She's a trooper for hanging in there. You could tell she wasn't very comfortable but still gave it a chance. He seems like a great guy but both are very different.
@@Heatherbtime saw 12 hours and these cuts and snippets made him out to be much worse. Left out a lot of the deeper questions he asked (her passions, hobbies, fears,family,goals) plenty of times where they got mentally intimate.
@@ChillinWithRyder. I understand what your saying, but it was pretty obvious he was pushing a boundary. From both his abundance of questions and general body language and weird amount of touch
literally putting any group of people into a box for 12 hours would end up as a good video though. strangers (with no expectation of a date), best friends, couples, siblings, *crushes*
Seems like he was projecting his emotional needs on her from the get go and not really paying attention to who she is or what she wants … hopefully he gives therapy a try.
She’s not just beautiful, she also has a very calm and relaxed demeanor, she’s very mature and emotionally intelligent. The silent attractive type. He had the teenage spirit, lacked a little awareness but goofy and a little insecure, she was spot on when she said "he avoids some topics". They are not compatible with each other.
Shouldn't he know not to touch without permission? And Cut also only stepped in 6 hours in, so the fact the warning was even needed and how late the warning came actually made me quite concerned about this guy not knowing consent or boundaries.
@@jacknesbitt240 she literally signed up for staying in a box for 12 hours with a stranger, isnt it common sense that they would touch each other at some point of time? she could have told him if she was feeling uncomfortable; dont think the guy will predict that in advance. and how do u know if he doesnt know about consent, u kid? stop making him a villain, snowflake
@@jacknesbitt240 they only stepped in after he had pull her closer to him by the ankles. You could see the look of panic in her eyes as he grabbed her like that. She laughed it off because he was. but they probably caught it as someone was reviewing the footage when they were either swapping what they use to store it or swapping batteries.
@@onuq3r4y478 how? it’s only fair and people should never have to feel forced to do anything they aren’t comfortable with. did you just that for a reaction? or…
I feel for both of them. She seemed to close off pretty quickly, but I don’t blame her cause they’re clearly very different. As someone who’s love language is touch, I understand why he wanted to be touchy, but she was clearly uncomfortable. I think he was trying to use touch to make her more comfortable (cause that’s how he gets comfortable), but it definitely made her even more uncomfortable
My love language is touch as well so I understood where he was coming from, up until 8:50. Then I was like "whoa dude, what are you doing??" I wouldn't do that with someone I barely knew. Especially if I met said person for the first time 6 hours ago.
@@angelicbaby92 I think people are forgetting they are in a box for 12 hours. People need understand that self control is difficult when your in those uncomfortable situation. its not like 1 hour date at a restaurant.
I like the girl, she seems like she's in a completely different stage in life than him, so I kinda wish they chose a guy who seemed more serious about her in terms of not trying to kiss her or rush things
Maybe but when you're in a box for 12 hours with someone I think it makes for an interesting conversation. They're trying to find ways to keep themselves occupied for half a day and it wasn't him trying to initiate a casual relationship or anything. Just make it interesting for the both of them. I don't think its necessarily that she's in a different stage in life than him (they could both be looking for something long term). It's just that they're completely different people - she's more reserved and introverted and he's more extroverted. She needs to build a level of comfort with someone before opening up to them whereas he's able to become comfortable with new people much quicker.
@@Anonymous-xr8hx she said no so many times and he should of accept that from the beginning. She was uncomfortable and he kept pushing it. She’s not there to put on a show for y’all and entertain. She doesn’t like him at all and the guy doesn’t understand boundaries
They would've put the chick in one box while the other guy in another box (without knowing how they look like) and start a conversation - if they "click" they reveal themselves and go for a date. Feel bad for the chick though it was awkward to watch tbh not to mention the dude was already being too touchy and comfortable with her smh (when I don't know someone i don't like being touchy or touching someone's hair lol this guy is a huge red flag, one thing is extrovert and the other being way too comfortable) lol
Like when he grabbed her legs I literally shuddered I was so uncomfortable. Like ik i as a person in that situation I would have moved away from the touch
Everytime he touched her, her score for him went down and once he stopped touching her (because the producers stepped in), her score for him started to go up again. She went from saying she finds him attractive to saying she could only see them as friends. If this doesn't prove that asking consent, permission or (at the very least) where their comfortability level with certain acts is is important then idk what does.
you are delusional. she only had points go up again cause she felt relieved that he stopped touching and so she wanted to reward him with the "friend zone". Yay
Or you know, it could've just been that as time went on she got to speak with him more to understand him as a person and got past just looks? What you're saying is very important but this is not a good example of it
@@NeroV1L3 This doesn't track because she was scoring him highly at first when she didn't know him and was basing it off looks. She then scored him high again as they began to talk and get to know each other. He started to touch her without permission an she visibly physically retreated and was uncomfortable. She then scored him lower despite them getting along and talking. He continued to touch her and her score continued to drop. She asked the producers to stop him touching her and they did. They continued to to talk but with no physical interaction and she then scored him slightly higher. As they continued to talk with no physical interaction, her score of him continued to rise. At the end she scored him highly since they got along but said that as she got to know him, she realised they weren't in the same place in life. That's all to say that if looks was something she had to get past, her initial score wouldn't have been so high. She was scoring him high based off good initial physical attraction. If his personality was the issue then her end score should have been lower and she should have continued to score him low as she got to know him. If she was liking certain parts of his personality and not liking others and that was the issue then we should have seen more random jumps in her score based on that instead of the straight down curve it took. Even though she cited their goals etc as the reason for not wanting to see him again, she still scored him high proving that she liked him, personality and looks, overall. So if looks earned him high scores and personality scored him high scores then the touching (during which she was so physically uncomfortable) is the only anomaly. The timing (high before touching, low during touching, immediately higher again right after no touching) seems like more than just coincidence. None of this is fact of course. No one can now what was going through her head except her but it is a reasonable conclusion to draw if you look at the data objectively (including the fact that she didn't feel safe asserting herself and telling him she's uncomfortable and what that says about her personality as well as what it says about his that he completely missed all the social cues signaling her discomfort). I could go on as I have a huge interest in and am studying human behavior so stuff like this where you get to analyze it is super interesting to me but this is already too long for a yt comment section. If you (still) think I'm wrong though, I would love to hear a deeper breakdown of exactly why you feel that way.
Staff asked him to ask that, be more engaging, and to bring up childhood trauma. Then they put it all in this one shortened video. Watch the UNCUT version, different vibes, he was able to carry the conversation for 12 hours. Unbelievable
@@sophiel9533 12 hours is long. But I felt the need to bring awareness and the truth. This shortened version basically set him up for failure for future dates. People take this for face value, when in reality hes a good kid, handsome, and has good heart.
He seems emotionally immature and I think her hunch about him not wanting/being able to handle a serious relationship was accurate. I do feel bad for him and hope he gives therapy a shot one day. As for her, I think she handled this very well despite clearly not wanting to be there after the first few hours lmao. She remained sweet even through her obvious discomfort and that takes a lot.
I feel like this was a silly challenge for her to try. she seems hella boring and closed off. That's not a bad thing but i think he did the best he could to try and not be bored for 12 hours lol. I was bored just watching 😂
@@yazzy_wazzy1 I definitely feel like she seemed boring because she didn’t really like him. If you enjoy someone as a person you’ll want to open up more of your personality to them.
@deskmat9874 Whyy are you showing a person you just met your feet. Who's first thought is that and asking them to massage your feet? You can have as many kinks as yall want but that's weird, plain and simple
@@sayJessg Of course, most do need it even essentially before You could start thinking remotely about discussing anything along any form of relationship. BUT, and that is a BUT in capitals: With therapy it is the exact same like with stopping to drink or stopping to do drugs - You can only do it on Your own for Your own. Once You do it to make Your "partner" stop nagging and menacing about it, it will become a failure of some sort and will be mostly couterproductive within the "partnership" because none of both will achieve what they aimed for with a therapy on the other one's behalf.
I AM SO HAPPY THAT YOU SAID FOR THEM TO ASK PERMISSION BEFORE TOUCHING!!! When i was younger I used to be the type of person who didn't know how to tell people to stop touching me if I was uncomfortable and would just laugh it off
THEY ARE IN A BOX TOGETHER FOR 12 HOURS! The touching wasn’t even bad and if your that insecure, then challenge yourself to grow and expand rather than live with it and bitch about being *iNsEcUrE*
He has sooooo much growing to do and it’s obvious he could benefit from deeper connections. This might just be his first real mental connection, that’s why he was emotionally attached by the end. I would LOVE to be both of their friends. Hers for a mature and genuine connection, his for lighthearted fun.
I agree. He's not at a place in life where he should be looking to going into a relationship at all. Let alone a serious one. The woman was mature and I hope he gets to see from that example and tries to pave his way towards a better life. Mentally, physically, morally and spiritually.
He definitely made her uncomfortable and it's obvious before even admitting himself that he lacks self-awareness. Whenever she brought up therapy as a way to help him understand his own personal issues he took it like an insult and brushed it off like he didn't need it. Also when she clearly stated she dislikes anything to do with feet he kept trying to push and stay on the topic. I don't blame her for lowering her rating of him each time.
well this was extremely edited i kind of skimmed through the 12 hour unedited and it definitely portrays them both differently this was 20 minutes of 12 hours. Her score even went back up near the end.
