Here's a tip to everyone out there. If your spouse makes false claims against you, especially if it included inappropriate claims of child abuse, never ever trust them again and try your best to keep them out of your life forever.
@@andrewl1024 His lawyer was with him when he met up with Ashley to get his child for visitation and that’s when Ashley said “let’s try again.” And he stupidly said “Okay!” His lawyer said she kept warning him “don’t go with her. She’s not telling you the truth. You’re going to regret this. Don’t do this.” And he said “I know but I’m going with her.” And that’s when he sealed his fate.
Even if they were the same age, it’s usually a mistake to get married after knowing each other only two weeks. Sometimes it works, but it usually a good idea to know each other longer so you know each other’s interest, personalities, idiosyncrasies, etc.
I met my wife from a blind date off the computer, our wedding was 3 weeks ,to the day ,after we met ,that was over 20 years ago ,were still happily married, we are also the same age ,sometimes only knowing someone a short time & marrying them ,works out
I'm 76 and I only know of one couple during my lifetime that this has worked our for...my sister and her 50+ year husband. For most it is a short road with long consequences.
@@sharonhoyt2133 *Bond in haste, repent at leisure* - not even all relationships with years-long cohabitation work out (specimen: myself ). *Kudos and congratulations to your sister and brother-in-law* for working it out over such a long time, *and to you and your family,* because he must somehow felt and feel welcome in your environment to have wanted to stay (our marriage succumbed to in-law barrages ;-) ). You all have done something profoundly right, in my opinion!
@@marlenedeblasio2881More like she didn't want to be forced to hand her little girl over to a violent psychopathic stalker. If she hadn't stopped him and he went on to hurt the child then people would be clucking about how she didn't do enough to keep him away. She lived in legitimate fear of his rage and manipulation.
I was itching for my nightly fix of a doctor not diagnosing anybody, but only speculating on what could be happening in a situation like that. Sending love from the UK 😅
@@kevinhornbuckle so your claim is that Dr. Grande is deceiving us all. I respectfully disagree. He is presenting his take on situations, based on the facts that he gathers. I personally have no problem with that, for it is something I do often. Dr. Grande doesn’t deign to claim that he is giving official diagnoses, because as you’ve mentioned, he hasn’t examined the people involved.
_An old man who attempts to re-live his youth by becoming romantically involved with a young woman will soon realize that such a relationship will only remind him all the more so that he is an old man. -- A young woman who attempts to bring a father figure into her life by becoming romantically involved with an old man will soon realize that such a relationship can become stifling for a young woman. -- But such was the case of Mr. Doug and Ashley Benefield; two people who were a match made several feet below heaven, in...The Twilight Zone._
go ahead and post the research papers, stats, etc on that. meanwhile, head on over to Dumaguete, PI and lambaste the hordes of age-gap couples living peacefully, enjoying their respective lives together.
Marrying someone after only knowing them for two weeks… that was the problem. Once they really got to know each other… they didn’t like each other. The huge age difference was the other problem. They had nothing in common.
Huge age difference is not in itself a problem. My dad was 28 years older than my mom. They had a lot in common. They knew each other for two years before getting married. They were extremely compatible and had many of the same interests.
We are only hearing Ashley's side of events. She has been shown to be a manipulative liar. She claimed poisoning and even sexual abuse, which were all proven to be false.
@@TyWerksthe kindest women I've known were also the most pretty. You know why? Because people make fun of them and assume all sorts of horrible stuff about them just like you're doing now. So they constantly have to fight stereotypes. Yes a few attractive women have done horrendous things but it's rare that they have. Those are just the stories people seem to love. Nothing gets people happier than seeing a pretty girl acting like the very thing they need her to be.
@@LilyFlowers-hh3sc what you said is true but I specifically was talking about the woman I dated and the one mentioned in the video . I didn't generalize all pretty women respectfully
8/7/24 Imo, she put some chemical spray on tea set Doug mailed, reason waited day or two, before going to LE. They can check hair roots for poison/drugs in body.
You left out how he was granted the right to be at the birth and Ashley immediately went to the hospital and demanded her doctor do a c-section so he could not be there. After she lost on the poisoning charges, she accused him of SA of their 2-year-old daughter. The authorities found no evidence of this either. If your husband was SA-ing your baby daughter would you then invite him to reconcile? Also, as a DV survivor, I would NEVER allow myself to be alone with him. I would have made sure my mother never left My side. Also she keeps telling people he punched the family dog and knocked it out yet he explained they were arguing and he swung his arm as he was gesticulating and the dog jumped in between them and that’s how it got hit. I don’t think he was mentally healthy but he was also not the person she said. She was as crazy & angry as he was.
@@Anonymous0996 Dr. Grande left out so many stories about her that were equally insane & awful. They were both horrid. He was most likely a narcissist and she was most likely a borderline. They tend to find each other and pair off quickly and then chaos and violence ensue. She told lie after lie after lie about him -and then she lied to him about wanting to reconcile, invited him to help her pack, and then sent her mother and child away to be alone with her “abuser” in her home after she accused him of abusing her, and SA-ing their child!! But the most significant lie was her describing him coming straight at her and lunging for her, so she shot him straight on and yet he was shot in the side and in the legs. He wasn’t coming at her at all. If anything he was turning away to yet again do her bidding to make her happy and she shot him before he knew what was happening. Dr. Grande also made it sound like it was DB’s fault that the ballet studio failed. The studio was her dream and her idea and he was trying to make it happen for her but she 100% bailed on him and left the whole mess in his lap. She got pregnant and seemed not to understand how awful morning sickness can be and so she decamped to mummy’s house and was sure he was poisoning her. 🙄🤯
@@olderwiser64 I didn’t realize that’s why she accused him of poisoning her. Jeez. Dr. Grande went easy on her. But yes the other facts you stated, I heard in other videos about her. The other videos really highlighted all the lies and false accusations she claimed when trying to get sole custody of their daughter. Their relationship sounds exhausting but still sad someone died, and his other daughter is now an orphan. And their baby’s only living parent is in prison.
I am unmarried not likely to get married as I am now 50+. I have always wanted to get married - but would also like to have a boring life. I couldn’t handle this level of excitement in my life
If you date someone young enough to be your daughter then expect huge problems. Regardless of whether or not one or both of you are mentally ill, you will think she is a moron and she will think you're controlling.
True. Never say never but it has to be someone we really enjoy being with, not someone who goes from joy to horror at the drop of a hat. But good folk exist, I met my partner really late in life and I'm very glad I did. May the best happen for you xxx
My heart breaks for his teenage daughter. She has to live her life without her father and their young daughter has to live her life without her father and a mother. So sad
The teenage daughter also lost her actual mom not long before her father married this woman. She is an orphan. Her tik tok offers more insight on the case but this woman was far too immature to care for a young girl who recently lost her mother. This woman was extremely insecure and lashed out at the girl often while she was still actively grieving her mom.
I think if I was her, I wouldn’t want to live with a father that would kill my mother or be aggressive or mistreat my mother I already saw some of that on a lesser scale with my parents.
