I just wanna complement James for his reasonableness and gracious approach to these topics and all of the videos he’s in! He’s often speaking into things that are so sensitive to girls and might be sources of anxiety, confusions, and real hurt but he somehow does not come off tone deaf or mansplaining. I always feel like I’m learning a lot from the BOTH of you and feeling genuinely encouraged!
1) I think they matter some, and I believe our culture way overvalues skinny alluring girls. I say be your best you, meaning the best you that God created. 2) Smile at him, make eye contact, and ask him about things he's interested in. 3) Sounds like a topic for once you are married! James answer was spot on here. 4) I'm old fashioned, and my opinion is no, the girl should not ask the guy out. She should drop hints, and if after a lot of encounters with smiling, eye contact, etc, he has not made a move, he is probably not interested enough in you. And that's ok - there are a lot of guys out there! 5) God revealed it to me about 3-4 weeks into our dating relationship! I know that sounds odd. We were friends for about 2 years prior to dating, so that's also a factor. This answer will probably be different for every couple. Stay focused on your relationship with God and He will lead you in the way you should go. 6) Great answer from James again. I think about it a lot, probably much more than my wife, but there were times in our marriage where it was the opposite, and *I* was the one who turned her down occasionally. 7) I am a sensitive guy who can speak about feelings, but with girls sometimes my fear of rejection was just too great. That fear is one to overcome for guys and girls alike. One thing to keep in mind - if the guy truly likes you but cannot seem to voice his feelings, that is not likely to change significantly over time. So if it's a problem now, it will bother you 10 times worse if you are married to him and he can't seem to share emotionally. 8) Watch how he treats other girls. How does he treat girls he is not interested in? Contrast that with how he treats you. You can also glean a lot from how he treats girls in "negative" situations. How does he respond to the waitress who brings his meal out and it's wrong? That's how he will treat you (should you two start dating) when he is irritated/upset. Look for guys who treat women well even when things in life go south.
Literally, I've been fit all of my life. I'm slim, I'm muscular, I'm strong, i have a small waist and bigger legs and hips, and literally nobody liked me all throughout middle and high school and even almost a year out of high school... And I have friends who are bigger girls, and are absolutely gorgeous and boys are always all over them. So... Truly... It doesn't matter. I finally have found my current fiance and he loves me just the way I am. Loves my muscular frame. So it really doesn't matter. Haha I've been fit all my life and it didn't change who liked me at all. 😅 There is somebody for everyone i PRO👏MISE👏 YOU 👏. fit and slim or slightly larger frame, somebody will love you how you are. If you're comfortable in your body then rock the heck out of it. I love being muscular and fit and so i stayed that way and if guys didn't like me cause of it, i sure as HEEEEECCKK wasn't gonna change for them.. just rock whatever you're comfortable in.
If I may, as we can talk here in the point of view of a christian man, even if comprehensible, this seems a bit simplified, even if you are right, as sometimes, it can even appear to be the opposite and for him to be late. As the feelings deepen with a mutual knowledge, a careful man may only go as far as his convictions. It means that rationnaly, when we are concerned about doing what is right, there may be a distance between beginning to feel an attraction and acting accordingly. If a man is sensible to the best values, he will not simply take a chance to see where his first pulsions may lead. Here the word "should" (ask you) implies the deduction, maybe the wish that the man would advance if he feels attracted to you... It probably express the feminine point of view on this matter, which is a legitimate expectation. Indeed it is important to be clear if we have certain intentions and let them be known. However, we live in an era where roles have become less defined than before. It is possible that a well intentioned man try to know a woman better, regularly search for her company, waiting to be more sure of him or certain to be welcome. It is why it may be useful to seek clarity, even deepness, to avoid favorising impulsivity or boldness, more than sincerity. Yes, it is important to avoid confusion and incertainties, and for a man, not to let a woman in these states, but you may think that where sometimes a woman may have already gone through the subject deeply in her wait, a man can discover that he have to think about it, at the moment when she is there interiorely waiting for an answer. It could be said of anyone, of course, since a man can be sure of what he seeks and a woman may also have not define her way yet. I may even add that many terms as "asking out" may not mean much for some persons having already a serious vision on this subject. Also, admiration, appreciation and respect are good hints of the sensibility of a person to the other. Sorry for the long message, but if you want to retain only one idea, it is simply that a man sensible to christian values may be more careful with his feelings and those of a person he cares about. Therefore, he may act nevertheless, but more carefully, hence more slowly in appearance. I do not say it should be so, just that it should be considered and in the matter, knowing him, and for him to know himself, can help discern.
My view from a guy. But I haven’t had relationship experience just been through the talking phase a few times haha. 1.No - James nailed it. However depending on the girl I could like different features, hair, eyes etc. 2. Be confident! 3. Love your points made 4. Yes, i get nervous but it’s pretty easy from there onwards. 7. Nerves, feeling overwhelmed. Not knowing how to overcome these feelings. 8. Nerves!, kindness is mainly for everyone, having feelings for someone you’ll often single one girl out. For me the connecting stare haha, locking eyes in a meaningful way other than to say Thankyou.
Couldn't agree more with everything James said. Humans are complicated and blanketing one perspective onto us guys(or anyone for that matter) before knowing the actual person is tough.
That last question is just pure flashbacks for me haha. My boyfriend is pretty much as nice and sweet as a guy can get and it was SO HARD to know if he liked me or not (at least for both of us; apparently to every other person in our school, staff included, it was blaintely obvious 😅) In my scenario, we had been best friends for about 4 years and with myself being very detail oriented, I was able to pick up on subtle changes in him over the course of a few months. For example he was always patient with me before, constantly waiting to walk to class together and such, but now his patience was as though it ran forever, willing to stand and wait for me for so long. He also waited for even the simplest of things such as for me to grab my backpack to walk into the class together when he could've simply gone ahead as afterall we had the same class. Another thing he would always do was try and help me out, most notably carry my stuff which before he only really did if he saw I was genuinely struggling or I asked. One of the biggest give aways though was when he started choosing to hang out with me over his friends even when he was already with them. For me, we both ate breakfast at school but he often beat me to it so by the time I got over to the cafeteria he would often be with a friend and already have his breakfast, but despite this as soon as he saw me in the line he'd come to be with me. In the cases that I beat him, he may or may have not cut in line to be with me haha 🙈. On other occasions, if he beat me and noticed me in line early on, even if he was near the front of the line he'd always go all the way to the back so he could be with me ☺ It definitely helps knowing the guy well as you can tell when something's changed, but even then it can still be pretty confusing. I will say, outsider insight can be super helpful, just make sure the people you speak with are genuinely helpful and trustworthy because a lot of people may just simply tell you what you want to hear so just pray continuously about it. I know for myself when I was confused about whether or not our feelings were mutual, I was just praying without ceasing because I no longer wanted to hear what other people had to say, rather what God had to say because His will and opinions are greater than any person's including my own. I suppose to sum everything up, keep your eyes open for the subtle things because they may often be the biggest signs. Also PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!! You should always be praying over everything but this is something I emphasize so much when it comes to relationships because it changes everything!! Another thing is when you pray, pray not for a boyfriend but for a husband as that is what you're ultimately after and also that God may prepare both you and your future husband alike. Anyways, that's my whole shpiel. Obviously every situation and guy is different but the one thing that is the same is God so pray, continuously put your trust in Him, and never lose hope!! Thanks to anyone who read my whole comment. I know it's pretty long but hopefully you found it to be helpful!! Have a good day and God bless!! 😊
Thanks for sharing! I have liked this guy for 4 almost 5 years now (though it has been a struggle on and off trying to move on (but literally, he is the best guy I know)). For me it's constant prayer and knowing that this single time is all I have for just me and God.