I haven't watched the video and seeing the comments it looks like the dude was a real dk. But if you think it's OK to tell people you barely know how "therapy would help them" don't be surprised if they take it as an insult.
It's pretty dismissive when you're trying to open up about your problems and how you're working on them and someone just yells "TERAPHY". I know it's with good intentions but it's a conversation stopper there
@@marchingclocks It's a conversation stopped for people who aren't qualified to give you life advice to recommend you to people who are qualified to give you life advice? Why do ppl think they're entitiled to trauma dump on people and get mad when people tell them to do it to somebody who actually wants to hear it. These people don't even know eachother. Why would she want to listen to his personal issues???
@@queerlibtardhippie9357 I mean I haven't watch the whole thing but if we are talking about this edit two sentences about his feelings don't count as trauma dumping for me...
I admire how brave some folks are. I could never date on camera, it'd be so embarrasing. But, it's not like I'm dating off camera so I'm not supposed to judge
I think it'd be fun if you gave them activities to distract themselves from the awkwardness of a first, long date. Usually, when you meet someone you don't have to be talking the whole time. You can enjoy each other company while you listen to music, dance, walk, play board games, etc. Maybe that could help to make it feel like a more casual encounter and less like a trap
There is a format in the German version where 2 strangers are locked in a slightly larger box for 100 hours with date challenges and at the end they have to decide whether they are in a relationship or never see each other again
You can see her physically recoil from him almost every time he invites himself into her space. You see her legs crossed and her leaning further into the corner while he spreads his legs, and at multiple points his entire body, more into her space. His lack of noticing is really telling.
nah he knows exactly what he's doing. But he is being just lowkey enough about it, so its hard to call out. Like the sexual questions, pushing physical boundaries further and further while pretending like it's casual/normal, the uncomfortable trauma dumping - literally this man mirrors the behavior of so many creepy dudes i've met, so closely
@@mr.perfect2852 He's not creepy at all lol. If you're talking about the sex talk, that was a very small amount of what they actually talked about. The way this video was edited makes it seem like that was a major topic, but it was not.
It’s his way of getting comfortable they really don’t realize until you let them know or someone addresses it but even then it’s hard to stop because it’s them being them🫡
@@goatvxx as a touchy person the fist thing I look for in an awkward situation is touch, even to comfort the other person, I really relate to him in that aspect and I’ve had situations where I didn’t realise the other person was into it. Hence why the produce said to ask for permission which he respected it’s not like he was purposely trying to make her feel uncomfortable infact he was doing the opposite. Different people different coping mechanisms.
Love that the Cut producer/director pointed out that they need to ask permission before touching each other! The way he was touching her around 8:50 would've made me feel insanely uncomfortable.
imho 6 hours is too late :/ the bar is so low but we should lift it a little and expect better from "dating experiment" producers. Yes he's responsible for his actions - but he felt able to do that on camera because those boundaries + expectations weren't made clear in the beginning (as far as we know).
@@tonyflamingosucks6590 for sure, idk what was stated to participants beforehand but clearly some rules need to be clarified - that includes asking consent, checking in regularly and always holding the expectation that someone might say no or change their mind about something. these are the rules set in adult s*xual spaces/events so why not in dating experiments too? hope that makes sense
In the uncut version the directors told him to be more touchy, and they also cut out every other part, where they would be having normal conversations.
this was the saddest video I’ve ever seen. and that’s crazy to say. just progressively watching the girl learn who this guy is and the guy learn his own personal bad traits about himself was so sad. especially since he even recognized he always sees the bad in other people and now he was just showing the bad to her. just a rough time
Suggestion for the next one: - make the box bigger, so that the people can stand and stretch, add cushions and blankets for comfort or add chairs - establish consent and boundary rules on from the beginning (interfere if they get ignored) - give some additional tools to get to know each other (like a schooloflife game or smth) - for one hour, let them have a bluetooth speaker to show each other their favorite music and allow them to relax a bit - have water bottles in the box Other than that I would be happy to see another one of these!
Yeah I totally agree I personally think they should give them more stuff to do like board games bc if there’s nothing to do you’re gonna get tired of the person pretty quick lmao
Idk about all that. I agree with 1, 2, and water. But adding a bunch of stuff like technology takes away from the person experience of developing a connection by pretty much the push for conversation.
The way the guy kept asking her sexual questions like "at what point do you sleep with someone" and "am I the type of person you'd sleep with"... possibly hinting that he wants to and she was clearly uninterested it was so cringe
It’s funny how I started off meh about the girl, and grew to admire her within this video. I’m so impressed with her boundaries, and how even though he tried to push them in the slightest way, she still did not give in. Those are healthy boundaries.
Maybe you guys should do check-ins every few hours to see if they still want to continue the date OR at the start, give them like 20 minutes to see if they like them on first impressions enough to continue with the full 12 hours - and if not, change the pairing
@@sdrawkcabmiay Well she clearly was not attracted to him right off the jump, so they need at at the very LEAST make sure they are attracted to each other because that is a baseline you need. otherwise youll get a cringey video like this where they feel at a 5/10 most of the video. its not cute to watch.
I think it would be better with new couples or at least recent hook-ups. I think people like the strangers-to-lovers troupe but it's just not realistic.
@@katieanne4705 technically yes, but in reality a lot of people would feel pressured to stay and go along with what's happening. If you're stuck with someone in a box - especially with someone who takes up a lot of space emotionally - you're more likely to try and make sure you don't ruin the "vibe". There should have been more check ins and clear agreed boundaries from the beginning, with a safe environment in which it feels very easy to say no.
@@AXharoth lowkey idkw everyone hating on this guy, yes he is crossing boundaries, but maybe when he was younger he was shy and was only tryna learn from his mistakes. Did he take it too far? Yes, but that is part of the learning process, he is still growing as he described himself
@@AXharoth I don't know what about his behaviour activates so much hate in them. I can understand why they don't like the things he was doing, but to say they HATE how he was acting is too far bruh, spare the guy some mercy
As a general rule, if you’re ever stuck in a box for 12 hours on a blind date and you’re showing her your fucked up toe only 2 hours in… the date is not going well.
can we please talk about „consent“ because he really needs to understand what this means. Also asking for small things like „ can I lay my head on you?“. You can’t just do it without asking, especially if you know the person for such a short time. I am so greatful that CUT sat him a boundary there and helped her out of more uncomfortable situations
@@stantonclark just after the team of CUT told him to do so. Look at minute 7.10. Aditionally, from the start on, he is really close to her, you can see that she feels uncomfortable.
@@tamaraheck7652 Minute 7:10 translated into the actual uncut version is at a bit more than 6 entire hours. He's a very physical person, and considering she didn't say anything about it, get off his dick about it. Or, actually watch the full version.
This definitely will not work out lmao. And she is absolutely right, he NEEDS therapy and he NEEDS to open and accept being uncomfortable and vulnerable with everything about himself. Also, I laugh and smile at serious things as a coping mechanism when I am feeling awkward, anxious, or vulnerable aswell.
It’s not. They are just two different people, he might like someone who is more comfortable, wild and extroverted & she might like more calm,self aware people
i really like this concept but i do think they should ask them every hour if they want to continue with the date or not because 12 hours is a really long time. i also think that they should find people who are similar to each other and who will actually click throughout that amount of time. :)
nah, the whole point is to have people see how things evolve over a long period of time. if they had the option, people would just bail when it gets quiet or awkward
@@shwinkararafat6767 yeah because letting your feet slip from the tight hold you have them in is definitely signaling someone to grab them. she still looks uncomfortable to me
felt like he wanted a physical relationship out of dates before an emotional one and she's the opposite. her energy was very calming and i'd love to spend 12 hours in a box with someone like her!!
I feel so bad for him I feel like he’s never had that deep relationship (as In someone to talk about trauma) and that’s why he bonded to her so fast. She is a trooper obviously uncomfortable but she’s there for the experience
Nah he just trauma dumped on her and I’ve seen this tactic irl with guys I’ve dated where they just randomly drop trauma on u and ur expected to comfort them and empathize. It’s a tactic used to make them seem more sensitive and for you to excuse their gross behaviour because you sympathize. It’s nasty and my ex used to do this all the time to detract from his disgusting pattern of behaviour with women. It’s like “ oh im a player and I only fuck girls but my daddy left when I was a kid so im a complex broken man who deserves sympathy” go to therapy and leave her alone
she’s def my vibe. mature, introverted, peaceful. she needs a man who has it all together and can give her what she needs mentally and someone who can have deep conversations. doesn’t matter how old people are but maturity is what determines healthy relationships. if they got in a fight he would def be toxic and condescending lol
I also thought that if they continue and be in a relationship with each other and they got on a fight, there is a high possibility that he will eventually gaslight and manipulate her.
@@inanimatemist8610 i am only hypothetically speaking and based it upon his remark about his traumas (which is not his fault) and being adamant about getting professional help (could help him a lot). I can quite sense his emotional immaturity and i hear and see him trying to overcome it but the thing is that is the starting line that could snowball into gasl1ghting. This is just a possibility and might not turn into reality depending on how he manage himself. But i believe he can progress to the person he wants to be.
@@AngadGrewal-df2tx touch is not a problem. Touch that people don't want is a problem. Bet she asked the producers to tell him to stop touching after he PULLED her. Don't lie on the lap!