@kathywright7395 She is 24. I feel so bad for her. She looks so young because she is a trauma survivor in denial who doesn't understand what is being done to USVet orphans in USA & what they do to men like her Dad who sign up for the Military. This is simply my view as retired Psych Nurse & Foster Mom from her area. This area is HEAVILY Trauma Programmed. I have a ton of stories to back it up. Please pray for humans.🙏
@@carsonatwood81 I'm not sure what you mean. Emerson has been targeted before birth in my USVet/Military Wife/Spy Exwife widow view. US Vet orphans are targeted for life, it appears. My Psych nurse/Foster mom past gives me broader vision of these types of dramas war industry investors appear to spur on.
I think Sr Grande got this one wrong. This woman was a problem from the start. Doug had issues, but Ashley was the one who lied and conned and murdered. She was the one who started the ballet company and abandoned it. She got tired of Doug and cheated and tried to hide his kid from him just so she didn’t have to share custody. Doug wasn’t the problem. She was.
I agree. And don't forget, all her claims about his bad behavior are from HER! She lied so much, why would anyone believe her when she claims he did all this stuff?
Ashley researched Doug for months, prior to “bumping into him”, at an event. Idc how “young” she was. She was calculated, strategic, and very much GROWN. She knew exactly what she wanted and she went to get it. Doug had just lost his wife and was probably extremely vulnerable. Women know how quickly men look to marry, when their wives pass. Was he a saint? No, however Ashley was far from a victim and I’m glad the jury seen thru her fake tears. Good riddance 😎
@@Ebony0420 What tears. She “sobbed” the whole time with no tears and no snot. Despite the repeated sniffling. Even the lip chewing was fake “stress/worry” in my book.
A romance that starts at a Trump fundraiser may make it hard to contextualize & spot those red flags but “I’m always sweet except when I’m shooting something” should have broken through.
Gals. , don’t get pregnant until you know the possible father for at least a year and know that he would be a good father. Guys, don’t get the girl pregnant until you know the girl at least a year in a committed relationship and know that she would be a good mother and that you want to be a father.
I haven't even watched this yet but id like to add to this comment. If and when you do find the right partner for you please be mentally stable and healthy before having children. Enough of us are broken already.😢
He married someone he thought he could control. She married someone she thought she could manipulate into making a mediocre Ballet dancer into a Ballet Company owner. They both failed miserably
She wasn't mediocre. She retired because of a tear. And her idea of a more inclusive ballet company is more than needed in the industry. Doug was the wrong man to start that with because he was a f cone. He was sued for borrowing funds he never returned in the past and had 0 business skills. Surely he did not deserve to die and murder is wrong unless of course you're murdering some terrorist out there, but this wasn't the case. Wish she had just disappeared and never told him where she went. Could have told him she lost the pregnancy and left the country.
This story of Doug beating the dog to unconsciousness and hurting the cat definitely indicate some level of psychopathy. In my country people say that if one hurts the dog, something very bad will happen to this person. Well, this turned to be true. And, yes, I don't feel sorry for him, either!
That is according to Ashley, there is no evidence, no vet records. He explained in a deposition the dog jumped on him and scratched him and he pushed him by accident, like a reaction. Ashley produced all her “evidence” as screenshots, that can be proved with metadata or just her version. So everything she claims has to be taken with caution.
@@lhr8833think about the force needed to "accidentally" push a dog so hard it lands up unconscious. He clearly had anger issues. This doesn't justify her actions but it doesn't make me feel sorry for Doug either. Some people just bring out the worst in each other and then this kind of stuff happens
@@nixm9093 The dog was never unconscious. He never said the dog was unconscious and there is no evidence of that dog being taken to the vet or anything. That is Ashley’s fabrication, as many other things.
@@nixm9093 He had certain issues, but looks like he looked for help and he had accountability of other stuff he did in the house. In the deposition he says what he did and what he didn’t. Way more accountable than Ashley. Another thing Ashley doesn’t mention is that in those moments when he got that angry, she was abusing Eva. She was harassing him to punish Eva for anything. In the Vanity Fair article some friend of hers commented she had a competition with Eva and commented to that friend he had to choose between Eva and her. When looked in context, is still wrong to hit a wall and stuff like that, but I’m sure many parents would agree that if something will take them to that limit is someone abusing their child. Nobody claims he was a saint, he didn’t claim it neither, but things didn’t happen like Ashley portrayed them.
@@lhr8833 I'm not surprised he didn't take the dog to the vet. No one knocks a dog out accidently by merely pushing it. Doug was going to punch her and punch hard! Animals sense things and know when someone is violent. You're talking about a man who put a bullet hole in his kitchen ceiling.
"Discharged a gun into the ceiling of his home during an argument." Because yes, everyone knows that's the alternate use for a firearm. Personal defence and to emphasise your rebuttal points during arguments. Also, they can sometimes be used to turn your TV off if you've lost the remote, but that's not recommended by the manufacturer and may not be covered by your warranty.
I'm not sure that part is as incriminating as it sounds. They both loved guns, and were each known to concealed carry 2 or 3 guns at a time. It seems like no matter where they were in that house, it's likely a gun wouldn't be too far out of reach.
@@RationalGaze216 I get that they were gun enthusiasts. But to have easy access to 3 loaded weapons in a house where a 2 year old lived. Was irresponsible on their part.
@@orianjuarez3074No, that was not the problem. The problem was their hearts were not right with God or each other. Both were selfish and opportunistic.
Well, they manipulated each other. And her manipulative actions were bigger than his. It was a premeditated murder case to me. Both have serious issues such as anger grandiosity or so on. But shooting cannot be justified and resolution.
@@tanikokishimoto1604 One Amazon driver was attacked n killed by 2 dogs in Missouri 😨🥺. As a driver we make delivery at our own risk when dog r presence no matter the size n delivery is ill advised by company. Some dogs i meet r bigger than me 😬!
This is not how I read it. I think she was the manipulative person in the relationship. He was vulnerable and lonely when they met. She read him well and took full advantage of him. He did not stop despite of all the allegations made against him because he knew them to be false and he was trying to protect his daughter from her. Just because a woman gave birth does not make her a mother. He used the whole situation including her child to get what she wanted
Doug’s daughter loved her father very much and truly sought justice for her father. I believe a woman marrying a man with a 30 yr age gap only after 13 days, was looking for a man to impregnate her but didn’t want the constraints of marriage. Once pregnant, she leaves her husband. She got what she needed. She keeps the baby’s father at a distance when he wanted to be with her. She didn’t even tell him the baby was born. Then he finds out she’s dating another man while still married. I don’t buy that he was that bad. Prior judges threw her abuse cases out due to not one scintilla of evidence. She wanted a baby, used a older man, and went about her business. That’s what I got out of watching the trial.
My husband and I watch your videos every morning. We love your dry humor. Dr. Grande should say, at the beginning of his videos "please turn up your volume now" 😀
Yeah grande said Doug should have been in prison. The only illegal thing I heard that he did was negligent discharge of a firearm. Being a jerk is legal.
@@saffylllama5609 theirs actually evidence that he committed multiple crimes against Ashley including putting a tracking device on her car, was caught by the neighbor trying to look in Ashley's windows, was secretly recording their counseling sessions and was trying to rent the house immediately behind Ashley's house while a protection order was in effect 😳
How do you do it, Dr. Grande? Your final thoughts are so creative-so appropriate for the ballet dancer who did not want to tango with her partner-no matter the age. You turned this age-old story of life/relationships into a golden word dance. Thank you as always.
