYZ... I don't see it that way at all. I think the outlook has never been easier to be the man you want to be and find someone when dating. A big part of it is just logistics, but the other part is making sure you are doing everything you can to be your best self. Not for someone else, but for yourself. I think you're right on with this video. There's so much opportunity to be a step above others. You just gotta work.
solid points man. really like the general message and can attest. you dont shit where you eat..but women at my workplace are drooling over me. always was invisible. 5 years of consistent work sure paid off. just keep at it guys and stay the course
I'm 30 and in college and I have seen girls with nerdy small guys who are funny. This idea of the "dating market" ONLY applies to dating apps... not real life interactions at events, hobbies or campuses you might go to. Also, if you want to stand out as a man don't date, court those who share your values. Christians stick with christians and atheist with atheist. Trust me, i had 5 previous relationships, don't entertain women outside your own beliefs.
Idk fellas ive never been shy and have dated hot chicks when i was fat. I make good money but honestly it hasnt helped at all. The main difference ive seen was when i was a super low body fat did help. The thing that helped is approaching alot and being social in general. Dating apps have been horrible but in person is great and always have been able to punch above my weight class
At the gym I'm average (maybe even below average). But at the bars on the weekends, I stand out due to men not taking care of their bodies and not knowing how to dress/groom...
Very strong and valid video Danny. At 49, never married, no kids. Own home, cars and lots of hobbies. Great career of 31 years. I'm very much in shape and very happy with life where it is right now. One thing you mentioned is how feminized young men are in this day and age. It's true. During my day to day, I meet a ton of people and it's obvious everywhere. I was brought up by a very masculine father and a feminine mother. I was taught how to look after myself and deal with the pressures of life, no matter how hard it gets. There is always something that can be done. Girls much younger than I, are taking a keen interest and I'm not going to lie it's rather nice being able to talk with women that aren't jaded, bitter and lets face it....broken. To the men out there.. *ALWAYS* put yourself as #1. Work on yourself, physically, emotionally and socially. Things fall into place much easier. Being lazy is not a good way of life.
Hi there, I don’t normally do this but I thought you might like a woman’s point of view, for someone who’s been there, I lived, loved& lost. your advice seems great & right on. Feminized men in today’s world! U R a true find. Stay this way, the beautiful, caring smart woman you want is out there. 🤭✌️🦋
I haven't dated in almost 10 years for a variety of reasons. I'm 34 now and since entering the work force I managed to put away 30 grand of disposable income to get surgery on a major insecurity I have regarding my size. I often say if I was bigger I would put myself out there more. I'm now in the position to risk it and hopefully increase my small/average size to something that makes me confident and happy. Wish me luck!
It would be really great if you made a video targeted towards students at University. A lot of the topics you talk about here apply there anyway, and I am not sure what experiences you've had with college, but as a student, I would love to see some of your insight used to advise the rising generation of men who don't have careers or professions yet.
College is a perfect place to build confidence and gain experience. Thousands of women around, usually tons of parties on the weekends. College men are usually idiots, so it should be very easy to stand out from the competition. Aside from trying to get women, your number one focus needs to be setting yourself up for a good career that will make you money. Do everything you can to take advantage the school’s resources to prepare you for a job and connect you with future employers. The resources are there and few take advantage.
Most women, if they can't get a top 10 percenter, prefer to be alone. You might work your ass off to raise your attractiveness by a few points (and you will make your life better for its own sake) but if you go from a 5 to an 8, you're still not good enough. No one wants this to be true, but it is.
Problem with delusional standards is there is no ceiling. What happens in 10 years when even 6'1 models aren't hot enough anymore? It's like the slow gun control going on in the US now. Guns will eventually be banned through incremental tiny laws. Women's standards won't stay at their current level of only wanting top 10% men. It'll be top 5% then top 3%, etc. No one seems to be talking about this.
True, but I think it extends out to the top 20% of men if you factor in looks, money, and status all together. Also, if you're a true 8 as a guy then you absolutely fall into the top 10% of men out there.
Women rate most men as below average in attractiveness. Only when u reach a certain threshold in looks like 8+ will u actually see the other side of women!
You sir you are good 👏🏾 I’ve been listening to a lot of men’s self improvement personalities that express similar ideas as you but none are as well put together and well expressed as you are. Please continue making this content it helps a lot
Why are you trying to refute every talking point men online are suggesting is a source of difficulty? Not willing to acknowledge that maybe there is a degree of truth there? The competition is most definitely real or we’d have the woman of our dreams, since most of us have at least a handful of times been rejected by her. I’ve done tireless self improvement and I’m decent looking have do have some of the 6,6,6s but it’s still an uphill battle man. You’re fighting time, aging, and responsibilities as well as competing in society for good jobs, attractive mates and so on. It’s a huge undertaking and you talking about it so nonchalantly is disengenuous. Some men are naturally gifted with women but the majority of us struggle and the modern dynamics have made it all the tougher
It's a cope channel and it works, cause majority of men want to believe bs. If it wasn't cope, this guy would be swimming in pushy, but we haven't seen any girls yet.
Wow, what a powerful presentation and perspective. All we hear about today is how we need to be rich, over 6' tall, etc. We have to stay grounded in reality, and we have control over a lot of these aspects of our attractiveness. Thanks for posting this.
Depends on your age and how physically attractive you are. You can be in good shape and have successful job and good character and values and still be ugly or too old.
THANK YOU…. For mentioning the reality of the fact that most of us aren’t living in Miami and Dubai living as millionaires. Every other person in the man space forgets to mention that
Part of the problem of men not taking action is we have too much information. There are 100's if not 1000's of channels such as yourself dishing out advice. The questiuon is who do we listen to? you are profess to know what your talking about and you all have something to sell so is it any wonder with so much information we end up doing nothing. Paralysis by analysis.
I talked to a girl in class, she was twenty. I was thirty-three, got out of the military and went back to college at the time. She had the audacity to tell me that making six figures was not a lot of money. I almost fell out of my chair. Tiktok has obliterated young girls brains, its sad.
