My dad was a quadriplegic all my life. I have no memory of him every standing. However, I have the best memories of my mom taking care of my dad with unconditional love. As they got older my mom was not physically able to care for him. He ended up spending the last 6 years of his life in a nursing home. Did that stop my mom from loving him daily? NO. She was there EVERYDAY still taking care of his simple needs. You two remind me so much of them. Unconditional love is unique, lovely, and priceless.
You really dodged a bullet by not going on the show! I was caregiver for my husband for the last 12 years of his life due to him having a series of strokes. It was difficult at times, but I would do it all over again in a heartbeat! It was such a privilege to be able to care for him. We continued to enjoy our life together and our love continued to grow. Thank you for your example of love - disability or no disability- you are a lovely couple!
My mom went through the same thing with my dad. He had a stroke at age 55 as well as a burst anyruesm. I took care of my dad for 3 years whilst my mom was working full day at the time. I resigned from work and gave 24 hrs notice to go look after my dad. My mom took care of my dad for 23 years. My dad sadly passed away in December 2020 he was 77 at the time. My mom said that she will do it all over again. They were school sweethearts since the age of 16 and got married at the age of 20. My mom will be 77 in July. She literally did everything for my dad. She even gave him pedicures😊my dad was privileged and blessed to have my mom as his wife and vice versa......
Yes, in sickness & in health. I had a professor in college who cared for her disabled husband up until his death a few years ago. She loved him and I'm sure it was difficult at times, but he stuck by her when she had breast cancer, so she stood by him through his disability.
I've only just joined this channel. It's so great. It will never be 100% but I do wonder if women are more inclined to be the caregiver than men are? To try and protect my partners I've always had professional carers in as well so that my partners (male) can work and live their life. Disability has certainly broken up my relationships.
My late husband was diagnosed when he was 17 years old with deschenes muscular. He was told that he from his late teens to his early 20s to live. We met when we were I believe 18. We met in passing at church as I was going to go eat with my boyfriend/fiance at the time. When I looked in that man's eyes something shot right through me. He was on of the "shut ins", he wasn't able to go to church very much. He was always on the prayer list and I was ALWAYS praying for him. Just a small preface there ... At the age of 27 on August 7,1994 my husband, Randy and I married. We had such a beautiful relationship. Yes I was his care giver as well. Anyways the point of this comment is to let people know that the statement from "Dr" Phil isn't true. I look at you two and how amazing y'all seem to be together. Kind of reminds me of my Randy and myself. Randy and I (of course with ups and downs and sometimes some really good "fights" (arguments)) We we're married for 21 years untill he passed away on June 1, 2015. My life hasn't been the same since he passed, but because of him my life was so much better. I was so much better. So y'all just don't listen to idiots like Phil. Enjoy each other as often as you can. If you ever get into a tift just think of him as your patient that you have to take care of and you can get through it 😂😂😂. JK You always know that they are someone you care for and love deeply, so even if you are mad, upset or whatever you still can give him the care he needs. That also goes for him, he can allow you to give that care where or not he is mad or upset. Listen at me giving advice where it wasn't asked for. I guess I'm more than anything reminiscing about my Hunny Bunny, who I miss so dearly. Continue to be blessed and be the blessing 🦋 Y'all are such an inspiration!!!
This is such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing yours and Randy's story with us all. Prayers for you and that many sweet memories help you thru each day.
Thank you for saying those words that really helped my heart. He is definitely missing, but left with 3 children that are so beautiful inside and out! I can see a lot of Randy in each of them and the grands as well.
i’m with hannah on this one. icebreakers and improv games make me so anxious and uncomfortable. i hate being put on the spot, especially in front of strangers😭 icebreakers are every introvert and shy person’s nightmare
I’ve got an upcoming brain surgery next week that I’m stressed about beyond belief. (Currently working on fundraising for it), and I just want you guys to know that your videos are the only things that are keeping me going mentally. Thank you.
I'm struggling mentally and yeah, watching them takes me away from all of that nonsense. Would it be possible to keep us updated on your surgery, somehow? Best wishes for a quick procedure and speedy recovery.
@@Killmaisy you’re so sweet. I’m going to make a RUclips channel documenting my medical journey (it’s a lot going on there) but I’m starting with my brain surgery. I’m hoping to get it going tonight. I won’t forget to come back and find you so you can follow. Thank you. 💜 I’m sorry that you’re struggling as well. Hang in there.
So glad you did not go on Dr Phil's show. Sadly, he does damage in many ways. I am a therapist, and have been concerned for what he is doing for a long time. I am glad you have made the video of your experience.
As a therapist, may I ask, what are you seeing in your mental health care community regarding this narrative/ agenda being pushed on children by radical presidents, prime ministers, politicians, academia, big tech, big pharma, big store brands, Hollywood, celebrities, music and fashion industry, disney, agencies like fda , cdc, who and others? They are openly targeting the under 30 crowd and young children by telling them doctors and parents where wrong about their sex at birth. Or that push to have them change genders, have life changing surgeries as minors and radical parents who seem to wanna push it on their kids too? I'm curious about what you think about this transgenderism agenda. Also it seems alot of the ecent shootings have been done by trans or non binary persons. There are people in medical arena speaking out in congressional hearings and news articles saying there really is no mental health care when people go in. They are just putting them on puberty blockers, breast surgeries and recommendations for sex surgeries on their first appointments. We are living in a scary time for children. Some states are trying to change laws to let minors make their own decisions, arrest and or fine parents for not affirming prounoun, name change or puberty blockers on minor children. Radical Tik tok influencers are asking minors to DM them or saying if your parents don't except you, I'll be your family. This is mentally and physically dangerous in my opinion. There's push by blue states to change the wording of pedo to maps! Unreal to find out that Instagram, Twitter, Amazon and fb use algorithms to hook pedos up with other pedos, children porn or help them sell and trade items within their fetishes. I'll stop there but I think you get my point. Id be intersection in what you are seeing or hearing in your profession and what you think about all of it. Thank you!
I saw that episode, and I actually remember thinking about you guys when Dr Phil told the girl “you CANNOT be both”……. *But* I also remember thinking that that advice is more appropriate to caregiver burnout. The problem was not that she was burnt out - the problem was that he was verbally abusive.
When you are caregiving, you have to really care about the person that you are caring for! My dad had Alzheimer's and my mother cared for him by herself. After he died my mother had a heart attack and got severe dementia & I was her full time caregiver. I could not have done it if I didn't love her! And now I am the caregiver for a woman who is a lot like my mother was, (physically fine but mentally cannot be left alone). The BIGGEST trick is that you have to do what is best for that person, not what is easiest for you. It is a very selfless job that most people are too selfish to do!
Glad you said NO to Dr. Phill. You are so opposite to the essence of his show. I like the message behind you program. Love your good sense of humour. I was very happily married ( 3O years ) to a very compassionate and understanding man who accepted my disability. During our courtship when I was listing all my limitations and possibility of being in a wheel chair and asked him how would he cope with being my caregiver. He replied: “ can you love me while sitting in your wheel chair? “ - “ YES, I can but what about you , will you keep on loving me after years of caregiving.? “ he replied… “ That is not the issue, I know what I want of life, I want you in my life!… We had such a wonderful life together , he had a super great sense of humour! I miss him.
It's absolutely pointless to post this comment, except to express my own feelings and yet here I go. I couldn't love you guys more. I've watched, listened, learned and loved. Thank you for existing.
I don’t like to speak negatively about other people, so I will only say that before anyone follows Dr. Phils advice, it is important that they take a look at his history, and learn why he is unable to practice in his field. Personally, I will not watch anything that he produces, and I am really glad that you are putting out this very honest video.
