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My retired husband used to love to drive me to work everyday. We would drink a coffee and have wonderful chats on the 40 minute drive. Then he would be waiting for me (with another coffee) when I was done work for the day. It was our special time to spend together, uninterrupted each day. Someone noticed him driving me and reported me to HR as an abused women whose husband was controlling me. They just couldn't understand why I would have him drive me rather than driving myself. It was quite the ordeal I was put through, explaining I wasn't abused or controlled, I just actually enjoyed my husband's company. He passed away 3 years ago, and his taking care of me that way is a very fond memory I have of him.
Hello Gardens mom. I am fond to hear what you and your husband had done to spend time, special bonding time over coffee while he drove you to and from work. My interpretation is that you let your husband feel that he is needed, he must of felt that he is wanting to make sure you are safe when he offers, wanting to not let you drive alone to and from work. Also, having a conversation that will not be interrupted does help the communication between you two that can only increase your bond and desire for one another. The drive shows me that he still wants to be there for you and loves to make time to be with you. Ignore how others interpret your lovely experience and relationship you have with your husband. I think its the little things partners, your husband, do and have done that touch our hearts the most. The people who act negatively shows how they have an immature emotional connection they have wit their partners. These people have jealousy in their hearts and must of had terrible experiences with their significant others. Well, SHAME on them! And God bless you and your husband for having making special memories no matter what you do to achieve positive and loving memories. I love to see couples who have been together for a significant amount of time and do the tasks together that strengthen your love and bond. I am happy that you have those memories, yet, sad to hear of your loss. Both of you seem blessed to have one another. Have a great and blessed rest of your life.
@@user-my2eo9lo1y you are absolutely correct when you mentioned he was taking care of me. He was making sure I was safe, especially in the winter months. I miss him very much, and I am so thankful I had such a wonderful husband.
Seriously, this Man is Magnificient!! Every time I listen to him, I’m finding my Feminine Self arising more & more! I’m finally giving myself 100% permission in expressing my Authentic Feminine Energy Self, no matter what my “what if?” worried limbic part of me begins to chatter up! Thank you Sooo much for this interview! It’s a must listen to again and again👍Ladies lets bring back our feminine energy and re-empower our Men! They NEED us, in order to LIVE! And we NEED them to be fully empowered so we can LIVE!❤️
I was talking over the phone with my BF a couple of weeks ago. When I told him that I am feeling emotional today, and told him maybe my progesterone hormones are low. Then I said I will need to eat more food that builds up progesterone. He said that’s why he got attracted to me because I am a strong woman but he understands that I am also an imperfect person that will also feel emotional once in a while. So, it’s okay to feel emotional. 😊 I think he did not feel that I blamed him what I feel at that time because I blamed the hormones, not him!😊😜
This precious man has saved my life in a way. I found him thinking I was going to understand more for just my own relationship issues... however after literally binge watching days and weeks...I saw my parents patterns and could see all this family dysfunction and understand my own self worth issues. Unbelievable.
@@springfauna1465 yes many said this is easy to said than done only bc most women can't locate their logic above their emotion. Most are enslaved by their emotion. When you aren't afraid to lose any men, you will AUTOMATICALLY act high value. Men crave for pleasure but they also addicted to pain, why men chase women who hurt them the most. Nothing complicated in the world of dating once you understand how men psychology works. Applying pain and pleasure is lethal weapon and strategy on men.
I’m a divorced woman who has done a lot of dating . One man perused me and I fell hard for him quickly but then he pulled away. After listening to many of your videos I realized I jumped in too quickly ( which I feel was in response to his excitement in dating me) So we have still been in each others life ( because we work together) He has flirted ever since ( 6 months now ) so recently we got back together again physically. He says he isn’t sure what he wants in a relationship . I’m giving him all the space he needs being happy with myself . It’s very hard because many things I have loved about him. But I know he needs to know what he wants and has to come to me. I’ve tried moving on from him and have dated for several years so I know he’s the one I’m happiest with. 🙁
You attract men by being happy. Job of man to make woman feel safe to be herself, but should not be only focus of happiness. Otherwise not the right man for her. When you’re complaining or letting off steam, just tell him in advance you don’t need him to fix your problems just be there to listen.
I won’t have sex before marriage. Lots of men ask me out but they’re not ok with not having sex. I don’t want a man to degrade me. I have a great self esteem and I don’t need that to feel complete. I absolutely love sex, however I have learned that if a woman gives up her body to the man he thinks he can have a play wife without a commitment. I don’t want to play house.
@@a.Bader97 I’m Christian! My beliefs. I believe that God is the creator of all creation . That He sent Jesus his Son to earth through the Virgin Mary. Jesus died on the cross for all humanity & He rose on the 3rd day. On the cross as He took his last breath He said, “it is finished “, meaning the debt has been paid... We were bought at a ric price & Jesus’ blood paid for our sin. Even though His blood covers our sin that should never make us not care about sinning. I have a personal relationship with Jesus so why would I want to be flippant about sin? If I’m married and I love my spouse why would I want to be flippant about hurting my spouse. I could say, oh well I know he loves me & will forgive me. With that kind of attitude I will tarnish the relationship bcz he’ll eventually feel that I don’t love him. God will feel the same way, but the the big difference is He will keep on loving us, our spouse may not. The Holy Bible (God) teaches this way. The thing is, most Christian’s live in a hypocritical way. There’s no such thing as a perfect person, with that said; when Christian’s sin intentionally they’re playing the hypocrite. As Christian’s we’re supposed to put our full trust in God, in doing so, He gives us the ability to die to our sins. The only way we’re able to do that is to put “The Full Armor Of God” on daily. Going to church weekly isn’t enough to fight against Satan’s daily attacks. The Ten Commandments is our guide. Jesus said, I didn’t come to abolish the law I came to fulfill the law. Thank God! Our hearts matter... If a man looks with lust at a woman he already committed adultery with her in his heart. Hate is the same thing as killing etc... God looks at our hearts just our outward deeds. I don’t think I’m a good person, in fact I think I’m rotten! The only good in me is Christ. Knowing that He’s the good in me keeps me asking for His guidance daily. Left to my own Devices I will Succumb to sin. I prefer to have peace! I have a personal relationship with God! Religion is about men controlling people by twisting God’s word. Religious Men typically want to control women while they break the Ten Commandments in full. They’re adulterers in their hearts and sometimes they commit physical adultery, they are hateful & sometimes they commit murder and so on... They break the First Commandment by making themselves a (little nothing) god...
