I needed this video. 23 and still at home and dropped out of school because anxiety. my boyfriend of 5 years is also living in his parents house and we struggle so much seeing our friends move out, get married, & have kids. Thank you for sharing.
I also had to drop out of school because of anxiety. It took me awhile but I finally accepted that I may not be where I want to be but I'm where I need to be and also that just because others are on a more traditional life path doesn't mean that they're necessarily better than others who are in a different place in life
I got my AA and dropped out. I moved in with my boyfriend, who is a bit older than me, who has a job and stuff. I worked for a few years to save money for school and now I'm starting school again. My anxiety is through the roof. I feel inadequate and stuff like that. However, as comments said above is right. Everyone's path is different. 23 is still extremely young. I'm actually turning 23 in a few months. Good luck with whatever path you chose to take. Don't close off anything bc of your age or education or whatever. Maybe online classes? Maybe an at home business if irl interactions are too much? There's a lot of options. :)
I'm also 23 and left a 4 year to recover my mental health. now I'm getting my AA (and BA soon) at home. a few of my friends still live at home as well. you're not alone! sometimes I feel really embarrassed and ashamed, but I know that It's better for me in the long run. I'm appreciating and taking advantage of my time at home with my family. I hope you feel better about your situation!
Mack and Liberty I just turned 25 and I'm back living with my Mum I've always had social anxiety which stopped me for looking for work because of the irrational fear of job interviews. When I finally got my first job at 23 it was a highly stressful call centre job and made my anxiety the worst it has ever been and I've been recovering for the last two years. There is this huge sort of feeling that I have that I should have achieved so much more by now like all of the people around me have gotten or at least are starting to get a degree, they have a job, a car they have all their health insurance and bills sorted out they're looking to buy a house. I think it is sort of a social conditioning and there is also the social idea that women expire at 30 (which is absolute bullshit!) and that you need to have everything sorted out before then and think about having children. I'm nowhere near that I still and in the mindset of a teenager. And it is hard because a lot of people think this way and you do end up feeling like a failure but that isn't going to help and everyone needs to develop at their own rate. So I don't really have too much advice for you but just know that you're definitely not alone here and a lot of people feel like they haven't achieved enough or they're not ready or they feel like a false adult! Everyone has setbacks at some point in their life and you shouldn't beat yourself up because of it or compare yourself to the people around you because everyone is different.
I moved back home from age 21-22 and I will forever cherish the time I got to spend with my parents because now I only see them a couple times a month.
I'm going to be 25 next month and am just slowly falling into a dark place realizing I still live at home and have no plans to move out. You're videos help because no one really understands how depressing being a late bloomer can make you feel.
Same. I'm turning 25 in december and I still live at home. I cant live alone right now because of my mental health. Tried that and it did not turn great sappy story tbh. Know that you are not the only one :)
I'm 21 and going back to school now. I took 2 years off to stay home with my son. Everyone's story is different. Only people who aren't happy with their own life like to make others feel bad about theirs. You are not doing anything backwards! I are actually very accomplished. You go girl.
I'm 21 and still living at home but have considered moving out many times, I do get the shame of still living at home, being between jobs and still not knowing what the hell to do with my life. You give me so much hope Sarah and I don't have to worry too much about what I'm gonna do ♥
I know I'm still 21 and "young" but I feel like I'm expected to have some achieved by now like, a degree under my belt and have a job in my career field, but because I don't,.... OH the JUDGMENT issss REAL!! And when I just had a part time in the supermarket, customers were like "Ohhh it's better than nothing.... my son/daughter had x/y/z done when they were your age and now (so many years later) they are high in their field...... I'm like good for you?? Haha sorry rambling
Cora O'Donnell I'm glad there are others like this as well! My parents can be judgmental sometimes and act like I'm the only 21 year old who lives at home
I'm 21 haven't finished my associates, living at home with 2 jobs. Don't be so hard on yourself it's tough to have all your things together at 21, u literally just became an adult 🙄 all my pals are 21 and on the same boat. Now is the time to explore yourself and be selfish!!
Jack .Reed I don't understand what heck the pressure is to have your life together at 21. Who even has their life together at 21!?!? It's almost impossible we literally just graduated HS a bit ago. Too wild
I needed this video so badly. In four months I got a new job, moved out on my own and broke up with my boyfriend of almost 4 years (and he kept the cat we owned). So much is changing I feel like puking, but it's so relieving to know I'm not alone in it. I'm only 22 and going home isn't an option for me but I still feel blessed. Thank you for putting yourself out there, Sarah. Not feeling alone is one of the greatest gifts creators can give their subscribers. Lots of love!
Don't worry about what other people think. By the time I was 23 I had 2 children, divorce, and was back living with my mother. I only planned to live there for a year but it took me 7 years before I moved out. During that time I got 2 degrees, got my dream job, and finally able to buy my own home. My children and I lived there for 7 years. 5 years ago I got sick and developed a chronic illness autoimmune disease. I could no longer take care of my home so I had to move back home with my mom. So yes I am a 41 year old living with my mom. It is hard but I am thankful that she is able to help us.
My brother's in law are 30 and 28. The older one move out of their father's house this year, the other one still does. My sister in law is 26 and live with their mother. And me and my boyfriend are 21 and 23. We both live with our baby, and mother and my babysister. So, yeah, for us is normal to live with your parents if you can't do it before... Culture defines a lot of things. Don't feel pressured !
In Cyprus it's considered normal to stay with your parents until late 20s or even longer if necessary.. (necessary being until you can afford your own place).. Even if this is not culturally normal in the US, I think that premise should apply to all cases regardless of the country. So, just do what you have to do :)
I needed this talk. Im 25 and my life is not stable in any field just in my relationships , last week i get depressed because i had to drop school because anxiety and other stuff, im back now and its my last semester, but i feel so left behind, and see how your life is figured out inspire me and confort me. Thank you
I love your channel so much Sarah. I'm getting my degree in psychology this December & you are such an inspiration! I'm hoping to start a second channel dedicated to mental health/psychology because I love your videos so much, so thank you!! I was wondering if you would consider making a video of RUclipsr recommendations similar to your channel? I'm hoping to find more people who make videos related to psych/mental health/lifestyle like you, but I don't know where to start! Thanks for always being so lovely
emmmabooks woah hi Emma, didn't expect to see you here :) Sarah is one of my favorite youtubers too, you and her have been helpful in making me realize I want to go into psychology!!
I'm 18 and in college, but I still live at home and I will for a few years more. I'm super lucky that I'm studying and I have the support of my parents who the only thing they ask for me is to keep studying (wich i always will). Why should I feel ashamed for having great parents that support me and want to help me? There's no way I could get a gob now, I literally have no time. So yeah, every person's experience is different and you shouldn't feel ashamed of handling things your way, whatever age you are!!!
I'm still in high school but I'm still super grateful because for as long as I can remember my parents have always said that once I graduate and if I go to college they will continue to support me as long as I am studying. They won't ask me to pay for rent or food or stuff like that because they recognize being a student is my full time job and they would rather me focus and be able to do well in school than have to be worried about a job and having to pay bills along with the stress of school.
Gonna be honest I had this. My mum was always supportive of me doing further education and dedicating free time to studying whilst my friends parents all urged them to get jobs. Fast forward to me graduating university now I can't find employment. In the big wide world qualifications don't particularly matter. Employers want experience, experience, experience. Unless you're fortunate enough to know people with their own businesses who will employ you. I'd just advice those in education to get work, even if it is 2 hours a week because you'll need that experience in the end :/
I think of it as word document templates. Just because you don't use the most common template, doesn't make you stupid. If anything it makes you more interesting, and when someone meets you they will see something new for once--which I don't know about you but that makes a person more intriguing for me cx
Sarah I comment on your videos often because I relate to you a lot, but with this one I actually caught a tear falling down my face. That sounds dramatic, but I graduate in December and finished my grad school applications for January.. and then my awesome state school messed up my graduation paperwork. It's going to be fixed and all but it triggered those spiraling thoughts of "what if I don't graduate on time? What if I can't go to grad school right away?" I'm 26 and I am so, soo hard on myself because I haven't gotten my bachelors yet. I've lived at home this whole time and I haven't dated anyone or had many friends of value at this point. But, I take good care of my mental health, work part time, and am financially stable. I also feel like I'm ready for the next chapter in my life and I'm so inspired by your channel to take that plunge. Thank you.
