Another problem is a single mon could be ready to end the relationship and extort money out of you by saying you did something inappropriate to a kid. That's the biggest thing that scares me away from single moms.
I noticed Filipino society seem to look down on a single mom where western men don't seem to do so.. I don't seem to have a problem dating a single mom...I have an issue dating a woman who lies about her children claiming they belong to her sister...
@@teacherjohnsadventure9550 I'll back up.. it's quite the opposite because it's the western men who look down on single moms and not Filipino men and this channel proves that it's contrary to your statement. I criticized though.
Hard pass. Not interested in marriage. Not interested in children. Money is not the issue. I value mobility. Picking up and going anywhere in the world. Can’t do that with a child.
One thing to think about is that a 20 something year old single Filipina will probably want kids later on, so then you go through the whole thing from the beginning, or else she may find someone else that will deal with that. My personal situation is a widowed single mother with an older child. I find single mothers are way more matured emotionally than single girls. I have had experience with both situations.
Widowed mom is still a single mom. The child will still say "you are not my dad". The mom will still say "You cant discipline my child, he/she is not yours". Pass. 😂
It's the most important decision humans make who to have children with get it right and it can be wonderful get it wrong and it can destroy your whole life and cost you emotionally your whole life
Thats true.. guys lets not date these girls with kids.. leave them alone ..look for single girls without kids.. let them learn a lesson .. why they sleep with men and have kids with them? . have to be careful who they have kids with.. dont give then another chance ..
My experience married to Filipina wife with daughter has been a great thing for me personally . We go on lots of family holidays , i have been able to help her for her school since she was young and now university studies ..Our family was always complete no issues apart from the usual. My daughter is very respectful too.
Based on a recent study by the World Health Organization (WHO), Philippines has about 15 million solo parents, or more than 14 million of whom are women. That's a lot of single or solo mothers!
As a father of 5, now grown, agree w Paul. You are taking on a huge burden of responsibility, not just for another adult, but for developing children that pile on the needs both emotional and financial. Complications w relationships and putting yourself at a disadvantage in many ways make it is much harder for most guys especially if you are older and have not had kids before. That said, some make it work like Steve -Vlogger of “Philippine info channel” in Cavite. I would ask him. But Paul makes important points here.
There is a law in PH that minors cannot be alone with someone who is not family. This means the GF/mother can never leave the house to go shopping and leave the kid with the BF/foreigner. If an envious neighbor reports that, it means jail time by law. Are foreigners aware of this? How is this dealt with?
Reekay ( I think it was Reekay) has discussed that topic. It's not that strict a law. Apparently, the Philippines use to have a huge pedophile problem which led to this law. Nannies get left with the kids all the time. And Reekay said if you go down to the local Barangay with the mother they can put you on file as an adult in the household. You may still get stopped by the cops in public, but a quick phone call will clear it up. They are just looking out for the kids.
I’m aware of that, but it’s rarely an issue especially if you’re regularly in a town where people see you and recognize you as being the bf of a local girl. I’ve never encountered any problems, and it would be easily dealt with by the child confirming who you are, or a quick call to the mother.
I dated a Single Mother one time. The girl was educated, had a great job, but literally with the house and the BMW, didn't have grocery money (I'm not kidding). So I buy her two kids and my Kid a huge chicken dinner. I sat there and listened to her daughter talk shit about me and recommend other Men who her Mom should date. American Women.
Dr. Helen Fisher's research seems pertinent here. Some have what she calls the Builder personality that must have a family (they also tend to be religious, etc). I have none of the Builder trait. I have huge difficulty finding a STEM career oriented Pinay who doesn't want kids. Thought I found that once, but she just wanted the green card. Peace.
Yep. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I don't care if a woman swears she doesn't want kids and doesn't care about marriage. After enough time passes, it might be months, might be years, she'll drop the I want kids and marriage bomb. Guaranteed. That old saying "It's a Woman's prerogrative to change her mind" didn't just fall out of the f*cking sky.
If you are in a relationship in part to be with someone who will take care of you in your elderly years then it may not be too much to ask that you accept the responsibility of a single mom’s family. Each of us in our particular circumstances have to figure out how to balance those needs/desires and obligations. I’ve never had kids. My wife’s daughter lives with my wife’s mom in the village. By the time we move to the village the daughter will be in her teenage years. The daughter is just a part of the overall financial liability of marrying into a family. The daughter and I are not particularly close because she doesn’t live with us and she doesn’t speak English. It is a circumstance I can accept.
I dated a Filipina in the US for months who was a widow and had three children in their late teens/early twenties. I am the exception, as over three years later we are happily married. Her kids are very well adjusted and overall the pressures to help her extended family are minimal. Thank you for the excellent video.
I chose to not end up with a single mum, I dated many before I settled with the one girl. They will always look at the child over you and I always felt if I am going to have a child in my life it should be mine, I have 3 daughters from a previous marriage in Australia, we separated by the time the girls were in their teens so the impact wasn't as bad. Now I am with a Filipina the last thing I want is another guy's child or children. Now I am with a Filipina who has no children and her parents have since passed away, she ticks all the boxes, I was lucky to find her, the two things that can be a burden on us foreigners meeting these young Filipina.
Thank you guys. It takes courage to make a video that is straight down to earth with facts that are true, knowing that a lot of females will dislike you for it. A single mother should take care financial care of her kid.. at least regularly. Sometimes helping each other (Financial or otherwise) is necessary. However, some woman think that there is no mutual help. This, there is no team. Is her, herself, and she. (On top of that she may try to add asamu family members as the man will allow ). Just do not fall in love. Is a business transaction.
If you're an older guy who doesn't want any more kids, and the woman is of child bearing age, maybe it's better that she already has one. That way you're not depriving her of her right to have kids, and maybe she won't leave you just to have a child with another guy.
@@nawtsurprised but you get his point. Stop making Excuses. Besides.. a great way to stop women from having babies out of Wedlock? Is to make it harder for them to find a man that will take care of another's child. A stupid bet for a guy. You get All of the Responsibility, All of the stress, danger but None of the benefits. It's NOT your genetic line, you get No custodial rights, No Tax exemptions No final say on any decisions for the child. And can Still be on the hook for child support in event of a break up. Plus.. if the kid is Alot like the parents? Disrespectful to you? I E You Ain't my Daddy you can't tell me what to do . You Can't discipline the child either. Why would Any man accept those terms? He's a beta chump, trying to get access to Regular sex, and the hopeful possibility? That she might give him a child? Thus improving His odds of reproduction and a Regular chick he might not be able to get in his own? That's why Beta chumps do it. Is how Non aggressive, non masculine, non alpha type guys enhance their lineage for survival. Men who move like chicks
It’s an interesting discussion, with valid points on both sides. Like most relationships, there are pros and cons, and each relationship can be different. Living there full time, or just visiting there two or three times a year, also changes the dynamics, both re dating and having a gf with a kid. Two things to consider, the single mom can be a great loving partner, but her child if young, will be her priority, as it should be. Secondly, if the girl is young, and she doesn’t have a kid, in the vast majority of cases, she will want one at some stage. I’ve dated single moms, and had great times, …be aware, but keep an open mind.
I was a widowed man with two young children. 16 years ago I got remarried to a single filipina mother. She became a fantastic step mom to my kids, and I've raised her little girl as my own. I'm not very familiar with this channel, but it seems the guy with the purple tshirt has had a negative experience with a single filipina mom. I'd like people to know not everyone has a negative experience with a single filipina mom. To be honest , the guy seems very selfish , perfection does not exist in the Philippines or in the west. If you truly love the woman you should accept, and if she truly loves you, she will accept all your baggage and issues also. If all you want is a girlfriend to tour the islands with, then kids are probably not a great idea, those extra, ferry and bus tickets can add up. 😁
And you had a POSITIVE experience that is coloring YOUR view. Paul's experiences are consistent with what is the norm with single mothers. I am glad your experience was exceptional, but it was the exception. And the "selfish" comment is neither called for, nor accurate. You can do better mate.