@@a.Bader97 He is physically the Son of God . There’s so many scriptures that point that Jesus is the Son of God!!! Jesus is the Son of God in human flesh LUKE 1:30-35. Even the demons know Jesus is the Son of God, “whenever the evil spirits saw Him they fell down before Him and cried out, “you are the Son of God”. MARK 3:11. Without the Holy Spirit inside of us the Bible is just mumble jumble... If we read the Bible and ask God to make His words clear to us He will. If we read the Bible & make His words be what we want them to be we are making ourselves a god... The Ten Commandments are external, before Jesus came to earth. Men couldn’t keep the law bcz The Law wasn’t in their hearts... Jesus came and died on the cross so the Law would become internal when we believe that He shed his blood for our sins. Immediately His Spirit comes inside of us to dwell with us. When the law was external we didn’t have the power to not sin... When we ask Jesus into our hearts His spirit now gives us the power to not sin... We have to use that spirit not to sin by reading The Bible, going to church to worship God & be with other believers and multiple other readings & Christian RUclipss. We have to be careful not to get sucked into a false prophet. That’s where reading the Holy Bible comes in handy... The word Christian means following Christ teaching. We’re supposed to Emulate Christ. When we don’t atheist will call us hypocrites & say that they would rather not believe that act like a Christian. I think Atheist are self righteous or anybody else that doesn’t believe in God. The problem with this word is everybody is looking at how others are behaving inside of looking at themselves in the mirror. God has placed himself as our creator in our hearts and he has placed the law into our hearts. If you look at a building you know for a fact that there was a builder... Creation points to a creator... Nothing can’t create everything... I know I gave you more than you asked for, sorry I couldn’t help myself bcz I love the Lord!
Dr. Gray....the times I have said" I just need you right now" too my mate...he has put me off or said "I'm acting all needy". Being vulnerable at times and asking for what I want was hard and yet not once did I have the mate stand strong for me. I'm 56 and single....Happy and Thriving 😁💜 Just being me
36:00 Wow Dr Gray NAILED IT! Such clarity on women, I think he’s the only expert who consistently gets it so right. It makes so much sense. Thanks to his relentless study, observation and persistence in spelling it out and getting it out to people in an accessible way, I am able to understand and live my feminine life in a happy and fulfilled way. Thank you John and Michelle 😊❤️
Absolutely, I tell people that as a strong woman I still need help. And it's the simple things, cooking me a meal or making me a cup of tea when I'm tired. Helping with the driving and the shipping and coming home to a clean house sometimes. And thankfully, my boyfriend does all of this for me ... Incredibly attractive when insist on me walking in the inside of the road or when he insists on carrying my bag.... thank you for reinforcing this
I love these videos. I am seriously enjoying them. The amount of emotional intelligence this man has aquired for himself and shares with us, is huge and very valuable for people like myself who keep finding themselves lost in the wilderness.
The best way for me to get into my female energy is listen to music that makes me feel something. I do this before a date. Not only does it put me in a loving mood, it relaxes me. Better than thinking about problems, petty or otherwise.
Dr Gray is so good at explaining things about relationships. I will say, though, that there are a lot of men who look at things from of the perspective of ‘what are you going to do for me?’ it makes me want to just stay single.
Since watching you, Michelle, and Dr. Gray, I have quickly made changes that allow me to soften. And importantly, soften to him. It’s helping us to keep the sweetness going together. Wow, thank you.
I have listened to this video more than once. I am hearing the overthinking part and turning them into words for the first time. I am going to re-watch it and makes notes. Michele, I didn't know you got married at 43. You give me hope. I am on the right path. Thank you so much.
I really enjoyed this talk, it actually taught me a lot about myself as a female. Needing to practice feeling the little emotions and giving words to them. Also needing to connect more to my feminine side.
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This man is a godsend! Read many of his books and I indeed wondered about the female giving. And I agree, I love driving, do not have my own car and would love to get more minutes driving, but I love it so much to lean back when a guy drives me!
Mr.John talking about hormones and its importance in women and men explains the importance of companionship to grow as a healthy person both mentally and physically.
What happens if the woman wants to be a stay at home mom? And all these men expect the woman to work to bring in more money into the family? Raising children is a beautiful and amazing profession - raising up the future leaders and creative minds for the world! I have worked and had a career - it’s empty and void of the love and joy of being a mother!!
