@@samiamtheman7379 And if you are someone who knows the want or need an open relationship bring it up prior to things getting heavy. Don't stay silent and bring it up once you think you have the other person nailed down, because that's putting your fun ahead of your monogamous partner's happiness.
"The judge ordered us to do 6 weeks of marriage counseling" how about the judge does his fucking job instead of trying to fix other people's relationships.
story 2, you should try and reach out to the college student, he's probably treating her the same way he did you and his ex, but better, since he can improve what didn't work well in the past. she probably has no idea about his true nature
This “open marriage” is less toxic than some. I don’t see signs of opening to hide that you’d already cheated. But the ethical non-monogamy / polyamory I’ve seen and been part of that really worked, the other partners were part of the family. You’d have a wife and a girlfriend. They’d share you time like divorced parents coparented. And sometimes that means they’d both be at the same event. They called each other metamores, and each of them would be honestly happy that the person they loved (you) was also happily in love with someone else. They call this feeling compersion. Sometimes your partners would get together to plan your birthday or kids graduation or whatever. Mostly, metamores were friends. And if you introduced a new person, and the existing partners didn’t vibe with them… that carried some weight. If you have a primary partner and then some one night stands, or FWB (who even has the time?), or are swingers (which is no better or worse, but has its own set of rules, and I am not qualified to speak for those folks… there are many well versed swingers, far more eloquent than me. What you’re describing here is more like “Cheating, but not TECHNICALLY” If you want to do polyamory right, get on Facebook and find the Closed Poly groups. There are large communities of us, with frequent non-sexual meetups every month. Get on the dating apps, say up front that you’re new to Poly and don’t even know what questions to ask. Someone will match you and invite you to a meetup. Also, be aware that both the Polyamory community exists, and the Polynesian community exists. It’s usually clear from context which one you’re talking about, but Polynesians have existed as an ethnic group and culture MUCH longer than Polyamory has existed as a lifestyle. If you are in a situation where context clues aren’t clear enough Polynesians claim “poly” and polyamorous are “polyam”.
an open marriage with 30 days of no touching after being with someone else is the dumpest thing i have heard on those storys, you would never be intimid with the partner after a certain point specialy if both of them got a fling/ap/ friend with benefits or whatever getting a divorce from the start would have been the better option
story 2, my ex has threatend to get me fired or to say i commited horriable assault but i never thought he would have threatend to expose his exes nudes WTF
I have heard stupid i have heard stupid stories about open marriage, but one month of no contact after? That sounds as if he wanted to be extra sure the marriage will fail.
Honestly the first story is kind of on the guy, dude agreed to the open marriage and then claims that she "forced" him into it, sounds like he was on board with the idea too until he realized he couldnt get tail as easy as the girl. As far as Im aware there was no attempt on his behalf to close the marriage when he realize he wasnt happy in it. The wife was clearly unempathetic towards him but he brought it on himself.
S1: the wife pushing sex with OP is unacceptable, but him calling her a “fat chick,” was messed up 😂. Nevertheless, the marriage was over by her actions. She clearly caught emotional feelings for the other guy, & now that she realized that that guy was/is an a-hole she sudden she wants to work on her marriage & wants him.
Don’t forget the reason she kept pushing intimacy was a manipulation tactic so she can say she got pregnant from the ‘husband’ rather than the ‘fling guy’
As a Native American, ngl, this is nothing new, but time does nothing for the horror of it. I was told I was "exotic" for being Native (mf, my people were here first, tf you mean 'exotic'?), and had many offer to be my "John Smith". MMIW exists for a reason. And to think these guys can see a woman with dark hair, eyes and skin and make that revolting correlation is absolutely disgusting and haunting.
She went out once a week for five months, never breaking the third rule, comes back pregnant, and didn't even realize it wasn't her husband's child. LOL, seriously, what on earth?!
op was not very bright at the start, this story should have ended the moment the third video a bout open marriage reached his phone, and i think im being generous by allowing the first and second one to be honest. not only that, but he ended allowing the open marriage, at least his "rules" did end up saving him, but they took 2 years of his life to do their thing, when breaking up at the start would have been quicker and less painful (because im sure that knowing that your wife is out there getting fucked by other men is not exactly something pleasant, specially when you have given the ok to it happening yourself )
Open marriage is always one sided. Always the woman who proposes the idea, BC it's convenient for them. Men have no scruples and will even Braga about banging married women, so for her, the situation will thrive and be good. But yeah, Op should have dissolved marriage as soon as she started with the open relationship nonsense
Open marriage should be ask for once. If your partner says no then it’s a no. And if you are so weak to not have the self control to not bring it up or to not cheat then you need to leave.
