@@adebolaakinwale3510 True, usually it goes on and on because of the low self esteem, the person tends to marry wrong etc. In fact it’s the major victory. The grandfather’s protective function cannot be overemphasised it mitigated the effect of the trauma to an extent. Some pple had no one at all…..
God this woman just narrate the story of my life in one video 😭😭😭😭 God bless my grandmother. So many things to say but not even one person that will understand how I feel
Daddy Thank you My dad did a good job, he would buy me expensive perfumes , expensive stuff telling me that let no boy deceive you. He is still alive and I'm close to 40years and he still treats me like his little girl. ....he loves me deeply and he used to beat me mercilessly too. The other day sister and I thanked God for the kind of father we have . Because it has helped us in life .
I have had similar experiences with her when it comes to her experiences with her father. My father left when I was two years old, and it took 18 years before I saw him again. At that time, I was already married. My father was never present when I was at his house. Many people will not understand the loss of a father in a girl's life, but we thank God for his grace. God, my Father, filled that void and gave me a husband after his own heart. God is always faithful.
Pastor Kayode Elebiyo is my father and my Pastor when he act as a father to you, forget it, he will do his fatherly duty with all his heart and that includes scolding. He doesn't let go of anyone he takes as his own.
I'm just here this midnight,listening to your story and hearing you play the tape of my life. I have been 12 years in marriage and still haven't been able to have this discussion with my husband,I know that one day, God will give me the grace to tell my story,so many emotions flying around in me right now,may God indeed heal me.
Childhood trauma is real. When it comes from your beloved, it lives scars that takes only God’s mercy and grace to be healed. This season is our season of Therapy, I can’t wait to soak in all that God has in store for me. Thank you Apostle for the STORIES, they have been a blessing to me.
the point at which she said she doesn't share her experience with anyone but apostle broke her, the glory was directed to God immediately. This humility is understated and honored by God, God bless you, sir. I tap from your anointing and pray for a turnaround in my life🙏
Brother FEMI...thank you sir for talking about this...lord..I was raised in JAMAICA. I have seening it all. JESUS. thank you sir. Healing restoration love. Thank God for grace Healing.. I also follow you.🇯🇲🇨🇦🇺🇸
When she said "it was normal for me to always break down and cry", I cried afresh. It sounds so familiar. I cry a lot, even in public and it's embarrassing. I've been trying to find a way not to break down in public.
Daddy (Pst. J.K. Elebiyo) is not just a pastor; he is truly a father in every sense! With great glory often come battles, but when you have a father who, with God’s instructions, stands by you, never giving up, even when humanly speaking one might be tempted to rest-he pushes on because God promises He will do it or He has done it! Hmm! Daddy, God’s servant will be there until you are 100% victorious and free! We thank God that he answered the call! All glory to God🙌
As a girl who lost her dad at 7😢 he used to love me so much that I wanted that love so much from the one I could shear that love with😭and when they decide to leave it’s as if my life has come to an end💔 Apostle I bless the day I came across your page, your teachings have been doing so much in my life
You are not alone sis 😢 The way I cried while watching this is ah I related to almost everything she said May God bless A.Femi lazarus for allowing God to use his platform to heal us ❤
My Dad was super protective,won't even let my brothers friends talk to me,bought my first pad and pants 😂. Daddy I love you. Keep resting in God's bossom.
Mummy! Thank you soooo much and May the Lord bless the works of hands and your household! The Lord Jesus will be your strength and refugee, in Jesus Name!
When u think you have gone through alot, and boom, u hear what another person has been through, then you will thank God, that u didn't really go through alot😢 because what are my hearing!!! someone went through all of this and still standing, God is Good.
Hmmmm, thank you for sharing your story. I have an almost similar experience, suffered seriously from low self-esteem, like Apostle said, you feel people loving you are doing you a favour... hmmmmm, I am grateful for growth I am grateful for the house God planted me. Sphere of Light Church Global
I grew up in a dysfunctional background that left a vacuuum in me, my dad wasn’t emotionally available for us although he was present, this has affected my self esteem, my relationships… I still find it difficult to make or keep friends. I feel left out most times when I groups, always keep to myself. I pray I find a way out of this and get healing.
