A Good Death: The inside story of a hospice

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  • Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024

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  • @mikethemechanic7395
    @mikethemechanic7395 4 года назад +273

    My mom used to be Director of Nursing in an Hospice center for the elderly. She cared so much for her job. She loved her residents and she saw so many pass away. I don’t know how she did it for so long. She was my hero. She lived 7 years after she retired.

    • @mistybehave4886
      @mistybehave4886 Год назад +5

      She was a hero for alot of people and I’m so sorry for your loss x

    • @dabooser1048
      @dabooser1048 Год назад +3

      What a truly noble profession. I can only imagine the emotional toll it took on your mother.

    • @ileanamuntean7338
      @ileanamuntean7338 Год назад +7

      So sorry she did not enjoy her retirement for longer but she had the blessing of doing something she loved.

    • @ValerieEsnault-je7xs
      @ValerieEsnault-je7xs 4 месяца назад +1

      Tu parles mon œil. Mieux vaut mourir chez soi.

    • @ValerieEsnault-je7xs
      @ValerieEsnault-je7xs 4 месяца назад

      ​@@mistybehave4886tu fais chier

  • @mirandapriest4934
    @mirandapriest4934 4 года назад +101

    My aunt started hospice and is actively dying right now and they are so helpful and kind. They care for her and offer her the spiritual comfort she needs to most. I said goodbye today as she has a max of 3 days left and they have done nothing but care for her, pray with her and treat her pain. Hospice is truly an amazing thing and I’m glad it exists,

  • @susanfifer5744
    @susanfifer5744 4 года назад +75

    My late dad lived with us for over 11 years, then at 87 was diagnosed with aggressive bladder cancer,I did palliative care in our home until I could no longer move him.. We went to hospice where I stayed with him holding his hand for 5 days 24/7 I remember how peaceful my dad was when the angels of nurses gave him a bubble bath for the first time in weeks wow... Hospice was wonderful and made me be a daughter to my dad instead of a caregiver and what a journey it was for both of us.. I was always afraid of death but being with my dad, and in hospice was a beautiful journey back home for him❤️

    • @ValerieEsnault-je7xs
      @ValerieEsnault-je7xs 4 месяца назад

      Connerie. Le mieux mourir chez soi. Pas dans les mouroirs

  • @veelighted7
    @veelighted7 4 года назад +418

    Hospice workers are angels on earth. 🤲🏻😢🕊🙏🏻

    • @gregemurphy346
      @gregemurphy346 3 года назад +12

      My wife had an angel nurse , we knew her , she was a friend of our daughters . She was so kind and caring , my wife was on hospice care for several months and better and was able to get off hospice. Them the next time she was on hospice she went down hill so very fast , being on hospice for only three days . My daughter and I where by her bedside at home those last three days . I gave her morphine and another medicine to help thin secretions , it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do , I miss her terribly and think of her every day , god bless her .

    • @masonrileyfowler3684
      @masonrileyfowler3684 2 года назад +1

      Ikr

    • @michellerogers3312
      @michellerogers3312 2 года назад +4

      Agree but some try an push the idea of being put into the home I'll not have my husband living in that place

    • @annewyatt9036
      @annewyatt9036 Год назад

      Angels of .......

    • @christophernewton7056
      @christophernewton7056 Год назад

      Hello 👋 Herrera

  • @kerryjones5739
    @kerryjones5739 7 лет назад +453

    Clive Smith is my grandad i couldn't thank St Luke's enough for everything they have done for my grandad he was very proud of the place and really did appreciate everything they did for him xx

  • @pastapanda4042
    @pastapanda4042 4 года назад +162

    I'm an in home caregiver for the elderly. Sometimes I care for people who are nearing the end. Most of them are blissfully accepting of it and it's taught me a lot.

    • @angelamary9493
      @angelamary9493 2 года назад +1

      Sadly the Carers in the home my husband was in neglected his Care ...he died !

    • @murtithinker7660
      @murtithinker7660 2 года назад +5

      Dead is another form of sleep.

    • @teresabrown2870
      @teresabrown2870 2 года назад +6

      @@murtithinker7660 I think dead is another form of our existence... There IS more to our human life.

    • @sharonlarsgaard6658
      @sharonlarsgaard6658 2 года назад

      @@angelamary9493 😊

  • @bluelagoonuk8923
    @bluelagoonuk8923 5 лет назад +109

    My dad was 45 when he lost the battle with cancer i was 23 it broke my heart in a whole different way than ever before!! My dad had 2mnths in the Rotherham hospice i take my hat off to the nurses,staff and volunteers they cared for my dad and helped me beyond their duty of care even after he passed. They truly are Angels

  • @Bella-lg4ix
    @Bella-lg4ix 5 лет назад +128

    I took a CNA course 2yrs ago, unfortunately i was unable to do my clinicals. This video and others alike have inspired me to go back. I have every book, all my notes and every exam. It would fill my heart to be able to show people compassion and companionship during such difficult times. Wish me luck🤞🏾

    • @KGS-mu6iw
      @KGS-mu6iw 5 лет назад +4

      Good luck. ☺

    • @Bella-lg4ix
      @Bella-lg4ix 5 лет назад +1

      @@KGS-mu6iw Thx!!!