Thank you Michelle and John... This is a very passionate topic on how we can all balance our relationship to opposite sex. Thank you for discussing both male and female side. Being fulfilled in oneself will lead to more giving and appreciation... So we can connect from being full and not scarcity and neediness. Earn his love... By making him feel successful in giving you your need. Be the one to talk more so he can listen more to bond to you.... Great insights ❤️♥️💕 Love this 😘
This is all good. But many many men are emotionally unavailable they were conditioned and raised that way. Its hard enough to get them to have a general conversation moreover to get him to connect to his female side to be willing to want to satisfy a women (for that being part of his God given role)
I am grateful and thankful to you Lewis and Dr. Joe Despenza for sharing your thoughts and knowledge about change your energy, start focusing on past present and especially the future. I am hoping to get back to other topics I missed. I look forward to the future,... he,he,he 😊♥️
Great video! I have been allowing men to make plans for dates etc. However, they seem to expect more from me when I allow this. I'm just dating so I'm not interested in sleeping with men on first dates. Hopefully Dr. Gray can provide ways to handle this issue during a future video.
I really appreciate these videos. At times it’s hard to digest. I am early 50s divorced lady who has been a single Mom for about 10yrs. I had to really grind and get my career going to support me and my daughter as her Father (my ex husband) became addicted to prescription meds and alcohol and couldn’t or wouldn’t work. So it’s been all on me for years and it’s hard for me to trust that a man would or even could be able to help support me and my daughter. I feel like so much of my needs are impossible for any man to fill. Like I would need Jesus himself to be my husband 😂 because my life is so demanding. It hurts my heart to talk like this but it’s the truth. I just don’t trust that a man could even hang with me and how much I have to do just to keep our life style together.
May I ask you this question??? Is it really you can not trust another man or is it Maybe you don’t trust yourself. My story ........I let go finally as a busy independent business women also a single mum of 3 small children (with no money or help from my ex husband). I met the man of my dreams who took on the challenge of my independence and 3 children. He is such a blessing. I have done a lot of internal work with a therapist. I make sure every day that I appreciate him for all he does. I ask him ie.......could he please take out garbage, or can you drive me, can you pick this up for me, knowing full well I CAN do these tasks myself ......I know he feels like his an amazing partner to me and my children. If he said he can’t do it I don’t get upset as I did it before he came into my life and it’s ok. It goes so much deeper and don’t want to get into the depths of all I have learnt. We all deserve to love and be loved. ❤️❤️❤️ Please don’t give up, like Johnn said be happy with yourself first, once you embrace internal happiness life is easier. Don’t give to much of yourself only what you can.
I can relate as a divorced, single mom of two with minimal support from my ex. I feel like I’m in thick of such a challenging place in my life. I’m way into my male side out of necessity. I just started dating and I can’t imagine moving into a long term relationship until my children are both in college/career phase. Grateful for these spaces to know we are not the only ones in these situations.
Thank you John and Michelle for this talk! I am learning so much about relationships from your work 🙏 I am divorced and in a new relationship with a man who is also divorced. I would love to know John’s advice for people who are starting new relationships after the divorce. Thank you 🙏
He has a book “Mars and Venus Starting Over.” I bought it for my brother who was getting divorced. And read some of it (just in case) before mailing it to him. Great book!
About opening the door, what if he unlocks the car door when he's on his side of the car & ur on the other side waiting for him to unlock it so u can get in on ur side. Ur suppose to wait there for him to walk around & open the door for u to get in when he knows are there waiting for the door to be unlocked? What's ur advice on that scenario?
I wish he would listen to me. I am a very quiet Person but when I start to tell him something, he is not listening. He interrupts me, he stops listening, picks up his phone, just don‘t cares, allthough I know he loves me. I feel alone. What is this? How can I tell him that this let me feel allone and not safe when he is just not listening to that?
Just tell him ... can I share something ? It’s not a big deal I just want you us to understand us. It’s not a big deal. But say it in a loving girly girly sweet voice.so he will not be defensive. This is how Ifeel when I want to share to you about how i feel, I know you are all ears to me but sometimes with this “ stupid hormones of mine makes me feel emotional when It seems like you get distracted while I’m talking “ I know it just happens coincidentally, but I just want to share that to you. But it’s not a big deal. I just want to share to you.
This is extremely helpful and insightful information. It ALL makes sense. The bio-hack stuff sounds like a legitimate avenue to pursue as well (also the food chemical and estrogen/ testosterone link). Thank you, John, for continuing to share your valuable insights and advice and Michelle for your real-life examples as well and for hosting John.
There is a guy I went out for 6 times, is acting distant/cold, I asked if there is something I did, he said nop, nop, but then he's obviously being distance all the sudden, so I just lean back without knowing why? Or just time will tell??
Lol I’ve been using the it’s a good idea line and yes that makes sense for a couple phone calls now, and just switch to what I wanted to talk about, and he seems so happy lol 🤣🤣🤣
We are told to never blame bad treatment on others. Is it always my own fault then? Good (and sad) to hear it confirmed though, that today's men are not as masculine and pursuing the woman, and women are more masculine due to deep stress and having to manage alone on our own. Mr Gray teaches well and compassionately about existing relationships. I need personal guidance for the emailing pre-stage of dating in a dire situation.Wanting response to my profile in order to orientate and find my level of initial interest and matching. And for him to then to plan a date.
Hello John ... Realy🤭. I must let go? 😮 lol lol ok i cant wait to long then im to old lol.. Thank you nice to listen to all your videos.. Regards Willa 🤭
Amen. This is the problem with alot of women. The moment they meet a guy or commit they forget all about what they stand for and will throw out all of their morals, values and even rights just to commit or have that bond with a man. This is the harsh truth. Some women need to stop blaming men for blocking their rights or opportunities..its THEM who keep women down not men. Stop being daddy's little girl and never depend on others when it comes to your happines
Hi, I love the videos you post. Love the videos with Dr Gray. In many videos he has said create a positive dating experience not to focus on finding the one. Im having difficulty creating this. Im not being asked on dates which makes it frustating.