My 10yr high school reunion is in October and I live in the house i grew up in (though my parents don't live here anymore). I've gotten a few "backwards" comments but i left a toxic marriage and on my own I couldn't afford to live anywhere else... I've had a lot of judgement about my decisions and how if I hadn't gotten divorced I would be financially better off, not raising 2 kids without assistance, not so broke all the time.... it used to hurt a lot but I've learned to ignore those people because sometimes the path is not a straight line. And while other people think those steps are in the wrong direction they're not on the same journey with me, so what do they know.
This video is so me I'm 26 at home moved back last year and just trying to save up for a move and trying to go back to school. So I can get my life together, there's nothing wrong with loving parents who actually let there children move back to get their life together. Love your videos!!
Thank you for making this video. My life definitely hasn't fit the typical timeline either, and it can be hard. People are quick to make assumptions and judge without knowing half the details. When that happens, I always try to remind myself of how far I've come. It may not be where people think I should be, but it is where I need to be and I am okay with that. It's my life, no one else's.
It seems like you're in such a hectic phase and I feel the anxiety through the video but at the same time you seem so focused and positive. And I know thats probably a great fight for you but I just wanted to say I really admire that strength and that you're sharing it with us. And the whole Benjamin Button thing is new to me and utterly ridiculous; people following the school job marriage (in misery for the sake of fitting in) thing are the Benjamin Buttons, we live in a different age ffs. Anyway sending so much love your way 💜💜💜
I feel you. Im 18 and am not attending college this semester, which hurtfully classes started today and im watching all my friends go on. I also am struggling like hell to find a job to save up to actually go to college in the Spring. Its tough but I fucking hate when people try to judge and shame me. Fuck them, every person is different
A K. Cobain I'm going through the same exact thing! I just graduated highschool and decided I wasn't really ready for college, main reason being money. Finding a job has been way harder than I expected. Hope everything works out for you!
anahi marquez we're like soul sisters lol! Thank you, im being optimistic. It sounds horrible but im glad im not alone lol. I truly hope everything works out for you as well.!!
A K. Cobain Hey. I just took a semester off, I'm 20, I've been doing school on and off for 2 years and I have 2 years left. (Not even for a bachelor's, for an associates -_-) Don't think that you're bad!!! As long as you keep trying and have an end goal in mind, it doesn't matter how long it takes. It doesn't matter that you have a different path. Just keep focused on doing things that improve your life and eventually you will have it figured out ✌✌
A K. Cobain I'm taking a break before college too! I don't like the idea of being unprepared for things, so I wanted to take a few extra months getting situated with important stuff (license, work, right college, etc.) (:
I think you are right where you need to be Sarah. Thanks for sharing. Sometimes the internet world might make us feel like we are behind because of the facade but everyone is on a different path at a different rate. It is always better to find what you want later in life than to speed through societal "norms". Thanks for inspiring gratitude and making regulat people feel normal.
Im 25 and still live with my mum and sister plus my fiance and nephew age 5. Primarily this is because we lost my father suddenly end of last. I have literally stopped working and studying due to my loss last year and working on getting myself better mentally. I definitely understand what you are saying. Society expects us to be successful at a certain age or to have our lives sorted by like age 18. Things happen in life that alter our lives, it doesn't mean we are going backwards. Societies expectations suck and I wish we weren't so caught up in it
I'm glad that you addressed this as I'm going to be 27 in October and I've lived away from home for the past 3 years after moving to a different city to do my Masters. I graduated 2 years ago, and decided to stay in the same city as the cost of living is significantly cheaper (I'm originally from London) but I have been working in retail as I've been unable to get a graduate job. I have now made the decision that it may be time for me to move back home and start interning (again, sigh), but I am ready for a new chapter in my life. It mainly makes me nervous about the reaction I may get from other people, or maybe it's just societies expectations of me. A lot of my friends from school are married, have children, getting mortgages and I feel like I am still waiting for my life to begin.
Thank you. Thankyouthankyouthankyou. I'm 21 and living with my mom again, after going to college for a bit, moving in with my S.O., and then consequently parting ways. I've had such a hard time coming to terms with this.. My friends are all on their fourth year of college when I'm not currently in college.. I have NO IDEA what I'm doing with my life, and moving back home has only added to these feelings of uselessness. To round it out I also have severe depression and social/general anxiety... It is so comforting to see someone I respect so much in a similiar position and dealing with similiar feelings and thoughts. You have given me some peace of mind when I haven't been able to find it anywhere else, and for that I can't thank you enough
I have done it plenty of times. Moving back home to help through a transition is a SMART decision. I don't think any single person or people in a new relationship should feel ashamed of living at home no matter how old or where they are in life. For our generations, it's almost near impossible to go live on your own without at room mate.
Watching your videos really helps me. I'm 20 (21 in march) and I still haven't started college because I have been working constantly. It helps seeing someone that is proof that it's okay to go on your own path.
No matter the age and circumstances you are under, we have to make choices to adjust to life. It's perfectly fine to still live with your parents and try to get your stuff together. I still do, but for many different reasons. I so much wish to live on my own... but my current situation wont allow it. I thank my parents for helping me out in such a time of need. Not many are lucky to have parents who are wiling to accept their struggles and lend a hand and a roof. Ignore the negative vibes sent your way, because it's not their lives.. it's yours. Sending lots and lots of positive vibes!💪🖤🖤🖤😊
Your degree is not small, it is amazing! I think you are making awesome life choices and you seem like you know what you want. You are practical and seem to be handling life beautifully.
I went to two separate universities for 5 different majors until I landed in community college (where I feel like i've belonged all along) and I totally resonate with this video. I felt like I never fit in in traditional university. I wish this expectation and push to be on your own and stable by your first year of college wasn't a thing. I think community college, vocational school and other options should be talked about in addition to traditional university. If you're reading this and you're panicking that you don't like college, or don't fit in, don't worry. There are so many options and paths out there you don't have to take the path most traveled (community college will get me a well paying job and a career I love and I didn't even know it was an option).
Most people I know within our generation never even moved out to begin with so there is that little tid bit to help stay positive as well! I am inspired by your ability to share this aspect of your life and staying positive is harder than it seems.. take your time and recollect your self and life and RUclips will be there when you are ready. :)
It is so hard to live on your own now. I don't know how many times I've had to move back in with my parents. The only reason I'm not living with them now is I picked up and moved to a different state to live with my best friend and she has been helping me out so much. The fact you have a basic plan for everything is great. I really hope things go well for you and I'm looking forward to seeing your videos when you get back to it!
What you said in this video really made an impact on my way of thinking. I'm still in high school but pretty soon I'm expected to get into college, find a stable career path etc. All of that seems scary to me, but to hear you say that as long as you're grateful and are able to move forward regardless of what society expects of you really makes me take a different outlook ok my future.
So proud of you for staying strong through this! I can feel your anxiety and can relate it to mine because I'm moving in the next week! I'm glad you're positive and this video made me feel so much better than the last one that you posted about moving in with your parents. You have hope here! Keep it up
it's honestly such a relief to me that you feel like you can use this platform to talk about what's going on in your life. just looking at the comments, I can really see how helpful it is for so many people to hear about the "unconventional" decisions you've made and why they were important for your personal progression.
I'm so happy for you, Sarah. I'm going through a really difficult transitional period right now after moving out of a bad situation I was in for 5 years. I thought when I moved I would be instantly happy and that things would seem better but I'm more depressed than I have been in a long time (I'm also very much struggling with my bipolar disorder) and I just seem to have no sense of direction right now. I'm not sure why I'm sharing all of this, but this video truly gave me some form of hope. I have tried a lot of the advice that you have suggested and I'm still struggling greatly. Perhaps you or some or this amazing family in the comments can give some advice of anything else I could do to help myself. Thank you for reading if you chose to. Thank you for making these videos and being a friend. Much love.
Late bloomer too. Dropped out of school. Developed anxiety. Depression. That is now 6 years ago. Still working on it. Things are finally looking kinda good :) Took some time. Some really long time. Kinda hard thinking about how many years I've spent on it. Time is weird and I dont like it. Glad you have figures some things out. Take care of yourself ❤️
I love this video so much. You touched on so many important topics and it made me feel so much more hopeful as a 20 year old who has been suffering with anxiety and depression and unable to fulfill society's standards of living, finance, and education as fast as others expect me to. I love how open you are with us, it makes me feel so much more in touch with you and helps remind me that I'm not alone! ♡
Sarah I found your channel about a year and a half ago and it has helped me SO much. It feels like I have a friend in my age range who I relate to. I'm 25 and am at community college right now majoring in Studio Arts and Psychology. I had to take my courses half time vs. full time in order to support myself as I am completely on my own, and everything in California is so expensive. When I'm in classes with people who just graduated h.s. it makes me feel uneasy because according to society I'm so behind. So I just want to thank you for making videos like these because it really helps people like me realize more of us exist and that it's okay.