    • @troublezzq8
      @troublezzq8 2 года назад +2

      @@Bella-lg4ix how did it go?

    • @letsexplainricky6825
      @letsexplainricky6825 2 года назад

      Bella, go after it! Do not put a time limit on your accomplishment.

    • @LRamey
      @LRamey Год назад +1

      Praying for your success💜🙏🏾

  • @Melissahenry520
    @Melissahenry520 4 года назад +240

    My dad is on day 2 of hospice he has stage 4 bile duct cancer. It’s so hard especially that he completely stopped talking but I know he can hear. It’s like he has already drifted into another dimension. This is so hard. I have so much respect for those in this industry.

    • @danamazin8813
      @danamazin8813 3 года назад +8

      I am so sorry darling 😞😞

    • @09meangirl
      @09meangirl 3 года назад +3

      I’m so sorry, I know what your going through🙏

    • @maryhodowanic3883
      @maryhodowanic3883 3 года назад

      @@09meangirl 6th

    • @abundance3148
      @abundance3148 3 года назад +3

      My mom passed away on 6/28/21 from the same type of cancer. She lived only 6 months after diagnosis. She was in the hospital 2 months out of those 6 months. I am sorry about your father.

    • @DefiantAngel87
      @DefiantAngel87 2 года назад

      I'm so deeply sorry

  • @KelleeYouPersonalOracle
    @KelleeYouPersonalOracle 3 года назад +92

    This makes my heart smile! I am so proud to be a hospice volunteer!

  • @michaelepps3875
    @michaelepps3875 5 лет назад +236

    Dude i work as a caregiver we had this young boy on hospice for muscular dystrophy i never understood what hospice was until i saw him take his last breath rest in peace matthew i was never the same after that day they say dont get too attached to ur clients but gah dam dude i will never b the same

    • @inaacielo6078
      @inaacielo6078 4 года назад +10

      God bless matthews young soul. Pray for him...

    • @maem9246
      @maem9246 4 года назад +10

      💜✝️📖👉 " Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints. "
      PSALM 116:15 👈🏾📖✝️💜

    • @aky4300
      @aky4300 4 месяца назад

      dude... this looks like a hippa violation

  • @patricialong5767
    @patricialong5767 5 лет назад +75

    As a CNA, I've worked a lot of hospice in my years and have seen some amazing people pass.I'm 65 years old and still learning!

  • @chrissimpson6701
    @chrissimpson6701 3 года назад +31

    This is my destiny to make them feel as loved, and cherished as they transition over to the other side. I love the elderly so much.

    • @Sssssssslf
      @Sssssssslf 3 года назад +4

      bless your heart ❤️

  • @messyspiller24
    @messyspiller24 Год назад +61

    I'm about to become a hospice care nurse and I hope that I make each and every one of my patients as comfortable as can be in their transition. I hope their families think of me as someone who did everything she could for her patients ❤️

  • @charlottestephens3629
    @charlottestephens3629 5 лет назад +53

    My grandmother died from cancer years ago and we could not have done it without hospice care. They made it so easy to help make her last days the way she wanted. She was at home with family.

  • @paperchain1239
    @paperchain1239 6 лет назад +220

    These people need to get paid double

    • @storino03
      @storino03 5 лет назад +7

      It’s near minimum wage, sadly

    • @CaribbeanQueen72xx
      @CaribbeanQueen72xx 5 лет назад +1

      paperchain 123 I agree although somethings are just pricelss . What they do I dont think they can really be pay the right amount for it but I would definitely help because they have their own bills as well ..

    • @williamburr3640
      @williamburr3640 5 лет назад +3

      Damn sure do !

    • @estelled389
      @estelled389 3 года назад

      Yes indeed . So sad they cut funding . Cruel really

  • @rosesandbees.1667
    @rosesandbees.1667 3 года назад +26

    My dad has Parkinson’s, dementia and dysphasia. My sister called me today to tell me they’re transporting my dad to hospice for comfort measures. I saw my dad about one week ago and told him how much I love him and asked for forgiveness for being a terrible teen. Today, I was able to FaceTime my dad and tell him how much I love him.
    😭

  • @Rita-yw2tn
    @Rita-yw2tn 4 года назад +11

    Hospice is so amazing I have a friend that’s a hospice nurse and she absolutely loves it and I had a friend that had terminal cancer and hospice was so great with her they give their whole heart to their patients I love all of them .

  • @franziskaseger9179
    @franziskaseger9179 20 дней назад +1

    How amazing is that!!! ❤what a wonderful place to pass with so much compassion

  • @richardmills8401
    @richardmills8401 5 лет назад +156

    My best friend just died of lung cancer. She drove herself to the hospital on Sept 1st and passed away 13 days later. I didn't think cancer killed that fast. It took her so fast that none of us had enouph time to say everything we needed to say. I still can't grasp what has happened.

    • @gone7777
      @gone7777 5 лет назад +6

      Richard Mills I am so sad for your loss

    • @inaacielo6078
      @inaacielo6078 4 года назад +3

      True..pray for her

    • @volkssturm9694
      @volkssturm9694 3 года назад +3

      AMEN, RIP, I feel your pain Sir.