I agree we must not think another person can fulfill us. But, fulfillment does not come "from within us". It comes only from knowing Jesus Christ. Truth!
My man said that he wants me to be submissive . I’m like wait what!??? How can I discern the difference between him just abusing that control and or being more in my feminine ??
This sharing is extremely captivating to me! I can get a deeply better understanding of psychological and biological process between men and women in love. I love it so much! I would rewind it everyday, I guess. Thank you so much, Michelle and John. I really appreciate for all of that. The questions you asked and the answers he provided are exactly what I want to know. I have "Man from Mars, Women from Venus" book in hands. In this video, you did mention his new book, may I know the book's name please?
I totally liked the idea of creating positive dating experiences but my concern is if we spend lot of time behind one guy ain't we wasting a lot of time+we have pressures from parents as well about why the proposals ain't working... What are your views on dis? Just concerned about age ,if we are going to spend lot of time behind one guy
Agreed But I know once I move on to another guy .,I feel uncertainty when it will happen once it happens I lost interest in the first one . I feel I can't see different men at the same time. Some beliefs in me are guess are holding me back to do so. I hate to be attached to a man is not progressing the relationship. I feel I have a very slow way to detached from a man I like ,and jump to another one grrrrrrrrr. So much inner work to solved
Mr. Grey, thank you so very much 💖 You just answered my prayers. 🙏🏾 I have all of your books. 📚 I been cleaving to your advice since my early 20's I am now 48. I know my organic worth, because of you 2nd. However, my God Jehovah 1st. 😉 Thanks again! You're awesome 👌🏾
@@nxo-wp4bs Actually it's because men are not doing ENOUGH. They're being spoonfed by their parents from an early age and all through puberty so they no longer understand what it means for them to become a MAN as opposed to just a male. That's my humble opinion anyway.
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My retired husband used to love to drive me to work everyday. We would drink a coffee and have wonderful chats on the 40 minute drive. Then he would be waiting for me (with another coffee) when I was done work for the day. It was our special time to spend together, uninterrupted each day. Someone noticed him driving me and reported me to HR as an abused women whose husband was controlling me. They just couldn't understand why I would have him drive me rather than driving myself. It was quite the ordeal I was put through, explaining I wasn't abused or controlled, I just actually enjoyed my husband's company. He passed away 3 years ago, and his taking care of me that way is a very fond memory I have of him.
What a sweet memory of your kind husband. It sounds like he loved you very much. Thanks for watching and thanks for sharing too!
Hello Gardens mom. I am fond to hear what you and your husband had done to spend time, special bonding time over coffee while he drove you to and from work. My interpretation is that you let your husband feel that he is needed, he must of felt that he is wanting to make sure you are safe when he offers, wanting to not let you drive alone to and from work. Also, having a conversation that will not be interrupted does help the communication between you two that can only increase your bond and desire for one another. The drive shows me that he still wants to be there for you and loves to make time to be with you. Ignore how others interpret your lovely experience and relationship you have with your husband. I think its the little things partners, your husband, do and have done that touch our hearts the most. The people who act negatively shows how they have an immature emotional connection they have wit their partners. These people have jealousy in their hearts and must of had terrible experiences with their significant others. Well, SHAME on them! And God bless you and your husband for having making special memories no matter what you do to achieve positive and loving memories. I love to see couples who have been together for a significant amount of time and do the tasks together that strengthen your love and bond. I am happy that you have those memories, yet, sad to hear of your loss. Both of you seem blessed to have one another. Have a great and blessed rest of your life.
@@user-my2eo9lo1y you are absolutely correct when you mentioned he was taking care of me. He was making sure I was safe, especially in the winter months. I miss him very much, and I am so thankful I had such a wonderful husband.
@@sarahjaynescott545 thank you Sarah. It is a crazy society sometimes, Isn't it.
My husband drives me all the time..sweet, isn’t it?
Final words: Be yourself ladies, the right one will crave you and everything you are. ❤
That's a good way to put it. Thanks for watching!
Happy you said that - needed to hear that !
Where is “he”?
Did mine die in the war ?????
I doubt it
He just made me realize that I'm ok mostly, I just need to stop sabotaging myself. He's so easy to understand.
Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
Seriously, this Man is Magnificient!! Every time I listen to him, I’m finding my Feminine Self arising more & more! I’m finally giving myself 100% permission in expressing my Authentic Feminine Energy Self, no matter what my “what if?” worried limbic part of me begins to chatter up! Thank you Sooo much for this interview! It’s a must listen to again and again👍Ladies lets bring back our feminine energy and re-empower our Men! They NEED us, in order to LIVE! And we NEED them to be fully empowered so we can LIVE!❤️
I love the last line!!
Loved the part when you said the woman does not have to do anything. Just to be authentic.
That's right Jeadrey! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
Be satisfied in your own skin and the world around you will come into alignment.
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This❤🤗😘💜
Exactly!!
How? 🥺
I was talking over the phone with my BF a couple of weeks ago. When I told him that I am feeling emotional today, and told him maybe my progesterone hormones are low. Then I said I will need to eat more food that builds up progesterone. He said that’s why he got attracted to me because I am a strong woman but he understands that I am also an imperfect person that will also feel emotional once in a while. So, it’s okay to feel emotional. 😊 I think he did not feel that I blamed him what I feel at that time because I blamed the hormones, not him!😊😜
This precious man has saved my life in a way. I found him thinking I was going to understand more for just my own relationship issues... however after literally binge watching days and weeks...I saw my parents patterns and could see all this family dysfunction and understand my own self worth issues. Unbelievable.