I love hearing James’ responses and advice. He seems like a really nice, authentic, Jesus loving man. You’re whole family is just precious. God bless y’all! ❤️
1. Being attractive to a man in the specific means different things to different men. A Christian man wants to marry for life so if you're properly aligned with God and intent on making the sacrifices required to be a spouse, your physical appearance is very much secondary. Personally, I find almost every woman I see as attractive in one way or another. Some are only more attractive than others. 2. awkward conversations/meetings are fun. Makes for a better story when you think back to how you first met. 3. I think that married men would prefer a little variety. A new haircut is always a fun/good thing even if it's not better. 4. It's certainly ok to ask a guy out but I think it's better to make yourself 'available' to be asked out. An implied invitation is better than an aggressive push. Of course, many guys are oblivious to implication so they may require a bonk to the head. Pursuit is different than initiation. I think you can pursue a relationship without initiating the first date. 5. My wife and I discussed marriage before we started dating(dated for 1 year and engaged for another year). We were both explicit about not wanting to have a casual relationship and we started dating with the understanding that we were dating with intention. We were dating for approx 4-5 months before I was ready. I don't know why it took another 6+ months to pop the question. Perhaps it was her scary father. 6. Sex is a big deal. Men take sex seriously and you should discuss your feelings and expectations about this topic before you get married. It's a bad idea to not have this part of your relationship nailed down. If you have doubts about the importance of an intimate relationship, just look at how many RUclips videos there are discussing it's importance. WIVES,.... HAVE SEX WITH YOUR HUSBANDS!!! Tiffany put qualifiers on this one. She talked about it going both ways but the topic of this video was to get the perspective of men. If you are looking for the mans perspective, lets not qualify it to make it more palatable. Sex is a big deal. A wife that initiates an intimate relationship is a blessing beyond measure. 7. Don't boot him. Your perspective husband will have faults and you can cultivate an emotionally open relationship. This is a problem for a lot of young men so don't disqualify a perspective husband because he is not as open as you like. It will only take away opportunities for yourself. 8. James' answer was good for me. I don't think I can deviate from it.
I just discovered your channel and I just love your raw honesty in answering difficult questions! Can you do a video on "red flags" for singles to watch out for before getting serious with someone? Thanks guys!!!
Love you guys, you’re such a cute fam! I’m pregnant with my first babe and it makes me so happy that Tiffany and I are both preggers at the same time (even though I’m only 21 weeks) 😊
It's good to have healthy relationship standards. Sharing good examples are very helpful. Glad Tiffany and James have done this video and other videos together.
1) Yes, somewhat. Not really as much as most girls think. I agree with James that men definitely take a wholistic approach to women, rather than specific things. My fiancé would ask me about specific things that she was self-conscious about, but that I hadn’t ever really put thought to. 2) Realize that men aren’t an alien race. We are human too. The best way is to just be yourself, as cliche as it sounds. We can feel your vibe and if you’re comfortable. If you’re putting on a mask, we can tell. 3) Variety is cool, I agree with James. I’m really cool with anything. As long as it is kept, there shouldn’t be an issue. 4) Yes. Yes, and yes. Dudes never get compliments or approached. Would be very flattering to a guy to be approached and to be desired. 5) We moved a little bit quickly, we are very similar people and very personal people. We were best friends before our relationship, so it was about 5-6 months after our first date that I kinda knew. 6) not married, but engaged. No. I definitely desire my fiancé, but I wouldn’t say I would want to have sex every time I feel attracted to her. I also need to be filled spiritually and emotionally in order to have sex (even if I am aroused). I’m not into it as much if I don’t spend quality time with her (just applying my experience general affection because I haven’t actually had sex yet). 7) Nothing really more to add. I don’t understand my own feelings a lot of the time, don’t know how many other men experience the same thing. 8) If you’re unsure, be friends first, date later. You can figure a lot about your compatibility with someone just by pursuing a normal friendship. You can determine if they could potentially be a romantic partner, because at the end of the day, your husband/wife is going to be your best friend. A lot of a romantic relationship is built on natural friendship as well. If you don’t like them as a friend, you won’t like them as a romantic partner.
YES!! So true!! I didn't know the actual statistics on this - thank you for sharing them! I have some friends in this boat, and they have totally struggled with, "What is wrong with me?" because there's such a stigma that guys are always the ones who want it more! Thanks for sharing this!
Tiffany looks so beautiful. Thank you James and Tiffany for making these videos. I am now in a beautiful, Godly relationship with the most wonderful man, and I used to watch your singleness videos all the time (with many others) and I read your book, while wondering when I will meet the man God has for me. Now, it has happened, and how we met is crazy, and only explained by God. He's real y'all, and never lose hope.
Pretty spot on James 👌 Especially with the point about what guys find attractive. A lot of girls guys consider 'hot' I think aren't that attractive. While girls a lot of guys think are just 'cute' I find absolutely gorgeous Definitely different for everyone!