    • @DefiantAngel87
      @DefiantAngel87 2 года назад +2

      I'm so deeply sorry

    • @eugenelayhue1932
      @eugenelayhue1932 2 года назад +3

      Instead of suffering she went to be with the lord and other loved ones the way I'd like to go.

  • @franciastone5048
    @franciastone5048 2 года назад +44

    My husband stayed at home and Hospice came to him during his last week. Until that time, I was his sole caregiver for several years. He had several medical issues, one being Parkinson's, which wasn't his biggest problem but affected his balance so he was confined to a wheel chair. His greatest pleasure besides eating, was showering. SHOWERING. I put his commode in the shower, without the pot, and then would roll him into bathroom where we managed to get him to sit under the shower. He loved it. He forgot everything and relished every little droplet that kissed his body.

    • @susan6834
      @susan6834 2 года назад +3

      I'm sorry for your loss but he sounds like he was a very good man

    • @beaubritton2125
      @beaubritton2125 Год назад +6

      My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer stage 4, the cancer doc said he could live another year, but he died in June. He said he didn’t want to go to the hospital so we set up a hospital bed in the living room, and when people came to see him he was right there at the front door. After 23 years together I did not wanted him not to die alone. My sister and his sister came to help. When I knew death was close by, I called the angels at hospice and they came with the pain meds to keep him comfortable and he refused food and water, and those angels took care of him. What ever he requested they made it happen. On the last day I had put my hand on his head and massaged it a bit and then he stopped breathing. He open his eyes and I told him I love him right before he died. Now I recommend hospice for anyone in that is in that situation. They are truly angels.

    • @LRamey
      @LRamey Год назад

      🙏🏾🕊

    • @nusratsiddiqua5545
      @nusratsiddiqua5545 Год назад

  • @TheMohawk102
    @TheMohawk102 4 года назад +51

    If i'm diagnosed with a terminal disease . I want options and one of them is for me to have the right to say i had enough . I want to be able to take my own life . I want to go in my sleep .

    • @volkssturm9694
      @volkssturm9694 3 года назад +6

      I respect that 100% , Ive always said passing away in your sleep is the best way to go honestly.

    • @Growndweller
      @Growndweller 3 года назад +3

      My great grandmother passed that way, absolutely no pain. She was a Godly woman and was never without her bible.

  • @sandrasenner6456
    @sandrasenner6456 6 лет назад +136

    Hospice was a Godsend when my father was dying of Cancer, they were so compassionate, loiving and very caring, they walked us through the process and explained to us what was happening and what would happen next. We couldn't have gotten through it without them🙏 God Bless Them 🙏

    • @pegs1659
      @pegs1659 6 лет назад +7

      They were there when my dad was dying of cancer and they really took care of things so I could focus on just being with him.

    • @wyomingadventures
      @wyomingadventures 5 лет назад +6

      I've had the same experience with Hospice. 3 family members. They are a blessing. Wonderful people who do this for the terminally ill.

  • @susanray4847
    @susanray4847 3 года назад +9

    My Mother had hospice and she died from cancer. She had 11 years with it where she was in and out of remission. I was with her the nite she transition at 11.pm. I went to sleep woke up and she had the most beautiful smile on her face.

  • @maem9246
    @maem9246 4 года назад +18

    " I am under Hospice care in the USA and your Hospice care is awesome ! "

  • @ericreingardt2504
    @ericreingardt2504 3 года назад +36

    "It is not the length of life, but the depth of life." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

  • @patriciaestok9329
    @patriciaestok9329 4 года назад +13

    Her strength and resolve is remarkable. God bless her.

  • @dizzyrico
    @dizzyrico 2 года назад +5

    Marie curie was a amazing at looking after my uncle he had 4 weeks to live and only stayed in the hospice for 5 days and he passed they were a wonderful support to all of us .x

  • @JC-je3jc
    @JC-je3jc 5 лет назад +151

    Something about being so close to death seems beautiful. By what I understand, being so close to death is sobering, humbling, eye-opening, and without room for frivolous nonsense-- a lot of raw humanity coming out regularly.

    • @bluewater3783
      @bluewater3783 4 года назад +1

      Surely, there is a time and a place for humor--yes, even (or especially) around Death...

    • @masterpieces2218
      @masterpieces2218 4 года назад +1

      Well being near death tends to make u weak. And weak people tend to act nice. Dont let it fool u.

    • @beezerbrit
      @beezerbrit 3 года назад +1

      I work in the office of a hospice provider. It is actually really fun most of the time and we laugh a lot. Our nurses see a lot of really dark stuff. When they come to the office I try to make it a space for them to see the lighter side of life. And laughter is the only way to get through some things.

    • @beezerbrit
      @beezerbrit 3 года назад +3

      Also please don't look at hospice as only a thing to help people die comfortably. We have had patients on service for several years. People are afraid of the word hospice because they think it means their loved one is going to die right away. Our nurses and caregivers have different goals for each patient...to provide support, to help them die comfortably, and some to prolong death. Every single one is unique and special and we just help them with what they need or want, which is not always anything about dying.

