So this is totally off topic, but the way James looks at you when you talk about things you're so passionate about makes my heart melt. He truly cares about you and what you say-- and that's to be expected as he is your husband and he loves you dearly-- but it's just so beautiful how it is captured on film every time he's in a video with you. I don't know it just really inspires me to see that ya'll are both so supportive of each other. I hope I have that some day :)
I think it depends on how you define "red flags." If we're defining "red flags" as flaws and weak points, yeah, that's true. However, if we're defining "red flags" as deal breakers like they're unequally yoked, they can't agree on Biblical principles, their personalities are not very compatible, their communication styles are not very compatible, their abusive, then there is a difference. Red flags are more like deal-breakers, not just general flaws that everyone has.
Agreed, ask Girl! Totally think it’s okay to be the first to ask. But if he won’t initiate to pursue after that, he might be passive and you don’t want a passive guy :):)
Ok so I know it’s been two years, but hopefully y’all still see this comment cause I need some advice🤗 At what point after the first time y’all hang out do you make the call “hey, he isn’t really initiating texting (especially in COVID with not being able to see each other) so I should just cut my losses and move on.” Doesn’t it take some people more time to decide if they want to pursue something than just one hang out session? I have a “hang out” in a few days and even though I’m a senior in college, I don’t have much dating experience so I’m not sure what’s the line between continuing to pursue the relationship/get to know each other and cutting losses and moving on.
I totally agree! I had to cut my losses with a guy because of that. He became passive and I realised it was because I initiated first and for someone with his personality it was an excuse for him to just sit back and be extremely passive.
I love Jame's comment on the last one about how you don't have to share intimate details with people you aren't that close with. I have often struggled with that because it's like, well how many people do I tell? In the end, I have decided to just tell certain things with those that I am really close with and that has worked for me.
You two are such a sweet couple. You have such a great dynamic together. You may've mentioned this in video I haven't yet seen, but I think one of the reasons James is such an awesome husband is because he doesn't seem to have a temper of an inclination toward anger at all! Anger is a major warning sign in guys imo, and the Bible talks about it at as dangerous as well. God bless you two!
Tiffany, what advice do you have for those who are in their older twenties and early thirties who pray to God for someone to date, but yet God doesn't send any decent guys your way. And what do you do when you finally meet a decent guy? James mentioned about dating multiple people (guys), but in all honesty, I pray to God that He just sends me one good guy He would like me to marry, especially when I am not that young. Also, I would like to add my thoughts about daydreaming. I agree with you. The less you daydream the better for the individual (especially girls) It can go too far and also you can get emotionally attached with the person you daydream about. This isn't very good, because the person (guy) can turn out quite opposite to what one is daydreaming about. Thus please make a video about tips what you can do to avoid daydreaming, and prepare yourself to be ready when the right person comes along. Thank you!
These are such great thoughts and questions - thank you so much for sharing them! I'm going to be thinking about these as possible future video ideas. In the meantime, I have a couple videos that touch on part of them... -The last tip in this one talks about going out and meeting guys: ruclips.net/video/9gRF_3oO1dQ/видео.html -This one is about my perspective on dating in general: ruclips.net/video/_wnGLuCUpHI/видео.html -This one talks about is it ok for the girl to make the first move: ruclips.net/video/JB2SPmCjTik/видео.html I hope these help as a start! Thank you so much for sharing these awesome ideas! :):)
When I was a freshman and sophomore I talked with this guy that I really cared for. We weren't really a thing, but I assumed we were together since we talked all the time. It wasn't until I asked what I was to him. He said that he cared about me, but wasn't ready for a long term relationship. I broke off communication with him because he hurt me very much. A week after we stopped talking I saw him walking down the hallway with another girl holding her hand and laughing. I'm a senior in high school now and every now and then he'll tell me hey in the hallway or whenever he sees me. Whenever something major happens (hospital trip, my dad;s cancer scare, etc,.) he gets in contact with me through messaging and checking up on me. He has a girlfriend now I think they've been together for about a year or two. I keep asking myself what does she have that I don't have... I'm still battling with this today, but your video really helped me out. Thank you
It's not what she has that you don't, it's what she has that's different from you. She isn't better than you, she's different than you. Maybe she fit with him better than you did. Maybe if you had gotten into things with him it would have ended badly and God saved you from that situation. There's a man out there who will love you with his whole heart and who will fit with you perfectly, you just have to wait on God and trust that God will make it happen 💖
Sis, I have been where you are. I agree with the comment above mine. Plus you are still young to even consider teenage boys and young men as husbands. Learn to love yourself. Ask God to help you see yourself the way He sees you. Get into God’s word and face. You have so much life ahead of you... Get your degree, travel the world, learn life skills (adulting lol), get your career, get a hobby, have a better relationship with your family, etc. Enjoy your singleness. These are ways to prepare to be a wife as well. Pray that your husband does the same.
