It's not uncommon kids needing to be rehome because of incompatibility. Most kids that needed adopting tends to have a lot of mental and disciplinary problems. In fact, it's rare for them to have a stable career and a productive life which is sad.
I’m a mother with 3 kids, one , my youngest is adopted. We don’t have “two children” and an “adopted child” we have three children. You don’t adopt a child and then abandon it, when you adopt a child you are that child’s PARENT. Some people make me sick
They didn't try to help him with his food anxiety, they punished him for crying for food and for thumbsucking, and frequently disrupted his routine and environment by travelling, moving homes and bringing a newborn baby into the family. Now, they're lowkey just blaming the child for his behaviour and their choice for "rehoming" him. I'm so glad he's with a real family now, these people are despicable.
This this this. Also idk not trust any person that says all of the doctors and therapists gave up on him for his awful unruly behavior and then that all cleared up after they weren't taking care of the kids anymore? Sounds like I'd be going back to investigating them if I was that detective. I'm so glad that poor lil guy got a real family though.
@@Runzi333 Agreed! I found it so weird she said the DOCTORS told them to "rehome" him. What doctor would say that unless the child is neglected or abused? If they're a family who truly loved him and was going to do anything to help him, no sane doctor would say they're "not suitable". And the fact that they didn't finalise the adoption set off all the alarm bells. Like they hadn't planned on keeping him permanently.
@@mortalclown3812 theres a guy who did a pod cast about him saying "the lady" who has him posts him on Instagram, but didn't say who that was. I genuinely hope that hes safe and happy.
@@MJ-zc1ln who wasnt? The stauffers? Of course not, they're trash. Idk about any info regarding the people that have him now. Hopefully they're treating him how he deserves!
It really sickens me how Myka talks about the boy like he’s a criminal, he’s a BABY who can’t help the way he is and she was a horrible excuse for a mother to him
Also, notice she never mentioned she ever felt sorry for H, but only to her subscribers. Both her and James are narcissists who cannot feel remorse and empathy.
I never followed her but find it interesting the “note” was never we but it was always I. Idk, if you’re serious about adopting a special needs child, maybe you (wife and husband) need to give up the cameras and live a normal life.
“I want to provide a good home for this child who needs it”, “I can no longer provide this child a good home so I will give the child a better home” why is that so hard to understand? Y’all looking to be pressed.
@@tayganroberts5098 I agree somewhat, but they should have actually looked into his needs instead of just thinking they could power through it. Not malicious, but clear idiocy.
@@tayganroberts5098 they had the means to provide that child with a good home they just got lazy when it got hard and wanted to be seen as good strong parents for the bare minimum. What’s so hard to understand about that? Don’t defend those idiots.
As a mother to a 4yr old boy who has autism, I can say from MY experience (not fact, but only my own experience) my son has been aggressive, angry, and acted out, but ONLY when he was in much distress and going thru intense trauma.. he rarely ever is aggressive now that all of the toxic people are out of our lives and we have a happy healthy and stable home. So happy to hear this little boy is doing so much better.
I have a 4 year old daughter with autism, she has never been violent, think it was only once she bit another kid when she was like 2 of 3 but hasent happend again since, her teachers tells us every kid loves her and want to be wtih her... Even If she dont even give them attention nor can speak.
And I have a granddaughter who has autism she’s very high functioning and I’ve never seen her show anger unless someone was picking on her younger sister and then she would get upset verbally but she’s never expressed physical anger she’s quite the opposite
@@jodyyork3821 true, what I meant was I'm assuming this child acted out because he wasnt in a good state with this family. But I didn't want to say it was a fact, and wanted to give where I got that opinion formed from.
The family is in the wrong. They were aware of everything that could’ve happened before adopting him. It makes zero sense why they were so shocked when all of this happened. It also makes no sense that they knew this but still didn’t try to put more attention on the child, and balance the attention with the other children. Also because of the the child situation, why not put more money and effort in taking care of him?
@fiesel datches we don’t know their situation. When people put children up for adoption is because they know they can’t supply for them, or it’s from a trauma like r*pe. Rarely is it from that, also, idk if ur doing this, but don’t shift the blame from the Stauffers
@fiesel datches I’ve affirmed that you’re ignorant. The Stauffers became that child’s family, they were neglecting the child. Again you are the one shifting the blame and it’s disgusting
@fiesel datches "no excuse for being an absent parent" So you want them to bring their child to the grave with them? There are many reasons a parent would have to place their child up for adoption. Death is the most common one.
@@allyma3 Yeah, but its still hypocritical because they still were releasing that child’s behavior progress. They should use privacy for all their kids, not just the biological ones
They make him sound like he’s a monster. I’ve worked with children for 7 years and this is pretty common. While it’s obviously not ideal behavior and will require a lot of attention, he’s not a monster. They just didn’t want to “deal with him” anymore and it’s just sad they just turned their back on him like that
He`s not even close to being a monster. Many 2 year olds act like this, without having experienced attachment trauma or having special needs. A 2 year old having tantrums and hitting other children is more than common. I`m not saying it isn`t hard (my foster son came to live with me when he was 2 and we had to work through all the frustration and anger together, meaning I was his punching bag for the first year or so). But what if their youngest son turns out to be on the spectrum and/or is hitting his older siblings, will they "rehome" him as well? I wonder how the older children are coping, now that they know their parents´s love is very conditional.
@@evelyn-bz7hv It depends on the country. In Austria there is the option of emergency foster care which is typically less than a year, and long term foster care, which is usually until the child grows up. That`s because adoption isn`t possible here unless the parents give their consent.
they never even got him a birth certificate. i think they always planned to return him. why would they not get a birth certificate for him for two years? horrible despicable monsters!
I think they adopted him because they could have it funded, decided to use him for views for awhile and when it was apparent that he wasn't dying of a brain tumor, like they originally were told decided to make some money by "rehoming" through private adoption.
Myka was banking on the boy dying from a brain tumor within a year or two. Then she could post a sad memory video of what a precious child he was that was taken too soon. Savior complex. Turned out the boy had autism not cancer and was going to live much longer. Myka saw him as too much work.
This woman is sick. That poor baby deserves a wonderful, patient home. Not one where he would be exploited and dropped the second things got hard. I work with people with disabilities and I would never give up on them, no matter how hard things are. A child is not an accessory that you can wear for a day and return to the store when you're finished with it. Even the term "Former child" makes me sick!!
@@nyny2263 exactly! Some of my clients have extremely challenging behaviours, but their parents don't go "oh we're going to give them to another family because they don't fit in with the rest of our family". They employ myself and my colleagues because we can help make the behaviours and day to day life more manageable. They also would never exploit, advertise or film their children for monetary gain. This whole case makes me so angry
@Michelle Vill exactly at least she admitted she couldn't handle him and found another home.. it's like people would rather her keep her other children in a potentially dangerous situation sometimes you really have done everything you can do.
They’re are so many options for them such as hiring a nurse that specializes in disabled people or asking a pediatrician to help out, like they had options but were apparently, “too broke.”
Those claims they made about the kid, sounds like they were trying to demonize him, very accusative tone there, like he's a CHILD, and one with special needs, they didn't sound compassionate at all. Also, "former son" that shouldnt even be a thing, they would have never done this if he was a biological child.
Exactly hes what 4-5 ,ah be a bit older. They knew he was special needs and looked over a lot of his need “not enough money for therapy” but you can afford a 1 month trip to Bali and a 600k house and expensive jewelry and cars?🤨
I agree. I feel like they are trying to come back to the internet and say "oh it's not our fault, it's the child's fault so follow us again!" This is not okay in my opinion.
they literally made it sound like he was insane or something, toddlers don’t know how to behave automatically and maybe nobody ever taught him how to properly socialize
@@m4tta Parents who have toddlers that aren’t affected by any underlying issues can have trouble teaching their kids to behave because they are at a stage where they will be impulsive, stubborn, willful. I understand how frustrating it can be, but THEY adopted him.