Thanks for watching and for your comments too Lisa!
Wow
Women only become weak when she is afraid to lose him, period.
That can be true. Thanks for watching and for your comment too.
That's the key right there!! You must always be willing to walk away and keep your standards in place!!
@@springfauna1465 That's right! Thanks for watching!
@@springfauna1465 yes many said this is easy to said than done only bc most women can't locate their logic above their emotion. Most are enslaved by their emotion. When you aren't afraid to lose any men, you will AUTOMATICALLY act high value. Men crave for pleasure but they also addicted to pain, why men chase women who hurt them the most. Nothing complicated in the world of dating once you understand how men psychology works. Applying pain and pleasure is lethal weapon and strategy on men.
@@fireeye33 Lol, I couldn't agree more!! Well said.
I’m a divorced woman who has done a lot of dating . One man perused me and I fell hard for him quickly but then he pulled away. After listening to many of your videos I realized I jumped in too quickly ( which I feel was in response to his excitement in dating me)
So we have still been in each others life ( because we work together)
He has flirted ever since ( 6 months now ) so recently we got back together again physically. He says he isn’t sure what he wants in a relationship . I’m giving him all the space he needs being happy with myself . It’s very hard because many things I have loved about him. But I know he needs to know what he wants and has to come to me. I’ve tried moving on from him and have dated for several years so I know he’s the one I’m happiest with. 🙁
You attract men by being happy. Job of man to make woman feel safe to be herself, but should not be only focus of happiness. Otherwise not the right man for her. When you’re complaining or letting off steam, just tell him in advance you don’t need him to fix your problems just be there to listen.
That's right! Thanks for watching!
I won’t have sex before marriage. Lots of men ask me out but they’re not ok with not having sex. I don’t want a man to degrade me. I have a great self esteem and I don’t need that to feel complete. I absolutely love sex, however I have learned that if a woman gives up her body to the man he thinks he can have a play wife without a commitment. I don’t want to play house.
Amen to that.
Very good mindset. This is exactly that Islam teaches, what are your spiritual beliefs?
@@a.Bader97 I’m Christian! My beliefs. I believe that God is the creator of all creation . That He sent Jesus his Son to earth through the Virgin Mary. Jesus died on the cross for all humanity & He rose on the 3rd day. On the cross as He took his last breath He said, “it is finished “, meaning the debt has been paid... We were bought at a ric price & Jesus’ blood paid for our sin. Even though His blood covers our sin that should never make us not care about sinning. I have a personal relationship with Jesus so why would I want to be flippant about sin? If I’m married and I love my spouse why would I want to be flippant about hurting my spouse. I could say, oh well I know he loves me & will forgive me. With that kind of attitude I will tarnish the relationship bcz he’ll eventually feel that I don’t love him. God will feel the same way, but the the big difference is He will keep on loving us, our spouse may not. The Holy Bible (God) teaches this way. The thing is, most Christian’s live in a hypocritical way. There’s no such thing as a perfect person, with that said; when Christian’s sin intentionally they’re playing the hypocrite. As Christian’s we’re supposed to put our full trust in God, in doing so, He gives us the ability to die to our sins. The only way we’re able to do that is to put “The Full Armor Of God” on daily. Going to church weekly isn’t enough to fight against Satan’s daily attacks. The Ten Commandments is our guide. Jesus said, I didn’t come to abolish the law I came to fulfill the law. Thank God! Our hearts matter... If a man looks with lust at a woman he already committed adultery with her in his heart. Hate is the same thing as killing etc... God looks at our hearts just our outward deeds. I don’t think I’m a good person, in fact I think I’m rotten! The only good in me is Christ. Knowing that He’s the good in me keeps me asking for His guidance daily. Left to my own Devices I will Succumb to sin. I prefer to have peace! I have a personal relationship with God! Religion is about men controlling people by twisting God’s word. Religious Men typically want to control women while they break the Ten Commandments in full. They’re adulterers in their hearts and sometimes they commit physical adultery, they are hateful & sometimes they commit murder and so on... They break the First Commandment by making themselves a (little nothing) god...
@@marshareed1438 Thank you for the in-depth response. Can i ask, do you believe Jesus is physically the son of God, or is it a metaphor?
@@a.Bader97 He is physically the Son of God . There’s so many scriptures that point that Jesus is the Son of God!!! Jesus is the Son of God in human flesh LUKE 1:30-35. Even the demons know Jesus is the Son of God, “whenever the evil spirits saw Him they fell down before Him and cried out, “you are the Son of God”. MARK 3:11. Without the Holy Spirit inside of us the Bible is just mumble jumble... If we read the Bible and ask God to make His words clear to us He will. If we read the Bible & make His words be what we want them to be we are making ourselves a god... The Ten Commandments are external, before Jesus came to earth. Men couldn’t keep the law bcz The Law wasn’t in their hearts... Jesus came and died on the cross so the Law would become internal when we believe that He shed his blood for our sins. Immediately His Spirit comes inside of us to dwell with us. When the law was external we didn’t have the power to not sin... When we ask Jesus into our hearts His spirit now gives us the power to not sin... We have to use that spirit not to sin by reading The Bible, going to church to worship God & be with other believers and multiple other readings & Christian RUclipss. We have to be careful not to get sucked into a false prophet. That’s where reading the Holy Bible comes in handy... The word Christian means following Christ teaching. We’re supposed to Emulate Christ. When we don’t atheist will call us hypocrites & say that they would rather not believe that act like a Christian. I think Atheist are self righteous or anybody else that doesn’t believe in God. The problem with this word is everybody is looking at how others are behaving inside of looking at themselves in the mirror. God has placed himself as our creator in our hearts and he has placed the law into our hearts. If you look at a building you know for a fact that there was a builder... Creation points to a creator... Nothing can’t create everything... I know I gave you more than you asked for, sorry I couldn’t help myself bcz I love the Lord!