    • @janesanders3330
      @janesanders3330 3 года назад +3

      @alan Burch yes there is. My dad is going to pass any day. We were watching a film together while he sleeps and mum said the lights were not bright enough and I quipped: it’s okay, dad’s going to the light soon enough.

  • @teribacon22
    @teribacon22 Год назад +13

    Hospice is such a beautiful thing. I've been a part of hospice care for many years and I always feel so graced that I get to be apart of people's lives in such a glorious way.

  • @jolake8070
    @jolake8070 6 лет назад +204

    Take the fear of death away By assisting the dying when they say it's time. I know what I am talking about as I am terminally ill myself.

    • @joanpashinsky-greve8760
      @joanpashinsky-greve8760 5 лет назад +14

      Hey jo I am terminally ill as well I should volunteer while I can

    • @kjallen2610
      @kjallen2610 5 лет назад +5

      @@joanpashinsky-greve8760 :(

    • @tomkerr552
      @tomkerr552 5 лет назад +21

      Every soul automatically returns home to the spirit world the minute they take their last breath on this earth. There is no Heaven or Hell. All religions are manmade. There are no judgement days. Everyone judges themselves. No one is R.I.P. Resting in peace. Everyone is to busy enjoying their new life returning home to the spirit realms. They have so much to do. So many loved ones, family and old friends. Places to visit. Places to go too. Concerts to go and watch. All the singers and performers who have passed before us are all still doing the things they loved doing while on the earth. My wife has been to concerts and saw Elvis Presley, Louis Armstrong and Jimmy Shand.

    • @gone7777
      @gone7777 5 лет назад +6

      Tom Kerr I really like this concept

    • @Kate-fi8oh
      @Kate-fi8oh 4 года назад +9

      My brother just died in hospice today on his 73rd birthday. He acted as tho it was his mission,refusing food, etc.

  • @sallyclay1974
    @sallyclay1974 3 года назад +29

    My sister passed away peacefully, at The Residence in Darien ,CT, on Jan 28, 2021. I salute all the caregivers, doctors ,nurses, hospice, and the chef, for taking such great care of my sister.

    • @blucky1250
      @blucky1250 2 года назад +3

      ❤I’m in Mass and my inter is stage 4 OC. It’s breaking my heart.

  • @MarvinMonroe
    @MarvinMonroe 2 года назад +5

    My dad just died an hour at a really nice Hospice with my mom, smy sister and me around him. It was very peaceful. I'm going to look into volunteering for them. Everyone was so nice

  • @cyborgclarke
    @cyborgclarke Год назад +8

    There needs to be a law to allow for assisted suicide instead of just waiting to die.

  • @lizwilson9474
    @lizwilson9474 3 года назад +25

    My husband was only 45 years old when he passed with cancer in 2018 a gentle soul he suffered so so much and just wanted to go he had no quality of life and still had pain in hospice sometimes its not enough. i will keep fighting to get laws changed for our choice at the end.

    • @tenniskinsella7768
      @tenniskinsella7768 6 месяцев назад +2

      I see your point. It's bad if even an hospice can't control pain but in countries where there is assisted dying its been abused
      Like abortion strict rules at first and then relaxed
      No I don't agree with assisted dying at all

  • @lissydeon817
    @lissydeon817 5 лет назад +33

    There is nothing worse in life than to have a love one in hospice, knowing that their days are counted.My mother was in hospice for two years before her passing.It was the worst time in my life.

  • @emmab8318
    @emmab8318 7 лет назад +71

    These people are real life superheroes. Bless the patients and their employees ♥️♥️plus I love that Chef Nicks majestic beard and fabulous moustache!!♥️♥️

  • @inmatejason
    @inmatejason 5 лет назад +29

    The world needs more places like this.

    • @amyledesma1269
      @amyledesma1269 4 года назад

      No these murder factories need banned, Why not control, pain instead of murder people?

  • @blucky1250
    @blucky1250 2 года назад +8

    The support groups aspect is incredibly helpful. My sister is stage 4 OC and it’s hard being alone and afraid. A problem shared is a problem cut in half. What an organization St Luke’s is. God bless and keep these workers. ❤

  • @sjfulton10
    @sjfulton10 2 года назад +19

    My mother just died at home 2 weeks ago. It was a peaceful gentle death but I wish I had been more familiar with the process. The palliative care nurses were such a great help. Forever grateful to them.

    • @jm7804
      @jm7804 2 года назад +2

      I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • @robynwilliams5928
    @robynwilliams5928 4 года назад +13

    My father came home on Hospice in February 4, 2020 and went to be with the Lord on February 10, 2020. Optimal Hospice was wonderful.

  • @DazWally
    @DazWally Месяц назад +1

    Hospice nurses are truly amazing angels looked after my mother until the very end god bless xx

  • @CalebBoyd718
    @CalebBoyd718 3 года назад +23

    3/16/21: My aunt who is 92 years old is likely going to be starting hospice care sometime soon. It’s really sad though because she’s in another state and I’m going to visit her for likely the last time next week. I’ll give an update when she passes as bad as that sounds but I want others to understand the process and how it unfortunately ends.
    3/28/21 Update: I just left from seeing her a few hours ago and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. We both knew it would probably be the last time we saw each other but saying the final goodbye was heartbreaking. She said that she loved me, told me to look out for my family and myself and said to stay with the right crew. I’ll check back in once it’s official but I don’t see myself seeing her again before she’s gone.

