It’s Been Rough..

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  • Опубликовано: 28 дек 2024

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  • @benjaminfairbourne
    @benjaminfairbourne 11 месяцев назад +10

    I used to be very very depressed bro but realized early on that knowledge is power. improve your energy and social skills. know what motivates you most and do content that aligns with what you love most. have an abundance mindset. go to the gym daily and work hard and smart making money and have more excitement for life and dont do drugs. This is all not easy but its worth it. Set a positive mindset that spirals you up instead of down. hope this helps.

  • @Nick-bw7yd
    @Nick-bw7yd Год назад +13

    Please take care of yourself. you have a lot to offer and you’re a genuine person that deserves to be happy. I’m also going through hard times your content brings me up and helps me get away for a bit. Thank you!

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад +5

      It makes me feel good that I can have a positive effect on you. That really means a lot. You will get through this tough time in your life just like I will. Thank you for your support of me and this channel.

  • @ZPDSurvival
    @ZPDSurvival Месяц назад +2

    This situation builds strength and makes artists create beautiful Poetry and love songs. Cheers! Happy Thanksgiving. I subscribed.

  • @grz66
    @grz66 Год назад +19

    Hang in there bud, things get better, you don't think that at the moment but they do. Keep your chin up and keep busy during this time. Happy Thanksgiving!

    • @Noah_AWICB
      @Noah_AWICB 2 месяца назад

      People say that a lot, yet for me, it hasn't gotten any better, so we should be careful to give people false hope

  • @cadenmcqueen4615
    @cadenmcqueen4615 Год назад +7

    When I went through a bad breakup, it took me three years to really get over it. I was stuck in the exact same place, this dull horror at the transience of experience, that everything in my life, all of the moments of joy, of sorrow, of pleasure, all of my relationships, everything that i really found meaning in, was doomed to be trampled by the ceaseless forward-march of time, that even what came next was inevitably going to meet the same fate as i was slowly, unwillingly dragged to my grave, where this endless cycle of loss would finally, painfully come to an end.
    what helped me to get past this existential nightmare was recognizing the beauty in that transience, that although experience may fade into memory, that which it imparts onto you, the knowledge, the emotion, the meaning, does not. A flower is beautiful when it first blooms, when it matures, when it wilts and when it dies. Even once its physical form is broken down and disseminated into the soil, its essence becomes the basis for new beauty, new life that will eventually repeat the same process. This cycle appeared terrifying at first, but once I recognized that it was not driven by loss but rather by immanence, by becoming, by moving through successive thresholds towards something new, I began to take comfort in it.
    Loss like you’re experiencing is undeniably painful, and i have no doubt this pain will stay with you for a long time. But know that it is not meaningless, that the energies, the thoughts, the emotions it releases will eventually become the substrate for new personal growth. You can get through this. I believe in you ❤

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад +4

      Thank you for such a beautiful and thoughtful comment. It means a lot to me that you took the time to write this out to me. You are a special human being. Yours really made me think and gave me hope. I want to find the beauty in this transience and recognize it into the future. Thank you for believe in me.

  • @jessejames619
    @jessejames619 Год назад +13

    idk you bro but you seem smart and a good dude. keep posting and id love to get to know you.

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад +2

      I definitely plan on continuing to post. Thank you for the kind words.

    • @jessejames619
      @jessejames619 Год назад +1

      glad i subscribed @@fruitfulcraven

    • @jessejames619
      @jessejames619 11 месяцев назад

      @@fruitfulcraven it’s been a month brother. I hope your doing good man. Reach out if needed brotha!

  • @3nvy0
    @3nvy0 11 месяцев назад +5

    Aye man, I really love the transparency and honesty in the stuff you feeling and saying. Hope everything is going really well mentally, physically, and socially and I hope everything gets better with you. You're going through a deep process right now. Just continue going strong and engage in it more. Find a group where you can communicate with or just talk to Jesus about your problems, he will send people like your grandma to talk and really confide with. You don't have to do much just ask him to really send the person that you need and it will be done.
    You are definitely in my prays brother keep going strong.

  • @tree089
    @tree089 9 месяцев назад +3

    This is exactly what I do. Every time I think about the good things, I always ask "then what?". Asking whether it was worth it because I know it won't last forever. Part of the fix is realizing that new good experiences will always happen in the future. Death is not an experience. It's not like going to prison or something. You wont know that you're dead. It's kind of like asking what's outside of the the universe. Your life is everything you experience, there isn't anything outside of it.