The wasted years can't automatically be restored! So true as I have seen it constantly with my therapy clients. As much as possible keep the parent, child relationship intact!!!!
Thank you for telling your story. People will never believe you and will never understand it. If you don’t go through it you will never understand, I don’t care what people or your therapist says your trauma would never goes away.
The audacity to think you know best whom your daughter should or should not marry when you didn't even raise her is daunting. What a sense of entitlement. Amazing!
You can actually be in a dysfunctional nuclear family unit where father and mother are present. There is so much to unpack in this tell all interview. Childhood and family traumas are real and it is more likely to find unhealthy, dysfunctional families than healthy families in this world. When she talked about her relationship with her dad, it hit home hard for me and mine even worse was living in the same house with my dad with zero love, communication and connection. May God heal our brokenness
24:51 literally crying ,this is more than an interview , it's her pouring it all out and us just giving a listening ear and understanding❤may God heal you completely Thank you PS femi
Whaooo . Just want to be happy. One man to love me. Not every one understands this part. We all come from a different background with painful experiences. Most times we try explaining but no one get it.
Parents who don’t create safe spaces for their children need to change. Your children should be able to come to you with the truth. Once they hide things from you because they are scared of you, you’ve failed them 💔
Are you me? I've really suffered similar version. Don't know how to maintain friends, don't know how to deal with people, a whole lot of shameful secretes and no one to talk to.....😭. God be my helper🤲
Uhmm the mom thinking that because she was close to her cousin meant that they were sleeping together. 😢 Then they protected the offender to maintain the family's pride and reputation, it's unbelievable.
Listening to this story made me cried literally, bcos I am also going through some hurt...I get angry easily, I have zero emotions, mean I know something is wrong with me emotionally but I'm yet to understand why, I still don't know the cause.
I can relate to this story very. The nights are always my crying times, its better now but am yet to heal. I was lonely all my life, even though I was with close relatives. I grew up without my parents and when I went to stay with dad, he hurt me more than his cousin who brought me up. Till today am suffering from rejection and loneliness. This made me get so emotionally attached to my ex so much so that after I met Christ and broke up with him, I still can't forget him. I took harsh measures like blocking him and not talking to him, but still. I really need healing, God please help me.
This is why I don't allow male family members from my side and husband side to stay in my house, especially because of my daughter. Whoever want to assault my daughter must first kpai my enemy because, as a mother, I made sure it didn't happen and by God's grace will never happen. May God have mercy on all evil cousins, uncles, brothers and even fathers who have assaulted a female family member.
Beware of female relatives too, the thing is to teach your child cautions, be close to her and cover her with prayers, always presenting her before God.
After what happened to me as a child, till today, I don't like people coming into my home. If you'll come, spend a few hours and go. My mum doesn't understand why I hate it when she invites people over. I still can't get myself to tell her what happened so she doesn't feel guilty.
Oh lord, permit me to say that even in a family with both father and mother, there can also be no emotional connection and love. With that with that the person can lose all senses of emotions and love. i am watching this story with great strenght.
Emotional connection with siblings is not what all parents can pull off. Some parents practically separate their children and they will only relate because they are siblings but not loving one another.
This is me. Exactly my story. In my case, unfortunately, I still haven't been able to allow anyone to love me. I really feel lonely, but anytime someone approaches me with love, I just leave that friendship. I just can't help myself, I really need help.
I cried seriously watching this. Thank you Again Ma, for sharing your story. I am grateful because a lot of my sisters, mothers and teenagers currently in this that we cant reach personally, will be reached through this video.. God blesssssss you immensely I love you very much ❤
She even know her papa, you de lucky wella, if not my mother’s family I don't know where I would have been today. I thank God for God’s grace and the salvation of my soul.
This is similar to my story 😭😭😭. Till today my life has been greatly affected by my childhood experience. I wish all pastors will understand the topic of love and compassion as Jesus showed us. And stop being overly judgemental when they hear the mistakes you have made.