You guys are so sweet together, and both have such good advice. I’m probably not the target audience since I feel I’m a bit older than the girls with these questions. I’m 34, but I’m still single, and I am just really enjoying the dynamic you have. I would have really liked hearing this advice in high school and college too.
Thanks SO MUCH for this video. Blessing others and I in ways you will never know! It's hard to watch these videos though and not be slightly envious of these girls, I would love to have these kinds of problems! LOL. I have no godly guys in my life and I know God only wants be to be in a relationship with someone that loves Him. But I know God has me here for a reason. At least I know for sure that I'm supposed to be single for this season of my life! God bless you and your marriage
Oh my goodness that is SUCH a great question!!! I have a video that talks about part of this...it's about rejection, but also talks about getting over a guy. I hope it can help! I'll be thinking about this as a possible future video idea too 😍 Here's the rejection video link: ruclips.net/video/ySjqaPQ-ot0/видео.html
New subbie here! I find you are both so gifted in the way you give advice in this area. So refreshing! I came across your channel at the right time too! Looking forward to more insightful videos.
That's such a good way to put it--that our imagining what the relationship would be, can become like high hopes that won't be met! It's soooo easy to do though. 🙈😂
That second to last question: girls do that too :) That's been my experience (I'm a guy). Interacting with them, getting to know them, actually thinking there could be a possibility and they "seem" possibly interested for a time.... then "kaput". Nothing 🤷♂️..I guess loss of interest... but then you're left to "realize" that long after the fact... 🤷♂️
Great advice guys!!!! Tiffany do you have any videos you made during your singleness? If so post the links! Would love to hear some of your singleness experiences
Just want to put it out there that in some cases God can tell an individual that so and so is meant to be their spouse, even if they have not dated them. Of course, this type of situation needs to be treated with careful prayer, objective confirmation, and wisdom from godly people. Nevertheless, if it is God's will, He can inform someone of who their spouse is meant to be. Just to put it out there for those who might be wondering.