You’re right man…. Just based on the body game and knowing how to dress I become a 8 or 9 because everyone else in any room I walk into is out of shape.
Agree, but by the same token there's not much to choose from now in the female department. I live in a small American city of 110,000 and I can go months without setting eyes on an attractive woman above high school age.
I don't think the attractiveness is the issue. It's not that hard finding attractive women at least physically; but the number of women who are appealing beyond their looks is increasingly getting smaller each year.
No offense, but are you sure you're not gay lol? There are plenty of very physically attractive women everywhere, but it's their values, beliefs, and attitudes that are ugly.
I would like to add that a basic self-improvement skill and one that will stand out to women is surrounding yourself with quality male friends. I really got serious about this a year and a half ago and it has dramatically improved my motivation, mood, fitness and confidence with women. You feed off the masculinity of other men and it enhances your own. We’re made for community brothers.
Location is a factor. I’m 18 months in TX and it’s painfully difficult compared to SoCal. I am approaching constantly here and the responses are not friendly or flirty. It’s gross. They have no game here.
Yeah it might but you’ll be attracting the wrong ones. They won’t be genuine women with real connections. God forbid you get a women who steals all of your bank account info and robs your house.
i find it a good thing that there is not a lot competition it makes the game very boring and predictable. So most good looking men are playing on easy mode. So more power to the top guys take all the women . You deserve them.
The competition on dating market has never been higher. And grows exponentially. Simply because nowadays you're competing with all chads in the radius of 60 km for every average-looking chick. Whereas your father had to compete only with her social circle. Actually, you have 100 times less chances than your father. Regardless of your fit, status or money because she always has a guy with better fit, status and money just in her tinder. And don't buy the bullshit about "be better that 90% of population": jut to start having any options you should be not in top10 but in top1. It doesn't mean that self-improvement is pointless. It is just not for dating, it"s for yourself.
This is where my thought process has been. Is it really girls that are picky or is the bar just so low. I know im in terrific shape. I know i have an outgoing personality and can charm up a room but im just shy with cute girls. Granted i never simp for one but my damn words dont know what to say
hey bro awesome video, I dig the optimism that you portrayed here. As someone who is ambitious, can dress nice, decent social skills, and as a bonus I am 6’3. I honestly don’t have that big of a dating pool like at all. And I’ll often see Edgars pull more than me and the women they pull are like 10s. can you do a video explaining the Edgar/bum phenomenon plz and thanks
Let's also remember, I know many jacked dudes, like RUclips's Thomas Delauer. He's considered "overweight" just by the standard. I am in the same class as him - muscle, flat stomach, striations. So who is REALLY overweight?
The competition is weak, but the pickings are slim. 99% of the attractive girls on dating apps aren't there to meet someone (why would they be?)and the ones in real life are in committed relationships (why wouldn't they be?) There are plenty of "big" and "homely" girls to choose from though! They'll give anyone a chance. Have fun out there
Some of this is easier said than done. Making six figures is not something most men will ever be able to do. The average man making six figures works an unhealthy work schedule of 60-70+ hours a week and is too tired to do anything else after work. Men who work 60-70 hour weeks to make six figures are in careers known for high divorce rates because they are married to their jobs and not their wives. It is hard to practice self care when all you do is work. And in America, you can’t really afford your own place unless you make $80k+ a year. Maybe making $150k a year while still having a work-life balance is achievable if you are white and from all well connected family. And sometimes you might be killing it in one area while extremely lacking in another. Everybody who knows me tells me I’m the best dressed. But I go into the thrift store and come out looking better than most people. Because you really can’t buy style at the end of the day. That’s why these new age sneakerheads, hypebeasts and fake-rich “I only wear designer” guys still don’t look stylish. And sometimes, you gain excellence at the expense of losing vital resources. For example, I lost 15+ lbs because my car broke down last year. Now I’m in the best shape ever because I walk at least 2 miles a day out of necessity. You need a car in most places, but car culture is part of what drives obesity. Bad food and sedentary jobs also drive obesity, but these things are the norm. Also, you actually have time to get adequate sleep and eat full meals when you aren’t working 60-70+ hour weeks in a job where the culture is to never take breaks. In modern America, it is very hard to be fully self-supporting financially and still have a work-life balance that allows time for self care and free time to meet women let alone date. And this is not taking into account the absurd amount of brutal demoralizing rejection you will face before landing a single date let alone a healthy relationship which is incongruent to the shallow hookup culture that permeates the American dating scene.
@@UknownAfrican Trying to become the top 5% to appeal to women justifies average women's Inflated standards. If a woman doesn't want you for you she ain't for you. Someone "better" will always come along. I'm 6', I've had six figure jobs. I've looked good on paper. Dealing with modern American women is a headache. Too many love drama and head games and look at relationships as purely transactional. If you are self improving just to appeal to them, you've already lost buddy.
@@frisconianlove5568 fruit salad and people like him don't ever point out how insane and illogical their completely anecdotal advice is. If you don't "make it" you just didnt "work hard enough" Not understanding that these jobs are a hyper minority most people won't achieve that their whole lives. They don't understand how flakey new women are they will NOT hold it down for mr. 150k a year because mr. 170k is already trying to get with her. Its an endless cycle of chasing the billionaire bag. They want to grind till dust when you could have been doing less productive but more important things (to you). Sad existence.
It does not matter much if you are top 5% or 2%, if women your level simply can use an app to get another man as attractive. You are still competing with the 1% of the whole city or even country. Most guys in dating apps that put low effort are also not that into dating anyway. They just want to believe they tried, porn fulfills everything else.
I do agree the average is super low, but the comparison online is to the idealistic top 1%, which I'm not. IRL approaches are likely easy and I believe us guys see it as something terrifying when it's pretty chil, and that's on me to actually start doing consistently.
Danny said something ..he has “female friends “ Not like on social media where having female friends is a curse Imo the man with more females hanging around is the more superior man
6:40 Underrated point. All the podcasts and street interviews that blackpillers rave about so much are filmed in those huge ultra-competitive cities. Do you need to be in the top 1% to compete in Los Angeles? Probably. But a 6 in LA would be considered a 10 in any of the small sleepy midwestern towns.