I needed this video so much right now. I'm going through an insane change in my life and have so much pressure out on me and it's nice to know I'm not the only one going through some things right now. I've noticed 2017 has been a big year of change for a lot of people which I anticipated but that just means things will get better soon as you said. Thank you for being you Sarah we love you so much💜
As a college student still living in my family's home, I feel the same way. I have so much to be grateful for though- free rent and food are such a blessing even though it feels like I'm not "adulting" as much as I should be.
So glad that you do share with all of us. I'm currently back at home and figuring out my next steps after just graduating and it's definitely hard seeing those in my graduating class be able to move on so quickly even though I do know I have a plan and am taking steps toward it.
I don't know how long I've been watching you for but all i know is that it was when you were in your parents home as you are now; something is different though. Back then, (if i remember correctly) you were terrified and felt useless in regards to your own future. You would express that you felt stuck in one place and seeing everyone else around you "succeed" or "move forward". Use that experience to reflect and remind yourself of how far you've come. Its a 180 from a few years ago and I'm proud of you for that. As an 18 year old, I am feeling the way you felt a few years ago. Knowing how you've coped in bad times and how you thrive in the best makes me hopeful for myself for what is yet to come. 💜
This is my favorite video of yours. There's nothing I love more than to watch one of my favorite youtubers and feel as though we are sitting in the same room having a heart to heart. I must say that watching your videos makes being in your 20s and struggling with mental illness, or just being in your 20s, easier. Hang in there!
I think you are incredibly brave for sharing so much of your life story with strangers. You're very inspiring to me, I love watching your videos, definitely helps me feel like I'm not on my own in how I live. Loved this video Sarah and I'm glad you're happy and slowly figuring things out for yourself. ❤️
Awesome video! I'll be 21 soon and have no plans to move out of my family home until I'm stable enough financially to do so. I find it interesting how (most) Americans have a certain viewpoint about when a person should start moving out and on with their life; as a European person (Russian), we tend to not mind sticking with our families for as long as we need to. My mother actually encourages us to stay with her in the family home for as long as we need to! I think the fear of "overstaying your welcome" as a young adult is really sad, and no one should feel pressured to hastily explain why they're still living with their parents.
I really appreciate you making this video and sharing your experience with us, I've been in a transitional period for a while and it feels like things are finally planned out even if I can't tackle everything right this minute. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.
i originally left home ON my 18th birthday, was completely self sufficient for years, ended up moving back home 5 years later to escape an abusive relationship that would have left me homeless otherwise, now i'm 28 and still live here and it's great. me and my parents are closer than we have been since i was literally a kid, i help them out with a lot of stuff they couldn't do by themselves and i'm getting through college without debt. no shame for living at home, sometimes it's just exactly what you need and it's a blessing to have parents that will support you through the transitional periods in your life.
I'm seeing so many similar comments and I'm awestruck. There are so many people in the same situations as my friends and I and it's such a pleasant surprise that people of different backgrounds and ages all over are going through the same thing and understand. A lot of the times it's difficult to stay positive and most days a silly number (age) is almost suffocating when you look to other people on further stages of life. But we will allll get there! Thank you for sharing this!
Really love your videos. I'm 22 and just moved out and got my degree. Everyone around me acted like I waited way too long to move out of my parents house and I'm currently feeling the stress of finding a job in my field now due to my peers moving on so quickly with their degrees. I'm glad I'm not alone in taking my time to figure things out.
Wow! Just sent in my application for post secondary schooling today. I was so close to a panic attack thinking about finding a new place in a another city, budgeting, that my savings account has 50 dollars, worrying i might not be able to take my fur baby with me and a million other things. This video helped put me at ease a little 😀 Thanks! Hopefully in the next year and a half things will be okay and ill be a hairstylist 💇♀️💇♀️
I discovered you back in the day when you moved in with your parents and watched you religiously during undergrad. Somehow I lost track when you moved out. Last week I rediscovered you (right when you were moving back with your family) and binged your videos and vlogs. Like someone else already said here, it feels oddly like home. Wishing you all the best
Here in Brazil we live with our parents until we get married or until we're financially stable - whicever comes first -, and I think that makes a lot more sense? Living with your parents you can help with the bill while at the same time save money to when you're finally ready to move out and all. You're doing great, Sarah, and I love the way you talk about it
I never comment on RUclips videos, but omg!!! Thank you for making this video. It is so easy to feel "inadequate" in life, especially in the digital age when you see other RUclipsrs and people in general openly speaking about all of their successes online. Not to say there is anything wrong with that, it's just easier to compare yourself to others in that sense. I love your perspective of staying grateful and positive when things don't seem as good as they could be in times of transition. I'm 23 but going through similar things after graduating school last year. I live in a basement but have a job and am trying to pay off student loans and make it work. We got this! Thank you again.
I can't believe people would give you shit about NOT going through a proposal you didn't want. That takes a lot of power inside a person to end it and you absolutely did the right thing.
You are the realist you tuber and simply my favorite. I feel like we could just be best friends. Most of all I love that you are proud of you and don't take what the Internet world says to you get under your skin! You keep doing you because you are great at it!!!!!!!!!
Here in europe it's relatively normal to stay at your parents house up until your mid, sometimes even late twenties. :) most parents are perfectly fine with you moving back home if life throws you off and you can't handle/manage/afford living on your own anymore ☺️ don't let other people judge you, you do you and as long as it's the right decision for you and your parents are supportive, it's the right thing ♥️
I really appreciate you make this kind of content, as in honest and challenging the social expectations for young adults. I grew up in an environment where everyone I knew had the money to travel and live abroad and study there, so everyone I went to highschool left my city. I struggled with depression but I think it really fuelled it as I felt like I lived my life wrong and the people always mentioned how I'm still here or still single or still something and it never helped. I have a high school reunion now four years after my graduation and I'd rather stab myself. I genuinely feel good now but watching your videos reassured me that there's not one way of doing things regardless of what society wants you to do. Love you Sarah!
I just graduated high school, about to turn 18 and I'm trying to become an "adult". I love your talks like this because they give real info on what the process is really like.
I'm 24, still living at home, still in school, terrified to drive, and I'm trying to figure out my life. I don't think I have ever fit society's standards, but when I see all of these ppl who r younger than me being further along in their lives, it makes me feel like I should be doing better, I just don't know how and that is the frustrating part. I know everyone has their own journy...but I just always have this feeling that I should be doing more, being better....
I just moved back in with my parents! I don't know how old you are but I'm almost 30, sigh, but after everything I went through this year it was the right decision for me. I think it needs to be destigmatized because you never know what someone else is going through.
I moved out when I was 16 and I've been living alone ever since, but it'd never even come to my mind to judge someone who hasn't moved out yet or moved back in. If the circumstances were right, I'd move back in with my family in a second and without shame. I don't think it should be viewed as something embarrassing because having a close-knit and supportive family is a beautiful and rare thing and you're allowed to embrace it for as long as possible.
This might sound ridiculous but I went through a period of time that perhaps felt similar to what you're describing a few years ago & while at the time I felt very anxious, stressed & kind of just horrible I look back now at it as being very poignant & important, and there's a freedom that came from feeling like everything was a bit half way or undone
I love watching your videos, Sarah. Very real situations, makes me and many others I'm sure not feel so alone in difficult/confusing situations. You deserve the best! :)
I moved back with my mom two years ago and quit uni because of depression and social anxiety. I've tried to “go back“ to real life with internships but I broke down every time. It stresses me a lot to still be at home without any real perspective but it takes a long time for me to recover (I literally take baby steps 🙈). I'm currently looking into clinics for a longer stay there and I really hope that this will finally help me. Thank you so much for this video, it actually gave me hope for my future and made me realize that I tend to concentrate too much on everything I don't have, instead of focussing on the things I do have
I'm glad you're looking positively on your decision to move back home. I respect that you're willing to share this part of your life because you're right - people can relate. After my long-term relationship ended suddenly, I had to move back in with my dad for a while when I was in my early twenties. I felt like I had failed at being an adult and because of that, I wanted to move back out as soon as possible. My dad's totally great and he encouraged me to stay as long as I wanted and to save money. But I felt like that wasn't an acceptable thing because of societal expectations blah blah blah. Looking back, I wish I had stayed longer because I can see now that there's nothing embarrassing about that and it would've been a very logical decision.