Umm a couple of things: 1. This ain't hotel california I'm not saying force the poor girl to do this. She did it once now she she's even more qualified to decide if she wants to do it again or not. 2. She didn't look uncomfortable for the entire 12 hours to me.. I think she discovered a lot about herself as well in that box. 3. Sometimes steppping out of our comfort zones and doing something uncomfortable is the best thing we can do for ourselves, its how we grow! 😬
Watching him just suddenly lie down on her lap, sit super close to her, randomly touch her legs.. it made me so uncomfortable. I only like physical touch from those I love, and I loathe being touched by most people.
I feel like this is a cool idea that could be improved upon if the people had just matched with each other on tinder or another dating app. That way at the outset, you know the people are attracted to each other and have a higher chance of vibing. Cause these two seem decent enough individually but it was clear right off the bat that they were not into each other
It could also help if they find people who need less time to make connections. The girl seemed like the type to need lots of time before being comfortable with someone, which didn't work well for this "experiment." Obviously there's nothing wrong with being more reserved, or needing time to develop friendships/relationships. I think the video would just be a bit more interesting (and both people would have more fun) if they were the same level of openness/ outgoingness.
I know I'm a little late, but I loved that experiment. If anyone would actually want to have a straight 12 hour conversation with a stranger, I would be totally down for it.
It took me years to find that out about my girlfriend. Put her stuff out in the driveway and changed the locks when I finally had recognized it. (She's happily married to the most boring man I met in all my fiftyeight years on earth and is still thankfully loving me for throwing her out of her comfort zone back then, just to let You know how it really went ...) I find it a bit appalling to put a verdict like that on a man who so visibly and tangibly tries to break the icy wall she's hiding behind. I must say I would put that remark in the box of manipulative female not-saying-anything-important-while-still-saying-something-that-should-sound-as-if-it-was remarks ....
@@onemillionpercent I doubt she's right, and I doubt she even knows what "a serious relationship" means outside of her personal gain, what it means for a man these days for example. One can, as it is common practice, of course go as far as saying "it doesn't matter what that "serious relationship thingy means for him" because it's the female part ending it anyway, (with roundabout 80 percent of divorces filed for by the female part), but that does only show why serious relationships are plummeting the way they are: It wasn't a "relationship" in the first place once she's the one deciding whether he's up to it or not. Something You gotta get going and keep going *_together_* does not work that way, not in the end, and even less in the beginning! Should seem easily understandable and logic, one would assume .... somehow it obviously isn't, though.
Hes not a creep trust me, in the uncut version he and she had a very VERY good bond until the second hour, which was when the producers stepped in and started asking him to be sexual and touchy for "entertainment" which lead to him and her's bond being completely broken because she had no idea he was being pressured into doing so. The man was able to make her laugh and get comfortable with her, and he also asked for consent. But then the producers did him bad again by telling him to be more touchy after his 2nd bathroom break. He did which then they basically framed him because right when he did what they asked him to DO they went up and told him to be comfortable with her boundaries.
Yeah she was not feeling him , she seemed uncomfortable as well. I'm surprised she didn't take alot of bathroom breaks like Kwan did 😂. I felt really uncomfortable when he pulled her legs during the 5 minute stare. Also throughout he was quite touchy and didn't seem to respect her boundaries and honestly just simply read the room/box. I think if he took time to actually think before he acted he would've noticed her slight discomfort as well. But nonetheless , it was a learning experience for both of them and I hope they watch over this to make some personal edits in their life xx
This vid gave me the idea of why im not ready for serious relationship. In my 23 i behave like this guy and need to learn more maturity, he's like a mirror of mine and i can see different things from this perspective.
Ngl watched this and I was like damn thats crazy, then I went and watched the full 12 hour version, and honestly they did him dirty af. Honestly they seemed to have a great time, he asked interesting questions, a lot of fun and funny moments, in the end they aren't compatible mainly for the fact they are at different places in life (which is the reason her score went down even though it went back up over the course of the 12 hours). What people don't seem to realize is that you're in there for 12 hours there are only so many questions to ask and so many topics to cover(and the fact that they cut out the parts where they were prompting them to ask more sexual questions to each other or add dares to the games that they played). People in the comments judging this guy kind of harshly should really go check out the full version.
This is absolutely not hate and more of sympathy but I really hope Kwan gets a therapist or finds an emotional outlet to vent to because it is obvious that he has so much bottled up and just having basic connections and conversations seemed new and eye opening to him. I hope the best for him :')
Kwan has a couple more issues than most guys, but it's nothing out of the ordinary. Lots of guys have issues like this that are bottled up inside up, it's just that Kwan made himself emotionally vulnerable about them. I guess we all need therapists
In the 12 hours unedited version people are saying he actually kept the conversations going. I skipped past it and they were giving each other a score of 6 near the end ish.
They are just such different people. She’s way more mature than him whereas he needs some type of healing from some issues he doesn’t want to talk about. Him being too touchy wasn’t quite right seeing how uncomfortable she was but maybe if it was a different person it wouldn’t have been a big deal. People are different y’all
You're right that they've very different but I don't think thats about maturity. I think she's just a lot more reserved and he finds it a lot easier to become comfortable with someone he's just met. If he was in that box with someone more like him - possibly more extraverted or "touchy feely" it would've gone a lot better. That's not really about maturity. I think her awkwardness reflected really badly on him because him trying to make it less awkward only made him look creepy (although the touching during the staring bit was way too forward I'm not talking about that).
@@Anonymous-xr8hx I agree, she was a poor choice for this experiment imo. Such a reserved person is not who you’d want to spend 12 hours with when you first meet. I think no matter who the guy was she would have struggled with this
@@FoolProof777 That's not a good way to think about reserved or introverted people. Considering introvert & extrovert relationships exist. People like these 2 meet all the time. The conversation just needs to be able to flow. She wasn't withholding information when he asked certain questions. She was open. They were both interesting in their own way.
They got along much better in the video that was in the description. This was doesn’t summarize the relationship they developed. I’m an old woman and I come from a time where chivalry was huge and he was perfectly fine to me. This video just didn’t show it right
@@rushabhgothi8880dude his obsession over sex and touching her and feet is not enough for you? You can see the creepiness and uncomfortable feeling just filling her
I feel for this guy, he clearly has a lot of work to do on himself especially with self esteem and with his awareness of other people. Looks like he wants to do that work and improve himself though so respect to him for that. I feel more sorry for her though, huge red flags coming from him and a relationship probably isn't what he should be looking for atm
@@kaydollar2490 tends to happen when creating a bond with someone for 12 hours. Also, putting your head on someone’s lap isn’t inappropriate at all. Sorry.
@@BRlGADE_KINGPIN I meant more like the part when he grabbed her legs, opened them, pulled her closer to him and continued massaging her knees… but whatever I guess. Also I don’t know about you but I don’t really tend to touch people I’ve met for some hours like that, to each their own though!
@@tonyflamingosucks6590 I don't think the sexual questions was inappropriate. He asked near the start if she was comfortable talking about it and said she was very open about that stuff. It was mainly the bit during the 5 mins staring into each other's eyes. She clearly felt uncomfortable from the get go because she couldn't look him in the eye and he made it worse by moving her legs. Other people think the head in lap stuff was too much but tbh firstly it was probably really uncomfortable in that box. Secondly, if he hadn't shown that level of comfort the date would've been way way more awkward. Imagine two people sitting apart in that box, too awkward to go near each other. I think the main problem was putting an introvert and an extrovert in an enclosed space alone for 12 hours 😂😂.
I watched the 12 hour vid (with breaks and sleeps) so you don't have to. Throughout the time in the box, Kwan learns more about KJ more, understanding her limits and boundaries. In the beginning, Kwan looks like he wanted to impress KJ and yes there were awkward moments between him and KJ. However, as time progresses, they went to talk deep about their lives with each other. Towards the end, they became more comfortable as new friends, rather than sexual partners. This social experiment proves the correlation between the lives of an introvert and extrovert. There were happy, sad, awkward, and important moments within the 12 hours. Don't shame Kwan or KJ! They are both normal, imperfect human beings!
I tottaly understand that, however regardless of what they talked about and how deep there conversations where. You should still not touch someone if you don’t fully understand them, especially when you noticed (in this case the woman) being a lot more reserved and shy. I am more shy myself and I don’t like it when men ok dated invade my sort of boundary space when I don’t know them that well yet. He should have seen the signs and respected them a bit more. Possibly , yes see a therapist and learn to control yourself. Even if you do have long talks it’s important to set boundaries from the begging.
@@neilk I am sure he didn’t have bad intentions. However how would you feel if someone started touching you? And you where really not attracted to them for example ?
Good for them for making it through. I had a 4 hour flight where I pretended to fall asleep for 3.5 hours after 30 minutes of talking to the person sitting next to me.
I like her she seems mature smart and calm, level headed and emotionally intelligent. Also her decision in the end speaks volumes about him and how u can be hot but if your personality is immature and invasive like his then u will stop being attractive in many people’s eyes.
We have the whole 12 hour uncut version available if ya'll are interested: trappedinaboxfor12hours.com/
Hell nah lmao
@@tannershanksftw 😭
To each their own but whoever watches the whole 12 hours should really rethink their life lol
that's a pretty straightforward website name lol
Tripping 😭
She's a trooper for hanging in there. You could tell she wasn't very comfortable but still gave it a chance. He seems like a great guy but both are very different.