All relationships have an element of give and take. There should be some balance between what each partner brings into the relationship. Taking on a woman with children and all that comes with her situation, would tip the scales in the wrong direction for me.
An interesting topic Paul and certainly a thought provoker. It is something I do have a bit of an internal struggle with, however if I was as confident as I could be about the girl being the "right one", I know that I would need to make concessions and accept the package deal. For many reasons no children obviously presents a far better option in terms of freedom to travel, dinner out etc. I am an older man so I wonder if a single mum is not a better option than a girl who wants children, from the simple basis of is it fair for me to father a child I may not be around to watch grow to a mature age. So,,, did you make my decision easier? No,, but you sure gave me a lot of things I seriously need to give consideration to. Great topic and once again a good video Paul. Thank you
Seeing how you both are in your 50's you've kinda boxed yourselves in. You both know damn well a filipina her 20's and 30's that doesn't have a child is going to want one no matter what she tells you. If she's in her 40's with grown kids well, do you really want a menopausal filipina GF when so many young ones are available ? And you've already eliminated young single mothers - so what's left ?
These two men over 50 are suggesting not to get involved with a Filipina with kids. They are obviously chasing women in their twenties and thirties. That's their mistake. If they find a beautiful woman in her mid 40s, her kids will already be out of the house and grown up and the older woman may be a widow on top of that.. Problem solved. But of course theyre not interested in that. They like that 20s to 30s young stuff. Good luck bringing your 27-year-old Filipino (faithful?) wife to the United States when your health takes a nose dive and you have to go back for healthcare permanently..
@@watersbey25 men are attracted to youth and beauty. Some of us just want to minimize complications and stress that may come with dating young single mothers. Some of those men may end up fathering their own children. That's ok at least it's their own children. It's not advisable to bring your wife to the US regardless of her age.
I was with a single mom of 3...I was a single dad for years... Now my kids are grown and I had no problems with my gf kids they respected me and They are grateful for the new life I helped them to have. Im 58 so no more kids for me.
Hi mate, I wouldn't disagree with anything you say, except for, I looked for a single mum, the right one of course, and I always wanted to have kids, but got a bit older and couldn't see myself wanting babies. For sure I would make a life with the right person, certain limitations of course, can't have ex anywhere in sight, gotta be able to trust and accept her family as well, if you're not up for what it means to do what I have done, don't do it. But myself, never regretted the journey with the awesome lady, kids and family, better than I ever expected. But it takes wise choices too.
There are lots of young single moms in the Philippines. There may be more of them than there are girls without a kid, or kids. When I was in my late teens and early 20s I knew some local girls who had kids. Never stopped me from getting naked with them. Anyway, I suppose it's preferable that they don't have kids, but I wouldn't let it stop me if I like them well enough.
I married one. We were both single parents. The only plus left is the step son. My daughter from the first go, is and has been hostel from age five. My son from the second try, is an SJW and is on the other side of the American disagreement. The stepson is the only bright spot. I’m eagerly awaiting your common law marriage video. If the PI ever opens to Yankees, and I doubt it will if ever, I think temporary relations with women will be the norm. I doubt the truthfulness of any of them anymore.
i dated a few Filipina but i have found i prefer Cambodian, Vietnamese, and Chinese mainly because I can work in their countries during non-covid 19 times. Then I can spend time getting to know the girl rather than have to deal with long-distance relationships.
I do agree with the points made here - getting involved with a single mom with young kids is a non-starter for me (I did this once, we lived together for a couple years and I paid for a lot of things....only to have it end and she moved out of my home). By the time I reach retirement and land in PH, the young 20-somethings probably don't want much to do with me as I will be near 60. This is where a Filipina who is a bit older may be what I seek....and if she had her kids at a young age they may be near (or at) adulthood and ready to start their own life.....a totally different single mom scenario which I would be open to.
One issue I've dealt with in dating single Mothers is the kids become attached very quickly. Not trying to brag, but it seemed to me their children (even toddlers) sensed right away that I'm a grounded, stable and reasonably confident guy who wasn't just fun loving, but, unlike their Mother, could exercise much more grace under pressure...to remain cool when/if the sh*t hit the fan. IMO, single Mother raised children are starving for that feeling of secure homeostasis that a solid Man brings to their world. This makes them fall in love with you quite quickly, which, understandably, can make breakups quite painful.
Enjoyed your video Paul. Liked your recent one on common law relationships too. What about a video on child support in the Philippines, whether your own child or as step dad? Best wishes.
My misses has 3 kids and we have been together for 6 year + now. Both points of view are valid . I have been accepted as 'dad' and all is cool. The father is dead and was before we met. There is additional cost for sure but I look at them as my family tbh. The youngest was 6 when we got together the eldest is now 16. It is a gamble as is life .....but worked out great for me so far !
you know guys, when it comes to a relationship or to get with woman because she has kids or not, it all comes down to who and what a person is willing to deal with, me i will not date a single mother, but i have had no kids and would not mind having my own family, but i have dated a single mother before and it did not work out, but maybe cause of me never having kids, so i think if a man has had kids already then it should not be to much of a big deal to him, but also it all depends on the woman that is a single mother, not all women are good or bad, just like men we are all different, so this is something people need to take into consideration, when looking for a mate, but no matter which way a person chooses to go, there are always pros and cons, to any decision we make, single mother or no single mother all depends on the man, i understand the pros and cons of dating single mothers, as well as dating any women, i think the best way to choose a mate is by how the person is on the in side, not just by how they look on the out side ok, i think by people just choosing a person by how they look on the out side and not thinking of how that person is on the in side, has really played a lot into what is happening in the world now with people, divorce in the states is at a all time high with women filing for divorce by 80%, this should tell everyone something ok, as well as marriages are on the down cline, this also should be telling everyone something, more and more people are choosing to stay single and not marry, what do people think this will do to the world and our society as a whole, not good i can tell you that, plus all of us American men do know how it is in the west, when it comes to women, all of us have been thru the same BS, with American women and are sick and tired of it too, but we should not do like men did in the west, do better this time think of who you would mate with on how that woman is on the in side and her values, i meet a Filipino woman online and yes her values are like the same us mine, so yea talk about getting lucky here, but you also need to as a man put your self out there, in a really good value way, but this also depends on how you are as a man on the in side, like i went on a dating site Filipinocupid and one of the first things i said, i was looking for a woman with old traditional values, know what that means, but also i put between the age of 18 to 27, i did this for a reason ok, because of what i know about women, plus on what i was looking for in a woman, all this comes into play after a while Gio you had a very beautiful GF at one time, sorry it did not work out, but keep in mind some times it is not just the woman who was at fault ok, i do not know the facts about that relationship, but i can tell you it takes 2 to tangle ok, bu to better understand why relationships do work or do not work out, is for a person to reflect on that relationship and look at what went wrong and why, most of the time it is because of a personal conflict, this is why i always tell people to be careful of who you decide to mate with, talk to one another, ask questions like, hey what do you think about bedroom fun be fore marriage, if a woman does that before marriage she does not have old traditional values, yea asking questions is not wrong or bad, you need to get a feel for that person ok, well i hope this helps i could keep going on, but i think you get my point, be safe and careful.
