Emotional Healing | My Experience and Advice
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- This is incredibly personal, but I truly believe my experience with healing and self-love can heal many other people that may be going through something similar. Sending you so much love. This too shall pass. x
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"If this is really my person, this wouldn't be happening": this is such a good sentence to remind yourself when you feel like you want to go back to someone who hurt you...
@@SR-ql9he About as much of nonsense as your statement is. If your love is hurting you, it's not love, it's a delusion and/or the fear of being alone. This is situational, but telling someone they should suck up hurt, because "people make mistakes" and "love is not a fairy tale" it not only stupid, it's reckless and possibly dangerous.
@@SR-ql9he lol ofc not everything is a fairytale, but it's almost always true that if someone dumps you out of the blue while you're wedding planning, they're probably not going to be your person for life...
I totally resonate !!
You don’t know how much this has helped me, thank you for sharing this video🙏🏽
@@SR-ql9he I think this is difficult to judge without all of the information. Love isn’t always a fairytale and sometimes it does get messy and you push through but given we don’t have (nor are we entitled to) the whole story, I think Niomi is completely justified in saying that her “person” wouldn’t be hurting her like he did. None of us know what happened behind closed doors.
One thing I found really helped me through trauma was going to the local observatory and looking through lots of telescopes at stars, galaxies and planets. The scale of space. The insignificance of earth. The insignificance of time. It helped me so much to put perspective on my life and my existence. It is such a miracle to even exist. Life is unpredictable and we have no control.
So interesting because when I was going through a break up, I always looked out the window at night and took a few deep breaths. And I thought very similar things as you: how small this world is and how fascinating space is.
i agree about not being in control, we think we are in control of our paths but there is definitely a 'higher plan' for us all.
What a beautiful concept 💖
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This is the kind of content that resonates with people; raw, real and less curated. Carry on. 💕💕
Yep she’s brave and amazing. Goodluck for your future. You’ll met the right man one day. X
Yesss i feel the same ❤️👌
I agree
Totally agree. I really felt truth and connection in this video which is so rare these days from influencers.
I can't believe he waited until you were at the stage of trying on wedding dresses before saying anything. You're right that he is definitely not the one.
Can you explain what actually happened? I guess I haven’t been paying attention to what’s going on on the internet these past months so I completely missed what happened. If you know could you please help?
@@ayseturkoglu1061 same
@@ayseturkoglu1061 yeah I’d like to know too I’m nosey
@@ayseturkoglu1061 Her and Joe broke up and are no longer engaged. She explains it in the video.
@@360shadowmoon I got that part, I meant like what were the circumstances of the break up, what did he do?
I love the Mary Shelley quote "there is nothing so painful to the human mind as a great and sudden change" I feel like its kind of relevant to you rn ❤️
Wonderful quote
Niomi, you will never understand how much I needed to hear this from you during this time. I've been experiencing THE heartbreak of my life, but your vulnerability and honesty in this video have just been so unbelievably encouraging and refreshing. To know that you are okay and that I too will be okay puts me at ease. THANK YOU for being brave and sharing your very personal journey. It truly means so much. I also feel so much more connected to you, oddly enough, and I love that you've helped so many others out there as well. You have such a gift for bringing peace to people. Never lose that bright light inside of you ❤️
Natalie Lee I hope you will be doing better very soon! You are not alone in this 🥰
@@CarolinedeLeeuw thank you so much!! appreciate the support🥺😊
I hope you’re feeling better and you will come out the other side of this ❤️ stay strong and one day this will all be a memory
I cannot begin to imagine how traumatic it was to go from trying on wedding dresses with your family watching to such a major breakup within a couple of days. You are so strong and the way you have addressed the situation publicly has been done with nothing but class, respect and sensitivity. Super inspirational for so many people. Keep prioritising you 🥰
Seeing her go from talking about her insomnia during the worst of the heartbreak and then burst out laughing bc of a mud puddle was so beautiful to me. She has come so far and has such strength
she is incredible
Thank you for opening up and being vulnerable. Most can relate to this kind of pain. Thank you for showing there is a light at the end of the tunnel and people can heal. This was so genuine and heartfelt
“These moments will make you who you are, but they won’t define you.” Truly beautiful, Niomi. Thank you for this video :)
That was really powerful. Your maturity and soulfulness are so admirable. I’m glad you’re truly and fully living for yourself.