@@Teenywing I have a vague memory there were some issues so it’s not as simple as his failure to renew his license. Of course he can say he has his training and experience and that’s valid. I’m not sure if there are ethical issues in his current format on TV. He gives advice to people who obviously are not in a doctor /client relationship. I find him very prone to sensationalism.
Ok, 2 things: You guys are couple goals!! And, in the "hey-day" of Dr. Phil's tv life, when I watched (which wasn't very often);I remember feeling so uncomfortable with his antics, and felt very dubious of him as a professional. So glad you were discerning.
We don't often see someone except their opponents point of view in a debate and then go on to change their viewpoint. It was a beautiful thing to behold. Hannah and Shane have so much integrity and depth. Their channel is so badly needed out here in the vast lonely desert of shallow communication skills. Their education shows. And their humanity shows.
So many couples and so many channels and so much content and yet I feel stoked to have found Shane and Hannah. They are a special two of a kind in this crazy world, and they are just wonderful to listen to ❤️
I’m glad you guys stuck with your values instead of clout chasing. I think it ultimately paid off because your message is so clear and your following is like a big family.
As a single parent who struggled to raise her only child I also hated those 1st few days of school or even March break. Come to think of it the return from Christmas was also painful. Teachers insisted on asking the kids what they did over the summer or what they did for March break or what they got for Christmas. I think this is an absolutely horrible idea! All the rich kids in the class brag about Getting the latest greatest Tech equipment, video games etc, going to Aruba or Disneyland. While all the kids living close to or below the poverty line are left to be reminded, yet again, of how they live. It's horrible! Stopit.
Interesting that you have such a wide range of income levels in one classroom. Usually kids that go to Aruba for vacay don’t live in the same neighborhood as kids below poverty line 🤔
@barbara pierce I think that's pretty normal in Canada & the U.S. Regardless of if you attend public or private school. Even private schools have subsidized spaces. Although I can't speak to other countries I've not been to. Where I come from, you don't have to live in the same neighborhood to go to the same school. The school's "boarders" are determined by district. I was raised in a family that was able to afford vacations in my country & abroad. It was not lost on me however, that the child in the next desk didn't bring a lunch to school because they couldn't afford to send one.
Your old video discussing why you didn't do Dr Phil's show is where I first saw you two (a couple years ago?) and I fell into platonic love. 💞 I really respected the reasons you gave and it was obvious you two have a special kind of integrity. Can't wait to listen to today's episode.. I look forward to every Wednesday, lol 💜
Me too! I watched and enjoyed their videos before that episode aired. Their choice to not go on the Dr.Phil show is what made me respect them and become a true fan. More people need to have integrity and base their actions on what they believe is the right thing to do. This is especially true when money or fame tempt them to do the opposite. Also, Dr.Phil creeps me out, lol. I have always seen him as what gaslighting would look like if given human form. 😂
FOUR YEAR ANNIVERSARY?! I just realized I have been watching you guys for well over four years then haha.. I remember when you reached 100k! It has been so fun to follow you both. I also did like the game at the beginning, Shane. I am going to make my wife play it tonight at dinner. She will hate it.
I originally Found Your Channel because of the the We Said No To Dr Phil 😊 at the time I watched him all the time but y'all changed that for me So Thank You 💖 I'm Sending 💌 Y'all Lots Of Prayers 🙏 & Blessings 💕 In JESUS 🙌 Mighty Name Amen🌻
Fortunately, I really like watching y'all play those types of games. Unfortunately, Hannah is going to be less happy when she realizes a lot of people like it too and they request more of these games! 😂
OMG I don’t know if you’ll see this, but you just unlock a memory for me. The TLDR is that I just realized the misconception I had about caregiving in inter-able relationships came from this episode of Dr. Phil!!!!!!! I am so shocked that sat with me for so many years without even realizing it, so I completely understand the feeling of horror when this message was pushed to millions. I remember when I first started following you guys one of your videos y’all talked about intimacy and your relationship and Hannah said caregiving is a very intimate thing that you experience together. I remember when I first heard she does all of your care I was surprised, but I was like wow that’s beautiful that she sees it as intimacy and they’ve made it work. I couldn’t remember where I had heard that caregiving can never work in a relationship, but I was like so surprised by her explanation of what that means to your relationship that it made me question that narrative I had internalized. I began caregiving in high school when I babysat one of my teachers children that had spina bifida and i discovered I had an interest in caring for people. Then my first job was in the dining room at an assisted living facility for the elderly. when I turned 18 I began caregiving. I did that for a few years and absolutely loved it. I became very close with the resident. I absolutely loved my job. I also dabbled in home healthcare for a while, and that was also wonderful to take care of somebody. So I am a person who thoroughly enjoys caring for people, even if I do not have an existing intimate relationship with them. I say this backstory, because my personal experience alone should have caused me to question the narrative of that Dr. Phil episode, but I didn’t. Then I thought about ways I do caregiving in my relationship that might not be toileting or bathing, but are like taking care of somebody in different ways, and that is very intimate to me, it’s the way I show I care. I just had no idea that a seemingly small thing like an episode of Dr. Phil had left such an imprint on me to even question my own experiences. That’s just so crazy to me.
I love how much fun you have together. You are a great couple and your love for eachother makes me smile. Dr Phil is all about the ratings.. like a lot of tv /media is. Reality is no spectacle.. thank you for being real. 🥰
I liked Dr. Phil in the beginnings of his show, but now it’s become like a classy Maury Pauvich. The way he scolds people and shames them instead of trying to help them. Ugh.
I think you two are doing a great job of modeling what true love is to the whole world. I am going thru a rough patch in life and I think your videos have helped my wife and I get reconnected. Cute game, thanks so much for inspiring me.
“Am I the Axxhole” I had my air pods in my ear and walking around the store right now, listening to your episode, and I literally laughed out loud when Shane said that.😂😂😂😂😂
It’s about time someone stood up to Dr Phil. He is not a counselor, therapist or even a life coach. He is a provocateur and a Bully. This sounds like the one episode I would like to watch. I have so much respect for you both! 🏆
Looooved the Asshole game!!! One large element missing from the convo was that this particular doc is up close and very personal with his wife!!! That adds a whole new layer to the issue!
I just saw that episode last week and it stayed on my mind all week long and here you revisited it. I would find it unfortunately sad if I missed your podcast. Fortunately, I am thankful for youtube, most importantly grateful for both Shane and Hannah
For someone who hates this type of game Hannah fortunately gave it a try and did really well. Unfortunately she still hates this type of game. Fortunately Shane got all warmed up. Unfortunately she still hates this type of game. 😂
Catching up on watching your videos. So glad I watched this one, my first in a while. I thought the improv game part was hilarious. Your Dr. Phil story was really eye-opening. I’m so glad you guys didn’t go on the show. You guys are such a wonderful example of enduring love & a pleasure to listen to and watch!❤️
YES HANNAH I GET YOU! you're not alone. Those are the things I hated about first days of school or camp as well. You didn't even have to explain further when Shane asked you to. ❤
For years, I've been wishing the folks at Dr Phil, and Dr Phil himself will eventually apologize and celebrate your love & togetherness and your accomplishments in bringing awareness to differently abled persons and the obstacles they endure. I have a feeling he intends to be a good human, but in this instance, where you guys are concerned, I wish for him to see the light and do better. I'm going to keep putting that thought out there and hope it lands with him. You guys are Great!
I really enjoyed the improv. So funny. I believe Shane enjoys it because he is exceptionally talented in improv, a great comedian. Your job, dear Hannah, is to encourage his talents. You are very talented in different ways, so equal partners. Love each other!
