Myka Stauffer's Neighbor EXPOSES What REALLY Happened to Her Adopted Child?
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- Опубликовано: 5 окт 2024
- Family vlogger Myka Stauffer placed her adopted son with special needs with a new family-and people are outraged.
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“My child is not returnable.”
You literally returned the child. You used him for views. She would never do this to her biological child.
Nah she -re abandoned- re-homed him. . . It makes me sick just typing that, but it seriously feels like he was a toy that she and her family doesn't have any use for anymore.
She acts like she can return him like a piece of clothing! She's sick!
There's nowhere to return a biological kid... (if both parents are together).
Just a quick update, she took down her latest video.
Probably would if she could.
She’s just hurting her adopted (no longer) child. By giving him away for having something he CAN’T CONTROL. Sis this ain’t it.
Sarah Mabior acuoth period.
She might’ve hurt him more by keeping him
@@ashcatchum yeah but she shouldve listened to doctors advice before adopting
She couldn't raise him so she gave him to a better family.
@@ashcatchum exactly.
Maybe he wasn’t “making progress” because you were more concerned with vlogging rather than helping him.
Ikr, my boy has an autistm too. But with the therapy now he is having more understanding on how to do the basic activity, he is 4years now.
and he would stim and rock in his crib because he was left in a crib, alone, most of his life, in the orphanage. That's a source of anxiety for him. He could walk, he didn't need to be in a crib anymore, they just didn't want to parent. And went shopping for a new baby with a more palatable disability to exploit. They are narcissists.
Thing is ... he made a lot of progress!
And gave him substandard medical treatment
Boom! Right?
Did this chick just say her feelings were hurt because Huxley "rejected" her? This woman felt rejected by a small child who had been through trauma and abandonment? Myka is something else...
Yes, she is something else... a textbook narcissist.🤢
What a sad excuse for a human being...clear that she is incredibly vain, narcissistic and lacking in the qualities needed to look after a child with special needs...worried for her other kids
"It's all about her"...
That's why
Yeah plus some people just are closer to one parent than the other nothing wrong with that
She feels rejected by him BUT YET she claims that he has Reactive Attachment Disorder smfh
Instead of "rehoming" him should be reabandoning. This little boy deserves a better life and better family.
the word "rehoming" just furthur shows how much neglect Huxley probably got. rehoming is used in a negative connotation towards pets and animals, not human children. she's absolutely disgusting .
They clearly didn't know what they were getting themselves into and thats what pisses me off the most...
Hanak0-Chan345 for me it’s the opposite. they knew what he had. doctors WARNED them that his condition could be worse. and she said ‘worse case situation... need full on care... we would still love him’. that’s what pisses me off the most. i don’t think they were kept in the dark. in my opinion, they knew.
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She should be banned from adopting children and the cps take her kids since she may neglect them as well. If she neglected Huxley then she might also neglected her other kids as well. She doesn't deserve to be a mother.
The Stauffer’s have money, they could afford any therapy, in-home or out of home help, etc. She’s a nurse and the ‘new mom’ is no more or less certified. They never would’ve done this with a biological child. They said ‘dangerous situations’ happened with their other children, well where were you?! Obviously they were unattended for those things to happen. They are just disgusting. They went on a holiday after giving him away like a dog.
Maybe they couldnt afford to buy expensive stuff with huxley anymore so they picked material things instead
Ceci C they could afford to take care of him they just decided not to
So true! Hiring a live-in nurse or finding a high end assisted living facility was definitely doable for the Stauffer’s.
@@bmk9844 but she wouldnt be able to afford her $6k bracelets. It was therapy or bracelets she chose bracelets. I still dont understand how people are still siding with her and they still have millions of followers. I'm guessing at this point people just want to see what they'll do next but their also helping to pay their mortgage 🤦🏽♀️
They don't even need to have money. The state offers Medicaid programs that offer options, support, and resources for people with developmental disabilities. They help you through their entire life to ensure they are properly cared for. As a nurse, she should've known this, or in the very least the amount of care that a special needs child would have let alone whether or not she could handle it with other kids as well.
She talks about adoption like she’s picking out a specific breed of dog... just unbelievable
I'm your 100th like and yeah that's not right. She's a horrible person, and I think they had said he has attachment issues which is even worse...
M B , I don’t know their situation, but many adoptive parents try to remain detached if the adoption fails to go through. I am adopted. I was 5, so I remember the foster homes, etc. I still think she is awful. You don’t get a kid and send them back.
Exactly
She named the Boy Huxley, even sounds like a dogs name
The way she talks about conditions gives me the creeps she literally acts like she’s picking out a dog with certain traits it’s so ugh
Tantrum? He was quietly crying.... she’s such a witch....
That made me so mad. I’ve taught and worked with students on the autism spectrum. That is a typical tantrum for a child without a disability. She’s just not trying to raise him the way he needs. ALSO, she said they were SOOO open to any disability... It seems like he’s completely physically capable. What it they had to change catheters or colostomy bags?
Bruh -_-. Worst mother ever…
That broke my heart. Crying is one of the few ways he’s able to express that he’s upset and all she can do is denigrate him.
Exactly- that was one of the quietest cries I’ve ever heard from a child
I've seen tantrums before and this wasn't one of them.
This whole situation was beyond disgusting. She had no problem using him for clout all these years, and when things became too hard for her she decided to just give her son away to a mommy with special training, what? He's not just a pet, he's a HUMAN BEING. Imagine calling someone your family your whole life and after years they just decide to "rehome you."
even if it’s an animal, it’s still messed up.
She is disgusting and I think she only wants money she didn’t even deserve him
Nastia right!
As much as I agree....I am glad he is in a home that ACTUALLY carrs about him. It is worse growing up somewhere where no ome loves you...
Annika Joseph yea...
