Seriously. Absolutely Correct. Women of all ages and races have more friends and have stronger bonds than men. There's benefits there. HOWEVER the other side of the coin are women that are led down the rabbit hole, by women with less than stellar character and morals.
Or wife too. Unless one of you is being psychotic or having problems, you should trust and care for each other first. Rash decisions about change are the absolute worst thing to do. Gambling a loving relationship is stupid, and even if there is a rough time or you don’t feel sexy/loved or horny you still shouldn’t act rash. Sometimes things happen and you need to fix them. Unless you just made a bad choice then usually one or both of you are physically or mentally ill if someone is having problems sexually or intimately. If you had a great loving relationship for a couple months or years at least, then usually there is a fixable problem. But both people have to refuse to act rash, attack the other person, give up, betray them, or refuse to always put them first. They have to refuse to act on bad thoughts, put love and effort in even when you are in pain or struggle, and when they make mistakes and fail (genuine mistakes that aren’t malicious or insanely careless). Usually if you have logical and loving trust and respect for each other you can both acknowledge the problem and fix it. Wife wants more sex? Okay maybe I’m having medical issues or I need to drink more water or I need to relax or I need something else. That’s it. We both trust we are honest and will never blame each other and we will offer time to explain. Assume the best and the most innocence. If you are wrong later you can discuss it or leave them. Never assume they acted maliciously or even negligent to a certain level unless it’s like major betrayal.
Friends opinions very often carry no responsibility. And they'd always nudge each other first to put up the encouragement. Girls in a group normally do not have any serious matter to talk about. They are often together in frivolity. And there's always one Devil in a group of girls. Queer ideas are often touched to discuss and laugh about.
I love these stories. Her girlfriends say he is controlling, yet when she is called on the carpet they always give full control to him if he won't break up with them! The true knife to the heart must be when she see he is happier without her, ouch!
90% of these stories (real or not) is how women want it. They want to openly cheat while the husband just sits there and takes it. As soon as the dude finds someone the women instantly want to close the relationship even though she's banged 20 dudes
The second someone brings up an open relationship in a monogamous is the second your relationship is over. So don’t waste any more of your time and break up immediately and move on with your life. Life’s to short to waste your time with someone who doesn’t share your views and feelings.
Wealthy guys are not Monogamous, I know Union guys making big money and they cheat on their wives constantly. Nothing wrong with a woman negotiating an Open marriage.
Open Relationship fail 99.9% of the time when one person is forced into it. Even if both sides are into it there is still an over 90% fail rate. If open relationship comes up you might as well abandon ship.
Let me repeat these stats from divorce lawyers. Less than 3% of marriages are open and 93% of open marriages fail. Simple probability would therefore tell you that an open marriage has around a 1-in-470 chance of being successful. So why do people really think this "make us stronger" or "keep things exciting"? Open marriages have effectively no chance of working.
It's the same thought process of "rules for thee, but not for me" people just assume that won't happen to them. That's why 99% of women who willingly leave a good man always try to crawl back into his life when the grass isn't greener
Only women believe that bullshit that an open relationship will make the relationship stronger, that's BS, if you love your woman, knowing that other guys are screwing her, believe me, will not make your relationship feel "stronger" that shit is an excuse women use to convince their husbands to accept this shit. Open relationships or open marriages for the most part only benefit the woman 99% of the time, because she's the one who'll easily have dozens of guys willing to stick it to her the moment you agree to something like this, while you, even if you're good looking and fit and wealthy and if you're lucky, will have one or two girls, while she'll fuck one or two different ones every night if that's what she wants, tell me how "strong" you think you'll be knowing that, no man who loves his wife and himself will accept this garbage, only a husband who doesn't care about his wife because he already has another, would be comfortable with this kind of garbage relationship. Making the relationship stronger is the biggest lie after the typical "it was a mistake, I love you".
Any time the words, 'Open Relatioship' come out of anyone's mouth, the end result is always the same..., break up, divorce, and hurt feelings. Then the one who proposed the 'idea' is left to figure out what happened and the one who it was proposed to feels like their loved one has lost any love for them. NOBODY WINS!!! Play stupid games..., win stupid prizes. Also, lose your 'friends' as they don't have your interests at heart.
This is a story, but it’s simple, if she asks for an Open Relationship she is withdrawing the most valuable thing she brings to the relationship for a high value man - her fidelity. Asking the question means he has to dump her - *NO EXCEPTIONS* .