    • @chrissimpson6701
      @chrissimpson6701 3 года назад +6

      Make sure she know Jesus. It's going to be alright.

    • @CalebBoyd718
      @CalebBoyd718 3 года назад +2

      @@chrissimpson6701 most definitely. She’s doing better than I thought but she’s still 92 so it isn’t great

    • @caramel2933
      @caramel2933 2 года назад +1

      @@CalebBoyd718 what happened?

  • @johnkennethsolo6769
    @johnkennethsolo6769 2 года назад +7

    These workers are like angels comforting someone who is about to enter eternal life. I never knew death is so comforting around people who trully care.

  • @stevelangland3924
    @stevelangland3924 3 года назад +17

    My late partner died of lung cancer 15 days after we started hospice. Before we brought him home, in the hospital I was crying and completely alone. Once home things were entirely different and hospice, myself and Jeff were in control and the emotional support incredible for both of us. They didn't leave the house after he died and the funeral home claimed his body until they knew I was coping better.

  • @neversaygoodbye4
    @neversaygoodbye4 3 года назад +7

    We’re facing this with my dad. I just want him to be comfortable and not in pain ❤️

  • @japod812
    @japod812 5 лет назад +17

    I am young and terminally ill as well with failing organs. it has been hard but I know that their is something that is after this. this is awesome facility i wish we had something like that here that really cares for people. We are human. We don’t so I am at home with my husband and kitty and we do the best we can I will miss them a lot. I know I will see them again. Everyone’s says put a bright face on and I try but honestly it’s easier for them to say it. it’s been hard struggling to stay alive every moment. I am hoping that when it’s god will to take me it’s in my sleep.. god bless everyone

  • @susiegoodman4425
    @susiegoodman4425 5 лет назад +40

    I belong to dignity in dying - I am in remission from bowel cancer & have made a living will to ensure I die in my own home looking at my beautiful garden - I remember my late father living in a caré home as my mother was not fit enough to look after him -she was almost 90 years old - it was so depressing to see my once vibrant father just sat in a chair dribbling - no stimulation just waiting to die -horrendous & I am not going to through the same thing !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @vanessasimmons1175
      @vanessasimmons1175 3 года назад +3

      Me too. I’ve worked with dementia and it’s an horrific end. If I’m diagnosed and assisted dying is not legal here I’m off to wherever I can end my life.

  • @dawnl5899
    @dawnl5899 2 года назад +19

    Hospice caregivers are Angels on earth and love what they do helping patients and their families even after the end, for as long as is needed.

  • @urnanisonsteroids1075
    @urnanisonsteroids1075 5 лет назад +18

    God bless to all the people that are in hospice care

  • @kylekeen3497
    @kylekeen3497 Год назад +6

    So sorry for everyone's loss. Prayers sent 🙏

  • @lindamerrill911
    @lindamerrill911 2 года назад +3

    my mother died in a hospice facility she received wonderful care my father had hospice home care again wonderful care

  • @09meangirl
    @09meangirl 3 года назад +21

    Hospice caregivers are absolute Godsends🙏 when we took my Dad home to die per his wish, Hospice was right there guiding us through the death process we couldn't have gotten through it without their help ❤ we will be forever grateful to them 🙏❤

    • @johnwayzwayz3106
      @johnwayzwayz3106 3 года назад

      Definitely or my sorrow Illness had be gone with the faith i already have in God I was diagnosed of leg cancer more 7 year's before now God used Dr idialu himself ruclips.net/user/shortsD6UBT8lKYcw?feature=share

  • @shj10nl
    @shj10nl 2 года назад +6

    the care people are really wonderful people, just great

  • @distancebetweenstars8047
    @distancebetweenstars8047 Год назад +2

    My grandad is in hospice now. I’ve sent him a card and a message on my phone. All I can hope is that he knows how much I love him, even towards the end. Surrounded with love and funny stories

  • @princess_styles
    @princess_styles 11 месяцев назад +11

    I’m 17 and got my CNA last year and am getting into hospice care. My long term goal is nurse practitioner midwife or mortician, but as someone who deals with death frequently, it warms my heart to hear people discuss it openly and freely

    • @805fillmore
      @805fillmore 11 месяцев назад +1

      17 is too young for that type of job. Hospice care should be for convicted felons coming out of prison.

  • @Dorris777p
    @Dorris777p 6 лет назад +69

    It's very sad to hear that the funding for hospice care is being cut. They do an amazing job and they deserve more praise for the jobs that they do! After losing my dad who passed away in a hospice recently I see these amazing people In A different light And they should be recognised alot more than they are.

  • @yasaman33
    @yasaman33 7 месяцев назад +4

    Today it was my dad’s funeral , o lost him due to cancer, he fought so hard. Yet he was so hopeful to live . He was in hospice for the last 2 days, he was so relaxed in hospice . Hospice is just a beautiful thing.