@@a.p738 i think it’s more so the fact that in his new home he actually can get the attention he needs. in the video they said that kids with special needs don’t do well with in homes with younger children.
Him sitting in the closet , rocking is called the orphanage rock. It's what happens when they learn in infancy that no one is coming to soothe them or show care when they cry. You don't just give up because things get hard xx
That’s the saddest thing I have ever heard. The orphanage rock? My god. These poor babies. People should Sue this family for receiving donations under false pretenses.
This is exactly what I thought when I first heart that he was difficult to handle and did things they couldn't handle.... I was like what?! How did they not expect that especially when he's from China. The worst place for orphaned children. It's sad. They never did enough research ... They would have learned what to expect how to handle it and what they can do to fix it. They have done studies with showing children that were deprived human connection and love. It's sad. They're just fools . This poor child.
The Stauffers are disgusting. There’s so many parents with disabled children who didn’t chose to have a disabled child & they don’t give up on their children. They choose to have a disabled child & then give him away from being too disabled? Gross. I’m so glad to hear that his new family seems loving & he seems like he’s happy and bonding with them.
So much anger because everyone told them, he was disabled and that they might want to consider another child, but they insisted and look at what they did to this poor child.
And a lot of times, these parents don't even have the money necessary for the treatment of their child, still, they fight for them. The Stauffers are a wealthy family. Things would probably be different if that was their biological child.
RIGHT AND THEYRE SO RICH other families don’t even have the money to take care of their special needs They Have mooore than enough ughhh makes me so mad
Thats the difference between blood child and adopted. She wouldnt have rehomed him if he was his real child bc a mother who gave birth to a chiod will never do that unleas shes a sick fook. Her mistake is being so irresponsible and thinking that its an easy road. It seems like she did it for fun. Shes sick
PAUSE!!!!! Myka and James were saying that they didnt buy the thumb guard and that therapy and the adoption process was too expensive but they had enough money for a Bali vacation?!!! Remeber he was still in the fam when the bali plan happened. Make it make sense!!!!!
Literally alternatives are there, it only cost $6 for mittens, or even a pacifier while they’re still young, they just didn’t want to research or involve an actual therapist.
clear evidence that they never loved him, a real mother would give up vacation money without question, but clearly she didn't... any help she tried to get him was likely because of her savior complex instead of real mother-child love
I love how’s she’s shifting responsibility to the medical professionals who gave up on him. I find that hard to believe honestly, it’s an insult to those who work tirelessly their entire lives for disabled children. It sounds like the Stauffers were the ones that gave up, disabled children are SO sensitive. They will always match YOUR energy. If you gave up on him then why should he try to act better at home when he doesn’t feel loved?
There’s evidence that when she adopted him he had a brain tumor diagnosis and not a long life expectancy. After being in the US he was found to be medically healthy but was on the spectrum. Myka claims she was prepared for the tumor but not the Autism. Make your conclusion on why a so called parent wouldn’t rejoice that their child would live a long life. I can’t think of a single mother that wouldn’t gladly trade a cancer diagnosis for a spectrum one.
Yeah. I’ve worked with kids like him and we don’t give up. Literally, can’t think of one case where we just quit. We know how hard it is to build trust and we do our best to not break that trust.
@@MsEastGrave Thank you for your hard work! My little brother is on the spectrum and grew up well thanks to people like you who had the patience for them :)
There is a major Childrens Hospital approximately an hour drive from where this family is located. They would be many professional resources available through this hospital. My daughter is developmentally handicapped and we utilized many of those mentioned resources. I would never imagine a doctor or therapist saying to basically give up. And as a mom of a special needs child, if I had been told that, then we would move to another professional who wants to work with my child. You don't just give up.
Why does no one pick up on the fact that their dad says he can't keep Huxley safe from the other kids NOT that he can't keep the other kids safe from Huxley. This implies the kids were hurting Huxley not the other way around
I found that telling as well. I have a feeling that the other older kids were mean to him. There have been sources say that especially the oldest child didn't like him and had been mean to him. I have a feeling that the kids were acting out on what the parents were doing. I 100% believe that H was mistreated terribly by that family for not being "normal " and "easy".
@@queennefratiti69 yes. In one of their videos, Myka said that Kova (the oldest daughter) wasn't close to H so she was probably being mean. The 3rd child (Radley) did not like H and never shared his toys. The 2nd child (Jaka) was the nicest to H. She was very sweet and helpful towards H.
Report from the detectives that said that the little man was sat on his new mummy’s knee smiling while she sang him a song tells me everything I need to know about M&J Stauffer
Here is what gets to me. How they say he was with them, violent, constant stimming and so on. And how he is in his new home. Clearly they were not good parents to him
@@SS-cq6wc i have no problems thinking he might have gotten violent at times. Trauma, stress, forced interaction, take away stimming, so what does the poor kid have left but to act out, like oh what pretty much every child does at some point.
Sounds like the child had a very severe form of autism that made him extremely violent- only an ABA therapist could handle something like that. Myka didn’t pay $50,000 for content that made her family look bad. You guys should try to understand adoption and special needs before you try to make a beautiful family look bad out of your own jealousy
My guess they would milk it for all it is worth. There is a term autstic parent. Or something like that. They.... Are the worst, see their kids as not being able to consent, that they suffer, and well they also invade autstic spaces to tell us that we are wrong cos how would we who live with it know better then them
I mean, why did the babies’ biological parents give him up? Why blame people that paid a ton of money to help the orphaned child? Ever wonder why so many orphans have severe issues?
@@ThingsILikke this is the biggest YIKES in the thread. You clearly have absolutely no insight about overseas adoptions, special needs adoptions and more specifically adoptions from Asian counties and why they’re so common. His parents probably couldn’t understand the depth of his issued or afford to care for him... they gave him up to give him a chance at a better life and Myka used him as publicity and added more, unnecessary trauma.
@@DenaMarie90 no, I actually know a ton about over seas adoptions, especially Chinese and Russian. The kids have special needs that the government down plays to get rid of them. In China, they had the one child rule of a long time- forced abortions and sterilization. They do eugenics over there, this kid didn’t have a chance. The Stauffers probably saved his life. Now he’s in a home where he can be taken care of, in America, where he has the best chance.
As an asian adoptee myself, this situation made me both sad and furious. Since he’s nonverbal, it’s hard to know how much he understands. Being adopted has been a lifelong trauma for me, and to have another family give him up would be devastating to me. I’m so glad he’s doing better though.
Oof, hearing the phrase "former son" being used towards a child that did nothing wrong after being taken from his home country by a stranger, then abandoned by that same stranger is just mind blowing..
His biological mom abandoned him … why are you so mad about him being “taken” from his country. Literally no one would’ve adopted him with disabilities in his country. Y’all are just as pathetic.
He did need a new home however it is THEIR FAULT he was in a terrible situation for 2 years. It is 100% their fault and they did it for views anyway. Its incredibly obvious. There's a lot more info out there than this too that shows they were really self serving this entire time. I'm glad he is with a better home. Obviously the claims that there was "nothing else they could do" were false as he is already verbal in his new home. So... yeah...
It kind of sounds like she only hired therapists because she wanted them to "fix" her son. When they told her there was nothing more they could do, what they probably meant was there wasn't a way to make him "normal". She should have taken him to an actual psychologist that specializes in special needs kids. Honestly, she sounds like one of those people that tells someone with anxiety to just "stop worrying" or a depressed person to just "be happy".
I don't believe her or respect her, I would never trust someone who says things were "too hard" so she duct taped that poor babies hands. You just DON'T do that, I don't feel bad about mom and dad I want worse for them.
I mean...I agree but I also feel like with stuff like this they do that specifically to drive home how sick the situation is. I agree he was never her family but the reality is...he really was their “former son” on paper...and they gave him up like he was a dog that wouldn’t stop peeing on the carpet.
@@b-4361 agreed-maybe on paper/legally he was their “son” but morally and ethically he never was. As you say, he was treated more like a misbehaving dog and had to be re-homed. It all sounds so much like they picked him out at a pound then gave him back cuz he wasn’t what they wanted.