This is such nonsense, women ask for an Open relationship because they have somebody else, they are _ALREADY_ cheating or _DESPERATELY WANT_ to cheat but don’t want to lose their Beta provider. She won’t care what you do as long as you remain her little Beta provider & don’t leave.
@vristeciorao it's completely on her for being so easily manipulated by her friends. I've cut out the toxic friends from my life, if women can't do the same they're doomed. Birds of a feather flock together. If you're friends with a cheater you're no better than they are
Not quite true, they don't want or expect their beta to hook up with anyone else. They don't want another woman to possibly jeopardize their lifestyle.
When ever a woman start listening to her friends instead of listening to her bf/husband , she always ended up single and miserable....... I can guarantee you she is still friends with those 304s and still talking advice from them
This is what it is men. Albeit a fake story it is accurate. In most cases where the woman asks for an open relationship, she does not expect the man to actually see anyone. For a woman, the purpose of an open relationship is for her to cheat on her man with his permission while she still has a grip on the financial security he provides, house, car, money, etc
I love these stories. Her friends say he’s controlling, but when she’s in trouble, they always let him take charge so he won’t leave her! The real sting comes when she sees he’s happier without her-ouch!
The best revenge a man can ever get in these situations is to become a better version of himself and get with a younger, nicer, more caring, loving, and more beautiful woman. A man being happy and thriving just proves to a woman that SHE was the problem and not him
Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Generally when someone suggest an open relationship out of the blue, it's because they want permission to cheat with someone they already have in mind. They don't think of the other side of that coin.
The type of women who ask for an open relationship always seem to love the idea of an open relationship until they realize that their men are getting laid too. Then they want to close it again. Imagine that.
Mostly because they assume that their husband/partner won't be getting anything out of it, and only they will be, the moment they see that their partner is getting something out of it, especially if those dates are younger or prettier than they are, they usually want to close it again.
Gutsy move by him, as she could have gone out and got a revenge duck. But, as we see, it was already over regardless. The trust was broken. If he had said no, she would have opened the relationship on her own side sooner or later, egged on by her friends who called him “controlling.”
As soon as they ask for an Open Marriage, they have already cheated or have someone in mind to cheat with, it's never a spur of the moment decision without options already lined up. At this point you just need to end the marriage because they will either cheat if you say no or harbor resentment for your unwillingness to try something new. Either way you're better off without them. Open marriages cause more divorces then improve them.
"An open relationship will strengthen our relationship " Must be the new "have a baby to save our relationship " Both will show the cracks on the relationship rather than strengthening it.
No, open relationships are not new and, no, it's not just women. But, yes, such a request is a fatal red flag. If you want an open relationship, that should be the first thing you discuss with a potential new partner. Blindside him and you're toast.
After the discussion of the open relationship he could have just terminated the relationship. But that would make for a short and bunt story. Instead, for the benefit of the viewer and for a longer story, he taugh her a lesson so she would not repeat the mistake with someone else and maybe even question any free suggestions. Which is the take away for all of us to consider when handling anything we are considering in a relationship.
"Too controlling" The go to phrase when the 10 year old princess brat in them comes out when they don't get their way. Women want a decisive man who leads. They don't want to make every decision. They want a man who is kind, who will listen, but in the end take charge.... until it is counter to their selfish desires. Then they throw out "you're too controlling", as they close their heart, and their legs to him. Kudos to this dude who put her on the road after giving a dose of humility.
Good thing this guy has smart friends. He wouldn’t have figured it out on his own. Man, friends always get blamed, but doesn’t the person listening to them have a brain?
Omg it always makes me laugh , the woman proposes open marriage/relationship saying it'll make things better , strengthen our trust , make the relationship stronger 😮😮 How in the fuxk is her saying he's no longer enough for her , wants to fuxk other guys while he waits for her is supposed to make him trust her more ??? And of course if the guy says no he is labelled insecure/controlling/misogynistic/ahole and when she divorces him she takes him for everything in the court system . Guys just don't get married , and if ur gfriend suggests opening things - get rid ASAP
The Stupid Shall Be Punished. She tries to blame her friends, but if she was so weak willed that she went along with their nonsense, good for Tom for dodging that nuke. She got what she wanted. An open relationship. Wide open.
Love this! Melanie is another modern gal who THOUGHT she was the "prize" in the relationship, and Tom could never find a better replacement. This scenario is typical. The gal is convinced her guy will tolerate her infidelity and wait for her to come home to him. She never thinks he'll be able to find even ONE date, while she's out there going out three times a week with different guys. It's only when he finds his FIRST gal that she realizes things aren't working in her favor. Hence, the back paddling.