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  9 месяцев назад

      Yes I agree completely. Trying to focus on the idea that there are much more positive experiences ahead has been helping me. I guess death is an experience while it’s happening but we won’t ever be able to think back on that experience since we will be dead. Life and death are truly a mind fuck but what other choice do we have but to live?

  • @vio7361
    @vio7361 Месяц назад

    you are a free spirit man, don't let that go, go back to what made you happy

  • @srvortex2955
    @srvortex2955 Год назад +8

    I'm using the translator, maybe it's not so accurate with what I really wanted to express, that's why I identify too much with your situation, I feel the same, I went through a breakup that left me bad in all aspects recently because I thought it was the one, I'm barely out of high school, the university doesn't attract my attention at all and I feel in a void, those who I thought were my friends were always manipulative and bad people, I was left alone, recently my only friend walked away and not because situations of us, his mother thinks I am a bad influence, the situation in my country is not very good, not to say that there is not much future when you are a teenager, continue with your channel, you have too much potential, maybe not today or tomorrow but I am completely Surely your content must reach others. I hope this message encourages you, even if it's just a comment on RUclips. I understand you friend, I know that despite everyone we will continue forward, greetings from Venezuela :)

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад +2

      Thank you for your comment. I’m sorry you are going through a rough time at the moment too. You will get through it. The world can be very cruel to us sometimes but we just have to keep moving forward. Focus on yourself and being who you really want to be and the right people will be in your life before you know it.

  • @daviddunleavy187
    @daviddunleavy187 Год назад +6

    I know what you mean about looking back on good memories and feeling sad sometimes. I go through times like that too. What helps me is knowing that my brain is just playing tricks on me somewhat, a lot of my best memories are from times where I felt like I had nothing going for me at the time. Respect for speaking your mind and being honest about how you feel, hope the weekend treats you better

  • @HorrorMetalMaestroRedrusty66
    @HorrorMetalMaestroRedrusty66 Год назад +3

    I fell ya, but you are the only you that exists. Love yourself and stay strong, sadness is natural and ok to accept and move through, just try not to stay there too long. look around and within and grab ahold of something nice to carry you through. And the best thing in there to grab a hold of is you.

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад +1

      Thank you. Im trying my best to get to loving myself. It’s challenging and something I’ve always struggled with. I appreciate you commenting.

  • @sunsetXsurfing
    @sunsetXsurfing 9 месяцев назад +2

    sending

  • @AntonKarpuzikov
    @AntonKarpuzikov 4 месяца назад +2

    Man, I was going through same thing for three years before I could get over it and move on with my life. Only one thing matters, is to not commit suicide at any cost. Anything else is nothing

  • @haydens222
    @haydens222 9 месяцев назад +2

    hey man im going through a break up as well and its been a struggle getting over it but this video has gave me comfort

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  9 месяцев назад

      I’m glad I could give you some comfort dude. It’s fucking hard but we’re going to get through it. We still have life

  • @zanaros2606
    @zanaros2606 Год назад +4

    My brothers never talk to me at all, unless it is to point out something wrong or imperfect I did. Like I'm some kind of an enemy or source of all imperfections to them. My mother is an extremely judgmental person too, more so than my brothers. My father is actually the only one that did not treat me badly...but he is not exactly perfect too. He keeps a mistress at home living with us all, make us see her as our housekeeper, and punishes anyone that dares to mention her as a mistress. Like, making you kneel in the bathroom for hours for being very disrespectful to our "aunty". Being completely neglected as a child, I guess I grew up developing quite a few mental illnesses. That's my current life now...but seems to be getting slightly better the older I get. Like, I no longer hate my fake and imperfect family that much. What's fake about my own family, is that they can and will do all sorts of things that society expects all mothers/fathers/brothers to do, but deep down I simply cannot feel any genuine unconditional love from them. Like it's all on the surface. Doing things because it's the "right" thing to do or express as per their societal roles, but not because they truly loved or even cared about me. Till now, I still have no idea what a normal, healthy and non-judgmental human relationship is like. So I have difficulties holding on to any relationships at all. In fact normal women with a positive mindset actually scares me a lot...so I often stay away from genuinely good girls who are attracted to me. Then I will be in full of intense anger towards myself for rejecting or running away from them. Plus once they find out about my mental illnesses or social awkwardness, they probably leave me anyway. I'm still trying to change myself for the better, though. Thanks for sharing your story.

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад +1

      You’ve been through a lot. Thank you for sharing that with me. I’m sure it wasn’t easy. I know it can feel good to get things out though. You will have a healthy relationship with someone one day if you really want that. The right person will come along and they won’t leave you because of your mental illnesses or social awkwardness if you are continuing to work towards getting better. They will be there to help you on your journey of being the best person you can be. They will love YOU. I wish the best for you. Thank you for taking the time to write your comment out to me.