@@Rocket9944 well in another way, pay attn, to the person or woman and take your time, do not rush into a relationship with anyone, but for me i have a certain skill and with that being said, i know not all people have the skill i have, so yea like watch what that woman does or any person, what her habits, how she talks and acts around you and others ok, what she has in life, well in some ways yes that can tell you things, but for me i see more then just the person i see everything about them ok, when i talk with a person for around 5 mins, i get a really good feel of that person, which is kind of hard for me to spell out in full and in very little sentence ok, but to really shorten this, get to know how people are in general, keep your ears and eyes open and your mouth shut, then you will learn more about everything including people ok.
Interesting topic, but you missed the most important point about being involved with a single mother. You'll always come second to her kids. Her kids will always be her priority and you'll be useful if you help to support her and her family. Most single mothers are looking for someone to support their families above all. If that's fine for you, that's great, but just remember what her priorities are.
This is soo true. Myself and my girls are my priority on the list. I've been hitting along the road of relationship and one thing I know I would marry no less than my own. I wanna be equal and not a burden to my man nor don't wanna be his woman laying down and spreading my legs . I Ain't no fool to beg his mercy and pity😁.
I tried being a Bachelor tourist for awhile, it got old fast. I'm a 64 year old widower, father, grandfather. I've adopted a Filipina and her 5 kids. Is it expensive ? Yes and it can be down right annoying at times but it feels right.
I NORMALLY Like the Videos you 2 Guys Put Out. However you 2 FAILED to Mention 2 HUGE Dangers of Dating Filipina Single Moms ... Checking their CENOMARs to MAKE SURE They're NOT MARRIED, AND the Philippine LAW that States you can NEVER be ALONE with her Children. THOSE 2 'Issues' are HUGE, and WAYYYY MORE IMPORTANT Than Complicating your Life and the EXTRA EXPEN$E$ and "Feelings" Associated with Dating a Single Mom. THOSE 2 ISSUES CAN GET YOU THROWN IN JAIL!!!
@Can't Wait to Own Nothing and Be Happy I have been thinking about the 2nd issue you mentioned and how to solve it when I move there. That a foreigner can not be alone with his GF's minor son. Does it mean living separately but dating few times a week? Does that solve the problem? Any other suggestions you can offer? What if the man really loves this woman and doesn't want to lose her? Is it possible to make it work and avoid the risk? Appreciate your thoughts.
@@78swats The ISSUE Russell is have you ALREADY MET her Children? If Yes, and you ARE in the Philippines NOW, if I were you I'd go see a Filipino Attorney and ASK about this 'Potential Legal Problem' you 'May Have'. If you HAVEN'T Met her Kids, I'd go See an Attorney BEFORE EVER meeting her kids when your Boots are on the Ground in the Philippines. I'd ALSO Get Said Attorney to meet with you and your 'Single Mom GF' and Draft up an 'Agreement' with a COPY of your GF's CENOMAR and her AGREEING NOT to EVER 'Introduce' you to her Kids UNTIL the 2 of you are 'Legally Married' (I BELIEVE you CAN THEN be 'Legally Alone' with her Kids, but DOUBLE Check with the Attorney about that?) . BEST Get RID of her if you HAVEN'T Even MET her Yet (Not sure if your 'Relationship' is 'Meerly Onscreen'?). Then the OTHER Cunundrum is you HAVE met her Children already on a Prior Visit AND you are Now ALONE in your Own Country. I'd Pay for a Zoom Call with a Fiilipino Attorney FOR SURE in That Case, because IF YOU STOP Sending her $, She MAY try EXTORTION/BLACKMAIL Threatening to REPORT You. I WOULDN'T 'Volunteer' the Information about this Bizarre Philippine Law to your GF if I were you! Did I Help Russell?
Risk reward. The risks outweigh the reward in most cases. There are exceptions. If you love children and enjoy having a family a Filipina with one child when she was very young could be a good choice. If the Filipina has several children perhaps she's made seriously bad decisions and that may continue.
Good morning Paul and Gio from valenzuela 😃…. Depensa the situation…. Well for me I’m happy a single mom 14years and i am proud to be a single mom ☺️,It’s hard to be a single mom but i am blessed i have a son 14years old. And never been married… At my age 35getting old i am happy single mom just saying. ☺️ Stay happy keep going and happy life because no one is perfect. Life is to short.☺️ Keep safe stay healthy You and mia and gio… 😃
Nobody cares if you think your "blessed"..... what you really mean is your are "cursed" for being dumped with all the responsibility but are too nice to say it in case your kid hears it and feels rejected. We all know the shitty life of a single mother regardless of your "sugar coating it" to appear "nice".
Had a closed triad relationship with two single pinays... Dealing with their kids was easy, dealing with them and their jealously that's another issue.
I am like, "Duh." Single mothers are the epitome of what "baggage" is, whether in Philly or anywhere else in the world. Loading the baggage into your life is hard, but also, as noted in 5:37 - 5:45, just to unload it requires a heavier lift.
Its ok to date a single mother in the philippines as long as they were not married., because there is no divorce in the philippines. its illegal to get divorced.
If you guys are having problem or worried about dating Pilipina women. There's a easy solution to it. Go back where you came from and take your time to find that especial someone. Don't stress out yourselves trying to find a woman in Asia. First of all, there's no perfect marriage. It's always full of compromises. Making too much comments about us doesn't help. If you have too many questions in your minds. Move on somewhere else.
You did not mention the " mama bear " syndrome. When the kid do something wrong, you can't discipline the kid and than you ask her to do so, and she wouldn't do it. That is annoying.
No way to take responsibility For anybody.s ,kids Not a 60 and above Most of us are 60 or above. Try did not worked Never again Paul your bloody So truefull. And clear about it, Hi. Gio. Nice to see yous 2 together again Forza. Italia ,
Sure kids can be inconvenient. But with a non-mother you have to worry about her biological clock making her not satisfied with the life you provide her. On the other hand, if you support a single mom, then if you chose her carefully then you get an extra level of appreciation and love from the mom and her child also.
Hi Paul and Gio, Really good video. Of course both of you are right. The other side of this is the children could be hidden away. Best wishes, Cheers mike
i have 2 own adult kids from my late thai wife. having a new woman who has a child its not a issue for me. i know how to take care. but there is another big issue. most single womens with kids are still married in the phils. even they say, have no connection with her husband for long time, how can you be sure ? the issue is that you dating a married woman, and thats the law problem. thats could be danger, can bring you to jail there. and these single (married) women looking only for somebody who pay for, most say, i don't want to have another child. so what you are ? only good enough for support. i chat actually with a single married woman. she say she has no connections with her husband since 23 y. 3 y ago she got pregnant from a another filipino. this finally break. now she is looking for a guy for support and compagnion. she say, sex she doesn't need. the anulment of her marriage is to expensive she said. i have more problems with her attitude. finally i would be only a supporter. thats keep me away from her inside my heart. for such a case, better stay alone. i m anyway critical to most.
Hey Paul, hi, how are you? During this blog/video, you brought up a very interesting point about us ex-pats knowing how difficult it can be, to break up with a Filipina. Well, many of us including myself, do not know how difficult that can be. When you have time, could you and Mia put together a blog/video, that discusses that very subject in detail? I have watched your videos, and you and Mia make a very great team. Is the two you could put a video together, that discusses the difficulties of breaking up with a Filipina, it would be invaluable for us, that are getting ready to come over to the Philippines. Especially, a video/blog, coming from you and Mia, because the both of you would be able to give us a really great perspective, coming from a Filipina, as well as an ex pat. Thank you so much, keep up the great work, and I hope that you and Mia last forever, you are a great couple. God bless, Pete.