“My child is not returnable”
Year later-*returns child*
That aged like milk
3 years later.
made it 1k
PixiePrism even worse
Oof
She’s one of those girls that act like a nice christian girl online but is actually a mean person in real life.
For real thooo
DID YOU EVER SEE THAT PICTURE ---- THE BAD SEED--MYKA
her former friends say she really was someone obssed with attention who was never relgious much less christian with only 4000 subscribers who saw a famout youtuber family who were christian with like 7 foregin adopted kids and she tried to copy them as much as possible to gain subscribers and attention and unfornatly her plan with huxley worked she went for 4000 to a million and made bank of him enough to by 6000 dollars watches vactions to bali a massive house and a 10000 bed she got as much as she could out of him them trafficked him away she is literally exactly what you describe
@@wilmagregg3131 I know someone like this. But she took it to another level. It was like he was he milk cow for them to get money. Shame on her! Motherhood is hard but it's beautiful in every way and I wouldn't trade my kids for nothing.
Yesss!!!
“My child is not returnable” that did not age well .
Aged like the dead strawberries in my fridge
🤣🤣🤣🤣
For real life.
Those doctors that “discouraged” her probably knew immediately that they could not provide the amount of love and care needed for that poor child.
That was my first thought: unlike her dimwitted followers, the doctors could tell she was too narcissistic to care for a special needs child.
@@rosewhite259 Most family blog viewers are actually children. It's easy to pull a fast one on them.
Margot Abihabib agree!! I stopped wathing them!! ApriljustinTV takes the cake though!
@@NegleLir I used to watch AprilJustinTV when i was in middle school haha but grew out of family vlogs. Are they really narcissistic, just asking LOL
She should have known she would need to invest a lot of time in him, etc. Even if the child doesn’t have a disability and when you don’t adopt a baby. Then it’s also getting used to a lot of new things for them: different language, people around, food, but also little things like a car seat. At least that’s what I would imagine. And she already had three young children and looked like she’d also spend a lot of time on herself. She doesn’t even have a job... like... you should have time enough to spend on/ with him. They can even hire someone to clean the house for them, so they have more time. Didn’t look like they had many friends, so they wouldn’t have to spend time with them. The kids can go to regular schools and actually make other friends than their siblings. Wouldn’t surprise me if she didn’t even do the editing of the videos. Anyway. Just figure something out.
She should've listened to the doctor because she obv wasn't prepared
She did it for the money and clout. Not because she loved the child and wanted to adopt.
i keep saying it: they wanted a special needs child without special needs. they wanted the asspats of adopting a special needs child but couldn't comprehend that that meant that the child would actually HAVE special needs. you're right- they weren't prepared at all. they were delusional at best but more likely just money-hungry and desperate for clout. poor kid. i hope he goes to an actually loving home now.
She disgusts me so much. I can’t even explain the amount of disgust I feel towards her. Don’t adopt a child you can’t take care of.
She didnt even prepare at all, she didnt listen to the doctors
Ironic that she was suddenly taking medical advice when that advice was telling them to give him to another family. They really pick and choose their values and their morals from video to video. They’re spineless they don’t stand for anything
“He is probably having a meltdown”
Proceeds To aggressively say “are u done”
But i got disgusted when she said “are u over yourself”
He is child girl u cant say that to a child.
Also this kid can’t speak ! He can’t even express how he feels.
She is done!!!!
As a daycare teacher sometimes we say “All done, no more tears. All done” but it’s always in a calming kind of “teacher voice”. However if you have a child with special needs you need to speak to them in a way so that they dont become over stimulated or overwhelmed. Their brains are wired differently. This family did not understand that
She obviously either didn't bother learning about autism, or else she was so lacking in empathy that she didn't care.
I ship deku with no broken limbs But he was just whining, that’s not fitting
I am so glad she gave him up. When he was crying and in that dark closet. That broke me. Give the kid a hug.
Actually hugs can be counterproductive. You saw he put his arm out, so he likes that.
He doesn’t need those condescending words though.
“We waited and waited and never saw any change” parenting isn’t *waiting* for a child to grow up and change; it’s *actively* showing them *how*
Not to mention, children are NEVER static or the same. Their personality and behaviours are constantly changing, even without special needs. It’s part of being a bloody parent, or did she not get the message?!
I find it hard to believe she’s had 3 children before him and still no shred of empathy for Huxley.
yes👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Like some people who wait for their kids to become more mature without helping that process? Beyond me
Thank you 👏
And they knew his condition and how it was possible that he wouldn’t get better but they are money hungry so they didn’t think in the moment Jesus that’s just sick
The fact that she said “ my child is not returnable” just shows she already thought about if she could return him.
Exactly what I was thinking, so sad
Sarah Morike They kept his receipt
Its sad-{
Exactly! No person who wants to love a child and care for them would even think about this! The fact she even used that word tells it all!!
Yes, I found it to be a very odd choice of words, noone was thinking that
ok hold up... she raised money for a child, only to return that child like he's an object?
I hope the money really for a child, not for their lifestyle, like vacation to bali or buy bigger house, after rehome the child, return the money to the child too.
Lembayung Jingga I honestly doubt it was considering she switched to cheaper therapy while literally wearing Cartier
To quote a wise man WTH were you thinking!?
Yea like tf
If she really raised it for him, she would give it to his new family, so that it stays with him.
Myka: "i wAnT a cHiLd WiTh sPeCiAl NeEdS!!"
Hux: **has special needs**
Myka: *_no , not like that!_*
😑😑😑😒
@Matthew Martinez His name is Huxley but Hux was his nickname
She wanted a terminally ill child with a brain tumor. Not a child that would be a life long commitment. She wanted to film surgery, Chemo, and saying goodbye. ABA, speech, behavioral therapy wouldn’t allow the mother in the room filming. Plus one day he will be verbal and he could spill all the beans so to her he had to go.