  • @fabiwilliams4644
    @fabiwilliams4644 4 года назад +15

    I work in a hospice. We often don't get referrals until just before someone dies. This means unnecessary pain & suffering. We can't provide a quality death or the support people need in the days & weeks beforehand, which just leaves painful memories for those left behind

    • @elainebowen5234
      @elainebowen5234 3 года назад +1

      My mum went into hospice week before she died and I was not allowed to see her until she was dead. I felt so let down and only saw her via outside outside window one day before she died.
      I was deeply upset by this decision.
      I have her ashes now.

    • @fabiwilliams4644
      @fabiwilliams4644 3 года назад

      @@elainebowen5234 I'm sorry. Elaine. I know that with COVID everything has become very difficult with people dying in isolation & loved ones being kept apart. I work here in Australia & we did what we could to have loved ones present at this time. We are now allowing for 2 visitors at a time with no time limit. It's difficult to protect everyone & government rules that place these restrictions.

  • @peggyhunter9499
    @peggyhunter9499 3 года назад +9

    My Prayers this hurts my heart God please heal these people..🙏🙏🙌

  • @SuperMissblueeyes
    @SuperMissblueeyes 3 года назад +11

    My Mum's cousin used to be Matron of our local hospice. She did an amazing job. Sadly, her Dad, husband, sister & herself, all went on to need the care of the hospice that she helped to run. They all passed away from various forms of cancer. But the hospice & McMillan nurses made things so much easier for them all. They're amazing people.

  • @Hey_its_Koda
    @Hey_its_Koda 5 лет назад +73

    I wish i could stop death. I wish i could save people.

    • @qwertyjeffers
      @qwertyjeffers 5 лет назад +3

      @Fliss098 yup it's why I hope the end game is nothingness, to not be aware is real peace

    • @catherine9808
      @catherine9808 4 года назад +4

      It’s ok , Jesus did that so we dint have to , through him there is eternal life

    • @bubblebuds31
      @bubblebuds31 4 года назад +3

      Energy cannot be created or destroyed. Only transferred. It’s a transition, not an end :)

    • @hesterdutoit6694
      @hesterdutoit6694 3 года назад

      We all do my sister's where a month apart with breath cancer

    • @carriemiranda130
      @carriemiranda130 3 года назад +1

      Death will happen...it would just be nice if it would happen in our sleep. No pain or worry..

  • @astriddobek8931
    @astriddobek8931 2 года назад +4

    I wish we had a place like this in every city in America.

  • @carolineomalley6028
    @carolineomalley6028 6 лет назад +18

    My mum was in a hospice I will never forget it the last few days horrible to see your love ones in pain noting worst I miss my mum every single day it's hard:-(

    • @vincentdeguard4726
      @vincentdeguard4726 5 лет назад +3

      i miss my mum too. every day is an enormous struggle

    • @csc1641
      @csc1641 5 лет назад +1

      Caroline: My mother just died last week. The last 24 hours were traumatic for my family. I miss my mum too.

  • @keariewashburn4680
    @keariewashburn4680 2 года назад +4

    Hospice care needs to be every where for everyone and their families. Wonderful angels and so helpful and comforting to the patients and the family God bless them all and may His presence and love work through their hands always as he does in our hearts.

  • @love2fight205
    @love2fight205 4 года назад +17

    My grandmother has just started on hospice, she’s transitioning into the final stages of dementia with lewy bodies. It’s sad seeing the obvious and rapid decline as the days go on, and I can vividly remember her as she was normally, as well as every stage on her downward descent. It sucks, I hope she doesn’t suffer much more. In all honesty I don’t think she’ll live to see the end of the year, the medicine Hospice put her on is obviously killing her. I think it’s probably best though, she’s lived a miserable 86 years with abusive husbands, parents, and fighting poverty. She’s suffered her whole life and I know she doesn’t deserve to suffer anymore.

    • @chrissimpson6701
      @chrissimpson6701 3 года назад +3

      It's going to be alright, I hope she know Jesus.

    • @shirlwoolf8106
      @shirlwoolf8106 Год назад +1

      @@chrissimpson6701 That is really a sad story. I know many people have lived such sad life`s and they died the same as the rich people who had everything. It has always made me terribly sad to see the unfairness of life. God Bless.

  • @atmos1x
    @atmos1x 4 месяца назад +1

    I'll never forget the fact that a nurse took my sister to have sushi in the cafeteria the day before she passed since it was her favorite food. Medical workers deserve so much more than what we give them.

  • @francesgray5545
    @francesgray5545 3 года назад +5

    My mum died of breast cancer and was totally let down by her palliative nurses on her final day , no1 answered our calls and she was screaming in pain it was horrendous and we now have to live with that

    • @pegs1659
      @pegs1659 3 года назад

      Thats horrible. What was their excuse for that?

    • @Chaseniceness
      @Chaseniceness 3 года назад +1

      I know a guy who's mum was in a hospice and he had a go at the staff "give her her morphine".
      They gave it to her.

  • @ikutu7771958
    @ikutu7771958 Год назад +2

    My mother died of cancer over 25 years ago and a woman from Hospice was there. That woman was crude, bossy, and predominate. I will NOT have Hospice in MY home when I die.