Yeah, I could tell by her hand on his stomach when they were laying there that she was so uncomfortable.
@@ebogar42 what time??
@@ebogar42 That was his own hand resting in his body, not hers.
@@Heatherbtime saw 12 hours and these cuts and snippets made him out to be much worse. Left out a lot of the deeper questions he asked (her passions, hobbies, fears,family,goals) plenty of times where they got mentally intimate.
Exactly what I was saying..
This is by far the most brutal blind date experiment Cut has ever tried
I couldn’t stop cringing 😂😂 and it wasn’t even that bad
bro no way in hell i'm talking to a girl for 12 hours straight tf this is wild i'd tap out
All I'll say is, fellas, always ask consent before touching anybody. Especially if they literally can't move away from you.
This was hard to watch but entertaining
yep and i feel like they didn't even try to put in compatible people tbh
The person who comes up with these series deserves a raise.
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Fr
Right?! I wanna do this lol. What a great idea!
Lifetime membership to anything good in life
Agreed
He’s so touchy and she’s so uncomfortable and he’s getting into so much detail abt his s3x life and he keeps asking her abt hers
she asked him if he has ever tasted ... you are 100% sexist
@@ChillinWithRyder. Like one question compared to his hundred
She didn't really converse much, and in general it's just an interesting subject, doesn't have to mean people just want sex wtf
@@felathesimp I agree
@@ChillinWithRyder. I understand what your saying, but it was pretty obvious he was pushing a boundary. From both his abundance of questions and general body language and weird amount of touch
Now do one with married couples
Id love to see how long term couples talk and spend time in this box!
literally putting any group of people into a box for 12 hours would end up as a good video though. strangers (with no expectation of a date), best friends, couples, siblings, *crushes*
Oh shit this comment blew up
Hey cut, me and my spouse will be together for 9 years in May 👀
Would just sleep half of the 12 hours lol
Prolly just sleep lol
My parents would have eachother dead
I don't know how the guy didn't see her getting uncomfortable, her eyes and body language are literally showing every emotion she's going through.
Frrr
She definitely wasn’t really feeling his touchy touchy 😂
It was obvious for us to see but maybe not within that small space
Seems like he was projecting his emotional needs on her from the get go and not really paying attention to who she is or what she wants … hopefully he gives therapy a try.
@@CakeboyRiP oh shut it its obv
She’s not just beautiful, she also has a very calm and relaxed demeanor, she’s very mature and emotionally intelligent. The silent attractive type. He had the teenage spirit, lacked a little awareness but goofy and a little insecure, she was spot on when she said "he avoids some topics". They are not compatible with each other.
watch the full version, they left alot out to portray her as a "goddess" (I don't really like that word but it's accurate)
@@Xous_ wheres the full version
she wants you bro fr
@@Xous_ tell us where to find the full version
thats exactly what i was thinking
I’m glad the director brought up consent with touching.
way way too late , and it didnt change anything either , he still touched her
@@AXharoth At least towards the end, he learned to ask, which was something he could have done at the beginning. Better late than never
Im your 1000th like
Love how people behind the camera knew she was uncomfortable and told them to ask permission to touch
yeah that was really relieving watching it. cause i really felt her discomfort
Shouldn't he know not to touch without permission? And Cut also only stepped in 6 hours in, so the fact the warning was even needed and how late the warning came actually made me quite concerned about this guy not knowing consent or boundaries.
@@jacknesbitt240 she literally signed up for staying in a box for 12 hours with a stranger, isnt it common sense that they would touch each other at some point of time? she could have told him if she was feeling uncomfortable; dont think the guy will predict that in advance. and how do u know if he doesnt know about consent, u kid? stop making him a villain, snowflake
@@jacknesbitt240 they only stepped in after he had pull her closer to him by the ankles. You could see the look of panic in her eyes as he grabbed her like that. She laughed it off because he was. but they probably caught it as someone was reviewing the footage when they were either swapping what they use to store it or swapping batteries.
No, this is some psy shit. These 304s need to get outside their comfort zone more.
“Ask for permission before any physical touch” that’s was so right, that’s the way it should always be.
no, thats stupid.
@@onuq3r4y478 silence male
Within the realms of dating/talking phase, I agree 100%. But within a relationship, I don't think asking permission every time is as necessary
@@doktorhypebeast i agree unless its more intimate like intercours and sex and stuf
@@onuq3r4y478 how? it’s only fair and people should never have to feel forced to do anything they aren’t comfortable with. did you just that for a reaction? or…
I love how it started with her being more into him, and ended with him being more into her.
I'm like this dude but better
@@eliminate100. fym
@@FactFlix3 I'm better then you
@@eliminate100. cap
@@obssessedvideoguy and even more better then u
the way he pulled her into that position during the 5 minute stare into one anothers eyes was badddddd
it would have taken a lot for me to not just go off or leave at that point lol
yeah that kinda pissed me off
Yes though the way my jaw dropped like nooo it gave me second hand embarrassment and i felt bad for the girl
That was wild I would be like "please stop, what are you doing"
I’m glad the guy behind the camera set the boundary about physical touch because he could read that she was uncomfortable. That was appreciated :))))
I feel for both of them. She seemed to close off pretty quickly, but I don’t blame her cause they’re clearly very different. As someone who’s love language is touch, I understand why he wanted to be touchy, but she was clearly uncomfortable. I think he was trying to use touch to make her more comfortable (cause that’s how he gets comfortable), but it definitely made her even more uncomfortable
My love language is touch as well so I understood where he was coming from, up until 8:50. Then I was like "whoa dude, what are you doing??"
I wouldn't do that with someone I barely knew. Especially if I met said person for the first time 6 hours ago.
@@Zythus07 exactly!
@@Zythus07 its 12 hours in a box. Being normal kinda get thrown out the window.
My love language is touch too but that doesn't mean I like to be touched by strangers...
@@angelicbaby92 I think people are forgetting they are in a box for 12 hours. People need understand that self control is difficult when your in those uncomfortable situation. its not like 1 hour date at a restaurant.
I like the girl, she seems like she's in a completely different stage in life than him, so I kinda wish they chose a guy who seemed more serious about her in terms of not trying to kiss her or rush things
Maybe but when you're in a box for 12 hours with someone I think it makes for an interesting conversation. They're trying to find ways to keep themselves occupied for half a day and it wasn't him trying to initiate a casual relationship or anything. Just make it interesting for the both of them. I don't think its necessarily that she's in a different stage in life than him (they could both be looking for something long term). It's just that they're completely different people - she's more reserved and introverted and he's more extroverted. She needs to build a level of comfort with someone before opening up to them whereas he's able to become comfortable with new people much quicker.
they were pretty different maturity wise. I liked both of them but the guy is like young 20s and she's like old 20s
@@nelsondendomo6687 bro they’re the same age 😂😂
@@Anonymous-xr8hx she said no so many times and he should of accept that from the beginning. She was uncomfortable and he kept pushing it. She’s not there to put on a show for y’all and entertain. She doesn’t like him at all and the guy doesn’t understand boundaries
They would've put the chick in one box while the other guy in another box (without knowing how they look like) and start a conversation - if they "click" they reveal themselves and go for a date. Feel bad for the chick though it was awkward to watch tbh not to mention the dude was already being too touchy and comfortable with her smh (when I don't know someone i don't like being touchy or touching someone's hair lol this guy is a huge red flag, one thing is extrovert and the other being way too comfortable) lol
Why is he so touchy with a new person
fr.
So touchy
ikr!!
they literally had to tell him to ask permission first
FRRR
9:15 i love how the crew see she's uncomfortable and steps in to help her feel more comfortable in the situation.... Good on you guys at CUT!
Even I felt uncomfortable...
Like when he grabbed her legs I literally shuddered I was so uncomfortable. Like ik i as a person in that situation I would have moved away from the touch
It’s obvious that he is trying to get closer to her and get to know her. But he made it look weird.
I'm a dude and I felt uncomfortable
And just look at the expression he makes when they say that!!
Everytime he touched her, her score for him went down and once he stopped touching her (because the producers stepped in), her score for him started to go up again. She went from saying she finds him attractive to saying she could only see them as friends. If this doesn't prove that asking consent, permission or (at the very least) where their comfortability level with certain acts is is important then idk what does.
you are delusional. she only had points go up again cause she felt relieved that he stopped touching and so she wanted to reward him with the "friend zone". Yay
Or you know, it could've just been that as time went on she got to speak with him more to understand him as a person and got past just looks? What you're saying is very important but this is not a good example of it
@@NeroV1L3 This doesn't track because she was scoring him highly at first when she didn't know him and was basing it off looks. She then scored him high again as they began to talk and get to know each other. He started to touch her without permission an she visibly physically retreated and was uncomfortable. She then scored him lower despite them getting along and talking. He continued to touch her and her score continued to drop. She asked the producers to stop him touching her and they did. They continued to to talk but with no physical interaction and she then scored him slightly higher. As they continued to talk with no physical interaction, her score of him continued to rise. At the end she scored him highly since they got along but said that as she got to know him, she realised they weren't in the same place in life.