I remember 4 years ago when this was happening to you, with Dr Phil. You're about to tell the story, I will comment on this when you are done. Love you guys ❤️ so , I just finished your video, I love the game you guys did in the beginning, however I am like Hannah, I don't like doing them personally. I hate in new situation's that I would have to do icebreaker questions. I always get tense and scared when it comes to my turn. Listening to your Dr Phil experience, I am so glad that you guys didn't go on the show, in the past I have watched Dr Phil and he twists the story, is rude and nasty, I don't watch him anymore. I'm just so happy that you guys didn't go on his show. I loved the end " Am I the Asshole" no one was the asshole, I agree. Love your podcast! And both of you! Keep doing amazing things, like you are already. Sending love ❤️ and hugs 🤗 to you both
I have been watching y’all for a long time, but in a very inconsistent manner. Every single time any of your content pops up on my recommended, I watch and enjoy so much. And every time I think why am I not watching these guys more often?! So I changed my notifications to “all” lol. Thanks for the great entertaining and honest content.
You aren't the only couple who said no to Dr. Phil. I believe the couple I know (both therapists) actually said no in the green room because they got a bait and switch for the set up of the show and were not going to go on air with the new set up. I agree with your analysis complexity on that couple.
I love listening to your podcasts! It makes me laugh and smile. I wait to listen to them when I have dishes, cleaning, laundry, etc. to do because it makes those chores less unpleasant, and I am more likely to do them because I get to listen to you two! Thank you both for sharing your humor and life with us!
I love you guys. At first I identified with Hannah's discomfort at improv...but by the end of the game I'm like, SHANE I LOVE THIS GAME! 😂 And then we talk shit on Dr. Phil?! This episode was magical. 😂❤
Change the playback speed to 1.5 or 1.75 if you don't have time to listen to the whole 35 minutes. It takes some getting used to to hear them talking that fast but I can listen to so much more of their content because I only have limited free time. To change the playback speed, touch the settings gear at the top right corner. When the options pop-up touch playback speed and choose your speed 😊
You guys could start a side channel that's Junkyard Improv. Shane could do all the speaking to alleviate Hannah's stress, and Hannah could do the actions and facial expressions. 🎉 Please? 😘
Hannah isn’t comfortable seeking out these types of humorously “icebreakers” because she’s more of an introvert. However; I was excited to listen to her and Shane volley about with fortunately and unfortunately! Hannah, you should pat yourself on the back as your “birdies” were on point. Definitely enjoyed today’s Junkyard Podcast. ❤
You two are hysterical ! You remind me so much of my husband and I, however we are both able bodied and have been married 38 years and counting. People ask us what the secret to our happy marriage is, and we tell them, humor and respect. Keep up the good work you two!
I love watching your videos. Just feel like I haven’t seen a Monday Grub Bag episode lately. Hope you are not going to stop those. I look forward to seeing you two on Monday and Wednesday.
Fortunately, I ran into you guys yesterday at Calif Disney. Unfortunately, I feel like we came off like total fan girls ! 🙈 Fortunately, you guys were very gracious . Shane you come up with some great game and convo ideas . The worst case scenarios or the segments where Hannah shares about an interest. Looking forward to trying some of these with friends and family. Appreciate the creativity 😊 Me’shell
The game was hilarious!!! Thankyou for the giggles guys!! I almost peed when Hanna did the rat sounds and face and then Shane said " oo oo aa aa oo oo aa aa " 😂😂😅
Thank you for this recap on Dr Phil's crude and ignorant stance. I'm so glad that you didn't take the episode with him, and chose to control the messaging about interabled couples and caregiving and what's possible and healthy. As a person in an an interabled relationship, I got a lot out of your own episode, and actually shared it widely. And I recently came across the actual Dr Phill episode that had aired, and it was really crushing. It made me question our relationship, and I was down for a few days, but then because I had watched it, your older video popped up in the algorithm... Thank God for you guys.. Literally. Liferaft.. Remembering the positive narrative and the number of interabled videos I had seen after yours, brought me back out of the depressing light he had spun on his own sad view of interabled couples... And I'm really glad you guys put this episode out here.. Because your timing couldn't have been better.... God bless you guys... And I thought the same thing you guys did about that couple.. There were bigger mental health issues that needed support, but that their caregiving was not the issue.. I do agree they needed support, and yes maybe some caregiving so she could get a break, especially while they worked through some of their bigger issues.. But ultimately I saw love there.. But love is not always enough, the relationship itself, between two people has to be healthy, regardless of disabilities. I'm so grateful for you guts. I would say I haven't watched too much of the chanell lately due to the kinda click baity titles. I love you guys for your open, honesty, and your humour, but the click bait kinda puts me off.. Just my thing. Do what ya gotta do to keep the views high because the more visible you are, the more awareness there is
Five stars ⭐️ ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ That was a really interesting episode. Improvisation is always fun. I’m going to try that one here at home. Haha It’s good that Hannah said feelings are to be validated not label as right or wrong. I LOVE the pure honesty in the dialogue between you guys. You make it look simple. Trust me, it’s not. By the way I stopped watching doctor Phil years ago when it became obvious his goal was not to heals people but to shock his audience for higher ratings.
I'm kind of thinking that the "Am I the Asshole" for this episode should be revisited when Hannah is in late second to third trimester pregnancy....😂 Pregnancy hormones can turn the difference of expecting a hot fudge sundae and receiving a chocolate syrup sundae into a huge tearful event!
I struggle with anxiety, depression and PMDD in my normal life but when I was pregnant all my hormones mellowed out. It was wild to feel “normal” and “calm” all the time
I agree. The fact that the father to be described his wife as overly emotional is actually fair. When you are pregnant your emotions are not normal. But dont say that to the pregnant person while they are pregnant. Also, the hormone issue takes awhile to settle back to normal after the birth.
From what I understand is that Dr Phil doesn’t have his License to practice any more yet when people come on like for possible child abuse cases, various crimes,etc, Dr Phil will come out and say, “you know I am a Mandated Reporter, which means I am obligated by law to report this”. I don’t think if he no longer practices he is a Mandated Reporter. 🤔
Wow, this episode seemed extra mayhem-y!! Dr. Phil and AITA are outrageous, and ice breakers/improv are my worst. Great idea to start the podcast with awkward games 😂 Thoroughly enjoying these, great work, you guys! What fun!!
Yep, I’m with Hannah, again. I don’t play games like that. I also am incredibly uncomfortable talking in front of a group of people, thanks to a horrible teacher, maaaaaany years ago, who made me stand on a small stage, in front of the whole class , for the whole class hour, when I was supposed to do a report on something, but I had stage fright.
@@saruhhhh yep, true. It’s nice that she agreed to play the game with Shane, eventhough it’s not her thing. I just mentioned what happened to me as a child, because sometimes it’s not a good thing to force someone to do something they’re very uncomfortable with. My teacher could have handled it much better.
I am conflicted. AITA is a good subreddit with many discussable situations. I wish they could rename it because I have this discomfort with that 😂😂word. Then when you two, well educated, articulate, sweet, sensitive young people need to use that word I am further dismayed. I believe it is possible to converse without resorting to “bad” words, and that people who feel they can’t adequately express themselves using “The King’s English” should be able to do better. Full disclosure, I am eighty years old and therefore probably out of tune with the current vernacular, so maybe that makes me the Asshole.
Fortunately Shane is a very positive…funny… smart and handsome man who has educated millions of people that you can live a happy life with a debilitating disease… Unfortunately there are not enough women in this world like Hannah. You two are the best !