@Matthew Martinez Huxley.
Hux for short.
Exactly what I was thinking. 😒
🥴
I am here to say the “father” is trash too. He plays an equal part.
Oh yeah they both are
He never seems to be mentioned but is surely equally responsible & culpable for this disaster. 😥
Someone should send him a planned parenthood link to vasectomy info
"Trash" look in the mirror!!
They both are too blame but I think her husband does what she wants
tbh it seems like she only wanted her asian child for a bit of "diversity" in her family
oh for sure. I definitely think she only wanted to adopt a child to brag about how good of a person she was.
She has expressed that she wants to adopt a baby from Uganda or Ethiopia (basically a dark-skinned baby). I think she's trying to be like Brad and Angelina because they were widely praised for the children they adopted and the diversity in their family. She definitely just wants to seem like a good person.
She probably wanted to use him for views
Pls don't get angry at me for asking but what's wrong with wanting diversity?
Song 노래Silver 은 I mean there’s nothing inherently wrong ( but that’s just a me thing) but they ONLY wanted him for diversity and diversity meant money and sponsors first second and third their love forth.
love how she flaunts her expensive bracelets and purses but says that she can't provide what he needs
It's because he needs love and she lacks a heart.
And the fundraisers she’s making too
Judith myka: guys we have money problems we might get a cheaper therapist for Huxley
Also myka: um yeah so this 6000 bracelet is also kinda cool
Daniellec Clarke beautifully said
Great point
She really doesn’t know what a tantrum is! He’s just tired!
That description coming from a mom with 4, make you wonder more lol
Exactly. That was no tantrum at all. He just needs comfort which she gives none. This absolutely broke my heart I just want to grab and hold him so bad. I really hope he is with a family who can love him and provide him with what he deserves.
Right? Watching his “fits” and im like… thats NOT a fit!
Don’t forget her husband guys - he’s just as evil for letting this happen
Two people with horrible hearts! They are one for the other!
Of course!!
He’s still making money on his platform
Both of them are evil can't even take care of her adopt son
He’s an enabler and won’t get off the wacko train because he’s just as crazy as she is
Those clips make me physically ill. That is a child whose needs aren’t getting met, he’s not choosing to be “bad” he is expressing that he needs more. Oof. So so angry.
Urg I feel you
Yes! If your special needs child needs assistance stop shoving a camera in their face, put the camera down and comfort and help your child.
She doesn’t have patience and is looking at it logically rather than as a health/special needs standpoint. Honestly they should have volunteered at a special needs nursery / school to get an idea
Exactly! And when you are special needs you don't understand how to express your feelings!
Exactly. The way they were handling his behavior and outbursts was all wrong
Something seems wrong about filming him having a meltdown
Very wrong it felt super exploitative and the tone she used sounded like she was mocking him, zero empathy for someone whose brand new to the family. I wouldn’t come to like her either if I was treated so coldly and like I was an object if I were him. Poor kid):
It just is wrong..
zonescat something tells me I already said something similar to that.
@Codi Mullins so true! my heart hurts watching her acting this way
The ONLY way I would film my special needs child (if I had one) having a meltdown is privately and ONLY to show the doctor or therapist working with my child's behavior.
Look at my eyes: you do not adopt and exploit a child for clout
: no narcissist
: narcissist not nice
Look, look in my eyes: no narcissist, no exploiting a child for clout. That not nice
Noooooooot niiiiiicccccceeeee
My narcissistic mother currently screams "No bite!" at her dogs repeatedly the exact same way. That part was chilling because the way Myka was talking to him and wouldn't let it go was exactly the way my mom raised me. It's very damaging because you don't feel loved, but you definitely feel the contempt they have for you.
It’s probably better she gave him away. The way she treated him, she became resentful. And she would have started to abused him.
Nicci Pearson I agree.
I think she had already started to😞😠
She did abuse him
He's absolutely better off. But that doesn't make her not a horrible person.
she already was abusing him.
Is this lady crazy?
Yes ma’am
Ikr😞
And his money!
And possibly therapy
Ikr
The hypocrisy. “My child is not returnable.” *re-homes him* “Even if it gets hard we would without a doubt love him no matter what.” *RE-HOMES HIM*
Who rehomed a child like they are an animal to be passed down.there are some disgusting humans in this world.shame on you and husband
Yeah, pretty creepy she fell short on the most heart-felt statements from herself in the videos...
I broke the 666-
On the bright side at least she found a new home that has the capability to love him, instead of them abusing him, or murdering him.🤷🏽♀️ The way they exploited this child though 🤦🏾♀️
Her husband is still posting monetized vids
Shes a covert narcissist. She fits the description. Perfectly.
She’s talking down to him during his “meltdowns” so that sure didn’t help
Exactly, I feel bad for all her kids. When a kid is having a meltdown you help them feel bad not badger and film them, poor kid hides in the closet to feel safe.
Yes!! It’s like she’s talking to a dog. I can’t imagine rehoming a child.
Gennyo She was pressurising him, causing him stress
Yes. Also when my kids are having a bad day or I’m talking to them I don’t just scold them I kneel down so we are eye to eye at their level and I ask them what’s up or to help me understand. Sometimes it makes a huge difference when you show you’re just trying to understand them
Makeup Minion fair
Unpopular opinion: I’m glad she “returned” him. It’s obvious that she doesn’t meet his emotional needs and uses him for attention. He’s way better off in a family that prioritizes his physical and emotional needs than parading him on the internet
THANK YOU!!!
I dont think its just the fact that she rehomed as more that she exploited him. If she gave back all the money made from him, or better, gave it to the family that he was rehomed with, I dont think they'd be as demonized.
