Why Homeschooling is the Future | Brett Cooper
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Homeschooling doesn't make kids weird. Kids are weird because of personality, isolation, or unhealthy homes. Same as public schoolers--- there is no shortage of weird, awkward, lonely, or anti social public schoolers.
Exactly!
100% agree. I went to public school and there were plenty of anti-social “weird” kids in every grade and class. We homeschool and my kids have no problem making friends everywhere we go and have a great social life.
Agree! My daughter is homeschooled and will go up to any stranger, adult or child and introduce herself and start a conversation.
Brett was on point- parent has to take ownership of their child’s whole development.
Homeschoolers are like anyone else, they act like their peers. With homeschooling the parents are the peers. So when the parents are weird so are the kids 😂 (FYI I am a homeschooling mom of 2)
Honestly, I'm tired of the word weird. Allistic people can have drug addictions, behavioral issues, personality issues, or risky sexual development.
Many of those kids can shift from multiple fake personality traits and at a glance, people won't call them weird. A lot of "WEIRD" home school kids were likely neurodivergent and acted maybe 2 years younger compared to teenagers trying to act like adults or even go get high.
I saw some "weird" homeschooling kids but I also saw "normal" allistic kids that snuck out every night. Ffs.
I was homeschooled for 7 years and then went to public school for my last 2 years of high school. I was amazed at how many awkward kids were there. Also, it is odd to me how “normal socialization” means that teenagers don’t know how to talk to adults and people outside of their group of friends. I’m ok with being different than that.
Right? Practically every teenager these days describes themselves as having "social anxiety" and mental health issues, they say they can't talk on the phone, can't order a pizza, can't make a doctor's appointment, don't want to knock on the door when they get to their friend's house, and have much of their communication via text or online rather than face-to-face. That's just what I've heard from gen Z kids themselves. This whole idea that all homeschoolers are "socially awkward" is such a lame stereotyping cop-out. If "socially awkward" means that kids are intelligent, well spoken, use proper grammar instead of slang, have unique interests, carry on conversations with adults and don't know much about pop culture... I'm very happy to sign my kids up for that.
👏 So true.
I was homeschooled all the way to college. My social skills at the time of going to college were far and above the other kids. Got made fun of for introducing myself and shaking my classmates hands like real men.
100%, average high school kids are incompetent and awkward. I feel bad that they don’t have someone who cares enough to show them they way to adulthood.
One quality relationship Trump's a bunch of crappy ones. I was a surveyers assistant in mid 20s and would spend 40 hours one on one with the surveyor. Noticed confidence dealing with others went way up
I was never homeschooled, and I truly believe that because of public school, I became so painfully shy. Due to the constant bullying I'd encounter. It just got to a point where I thought, "maybe if I sit in the back and not say anything no one will even notice me to make fun of me." How sad is that?
I understand this. I hated it too!
Incredibly sad. I’m so sorry you went through this. Stay strong. ❤
Homeschooling is worse. I asked to switch to it because I was experiencing the same things as you in public school, but homeschool was grueling and the entire time I wished I could go back. Went back to public in my sophomore year, it was great. Just be happy you have the full experience
Same! Now 8 years after highschool, I feel like I am finally finding my true personality which was buried under all the coping mechanisms I had from public school.
Three years ago I took a personality test which said that I was extroverted. I was stunned because I thought of myself as shy, but it was really just a coping mechanism for surviving 7 hours a day of public school...
I hope you and everyone else here is safe and doing ok out there nowadays.
I was homeschooled until I was 16, at which time I started to attend a community college with dual credit. I graduated “high-school” with 2 associates degrees. I now have an engineering degree at 21. I don’t know if I would have been able to excel the way I did academically if I was not homeschooled, but I am doubtful.
My parents are the best.
My brother and I along with our cousins all did the same thing. Get the state to pay for college as well. Ok, we paid for books and a tiny fee per class but effectively free. 2 years of college free... Everyone should do it. Everyone is retarded in life by "public school". USC is what? $70,000/year now? The College I went to get my mechanical engineering degree is now almost $30k/yr... That is $60,000 I did go into debt that all my peers DID go into debt and are now handicapped in life.
I also graduated high school with my associate's degree, because of dual CC enrollment. I eventually got my bachelor's at 20. I attended one of the top public school districts in the country and I know I wouldn't be successful if I hadn't received such a quality public education. Also, the networking opportunities that came from attending such a prestigious school district still help me at my current sales job
One of the reasons homeschoolers seem “weird” is simply because their innocence hasn’t been robbed to the extent of public schoolers. When I was in public school, raunchy language, promiscuous lifestyles, school fights, and recreational weed smoking were just the norms of the kids around me. The homeschool kids in youth group were a breath of fresh air, their jokes were clean, and they were just all around wholesome folks who your parents trusted you hanging out with.
Great point! My wife and home-schooled kids were just hanging out with her friend and her public-schooled kids. The 8-year-old daughter of the other family started twerking and her mom chuckled and mentioned she was learning things like that at school 🤷🏼
Absolutely true!!
All the stuff you described happening at school is what adults still do at work (except for the weed smoking). The sooner they get used to it, the better.
I take that back. Smoking weed happens all the time at a lot of jobs
Our youth group had the horniest kids in school tbf it was a religios school to begin with. Lol homeschooling sounds like a decent choice I think it's funny the left thinks the right is turning schools into pseudo churches and the right thinks universities are indoctrination machines instead of assuming the most likely result people aren't as smart as they'd like to think and they're easy to socially engineer. Hate to say it but far left and far right are the closest points on the political spectrum simply because they wrap in on themselves why do you think reverse radicalized is such a common outcome for the super believers. It's not more rational its perspective shifts though a combination of newly present information paired with your personal history anything beyond that in your understanding of how you rationalize is a fabrication to protect your ego.