  • @Caldinovin
    @Caldinovin Месяц назад +2

    I only get this video recommended to me 11 months later, whoever you are dude. Hope things are doing better now.

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Месяц назад +1

      thanks friend. they are better now. i hope you are doing well

    • @Caldinovin
      @Caldinovin Месяц назад

      @@fruitfulcraven At the moment things are a bit iffy but things will be all right with my sooner or later too. Thanks for asking

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Месяц назад +1

      @ they will be. just hang in there and cling onto the things that make you happy.

    • @Caldinovin
      @Caldinovin Месяц назад

      @@fruitfulcraven Thanks dude. Have a good day. :)

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Месяц назад

      @ you do the same :)

  • @MetapaloozaShow
    @MetapaloozaShow 9 месяцев назад +1

    I feel you. Especially about the part where you described about your relationship with family. My family don’t really know me or want to know either.
    You should meet some people and make friends offline who feel the same way.

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  9 месяцев назад

      For sure. Easier said than done though

  • @giavannastout8824
    @giavannastout8824 Год назад +2

    sending love. things will start looking up before you know it

  • @doctrinedoc
    @doctrinedoc Год назад +1

    Sorry to hear you’re having a hard time.
    I sat down and listened to your top 26 albums and was inspired to make my own list. You seem like a good dude, would love to talk to you about music (or whatever) sometime.

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад +1

      I'd enjoy talking to you as well. I'd love to hear your favorite albums list. It means a lot that you listened to my video.

  • @C.good2damax
    @C.good2damax Год назад +5

    Sending good vibes your way my dude. Sorry you are going through rough times. Life ain’t easy and everything happens for a reason. Stay true to yourself and keep loving yourself. I respect your insight in music and this channel. Some albums (below) that help me out this year when life got hard. You got this my man and stay up.
    Band - Album
    Jerome’s Dream - The Gray In Between
    L ux - Become Your Star
    Svalbard - The Weight of the Mask
    An Autumn For Cripple Children - Closure
    Explosions In The Sky - End
    Palefade - Insurmountable Grief and the loss of everything dear

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад +2

      Everything does happen for a reason. It’s hard not to question it sometimes though. Thank you for your kind words. I look forward to checking out the albums you recommended. Music is a healer.

  • @howillknowthatimalive
    @howillknowthatimalive 10 месяцев назад +1

    Been through 3 that hurt the 3rd being rather recent , It gets better with time man the memories stay both positive and negative but it does get better, You are a cool dude you will be fine and find someone else to take part of your journey again! I still sometimes fall into depression about my current ex and I situation but just be glad it happened when it couldn't of at all and Remember times like that filled with those emotions and excitement and whatever else you felt with them is around the corner waiting for the right time for you, I promise :) be happy Tyler don't stress it the mind plays very funny games sometimes , You have a beautiful heart, That is what its testing

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  10 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through it as well. This is my first time ever experiencing pain like this and I know it will continue to get better but it just doesn’t feel like it sometimes (so many ups and downs). This is a learning experience for me. I hope the best for you as well! You will find your person one day just like I will. We need to have ourselves first though.

    • @vawium
      @vawium 10 месяцев назад

      @@fruitfulcravenu stupid too

  • @FUNERALPANZER
    @FUNERALPANZER Год назад +1

    Loving you're channel man - solid music choices - You seem like a cool guy and man people don't need an education to be successful and I know plenty of people who show that 100% - dropping out and making six figures now.
    You'll move on, it takes times for sure - don't rush it, let it takes its time...blah blah blah probably nothing you haven't heard already, but it's true man.
    Keep doing this channel and I'll keep watching.
    Everyday is life and life is everyday.
    Cheers man.

  • @j.k.1787
    @j.k.1787 11 месяцев назад +2

    hey bro, its really fun actually, with these people you can really start to enjoy your time with them by drinking a little bit and asking a lot of questions to get the conversation going!!!

  • @zacthatscoundrel
    @zacthatscoundrel 11 месяцев назад +1

    Found this late. Just wanted to say I've been enjoying your videos and I hate to hear you've been going through a lot. Hope you're doing well.

  • @BibleIkashika
    @BibleIkashika Год назад

    This is why I meditate abd pray so much. It's hard as all hell to loose people...unlock the light within you bc life really is a gift and most of it is about what we can do in others lives. A new perspective can change things and getting onto a more positive flow of energy. Developing a habit of finding and seeing the light in all things and discovering the value in having connections with others. Push yourself to get out of your comfort zone. I hope that's helpful for you. Faith is the way ❤❤❤❤ John 3:16. Thanks for sharing this. Wishing you the best!!! I am affirmations are powerful too ...they really work!!