110 % this
I agree but I also feel bad for their biological children. They don't need parent like Stauffers.....
I couldn’t agree more!!
It doesn’t matter how Myka tries to defend this situation. If you ignore doctors advice you should have to deal with the consequences 🤷♂️
Facts bruh
prEAch, Jesus
WAIT I SAW YOU ON LARRAY'S LATINA MUSIC VIDEO
Oh hey Jesus 👋
His words couldn’t be truer
That’s not even throwing a fit! He’s actually crying normally!!
You never really love that person in the first place. Everything he did will be a sore eye
“My child is not returnable” Well Myka this aged like fine wine.
I’m not the sharpest, im really not but why would a mom mention their child isn’t returnable? I believe that she always had that in her mind as *emergency out. She could tell herself “if I can’t do this I can get out of this situation”. Just my opinion. Really sad situation
@@amandanegrete1306 I think you're absolutely right I've thought that as well...she had that escape hatch in mind from the get go
Meli Aber now that you say that, it lit a bulb in my head lol you’re absolutely right. It must’ve been in the back of her head for her to even bring it up. In another case she could’ve said “I’m glad he found his forever home” or “there will be struggles but it’ll be worth it” anything besides “oh I hope his condition doesn’t make me return him” cause that’s basically what she said.
It aged like milk
Meli Aber Proves it was for clout. She already thought about an “escape” plan. There’s tons of other parents who have adopted kids from china and owned up to it. Idk I dont think its healthy for the child. Anyone can correct me.
If he was completely rejecting her, either he could understand she was a bad person, or she was not trying hard enough to figure out his behaviors, tics, and triggers.
Yepp Kids have so something called instinct
I truly hope I’m wrong about this.. but it could also mean she was being abusive towards him.
Yes! In one of the clips where he had a "meltdown" the television was so loud, and then 3 siblings, always having to watch in her eyes... Thats too much sensory stimuli
I saw the clips where he was trying to be affectionate to her, and she kept pushing him off her, away from her and kept saying “show me your toes.”
I honestly think she was mad because he never connected to her the way he was to Jim
I would never do this horrible sh”t to a pet....let alone a child. This is horrible, and congrats, woman, you gave that little boy more trauma :)
My "pets," are my children 😑
also their biological kids have trauma now. imagine have a brother one minute and the other your parents are getting rid of your brother
D S okay...?
ik people do rehome animals when they can't afford to take care of them anymore and don't want the animal to be stressed and starve or not have medical needs paid, but for humans it's kind of different, usually you would temporaily let your child stay at a family member's or person you trust to take care of your child if you can't in order to get your life back, but it's not the case for Myka :) Adopting for the aesthetic and giving him away because she couldn't deal with a 4 year old with autism even when she only adopted him for that reason and didn't think the child would need extra care. Despite the fact she also is super rich and could pay for all of Huxley's needs with her expensive watch money and the money she used to go to another country
Jeffree star? Hi, how are yaaa!
The dad saying he puts the boy to bed early so that they can have mom and dad time with their kids broke my heart
Their other kids need attention too. This is the one thing I CAN understand.
Yes
@@justthatgirl-ct4jo they should all be treated the same!
@@aslater5 In that case, then they need the attention they require as well.
@@aslater5 well all children need their alone time with their parents!!!
It’s seems she adopted him for her own ego to look like a hero and then when he didn’t feed her ego by being attached to her she didn’t want him anymore .. typical narcissist
Exactly! 💯
Exactly! When she was talking about how the kid attached to her husband and rejected her, I was wondering why that even freaking matters if you're raising a kid? Kids have favorite parents, especially when they're young
She sounds like a covert narc
That’s horrible . His early memories will be his “parents” who abandoned you because of something you can’t control . Something that he knew as your normal to find out that isnt normal by people around you . And then to give him to a mommy with special need need training like he is not a dog or a pet what that child needs is love and acceptance to who he is 😔
He actually doesn’t have a new mom, he is in foster care
Normally if it's before 3 yrs old, he probably wont remember. Since he is special need, he could go either way.
@@leiajiang7877 it does get ingrained in your personality. To completely say that he won't feel a certain way around alien surroundings is silly. They won't remember but these initial years are crucial for character building and personality molding. The poor child already had attachment issues. How is whatever they've done ok?
You don’t have memories until 5 years old. Btw
@@circadeluca8972 do more research on this pls🙏 they will remember flickers of emotions and images.
As an adopted child myself.... she literally makes me sick. We are not returnable or refundable. We are people who deserve love.
As adopted child I agree with u
❤
Absolutely 🥺
There is nothing wrong with you ❤️
Yeah, I couldn’t imagine being given up AGAIN. The trauma from being given up by your parents is hard, but losing the people who went out of their way to get you? That crushes.
@@MacKenzieAkari ❤🌻
My typically developing 6 year old just threw a plastic playschool chair ....THATS a tantrum.
My youngest was 5 when he flipped a table at preschool (he was struggling with DV at home and then the divorce, his baby brother died in utero and then my dad - who he was close to - passed away). Then he was fine. That is a tantrum.
@@sabrinastratton1991 That's not a tantrum, that's learning how to deal with separation/grief. Little kids are strangers to that so obviously they don't know how to react. It happens a lot with older people too, but that's way too far from being a tantrum...
@@lucylucydelulu for real.
This family really be do adopting ethnic children like they're a pokémon.
They adopted one kid??!?!
@@Yourmomm23 but just the fact she thought about it and was planning to do it ain't right.
judethenotdude why can’t they adopt outside their own ethnicity?
Have yall even watched a documentary about China's 1 child policy?!?! If you're going to adopt a child from China, that child is most likely taken from their parents by force just because they had a second child, and if you're going to adopt that child, you're going lower the chances of that kid ever seeing their real families ever again.