Trust me about the body shape: if the guy’s only interested in how you LOOK, he’s not looking for a serious relationship, he’s looking for a hookup. When I started dating my girlfriend (WOW it’s been nearly 3 years!), she wasn’t a pencil or whatever the “ideal shape” society says she should be, but I love her more than any other on this earth nonetheless. She has THE best personality ever (yes I will fight anyone who thinks their wife/girlfriend has a more kind and loving personality), and she’s so supportive of me and I thank God for putting her in my life. Should definitely pray and thank Him more often, she’s just that amazing. I hope to ask her to be my wife some day soon, even if it means going a lil bit financially downward, she’s worth the world to me. Edit: Here’s the answer to the questions 👇🏻 1. I’d say that is definitely not the first thing we consider, if we’re going for a serious relationship. We usually look for personalities and values lining up. 2. Just talk to us, we’re awkward as heck too! 3. Depends on the guy, but if they’re there to marry you, that’s somethin y’all should talk about! I’d say as long as you’re taking care of your body’s various needs and showering, you’re good. 4. Yes, though I’d say if the both of you are interested in each other, the guy should be gentlemanly and ask first, but it ain’t a deal breaker for us if you ask first. 5. As far as “knowing” when it’s the time to marry, I’d say pray. I think I’m just about ready for that (I think next summer I’m gonna propose to my gf, and if you see this Chloe, no you didn’t 👀) 6. Definitely not, assuming that it’s a guy who’s not SOLELY looking to hookup. Those, again, are guys you should avoid. 7. I’d say the average guy isn’t fluid in the thing called ‘emotions’. Just less natural for most to involve feelings as much as girls in their mindset. There’s exceptions, but I’d say the average guy ignores or just chooses not to express feelings about everything because it’s not particularly in our nature. 8. That’s hard to tell for sure, and you girls do that crap to us SUUUUPER often so it’s confusing all around. Just be straightforward with a guy about how you feel, or simply ask him. We like straightforward and simple :)
James is right on the money on this! Hehe. I had been attractive to women who have different body types. Well, if a women is interested in me, I won't tell because I'm slow. I'm the awkward one! Heh. I don't mind body hair. I will get excited if a woman ask me out! I'm not married, so I don't know how it feels what James said. I do think about sex, but it is not the only thing I think about. I agree with James about men not sharing their feelings. My two cents on this, men believe a lie about expressing our feelings is weak, gay, or something stereotypical. It cause more damage than good. We got to get better at this. I am friendly. If there is a woman I am interested in, I'm going to be friendly to her too because I don't want her to know. I hope you, your husband, and your daughter are doing great. Thank you. I love you all. God loves you all.
Thank you so much for sharing your answers to these questions!! I love how you said men believe a lie that expressing emotions is weak - yes, so true!! That's a great point!
Honest, short answers from a guy 1. Unless you're legitimately obese, it doesn't matter. 2. Hard to answer. Listen to him, remember details, and be friendly. 3. Refer to James's answer :) 4. Yes. My girlfriend made the first move on me and we have a great relationship, couldn't be better! 5. Took me about a year. 6. ~pending on marriage~ 7. Speaking for myself here. I just wait until I think the time is right to talk about my feelings. 8. If he's texting you into the night... he may like you. Try to send him signals that it's ok for him to say how he's feeling. Hopefully he doesn't confess over text though lol Hope this helps. Great channel!
Oh my.. a while ago i met a guy who asked if we could meet so i could show him around in my town as he was visiting. I had only met him once before. He was/is quite intense, like he smiles a lot and looks you deep in the eye. And initially I was not interested, but he seemed so interested in me this day, so i was 100% sure i was on a date(from his side).. so i started to think about our babies.. (as i always do)... lol. ... Until he suddenly mentioned his girlfriend... my jaw dropped inside, and i had to hold it really tight together to not look super shocked... haha this was so funny. And a lesson for me,...
And thank you for your advice/encouragement on learning to talk to people you are interested in. Im horrible!! ... Last summer i kind of tried to ask a guy out that i had been so fascinated by for a long time. It was the most awkward moment in a... very long time. I have beaten myself up so much for it. xD Oh my.. its so hard to just be your cool self around people your interested in! Weather its being for friendly or romantic purposes
Oh my goodness!! I would have been totally shocked too!!! That's crazy!! And I think it's amazing that you had the courage to ask that guy out - you go girl!! I have definitely experienced awkward moments that I replay over and over in my head - but it really is just so hard to be calm and cool and collected around people you're interested in!!
Guy here! 1. I personally do not care about your frame or size. You are your typically your own biggest critic. What you see in the mirror is probably not nearly as bad as you may think. Also, as for me, I personally prefer a bit of a bigger frame, but that’s really not a thing for me at all. If you’re the woman for me, I don’t care what your body shape or size is! 2. Just talk to me! Get acquainted with me, and tell me about it. 3. For me, that’s your call. The Bible says that in marriage, your body belongs to your spouse. So really, I think that you should certainly take my preference into consideration, and I should take your preference into consideration. Also, like he said, that’s something that’s not really going to come up until we’re like about to get married lol. 4. Yes. That’s honestly very attractive. 5. N/A 6. N/A 7. The absolute and total horror of rejection. Period. 8. Yeah that’s challenging. It’s hard to tell if you don’t know him well.
Question 1. Build? Maybe there is some cultural bias I"m working past. Though I think most people want to know that the other person is at least making a concerted effort to take care of themselves. Question 2. and Question 4. Don't be afraid to ask, don't get your hopes hung up over yes or no, and just try to play it cool. We will probably respond more along the lines of "Oh, I'm glad you felt comfortable/brave enough to say that. You know maybe there is some potential to see where things go." or "Oh, I'm glad you felt comfortable/brave enough to say that. Though, I don't feel the same right now, but thank you." (in a perfect world people) Question 3. I believe James put it best in one of your other unfiltered videos "You know what, he's just going to be happy to see your naked body." *mic drop * Question Sex. I mean 6. No. Not all the time. I do have times where I think about it a lot, and have to refocus at times. But we aren't all slobbering sex maniacs no. Question 7. I was a hopeless romantic and ready to confess my love to about every girl I liked. My mom taught me some restraint and that I was just a little kid. So I don't have a good answer for this one :P Question 8. Not sure. If I'm making prolonged eye contact and trying to figure out mutual interests, than It may very well be I'm Interested. Also, not to back seat parent, but I was noting Natalie's vocabulary increase and parroting. There might be some foreseable discussions for you two in the near future about her repeating too much from your "unfiltered" Q/A ;)
Great video and valuable insight. Thanks for answering these questions James! It's always really cool to see both of you giving your perspectives in a video. And now we also have Natalie! 😄
Ahh the marriage thought process! So relatable. I’m literally in the same place of “is he the one??” My answer to that is “I don’t know.” But “do I want to stop being with him?” The answer has been no for about 2 years, including a long break up...glad to know I’m not alone there!
I remember when James said( in another video) that he still finds you beautiful when you are pregnant(paraphrasing) and I just want to say that I find you beautiful too❤️
In terms of Body hair I could careless she can be hairy she can be shaven it’s not my place to judge her I’ll still love her for her. In terms of Asking a guy out I see no problem with that in fact some guys would prefer being approached instead of approaching the girl.
I think facetime changes a lot, you might not be attracted to someone but if you have a good conversation that changes things. I think people have been removing their body hair forever, look at paintings that are hundreds of years old, often no body hair.
Loved this! You mentioned James in Enneagram 7. What are you Tiffany? Do you know your MBTI types? What do you think about type compatibility and could you do a video on it?
Ohhh that would be a fun video!! I'm an Enneagram 1. I have no idea what our MBTI types are! But learning about each other's types on the enneagram definitely helped us understand each other better!!