@@davecummings6170 I think Hanna made a good point in the video: 'You're feelings are always valid'. How you express them and if your interactions with other people are solely based on those feelings or not is the important part. Feeling uncomfortable about sth that probably looks like a decline in manners and/or civility to you, is understandable, and you have enough self awareness that other people, maybe even many of them, might not think the way you do. And in the end you even used the 'bad' word kind of jokingly, so I get the impression you are a gentleman with values that might sometimes look oldfashioned, but who can laugh about himself, which is always a good sign. YNTA
Thank you so much for sharing there's so many inspirational messages in all you shared but my take away was how you can be so elated about a opportunity in front of you That you can easily make the wrong decision and jump in and just do it but you took the time to analyze the situation and decided it would best to say no and it turned out better and you got to visually see the Outcome if you were to have said yes that would have been disastrous. This is called wisdom in action. It's amazing how sometimes the hardest decision to say no when you really want to do something can turn out to be a blessing❤
I'm the type of person that will confront anyone that talks down to me and I would ask the Dr to his face of what his problem is with me. I have done this with one of my doctors and she changed her tone towards me and is very pleasant to me now. Stand up for yourself!!
I’m glad to see Shane having Hannah put herself in the situation. Seems like a lot of people always want to just side with the woman just because and it’s sad to see when it’s not always deserved.
Guys, I love this episode really much, especially the last part, AITA,. Brought me back to my master's years, in politics, where we would analise different situations. Keep going. Btw, you give 'sunday relax and joy' vibes🎉
I used to like Dr Phil years ago. Then I found out about the screening process to get on his show and I was thoroughly disgusted and I never watched again.
I'm not trying to be rude... I'm just surprised... but the screening is what did you in?? Not the fact that he sent children who clearly needed help and support to extremely abusive and dangerous "Camps"?? Or shaming people who are struggling with trauma by blaming them for their issues rather than helping? Just curious if these were also factors..
@@itsaliceinwonder7718 The screening exposed the motives of the Dr. Phil show, ie that he/his producers are cruel sensationalists that mock peoples' real problems and therefore harm and abuse "guests". So yes, I see them as one orbit.
@@itsaliceinwonder7718 to be fair, IIRC he was sending kids to those camps for some time before their issues were widely known. It’s possible that Heather learned other problematic behaviors before she knew about the camps
This is my third time watching you after accidentally finding you two! I absolutely love it! I love both of you and wish l knew you two personally. Great job!
There are 10's of thousands of partners physically caring for their partner. It might be more rare in younger years - 20's, 30's - but by 40's you have early stroke/heart attack, illness, accidents and you get into the 60's and you're starting to deal with more physical disabilities and dementias. It's crazy. My husband and I are interabled - and we've been married for 35 years.
OH MY GOSH THE first IMPROV!! THAT just made me laugh so hard and brought me joy. You are a hoot together. And very proud of you for not doing dr. phil, like honestly how does any one person THINK they are an expert on everything. I also have not watched him ever a full episode just seen clips to make you watch and thought not a chance. I think he degrades people. Not what a so called phsycologist is supposed to be about not doing. So hugs you did good. I think the as_hole situation is a lot of all the things you were suggesting but our guts usually tell us when things are just not right. And that guy asking if he was probably had a lot of bad feelings that were just gut feeling something is wrong. And what doctor would attack a first visit father with the purse thing is very non proffesional. I would probably have been mortified if I was carrying my purse cause I wanted to and the doctor said that to my husband. And me knowing my husband was probably mortified. She though thought it was fine?........on and on lol. That was fun too. hugs
I teach improv (you know the saying about those who can't), and Shane is so good! It takes another level of skill to make it interesting and fun when your partner isn't into the scenario, and he clearly demonstrated that skill - no shade to Hannah! The dynamics in your relationship are rich no matrer what you guys are doing. Shane you should be in an improv performance group! These types of games are so good for the psyche! Let go and see what comes to mind first. Speak before thinking! Perfectionism is a curse rooted in racism, so why not play some games to free the mind and creativity! All that said, I was the kid who hated these games, and now I love them so much I teach them to others because of how these activities have helped me grow past my own self-imposed limitations.
I came across your channel and thought why not. I’m obsessed with your videos. I think because I laugh and it brings joy. My favorite so far is when you licked Shanes face. That gave me a big belly laugh. So just keep doing what your doing. You both are just great.
Unless there were a limited number of OBGYNS in the area I would 100% switch doctors if my husband was that uncomfortable. I need to know that my husband will be heard and respected while I am delivering in case something happens to me or baby. Yes, it would be annoying to switch but it would be worth it to me.
My dad was a quadriplegic all my life. I have no memory of him every standing. However, I have the best memories of my mom taking care of my dad with unconditional love. As they got older my mom was not physically able to care for him. He ended up spending the last 6 years of his life in a nursing home. Did that stop my mom from loving him daily? NO. She was there EVERYDAY still taking care of his simple needs. You two remind me so much of them. Unconditional love is unique, lovely, and priceless.
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Enjoyed the entire episode and learned some fun games to play with my honey :)
You really dodged a bullet by not going on the show! I was caregiver for my husband for the last 12 years of his life due to him having a series of strokes. It was difficult at times, but I would do it all over again in a heartbeat! It was such a privilege to be able to care for him. We continued to enjoy our life together and our love continued to grow. Thank you for your example of love - disability or no disability- you are a lovely couple!
My mom went through the same thing with my dad. He had a stroke at age 55 as well as a burst anyruesm. I took care of my dad for 3 years whilst my mom was working full day at the time. I resigned from work and gave 24 hrs notice to go look after my dad. My mom took care of my dad for 23 years. My dad sadly passed away in December 2020 he was 77 at the time. My mom said that she will do it all over again. They were school sweethearts since the age of 16 and got married at the age of 20. My mom will be 77 in July. She literally did everything for my dad. She even gave him pedicures😊my dad was privileged and blessed to have my mom as his wife and vice versa......
Yes, in sickness & in health. I had a professor in college who cared for her disabled husband up until his death a few years ago. She loved him and I'm sure it was difficult at times, but he stuck by her when she had breast cancer, so she stood by him through his disability.
My dad was severely burned in a plane crash prior to my parents marriage. My mom was his care giver and they were married for 60 years!
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What a wonderful example of true love you were given growing up. ❤
True love. ❤❤
I've only just joined this channel. It's so great. It will never be 100% but I do wonder if women are more inclined to be the caregiver than men are? To try and protect my partners I've always had professional carers in as well so that my partners (male) can work and live their life. Disability has certainly broken up my relationships.
@@datura_boof Intelligent comment, troll. 🙄 Try using proper English next time.
My late husband was diagnosed when he was 17 years old with deschenes muscular. He was told that he from his late teens to his early 20s to live. We met when we were I believe 18. We met in passing at church as I was going to go eat with my boyfriend/fiance at the time.
When I looked in that man's eyes something shot right through me. He was on of the "shut ins", he wasn't able to go to church very much. He was always on the prayer list and I was ALWAYS praying for him. Just a small preface there ...
At the age of 27 on August 7,1994 my husband, Randy and I married. We had such a beautiful relationship. Yes I was his care giver as well. Anyways the point of this comment is to let people know that the statement from "Dr" Phil isn't true. I look at you two and how amazing y'all seem to be together. Kind of reminds me of my Randy and myself.
Randy and I (of course with ups and downs and sometimes some really good "fights" (arguments)) We we're married for 21 years untill he passed away on June 1, 2015. My life hasn't been the same since he passed, but because of him my life was so much better. I was so much better. So y'all just don't listen to idiots like Phil. Enjoy each other as often as you can. If you ever get into a tift just think of him as your patient that you have to take care of and you can get through it 😂😂😂. JK
You always know that they are someone you care for and love deeply, so even if you are mad, upset or whatever you still can give him the care he needs. That also goes for him, he can allow you to give that care where or not he is mad or upset.