What I find most interesting is the fact that the police report says they did not find evidence of the harm and mistreatment against the biological kids that Myka was alleging as the reason for giving H up. They didn’t find evidence of the Stauffer’s doing anything explicitly illegal, but they also didn’t agree with her claims that H was this monster antagonist that he was made out to be. I’m glad they did note that H appeared to be doing good with the new family.
Myka: "We made sure he got every service and resource we could possibly find" Also Myka in a former video while sitting in a huge pool and wearing cartier bracelets: "I'm not paying THAT much for a therapist bruh"
@@eclaire1748 I believe they're talking about the speech therapist. She said in one video that they would try to find another one that wasn't as expensive (her tone implied that it wasn't worth it...)
The worst thing is that they went on a vacation immediately after giving up the child and only came clean after people pointed that the kid wasn’t in Bali videos.
My partner and I are considering adoption one of the questions they ask and ask other people that know you is “do you have a history of rehoming several animals” I think that should be asked everywhere if it’s not
Oh yeah. If I ever got a dog and couldn't handle it to the point I had to rehome it, I would probably never get another dog. (I've only ever had cats, and gerbils, and the gerbils didn't work out well, they'd bite and tiny child me became scared of them, so we took care of them to the best of our ability until they died of old age and never got any new ones)
Lol they tryin to make people forget but people get just forget this. Maybe in a ur the internet will forget. People sadly forget too fast in social media
This is what happens when people are allowed to adopt with out actually knowing what it involves and the affect it has on a child. Also people who clearly wanted to make this a very public to get content.
especially when they knew the child was disabled and that of course it would take more effort and care to raise them and yet STILL adopted/were allowed to adopt :(
I adopted from a non-Hague country and had more than a day of training. I find it hard to believe that she got less. From what I know, China has their process down to a T. They know what they are doing. They are very particular.
They even had their YT followers pay for the adoption. Every time people donated money, they put another piece of the puzzle together that was the face of H. They were making money off of him before he was even in this country.
@@kaellaalbes3417 It’s pretty convenient how they didn’t listen to the advice of doctors before adopting him, but are now touting doctors recommendations as part of the reason they gave him away. It was all for the money. I’m glad they gave him to another home, they don’t deserve to have him. He deserves better. I really hope he’s happier now.
ok so basically since Myka wanted another kid… (because she was trying to get pregnant again) if that child came out with autism or defects would she have put him up for adoption?? I swear they are pathetic
I hope the persons that allowed the adoption feel guilty. I mean a former nurse who attacked a pregnant woman, the rehoming of multiple dogs and so on should have been a red flag. Also, I find deeply sexist the fact that people talk about Micah more than James when he is as guilty. Supposedly, he didn't do all the stuff his wife was doing, he let it happen anyway. James doesn't say anything, even when called out, he doesnt even take responsibility and let his wife take the big majority of the blame. He is hiding in a hole like a coward.
So they could afford a private therapist to sit at the house all day to evaluate the situation and child care services BUT couldn’t (or wouldn’t) purchase a $200 thumb guard device for that sweet baby boy. I really hope they don’t think they’re fooling anyone...
@@v0368 it’s still money tho would u rather let’s say as a parent or guardian use the money to help your child with their medical needs specially if they are special or go to a vacation that isn’t going to fix anything? A true parent would give up a trip for their child.
Everyone: hey this kid is gonna have special needs The stauffers: yes we completely understand The kid: has special needs The stauffers: surprised pikachu
Mika was literally a nurse I highly doubt that she was naïve enough to believe the duct tape would suffice as a thumb guard. Plus there are way more affordable thumb guards they literally have some at target for like $12
They were told that a child adopted overseas should be placed in a home with no children yet they still adopted him...they were warned so many times and didn’t listen...her apology will never be good enough. That poor boy had no control over this...the only good thing is that he is with a better family and being taken care of appropriately...so sad though.
Mika was on forums asking what special needs sounds the most impressive to care for but isn't really that difficult. She was definitely in this for fame
When they say they spent every peny, but refuse to use the $500 on better therapy and use the $70 one, while she was wearing a $6000 bracelet. I just cant not be disgusted
literally makes me sick that they are complaining how “expensive” he was when they went on EXPENSIVE trips and clearly made lots of money. so mad i can barely come up with words but let me tell you the AUDACITY
I'm always quite conflicted about this story, because on the one hand, him going to live with a new family is probably going to be very traumatic for him and it's something he never should have had to go through, but on the other hand I'm glad he's out of the environment he was in, where he was treated differently from the other children and was with parents who weren't willing to put everything they could into raising him and he's no longer going to be exploited for views by his supposed parents.
Same. Its horrible to think that she gave away a child she adopted but from the videos I saw of her interacting with him she wasn't equipped to handle it mentally. The way she would ask are you done and so on. She had no understanding of what he needed or what her other children needed. I'd rather him given to a family that will actually love and care for him through this time that staying with that family. For both his and the other kids sake
The “rehoming” was obviously beneficial to the child, but the whole situation NEVER should’e happened to begin with...and I think that is where the majority of the outrage came from. The simple fact of the adoption being disrupted would not have caused so much backlash, if all the factors leading up to it hadn’t been so awful.
A therapist would NEVER tell you there's "nothing more" you could do. That's LAZY PARENTING, Myka. So is hiring a caregiver specifically for the disabled child you didn't want to deal with. GOD. This case irritates me so much!
The Stauffers got rich off their adopted son. All the sponsors and ad revenue rose when they made a full series about his adoption, from the initial process to finally adopting him. Myka also made a video about choosing a cheaper doctor for her son while she flaunts a Cartier bracelet.
Rich is a very subjective and relative. You can have a lot of things and as well as a lot of debt. Also it’s very possible to have things that look expensive but they were gifted or found at a great price. Special needs can cost a lot. At my household income is lower 6 figures so upper middle class. But, my daughter’s various therapies cost more than our mortgage. So while technically we had a good income, we also had a lot of necessary expenses.
They got rich from the videos they made with this son. Then have a video saying there was the option of a $700 therapist or a $50 therapist (time per hour I dont remember) while wearing a CARTIER bracelet, and picked the cheaper one. She cut corners with that poor boy every step of the way and gave him no real care.
There's a few videos that went around of him with new family. New family weren't repeatedly asking are you done and stuff like that so I'm sure he bonded a little better with someone that actually wanted him.
@@Vellonary Where did you get this information? Is it confirmed he’s not with the new family? Because in the video it seems to say he’s with the new family as well as settling well according to the police report.
@@amandahugnkiss3619 UGH myka asking are you done in that condescending, disregarding manner while he is simply engaging in normal child tantrums makes my blood boil!!!
Regardless of whatever the "tea" on this family might be, ultimately this child is being appropriately cared for and happy now. Their decision to rehome him was a good one for his own sake.
Don’t care what anyone has to say, I believe they adopted this child for monetary gain and then when the gains weren’t worth the trouble of housing him, they gave him up🤷🏽♀️; this entirely smells of a white savior complex. I don’t know why they were so surprised by his behavior when they were warned several times that he was special needs. They put themselves in that situation and given that they had the funds to take care of him medically, I guess they didn’t really see them as their child and so they thought it was okay,
I could understand if he went to bed earlier if he was a few years younger than the others (which is fairly normal) but that sadly wasn’t the case :( it really broke my heart that they’d rush to get rid of him to hang out with their “real kids”. They’re horrible people for ever knowingly adopting a special needs child that they weren’t willing to care for, no matter how hard it gets. Makes me wonder if they’d give up their biological child if they had severe autism and trauma...