@@pinkrainbow1 even if she did it, do you blame her? We are human and she is human as well. Stop speculating about her. You are writing crap about her in every comment
@@pinkrainbow1 I’d of broke more than a mirror
As heartbreaking the situation is, imagine if you’d got married and then this happened, always got to look at the positives x
You're at this point where you're telling yourself it wasn't meant to be and that's why it ended ... I'm coming from the future and telling you one day you'll figure out exactly Why it wasn't meant to be. Not only will you be completely over it, but you will be SOOO incredibly thankful it ended, and if you were taken back in time you would have ended it yourself, maybe sooner, with a big smile on your face and a lot of peace in your heart 💞 It will pass
I went through a breakup at the same time as you. Really nice to see someone on here being open and vulnerable about such a relatable experience.
Sending lots hugs x remember you are truly an amazing person 😍
me too, same time! how are you doing now? X
I’m still in shock that he would would break your heart like that. You packed up ur whole life and moved to India for him. This proves that ur an incredible strong person to be a strong as you are. I just hope he had 100% realised there’s never going to be another you. His loss xx
Exactly, his loss 🎄
Gosh his loss!!!!! Your amazing and this has helped me a lot
you are healing quite gracefully niomi. as someone who went through the same thing all i can say is to keep going. cheers
@@pinkrainbow1 well it’s from her point of view and the point of the whole video was how she went through the dark time also we actually do not know the whole background story of why they breaking up so as for me I wouldn’t harshly say she’s blaming him entirely as they must’ve their parts of why it ended.
@@pinkrainbow1 and what?
@@pinkrainbow1 clearly the engagement ended because of something he did so I don't think it really matters how he feels..
@@pinkrainbow1 well, if a guy dumps you the day before the wedding than she has the right to blame him. Why would you remain silent? I think she handled it very well, without telling too much.
@@pinkrainbow1 you must be Joe's mate. Literally spewing hate all over niomi's channel. Do one.
Dont be apologetic about being philosophical or spiritual, it is part of the process of healing
“My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me” - Imam ash-Shafi’i
I really hope your healing journey continues and your happiness doubles 🙏🏼
Thank you 🙏!
True I love this saying
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That's beautiful! 💚
Amazing !!!
my boyfriend died in a motorcycle accident around 2 weeks ago..
praying for healing for all of us in pain..
Sending love x
So sorry 💛
@@Mimi-gy6vk thank you mimi..
@@user-rb4lv4if9q much appreciated..
so sorry for your loss, cannot imagine. Please be well
When she was talking about trying on wedding dresses and then two days later the breakup happened I started sobbing 😭 you’re so brave Nims ❤️❤️
Why did they break up?
That’s when I started too!! 😢💕
@@kdlee3316 it may be that he wanted to go back to India?..as they meant to be there for 1,2 years before covid happened?
@@kdlee3316 he was hungry
@@yestovanilla he actually lost his job due to COVID I think!
Niomi, I'm getting so emotional because right as you posted this, my relationship of almost three years ended. Literally the same day, and I know you obviously would have absolutely no idea (lol) but I just want to say from the bottom of my heart thank you so much. Thank you so much for being so honest, insightful, and helpful. You made this video at a point in my life when I truly need it and even if you don't see this comment I just want to say for myself and others, thank you so much for sharing things like this with us. It makes us, me especially, feel so much less alone and also gives us guidance when we feel lost. I am so happy that you're in such a happier place now :)
Your sense of perspective after such a short period of time is really inspiring!
"When God is showing you that somebody is not for you & you continue to pursue them. He will make them hurt you until you have no choice but to leave." Author Unknown. I read this today and thought this might bring you and others some peace. Niomi, he didn't deserve such a beautiful soul as you... your King is yet to come, and when he does, you will see how glad you are that this came to pass. xxxxx
Finding that out.
God is good
Wow where did you saw that quote? ☺️
@@danieller9778 it was on my friend's facebook.
This happened to me a year ago. I could not leave him and loved him so much but he ultimately made the decision for me
That physical pain...yes I remember that pain. I thought that my heart could be hurt, but my God, the heart pain I actually felt it was ....hard core pain I never felt in my life.
But here I am, with all that cracks in my heart, light manage to get through and someone came to my life and I knew....all I suffered, it was ALL worth it. Ten years after, 2 kids and a right person that I love, yes, totally worth it.
Love this!!😊
Wow, how truthful and raw. You’re a special person.