Great video. I exceed all these criteria, but cannot seem to find any girls to talk to. If i do talk to them they always use the i have boyfriend excuse. Also difficult making friends in general. Move to new state after broke up with girlfriend two years ago. Nothing seems to work out for me. 🤷♂️🤦I used to have everything and now I cant get back, have nothing.
Umm how do you know them having a BF is an excuse? You probably are attracted to the women who give relationship vibes, so it’s not uncommon to come across them often.
The fact of the matter is that an attractive woman has way more options than even a comparably attractive man. With the apps, the numbers are INCREDIBLY skewed towards women.
The amount of options a woman has is irrelevant if the men she truly wants don’t want anything serious with her. There’s a reason they are still single and it’s because they don’t have quality options.
My fellow men just like Michael Malace said about the red pill is also true about the black pill. Take one not the whole bottle. Society is in a crappy place but we can and should always strive to do better. Not for your friends or women to prove to yourself that you can.
This sounds kinda weird but I don’t want my competition to be weak. I wish I was surrounded by an abundance of strong and attractive men and women. Other strong men can push us to be our best selves
overweight isn't the worst, being skinny is, in nightclub slightly overweight are more attractive than skinny and they succeed very well, being fit gives the best result
Why don't we just keep it simple, all you really need to do to get in shape is probably just a 2 set workout with heavy weights full body 4-5 times per week for like an hour and a bit of faster sprint type cardio.
its not just about access to information, we live in the most heavily censored a subverted cultural times ever concieved. the quality of the information is waaaay more important than the amount of information. thats is your fundamental misunderstanding here, also that somehow logical thinking will echo out to illogical people? get a grip.
Your competition are not real men, it's a collection of imaginary standards. I say that as a man of 24 years, earning three times the average of my country, who just ran his first full marathon distance, with a big dick and objectively not bad looks. Even I struggle immensely with dating people who immediately upon getting to know me ask about my salary. When I say I have none (which is true since I own two small businesses), the loss of interest is instant. Only moving back to my country of origin after I was done with my work trip of 4 years changed things. In Germany and the USA it's fucking impossible. Across very different social groups and places, I've never found even a woman interested in me after three dates, and that is before I can actually make a judgement on her from my side. So... Nope, it's not that simple
You obviously have zero seggsual charisma… I am actually attractive and an appealing person, women rarely ask what I do and I make over 400K/year (I never reveal my income) Women are naturally drawn to me because I walk around with confidence and when I do speak with them I can hold a conversation that’s actually stimulating
Take aways - at least don’t be fat. - put effort into dress and grooming - build social skills with your male and female colleagues. Doing these things will at least put most guys in the top 20%, which is well your way.
@@ChrisTian-cy7eu Women today have completely excessive demands. I do my best to be the best version of myself. Even the fact that I'm muscular isn't enough just because I'm not square jawed and I'm not 6'0 (I'm 5'7). All women reject me and find me ugly, even obese and ugly women find me ugly. Dating is over.
@@benjamindekemmeter2136 It is. I'm 5'11, 155, 9% bodyfat, around a mid 7 in the face. In really good shape and cut. I did male modeling in my 20s, and had really good results with extremely beautiful women. It's over now. No one is interested, they all have better options. If you aren't top 5%, which I'm not, you are trash and women don't want you. So I'm in the same boat as you.
All due respect, your example is a dude that has an income in top percentile. %17 percent of all men make 100,000 per year. That still doesn't speak for most guys who are literally invisible. Average and even above average are being ignored. Yet there are average women who think they should get a top guy with this and that. So I really think that's a poor example.
Engineers will have the last laugh in some decades from now when even the top men will prefer sex robots over real women because of how good they will be.
It just sucks for most of this generation of men because they're stuck in purgatory right now where you know the technology is coming, but it's not here yet. I myself have had decent success with dating and hookups, but life right now must be brutal for men that don't have success and they just have to wait until AI and the tech are good enough for realistic sex robots.
It doesn't matter if you are better than 50% or 90% of men out there... The ONLY man we are competing with is the best man she has been with or perceive herself being with. That's why more relationships worked before sm because the gals only had access to so many dudes.
I disagree with this video on a personal level. I am 6'5, make 250k/year, gym 6x a week, have my own place, drive a Tesla, and I still get no attention from women. I've completely given up on dating apps as I get an average of 1 match per month at best.
The $150k a year guy is in top 10% of earners, & if he’s maintained his growth to attain that for at least 5 years, he’s at the income component of High Value. Why would you downplay how significant that is with an extreme anchor? It’s done multiple times in this video. The $5M, dating models in Miami & Dubai BS is disingenuous - the extreme emotional POV a feminist would use. I’m 50 - 6’3” and 253 lbs, under 14% body fat, very lean & muscular-and I have abs. I’m a $100k+ earner in a Technology field that I didn’t even know existed 7 years ago, and keep rising because I keep adding skills. Gentleman, I’m pulling women that I couldn’t 15 years ago when I was in my prime. That’s because other men ARE weak & lazy. I go into the office even though I don’t have to, because I want to be seen. Screw this remote full time BS, get noticed! Make, manage & save your money, then play the game. It’s fun to get in better shape & put on nicer fitting clothes, and get attention through living.
sucks to be told about the obvious that you're too lazy to do right now. I also can't disagree with anything in this message here. a comment below suggests it's not worth if if everyone's doing it. well, most are actually not doing it. all those porkys are doing you a favor by allowing you to stand out with not too much effort on your part. another comment suggests you're competing against the top. ok, you kind of are but the demand is far greater than the top can satisfy. so yeah, be better than the bottom but there's still plenty for you left even if you're not a 1%er. I'll say it's a perfectly noble option to just not play. imagine all that time and money you'll have all to yourself. I'll tell you that this is surprisingly rewarding 🙂 let me throw in a pro tip when you're ready to play- **more than one.** rent one even if you have to for a while. do you really think chicks are evaluating you objectively? 🤣 they kinda skip a lot of that part and just look to see if you're with other chicks. your target is not the chick you're with (still enjoy as you can), it's the other chick that sees you with the one you're with 🏝😎🍸
Wrong. You're not competing with other dudes in the real world but with the imaginary tiktok instagram lifestyle inspired highly idealized boyfriend in her head
I've noticed men can be very concerned with the idea of a "better man", real or in this case imagined, competing and winning against them. It sounds like a very difficult reality.
