HOW I SURVIVED THE TRAUMA OF A TOXIC BACKGROUND AND AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

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  • HOW I SURVIVED THE TRAUMA OF A TOXIC BACKGROUND AND AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

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  • @Godzymediastudios
    @Godzymediastudios 4 часа назад +289

    If you’re coming from instagram gather here

  • @godinspired4980
    @godinspired4980 5 часов назад +106

    I need this healing ,like my comment so I come back here .Thank you ❤

    • @ruthuwa2470
      @ruthuwa2470 4 часа назад +1

      I pray God give you the strength to push through. Love n light ❤

    • @caryneezerioha589
      @caryneezerioha589 4 часа назад +2

      Desiring it is the first step, God will perfect it all . Amen 🙏

    • @Azira1617
      @Azira1617 3 часа назад +1

      May God heal you Speedily ❤Amen

    • @Favourgirl
      @Favourgirl Час назад

      A lot of girls go through abuse and live with the trauma without proper healing.

  • @mustieeykurfieey5730
    @mustieeykurfieey5730 5 часов назад +131

    Had to watched d full video all d way from tictok. I’m a muslim but this pastor is really wat all people want as their spiritual guidance

  • @aralolaakinyemi2723
    @aralolaakinyemi2723 4 часа назад +53

    She's seen a whoooooole lot! I mean, she's not even tearing up. I'm all teary just watching this.

  • @ValleyOfBlessing
    @ValleyOfBlessing 3 часа назад +43

    Since God delivered me from an abusive relationship 5years ago, I can say Jesus is still working on me, he's still healing me, ohhhh the trauma, anxiety is a lot, I'm from a loving family but a strict christian home, so I was scared to speak up because I'm not supposed to be "dating" in the first place, oh I suffered in silence for 4years, I almost ran mad, but Jesus is so good, the only part that is difficult is for me is to forget everything, I just want God to wipe the memories off.

    • @favouregbe7299
      @favouregbe7299 3 часа назад +1

      I pray God surrounds you with His love 🎉🎉 Keep feeding your mind with God's word. And just believing He loves you.....the memory fades with time.

    • @ValleyOfBlessing
      @ValleyOfBlessing 3 часа назад

      ​@@favouregbe7299 Thank you so much

    • @michaelopeoluwa9447
      @michaelopeoluwa9447 2 часа назад

      God will perfect your healing

    • @ValleyOfBlessing
      @ValleyOfBlessing 2 часа назад

      @@michaelopeoluwa9447 Amen 🙏

    • @victoriaaniedo6437
      @victoriaaniedo6437 50 минут назад

      I pray God comforts your heart and fill your heart with his love ❤❤

  • @offiongekpenyongTHP
    @offiongekpenyongTHP 4 часа назад +77

    The kind of podcast we need in this generation

  • @bernicejoy3038
    @bernicejoy3038 4 часа назад +39

    I saw a piece of this on Instagram and came right here ❤ ... This is so deep and to hear the girl put all these things into the right words takes tons of healing. Glad she made it .. Thanks to the pastor who brought this out in a beautiful 🎉 way with healing 😍..

  • @aralolaakinyemi2723
    @aralolaakinyemi2723 3 часа назад +30

    Dear Pastor Femi Lazarus, Thank you, sir for saying YES to the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.

  • @faithikusemijupraises
    @faithikusemijupraises 2 часа назад +11

    Please don't rush her to part Two. Help her heal before the wedding. So the guy will not suffer. The guy is her strong point. Thanks to you Pastor for being her Father. Please don't leave her.

  • @uzohovictoria4693
    @uzohovictoria4693 3 часа назад +19

    I literally cried watching her speak. This is a lot, coming from a functional loving home is a big win. May the Lord help us to be better and be the best for our kids. Amen

  • @StephanieOdili-ys6ey
    @StephanieOdili-ys6ey 4 часа назад +25

    Y'all dysfunctionality is a very serious thing but it's never the end. There are proofs that God still heals.