Ahhh, you expected your husband to understand but he couldn't relate and that created resentment... This was deeeeeeeeep, he doesn't understand what rejection feels like and is also hurt as to why his love wasn't enough... This was a sermon
Don't pretend like you don't see this, may your mom live more than 80 years ❤️
Amen, May our parents live long, healthy, happy and fulfilled
Amen 🙏
Amen to 95
Amen
Amen
I love the fact that she is sooo relaxed and talks comfortably. It only means she is really healed. Praise God
Shame lifted! She is walking in victory!
I’m so happy for her healing and you’re right but that she’s not crying doesn’t mean she is healed. One may be deeply wounded and indifferent…
She's obviously still in the process. That she's talking freely about it is because she needed to unburden what she'd bottled up for so long.
The fact that her husband didn't take advantage of her, because of the type of father she has, is another victory on it's own.
@@adebolaakinwale3510 True, usually it goes on and on because of the low self esteem, the person tends to marry wrong etc. In fact it’s the major victory. The grandfather’s protective function cannot be overemphasised it mitigated the effect of the trauma to an extent. Some pple had no one at all…..
So true!!!
This is very true, God bless him
Fact. She is blessed.
Good men exist! They will not take advantage
God this woman just narrate the story of my life in one video 😭😭😭😭 God bless my grandmother. So many things to say but not even one person that will understand how I feel
Hmmmm. God is good
Daddy Thank you
My dad did a good job, he would buy me expensive perfumes , expensive stuff telling me that let no boy deceive you. He is still alive and I'm close to 40years and he still treats me like his little girl. ....he loves me deeply and he used to beat me mercilessly too. The other day sister and I thanked God for the kind of father we have . Because it has helped us in life .
He loves you but beat you wow may God bless you
Beating mercilessly..?
You don’t know what God has done for you
You are very lucky, please reach out for him everyday and say thank you Daddy.
Your dad is one in a million. God bless him.
May God heal everyone who experienced one form of trauma while growing up.
🥺🤍 Amen.
Amen
@@vanessawellington7269 Amen o. The devil is big liar
Amen
Amen
I have had similar experiences with her when it comes to her experiences with her father. My father left when I was two years old, and it took 18 years before I saw him again. At that time, I was already married. My father was never present when I was at his house. Many people will not understand the loss of a father in a girl's life, but we thank God for his grace. God, my Father, filled that void and gave me a husband after his own heart. God is always faithful.
Pastor Kayode Elebiyo is my father and my Pastor when he act as a father to you, forget it, he will do his fatherly duty with all his heart and that includes scolding. He doesn't let go of anyone he takes as his own.
thank God for your Daddy
I wish I had a genuine and truly Godly spiritual father and spiritual parents
@@tofunmiayoola5455 God will surely connect you to yours
I'm just here this midnight,listening to your story and hearing you play the tape of my life. I have been 12 years in marriage and still haven't been able to have this discussion with my husband,I know that one day, God will give me the grace to tell my story,so many emotions flying around in me right now,may God indeed heal me.
It is well God will grant you the strength to let it all out
Childhood trauma is real. When it comes from your beloved, it lives scars that takes only God’s mercy and grace to be healed. This season is our season of Therapy, I can’t wait to soak in all that God has in store for me. Thank you Apostle for the STORIES, they have been a blessing to me.
HalleluYAH
the point at which she said she doesn't share her experience with anyone but apostle broke her, the glory was directed to God immediately. This humility is understated and honored by God, God bless you, sir. I tap from your anointing and pray for a turnaround in my life🙏
Brother FEMI...thank you sir for talking about this...lord..I was raised in JAMAICA. I have seening it all. JESUS. thank you sir. Healing restoration love. Thank God for grace Healing.. I also follow you.🇯🇲🇨🇦🇺🇸
When she said "it was normal for me to always break down and cry", I cried afresh. It sounds so familiar. I cry a lot, even in public and it's embarrassing. I've been trying to find a way not to break down in public.
Same here I have been crying although I just can't help it my is worst I don't know if I can help myself is really hard 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I can relate
There is nothing to be ashamed of my love i have the same issues as well
Daddy (Pst. J.K. Elebiyo) is not just a pastor; he is truly a father in every sense! With great glory often come battles, but when you have a father who, with God’s instructions, stands by you, never giving up, even when humanly speaking one might be tempted to rest-he pushes on because God promises He will do it or He has done it! Hmm! Daddy, God’s servant will be there until you are 100% victorious and free! We thank God that he answered the call!