Listen at me giving advice where it wasn't asked for. I guess I'm more than anything reminiscing about my Hunny Bunny, who I miss so dearly.
Continue to be blessed and be the blessing 🦋 Y'all are such an inspiration!!!
You wrote from the bottom of your heart and I feel it!!!
This is such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing yours and Randy's story with us all. Prayers for you and that many sweet memories help you thru each day.
Thank you for saying those words that really helped my heart. He is definitely missing, but left with 3 children that are so beautiful inside and out! I can see a lot of Randy in each of them and the grands as well.
i’m with hannah on this one. icebreakers and improv games make me so anxious and uncomfortable. i hate being put on the spot, especially in front of strangers😭 icebreakers are every introvert and shy person’s nightmare
Same!!!!! 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
I despise them too. Especially if there is a meeting at work and they say that it will be interactive. I panic.
Exactly! Buttttt…That being said…This one really wasn’t too bad lol I actually wouldn’t mind playing it with a family member
I’ve got an upcoming brain surgery next week that I’m stressed about beyond belief. (Currently working on fundraising for it), and I just want you guys to know that your videos are the only things that are keeping me going mentally. Thank you.
I'm struggling mentally and yeah, watching them takes me away from all of that nonsense.
Would it be possible to keep us updated on your surgery, somehow? Best wishes for a quick procedure and speedy recovery.
@@Killmaisy you’re so sweet. I’m going to make a RUclips channel documenting my medical journey (it’s a lot going on there) but I’m starting with my brain surgery. I’m hoping to get it going tonight. I won’t forget to come back and find you so you can follow. Thank you. 💜 I’m sorry that you’re struggling as well. Hang in there.
Sending prayers for a successful surgery 🙏❤️🤗
Ayla, hopefully you are recovering…if you’ve had your surgery……sending prayers your way you’ll get through this 🙏❤️
@@annairwin8147 surgery is in 4 days. Eeek!! Thank you for your kind words. 💜
So glad you did not go on Dr Phil's show. Sadly, he does damage in many ways. I am a therapist, and have been concerned for what he is doing for a long time. I am glad you have made the video of your experience.
A therapist-eek! You look oh so young to be a therapist Nancy
As a therapist, may I ask, what are you seeing in your mental health care community regarding this narrative/ agenda being pushed on children by radical presidents, prime ministers, politicians, academia, big tech, big pharma, big store brands, Hollywood, celebrities, music and fashion industry, disney, agencies like fda , cdc, who and others? They are openly targeting the under 30 crowd and young children by telling them doctors and parents where wrong about their sex at birth. Or that push to have them change genders, have life changing surgeries as minors and radical parents who seem to wanna push it on their kids too? I'm curious about what you think about this transgenderism agenda. Also it seems alot of the ecent shootings have been done by trans or non binary persons. There are people in medical arena speaking out in congressional hearings and news articles saying there really is no mental health care when people go in. They are just putting them on puberty blockers, breast surgeries and recommendations for sex surgeries on their first appointments. We are living in a scary time for children. Some states are trying to change laws to let minors make their own decisions, arrest and or fine parents for not affirming prounoun, name change or puberty blockers on minor children. Radical Tik tok influencers are asking minors to DM them or saying if your parents don't except you, I'll be your family. This is mentally and physically dangerous in my opinion. There's push by blue states to change the wording of pedo to maps! Unreal to find out that Instagram, Twitter, Amazon and fb use algorithms to hook pedos up with other pedos, children porn or help them sell and trade items within their fetishes. I'll stop there but I think you get my point. Id be intersection in what you are seeing or hearing in your profession and what you think about all of it. Thank you!
I saw that episode, and I actually remember thinking about you guys when Dr Phil told the girl “you CANNOT be both”……. *But* I also remember thinking that that advice is more appropriate to caregiver burnout. The problem was not that she was burnt out - the problem was that he was verbally abusive.
When you are caregiving, you have to really care about the person that you are caring for! My dad had Alzheimer's and my mother cared for him by herself. After he died my mother had a heart attack and got severe dementia & I was her full time caregiver. I could not have done it if I didn't love her! And now I am the caregiver for a woman who is a lot like my mother was, (physically fine but mentally cannot be left alone). The BIGGEST trick is that you have to do what is best for that person, not what is easiest for you. It is a very selfless job that most people are too selfish to do!
Glad you said NO to Dr. Phill. You are so opposite to the essence of his show. I like the message behind you program. Love your good sense of humour. I was very happily married ( 3O years ) to a very compassionate and understanding man who accepted my disability. During our courtship when I was listing all my limitations and possibility of being in a wheel chair and asked him how would he cope with being my caregiver. He replied: “ can you love me while sitting in your wheel chair? “ - “ YES, I can but what about you , will you keep on loving me after years of caregiving.? “ he replied… “ That is not the issue, I know what I want of life, I want you in my life!…
We had such a wonderful life together , he had a super great sense of humour! I miss him.
It's absolutely pointless to post this comment, except to express my own feelings and yet here I go. I couldn't love you guys more. I've watched, listened, learned and loved. Thank you for existing.
Not pointless? I agree they are delightful. They feel like old friends 😊
Not pointless, put a smile on my face atleast ! ty dude
Never pointless to express gratitude, lessons learned, or happiness! 🎉
I don’t like to speak negatively about other people, so I will only say that before anyone follows Dr. Phils advice, it is important that they take a look at his history, and learn why he is unable to practice in his field. Personally, I will not watch anything that he produces, and I am really glad that you are putting out this very honest video.
😂😂😂he’s not unable….he didn’t renew his licence😂😂😂
@@Teenywing I have a vague memory there were some issues so it’s not as simple as his failure to renew his license. Of course he can say he has his training and experience and that’s valid. I’m not sure if there are ethical issues in his current format on TV. He gives advice to people who obviously are not in a doctor /client relationship. I find him very prone to sensationalism.
I was there back then for the Dr. Phil revelation! Woo hoo!
In my opinion, Dr Phill is a charlatan and he knows exactly what he is doing. He does not care. It brings him money and he likes that.
So true he’s a bully and nasty.
Ok, 2 things: You guys are couple goals!! And, in the "hey-day" of Dr. Phil's tv life, when I watched (which wasn't very often);I remember feeling so uncomfortable with his antics, and felt very dubious of him as a professional. So glad you were discerning.
Fortunately I woke up this morning. Unfortunately I woke up grouchy. Fortunately I saw this video 1st thing & y’all turned my day around!!!! 😂❤
Unfortunately, their next video will not be tomorrow. ☹
We don't often see someone except their opponents point of view in a debate and then go on to change their viewpoint. It was a beautiful thing to behold. Hannah and Shane have so much integrity and depth. Their channel is so badly needed out here in the vast lonely desert of shallow communication skills. Their education shows. And their humanity shows.
So many couples and so many channels and so much content and yet I feel stoked to have found Shane and Hannah. They are a special two of a kind in this crazy world, and they are just wonderful to listen to ❤️
Excellent comment!
I’m glad you guys stuck with your values instead of clout chasing. I think it ultimately paid off because your message is so clear and your following is like a big family.
As a single parent who struggled to raise her only child I also hated those 1st few days of school or even March break. Come to think of it the return from Christmas was also painful. Teachers insisted on asking the kids what they did over the summer or what they did for March break or what they got for Christmas. I think this is an absolutely horrible idea! All the rich kids in the class brag about Getting the latest greatest Tech equipment, video games etc, going to Aruba or Disneyland. While all the kids living close to or below the poverty line are left to be reminded, yet again, of how they live. It's horrible! Stopit.