@@tlz124 Personally I don’t believe the sooner you take the innocence of a child away the better. Just because they weren’t forcefully introduced to disgusting behavior at a young age doesn’t mean they will be oblivious to it when they grow up and become adults. They will see these behaviors later on in life and contrary to the public school kids who see it as normal, the homeschool kids will see it as what it is .. not normal, while still acknowledging that it exists.
Ps: I’m talking from experience as a kid who was homeschooled.
I was public schooled in the 90s/2000s. The quality of public education is drastically falling. After having children, we decided to start homeschooling, and I would say we have a more active social life than the average public schooled kid. My kids interact with multiple generations in a variety of settings, not just kids their own age in the same room everyday. And pretty much all of the homeschoolers I know are very accomplished in academics and life skills, internships, etc. We love being homeschoolers- my kids and I. I am continually learning new things everyday, even though I have a Masters Degree myself. Learning is a lifelong pursuit.
Well said.
Oh my goodness! I'm the same exact way! I was also public schooled in the 90s/2000s and had even gotten my Master's degree. But I chose to stay home and homeschool my children. I like not being confined to a rigid schedule and then being away from my kids for long hours of the day. There's just so much flexibility and freedom with homeschooling. My kids are still young but they usually spend an hour and a half on core subjects (i.e. math, reading, and language arts) and then we have the rest of the day for play, exploring, discovering, creating, developing, and learning new things. I've recently had a conversation with a friend about raising wild and free kids, she jokingly said "oh, like free-range?" And that was my Aha moment about how I want to do homeschooling--reclaiming childhood, fostering a world of wonder and joy of learning.
Same story here. Honestly homeschooling wasn’t on our radar before kids. Master of Education here as well.
We were looser with academics in the younger years and they played and weren’t forced into a learning box that they must read so many words by a certain age for example, or else they are “failing.”
Somehow by God’s grace when mine make it to middle/high school they are still able to take regular classes with teachers and do college work. One of my oldest has moved several states away for college and is THRIVING. All As with a double major.
She was at dance academy 5-6 days a week and other social activities.
The siblings have such amazing connections from growing up that way & I’m so grateful for the relationships my husband and I are able to have with each of our 5 kids.
Homeschooling was weird in the late 80s/early 90s. There were very few doing it. Those were the trailblazers.
As we have home educated for 17 years so far the acceptance has increased dynamically in that time, and opportunities increased in communities and universities for these students.
Also since the pandemic more people in general feel like they have “homeschooled” and put the majority of us in camaraderie on the subject.
Not to mention the fact that they can get bullied at school.
Same. If I could give my kids my same education, I would probably do it. But it's just not the same anymore.
Homeschooling my kids has been the biggest blessing of our lives. They are ahead academically, volunteer a ton in areas of interest, and we have alot of travel adventures together!
That's amazing! How do you get your kids involved in stuff outside the home? Like what kind of organizations do they volunteer with? (Asking for myself, because I want to homeschool 😅)
@@friedawells6860 volunteering, sports, church activities, trail life. We’ve been involved in co-ops here and there.
She hit the nail on the head. Homeschooling comes down to freedom and flexibility. You get to choose your own adventure with your kids so it can be as great or as terrible as you want to make it (kind of like real life) but the reality is that public and private schools are the same. Also, there are FAR more resources for homeschoolers today than there were 10 or 20 years ago so in many ways it has never been a BETTER time to homeschool than today. For my family, with the rapidly declining quality of institutional education even at "good" schools, homeschooling is a no brainer!
When you look at how much schooling has been from home through online methods, it doesn't look like a lot of difference between home schooling and being part of a regular school but doing everything online
"I think this is something parents should be concerned about" (referring to how much time parents get to spend with their children) ... THANK YOU! This is the primary reason I homeschool my children. I just felt like we weren't able to spend enough quality time together.
I notice when parents have no idea what they are doing when they are with their kid. More time together definitely helps the learning curve.
“You haven’t got bullied” that person said that like that’s just the norm or ok in public school which is so sad. I’m so glad my kid isn’t getting bullied nor is one of the kids who would bully. That shouldn’t be the norm in public education. Thank God for homeschooling. Thank God!
Voddie Baucham did a series called “children of Ceasar”….it’s an excellent Christian case for homeschooling…. But he also breaks it down in a more obvious/secular way as well… like how much time is spent with parents vs teachers…it’s really fascinating to see it laid out….To say I’m extremely grateful for my homeschooling experience would be an understatement 🥺🙏🏻🙌🏻
Yes! Thank you for this comment. I learned so much from his teachings.
I have a very specific example I am referring to when I am thinking of Christian home school. I have someone close to me that I know says they are home schooling their children, but there are no signs of any schooling being done and also no socialization. I frankly feel bad for the kid. They cant properly count to 50, and they are 10 years old.
Love Voddie!❤
Codie Bacucham preaches the Word and doesn't care what the world says I love his sermons
The man is awesome and underrated. We need him in the UK
This last year was my first homeschooling and I've learned that I actually really Iike my kids, not just love them. I spend so much more time with them now and we have so much fun together. We love it.
Beautiful comment ❤
people legit act like we don’t socialize at all. I socialize so much and all my friends tell me I’m the most extroverted person they know. Half the time it’s personality too. I know so many public schoolers that have terrible social anxiety
We are homeschooling and we love it. I could not imagine them going to public school now with the school system being what it is, and shootings statistically higher than ever before in history. Its a sacrifice living on one salary but it is worth it, we follow the Dave Ramsey financial method so we were prepared and are doing well. We are all extremely happy with this choice and are committed to making this a fun experience with lots of field trips, co-ops, playdates, and real life experiences for our children as they mature. Best decision ever❤️
They terrorize kids in school doing school shooting drills. The public school system used the existence of school shootings to terrorize the kids. My kindergartener was in an afterschool sign language program at a public school, only two hours a week, and one day came home talking about "lock in". He just turned 6.