Who in the F are your friends Lady? Are they now qualified licensed Therapists or Psychiatrists? Do you really believe they really care what is best for you? Youd be better off looking for advice from convicted murderers from the local prison. Blaaaaa.
You Sir dodged a bullet. Thank your lucky stars she droped this bomb prior to marriage. As a lawyer im sure you know is much easier and a lot less expensive to rid yourself of a cheating fiance than a cheating wife. If she is so easily swayed by her idiot friend now you dont want to see what your married life will be like. Light your path forward with the light from the bridges she set ablaze behind you. I'm sure it hurts and that sucks but better now than after the marriage.
“It’s about trust. We choose each other every day.” But you aren’t choosing each other if you are out dating and effing other people. You’re choosing other people and just using your spouse for stability.
These kind of Open Relationship stories makes me wonder if there's something wrong with contemporary women where they're not happy with their good relationships. There seems to be a lot of Girl Power-Cake Eating involved with these kind of stories, where woman are not satisfied with what they have, and they're seeking more.
She's so eager for her friends' approval, she doesn't bother to think for herself. "It's about growth"? How so? A higher body count ensures you're more grown up? "...while still being committed to each other"" What commitment? Sharing living space like roommates? Eating meals together now and then? Sounds more like being friendzoned. "Do we really want to close ourselves off to new experiences" Not all, of course. Just the ones that brea our monogamy.
Single women keep other women single. How weak minded do you have to be to be manipulated by your friends and disregard your spouse's/partner's opinion?!? If im being honest and my gf/wife ever suggested an open relationship, I'm leaving that relationship. No ands, it's, or buts about it. That's just a fancy way of saying "I want to cheat with no consequences." This dude is lucky this conversation took place before they got married.
Oh she wanted an open marriage thinking she was the only one getting benefits from it but when she sees he's also benefiting from it,she wants to panic. She didn't want an open relationship,she wanted to cheat without the stigma of cheating and wanted him to want nobody or have nobody but her. They believe everyone is stupid
Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it. Tom is a lawyer with money and power. Laura is a librarian with books and a decent salary. Marriage is a commitment to one partner only. Tom was ready, but Laura was not. It is good they called off the wedding.
Just proves my point: True Bros will keep you straight and watch your back. All "Sisters" do is strive to keep everyone on the same level or lower, even if it means sabotage.
Open marriage is not a marriage have a Open relationship dont get married thats not love its Lust. We all have those feelings because humans are emotional you cannot stop how other sexual partners might get to involved with their emotions. One partner will go along with it more for the sake of the other eventually cracks will form. One will always want it more ,sorry but it's a recipe for disaster it's selfishness destroying long term for short-term fleeting excitement 😢
In the 21st century seems the gap between the way of thinking between men and women is gap. Men want monogamy and women are selling the idea of exploring (sleeping with any chump) indirectly becoming 304. This is worse than a scary film.
The word for this, No saving, I dont really see this relationship being saved after the guy seen a new girl. And plus this is the fiance's fault for suggesting the open relationship in the first place.
Feelings on Monogamy used to be assumable. Don't assume anymore. If you are dating a woman, and "getting serious," have a discussion about EXCLUSIVITY and MONOGAMY. Let your feelings be known, and remember that if their values don't align with yours on this issue, that is a MAJOR RED FLAG.
That is a mine field. So be careful or that might be seen as bringing up the subject of open marriage. It could end the relationship just talking about it.
Women studies classes blame marriage and the patriarchy for the reason why females are repressed. That's no lie. Never date a women's studies major even if you a lesbian. Monogamy is oppression in the mind of the feminist. It's controlling and unnatural. So if you believe that then go for it, but the rest of us will skip it.
I would have said "I can not agree to an open marriage instead how about we get a divorce and when you have found yourself we can get remarried and start a new beginning" then began the divorce without alimony and an even split. Then once the divorce is final I would move on and find someone else.
I would paraphrase the whole thing and let her sign it, especially because it's her idea and she's pushing it. That could become quite an issue if the wedding will be canceled. And then go like what's right for the goose is right for the ganter. Your marriage went through the drain in the very moment she came up with this 'open' thing. Marriage is exclusive, and so an open marriage is a contradiction within itself.
It's funny how it's all sunshine and roses for an open relationship until the guy calls their bluff and shows how replaceable women are. And yes, if there was a story about a guy doing this to a woman and that woman arranging a date in front of the guy, it would be funny, too.