Love love love your advice and videos! 😍 You guys always have a pick-me-up when I need it--my only complaint is when I run out of videos to watch because I've literally seen them all! 😂 Anywho, I have a question: "so there's this guy" lol, he's the typical party/play-boy variety at my college. Numerous times he's offered to hang out, but because I am more spiritually mature than him (I honestly don't know what his beliefs towards God are) I've jokingly turned him down. However, it's like every time I've forgotten about him--like, it'll be months between talking--, he pops up again. Should I hang out with him to be a spiritual witness to him? So few college students know Jesus, and so I know it's my duty to share his love with them... could that be why he keeps popping up? Or is that a bad idea since his values are wayy not in line with mine? I'd appreciate any advice! Love you guys!! Jordan ❤
Oh I'm so glad you love the videos!! And that's such a great question! In my personal opinion, a lot of it depends on where your heart is, and the way in which you hang out. For example, if you're going to be really tempted to slowly fall in love with him, then maybe it's not a great idea to spent lots of quality time 1:1. But maybe you could invite him along with a group of your friends, or something like that. I think it just depends on the person. I hope that can help in some way! :):)
Tiffany Dawn if you consider someone as potential but then during interraction they make ageism remarks say if your older then them, or if they keep questioning a past relationship they know about you and they wonder whether you have still have feelings for an ex that existed several years ago!! should you take this as their character flaws & insults or are they just testing your reactions? this has happened on two ocassions by suprise with two seperate people who i thought were potentials which completely put me off them. It feels as though when too many people think they know so much about your life they make judgements based on the outcome which can be fustrating when you have moved on a loong time ago and your ready to meet someone new! #smalltownproblems
Oh man! That sounds like a really tough situation! I think so much of it depends on the way they say these things. For example, are they sharing that you being older is a concern for a particular reason, or are they shutting it down and saying "this could never work because you're older than me"? Another example, are they genuinely wondering if you've been able to work past the old relationship, or are they accusing you of not moving on? I think looking at the way it's said makes all the difference. I hope that helps in some way! That does sound frustrating! :(
Hey Tiffany, I love your videos. So there is this guy, we are great friends and it’s become a crush for me but the problem is that he a girlfriend. We talk all the time and go to the same church. Even my friends can see us together and I have been very vulnerable with him. I along with my friends think his relationship with his girlfriend isn’t good. What should I do?
Christian dating advice and not one word about asking God. Great advice ppl! If you need to hear God better search for Doug Perry hearing God better. Last time I checked he knew better than me.
Such a good question, and something I've wondered so many times!! I think it takes time to figure that out. This is a video we did with our friends Mat & Est about the things that helped us know we wanted to marry our spouse: ruclips.net/video/-zgbtlKzNmk/видео.html -- and here's a video about some things to look for in a guy: ruclips.net/video/q9Dvy7LboDk/видео.html -- I hope those can encourage you! ♥️
Tiffany Dawn if you consider someone as potential but then during interraction they make ageism remarks say if your older then them, or if they keep questioning a past relationship they know about you and whether you have feelings for an ex several years should you take this as a character flaws & insults on their behalf?
Melissiabeats Í Will ask God about It.. I Think is the Best option to begin with.. About that theme.. 😇✌.. Thank u for everything.. God bless u a lot .. And keep forward 😀🙌🙋🙏🙆👋..
1 Corinthians 11:6 For if a woman does not cover her head, let her also have her hair cut off; but if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, let her cover her head.
So this is totally off topic, but the way James looks at you when you talk about things you're so passionate about makes my heart melt. He truly cares about you and what you say-- and that's to be expected as he is your husband and he loves you dearly-- but it's just so beautiful how it is captured on film every time he's in a video with you. I don't know it just really inspires me to see that ya'll are both so supportive of each other. I hope I have that some day :)
emily hassell i thought I was alone in this. It’s so true
0:42 "I have no red flags...."
We *ALL* have red flags. The sooner you acknowledge that, the better your relationships will be.
I think it depends on how you define "red flags." If we're defining "red flags" as flaws and weak points, yeah, that's true. However, if we're defining "red flags" as deal breakers like they're unequally yoked, they can't agree on Biblical principles, their personalities are not very compatible, their communication styles are not very compatible, their abusive, then there is a difference.
Red flags are more like deal-breakers, not just general flaws that everyone has.
Agreed, ask Girl! Totally think it’s okay to be the first to ask. But if he won’t initiate to pursue after that, he might be passive and you don’t want a passive guy :):)
Yes, well said! If he's not excited and wanting to be with you, it's not gonna be a good relationship. (I've tried my fair share of those. 🙈)
It's so true!
Ok so I know it’s been two years, but hopefully y’all still see this comment cause I need some advice🤗
At what point after the first time y’all hang out do you make the call “hey, he isn’t really initiating texting (especially in COVID with not being able to see each other) so I should just cut my losses and move on.” Doesn’t it take some people more time to decide if they want to pursue something than just one hang out session?