Sign your kids up for sports. We homeschool, LOVE IT and utilize local sports opportunities. We started homeschooling due to a mentally unstable abusive school teacher. To be honest we don’t REALLY know our kids teachers in public school and when they do something bad it can be scary.
By the time you get to know and trust the teacher the school year is over. Over the course of 12 years the chance your kid will not encounter a teacher with major problems approaches zero. One bad year can totally derail academic progress.
Maybe not sports entirely but yes, home school kids should especially be in group extracurricular activities.
@Marlon Moncrieffe that part. We're just trying to.puy our kids in a little of everything so they can find what they like. ( we homeschool)
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728what's wrong with sports, teaches kids teamwork and physical activity.
...Nothing is wrong with sports, @@deanwinchester6654 .
I was just saying that sports are not the only extracurricular activities out there that kids can engage in.
ALL kids SHOULD be doing SOMETHING-which COULD be a sport but NOT always a sport.
I'm so thankful my mom homeschooled me all the way through. I had so many amazing opportunities I would have missed out on otherwise. Now I'm joyfully taking on the role of a homeschooling mom.
I love the whole bonding aspect. Even with a 5 year old and being a stay at home mom from the get go i see a lot of benefits being around ur own kid 24/7. And I cant wait to keep doing that for the next 12 year.
As for not experiencing life like partying, drinking, etc... You don't need to go through that to be able to have a successful and meaningful life.
Early exposure to marijuana is associated with schizophrenia. Substance abuse runs on both sides of my kid's family. Protecting our kids from drugs is a top 10 reason we homeschool.
YOU see a lot of benefit of being around your kid 24/7. YOU can’t wait to keep doing that the next 12 years. Your post has many grammatical mistakes. You’re setting up your kid for failure because of your own selfishness.
Homeschool mama here! Going on 5 years!! Not easy but so worth it
We homeschool our 4 kids. I would say things have changed so much since I was a kid. Parents dont discipline at home and therefore teachers at schools are left managing outbursts, lack of self-control, lack of obedience(even just asking a child to finish a worksheet), kids are ripping things off walls, pulling kids pants down, kicking the teacher, mocking, rude, swearing at the teacher etc-in every class. The kids who come to learn are left to just put up with all of this awful behaviour. We wonder why kids cant read by grade 6. Its brutal-I think the majority of classes have completely inappropriate behaviour daily.
You just made an excellent point as to why public education is so important. All kids deserve a base minimum level of education/discipline and many parents cannot provide it
My husband & I have 6 children that are all such a blessing! Have homeschooled them all & continuing!!!!!! Best gift ever! Just graduating our 2nd oldest this month. Our children are very outgoing & interact well with people of all ages…they have unique interests each like one builds cool robotics & another is into drones & all 6 do mountain bike racing and we all love camping & love doing life together! Best gift ever!!!!!
I’m a teacher and I when she said these kids advanced because they started early- I would say this is not why. Kids develop naturally my three year old isn’t going to read chapter books because we started early. I will say- these kids are 1:1 with their parent. I’m 1:25 in my classroom!!! There is just no way to give everyone ample time and focus. Plus- THERE IS SO MUCH WASTED TIME IN SCHOOLS!!!! Homeschool kids could spend 2-4 good hours (depending on grade level) and STILL learn more than kids there all day!!!! After covid I’ve had so many parents come to me and ask me to tutor their child in reading. I’ve had so many kids who are in 4-7 who can’t read!!!! Within 6-8 months with me- they are readers. Amazing what 1:1 can do.
Sending your flesh and blood offspring to a government institution for 7 hours a day 5 days a week for 12 years during their most formative years is the definition of insanity.
Well said.
Well said.
You had me up until "insanity." It's not insanity, it's child abuse.
Especially when they aren't being taught anything which cannot be taught in 1/3 the time and much better by homeschool curiculum not to mention at age 15/16 you get to take free college classes until age 19... so who in their right mind would not do this?
@@cisium1184child abuse? Going to school in your opinion is child abuse....🙄
I'm 2nd oldest of 10 kids and we were all homeschooled. We are college graduates, we are small business owners, we surprisingly love each other and are the best of friends still 😂We all worked for the local farmer and made our own money before we were teenagers. I was 15yo for my first "real" job. In my high-school years, we traveled to over 30 states and learned how to balance a checkbook, cook, plant a garden, shoot and skin deer and squirrels for food, I can gut a chicken blindfolded and I know how to defend myself. My parents made sure we were part of a homeschool group that met weekly so we would get socialized. We did community service projects to give back to society. My husband (also homeschooled and proud Marine veteran) and I are debt free aside from our home and we are expecting our 4th child and he is finishing his bachelor's degree. Life is great! ❤I'm so thankful for having had the opportunity to go to public school, a private school and finally homeschooling and we are homeschooling our own kids with amazing results. It can be done wrong but it can also be done right! ❤
I recently made the decision to homeschool my two daughters as it has become clear that the public schools do not reflect our family values and that schools are becoming increasingly unsafe environments as school shootings continue to happen. My eldest is turning 5 and we’ll be starting her kindergarten year this fall. Love hearing Brett’s perspective having been homeschooled herself, and I love hearing that it strengthened and solidified her relationship with her mom, gives me hope and reassurance!
I homeschool my kids and yeah they ARE weird. When another teen asks my kid her TikTok handle she tells her she's.not on TikTok. If someone asks her her IG she says, "What's that?"