Yes, there was a guy who wanted one so he could be with his mistress/GF and at the end of the year he asked his wife how it was going. She told him she had been with 43 men and he flipped out and called her all sorts of bad words. It ended with divorce. She simply gave him what he wanted. Be careful what you wish for because the other spouse may embrace it with vigor.
another insecure and easily influenced woman by her "so-called friends" ... another story of pain and misery of a broken relationship that would have been a perfect marriage if their relationship had stood this test ... emotional immaturity is the most common reason why people lie, cheat or they do other stupid things and after the curtain falls they wake up and realize that they have lost the most precious thing which is hard to find, a reliable partner who is fully devoted to them, always 100% ready to give them their all, and just like that, they threw it away under the influence of some broken "friends" whose lives are probably already ruined, by their own bad decisions from their past. Misery love company .. so for this woman ... hope she learn from her mistake to move on .... if not!!! she for sure will help in the future to another insecure soul to find a way into their club of misery, same as her "friends" helped her to join their "perfect society of broken".
I find it hard not to see it this way: The friends feel their lifestyle is threatened by her monogamy and/or ability to have a viable relationship with a man. (similar to how detransitioned people can be ousted from their previous trans communities because their detransitioning act is contrary to the community's belief system), thus they encourage her to go for an open relationship. They're trying to align her with their own outlook on life instead of letting her have her own. Sad :/ The way the story is told, melanie does show genuine regret. I'm suprised tom isn't able to see this. How certainly does he know that it is melanie's friends who put her up to this? In this situation I wouldn't call either the decision that he made or forgiving her unreasonable. It looks as though melanie didn't really understand what she was doing. However, I find it suriprising that she called her family over and not telling them what really happened (as far as this story tells she didn't really inform them). That may be an indicator against my observation.
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Valuing your friends opinion over your husband always results in divorce
That's what happened to me turned around and left didn't look back
Seriously. Absolutely Correct. Women of all ages and races have more friends and have stronger bonds than men. There's benefits there. HOWEVER the other side of the coin are women that are led down the rabbit hole, by women with less than stellar character and morals.
Especially single friends
Or wife too. Unless one of you is being psychotic or having problems, you should trust and care for each other first. Rash decisions about change are the absolute worst thing to do. Gambling a loving relationship is stupid, and even if there is a rough time or you don’t feel sexy/loved or horny you still shouldn’t act rash. Sometimes things happen and you need to fix them. Unless you just made a bad choice then usually one or both of you are physically or mentally ill if someone is having problems sexually or intimately. If you had a great loving relationship for a couple months or years at least, then usually there is a fixable problem. But both people have to refuse to act rash, attack the other person, give up, betray them, or refuse to always put them first. They have to refuse to act on bad thoughts, put love and effort in even when you are in pain or struggle, and when they make mistakes and fail (genuine mistakes that aren’t malicious or insanely careless). Usually if you have logical and loving trust and respect for each other you can both acknowledge the problem and fix it. Wife wants more sex? Okay maybe I’m having medical issues or I need to drink more water or I need to relax or I need something else. That’s it. We both trust we are honest and will never blame each other and we will offer time to explain. Assume the best and the most innocence. If you are wrong later you can discuss it or leave them. Never assume they acted maliciously or even negligent to a certain level unless it’s like major betrayal.
Friends opinions very often carry no responsibility. And they'd always nudge each other first to put up the encouragement.
Girls in a group normally do not have any serious matter to talk about. They are often together in frivolity. And there's always one Devil in a group of girls. Queer ideas are often touched to discuss and laugh about.
Open marriage/relationship = Bye bye marriage/relationship
One of the most idiotic ideas known to humankind.
She is a librarian and he is a lawyer. Women are more attracted to a lawyer's money and power than men are attracted to librarians and books.
Wealthy guys see other women all the time. They aren't Monogamous. What's wrong with a woman seeing other guys?
@@fraudsarentfriends4717 you must be a woman. Ask your hubby, or tell it to him.
So rich guys being scumbags justifies ALL women to act that same way? Give me a break. 🤦♂️
@ A deal is a deal. If it's not a problem for him, it's not a problem for her.
I know it’s a fake story because the woman took accountability at the end.
Truth!
Savage😂😂😂🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Yeah, you've got a good point.
Lol I knew the moment "Tom" started to talk. He's straight up reading it like a book and narrating it
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I love these stories. Her girlfriends say he is controlling, yet when she is called on the carpet they always give full control to him if he won't break up with them! The true knife to the heart must be when she see he is happier without her, ouch!
She wanted an open marriage for her not her husband.