Nailah Pierre they can but a lot of the time white people (and i’m saying white bc they are white and because i know this to be true) do not know how to take care of ethnic children. especially black children.
She’s like the mean girl in highschool who becomes a nurse
Literally every single mean girl from my high school is a nurse or a stay at home mom literally every single last one
They become nurses for bragging rights
“Haha I went to college, I’m so smart and I know everything!”
I’m pretty sure she went to school for nursing before she had her kids 😭😂
Nailed it.
Ergo all nurse are mean.
Anyone else feel like she’s only adopting to be seen as a good person? So weird that she planned what child to adopt from which country...
I despise this woman but it really isn't weird to want a child from a specific country.
Lilianna B I mean... a lot of people do that
But she seemed like she just wanted people to think she was a good person
Or she acts like she wanted some more “diversity” in her family
They did it for views for the green stuff. It’s GREED!
Yeah and you get paid to adopt and foster :(
500 likes
Poor little man, the “meltdowns” being filmed is so heartbreaking for this poor beautiful boy. Monstrous woman
Yet she claimed that she didn't want to share what was happening out of his privacy, after she "rehomed" him.
@@danielleschiazza6172right! She’s awful, there was no sincerity in her eyes. I’m so surprised millions of people followed this family.
The way she talked about adopting a child with disorders was so disgusting. It’s like she was describing a item at the store and not an actual child.
I felt the same way!
I was confused,I feel when she was discussing why she didn’t adopt any children from the us, and said that there were no babies. I don’t know if she just didn’t want to have a long wait, or she wanted a child with special needs. Mostly thinking she wanted a child with special needs for views
I thought it was weird how she was describing it and in my mind it's nice that she is willing to do it ( not the circumstances now) but they way she was describing adopting a kid was kinda weird
Michelle Brady I got the exact same feeling
Michelle Brady I had to give a child up for adoption when I was younger as I could not provide for him. The agency I worked with was very kind and had little books that prospective families made. It is a longer wait but there ARE definitely babies in the US that need homes. To me it sounds like they made an impulse decision and just wanted a baby ASAP without thinking it through. Man these people make my skin crawl :(
Can’t stand to hear her talk she is whining when she talks.
Right?? It’s like she’s using a baby voice. So annoying.
Crocodile tears
She always sounds like her nose is full of snot.
Who?
Jesus Ortiz myka
My boyfriend child is on the autism spectrum hes 7 cant speak, and yes he makes so much fits and yes it's hard and yea we have hard times. And hes not my flesh and blood. But I give him everything I can I try to teach him the best I can I try to understand why certain things over stimulate him. Hes so picky that he cant eat food when its touching or covers his ears when a sound is to overstimulating to him like a loud tv or buzzing noise.. But I bear and put extra effort. I love him, and ill never give him up and I'll never want to leave him. I defend him, I protect him, and yes he bites me and hits me. But I'm the adult I have to be understanding. Yes we discipline him, but we try to do it in a positive way or in a way where he can understand. We dont ground him or corner him. It's just alot of sacrifice. And honesty I didnt sign up to be a step mom, but when he entered my life 7 years ago. I balled my eyes out when he had to go back to his biological mom. Hes an amazing child. And that's what myka doesnt understand.
You are such a sweet person, that child is lucky to be loved by two mom's!
I hope he could also play Minecraft with you.
You’re a true humble queen. I’m hoping the universe sends you all the energy and positivity you and your boyfriend need to care for his son!
It must be so hard to have to give your son away like that! I hope you still get to see him more than often and his bio mom is taking good care of him 🙏🏽
You're one of the best. I hope you live happily ever after U///U
Family RUclipsrs are always the most disgusting people. They all exploit their kids for $$$$ and it disgusts me.
Decides to adopt a special needs kid. Finds out kids has special needs breaks down and gives up. What a joke.
Yeah
"Our child is not returnable"
"My husband wasn't ok with fostering because he wasn't ready to give up a child"
"Out of a 100 medical conditions, we were ok with 99 of them"
HMMMM.........
Myka says: "He rejected me". Kids usually know a terrible person when they see one.
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THATS EXACTLY RIGHT!!
f a x
Period 😌✌🏽
No.
when she referred to herself as his “teacher”... no , ur his mom. and u failed him
How do you know that she was referring to herself? I had assumed that she really meant a teacher but also was confused as to why she was addressing it at a random time. If it really was a “teacher” who he bit he would need to be reprimanded at that time. Not later.
Hearing her say 'are you over yourself?' to a clearly distressed child just hurts my heart.
She doesn't talk to him like he's loved*
Yeah, I remember the video of her correcting his biting and actually felt like she handled it well but the other videos were sad. I know it must be exhausting if he has melt downs all day but she should never speak to him like that.
We need to use the correct term. The child was re-abandoned.
😓💅🏻 boy deserves a better home
Not all children who where given up are or were abandoned....
@@shadowclaw9369 Giving a child for adoption is pretty much the biggest form of neglect and abandment
@@meinaa27 People give their children up for adoption because they aren't financially steady, they could not afford the resources to take care of that child, or they weren't in a safe environment for the child. Obviously people do give their children up for terrible reasons but if a person is unable to take care of the child then putting the them up for adoption is the best thing to do for the child. Abandonment would be taking a child to a bus stop and leaving them there to starve or freeze to death.
@@lanivelez5640 I have to disagree. Abandoned: "cease to support or look after (someone); desert."
Let's stop giving the dad a pass, he's trash in this too. I'd like to see some videos about James.
His Stauffer Garage is still going strong.
He look racist if I dk y just does
@Keep Crying true true
They both seem racist and evil but before this I actually genuinely like her but I dint like James from day 1.
im confused because myka was saying jim but it is james does she even know her husbands name
"He wasnt acting normal after a few months of therapy so i just decided to give up"
I am disgusted
She wasn’t allowed to film therapy and monetize it. GUARANTEE if it was allowed to be filmed it would have continued.