She's not sleeping with boys, she's not sexting, she doesn't take selfies all day long and want to show off her body for attention etc 🤷🤷🤷
My kids go to public school. They know what all of that is but we dont allow them to have any accounts on tiktok..its how and what you teach the kids. Has nothing to do with homeschooling.
@@miaqueen9578 I wish all parents would stand up and say no to all that. How old are your kids? At some point it will dramatically affect them at school not having those things. The kids are all friends on there and make plans on there etc and your kids will be left out.
I was public schooled and private schooled, and when I met homeschoolers, they were all highly intelligent kids taking college courses and starting their careers at age 20.
30+ years old here and I was homeschooled. I was very sheltered and not socialized. I was weird/maybe still weird. I also went wild once in college. Thank goodness I graduated.
I’m now homeschooling my own children but we are very social and do lots of activities. They’re not sitting at their desks alone like I did.
I'm so happy for you!
I went to public school growing up and then taught in public middle schools for three years. This last year working with Portals Academy has made me fall in love with homeschooling and cohort learning. Now that I have had a taste of the freedom and beauty of seeing kids learning naturally there is no going back! We really CAN teach our kids better!
I’ve met so many wonderful kids from homeschool and they’re so passionate about what they love, and one of them was so secure in herself and she is great. She has more time to research what she likes and do the things she loves such as volunteering, being dual enrolled in a course she likes, and helping out with a program and stuff. She is not shy at all and I wish I could be like that. I feel like it gives kids more freedom as long as they still get out and socialize in the real world. Because to be honest the school system is not for everyone and kids stay up late destroying their health just to reach deadlines and then wake up early. But homeschooling has the potential to nurture instead of crush health, creativity, happiness and passion. Maybe it’s just my bias because I want to do something other than be at school (not that I’m ungrateful because I go to a good private school), it’s just, I feel like I want to do something else and I feel I don’t fit in even though I’m not technically alone alone. But I don’t know much, I have good AP classes but I think I could do that online if it’s comes to that case, but the problem is what I want to chase will also be hard as well. Thing is I know I’d never be allowed to drop out of in high school for homeschool. Maybe I’m scared of being bold and telling my mom that without a plan, but I’m just hurting more than happy. I don’t know if I quit and went homeschool, if I’d have the guts to chase what I want anyway rather than just staying home playing all day. I just want to do what I love right now and try new things but I don’t know. I feel so suppressed by standards and expectations and stuff, I don’t know. Because of that I actually have a harder time with people because insecurity about being around others in school and opinions has crushed it, and there seems to be an expectation in in-person school (maybe peer pressure that is so hard to deal with). I don’t feel like I vibe with the people at school because I just don’t relate much to them, I don’t watch you’re tiktoks I’m not into the latest school drama, grades and deadlines seem horrible and everyone is always freaking out about it, being so afraid to make a mistake and be yourself (maybe it’s just my trust issues from something). But I just, I want to be more, I want to be myself and I want to find my people and have a place where I can feel like I can let loose (I feel like I’ve literally lost my humor as I became more scared of judgement). I kind of wish I could be homeschooled so I could act, volunteer more, sing, dance, have fun with friends, instead of doing 7 hours of homework everyday having no life.
Some say “If you homeschool your kids won’t fit in” exactly! More so these days that’s a good thing
I homeschool. I keep my kids really busy, we are out of the house nearly every day. Family mentioned something about socialization… I said “I can’t take any more socialization!” They all laughed. Keeping them isolated from other kids is almost a crime to me.
Physical and emotional education… yes Brett!
Thank you for saying that it comes down to parenting. I am a public school teacher, but I will definitely consider homeschooling for my family. As a teacher I see a lot of lonely kids in school. The lack of engagement, support, and quality time at home is evident. It’s really sad to see young people struggling. Brett’s experience with homeschooling sounds ideal. It’s because of her parents that she had so many opportunities and valuable learning experiences.
I was homeschooled all twelve years. I love it. My mom was homeschooling for 30 years straight because of the age gaps with my 5 siblings (my mom and dad ROCK!).
If I was public-schooled my twin sister and I agree we wouldn’t be as close because as teenagers she wanted to «fit in » more while I decided I would be different no matter what (much to her chagrin).
My husband and I will be homeschooling our son and I am determined to teach him to be himself even if it looks different than others.
We've homeschooled for years. I was always aware of the possibility of our children being awkward and was determined they wouldn't be. Our kids do 4h, baseball, basketball, volleyball, choir, art, and orchestra. They are the most well-adjusted kids I know, and I love being around them.
Homeschooling can be a benefit or a detriment depending on many factors. For example- how mainstream it is in your community, amount of resources and support system available, flexibility and involvement of parents to name a few. I have been homeschooling our kids for 13 years. We take it year by year and now have 2 kids in public and homeschool 2 kids at home. Homeschooling can not only help a child who excels at school to be able to learn at their own pace, but it also has helped our kids that struggle more with certain school subjects to have individual attention that public and private school couldn’t provide.
Famous homeschoolers include: many of our countries past presidents, Supreme Court justices, Albert Einstein, Mozart, and Taylor Swift to name just a few.
Some of the most socially awkward people I’ve ever met, I went to public high school with. Some of the most socially versatile people I have met in life, have been homeschooled.
I am so proud of this girl on how she managed this interview; also, I wish they do a report of how many people in jail were homeschooled vs government schooled. That would be an eye opening for the socialization!
I graduated public school and am completely socially inept so 🤷🏻♀️
Me too, it took me 10 years after high school to really learn how to socialize.