I think thats the reason why men actually let themselves go a lot of the time. They lose interest in the dating pool and let themselves go because "Why would I appear nice and all that when there is no marker" and by doing so though they repulse those women that could have been their soulmates which is kinda heartbreaking :(
Man I could`ve never imagined how handsome I really am until I got down to 10ish percent BF, building a noticable/ athletic physique and THEN finding + cultivating my self worth/ love, taking extra care of myself by dressing sharp/ fitted clothes, having a skincare routine, grooming and smelling nice all the time and also being physically active every day turned my whole life upside down and put me in a beautiful spot in life- guys let me tell you, you all can make it in life with time, effort and having a mindset of ,,I want to be excellent in all aspects of life"
“Having a skincare routine” is about the most 2024 sentence Hygiene is great. How this became a breakthrough landmark achievement in the past year is confusing AF. Congrats bro 😎
@@lusitanus6504And do what? Go to Asia for a week, go on a date and come back home? That's pointless. Not all of us can just up and move to the Philippines.
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After a decade of complacency, for the last 2 months I've been restricting calories, meditating, studying stoicism, and lifting weights 4x a week. I've lost 10 lbs of fat and the satisfaction I feel at the end of the day after committing to a few simple daily tasks has been eye opening. For the first time in a while I'm excited for my future. I hope anyone reading this who is in a similar position can push themselves just a little bit, just so you can see that a little discipline and consistency can take you a really long way. Good luck.
Rock on Brotha 🤘🏽
Very inspiring!
@@ScottRadkeMusic Thanks dude, appreciate you.
Basically same here brother, keep it up. I will do the same 💪🏼
I was doing similar things but couldn’t sustain it. Any ideas on how to sustain it forever?
@@renjiaow3742 dont set the bar too high, make sure your goals are achievable. dont let a bad day throw you off. success is not a straight line to the top, theres gonna be bumps. keep goin
Some useful info here. What I will add, in my humble opinion as a late-50s married man: males tend to focus on the 'data points' of attraction, meaning height/build/money/status. Women consider those things, but they focus almost as much, if not more, on the subtle things, like confidence, body language, tone of voice and how you make them 'feel.' It's the Male Gaze vs Female Gaze thing. Don't ignore building yourself up in all the ways that you can.....but never forget that the average woman sense & responds to more intangibles than the average male.
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Cope. All that matters is LOOKS for women. It's called hailo versus failo effect.
@@bavarois25 male gaze and female gaze is a real thing and two very different things.
I dont even like the word game changer, but personal confidence is IT!
but note: in the dating market you are always competing against the top, not against the bottom. it doesnt matter if the bottom is worse then ever, the bottom is not your competition
The point was that the top is not densely populated. A matter of NUMBERS, not the fact that there are variations and you might not be in the tippy-top of the top.
@@alan2102Xproblem is women deal in ideals, not realistic numbers
Tell me you didn't get the point of the video without telling me.
For real. Being in the top 10% of males doesn't matter when women seem to only want the 1% gigachad guys.
@@juliend9495this is actually a valid point.. the top 10% of guys are pulling 90% of women. These guys typically have girls on rotation, and once the girls figure out the guy won’t commit and end up leaving, the guy will rotate in a new girl..and the cycle repeats.
I consider myself a good looking dude with a good income, but I’m also not making millions of dollars and over 6ft, so I’m directly competing with that sub-group of men.
Let's focus on ourselves my brothers. Focus on goals and making something out of ourselves. To get better everyday. Be there for your real friends and family. One step at a time. You matter. I appreciate all of you 🙏🏽
I don’t think women themselves are worth doing all the effort. Whatever I do, it has to be for me. Doing it for women is just another form of simping.
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Stop lying to yourselves men are designed to spread our seed we do almost everything for women. We literally civilized the entire world largely for women.
Most women just want to be accepted.
@@FullCircleTravis Elaborate.
@DynamicUnreal
Don't you want a woman who accepts you as you are right now? They want the same.
Crazy how the content is so how quality from the video to the information. Could have sworn this guy had atleast half a million subs. Keep up the good work
The blackpill always comes to collect
It does, but it doesn't come to collect everything. Being good looking without any money, discipline, or skills won't get you super far.
@@drewg7441 But at least it will get you inside of a woman.
@@drewg7441 if you are young it will
@@drewg7441 tell that to Ted Bundy 😂
@@ChinesePeter445bruh are u serious? Bundy was intelligent, had status on campus and charismatic.
That's nice, but the problem isn't that im not cultivating "greatness" in my self, it's that other people aren't recognizing what is great about me. You can work on yourself all you want, but if nobody else recognizes or acknowledges it then it is meaningless.
Thank you for saying this... it's so annoying looking at a lot of men just complain about how they're doomed to fail in dating because of XYZ... I don't see it that way at all. I think the outlook has never been easier to be the man you want to be and find someone when dating. A big part of it is just logistics, but the other part is making sure you are doing everything you can to be your best self. Not for someone else, but for yourself. I think you're right on with this video. There's so much opportunity to be a step above others. You just gotta work.
solid points man. really like the general message and can attest. you dont shit where you eat..but women at my workplace are drooling over me. always was invisible. 5 years of consistent work sure paid off. just keep at it guys and stay the course
Its a shame its never been easier to get into the top 10% at the same time women only want the top 1%.
I'm 30 and in college and I have seen girls with nerdy small guys who are funny. This idea of the "dating market" ONLY applies to dating apps... not real life interactions at events, hobbies or campuses you might go to. Also, if you want to stand out as a man don't date, court those who share your values. Christians stick with christians and atheist with atheist. Trust me, i had 5 previous relationships, don't entertain women outside your own beliefs.