She looks away whenever she’s talking “passionately” about him. Then she’s very realistically enthusiastic talking about the fundraiser. Looking directly into the camera.
BINGO! I noticed the same thing too. She looks away because she knows shes trying to B.S. her viewers. Totally saw right through this.
Thought the same thing!!
RIGHT
Omg I noticed it as well!
I saw that!!!
The way he cries just sounds like he’s crying and looking for a real mom. It’s really heart breaking. (I’m so sorry for writing his name)
Its really sad how she was with him compared to her bio kids. I was lucky to have my daughter. I've lost 3 babies and it's not a good feeling. I pray that huxley is in a better place and home. One where the right person or couple will care for him the way he needs to be. I'm just in complete shock bc if that was how her son was born would she just give him up??? I don't think it's ok for her to do that to him. So she's just traumatized him even more now.... oh the thing's I'd like to do.
Agreed. If that was a tantrum, it was the quietest one I've ever heard. I've always considered my daughter a really easy baby/toddler and she through tantrums several times louder and more violent than those. Poor kid seemed like he just needed comforted.
I know right?! I remember my babies crying like that and my instinct was to hold them and cuddle them and sing to them while smiling at them and they would immediate feel consoled! She had no true love for that baby!
My thoughts exactly. These people are honestly monsters
The Good Choice depending on what conditions or where they are on the spectrum, some children do not want to be hugged and smothered. In fact, it further overwhelms them. I’ve noticed Hux liked his arms to be squeezed...that was the “affection” he was able and comfortable to handle.
It hurt me when she was saying “Are you done?” Like comfort your child please
with kids you have to decide when you need to comfort them and when you need to teach them. when a child is throwing a tantrum simply because they didn’t get what they want they need to teach the child that they cannot make a scene over something small. but if they are hurt definitely comfort them.
@@gabbyp303 smh...saying "Are you done?" to a child (especially a special needs child) who is crying and in need of something isn't teaching the kid much of anything. It can give the child issues and be harmful to them. It can cause them more distress than needed. When it comes to a child with special needs, this is not how you handle this situation.
Filming with full make up on when she needs to go off and pick up her child.....
Tara Fox i see what you mean but to a certain extent kids have to be taught how to behave and communicate feelings instead of screaming when they simply don’t get what they want otherwise when they’re older they could have communication issues
Gabby P+
Right, but do you know what it was he was crying about in that moment?
I’ve never heard a prospective adopter talk so often about how they would never return the child or reject them, that was clearly in her thinking and she could not help but constantly leak that out. Most parents just talk about having space and love for another child and that’s it. She is a piece of work, there is nothing real about her...her voice, her mannerisms everything are all contrived.
My child is not returnable...
So anyways! We gave away our adopted son. Did I mention we're also in the process of adopting again??
Hypocrite 😒😒😒
Period
im sorry but the way she talks to her son is just unsettling.
She sounds so condescending. I can understand why he wasn't soothed. As someone on the spectrum, that tone of voice would only make me cry more during meltdowns.
She clearly doesnt know how to soothe or care for anyone close on the spectrum, imagine having a panic attack near her jfc she'll probably tell you to get over it and stop crying
she treats him like hes a completely normal kid but its obvious he needs to be treated differently and better
i wouldnt talk to my kid like that while they were crying even if they werent on the spectrum, my mum did that to me as a kid and it only made me feel worse because she never tried to soothe me
Scarlet x wonder and what’s worse is that she is recording to show the public it’s disrespectful poor kid
Maybe he wouldn’t have a continuous multiple meltdowns if “mom” and “dad” would put down the camera and do some Proper Parenting
Exactly! And what she showed as him having a "meltdown" was minimal, in my opinion! I've seen kids have WAY worse meltdowns. Seeing him hiding in her closet broke my heart. I wanted to tell her to drop the camera and spend some time with him to figure out what he needs. So fricken infuriating!
True words.
Its not her kid her real kid so she can return him to get a new family...
Quick grab the camera "Look look, its not us, its him. Hes the one that freaks out"
And in the one clip he wasn't even in a fit but she keeps asking "Are you done?" You should be comforting him not making him feel worse than he already does.
yes! asking him if he is done is not acknowledging his discomfort and dismissing how he is feeling.
Watching the way she treated her adopted son broke me down into tears. She clearly had not been seeking advice from professionals on how to parent a child with autism. "Look me in the eyes", what??? Recording him while he was obviously upset and uncomfortable and unable to communicate that. I am heartbroken for this poor boy.
Breanna Murnock she acted like he was a dog she had to train
I agree with the sentiment about recording him while he was having an episode. That was a violation to his privacy and it seemed horribly invasive and made me uncomfortable for him. But the "look me in the eye" thing isn't bad. I tell my children to look me in the eye, especially when I'm correcting them. That, to both them and me, means business. It makes them take me more seriously.
Mikaila Hudson educate yourself on autism and eye contact.
@@tan89284 u r on point. Plus the fact that she is a nurse, she should know that because psychiatric nursing is taught as one of the subjects. My heart bleeds for the child. 😥😪
@@mikailahudson8349 making someone with autism look you in the eye is completely different. doing that will just make them more uncomfortable and stressed out by the situation
As a Christian I can't stand when people like this use God in the bull
Cynthia Yvonne there are allegations that she only using Christianity and the God thing to seem more appealing to her audience. Ugh. Would not be surprised if this is the case
@@jbel7510 that's clearly what she's doing. A good Christian would never treat a child like this!
When they say "I knew God was telling us to do xyz." Like....no. You just wanted to do it, God doesn't have time for your BS.