Staying overnight or not seems to be a very trivial difference if your wife is already having sex with another man. At that point it's just splitting hairs and the marriage is already over.
Honestly I don't feel bad for the ex-wife or the poster because they both made this choice together to open up the marriage there was no force situation like the poster was dating and his story he literally went along with his wife's idea to open the marriage and he has no excuses there I'm sorry I don't care of anybody he's going to side with this dude is the truth he's just as bad as his ex-wire because the very moment everything's going right for all of a sudden he wants to close it down because it isn't going right for him yeah I'm sorry you can have it that way when you chose to go along with the city like I get it if you feel that you don't like the open marriage part but your partner does you knew what was that idea and you never should have thought about doing anything it's going to magically change her marriage over
i don't recall him asking to close it at least not till he realised their marriage was basically dead due to partially due to him and very much so due to her completely neglecting their marriage to the point of being nothing more than roommates and op had given all he had to give
He never even asked to close it and said he was just glad his wife was having fun u sound like one of those men are always in the wrong kind of people lmao. Read the story before commenting
Open relationships doesn't work most times. there are clear data on that and the few that it did work witness it doesn't for everyone that does it. An other thing is a person that truly loves someone can't see others that way not even at low times and manipulative individuals trying on them. Those that wants have attachment and bonding issues with not being able to love people fully. When someone comes with anything of that nature set your business in order to end everything and just use them for the time being and begin to look for a real partner and then leave them without fighting.
Your first mistake was not divorcing her when she wanted an open marriage.
Writing on the wall
Facts 👏🏽.
What happens when you marry young.
They clearly communicated their boundaries. How is that grounds for divorce?
@@Demonetization_Symbolit didn't worked out the way the husband expected.
That was on him.
she went out for 5 month once a week without breaking the third rule, comes back pregnant, and didn't isntaly realise it wasn't her husband's XD WTF
She is a special one. 😂
Opening a marriage is idiocy in the extreme, if you wanna sleep with someone else, do it BEFORE you get married
Exactly!
Also before the relationship lol
@@Dreamstrafe Beat me to it XD
More specifically, before you get into a relationship in general.
@@samiamtheman7379 And if you are someone who knows the want or need an open relationship bring it up prior to things getting heavy. Don't stay silent and bring it up once you think you have the other person nailed down, because that's putting your fun ahead of your monogamous partner's happiness.
S1: I don't sorry for OP's wife, she broke the rules.
If the lack of ONE person, who isn’t the birthday girl or whatever, would “ruin” your wedding… it must not have been that good of a wedding.
This dude was a simp the moment she asked for it and he agreed to it
"The judge ordered us to do 6 weeks of marriage counseling" how about the judge does his fucking job instead of trying to fix other people's relationships.
Court is a state institution they have a vested interest in keeping the husband paying for the kid nm the kid isn’t his
What a wild ride! 🚀 She didn’t see that coming, huh? Good for you!
STORY 2 IS TRAUMATIZING?!😢
He should’ve divorced her after she asked for an open marriage
I literally just listened to this story but a different version and read a comment about how it keeps getting changed. Smh
story 2, you should try and reach out to the college student, he's probably treating her the same way he did you and his ex, but better, since he can improve what didn't work well in the past. she probably has no idea about his true nature
This “open marriage” is less toxic than some. I don’t see signs of opening to hide that you’d already cheated. But the ethical non-monogamy / polyamory I’ve seen and been part of that really worked, the other partners were part of the family. You’d have a wife and a girlfriend. They’d share you time like divorced parents coparented. And sometimes that means they’d both be at the same event. They called each other metamores, and each of them would be honestly happy that the person they loved (you) was also happily in love with someone else. They call this feeling compersion.
Sometimes your partners would get together to plan your birthday or kids graduation or whatever. Mostly, metamores were friends. And if you introduced a new person, and the existing partners didn’t vibe with them… that carried some weight.