  • @princessnelson1998
    @princessnelson1998 2 часа назад +14

    This just reminds me of the gracious Father we have🤭🥰
    People may look and say, "is this one a Christian? This one that curses at the slightest provocation or this one that is so bitter, bla bla bla", but that's not how our Father sees us, He's so loving, so patient, waiting for the perfect time to fix us 🥹
    When you think what you're going through is too much, and then you hear someone else's experience 😂😂😂 My God!! I have drawn strength from this 😌
    Thank you so much ma for sharing your experiences with us and thank you Apostle for hosting this❤️

  • @SusanneAdejo
    @SusanneAdejo 2 часа назад +19

    I have same story as her but I no one day God will give me d grace to share mine 😢

  • @user-jg3py3mj5l
    @user-jg3py3mj5l 3 часа назад +22

    Please o as you're watching, remember to like!!!
    It helps the video spread faster.
    I know you're blessed by it, bless another too.
    Thank you and God bless you

  • @shuaibmariam
    @shuaibmariam 4 часа назад +14

    The childhood of every child matters in their lives

  • @bimpedaniel3706
    @bimpedaniel3706 3 часа назад +7

    Dear Lord let me and my husband be there for our children.

  • @mrnatha
    @mrnatha 2 часа назад +7

    She has not completely healed😢.
    But she has come a long way and is healing.❤💪
    It would be nice she gets therapy

  • @mayowa9715
    @mayowa9715 4 часа назад +14

    Hmmmmmm.
    A different side to this is, coming from sooooo much love and having this subconscious feeling of showing people love or helping them see love, and in the process, end up with very toxic people that makes you feel like leaving them means you are not fulfilling purpose and then remain stuck in an abusive environment.
    Love who loves love - very key.
    If you are successful enough to help people through their healing journey like this lady found, Good for you but its not in your place as a partner, you're not a therapist to everyone.
    This is truly deep

  • @NdubuokwuRejoice
    @NdubuokwuRejoice 2 часа назад +8

    I can relate what she's saying, I also suffered the same plight but I'm healing now by the grace of God and christ in me, thank you sir this is what this generation needs.

  • @adeleyeyetunde8920
    @adeleyeyetunde8920 Час назад +4

    Hmmmm, if you come from a broken home please make sure you don't give your children a broken home too. Trust God for healing and God help us all.❤❤❤

  • @stephaniechidiadi7149
    @stephaniechidiadi7149 Час назад +2

    You'll never understand her pains if you've never been in this position... I vowed to never give birth outside marriage because I had a terrible childhood. Lord we thank you for healing. Thank you Apostle.

  • @AVfittings
    @AVfittings Час назад +5

    This lady said if she start talking she will go on and won’t repeat herself, truly she has been through a lot I hope she finds the healing she deserves

  • @grace2excell
    @grace2excell 5 часов назад +14

    This will bring healing to so many people

  • @Annieeee877
    @Annieeee877 Час назад +2

    Her closing remarks ..👏👏👏
    When you come under the Lordship of our Lord Jesus Christ.. Yes the anger is justified but you no longer have a right to it

  • @go-to-Maria-Goretti
    @go-to-Maria-Goretti 4 часа назад +8

    Joy has always been a strong girl and I’m happy she is an overcomer. God bless you ❤

  • @mekeruche
    @mekeruche 55 минут назад +2

    This young woman is obviously gifted and talented and the devil tried to take her out early . I see her wining multitudes and to Christ

  • @ahanonulaura7844
    @ahanonulaura7844 2 часа назад +4

    Now I understand the scripture ‘love covers multiple of sins’ differently. We all have our own peculiar story but where there is love, even the worst situation can be managed and healing found. Even a baby understands the language of love

  • @akonobaratuaipre3402
    @akonobaratuaipre3402 12 минут назад +2

    One thing I realized about life, is it that God place some kind of people in dysfunctional life to experience difficulties in their early background to know the basic reality of life and healed them and the same time turns their mess into messages also to courage those who are in similar situations.
    Like myself also but today I am a leaving testimony to the environment and the society, all these are the hand work of God 🙏

  • @princecouragebanini6388
    @princecouragebanini6388 Час назад +3

    Thank you, Apostle Femi Lazarus 😢❤. Thank you for accepting the call of God and staying true to your calling. You're healing a generation 😢😢😢

  • @adewumiarowolo3305
    @adewumiarowolo3305 2 часа назад +2

    God is truly doing an incredible work of healing in her life. To share such painful experiences without weeping is amazing.