I have a “hang out” in a few days and even though I’m a senior in college, I don’t have much dating experience so I’m not sure what’s the line between continuing to pursue the relationship/get to know each other and cutting losses and moving on.
I totally agree! I had to cut my losses with a guy because of that. He became passive and I realised it was because I initiated first and for someone with his personality it was an excuse for him to just sit back and be extremely passive.
I love Jame's comment on the last one about how you don't have to share intimate details with people you aren't that close with. I have often struggled with that because it's like, well how many people do I tell? In the end, I have decided to just tell certain things with those that I am really close with and that has worked for me.
Yes! I think that's so wise! It's so important to have healthy boundaries.
That's something I have always struggled a lot with! I share too much with everyone. Lol
Guys. You give the BEST advice! ♥️
And you are seriously always so encouraging!!
You two are such a sweet couple. You have such a great dynamic together. You may've mentioned this in video I haven't yet seen, but I think one of the reasons James is such an awesome husband is because he doesn't seem to have a temper of an inclination toward anger at all! Anger is a major warning sign in guys imo, and the Bible talks about it at as dangerous as well. God bless you two!
Tiffany, what advice do you have for those who are in their older twenties and early thirties who pray to God for someone to date, but yet God doesn't send any decent guys your way. And what do you do when you finally meet a decent guy? James mentioned about dating multiple people (guys), but in all honesty, I pray to God that He just sends me one good guy He would like me to marry, especially when I am not that young.
Also, I would like to add my thoughts about daydreaming. I agree with you. The less you daydream the better for the individual (especially girls) It can go too far and also you can get emotionally attached with the person you daydream about. This isn't very good, because the person (guy) can turn out quite opposite to what one is daydreaming about. Thus please make a video about tips what you can do to avoid daydreaming, and prepare yourself to be ready when the right person comes along.
Thank you!
These are such great thoughts and questions - thank you so much for sharing them! I'm going to be thinking about these as possible future video ideas. In the meantime, I have a couple videos that touch on part of them...
-The last tip in this one talks about going out and meeting guys: ruclips.net/video/9gRF_3oO1dQ/видео.html
-This one is about my perspective on dating in general: ruclips.net/video/_wnGLuCUpHI/видео.html
-This one talks about is it ok for the girl to make the first move: ruclips.net/video/JB2SPmCjTik/видео.html
I hope these help as a start! Thank you so much for sharing these awesome ideas! :):)
AMAZING TO HEAR FROM A CHRISTIAN GUYS PERSPECTIVE!!
When I was a freshman and sophomore I talked with this guy that I really cared for. We weren't really a thing, but I assumed we were together since we talked all the time. It wasn't until I asked what I was to him. He said that he cared about me, but wasn't ready for a long term relationship. I broke off communication with him because he hurt me very much. A week after we stopped talking I saw him walking down the hallway with another girl holding her hand and laughing. I'm a senior in high school now and every now and then he'll tell me hey in the hallway or whenever he sees me. Whenever something major happens (hospital trip, my dad;s cancer scare, etc,.) he gets in contact with me through messaging and checking up on me. He has a girlfriend now I think they've been together for about a year or two. I keep asking myself what does she have that I don't have... I'm still battling with this today, but your video really helped me out. Thank you
It's not what she has that you don't, it's what she has that's different from you. She isn't better than you, she's different than you. Maybe she fit with him better than you did. Maybe if you had gotten into things with him it would have ended badly and God saved you from that situation. There's a man out there who will love you with his whole heart and who will fit with you perfectly, you just have to wait on God and trust that God will make it happen 💖
Sis, I have been where you are. I agree with the comment above mine. Plus you are still young to even consider teenage boys and young men as husbands. Learn to love yourself. Ask God to help you see yourself the way He sees you. Get into God’s word and face. You have so much life ahead of you... Get your degree, travel the world, learn life skills (adulting lol), get your career, get a hobby, have a better relationship with your family, etc. Enjoy your singleness. These are ways to prepare to be a wife as well. Pray that your husband does the same.