  • @prakhar3365
    @prakhar3365 Месяц назад +1

    Keep your head up ❤

  • @GroundhogDay-
    @GroundhogDay- Год назад +1

    Hi Tyler. I'm Pete. FYI, I'm in Perth, Western Australia, so your post is now international. I realise I'm like 3 weeks late in responding, sorry. I hope you are in a better space now. Life can be really tough sometimes. We all get that so don't negate your feelings. No one is worse off than anyone else. We all have our own journey's and have to face the challenges that life throws out. It's good that you are ( were) able to share your personal thoughts. That in itself is brave to do. Clearly your balls are big. I couldn't post a video as you have done. Relationships can be so complicated. Sometimes things don't work out like you want. It hurts and it can be hard. The hardest part being dealing with emotions. I think you are doing great. You are a young guy. You are good looking. You have so much going for you and so much to offer. You will meet the right person for you. I believe that 100%. Take care where you are. Go with the flow, chill with it and before you know it things will come good. Peace.

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад

      Thank you for your kind words, Pete. They really mean a lot. I’d say I’m in a better space now since making this video. Still some rough moments but those will just continue to come. I’m learning more now how to deal with the pain. You’re very right about going with the flow. That’s where I am at and really beginning to realize that’s the best way to go about life. It’s very cool that my video reached you all the way out in Australia! I hope to visit there one day. I live in Richmond, Virginia USA. Thanks again and I hope you are doing well.

  • @questionedtheanswer265
    @questionedtheanswer265 9 месяцев назад +1

    study Divine Masculinity
    Sigma Male Attitude
    Pimping and Macking
    Love is TRUE and love is REAL but you must dump all your love into yourself and become the BEST VERSION of you!
    You must BE love to receive it, Tyler!
    We've been lied to our entire lives about the true nature of love, and I know it's depressing!
    But your life is on the line!
    Please do your best to fight this fight!
    Your life and the lives of other men who need you are on the line, Tyler.
    Stay in the fight.

  • @LightofLucifer-m8q
    @LightofLucifer-m8q Год назад +2

    This sounds super cliche but:
    1. Work on improving yourself, workout, eat right, get on semen retention.
    2. Kill your ego. Stop giving a damn of what others think of you.
    3. Start reading the Bible, praying and developing a relationship with Christ.
    Let these dark moments in your life strengthen you. You can have ANYTHING you want in life if you put in the work and don't give up. YOU'VE GOT THIS! stay strong.💪

  • @liamjonas5336
    @liamjonas5336 9 месяцев назад +1

    I'm praying for you brother! No matter what God and Jesus love you and so do I and many others in this comment section, things will get better for you, I believe that! Peace to you brother!

  • @pablosmoglives
    @pablosmoglives Год назад +1

    For what it's worth, I've heard it said that men love women, and women love what men can provide. Nothing good or bad about it, it's just the way it is. My experience doesn't contradict this statement. And it's okay to be miserable. You can own it w/o embracing it. You don't have to settle for it or make a deal with it or (God forbid) believe in it, but don't run from it either. You don't have to wear it on your sleeve, and if you need to make videos about it by all means do so, but if you're lying there in the darkness, crushed by this or that, when the crushing, heart-stopping misery DOESN'T kill you, observe your strength from under the pile of rubble, stand up, brush it off, and when/if the building topples on you again, you'll know you'll be okay.

  • @Seanteagle
    @Seanteagle Год назад +1

    Hey man, just stumbled upon this video and felt like god guided me to comment some words of support. I have no idea if your'e religious or not but know that god created you for a reason and purpose, don't let the world overtake who you are as what god wrote on your heart. Romans 8:28 says "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose". Love you dawg, god bless.

  • @MrAlipatik
    @MrAlipatik 11 месяцев назад +1

    my advice to u is to make friends with Good Black or Asian (start online). They have good sense of humor it will benefit u. Ur looks are already okay..

  • @lyndellwilliams5890
    @lyndellwilliams5890 7 месяцев назад +1

    You ever get around to listening to my recommendations?

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  6 месяцев назад +1

      i did! i liked the ones i hadnt heard. thanks again for recommending

    • @lyndellwilliams5890
      @lyndellwilliams5890 6 месяцев назад

      @@fruitfulcraven Sure. No problem. I'll give you some more recommendations later.