Interesting that you have such a wide range of income levels in one classroom. Usually kids that go to Aruba for vacay don’t live in the same neighborhood as kids below poverty line 🤔
@barbara pierce I think that's pretty normal in Canada & the U.S. Regardless of if you attend public or private school. Even private schools have subsidized spaces. Although I can't speak to other countries I've not been to. Where I come from, you don't have to live in the same neighborhood to go to the same school. The school's "boarders" are determined by district. I was raised in a family that was able to afford vacations in my country & abroad. It was not lost on me however, that the child in the next desk didn't bring a lunch to school because they couldn't afford to send one.
Your old video discussing why you didn't do Dr Phil's show is where I first saw you two (a couple years ago?) and I fell into platonic love. 💞 I really respected the reasons you gave and it was obvious you two have a special kind of integrity.
Can't wait to listen to today's episode..
I look forward to every Wednesday, lol 💜
Wow I think it was more than a couple years ago... The pandemic has warped my perception of time
I love watching your shows. Keep up the good work. As far as Dr Phil you made the right decision to not be a part of it.
Me too! I watched and enjoyed their videos before that episode aired. Their choice to not go on the Dr.Phil show is what made me respect them and become a true fan. More people need to have integrity and base their actions on what they believe is the right thing to do. This is especially true when money or fame tempt them to do the opposite.
Also, Dr.Phil creeps me out, lol. I have always seen him as what gaslighting would look like if given human form. 😂
Both of you are so well spoken and knowledgeable. So intelligent and so much common sense.
FOUR YEAR ANNIVERSARY?! I just realized I have been watching you guys for well over four years then haha.. I remember when you reached 100k! It has been so fun to follow you both. I also did like the game at the beginning, Shane. I am going to make my wife play it tonight at dinner. She will hate it.
Hannah - "they make me actually physically uncomfortable" Shane - "okay! Round 2 🤠"
I originally Found Your Channel because of the the We Said No To Dr Phil 😊 at the time I watched him all the time but y'all changed that for me So Thank You 💖 I'm Sending 💌 Y'all Lots Of Prayers 🙏 & Blessings 💕 In JESUS 🙌 Mighty Name Amen🌻
Love this story about Dr. Phil! I’m glad you two are insightful and thoughtful instead of just running toward fame.
Fortunately, I really like watching y'all play those types of games. Unfortunately, Hannah is going to be less happy when she realizes a lot of people like it too and they request more of these games! 😂
This is our anniversary then! That Dr Phil video is how I found you guys😄
You have made me laugh for 4 years now!!
OMG I don’t know if you’ll see this, but you just unlock a memory for me. The TLDR is that I just realized the misconception I had about caregiving in inter-able relationships came from this episode of Dr. Phil!!!!!!!
I am so shocked that sat with me for so many years without even realizing it, so I completely understand the feeling of horror when this message was pushed to millions. I remember when I first started following you guys one of your videos y’all talked about intimacy and your relationship and Hannah said caregiving is a very intimate thing that you experience together. I remember when I first heard she does all of your care I was surprised, but I was like wow that’s beautiful that she sees it as intimacy and they’ve made it work. I couldn’t remember where I had heard that caregiving can never work in a relationship, but I was like so surprised by her explanation of what that means to your relationship that it made me question that narrative I had internalized.
I began caregiving in high school when I babysat one of my teachers children that had spina bifida and i discovered I had an interest in caring for people. Then my first job was in the dining room at an assisted living facility for the elderly. when I turned 18 I began caregiving. I did that for a few years and absolutely loved it. I became very close with the resident. I absolutely loved my job. I also dabbled in home healthcare for a while, and that was also wonderful to take care of somebody. So I am a person who thoroughly enjoys caring for people, even if I do not have an existing intimate relationship with them. I say this backstory, because my personal experience alone should have caused me to question the narrative of that Dr. Phil episode, but I didn’t.
Then I thought about ways I do caregiving in my relationship that might not be toileting or bathing, but are like taking care of somebody in different ways, and that is very intimate to me, it’s the way I show I care. I just had no idea that a seemingly small thing like an episode of Dr. Phil had left such an imprint on me to even question my own experiences. That’s just so crazy to me.
Proud to say I've been subbed since before the first time you told this story. It never ceases to entertain and impress me when I hear it.
I love how much fun you have together. You are a great couple and your love for eachother makes me smile. Dr Phil is all about the ratings.. like a lot of tv /media is. Reality is no spectacle.. thank you for being real. 🥰
I liked Dr. Phil in the beginnings of his show, but now it’s become like a classy Maury Pauvich. The way he scolds people and shames them instead of trying to help them. Ugh.
I think you two are doing a great job of modeling what true love is to the whole world. I am going thru a rough patch in life and I think your videos have helped my wife and I get reconnected. Cute game, thanks so much for inspiring me.
Shane had me laughing so hard , " and yes that's a junkyard out there, with Dr.Phil rolling around in the filth 🤣 😄 😆
Dr.Phil creates drama with ALLOT of ppl SMH 😂 ....❤ You guys ❤
@@MilIion5 you can stop now
If there wasn’t a little bit of drama, who would watch the show 😄
Fortunately Shane finds humor in Hannah not enjoying the game. Unfortunately Hannah wants to hurt Shane because of the game lol 😂
Fortunately it's hilarious for the followers 😂
fortunately thay found each other in this big world man
Yeah I love this 😂😂😂😂
@@vegetablepolice1 unfortunately people will always criticize them because of their relationship but shouldn’t they are awesome people
@@CowboyJon88 fortunately they don't let trolls affect them
I love your back-and-forth together and the way you goad each other lovingly but with hilarious results. God bless you two!
I am enjoying this podcast more and more every week. Just thought you should know what a good job you guys are doing.
Agreed! ❤🎉❤
“Am I the Axxhole” I had my air pods in my ear and walking around the store right now, listening to your episode, and I literally laughed out loud when Shane said that.😂😂😂😂😂
It’s about time someone stood up to Dr Phil. He is not a counselor, therapist or even a life coach. He is a provocateur and a Bully. This sounds like the one episode I would like to watch.
I have so much respect for you both! 🏆
Black & white thinking
Looooved the Asshole game!!! One large element missing from the convo was that this particular doc is up close and very personal with his wife!!! That adds a whole new layer to the issue!
Not to mention, if something happens to the wife and the husband is having to make decisions for her, he is not going to trust that doctor.
Also, if you have never been pregnant, hormones are raging and a woman can be emotional from time to time...😍
I just saw that episode last week and it stayed on my mind all week long and here you revisited it. I would find it unfortunately sad if I missed your podcast. Fortunately, I am thankful for youtube, most importantly grateful for both Shane and Hannah
For someone who hates this type of game Hannah fortunately gave it a try and did really well. Unfortunately she still hates this type of game. Fortunately Shane got all warmed up. Unfortunately she still hates this type of game. 😂
Fortunately Shane is a kind guy and considers not making her do this again next time
@@MilIion5 why do you keep posting this?
Catching up on watching your videos. So glad I watched this one, my first in a while. I thought the improv game part was hilarious. Your Dr. Phil story was really eye-opening. I’m so glad you guys didn’t go on the show. You guys are such a wonderful example of enduring love & a pleasure to listen to and watch!❤️
YES HANNAH I GET YOU! you're not alone. Those are the things I hated about first days of school or camp as well. You didn't even have to explain further when Shane asked you to. ❤
For years, I've been wishing the folks at Dr Phil, and Dr Phil himself will eventually apologize and celebrate your love & togetherness and your accomplishments in bringing awareness to differently abled persons and the obstacles they endure. I have a feeling he intends to be a good human, but in this instance, where you guys are concerned, I wish for him to see the light and do better. I'm going to keep putting that thought out there and hope it lands with him. You guys are Great!