  • @nenaalu758
    @nenaalu758 3 часа назад +2

    Did you say, you were smart?? No, you weren't smart, YOU ARE GREAT, greatness lies in you girl, God bless your path

  • @preciousehikhuemen2041
    @preciousehikhuemen2041 51 минуту назад +2

    It takes a lot of courage to share something so deep like this 😢 May God perfect he’s healing in ur life

  • @French_with_Pia
    @French_with_Pia 33 минуты назад +2

    Apostole Femi Lazarus, God is going to bless you for this platform. I cried so hard watching this. One day I’ll tell my story and heal completely.

  • @abiodunlight561
    @abiodunlight561 4 часа назад +5

    God bless pastor Lazarus. These Stories are impactful.

  • @Cee_tee1
    @Cee_tee1 Час назад +2

    Fathers love💔 was something I didn’t experience from the age of 7 till now I’m 23, please God don’t let my children miss that too😭😭 no matter what a father in a girl’s child life is everything

  • @rehobothchild359
    @rehobothchild359 3 часа назад +1

    Thank you Jesus for the gift of healing. May all who are hurting receive healing in Jesus's name.

  • @Cee_tee1
    @Cee_tee1 52 минуты назад +3

    Apostle has really touched a lot of lives

  • @malebogoqueenlwando3413
    @malebogoqueenlwando3413 Час назад +1

    Not me holding back tears. A part of her story is my story. Both my parents are late.
    Really relatable. I am also working on starting my own foundation inspired by what I went through as a young mother who stayed with a man who emotionally abused me to a point it almost got physical. to a point I was accused of witchcraft. But because I couldn't sustain myself, I stayed. Suffered Molestation from a relative. Sexual harassment from my own brother. Like she said they take advantage when they know you really have no one. I am just realizing that I need to heal before I can pour out from my cup. Thank you for sharing your story. May God bless you.

  • @aghoghoedewor7081
    @aghoghoedewor7081 4 часа назад +4

    Been glued to pastor's RUclips channel just finished the series on dysfunctionality and going up from there....this is touching and basically what he has been teaching

  • @abigailchindaba
    @abigailchindaba 4 часа назад +5

    You are a very strong lady, thanks for sharing ur story, it take so much to share such with the world

  • @afeose9735
    @afeose9735 Час назад +1

    Wow..
    Thank God for starting the healing process in you.May God heal everyone that needs healing from any kind of life trauma in Jesus’ name..🙏🏽

  • @esthersuccess7514
    @esthersuccess7514 55 минут назад +1

    Haven’t cried so much in a while , but thanks for sharing your story. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone

  • @tracygracious9237
    @tracygracious9237 3 часа назад +1

    Once you’ve shared your heart with someone that kind of love stays with you forever.

  • @ayabas2520
    @ayabas2520 3 часа назад +5

    God’s healing tour is catching public attention

  • @adedolapooyewale9741
    @adedolapooyewale9741 3 часа назад +1

    What you just said is so true. Each time I’m going through a rough path I always tell myself this thing has an end and that helps me to keep pushing forward.

  • @onahblessing6088
    @onahblessing6088 3 часа назад +3

    😢 it takes someone in pain to really understand this 😢😢

  • @Evang.Mike_Onyebuchi
    @Evang.Mike_Onyebuchi Час назад +9

    The battle you have faced is because of the grace you carry. It's a dangerous grace, it scares the kingdom of darkness. But your light has come! They've thrown their best punch, but now is your turn: SCATTER EVERYTHING, MAKE THE DEVIL CRY! SHINE FOR GOD'S GLORY!!!