CitrusFriut a good person in general would not do this
Exactly but trust me God does NOT play that! She needs to be careful because “karma” (or reap what you sow” affects your children too. Period!
I’m not even mad anymore. She doesn’t deserve him, she never did. Glad he’s not in her hands, she would have abused him.
She pretty much did abuse him. It was better she gave him to a family that loved them.
They both don’t deserve each other - Huxley is an angel, Myka is just evil.
She already did abuse him Einstein.
@Ann B "saved from China" more like "snatched from China". Shame on you. You're exactly the same as her
Well, already up in his face forcing eye contact on him, broadcasting his meltdowns and having zero compassion. She clearly never talked to any actual ND people about his diagnosis.
Poor Huxley, I hope he’s in a better, loving and caring home.
Bro how you get rid of a kid like a pet then erase all traces of his existence like he was never there?
Even a pet doesn't deserve to be treated like that, so please do not say that. You can use the word "toy", instead of pet.
Clodagh H that makes it even worse 😢
And she profited off of it :(
The same way the families who give children up for adoption agencies do it
She even had the time to change her tiwtter bio to "mother of 4" like girl
Say it with me everyone: CHILDREN ARE NOT ACCESSORIES FOR YOU TO MAKE MONEY OFF OF!
Yes sisss
Children are human beings that you love and cherish, they ARE NOT a bracelet. And you should care about them MORE then a bracelet.
Absolutely!!! 👏👏👏
PREACH SISTER when I grow up I want to adopt at least 2 children
13:40 “are you done? Are you over yourself??” As she rolls her eyes and looks at him in disgust 😡 that poor baby. She is just gross
Yes, you really can see that look of disgust in her eyes.
Yeah poor baby :(
She got a new baby so she didn't need him anymore. She got a new toy to show off
Exactly!!!!!!!
Well you can’t show the same toy for show and tell twice
Sounds about right. This bit is a sociopath of the highest order.
that is the best way to put it.
I thought the same thing.
You mean to tell me, home girl was a nurse but couldn’t look after someone with special needs?
I mean she did assault a pregnant coworker
There are some nurses out there that shouldn't be nurses. It really depends on the school you attend.
Desiree S wait, really? 🥺😳
Even if one is a registered nurse, one needs supplemental trainings. I think she's not equipped at all and underestimated special needs.
She was briefly a nurse in 2013 and lost her liscence. She exaggerates to sound more credible.
Am I the only one who feels this "looking for a special needs kid" is so... uncomfortable and predatory?? What the heck
Yes its sick.
Not exactly, there are soooo many kids with special needs that need homes and just adopting one of them without that desire or plan (and tons of research) going into it is a little clueless. My husband and I are hoping to adopt in the near future and the majority of kids on the waitlists in most counties have some sort of disability. I really appreciate though that most countries make sure you are equipped with right supports or already know how to take care of a child with special needs before adopting. In this case, sadly, I think people just saw they had the money for therapy and that was the biggest factor taken into consideration.
I can't stand Mykas voice does any adult really speak that way
She's very annoying!
That poor little boy. He’s still a baby, and all he ever needed was love. Consistent love is the answer to everything.
You are so correct. I rescued an abused cat..he attacked and screamed for 6 months..I returned every behavior with love. He is my perfect sweetheart. Happy as a little clam. I could not have given him up..and this MONSTER gets rid of a human child. Despicable
lauren vega-cruz Kinda late but that is so sweet! I hope you and your little kitty cat are doing really well :D
“i try so hard to respect our sons privacy”
**posts videos of him crying throwing tantrums and having a fit and doing nothing about it**
the doctor straight up told her. I dont care how she tries to explain herself. Poor Child i hope he gets a comfortable happy home.
My family adopted two children who weren’t even labeled special needs and we dealt with bigger meltdowns from older kids. Allowing kids to cry is SO important, especially when they had trauma and especially when they are on the autism spectrum. Kids can’t learn to problem solve if they’re afraid of expression.
Hello Alexandria Romano how are you doing today?
Do you always have that beautiful smile on your face?
@@georgewilliams2410 bruh
Exactly
James Stauffer is EQUALLY as guilty and deserves the negativity as well.
She wouldn't even spend her own money to adopt him... that says a lot.
I heard he was in a foster home
Over seas adoption costs a lot of money... I do understand where you're coming from
@@SelenaY.1331 actually no it doesnt!
@@chrisc767 for China it is, I looked it up
Expencive or not.. it was her desition 🤣 they shouldn't be asking for Money 🤣
It’s sadistic how she is trying to be soft spoken.. soooo manipulative I see straight through her.
I hadn't seen this woman's videos until today, but I can spot narcissistic mannerisms immediately. I've known too many of them myself.
Yep n yep to yall both. My X was same way n could go from worst u can imagine, n sounds like u two dont have to imagine n totally flip that switch on a dime talking softly n very articulate when someone else around! Yall know this im sure, but why everyone else finds it so hard to believe they/him are that way bc they are soooo different in public!!! That is if u have zero knowledge of narcicist/psychpaths/sociopaths.
Her vocal fry voice and incessant use of ‘like’.
She comes across very creepy.
Yup, there are so many videos where she talks _very_ differently. She’s manipulative af.
It’s insane how she even puts being in a wheelchair as the worst case scenario! She didnt take anything the doctor said on! The trauma she has causade on this already traumatized child is just inhumane
We need to start holding James accountable, the person who co sighed the adoption papers and who lives in that house co parenting H---- too!!