That's all to say that if looks was something she had to get past, her initial score wouldn't have been so high. She was scoring him high based off good initial physical attraction. If his personality was the issue then her end score should have been lower and she should have continued to score him low as she got to know him. If she was liking certain parts of his personality and not liking others and that was the issue then we should have seen more random jumps in her score based on that instead of the straight down curve it took. Even though she cited their goals etc as the reason for not wanting to see him again, she still scored him high proving that she liked him, personality and looks, overall. So if looks earned him high scores and personality scored him high scores then the touching (during which she was so physically uncomfortable) is the only anomaly. The timing (high before touching, low during touching, immediately higher again right after no touching) seems like more than just coincidence.
None of this is fact of course. No one can now what was going through her head except her but it is a reasonable conclusion to draw if you look at the data objectively (including the fact that she didn't feel safe asserting herself and telling him she's uncomfortable and what that says about her personality as well as what it says about his that he completely missed all the social cues signaling her discomfort). I could go on as I have a huge interest in and am studying human behavior so stuff like this where you get to analyze it is super interesting to me but this is already too long for a yt comment section. If you (still) think I'm wrong though, I would love to hear a deeper breakdown of exactly why you feel that way.
Uh don’t ask for consent that’s just weird , you’ll know when a girl wants physical tough trust me, He was trying way to hard that’s it.
@@anthonyolmos9176 clearly not considering the video lol
I think the coolest thing was being able to see how over time their feelings began to change. the scoring definitely helped for us to follow along!
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he crossed sooo many boundaries i could not
real 😭
I mean your stuck there for 12 Hours.
I like how he says he’s not gonna tell her to kiss him and then he goes ahead and does it anyway
Staff asked him to ask that, be more engaging, and to bring up childhood trauma. Then they put it all in this one shortened video. Watch the UNCUT version, different vibes, he was able to carry the conversation for 12 hours. Unbelievable
@@annamckay6537 was the uncut version 12 hours long lol
@@sophiel9533 12 hours is long. But I felt the need to bring awareness and the truth. This shortened version basically set him up for failure for future dates. People take this for face value, when in reality hes a good kid, handsome, and has good heart.
@@annamckay6537 exactly, he's growing
@@annamckay6537 do you know him just curious how you found this out
He seems emotionally immature and I think her hunch about him not wanting/being able to handle a serious relationship was accurate. I do feel bad for him and hope he gives therapy a shot one day. As for her, I think she handled this very well despite clearly not wanting to be there after the first few hours lmao. She remained sweet even through her obvious discomfort and that takes a lot.
I feel like this was a silly challenge for her to try. she seems hella boring and closed off. That's not a bad thing but i think he did the best he could to try and not be bored for 12 hours lol. I was bored just watching 😂
Agreed
@@yazzy_wazzy1 I agreee w that
@@yazzy_wazzy1 tbh i just felt like she wasnt compatible w him not boring, probably would be more open w someone else
@@yazzy_wazzy1 I definitely feel like she seemed boring because she didn’t really like him. If you enjoy someone as a person you’ll want to open up more of your personality to them.
He most definitely does have a foot femish, literally.. shared socks, talked about feet, had her give him a foot massage, and showed her his toes-
femish?
@@supernathanjr I think youtube will delete the comment if you say the real thing.
@@hihungryimdad Okay
@Adam Wahal i did that on purpose bc i assumed itd get auto deleted.
So who cares
Anyone else just thought from the start that he was very touchy?
Yeah. Me too
I really like that the narrator said to ask permission before physically touching. He could tell she was uncomfortable
Definitely. I'm glad he said it.
do you have the time stamp?
@@nightkore6756 9:18
I agree but not that he listened
Girl she was just nervous and not into him. But she was definitely not uncomfortable.
i feel like this was would be super interesting to do with an already married couple. i’d love to try this out with my husband
I was literally just thinking this
I hope they can notice this comment, i want to watch that.
We already saw it in "YOU" apparently it works.
Omg I would love to do this with my husband too. I feel like it would low key turn into a therapy session.
Yes commenting for the algorithm
i’ve felt exactly like she’s felt before on a first date so this is bringing up feelings i didn’t expect to feel lmao
She’s light years ahead of this kid .
What's with the feet bro? Why is everyone bothered about the feet? Why to hide it? Please explain it to me.
@@RohitPatil-pz6bn Feet are weird.
@@gts2550 Why though the question is why not you to repeat what you think again
@deskmat9874 Whyy are you showing a person you just met your feet. Who's first thought is that and asking them to massage your feet?
You can have as many kinks as yall want but that's weird, plain and simple
@@SparexoMe dont kink shame me
That woman is gorgeous and her personality is iconic.
She’s like from a movie
@@daniellephillips638 Manic Pixie Dream Girl, (falsely, as far as I saw) providing him with her slightly weird therapy-urge ....
Women are so superficial and easy to use words like „iconic“ to label someone that seems like they have the personality of a potato plant
@@manfredschmalbach9023 everyone needs it
@@sayJessg Of course, most do need it even essentially before You could start thinking remotely about discussing anything along any form of relationship. BUT, and that is a BUT in capitals: With therapy it is the exact same like with stopping to drink or stopping to do drugs - You can only do it on Your own for Your own. Once You do it to make Your "partner" stop nagging and menacing about it, it will become a failure of some sort and will be mostly couterproductive within the "partnership" because none of both will achieve what they aimed for with a therapy on the other one's behalf.
I AM SO HAPPY THAT YOU SAID FOR THEM TO ASK PERMISSION BEFORE TOUCHING!!! When i was younger I used to be the type of person who didn't know how to tell people to stop touching me if I was uncomfortable and would just laugh it off
They are both adults. If they can't say please don't touch me like that, they don't need to be leaving the house to begin with.
I mean, I'd be happier if it didn't seem like they only just thought of basic rules like that halfway through it.
@@JoshinDallas it doesn't matter if they're adults or not, just don't touch people without their permission that's it!
THEY ARE IN A BOX TOGETHER FOR 12 HOURS! The touching wasn’t even bad and if your that insecure, then challenge yourself to grow and expand rather than live with it and bitch about being *iNsEcUrE*
@@JoshinDallas if you can't touch strangers without their permission, don't leave the house
This was a little painful to watch. That being said, please make more of these
HAHA
they should make one w divorced couples
LMFAOOOOO 😹
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Agreed lmaoooo
This the type of guy to say “where my hug at”
Ick 🤮
oh boy
@@molly_xqpI can’t pin down why it’s so irks
oh my🤦♀🤦♀
LOL
He has sooooo much growing to do and it’s obvious he could benefit from deeper connections. This might just be his first real mental connection, that’s why he was emotionally attached by the end.
I would LOVE to be both of their friends. Hers for a mature and genuine connection, his for lighthearted fun.
The typical dude response about therapy killed me, I hate that it has such a bad stigma. He would love it.
I agree. He's not at a place in life where he should be looking to going into a relationship at all. Let alone a serious one. The woman was mature and I hope he gets to see from that example and tries to pave his way towards a better life. Mentally, physically, morally and spiritually.
@@saad6948 i hope she isn't traumatized from that experience cause she seems like a human with a fragile psych
That is so true.
are you his therapist, cuz you are on point
He definitely made her uncomfortable and it's obvious before even admitting himself that he lacks self-awareness. Whenever she brought up therapy as a way to help him understand his own personal issues he took it like an insult and brushed it off like he didn't need it. Also when she clearly stated she dislikes anything to do with feet he kept trying to push and stay on the topic. I don't blame her for lowering her rating of him each time.
well this was extremely edited i kind of skimmed through the 12 hour unedited and it definitely portrays them both differently this was 20 minutes of 12 hours. Her score even went back up near the end.
I haven't watched the video and seeing the comments it looks like the dude was a real dk. But if you think it's OK to tell people you barely know how "therapy would help them" don't be surprised if they take it as an insult.
It's pretty dismissive when you're trying to open up about your problems and how you're working on them and someone just yells "TERAPHY". I know it's with good intentions but it's a conversation stopper there
@@marchingclocks It's a conversation stopped for people who aren't qualified to give you life advice to recommend you to people who are qualified to give you life advice? Why do ppl think they're entitiled to trauma dump on people and get mad when people tell them to do it to somebody who actually wants to hear it. These people don't even know eachother. Why would she want to listen to his personal issues???
@@queerlibtardhippie9357 I mean I haven't watch the whole thing but if we are talking about this edit two sentences about his feelings don't count as trauma dumping for me...
I admire how brave some folks are. I could never date on camera, it'd be so embarrasing. But, it's not like I'm dating off camera so I'm not supposed to judge
That's okay Luffy, you have more important things to take care of right now!
They are being paid dude lol
Same !
you have been dating boa off camera?
@@azzicarl Heck no!
I'd rather date Nami *^_^*
But ~shhh~ don't tell her!
I think it'd be fun if you gave them activities to distract themselves from the awkwardness of a first, long date. Usually, when you meet someone you don't have to be talking the whole time. You can enjoy each other company while you listen to music, dance, walk, play board games, etc. Maybe that could help to make it feel like a more casual encounter and less like a trap
Actually, I like the fact that it's "a trap" with no distractions whatsoever. I would love to be in here.
There is a format in the German version where 2 strangers are locked in a slightly larger box for 100 hours with date challenges and at the end they have to decide whether they are in a relationship or never see each other again
@@Carti07 what's the name of it? I'm so curious right know about it
@@gabriela5865 100h Date in der Box from Mike Vallas
you would ruin the whole point ,its supposed to be hard , you calling it awkward means you have intimacy issues
Proud of her for not feeling pressured to do anything just bc there was a camera.
You can see her physically recoil from him almost every time he invites himself into her space.