Very refreshing to see such realness on RUclips.
So refreshing! We’re not owed anything, but undoubtedly get invested... this is a rare piece of closure for us too.
Dear Niomi,
Everything happens for a reason. Like you said if he were your person, this wouldn’t be happening. It will take time but you’ll get there.
Lots of love
Well said,yes you will get there
I don’t think there is a worse feeling than feeling like the rug was pulled from under you.. I admire your courage and positivity! May we all find the strength to trust again. xo
Probably the most selfLESS video you can make, thank you a million stars. Keep going and well done for getting here Xx
Loosing someone as you have is like a death. The pain the shock the numbness and the attachment of an invisible string of love is unbearable. Time really is the greatest healer indeed the beat is yet to cone
Niomi this is one of the best videos I have ever watched. I am so excited for your next chapter. You are an amazing woman 💕
“Inhale love, exhale surrender” you too are worthy and you too are loved niomi.
I completely buckled when you mentioned your stepdad and mum 💔
Thank you Niomi for being so vulnerable ❤️
I know me too 🥺🥺
Me too 😢
Yep xx
Yes I was crying too - it’s funny, when you cut a tree back it grows back even more complex and stronger than before. Maybe we are the same..
Same here, resonates so much with what I'm living currently
Thank you so much for this. 🥺 I too was engaged to be married. I'm 30. We hadn't planned the wedding yet but my fiancé went abroad to work where his parents lived and then couldn't come back to the UK due to Covid. We were planning on buying a house together and we were saving up and everything. But then his parents got ill and his father had to have quite a serious operation and because he was the only son his mum said they needed him there as Covid had impacted their finances. His parents also said it wouldn't be wise for him to settle in the UK as they both needed care and wouldn't be able to care for themselves.
So he broke up with me and he literally told me via text the day after our anniversary which was mid November and my world crashed. He hasn't been in touch since then and I don't expect him to but it just hurts so much and I just feel absolutely broken. 😔
Haven't been able to eat, sleep or get on with any work even though I'm working from home. There really is nothing worse in the world than going through true heartbreak. And just like you, I felt and do still feel physical pain in my body. I'm trying to be good to myself and just accept it for what it is. I too am trying to change my mindset and it's true if that man was truly for me then this wouldn't have happened. It doesn't make it any better and I hated life and hated 2020 but now I'm trying to focus on the good things I have in my life and practise gratitude. But it is slow going.
If anyone else is in a similar position please don't hesitate to reach out. Having people who truly understand really helps. And like Niomi says if it was truly meant to be for me or us and if this was the right path then it would have happened and part of self love is understanding and accepting it wasn't meant for me or us. Reflection is really important and trying to understand why it has happened.
I am trying to be positive and looking to the future is really difficult but it's a slow process and taking each day at a time is seriously important. We will be fine girls. We will absolutely grow stronger and develop but it just means taking it a day at a time. Much love to everyone feeling heartbroken right now. ❤❤❤
Naomi.. I’ve been following you for years, always find you very likeable and elegant. This video make me respect you too, how you handled everything and still expressing your experience and feelings ...so inspiring. you have all my best wishes and prayers.
No healing can start without self realization. Otherwise we are stuck in a cycle of making the same mistakes over and over again.
honestly naomi videos like this, they do help so much
Six days after this video came out, I left my relationship of almost 7 years. I went from planning my wedding one day (he asked if I wanted to get married in the spring on Halloween, only to rescind it the next day because he said I needed to lose weight) to realizing I deserved so much better. The day this came out, I went out and got a journal on grief. It took 6 days until I was able to break up with my ex (he was away for work) but I resonated so much with what you were saying that I knew it was time. I started reaching out to family and friends. I started making plans. This was the first deep breath before I jumped into the deep end. I came back to this video almost a year on because I wanted to remember where I was when this video came out. If you think you want to leave, that's enough to leave. You all deserve so much love in your life.
You talking about collapsing in your parents’ arms made me cry a little 🥺 Well done for really taking care of your physical and mental health right after the traumatic event happened. You’re showing a very good example! Also, you were gorgeous in this video 🤍
You should start a podcast!