  • @adahagba4688
    @adahagba4688 2 часа назад +3

    Every thing you experienced was moulding and shaping you for the journey ahead. You are golden and you know gold has to go through series of hot fire to come out beautiful and strong. I remember you said you were a smart but timid child but look at you now BOLD like a LIONESS and speaking with so much conviction mehn I’m so proud of you and how you came out victorious. Glory 🎉

  • @ajiwojuolorunboluwatife-nt3wv
    @ajiwojuolorunboluwatife-nt3wv 2 часа назад +2

    Part 2 seriously needed. I'm curious to know how she was able to get away from her toxic ex.

  • @margaretblessing6778
    @margaretblessing6778 3 часа назад +1

    Hmmmm. This is touching.... I am so blessed. Thank you so much sir. I will also tell my story one day when am totally healed in Jesus name.🙏

  • @kerennongho
    @kerennongho 2 часа назад +4

    Me, I took knife oooo at that same age I remember like it happened yesterday almost cut myself and I dont knlw how oooo I finally did not cut myself again. Never told anyone. This session is bringing healing and deliverance

  • @mfonetuk1814
    @mfonetuk1814 2 часа назад

    To God alone be the glory! You're a destiny child. Now I know that most people on street "insane" are traumatized . The Lord's hand was upon you and it's still... God bless you dear. You are free, you're loved, you're blessed victorious and lifted. Thank you Apostle God bless you, your family and your ministry. More grace

  • @purplemediatv
    @purplemediatv 4 часа назад +3

    God has brought you a mighty long way, you are a worrior, a strong woman and watch out God will take you far , keep strong and trust God. You also need safety

  • @kingsleychiakwa5025
    @kingsleychiakwa5025 46 минут назад

    Thank God for you Pst. Lazarus. The devil lost a battle and will keep losin more battles. Amen

  • @adedejidamola5856
    @adedejidamola5856 Час назад +1

    God thank you for bringing Apostle to our generation
    Ma I pray your healing is permanent 🙏
    And I pray God heal me also of all kinds of dysfunction I'm battling with 😢🙏

  • @Diaryofalovedwife
    @Diaryofalovedwife Час назад +4

    I grew up in a house ( wouldnt call it a home) where my dad would often hit my mum, my mum who has known no love from my dad and inlaws would also often hit us and use abusive words on us at the slightest provocation, my elder brother would often hit us his sister's and use abusive words on us. At age 12, i was taken to live with an aunt who is married to a pastor. This aunt dealt thoroughly with me. It was years of emotional and verbal abuse. I became such an angry and sad person. Uptill age 30, i was still hit by my elder brother. I have been dealing with anger, anxiety, and panic attacks, and I've attracted the kind of men that are not ideal for me as a result of my state of mind. I've contemplated suicide a couple of times, and I've never imagined myself in a wedding dress. Feels like it's too good for me. I know i need Gods healing, i hope i get it soon.

    • @henriettaboniface164
      @henriettaboniface164 Час назад

      You are not alone dear.. hug and kisses

    • @seunfemi-ojo2893
      @seunfemi-ojo2893 Час назад

      Amen
      God will heal you, hold on to him and his love

    • @Esther-Newtestament
      @Esther-Newtestament 56 минут назад

      The Lord will take you through the healing process necessary for your growth . He will orchestrate circumstances to bring you into newness.

    • @faithamaefule6740
      @faithamaefule6740 32 минуты назад

      Please hold onto God fully my love, and seek him more, your healing is in him, I wish you well. ❤

    • @Cee_tee1
      @Cee_tee1 6 минут назад

      Omo💔you are on the right track sis,God will not forsake you

  • @chimanmaiwuanyanwu3687
    @chimanmaiwuanyanwu3687 3 часа назад +6

    Thank you pst Femi for putting this together.
    This is really going to help a whole lot

  • @ChibuenyimGiftNdubuisi
    @ChibuenyimGiftNdubuisi 4 часа назад +21

    Heewwuu! Chivita and chicken! Devil is a fool!