Yeah, I felt that way too. Especially after all the lies she made against him that were proven falsle. I don't see how someone could ever think someone like her ever had good intentions after they accuse you of poisoning people and sexual abuse against your child.
Was it ever found out exactly when she bought an automatic weapon? Did she have one before meeting her husband? If not, and all the other factors are true, it seems she set him up to be "demised", premeditated and vicious because he was never proven to be violent towards her or any of his children; and that's w/cellphones available to record it. I can't believe she thought she could get away with this. Pure hatred, and thinking only of herself and not about her daughter, except as something to own, a trophy a validation. Better her little girl not be around that, I'm guessing.
NgL, some of the things he did, like shooting at the ceiling, animal abuse, ect, of I were in her shoes, pregnant with his child, it would terrify me as well. I would've lied too to keep things peaceful as well. I'm not saying I would've killed him, but idk what hppnd in that house that last night. None of us really do. All I know, for sure is 1. His actions would've scared the shit out of me, esp the shooting in the house, esp to think yr bringing yr baby to that house what if he accidentally shoots again, maybe the ceiling, or whatever and it hits the baby? 2. If someone was coming at me, and I was in fear of my life, I'd shoot too.
@@jenerin905 and yet then invite him to reconcile repeatedly after you’re away from him. She wanted total control of that child even though he already had one child with whom he was close. Granted it was after her mother died that they became closer but she had no issues with her dad. And she could recognize how childish and spoiled Ashley was as soon as she met her, so she had her head on straight despite being a young teen when she met Ashley.
When there's a potential future custody battle, some victims will pretend they want to reconcile because they believe "acting nice" will keep an abuser from doing extreme things to take the kids. It's such a complex issue. Instead, in this case it's viewed as, "look at this manipulation" - because victims often have to be 1000% angelic to be believed.
Dr Grande, please make a review on the NY post about Ballerina Farms. Love your content and the common sense opinions rather than most social commentaries.
Wow this is a very biased take on this case, I've watched a few shows on this case and can say that Ashley is the problem here, once she got what she wanted from a rich man she promptly disposed of him, planning on living off generous court mandated child and spousal support. She's pure evil imo.
They BOTH sound pretty bad. I had a horrible controlling, abusive (verbally and physically), narcissistic husband I put up with for 8 years (religious beliefs) until I couldn't take the abuse any more. But I divorced him...I didn't kiII him, however, I was afraid he might kiII me. The years following with joint custody were a complete nightmare, but we worked through it and it's all behind us now and NOBODY is in prison. Plus I lucked out and married a wonderful man...30 years and counting!
Thankyou Dr Grande. I have not wanted to watch videos on this case up till now - when you're a ballet teacher and the case gets nick-named "Black Swan", when the whole concept of ballet training and reputation are still recovering from the horrid film of that name from around 2011 (Natalie Portman as protagonist), that also sullied the image of a dance world, your humourous rounding up of the video, put some perspective on the gravity, but also the anecdotic note that many tragic stories may develop - that humour is a good balance.
8/7/24 Wanted full custody, pension and other benefits or assets. Divorce was out of question. Never wanted to share baby before she was born, tried to prevent parental rights. Tried hard to get him to drop all his injunctions, he refused!
The fact that Ashley and her mother allowed Emerson to parade around outside the courthouse with a sign just demonstrates the lack of parenting skills that both of them have!! She is only 6 years old and in this heat!!??!! Ashley will use everyone and anyone to get what she wants. Emerson would have been much better off with Doug and Ashley knew that psychological evaluation was coming out reporting that she is an unfit mother.
I’m glad that the jury told her to her face that she was full of lies It was disgusting the watcher on the stand. Apparently, she is an afflicted with the condition of not having any tear ducts.
The amount of people that are in politics that had dropped out of high school and got work in something completely unrelated to anything that would qualify them to work anywhere in politics, regardless of what side of the political all theyre on, is absolutely insane to me
I’m glad you’re not painting Doug as a saint because he wasn’t. He seemed to also be abusive towards his first wife, recording them in the bedroom without her knowledge. Obviously he didn’t deserve to die, but seemed like a total creep and very dangerous.
This is one of those couples that you go out to dinner with and afterwards you look at your wife and tell her " You know what honey, I think we are doing great."
They were both idiots. Ashley was correctly convicted of manslauter imo. Doug was violent and she showed no interest in collecting child support from him. She likely got sucked into a toxic emtional bond over and over again. There is little reason to see her as the manipulator in the relationship at all. I just could see this... Ashley fires at an approaching Doug in fear who likely mocked her attempt at self preservation. He only turned after an intital shot(s) missed and Ashley fired shots in rapid enough succession that to her it wasn't clear what was happening. She clearly wasn't a good shot suggesting a less than thought out take down. This would equal manslaughter and I think be a pretty plausible set of circumstances.
Two foolish and immature people, one of them violent and trying to get with a girl basically that could've been his daughter... She thought in her childish mind the murder was justified and that she would get off because of it. I also don't doubt part of the attraction to him was financial... I was in a very violent relationship that I luckily got out of, so I know what it feels like to be afraid and want to kill someone for hurting you, but I knew as a mature adult more wrongdoing doesn't make things better. As always a great analysis, love the dance references😂❤
Doug more or less abandoned his daughter who was still grieving the loss of her mother over a woman he had only known for two weeks. By marrying her, his daughter lost being a beneficiary after his death. She talks about it in her TikToks. She and the baby are the real victims in this situation and Doug less so. Two toxic, selfish people carelessly wreaking destruction in the lives of their children. Both win the bad parent of the decade award.
Since doctor grande won’t make the diagnosis, I will. Doug had narcissistic personality disorder and Ashley has borderline personality disorder. Love bombing, idealization, impulsivity, mirroring, splitting him black, hoovering,more red flags than a factory that makes Chinese flags. how this story ended isn’t unusual for npd + bpd relationships
She does seem to have strong Borderline traits and relationship patterns. No doubt Doug was trauma bonded to her which explains some of his powerful attachment to her. Do we have any evidence he was actually narcissistic? Or did she just make him out to be?
He didn’t pretend to like Ballet. He said he did that for her. Pulling his retirement money out for her. He took her to her Moms house. She said she was ill with morning sickness.
8/7/24 She didn’t pay a dime for failed business, Doug & her Mom pd some $ No issue putting vasectomy reversal on her charge to get that baby. Imo, was jealous of 1st wife Renee & Eva!!
Premeditated first degree murder. Ashley made up the worst about Doug but it was her story. He did not deserve to be shot multiple times. I was expecting a deeper look into the psychology of a professional ballet dancer and the only child....
@@laurastuart3814True! She also didn't quit because of her ankle (a lie by Ashley). She quit because she wasn't good enough, and could not handle not being the star of each troupe.
A lot of the adjectives you used to describe Doug, also apply to Ashley. As you said, Ashley was already free of Doug. These were two people as bad as each other, who couldn't stay away. Doug was 30 when Ashely was born, which is concerning...
8/7/24 Ashley, had new boyfriend in Florida. She was still playing Doug, trying to get him to drop injunctions & she would do same (plan to get him to do it, she wasn’t going to drop) he was smarter then that & refused. Doug, wanted to know Emerson. Kept from him first 6 mos.