OK Mr. Blue Pill.
Idk fellas ive never been shy and have dated hot chicks when i was fat. I make good money but honestly it hasnt helped at all. The main difference ive seen was when i was a super low body fat did help. The thing that helped is approaching alot and being social in general. Dating apps have been horrible but in person is great and always have been able to punch above my weight class
At the gym I'm average (maybe even below average). But at the bars on the weekends, I stand out due to men not taking care of their bodies and not knowing how to dress/groom...
I have no desire to enter the dating market, go to the gym, dress to impress, or make six figures. Knock yourselves out. 😂
Bro.. yes. This is the type of video I needed to hear. Thank you for this authentic content.
Very strong and valid video Danny.
At 49, never married, no kids. Own home, cars and lots of hobbies. Great career of 31 years. I'm very much in shape and very happy with life where it is right now.
One thing you mentioned is how feminized young men are in this day and age. It's true. During my day to day, I meet a ton of people and it's obvious everywhere. I was brought up by a very masculine father and a feminine mother.
I was taught how to look after myself and deal with the pressures of life, no matter how hard it gets. There is always something that can be done.
Girls much younger than I, are taking a keen interest and I'm not going to lie it's rather nice being able to talk with women that aren't jaded, bitter and lets face it....broken.
To the men out there.. *ALWAYS* put yourself as #1. Work on yourself, physically, emotionally and socially. Things fall into place much easier. Being lazy is not a good way of life.
Hi there, I don’t normally do this but I thought you might like a woman’s point of view, for someone who’s been there, I lived, loved& lost. your advice seems great & right on. Feminized men in today’s world! U R a true find. Stay this way, the beautiful, caring smart woman you want is out there. 🤭✌️🦋
I haven't dated in almost 10 years for a variety of reasons. I'm 34 now and since entering the work force I managed to put away 30 grand of disposable income to get surgery on a major insecurity I have regarding my size. I often say if I was bigger I would put myself out there more. I'm now in the position to risk it and hopefully increase my small/average size to something that makes me confident and happy. Wish me luck!
It would be really great if you made a video targeted towards students at University. A lot of the topics you talk about here apply there anyway, and I am not sure what experiences you've had with college, but as a student, I would love to see some of your insight used to advise the rising generation of men who don't have careers or professions yet.
College is a perfect place to build confidence and gain experience. Thousands of women around, usually tons of parties on the weekends. College men are usually idiots, so it should be very easy to stand out from the competition. Aside from trying to get women, your number one focus needs to be setting yourself up for a good career that will make you money. Do everything you can to take advantage the school’s resources to prepare you for a job and connect you with future employers. The resources are there and few take advantage.
Most women, if they can't get a top 10 percenter, prefer to be alone. You might work your ass off to raise your attractiveness by a few points (and you will make your life better for its own sake) but if you go from a 5 to an 8, you're still not good enough.
No one wants this to be true, but it is.
True, this is what the video fails to note. Women have to settle, but no woman wants to settle. Hypergamy is real. All women want the top 10%
Women are entitled and delusional now. They rather stick to themselves, then be with a non-perfect guy.
Problem with delusional standards is there is no ceiling. What happens in 10 years when even 6'1 models aren't hot enough anymore? It's like the slow gun control going on in the US now. Guns will eventually be banned through incremental tiny laws. Women's standards won't stay at their current level of only wanting top 10% men. It'll be top 5% then top 3%, etc. No one seems to be talking about this.
True, but I think it extends out to the top 20% of men if you factor in looks, money, and status all together. Also, if you're a true 8 as a guy then you absolutely fall into the top 10% of men out there.
Women rate most men as below average in attractiveness. Only when u reach a certain threshold in looks like 8+ will u actually see the other side of women!
You sir you are good 👏🏾 I’ve been listening to a lot of men’s self improvement personalities that express similar ideas as you but none are as well put together and well expressed as you are. Please continue making this content it helps a lot
This channel is a gem, keep going man! 💪
Why are you trying to refute every talking point men online are suggesting is a source of difficulty? Not willing to acknowledge that maybe there is a degree of truth there?
The competition is most definitely real or we’d have the woman of our dreams, since most of us have at least a handful of times been rejected by her.
I’ve done tireless self improvement and I’m decent looking have do have some of the 6,6,6s but it’s still an uphill battle man. You’re fighting time, aging, and responsibilities as well as competing in society for good jobs, attractive mates and so on. It’s a huge undertaking and you talking about it so nonchalantly is disengenuous. Some men are naturally gifted with women but the majority of us struggle and the modern dynamics have made it all the tougher
It's a cope channel and it works, cause majority of men want to believe bs. If it wasn't cope, this guy would be swimming in pushy, but we haven't seen any girls yet.
Cope. You lack discipline, confidence and mental fortitude. Your parents ruined you and you don’t have the mindset to ever overcome your shortcomings.
Wow, what a powerful presentation and perspective. All we hear about today is how we need to be rich, over 6' tall, etc. We have to stay grounded in reality, and we have control over a lot of these aspects of our attractiveness. Thanks for posting this.
Depends on your age and how physically attractive you are. You can be in good shape and have successful job and good character and values and still be ugly or too old.
THANK YOU…. For mentioning the reality of the fact that most of us aren’t living in Miami and Dubai living as millionaires. Every other person in the man space forgets to mention that
Mr. Vera
Excellent video sir and I couldn't agree more❤😎
Let’s keep grinding 😈
The topics of this video go beyond dating. Excellent content
Part of the problem of men not taking action is we have too much information. There are 100's if not 1000's of channels such as yourself dishing out advice. The questiuon is who do we listen to? you are profess to know what your talking about and you all have something to sell so is it any wonder with so much information we end up doing nothing. Paralysis by analysis.
His entire message was “better is better than not better” and honestly, it’s a good message but it’s an incredibly low lift.
Pick one, try it out. Works, keep with it. Doesn’t work, move on to the next one.
Not rocket science, succeeding in life is pretty simple.