This is probably one of the most honest videos you have ever made. I really respect you for posting this ✊
I honestly didn’t know how much I needed to hear this, Niomi. In the beginning of the year I went through such a traumatic experience and it wasn’t until last month that I realize that it was a trauma what I’ve been struggling with all year on top of the pandemic. Hearing you talk about the different ways you’ve taken care of yourself made me realize that I should do that more often. I haven’t been as selfish as I should be and you helped me realize that I should put myself first in order to fully heal from this. Thank you for this and for not making me feel alone. 🤍
Almost one year after my break up and everything is healing me but one thing, I get stuck on and I can't help myself is seeing that person change or showing their true colours. It's still unbelievable to me during harder days. Definitely lived in a "fairytale" myself. I know that feeling. Everything after can seem like it was all just a lie a that person was just pretending. But we change, grow and some people choose their own path. It's taken me a long long time to accept that the journey I've imagined for him and I, just was not in the cards. Some days, I am still quite shocked how raw it still is. But I've accepted that it comes along with loving someone, truly.
Take care of yourself, Niomi. There is a bright future ahead of you! Thank you so much for this :) xxx
"When God is showing you that somebody is not for you & you continue to pursue them. He will make them hurt you until you have no choice but to leave." Author Unknown. I read this today and thought this might bring you and others some peace.
hello Kristina, This is exactly what I felt. It took me 1 year for my heart to accept that the person has changed from how it was before. And that is the most challenging part . No rationality works immediately. So tough yet thankfully my heart has got aligned with my mind so am making progress. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
You’re incredible. This video is just a testament to how strong you are and is a gift to so many ❤️ I truly wish you all the happiness in the world, Niomi 💫
As a Muslim we believe that whatever is meant for you will never miss you and whatever isn’t for you will never find you no matter what. And if god takes anything away from you than he will replace it with something 10 times better than what you’ve lost tht wasn’t good for you in the first place ❤️
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"If something is meant for you, it will be yours even if it is between two mountains. If something is not meant for you, it will not be yours, even if it is between your two lips."
1980sbk how beautiful ❤️
@Sophie Hart This is such an ignorant comment. Firstly, arranged marriages are a cultural practice, and not religious. Secondly, arranged marriages are not forced marriages. They literally refer to a situation where someone suggests that someone might be a good match for you and then you go and find out if they are. People set people up all the time.
@Sophie Hart there are NO arranged marriages only forced marriages and those are happening in every single religion. You’re incredibly ignorant. We call that a nazi over here btw
This video is not selfish at all and really makes me feel less alone. Sending you so much love and strength ❤
I think it's pretty clear she's not going to say why the relationship ended and we should stop asking her. It's none of our business and its rude.
Exactly!! I’ve Seen so many people asking what happened. It doesn’t matter and isn’t our business!!
She also mentioned she thought she would never discuss the breakup but she has because she thinks it could help other people. It’s not black and white...! I do agree that asking too many times is rude tho yes
What was the video that she announced the breakup pls? I’m new here
I agree! Just because she’s online with a public channel doesn’t mean anyone who views her is owed more information. Every one of those people should have some dignity and allow her privacy. I’m personally glad so many people like you are staunchly protective of her and voicing this.
But I’m soooo interested to know, it’s natural for the brain to want to piece together why on Earth things that seem solid end
I went to every museum I know when my boyfriend broke up with me. At one time I was looking at a painting about miscarriage and I was crying like crazy at the painting like whyyy does this happen to youu! But it is true what they say, time do heal everything.
It was so brave of you to actually make this video, Niomi. Sending you lots of love and happiness... This too shall pass 🙏
It’s the first time im leaving a comment despite being a subscriber for years. I felt so touched by this video and I am sorry that you have experience a traumatic breakup but also glad you found your path towards healing. You are blossoming again. Take your time. You are special ❤️
This is so difficult but so beautiful to find others who share the same pain and instead of convincing us that everything is OK, it's so empowering to feel uncertain about future and admit the weaknesses so everybody sees it's OK to struggle. we all are human. We all feel and we all hurt. Thank you for sharing.