This is coming from a girl that is 5'11, guys? HEIGHT DOES NOT MATTER, I have been attracted to guys that are 5'3, I have been attracted 6'0. Short kings, you're super valid love ya
What Enneagram type are you, Tiffany? 😊 Love your videos, I feel like you're very similar personality types to me and my hubby ❤️ Greets from the Austrian Alps
@@lindanicholason878 Yes ennageams are used in the New Age religion but they are also accurate. Just because it's new age doesn't mean that it's blantantly all a lie or meant to be deceptive. The problem with New Age is that it tells the truth without acknowledging God as the holder of all power and wisdom. Understanding the ennageam and how it works related to personality is useful, but shouldn't be taken as superior to God. From a personal example, as a christian I believe in science but don't belive in the scientific view that humans evolved from apes because it contradicts my belief that God created Adam and Eve and thus every human being afterwards. Back to the ennageam thing this is where discernment comes into place because sometimes the truth can be hidden among a web of lies making it harder to believe the truth when you see it, or sometimes a single lie is surrounded by truth which makes it harder to find that lie and prove it wrong.
Hahahaha right?! Doesn't it make so much sense? Learning about the enneagram has helped us understand each other so much better! I'm a type 1. What are you??
Q1: You guys are being nice lol but, more athletic/tone/healthy is preferable Q2: Be humble and brave Q3: Keep yourself clean and groomed, lol Q4: Flirt, then let him take over, don’t pursue overtly. Q5: Long enough to when you no longer question their integrity, values, or goals. Q6: Attraction is necessary. Sex is important. But without intimacy both are void of meaning. Q7: He’s answer is good Q8: See Q4. Once he knows your interested he will express deeper intention. It he doesn’t he’s not interested. The exception is if he’s VERY insecure and awkward. Then perhaps asking him out for a causal date is necessary.
While I think it's okay to ask a guy's opinion on body hair once you get to that place in your relationship, YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON. Body hair is one of those things that really is up to you what to do with it. Even when you're married, while it can be discussed, there should be room for a person to choose what they want to do with their own physical appearance
The media makes people presume all men are into super thin. Which I say more men are into thinner but not all men. I have found myself attracted to pluse size women equally as much as what is understood to be the ideal size for a lady. I once was asked about when have I found what is about the pluse size women that I have found attractive it took a day I have noticed when I have been she is dressed up. Looking classy.
It really depends on the guy! For some guys that's true, but for some it's not. And it doesn't have to do with their character; just their personality. 🤗
“Hold the emotional horses.” 😂
😂😂😂 he comes up with the funniest most random stuff
Love James!!
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I just wanna complement James for his reasonableness and gracious approach to these topics and all of the videos he’s in! He’s often speaking into things that are so sensitive to girls and might be sources of anxiety, confusions, and real hurt but he somehow does not come off tone deaf or mansplaining. I always feel like I’m learning a lot from the BOTH of you and feeling genuinely encouraged!
“Now, they might not be the guys you think are cute!” Never have truer words been spoken 🎯🗣😂
HAHAHA right?! Definitely my story!!
1) I think they matter some, and I believe our culture way overvalues skinny alluring girls. I say be your best you, meaning the best you that God created.
2) Smile at him, make eye contact, and ask him about things he's interested in.
3) Sounds like a topic for once you are married! James answer was spot on here.
4) I'm old fashioned, and my opinion is no, the girl should not ask the guy out. She should drop hints, and if after a lot of encounters with smiling, eye contact, etc, he has not made a move, he is probably not interested enough in you. And that's ok - there are a lot of guys out there!
5) God revealed it to me about 3-4 weeks into our dating relationship! I know that sounds odd. We were friends for about 2 years prior to dating, so that's also a factor. This answer will probably be different for every couple. Stay focused on your relationship with God and He will lead you in the way you should go.
6) Great answer from James again. I think about it a lot, probably much more than my wife, but there were times in our marriage where it was the opposite, and *I* was the one who turned her down occasionally.
7) I am a sensitive guy who can speak about feelings, but with girls sometimes my fear of rejection was just too great. That fear is one to overcome for guys and girls alike. One thing to keep in mind - if the guy truly likes you but cannot seem to voice his feelings, that is not likely to change significantly over time. So if it's a problem now, it will bother you 10 times worse if you are married to him and he can't seem to share emotionally.
8) Watch how he treats other girls. How does he treat girls he is not interested in? Contrast that with how he treats you. You can also glean a lot from how he treats girls in "negative" situations. How does he respond to the waitress who brings his meal out and it's wrong? That's how he will treat you (should you two start dating) when he is irritated/upset. Look for guys who treat women well even when things in life go south.
Thank you so much for sharing your answers to these questions!! I especially love #8 - such good advice!!
When James was answering the question about sex it was interrupted by a mattress commercial 😂
NO WAY!!! 😂😂😂 That's hilarious!!
oh man xD
I just got the answer about body shape interrupted by shapewear
Literally, I've been fit all of my life. I'm slim, I'm muscular, I'm strong, i have a small waist and bigger legs and hips, and literally nobody liked me all throughout middle and high school and even almost a year out of high school... And I have friends who are bigger girls, and are absolutely gorgeous and boys are always all over them. So... Truly... It doesn't matter. I finally have found my current fiance and he loves me just the way I am. Loves my muscular frame. So it really doesn't matter. Haha I've been fit all my life and it didn't change who liked me at all. 😅 There is somebody for everyone i PRO👏MISE👏 YOU 👏. fit and slim or slightly larger frame, somebody will love you how you are. If you're comfortable in your body then rock the heck out of it. I love being muscular and fit and so i stayed that way and if guys didn't like me cause of it, i sure as HEEEEECCKK wasn't gonna change for them.. just rock whatever you're comfortable in.
Thank you SO MUCH for sharing your story with this!! This is so good to hear!!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I love this comment section!
Love this! You go girl! 💪
I needed to hear this today 🧡🧡 thank you for the reassurance!!
I have a similar story.
My husband said he was initially attracted to my smile... but not the physical aspects of it... the warmness. ❤️
Awwwww!! That's so sweet!
Also a difference between a guy who is friendly vs a guy who is into you is that the second guy should ask you out pretty soon if he really likes you.
Great point! You shouldn’t be left hanging and wondering for long!
how do go about that
If I may, as we can talk here in the point of view of a christian man,
even if comprehensible, this seems a bit simplified, even if you are right,
as sometimes, it can even appear to be the opposite and for him to be late.
As the feelings deepen with a mutual knowledge, a careful man may only go as far as his convictions.
It means that rationnaly, when we are concerned about doing what is right, there may be a distance between beginning to feel an attraction and acting accordingly.
If a man is sensible to the best values, he will not simply take a chance to see where his first pulsions may lead.
Here the word "should" (ask you) implies the deduction, maybe the wish that the man would advance if he feels attracted to you...
It probably express the feminine point of view on this matter, which is a legitimate expectation.
Indeed it is important to be clear if we have certain intentions and let them be known.