It makes me so happy to hear he is now verbal with the new family... and hearing he is smiling while sitting peacefully on his/her/their lap. That is such a feat of greatness on the child’s part that I’m surprised he has reached. Those are great landmarks for any child with autism... nonetheless one that has gone through so much trauma. Thank you for informing us. 💕💕
She apologizes to those who looked up to her, but doesn’t seem to have remorse for her own ex-son. She also says things that should have ‘been private’ but I don’t think she cares about privacy considering how she makes her own children excruciatingly uncomfortable on camera.
doesnt sound like the child is having any issues with the new family. seems like maybe it was an issue with the stauffers. the new family has kids and the investigation said the child was happy and smiling and loving his new home. that didnt strike the detectives as odd?
That apology was full of 'all about me' and 'vindicate me' she didn't apologise for hurting the poor child! She didn't say at all that her actions were incorrect. No instead it was the adoption agency didn't train me right, etc. Like how narcissistic does one person have to be? X
She admitted herself she put less forethought into adopting a child from special needs from another culture and language with as much forethought as I'd put into short term "fostering" a dog.
@Disgruntled Pelican that goes without saying, most animals have independency and don’t rely on constant human contact and care, with some exceptions. What point are you trying to make? Because ya missed the point.
Love you Spill, I'm glad you reported on this Myka is the literal worst, when she said "are you over yourself?" it actually stung my heart. He was, what? Four? And when she talked about how him and her daughter were so close, it made me so mad, because she not only took away her best friend, but she took away her brother. I hope every kid involved in this is okay, especially the little boy... We're looking out for you little guy!
Here's the bit that also boils my gears. How was it that none of these former friends went to the authorities when the abuse was happening to the child in the moment. When they were seeing the disturbing actuons happen? What is the point of breaking the silence now?
Even hearing "rehome" in terms of a HUMAN CHILD makes me nauseous.
like it’s an out of control dog or something that’s harming their bio kids. sick.
It feels so gross everytime it’s said
It’s so dehumanising
It's not uncommon kids needing to be rehome because of incompatibility.
Most kids that needed adopting tends to have a lot of mental and disciplinary problems.
In fact, it's rare for them to have a stable career and a productive life which is sad.
Like he’s a dog from the pound or something smfh
I’m a mother with 3 kids, one , my youngest is adopted. We don’t have “two children” and an “adopted child” we have three children. You don’t adopt a child and then abandon it, when you adopt a child you are that child’s PARENT. Some people make me sick
yeah there’s no difference, unless you’re adopted or have adopted no one really understands that
Thank you.
Blood is not what makes a family.
Wish more would grasp that simple truth
I’m the only adopted out of three and I’ve always felt included and I got adopted 6 years ago
Facts. You don’t adopt kids like pets n just put them down if they not up to ur standards I really despise that family
They didn't try to help him with his food anxiety, they punished him for crying for food and for thumbsucking, and frequently disrupted his routine and environment by travelling, moving homes and bringing a newborn baby into the family. Now, they're lowkey just blaming the child for his behaviour and their choice for "rehoming" him. I'm so glad he's with a real family now, these people are despicable.
That boy should've been their #1 priority. Period.
and that's how we know they really didn't care about him at all...
The dad got irritated when H****** watched him eat. How insane is that?? Your baby is allowed to do that. Freaks!
This this this. Also idk not trust any person that says all of the doctors and therapists gave up on him for his awful unruly behavior and then that all cleared up after they weren't taking care of the kids anymore? Sounds like I'd be going back to investigating them if I was that detective. I'm so glad that poor lil guy got a real family though.
@@Runzi333 Agreed! I found it so weird she said the DOCTORS told them to "rehome" him. What doctor would say that unless the child is neglected or abused? If they're a family who truly loved him and was going to do anything to help him, no sane doctor would say they're "not suitable". And the fact that they didn't finalise the adoption set off all the alarm bells. Like they hadn't planned on keeping him permanently.
It’s so telling that he can suddenly talk and communicate so soon after being placed with a new family. I’m so glad he’s doing okay.
I read that he's still technically in foster care and that he hasn't been adopted. Praying it's not true.
@@mortalclown3812 theres a guy who did a pod cast about him saying "the lady" who has him posts him on Instagram, but didn't say who that was. I genuinely hope that hes safe and happy.
they weren’t even taking him to therapy
@@MJ-zc1ln who wasnt? The stauffers? Of course not, they're trash. Idk about any info regarding the people that have him now. Hopefully they're treating him how he deserves!
Well he’s also like 6
glad the little one is doing better
Love your videos 😊
Hi Tom 👋
Didn't expect to see you here. Love your videos!
ikr, glad they are doing better ❤️
Was just thinking of you lol
Private matters?? She posted it online publically...
U know influencers...private only when it benefits them...
Like those people on Facebook that air out all their personal problems then when you ask what's going on they say "please respect my privacy" 🥴🥴 I--
I wish that his first words were: Get that camera out of my face.
moral of the story huuh hem "KEEP THEM LEGS CLOSED"
@@torquetheprisoner they adopted the child, her legs being closed wouldn't have made a difference.
It really sickens me how Myka talks about the boy like he’s a criminal, he’s a BABY who can’t help the way he is and she was a horrible excuse for a mother to him
I don’t think any of the claims highlighted in this video are true.
Excuse for a mother to him
Also, notice she never mentioned she ever felt sorry for H, but only to her subscribers. Both her and James are narcissists who cannot feel remorse and empathy.
For real life that is so true
Don't forget the dad. He's just as guilty
Yes!!
I never followed her but find it interesting the “note” was never we but it was always I. Idk, if you’re serious about adopting a special needs child, maybe you (wife and husband) need to give up the cameras and live a normal life.
They are sick. Now they are trying to slander this innocent child that they failed to make themselves look better. Sick
LITERALLY SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PPL IN THE BACK That’s what I was thinking
EXACTLY! All she needed to do was remain patient with him but she gave up and tried to validate her decision. It’s sad.
What if he sees this video when he gets older? How is he going to react? This really raises the point of not filming the adoption process.
I know it’s disgusting bet it wasn’t even that bad
He just didn’t behave how they wanted him to
That’s all it is
@@PumpkinssNailStation I do not think that we are ever going to know what happened in that house. I highly doubt that Myka is ever going to upload.
The Stauffers who gave away their adopted baby because they realized they actually needed to put in actual care and love ?
Wait, you can't just buy a baby and post it on Instagram for extortion and -give- -it- -away- "rehome" when the thing get's too much??
In a nutshell, yes.
“I want to provide a good home for this child who needs it”, “I can no longer provide this child a good home so I will give the child a better home” why is that so hard to understand? Y’all looking to be pressed.
@@tayganroberts5098 I agree somewhat, but they should have actually looked into his needs instead of just thinking they could power through it. Not malicious, but clear idiocy.
@@tayganroberts5098 they had the means to provide that child with a good home they just got lazy when it got hard and wanted to be seen as good strong parents for the bare minimum. What’s so hard to understand about that? Don’t defend those idiots.
“Their former son...”
That’s such a disgusting phrase.
Truly.
As a mother to a 4yr old boy who has autism, I can say from MY experience (not fact, but only my own experience) my son has been aggressive, angry, and acted out, but ONLY when he was in much distress and going thru intense trauma.. he rarely ever is aggressive now that all of the toxic people are out of our lives and we have a happy healthy and stable home.
So happy to hear this little boy is doing so much better.
I have a 4 year old daughter with autism, she has never been violent, think it was only once she bit another kid when she was like 2 of 3 but hasent happend again since, her teachers tells us every kid loves her and want to be wtih her... Even If she dont even give them attention nor can speak.
And I have a granddaughter who has autism she’s very high functioning and I’ve never seen her show anger unless someone was picking on her younger sister and then she would get upset verbally but she’s never expressed physical anger she’s quite the opposite
Well then that would be fact if that's how your son has acted
@@texasgina my granddaughter has had violent breakdowns for
@@jodyyork3821 true, what I meant was I'm assuming this child acted out because he wasnt in a good state with this family. But I didn't want to say it was a fact, and wanted to give where I got that opinion formed from.