My god, I have never related to a video so much in my life. Needed this 2 years ago but still amazing to watch 💖
I can’t tell you how much I needed to hear this Niomi. Thank you for being so honest and open about your experience. Wishing you nothing but happiness for your future 🧡✨
Rainday antiques is the only thing that helped me sleep during lockdown. The voice reminds me of David Attenborough 😅
Wow. What a video . I never comment on videos .. but ... this is just everything! I was with someone for 7 years and sadly he didn’t love me anymore ... it broke my heart ... I felt like I was dieing and going through grieve . Thank you so much for doing this video for us . Xx
I have recently gone through a break up and I honestly have to say, watching how you've been focusing on yourself has really helped me think about self healing and looking after myself, and it's helped me get over my breakup. You are absolutely right about being on the wrong path. It's time for a new adventure. Thank you so much x
I've never commented on a video before, but I just wanted to say thank you so much for being so brave and vulnerable with what you've shared. I was engaged, had my dress had booked my venue and it ended so suddenly, I was so shocked and broken in a way I didn't know was possible to be. Moving forward into a unknown future when I thought that one person was my future was terrifying, but I just want to encourage anyone reading this that is experiencing something similar. You will absolutely get through this, you are growing in this time of healing, you are strong, you are loved, you will not have a second rate life moving forward and the best is yet to come for you.
sending you love and good vibes for the amazing future that is undoubtedly ahead of you
"When God is showing you that somebody is not for you & you continue to pursue them. He will make them hurt you until you have no choice but to leave." Author Unknown. I read this today, and thought it might bring you and others some peace.
Wonderful post - very true ❤️
I found out my boyfriend cheated on me, we had been together 11 years since I was 14. I couldn’t believe it. For me the sleep was the worst part, my mind would go into other drive and I’d wake up in panics heaving like I was going to be sick. Heartbreak really does have a physical reaction and it makes you really ill. But I got through it and I’m happy that you’re getting through it too. I’d say it took me about a year to actually feel like myself again but it’s a real learning experience. You learn so much about yourself and come out of it as cliche and it sounds feeling stronger than ever and so so proud of your self. I hope you feel proud of yourself because you are amazing 💕💕💕
I am lost for words. Thank you for this video. Genuinely.
my boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago and i didn’t see it coming at all. This video truly came at the right time thank you so much for opening up💗 it truly helped me
I know the feeling, the same happened to me. we'll get through it! it gets easier every day
Thank you for being so so brave in sharing something so personal with the world. You have no idea how much your words are helping others ❤️
i feel like this has been a video where you've shown us your soul truly, thank you for sharing and being so open. sending love :)
Totally understand what you mean by “being pleased that this happened”. Being single and not knowing where you’ll be next year or even in a few months is one of the most exciting feelings you can have as a young woman. You’re doing so great niomi ❤️❤️
This felt just like taking a walk with a friend ❤️
I think this is my favorite video of yours, your vulnerability and self awareness really shows!
This is your strongest video, darling! Much positive energy to you
I went through a break up at the end of October and it totally broke and is still breaking me. I completely relate to what you said about physical pain. For two weeks my chest actually hurt, it ached and I experienced permanent tightness in my chest. I couldn’t sleep or eat for about a week. I cannot even explain the level of hurt that I felt and it seemed like no one understood. I couldn’t bear to write my feelings or speak out loud about what was happening because it made it feel real. I couldn’t face the fact that the breakup was actually happening because it was so painful. I went from planning on getting engaged, living in Dubai with my partner to throwing out all my belongings and moving back to the UK, all within two days. My life was turned upside down. After two weeks I started to accept things and process it. One month on, I still struggle to sleep, when I do sleep I wake up dreaming of the breakup and it’s traumatic. Seeing videos like this, where someone was able to get over heartbreak is the only thing that gives me hope that this will get better. I can’t thank you enough because this gives me comfort and the perspective to know that it will not last forever. Thank you❤️
sending you soooo much love xxx
You will get through it I promise you will xxx
Sending you lots of love ❤️
i can relate to this so hard. my ex-fiance did the same to me. for you to be able to talk about this just after 3/4 months just shows how flipping strong you are. it literally took me one year to get over the pain. I hope youre doing much better now!
Dankeschön. The sun will shine, with every day, a little longer and brighter. For you. ☀️
I'm in a similar situation now, about three month on from a shock break up, bought a weighted blanket and it helped me sleep as it calmed my anxiety that the shock brought up! deffo recommend
Wow, I wasn't expecting to have a cry! What a gift of hope to anybody going through heartbreak right now. So genuine, heartfelt, brave and honest. If you have experienced heartbreak, you will feel this Vlog in your core. So true Niomi, you were not on the right path, but what exciting adventure is ahead? We look forward to finding out. Such a kind and real RUclipsr ❤️.
She made me cry too o felt her i love her
Literally one of the most honest, raw videos I’ve ever watched. Just absolutely can relate and adore her for sharing!