Forget stand up comedian’s , Shane never fail’s to crack me up ! 💞😂🤣😂💞
Don’t like him.
I really enjoyed the improv. So funny. I believe Shane enjoys it because he is exceptionally talented in improv, a great comedian. Your job, dear Hannah, is to encourage his talents. You are very talented in different ways, so equal partners. Love each other!
I remember 4 years ago when this was happening to you, with Dr Phil. You're about to tell the story, I will comment on this when you are done. Love you guys ❤️ so , I just finished your video, I love the game you guys did in the beginning, however I am like Hannah, I don't like doing them personally. I hate in new situation's that I would have to do icebreaker questions. I always get tense and scared when it comes to my turn. Listening to your Dr Phil experience, I am so glad that you guys didn't go on the show, in the past I have watched Dr Phil and he twists the story, is rude and nasty, I don't watch him anymore. I'm just so happy that you guys didn't go on his show. I loved the end " Am I the Asshole" no one was the asshole, I agree. Love your podcast! And both of you! Keep doing amazing things, like you are already. Sending love ❤️ and hugs 🤗 to you both
I have been watching y’all for a long time, but in a very inconsistent manner. Every single time any of your content pops up on my recommended, I watch and enjoy so much. And every time I think why am I not watching these guys more often?! So I changed my notifications to “all” lol. Thanks for the great entertaining and honest content.
You aren't the only couple who said no to Dr. Phil. I believe the couple I know (both therapists) actually said no in the green room because they got a bait and switch for the set up of the show and were not going to go on air with the new set up. I agree with your analysis complexity on that couple.
I love listening to your podcasts! It makes me laugh and smile. I wait to listen to them when I have dishes, cleaning, laundry, etc. to do because it makes those chores less unpleasant, and I am more likely to do them because I get to listen to you two! Thank you both for sharing your humor and life with us!
I love you guys. At first I identified with Hannah's discomfort at improv...but by the end of the game I'm like, SHANE I LOVE THIS GAME! 😂 And then we talk shit on Dr. Phil?! This episode was magical. 😂❤
Yes!
Hahahah "And then we talk shit on Dr. Phil?! This episode was magical." YES. Yes yes yes.
Change the playback speed to 1.5 or 1.75 if you don't have time to listen to the whole 35 minutes.
It takes some getting used to to hear them talking that fast but I can listen to so much more of their content because I only have limited free time.
To change the playback speed, touch the settings gear at the top right corner. When the options pop-up touch playback speed and choose your speed 😊
You guys could start a side channel that's Junkyard Improv. Shane could do all the speaking to alleviate Hannah's stress, and Hannah could do the actions and facial expressions. 🎉 Please? 😘
Hannah isn’t comfortable seeking out these types of humorously “icebreakers” because she’s more of an introvert. However; I was excited to listen to her and Shane volley about with fortunately and unfortunately! Hannah, you should pat yourself on the back as your “birdies” were on point. Definitely enjoyed today’s Junkyard Podcast. ❤
I thought Shane proposing the game "Are you the asshole" personal to them was a brilliant idea.
@@MilIion5 Huh?
@@MilIion5 lol 😅
@@FreeMare1042is your sense of humor really that unrefined? Cringe.
You two are hysterical ! You remind me so much of my husband and I, however we are both able bodied and have been married 38 years and counting. People ask us what the secret to our happy marriage is, and we tell them, humor and respect. Keep up the good work you two!
I love you guys!!! Just so genuine. ♥️🥰
I remember this! I’m so glad you guys stood your ground
Didn’t think we’d get an elaboration on this story, but I’m here for it! 😁
@@MilIion5 😐
Ok that fortunately and unfortunately improv was hilarious😂😂
I love watching your videos. Just feel like I haven’t seen a Monday Grub Bag episode lately. Hope you are not going to stop those. I look forward to seeing you two on Monday and Wednesday.
Fortunately, I ran into you guys yesterday at Calif Disney. Unfortunately, I feel like we came off like total fan girls ! 🙈
Fortunately, you guys were very gracious .
Shane you come up with some great game and convo ideas . The worst case scenarios or the segments where Hannah shares about an interest. Looking forward to trying some of these with friends and family. Appreciate the creativity 😊
Me’shell
The game was hilarious!!! Thankyou for the giggles guys!! I almost peed when Hanna did the rat sounds and face and then Shane said " oo oo aa aa oo oo aa aa " 😂😂😅
I never watched dr Phil again and then I found you two!!!
I hated standing in front of ppl to talk and do presentations ...... Your not the only one 😂
It's really important that your clear-headed thinking wins in the end. I admire how strong you guys are.
Your Dr. Phil video was what introduced me to your RUclips channel and I have watched all since. So there is the one thing I can thank Dr. Phil for. 😉
Thank you for this recap on Dr Phil's crude and ignorant stance. I'm so glad that you didn't take the episode with him, and chose to control the messaging about interabled couples and caregiving and what's possible and healthy. As a person in an an interabled relationship, I got a lot out of your own episode, and actually shared it widely. And I recently came across the actual Dr Phill episode that had aired, and it was really crushing. It made me question our relationship, and I was down for a few days, but then because I had watched it, your older video popped up in the algorithm... Thank God for you guys.. Literally. Liferaft.. Remembering the positive narrative and the number of interabled videos I had seen after yours, brought me back out of the depressing light he had spun on his own sad view of interabled couples... And I'm really glad you guys put this episode out here.. Because your timing couldn't have been better.... God bless you guys... And I thought the same thing you guys did about that couple.. There were bigger mental health issues that needed support, but that their caregiving was not the issue.. I do agree they needed support, and yes maybe some caregiving so she could get a break, especially while they worked through some of their bigger issues.. But ultimately I saw love there.. But love is not always enough, the relationship itself, between two people has to be healthy, regardless of disabilities. I'm so grateful for you guts. I would say I haven't watched too much of the chanell lately due to the kinda click baity titles. I love you guys for your open, honesty, and your humour, but the click bait kinda puts me off.. Just my thing. Do what ya gotta do to keep the views high because the more visible you are, the more awareness there is
Hannah looks at Shane with so much 💕
you guys make me chuckle thankyou both for being you xx
I love how you introduced the dr Phil story 😂😂😂😂
Five stars ⭐️ ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
That was a really interesting episode.
Improvisation is always fun.
I’m going to try that one here at home. Haha
It’s good that Hannah said feelings are to be validated not label as right or wrong.
I LOVE the pure honesty in the dialogue between you guys. You make it look simple. Trust me, it’s not.
By the way I stopped watching doctor Phil years ago when it became obvious his goal was not to heals people but to shock his audience for higher ratings.
I don’t like those kinds of games either! Though y’all did have me laughing! 😂
I can't believe I've been following you two for over 4 years! ❤
I'm kind of thinking that the "Am I the Asshole" for this episode should be revisited when Hannah is in late second to third trimester pregnancy....😂 Pregnancy hormones can turn the difference of expecting a hot fudge sundae and receiving a chocolate syrup sundae into a huge tearful event!
I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING! Pregnancy hormones can literally make you irrational lol.
I struggle with anxiety, depression and PMDD in my normal life but when I was pregnant all my hormones mellowed out. It was wild to feel “normal” and “calm” all the time
I agree. The fact that the father to be described his wife as overly emotional is actually fair. When you are pregnant your emotions are not normal. But dont say that to the pregnant person while they are pregnant. Also, the hormone issue takes awhile to settle back to normal after the birth.