You see her legs crossed and her leaning further into the corner while he spreads his legs, and at multiple points his entire body, more into her space. His lack of noticing is really telling.
nah he knows exactly what he's doing. But he is being just lowkey enough about it, so its hard to call out. Like the sexual questions, pushing physical boundaries further and further while pretending like it's casual/normal, the uncomfortable trauma dumping - literally this man mirrors the behavior of so many creepy dudes i've met, so closely
U should prolly watch the full 12 cuz some ppl did and they’re on his side.
@@KEML1256 this!
@@KEML1256 fr
Are you cringe? What is talkig for
the way he says “she’s not like most girls i talk to” after having a the most surface level conversation about emotions you can have
LOL
They didn’t show the whole convo, they probably talked about deeper things that were maybe too personal to keep in the final video
Guys a raised to hide that stuff
LMAO
Men☕️
It takes alot of courage for random strangers to be open with each other, kudos to them FOR REALS
As fun and brutal as this is, I would love to see this with seasoned couples. Like a really elderly pair, or newlyweds would be interesting.
yessss
I’d be scared for the backs of the elderly people tough. So maybe a bigger box? 😂
Viola Fehring they can have rocking chairs in there or something 😂
@@vivigoesusa maybe get them a chair or smth 😭😭
Omg newlyweds would be interested 😂
as a pale person, i love when people compare me to raw chicken on a date, it really sets the mood, thanks kwan
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This guy is creepy.
@@mr.perfect2852 No he isnt
@@mr.perfect2852 He's not creepy at all lol. If you're talking about the sex talk, that was a very small amount of what they actually talked about. The way this video was edited makes it seem like that was a major topic, but it was not.
Right like that's an insult 😭
How does homeboy not realize she’s mad uncomfortable and if he does realize why is he continuing on
It’s his way of getting comfortable they really don’t realize until you let them know or someone addresses it but even then it’s hard to stop because it’s them being them🫡
@@triin2510 he should have figured that out by now he can restrain himself he’s not an animal
@@goatvxx uh…yeah, yeah he is. We’re human. That’s why we, as humans, react to situations like this in the ways he is.
@@devildogs1147 bruh what
@@goatvxx as a touchy person the fist thing I look for in an awkward situation is touch, even to comfort the other person, I really relate to him in that aspect and I’ve had situations where I didn’t realise the other person was into it. Hence why the produce said to ask for permission which he respected it’s not like he was purposely trying to make her feel uncomfortable infact he was doing the opposite. Different people different coping mechanisms.
that guy is a real one for telling him to ask permission before making any phisical contact
didnt help though and was way too late
i hope people understand how long 12hrs is, I would have slept for like an hour in between
We filmed another group that you’ll see next week. They do indeed take a nap.
@@cut ahh my type of people, hopefully they didn't sleep because they were too awk to speak
Lmao same
I suffer from insomnia...I have had 36 hours of no sleep.
@@cut did they cuddle?
Love that the Cut producer/director pointed out that they need to ask permission before touching each other! The way he was touching her around 8:50 would've made me feel insanely uncomfortable.
right. i’m glad they said something
SHIT SO DUMB if she had a problem with it she could have said something.
imho 6 hours is too late :/ the bar is so low but we should lift it a little and expect better from "dating experiment" producers. Yes he's responsible for his actions - but he felt able to do that on camera because those boundaries + expectations weren't made clear in the beginning (as far as we know).
I died laughing at this part🤣🤣🤣
@@tonyflamingosucks6590 for sure, idk what was stated to participants beforehand but clearly some rules need to be clarified - that includes asking consent, checking in regularly and always holding the expectation that someone might say no or change their mind about something. these are the rules set in adult s*xual spaces/events so why not in dating experiments too? hope that makes sense
Dude was being a little too touchy feely and his date was visibly uncomfortable. I’m glad something was said about it.
RIGHTTTTT HE KEPT PULLING HER WEIRDLY I WAS LIKE BROO.?
@@imnotsure4864 LEGIT
@@imnotsure4864 different ways of coping he’s clearly more touchy but none the less good on the producer
In the Uncut version they told him to be more touchy and stuff
In the uncut version the directors told him to be more touchy, and they also cut out every other part, where they would be having normal conversations.
this was the saddest video I’ve ever seen. and that’s crazy to say. just progressively watching the girl learn who this guy is and the guy learn his own personal bad traits about himself was so sad. especially since he even recognized he always sees the bad in other people and now he was just showing the bad to her. just a rough time
Suggestion for the next one:
- make the box bigger, so that the people can stand and stretch, add cushions and blankets for comfort or add chairs
- establish consent and boundary rules on from the beginning (interfere if they get ignored)
- give some additional tools to get to know each other (like a schooloflife game or smth)
- for one hour, let them have a bluetooth speaker to show each other their favorite music and allow them to relax a bit
- have water bottles in the box
Other than that I would be happy to see another one of these!
the whole fun of the game it is closed in, and they have to connect, and that removes some aspects of that
Yeah I totally agree I personally think they should give them more stuff to do like board games bc if there’s nothing to do you’re gonna get tired of the person pretty quick lmao
Thank youuuuu!!!!!
Idk about all that. I agree with 1, 2, and water. But adding a bunch of stuff like technology takes away from the person experience of developing a connection by pretty much the push for conversation.
You are NOT the director lil bro 😭🙏🏽🙏🏽
It’s brutal that the space isn’t big enough to stand up in or have any cushions. This is torture in a different context.
Els it wouldn’t be called trapped in a box, it would be called trapped in a room
That’s how Jail felt like for one night except I did get a cushion. 🥲
I know I would’ve had leg cramps after an hour bleh
@@saskialolla4621 then call it trapped in a effing room
She could’ve not signed for this or just left?💀💀💀
The way the guy kept asking her sexual questions like "at what point do you sleep with someone" and "am I the type of person you'd sleep with"... possibly hinting that he wants to and she was clearly uninterested it was so cringe
ikr, and was wondering if sex is the only thing on his mind
He was showing his emotional immaturity at this point. Cringe.
It’s a 12 hour date. Relax cupcake.
@@BRlGADE_KINGPIN when was i not relaxed...just stating it was cringe because it was😁
I mean it could the editors doing that. Haven't check the full 12hours though
Its a weird and uncomfortable experiment. But they both really did everything that was asked of them. Kudos yo both of them.
thats the whoel point
It’s funny how I started off meh about the girl, and grew to admire her within this video. I’m so impressed with her boundaries, and how even though he tried to push them in the slightest way, she still did not give in. Those are healthy boundaries.
Yeah she seemed so nice. And beautiful as well.
You are impressed with her boundaries? Thats one of the lamest comments I ve ever read…
What
Might as well salute her for breathing
@@stipebokarica8783 lmao why u so mad about boundaries
she’s mad brave for wearing jeans- i would have worn sweats lmao
Ligma
Or like leggings and a dress that's so comfy its practically a nightgown
Pretty sure they don't know what video their going to be in sometimes.. Its a suprise when they get there.
@@tannershanksftw im, pretty sure if their spending 12 hours in a box they've been told beforehand
@@tannershanksftw they didn't know what vid they would be in? What u think random people show up on set not knowing what they will do for 12 hours?
Maybe you guys should do check-ins every few hours to see if they still want to continue the date OR at the start, give them like 20 minutes to see if they like them on first impressions enough to continue with the full 12 hours - and if not, change the pairing
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@@sdrawkcabmiay Well she clearly was not attracted to him right off the jump, so they need at at the very LEAST make sure they are attracted to each other because that is a baseline you need. otherwise youll get a cringey video like this where they feel at a 5/10 most of the video. its not cute to watch.
I think it would be better with new couples or at least recent hook-ups. I think people like the strangers-to-lovers troupe but it's just not realistic.
In an experiment you always have the option to opt out of it at any time if they felt uncomfortable or weird
@@katieanne4705 technically yes, but in reality a lot of people would feel pressured to stay and go along with what's happening. If you're stuck with someone in a box - especially with someone who takes up a lot of space emotionally - you're more likely to try and make sure you don't ruin the "vibe". There should have been more check ins and clear agreed boundaries from the beginning, with a safe environment in which it feels very easy to say no.
She gave him more of a chance than he deserved. He was obnoxious. i would hate to be stuck anywhere with him for 5 minutes.
xD thats way too harsh , hes pretty cool
@@AXharoth lowkey idkw everyone hating on this guy, yes he is crossing boundaries, but maybe when he was younger he was shy and was only tryna learn from his mistakes. Did he take it too far? Yes, but that is part of the learning process, he is still growing as he described himself
@@austinkrause5421 people hating for how he behaved idk what you dotn understand
@@AXharoth I don't know what about his behaviour activates so much hate in them. I can understand why they don't like the things he was doing, but to say they HATE how he was acting is too far bruh, spare the guy some mercy
As a general rule, if you’re ever stuck in a box for 12 hours on a blind date and you’re showing her your fucked up toe only 2 hours in… the date is not going well.
“I dont have a foot fetnish”
Be so fr bro.. 😔
Sounds like you know from experience....
I just cackled laughing at your comment lmao. I was cringing at his lack of self-awareness, like STOP WITH THE FEET lol
Or well!