Doesn't feel selfish at all. There is such fruit in what you've shared. So grateful you've put such vulnerable, personal thoughts. Healing is everything, nothing is selfish about what you've shared.
I was with my ex for 7 years. I was utterly in love with him. For the past 2 years he neglected me and withdrew from me. He left me and I had to sell our house on my own and he didn't want to see our dog either. He came to collect his belongings whilst I was at work, leaving all the rubbish behind for me to clear. He was on dating websites within 3 weeks. Trauma is an understatement. It's been exactly a year since he left and I'm doing better now. For the past year, the pain can only be described as heart cracking. Remember rejection is redirection. I wish you well...you are not alone x
Really hope you’re doing well. If it helps, it would have been a longer waste of your time if he hadn’t left. So in perspective, it’s was a victory. Stay strong ❤️
A month before your breakup , mine happened. I was going to get married as well, after 8 years being together. I felt pretty much the same pain as when my mom died 2 years ago. I am still healing.
This had me sobbing. I think we have all been here and it brings us back. This is a beautiful and honest video. May you find strength during this time.
You are such a beautiful person inside and out. Thank you for sharing so openly. It was really healing ❤️
Thank you for uploading this. My dad walked out on his family and 30 year marriage 3 days ago with no apology or explanation. He told us he was leaving and he'd gone within 15 minutes, and we've not heard anything from him since. I have so many emotions, feelings and questions so your advice will really help. Thank you x
I am so sorry for what happened to you and your family! I hope that you take care of yourself and give yourself time to heal. And always remember: your feelings, good or bad, are valid!
Wow that is so awful! Sending you all the positive vibes to get through this 🙏 ❤
Hi izzy! Sending you all the love! And Wanted to let you know that you’re not alone ❤️ I am going to the same thing :( my dad left 2 months ago
Hey this happened to me a few years ago so I know exactly how you feel right now, here if you want to chat x
So sorry to hear❤️🙏🏾virtual hugs and prayers
DEar Niomi, I am glad that you are feeling better about the breakup. I wish, however, that you would look for help in relation to your (very clear) orthorexia. It is crystal clear from your vlogs that you have some sort of eating disorder - no shaming here at all, honestly, from my heart, but I cannot not say anything when so many girls follow you and see you as an example of "healthy eating". Your eating is MOST DEFINITELY NOT HEALTHY (not because of your food choices, but because of many other details that a slightly trained eye in the field of Eating Disorders will spot within seconds, and which I am not going to get into here). I wish healing for you, on EVERY level - maybe you are already looking for help in this regard, you´ve just chosen not to make it public, and that is of course 1,000% fine. I hope that is the case. This comment is more for every single woman reading it and struggling with self-image, and thinking that Niomi´s way of eating and exercising is healthy at all (again, we are not talking about the choice of foods she eats, but her obsession with portions, excluding certain foods that she clearly deems as "bad", exercising obsessively at times, etc.). Why do I feel the need to speak up? Because I suffered from bulimia and anorexia for many years, and I am fully recovered now, and an eating disorder has NOTHING to do with food, but rather with control and lack of self-love and self-acceptance (for various reasons). Be well everyone. Xx P.S. If you don´t agree with this comment, do your research on Eating Disorders, specifically orthorexia and anorexia, and then watch Niomi´s videos again. You will see them with a new understanding. Again, my goal with this is to HELP people who may be suffering, not to shame Niomi in any way. X
I went through a traumatic breakup last year, I can totally relate about everything you said in this video, the excruciating pain is real and for some weaks or even months, life can feel so horrible. But but I can say is that with time and a lot of self love, you can get trough anything, but you have to believe in yourself and believe in the process to heal. Thank you so much Naomi for this video, you are a true inspiration to all of us.
Thank you so much for this video. I am currently going through a break up and I don’t know what to do or how to feel. This was so comforting
this video is so timely im going through a break up and i cant sleep as well right now :( it's 3am here and just wanna say thank you for making and sharing this video niomi :( youre my favorite youtuber and this is really significant to me i cried watching this vid :(
Sending love from the bottom of my heart. You're strong and beautiful Niomi!