However, we live in an era where roles have become less defined than before.
It is possible that a well intentioned man try to know a woman better,
regularly search for her company, waiting to be more sure of him or certain to be welcome.
It is why it may be useful to seek clarity, even deepness, to avoid favorising impulsivity or boldness, more than sincerity.
Yes, it is important to avoid confusion and incertainties, and for a man, not to let a woman in these states,
but you may think that where sometimes a woman may have already gone through the subject deeply in her wait,
a man can discover that he have to think about it, at the moment when she is there interiorely waiting for an answer.
It could be said of anyone, of course, since a man can be sure of what he seeks and a woman may also have not define her way yet.
I may even add that many terms as "asking out" may not mean much for some persons having already a serious vision on this subject.
Also, admiration, appreciation and respect are good hints of the sensibility of a person to the other.
Sorry for the long message, but if you want to retain only one idea, it is simply that
a man sensible to christian values may be more careful with his feelings and those of a person he cares about.
Therefore, he may act nevertheless, but more carefully, hence more slowly in appearance.
I do not say it should be so, just that it should be considered and in the matter,
knowing him, and for him to know himself, can help discern.
My view from a guy. But I haven’t had relationship experience just been through the talking phase a few times haha.
1.No - James nailed it. However depending on the girl I could like different features, hair, eyes etc.
2. Be confident!
3. Love your points made
4. Yes, i get nervous but it’s pretty easy from there onwards.
7. Nerves, feeling overwhelmed. Not knowing how to overcome these feelings.
8. Nerves!, kindness is mainly for everyone, having feelings for someone you’ll often single one girl out. For me the connecting stare haha, locking eyes in a meaningful way other than to say Thankyou.
These are such great additions!! Thank you so much for sharing your perspective!!
Locking eyes😱I thought we shouldn't have premarital eye contact 😂😂
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Couldn't agree more with everything James said. Humans are complicated and blanketing one perspective onto us guys(or anyone for that matter) before knowing the actual person is tough.
YES exactly!! Well said!
Yes! I’ve been waiting for a video directed toward guys for such a loooong time! James answered these questions with spot-on accuracy.
😂😂 it has been a long time in coming .... and I’m so glad this was spot on - woohoo!! 🙌🙌🙌
I loved hearing Natalie’s opinion this episode! 🥺😂
😂😂😂 Wasn't it so insightful?? LOL
That last question is just pure flashbacks for me haha. My boyfriend is pretty much as nice and sweet as a guy can get and it was SO HARD to know if he liked me or not (at least for both of us; apparently to every other person in our school, staff included, it was blaintely obvious 😅)
In my scenario, we had been best friends for about 4 years and with myself being very detail oriented, I was able to pick up on subtle changes in him over the course of a few months. For example he was always patient with me before, constantly waiting to walk to class together and such, but now his patience was as though it ran forever, willing to stand and wait for me for so long. He also waited for even the simplest of things such as for me to grab my backpack to walk into the class together when he could've simply gone ahead as afterall we had the same class. Another thing he would always do was try and help me out, most notably carry my stuff which before he only really did if he saw I was genuinely struggling or I asked.
One of the biggest give aways though was when he started choosing to hang out with me over his friends even when he was already with them. For me, we both ate breakfast at school but he often beat me to it so by the time I got over to the cafeteria he would often be with a friend and already have his breakfast, but despite this as soon as he saw me in the line he'd come to be with me. In the cases that I beat him, he may or may have not cut in line to be with me haha 🙈. On other occasions, if he beat me and noticed me in line early on, even if he was near the front of the line he'd always go all the way to the back so he could be with me ☺
It definitely helps knowing the guy well as you can tell when something's changed, but even then it can still be pretty confusing. I will say, outsider insight can be super helpful, just make sure the people you speak with are genuinely helpful and trustworthy because a lot of people may just simply tell you what you want to hear so just pray continuously about it. I know for myself when I was confused about whether or not our feelings were mutual, I was just praying without ceasing because I no longer wanted to hear what other people had to say, rather what God had to say because His will and opinions are greater than any person's including my own.
I suppose to sum everything up, keep your eyes open for the subtle things because they may often be the biggest signs. Also PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!! You should always be praying over everything but this is something I emphasize so much when it comes to relationships because it changes everything!! Another thing is when you pray, pray not for a boyfriend but for a husband as that is what you're ultimately after and also that God may prepare both you and your future husband alike.
Anyways, that's my whole shpiel. Obviously every situation and guy is different but the one thing that is the same is God so pray, continuously put your trust in Him, and never lose hope!! Thanks to anyone who read my whole comment. I know it's pretty long but hopefully you found it to be helpful!! Have a good day and God bless!! 😊
Aww, thank you so much for sharing this! You've given me hope.
@@studyn9149 I'm glad I could give you some hope!! Remember that God is always with you and working in and around you.
Super helpful Cristina!!!
Thanks for sharing! I have liked this guy for 4 almost 5 years now (though it has been a struggle on and off trying to move on (but literally, he is the best guy I know)). For me it's constant prayer and knowing that this single time is all I have for just me and God.
That is the cutest thing ever. Almost brought me to tears!
I love hearing James’ responses and advice. He seems like a really nice, authentic, Jesus loving man. You’re whole family is just precious. God bless y’all! ❤️
Awwwww thank you!!❤️❤️
Thank you tiffany! 💚💛🧡💜💙 I m single and feeling bad about it and you dont know how important your videos are for me to get through this times.
I’m so glad they can encourage you! That makes me so happy!! 🤗🤗
I understand. You are not alone!
The best question to ask a guy is "What do you think of Jesus Christ"
Yesssss! AMEN!❤🕇
Just gotta say this video wasn’t long enough 😂 thank y’all for your input!
Hahaha - oh good!! 🙌🙌
1. Being attractive to a man in the specific means different things to different men. A Christian man wants to marry for life so if you're properly aligned with God and intent on making the sacrifices required to be a spouse, your physical appearance is very much secondary. Personally, I find almost every woman I see as attractive in one way or another. Some are only more attractive than others.
2. awkward conversations/meetings are fun. Makes for a better story when you think back to how you first met.
3. I think that married men would prefer a little variety. A new haircut is always a fun/good thing even if it's not better.
4. It's certainly ok to ask a guy out but I think it's better to make yourself 'available' to be asked out. An implied invitation is better than an aggressive push. Of course, many guys are oblivious to implication so they may require a bonk to the head. Pursuit is different than initiation. I think you can pursue a relationship without initiating the first date.
5. My wife and I discussed marriage before we started dating(dated for 1 year and engaged for another year). We were both explicit about not wanting to have a casual relationship and we started dating with the understanding that we were dating with intention. We were dating for approx 4-5 months before I was ready. I don't know why it took another 6+ months to pop the question. Perhaps it was her scary father.