Exactly and thank you for blurring his name as well
Amy Louise Yeah the simp seems to be getting a free pass
i don’t understand how he let this happen when he was apparently the parent who bonded with H- the most!! it’s so heartbreaking. they talked so much about James being the little boy’s rock. i can’t understand how someone could do this after barely any effort - if they were really struggling, why not put down the cameras for a while until they found a good routine & support system? and why have another child when they complain about the child’s therapies being too expensive & how he takes up a lot of their time?
facts its crazy how i didnt even think about that
If anything, he's gained more subs, 2k more after the re-homing thing. While his wife (and him) are going after videos featuring them, which would be this video. They're still laughing all the way to the bank.
“We don’t know whats wrong with him”. It’s stuff like this that they say that sounds SO degrading. The way she speaks about him is VERY abnormal. Her being “open to specific conditions” makes it sound like special needs kids are some sort of catalog book lol
Artika exactly!! Children aren’t JUST items you can buy and return when you don’t want them anymore. They’re human and this is traumatizing..
She treated him like a dog. Dogs are adopted and then abandoned all the time, especially recently, and it damages them. She did the exact same thing to him and it's disgusting and inconsiderate. Being "rehomed" can be traumatizing for children and cause or worsen serious mental health and trust issues, especially if it's done multiple times.
Yeah. And they’re open to 99 out of 100 conditions. Guess autism was the one they couldn’t handle.
They blamed him for his disability. Like true narcissists, they can’t conceive of anything being wrong with them.🙄
You have to be realistic though in your heart of hearts you might tell yourself you are open to anything but most people cannot handle a child with severe issues. Its seems harsh but children with disabilities are twice as likely to be abuse and that stems from ppl not knowing how to deal with inevitable behaviors
She needs to return ALL of the money that she received for the he adoption! ALL.
I never understood why a fundraiser was even put up in the first place. They give the image of living very comfortably.. That alone was probably a huge red flag they were looking for money and views.
Give it all to Huxley
Return all the money it's not yours
Or give it to Huxley so his medical needs would be met.
Wait, she researched adoption agencies for weeks? I researched hamsters for nearly a year before we adopted one. Jesus.
The way they talk to him when he's having a meltdown irks me. "Are you done, now?" "Are you over yourself?" I had anxiety attacks as a kid (and still have them as an adult) and my mom was there to help me through it and to see this little boy get the "You're still crying? Ugh!" is heartbreaking. The dad seems to be an enabler for the mom's bad parenting of the adopted son. I hope that lil boy is safe and happy now.
Her character in that clip disgusts me!
Agreed, as someone who had a lot of tantrums and meltdowns as a kid and still sometimes has meltdowns it really bothers me. It really reminds me of the tiny bit of memory pieces I have from my childhood where I was told similar things and also filmed during it once. Getting filmed made it WORSE. (I was trying to calm down to talk to the person normally, saw the phone when leaving my room and immediately started crying again. I was somewhat around Hs age. Definitely fed into my trust issues which I heard he already had attachment issues before this.)
I really hope they can't adopt again and that someone will check on their bio kids
@@thewitheredsouls Hope you're on meds that help you.
Along with the fact that this child may not understand her when she says “are u done yet” is sad she thinks that talking is the only way to communicate that he’s safe and ok to stop crying.
The fact that people with adopted children looked to this family for solidarity and guidance, and they did something as despicable as this. Shame on this family.
She wouldn’t give away her biological children. She saw him as disposable
Mhm
Fax
Even after all that big talk of "my child's not returnable" like she already saw an adoptee as a piece of merchandise
I wonder what she told her other kids as they very close to him
This is exactly it.
Omg her attitude at 13:30 is absolutely sick. The fact that they filmed that... they were completely shaming and ridiculing the kid for the whole internet. If that's not abusive then idk what is
She is a bad mom, she literally abandoned her son!
Naw she’s a horrible mom.
And his dad?
Anto Darrouy eh.
Anto Darrouy just as bad
Anto Darrouy they posted her saying in a Facebook group that the baby would stare at the dad and everyone eat and how it would drive him crazy.
Seeing him sitting and crying showing genuine sadness like that is heartbreaking. A little baby, a toddler. Poor little angel needs a family that will never give up on him...
When he signed “Mama”........
Meriam H. 🥺💔
His "meltdowns" seem more just like a toddler expressing emotions, & taking away his method of self soothing with the thumb guard isn't going to help anything.
Honestly should have just gotten him something like a blankie or a stuffed animal to hold. Better than duct tape
@@lilyheym5570 Isn't duct tape irritable enough to adults both sensorially and dermatologically? And more so for babies' skin 😒😒😑😑
Just Adjustor It IS
True, my one of my Brother’s (4) behaves like that
I thought that too. My daughter throws a lot worse tantrums than that and she’s not special needs.... it’s just what toddlers do
The filming of the “meltdowns” makes me highly uncomfortable. When my son acts that way I hug it out with my son and that’s all I want to do to H 😔
Me too!
this is why i don’t like family channels , anyone that puts their children in videos when they’re too young to consent it , are horrible people.
kaavya ambi Yes!! I cant imagine growing up and realizing your whole life has been on the internet for everyone to see :/
I don’t think all family channels are so terrible. Angela Braniff of This Gathered Nest is one that comes to mind.
It comes down to respecting your children and knowing when it’s okay to film and when it’s not. Angela and her husband have eight kids. Two biological. Three domestic adoptions. Two embryo adoptions. And one little girl they adopted from China who has Down syndrome. (If I’m remembering them all correctly) They are super respectful of their children and their stories. They don’t talk about the children’s stories prior to coming to their family. They’re careful of when to film and what they film. Just overall a great family and their videos have always seemed respectful to me.
It’s just families like the Stauffers who make it so terrible.
True. It's okay to share some glimpses about them as part of your personal vlog but to have your young children as THE focus, that's... not good at all for the children.
The Ace family.
kaavya ambi people that do that are essentially pimping out their children and exploiting them for monetary gain INSTEAD of just letting them be children.