I'm thankful to homeschool my children. I have decided not to try and defend our homeschooling journey to the skeptics. They inevitably ask the most unimportant questions - What about all their experiences that only school can offer?? How will they grow if they dont have them?? (You can fill in all the examples you can think of - the good and the bad) To which I say -When you send your children off to Babylon don't be surprised if they come back Babylonias. Yes, I will shelter my children thank you very much.
I would reply back "what about all the opportunities they are missing out on because they are trapped in an institution very similar to prison?"
“Party do drugs go crazy”. Something I’m sure public school kids never do right???
As a parent of 14 children, all homeschooled, I can say without reservation that homeschooling does not make children weird or awkward. Not to brag, but everyone who meets and interacts with my kids for more than ten minutes comes comes away impressed at their maturity, their ease at dealing with new people and being able to bring other kids along and integrate them into their group. They naturally speak 2:05 well and interact with everyone, from small children to the elderly.
I can say that without bragging, because the same is largely true of all their friends; a group of about 50 kids who are all homeschooled. Growing up in the late 80’s and early 90’s, I would have killed for a friend group like this one.
Y don’t u vlog
14 homeschooled kids?!!? That’s an achievement. I completely agree with what your saying, if the parents know what their doing they won’t turn out awkward, you seem to know what your doing. I’m homeschooled myself and not to brag, but I’ve gotten many comments on my manners and politeness etc 😅
I was homeschooled, started college at 15. I did multiple extracurriculars: dance, choir, karate, piano. I was involved in my local church group.
I am the most successful homeschooled kid that I know. As far as I can tell, I make double what my homeschooled friends make.
But homeschooling has ended up being a disadvantage. I dropped out of college at 16 because I couldn’t make friends. I only caught up socially when I did a sales-oriented job for 2 years. Even now, I have been let go at more jobs than most of my friends.
So homeschooling becoming popular is scary to me.
But maybe its not because you were homeshooled, but because of your personality or some particular traits. Perhaps people see you as socially akward and you need to work on develop some of this skills by working with a therapist or a good friend that guides you and videos here in YT...I see more advantages than disadvantages to homeschooling if at least one parent is in charge to make it work and do it with passion and love and also letting their kids explore arts, sports, etc..(like you did)
I have an incredibly easy time making friends not only in my home country, but around the world and expressing my personality in multiple languages. I was homeschooled. My husband was public schooled and it's like pulling teeth to get him to make friends or even talk to our neighbors.
Why would you drop out of college because you couldn't make friends? College is for gaining a degree to then be employed.
I know who the homeschoolers are because they’re the kids who are friendly to my fellow homeschooled children when they try to strike up a conversation. I’m tired of “socialization” I don’t want my kids to be conformed to the current society, y’all need manners!
Public school is the only place that mental and physical child abuse is considered “character building “. Homeschool kids may seem weird because they feel safe to be themselves without constant ridicule dictating how they express their personalities. Public schoolers act the same way because they have to navigate the same types of abuse.
I pray that my husband and I can become financially stable enough for me to be able to homeschool my kids….i would love to be able to give them this gift.
We just got rid of our internet bill so I can continue to stay at home. Sacrifice is involved.
Really interesting, thank you for sharing.
I have always been nervous of every 1st day of school. It never went away even when I became an adult. Awkwardness, I believe, is a personality type. Some call it timidity. I honestly would have opted to study at home than be around other kids. I attended brick-and-mortar from Kindergarten thru University. That said, my husband is the same thing - socially awkward. Our kids don’t stand a chance. I still decided to homeschool them because it is my own wish for myself for various reasons. We finished year 4 and they all (3 kids) still choose to be homeschooled. They are super close! They also appreciate being able to sleep in, study in their pajamas, and all the time they spend playing compared to most kids.
Most people can count on one hand the number of adults they know who were homeschooled. So how many of those are "going wild" with drinking and drugs exactly? And how does that compare to the number of public ed kids who grow up to become addicts and drunks? Because God knows there are plenty of those.
The research is overwhelming positive for homeschoolers. They test better and they are more happy/successful in adulthood.
My son plays travel soccer and homeschools. He loves the time he gets with family and being young and able to play.
I homeschooled both of my two teens. My decision was influenced by the COVID era and how the public school were failing my oldest, and the youngest one wanted to try it too. In two years and half, my oldest graduated with a HS diploma and Associates degree in Computer Science. He is now completing his bachelors in Computer Engineering at top state school with a full scholarship. Next, my daughter will be graduating soon with her a HS diploma and Associates degree in Accounting. We are looking at schools willing to give her a full ride. Homeschooling isn't for everyone. But, it is a viable option for parents who want to ensure their kids are going to thrive.
People act like there are no weird kids in public or private schools. Yea okay lol. We will be homeschooling starting next year and following the model of the country that has #1 education for the past decade-Finland. 25 kids in a class with 1 teacher- no thanks! I’d rather a personalized education for my kids full of fun and adventure.
Homeschooling is either the best thing in the world or the worst.
I work in education and majority of the parents struggle to comprehend what is being taught in classes and work too hard to be home during the day
I think if public schools are closed it would make huge problems.
Public education has its problems no doubt.
I live in texas 47th in the nation for education. I always wonder what education is like in states that rank higher
LOL 😂 we homeschool & I had someone recently tell me that they hope that my kid is getting socialization. 😂 Exactly like she said!!! It DEPENDS on the parents. We are RARELY home. Yes, right now we are in a VERY busy season (funny because it’s Summer but we homeschool all year round) where my 8 year old (have a 26 year old, he was public schooled) & my 8 year old has been homeschooled since the end of kindergarten year (pandemic) & he’s doing hockey, judo, We go to Wild & Free ~ homeschooling group on Thursdays ~ where we get to go do fun adventures & have lifelong friends ~ FAMILIES, not just kids, not just parents ~ we hike, we explore the world around us together. We go to church, we go to the zoo… until recently we went to the science museum & we get to do a lot of this stuff in the “off hours” where they get to explore to their hearts content because they don’t have to wait in line forever for a gazillion kids to have their turn ~ sometimes is WHOLEY different than ALL THE TIME!!! IT SO DEPENDS ON THE PARENTS!!!
homeschooling is on a whole other level today. Today home school kids are way more social and at least 2 or more grade levels ahead of public school kids. Im considering home school as well because of how amazing it is now and how much support there is.