    • @ruthuwa2470
      @ruthuwa2470 3 часа назад

      Big fool

    • @ajibosekhameelat
      @ajibosekhameelat 2 часа назад +1

      Chi-chi😅
      This is not me being insensitive pls😅

    • @Cee_tee1
      @Cee_tee1 2 часа назад

      I tell you , a big fool

    • @okoronkwoonyinyechi5829
      @okoronkwoonyinyechi5829 2 часа назад +1

      You can imagine that
      Ordinary Chivita and chicken 🐔

    • @davidemmanuel6173
      @davidemmanuel6173 34 минуты назад

      😂😂😂😂 You people should stop playing with serious matter abeg😂😂

  • @abosedeadenewaadebote9157
    @abosedeadenewaadebote9157 11 минут назад

    I can relate to some parts of her story... Jesus made the difference,,... Pastor Taiwo Odukoya's message brought about the turnaround... Love you sis for sharing

  • @WinnerChukwukanne
    @WinnerChukwukanne 2 часа назад +2

    I’ve almost the same story with her😢I pray I get healed 😢I just want to be happy

  • @maryadeyemi8395
    @maryadeyemi8395 2 часа назад

    This is so timely for me the voices in my head were so loud yesterday. I thank God for this 🙏🙏🙏🙏 . Your healing shall be full and complete in Jesus name,thank you for sharing this 🙏

  • @nmesomasuccess9755
    @nmesomasuccess9755 Час назад

    I thank God for this great healing 😢
    Thank God for her husband now
    No one deserves this kind of suffering

  • @esy6064
    @esy6064 50 минут назад +2

    39:18 the way Apostle was surprised about her love for the abusive ex just hit me

  • @OniOluwatoyosi
    @OniOluwatoyosi Час назад +2

    This is a whole lot 😢
    Thank God for your healing

  • @ologeese
    @ologeese 2 часа назад +1

    I can literally relate with everything she said 😢. I pray I find full healing. God bless you for sharing this

  • @remilekunbello2116
    @remilekunbello2116 3 часа назад

    Wow,may God help me and heal me😢
    I thank God for your life sis
    Thank you dear Apostle Femi Lazarus

  • @leonaugbo4396
    @leonaugbo4396 Час назад

    This was such a painful story to listen to! Just brought tears to my eyes. Thank God she is okay now and thank God that he brought her a man who is good. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @etistitches
    @etistitches 3 часа назад +2

    I thank God for your fiance, he is indeed God sent to you. God bless him and may your healing come through. Amen.
    Pastor Femi Lazarus, if I don't hear you in a day, wetin I gain. God bless you Sir

    • @oluyemisijawoniyi9505
      @oluyemisijawoniyi9505 2 часа назад

      Same here o. I must listen to his message

    • @cakpabio
      @cakpabio Час назад

      I gain nothing. Pastors voice and teachings are therapeutic

  • @barristerzik7993
    @barristerzik7993 3 часа назад +2

    This is really heart wrenching.
    You were so young.
    While we thank God for how far he has brought you, we pray he continues to strengthen you. 🙏

  • @ennahbosson8708
    @ennahbosson8708 3 часа назад

    Wow, just wow. This is so inspiring and deep.
    Such a strong lady❤
    Thank you, God for how far you've brought this lady, this is mercy.

  • @afroafolagboye4903
    @afroafolagboye4903 2 часа назад +5

    I think the dad is a narcissist who abused the mum until he run her mental. This is what happened when you stay in an abusive relationship and say it because of your children and now the children are suffering

  • @EmailMyself-b1n
    @EmailMyself-b1n 2 часа назад

    All I can say is Wow!!!
    Thank God I came across this
    Hallelujah 🙌

  • @oluyemisijawoniyi9505
    @oluyemisijawoniyi9505 2 часа назад

    "Oh my gosh! This is too much to bear. She is such a strong lady."

  • @olayanjuaanuoluwa9541
    @olayanjuaanuoluwa9541 3 часа назад +1

    Emotional gaslighting is the worst!