Bro I would do that lol just for the meme. I know people who would find that hilarious
can we please talk about „consent“ because he really needs to understand what this means. Also asking for small things like „ can I lay my head on you?“. You can’t just do it without asking, especially if you know the person for such a short time. I am so greatful that CUT sat him a boundary there and helped her out of more uncomfortable situations
But he asked if he could lay his head on her before he did? Whats ur point
@@stantonclark just after the team of CUT told him to do so. Look at minute 7.10. Aditionally, from the start on, he is really close to her, you can see that she feels uncomfortable.
CUT staff were the ones to tell him to be more physical during one of the bathroom breaks. The unCUT version really shows him as a different guy.
@@tamaraheck7652 actually 7:10 makes sense. Idk maybe he was just trying to ease the awkwardness
@@tamaraheck7652 Minute 7:10 translated into the actual uncut version is at a bit more than 6 entire hours. He's a very physical person, and considering she didn't say anything about it, get off his dick about it. Or, actually watch the full version.
This definitely will not work out lmao. And she is absolutely right, he NEEDS therapy and he NEEDS to open and accept being uncomfortable and vulnerable with everything about himself. Also, I laugh and smile at serious things as a coping mechanism when I am feeling awkward, anxious, or vulnerable aswell.
He doesn’t need anything, people cope in different ways
Sounds like you need therapy too!
yea people who refuse therapy or say "i do self therapy" is a red flag for me 😶
@Jay Holt yeah but OTHER MEN are the ones criticizing and belittling them
Men are reserved because anything they say can and will be used against them.
crazy how hes being so touchy and then gives her a 4, she seems like a great girl
It’s not. They are just two different people, he might like someone who is more comfortable, wild and extroverted & she might like more calm,self aware people
i really like this concept but i do think they should ask them every hour if they want to continue with the date or not because 12 hours is a really long time. i also think that they should find people who are similar to each other and who will actually click throughout that amount of time. :)
nah, the whole point is to have people see how things evolve over a long period of time. if they had the option, people would just bail when it gets quiet or awkward
they kinda did if u watch the full version, blaine checks in on them every half hour and a couple times he asked if she wanted to leave the box
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@@sammie1766 you watched the whole 12 hour video?!?
@@flashbackmary9050 yes i did lmao
She gives me Dakota Johnson vibes, she's so calm, inteligent and cool, and she definitely looks like her 💕💕
I thought so too
Omgg yes
Omg I had the same thought
I was searching for this comment bro. Like I was thinking that so hard seriously she’s so beautiful
It's the bangs.... thats pretty much it
Honestly this date was uncomfortable but this video concept was great. We definitely need more of these
I would binge watch more of these. It’s always interesting to see how humans connect (or don’t)
LOVE the person who told them to ask for consent before touching after he pulled her by her ankles. Huge respect
At what minute???
@@alyasabila9879 9:15
The same person who told them not to speak minutes before? If someone I barely knew kept inching their feet toward my gennys, I'd move them too.
8:46 maybe look at the girl giving sigs to that guy to pull her legs💀 she literally told him to do it
@@shwinkararafat6767 yeah because letting your feet slip from the tight hold you have them in is definitely signaling someone to grab them. she still looks uncomfortable to me
This is horrifying 😀 not sure why it took the producers that long to realize she was uncomfortable. They should've set boundaries from the very start
You have to watch the uncut to understand apparently
i cringed so hard when he put his head on her lap. yikes!!!!!
@@notreubensandwich me too
I don’t think they’re in the room they come back and check periodically
@@notreubensandwich yeah lmao i wonder why she didnt want to date him
felt like he wanted a physical relationship out of dates before an emotional one and she's the opposite. her energy was very calming and i'd love to spend 12 hours in a box with someone like her!!
Hell nah, i would spent 12 hours with HIM
wtf do you mean emotional and physical
@@omeganeox getting down and deep physically vs getting down and deep in the literal sense
@@violetytbby yeah and both works?
Well I mean when a man first meets a women he will typically want more of a physical relationship before an emotional one.
He got way too comfortable way too fast and she was clearly not into him
I feel so bad for him I feel like he’s never had that deep relationship (as In someone to talk about trauma) and that’s why he bonded to her so fast. She is a trooper obviously uncomfortable but she’s there for the experience
agreed
this 100%
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What does trooper mean?
Nah he just trauma dumped on her and I’ve seen this tactic irl with guys I’ve dated where they just randomly drop trauma on u and ur expected to comfort them and empathize. It’s a tactic used to make them seem more sensitive and for you to excuse their gross behaviour because you sympathize. It’s nasty and my ex used to do this all the time to detract from his disgusting pattern of behaviour with women. It’s like “ oh im a player and I only fuck girls but my daddy left when I was a kid so im a complex broken man who deserves sympathy” go to therapy and leave her alone
she’s def my vibe. mature, introverted, peaceful. she needs a man who has it all together and can give her what she needs mentally and someone who can have deep conversations. doesn’t matter how old people are but maturity is what determines healthy relationships. if they got in a fight he would def be toxic and condescending lol
I also thought that if they continue and be in a relationship with each other and they got on a fight, there is a high possibility that he will eventually gaslight and manipulate her.
@@aude1829 I don't get that impression, she seems solid in what she wants and would stick up for herself
@@aude1829 why are you making up entire scenarios to make someone seem bad
@@inanimatemist8610 i am only hypothetically speaking and based it upon his remark about his traumas (which is not his fault) and being adamant about getting professional help (could help him a lot). I can quite sense his emotional immaturity and i hear and see him trying to overcome it but the thing is that is the starting line that could snowball into gasl1ghting.
This is just a possibility and might not turn into reality depending on how he manage himself. But i believe he can progress to the person he wants to be.
@@aude1829 you don’t know that. i think it’s not good to assume bad things about people (and at least not publicizing it) without knowing for sure…
“I don’t have a foot fetish”
“Switch socks with me for the rest of the episode”
“I would gladly take a foot rub”
Bro chill with the feet💀
Yo 😭😭
FR
that was so gross!
Dude is such a weirdo...
@@smoontiex In the full version she says she's attracted to feet. They just cut out all of her cringe moments to make him look bad.
he was so
comfortable touching her.. like when he pulled her in at the 5 minutes where they stared at each other. red flag
What red flag u have problem with touch u need to meet people it’s sad
@@AngadGrewal-df2tx she was clearly uncomfortable, first time meeting someone shouldn’t be like that
@@AngadGrewal-df2tx touch is not a problem. Touch that people don't want is a problem. Bet she asked the producers to tell him to stop touching after he PULLED her. Don't lie on the lap!
@@msoswag weird to say touching someone is a red flag. Should've worded it better.
I'd love to see her in more of these kind of vidoes she seems like a genuine kind person and I'd love a series where she finds love!
ikk but they don’t usually bring back the same people unless they were apart of something bigger 😫
should she be uncomfortable for another half day in a box tho 🧐
@@alex-eh2rz no they should just pick someone better! maybe just do like an interview first or something idk 😹
Umm a couple of things: 1. This ain't hotel california I'm not saying force the poor girl to do this. She did it once now she she's even more qualified to decide if she wants to do it again or not. 2. She didn't look uncomfortable for the entire 12 hours to me.. I think she discovered a lot about herself as well in that box. 3. Sometimes steppping out of our comfort zones and doing something uncomfortable is the best thing we can do for ourselves, its how we grow! 😬
Watching him just suddenly lie down on her lap, sit super close to her, randomly touch her legs.. it made me so uncomfortable. I only like physical touch from those I love, and I loathe being touched by most people.
I feel like this is a cool idea that could be improved upon if the people had just matched with each other on tinder or another dating app. That way at the outset, you know the people are attracted to each other and have a higher chance of vibing.
Cause these two seem decent enough individually but it was clear right off the bat that they were not into each other
Oh completely! The blind date aspect of this makes it so cringe. She clearly was not attracted to him.
I agree
It could also help if they find people who need less time to make connections. The girl seemed like the type to need lots of time before being comfortable with someone, which didn't work well for this "experiment."
Obviously there's nothing wrong with being more reserved, or needing time to develop friendships/relationships. I think the video would just be a bit more interesting (and both people would have more fun) if they were the same level of openness/ outgoingness.
Thats actually a great idea!
Totally agree! This needs to be a series.
I know I'm a little late, but I loved that experiment. If anyone would actually want to have a straight 12 hour conversation with a stranger, I would be totally down for it.
It's amazing how quickly Khrystle could tell that the guy was not ready for a serius relationship.
It took me years to find that out about my self
It took me years to find that out about my girlfriend. Put her stuff out in the driveway and changed the locks when I finally had recognized it. (She's happily married to the most boring man I met in all my fiftyeight years on earth and is still thankfully loving me for throwing her out of her comfort zone back then, just to let You know how it really went ...) I find it a bit appalling to put a verdict like that on a man who so visibly and tangibly tries to break the icy wall she's hiding behind. I must say I would put that remark in the box of manipulative female not-saying-anything-important-while-still-saying-something-that-should-sound-as-if-it-was remarks ....
Yeah most girls realize of that in a guy immediately
@@manfredschmalbach9023 how? she just assumed from his behavior, and she was right since he kinda confirmed it lmao.
@@onemillionpercent I doubt she's right, and I doubt she even knows what "a serious relationship" means outside of her personal gain, what it means for a man these days for example. One can, as it is common practice, of course go as far as saying "it doesn't matter what that "serious relationship thingy means for him" because it's the female part ending it anyway, (with roundabout 80 percent of divorces filed for by the female part), but that does only show why serious relationships are plummeting the way they are: It wasn't a "relationship" in the first place once she's the one deciding whether he's up to it or not. Something You gotta get going and keep going *_together_* does not work that way, not in the end, and even less in the beginning!
