I tend not to believe men saying “one day she just left without explanation after 10 years”. There surely was some sh*t going on for a long time, especially considering the fact the girl refused to even talk to him during the divorce. But the amount of contemplation he undertook is inspiring. Wishing the best for all the parties involved. And thanks for the host. The channel is really promising!
Women in those situations didn’t discuss it with their partner; they reserved those conversations for other people. So while they may have been vocal about how they felt before deciding to end the marriage, it was with the wrong people. And their partner ends up blindsided
There will always be problems in a relationship, but are you supposed to take every disagreement, every argument, every complaint from your partner as a sign that they will leave? Imagine the paranoia one must live with to be constantly afraid that they will just leave. This paranoia is what causes people to be avoidant and unable to form deep connections with others. If communication fails, it's often the fault of two people. Often it's not enough to say, 'I told him many many times, he should've known better!'
Not always. Some women are cold blooded like some men can be. She could have kept him for years for convenience but when she found a better (in her mind) alternative, she left. Most people leave when they already have someone else. He may well have no clue about this.
I’ve never been married but I’ve always wanted that since I was little. These episodes are both, frightening and fascinating. Thank you both, for sharing real life, real conversation.
Marriage is a beautiful thing. Having and building on a strong foundation is priceless. The basis such as respect honesty compassion communication and faith is what to definitely look for in a life long partner. All the best to you 🤲🏼🤲🏼❤️❤️🤲🏼🤲🏼
Thank you for hosting Samir and sharing some of the male aspects about separation. It was an intriguing episode to watch. It portrays a journey of maturation, self discovery, and a wholesome retrospect. Well done on both sides.
I am 34 min into this podcast and Justin as a woman this was an amazing episode to hear a guys perspective... This is bang on!! And i see the difference between men and women when it comes to their friendships. When me and ex broke up my girlfriends literally came and carried me and took care of me and legit nursed me to health whereas my ex was partying drinking. Eventually he called me to try and get back with me but at thatvpoint i had healed ...he didn't
'Closure is not what people think it is'. We know what kind of person you are Samir. You are deliberate, you are good with words, you are a poetic, charismatic, philosopher who has it all figured out, but has not figured out why the woman he's been with for so many years, up and left. Ultimately, people don't just up and leave and ask for no contact. And I can guarantee you, she is also not in contact with her sister, your so called ex sister in law whom you have been so close with. The first man's perspective and it shows why the male loneliness is so rampant. Zero insight, zero empathy, zero emotions and pure selfishness.
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable Samir. Working on yourself after such trauma is the best decision you can make. Healing is a journey and it gets better with time. There is always something to learn from the failed relationship for both people that were in the marriage. Justin, you are healing so many people with your podcast!!
I got married at 20. My partner got way too comfortable, he is emotionally immature and never put in effort. I over compensated for over 21 years with the idiotic mindset that this person will change because one day they will see my value and all the investments I've made. Lost all those years. He remains the same man as I married over 21 years and can't find a relationship after me. Now I am dealing with worst men in their 50s who have so many insecurities they self sabotage a healthy relationship. Its a tragic disappointment.
What this sounds like is you married someone you knew you didn’t want to be married to, and then blamed him for being who he was and not someone else, for two decades
This is such an important subject to address. What do we do as individuals went our support network is taken away from us? How do we cope and how do we rise to the challenge? Two fundamental questions we must all think about men AND women. Thank you to Samir for being so open and honest
People need to know that cultures like Samir who grew up entitled so spare me the B.s. close to sister in law her sister! In what Islamic culture is that true??
You are right, being “very close” to sister in laws and “deeply caring about them” is definitely not a normal interaction in his culture. Notice how he didn’t say such a thing about his ex wife but can say about his ex sister in laws
I divorce during the pandemic too. Listen to this it's like going through a divorce again. It's not easy, but I am glad I did and it allowed me to be in a much much better place
I dont believe this guy!! She just left...yeah right😂 He seems so performative: face my demon: plz elaborate. There's no help for divorced male: help for what? Therapy? Accessible to all, a batter shelter? Where's the close relationship with YOUR siblings, family....i cant continue after 14min in Boy Bye
We should have movement that advocates for (believe men). When men talk about their problems it's not always a relief but going back to that dark whole we just scaped.
Some people idolize marriage so much that the relationship suffers over it. But society expects couples to eventually get married…no wonder divorce rates are so high
I tend not to believe men saying “one day she just left without explanation after 10 years”. There surely was some sh*t going on for a long time, especially considering the fact the girl refused to even talk to him during the divorce. But the amount of contemplation he undertook is inspiring. Wishing the best for all the parties involved. And thanks for the host. The channel is really promising!