While I agree that you have every right to your opinions, please remember that there are a dozen different perspectives when it comes to dating and creating a lifelong and loving relationship with a Filipina. As a 64 year old committed to a life in the US, my approach to what I am looking for is so different than a 42 year old man who plans on spending their life in the Philippines. Neither are wrong but they are polar opposites in what we are seeking when it comes to a future partner/wife.
This discussion is about counting how much money the guys will spend when living with ladies who have kids already I guess it doesn't have to discuss in public
What is wrong with marriage with a 44 year old single mom that has two kids that are both over 20 and have their own lives. I am 69 and a single father with two adult kids.
If it's a question, then my answer is nothing there is absolutely nothing wrong with it sir. But people talk about menopause, I am not exactly sure what it is, and how it would impact a relationship.
Paul, you have your perspective and valid points. From a further overview side of things. A single mom with 1 well behaved child and the father completely out of the picture may be something to consider. Even a childless young Filipina is going to want your support for her family. Another reason is you had kids already and you don’t want to have another baby with your young Filipina that will undoubtedly want a child in a LTR. So a single mom can be ok without having additional children and not feel like she never met her maternal need. If your a guy that’s ok starting a new family, a Filipina without children is a better choice for a LTR.
I prefer to take care of a whole bunch village kids. So that when I'm old and frail they will or at least one of them, will love me from the heart and make sure I'm taken cared of.
Ne has 5 grown girls and not one of them wants her to be with their dad. They saw him get drunk & beat her while she provided for them, His mommy takes care of her 48-year-old son when he spends all his money on booze and gambling.
He hasn't experienced the reality of dating, or marrying, a single.mother yet, so he has the luxury of ignoring the obvious red flags. Some people have to touch the hot stove, and get burned, to realize hot stoves burn. If Gio tries one, you will hear Payl's words coming out of his mouth.
As a man gets older, the ability to date non-mothers gets harder and harder. If you really want to do that, go to a Western country or a place like Hong Kong where the fertility rate is much lower than in the Philippines. The proportion of women without children in the Philippines drops to almost zero by the late 30s.
I take it on a case by case basis. If i like the girl and as long as she is honest about having a child and she is able to make time to meet me than i will accept the bastard child. However i will make it clear that when it comes time for inheritance i will only leave property to a child I am directly related too. If i do not have that then any money or property i acquire will be willed to the Russian government.
Question most young girl without kids want to have kids maybe they say they don't but as time goes on there going to want have kids that's why if they have one kid around 7 to 10 and u don't want to have anymore kids
Interesting vid. Agree with Paul it is more expensive and more complicated and very very difficult to break up with stepchildren. Despite that children are a huge source of joy and strengthen relationships. I am not someone who is scared or worried that the future may turn out badly. I live for the now and the immediate future not 10 years down the track. I look for a single mum. 2 children , don't care if from separate dads and don't care their ages. I can't have more kids so will never get seriously invloved with a young woman with no kids or 1 kid. Don't care their looks, age or compatability with me. I can date them for fun but will never be in a relationship with them.
How can you say dangerous? Not all Filipinos marry foreigners because of security. How about you? What is your purpose or intention to live-in a Filipina is it for a helper ? Clean after you. Take care of you . Sex mate? Explain it. Because I am sure you have reasons are they good intentions for the other party? Or your selfish intentions.
Young philippinas don't have serious options. Option 1 is starving, option 2 is stay with old westerner. Why not mention this? What about you are in your 50s and 60s and when your child needs you most you are almost dead and buried? Going with a too young girl is not really healthy and is kind of selfish because it solves your immediate problems (loneliness, sex, ...) but not hers. This doesn't mean you shouldn't have a hot young gf, but certainly you should really think hard about the meaning of relationship for you and hers and confront her opinion with yours. What about taking out of the equation the following: Children (single moms) Age (young, middle aged, old) Origin (province or city) Look (hot or not) Education (educated or not) Wealth (rich poor) Etc. What about that? Why not talk about love rather than all this bs talk about single moms? It seems you always put love and feelings at the end, as if it was not important. Why not discuss about the fact that in most cases young philippinas stay with older westerners only because they improve the quality of their lives. What kind of relationship is that?
because you don't decide whether to date a single mother or not, after you are in love. probably not good advice to tell people to do it in that order.
Isn't it possible that a girl making $200 a month (after working everyday) needs my money and appreciates me for it, and at the same time loves me too. Isn't it true, all women want money but here is US they feel like it is their right. They never even appreciate the man for treating her nicely.
I agree I usually don't date single mothers. Had they not have a kid/kids a westerner would not have been a first choice as was obvious from the get go I'm not raising another man kids when they get older they will kick you in your ass or worse. I choice wisely single mature educated middle aged women who don't want kids and are willing to be with you. For the long run. Not until her kids grow up. But I have lots of friends who are single moms and I don't condone them. I just not interested in having any relationship with them.
Another problem is a single mon could be ready to end the relationship and extort money out of you by saying you did something inappropriate to a kid. That's the biggest thing that scares me away from single moms.
Savvy man…not a sucker
I noticed Filipino society seem to look down on a single mom where western men don't seem to do so.. I don't seem to have a problem dating a single mom...I have an issue dating a woman who lies about her children claiming they belong to her sister...
I’ve noticed just the opposite.
@@sunnybeaches5622 really? Please expand...
@@teacherjohnsadventure9550 I'll back up.. it's quite the opposite because it's the western men who look down on single moms and not Filipino men and this channel proves that it's contrary to your statement. I criticized though.
@@mariegesta4501 It is not about looking down on someone. The problem is not the man, it is that the woman has undesirable baggage.
The kids grow up and make their own decisions, your on a hiding to nothing but abuse, emotional and financial.
Hard pass. Not interested in marriage. Not interested in children. Money is not the issue. I value mobility. Picking up and going anywhere in the world. Can’t do that with a child.
Paul made a very good point , if you break up you will never see the kid/ kids again..
And remember that she had broken up with the father.
One thing to think about is that a 20 something year old single Filipina will probably want kids later on, so then you go through the whole thing from the beginning, or else she may find someone else that will deal with that. My personal situation is a widowed single mother with an older child. I find single mothers are way more matured emotionally than single girls. I have had experience with both situations.
Widowed mom is still a single mom. The child will still say "you are not my dad". The mom will still say "You cant discipline my child, he/she is not yours". Pass. 😂
It's the most important decision humans make who to have children with get it right and it can be wonderful get it wrong and it can destroy your whole life and cost you emotionally your whole life
Thats true.. guys lets not date these girls with kids.. leave them alone ..look for single girls without kids.. let them learn a lesson .. why they sleep with men and have kids with them? . have to be careful who they have kids with.. dont give then another chance ..
My baseline is no kids, no tattoos, no smoking. If she is truly exceptional, I mean an 11, maybe...
My experience married to Filipina wife with daughter has been a great thing for me personally . We go on lots of family holidays , i have been able to help her for her school since she was young and now university studies ..Our family was always complete no issues apart from the usual. My daughter is very respectful too.
Thanks for sharing
Based on a recent study by the World Health Organization (WHO), Philippines has about 15 million solo parents, or more than 14 million of whom are women. That's a lot of single or solo mothers!
As a father of 5, now grown, agree w Paul. You are taking on a huge burden of responsibility, not just for another adult, but for developing children that pile on the needs both emotional and financial. Complications w relationships and putting yourself at a disadvantage in many ways make it is much harder for most guys especially if you are older and have not had kids before. That said, some make it work like Steve -Vlogger of “Philippine info channel” in Cavite. I would ask him. But Paul makes important points here.