Dr. Gray....the times I have said" I just need you right now" too my mate...he has put me off or said "I'm acting all needy". Being vulnerable at times and asking for what I want was hard and yet not once did I have the mate stand strong for me. I'm 56 and single....Happy and Thriving 😁💜 Just being me
36:00 Wow Dr Gray NAILED IT! Such clarity on women, I think he’s the only expert who consistently gets it so right. It makes so much sense. Thanks to his relentless study, observation and persistence in spelling it out and getting it out to people in an accessible way, I am able to understand and live my feminine life in a happy and fulfilled way. Thank you John and Michelle 😊❤️
I'm glad you found it helpful. Thanks for watching and for your comments!
Wow! This is the first time anyone has put men in perspective in a guinuine way thank you! Your awesome!
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching Amanda!
Absolutely, I tell people that as a strong woman I still need help. And it's the simple things, cooking me a meal or making me a cup of tea when I'm tired. Helping with the driving and the shipping and coming home to a clean house sometimes. And thankfully, my boyfriend does all of this for me ... Incredibly attractive when insist on me walking in the inside of the road or when he insists on carrying my bag.... thank you for reinforcing this
I love these videos. I am seriously enjoying them. The amount of emotional intelligence this man has aquired for himself and shares with us, is huge and very valuable for people like myself who keep finding themselves lost in the wilderness.
Thanks for watching and for your comments too Chrysi!
Now 10000000000 of woman in Spain,India,China and no men!!!!!!!!!! So please be realistic
The best way for me to get into my female energy is listen to music that makes me feel something. I do this before a date. Not only does it put me in a loving mood, it relaxes me. Better than thinking about problems, petty or otherwise.
Dr Gray is so good at explaining things about relationships. I will say, though, that there are a lot of men who look at things from of the perspective of ‘what are you going to do for me?’ it makes me want to just stay single.
one of the very few John Gray youtube interviews where he was solid, didn't ramble and addressed each point, really solid interview!!!
I can listen to Dr Grey all day. He’s been a huge mentor for me.
Brilliant video this is exactly the right timing for me as so happy with my life and men seem to be appearing out of no where lol 😘
Perfect!
Since watching you, Michelle, and Dr. Gray, I have quickly made changes that allow me to soften. And importantly, soften to him. It’s helping us to keep the sweetness going together. Wow, thank you.
All my life I thought that I had to earn his love. Disaster! And really I just have to appreciate his care - that's a discovery for me today!
THANK YOU FOR SAYING. " KEEP THE CASTLE DOORS CLOSED"....❤😮❤
I have listened to this video more than once. I am hearing the overthinking part and turning them into words for the first time. I am going to re-watch it and makes notes.
Michele, I didn't know you got married at 43. You give me hope. I am on the right path. Thank you so much.
I really enjoyed this talk, it actually taught me a lot about myself as a female. Needing to practice feeling the little emotions and giving words to them. Also needing to connect more to my feminine side.
Love this ❤ it's great when Michelle and John have these insightful conversations! I learn so much 😊 Thank you!
🎉🎉🎉🎉 aqua 2/2 ❤❤❤ aww I love this reading nailed it 🌬️🌬️🌬️🌬️🌬️🌬️♒️♒️♒️♒️♒️♒️♒️♒️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️much love not sure where u all from but I’m from Southern California 🌴 love all ur readings Hilda here nice to meet you !!!
Michelle- love these with John Gray. Watching this one again.
I never looked at it like that before.
Interesting point of view.
My view was
Thanks for watching and for your comments too Tinaie!
This man is a godsend! Read many of his books and I indeed wondered about the female giving. And I agree, I love driving, do not have my own car and would love to get more minutes driving, but I love it so much to lean back when a guy drives me!
Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
Ik denk dat ey zakenvrouwen
Daarvan houden🤩🤩
I find his book samey although his original Mars and Venus one really was a major contribution to the gender debate.
Love the Virgin Mary in the grotto❤👌
Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too! :-)
Such wisdom in just work on making yourself happy and then the right man will come to you!! And that will make you happier!!
I love this. Thank you ❤
Thanks so much for watching and for your kind words too, Angy!
I feel so happy that I can be myself with you
Are you are so helpful when you did this
Thanks!
Thank you so much!
Mr.John talking about hormones and its importance in women and men explains the importance of companionship to grow as a healthy person both mentally and physically.
What happens if the woman wants to be a stay at home mom? And all these men expect the woman to work to bring in more money into the family? Raising children is a beautiful and amazing profession - raising up the future leaders and creative minds for the world! I have worked and had a career - it’s empty and void of the love and joy of being a mother!!
Before marriage a couple need to agree on what their roles will be.
Did you find a man
Thank you Michelle and John...
This is a very passionate topic on how we can all balance our relationship to opposite sex.
Thank you for discussing both male and female side. Being fulfilled in oneself will lead to more giving and appreciation... So we can connect from being full and not scarcity and neediness.
Earn his love... By making him feel successful in giving you your need.
Be the one to talk more so he can listen more to bond to you.... Great insights ❤️♥️💕
Love this 😘
You are soooo welcome!