Strong Amber Heard vibes with this one. I don't believe a thing she says. I'm sure she's a lovely ballerina but she's a lousy actress. She shot him when he was unarmed, and there was no history of actual domestic v!olence (any injuries known to be caused by him.) There's no evidence her life was ever in danger, just her tall tales and her crocodile tears.
She had 3 guns actually place throughout the empty house while they were moving as she had called and asked him and than sent her mom and daughter to park so no 1 was around.
Manslaughter is the very least she's guilty of. The minimal charge and the 30 years or so she might be getting eventually, will be the bare minimum. She should be thankful to the court and for the bizarre mercy that was shown. The evidence as outlaid in the video convinced me she, most likely, had some malicious intent and the circumstances of the whole case couldn't possibly justify using the firearm.
I am a quarter of the way in, and I am finding that Dr. Grande is doing what he often does, which is to list a FAITH-Based narrative of what someone has testified to, which is NOT God's Truth, but is mostly only unsubstantiated talking-points of the surviving player in the story.
Sounds like you've never been the sought out object of someone with a Cluster B Personality Disorder! Yeah, okay, go on and low-key brag about how your parents modeled appropriate boundaries and behavior in their relationship. 😆
It’s pretty common in many non-Western cultures. My parents married within days of knowing each other. There was never cheating, verbal or physical abuse. They married until my mom passed away.
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Here's a tip to everyone out there. If your spouse makes false claims against you, especially if it included inappropriate claims of child abuse, never ever trust them again and try your best to keep them out of your life forever.
@@andrewl1024 His lawyer was with him when he met up with Ashley to get his child for visitation and that’s when Ashley said “let’s try again.” And he stupidly said “Okay!” His lawyer said she kept warning him “don’t go with her. She’s not telling you the truth. You’re going to regret this. Don’t do this.” And he said “I know but I’m going with her.” And that’s when he sealed his fate.
@@olderwiser64 which leads to another great tip. Always listen to your lawyer. That’s literally what they are being paid for.
@@andrewl1024 100 % His lawyer knew she was playing him.
He was obsessed with her because she was much younger and attractive. His ego and lust ruled over logic. Unfortunately, this is a common issue.
This is common sense
Two weeks? I have beer in my fridge older than that.
Even if they were the same age, it’s usually a mistake to get married after knowing each other only two weeks. Sometimes it works, but it usually a good idea to know each other longer so you know each other’s interest, personalities, idiosyncrasies, etc.
I met my wife from a blind date off the computer, our wedding was 3 weeks ,to the day ,after we met ,that was over 20 years ago ,were still happily married, we are also the same age ,sometimes only knowing someone a short time & marrying them ,works out
People like them distort the divorce rate
I'm 76 and I only know of one couple during my lifetime that this has worked our for...my sister and her 50+ year husband. For most it is a short road with long consequences.
@@sharonhoyt2133 *Bond in haste, repent at leisure* - not even all relationships with years-long cohabitation work out (specimen: myself ).
*Kudos and congratulations to your sister and brother-in-law* for working it out over such a long time, *and to you and your family,* because he must somehow felt and feel welcome in your environment to have wanted to stay (our marriage succumbed to in-law barrages ;-) ).
You all have done something profoundly right, in my opinion!
Especially if your rich and don't get a prenup lol
So many massive red flags here on both sides.
She didn't want to share the child with the father. Selfishness took the best of it .
@@marlenedeblasio2881More like she didn't want to be forced to hand her little girl over to a violent psychopathic stalker. If she hadn't stopped him and he went on to hurt the child then people would be clucking about how she didn't do enough to keep him away. She lived in legitimate fear of his rage and manipulation.
@@gossamer9966 Interesting point of view.....and you might be right.....He sure had anger issues.......
@@paulholbrook7315 his former wife was found face down in the bed 🙄 come on! Massive red flag
She lured him with a promise to renew their relationship and murdered him.
Yes💯
@@JTSmithJX agree
Sounds like may have been the case, but he was no orince, tortured a dog, what a scumbag
So the guy says he has never loved so deep before. His wife that died from a heart problems must be rolling in her grave.
I was itching for my nightly fix of a doctor not diagnosing anybody, but only speculating on what could be happening in a situation like that. Sending love from the UK 😅
@@kevinhornbucklemaybe there's nothing new under the sun. Shakespeare did similar.
@@kevinhornbucklehe says “This is just a theory, my opinion” for a reason.
@@kevinhornbuckle ??? What’s your argument?
@@kevinhornbuckle so you believe Dr. Grande is deceiving us all. But he’s not holding a gun to our heads. We’re not obliged to hang out here.
@@kevinhornbuckle so your claim is that Dr. Grande is deceiving us all. I respectfully disagree. He is presenting his take on situations, based on the facts that he gathers. I personally have no problem with that, for it is something I do often. Dr. Grande doesn’t deign to claim that he is giving official diagnoses, because as you’ve mentioned, he hasn’t examined the people involved.
_An old man who attempts to re-live his youth by becoming romantically involved with a young woman will soon realize that such a relationship will only remind him all the more so that he is an old man. -- A young woman who attempts to bring a father figure into her life by becoming romantically involved with an old man will soon realize that such a relationship can become stifling for a young woman. -- But such was the case of Mr. Doug and Ashley Benefield; two people who were a match made several feet below heaven, in...The Twilight Zone._
Is a guy who looks for an older woman wanting a "mother figure"?
No. Obviously. @@martinwhite418
Twilight movies.
Big brother figure has entered the chat.....
go ahead and post the research papers, stats, etc on that.
meanwhile, head on over to Dumaguete, PI and lambaste the hordes of age-gap couples living peacefully, enjoying their respective lives together.
No, she was not justified in murdering him
Marrying someone after only knowing them for two weeks… that was the problem. Once they really got to know each other… they didn’t like each other. The huge age difference was the other problem. They had nothing in common.
she probably put out early and he was "hooked". At that age he should have known better.
Huge age difference is not in itself a problem. My dad was 28 years older than my mom. They had a lot in common. They knew each other for two years before getting married. They were extremely compatible and had many of the same interests.
Well, they both liked guns and Trump. 🤷♀️
Apparently that’s not a good foundation for love.
This is why you don't get married after TWO WEEKS.
Seems like she didn’t get over losing his wife
Seems they were both impulsive and manipulative. It was a toxic relationship from the start.
We are only hearing Ashley's side of events. She has been shown to be a manipulative liar. She claimed poisoning and even sexual abuse, which were all proven to be false.
I've dated a woman like this , they're dangerous especially if attractive . I don't believe he's the person she made him out to be
@@TyWerksthe kindest women I've known were also the most pretty. You know why? Because people make fun of them and assume all sorts of horrible stuff about them just like you're doing now. So they constantly have to fight stereotypes. Yes a few attractive women have done horrendous things but it's rare that they have. Those are just the stories people seem to love. Nothing gets people happier than seeing a pretty girl acting like the very thing they need her to be.
@@LilyFlowers-hh3sc what you said is true but I specifically was talking about the woman I dated and the one mentioned in the video . I didn't generalize all pretty women respectfully
@@TyWerksSame case for me.