I love being with my 5 children and they love being with each other. Every day, the bus drives by our house to pick up the neighbors at 8:50am for elementary school and drops them off at 3:50. I always note what we’re doing. Eating a healthy breakfast, dancing, writing a play, reading whatever books we want or playing outside. Oh btw- my kids seem way more physically healthy than public school kids. Lots of outdoor time and playing.
I ENJOYED homeschool through high school. Elementary and Middle school were a nightmare!
Parents please protect your children and Homeschool!!! Make sure your children learn phonics, reading, writing, science, and mathematics. Sadly, none of this is being taught in the public schools anymore. You’re children will only benefit from homeschooling. Also, keep them off cell phones and social media. Put them in sports and extracurricular activities and they will be fine.
"You’re children will only benefit from homeschooling" Oof, I really hope you're not homeschooling :(
Well, I went to public school all my life and I was never a party girl or a drinker. I never got drunk in my whole life, so I think that goes also down to the student how that person takes life but at the same time that I was in public school I was also going to church because I myself decided that and I think going Church was what made me not be a party girl and be more conservative. Also, I took myself to church because my parents never took me or Teach me or did anything with me I just wanted good for my life so that’s the way I looked for it and then again, I was in the worst schools you can imagine, I always stayed away from bad students. I was bullied, and I didn’t even care for them because will just ignore them I stayed away, and if I had to fight I did. that just showed me to defend myself and be stronger. What is scary know days is that they’re teaching and grooming kids telling them that they can be a girl if you’re a boy a boy if they’re a girl and that’s one of the reasons I will be homeschooling.
I was homeschooled all the way to graduation and everyone says they wouldn't have noticed if I didn't mention it. Between church/sports/hobbies I always had too many friends. 10 years into adulthood and I have noticed certain aspects from that education that have given me a leg up over my peers. If you have the means and education, get your kids out of public school.
Former public school teacher and now homeschool mom of 4. Totally up to the parents. My kids are WWWWWAAAAAAAYYYYYY more socialized than kids in “school”, way further ahead, and given more opportunities
I have a friend who teaches public school, uses her salary to pay for Montessori for her kids. I know that is not rare and it speaks volumes about public school.
Every homeschooled child I ever met is intelligent, socialable, able to make eye contact and hold an intelligent conversation with their peers and adults.
My cousin's kids are all home schooled and she has them in a home school group with other home schooled kids to socialize, they go on a lot of field trips or at least way more than I remember going on as a kid in public school. They also have their own pee-wee football team and basketball team, and the middle school and high school aged teens have football and basketball teams that play in the seasons of the regular middle and high school athletes. They also have their own dances and proms as well. It's all pretty cool in my opinion.
It’s down to the parents. The thing is there’s still plenty of people who went private charter parochial etc that have done very well on par or above homeschooling . Not slamming those that homeschool but ultimately the largest factor is how the family unit is. We’re looking at Montessori for pre school from the place we visited an and other places around it seemed that they still believe that the parent is the first educator of their kid
I was homeschooled 1989-1997 and got a 1450 on my SAT 3.85gpa got into every university I applied to. I went to homecoming and prom. I didn’t soccer, gymnastics, baseball, band, choir and travels a lot! I’m not weird!
Anyone who sends their kids to a government institution for 7 hours a day five days a week has a freaking screw loose in their brain.
Hope your day goes well while insulting other parents
I agree, enlisting in the military seems like a terrible decision
My oldest started pre k this year and we have her in a Christian school that’s 3 days at school and 2 days homeschool. She really loved it this year, and plan for now to continue with this model. It’s wonderful that there seem to be more options available now for schooling. Parents should take advantage.
hey bethany how are you?
I was talking to a mom that is kids have been in public schools until this year. She said her kid was going to be weird no matter what. It’s just who he is. The quirky things my kids do are just who they are and it isn’t squashed out of them because they don’t have a desire to act like their peers.
All of our kids were homeschooled. They did karate and swam for the local high school. Also ROTC at the local high school. They all turned out great. I could not be prouder. They work, pay there own bills without asking me for money :). They have good relationships and are just good people. IF YOU WANT SOMETHING DONE RIGHT - DO IT YOURSELF.
I know a 4 and 6 year old who haven’t been put into school yet, I don’t think their parents are planning to. Their dad is super into the outdoors, survival stuff and building stuff in nature and all that. The FOUR and SIX year old know how to start a fire by themselves, most adults don’t know how to do that. And they’re actually really lovely and super sociable, they still get to play with other kids all the time. And they’re always outdoors, probably have never touched a device, they’re always outside on the beach and woods, they’re literally not afraid of any kinds of sea creatures or bugs. And they get to be with their parents all the time, and the dad gets to teach them all of these super cool survival skills, you can learn so much outdoors that you can never learn in school. In school kids pick up all sorts of bad behaviours, they’ll eventually end up being exposed to all that, but at least they get to have a great childhood.
I live in Albuquerque. Calvery Church and Legacy Church have schools that have exploded in size the last few years
You wanna see a weird kid? Get a public school kid in an unexpected situation, with an unfamiliar person. That's a weird weird kid
I find it interesting kids hanging out with people only your age is considered "normal."