My husband and I moved in with his parents for six months two years ago. Because we were in transition. People were so judgmental and mean, but I am so thankful we were able to do that. It helped us greatly and we also were set up so well because of it. I totally get why your defensive about it. Enjoy your break and can't wait to see new hair!
This was amazing timing. I am 21, I was living with my partner and I was studying to become a teacher and lately I was unhappy with the way my life was, so I decided to change it! I changed my degree, broke up with my partner and am moving back into my parents home. So thank you, thank you so much for making this video and trying to break the stigma. I hate societies standards of having to live out of home and falling into the system that society has created. It was scary and overwhelming to change my life so much, but I just wanted to thank you for making a video like this to point out that it's okay to not follow the path that society creates. You're amazing, thank you x
You are such a well spoken individual and it's obvious that you work hard in life. It's inspiring and even though I don't know you, I feel proud of you. You don't live in this fake fantasy youtube bubble and it's so refreshing. Keep it up.
You do you, Sarah. I know it's harder said than done but try not to think about the judgement. Don't waste your time on them because they're certainly not wasting their time on you. Most of the people that judge you will give a throwaway comment and then not a second thought about it or your situation. Love watching you. Hope the break does some good for you.
I am so happy you're planning to finally move in with your boyfriend. :) I really hope it'll work out and you'll find a great place. I am over roommates, too. :D
I love your channel I got my bachelor's in psychology in 2011 and I took a break to work then I went to nursing school but life happens and now I'm a stay-at-home mom of twins.
This is amazing and made me feel so much better, i'm turning 24 and am thinking about moving back home to make myself more financially stable. I'm a little scared for the stigma but i totally agree that societies expectations for people to have their shit completely together by their early 20's is kind of ridiculous. I mean, more power to you if you did, but i don't think it should be expected. So thank you for sharing your story, you're the best!
I feel you! I'm 25 and I live in Spain where most people leave their parent's house around 30 because the economic situation we are going through and so on. BUT, my partner is australian from a family of young parents and they found extremely weird that I've just finished my uni degree and I'm not moving with him to his country till next year. To me I'm feeling like "wow, I'll be moving so young!" while to them we are massive late bloomers. In my opinion, I haven't been ready for moving nor even kids (and that won't happen till way more years in the future), we will be just doing it when we are ready in every single way!
I ADORE AND LOVE YOU SARAH THANK YOU FOR EXISTING. you've had such an amazing impact on my life, and if you see this, i just want you to know you're my all time favorite youtuber and my role model.
This video helped me. I'm 26 and trying to get into grad school, and get a job to try to pay off my school debts. I feel often like I'm falling behind by societies standards, and I'm going through a significant lapse in my depression because of a variety of factors. But if I look objectively at my life, I still have lots of time to get whatever it is my life is going to be in order.
Omg first, I wanna say I'm definitely feeling nostalgic about you being back home! Second, I'm honestly sorry you felt the need to clear up why you decided to move back home (even though it's none of our business). And lastly, I'm honestly proud to see how much you're evolving and growing as a person! I'm glad I decided to become one of your Patreons as I see you definitely have an even brighter future ahead of you! Sending love just a few cities south from you!!
I respect and admire you so much for following your own path and doing what's right for you. I'm 23 and I live with my parents because I still don't know what I want to do with my life (unless you call "spending your days writing in a coffee shop" a career). I have a business diploma but I couldn't care less about it (only did it because I didn't know what to do 3 years ago either), and I can't really move out unless I get a stable job. I'm trying to get a job for this year because I have to do something, but it's really more to give my parents some peace of mind... I want to be independent but right now I don't really see the point in moving out of my comfortable home to live in a crappy student room. I'll have to do it at some point, but it's just not my priority and luckily (or unfortunately) I don't really feel the pressure, since a lot of my friends are in the same situation. In Switzerland it's really hard to find a place when you're a student. The only thing I feel bad about is not finding a way to achieve the career of my dreams... Everyone around me knows exactly what they're doing and I envy them so much.
Thank you for this vdo, I've always feel like my choice is the oddest one out. I just want to be happy and me being happy is very unconventional to most. Much love and support to you.
I needed this video. I also feel like I need to make a video like this, too. I'll be 28 in October, just graduated, and I'm back home with my mom. I've never even have had a boyfriend or a legit job, because all my life I've been focused on school but now of course companies want experience and I'm like yeah I've done school for the past 20+ years -- but honestly, I'm just working on me -- my dream career, what I want to do, not what others want from me. I love how at the end you spoke of the positive things because I am lucky to at least have an understanding mom who is always here for me while I try to figure out this thing called life. Really just need to keep society standards out of my mind, along with the judgmental people. I could go on and on but I just want to say to you, and everyone else in these comments -- you're not alone, you do you despite what others will say because they're not in your shoes. It sounds so cliche but it's the truth.
Thank you for sharing your life with us Sarah. It is nice to hear different perspectives in life. I think society give us certain rules on how to live our lives and what we are supposed to do but I think its all bs. I think we just have to focus on our own lives and figure it out ourselves instead of listening external voices. Life is a process and no matter what age you are life doesn't stop, it is a continuation of changes and those changes whether is living with our parents (where I am from you are supposed to live with your parent until you get marry) or alone is just a process or steps to get us to where we want to be. So be hopeful and trust the process because at the end we are all in this together (trying to figure things out).
Hi Sarah, I just wanted to say thank u so much for being yourself. You've helped me and I am sure a lot of people more to ignore all the social expectations about how our lifes should be. I am finishing high school, which is of course, completely scary. I've never been my biggest support since I knew that my life is probably not gonna be what society told me it should. I used to put myself down constantly. I decided that I am not gonna do that anymore, and I am just gonna focus on studying, learning, working. I don't want to study for 4 years in a row, get my degree and work at the same place for ages. But maybe someday I discover that that's what i want to do! I am just gonna live my life as I want at the moment, without regretting my decisions. And that's something that I owe u. Thank u so much! I am sixteen now, and I've been watching ur vids for like three years now. Thank u for growing so much and sharing that with us. Love u!!
I usually feel like I'm going backwards in my life. I am eighteen and I quit two high schools because of my mental health problems and choosing the wrong direction. Because back at primary school I didn't know what I wanted to do with the rest of my life. So I am starting new school this september and hoping it will be better for me. It just kinda makes it harder seeing people my age preparing for graduating and having relationships while I am struggling to get my shit together. There's no way I have things figured out but I am still grateful that I am at least doing better than few months back. Love your videos, I like the fact that you are not afraid of being vulnerable
You are a badass. You saying you "kind of have it figured out" is an understatement. You DO have your life figured out dude. Also, props to making a sacrifice (moving home) so that when you move out again, you don't have to live with roommates! My partner and I were also tired of roommates... so when our lease was up, we were fortunate enough to find our own place together. I'm hella proud of you. Side note: I've been watching you for so long, do you remember when words with friends was in its prime and you gave out your words with friend username? Yeah--I've played you ;) Haha
Literally feels like I grew a up with you and we're going back home
Farrah Ali same
same
Yes! Same!
Farrah Ali so true
Farrah Ali I had the same thought 💜
I needed this video. 23 and still at home and dropped out of school because anxiety. my boyfriend of 5 years is also living in his parents house and we struggle so much seeing our friends move out, get married, & have kids. Thank you for sharing.
I also had to drop out of school because of anxiety. It took me awhile but I finally accepted that I may not be where I want to be but I'm where I need to be and also that just because others are on a more traditional life path doesn't mean that they're necessarily better than others who are in a different place in life
This is very similar to my situation at the moment too :(
I got my AA and dropped out. I moved in with my boyfriend, who is a bit older than me, who has a job and stuff. I worked for a few years to save money for school and now I'm starting school again. My anxiety is through the roof. I feel inadequate and stuff like that. However, as comments said above is right. Everyone's path is different. 23 is still extremely young. I'm actually turning 23 in a few months. Good luck with whatever path you chose to take. Don't close off anything bc of your age or education or whatever. Maybe online classes? Maybe an at home business if irl interactions are too much? There's a lot of options. :)
I'm also 23 and left a 4 year to recover my mental health. now I'm getting my AA (and BA soon) at home. a few of my friends still live at home as well. you're not alone! sometimes I feel really embarrassed and ashamed, but I know that It's better for me in the long run. I'm appreciating and taking advantage of my time at home with my family. I hope you feel better about your situation!