90% of these stories (real or not) is how women want it. They want to openly cheat while the husband just sits there and takes it. As soon as the dude finds someone the women instantly want to close the relationship even though she's banged 20 dudes
"Open Marriage" is a stupid term used to "legitimize" CHEATING.. without punishment
The second someone brings up an open relationship in a monogamous is the second your relationship is over. So don’t waste any more of your time and break up immediately and move on with your life. Life’s to short to waste your time with someone who doesn’t share your views and feelings.
Wealthy guys are not Monogamous, I know Union guys making big money and they cheat on their wives constantly. Nothing wrong with a woman negotiating an Open marriage.
Once she asks for a open relationship the relationship is over run forest run
Open Relationship fail 99.9% of the time when one person is forced into it. Even if both sides are into it there is still an over 90% fail rate. If open relationship comes up you might as well abandon ship.
Open relationship is no relationdhip.
It is 100
No they don't, wealthy guys cheat on their wives all the time. Nothing wrong with her finding happiness with someone else.
Let me repeat these stats from divorce lawyers. Less than 3% of marriages are open and 93% of open marriages fail. Simple probability would therefore tell you that an open marriage has around a 1-in-470 chance of being successful. So why do people really think this "make us stronger" or "keep things exciting"? Open marriages have effectively no chance of working.
When you start off with no sense of reason or accountability, reality has very little chance of having an impact on decision making.
I Love statistics!
It's the same thought process of "rules for thee, but not for me" people just assume that won't happen to them. That's why 99% of women who willingly leave a good man always try to crawl back into his life when the grass isn't greener
Only women believe that bullshit that an open relationship will make the relationship stronger, that's BS, if you love your woman, knowing that other guys are screwing her, believe me, will not make your relationship feel "stronger" that shit is an excuse women use to convince their husbands to accept this shit. Open relationships or open marriages for the most part only benefit the woman 99% of the time, because she's the one who'll easily have dozens of guys willing to stick it to her the moment you agree to something like this, while you, even if you're good looking and fit and wealthy and if you're lucky, will have one or two girls, while she'll fuck one or two different ones every night if that's what she wants, tell me how "strong" you think you'll be knowing that, no man who loves his wife and himself will accept this garbage, only a husband who doesn't care about his wife because he already has another, would be comfortable with this kind of garbage relationship. Making the relationship stronger is the biggest lie after the typical "it was a mistake, I love you".
it's a BS so feminist can cheat as much as they wants
Any time the words, 'Open Relatioship' come out of anyone's mouth, the end result is always the same..., break up, divorce, and hurt feelings. Then the one who proposed the 'idea' is left to figure out what happened and the one who it was proposed to feels like their loved one has lost any love for them. NOBODY WINS!!!
Play stupid games..., win stupid prizes. Also, lose your 'friends' as they don't have your interests at heart.
This is a story, but it’s simple, if she asks for an Open Relationship she is withdrawing the most valuable thing she brings to the relationship for a high value man - her fidelity. Asking the question means he has to dump her - *NO EXCEPTIONS* .
Even bigger red flags is using the term "high value man"
@@Sindrihelga No it isn't, not all men are high value - get a grip.
Wealthy guys want pre-nup so they can go out and cheat. Nothing wrong with his wife finding happiness in another guy. Open marriages are the future.
Tell her parents about this right away? Don't cover for her. Your wedding is in 6 months? Stop this before spending more money on doomed marriage?
This is such nonsense, women ask for an Open relationship because they have somebody else, they are _ALREADY_ cheating or _DESPERATELY WANT_ to cheat but don’t want to lose their Beta provider. She won’t care what you do as long as you remain her little Beta provider & don’t leave.
It seems to me that here she is a victim of her friends and their jealousy. On the other hand, she is pliable
@vristeciorao it's completely on her for being so easily manipulated by her friends. I've cut out the toxic friends from my life, if women can't do the same they're doomed. Birds of a feather flock together. If you're friends with a cheater you're no better than they are
Not quite true, they don't want or expect their beta to hook up with anyone else. They don't want another woman to possibly jeopardize their lifestyle.
With friends like this you don't need any enemy's
Open Marriage = No Marriage!
When ever a woman start listening to her friends instead of listening to her bf/husband , she always ended up single and miserable....... I can guarantee you she is still friends with those 304s and still talking advice from them
That's why when I used to date I'd always see what kinds of friends she had. If most/all were single and perpetual club goers I'd stay away.
... and still alone.
Imagining Tom doing the harry Osborn wink from Spider-man right at Melanie while calling the other girl is so funny to me.
What a power move. Lol
It’s means she already cheated or plans to soon .