Should seem easily understandable and logic, one would assume .... somehow it obviously isn't, though.
It was so awkward watching her be uncomfortable for those 19 minutes imagine watchin the full 12 hours 😭😭😭
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In the Uncut 12 hour one you could tell they did him dirty as he was a funny dude and they seemed to have a great time in it
Channels like this do that on purpose to get the views. They either make the video very interesting or uncomfortable
Hes not a creep trust me, in the uncut version he and she had a very VERY good bond until the second hour, which was when the producers stepped in and started asking him to be sexual and touchy for "entertainment" which lead to him and her's bond being completely broken because she had no idea he was being pressured into doing so. The man was able to make her laugh and get comfortable with her, and he also asked for consent. But then the producers did him bad again by telling him to be more touchy after his 2nd bathroom break. He did which then they basically framed him because right when he did what they asked him to DO they went up and told him to be comfortable with her boundaries.
Yeah she was not feeling him , she seemed uncomfortable as well. I'm surprised she didn't take alot of bathroom breaks like Kwan did 😂.
I felt really uncomfortable when he pulled her legs during the 5 minute stare. Also throughout he was quite touchy and didn't seem to respect her boundaries and honestly just simply read the room/box. I think if he took time to actually think before he acted he would've noticed her slight discomfort as well.
But nonetheless , it was a learning experience for both of them and I hope they watch over this to make some personal edits in their life xx
This vid gave me the idea of why im not ready for serious relationship. In my 23 i behave like this guy and need to learn more maturity, he's like a mirror of mine and i can see different things from this perspective.
not all instances of dating are a relationship, they say its a leap of faith but I imagine going in feet first instead of head first is helpful
i'd love to see this again with two people who are more compatible
Ngl watched this and I was like damn thats crazy, then I went and watched the full 12 hour version, and honestly they did him dirty af. Honestly they seemed to have a great time, he asked interesting questions, a lot of fun and funny moments, in the end they aren't compatible mainly for the fact they are at different places in life (which is the reason her score went down even though it went back up over the course of the 12 hours). What people don't seem to realize is that you're in there for 12 hours there are only so many questions to ask and so many topics to cover(and the fact that they cut out the parts where they were prompting them to ask more sexual questions to each other or add dares to the games that they played). People in the comments judging this guy kind of harshly should really go check out the full version.
Where do we find the 12 hour version???
@@jomillz548 In the description of the video or pinned comment.!
Thank you that’s what I’ve been saying
This comment needs to be pinned seriously the most important one I’ve seen
thanks for commenting this because I never would've suspected
He said daring you to kiss me would be lame, then later dares her to kiss him hahaha
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This is absolutely not hate and more of sympathy but I really hope Kwan gets a therapist or finds an emotional outlet to vent to because it is obvious that he has so much bottled up and just having basic connections and conversations seemed new and eye opening to him. I hope the best for him :')
kwan is the worse brother his brother is juan and his parents didnt know what to do so hes kwan should have named him conor that's a good name
@@squ15hy18 alr man
very true
Kwan has a couple more issues than most guys, but it's nothing out of the ordinary. Lots of guys have issues like this that are bottled up inside up, it's just that Kwan made himself emotionally vulnerable about them. I guess we all need therapists
In the 12 hours unedited version people are saying he actually kept the conversations going.
I skipped past it and they were giving each other a score of 6 near the end ish.
The GUY has the looks. But literally flirts like a teenager.
Dude pushing 30 man
MadeInTejas 😂😂
The girl is gorgeous too wym
@@DaggerGee the girl doesn't want the guy to think she's easy to get. That's a sign of a matured woman right there.
@@Chuwopington do you think it’s impossible to look good in your late 20s?
They are just such different people. She’s way more mature than him whereas he needs some type of healing from some issues he doesn’t want to talk about. Him being too touchy wasn’t quite right seeing how uncomfortable she was but maybe if it was a different person it wouldn’t have been a big deal. People are different y’all
You're right that they've very different but I don't think thats about maturity. I think she's just a lot more reserved and he finds it a lot easier to become comfortable with someone he's just met. If he was in that box with someone more like him - possibly more extraverted or "touchy feely" it would've gone a lot better. That's not really about maturity. I think her awkwardness reflected really badly on him because him trying to make it less awkward only made him look creepy (although the touching during the staring bit was way too forward I'm not talking about that).
Being introverted does not mean you are more mature bruh
@@Anonymous-xr8hx I agree, she was a poor choice for this experiment imo. Such a reserved person is not who you’d want to spend 12 hours with when you first meet. I think no matter who the guy was she would have struggled with this
@@FoolProof777 That's not a good way to think about reserved or introverted people. Considering introvert & extrovert relationships exist. People like these 2 meet all the time. The conversation just needs to be able to flow. She wasn't withholding information when he asked certain questions. She was open. They were both interesting in their own way.
They got along much better in the video that was in the description. This was doesn’t summarize the relationship they developed. I’m an old woman and I come from a time where chivalry was huge and he was perfectly fine to me. This video just didn’t show it right
He gives me so many red flagssssss
Like?
guess not@@rushabhgothi8880
@@rushabhgothi8880dude his obsession over sex and touching her and feet is not enough for you? You can see the creepiness and uncomfortable feeling just filling her
the foot rub, did u see the look on her face??
@@rushabhgothi8880
What he was cool why judge so much
I feel for this guy, he clearly has a lot of work to do on himself especially with self esteem and with his awareness of other people. Looks like he wants to do that work and improve himself though so respect to him for that. I feel more sorry for her though, huge red flags coming from him and a relationship probably isn't what he should be looking for atm
He should also work on consent cause my guys was a little bit too touchy even the producer had to call him out
He def is still kinda in a hoe faze and still has a lot of stuff to work on and figure out and he’s not ready for a relationship 100% not
@@kaydollar2490 tends to happen when creating a bond with someone for 12 hours. Also, putting your head on someone’s lap isn’t inappropriate at all. Sorry.
@@BRlGADE_KINGPIN I meant more like the part when he grabbed her legs, opened them, pulled her closer to him and continued massaging her knees… but whatever I guess. Also I don’t know about you but I don’t really tend to touch people I’ve met for some hours like that, to each their own though!
@@tonyflamingosucks6590 I don't think the sexual questions was inappropriate. He asked near the start if she was comfortable talking about it and said she was very open about that stuff. It was mainly the bit during the 5 mins staring into each other's eyes. She clearly felt uncomfortable from the get go because she couldn't look him in the eye and he made it worse by moving her legs. Other people think the head in lap stuff was too much but tbh firstly it was probably really uncomfortable in that box. Secondly, if he hadn't shown that level of comfort the date would've been way way more awkward. Imagine two people sitting apart in that box, too awkward to go near each other. I think the main problem was putting an introvert and an extrovert in an enclosed space alone for 12 hours 😂😂.
I watched the 12 hour vid (with breaks and sleeps) so you don't have to. Throughout the time in the box, Kwan learns more about KJ more, understanding her limits and boundaries. In the beginning, Kwan looks like he wanted to impress KJ and yes there were awkward moments between him and KJ. However, as time progresses, they went to talk deep about their lives with each other. Towards the end, they became more comfortable as new friends, rather than sexual partners. This social experiment proves the correlation between the lives of an introvert and extrovert. There were happy, sad, awkward, and important moments within the 12 hours. Don't shame Kwan or KJ! They are both normal, imperfect human beings!
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damn i could never watch the uncut video
I tottaly understand that, however regardless of what they talked about and how deep there conversations where. You should still not touch someone if you don’t fully understand them, especially when you noticed (in this case the woman) being a lot more reserved and shy. I am more shy myself and I don’t like it when men ok dated invade my sort of boundary space when I don’t know them that well yet. He should have seen the signs and respected them a bit more. Possibly , yes see a therapist and learn to control yourself. Even if you do have long talks it’s important to set boundaries from the begging.
The only valid comment here, I seriously doubt he had some bad intentions, dude is just very misinformed
@@neilk I am sure he didn’t have bad intentions. However how would you feel if someone started touching you? And you where really not attracted to them for example ?
This is so uncomfortable. Please make more.
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Nico!
Lol I agree this was the best I almost puked 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
He can't read her body motions AT ALL. She is clearly uncomfortable but he can't tell.
I loved that she didnt hesitate to call out his red flags haha
She is so much like Dakota Johnson. Even her voice sounds like her.
i was looking for this comment !!
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This just feels so authentic. I loved the format and the execution. I don't watch reality shows but I would watch something like this.
8:50 onward made me shiver jfc
Good for them for making it through. I had a 4 hour flight where I pretended to fall asleep for 3.5 hours after 30 minutes of talking to the person sitting next to me.
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Ugh that would annoy me! That’s prime movie watching time wasted having to pretend to sleep 😂
This is relatable
I like her she seems mature smart and calm, level headed and emotionally intelligent. Also her decision in the end speaks volumes about him and how u can be hot but if your personality is immature and invasive like his then u will stop being attractive in many people’s eyes.
Please do this again I loved this concept CUT
We have another episode coming out next week!
@@cut hopefully the dude is less creepy 💀