If you have a primary partner and then some one night stands, or FWB (who even has the time?), or are swingers (which is no better or worse, but has its own set of rules, and I am not qualified to speak for those folks… there are many well versed swingers, far more eloquent than me.
What you’re describing here is more like “Cheating, but not TECHNICALLY”
If you want to do polyamory right, get on Facebook and find the Closed Poly groups. There are large communities of us, with frequent non-sexual meetups every month. Get on the dating apps, say up front that you’re new to Poly and don’t even know what questions to ask. Someone will match you and invite you to a meetup.
Also, be aware that both the Polyamory community exists, and the Polynesian community exists. It’s usually clear from context which one you’re talking about, but Polynesians have existed as an ethnic group and culture MUCH longer than Polyamory has existed as a lifestyle. If you are in a situation where context clues aren’t clear enough Polynesians claim “poly” and polyamorous are “polyam”.
Polyamory can never last without problems sometime in the future
Thought this was an update. Story was from years ago.
the ones with the adopted kids , YOU ARE IN WAY OVER YOUR HEADS,,,,
an open marriage with 30 days of no touching after being with someone else is the dumpest thing i have heard on those storys,
you would never be intimid with the partner after a certain point specialy if both of them got a fling/ap/ friend with benefits or whatever
getting a divorce from the start would have been the better option
OP's first mistake was not leaving her when she asked for an open marriage.
story 2, my ex has threatend to get me fired or to say i commited horriable assault but i never thought he would have threatend to expose his exes nudes
WTF
Its almost like....... open marraiges or relationships...dont work
Selfish until they need help.
Calling her fat is just wrong dude. But i don’t feel remorse for her because she broke the rules
She had that coming.
@@sirblack1619 like i said i don’t feel remorse but calling her fat is wrong
I have heard stupid i have heard stupid stories about open marriage, but one month of no contact after? That sounds as if he wanted to be extra sure the marriage will fail.
That's actually smart, I hope people will start using it in the future for their cases
As soon as u bring up open marriage that is making sure the marriage will fail lmao
Old story
Honestly the first story is kind of on the guy, dude agreed to the open marriage and then claims that she "forced" him into it, sounds like he was on board with the idea too until he realized he couldnt get tail as easy as the girl. As far as Im aware there was no attempt on his behalf to close the marriage when he realize he wasnt happy in it. The wife was clearly unempathetic towards him but he brought it on himself.
"We're pregnant"
"Whos we?"
😂😂😂
2 years
Already asking for open marriage
OP should've run the moment she said that.
, to ssze,qas,saas 😔🦺
Facts
Her: "We're pregnant"
Him: "Now your a single mom"
"You let him hit it raw, didn't have second thoughts. Now you a single mom!"
It's wild that she was still trying to get back together with him while pregnant with another man's child...
Wow she broke every rule damn man
She was the one that made the rules also 😂😂😂😂
Many such cases hen it comes to open relationships.
S1: the wife pushing sex with OP is unacceptable, but him calling her a “fat chick,” was messed up 😂. Nevertheless, the marriage was over by her actions. She clearly caught emotional feelings for the other guy, & now that she realized that that guy was/is an a-hole she sudden she wants to work on her marriage & wants him.
better one would be cheating chick she broke the rules of an open marrage IMO thats cheating physical or otherwise
Pushing sex on someone is worse than getting called a bad name? 😂 oh right I forgot it was a woman pushing sex so it’s not as bad as
was she fat though if so then it was factual not messed up.
Don’t forget the reason she kept pushing intimacy was a manipulation tactic so she can say she got pregnant from the ‘husband’ rather than the ‘fling guy’
@@Grimeaper pretty sure he called her fat because of her pregnancy wich I do agree was a bit too far
The moment she suggested an “open marriage” it was already over. It was the beginning of the end 😂
The moment she thought about it it was over
Opening is Cheating. This is why opening is a bad thing. Saying yes made you a doormate & made you just as bad as her. Your just as bad as her.
She had someone in mind. She would cheat either left or right.
The problem is not her finding dates, but him finding dates.
Not just as bad as her but he shouldn't have done it
"I'm pregnant, and it's not my husbands. You're the dad."
"Skill issue"
As a Native American, ngl, this is nothing new, but time does nothing for the horror of it. I was told I was "exotic" for being Native (mf, my people were here first, tf you mean 'exotic'?), and had many offer to be my "John Smith".