Great video! I really like the gentleman debate format of two respected people discussing topics. It’s more informative.
thank you for watching, I'm glad you enjoyed it 😊
The economic hardship , recession , unemployment and the loss of job caused by covid pandemic is enough to push people into financial ventures .
There is a law in PH that minors cannot be alone with someone who is not family. This means the GF/mother can never leave the house to go shopping and leave the kid with the BF/foreigner. If an envious neighbor reports that, it means jail time by law. Are foreigners aware of this? How is this dealt with?
Reekay ( I think it was Reekay) has discussed that topic. It's not that strict a law. Apparently, the Philippines use to have a huge pedophile problem which led to this law. Nannies get left with the kids all the time. And Reekay said if you go down to the local Barangay with the mother they can put you on file as an adult in the household. You may still get stopped by the cops in public, but a quick phone call will clear it up. They are just looking out for the kids.
@@happyguy7836 Thanks for explaining that.
I’m aware of that, but it’s rarely an issue especially if you’re regularly in a town where people see you and recognize you as being the bf of a local girl. I’ve never encountered any problems, and it would be easily dealt with by the child confirming who you are, or a quick call to the mother.
Does that law only apply to kids of the opposite sex?
@@happyguy7836 Thank you Happy Guy. I really want to watch Reekay's video covering this subject. Would you be able to post a link?
I dated a Single Mother one time.
The girl was educated, had a great job, but literally with the house and the BMW, didn't have grocery money (I'm not kidding).
So I buy her two kids and my Kid a huge chicken dinner.
I sat there and listened to her daughter talk shit about me and recommend other Men who her Mom should date.
American Women.
I prefer to date single mothers one at a time.
He is absolutely right about kids !
Lots of good points guys,I've been there done that.
Dr. Helen Fisher's research seems pertinent here. Some have what she calls the Builder personality that must have a family (they also tend to be religious, etc). I have none of the Builder trait. I have huge difficulty finding a STEM career oriented Pinay who doesn't want kids. Thought I found that once, but she just wanted the green card. Peace.
Yep. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I don't care if a woman swears she doesn't want kids and doesn't care about marriage. After enough time passes, it might be months, might be years, she'll drop the I want kids and marriage bomb. Guaranteed. That old saying "It's a Woman's prerogrative to change her mind" didn't just fall out of the f*cking sky.
If you are in a relationship in part to be with someone who will take care of you in your elderly years then it may not be too much to ask that you accept the responsibility of a single mom’s family. Each of us in our particular circumstances have to figure out how to balance those needs/desires and obligations.
I’ve never had kids. My wife’s daughter lives with my wife’s mom in the village. By the time we move to the village the daughter will be in her teenage years. The daughter is just a part of the overall financial liability of marrying into a family. The daughter and I are not particularly close because she doesn’t live with us and she doesn’t speak English. It is a circumstance I can accept.
I dated a Filipina in the US for months who was a widow and had three children in their late teens/early twenties. I am the exception, as over three years later we are happily married. Her kids are very well adjusted and overall the pressures to help her extended family are minimal. Thank you for the excellent video.
3 years is nothing.
three whole years??????? wow. So you've made it to the lower time spectrum of divorce
@@Kraken_Mybutt Right? I made it 22 years, and thought I was safe from divorce by a cheating wife. ..not.
@@Rocket9944 So true.
I chose to not end up with a single mum, I dated many before I settled with the one girl. They will always look at the child over you and I always felt if I am going to have a child in my life it should be mine, I have 3 daughters from a previous marriage in Australia, we separated by the time the girls were in their teens so the impact wasn't as bad. Now I am with a Filipina the last thing I want is another guy's child or children. Now I am with a Filipina who has no children and her parents have since passed away, she ticks all the boxes, I was lucky to find her, the two things that can be a burden on us foreigners meeting these young Filipina.
That also i can understand why choosing young if u r old its doenst feel right it sounds like a pedo at the end sorry its my own thought
The first time she says, my kids, you better believe it's going to be kids, cause up comes my walls for family values...I'm gone and done
Thank you guys. It takes courage to make a video that is straight down to earth with facts that are true, knowing that a lot of females will dislike you for it.
A single mother should take care financial care of her kid.. at least regularly. Sometimes helping each other (Financial or otherwise) is necessary. However, some woman think that there is no mutual help. This, there is no team. Is her, herself, and she. (On top of that she may try to add asamu family members as the man will allow ).
Just do not fall in love. Is a business transaction.
If you're an older guy who doesn't want any more kids, and the woman is of child bearing age, maybe it's better that she already has one. That way you're not depriving her of her right to have kids, and maybe she won't leave you just to have a child with another guy.
Never raise another man’s children. Never. Have your own children or don’t, but don’t raise a child that will be taken away at a moments notice.
Never say never. Case by case basis.
Do not resume another man's saved game.
Exactly Steve.
@@nawtsurprised but you get his point. Stop making Excuses. Besides.. a great way to stop women from having babies out of Wedlock? Is to make it harder for them to find a man that will take care of another's child. A stupid bet for a guy. You get All of the Responsibility, All of the stress, danger but None of the benefits. It's NOT your genetic line, you get No custodial rights, No Tax exemptions No final say on any decisions for the child. And can Still be on the hook for child support in event of a break up. Plus.. if the kid is Alot like the parents? Disrespectful to you? I E You Ain't my Daddy you can't tell me what to do . You Can't discipline the child either. Why would Any man accept those terms? He's a beta chump, trying to get access to Regular sex, and the hopeful possibility? That she might give him a child? Thus improving His odds of reproduction and a Regular chick he might not be able to get in his own? That's why Beta chumps do it. Is how Non aggressive, non masculine, non alpha type guys enhance their lineage for survival. Men who move like chicks
@@bobbydelgado4502 each to his own I say, some of your points are valid, some are way wrong. Are you speaking from experience?
It’s an interesting discussion, with valid points on both sides. Like most relationships, there are pros and cons, and each relationship can be different. Living there full time, or just visiting there two or three times a year, also changes the dynamics, both re dating and having a gf with a kid. Two things to consider, the single mom can be a great loving partner, but her child if young, will be her priority, as it should be. Secondly, if the girl is young, and she doesn’t have a kid, in the vast majority of cases, she will want one at some stage. I’ve dated single moms, and had great times, …be aware, but keep an open mind.
you should definitely date a single mom, just make sure you have more kids then her
Thanks Paul for good information here; you’ve another subscriber here
I think "pitfalls" would be the word Paul is looking for.
A lot of foreigners came to Philippines because no one even take them from their own country. But after all its the intention of your heart.
I was a widowed man with two young children. 16 years ago I got remarried to a single filipina mother. She became a fantastic step mom to my kids, and I've raised her little girl as my own. I'm not very familiar with this channel, but it seems the guy with the purple tshirt has had a negative experience with a single filipina mom. I'd like people to know not everyone has a negative experience with a single filipina mom. To be honest , the guy seems very selfish , perfection does not exist in the Philippines or in the west. If you truly love the woman you should accept, and if she truly loves you, she will accept all your baggage and issues also. If all you want is a girlfriend to tour the islands with, then kids are probably not a great idea, those extra, ferry and bus tickets can add up. 😁
And you had a POSITIVE experience that is coloring YOUR view. Paul's experiences are consistent with what is the norm with single mothers. I am glad your experience was exceptional, but it was the exception. And the "selfish" comment is neither called for, nor accurate. You can do better mate.
All relationships have an element of give and take. There should be some balance between what each partner brings into the relationship. Taking on a woman with children and all that comes with her situation, would tip the scales in the wrong direction for me.