8/7/24 Imo, she put some chemical spray on tea set Doug mailed, reason waited day or two, before going to LE. They can check hair roots for poison/drugs in body.
Two terrible people
@@Snakesnarl Yes!
I guess two wrongs don't make a right.
Of course. They were Trump supporters. 🤷🏿♀️
@@beckywiththesharpknife8331 yes! You knew what I was trying to say 👍
@@beckywiththesharpknife8331 So about half the nation are terrible people?
You left out how he was granted the right to be at the birth and Ashley immediately went to the hospital and demanded her doctor do a c-section so he could not be there. After she lost on the poisoning charges, she accused him of SA of their 2-year-old daughter. The authorities found no evidence of this either. If your husband was SA-ing your baby daughter would you then invite him to reconcile? Also, as a DV survivor, I would NEVER allow myself to be alone with him. I would have made sure my mother never left
My side. Also she keeps telling people he punched the family dog and knocked it out yet he explained they were arguing and he swung his arm as he was gesticulating and the dog jumped in between them and that’s how it got hit. I don’t think he was mentally healthy but he was also not the person she said. She was as crazy & angry as he was.
Yea the other stories I heard about her made her sound like a cheating psychopath
@@Anonymous0996 Dr. Grande left out so many stories about her that were equally insane & awful. They were both horrid. He was most likely a narcissist and she was most likely a borderline. They tend to find each other and pair off quickly and then chaos and violence ensue. She told lie after lie after lie about him -and then she lied to him about wanting to reconcile, invited him to help her pack, and then sent her mother and child away to be alone with her “abuser” in her home after she accused him of abusing her, and SA-ing their child!! But the most significant lie was her describing him coming straight at her and lunging for her, so she shot him straight on and yet he was shot in the side and in the legs. He wasn’t coming at her at all. If anything he was turning away to yet again do her bidding to make her happy and she shot him before he knew what was happening. Dr. Grande also made it sound like it was DB’s fault that the ballet studio failed. The studio was her dream and her idea and he was trying to make it happen for her but she 100% bailed on him and left the whole mess in his lap. She got pregnant and seemed not to understand how awful morning sickness can be and so she decamped to mummy’s house and was sure he was poisoning her. 🙄🤯
@@olderwiser64 I didn’t realize that’s why she accused him of poisoning her. Jeez. Dr. Grande went easy on her. But yes the other facts you stated, I heard in other videos about her. The other videos really highlighted all the lies and false accusations she claimed when trying to get sole custody of their daughter. Their relationship sounds exhausting but still sad someone died, and his other daughter is now an orphan. And their baby’s only living parent is in prison.
@olderwiser64 People can just be nasty, they don't need labels with mental health or behavioural traits on them.
She's definitely crazy and manipulative
I am unmarried not likely to get married as I am now 50+. I have always wanted to get married - but would also like to have a boring life. I couldn’t handle this level of excitement in my life
If you date someone young enough to be your daughter then expect huge problems. Regardless of whether or not one or both of you are mentally ill, you will think she is a moron and she will think you're controlling.
True. Never say never but it has to be someone we really enjoy being with, not someone who goes from joy to horror at the drop of a hat. But good folk exist, I met my partner really late in life and I'm very glad I did. May the best happen for you xxx
You wouldn't want to get your emotions wrapped up with a modern woman.
I’m old too but prefer to look at women that age. …I would never want their company
Anger is not fun to live with. Love is much more Grande. ❤Rational in problem solving prevents death.
My heart breaks for his teenage daughter. She has to live her life without her father and their young daughter has to live her life without her father and a mother. So sad
The teenage daughter also lost her actual mom not long before her father married this woman. She is an orphan. Her tik tok offers more insight on the case but this woman was far too immature to care for a young girl who recently lost her mother. This woman was extremely insecure and lashed out at the girl often while she was still actively grieving her mom.
I think if I was her, I wouldn’t want to live with a father that would kill my mother or be aggressive or mistreat my mother I already saw some of that on a lesser scale with my parents.
@kathywright7395 She is 24. I feel so bad for her. She looks so young because she is a trauma survivor in denial who doesn't understand what is being done to USVet orphans in USA & what they do to men like her Dad who sign up for the Military. This is simply my view as retired Psych Nurse & Foster Mom from her area. This area is HEAVILY Trauma Programmed. I have a ton of stories to back it up. Please pray for humans.🙏
The daughter is odd too.
@@carsonatwood81 I'm not sure what you mean. Emerson has been targeted before birth in my USVet/Military Wife/Spy Exwife widow view. US Vet orphans are targeted for life, it appears. My Psych nurse/Foster mom past gives me broader vision of these types of dramas war industry investors appear to spur on.
getting married after 2 weeks. what could go wrong?
When you see the "of Death" in the thumbnail, you know it's going to generate an interesting dialogue.
Apparently not, today the audience is simply speculating on the Doctor supposedly lacking forearms for some reason 😮
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"Husband removal method"
I have a 36 year age gap, I clicked on this video and immediately went to the comments with metaphorical popcorn in my hands 👀
@@cozymoggele Same here. I have a 34 year age gap and expected more comments on the gap but most are related to the short time before getting married.
I think Sr Grande got this one wrong. This woman was a problem from the start. Doug had issues, but Ashley was the one who lied and conned and murdered. She was the one who started the ballet company and abandoned it. She got tired of Doug and cheated and tried to hide his kid from him just so she didn’t have to share custody.
Doug wasn’t the problem. She was.
I agree. And don't forget, all her claims about his bad behavior are from HER! She lied so much, why would anyone believe her when she claims he did all this stuff?
Dr Grande I’m shocked you so got this wrong
She married Doug for his genes. He was a genius!
Ashley researched Doug for months, prior to “bumping into him”, at an event. Idc how “young” she was. She was calculated, strategic, and very much GROWN. She knew exactly what she wanted and she went to get it. Doug had just lost his wife and was probably extremely vulnerable. Women know how quickly men look to marry, when their wives pass. Was he a saint? No, however Ashley was far from a victim and I’m glad the jury seen thru her fake tears. Good riddance 😎
Yeah 24 is no baby although it is very young
What's the source on her researching him?
@@lauralaforge558 Ebony's opinion 😅
@@Ebony0420 What tears. She “sobbed” the whole time with no tears and no snot. Despite the repeated sniffling. Even the lip chewing was fake “stress/worry” in my book.
@@R_S747 Indeed, and this was her second mariage. She had already been married once.
She didn’t find out she was pregnant. They were under the care of a fertility clinic to get pregnant.
She was intentional.
a man would not reverse a vas. on accident
@@MonibooFinebean Oops, I didn't mean to do that.
Or if he was sane@@MonibooFinebean
Semantics.
@@MonibooFinebean often a reversal doesn't work anyway
A romance that starts at a Trump fundraiser may make it hard to contextualize & spot those red flags but “I’m always sweet except when I’m shooting something” should have broken through.
Carrying a gun in your bra should have been a clue.lol. anger issues
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Never marry someone you just met two weeks ago.
stop. just stop. Trump supporters are just as human as you are. stop trying to dehumanize them
@@McUsernameFaceBut…..but….I thought her Glamour Shots were so beautiful, expressive, and alluring. 🫠
Gals. , don’t get pregnant until you know the possible father for at least a year and know that he would be a good father. Guys, don’t get the girl pregnant until you know the girl at least a year in a committed relationship and know that she would be a good mother and that you want to be a father.