6. Sex is a big deal. Men take sex seriously and you should discuss your feelings and expectations about this topic before you get married. It's a bad idea to not have this part of your relationship nailed down. If you have doubts about the importance of an intimate relationship, just look at how many RUclips videos there are discussing it's importance. WIVES,.... HAVE SEX WITH YOUR HUSBANDS!!! Tiffany put qualifiers on this one. She talked about it going both ways but the topic of this video was to get the perspective of men. If you are looking for the mans perspective, lets not qualify it to make it more palatable. Sex is a big deal. A wife that initiates an intimate relationship is a blessing beyond measure.
7. Don't boot him. Your perspective husband will have faults and you can cultivate an emotionally open relationship. This is a problem for a lot of young men so don't disqualify a perspective husband because he is not as open as you like. It will only take away opportunities for yourself.
8. James' answer was good for me. I don't think I can deviate from it.
very helpful, thank you!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! I especially loved your answer to #2 - it made me smile - SO TRUE!!
Thanks so much!
"her vibe, her energy" loved tiffany taking a stab at genz lingo lol
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I just discovered your channel and I just love your raw honesty in answering difficult questions!
Can you do a video on "red flags" for singles to watch out for before getting serious with someone? Thanks guys!!!
Hi Olga! This one might be helpful: ruclips.net/video/FB47ODSgboU/видео.html
@@jeri9700 Thanks!
Love you guys, you’re such a cute fam! I’m pregnant with my first babe and it makes me so happy that Tiffany and I are both preggers at the same time (even though I’m only 21 weeks) 😊
Ahhhh congratulations!!! That is so exciting!! 😍😍😍
congratulations!!
James is a pretty straight up honest guy! Us guys appreciate it telling it to the ladies!
It's good to have healthy relationship standards. Sharing good examples are very helpful. Glad Tiffany and James have done this video and other videos together.
That's so true - examples are so helpful to see and hear! Thank you for sharing that!
1) Yes, somewhat. Not really as much as most girls think. I agree with James that men definitely take a wholistic approach to women, rather than specific things. My fiancé would ask me about specific things that she was self-conscious about, but that I hadn’t ever really put thought to.
2) Realize that men aren’t an alien race. We are human too. The best way is to just be yourself, as cliche as it sounds. We can feel your vibe and if you’re comfortable. If you’re putting on a mask, we can tell.
3) Variety is cool, I agree with James. I’m really cool with anything. As long as it is kept, there shouldn’t be an issue.
4) Yes. Yes, and yes. Dudes never get compliments or approached. Would be very flattering to a guy to be approached and to be desired.
5) We moved a little bit quickly, we are very similar people and very personal people. We were best friends before our relationship, so it was about 5-6 months after our first date that I kinda knew.
6) not married, but engaged. No. I definitely desire my fiancé, but I wouldn’t say I would want to have sex every time I feel attracted to her. I also need to be filled spiritually and emotionally in order to have sex (even if I am aroused). I’m not into it as much if I don’t spend quality time with her (just applying my experience general affection because I haven’t actually had sex yet).
7) Nothing really more to add. I don’t understand my own feelings a lot of the time, don’t know how many other men experience the same thing.
8) If you’re unsure, be friends first, date later. You can figure a lot about your compatibility with someone just by pursuing a normal friendship. You can determine if they could potentially be a romantic partner, because at the end of the day, your husband/wife is going to be your best friend. A lot of a romantic relationship is built on natural friendship as well. If you don’t like them as a friend, you won’t like them as a romantic partner.
30% of wives have a higher drive than their husbands. And it can be hard, when everyone assumes that he wants it more.
YES!! So true!! I didn't know the actual statistics on this - thank you for sharing them! I have some friends in this boat, and they have totally struggled with, "What is wrong with me?" because there's such a stigma that guys are always the ones who want it more! Thanks for sharing this!
@@TiffanyDawn I got it from a book by sheila gregior from tolovehonorandvaccum.com y'all would make a great team!
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y'all are so sweet and supportive..
i'd also say one could ask God to know if 'he's' the one (:
Natalie's so cute!
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Natalie 😍😍😍😍😍😍 what an awesome kid! Haha! You guys are so blessed!!!
She really is hilarious and awesome 😂😂😂
Wow, I loved this. I love how it was like you two were actually talking to me and not a camera, like we’re actually friends and stuff
Super interesting! Love James' answers 😄
I'm so glad!!
Natalie being such a lovely distraction😍😍😍
Tiffany looks so beautiful. Thank you James and Tiffany for making these videos. I am now in a beautiful, Godly relationship with the most wonderful man, and I used to watch your singleness videos all the time (with many others) and I read your book, while wondering when I will meet the man God has for me. Now, it has happened, and how we met is crazy, and only explained by God. He's real y'all, and never lose hope.
That is so cool!!! Thank you so much for sharing this! I hope someday I get to hear your story of how you met!
Pretty spot on James 👌
Especially with the point about what guys find attractive. A lot of girls guys consider 'hot' I think aren't that attractive. While girls a lot of guys think are just 'cute' I find absolutely gorgeous
Definitely different for everyone!
Thank you so much for sharing this! So important for us girls to hear!
Aww your daughter is so cute and she’s grown so much!
Right?! She's getting so old!!
You two are my favourite couple on RUclips ❤️
This is so great. I love it that we have James.
ME TOO!! 🙌🙌
Trust me about the body shape: if the guy’s only interested in how you LOOK, he’s not looking for a serious relationship, he’s looking for a hookup. When I started dating my girlfriend (WOW it’s been nearly 3 years!), she wasn’t a pencil or whatever the “ideal shape” society says she should be, but I love her more than any other on this earth nonetheless. She has THE best personality ever (yes I will fight anyone who thinks their wife/girlfriend has a more kind and loving personality), and she’s so supportive of me and I thank God for putting her in my life. Should definitely pray and thank Him more often, she’s just that amazing. I hope to ask her to be my wife some day soon, even if it means going a lil bit financially downward, she’s worth the world to me.
Edit: Here’s the answer to the questions 👇🏻
1. I’d say that is definitely not the first thing we consider, if we’re going for a serious relationship. We usually look for personalities and values lining up.
2. Just talk to us, we’re awkward as heck too!
3. Depends on the guy, but if they’re there to marry you, that’s somethin y’all should talk about! I’d say as long as you’re taking care of your body’s various needs and showering, you’re good.
4. Yes, though I’d say if the both of you are interested in each other, the guy should be gentlemanly and ask first, but it ain’t a deal breaker for us if you ask first.
5. As far as “knowing” when it’s the time to marry, I’d say pray. I think I’m just about ready for that (I think next summer I’m gonna propose to my gf, and if you see this Chloe, no you didn’t 👀)
6. Definitely not, assuming that it’s a guy who’s not SOLELY looking to hookup. Those, again, are guys you should avoid.
7. I’d say the average guy isn’t fluid in the thing called ‘emotions’. Just less natural for most to involve feelings as much as girls in their mindset. There’s exceptions, but I’d say the average guy ignores or just chooses not to express feelings about everything because it’s not particularly in our nature.