All glory to God🙌
❤❤❤❤
what is the name of pst elebiyo church in Ibadan
This is why we create gospel content, information like this would really help the body to disciple properly.
Apostle Femi, when will you be interviewed for your own story😢☹️
On the anniversary of stories will be the best gift he will give us by God's grace! Apostle God bless you for this!
When someone just seats and talk about most part of your life story. Thank God for healing process. Thank God for SLC
It takes the Grace of God oo. Aps.My father is the reason I don't really go out, and that has saved me alot...one day i will tell my story
She is blessed ..... she won by marrying a kind man. I pray that breaks any more generational trauma
Wow!!! sometimes we can be in our bubble and not realize that life hits people differently, what a strong woman, God bless you Ma'am
Pastor Kayode Elebiyo is a father ❤❤ Thank you for everything you do sir, God will continue to bless 🙏 and strengthen you Sir
Pastor Kayode ELEBIYO is a great man of God , proudly my father , selfless and He is always there for us all .
Who is this pastor. Pastor Kayode Elebiyo. I will Google him. God bless you sir
Pastor Kayode Elebiyo of Word Chambers Church International is a father indeed 💯
Sir, Have you seen the second episode?
@@jenniferalexander2288 I will
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Our daddy! Our daddy! God bless and keep upholding him!
@@jenniferalexander2288everyone have seen it ❤
She’s so well spoken, so grateful to God for her life. God is indeed the giver of all good things
She narrated my whole child hood story .. but mama behavior was more of my mum .. this broke the inner me .. I pray for Gods healing
I know one day I will be able to tell the world and girls that are facing traumas too how God helped me overcome.
Same here but still waiting for God's help 😢
Same here it's so bad ... having difficulty loving anyone else
Jesus will give you the grace
🥹😭😭😭
🥹😭😭😭
This story helped me a lot in healing
I pray God heals me completely
It takes God’s grace not to be loose. I can testify to that Ma.
I really can relate with this lady. It's a very difficult topic to discuss with anyone.
This is like I am the one sitting in that seat sharing. I so relate with this story. Thank you Apostle Sir and your guest.
Lord you didn’t bless me with a father figure that stayed💔pls give me a loving husband who will stay and live long🙏
My prayers too ❤
Amen
Amen to Us both sisterly
Amen to Us both sisterly
Amen!!!
As a girl who lost her dad at 7😢 he used to love me so much that I wanted that love so much from the one I could shear that love with😭and when they decide to leave it’s as if my life has come to an end💔 Apostle I bless the day I came across your page, your teachings have been doing so much in my life
You are not alone sis 😢
The way I cried while watching this is ah I related to almost everything she said
May God bless A.Femi lazarus for allowing God to use his platform to heal us ❤
@@rebeccalukusa3538 we will overcome my love🙏🥰
My Dad was super protective,won't even let my brothers friends talk to me,bought my first pad and pants 😂. Daddy I love you. Keep resting in God's bossom.
Ohhh you just typed my life. Man always took me to the hospital when ever I was sick every time. Keep resting daddy 🕊️🕊️
I didn't even have father figure in my life, but i still thank God for everything.
Mummy! Thank you soooo much and May the Lord bless the works of hands and your household!
The Lord Jesus will be your strength and refugee, in Jesus Name!
When u think you have gone through alot, and boom, u hear what another person has been through, then you will thank God, that u didn't really go through alot😢 because what are my hearing!!! someone went through all of this and still standing, God is Good.
❤🎉
One day by God’s grace I will be able to share my testimony and life history fully. God is good all the time
God bless you for you this series Apostle!
Hmmmm, thank you for sharing your story.