    • @Dem816gritter
      @Dem816gritter Год назад +1

      Facts and don't care about patients my grandmother died on the 14th.my auntie caught one of the hospice lady taking the oxygen off my grandmother while she was suppose to bathing her

    • @W1433LA
      @W1433LA Год назад +1

      That’s shocking I’m so sorry that’s awful how dare she do that I hope she no longer works there

  • @Yolanda_Ortiz
    @Yolanda_Ortiz 4 года назад +10

    My mom was in hospice for a week losing her has been the hardest thing ever. We lost her on August 12 2019💔

    • @elroy8272
      @elroy8272 4 года назад +1

      So sorry for your loss. Prayers for your broken heart. Hospice has been a blessing with my father. And, I shall be next someday.

    • @jeanannperry6514
      @jeanannperry6514 4 года назад

      My birthday

    • @josephcolaprete2813
      @josephcolaprete2813 2 года назад

      So sorry I lost my dad to cancer June 30 2021

  • @rosemoore4431
    @rosemoore4431 3 года назад +7

    It's so so sad when I watch these videos 😭 my daughter in law was 30when she past away and left and 8 year old daughter it's was so sat to see her like that but she never mornd once in 1 ayear and a half she was told she had breast cancer but it went right through her so let them all rest in peace x

  • @leoroberts3974
    @leoroberts3974 2 года назад +8

    Nobody has mentioned the chef, nutrition is always important even leading up to death. Well done sir!

  • @nenblom
    @nenblom 5 лет назад +15

    This is amazing. It shows that there is goodness out in the world. Quality of life is a lot more important than quantity.

  • @Timeless80
    @Timeless80 6 месяцев назад +1

    After losing my partner of 45 years recently and having used Hospice what people need to understand about Hospice is this is NOT about curing an illness but making their last moments as comfortable as possible.He lasted 3 days in hospice.

  • @basiccallyeverything7528
    @basiccallyeverything7528 3 года назад +5

    5:56 how is she so happy? I love her

  • @guenethcorrigan4096
    @guenethcorrigan4096 Год назад +2

    Beautiful tribute to death. Quantity vs.Quality.I am a transplant patient,59 years old, and even at this age I am an advocate for quality, 100%.

  • @bronwynishac5240
    @bronwynishac5240 2 года назад +4

    The staff that do this job are my heroes

  • @kathylovingshimer6708
    @kathylovingshimer6708 2 года назад +4

    I tear up watching this. Cause I lost my dad in July 4 2019 it’s been three years he was in hospice and now my mom in home hospice.😢

  • @rachelmiller764
    @rachelmiller764 2 года назад +8

    I was allowed to bring my grandads dog to see him every day while he was in a hospice, he used to save the meat off his sandwiches to give her, when the nurses found out they gave him extra sandwiches! The nurses also used to hang out in his room after hours, he had his marbles just weak with cancer. Two of his favourite nurses came to his funeral, it was a lovely experience if that doesn't sound strange

  • @ritabrunetti381
    @ritabrunetti381 Год назад +5

    Hello from the United States of America. I live here in Smithfield, Rhode Island, USA. As a younger woman I became a Hospice volunteer. What a wonderful experience it was. Getting to meet different people and make some very pleasant memories. As a volunteer, I would spend time with the patient so that their family member could leave the home and spend time with other family and friends in their life. Respite time for the family is so important to their own psyche. To give them a lift to be able to return to their love one with a more peaceful feel to continue to care for the patient. Bless these families and friends who choose to care so deeply for their love ones. 🙏

  • @caragunnels726
    @caragunnels726 2 года назад +4

    Bless all of them

  • @jeanmyers1787
    @jeanmyers1787 3 года назад +2

    My husband a lifelong non smoker was initially told he had a golf injury, by the time they scanned him the cancer had spread to his other lung & his liver. I got absolutely no support.

  • @theresareynolds3133
    @theresareynolds3133 4 года назад +17

    My mom died in 2001,she had been sent home to die. Hospice came in,set up her bed showed us to do the morphine and left,this was on a Thursday we didn’t see hospice again until Monday when she died. We just hoped we were doing everything right. Hospice wasn’t very helpful,they didn’t even call to check on her.

    • @Sssssssslf
      @Sssssssslf 3 года назад +2

      that's terrible,I'm so sorry❤️ I have all this to come with my mum in the coming weeks I hope we have a better experience with hospice care

    • @jennyn5692
      @jennyn5692 2 года назад

      I'm so sorry. I lost a good friend to breast cancer last year. She passed away at home. Her family did not have a good experience with hospice either. Her husband told me that when she passed, they were pretty much like, "Well, that's that," and left. They seemed extremely clinical and not sympathetic at all. It broke my heart to hear, because she was such an amazing person and deserved so much better. I so wish she could have gone to a place like this.

  • @joylewis8929
    @joylewis8929 2 года назад +2

    My dad died1year ago in April he was in hospice at home we had to see him passaway my heart is still 💔 I loved him so much 💔 my heart is very broken the hardest thing I have ever seen know more

  • @rkenny8399
    @rkenny8399 5 лет назад +11

    God bless all the health care professionls that help these beautiful people with real quality care which they all deserve

  • @montesa9136
    @montesa9136 3 года назад +7

    Sadly, hospices are cost prohibitive for most of us!
    Why is there nothing in place for the majority of us?