This is all good. But many many men are emotionally unavailable they were conditioned and raised that way. Its hard enough to get them to have a general conversation moreover to get him to connect to his female side to be willing to want to satisfy a women (for that being part of his God given role)
I am grateful and thankful to you Lewis and Dr. Joe Despenza for sharing your thoughts and knowledge about change your energy, start focusing on past present and especially the future. I am hoping to get back to other topics I missed. I look forward to the future,... he,he,he 😊♥️
Amazing talk
My goodness, I’m his man is spot on. You asked him perfect questions.
Thanks for a wonderful message.
What a great video.
I've learned so much with these talks with John thank you so much Michelle 💕
You are so welcome! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
Great video! I have been allowing men to make plans for dates etc. However, they seem to expect more from me when I allow this. I'm just dating so I'm not interested in sleeping with men on first dates. Hopefully Dr. Gray can provide ways to handle this issue during a future video.
Thanks for watching and for your comments. You are not obligated just because someone has an expectation. Take care!
I really appreciate these videos. At times it’s hard to digest. I am early 50s divorced lady who has been a single Mom for about 10yrs. I had to really grind and get my career going to support me and my daughter as her Father (my ex husband) became addicted to prescription meds and alcohol and couldn’t or wouldn’t work. So it’s been all on me for years and it’s hard for me to trust that a man would or even could be able to help support me and my daughter. I feel like so much of my needs are impossible for any man to fill. Like I would need Jesus himself to be my husband 😂 because my life is so demanding. It hurts my heart to talk like this but it’s the truth. I just don’t trust that a man could even hang with me and how much I have to do just to keep our life style together.
May I ask you this question??? Is it really you can not trust another man or is it Maybe you don’t trust yourself.
My story ........I let go finally as a busy independent business women also a single mum of 3 small children (with no money or help from my ex husband). I met the man of my dreams who took on the challenge of my independence and 3 children. He is such a blessing.
I have done a lot of internal work with a therapist. I make sure every day that I appreciate him for all he does. I ask him ie.......could he please take out garbage, or can you drive me, can you pick this up for me, knowing full well I CAN do these tasks myself ......I know he feels like his an amazing partner to me and my children. If he said he can’t do it I don’t get upset as I did it before he came into my life and it’s ok. It goes so much deeper and don’t want to get into the depths of all I have learnt.
We all deserve to love and be loved. ❤️❤️❤️
Please don’t give up, like Johnn said be happy with yourself first, once you embrace internal happiness life is easier. Don’t give to much of yourself only what you can.
@@mandycalabrese8097 you are one of the lucky ones. Doesnt happen to most of us.
I can relate as a divorced, single mom of two with minimal support from my ex. I feel like I’m in thick of such a challenging place in my life. I’m way into my male side out of necessity.
I just started dating and I can’t imagine moving into a long term relationship until my children are both in college/career phase.
Grateful for these spaces to know we are not the only ones in these situations.
Thank you John and Michelle for this talk! I am learning so much about relationships from your work 🙏 I am divorced and in a new relationship with a man who is also divorced. I would love to know John’s advice for people who are starting new relationships after the divorce. Thank you 🙏
Thanks so much for watching Anna and for your comments too! Good luck in your new relationship too! xo
He has a book “Mars and Venus Starting Over.” I bought it for my brother who was getting divorced. And read some of it (just in case) before mailing it to him. Great book!
What about widows and widowers starting over and dating each other ?
About opening the door, what if he unlocks the car door when he's on his side of the car & ur on the other side waiting for him to unlock it so u can get in on ur side. Ur suppose to wait there for him to walk around & open the door for u to get in when he knows are there waiting for the door to be unlocked? What's ur advice on that scenario?
After listening to the entire show, I’m realizing how educated you both are.
This is a great discussion thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!
Love listening to relationships
Excellent Analysis, Observations and Ideas! Listen Up Ladiez!
Thank you kindly! We appreciate your kind words.
So easily put , now let's see.
Thank you for your words of advice 😊
Thanks so much for watching Sandra!
This is the only show I’ve watched til the last word. Thank you!!
Fantastic videos,ans so useful , so true and so clearly explained with great examples.
Oh my!!! Best quick response ever..
One of the best advice ever. Many thanks.
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching Maria!
Thank you both
I wish he would listen to me. I am a very quiet Person but when I start to tell him something, he is not listening. He interrupts me, he stops listening, picks up his phone, just don‘t cares, allthough I know he loves me. I feel alone. What is this? How can I tell him that this let me feel allone and not safe when he is just not listening to that?
Just tell him ... can I share something ? It’s not a big deal I just want you us to understand us. It’s not a big deal. But say it in a loving girly girly sweet voice.so he will not be defensive. This is how Ifeel when I want to share to you about how i feel, I know you are all ears to me but sometimes with this “ stupid hormones of mine makes me feel emotional when It seems like you get distracted while I’m talking “ I know it just happens coincidentally, but I just want to share that to you. But it’s not a big deal. I just want to share to you.
John ❤️
This is extremely helpful and insightful information. It ALL makes sense. The bio-hack stuff sounds like a legitimate avenue to pursue as well (also the food chemical and estrogen/ testosterone link). Thank you, John, for continuing to share your valuable insights and advice and Michelle for your real-life examples as well and for hosting John.
I would like to hear more for the man to reach out to the woman
thank you
I just need to know how to remember all of this lol❤
Those are facts!!!!
Yeah Men and women Happy year and getting thanks for sharing.
Thanks for watching Hoili!
The truth is, I am so happy especially when I can go a bit slower and savor the videos.🤗
The information you have shared is some of the very best!! Thank you !😊
Thanks so much for watching and for your comment too!