The family is in the wrong. They were aware of everything that could’ve happened before adopting him. It makes zero sense why they were so shocked when all of this happened. It also makes no sense that they knew this but still didn’t try to put more attention on the child, and balance the attention with the other children. Also because of the the child situation, why not put more money and effort in taking care of him?
@fiesel datches we don’t know their situation. When people put children up for adoption is because they know they can’t supply for them, or it’s from a trauma like r*pe. Rarely is it from that, also, idk if ur doing this, but don’t shift the blame from the Stauffers
@fiesel datches you can't really blame people for putting a child up for adoption.
@fiesel datches I’ve affirmed that you’re ignorant. The Stauffers became that child’s family, they were neglecting the child. Again you are the one shifting the blame and it’s disgusting
@fiesel datches "no excuse for being an absent parent" So you want them to bring their child to the grave with them? There are many reasons a parent would have to place their child up for adoption. Death is the most common one.
They were under the impression he had a brain tumor and would not survive when they adopted him
love how myka wants nothing but privacy for her “former son” (yuck) but continuously uses his name in the notes app months later 🙃🙃
And spent all that time videoing him for money. Now all of a sudden she wants privacy for him? Hypocritical
Not trying to defend her, but I think she meant privacy about his behavior towards the other kids.
Im not defending her either but i also think she meant keeping his actions against the other children, private.
@@allyma3 Yeah, but its still hypocritical because they still were releasing that child’s behavior progress. They should use privacy for all their kids, not just the biological ones
i’m pretty sure he’s had a name change though
They make him sound like he’s a monster. I’ve worked with children for 7 years and this is pretty common. While it’s obviously not ideal behavior and will require a lot of attention, he’s not a monster. They just didn’t want to “deal with him” anymore and it’s just sad they just turned their back on him like that
He`s not even close to being a monster. Many 2 year olds act like this, without having experienced attachment trauma or having special needs. A 2 year old having tantrums and hitting other children is more than common. I`m not saying it isn`t hard (my foster son came to live with me when he was 2 and we had to work through all the frustration and anger together, meaning I was his punching bag for the first year or so).
But what if their youngest son turns out to be on the spectrum and/or is hitting his older siblings, will they "rehome" him as well?
I wonder how the older children are coping, now that they know their parents´s love is very conditional.
He's not your "typical child " therefore you wouldn't treat him the way you would billy bobby or sue
@@annaf3915 was, foster? i thought you only take care of foster kids for a bit?
@@evelyn-bz7hv It depends on the country. In Austria there is the option of emergency foster care which is typically less than a year, and long term foster care, which is usually until the child grows up. That`s because adoption isn`t possible here unless the parents give their consent.
they never even got him a birth certificate. i think they always planned to return him. why would they not get a birth certificate for him for two years? horrible despicable monsters!
I think they adopted him because they could have it funded, decided to use him for views for awhile and when it was apparent that he wasn't dying of a brain tumor, like they originally were told decided to make some money by "rehoming" through private adoption.
Myka was banking on the boy dying from a brain tumor within a year or two. Then she could post a sad memory video of what a precious child he was that was taken too soon. Savior complex.
Turned out the boy had autism not cancer and was going to live much longer. Myka saw him as too much work.
That is so horrible
This woman is sick. That poor baby deserves a wonderful, patient home. Not one where he would be exploited and dropped the second things got hard. I work with people with disabilities and I would never give up on them, no matter how hard things are. A child is not an accessory that you can wear for a day and return to the store when you're finished with it. Even the term "Former child" makes me sick!!
as someone with disabilities I think we all need a safe home and support. that poor baby going through enough, she’s so sick.
@@nyny2263 exactly! Some of my clients have extremely challenging behaviours, but their parents don't go "oh we're going to give them to another family because they don't fit in with the rest of our family". They employ myself and my colleagues because we can help make the behaviours and day to day life more manageable. They also would never exploit, advertise or film their children for monetary gain. This whole case makes me so angry
@fiesel datches That's not a funny joke or a good way to try and defending them.
@Michelle Vill exactly at least she admitted she couldn't handle him and found another home.. it's like people would rather her keep her other children in a potentially dangerous situation sometimes you really have done everything you can do.
They’re are so many options for them such as hiring a nurse that specializes in disabled people or asking a pediatrician to help out, like they had options but were apparently, “too broke.”
Those claims they made about the kid, sounds like they were trying to demonize him, very accusative tone there, like he's a CHILD, and one with special needs, they didn't sound compassionate at all. Also, "former son" that shouldnt even be a thing, they would have never done this if he was a biological child.
Exactly hes what 4-5 ,ah be a bit older. They knew he was special needs and looked over a lot of his need “not enough money for therapy” but you can afford a 1 month trip to Bali and a 600k house and expensive jewelry and cars?🤨
I agree. I feel like they are trying to come back to the internet and say "oh it's not our fault, it's the child's fault so follow us again!" This is not okay in my opinion.
they literally made it sound like he was insane or something, toddlers don’t know how to behave automatically and maybe nobody ever taught him how to properly socialize
@@m4tta Parents who have toddlers that aren’t affected by any underlying issues can have trouble teaching their kids to behave because they are at a stage where they will be impulsive, stubborn, willful. I understand how frustrating it can be, but THEY adopted him.
@@a.p738 i think it’s more so the fact that in his new home he actually can get the attention he needs. in the video they said that kids with special needs don’t do well with in homes with younger children.
The only reason she’s “sorry” is because she lost her main source of income
She lost fabletics too
No joke! She has no remorse for what she did to that poor baby.
Lost her main source of income
Him sitting in the closet , rocking is called the orphanage rock. It's what happens when they learn in infancy that no one is coming to soothe them or show care when they cry. You don't just give up because things get hard xx
That’s the saddest thing I have ever heard. The orphanage rock? My god. These poor babies. People should Sue this family for receiving donations under false pretenses.
@@holliesomething8731 they made a fortune on him 😖😞! So sad and bad.
This is so sad
🥺
This is exactly what I thought when I first heart that he was difficult to handle and did things they couldn't handle.... I was like what?! How did they not expect that especially when he's from China. The worst place for orphaned children. It's sad. They never did enough research ... They would have learned what to expect how to handle it and what they can do to fix it. They have done studies with showing children that were deprived human connection and love. It's sad. They're just fools . This poor child.
The Stauffers are disgusting. There’s so many parents with disabled children who didn’t chose to have a disabled child & they don’t give up on their children. They choose to have a disabled child & then give him away from being too disabled? Gross. I’m so glad to hear that his new family seems loving & he seems like he’s happy and bonding with them.
So much anger because everyone told them, he was disabled and that they might want to consider another child, but they insisted and look at what they did to this poor child.
And a lot of times, these parents don't even have the money necessary for the treatment of their child, still, they fight for them. The Stauffers are a wealthy family. Things would probably be different if that was their biological child.
I wish I could like this a million times.
RIGHT AND THEYRE SO RICH other families don’t even have the money to take care of their special needs They Have mooore than enough ughhh makes me so mad
Thats the difference between blood child and adopted. She wouldnt have rehomed him if he was his real child bc a mother who gave birth to a chiod will never do that unleas shes a sick fook. Her mistake is being so irresponsible and thinking that its an easy road. It seems like she did it for fun. Shes sick
PAUSE!!!!! Myka and James were saying that they didnt buy the thumb guard and that therapy and the adoption process was too expensive but they had enough money for a Bali vacation?!!! Remeber he was still in the fam when the bali plan happened. Make it make sense!!!!!
And that she said “we did make money of the videos” you couldn’t make enough for the thumb guard to give him dignity and keep him comfortable?
Literally alternatives are there, it only cost $6 for mittens, or even a pacifier while they’re still young, they just didn’t want to research or involve an actual therapist.