Without a doubt
This is what it is men. Albeit a fake story it is accurate. In most cases where the woman asks for an open relationship, she does not expect the man to actually see anyone. For a woman, the purpose of an open relationship is for her to cheat on her man with his permission while she still has a grip on the financial security he provides, house, car, money, etc
I love these stories. Her friends say he’s controlling, but when she’s in trouble, they always let him take charge so he won’t leave her! The real sting comes when she sees he’s happier without her-ouch!
The best revenge a man can ever get in these situations is to become a better version of himself and get with a younger, nicer, more caring, loving, and more beautiful woman. A man being happy and thriving just proves to a woman that SHE was the problem and not him
Just follow the advice of your 304 friends. Good luck with STD's and HIV. Leave Tom alone, he does not desereve a 304 GF.
Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I hope you're able to move on and find love with someone else someday.
Generally when someone suggest an open relationship out of the blue, it's because they want permission to cheat with someone they already have in mind. They don't think of the other side of that coin.
I feel like my relationship just hit a major speed bump……
No lady, you drove it off a cliff.
The type of women who ask for an open relationship always seem to love the idea of an open relationship until they realize that their men are getting laid too. Then they want to close it again. Imagine that.
Mostly because they assume that their husband/partner won't be getting anything out of it, and only they will be, the moment they see that their partner is getting something out of it, especially if those dates are younger or prettier than they are, they usually want to close it again.
Why the hell would you ask for help from the so-called friends that messed up your head in the first place
Gutsy move by him, as she could have gone out and got a revenge duck. But, as we see, it was already over regardless. The trust was broken. If he had said no, she would have opened the relationship on her own side sooner or later, egged on by her friends who called him “controlling.”
Yep, the second she opened her mouth it was over.
As soon as they ask for an Open Marriage, they have already cheated or have someone in mind to cheat with, it's never a spur of the moment decision without options already lined up. At this point you just need to end the marriage because they will either cheat if you say no or harbor resentment for your unwillingness to try something new. Either way you're better off without them. Open marriages cause more divorces then improve them.
Suggesting an open “marriage”, then telling her he is controlling when he refuses it. Feminism is cancer.
"An open relationship will strengthen our relationship "
Must be the new "have a baby to save our relationship "
Both will show the cracks on the relationship rather than strengthening it.
That's funny. A baby to save the relationship. Sadly too many thought/think that way.
No, open relationships are not new and, no, it's not just women. But, yes, such a request is a fatal red flag. If you want an open relationship, that should be the first thing you discuss with a potential new partner. Blindside him and you're toast.
They weren't serious anyway,Friday night and she's always out with her friends and he's always out with his.
After the discussion of the open relationship he could have just terminated the relationship. But that would make for a short and bunt story. Instead, for the benefit of the viewer and for a longer story, he taugh her a lesson so she would not repeat the mistake with someone else and maybe even question any free suggestions. Which is the take away for all of us to consider when handling anything we are considering in a relationship.
Her friends want what is best for her? Is she really that nieve?
"Too controlling"
The go to phrase when the 10 year old princess brat in them comes out when they don't get their way.
Women want a decisive man who leads. They don't want to make every decision. They want a man who is kind, who will listen, but in the end take charge.... until it is counter to their selfish desires.
Then they throw out "you're too controlling", as they close their heart, and their legs to him.
Kudos to this dude who put her on the road after giving a dose of humility.
She wants his lifestyle and to have her fun to
Good thing this guy has smart friends. He wouldn’t have figured it out on his own. Man, friends always get blamed, but doesn’t the person listening to them have a brain?
Omg it always makes me laugh , the woman proposes open marriage/relationship saying it'll make things better , strengthen our trust , make the relationship stronger 😮😮 How in the fuxk is her saying he's no longer enough for her , wants to fuxk other guys while he waits for her is supposed to make him trust her more ??? And of course if the guy says no he is labelled insecure/controlling/misogynistic/ahole and when she divorces him she takes him for everything in the court system . Guys just don't get married , and if ur gfriend suggests opening things - get rid ASAP
Just for the record, open relationships are a regression of about 5000 years of human civilization. Do what you want, but don’t hide.
The Stupid Shall Be Punished. She tries to blame her friends, but if she was so weak willed that she went along with their nonsense, good for Tom for dodging that nuke. She got what she wanted. An open relationship. Wide open.
Woman who wants that is saying shes not faithful and thats not what a man wants in his wife.
Love this!