Mack and Liberty I just turned 25 and I'm back living with my Mum I've always had social anxiety which stopped me for looking for work because of the irrational fear of job interviews. When I finally got my first job at 23 it was a highly stressful call centre job and made my anxiety the worst it has ever been and I've been recovering for the last two years. There is this huge sort of feeling that I have that I should have achieved so much more by now like all of the people around me have gotten or at least are starting to get a degree, they have a job, a car they have all their health insurance and bills sorted out they're looking to buy a house.
I think it is sort of a social conditioning and there is also the social idea that women expire at 30 (which is absolute bullshit!) and that you need to have everything sorted out before then and think about having children. I'm nowhere near that I still and in the mindset of a teenager. And it is hard because a lot of people think this way and you do end up feeling like a failure but that isn't going to help and everyone needs to develop at their own rate.
So I don't really have too much advice for you but just know that you're definitely not alone here and a lot of people feel like they haven't achieved enough or they're not ready or they feel like a false adult!
Everyone has setbacks at some point in their life and you shouldn't beat yourself up because of it or compare yourself to the people around you because everyone is different.
I moved back home from age 21-22 and I will forever cherish the time I got to spend with my parents because now I only see them a couple times a month.
I'm going to be 25 next month and am just slowly falling into a dark place realizing I still live at home and have no plans to move out. You're videos help because no one really understands how depressing being a late bloomer can make you feel.
I feel this on another level, girl.
Sophie Maldonado I'm right there with you.
Same. I'm turning 25 in december and I still live at home. I cant live alone right now because of my mental health. Tried that and it did not turn great sappy story tbh. Know that you are not the only one :)
I'm 27, I feel you
I'm 29 and just moved back with my parents after living on my own for almost a decade. Sometimes you have to do these things.
I'm 21 and going back to school now. I took 2 years off to stay home with my son. Everyone's story is different. Only people who aren't happy with their own life like to make others feel bad about theirs. You are not doing anything backwards! I are actually very accomplished. You go girl.
I'm 21 and still living at home but have considered moving out many times, I do get the shame of still living at home, being between jobs and still not knowing what the hell to do with my life. You give me so much hope Sarah and I don't have to worry too much about what I'm gonna do ♥
Cora O'Donnell girl so? ur just 21. I'm on the same boat!
I know I'm still 21 and "young" but I feel like I'm expected to have some achieved by now like, a degree under my belt and have a job in my career field, but because I don't,.... OH the JUDGMENT issss REAL!!
And when I just had a part time in the supermarket, customers were like "Ohhh it's better than nothing.... my son/daughter had x/y/z done when they were your age and now (so many years later) they are high in their field...... I'm like good for you?? Haha sorry rambling
Cora O'Donnell I'm glad there are others like this as well! My parents can be judgmental sometimes and act like I'm the only 21 year old who lives at home
I'm 21 haven't finished my associates, living at home with 2 jobs. Don't be so hard on yourself it's tough to have all your things together at 21, u literally just became an adult 🙄 all my pals are 21 and on the same boat. Now is the time to explore yourself and be selfish!!
Jack .Reed I don't understand what heck the pressure is to have your life together at 21. Who even has their life together at 21!?!? It's almost impossible we literally just graduated HS a bit ago. Too wild
I needed this video so badly. In four months I got a new job, moved out on my own and broke up with my boyfriend of almost 4 years (and he kept the cat we owned). So much is changing I feel like puking, but it's so relieving to know I'm not alone in it. I'm only 22 and going home isn't an option for me but I still feel blessed. Thank you for putting yourself out there, Sarah. Not feeling alone is one of the greatest gifts creators can give their subscribers. Lots of love!
Don't worry about what other people think. By the time I was 23 I had 2 children, divorce, and was back living with my mother. I only planned to live there for a year but it took me 7 years before I moved out. During that time I got 2 degrees, got my dream job, and finally able to buy my own home. My children and I lived there for 7 years. 5 years ago I got sick and developed a chronic illness autoimmune disease. I could no longer take care of my home so I had to move back home with my mom. So yes I am a 41 year old living with my mom. It is hard but I am thankful that she is able to help us.
You are so blessed to have such loving and supportive parents.
F*ck the haters! There is no such thing as going backwards in life. I'm 36 and still figuring it out.
My Dad always said he still doesn't know what he wants to when he grows up... he's 54.
Just the other day a friend asked me what I'm gonna be when I grow up. A way to make me feel like an adult :D
Alycia W same here. *Fist bump* :)
My brother's in law are 30 and 28. The older one move out of their father's house this year, the other one still does. My sister in law is 26 and live with their mother. And me and my boyfriend are 21 and 23. We both live with our baby, and mother and my babysister. So, yeah, for us is normal to live with your parents if you can't do it before... Culture defines a lot of things. Don't feel pressured !
In Cyprus it's considered normal to stay with your parents until late 20s or even longer if necessary.. (necessary being until you can afford your own place).. Even if this is not culturally normal in the US, I think that premise should apply to all cases regardless of the country. So, just do what you have to do :)
I needed this talk. Im 25 and my life is not stable in any field just in my relationships , last week i get depressed because i had to drop school because anxiety and other stuff, im back now and its my last semester, but i feel so left behind, and see how your life is figured out inspire me and confort me. Thank you
I love your channel so much Sarah. I'm getting my degree in psychology this December & you are such an inspiration! I'm hoping to start a second channel dedicated to mental health/psychology because I love your videos so much, so thank you!!
I was wondering if you would consider making a video of RUclipsr recommendations similar to your channel? I'm hoping to find more people who make videos related to psych/mental health/lifestyle like you, but I don't know where to start!
Thanks for always being so lovely
emmmabooks check out Kati Morton, she's chipper but really in depth and super dedicated to the mental health education thing 😉
When one of your faves comments on your other faves video 💕💕💕
emmmabooks woah hi Emma, didn't expect to see you here :) Sarah is one of my favorite youtubers too, you and her have been helpful in making me realize I want to go into psychology!!
hey emma ❤ love your channel!! i would recommend anna campbell she makes psych videos sometimes. i would love if you created a second channel!!
Also graduating with a degree in psychology in December. Good luck on your last semester! We're gonna kick ass!
I'm 18 and in college, but I still live at home and I will for a few years more. I'm super lucky that I'm studying and I have the support of my parents who the only thing they ask for me is to keep studying (wich i always will).
Why should I feel ashamed for having great parents that support me and want to help me? There's no way I could get a gob now, I literally have no time.
So yeah, every person's experience is different and you shouldn't feel ashamed of handling things your way, whatever age you are!!!
I'm still in high school but I'm still super grateful because for as long as I can remember my parents have always said that once I graduate and if I go to college they will continue to support me as long as I am studying. They won't ask me to pay for rent or food or stuff like that because they recognize being a student is my full time job and they would rather me focus and be able to do well in school than have to be worried about a job and having to pay bills along with the stress of school.
Gonna be honest I had this. My mum was always supportive of me doing further education and dedicating free time to studying whilst my friends parents all urged them to get jobs.
Fast forward to me graduating university now I can't find employment. In the big wide world qualifications don't particularly matter. Employers want experience, experience, experience. Unless you're fortunate enough to know people with their own businesses who will employ you. I'd just advice those in education to get work, even if it is 2 hours a week because you'll need that experience in the end :/
I think of it as word document templates. Just because you don't use the most common template, doesn't make you stupid. If anything it makes you more interesting, and when someone meets you they will see something new for once--which I don't know about you but that makes a person more intriguing for me cx
Sarah I comment on your videos often because I relate to you a lot, but with this one I actually caught a tear falling down my face. That sounds dramatic, but I graduate in December and finished my grad school applications for January.. and then my awesome state school messed up my graduation paperwork. It's going to be fixed and all but it triggered those spiraling thoughts of "what if I don't graduate on time? What if I can't go to grad school right away?" I'm 26 and I am so, soo hard on myself because I haven't gotten my bachelors yet. I've lived at home this whole time and I haven't dated anyone or had many friends of value at this point. But, I take good care of my mental health, work part time, and am financially stable. I also feel like I'm ready for the next chapter in my life and I'm so inspired by your channel to take that plunge. Thank you.
Something really bad happend the last few minutes and your video is kind of a life savior for this moment.