There is a guy I went out for 6 times, is acting distant/cold, I asked if there is something I did, he said nop, nop, but then he's obviously being distance all the sudden, so I just lean back without knowing why? Or just time will tell??
He may have issues he's hiding from you. How is his health? He might have ED.
Lol I’ve been using the it’s a good idea line and yes that makes sense for a couple phone calls now, and just switch to what I wanted to talk about, and he seems so happy lol 🤣🤣🤣
I can recommend you to the same person who helped me get my ex back without syress
What sap him 🌺
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5 minutes in & Wow! Yes nailed it so far for me (I'm 42 in a few days)
Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for watching and for your comments too Suze!
I really really like your video... Thanks!
Glad you liked it! Thanks for watching and for your comments too Landy!
All the men I’ve dated married girls that left them or cheated and also wanted me to have a power career. Their exes were literally like men
Omg. This is so true
I love this guy! Wish men knew this
We are told to never blame bad treatment on others. Is it always my own fault then? Good (and sad) to hear it confirmed though, that today's men are not as masculine and pursuing the woman, and women are more masculine due to deep stress and having to manage alone on our own.
Mr Gray teaches well and compassionately about existing relationships. I need personal guidance for the emailing pre-stage of dating in a dire situation.Wanting response to my profile in order to orientate and find my level of initial interest and matching. And for him to then to plan a date.
Absolutely Awesome Michelle & Gary this is life changing content and I truly appreciate it thanks so much for sharing 🦋💛
Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too LaKiesha!
@@MichelleMarchantJohnson Your welcome Michelle 💝
Thank you so much to both of you! It is so important to understand the role of chemicals and their role in relationships.
Thanks so much for watching Nicky and for your comments too!
This is groundbreaking
Thanks for watching! I'm so glad you enjoyed it!
When you ask for help and the man in your life doesn’t want to help.
Hello John ... Realy🤭.
I must let go? 😮 lol lol ok i cant wait to long then im to old lol.. Thank you nice to listen to all your videos..
Regards
Willa 🤭
Thank you for this amazing video!!! Great info.
You're very welcome, Katalin!
Thx Mr John 👍
2021 🙂🙃🙂
Amen. This is the problem with alot of women. The moment they meet a guy or commit they forget all about what they stand for and will throw out all of their morals, values and even rights just to commit or have that bond with a man. This is the harsh truth. Some women need to stop blaming men for blocking their rights or opportunities..its THEM who keep women down not men. Stop being daddy's little girl and never depend on others when it comes to your happines
Hi, I love the videos you post. Love the videos with Dr Gray. In many videos he has said create a positive dating experience not to focus on finding the one. Im having difficulty creating this. Im not being asked on dates which makes it frustating.
Great point
I agree we must not think another person can fulfill us. But, fulfillment does not come "from within us". It comes only from knowing Jesus Christ. Truth!
My man said that he wants me to be submissive . I’m like wait what!??? How can I discern the difference between him just abusing that control and or being more in my feminine ??
Submissive is never good !
@@killer94697 Depends on the submission.
Thanks alot guys
Thanks for watching and for your comments too!
This sharing is extremely captivating to me! I can get a deeply better understanding of psychological and biological process between men and women in love. I love it so much! I would rewind it everyday, I guess. Thank you so much, Michelle and John. I really appreciate for all of that. The questions you asked and the answers he provided are exactly what I want to know. I have "Man from Mars, Women from Venus" book in hands. In this video, you did mention his new book, may I know the book's name please?
Thanks so much for watching. His new book is called Beyond Mars and Venus. Take care!
@@MichelleMarchantJohnson Thanks a bunch, Michelle!
Poignant discussion 😊🎩
Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too Ravi!
I’m in the days before the period, the tension is building up, and there’s no romance to be found whatsoever 🤓📝😆 I m in serious trouble...
Chocolate chocolate chocolate ❤️😋
This one is behond awesome!!
Thank you for watching and for your comment too Pascalle! So glad you found it helpful!
I totally liked the idea of creating positive dating experiences but my concern is if we spend lot of time behind one guy ain't we wasting a lot of time+we have pressures from parents as well about why the proposals ain't working...
What are your views on dis? Just concerned about age ,if we are going to spend lot of time behind one guy
I think the idea is to create positive experiences with many guys not one guy. Thanks for watching and for your comments too Nikita! Take care!
Agreed
But I know once I move on to another guy .,I feel uncertainty when it will happen once it happens I lost interest in the first one . I feel I can't see different men at the same time. Some beliefs in me are guess are holding me back to do so. I hate to be attached to a man is not progressing the relationship. I feel I have a very slow way to detached from a man I like ,and jump to another one grrrrrrrrr. So much inner work to solved
Mr. Grey, thank you so very much 💖
You just answered my prayers. 🙏🏾
I have all of your books. 📚 I been cleaving to your advice since my early 20's I am now 48. I know my organic worth, because of you 2nd. However, my God Jehovah 1st. 😉
Thanks again!
You're awesome 👌🏾
Why are they stepping away from masculinity?
Because women are doing too much
Listen to John more...there's a lot of content out there...he explains it perfectly ❤✌
In part it is because many men do not have good role models and are taught that masculinity is toxic rather than how to be a healthy masculine man.
@@nxo-wp4bs Actually it's because men are not doing ENOUGH.
They're being spoonfed by their parents from an early age and all through puberty so they no longer understand what it means for them to become a MAN as opposed to just a male.
That's my humble opinion anyway.
Благодарим ви!
Thank you so much!