  • @ewatomilolaoluboba6398
    @ewatomilolaoluboba6398 3 часа назад

    From the beginning to end I was just shedding tears 😢God pleaseeee .
    May God perfect your healing sis 🙏

  • @omotokeadebimpe1723
    @omotokeadebimpe1723 2 часа назад +2

    Father in heaven no be small thing dey for your backyard ooo😢

  • @ekom_peter
    @ekom_peter 4 часа назад +7

    Who else is here on time

  • @umamrahelishamudi9198
    @umamrahelishamudi9198 Час назад

    Fatherly love and motherly love is needed urgently in a lady's life.

  • @ichipirukevwe3035
    @ichipirukevwe3035 2 часа назад

    Dear God, thank you for healing her.😢
    She has gone through a whole lot

  • @jazzminestarlight
    @jazzminestarlight 2 часа назад

    What a story. I now understand the anger part better. I experienced that when I lost an important person in my life

  • @sundaybukola7063
    @sundaybukola7063 Час назад

    Wow, she really went thru a lot, and we still have a lot of young ladies going through this. God bless you for sharing your story.

  • @ibehusman4965
    @ibehusman4965 Час назад

    Congratulations my darling for this healing. I practically cried 😢

  • @gloriaikpea2317
    @gloriaikpea2317 Час назад

    OMG! I cried watching this. I pray God heals you totally.

  • @creatifedesigns
    @creatifedesigns Час назад

    I'm glad the healing came😢
    Thank you Jesus 🙏

  • @avoseholuwatomisin5536
    @avoseholuwatomisin5536 30 минут назад

    God, heal me permanently from all the traumas I’ve been through 🙏

  • @GraceMagaji-zl9or
    @GraceMagaji-zl9or 3 часа назад

    Yes sir, she really has so much to offer ❤️ I pray for grace to keep healing Ma🙌
    God bless you Apostle🙌

  • @giftfreee
    @giftfreee 4 часа назад +7

    God bless you Ufedor and give you strength 🫶🤍

  • @OhiomobaSarah-v1e
    @OhiomobaSarah-v1e 47 секунд назад

    😢😢😢😢😢
    Thank you so much for sharing. Thank you Pst Lazarus for answering the call

  • @adahagba4688
    @adahagba4688 2 часа назад

    Baby girl it’s your season of laughter YAWEH has lifted the burden

  • @Annieeee877
    @Annieeee877 Час назад +3

    They’d always try to alienate you… Ecen the good friends you have ..they’ll try to make you leave them so they can show you proper shege

  • @ezefaithchinoyerem1467
    @ezefaithchinoyerem1467 Час назад

    God, what a life, most of her significant experiences happened around age 8.God please help us to be better parents to our children, help our children too, heal every one still broken.

  • @davidoyayeye
    @davidoyayeye 37 минут назад

    Wow!! Just Wow.
    Very impactful Story

  • @Adaji-y2c
    @Adaji-y2c 4 часа назад +9

    Never waited for anything like this before

  • @barristerzik7993
    @barristerzik7993 3 часа назад +5

    I remember that period in Kogi and I didn't envy you at all.
    I didn't believe that particular S.A though.

  • @Omaonu
    @Omaonu 2 часа назад

    This is so inspiring u don’t look like what you have been through may God perfect your healing amen

  • @leahaderoju1411
    @leahaderoju1411 Час назад

    Wow!!! This was beautiful, the transformation can only be God. This was an earful and a mouthful 😅

  • @aralolaakinyemi2723
    @aralolaakinyemi2723 3 часа назад

    Hallelujah. God is on my side to help me fight my battles.

  • @user-qb5fw9mc4t
    @user-qb5fw9mc4t 11 минут назад

    Apostle Femi is a great listener ❤ God bless you Sir

  • @Oluwabunmiomotola_
    @Oluwabunmiomotola_ 37 минут назад

    It’s the way she held up and composed herself for me
    Pple have gone through a lot
    I’m surprised she didn’t tear

  • @Cee_tee1
    @Cee_tee1 Час назад +1

    Chai,when you say people don’t look like what they have been through 💔