I haven't even watched this yet but id like to add to this comment. If and when you do find the right partner for you please be mentally stable and healthy before having children. Enough of us are broken already.😢
@@nancyayotte2297sad but very true! Now there are 2 girls without their parents!!
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@@nancyayotte2297 I agree also at this point
Dont trust women full stop
He married someone he thought he could control. She married someone she thought she could manipulate into making a mediocre Ballet dancer into a Ballet Company owner. They both failed miserably
Agree 💯 🙌🏼
Well said🎉
She wasn't mediocre. She retired because of a tear. And her idea of a more inclusive ballet company is more than needed in the industry. Doug was the wrong man to start that with because he was a f cone. He was sued for borrowing funds he never returned in the past and had 0 business skills. Surely he did not deserve to die and murder is wrong unless of course you're murdering some terrorist out there, but this wasn't the case. Wish she had just disappeared and never told him where she went. Could have told him she lost the pregnancy and left the country.
@@anadeealupu1458she's a,non accountable murderer...
@@anadeealupu1458 few people leave the U S of A. They fall all over themselves to come here.
I’d hardly call 54 an “old man”!
No don't be silly you ovisley American 😂😂 6yrs short ov 60 sure its old get a life ......
How old was she?
That picture of Bella peaking over the table always takes me out 😂
This story of Doug beating the dog to unconsciousness and hurting the cat definitely indicate some level of psychopathy. In my country people say that if one hurts the dog, something very bad will happen to this person. Well, this turned to be true. And, yes, I don't feel sorry for him, either!
That is according to Ashley, there is no evidence, no vet records. He explained in a deposition the dog jumped on him and scratched him and he pushed him by accident, like a reaction. Ashley produced all her “evidence” as screenshots, that can be proved with metadata or just her version. So everything she claims has to be taken with caution.
@@lhr8833think about the force needed to "accidentally" push a dog so hard it lands up unconscious. He clearly had anger issues. This doesn't justify her actions but it doesn't make me feel sorry for Doug either. Some people just bring out the worst in each other and then this kind of stuff happens
@@nixm9093 The dog was never unconscious. He never said the dog was unconscious and there is no evidence of that dog being taken to the vet or anything. That is Ashley’s fabrication, as many other things.
@@nixm9093 He had certain issues, but looks like he looked for help and he had accountability of other stuff he did in the house. In the deposition he says what he did and what he didn’t. Way more accountable than Ashley. Another thing Ashley doesn’t mention is that in those moments when he got that angry, she was abusing Eva. She was harassing him to punish Eva for anything. In the Vanity Fair article some friend of hers commented she had a competition with Eva and commented to that friend he had to choose between Eva and her. When looked in context, is still wrong to hit a wall and stuff like that, but I’m sure many parents would agree that if something will take them to that limit is someone abusing their child. Nobody claims he was a saint, he didn’t claim it neither, but things didn’t happen like Ashley portrayed them.
@@lhr8833 I'm not surprised he didn't take the dog to the vet. No one knocks a dog out accidently by merely pushing it. Doug was going to punch her and punch hard! Animals sense things and know when someone is violent. You're talking about a man who put a bullet hole in his kitchen ceiling.
Ashley is a habitual liar as seen by the evidence so I struggle to believe much of what she says.
she's a manipulator
Your opinions and thoughts consistently generate an interesting dialogue
I can see I'll be coming here for not only the analysis but the entertaining adverts too. Love the bunny salt shaker.
Dr grande continues to slay despite his lack of forearms!
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A simple thumbs up would dispel the no arms rumour.
Fore-Armed is For Warned, nes?
That feeling when you're hoping Dr Grande posted and you see Dr Grande posted.🥳💞🥳
Been waiting on Dr Grande to speculate about a situation like this I’ve been seeing on RUclips.
Dr. Grande, you don't sound very excited about the Factor Box meals, BUT I laughed out loud listening to your sales pitch😂😂😂
"Discharged a gun into the ceiling of his home during an argument." Because yes, everyone knows that's the alternate use for a firearm. Personal defence and to emphasise your rebuttal points during arguments. Also, they can sometimes be used to turn your TV off if you've lost the remote, but that's not recommended by the manufacturer and may not be covered by your warranty.
" Unexpected home remodeling incident" 😂😂😂 oooohh Dr G you're the best 👌
She set him up.
Ashley had 3 firearms strategically placed in the house that was packed up. At the time of Doug's death.
She had also sent her mom with her daughter to the park.
I'm not sure that part is as incriminating as it sounds. They both loved guns, and were each known to concealed carry 2 or 3 guns at a time. It seems like no matter where they were in that house, it's likely a gun wouldn't be too far out of reach.
@@RationalGaze216 I get that they were gun enthusiasts. But to have easy access to 3 loaded weapons in a house where a 2 year old lived. Was irresponsible on their part.
@@orianjuarez3074No, that was not the problem. The problem was their hearts were not right with God or each other. Both were selfish and opportunistic.
she manipulates just like Jodi Arias
A lot of women use manipulation
He was no angel either…
@@prairiewitch8217 maybe some women use manipulation since they don’t have the power of muscles like men do.
Jodi Arias is frightening
@@enjoystraveling yep
Well, they manipulated each other. And her manipulative actions were bigger than his. It was a premeditated murder case to me.
Both have serious issues such as anger grandiosity or so on. But shooting cannot be justified and resolution.
Dr Todd i didn't kno u have a puppy 😃! I used to not like doggos but after delivering for Amazon I grew to like them 😊. Some r just so friendly.
He has two.
Dogs love delivery drivers. They either want to play or chase you to your doom 😅
Dogs are like people. Some are great, others, meh..
@@tanikokishimoto1604 One Amazon driver was attacked n killed by 2 dogs in Missouri 😨🥺. As a driver we make delivery at our own risk when dog r presence no matter the size n delivery is ill advised by company. Some dogs i meet r bigger than me 😬!
1 week after meeting
Red-light flags
Both sides
2 weeks !!
Is "neon flashing red" a colour? I swear I saw it 😂
Boy you jumped on this one quickly! Excellent episode, you couldn't be anymore current! Thank you!
i love your videos you always make a good job explaining cases greetings from argentina
I agree. He takes these cases that have a lot of confusing angles to them and simplifies them in 15 minutes.
This is not how I read it. I think she was the manipulative person in the relationship. He was vulnerable and lonely when they met. She read him well and took full advantage of him. He did not stop despite of all the allegations made against him because he knew them to be false and he was trying to protect his daughter from her. Just because a woman gave birth does not make her a mother. He used the whole situation including her child to get what she wanted
I don't know I believe her he didn't even deny none of her allegations
Doug’s daughter loved her father very much and truly sought justice for her father. I believe a woman marrying a man with a 30 yr age gap only after 13 days, was looking for a man to impregnate her but didn’t want the constraints of marriage. Once pregnant, she leaves her husband. She got what she needed. She keeps the baby’s father at a distance when he wanted to be with her. She didn’t even tell him the baby was born. Then he finds out she’s dating another man while still married. I don’t buy that he was that bad. Prior judges threw her abuse cases out due to not one scintilla of evidence. She wanted a baby, used a older man, and went about her business. That’s what I got out of watching the trial.