8. That’s hard to tell for sure, and you girls do that crap to us SUUUUPER often so it’s confusing all around. Just be straightforward with a guy about how you feel, or simply ask him. We like straightforward and simple :)
You are glowing Tiffany ☺️❤️
Thank you for another amazing video. Always so encouraging 💕
Awwww thank you!!!
Natalies 'participation'! soo cute! and her saying 'bye' at the end too :)
Natalie is so smart and cute. She's growing up so fast aww
Isn't she?? She's getting so old!!
My goodness, Natalie is getting so big!😁❤ Ahh, I love her, and her little talks in the background!!!😂
Right?! She's so gown up!! And she's hilarious 😂😂
Imagine the kids watching these videos when they are older! 😬😬😅 that will we awkward
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Its kind of genius, like a video series of the talk preprepared
Great video once again, thanks guys!! And I loved your little special guest 🥰
Yes isn't our little guest so adorable?? Hahaha just love her!
Great video. I guess the main takeaway is that most of this depends on the guy.
😂 YES!!! Totally!!
This is so helpful and makes me feel calmer about eventually getting into a committed and healthy relationship one day!
I'm so glad!! 🙌🙌
James is right on the money on this! Hehe. I had been attractive to women who have different body types. Well, if a women is interested in me, I won't tell because I'm slow. I'm the awkward one! Heh. I don't mind body hair. I will get excited if a woman ask me out! I'm not married, so I don't know how it feels what James said. I do think about sex, but it is not the only thing I think about. I agree with James about men not sharing their feelings. My two cents on this, men believe a lie about expressing our feelings is weak, gay, or something stereotypical. It cause more damage than good. We got to get better at this. I am friendly. If there is a woman I am interested in, I'm going to be friendly to her too because I don't want her to know. I hope you, your husband, and your daughter are doing great. Thank you. I love you all. God loves you all.
Thank you so much for sharing your answers to these questions!! I love how you said men believe a lie that expressing emotions is weak - yes, so true!! That's a great point!
Thanks so much, dude. I needed this.
Let me grab some popcorn AND a notebook. Love your videos!
😂😂🙌🙌🙌 yay!!!
Honest, short answers from a guy
1. Unless you're legitimately obese, it doesn't matter.
2. Hard to answer. Listen to him, remember details, and be friendly.
3. Refer to James's answer :)
4. Yes. My girlfriend made the first move on me and we have a great relationship, couldn't be better!
5. Took me about a year.
6. ~pending on marriage~
7. Speaking for myself here. I just wait until I think the time is right to talk about my feelings.
8. If he's texting you into the night... he may like you. Try to send him signals that it's ok for him to say how he's feeling. Hopefully he doesn't confess over text though lol
Hope this helps. Great channel!
Oh my.. a while ago i met a guy who asked if we could meet so i could show him around in my town as he was visiting. I had only met him once before. He was/is quite intense, like he smiles a lot and looks you deep in the eye. And initially I was not interested, but he seemed so interested in me this day, so i was 100% sure i was on a date(from his side).. so i started to think about our babies.. (as i always do)... lol. ... Until he suddenly mentioned his girlfriend... my jaw dropped inside, and i had to hold it really tight together to not look super shocked... haha this was so funny. And a lesson for me,...
And thank you for your advice/encouragement on learning to talk to people you are interested in. Im horrible!! ... Last summer i kind of tried to ask a guy out that i had been so fascinated by for a long time. It was the most awkward moment in a... very long time. I have beaten myself up so much for it. xD Oh my.. its so hard to just be your cool self around people your interested in! Weather its being for friendly or romantic purposes
Oh my goodness!! I would have been totally shocked too!!! That's crazy!! And I think it's amazing that you had the courage to ask that guy out - you go girl!! I have definitely experienced awkward moments that I replay over and over in my head - but it really is just so hard to be calm and cool and collected around people you're interested in!!
1: no
2: idk
3: no
4: yes for sure
5: he explained it perfectly
6: no
7: I agree with him
8: he explained it perfectly
Loved the video great work
Guy here!
1. I personally do not care about your frame or size. You are your typically your own biggest critic. What you see in the mirror is probably not nearly as bad as you may think. Also, as for me, I personally prefer a bit of a bigger frame, but that’s really not a thing for me at all. If you’re the woman for me, I don’t care what your body shape or size is!
2. Just talk to me! Get acquainted with me, and tell me about it.
3. For me, that’s your call. The Bible says that in marriage, your body belongs to your spouse. So really, I think that you should certainly take my preference into consideration, and I should take your preference into consideration. Also, like he said, that’s something that’s not really going to come up until we’re like about to get married lol.
4. Yes. That’s honestly very attractive.
5. N/A
6. N/A
7. The absolute and total horror of rejection. Period.
8. Yeah that’s challenging. It’s hard to tell if you don’t know him well.
Question 1. Build? Maybe there is some cultural bias I"m working past. Though I think most people want to know that the other person is at least making a concerted effort to take care of themselves.
Question 2. and Question 4. Don't be afraid to ask, don't get your hopes hung up over yes or no, and just try to play it cool. We will probably respond more along the lines of "Oh, I'm glad you felt comfortable/brave enough to say that. You know maybe there is some potential to see where things go." or "Oh, I'm glad you felt comfortable/brave enough to say that. Though, I don't feel the same right now, but thank you." (in a perfect world people)
Question 3. I believe James put it best in one of your other unfiltered videos "You know what, he's just going to be happy to see your naked body." *mic drop *
Question Sex. I mean 6. No. Not all the time. I do have times where I think about it a lot, and have to refocus at times. But we aren't all slobbering sex maniacs no.
Question 7. I was a hopeless romantic and ready to confess my love to about every girl I liked. My mom taught me some restraint and that I was just a little kid. So I don't have a good answer for this one :P
Question 8. Not sure. If I'm making prolonged eye contact and trying to figure out mutual interests, than It may very well be I'm Interested.
Also, not to back seat parent, but I was noting Natalie's vocabulary increase and parroting. There might be some foreseable discussions for you two in the near future about her repeating too much from your "unfiltered" Q/A ;)
Thank you for sharing this!! Loved hearing your answers to the questions!
Great video and valuable insight. Thanks for answering these questions James! It's always really cool to see both of you giving your perspectives in a video. And now we also have Natalie! 😄
Yes! Doesn't Natalie have the best perspectives?? 😂 She's so hilarious
Ahh the marriage thought process! So relatable. I’m literally in the same place of “is he the one??” My answer to that is “I don’t know.” But “do I want to stop being with him?” The answer has been no for about 2 years, including a long break up...glad to know I’m not alone there!