*me doing dumbbell wrist curls while watching*
I talked to a girl in class, she was twenty. I was thirty-three, got out of the military and went back to college at the time. She had the audacity to tell me that making six figures was not a lot of money. I almost fell out of my chair. Tiktok has obliterated young girls brains, its sad.
You’re right man…. Just based on the body game and knowing how to dress I become a 8 or 9 because everyone else in any room I walk into is out of shape.
This was such a solid video. If you caught it he made it clear on what we need to do to climb up. Cheers everyone
Agree, but by the same token there's not much to choose from now in the female department. I live in a small American city of 110,000 and I can go months without setting eyes on an attractive woman above high school age.
I don't think the attractiveness is the issue. It's not that hard finding attractive women at least physically; but the number of women who are appealing beyond their looks is increasingly getting smaller each year.
@@grandfathernurgle2840facts. Dude, most men are really dating down
No offense, but are you sure you're not gay lol? There are plenty of very physically attractive women everywhere, but it's their values, beliefs, and attitudes that are ugly.
I would like to add that a basic self-improvement skill and one that will stand out to women is surrounding yourself with quality male friends. I really got serious about this a year and a half ago and it has dramatically improved my motivation, mood, fitness and confidence with women. You feed off the masculinity of other men and it enhances your own. We’re made for community brothers.
I don’t know if it’s a supply and demand issue because everywhere I go (for years) women are always with a guy. They are always taken.
this guy is a g! Really relate to the mindset
Location is a factor. I’m 18 months in TX and it’s painfully difficult compared to SoCal.
I am approaching constantly here and the responses are not friendly or flirty. It’s gross. They have no game here.
What part of TX?
Houston was like shooting fish in a bucket
I've always said it: Just be a little bit intelligent and have a truckload of money alone gets you over 95% of women.
if you’re ugly none of it will matter
@@swirvfly Depends on the degree of ugliness. An ugly man with loads of money + game will pull women 95% of the time over an handsome man with neither
@@swirvfly surgerymaxx
@@swirvfly surgery can fix what you lack. Those that hate on it shouldn’t complain because it’s a better investment than talking shit.
Yeah it might but you’ll be attracting the wrong ones. They won’t be genuine women with real connections. God forbid you get a women who steals all of your bank account info and robs your house.
i find it a good thing that there is not a lot competition it makes the game very boring and predictable. So most good looking men are playing on easy mode. So more power to the top guys take all the women . You deserve them.
Love your content
I needed this today, thank you.
Passport bros are winning! 50k per year is incredible in Thailand or the Philippines or colombia.
The competition on dating market has never been higher.
And grows exponentially.
Simply because nowadays you're competing with all chads in the radius of 60 km for every average-looking chick.
Whereas your father had to compete only with her social circle.
Actually, you have 100 times less chances than your father.
Regardless of your fit, status or money because she always has a guy with better fit, status and money just in her tinder.
And don't buy the bullshit about "be better that 90% of population": jut to start having any options you should be not in top10 but in top1.
It doesn't mean that self-improvement is pointless.
It is just not for dating, it"s for yourself.
This is where my thought process has been. Is it really girls that are picky or is the bar just so low. I know im in terrific shape. I know i have an outgoing personality and can charm up a room but im just shy with cute girls. Granted i never simp for one but my damn words dont know what to say
We're not competing with the average guy. We are competing with the instagram models blasting steroids that look perfect
No we arent. Dont make excuses to avoid doing the work.
@@KyngD469Exactly
He's right. Chad or death = what it is.
Cope… Walk outside and touch grass. Most women that are 6s or adjustable 7s are dating average dudes, not IG models on steroids.
It's only a competition if you play the game.
hey bro awesome video, I dig the optimism that you portrayed here. As someone who is ambitious, can dress nice, decent social skills, and as a bonus I am 6’3. I honestly don’t have that big of a dating pool like at all. And I’ll often see Edgars pull more than me and the women they pull are like 10s. can you do a video explaining the Edgar/bum phenomenon plz and thanks
I love this dude!
Let's also remember, I know many jacked dudes, like RUclips's Thomas Delauer. He's considered "overweight" just by the standard.
I am in the same class as him - muscle, flat stomach, striations.
So who is REALLY overweight?
C’mon don’t be dense. If you have higher than average muscle mass, the only way to determine if you are overweight or not is if your BF% is over 20%
Competition? 😂 we’re all going to receive the same draft slips soon.
In Denmark, most guys are tall, normal weight, well dressed and well educated.
me being broke,ill and depressed:
YOU SURE BRUH?
The competition is weak, but the pickings are slim. 99% of the attractive girls on dating apps aren't there to meet someone (why would they be?)and the ones in real life are in committed relationships (why wouldn't they be?)
There are plenty of "big" and "homely" girls to choose from though! They'll give anyone a chance. Have fun out there
the only thing weaker than your competition....
... is yourself LOLLL
Some of this is easier said than done. Making six figures is not something most men will ever be able to do. The average man making six figures works an unhealthy work schedule of 60-70+ hours a week and is too tired to do anything else after work. Men who work 60-70 hour weeks to make six figures are in careers known for high divorce rates because they are married to their jobs and not their wives. It is hard to practice self care when all you do is work. And in America, you can’t really afford your own place unless you make $80k+ a year. Maybe making $150k a year while still having a work-life balance is achievable if you are white and from all well connected family.
And sometimes you might be killing it in one area while extremely lacking in another. Everybody who knows me tells me I’m the best dressed. But I go into the thrift store and come out looking better than most people. Because you really can’t buy style at the end of the day. That’s why these new age sneakerheads, hypebeasts and fake-rich “I only wear designer” guys still don’t look stylish.
And sometimes, you gain excellence at the expense of losing vital resources. For example, I lost 15+ lbs because my car broke down last year. Now I’m in the best shape ever because I walk at least 2 miles a day out of necessity. You need a car in most places, but car culture is part of what drives obesity. Bad food and sedentary jobs also drive obesity, but these things are the norm. Also, you actually have time to get adequate sleep and eat full meals when you aren’t working 60-70+ hour weeks in a job where the culture is to never take breaks. In modern America, it is very hard to be fully self-supporting financially and still have a work-life balance that allows time for self care and free time to meet women let alone date. And this is not taking into account the absurd amount of brutal demoralizing rejection you will face before landing a single date let alone a healthy relationship which is incongruent to the shallow hookup culture that permeates the American dating scene.