An interesting topic Paul and certainly a thought provoker. It is something I do have a bit of an internal struggle with, however if I was as confident as I could be about the girl being the "right one", I know that I would need to make concessions and accept the package deal. For many reasons no children obviously presents a far better option in terms of freedom to travel, dinner out etc. I am an older man so I wonder if a single mum is not a better option than a girl who wants children, from the simple basis of is it fair for me to father a child I may not be around to watch grow to a mature age. So,,, did you make my decision easier? No,, but you sure gave me a lot of things I seriously need to give consideration to. Great topic and once again a good video Paul. Thank you
Seeing how you both are in your 50's you've kinda boxed yourselves in. You both know damn well a filipina her 20's and 30's that doesn't have a child is going to want one no matter what she tells you. If she's in her 40's with grown kids well, do you really want a menopausal filipina GF when so many young ones are available ? And you've already eliminated young single mothers - so what's left ?
American guys in their 50s, healthy, single, financially independent can write their own ticket in
Philippines now.
These two men over 50 are suggesting not to get involved with a Filipina with kids. They are obviously chasing women in their twenties and thirties. That's their mistake. If they find a beautiful woman in her mid 40s, her kids will already be out of the house and grown up and the older woman may be a widow on top of that.. Problem solved. But of course theyre not interested in that. They like that 20s to 30s young stuff. Good luck bringing your 27-year-old Filipino (faithful?) wife to the United States when your health takes a nose dive and you have to go back for healthcare permanently..
@@watersbey25 men are attracted to youth and beauty. Some of us just want to minimize complications and stress that may come with dating young single mothers. Some of those men may end up fathering their own children. That's ok at least it's their own children. It's not advisable to bring your wife to the US regardless of her age.
Just cycle through them like hands does
@@watersbey25 They aren't trying to bring them back.
I prefer women closer to my own age which means 40 plus. Children of such women are usually grown and on their own.
Good to see you online Paul you getting a good tone building biceps
I was with a single mom of 3...I was a single dad for years... Now my kids are grown and I had no problems with my gf kids they respected me and They are grateful for the new life I helped them to have. Im 58 so no more kids for me.
I can say you are a great dad. 👏👏
Hi mate, I wouldn't disagree with anything you say, except for, I looked for a single mum, the right one of course, and I always wanted to have kids, but got a bit older and couldn't see myself wanting babies. For sure I would make a life with the right person, certain limitations of course, can't have ex anywhere in sight, gotta be able to trust and accept her family as well, if you're not up for what it means to do what I have done, don't do it. But myself, never regretted the journey with the awesome lady, kids and family, better than I ever expected. But it takes wise choices too.
There are lots of young single moms in the Philippines. There may be more of them than there are girls without a kid, or kids. When I was in my late teens and early 20s I knew some local girls who had kids. Never stopped me from getting naked with them. Anyway, I suppose it's preferable that they don't have kids, but I wouldn't let it stop me if I like them well enough.
I married one. We were both single parents. The only plus left is the step son. My daughter from the first go, is and has been hostel from age five. My son from the second try, is an SJW and is on the other side of the American disagreement. The stepson is the only bright spot. I’m eagerly awaiting your common law marriage video. If the PI ever opens to Yankees, and I doubt it will if ever, I think temporary relations with women will be the norm. I doubt the truthfulness of any of them anymore.
i dated a few Filipina but i have found i prefer Cambodian, Vietnamese, and Chinese mainly because I can work in their countries during non-covid 19 times. Then I can spend time getting to know the girl rather than have to deal with long-distance relationships.
I do agree with the points made here - getting involved with a single mom with young kids is a non-starter for me (I did this once, we lived together for a couple years and I paid for a lot of things....only to have it end and she moved out of my home). By the time I reach retirement and land in PH, the young 20-somethings probably don't want much to do with me as I will be near 60. This is where a Filipina who is a bit older may be what I seek....and if she had her kids at a young age they may be near (or at) adulthood and ready to start their own life.....a totally different single mom scenario which I would be open to.
u need to watch 'old dog, new tricks', he's 66 and baby mae his gf is 33,NO kids
I dated a couple single Filipinas with children will never do that again
It would be the same in the West. This is ONE are where the problems are the same.
One issue I've dealt with in dating single Mothers is the kids become attached very quickly. Not trying to brag, but it seemed to me their children (even toddlers) sensed right away that I'm a grounded, stable and reasonably confident guy who wasn't just fun loving, but, unlike their Mother, could exercise much more grace under pressure...to remain cool when/if the sh*t hit the fan. IMO, single Mother raised children are starving for that feeling of secure homeostasis that a solid Man brings to their world. This makes them fall in love with you quite quickly, which, understandably, can make breakups quite painful.
This …two friend Chat over coffee ☕️ …is a good venue for your videos 👍🏼
Such a honest talk .. rare … really respect hones opinions like this . Best filippines video so far i. 3 years
No your to far down her important list her kids her mum and dad then if you are very very lucky you
34 dislikes were single moms
😂
LOL, and some simps.
Enjoyed your video Paul. Liked your recent one on common law relationships too. What about a video on child support in the Philippines, whether your own child or as step dad? Best wishes.
Sooooooo many choices for dating Filipinas! But why pick a mom? Hard pass.
I would venture to guess a single woman without kids isn't quite so easy to find there.
My misses has 3 kids and we have been together for 6 year + now.
Both points of view are valid .
I have been accepted as 'dad' and all is cool.
The father is dead and was before we met. There is additional cost for sure but I look at them as my family tbh.
The youngest was 6 when we got together the eldest is now 16. It is a gamble as is life .....but worked out great for me so far !
you know guys, when it comes to a relationship or to get with woman because she has kids or not, it all comes down to who and what a person is willing to deal with, me i will not date a single mother, but i have had no kids and would not mind having my own family, but i have dated a single mother before and it did not work out, but maybe cause of me never having kids, so i think if a man has had kids already then it should not be to much of a big deal to him, but also it all depends on the woman that is a single mother, not all women are good or bad, just like men we are all different, so this is something people need to take into consideration, when looking for a mate, but no matter which way a person chooses to go, there are always pros and cons, to any decision we make, single mother or no single mother all depends on the man, i understand the pros and cons of dating single mothers, as well as dating any women, i think the best way to choose a mate is by how the person is on the in side, not just by how they look on the out side ok, i think by people just choosing a person by how they look on the out side and not thinking of how that person is on the in side, has really played a lot into what is happening in the world now with people, divorce in the states is at a all time high with women filing for divorce by 80%, this should tell everyone something ok, as well as marriages are on the down cline, this also should be telling everyone something, more and more people are choosing to stay single and not marry, what do people think this will do to the world and our society as a whole, not good i can tell you that, plus all of us American men do know how it is in the west, when it comes to women, all of us have been thru the same BS, with American women and are sick and tired of it too, but we should not do like men did in the west, do better this time think of who you would mate with on how that woman is on the in side and her values, i meet a Filipino woman online and yes her values are like the same us mine, so yea talk about getting lucky here, but you also need to as a man put your self out there, in a really good value way, but this also depends on how you are as a man on the in side, like i went on a dating site Filipinocupid and one of the first things i said, i was looking for a woman with old traditional values, know what that means, but also i put between the age of 18 to 27, i did this for a reason ok, because of what i know about women, plus on what i was looking for in a woman, all this comes into play after a while Gio you had a very beautiful GF at one time, sorry it did not work out, but keep in mind some times it is not just the woman who was at fault ok, i do not know the facts about that relationship, but i can tell you it takes 2 to tangle ok, bu to better understand why relationships do work or do not work out, is for a person to reflect on that relationship and look at what went wrong and why, most of the time it is because of a personal conflict, this is why i always tell people to be careful of who you decide to mate with, talk to one another, ask questions like, hey what do you think about bedroom fun be fore marriage, if a woman does that before marriage she does not have old traditional values, yea asking questions is not wrong or bad, you need to get a feel for that person ok, well i hope this helps i could keep going on, but i think you get my point, be safe and careful.