Agree. It also makes me wonder if she thought he had $$$. If he did, he lost it all in the ballet fiasco.
"Home Remodeling Incident" - Ah, Dr. Grande strikes again
My husband and I watch your videos every morning. We love your dry humor.
Dr. Grande should say, at the beginning of his videos "please turn up your volume now" 😀
She Provided no proof of his abuse... & She's going Exactly where she Belongs!
Agree
Yeah grande said Doug should have been in prison. The only illegal thing I heard that he did was negligent discharge of a firearm. Being a jerk is legal.
@@jeffk464 He had a anger problem and shot his firearm during an argument. Sounds pretty threatening to me. 2:40.
@@saffylllama5609 theirs actually evidence that he committed multiple crimes against Ashley including putting a tracking device on her car, was caught by the neighbor trying to look in Ashley's windows, was secretly recording their counseling sessions and was trying to rent the house immediately behind Ashley's house while a protection order was in effect 😳
How do you do it, Dr. Grande? Your final thoughts are so creative-so appropriate for the ballet dancer who did not want to tango with her partner-no matter the age.
You turned this age-old story of life/relationships into a golden word dance.
Thank you as always.
She lured him into believing thst she wantef tp reconcile using her mothers help
Yeah, I felt that way too. Especially after all the lies she made against him that were proven falsle. I don't see how someone could ever think someone like her ever had good intentions after they accuse you of poisoning people and sexual abuse against your child.
Was it ever found out exactly when she bought an automatic weapon? Did she have one before meeting her husband? If not, and all the other factors are true, it seems she set him up to be "demised", premeditated and vicious because he was never proven to be violent towards her or any of his children; and that's w/cellphones available to record it. I can't believe she thought she could get away with this. Pure hatred, and thinking only of herself and not about her daughter, except as something to own, a trophy a validation. Better her little girl not be around that, I'm guessing.
NgL, some of the things he did, like shooting at the ceiling, animal abuse, ect, of I were in her shoes, pregnant with his child, it would terrify me as well. I would've lied too to keep things peaceful as well. I'm not saying I would've killed him, but idk what hppnd in that house that last night. None of us really do. All I know, for sure is 1. His actions would've scared the shit out of me, esp the shooting in the house, esp to think yr bringing yr baby to that house what if he accidentally shoots again, maybe the ceiling, or whatever and it hits the baby?
2. If someone was coming at me, and I was in fear of my life, I'd shoot too.
@@jenerin905 and yet then invite him to reconcile repeatedly after you’re away from him. She wanted total control of that child even though he already had one child with whom he was close. Granted it was after her mother died that they became closer but she had no issues with her dad. And she could recognize how childish and spoiled Ashley was as soon as she met her, so she had her head on straight despite being a young teen when she met Ashley.
When there's a potential future custody battle, some victims will pretend they want to reconcile because they believe "acting nice" will keep an abuser from doing extreme things to take the kids. It's such a complex issue. Instead, in this case it's viewed as, "look at this manipulation" - because victims often have to be 1000% angelic to be believed.
“Before we get to the murder, let’s talk about food.” LOL
Dr Grande, please make a review on the NY post about Ballerina Farms. Love your content and the common sense opinions rather than most social commentaries.
Wow this is a very biased take on this case, I've watched a few shows on this case and can say that Ashley is the problem here, once she got what she wanted from a rich man she promptly disposed of him, planning on living off generous court mandated child and spousal support. She's pure evil imo.
Yes I agree
What do you think of what the Dr. said?
Based on what happened after she left him, it seems she was manipulative at best.
Common xx behavior
The mere mention of 45 automatically makes people hate the victim.
That was his conclusion was she was manipulative and is guilty. He did say it took two to create the situation but that's not bias just facts
Perfectly posted in time to listen to at bedtime, thank you Dr G 💪🏻
They BOTH sound pretty bad. I had a horrible controlling, abusive (verbally and physically), narcissistic husband I put up with for 8 years (religious beliefs) until I couldn't take the abuse any more. But I divorced him...I didn't kiII him, however, I was afraid he might kiII me. The years following with joint custody were a complete nightmare, but we worked through it and it's all behind us now and NOBODY is in prison. Plus I lucked out and married a wonderful man...30 years and counting!
Thankyou Dr Grande. I have not wanted to watch videos on this case up till now - when you're a ballet teacher and the case gets nick-named "Black Swan", when the whole concept of ballet training and reputation are still recovering from the horrid film of that name from around 2011 (Natalie Portman as protagonist), that also sullied the image of a dance world, your humourous rounding up of the video, put some perspective on the gravity, but also the anecdotic note that many tragic stories may develop - that humour is a good balance.
“using the husband elimination method “. 😅
8/7/24 Wanted full custody, pension and other benefits or assets. Divorce was out of question. Never wanted to share baby before she was born, tried to prevent parental rights. Tried hard to get him to drop all his injunctions, he refused!
@@erikamccarthy1457agree
@@erikamccarthy1457 he was the one violating the injunctions
They barely knew each other before marrying! Enough said.
The fact that Ashley and her mother allowed Emerson to parade around outside the courthouse with a sign just demonstrates the lack of parenting skills that both of them have!! She is only 6 years old and in this heat!!??!! Ashley will use everyone and anyone to get what she wants. Emerson would have been much better off with Doug and Ashley knew that psychological evaluation was coming out reporting that she is an unfit mother.
My wife is six months older than me, and we have absolutely nothing in common. Thirty years? Forget about it! 😅😂🤣😄🤣
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Love the wordplay analysis at the end!
I’m glad that the jury told her to her face that she was full of lies
It was disgusting the watcher on the stand. Apparently, she is an afflicted with the condition of not having any tear ducts.
Lol maybe like prince andrew with no sweat glands
I always appreciate your videos and your analyses, Dr. Grande!
The amount of people that are in politics that had dropped out of high school and got work in something completely unrelated to anything that would qualify them to work anywhere in politics, regardless of what side of the political all theyre on, is absolutely insane to me
When Tricking Goes Wrong
I’m glad you’re not painting Doug as a saint because he wasn’t. He seemed to also be abusive towards his first wife, recording them in the bedroom without her knowledge. Obviously he didn’t deserve to die, but seemed like a total creep and very dangerous.
She was his 3rd wife.
You don’t murder someone for being a jerk!!!
@@luvmysons Where is that information? I thought Renee was his only other wife.
And he punched his dog.
@@BeBe-rn9qm Absolutely. But I wonder what would have happened down the line if she hadn’t had done anything. And he was more than just a jerk.
This is one of those couples that you go out to dinner with and afterwards you look at your wife and tell her " You know what honey, I think we are doing great."
They were both idiots. Ashley was correctly convicted of manslauter imo. Doug was violent and she showed no interest in collecting child support from him. She likely got sucked into a toxic emtional bond over and over again. There is little reason to see her as the manipulator in the relationship at all. I just could see this... Ashley fires at an approaching Doug in fear who likely mocked her attempt at self preservation. He only turned after an intital shot(s) missed and Ashley fired shots in rapid enough succession that to her it wasn't clear what was happening. She clearly wasn't a good shot suggesting a less than thought out take down. This would equal manslaughter and I think be a pretty plausible set of circumstances.