Just sounds like a shit ton of excuses to me.
@@UknownAfrican Trying to become the top 5% to appeal to women justifies average women's Inflated standards. If a woman doesn't want you for you she ain't for you. Someone "better" will always come along. I'm 6', I've had six figure jobs. I've looked good on paper. Dealing with modern American women is a headache. Too many love drama and head games and look at relationships as purely transactional. If you are self improving just to appeal to them, you've already lost buddy.
@@frisconianlove5568 fruit salad and people like him don't ever point out how insane and illogical their completely anecdotal advice is. If you don't "make it" you just didnt "work hard enough"
Not understanding that these jobs are a hyper minority most people won't achieve that their whole lives. They don't understand how flakey new women are they will NOT hold it down for mr. 150k a year because mr. 170k is already trying to get with her.
Its an endless cycle of chasing the billionaire bag. They want to grind till dust when you could have been doing less productive but more important things (to you). Sad existence.
First time watching. Damn. Subscribed
Great video
No, not all of us will make it. That's why it's hard but worth it.
It does not matter much if you are top 5% or 2%, if women your level simply can use an app to get another man as attractive. You are still competing with the 1% of the whole city or even country.
Most guys in dating apps that put low effort are also not that into dating anyway. They just want to believe they tried, porn fulfills everything else.
We’re talking about the real world, not dating apps. Walk outside and touch grass
I'm
I do agree the average is super low, but the comparison online is to the idealistic top 1%, which I'm not. IRL approaches are likely easy and I believe us guys see it as something terrifying when it's pretty chil, and that's on me to actually start doing consistently.
Danny said something ..he has “female friends “
Not like on social media where having female friends is a curse
Imo the man with more females hanging around is the more superior man
nice valuable vid
6:40 Underrated point. All the podcasts and street interviews that blackpillers rave about so much are filmed in those huge ultra-competitive cities. Do you need to be in the top 1% to compete in Los Angeles? Probably. But a 6 in LA would be considered a 10 in any of the small sleepy midwestern towns.
No. Tinder is everywhere, all over the world.
Great video. I exceed all these criteria, but cannot seem to find any girls to talk to. If i do talk to them they always use the i have boyfriend excuse. Also difficult making friends in general. Move to new state after broke up with girlfriend two years ago. Nothing seems to work out for me. 🤷♂️🤦I used to have everything and now I cant get back, have nothing.
Everyone struggles except chad. Incels have been saying this for ages.
Umm how do you know them having a BF is an excuse?
You probably are attracted to the women who give relationship vibes, so it’s not uncommon to come across them often.
So true
The fact of the matter is that an attractive woman has way more options than even a comparably attractive man. With the apps, the numbers are INCREDIBLY skewed towards women.
The amount of options a woman has is irrelevant if the men she truly wants don’t want anything serious with her. There’s a reason they are still single and it’s because they don’t have quality options.
My fellow men just like Michael Malace said about the red pill is also true about the black pill. Take one not the whole bottle. Society is in a crappy place but we can and should always strive to do better. Not for your friends or women to prove to yourself that you can.
Looks is king. Don’t cope
14:24 women always exaggerate stories bro. they play victim when they want you to believe something.
Great content.
Doesn't feel like it mate
Motivating
This sounds kinda weird but I don’t want my competition to be weak. I wish I was surrounded by an abundance of strong and attractive men and women. Other strong men can push us to be our best selves
what world do you live in? its dog eat dog world not here take my hand, I will show you the way
@@MMK86 competition is good. With others and ourselves, it brings out the best in us
overweight isn't the worst, being skinny is, in nightclub slightly overweight are more attractive than skinny and they succeed very well, being fit gives the best result
Why don't we just keep it simple, all you really need to do to get in shape is probably just a 2 set workout with heavy weights full body 4-5 times per week for like an hour and a bit of faster sprint type cardio.
Cope. You need good face + height as well.
@@bavarois25 wrong, faces don’t turn women on. Bodies do. You can get laid all the time if your body is attractive.
its not just about access to information, we live in the most heavily censored a subverted cultural times ever concieved. the quality of the information is waaaay more important than the amount of information. thats is your fundamental misunderstanding here, also that somehow logical thinking will echo out to illogical people? get a grip.
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Your competition are not real men, it's a collection of imaginary standards.
I say that as a man of 24 years, earning three times the average of my country, who just ran his first full marathon distance, with a big dick and objectively not bad looks. Even I struggle immensely with dating people who immediately upon getting to know me ask about my salary. When I say I have none (which is true since I own two small businesses), the loss of interest is instant. Only moving back to my country of origin after I was done with my work trip of 4 years changed things. In Germany and the USA it's fucking impossible. Across very different social groups and places, I've never found even a woman interested in me after three dates, and that is before I can actually make a judgement on her from my side. So... Nope, it's not that simple
You obviously have zero seggsual charisma… I am actually attractive and an appealing person, women rarely ask what I do and I make over 400K/year (I never reveal my income)
Women are naturally drawn to me because I walk around with confidence and when I do speak with them I can hold a conversation that’s actually stimulating
Take aways
- at least don’t be fat.
- put effort into dress and grooming
- build social skills with your male and female colleagues.
Doing these things will at least put most guys in the top 20%, which is well your way.
What isn't mentioned is that the quality of the average woman has also declined.
No it's ruined for guys like me I'm muscular but I'm not 6'0
Every woman I met told me I was ugly and that I should give up on women
What kind of women do you meet? I am 5‘7 and I would say that you look better than me and women’s responses are decent already.
@@ChrisTian-cy7eu Women today have completely excessive demands. I do my best to be the best version of myself. Even the fact that I'm muscular isn't enough just because I'm not square jawed and I'm not 6'0 (I'm 5'7). All women reject me and find me ugly, even obese and ugly women find me ugly. Dating is over.