    • @jackieporter5323
      @jackieporter5323 2 месяца назад

      Not in the UK, one if the great differences in our care systems.

  • @2eleven48
    @2eleven48 6 лет назад +22

    Surely the extraordinary damning aspect of this video is the amount of money that the NHS provides. That St Luke's, among many others in this country, has to resort to charity shops to engender funds beggars belief.

  • @the_stuart115
    @the_stuart115 5 лет назад +16

    Unfortunately my mum passed away just on the 24th there

  • @izyltex
    @izyltex 3 года назад +2

    I'm praying for those who are suffering and need help

  • @jennyperrio4887
    @jennyperrio4887 4 года назад +7

    My Dad was heading towards the end of his life He wasnt hungry but fancied some salad cream on a piece of bread One of the cleaners went home and got the salad cream she had for my Dad I can never thank her enough for such kindness Dad ate two mouthfuls next day at tea time he died cradled in my arms Just me and my little Dad. It was a lovely end of life he had no pain I held him close to me and sang to him and kissed the top of his head then he was gone Jenny

  • @ladygrinningsoul992
    @ladygrinningsoul992 Год назад +2

    I thought hospices were less clinical than hospitals but they still look the same

  • @amandaboyce2670
    @amandaboyce2670 2 года назад +1

    My father in law was sent to hospital after a cancer diagnosis. 4 weeks from diagnosis til he passed. Hospice care was amazing, staff were great, he does a peaceful death surrounded by all of us

  • @MixedNutsMs
    @MixedNutsMs 5 лет назад +15

    My dad wanted quantity of life, fought to live till his very end!

    • @kjallen2610
      @kjallen2610 5 лет назад +1

      I'm so sorry

    • @chilogutierrez695
      @chilogutierrez695 3 года назад +1

      Do not go gentle into that good night. Your pops fought for every second of life because he knew the value of it. Fear not. He is not suffering anymore. After we die we cease to exist. So fight for every second of life.

  • @thepatriotpartyofamerica
    @thepatriotpartyofamerica 6 лет назад +30

    My brother passed away at home

  • @nanfeliciano5465
    @nanfeliciano5465 2 года назад +3

    My dad had a stroke, survive 7years, but has he got worst we called hospice, he was around about 1 week after that... At home

  • @davelydon1982
    @davelydon1982 4 года назад +7

    Life can be so tough
    God bless them all 🙏🙏🏾

  • @janetothen2583
    @janetothen2583 4 года назад +7

    My fil died on Sunday 3rd April 2016 in the most horrific and terrifying death I've ever seen. His hospice care was due to start the next day as they thought he had a bit longer, but they r all Angel's these people, absolute Angel's.

    • @beezerbrit
      @beezerbrit 3 года назад +2

      I am so sorry for your loss. I work in hospice and those situations when the patient is admitted to hospice and then passes the same day or soon after are always so heartbreaking. They finally get that extra care and support but it's too late. Always such a shock. I am so sorry.

    • @janetothen2583
      @janetothen2583 3 года назад +1

      @@beezerbrit thank u, yeah they honestly thought he had another month or so, but his gp just a few days before told me in graphic detail what would happen (eroding artery the tumor was destroying) and agreed it was a sooner rather than later thing. I dont know how he held on as long as he did tho. I had a baby on the 4th march, his 1st grandchild from his son that the docs had said was sterile, so was an amazing event, and we swear he wanted to see us settled at home, and as we spent 12days in nicu, he held on so patiently love him. They wanted to admit him to the hospice, but its a 20mile drive and i didnt drive then so he absolutely refused. He was dying at home. He actually discharged from hospital on 4th march as he over heard a junior doc tell a nurse to make him comfy as he wont be too much longer. I just wish we had more support, we had to beg for help with pillows for his bedsores as he lost all his body fat, beg for dressings and such too. They kept guilting him saying oh u can have it, as an in patient. Only the gp was amazing. Id call and say his pain was ×10, a script went straight to chemist so i had it in 20mins. I thank u for ur care of these people in their last days xx

  • @airdriedistricthospicesoci8965
    @airdriedistricthospicesoci8965 6 лет назад +12

    What a wonderful report - capturing what Hospice does and how it helps those facing End of Life and helps their caregivers as well. Well done and kudos to all the wonderful and compassionate workers and volunteers who make it all possible!

  • @clairemcmahon9392
    @clairemcmahon9392 3 года назад +5

    These Hospices need more funding by Government they are essential. I volunteered in a Hospice in Glasgow and it was the best year of my life I loved it, All staff and patients were fantastic I will never forget them. The work they do especially the healthcare assistants is beyond priceless. I would one day love to work in. Hospice. Death needs to spoke about and not hidden away it is the most natural thing in the world but it’s imperative people are allowed to have a dignified death. Let’s speak out people make death more acceptable and not hidden away.

  • @kennysmith8831
    @kennysmith8831 2 года назад +3

    My brother had Hospice, it was terrible