And they were in Bali for a month!!!!!
clear evidence that they never loved him, a real mother would give up vacation money without question, but clearly she didn't... any help she tried to get him was likely because of her savior complex instead of real mother-child love
And a 670k house, 2 land rovers, a Mercedes, and a 6k bracelet. But, you know therapy is expensive 🙄
I love how’s she’s shifting responsibility to the medical professionals who gave up on him. I find that hard to believe honestly, it’s an insult to those who work tirelessly their entire lives for disabled children. It sounds like the Stauffers were the ones that gave up, disabled children are SO sensitive. They will always match YOUR energy. If you gave up on him then why should he try to act better at home when he doesn’t feel loved?
There’s evidence that when she adopted him he had a brain tumor diagnosis and not a long life expectancy. After being in the US he was found to be medically healthy but was on the spectrum. Myka claims she was prepared for the tumor but not the Autism. Make your conclusion on why a so called parent wouldn’t rejoice that their child would live a long life. I can’t think of a single mother that wouldn’t gladly trade a cancer diagnosis for a spectrum one.
Yeah. I’ve worked with kids like him and we don’t give up. Literally, can’t think of one case where we just quit. We know how hard it is to build trust and we do our best to not break that trust.
@@MsEastGrave Thank you for your hard work! My little brother is on the spectrum and grew up well thanks to people like you who had the patience for them :)
There is a major Childrens Hospital approximately an hour drive from where this family is located. They would be many professional resources available through this hospital. My daughter is developmentally handicapped and we utilized many of those mentioned resources. I would never imagine a doctor or therapist saying to basically give up. And as a mom of a special needs child, if I had been told that, then we would move to another professional who wants to work with my child. You don't just give up.
If someone told them that they weren't the right family it's probably because they could she was a horrible person.
Wait???? So they filmed that child packing up for a trip he wasn’t even going on?? That’s so messed up ):
Why does no one pick up on the fact that their dad says he can't keep Huxley safe from the other kids NOT that he can't keep the other kids safe from Huxley. This implies the kids were hurting Huxley not the other way around
I found that telling as well. I have a feeling that the other older kids were mean to him. There have been sources say that especially the oldest child didn't like him and had been mean to him. I have a feeling that the kids were acting out on what the parents were doing. I 100% believe that H was mistreated terribly by that family for not being "normal " and "easy".
@@queennefratiti69 yes. In one of their videos, Myka said that Kova (the oldest daughter) wasn't close to H so she was probably being mean. The 3rd child (Radley) did not like H and never shared his toys. The 2nd child (Jaka) was the nicest to H. She was very sweet and helpful towards H.
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Acctually didnt notice that! Wow... 6:42 if you're searching
@@sarasaric5339 Thanks! 🙂
Ohhhhh yeah this family. Yikes.
She’s honestly disgusting
@You left your lights on I don’t get it, what happened with them...?
Loser Michelle why don’t you listen to the video
@@orangesoda2221 I did but I don’t understand, what happened....?
@You left your lights on I kr
Report from the detectives that said that the little man was sat on his new mummy’s knee smiling while she sang him a song tells me everything I need to know about M&J Stauffer
Here is what gets to me.
How they say he was with them, violent, constant stimming and so on.
And how he is in his new home.
Clearly they were not good parents to him
@@SS-cq6wc i have no problems thinking he might have gotten violent at times.
Trauma, stress, forced interaction, take away stimming, so what does the poor kid have left but to act out, like oh what pretty much every child does at some point.
He went from a home with 3 other kids to being the only child, of course he’s doing better in his new home you donut
@@brennicolas3093 he could have been fine with other kids but the parents were idiots. Just like you.
@@brennicolas3093 so you agree they should not have adopted him cos they are unfit to be his parents
Sounds like the child had a very severe form of autism that made him extremely violent- only an ABA therapist could handle something like that. Myka didn’t pay $50,000 for content that made her family look bad. You guys should try to understand adoption and special needs before you try to make a beautiful family look bad out of your own jealousy
Would they have “rehomed” the child if he was their biological son with the same issues? I highly doubt it. So sad
My guess they would milk it for all it is worth.
There is a term autstic parent.
Or something like that.
They.... Are the worst, see their kids as not being able to consent, that they suffer, and well they also invade autstic spaces to tell us that we are wrong cos how would we who live with it know better then them
@Ottoman Empire there shouldn't be. a child is not an object
I mean, why did the babies’ biological parents give him up? Why blame people that paid a ton of money to help the orphaned child? Ever wonder why so many orphans have severe issues?
@@ThingsILikke this is the biggest YIKES in the thread. You clearly have absolutely no insight about overseas adoptions, special needs adoptions and more specifically adoptions from Asian counties and why they’re so common. His parents probably couldn’t understand the depth of his issued or afford to care for him... they gave him up to give him a chance at a better life and Myka used him as publicity and added more, unnecessary trauma.
@@DenaMarie90 no, I actually know a ton about over seas adoptions, especially Chinese and Russian. The kids have special needs that the government down plays to get rid of them. In China, they had the one child rule of a long time- forced abortions and sterilization. They do eugenics over there, this kid didn’t have a chance. The Stauffers probably saved his life. Now he’s in a home where he can be taken care of, in America, where he has the best chance.
Letting us down? She did not let us down. She let Huxley down. Wow she really has no clue 😳
As an asian adoptee myself, this situation made me both sad and furious. Since he’s nonverbal, it’s hard to know how much he understands. Being adopted has been a lifelong trauma for me, and to have another family give him up would be devastating to me. I’m so glad he’s doing better though.
I hope you have a loving home....
at this point 2020 sounds like a my story animated video
So true
omfg this is gold
man... true tho
Dayum true
Period
Oof, hearing the phrase "former son" being used towards a child that did nothing wrong after being taken from his home country by a stranger, then abandoned by that same stranger is just mind blowing..
Yeah. Disgusting behavior 🤢
His biological mom abandoned him … why are you so mad about him being “taken” from his country. Literally no one would’ve adopted him with disabilities in his country. Y’all are just as pathetic.
Yeah disgusting husband and wife..
She's not sorry. She's only sorry for getting caught.
He did need a new home however it is THEIR FAULT he was in a terrible situation for 2 years. It is 100% their fault and they did it for views anyway. Its incredibly obvious. There's a lot more info out there than this too that shows they were really self serving this entire time. I'm glad he is with a better home. Obviously the claims that there was "nothing else they could do" were false as he is already verbal in his new home. So... yeah...
He lashed out because they didn’t treat him right.
Trueee
"they were concerned about this and this"
They were TOLD ALL THIS AND THEY IGNORED IT!!!! This makes me sick to my stomach.
They were told he had brain tumor and short life expectancy.........That’s what she kept saying she could handle. Not a life long therapy.
I mean she literally said that everything the doctor said "went in one ear and out the other"
@@panda-panda757 EXACTLY 👏
It kind of sounds like she only hired therapists because she wanted them to "fix" her son. When they told her there was nothing more they could do, what they probably meant was there wasn't a way to make him "normal". She should have taken him to an actual psychologist that specializes in special needs kids.
Honestly, she sounds like one of those people that tells someone with anxiety to just "stop worrying" or a depressed person to just "be happy".
True.
She seems like one of those people that would say that to people like me who have GAD and Depression.
@@KyleEvra What's GAD?
@@Mochi_Kiti general anxiety disorder
Actually it’s good that Huxley was adopted to a new family because that means he will get parents who will actually care about him.
I don't believe her or respect her, I would never trust someone who says things were "too hard" so she duct taped that poor babies hands. You just DON'T do that, I don't feel bad about mom and dad I want worse for them.
who tf duct tape a children as 'discipline'. the only people i know who ducktape a child is always someone who wants to hurt the child
I had to pause and cry. Duct tape on a childs skin i cannot fathom the thought process of the adults
exactly
Kid spoke little english, he communicated through signs. They duct taped his hands and he could not communicate anymore. That's even worse!
@@hermiegana WHAT
Stop calling him “former” son. He was never part of that woman’s family.
I mean...I agree but I also feel like with stuff like this they do that specifically to drive home how sick the situation is. I agree he was never her family but the reality is...he really was their “former son” on paper...and they gave him up like he was a dog that wouldn’t stop peeing on the carpet.