MMIW exists for a reason.
And to think these guys can see a woman with dark hair, eyes and skin and make that revolting correlation is absolutely disgusting and haunting.
Same thing happens when blonde people travel to places where people aren't blonde.
What tribe are you from? I love learning about history.
@@BenjaminQuoyeser
Blackfoot and Cheyenne, thanks for asking! 😁🫶🏼
@@SvensktTroll
Well. Yeah. That's not the point, at all.
@@BenjaminQuoyeser
Blackfoot and Cheyenne. Thanks for asking! 😁🫶🏼
open realtionship ok ther is the door divorce papers are comming as soon as possible have fun. onely real reply to that bs
Story 2: i hope you let the new girlfriend know what ex is upto.
She went out once a week for five months, never breaking the third rule, comes back pregnant, and didn't even realize it wasn't her husband's child. LOL, seriously, what on earth?!
op was not very bright at the start, this story should have ended the moment the third video a bout open marriage reached his phone, and i think im being generous by allowing the first and second one to be honest.
not only that, but he ended allowing the open marriage, at least his "rules" did end up saving him, but they took 2 years of his life to do their thing, when breaking up at the start would have been quicker and less painful (because im sure that knowing that your wife is out there getting fucked by other men is not exactly something pleasant, specially when you have given the ok to it happening yourself )
Op a simp that finally grew a backbone
Nah unbelievable
Any real man wouldn’t even consider, condone or accept this behaviour, he should’ve simply divorced her the moment she even brought this idea up.
Open marriage is always one sided. Always the woman who proposes the idea, BC it's convenient for them. Men have no scruples and will even Braga about banging married women, so for her, the situation will thrive and be good. But yeah, Op should have dissolved marriage as soon as she started with the open relationship nonsense
Want to keep having fun when youre young? Don't get married then!
I’m so confused. I thought open marriage didn’t have “dating” and the 30day rule surely would mean they were never intimate again
Some of these details are not exactly necessary but amusing all the same.
Open marriage should be ask for once. If your partner says no then it’s a no. And if you are so weak to not have the self control to not bring it up or to not cheat then you need to leave.
How did she get pregnant if she followed the rules did the husband think she was on the pill the a,p, have a wife and kids
Early
No sympathy, dude, for you, bro. You allowed this
SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS😂
His first mistake was marrying her.
Thank god they didn't say first lol
Balls
this the worst relationship ive ever seen. that 30day rule is stupid and untenable
Yes, 30day rule would destroy most relationship
Barf.
Staying overnight or not seems to be a very trivial difference if your wife is already having sex with another man.
At that point it's just splitting hairs and the marriage is already over.
think the idea was that okay go have your fun but always come home and be with your marriage partner....
Story 1: I will not blame her.
Honestly I don't feel bad for the ex-wife or the poster because they both made this choice together to open up the marriage there was no force situation like the poster was dating and his story he literally went along with his wife's idea to open the marriage and he has no excuses there I'm sorry I don't care of anybody he's going to side with this dude is the truth he's just as bad as his ex-wire because the very moment everything's going right for all of a sudden he wants to close it down because it isn't going right for him yeah I'm sorry you can have it that way when you chose to go along with the city like I get it if you feel that you don't like the open marriage part but your partner does you knew what was that idea and you never should have thought about doing anything it's going to magically change her marriage over
i don't recall him asking to close it at least not till he realised their marriage was basically dead due to partially due to him and very much so due to her completely neglecting their marriage to the point of being nothing more than roommates and op had given all he had to give
He never even asked to close it and said he was just glad his wife was having fun u sound like one of those men are always in the wrong kind of people lmao. Read the story before commenting
You know your screwed when the judge forces counseling while she’s pregnant with another man’s baby
Any man that agrees to this dosnt file for divorce rite away specially no kids well that not a man and why the wife asked
Open relationships doesn't work most times. there are clear data on that and the few that it did work witness it doesn't for everyone that does it.
An other thing is a person that truly loves someone can't see others that way not even at low times and manipulative individuals trying on them.
Those that wants have attachment and bonding issues with not being able to love people fully.
When someone comes with anything of that nature set your business in order to end everything and just use them for the time being and begin to look for a real partner and then leave them without fighting.