Can you break that down in a couple sentences.
@@Rocket9944 you don't like books!?
@@Rocket9944 which ones ?
@@bobdylan9117 books are ok, but real life will teach you more, then a book can ok
@@Rocket9944 well in another way, pay attn, to the person or woman and take your time, do not rush into a relationship with anyone, but for me i have a certain skill and with that being said, i know not all people have the skill i have, so yea like watch what that woman does or any person, what her habits, how she talks and acts around you and others ok, what she has in life, well in some ways yes that can tell you things, but for me i see more then just the person i see everything about them ok, when i talk with a person for around 5 mins, i get a really good feel of that person, which is kind of hard for me to spell out in full and in very little sentence ok, but to really shorten this, get to know how people are in general, keep your ears and eyes open and your mouth shut, then you will learn more about everything including people ok.
Interesting topic, but you missed the most important point about being involved with a single mother. You'll always come second to her kids. Her kids will always be her priority and you'll be useful if you help to support her and her family. Most single mothers are looking for someone to support their families above all. If that's fine for you, that's great, but just remember what her priorities are.
There is no point dating someone who will always put you in 2nd place.
This is soo true. Myself and my girls are my priority on the list. I've been hitting along the road of relationship and one thing I know I would marry no less than my own. I wanna be equal and not a burden to my man nor don't wanna be his woman laying down and spreading my legs . I Ain't no fool to beg his mercy and pity😁.
@@mariegesta4501 lol
I tried being a Bachelor tourist for awhile, it got old fast. I'm a 64 year old widower, father, grandfather. I've adopted a Filipina and her 5 kids. Is it expensive ? Yes and it can be down right annoying at times but it feels right.
This dude swollowed the blue pill all the way
DONT DO IT. The husband will be introduced as her cousin and move him in with the rest of the family.
Moms are usually more stable. They will stick it out to maintain stability. Kidless women can be more flighty, skate at the first time of trouble.
I NORMALLY Like the Videos you 2 Guys Put Out. However you 2 FAILED to Mention 2 HUGE Dangers of Dating Filipina Single Moms ... Checking their CENOMARs to MAKE SURE They're NOT MARRIED, AND the Philippine LAW that States you can NEVER be ALONE with her Children. THOSE 2 'Issues' are HUGE, and WAYYYY MORE IMPORTANT Than Complicating your Life and the EXTRA EXPEN$E$ and "Feelings" Associated with Dating a Single Mom. THOSE 2 ISSUES CAN GET YOU THROWN IN JAIL!!!
Obviously you aren’t a fool…
GREAT Point.
@Can't Wait to Own Nothing and Be Happy
I have been thinking about the 2nd issue you mentioned and how to solve it when I move there. That a foreigner can not be alone with his GF's minor son. Does it mean living separately but dating few times a week? Does that solve the problem? Any other suggestions you can offer? What if the man really loves this woman and doesn't want to lose her? Is it possible to make it work and avoid the risk? Appreciate your thoughts.
@@78swats The ISSUE Russell is have you ALREADY MET her Children? If Yes, and you ARE in the Philippines NOW, if I were you I'd go see a Filipino Attorney and ASK about this 'Potential Legal Problem' you 'May Have'. If you HAVEN'T Met her Kids, I'd go See an Attorney BEFORE EVER meeting her kids when your Boots are on the Ground in the Philippines. I'd ALSO Get Said Attorney to meet with you and your 'Single Mom GF' and Draft up an 'Agreement' with a COPY of your GF's CENOMAR and her AGREEING NOT to EVER 'Introduce' you to her Kids UNTIL the 2 of you are 'Legally Married' (I BELIEVE you CAN THEN be 'Legally Alone' with her Kids, but DOUBLE Check with the Attorney about that?) . BEST Get RID of her if you HAVEN'T Even MET her Yet (Not sure if your 'Relationship' is 'Meerly Onscreen'?). Then the OTHER Cunundrum is you HAVE met her Children already on a Prior Visit AND you are Now ALONE in your Own Country. I'd Pay for a Zoom Call with a Fiilipino Attorney FOR SURE in That Case, because IF YOU STOP Sending her $, She MAY try EXTORTION/BLACKMAIL Threatening to REPORT You. I WOULDN'T 'Volunteer' the Information about this Bizarre Philippine Law to your GF if I were you! Did I Help Russell?
Risk reward. The risks outweigh the reward in most cases. There are exceptions.
If you love children and enjoy having a family a Filipina with one child when she was very young could be a good choice. If the Filipina has several children perhaps she's made seriously bad decisions and that may continue.
Single mothers should be avoided like the BUBONIC plague.
Good morning Paul and Gio from valenzuela 😃…. Depensa the situation…. Well for me I’m happy a single mom 14years and i am proud to be a single mom ☺️,It’s hard to be a single mom but i am blessed i have a son 14years old. And never been married… At my age 35getting old i am happy single mom just saying. ☺️ Stay happy keep going and happy life because no one is perfect. Life is to short.☺️
Keep safe stay healthy You and mia and gio… 😃
Nice comment 👍
Nobody cares if you think your "blessed"..... what you really mean is your are "cursed" for being dumped with all the responsibility but are too nice to say it in case your kid hears it and feels rejected. We all know the shitty life of a single mother regardless of your "sugar coating it" to appear "nice".
@@LeahandBlair thank you… stay safe and healthy…
@@streetfreakpatrol240 ok… Thanks
@@streetfreakpatrol240 There is no reason to be so mean my dear friend.
Taking on a ready made family with kids that aren’t your own, recipe for disaster, not all the time but still risky
Had a closed triad relationship with two single pinays... Dealing with their kids was easy, dealing with them and their jealously that's another issue.
I am like, "Duh." Single mothers are the epitome of what "baggage" is, whether in Philly or anywhere else in the world. Loading the baggage into your life is hard, but also, as noted in 5:37 - 5:45, just to unload it requires a heavier lift.
Its ok to date a single mother in the philippines as long as they were not married., because there is no divorce in the philippines. its illegal to get divorced.
Annulment
Then if separated you can't date them
You can't say you weren't warned.
If you guys are having problem or worried about dating Pilipina women. There's a easy solution to it. Go back where you came from and take your time to find that especial someone. Don't stress out yourselves trying to find a woman in Asia. First of all, there's no perfect marriage. It's always full of compromises. Making too much comments about us doesn't help. If you have too many questions in your minds. Move on somewhere else.
lol, SOMEBODY has emotional baggage.
@@bobdylan9117 or just telling you something you don't like to hear, the truth?
really appreciate your opinions, some good thoughts to consider
You did not mention the " mama bear " syndrome. When the kid do something wrong, you can't discipline the kid and than you ask her to do so, and she wouldn't do it. That is annoying.
Yes you need to know what you want !
No way to take responsibility
For anybody.s ,kids
Not a 60 and above
Most of us are 60 or above.
Try did not worked
Never again
Paul your bloody
So truefull. And clear about it,
Hi. Gio.
Nice to see yous 2 together again
Forza. Italia ,
Please use good quality mics for outdoor. This would really help my ears. 😅
Sorry about that. I will
I've dated a single mother once. However she did bring a lot more to the table, than the other woman I've dated. Having said that, never again.
You should automatically know the date and a woman with kids is a package deal
one thing i can say about moms is that theyre usually WAY more grown up than the other girls.