I have an almost similar experience, suffered seriously from low self-esteem, like Apostle said, you feel people loving you are doing you a favour... hmmmmm, I am grateful for growth
I am grateful for the house God planted me. Sphere of Light Church Global
Amen
This has really opened me up. I thought I am different,I thought it just me but hey alot of stories to be said
May you receive grace from sharing such a sensitive story
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I grew up in a dysfunctional background that left a vacuuum in me, my dad wasn’t emotionally available for us although he was present, this has affected my self esteem, my relationships… I still find it difficult to make or keep friends. I feel left out most times when I groups, always keep to myself. I pray I find a way out of this and get healing.
The wasted years can't automatically be restored! So true as I have seen it constantly with my therapy clients. As much as possible keep the parent, child relationship intact!!!!
Thank you for telling your story. People will never believe you and will never understand it. If you don’t go through it you will never understand, I don’t care what people or your therapist says your trauma would never goes away.
🎉
❤
This woman is strong!!
The truth is, speaking about it is healing in itself. Sending you love❤❤
The audacity to think you know best whom your daughter should or should not marry when you didn't even raise her is daunting. What a sense of entitlement. Amazing!
Honestly african parents scare me with their mentality 😅💔💔😭😭😭
This woman oh. I feel you too much. You are speaking my pain.
👏
You can actually be in a dysfunctional nuclear family unit where father and mother are present. There is so much to unpack in this tell all interview. Childhood and family traumas are real and it is more likely to find unhealthy, dysfunctional families than healthy families in this world.
When she talked about her relationship with her dad, it hit home hard for me and mine even worse was living in the same house with my dad with zero love, communication and connection. May God heal our brokenness
Amen 😢
24:51 literally crying ,this is more than an interview , it's her pouring it all out and us just giving a listening ear and understanding❤may God heal you completely
Thank you PS femi
We never really get over childhood trauma💔for some reasons it just appears on our faces
It's the way this story is just so much like mine. We're really never alone, are we?
Thank you Apostle sir and thank you madam for sharing your story. Sooo...how do we restore broken parents and child relationship?
These stories are really touching. I see how God works on their lives and i believe in the reorganization of my life b
Whaooo . Just want to be happy. One man to love me. Not every one understands this part. We all come from a different background with painful experiences. Most times we try explaining but no one get it.
This womans story is exactly my story, both family n social wise. Pastor femi Lazarus i wish to speak to u, ur messages always inspire me
Amen
It's funny how many people went through these things n have been silenced for years
Parents who don’t create safe spaces for their children need to change. Your children should be able to come to you with the truth. Once they hide things from you because they are scared of you, you’ve failed them 💔
Her grandpa was my grandma 😭 thank God she is still alive! May God continually keep you in good health
Why families don't talk about sexual assault is that they feel ashamed and they feel they have failed you.
This woman oh. You are touching matters!!!
Are you me? I've really suffered similar version. Don't know how to maintain friends, don't know how to deal with people, a whole lot of shameful secretes and no one to talk to.....😭. God be my helper🤲
All is well , all will be well , we are all in this together. God is more than capable, sis, u are loved and a blessing madam God be praised always
Just rely on he,am always available to be your friend
Am here for you sis, it’s well for you ijmn❤❤❤
May Lord be with you 🙏🏽
❤
Uhmm the mom thinking that because she was close to her cousin meant that they were sleeping together. 😢 Then they protected the offender to maintain the family's pride and reputation, it's unbelievable.
Pastor I really need to talk to someone about my hurt
It's amazing how many people are carrying this kind of thing
Listening to this story made me cried literally, bcos I am also going through some hurt...I get angry easily, I have zero emotions, mean
I know something is wrong with me emotionally but I'm yet to understand why, I still don't know the cause.
How does someone get to speak with someone... truly, Apostle lazarus message has helped me overcome and still overcoming traumatic experience
God help me, I want to have similar testimony. I tell myself I am ok but...
I can relate to this story very. The nights are always my crying times, its better now but am yet to heal. I was lonely all my life, even though I was with close relatives. I grew up without my parents and when I went to stay with dad, he hurt me more than his cousin who brought me up. Till today am suffering from rejection and loneliness. This made me get so emotionally attached to my ex so much so that after I met Christ and broke up with him, I still can't forget him. I took harsh measures like blocking him and not talking to him, but still. I really need healing, God please help me.