Video title = "Why Homeschooling is the Future." Content emphasized her benefits from being homeschooled. I agree with all the benefits and am glad that many students have parents who can do that for them. So many students do not have parents that can homeschool them. Sometimes, going to school is the only way they (the students) can get respite from home. Let's face it. So many adults did not do well when they were in school. They just don't have the skills, ambition, or discipline to homeschool their children. I believe home schooling may be more prevalent in the future but I also hope the public schools can, somehow, pull it together so the rest of the population can also have a good education.
Notice the lady in the video (as well as all the comments) talk about how much THEY love & benefit from homeschooling. No mention of how it may or may not impact their kids. They’re selfish.
There are other avenues for socializing besides school. Sports, library reading days, the arts always leads to socializing with like minded people, church activities, martial arts, co-op's etc.
I call BS on Ivy League schools wanting home schoolers. My wife and I both graduated from Ivy League schools and our home schooled children with higher SAT scores and grades were rejected. I'm glad to say that they both have full rides at our state university. Go state schools !!!
I hundred percent agree with Brett when she says that you need to give your kid freedom (monitered at first, yes, but a parent who gives them a bit of freedom) so that they can live a bit in the real world. I was homeschooled and my Dad trusts me like nobodys business because he gave me the freedom to go out and work hard all through HS but he could do that because he had seen me work through tough issues myself and trusted me to make my own choices with his guidance AND I go to him and ask him for his guidance because i mutually trust his advice and wisdom. Also I worked really hard academically and just graduated from college but only had to pay for less than two years because I was given four scholarships (one of which was half tuition) so yeah, homeschoolers can be smart, work incredibly hard (see results) and become good members of society. Also Im an extrovert who has no problem making friends and connecting with new people.
Hi Berna I live in Turkey. Homeschooling is unknown in Turkey. I am 36 years old and have three children. I first encountered homeschooling on RUclips. now i read many people's comments as i read your comment. Nobody knows homeschooling in our country. Also, it is forbidden in our country not to send your child to school. can i get more information from you?
As a teacher (a conservative teacher - don’t hate me), I have a couple concerns with this. 1. Brett talks about how she spent most of her time NOT doing school. Shouldn’t she have spent a mostly equal time learning? 2. When I get homeschooled kids in the classroom, 99% of them are VERY behind academically - often by years. I believe that homeschooling can be done well, but most don’t succeed….
Yeah, her lack of actual schooling stood out to me as a red flag
I think they need to revamp the curriculum entirely to make it so that people are better prepared for the real world. Like you don't even need calculus (even though I made an A) just a class on math of how to file taxes or what to say in an interview and etc. It's like why go to school when the stuff that is important in life you have to learn from your parents which defeats the purpose.
I am for home school, public school, and private school co-existing.
I have some concerns with school choice though; good intentions but conservative expectations about the positive outcome may be naive.
Link to full podcast?
I went to public schools up to high school and this was in the 80's and I went a private high school in Florida due to some of the schools down there at that time were bad at least the one I was gonna go to. I was suppossed to go into 8th grade but like I said the public school was kinda of a bad one so I skipped 8th grade and went into 9th grade to go to this private high school it was alternative high school for kids with learning disabilities and I did have those. But at this school and it was small there were only 27 kids in the whole school and understand why we couldn't have any of the things that a public high school would have like the football games Prom and homecoming and a bunch of other things that most high schools have. I missed out on all of those things and yeah some people would say prom is overrated and same thing with homecoming but for me I don't think it would be. I guess me being almost 50 I'm 49 now and graduated high school in 92. Back when I went to my niece's high school graduation in I think 2014 or 2015 anyways when I went I have a flood of emotions not only for her graduating but for me as well cause I used to go to the football games there quite a bit and it was kinda cool watching my sister cheer cause she was on the cheerleader squad. But the most important thing was the fun that I had interacting with everyone there and having a great time at the games.
There are PLENTY of weird (maladjusted) kids in public schools.
It was mentioned about homeschooled kids going out and partying and being wild, when I see public school kids, not only are doing that when they graduate, but BEFORE they leave the school.
The public school here in town in wanting to ban hoodies because the kids want stop vaping.
And there is also the girl who is pregnant with twins. But she isn't the first pregnant high schooler in this town in the last several years.
I live in a very small town.
Wild children, in general, is a PROBLEM!
I switched from accounting to teaching, partially so that I could homeschool my kids as an actual teacher.
But every summer I give it a test run, and man, I'm not cut out for it. I'm so bored, and have no interest in things like arts and crafts or gardening. At least in public school, kids get a different teacher every year, thus a mix of strengths.
What's wrong with being weird? If weird means unique and motivated and accomplishing things at an early age, then I'll take it. Being normal like many public school kids in the United States is not what I aspire my kids to be like. I was a public school teacher, I went to public school and researched where our public school system came from and what it was meant to do to our children's minds. F that!
Im from Indonesia. My boy goes to school which they can be online school and offline school. So it seems like semi homeschooling. My boy can socialize too when offline school.
Omg my husband and I share one car. When he goes to work I’m stuck home everyday and can’t go anywhere. My daughter is the most social kid I’ve ever seen. She loves people and always goes to them.
🙄 all that crap they learn from other kids in school is what’s weird
Honestly I think if kids spend more time with their parents, they'll grow up with more confidence in who they are. Having friends is definitely really good for kids to have but if they are spending more time with friends than with family, that has a real effect. We tend to mirror/mimic the people we spend most time with. So stick kids together whose brains aren't fully developed yet and you get confusion and almost a loss of identity from the kid.
My sister started being really rebellious in high school. She started sneaking out, stealing money from my parents, doing drugs, and basically doing everything that her friends were doing. To this day, she still blames my parents for everything that has gone wrong in her life even though she followed her friends example which ultimately lead her to living a life filled with consequences for her actions. If my parents would've been able to take her away from those bad friends and spend more time with her, it might've changed things. But I guess there will always be a what if.