  • @madcat61207
    @madcat61207 Год назад +4

    Bro, i can relate

  • @ismael.
    @ismael. Год назад +4

    🩷🩷🩷

  • @benjaminfairbourne
    @benjaminfairbourne 11 месяцев назад +1

    women are attracted to confidences, energy and yes money matters and will make you happy and women see that and want to join into your life of fun. theres many women in the world so see abundance and live in abundance.

  • @annenelson5656
    @annenelson5656 Год назад

    You seem like a really nice guy. You’re good looking too. Please get some help. You may need medication. Don’t let that scare you or piss you off. Medication has saved my sorry a$$, and it continues to save my sorry a$$.
    It looks like you have a dog. Can you meet people at the dog park? Have you thought of finding a group of people with similar interests? Loneliness and isolation will for real mess you up.
    Get outside. Exercise. I know people say that all the time. There’s a reason for that - it helps. Stay away from alcohol. Eat decent food. But most of all get outside of yourself and if you have to do the things that you used to like. Go to a concert or movie alone just to get out and enjoy something or at the very least distract you for a while.
    The girl split. She wasn’t worthy of you. If you could have a relationship before you can again. Life doesn’t end because of one relationship that doesn’t work out. She wasn’t your whole world but now you’re letting her be. Don’t look back. You can heal and move on. You don’t have to have a girlfriend to define you.
    Dude, please get help!

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад

      Thank you for your kind and thoughtful comment. I appreciate you taking the time to write that out to me. I am open to medication and it is something I plan on discussing more with my therapist.

  • @raoulmoat6762
    @raoulmoat6762 11 месяцев назад +5

    You need to understand female nature; right now she is on dating apps getting hundreds of matches, she's not even upset by this. Whereas for you it is devastating, for her it's inconsequential, for you getting another girlfriend will be tough, for her she can get a boyfriend whenever she wants. Why? Just because she's female, she has life on easy mode. You need to accept this. There is a vast inequality between genders and it's unfair, it's not right but that's the way it is.

    • @bbailey3055
      @bbailey3055 10 месяцев назад

      I wouldn’t get tons of matches dude😂 y’all think women have it so easy but we are usually choosing between dudes that want to control us or dudes that cheat.

    • @raoulmoat6762
      @raoulmoat6762 10 месяцев назад

      @@bbailey3055 oh yeah it must be so difficult having so much choice! You have it so hard! Give me a break!

  • @21stcenschizoidman53
    @21stcenschizoidman53 Месяц назад

    ты кто

  • @johnmichaelfriedrich
    @johnmichaelfriedrich Год назад +6

    Give Jesus Christ a call; His number is in your heart ❤ Great things await...no degree required! 😊

  • @AviatorsVEVO
    @AviatorsVEVO 10 месяцев назад +1

    u need some tough love, so here it is. you're a good looking dude so you have it better than most people already. u look like michael j fox in the 80's. but here's what you do.
    got sh*tty friends & family who make you feel bad? cut them off. completely. just stop talking to them cold turkey. unfollow them on all social media. don't even keep their numbers in your phone. if its your parents, they can go too.
    drop out of college. take up a trade instead. you think you're depressed now? you'll be more depressed when you're 45 years old & haven't reached your goals & are still paying off student loan debt that accrued interest over the course of 20 years.
    shave your head bald. military style. keep the mustache & goatee. lose the glasses & get contacts. go kiII it in the gym for 6 months to a year. & if you don't look in the mirror & feel better about yourself & your life, then i'm a stone cold liar.
    its hard to be depressed about anything when you look & feel your best & every woman who sees you wants to f*ck you.
    go watch some andrew tate motivational videos, stop feeling sorry for yourself & get your life together. you can do it. but here's the catch, NOBODY is going to do the work for you. if you want your life to change YOU have to make the decision & then DO IT.

    • @bbailey3055
      @bbailey3055 10 месяцев назад

      I’d agree on most but Andrew tate is for weird little boys and dude should not cut his hair 😂

  • @ubertuna1
    @ubertuna1 Год назад +4

    It's gonna be alright dude. Things may not last forever but that doesn't take away from the beauty and realness of any of it. Those moments will always be real, will always be beautiful and agonizing and thrilling and bitterwsweet. It's the stuff of life, man. You're doing it. It's ok to feel that loss, to dwell on the memories and take time to feel and process your emotions. I don't know you all too well, but it sure seems like you have a good heart and sharp mind. That counts for a lot.

    • @fruitfulcraven
      @fruitfulcraven  Год назад +1

      Thank you for your kind words. I know it’s going to be alright eventually. I just want it to be already you know? This is the toughest life event I’ve had to deal with in my life so far. It will be a learning experience for sure.