But I do agree with you. This situation is just sad.
@@b-4361 agreed-maybe on paper/legally he was their “son” but morally and ethically he never was. As you say, he was treated more like a misbehaving dog and had to be re-homed. It all sounds so much like they picked him out at a pound then gave him back cuz he wasn’t what they wanted.
The police is who called him a former son. I think it's just a legal term
yeah they just used that kid as a pawn
What I find most interesting is the fact that the police report says they did not find evidence of the harm and mistreatment against the biological kids that Myka was alleging as the reason for giving H up. They didn’t find evidence of the Stauffer’s doing anything explicitly illegal, but they also didn’t agree with her claims that H was this monster antagonist that he was made out to be. I’m glad they did note that H appeared to be doing good with the new family.
Myka: "We made sure he got every service and resource we could possibly find"
Also Myka in a former video while sitting in a huge pool and wearing cartier bracelets: "I'm not paying THAT much for a therapist bruh"
They had a full time therapist for him
@@eclaire1748 I believe they're talking about the speech therapist. She said in one video that they would try to find another one that wasn't as expensive (her tone implied that it wasn't worth it...)
She's sooo gross!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Husband as well.
@@eclaire1748 stop defending trash
Just when I thought it couldn't get worse, it did... that poor baby was treated like a black sheep from the moment he got adopted.
She apologised to her ”fans” but not to the little boy himself 😔
The worst thing is that they went on a vacation immediately after giving up the child and only came clean after people pointed that the kid wasn’t in Bali videos.
@@Daisy-zr3qm My mom never felt like that with me my mom says I saved her life.Even when people told her to consider me putting up She. Went. Nuts.
Saying a black sheep is kinda racist tho...
@@oumaymaaydi5491 i-
Its an idiom im sure they didn't mean to be racist
The repeated rehoming of Dogs was a red flag.
My partner and I are considering adoption one of the questions they ask and ask other people that know you is “do you have a history of rehoming several animals” I think that should be asked everywhere if it’s not
Oh yeah.
If I ever got a dog and couldn't handle it to the point I had to rehome it, I would probably never get another dog.
(I've only ever had cats, and gerbils, and the gerbils didn't work out well, they'd bite and tiny child me became scared of them, so we took care of them to the best of our ability until they died of old age and never got any new ones)
Lol she’s really trying to paint the child as a monster ?? Why is she putting this on the internet?
Not trying to defend her but she didn’t put it on the internet, that was the police report.
@@malory1444 she did it on a video too, in her video when she told people she rehomed the child
She’s a narcissist. In her world she’s perfect and everyone else is flawed. The doesn’t think it’s her fault.
She's not a mother, she's a breeder. she has all those qualities and we see right thru them.
i was wondering what happened to this family, i knew this wasn't gonna be the last time we heard from them
Lol they tryin to make people forget but people get just forget this. Maybe in a ur the internet will forget. People sadly forget too fast in social media
This is what happens when people are allowed to adopt with out actually knowing what it involves and the affect it has on a child. Also people who clearly wanted to make this a very public to get content.
especially when they knew the child was disabled and that of course it would take more effort and care to raise them and yet STILL adopted/were allowed to adopt :(
I adopted from a non-Hague country and had more than a day of training. I find it hard to believe that she got less. From what I know, China has their process down to a T. They know what they are doing. They are very particular.
Alot of people even warned them about adopting a disabled child yet they didn’t even listen smh
They even had their YT followers pay for the adoption. Every time people donated money, they put another piece of the puzzle together that was the face of H. They were making money off of him before he was even in this country.
@@kaellaalbes3417
It’s pretty convenient how they didn’t listen to the advice of doctors before adopting him, but are now touting doctors recommendations as part of the reason they gave him away. It was all for the money.
I’m glad they gave him to another home, they don’t deserve to have him. He deserves better. I really hope he’s happier now.
ok so basically since Myka wanted another kid… (because she was trying to get pregnant again) if that child came out with autism or defects would she have put him up for adoption?? I swear they are pathetic
I hope the persons that allowed the adoption feel guilty. I mean a former nurse who attacked a pregnant woman, the rehoming of multiple dogs and so on should have been a red flag. Also, I find deeply sexist the fact that people talk about Micah more than James when he is as guilty. Supposedly, he didn't do all the stuff his wife was doing, he let it happen anyway. James doesn't say anything, even when called out, he doesnt even take responsibility and let his wife take the big majority of the blame. He is hiding in a hole like a coward.
Attacked a pregnant woman? Do tell...
it’s actually so upsetting that james is still
making content and this entire situation has been ignored
like all of the videos blame her directly as if james had nothing to do with this
truly makes me so upset
Idk sounds like this poor child wanted love and attention from his "mother" who just kept hiring caregivers and passing him off.
And sticking a camera in his face 24/7
Amen!!!!!!!!
So they could afford a private therapist to sit at the house all day to evaluate the situation and child care services BUT couldn’t (or wouldn’t) purchase a $200 thumb guard device for that sweet baby boy. I really hope they don’t think they’re fooling anyone...
For real.
they also could afford a trip to Bali, but not the "expensive" therapist to help their kid
@@jessicanuveenleflar7061 i agree but Bali can be pretty cheap if you do the research
@@v0368 for a month.
Sure it would be for single couple.
What about their kids
@@v0368 it’s still money tho would u rather let’s say as a parent or guardian use the money to help your child with their medical needs specially if they are special or go to a vacation that isn’t going to fix anything? A true parent would give up a trip for their child.
Everyone: hey this kid is gonna have special needs
The stauffers: yes we completely understand
The kid: has special needs
The stauffers: surprised pikachu
Mika was literally a nurse I highly doubt that she was naïve enough to believe the duct tape would suffice as a thumb guard. Plus there are way more affordable thumb guards they literally have some at target for like $12
Is anyone else concerned about this horrible woman being a nurse 😭
Myka was a terrible nurse. She likes the control over the vulnerable and the glory of being seen as a savior
She had lots of formal professional complaints made against her
Former nurse. Who got let go from her last position.
They were told that a child adopted overseas should be placed in a home with no children yet they still adopted him...they were warned so many times and didn’t listen...her apology will never be good enough. That poor boy had no control over this...the only good thing is that he is with a better family and being taken care of appropriately...so sad though.
Mika was on forums asking what special needs sounds the most impressive to care for but isn't really that difficult. She was definitely in this for fame
waittttt do u have proof of this??
Whoa whoa 😳
When they say they spent every peny, but refuse to use the $500 on better therapy and use the $70 one, while she was wearing a $6000 bracelet. I just cant not be disgusted
literally makes me sick that they are complaining how “expensive” he was when they went on EXPENSIVE trips and clearly made lots of money. so mad i can barely come up with words but let me tell you the AUDACITY
The Detail Geek is hardworking, authentic, and not a child abuser. Everything Stauffer Staged Garage isn't.
Yeah what does the detail geek have to do with this??? Am I missing something?
The detail geek response was not from the original content creator. It’s a copycat.
Ok. Cool
I'm always quite conflicted about this story, because on the one hand, him going to live with a new family is probably going to be very traumatic for him and it's something he never should have had to go through, but on the other hand I'm glad he's out of the environment he was in, where he was treated differently from the other children and was with parents who weren't willing to put everything they could into raising him and he's no longer going to be exploited for views by his supposed parents.
Same. Its horrible to think that she gave away a child she adopted but from the videos I saw of her interacting with him she wasn't equipped to handle it mentally. The way she would ask are you done and so on. She had no understanding of what he needed or what her other children needed. I'd rather him given to a family that will actually love and care for him through this time that staying with that family. For both his and the other kids sake
The “rehoming” was obviously beneficial to the child, but the whole situation NEVER should’e happened to begin with...and I think that is where the majority of the outrage came from. The simple fact of the adoption being disrupted would not have caused so much backlash, if all the factors leading up to it hadn’t been so awful.
I’m not sure how trauma works but I hope the fact he’s that young helps him forget most of it?