Growing up, I always wished to be homeschooled. I planned to homeschool my kids before it became cool ;)
My friends call me weird because i was homeschooled for highschool. I was the same way when i was in school, it's just now they can blame it on something because they don't understand. Im not even weird, i just stayed straight unlike them.
Sounds like being homeschooled as a rich kid is where it’s at…like other comments I can not be a proponent of how I was homeschooled. I would like to potentially try to homeschool my daughter in a completely different way than what I experienced, but money and time in the parents department absolutely matters.
Options for homeschooling today are completely different than when I was younger. In fact there are a ton of wonderful free programs that can be utilized as well. With homeschooling on the rise I'm even more encouraged by the possibilities to empower families to find excellent educational opportunities for their kids.
Homeschool today is so much different.
It's more about dedication and priorities as opposed to money. Plenty of working and middle class people do very well homeschooling.
There are free resources out there. The library is a great start, outdoor nature walks, counting rocks or sticks, and thrifstore finds for close to free. Ask your church to help fund your family.
There are literally a million things/activities you can do with your kids that are either low cost or free. The parents have to do the work and find them out. Homeschool is not for lazy people.
"Normal socialization" is the thing people say they worry about when they don't have any actual objections to homeschooling. Normal? Really? Obsession with their bodies. Obsession with music, phones, friend's opinions. Make many grunting sounds when speaking. Lack ability to make eye contact or have meaningful conversations with adults. We homeschool for a lot of reasons and one of them is to avoid "normal."
I’d say families were more trustful of teachers back in the day because either they knew the teacher or it was assumed that school system wouldn’t hire somebody that holds values completely contrary to their own. That’s definitely not the case now.
As I start to consider expanding my family and having a child, I've become a lot more open to the idea of homeschooling (especially with the state of education in the public school system). I would much rather have my child get the fundamentals of math, reading, English, history, etc. down and have more availability to spend time on their interests. However, I personally would not want to be the one teaching my children. For starters, I wouldn't be able to work (I work from home but really love my job and its flexibility). Secondly, I'm not a qualified teacher. I didn't go to school to learn how to teach and I worry about my ability to teach my children. Third, I think there's a lot of benefit in your children learning from someone that ISN'T you (the parent). If they decide to go off to college or even trade school, they're going to have to learn how to adapt to learning from someone that isn't their parent. And an 18-year-old learning in that way for the first time doesn't sound like it would yield positive results. In an ideal situation, I'd love to find other homeschooled kids in the area, split the cost of a private teacher between families, and have them 'go to physical school' with these other students a couple days a week. I'd be open to private school but I'm not religious and also, it's EXPENSIVE. But with the current state of education, I've become much more open to homeschooling or something similar.
We homeschool and love it!
To be able to homeschool is a privilege. You either have to lose one income or spend a fortune on someone to homeschool them in your home.
Good things usually require sacrifice but it's worth it.
For homeschooling to work, you have to have well educated parents. I know someone who kind of goofed off in high school and tried homeschooling. When job demands required the kids going to public school, they were somewhat behind where they should have been.
By the way, you can be weird in public school. Being an only child and very unpopular in school, I talked to adults. I knew all of my father's co-workers. I knew the company org. chart.
When I decided at age 8 that I wanted to be a lawyer, I started talking to lawyers. I knew what to expect, when I started law school.
Adult that was homeschooled here. There's nothing wrong with homeschooling if you have a parent who's an active participant. Also, keeping the child involved in group activities with other kids is a must. Like scouts/sports/etc.
I should mention I start public school late in the 10th grade. I made friends, but the environment was not conducive for learning, or critical thought.
It’s not supposed to be an environment conductive for learning or critical thought. It’s an environment that exposes you to different people to prepare you for adulthood.
@ImADogIHateCats it felt very anti-social with all the fights, outbursts, and drugs to me. It felt more like a prison for kids.
@@johnnysolami that was just a reflection of your environment. School districts are a thing, and private school is even better if parents can afford it. But isolating your children via home schooling is not the answer.
@ImADogIHateCats as long as they're involved with group activities, like sports, they'll be fine
I went to a private Christian school from kindergarten all the way through college. I’m obviously biased, but I think this is the best middle ground. My mom was a helicopter mom, so I know if I’d been homeschooled, I probably never would have left the house. But on the other hand, I’m thankful that I didn’t go to a public school either, since I’ve seen and heard the horror stories of what these government funded schools are teaching. With private schools, the parents get to make an informed decision by researching different schools, meeting with the staff, and making sure they aren’t teaching political propaganda to the kids. And if they do start teaching these things, the parents can pull the kids out of that school and either choose another school or homeschool. The only downside is that private schools can be super expensive, so homeschooling is certainly is a better option than most public schools.
I saw a talk and I wish I could remember who presented it and link it, but the person brought up the "homeschooled kids are weird" thing and said, "Are you saying there weren't kids in your school who were weird? Weird parents make weird kids, it doesn't matter what type of school they go to." Weird is also pretty subjective and just a concise way to say "different". Homeschool kids are different, in my own experience with being a parent who homeschools, because they tend to be less territorial. When I see kids who have been in daycare and then school, they seem a lot more "Lord of the Flies" and like they're competing for the alpha position while they're just playing with other kids. Homeschooled kids (the ones I've encountered) tend to be more cooperative and welcoming, maybe because they've had parents on them about their behaviour and just have someone around in general to look to for guidance and instruction and comfort. Where's a child who was in daycare then school going to for direction from his daycare workers who are juggling multiple children, or teachers who are, for the most part uninvolved and over-stressed?