You liar, they never told you that. Your lie is so lame.
@@benjamindekemmeter2136 It is. I'm 5'11, 155, 9% bodyfat, around a mid 7 in the face. In really good shape and cut. I did male modeling in my 20s, and had really good results with extremely beautiful women. It's over now. No one is interested, they all have better options. If you aren't top 5%, which I'm not, you are trash and women don't want you. So I'm in the same boat as you.
My old boss who I hated, was 5’5” and had a decent looking fiancé. Get out of your own head.
I don't do anything anymore for free.
Such a freaking smart guy
This man seems like a "natural", of course he doesn't have problems with women.
All due respect, your example is a dude that has an income in top percentile. %17 percent of all men make 100,000 per year. That still doesn't speak for most guys who are literally invisible. Average and even above average are being ignored. Yet there are average women who think they should get a top guy with this and that. So I really think that's a poor example.
Engineers will have the last laugh in some decades from now when even the top men will prefer sex robots over real women because of how good they will be.
It just sucks for most of this generation of men because they're stuck in purgatory right now where you know the technology is coming, but it's not here yet. I myself have had decent success with dating and hookups, but life right now must be brutal for men that don't have success and they just have to wait until AI and the tech are good enough for realistic sex robots.
Yeah I'd rather be myself than placate to women's archaic and primitive ideas about how a man is supposed to act.
It doesn't matter if you are better than 50% or 90% of men out there...
The ONLY man we are competing with is the best man she has been with or perceive herself being with.
That's why more relationships worked before sm because the gals only had access to so many dudes.
I disagree with this video on a personal level. I am 6'5, make 250k/year, gym 6x a week, have my own place, drive a Tesla, and I still get no attention from women. I've completely given up on dating apps as I get an average of 1 match per month at best.
Bro what do you do to make a quarter a mill a fuggin year what
@@MrFrankEast In my 20s. Run a cloud software consulting business.
The $150k a year guy is in top 10% of earners, & if he’s maintained his growth to attain that for at least 5 years, he’s at the income component of High Value.
Why would you downplay how significant that is with an extreme anchor? It’s done multiple times in this video.
The $5M, dating models in Miami & Dubai BS is disingenuous - the extreme emotional POV a feminist would use.
I’m 50 - 6’3” and 253 lbs, under 14% body fat, very lean & muscular-and I have abs. I’m a $100k+ earner in a Technology field that I didn’t even know existed 7 years ago, and keep rising because I keep adding skills.
Gentleman, I’m pulling women that I couldn’t 15 years ago when I was in my prime. That’s because other men ARE weak & lazy.
I go into the office even though I don’t have to, because I want to be seen. Screw this remote full time BS, get noticed!
Make, manage & save your money, then play the game. It’s fun to get in better shape & put on nicer fitting clothes, and get attention through living.
Enjoy blowing your money on P
sucks to be told about the obvious that you're too lazy to do right now. I also can't disagree with anything in this message here. a comment below suggests it's not worth if if everyone's doing it. well, most are actually not doing it. all those porkys are doing you a favor by allowing you to stand out with not too much effort on your part. another comment suggests you're competing against the top. ok, you kind of are but the demand is far greater than the top can satisfy. so yeah, be better than the bottom but there's still plenty for you left even if you're not a 1%er.
I'll say it's a perfectly noble option to just not play. imagine all that time and money you'll have all to yourself. I'll tell you that this is surprisingly rewarding 🙂
let me throw in a pro tip when you're ready to play- **more than one.** rent one even if you have to for a while. do you really think chicks are evaluating you objectively? 🤣
they kinda skip a lot of that part and just look to see if you're with other chicks. your target is not the chick you're with (still enjoy as you can), it's the other chick that sees you with the one you're with 🏝😎🍸
I was a creep 1 time
Wrong. You're not competing with other dudes in the real world but with the imaginary tiktok instagram lifestyle inspired highly idealized boyfriend in her head
True social media fill unrealistic standards in our heads
I've noticed men can be very concerned with the idea of a "better man", real or in this case imagined, competing and winning against them. It sounds like a very difficult reality.
The animus
@@anarki1211 yeah, its a giant reason and the main reason why i stay away from dating. I'm easily replaceable.
facts your competing with her delusions
And the quality of the women in the dating pool is weak.
Yup. There's always a catch.
I think thats the reason why men actually let themselves go a lot of the time. They lose interest in the dating pool and let themselves go because "Why would I appear nice and all that when there is no marker" and by doing so though they repulse those women that could have been their soulmates which is kinda heartbreaking :(
Dude is exponentially lower these days. Theses chicks are crazy AF. And their lives are a mess.
We're all gonna make it brahs
Lets get it 😤
Ofc💯
If we all make it, none of us do.
15% of us will reap 50% of the success
You aint lyin
Man I could`ve never imagined how handsome I really am until I got down to 10ish percent BF, building a noticable/ athletic physique and THEN finding + cultivating my self worth/ love, taking extra care of myself by dressing sharp/ fitted clothes, having a skincare routine, grooming and smelling nice all the time and also being physically active every day turned my whole life upside down and put me in a beautiful spot in life- guys let me tell you, you all can make it in life with time, effort and having a mindset of ,,I want to be excellent in all aspects of life"
Totally agree. Keep it up!
nice man trying my best to be good in all but school motivation still lacking that is shit haha
“Having a skincare routine” is about the most 2024 sentence
Hygiene is great. How this became a breakthrough landmark achievement in the past year is confusing AF.
Congrats bro 😎
@@true_plays_gameshaha idk i think people focus more on that again and get a name for it
@@true_plays_games because your face is important 😂
The quality of women is also very low. Getting a high quality woman (basically not fat and no kids) is not easy.
True. Sadly being fat & having multiple kids for modern women is becoming the norm.
Thing is those are bare minimum too
Get your passport.
@@lusitanus6504And do what? Go to Asia for a week, go on a date and come back home? That's pointless. Not all of us can just up and move to the Philippines.
Walk in any gym in any major city, I’d say half of the women are in shape and majority of them are childless.