My 10yr high school reunion is in October and I live in the house i grew up in (though my parents don't live here anymore). I've gotten a few "backwards" comments but i left a toxic marriage and on my own I couldn't afford to live anywhere else... I've had a lot of judgement about my decisions and how if I hadn't gotten divorced I would be financially better off, not raising 2 kids without assistance, not so broke all the time.... it used to hurt a lot but I've learned to ignore those people because sometimes the path is not a straight line. And while other people think those steps are in the wrong direction they're not on the same journey with me, so what do they know.
This video is so me I'm 26 at home moved back last year and just trying to save up for a move and trying to go back to school. So I can get my life together, there's nothing wrong with loving parents who actually let there children move back to get their life together. Love your videos!!
23 and a mess. You doing better than me sis.
Thank you for making this video. My life definitely hasn't fit the typical timeline either, and it can be hard. People are quick to make assumptions and judge without knowing half the details. When that happens, I always try to remind myself of how far I've come. It may not be where people think I should be, but it is where I need to be and I am okay with that. It's my life, no one else's.
It seems like you're in such a hectic phase and I feel the anxiety through the video but at the same time you seem so focused and positive. And I know thats probably a great fight for you but I just wanted to say I really admire that strength and that you're sharing it with us. And the whole Benjamin Button thing is new to me and utterly ridiculous; people following the school job marriage (in misery for the sake of fitting in) thing are the Benjamin Buttons, we live in a different age ffs. Anyway sending so much love your way 💜💜💜
a troll Totally agree! 🙌
I feel you. Im 18 and am not attending college this semester, which hurtfully classes started today and im watching all my friends go on. I also am struggling like hell to find a job to save up to actually go to college in the Spring. Its tough but I fucking hate when people try to judge and shame me. Fuck them, every person is different
A K. Cobain I'm going through the same exact thing! I just graduated highschool and decided I wasn't really ready for college, main reason being money. Finding a job has been way harder than I expected. Hope everything works out for you!
anahi marquez we're like soul sisters lol! Thank you, im being optimistic. It sounds horrible but im glad im not alone lol. I truly hope everything works out for you as well.!!
A K. Cobain Hey. I just took a semester off, I'm 20, I've been doing school on and off for 2 years and I have 2 years left. (Not even for a bachelor's, for an associates -_-) Don't think that you're bad!!! As long as you keep trying and have an end goal in mind, it doesn't matter how long it takes. It doesn't matter that you have a different path. Just keep focused on doing things that improve your life and eventually you will have it figured out ✌✌
Regina thank you so much for this! I really needed to hear it today. And good luck on your associates!:)
A K. Cobain I'm taking a break before college too! I don't like the idea of being unprepared for things, so I wanted to take a few extra months getting situated with important stuff (license, work, right college, etc.) (:
I think you are right where you need to be Sarah. Thanks for sharing. Sometimes the internet world might make us feel like we are behind because of the facade but everyone is on a different path at a different rate. It is always better to find what you want later in life than to speed through societal "norms". Thanks for inspiring gratitude and making regulat people feel normal.
Im 25 and still live with my mum and sister plus my fiance and nephew age 5. Primarily this is because we lost my father suddenly end of last. I have literally stopped working and studying due to my loss last year and working on getting myself better mentally. I definitely understand what you are saying. Society expects us to be successful at a certain age or to have our lives sorted by like age 18. Things happen in life that alter our lives, it doesn't mean we are going backwards. Societies expectations suck and I wish we weren't so caught up in it
I'm glad that you addressed this as I'm going to be 27 in October and I've lived away from home for the past 3 years after moving to a different city to do my Masters. I graduated 2 years ago, and decided to stay in the same city as the cost of living is significantly cheaper (I'm originally from London) but I have been working in retail as I've been unable to get a graduate job. I have now made the decision that it may be time for me to move back home and start interning (again, sigh), but I am ready for a new chapter in my life. It mainly makes me nervous about the reaction I may get from other people, or maybe it's just societies expectations of me. A lot of my friends from school are married, have children, getting mortgages and I feel like I am still waiting for my life to begin.
Thank you. Thankyouthankyouthankyou. I'm 21 and living with my mom again, after going to college for a bit, moving in with my S.O., and then consequently parting ways. I've had such a hard time coming to terms with this.. My friends are all on their fourth year of college when I'm not currently in college.. I have NO IDEA what I'm doing with my life, and moving back home has only added to these feelings of uselessness. To round it out I also have severe depression and social/general anxiety... It is so comforting to see someone I respect so much in a similiar position and dealing with similiar feelings and thoughts. You have given me some peace of mind when I haven't been able to find it anywhere else, and for that I can't thank you enough
I have done it plenty of times. Moving back home to help through a transition is a SMART decision. I don't think any single person or people in a new relationship should feel ashamed of living at home no matter how old or where they are in life. For our generations, it's almost near impossible to go live on your own without at room mate.
Watching your videos really helps me. I'm 20 (21 in march) and I still haven't started college because I have been working constantly. It helps seeing someone that is proof that it's okay to go on your own path.
No matter the age and circumstances you are under, we have to make choices to adjust to life. It's perfectly fine to still live with your parents and try to get your stuff together. I still do, but for many different reasons. I so much wish to live on my own... but my current situation wont allow it. I thank my parents for helping me out in such a time of need. Not many are lucky to have parents who are wiling to accept their struggles and lend a hand and a roof. Ignore the negative vibes sent your way, because it's not their lives.. it's yours. Sending lots and lots of positive vibes!💪🖤🖤🖤😊
Your degree is not small, it is amazing! I think you are making awesome life choices and you seem like you know what you want. You are practical and seem to be handling life beautifully.
I went to two separate universities for 5 different majors until I landed in community college (where I feel like i've belonged all along) and I totally resonate with this video. I felt like I never fit in in traditional university. I wish this expectation and push to be on your own and stable by your first year of college wasn't a thing. I think community college, vocational school and other options should be talked about in addition to traditional university. If you're reading this and you're panicking that you don't like college, or don't fit in, don't worry. There are so many options and paths out there you don't have to take the path most traveled (community college will get me a well paying job and a career I love and I didn't even know it was an option).
Amanda Schumacher I'm happy you've found your path♡
This made me feel a little better about not wanting to do traditional college
Most people I know within our generation never even moved out to begin with so there is that little tid bit to help stay positive as well! I am inspired by your ability to share this aspect of your life and staying positive is harder than it seems.. take your time and recollect your self and life and RUclips will be there when you are ready. :)
"If I was a different RUclipsr it would be 'my house is haunted storytime live footage" Dead 😂😂 Love you so much
It is so hard to live on your own now. I don't know how many times I've had to move back in with my parents. The only reason I'm not living with them now is I picked up and moved to a different state to live with my best friend and she has been helping me out so much. The fact you have a basic plan for everything is great. I really hope things go well for you and I'm looking forward to seeing your videos when you get back to it!
What you said in this video really made an impact on my way of thinking. I'm still in high school but pretty soon I'm expected to get into college, find a stable career path etc. All of that seems scary to me, but to hear you say that as long as you're grateful and are able to move forward regardless of what society expects of you really makes me take a different outlook ok my future.
So proud of you for staying strong through this! I can feel your anxiety and can relate it to mine because I'm moving in the next week! I'm glad you're positive and this video made me feel so much better than the last one that you posted about moving in with your parents. You have hope here! Keep it up
it's honestly such a relief to me that you feel like you can use this platform to talk about what's going on in your life. just looking at the comments, I can really see how helpful it is for so many people to hear about the "unconventional" decisions you've made and why they were important for your personal progression.
I'm so happy for you, Sarah. I'm going through a really difficult transitional period right now after moving out of a bad situation I was in for 5 years. I thought when I moved I would be instantly happy and that things would seem better but I'm more depressed than I have been in a long time (I'm also very much struggling with my bipolar disorder) and I just seem to have no sense of direction right now. I'm not sure why I'm sharing all of this, but this video truly gave me some form of hope. I have tried a lot of the advice that you have suggested and I'm still struggling greatly. Perhaps you or some or this amazing family in the comments can give some advice of anything else I could do to help myself. Thank you for reading if you chose to. Thank you for making these videos and being a friend. Much love.