Highlight of the video is Natalie saying “Joey goes wahhh wah wah wahhhh” 😂
HAHAHAHA!!! Right?! She's obsessed with Cousin Joey 😍
THANK YOU!!!!!!!
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Thank y'all for the advice! Also, you look lovely Tiffany!! Love from Georgia 💖
Awww thank you!!
Love it so much!! 😂 What an awesome video! I love you guys and your marriage!
Awwww thank you!!
love your authenticity!!
you're the best tiffany!!!! really admire your videos!
I remember when James said( in another video) that he still finds you beautiful when you are pregnant(paraphrasing) and I just want to say that I find you beautiful too❤️
Awwww thank you!!!
Natalie is such a sweetheart 💕 loved the video! Thank you Tiffany and James
Isn't she?? I just love her. I'm so glad you enjoyed the video too!
In terms of Body hair I could careless she can be hairy she can be shaven it’s not my place to judge her I’ll still love her for her.
In terms of Asking a guy out I see no problem with that in fact some guys would prefer being approached instead of approaching the girl.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on this! Loved hearing your thoughts!
This was so helpful, and such good advice! Thank you for making these videos! I look forward to watching them 💛
I'm so glad!!
Just wanna say, I appreciate you two so much. Keep it up, friends.
Awww thanks!!
I think facetime changes a lot, you might not be attracted to someone but if you have a good conversation that changes things. I think people have been removing their body hair forever, look at paintings that are hundreds of years old, often no body hair.
What a beautiful family you guys have! I always enjoy your videos together!
Awwww thank you!!
I love that Natalie is in this video! She’s growing up so fast 😊 hahaha her saying boot him 😂😂😂 and James saying hold the emotional horses 😂😂😂
I've been born again for 24 years, and never met any Christian girl that I was even remotely interested in dating.
Loved this! You mentioned James in Enneagram 7. What are you Tiffany? Do you know your MBTI types? What do you think about type compatibility and could you do a video on it?
Ohhh that would be a fun video!! I'm an Enneagram 1. I have no idea what our MBTI types are! But learning about each other's types on the enneagram definitely helped us understand each other better!!
@@TiffanyDawn Yay, thanks for the reply! I know you would love MBTI if you checked it out. Its alot more scientific!
Great video!! ❤️
Haha my commercial interruption after he said that guys look at a holistic approach is “sTOP chasing guys” haha
Great video!
0:11 I'm already laughing 😂 this bodes well for the rest of the video :D
You guys are the best! I wish this came out sooner though! It would have saved me a lot of grief!
Awwww!!! ME TOO!! I wish I'd known this stuff years ago!!
This is coming from a girl that is 5'11, guys? HEIGHT DOES NOT MATTER, I have been attracted to guys that are 5'3, I have been attracted 6'0. Short kings, you're super valid love ya
What Enneagram type are you, Tiffany? 😊 Love your videos, I feel like you're very similar personality types to me and my hubby ❤️ Greets from the Austrian Alps
That's so fun!!! I'm an Enneagram 1. What are you and your hubs??
I love how real you guys are and don't dance around certain topics simply because you're Christian. Great advice and you guys are always so funny 😹
love these videos!
I'm so glad!!
I love watching ur videos...u both are so good together. James ur so funny
Yes James are culture is over sexualized thank you for saying that!
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Also! James being an enneagram 7 makes so much sense!! Tiffany, what are you?
# ENNEAGRAMS Are NOT Godly or Supported by HOLY SCRIPTURE. IT'S A 'NEW AGE' TREND.
@@lindanicholason878 Yes ennageams are used in the New Age religion but they are also accurate. Just because it's new age doesn't mean that it's blantantly all a lie or meant to be deceptive. The problem with New Age is that it tells the truth without acknowledging God as the holder of all power and wisdom. Understanding the ennageam and how it works related to personality is useful, but shouldn't be taken as superior to God. From a personal example, as a christian I believe in science but don't belive in the scientific view that humans evolved from apes because it contradicts my belief that God created Adam and Eve and thus every human being afterwards. Back to the ennageam thing this is where discernment comes into place because sometimes the truth can be hidden among a web of lies making it harder to believe the truth when you see it, or sometimes a single lie is surrounded by truth which makes it harder to find that lie and prove it wrong.
Hahahaha right?! Doesn't it make so much sense? Learning about the enneagram has helped us understand each other so much better! I'm a type 1. What are you??
@@TiffanyDawn I’m a 2! 😁 But both of my wings are really strong! I can totally see you as a 1! And what an awesome balance: a 1 and a 7!
@@lindanicholason878 What is an ennnegram? I must have missed something, because everyone keeps asking Tiffany about it.
Q1: You guys are being nice lol but, more athletic/tone/healthy is preferable
Q2: Be humble and brave
Q3: Keep yourself clean and groomed, lol
Q4: Flirt, then let him take over, don’t pursue overtly.
Q5: Long enough to when you no longer question their integrity, values, or goals.
Q6: Attraction is necessary. Sex is important. But without intimacy both are void of meaning.
Q7: He’s answer is good
Q8: See Q4. Once he knows your interested he will express deeper intention. It he doesn’t he’s not interested. The exception is if he’s VERY insecure and awkward. Then perhaps asking him out for a causal date is necessary.
Not me getting my narwhal plushie when Natalie showed us hers lol
Guys! You're so cute! Couldn't stop smiling while watching:)))
Awwww yay!!
For the first question I think most men initially are extremely attracted to slim, young pretty and genuinely kind women SKYP
You guys are soooooooo cuteeeeee may the Lord bless you
Awwwww!!! 💗
You two and the baby are soo cute :)
While I think it's okay to ask a guy's opinion on body hair once you get to that place in your relationship, YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON. Body hair is one of those things that really is up to you what to do with it. Even when you're married, while it can be discussed, there should be room for a person to choose what they want to do with their own physical appearance
James looks like such a “Tony” 😆sorry, I know this is neither here nor there but lol
The media makes people presume all men are into super thin. Which I say more men are into thinner but not all men. I have found myself attracted to pluse size women equally as much as what is understood to be the ideal size for a lady. I once was asked about when have I found what is about the pluse size women that I have found attractive it took a day I have noticed when I have been she is dressed up. Looking classy.
Thank you!
Yay!! James is a 7! 👌👌
You all are such a cute little family. :D
Tiffany you have great hair 💇🏻♀️
Like I would ever have a chance with love or a woman. I am sure that it would only by chance fall out of the sky and then miss me on the way down.
this guy is awesome
I’ve heard some say, if he’s interested in you, you’ll know and it’ll be obvious. So you therefore shouldn’t do any pursing. thoughts??
It really depends on the guy! For some guys that's true, but for some it's not. And it doesn't have to do with their character; just their personality. 🤗
Cute couples 😊😊😂
It is so awkward...talking to a guy u like. U can b so confident talking with those ur not attracted to.
Do guys care about stretch marks?