Wait I have no idea wats happening can some one explain
I agree... I dont want to imagine what would happen if he stayed.
"Rehoming"?
Oh, you mean abandoning, right? Neglecting? Abusing? 🙃
A therapist would NEVER tell you there's "nothing more" you could do. That's LAZY PARENTING, Myka. So is hiring a caregiver specifically for the disabled child you didn't want to deal with. GOD. This case irritates me so much!
aren’t the stauffers like rich? I don’t understand the thumb thing. I just don’t trust this family at all
Kid was stimming.
She by her own words was a horrible mother trying to force him to do stuff.
The Stauffers got rich off their adopted son. All the sponsors and ad revenue rose when they made a full series about his adoption, from the initial process to finally adopting him. Myka also made a video about choosing a cheaper doctor for her son while she flaunts a Cartier bracelet.
Rich is a very subjective and relative. You can have a lot of things and as well as a lot of debt. Also it’s very possible to have things that look expensive but they were gifted or found at a great price. Special needs can cost a lot. At my household income is lower 6 figures so upper middle class. But, my daughter’s various therapies cost more than our mortgage. So while technically we had a good income, we also had a lot of necessary expenses.
They got rich from the videos they made with this son. Then have a video saying there was the option of a $700 therapist or a $50 therapist (time per hour I dont remember) while wearing a CARTIER bracelet, and picked the cheaper one.
She cut corners with that poor boy every step of the way and gave him no real care.
@@sirsandknights this is what I was thinking too, because I couldn’t remember but they bought it right after they “returned” him didn’t they?
How does she know he’s happy in his new home if she herself said in the begging he had severe trauma from the initial adoption ?
@Hi umm he was taken from people they give him to. By the law they have to inform about it, but they kept quiet. So he was taken away
There's a few videos that went around of him with new family. New family weren't repeatedly asking are you done and stuff like that so I'm sure he bonded a little better with someone that actually wanted him.
@@Vellonary Where did you get this information? Is it confirmed he’s not with the new family? Because in the video it seems to say he’s with the new family as well as settling well according to the police report.
@@amandahugnkiss3619 UGH myka asking are you done in that condescending, disregarding manner while he is simply engaging in normal child tantrums makes my blood boil!!!
I dont look up to mother's who post their entire child's life story online, it's crass and creepy
Regardless of whatever the "tea" on this family might be, ultimately this child is being appropriately cared for and happy now. Their decision to rehome him was a good one for his own sake.
I agree, I cant believe ppl are still complaining about this
And I can’t believe people are still defending these two!
even spill-chan sounds kinda angry 😳
Who wouldnt be?
SPILL-CHAN😂
Ikr and she’s never angry usually😭
Mika even admitted that when the doctor warned her about her adopted sons physical and mental problems, it “went in one ear and out the other.”
Don’t care what anyone has to say, I believe they adopted this child for monetary gain and then when the gains weren’t worth the trouble of housing him, they gave him up🤷🏽♀️; this entirely smells of a white savior complex. I don’t know why they were so surprised by his behavior when they were warned several times that he was special needs. They put themselves in that situation and given that they had the funds to take care of him medically, I guess they didn’t really see them as their child and so they thought it was okay,
ok this kid was literally 4 i highly doubt a grown man could not restrain him. sounds really suspicious
Remember when they'd put the poor little guy to sleep early so they can spend time with their biological children...
Yea that was *ucked up. I started watching her for a few weeks. Then I saw that. Who does that
That's horrible 😞
😞
I could understand if he went to bed earlier if he was a few years younger than the others (which is fairly normal) but that sadly wasn’t the case :( it really broke my heart that they’d rush to get rid of him to hang out with their “real kids”. They’re horrible people for ever knowingly adopting a special needs child that they weren’t willing to care for, no matter how hard it gets. Makes me wonder if they’d give up their biological child if they had severe autism and trauma...
2 or 3 HOURS EARLY
I’ve been watching Detail Geek for sometime, so to see him call out James Stauffer like that was STRAIGHT UP SAVAGE
I really hope “The Stauffers” are “rehomed” off social media forever & their platform is referred to as a “prior business”.
Stauffer Garage still up and running
It makes me so happy to hear he is now verbal with the new family... and hearing he is smiling while sitting peacefully on his/her/their lap. That is such a feat of greatness on the child’s part that I’m surprised he has reached. Those are great landmarks for any child with autism... nonetheless one that has gone through so much trauma. Thank you for informing us. 💕💕
When the detail geek gets into it you know these people are gross.
IKR
I gasped seeing his response WOW!
Insert *I understood that reference* Meme LOL
im just surprised he's actually been mentioned
I’m so tired of hearing how the child was “rehomed.” It’s so dehumanizing to that sweet little boy.
She apologizes to those who looked up to her, but doesn’t seem to have remorse for her own ex-son. She also says things that should have ‘been private’ but I don’t think she cares about privacy considering how she makes her own children excruciatingly uncomfortable on camera.
doesnt sound like the child is having any issues with the new family. seems like maybe it was an issue with the stauffers. the new family has kids and the investigation said the child was happy and smiling and loving his new home. that didnt strike the detectives as odd?
Can we just put her in jail and call it a day.
Police should have AT LEAST fined, the money to go to that child.
Making this child go through that and no consequences????
The only thing i care about here is that that boy is in a loving home now. His new adoptive mom sounds like an angel. I’m so happy for him.
Did she just say “rehomed their child” like it was a pet? This is disgusting and I guess that’s how she viewed him
That apology was full of 'all about me' and 'vindicate me' she didn't apologise for hurting the poor child! She didn't say at all that her actions were incorrect. No instead it was the adoption agency didn't train me right, etc.
Like how narcissistic does one person have to be? X
She admitted herself she put less forethought into adopting a child from special needs from another culture and language with as much forethought as I'd put into short term "fostering" a dog.
The only thought was of the subs, clicks and money to be made.
even the closer source say she cant keep a dog too.
Their “former son” wasn’t an animal, he was a human being who needed the proper attention and support.
@Disgruntled Pelican that goes without saying, most animals have independency and don’t rely on constant human contact and care, with some exceptions. What point are you trying to make? Because ya missed the point.
Ah yes, the classic "OH NO essential healthcare for my child is expensive" but yet proceeds to buy diamond ring.
What a selfish individual.
I hope Huxley is having a good holiday 🙏
I hope he’s having the best Christmas ever and gets all the best little toys, he deserves only the best ❤️
I wouldn’t be surprised if Myka is a narcissist
It's not even in question, she is the biggest narcissist on earth.
She adopted a disabled child for her ego pure narcissistic behavior
oh she def is!
Mhm 110%
She is, there’s a psychiatrist on YT that analyzed her behavior all the way from her oldest videos, and she is.
I hope that little boy is ok 😢❤ I have a disability and I’m adopted I’m grateful for my family
Okay but all these “tantrums” sound normal? Like I’ve seen little kids fight before and nothing I heard seemed out of character.
And still...there are people that support this family...
Yup....
I’m sorry, but they didn’t love him.
Love you Spill, I'm glad you reported on this
Myka is the literal worst, when she said "are you over yourself?" it actually stung my heart. He was, what? Four? And when she talked about how him and her daughter were so close, it made me so mad, because she not only took away her best friend, but she took away her brother. I hope every kid involved in this is okay, especially the little boy... We're looking out for you little guy!
The amount of "I" in that apology letter would make my English teacher angry
i had a feeling this would happen after the children situation lmao
Love your icon 💕
I think of an animal when I hear re-homing, not a person.
Here's the bit that also boils my gears. How was it that none of these former friends went to the authorities when the abuse was happening to the child in the moment. When they were seeing the disturbing actuons happen? What is the point of breaking the silence now?
The term “former son” is quite disgusting by itself smh
Spill: uploads
Depression: *GOODNIGHT GIRL I SEE YOU TOMORROW*
I like your videos
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Awww This is cute. I wish my depression was as sweet as yours 😂