Sure kids can be inconvenient. But with a non-mother you have to worry about her biological clock making her not
satisfied with the life you provide her. On the other hand, if you support a single mom, then if you chose her carefully then you get an extra level of appreciation and love from the mom and her child also.
Paul is very rational. But i agree if u cant have kids or already have kids single mum is the a great choice.
Hi Paul and Gio,
Really good video.
Of course both of you are right. The other side of this is the children could be hidden away.
Best wishes,
Cheers mike
i have 2 own adult kids from my late thai wife. having a new woman who has a child its not a issue for me. i know how to take care.
but there is another big issue. most single womens with kids are still married in the phils. even they say, have no connection with her husband for long time, how can you be sure ? the issue is that you dating a married woman, and thats the law problem. thats could be danger, can bring you to jail there. and these single (married) women looking only for somebody who pay for, most say, i don't want to have another child. so what you are ? only good enough for support.
i chat actually with a single married woman. she say she has no connections with her husband since 23 y. 3 y ago she got pregnant from a another filipino. this finally break. now she is looking for a guy for support and compagnion. she say, sex she doesn't need. the anulment of her marriage is to expensive she said. i have more problems with her attitude. finally i would be only a supporter. thats keep me away from her inside my heart. for such a case, better stay alone. i m anyway critical to most.
Hey Paul, hi, how are you? During this blog/video, you brought up a very interesting point about us ex-pats knowing how difficult it can be, to break up with a Filipina. Well, many of us including myself, do not know how difficult that can be. When you have time, could you and Mia put together a blog/video, that discusses that very subject in detail? I have watched your videos, and you and Mia make a very great team. Is the two you could put a video together, that discusses the difficulties of breaking up with a Filipina, it would be invaluable for us, that are getting ready to come over to the Philippines. Especially, a video/blog, coming from you and Mia, because the both of you would be able to give us a really great perspective, coming from a Filipina, as well as an ex pat. Thank you so much, keep up the great work, and I hope that you and Mia last forever, you are a great couple. God bless, Pete.
While I agree that you have every right to your opinions, please remember that there are a dozen different perspectives when it comes to dating and creating a lifelong and loving relationship with a Filipina. As a 64 year old committed to a life in the US, my approach to what I am looking for is so different than a 42 year old man who plans on spending their life in the Philippines. Neither are wrong but they are polar opposites in what we are seeking when it comes to a future partner/wife.
This discussion is about counting how much money the guys will spend when living with ladies who have kids already
I guess it doesn't have to discuss in public
What is wrong with marriage with a 44 year old single mom that has two kids that are both over 20 and have their own lives. I am 69 and a single father with two adult kids.
If it's a question, then my answer is nothing there is absolutely nothing wrong with it sir. But people talk about menopause, I am not exactly sure what it is, and how it would impact a relationship.
Paul, you have your perspective and valid points. From a further overview side of things. A single mom with 1 well behaved child and the father completely out of the picture may be something to consider. Even a childless young Filipina is going to want your support for her family. Another reason is you had kids already and you don’t want to have another baby with your young Filipina that will undoubtedly want a child in a LTR. So a single mom can be ok without having additional children and not feel like she never met her maternal need.
If your a guy that’s ok starting a new family, a Filipina without children is a better choice for a LTR.
I prefer to take care of a whole bunch village kids. So that when I'm old and frail they will or at least one of them, will love me from the heart and make sure I'm taken cared of.
Ne has 5 grown girls and not one of them wants her to be with their dad. They saw him get drunk & beat her while she provided for them, His mommy takes care of her 48-year-old son when he spends all his money on booze and gambling.
Date only! No relationship!
A sexual attack on me by an attractive women would have been at least something Paul but sadly it was not :D
Paul brings up some good points, the other guy is just ticking all the feel good "woke" boxes and is full of it.
He hasn't experienced the reality of dating, or marrying, a single.mother yet, so he has the luxury of ignoring the obvious red flags. Some people have to touch the hot stove, and get burned, to realize hot stoves burn. If Gio tries one, you will hear Payl's words coming out of his mouth.
As a man gets older, the ability to date non-mothers gets harder and harder. If you really want to do that, go to a Western country or a place like Hong Kong where the fertility rate is much lower than in the Philippines. The proportion of women without children in the Philippines drops to almost zero by the late 30s.
I take it on a case by case basis. If i like the girl and as long as she is honest about having a child and she is able to make time to meet me than i will accept the bastard child. However i will make it clear that when it comes time for inheritance i will only leave property to a child I am directly related too. If i do not have that then any money or property i acquire will be willed to the Russian government.
great
Widdows are a different story.
It' a not their fault, for becoming single.
Question most young girl without kids want to have kids maybe they say they don't but as time goes on there going to want have kids that's why if they have one kid around 7 to 10 and u don't want to have anymore kids
Interesting vid. Agree with Paul it is more expensive and more complicated and very very difficult to break up with stepchildren. Despite that children are a huge source of joy and strengthen relationships. I am not someone who is scared or worried that the future may turn out badly. I live for the now and the immediate future not 10 years down the track.
I look for a single mum. 2 children , don't care if from separate dads and don't care their ages.
I can't have more kids so will never get seriously invloved with a young woman with no kids or 1 kid. Don't care their looks, age or compatability with me. I can date them for fun but will never be in a relationship with them.
Congratulations and welcome to the SIMP club.
Don’t do it. Too many reasons not to.
fathers do not take care of kids there are mothers who take care of everything he does and then let the wife have the money
what if the women has 2 kids from 2 different dads? is that a red flag?
how did it all go that time you married a single mom?
No sloppy seconds for me. Sorry. That's a big no no. 😬
How can you say dangerous? Not all Filipinos marry foreigners because of security. How about you? What is your purpose or intention to live-in a Filipina is it for a helper ? Clean after you. Take care of you . Sex mate? Explain it. Because I am sure you have reasons are they good intentions for the other party? Or your selfish intentions.
Young philippinas don't have serious options. Option 1 is starving, option 2 is stay with old westerner. Why not mention this? What about you are in your 50s and 60s and when your child needs you most you are almost dead and buried? Going with a too young girl is not really healthy and is kind of selfish because it solves your immediate problems (loneliness, sex, ...) but not hers. This doesn't mean you shouldn't have a hot young gf, but certainly you should really think hard about the meaning of relationship for you and hers and confront her opinion with yours. What about taking out of the equation the following:
Children (single moms)
Age (young, middle aged, old)
Origin (province or city)
Look (hot or not)
Education (educated or not)
Wealth (rich poor)
Etc.
What about that? Why not talk about love rather than all this bs talk about single moms?
It seems you always put love and feelings at the end, as if it was not important.
Why not discuss about the fact that in most cases young philippinas stay with older westerners only because they improve the quality of their lives. What kind of relationship is that?
It destroys their illusion 😁
because you don't decide whether to date a single mother or not, after you are in love. probably not good advice to tell people to do it in that order.
woman with kids......are you sure if she loves you ????? or she loves your money....playing a game with you certainly......
Isn't it possible that a girl making $200 a month (after working everyday) needs my money and appreciates me for it, and at the same time loves me too. Isn't it true, all women want money but here is US they feel like it is their right. They never even appreciate the man for treating her nicely.
I agree I usually don't date single mothers. Had they not have a kid/kids a westerner would not have been a first choice as was obvious from the get go I'm not raising another man kids when they get older they will kick you in your ass or worse. I choice wisely single mature educated middle aged women who don't want kids and are willing to be with you. For the long run. Not until her kids grow up. But I have lots of friends who are single moms and I don't condone them. I just not interested in having any relationship with them.