You guys are so sweet together, and both have such good advice. I’m probably not the target audience since I feel I’m a bit older than the girls with these questions. I’m 34, but I’m still single, and I am just really enjoying the dynamic you have. I would have really liked hearing this advice in high school and college too.
I have just discovered your channel and I love you and the wisdom you are sharing! Keep doing such great work and inspire people😊
Ahh thank you so much for the encouragement Anja! That means so much!
You guys deserve more subscribers!! Alot of people need to hear this😁
I so needed that last question!! Thank you to whoever asked it for putting yourself out there cuz you ministered to me!!
6K subscribers!!! Keep it going Tiffany!! ❤️❤️
love the advice! So nice to have such helpful answers and be there for those who are struggling :) Wish we had this when we were younger!!
Omg I love how James looks at you❤️
Thanks SO MUCH for this video. Blessing others and I in ways you will never know! It's hard to watch these videos though and not be slightly envious of these girls, I would love to have these kinds of problems! LOL. I have no godly guys in my life and I know God only wants be to be in a relationship with someone that loves Him. But I know God has me here for a reason. At least I know for sure that I'm supposed to be single for this season of my life! God bless you and your marriage
How to get over a crush?? Please answer!
(Oh sorry! I tried to hit thumbs up and accidentally hit thumbs down!)
Oh my goodness that is SUCH a great question!!! I have a video that talks about part of this...it's about rejection, but also talks about getting over a guy. I hope it can help! I'll be thinking about this as a possible future video idea too 😍 Here's the rejection video link: ruclips.net/video/ySjqaPQ-ot0/видео.html
I LOVE Tiffany & James. Y’all give the best advice. So glad I discovered your channel
Your hair 🔥🔥🔥 Tiffany
New subbie here! I find you are both so gifted in the way you give advice in this area. So refreshing! I came across your channel at the right time too! Looking forward to more insightful videos.
I love these Q&As!!! More please.
Thank you so much for making these videos! They have been so SO helpful to me!
I do that all the time Tiffany and I do not like the fact I do, because It is like high hopes that will never be met! I Love the advice a lot!
That's such a good way to put it--that our imagining what the relationship would be, can become like high hopes that won't be met! It's soooo easy to do though. 🙈😂
Yes, ugh... I do not like I do that!
Thanks for the advice. I love your hair, beautiful.
That second to last question: girls do that too :) That's been my experience (I'm a guy). Interacting with them, getting to know them, actually thinking there could be a possibility and they "seem" possibly interested for a time.... then "kaput". Nothing 🤷♂️..I guess loss of interest... but then you're left to "realize" that long after the fact... 🤷♂️
Great advice guys!!!! Tiffany do you have any videos you made during your singleness? If so post the links! Would love to hear some of your singleness experiences
d Faith absolutely!❤️❤️ ruclips.net/video/ZD_dqX94IHs/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/9gRF_3oO1dQ/видео.html
Thank you for making these videos! They've been very helpful!
you guys are the cutest!!
Just want to put it out there that in some cases God can tell an individual that so and so is meant to be their spouse, even if they have not dated them. Of course, this type of situation needs to be treated with careful prayer, objective confirmation, and wisdom from godly people. Nevertheless, if it is God's will, He can inform someone of who their spouse is meant to be. Just to put it out there for those who might be wondering.
Tips for asking for phone number: Ask him. Would you like to have my number?
Love love love your advice and videos! 😍 You guys always have a pick-me-up when I need it--my only complaint is when I run out of videos to watch because I've literally seen them all! 😂
Anywho, I have a question: "so there's this guy" lol, he's the typical party/play-boy variety at my college. Numerous times he's offered to hang out, but because I am more spiritually mature than him (I honestly don't know what his beliefs towards God are) I've jokingly turned him down. However, it's like every time I've forgotten about him--like, it'll be months between talking--, he pops up again. Should I hang out with him to be a spiritual witness to him? So few college students know Jesus, and so I know it's my duty to share his love with them... could that be why he keeps popping up? Or is that a bad idea since his values are wayy not in line with mine?