Thank you sir for this different story be is heal us this woman story is just like my but different is just l have a child out of wedlock
This is why I don't allow male family members from my side and husband side to stay in my house, especially because of my daughter. Whoever want to assault my daughter must first kpai my enemy because, as a mother, I made sure it didn't happen and by God's grace will never happen. May God have mercy on all evil cousins, uncles, brothers and even fathers who have assaulted a female family member.
Even male house helps
Beware of female relatives too, the thing is to teach your child cautions, be close to her and cover her with prayers, always presenting her before God.
After what happened to me as a child, till today, I don't like people coming into my home. If you'll come, spend a few hours and go.
My mum doesn't understand why I hate it when she invites people over. I still can't get myself to tell her what happened so she doesn't feel guilty.
Thank you Jesus
Praise God 😊
Ahhhh. This hits differently. I hope I'd one day talk about my trauma. Just realised i still have to forgive.
I can relate but thank you Jesus for your healing
Oh lord, permit me to say that even in a family with both father and mother, there can also be no emotional connection and love. With that with that the person can lose all senses of emotions and love.
i am watching this story with great strenght.
Childhood trauma has broken a lot of us 😢. May we all find the healing we all need in Jesus name, amen.
Amen. You are right
Amen.😢😢
We don't like too much closeness because we grew up molding and mentoring ourselves without anyone. So we turn to push ppl away
Am telling you,I only confide in myself cuz i don't trust anyone
Same here
I get extremely scared trusting anyone
@@ebenezerlouisa4508 it's well everything will be fine 😊
Emotional connection with siblings is not what all parents can pull off. Some parents practically separate their children and they will only relate because they are siblings but not loving one another.
This is me.
Exactly my story.
In my case, unfortunately, I still haven't been able to allow anyone to love me. I really feel lonely, but anytime someone approaches me with love, I just leave that friendship. I just can't help myself, I really need help.
I cried seriously watching this.
Thank you Again Ma, for sharing your story.
I am grateful because a lot of my sisters, mothers and teenagers currently in this that we cant reach personally, will be reached through this video..
God blesssssss you immensely
I love you very much ❤
😢 This is making me realize, I'm not alone 😢
I'm completing this year from uni, and I have just a friend or 2. Childhood trauma😢
Hi princess.
Need a new friend?
This is so touching and seems like someone telling my story
Thank you Jesus for healing your daughter
I can totally relate to her story, similar circumstances.
This is my story and I pray that I will be healed enough to say it to the world one day
She even know her papa, you de lucky wella, if not my mother’s family I don't know where I would have been today. I thank God for God’s grace and the salvation of my soul.
Child trauma is so real. May God heal our hearts. Fatherly love is important. I pray that my kids will experience it since i didn't.
God bless my mum's soul. She was there for me
She literally lived my life
Family
Not going back to the past
Everything!!
This stories helped me ❤
Jennifer your story resonate with mine
We have similarities
Can you please provide a link to these sermons that she mentioned. Thanks.
“Childhood traumas never really leaves you”.
Never
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Never
You only heal😢😢😢
Very true
Lord help me, this woman of God story resonates wìth mine story line emotionally. Help me Lord to heal and learn to love 😂😂
This is similar to my story 😭😭😭. Till today my life has been greatly affected by my childhood experience. I wish all pastors will understand the topic of love and compassion as Jesus showed us. And stop being overly judgemental when they hear the mistakes you have made.
May the Almighty God bring you healing. Sending you love ❤️
I pray you heal completely, and find real ❤
Lord Jesus, help me against fear of the future in the area of family especially from childhood trauma. Lord heal my heart
Thank God for healing🥺❤️
She's really telling my story. But she is very lucky to be married. But am still single till now.
God will send you your own happiness in Jesus name Amen 🙏🏻 🫂
Please share the sermon that brought about the change.
He has a series on church hurt and trauma pls search it
Ahhh, you expected your husband to understand but he couldn't relate and that created resentment... This was deeeeeeeeep, he doesn't understand what rejection feels like and is also hurt as to why his love wasn't enough... This was a sermon
Childhood trauma, she's so right,i hardly make friends,married to a good man but still feels like am not good to him.
Childhood trauma never really leaves you. That broke me 💔