Jamie Nicole sending love 💜💜
Late bloomer too. Dropped out of school. Developed anxiety. Depression. That is now 6 years ago. Still working on it. Things are finally looking kinda good :) Took some time. Some really long time. Kinda hard thinking about how many years I've spent on it. Time is weird and I dont like it. Glad you have figures some things out. Take care of yourself ❤️
I love this video so much. You touched on so many important topics and it made me feel so much more hopeful as a 20 year old who has been suffering with anxiety and depression and unable to fulfill society's standards of living, finance, and education as fast as others expect me to. I love how open you are with us, it makes me feel so much more in touch with you and helps remind me that I'm not alone! ♡
Sarah I found your channel about a year and a half ago and it has helped me SO much. It feels like I have a friend in my age range who I relate to. I'm 25 and am at community college right now majoring in Studio Arts and Psychology. I had to take my courses half time vs. full time in order to support myself as I am completely on my own, and everything in California is so expensive.
When I'm in classes with people who just graduated h.s. it makes me feel uneasy because according to society I'm so behind. So I just want to thank you for making videos like these because it really helps people like me realize more of us exist and that it's okay.
I'm going through this right now. Thanks for sharing with us, I'm happy for you!
I needed this video so much right now. I'm going through an insane change in my life and have so much pressure out on me and it's nice to know I'm not the only one going through some things right now. I've noticed 2017 has been a big year of change for a lot of people which I anticipated but that just means things will get better soon as you said. Thank you for being you Sarah we love you so much💜
As a college student still living in my family's home, I feel the same way. I have so much to be grateful for though- free rent and food are such a blessing even though it feels like I'm not "adulting" as much as I should be.
So glad that you do share with all of us. I'm currently back at home and figuring out my next steps after just graduating and it's definitely hard seeing those in my graduating class be able to move on so quickly even though I do know I have a plan and am taking steps toward it.
I don't know how long I've been watching you for but all i know is that it was when you were in your parents home as you are now; something is different though. Back then, (if i remember correctly) you were terrified and felt useless in regards to your own future. You would express that you felt stuck in one place and seeing everyone else around you "succeed" or "move forward".
Use that experience to reflect and remind yourself of how far you've come. Its a 180 from a few years ago and I'm proud of you for that. As an 18 year old, I am feeling the way you felt a few years ago. Knowing how you've coped in bad times and how you thrive in the best makes me hopeful for myself for what is yet to come. 💜
This is my favorite video of yours. There's nothing I love more than to watch one of my favorite youtubers and feel as though we are sitting in the same room having a heart to heart. I must say that watching your videos makes being in your 20s and struggling with mental illness, or just being in your 20s, easier. Hang in there!
I think you are incredibly brave for sharing so much of your life story with strangers. You're very inspiring to me, I love watching your videos, definitely helps me feel like I'm not on my own in how I live. Loved this video Sarah and I'm glad you're happy and slowly figuring things out for yourself. ❤️
Awesome video! I'll be 21 soon and have no plans to move out of my family home until I'm stable enough financially to do so. I find it interesting how (most) Americans have a certain viewpoint about when a person should start moving out and on with their life; as a European person (Russian), we tend to not mind sticking with our families for as long as we need to. My mother actually encourages us to stay with her in the family home for as long as we need to! I think the fear of "overstaying your welcome" as a young adult is really sad, and no one should feel pressured to hastily explain why they're still living with their parents.
I really appreciate you making this video and sharing your experience with us, I've been in a transitional period for a while and it feels like things are finally planned out even if I can't tackle everything right this minute. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.
Yep been here from day one ☝🏾
Love you and appreciate your authenticity!
i originally left home ON my 18th birthday, was completely self sufficient for years, ended up moving back home 5 years later to escape an abusive relationship that would have left me homeless otherwise, now i'm 28 and still live here and it's great. me and my parents are closer than we have been since i was literally a kid, i help them out with a lot of stuff they couldn't do by themselves and i'm getting through college without debt. no shame for living at home, sometimes it's just exactly what you need and it's a blessing to have parents that will support you through the transitional periods in your life.
I'm seeing so many similar comments and I'm awestruck. There are so many people in the same situations as my friends and I and it's such a pleasant surprise that people of different backgrounds and ages all over are going through the same thing and understand. A lot of the times it's difficult to stay positive and most days a silly number (age) is almost suffocating when you look to other people on further stages of life. But we will allll get there! Thank you for sharing this!
I hear you, Sarah. You're an incredible person for sharing such personal life experiences.
Really love your videos. I'm 22 and just moved out and got my degree. Everyone around me acted like I waited way too long to move out of my parents house and I'm currently feeling the stress of finding a job in my field now due to my peers moving on so quickly with their degrees. I'm glad I'm not alone in taking my time to figure things out.
so happy u talked about gratitude
Wow! Just sent in my application for post secondary schooling today. I was so close to a panic attack thinking about finding a new place in a another city, budgeting, that my savings account has 50 dollars, worrying i might not be able to take my fur baby with me and a million other things. This video helped put me at ease a little 😀 Thanks! Hopefully in the next year and a half things will be okay and ill be a hairstylist 💇♀️💇♀️
I discovered you back in the day when you moved in with your parents and watched you religiously during undergrad. Somehow I lost track when you moved out. Last week I rediscovered you (right when you were moving back with your family) and binged your videos and vlogs. Like someone else already said here, it feels oddly like home.
Wishing you all the best
Here in Brazil we live with our parents until we get married or until we're financially stable - whicever comes first -, and I think that makes a lot more sense? Living with your parents you can help with the bill while at the same time save money to when you're finally ready to move out and all. You're doing great, Sarah, and I love the way you talk about it
I never comment on RUclips videos, but omg!!! Thank you for making this video. It is so easy to feel "inadequate" in life, especially in the digital age when you see other RUclipsrs and people in general openly speaking about all of their successes online. Not to say there is anything wrong with that, it's just easier to compare yourself to others in that sense. I love your perspective of staying grateful and positive when things don't seem as good as they could be in times of transition. I'm 23 but going through similar things after graduating school last year. I live in a basement but have a job and am trying to pay off student loans and make it work. We got this! Thank you again.
I can't believe people would give you shit about NOT going through a proposal you didn't want. That takes a lot of power inside a person to end it and you absolutely did the right thing.
You are the realist you tuber and simply my favorite. I feel like we could just be best friends. Most of all I love that you are proud of you and don't take what the Internet world says to you get under your skin! You keep doing you because you are great at it!!!!!!!!!
Here in europe it's relatively normal to stay at your parents house up until your mid, sometimes even late twenties. :) most parents are perfectly fine with you moving back home if life throws you off and you can't handle/manage/afford living on your own anymore ☺️ don't let other people judge you, you do you and as long as it's the right decision for you and your parents are supportive, it's the right thing ♥️
I really appreciate you make this kind of content, as in honest and challenging the social expectations for young adults. I grew up in an environment where everyone I knew had the money to travel and live abroad and study there, so everyone I went to highschool left my city. I struggled with depression but I think it really fuelled it as I felt like I lived my life wrong and the people always mentioned how I'm still here or still single or still something and it never helped. I have a high school reunion now four years after my graduation and I'd rather stab myself. I genuinely feel good now but watching your videos reassured me that there's not one way of doing things regardless of what society wants you to do. Love you Sarah!
I just graduated high school, about to turn 18 and I'm trying to become an "adult". I love your talks like this because they give real info on what the process is really like.
I'm 24, still living at home, still in school, terrified to drive, and I'm trying to figure out my life. I don't think I have ever fit society's standards, but when I see all of these ppl who r younger than me being further along in their lives, it makes me feel like I should be doing better, I just don't know how and that is the frustrating part. I know everyone has their own journy...but I just always have this feeling that I should be doing more, being better....
I just moved back in with my parents! I don't know how old you are but I'm almost 30, sigh, but after everything I went through this year it was the right decision for me. I think it needs to be destigmatized because you never know what someone else is going through.
I moved out when I was 16 and I've been living alone ever since, but it'd never even come to my mind to judge someone who hasn't moved out yet or moved back in. If the circumstances were right, I'd move back in with my family in a second and without shame. I don't think it should be viewed as something embarrassing because having a close-knit and supportive family is a beautiful and rare thing and you're allowed to embrace it for as long as possible.
This might sound ridiculous but I went through a period of time that perhaps felt similar to what you're describing a few years ago & while at the time I felt very anxious, stressed & kind of just horrible I look back now at it as being very poignant & important, and there's a freedom that came from feeling like everything was a bit half way or undone
I love watching your videos, Sarah. Very real situations, makes me and many others I'm sure not feel so alone in difficult/confusing situations. You deserve the best! :)
I moved back with my mom two years ago and quit uni because of depression and social anxiety. I've tried to “go back“ to real life with internships but I broke down every time. It stresses me a lot to still be at home without any real perspective but it takes a long time for me to recover (I literally take baby steps 🙈). I'm currently looking into clinics for a longer stay there and I really hope that this will finally help me. Thank you so much for this video, it actually gave me hope for my future and made me realize that I tend to concentrate too much on everything I don't have, instead of focussing on the things I do have
ahhh i love you so much!! your confidence, train of thoughts, etc. you inspire me so much in many aspects. keep doing you sarah!!