Chocolate sauce and chocolate fudge aren't even in the same ballpark! I'd be upset and I'm not even pregnant 😅
From what I understand is that Dr Phil doesn’t have his License to practice any more yet when people come on like for possible child abuse cases, various crimes,etc, Dr Phil will come out and say, “you know I am a Mandated Reporter, which means I am obligated by law to report this”. I don’t think if he no longer practices he is a Mandated Reporter. 🤔
This video, on your youtube channel, was when I first started following you❣️
And I continue to enjoy your videos❣️❣️
Kari
I do also hate icebreakers. However, you two are hilarious and made this one really funny.
Wow, this episode seemed extra mayhem-y!! Dr. Phil and AITA are outrageous, and ice breakers/improv are my worst. Great idea to start the podcast with awkward games 😂 Thoroughly enjoying these, great work, you guys! What fun!!
Yep, I’m with Hannah, again. I don’t play games like that.
I also am incredibly uncomfortable talking in front of a group of people, thanks to a horrible teacher, maaaaaany years ago, who made me stand on a small stage, in front of the whole class , for the whole class hour, when I was supposed to do a report on something, but I had stage fright.
@@saruhhhh yep, true. It’s nice that she agreed to play the game with Shane, eventhough it’s not her thing. I just mentioned what happened to me as a child, because sometimes it’s not a good thing to force someone to do something they’re very uncomfortable with. My teacher could have handled it much better.
I am conflicted. AITA is a good subreddit with many discussable situations. I wish they could rename it because I have this discomfort with that 😂😂word. Then when you two, well educated, articulate, sweet, sensitive young people need to use that word I am further dismayed. I believe it is possible to converse without resorting to “bad” words, and that people who feel they can’t adequately express themselves using “The King’s English” should be able to do better. Full disclosure, I am eighty years old and therefore probably out of tune with the current vernacular, so maybe that makes me the Asshole.
Fortunately Shane is a very positive…funny… smart and handsome man who has educated millions of people that you can live a happy life with a debilitating disease… Unfortunately there are not enough women in this world like Hannah. You two are the best !
@@davecummings6170 I think Hanna made a good point in the video: 'You're feelings are always valid'. How you express them and if your interactions with other people are solely based on those feelings or not is the important part.
Feeling uncomfortable about sth that probably looks like a decline in manners and/or civility to you, is understandable, and you have enough self awareness that other people, maybe even many of them, might not think the way you do. And in the end you even used the 'bad' word kind of jokingly, so I get the impression you are a gentleman with values that might sometimes look oldfashioned, but who can laugh about himself, which is always a good sign. YNTA
Thank you so much for sharing there's so many inspirational messages in all you shared but my take away was how you can be so elated about a opportunity in front of you That you can easily make the wrong decision and jump in and just do it but you took the time to analyze the situation and decided it would best to say no and it turned out better and you got to visually see the Outcome if you were to have said yes that would have been disastrous. This is called wisdom in action. It's amazing how sometimes the hardest decision to say no when you really want to do something can turn out to be a blessing❤
I’ve heard quite a few people now talk about regretting going on Dr Phil because they felt tricked by him and his team. It seems best to steer clear.
I love you two and I look forward to Junkyard Mayhem every week.
I love Shane’s laugh. ❤❤
I'm the type of person that will confront anyone that talks down to me and I would ask the Dr to his face of what his problem is with me. I have done this with one of my doctors and she changed her tone towards me and is very pleasant to me now. Stand up for yourself!!
I’m glad to see Shane having Hannah put herself in the situation. Seems like a lot of people always want to just side with the woman just because and it’s sad to see when it’s not always deserved.
And she is open enough that she was willing to shift. Liked it! They’re good for each other.
Guys, I love this episode really much, especially the last part, AITA,. Brought me back to my master's years, in politics, where we would analise different situations. Keep going.
Btw, you give 'sunday relax and joy' vibes🎉
Lol I also hate these improv sorts of games……My brain INSTANTLY stops working 😂
Your Dr Phil video is the first of your videos I ever watched,and then subscribed.
I used to like Dr Phil years ago. Then I found out about the screening process to get on his show and I was thoroughly disgusted and I never watched again.
Really? What is the screening process?
What’s the screening process?
I'm not trying to be rude... I'm just surprised... but the screening is what did you in?? Not the fact that he sent children who clearly needed help and support to extremely abusive and dangerous "Camps"?? Or shaming people who are struggling with trauma by blaming them for their issues rather than helping? Just curious if these were also factors..
@@itsaliceinwonder7718 The screening exposed the motives of the Dr. Phil show, ie that he/his producers are cruel sensationalists that mock peoples' real problems and therefore harm and abuse "guests". So yes, I see them as one orbit.
@@itsaliceinwonder7718 to be fair, IIRC he was sending kids to those camps for some time before their issues were widely known. It’s possible that Heather learned other problematic behaviors before she knew about the camps
This is my third time watching you after accidentally finding you two! I absolutely love it! I love both of you and wish l knew you two personally. Great job!
You guys are amazing!
I absolutely love you two! 🌻🌻🌻🌻
I m going to play this game with my 10 year old on our road trip later today 😅 he is so dramatic he will love it
There are 10's of thousands of partners physically caring for their partner. It might be more rare in younger years - 20's, 30's - but by 40's you have early stroke/heart attack, illness, accidents and you get into the 60's and you're starting to deal with more physical disabilities and dementias. It's crazy.
My husband and I are interabled - and we've been married for 35 years.
I'm so proud of you for staying true
OH MY GOSH THE first IMPROV!! THAT just made me laugh so hard and brought me joy. You are a hoot together. And very proud of you for not doing dr. phil, like honestly how does any one person THINK they are an expert on everything. I also have not watched him ever a full episode just seen clips to make you watch and thought not a chance. I think he degrades people. Not what a so called phsycologist is supposed to be about not doing. So hugs you did good. I think the as_hole situation is a lot of all the things you were suggesting but our guts usually tell us when things are just not right. And that guy asking if he was probably had a lot of bad feelings that were just gut feeling something is wrong. And what doctor would attack a first visit father with the purse thing is very non proffesional. I would probably have been mortified if I was carrying my purse cause I wanted to and the doctor said that to my husband. And me knowing my husband was probably mortified. She though thought it was fine?........on and on lol. That was fun too. hugs
Enjoy you two every time! Side note I miss Hannah’s dumpster dives!
I teach improv (you know the saying about those who can't), and Shane is so good! It takes another level of skill to make it interesting and fun when your partner isn't into the scenario, and he clearly demonstrated that skill - no shade to Hannah! The dynamics in your relationship are rich no matrer what you guys are doing. Shane you should be in an improv performance group!
These types of games are so good for the psyche! Let go and see what comes to mind first. Speak before thinking! Perfectionism is a curse rooted in racism, so why not play some games to free the mind and creativity!
All that said, I was the kid who hated these games, and now I love them so much I teach them to others because of how these activities have helped me grow past my own self-imposed limitations.
Fortunately,you didn’t have to hear about the flat pancake having 2 sides.Unfortunately,you both missed a 7 month stay at “the Ranch”😂
I came across your channel and thought why not. I’m obsessed with your videos. I think because I laugh and it brings joy. My favorite so far is when you licked Shanes face. That gave me a big belly laugh. So just keep doing what your doing. You both are just great.
Unless there were a limited number of OBGYNS in the area I would 100% switch doctors if my husband was that uncomfortable. I need to know that my husband will be heard and respected while I am delivering in case something happens to me or baby. Yes, it would be annoying to switch but it would be worth it to me.
I loved this. I was cracking up on this game of fortunately , unfortunately. Love you guys so much.