Melanie is another modern gal who THOUGHT she was the "prize" in the relationship, and Tom could never find a better replacement. This scenario is typical. The gal is convinced her guy will tolerate her infidelity and wait for her to come home to him. She never thinks he'll be able to find even ONE date, while she's out there going out three times a week with different guys. It's only when he finds his FIRST gal that she realizes things aren't working in her favor. Hence, the back paddling.
OP: you are not married. RUN!!!
She unlocked this dude’s villain ark
Who in the F are your friends Lady? Are they now qualified licensed Therapists or Psychiatrists? Do you really believe they really care what is best for you? Youd be better off looking for advice from convicted murderers from the local prison. Blaaaaa.
When they want an open relationship it is time to go. Why in the hell marry if you want to screw others? No wonder our country is going to hell.
He was supposed to sit home , wait for her like a dog…Something went wrong , didn’t it?
She wanted it to be just her sleeping around
Cause he is just sleeping around
Bad choice being around ppl like that.Break off wedding
So, let me summary to you: Melanie wants a commitment without commit. She wants exclusivity without exclusivity. Good luck.
You Sir dodged a bullet. Thank your lucky stars she droped this bomb prior to marriage. As a lawyer im sure you know is much easier and a lot less expensive to rid yourself of a cheating fiance than a cheating wife. If she is so easily swayed by her idiot friend now you dont want to see what your married life will be like. Light your path forward with the light from the bridges she set ablaze behind you. I'm sure it hurts and that sucks but better now than after the marriage.
Open relationship thing just destroyed the trust. It was over after that.
“It’s about trust. We choose each other every day.”
But you aren’t choosing each other if you are out dating and effing other people. You’re choosing other people and just using your spouse for stability.
woman can always count on their friends to keep them single
Open marriage = zero marriage
1. blame the dumbass friends for the open relationship idea
2. u dont know what u have/had until its gone and too late
It’s not the future at all.
Modern WOMEN, Hubby stays at HOME and THE GIRLS GO OUT and SPREAD THEIR LEGS ! NOT HAPPENING THAT'S DELUSIONAL
If a man wanted multiple, would he bother getting married?
These kind of Open Relationship stories makes me wonder if there's something wrong with contemporary women where they're not happy with their good relationships.
There seems to be a lot of Girl Power-Cake Eating involved with these kind of stories, where woman are not satisfied with what they have, and they're seeking more.
For me open relationship is like a dogs, a rats , rabbits, a frog an ANIMAL WAYS
I love this story, no matter how many pages post it.
She's so eager for her friends' approval, she doesn't bother to think for herself. "It's about growth"? How so? A higher body count ensures you're more grown up? "...while still being committed to each other"" What commitment? Sharing living space like roommates? Eating meals together now and then? Sounds more like being friendzoned. "Do we really want to close ourselves off to new experiences" Not all, of course. Just the ones that brea our monogamy.
Open relationship equals no need to get married.
"These are my friends..."
Famous last words
Single women keep other women single. How weak minded do you have to be to be manipulated by your friends and disregard your spouse's/partner's opinion?!? If im being honest and my gf/wife ever suggested an open relationship, I'm leaving that relationship. No ands, it's, or buts about it. That's just a fancy way of saying "I want to cheat with no consequences." This dude is lucky this conversation took place before they got married.
A librarian trying to negotiate with a lawyer lmao
An Open Marriage is NO Marriage at all! If she asks for an Open Marriage, she most likely, is already doing someone on the side.
Oh she wanted an open marriage thinking she was the only one getting benefits from it but when she sees he's also benefiting from it,she wants to panic. She didn't want an open relationship,she wanted to cheat without the stigma of cheating and wanted him to want nobody or have nobody but her. They believe everyone is stupid
Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it. Tom is a lawyer with money and power. Laura is a librarian with books and a decent salary. Marriage is a commitment to one partner only. Tom was ready, but Laura was not. It is good they called off the wedding.
Just proves my point: True Bros will keep you straight and watch your back. All "Sisters" do is strive to keep everyone on the same level or lower, even if it means sabotage.
Open marriage is not a marriage have a Open relationship dont get married thats not love its Lust. We all have those feelings because humans are emotional you cannot stop how other sexual partners might get to involved with their emotions. One partner will go along with it more for the sake of the other eventually cracks will form. One will always want it more ,sorry but it's a recipe for disaster it's selfishness destroying long term for short-term fleeting excitement 😢
Why getting married if you want bang around?
Well, she still wants him to pay for her luxury lifestyle with his lawyer paycheck.
Women keeping women single.