I love you. You’re such an inspiration to me ❤️ After my last breakup I went into deep depression for 3 years. I was on anti depressants and benzos, It was terrible. I didn’t know how to cope with life and I felt like my whole world was crushing down without that person. I’m in a new relationship now and I’m so happy, but I am ashamed by the way I have handled that breakup, so seeing you going through a breakup so bravely just gives me so much strength. Thank you for being so vulnerable. ♥️
Just wanted to say, you have absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of. I totally hear you and can relate about feeling shame, but the pain after a breakup is so so real and we all deal with it so differently. Everyone's path is different. The strength you had to get through 3 years of deep depression and now to come out the other end is so amazing. You are inspiring!! xxx
@@FiBallard11 I am in tears. Thank you so much for this comment. It feels good being on the other side, I never thought the pain would end. Thanks for being so kind. ♥️
So totally agree...you have nothing to be ashamed of. You handled it as best you could at the time. I'm so glad you made it through and are happy & heathy once again. 💛
5 years for me. Still trying to get back up. Still falling down. But won't stop till I finally get back up. Have no other choice.
@@user-rb4lv4if9q You are so brave. I am sending you so much hope and love xxx
You are incredible Niomi. You have no idea how many people you’ve helped. Sending you lots of love x
I lost my mom in January, and while I'm still going through the emotions, writing has helped me immensely.
I am sorry for your loss x
@@rubym3808 thank you
I’m really sorry to hear that. Sending well wishes and butterflies to you 🦋
@@Justkeepsmiling100 Thank you
So sorry for your loss💛
"this was like a physical pain..." when i heard that i start crying... this is what i feel actually. Physical pain in my heart and my stomach.
Hang in there
You will get over it, you're strong ❤️
Thank you for that, Niomi. Rejection is redirection - please never forget that!
I've been through this same pain with a breakup almost 2 year ago now and its so true, that i wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy either. I wish i never had to have experience that pain but i cant believe how strong i am now to get on the other side of it. I still get waves of uncomfortable thoughts even now and i definitely will take your advice to keep journaling! Everything you're saying, the needing podcasts and herbal remedies to sleep is exactly me as well. Especially with lockdown many people are now having to sit with these traumas right at the surface instead of burying it with our non-stop, busy pre-covid lives. Some men are just absolutely selfish and cruel and you are such a beautiful woman I wish you a warm future full of happiness. Thank you so much for speaking about this and making me feel less alone in theses circumstances
Your honesty and raw emotion mean everything. Thank you for so bravely baring your private heartache. It has helped me immeasurably. With gratitude and love!
I’m going through a break up (that happened today... actually) and this was beyond comforting to watch
I hope you’re okay. ❤️
I wish I’d had this video years ago. Very similar, due to be married etc. Then bang. I never realised until she said ‘It’s like you’re falling free fall, and you don’t know when it will stop’. I had that. It stopped eventually and my god how nice it feels when it finally does. Be patient, it will happen. X
Hey.. I promise life will keep moving forward and you will blink and it’ll be three months.. I know it feels like your world is shattering but I promise you will come out stronger
Thank you for sharing something so personal that I am certain will help many in similar positions. You have a kind, lovely soul and I wish you nothing but happiness in this next chapter of your life.
I would have loved to have seen this when I went through a difficult break up. It will help so many people, so thank you 🙏🏼
you’re such a worthy person, like maaan it’s mind blowing
you deserve the world
I am just coming back to this video every single time something in my romantic life does not work out they way I hoped it would. Every time, it lifts me up. And it’s so incredibly true what you’re saying. Even though it doesn’t make it less painful I must say. Thank you Niomi, for being so honest and vulnerable, it means so much ❤️
To have such honesty and vulnerability in a video is incredible and I’m sure you will help so many people with this. I wish you only great things to come.
i'm actually happy for your recovery, the days will get better, you are such a pure and delicate soul, that was just tough lesson sent your way to toughen up a little from the inside.
everything happens to prepare you for what's next.
What’s meant to be yours, will always be yours. 🙏💕
Oh Niomi :( it was so sad to hear you talking about this but so real too, so was appreciated 💕
Thank you for your deep, authentic honesty Niomi. Your vulnerability touched my heart...I can feel your pain as I too have experienced horrible trauma in my relationship. Hugs and healing prayers for you...I have chosen to see the more spiritual side to the end of my 20 year marriage and it brings comfort...but at times still the pain is so real. We are humans and I have learnt to accept whatever emotion that arrives with compassion and heartfulness.
2 years later and I'm still healing from my own devastating surprise divorce. I love this video ❤ You are helping so many people!