I'm glad you're looking positively on your decision to move back home. I respect that you're willing to share this part of your life because you're right - people can relate. After my long-term relationship ended suddenly, I had to move back in with my dad for a while when I was in my early twenties. I felt like I had failed at being an adult and because of that, I wanted to move back out as soon as possible. My dad's totally great and he encouraged me to stay as long as I wanted and to save money. But I felt like that wasn't an acceptable thing because of societal expectations blah blah blah. Looking back, I wish I had stayed longer because I can see now that there's nothing embarrassing about that and it would've been a very logical decision.
My husband and I moved in with his parents for six months two years ago. Because we were in transition. People were so judgmental and mean, but I am so thankful we were able to do that. It helped us greatly and we also were set up so well because of it. I totally get why your defensive about it.
Enjoy your break and can't wait to see new hair!
This was amazing timing. I am 21, I was living with my partner and I was studying to become a teacher and lately I was unhappy with the way my life was, so I decided to change it!
I changed my degree, broke up with my partner and am moving back into my parents home.
So thank you, thank you so much for making this video and trying to break the stigma. I hate societies standards of having to live out of home and falling into the system that society has created. It was scary and overwhelming to change my life so much, but I just wanted to thank you for making a video like this to point out that it's okay to not follow the path that society creates.
You're amazing, thank you x
You are such a well spoken individual and it's obvious that you work hard in life. It's inspiring and even though I don't know you, I feel proud of you. You don't live in this fake fantasy youtube bubble and it's so refreshing. Keep it up.
You do you, Sarah. I know it's harder said than done but try not to think about the judgement. Don't waste your time on them because they're certainly not wasting their time on you. Most of the people that judge you will give a throwaway comment and then not a second thought about it or your situation.
Love watching you. Hope the break does some good for you.
I am so happy you're planning to finally move in with your boyfriend. :) I really hope it'll work out and you'll find a great place. I am over roommates, too. :D
Yayyyy! I love life update videos. Cheers, Sarah. You're awesome.
I love your channel I got my bachelor's in psychology in 2011 and I took a break to work then I went to nursing school but life happens and now I'm a stay-at-home mom of twins.
This is amazing and made me feel so much better, i'm turning 24 and am thinking about moving back home to make myself more financially stable. I'm a little scared for the stigma but i totally agree that societies expectations for people to have their shit completely together by their early 20's is kind of ridiculous. I mean, more power to you if you did, but i don't think it should be expected. So thank you for sharing your story, you're the best!
I feel you! I'm 25 and I live in Spain where most people leave their parent's house around 30 because the economic situation we are going through and so on. BUT, my partner is australian from a family of young parents and they found extremely weird that I've just finished my uni degree and I'm not moving with him to his country till next year. To me I'm feeling like "wow, I'll be moving so young!" while to them we are massive late bloomers. In my opinion, I haven't been ready for moving nor even kids (and that won't happen till way more years in the future), we will be just doing it when we are ready in every single way!
I ADORE AND LOVE YOU SARAH THANK YOU FOR EXISTING. you've had such an amazing impact on my life, and if you see this, i just want you to know you're my all time favorite youtuber and my role model.
This video helped me. I'm 26 and trying to get into grad school, and get a job to try to pay off my school debts. I feel often like I'm falling behind by societies standards, and I'm going through a significant lapse in my depression because of a variety of factors. But if I look objectively at my life, I still have lots of time to get whatever it is my life is going to be in order.
Omg first, I wanna say I'm definitely feeling nostalgic about you being back home! Second, I'm honestly sorry you felt the need to clear up why you decided to move back home (even though it's none of our business). And lastly, I'm honestly proud to see how much you're evolving and growing as a person! I'm glad I decided to become one of your Patreons as I see you definitely have an even brighter future ahead of you! Sending love just a few cities south from you!!
i love you! i've been subscribed to you for soooo long. i never get tired of your channel. your a genuine youtuber. xoxo
Sarah you are so inspirational! Never change! ❤️
I respect and admire you so much for following your own path and doing what's right for you. I'm 23 and I live with my parents because I still don't know what I want to do with my life (unless you call "spending your days writing in a coffee shop" a career). I have a business diploma but I couldn't care less about it (only did it because I didn't know what to do 3 years ago either), and I can't really move out unless I get a stable job. I'm trying to get a job for this year because I have to do something, but it's really more to give my parents some peace of mind... I want to be independent but right now I don't really see the point in moving out of my comfortable home to live in a crappy student room. I'll have to do it at some point, but it's just not my priority and luckily (or unfortunately) I don't really feel the pressure, since a lot of my friends are in the same situation. In Switzerland it's really hard to find a place when you're a student. The only thing I feel bad about is not finding a way to achieve the career of my dreams... Everyone around me knows exactly what they're doing and I envy them so much.
This video made me so happy ❤️ thank you so much Sarah for talking about this
Thank you for this vdo, I've always feel like my choice is the oddest one out. I just want to be happy and me being happy is very unconventional to most. Much love and support to you.
Oh wow that's cool you have that option because so many people don't have parents who can help them out like that. That's great!
I needed this video. I also feel like I need to make a video like this, too. I'll be 28 in October, just graduated, and I'm back home with my mom. I've never even have had a boyfriend or a legit job, because all my life I've been focused on school but now of course companies want experience and I'm like yeah I've done school for the past 20+ years -- but honestly, I'm just working on me -- my dream career, what I want to do, not what others want from me. I love how at the end you spoke of the positive things because I am lucky to at least have an understanding mom who is always here for me while I try to figure out this thing called life. Really just need to keep society standards out of my mind, along with the judgmental people. I could go on and on but I just want to say to you, and everyone else in these comments -- you're not alone, you do you despite what others will say because they're not in your shoes. It sounds so cliche but it's the truth.
Having 'it all figured out' is overrated ☺️ there are no prerequisites for being happy! If you're happy and healthy - you're good ☺️👍🏻
My fave youtuber!! Your thoughts and the way you talk always calm me and make my day better.
Thank you for sharing your life with us Sarah. It is nice to hear different perspectives in life. I think society give us certain rules on how to live our lives and what we are supposed to do but I think its all bs. I think we just have to focus on our own lives and figure it out ourselves instead of listening external voices. Life is a process and no matter what age you are life doesn't stop, it is a continuation of changes and those changes whether is living with our parents (where I am from you are supposed to live with your parent until you get marry) or alone is just a process or steps to get us to where we want to be. So be hopeful and trust the process because at the end we are all in this together (trying to figure things out).
Hi Sarah, I just wanted to say thank u so much for being yourself. You've helped me and I am sure a lot of people more to ignore all the social expectations about how our lifes should be. I am finishing high school, which is of course, completely scary. I've never been my biggest support since I knew that my life is probably not gonna be what society told me it should. I used to put myself down constantly. I decided that I am not gonna do that anymore, and I am just gonna focus on studying, learning, working. I don't want to study for 4 years in a row, get my degree and work at the same place for ages. But maybe someday I discover that that's what i want to do! I am just gonna live my life as I want at the moment, without regretting my decisions. And that's something that I owe u. Thank u so much! I am sixteen now, and I've been watching ur vids for like three years now. Thank u for growing so much and sharing that with us. Love u!!
sorry for my english !!
I usually feel like I'm going backwards in my life. I am eighteen and I quit two high schools because of my mental health problems and choosing the wrong direction. Because back at primary school I didn't know what I wanted to do with the rest of my life. So I am starting new school this september and hoping it will be better for me. It just kinda makes it harder seeing people my age preparing for graduating and having relationships while I am struggling to get my shit together. There's no way I have things figured out but I am still grateful that I am at least doing better than few months back. Love your videos, I like the fact that you are not afraid of being vulnerable
You are a badass. You saying you "kind of have it figured out" is an understatement. You DO have your life figured out dude. Also, props to making a sacrifice (moving home) so that when you move out again, you don't have to live with roommates! My partner and I were also tired of roommates... so when our lease was up, we were fortunate enough to find our own place together. I'm hella proud of you.
Side note: I've been watching you for so long, do you remember when words with friends was in its prime and you gave out your words with friend username? Yeah--I've played you ;) Haha