In the 21st century seems the gap between the way of thinking between men and women is gap. Men want monogamy and women are selling the idea of exploring (sleeping with any chump) indirectly becoming 304. This is worse than a scary film.
Look at the shows and movies being promoted. The popular music being pushed. All of this is by design
The word for this, No saving, I dont really see this relationship being saved after the guy seen a new girl. And plus this is the fiance's fault for suggesting the open relationship in the first place.
Feelings on Monogamy used to be assumable. Don't assume anymore. If you are dating a woman, and "getting serious," have a discussion about EXCLUSIVITY and MONOGAMY. Let your feelings be known, and remember that if their values don't align with yours on this issue, that is a MAJOR RED FLAG.
That is a mine field. So be careful or that might be seen as bringing up the subject of open marriage. It could end the relationship just talking about it.
Wow, that was excellent
I my Fiancee ask me this Open thingy she'll be soon to be wife to side piece real quick
when do people uuhhmmm women understand that open relationship is an oxymoron.
How does feminism = open relationships?
Women studies classes blame marriage and the patriarchy for the reason why females are repressed. That's no lie. Never date a women's studies major even if you a lesbian. Monogamy is oppression in the mind of the feminist. It's controlling and unnatural. So if you believe that then go for it, but the rest of us will skip it.
I would have said "I can not agree to an open marriage instead how about we get a divorce and when you have found yourself we can get remarried and start a new beginning" then began the divorce without alimony and an even split. Then once the divorce is final I would move on and find someone else.
All single women keep other women single. It's just a fact like gravity or the tides.
A story of peer pressure. Talk about strong willed.
"Give it a trial run." ... WTF
I would paraphrase the whole thing and let her sign it, especially because it's her idea and she's pushing it. That could become quite an issue if the wedding will be canceled.
And then go like what's right for the goose is right for the ganter. Your marriage went through the drain in the very moment she came up with this 'open' thing.
Marriage is exclusive, and so an open marriage is a contradiction within itself.
I wud demand she all explains it to her parents NOW! If front of him! So she wud have to tell Everything!
It's funny how it's all sunshine and roses for an open relationship until the guy calls their bluff and shows how replaceable women are. And yes, if there was a story about a guy doing this to a woman and that woman arranging a date in front of the guy, it would be funny, too.
Yes, there was a guy who wanted one so he could be with his mistress/GF and at the end of the year he asked his wife how it was going. She told him she had been with 43 men and he flipped out and called her all sorts of bad words. It ended with divorce. She simply gave him what he wanted. Be careful what you wish for because the other spouse may embrace it with vigor.
Single women keeps women single
Women dont get it we want THAT ONE PERSON TO TRUST AND SPEND THE REST OF OUR LIVES WITH THAT ONLY WANTS US its the exclusivity of it 😅
another insecure and easily influenced woman by her "so-called friends" ... another story of pain and misery of a broken relationship that would have been a perfect marriage if their relationship had stood this test ... emotional immaturity is the most common reason why people lie, cheat or they do other stupid things and after the curtain falls they wake up and realize that they have lost the most precious thing which is hard to find, a reliable partner who is fully devoted to them, always 100% ready to give them their all, and just like that, they threw it away under the influence of some broken "friends" whose lives are probably already ruined, by their own bad decisions from their past. Misery love company .. so for this woman ... hope she learn from her mistake to move on .... if not!!! she for sure will help in the future to another insecure soul to find a way into their club of misery, same as her "friends" helped her to join their "perfect society of broken".
That is a very unsatisfying ending.😢😢
What do you mean this is a great ending.
Never heard so much bullshit in all my life and I'm 70! 😂 Bill Fisher
Play stupid games win stupid prizes
I know these are just incel rage bait, but why the fuck can't I stop listening to them
king!
Prenup
She will be great with that minimum wage 20 hour a week job pretty cool huh?
OMG 😢
I find it hard not to see it this way: The friends feel their lifestyle is threatened by her monogamy and/or ability to have a viable relationship with a man. (similar to how detransitioned people can be ousted from their previous trans communities because their detransitioning act is contrary to the community's belief system), thus they encourage her to go for an open relationship. They're trying to align her with their own outlook on life instead of letting her have her own. Sad :/
The way the story is told, melanie does show genuine regret. I'm suprised tom isn't able to see this. How certainly does he know that it is melanie's friends who put her up to this? In this situation I wouldn't call either the decision that he made or forgiving her unreasonable. It looks as though melanie didn't really understand what she was doing. However, I find it suriprising that she called her family over and not telling them what really happened (as far as this story tells she didn't really inform them). That may be an indicator against my observation.