I'd appreciate any advice! Love you guys!!
Jordan ❤
Oh I'm so glad you love the videos!! And that's such a great question! In my personal opinion, a lot of it depends on where your heart is, and the way in which you hang out. For example, if you're going to be really tempted to slowly fall in love with him, then maybe it's not a great idea to spent lots of quality time 1:1. But maybe you could invite him along with a group of your friends, or something like that. I think it just depends on the person. I hope that can help in some way! :):)
You are in my state! Thank you for all your advice.
Tiffany Dawn if you consider someone as potential but then during interraction they make ageism remarks say if your older then them, or if they keep questioning a past relationship they know about you and they wonder whether you have still have feelings for an ex that existed several years ago!! should you take this as their character flaws & insults or are they just testing your reactions? this has happened on two ocassions by suprise with two seperate people who i thought were potentials which completely put me off them. It feels as though when too many people think they know so much about your life they make judgements based on the outcome which can be fustrating when you have moved on a loong time ago and your ready to meet someone new! #smalltownproblems
Oh man! That sounds like a really tough situation! I think so much of it depends on the way they say these things. For example, are they sharing that you being older is a concern for a particular reason, or are they shutting it down and saying "this could never work because you're older than me"? Another example, are they genuinely wondering if you've been able to work past the old relationship, or are they accusing you of not moving on? I think looking at the way it's said makes all the difference. I hope that helps in some way! That does sound frustrating! :(
Hey Tiffany, I love your videos. So there is this guy, we are great friends and it’s become a crush for me but the problem is that he a girlfriend. We talk all the time and go to the same church. Even my friends can see us together and I have been very vulnerable with him. I along with my friends think his relationship with his girlfriend isn’t good. What should I do?
It seems like i have a crush on my best friend. What should I do?
I second this question!
Christian dating advice and not one word about asking God. Great advice ppl! If you need to hear God better search for Doug Perry hearing God better. Last time I checked he knew better than me.
How know who's the husband that God's have for me?
Good Day!✌😇..
Such a good question, and something I've wondered so many times!! I think it takes time to figure that out. This is a video we did with our friends Mat & Est about the things that helped us know we wanted to marry our spouse: ruclips.net/video/-zgbtlKzNmk/видео.html -- and here's a video about some things to look for in a guy: ruclips.net/video/q9Dvy7LboDk/видео.html -- I hope those can encourage you! ♥️
Tiffany Dawn thank u very much for that supportive answer! God bless u😇😇💗💖😁..
Tiffany Dawn if you consider someone as potential but then during interraction they make ageism remarks say if your older then them, or if they keep questioning a past relationship they know about you and whether you have feelings for an ex several years should you take this as a character flaws & insults on their behalf?
You can ask God for discernment. And to have that knowing that Adam had when he met Eve.
Melissiabeats
Í Will ask God about It.. I Think is the Best option to begin with.. About that theme.. 😇✌.. Thank u for everything.. God bless u a lot .. And keep forward 😀🙌🙋🙏🙆👋..
Love 💕 this 😀👏🙏
May God bless you more!
Iiii have to say, I don't know why I should date somebody I woudn't marry?:D
1 Corinthians 11:6
For if a woman does not cover her head, let her also have her hair cut off; but if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, let her cover her head.
Hi guys......
You are in my state
No way!!! That's so fun! What a small world!
I want to have a catholic companion someday. I don’t want to date a non Christian anymore. ):
Tiffany are you still in Raleigh?
Ahhh I'm so sorry! I'm like 3 months behind on responding to comments right now, embarrassingly enough 🙈 Are you from Raleigh??
james kinda looks like Andy Samberg! Haha
LOL!!!
He kind of does!! hahaha
Wow you're right, I see it now!