Women in those situations didn’t discuss it with their partner; they reserved those conversations for other people. So while they may have been vocal about how they felt before deciding to end the marriage, it was with the wrong people. And their partner ends up blindsided
There will always be problems in a relationship, but are you supposed to take every disagreement, every argument, every complaint from your partner as a sign that they will leave? Imagine the paranoia one must live with to be constantly afraid that they will just leave. This paranoia is what causes people to be avoidant and unable to form deep connections with others. If communication fails, it's often the fault of two people. Often it's not enough to say, 'I told him many many times, he should've known better!'
Not always. Some women are cold blooded like some men can be. She could have kept him for years for convenience but when she found a better (in her mind) alternative, she left. Most people leave when they already have someone else.
He may well have no clue about this.
@@easlernthey might stop after years of being told they're overreacting and being ignored.
@@matinaki1644true, women monkey branch, it’s called hypergamy
I’ve never been married but I’ve always wanted that since I was little. These episodes are both, frightening and fascinating. Thank you both, for sharing real life, real conversation.
Stop wanting to be married. Enjoy your freedom and mental peace.
Marriage is a beautiful thing. Having and building on a strong foundation is priceless. The basis such as respect honesty compassion communication and faith is what to definitely look for in a life long partner. All the best to you 🤲🏼🤲🏼❤️❤️🤲🏼🤲🏼
Thank you for hosting Samir and sharing some of the male aspects about separation. It was an intriguing episode to watch. It portrays a journey of maturation, self discovery, and a wholesome retrospect. Well done on both sides.
This is excellent. Please bring more male guests on the show. I am sure they would love this space. . .
I am 34 min into this podcast and Justin as a woman this was an amazing episode to hear a guys perspective... This is bang on!! And i see the difference between men and women when it comes to their friendships. When me and ex broke up my girlfriends literally came and carried me and took care of me and legit nursed me to health whereas my ex was partying drinking. Eventually he called me to try and get back with me but at thatvpoint i had healed ...he didn't
You go girl 🤣
I commend Samir for the work he continues to do to become a better man. Wishing him well in his new love journey
'Closure is not what people think it is'. We know what kind of person you are Samir. You are deliberate, you are good with words, you are a poetic, charismatic, philosopher who has it all figured out, but has not figured out why the woman he's been with for so many years, up and left. Ultimately, people don't just up and leave and ask for no contact. And I can guarantee you, she is also not in contact with her sister, your so called ex sister in law whom you have been so close with. The first man's perspective and it shows why the male loneliness is so rampant. Zero insight, zero empathy, zero emotions and pure selfishness.
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable Samir. Working on yourself after such trauma is the best decision you can make. Healing is a journey and it gets better with time. There is always something to learn from the failed relationship for both people that were in the marriage. Justin, you are healing so many people with your podcast!!
Agreed! I can’t imagine. Same situation. When my ex husband left me. It was a blessing.
I got married at 20. My partner got way too comfortable, he is emotionally immature and never put in effort. I over compensated for over 21 years with the idiotic mindset that this person will change because one day they will see my value and all the investments I've made. Lost all those years. He remains the same man as I married over 21 years and can't find a relationship after me. Now I am dealing with worst men in their 50s who have so many insecurities they self sabotage a healthy relationship. Its a tragic disappointment.
What this sounds like is you married someone you knew you didn’t want to be married to, and then blamed him for being who he was and not someone else, for two decades
@Sandunesea is there a reason you’re taking these comments so personally?
@ arguing on the internet will not resolve your daddy issues
42 mins in and it’s just me me me with this guy. And money. No wonder she left
He is relating HIS story, he is not saying anything negative about her... he is talking about his experience.... 😮
This is such an important subject to address. What do we do as individuals went our support network is taken away from us? How do we cope and how do we rise to the challenge? Two fundamental questions we must all think about men AND women. Thank you to Samir for being so open and honest
People need to know that cultures like Samir who grew up entitled so spare me the B.s. close to sister in law her sister! In what Islamic culture is that true??
You are right, being “very close” to sister in laws and “deeply caring about them” is definitely not a normal interaction in his culture. Notice how he didn’t say such a thing about his ex wife but can say about his ex sister in laws
45:22 😂😂 That was funny and sad at the same time. Poor guy
I divorce during the pandemic too. Listen to this it's like going through a divorce again. It's not easy, but I am glad I did and it allowed me to be in a much much better place
I dont believe this guy!! She just left...yeah right😂 He seems so performative: face my demon: plz elaborate. There's no help for divorced male: help for what? Therapy? Accessible to all, a batter shelter? Where's the close relationship with YOUR siblings, family....i cant continue after 14min in Boy Bye
We should have movement that advocates for (believe men). When men talk about their problems it's not always a relief but going back to that dark whole we just scaped.
I hope and pray that the brother found the red pill, otherwise he will go on trying to figure out what happened to him 😢
It sounds like they were happy until they got married. I don’t think they made any mistakes except tying the knot
Some people idolize marriage so much that the relationship suffers over it. But society expects couples to eventually get married…no wonder divorce rates are so high