I always get a kick out of all your descriptive descriptions of peoples disorders, it makes me laugh, I love all the adjectives,
That was 1st degree murder all day long and twice on Sunday.
If she does not present a danger to good citizens, she should not be in jail.
She killed a man. Like murder. You know what that means right?
Two foolish and immature people, one of them violent and trying to get with a girl basically that could've been his daughter... She thought in her childish mind the murder was justified and that she would get off because of it. I also don't doubt part of the attraction to him was financial... I was in a very violent relationship that I luckily got out of, so I know what it feels like to be afraid and want to kill someone for hurting you, but I knew as a mature adult more wrongdoing doesn't make things better. As always a great analysis, love the dance references😂❤
Hypergamy is real. All women are attracted to money and power.
Doug more or less abandoned his daughter who was still grieving the loss of her mother over a woman he had only known for two weeks. By marrying her, his daughter lost being a beneficiary after his death. She talks about it in her TikToks. She and the baby are the real victims in this situation and Doug less so. Two toxic, selfish people carelessly wreaking destruction in the lives of their children. Both win the bad parent of the decade award.
Basically? He could've literally been her grandfather.
@kevinhornbuckle well yeah the age difference is significantly worse for her than it is for him.
@@pjuliano9000who hurt you 😅 wtf 😂there are so many women with men who have absolutely nothing because they love him
Since doctor grande won’t make the diagnosis, I will. Doug had narcissistic personality disorder and Ashley has borderline personality disorder. Love bombing, idealization, impulsivity, mirroring, splitting him black, hoovering,more red flags than a factory that makes Chinese flags. how this story ended isn’t unusual for npd + bpd relationships
Yikes. I know couples like this. Grew up in a family like this.
Dr Grande doesn't diagnose people because he is not a psychiatrist and he has never met those people. Are you? Have you?
She does seem to have strong Borderline traits and relationship patterns. No doubt Doug was trauma bonded to her which explains some of his powerful attachment to her. Do we have any evidence he was actually narcissistic? Or did she just make him out to be?
Are you a psychiatrist?
@@Trouble_Bubble36 No which is why I don't do keyboard diagnosis.
He didn’t pretend to like Ballet. He said he did that for her.
Pulling his retirement money out for her.
He took her to her Moms house. She said she was ill with morning sickness.
he took a midlife crisis to the extreme, and she took being a prima donna to the extreme.
and now she's got mourning sickness for real.
8/7/24 She didn’t pay a dime for failed business, Doug & her Mom pd some $ No issue putting vasectomy reversal on her charge to get that baby. Imo, was jealous of 1st wife Renee & Eva!!
Are you defending him? Man... aren't you in trouble!? Good luck!
Doug had his faults but she's a cold hearted killer..
Premeditated first degree murder. Ashley made up the worst about Doug but it was her story. He did not deserve to be shot multiple times. I was expecting a deeper look into the psychology of a professional ballet dancer and the only child....
She didn't ever dance professionally.
@@laurastuart3814True! She also didn't quit because of her ankle (a lie by Ashley). She quit because she wasn't good enough, and could not handle not being the star of each troupe.
A lot of the adjectives you used to describe Doug, also apply to Ashley. As you said, Ashley was already free of Doug. These were two people as bad as each other, who couldn't stay away. Doug was 30 when Ashely was born, which is concerning...
She was forced to share custody, so not free for another 17 years
8/7/24 Ashley, had new boyfriend in Florida. She was still playing Doug, trying to get him to drop injunctions & she would do same (plan to get him to do it, she wasn’t going to drop) he was smarter then that & refused. Doug, wanted to know Emerson. Kept from him first 6 mos.
@@erikamccarthy1457agree
Great review ~ Your ads with your dog crack me up.... Your dogs sweet little face is right there advertising for you all the way 🤩
They couldn't settle their differences in court, so Ashley "settled" out of court!
Awesome final analogy Dr. Grande!
I love the puppy on the factor commercial.. I wonder what his name is.. I can only speculate 😊
That's Bella Grande, I think ❤❤!!
what a CHARMING couple
I can't stand the sense of humour of the dr Todd 6:42, the subject is serious but he talks so funny😂😂😂😂😂
Great analysis 😊🎉
She had a plan.
Definitely!!!
Knowing that Doug forgot to renew his life insurance probably shocked and upset Ashley. Ahhh, too bad.
Excellent analysis Dr. Grande👏🏻👏🏻
Omg the puns 😂
Strong Amber Heard vibes with this one. I don't believe a thing she says. I'm sure she's a lovely ballerina but she's a lousy actress.
She shot him when he was unarmed, and there was no history of actual domestic v!olence (any injuries known to be caused by him.) There's no evidence her life was ever in danger, just her tall tales and her crocodile tears.
Thank you Dr. Grande for yet another great analysis ❤ and Thank You EVERYONE for their condolences ❤
Love the appearance of Bella and the Bunny shakers! ❤️🐰
I think a young pretty girl saw an older wealthy man and put together a plan. She took advantage of him. I disagree with you this time Dr. Grande.
She wouldn’t have a gun just laying around with a child in the house.
Maybe her mom did. It was her home. 🤷♀️
She had 3 guns actually place throughout the empty house while they were moving as she had called and asked him and than sent her mom and daughter to park so no 1 was around.
She had 3 loaded guns laying around in the house according to the evidence in trial
@Rebecca-hc5ju the guns belonged to ashley not her mom
Here’s a native thanking you for not saying “Silver Springs, Maryland”.
ditto! I grew up in Adelphi(many relatives and friends is SS of course)....rarely hear anyone outside the area correctly calling it Silver Spring!
Whether you side with or against Ashley, this seems like a great example of why you shouldn't get married 13 days after meeting someone.
Manslaughter is the very least she's guilty of. The minimal charge and the 30 years or so she might be getting eventually, will be the bare minimum. She should be thankful to the court and for the bizarre mercy that was shown. The evidence as outlaid in the video convinced me she, most likely, had some malicious intent and the circumstances of the whole case couldn't possibly justify using the firearm.
I am a quarter of the way in, and I am finding that Dr. Grande is doing what he often does, which is to list a FAITH-Based narrative of what someone has testified to, which is NOT God's Truth, but is mostly only unsubstantiated talking-points of the surviving player in the story.
Maybe Doug was doing a pirouette when he was shot
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Groaner!
Your story captivated me. Thanks.
Wow if there was ever a “speed dating” version to dating, marriage, kids, and love…. This would be it!
GirrlllL and that's how somebody can take the express lane to The BiG Sleep. 😳
Sounds like you've never been the sought out object of someone with a Cluster B Personality Disorder! Yeah, okay, go on and low-key brag about how your parents modeled appropriate boundaries and behavior in their relationship. 😆
It’s pretty common in many non-Western cultures. My parents married within days of knowing each other. There was never cheating, verbal or physical abuse. They married until my mom passed away.
It's almost as if his secret desire was always a 20 something dancer/swimsuit model
@@daviegriffin3539 ommgg so true!!
He was shot in the back of the leg and the side. Hard to claim self-defense. No doubt Doug was abusive and unstable but she planned this.